Why Hot Guys Struggle To Get Girls
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- Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2024
- A lot of attractive guys struggle to get girls. It doesnt make sense and can be extremely frustrating for some. So today I reveal the reason for this and offer a quick fix to this problem.
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@official asiangirl maybe, just maybe, hear me out. Maybe, it's all about personality and compatibility, not looks. I would never be with a guy who spends 10 hours in a gym, 2 hours brushing his hair and has no other value apart from his looks. I'd rather be with someone who can make me laugh and really cares about my day
@official asiangirl exactly! I hate sassy boys who think about their abs more than about their personality
@official asiangirl whatever 😒🙄
@@alwayshangrygirl463 you must be huge and not an 8 and up.
Especially if you're a shy attractive guy.
Feel that
Incredible truth
Literally the story of me, I am shy so I try to ignore looking at girls/talking to them or making eye contact and 90-99% of the girls assume that I already have a girlfriend because I am good looking and think I am Uninterested in them 😐😐
I've literally been told by girls that they thought that I already had a gf and was uninterested in them, maybe even a bit egoistic. Fml
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@@BadassBobY or they think you’re stuck up i find.
I think it’s harder if you were below average for most of your life, and then you suddenly became attractive after high school because you’re not used to female attention, and you’re more likely to be awkward around women compared to a guy that has always been attractive.
That legit happened to me lol
Is is your story? I think you are attractive:))
Happened to me before. Had to learn game
@@ShaddyRaddyWorldMusic GAME? did you say GAME?? hahahahhaahhahhhhahahahhahahahhahhAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAHHAAHAHHA
GAME...funniest thing I read all day
same here back in high school i did not take care of myself all i do is to play games and i have so many acne in my face but im glad i changed that bad habits and started taking care of myself now i dont know how to get girls because im just an average guy back then
Things you need to know when you are a good looking/pretty or handsome guy.
1.Most Women are intimidated by you and won't approach you since they think you are out of their league.
2.Other Men are either extremely comfortable around you and want to be your Friend or straight up hate you and try to make you look insecure and down for no appearant reason but jealousy.
3.The women who will approach you are usually the ones you don't want ( averrage or ugly one's)
4. If you are attractive and shy the work is twice harder cause you have to approach Women or nothing will happen
5.Guys , girls assume you are a player and date a lot of Women.
6.Gay guy's look at you and flirt with you.
7. Random strangers start conversations with you for no reason and it's really akward cause it's always creepy strangers with no good intentions behind it
8.You can't talk about attractive people struggles only with really attractive people cause averrage or ugly people think you show off or are looking for attention.
9. If you are really attractive people will either love or hate you. The in between are fake Friends who use you , are nice to you at the beginning and then slowly try to put you down because of jealousy
10. EVERYBODY has high expectations of you.
11.Pressure of always looking perfect , being perfect.
12. When you don't get looked at sometimes on the streets you feel like something is wrong with you and you may be not as good looking as you think you were.
13.People don't compliment you that often on you physical appearance because they think that you hear it probably all the time and they don't want you to grow it into your head.
14.Sometimes strangers smile at you.
If you smile they sometimes smile back
15.You can get away with creepy behaviors , creepy jokes
16. Girls laugh at your jokes and touch you while flirting with you when what you said wasn't even that funny
17. Girls are not themselves with you and try to look perfect for you
18.Some girls often play hard to get and it it f ing annoying.
19. Guys stare at you on the streets , they are way less discreet than girls, and if they have a wife or a girlfriend they put their arm around their girlfriend. Wife's and Girlfriends glance at you and sometimes flirt with you in front of their partner.
20.It is a blessing to be good looking don't ever forget that.
You really broke it down my guy
Nothing but facts
Bro this is straight facts!!!!
I agree except number 1. Girls are MORE likely to approach you. They usually always give signs one way or the other. Or they just ask you out. By your logic in the list, girls would ask out a lot of average guys. And average guys would tell you, that doesn't happen.
Exactly bro😂😂😂 bloody fuckers out there
Being attractive is only good for getting dates, hooking up with women, and flirting. The most important thing is just having your life together.
u know that being attractive get s you a spet ahead on everything, right?
people are more likely to be nice to someone who is good looking and treat them better lol
If that was true girls wouldn't spend their 20s dating drug dealers, criminals and guys who cheat on them only to change tactic at 30 and find a guy 'with his life together.' In other words the guys who are responsible get leftover and damaged women.
bro i dont want to have this opinion i dont want love i need a pornstar life also most of the girls dont deserve having relationship with love
if i see a girl or milf that is impressed by me, she is mine for at most 2 months...
i dont care that girls banged by me want to be in love with me
And make money in OnlyFans, Instagram, getting suggar daddies or milf of being scort haha...
Signs you're attractive
- Girls will literally yell out "Hey, you're cute!"/"My friend thinks you're cute"/"You look like a player"
- Girls will not approach as much as you think, but older women or highly extroverted women will (rare).
- Other guys may dislike you for no reason
- it's easier to make friends with other attractive guys
- it's easier to get a job
- if you do something 'nerdy' it's now not weird. It's 'cute'.
- Girls will always look at you, then maybe look away and see you, twirl their hair, smile whenever they see you
- People will sometimes assume you are a jerk
Update 2024:
- If you're not a white guy, you'll often be the first ethnic dude they will go for. You'll be the exception to the rule.
@@amarson2322 haha yeah this is what happens to me (without sounding like a douche)
i am Shy Introverted Attractive Guy .....
a lots & lots of girls would make an eye contact with me and start flirting things like that .... but i am Always nervous As Fk ... cause I'm not getting use to this stuff PLUS i absolutely have no confidence
@@Jt-hn6lp I used to be like that too when I was In my teens. I reccomend starting MMA or boxing. It will build your confidence. And read some books by dale Carnegie
@@MUDS1P I had one guy ask me to do a loyalty test on his girl. She failed. Found out later he got a new number and was trolling me through it 🤦🏽♂️
I had the yellig happening to me a few times.
The girls who approach me are never the ones I want. Always the averrage or ugly one's.
Guys hating you the minute they see you is true too. Even at nights it happend to me and I was not so close to the guy across the street.
Jesus.
Girls look at me and when I look at them they quickly look away.
Sometimes they stare.
Everything you said is true.
Attractive men have problems with women because of the belief being attractive is enough. Most women are as insecure as men, attractive people tend to be on the high spectrum of insecurity. Even the prettiest women will find it hard to approach an attractive man believing themselves to be inadequate. Having a bold and confident demeanor while being humble is the most attractive quality women who are looking for stability see in a man. I blame it all on social media🤔
Tinder fixes that
Naw. Insta and dating app erased that notion
I could care less about their insecurity. Men are the ones who build and maintain society. Im not going to go out of my way to pander to a woman's fragile ego and jealousy.
@@jcransome5616 definitely
@Worthless Affirmative Action Hire CEO if a guy has the problems mentioned here. He can download tinder and the matches will pile up. Behind closed doors on a phone is when women are the most honest.
Be humble and when you have nothing know that you have everything you need, but don’t mean to people, be kind in your words. Thank goodness, we all attractive. 💯
As an attractive guy myself I totally agree with you. Some women label us as players because of how good looking we pretty boys are. Other times women can be intimidated by your attractiveness and they won't approach you. I have had people tell me that I can get any girl I want but I'm really shy when it comes to women.
Welcome to the handsome shy club.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Bruh just slay chicks
True my friends have always told me to that i am an attractive guy and few girls with whom I managed to talk to also told me that i am cute but i am so low on confidence that i can't talk to any girl
Depend which country you from.
Sometimes girls can be super aggressive with good looking guys. Also other guys can gang up on good looking guys, trying to freeze them out etc.
Haha this hapends to you huh. A while back i was walking in the mall abd this dude and his girl walks by and he puffs out his chest. So i laughed and smiled at his girl she was hot tho. I may be abit of a dick but i make jokes about it and call it my charm
Good-looking guy problems in a nutshell, you got 'em covered. If women have split hairs over you or, some guy tries to block his gf's view of you with his body at the counter in MacDonald's? Yeap. You're eye-candy. And have received nudes without even asking.
True for the girls being super aggressive with good looking guys. Why ? Because if she is not intrested to a Guy, normaly she can just friendzone him, but with a very good looking guy it is impossible. So she reject the good looking guy with violence to make it clear she is not intrested.
Bruh I've had so many girls say I'm attractive and good looking (even from really pretty girls). But then when I try get to know them and or date them, they rush off assuming I'm a fuckboy or something. I've literally never had a gf because of this and I'm 21
Welcome to the single club.
And I am introverted and shy too.
The perfect combo hhhhh.
@Derek Chauvin This guy smh lol
@Derek Chauvin you ain't either i assume. pfft.
@Derek Chauvin don't worry he's more handsome than you'll ever be lmao.
Your 21 and a virgin because your too hot? In my experience, the girls who get freaked out by how pretty you are is kind of rare, It happens, but not with every girl until YOURE 21 YEARS OLD??? I’ve had it happen a couple of times, but Jesus Christ it’s also been so easy too, it might be ur personality bro
Good looking guys, especially guys with “pretty boy” looks, get treated by men and women like they’re stupid. They’re seen as being all looks and no brains. It doesn’t matter that they’re clearly not stupid. It’s a label that doesn’t go away.
But they still get huge amount of young 🐱
@@xxgreekgodxx3289 How do you know that ? Are you one of those good looking guys that's a testament to that ?
Bro it's literally the same for lots of pretty girls too.. Ever heard abt the dumb giggly blonde girls stereotype 😂
Somewhat disagree.
I am pretty boy look 🌿
Wow. I absolutely agree with this. Lots of my friends always say why I don't talk a lot when girls are around and I always say "The less I talk, the more they like me. People naturally want to think you're a chill/fun guy. Why would I ruin that for myself? "
You just explained my life
If peoplewant to think naturally, if they think you re a fun talkative guy , why is it be a problem when you talk? Isnt that a paradox?
Lol yep that’s my life in a nutshell
i’m attracted only to people who aren’t attracted to me, i love a challenge 😂😂😂😂
Underrated comment😂😂
Well how does that work out for you?
@@ES11777 id rather talk to someone i’m into than to settle with someone else. and right now i’d say it’s going pretty well. 😏
Cuz you’re type A....
So true bro😭😂
I'm very good looking, many girl I come across will straight up tell me "I know u a player" and many guys are insecure around me like to a point where they will instigate a fight lol that's pretty boy struggles for me
i am good looking but i am also muscular 183 cm 100kg no boy wants to fight me lol but thats true especialy in bars or clubs
So true.
Yup I have the same problem , guys always get insecure and get into defensive mode especially around females or at a party , I used to hate it but now I take it as a compliment , my presence is enough to make them insecure and I’ve learned to embrace it
@@henriquebeast6772 and i bet a smaller dude would wipe the floor with you. muscle has nothing to do with fighting. nice flex though.
@@newyorkforever5779 1-I a did boxing before gym, 2- i deadlif 240 kg , 190 kg squat 3-i already been in fights with guys that fight better than me and they lost 4-i know muscle its not everything and i will lose VS good smaller fighters but bro go fight BORRACHINA , MIKE TYSON and tell me ahhahahahaahh u must dreaming if u think muscles dont help u bro, most best fighters are all the time muscular for some reason...
Because even a handsome good looking guy can still struggle to get girls if he is kind of shy or is not confident or lacks confidence, I never was a fan of the dating game but it will always be the same.
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@@Kevin-cy2dr Aysheri 🤣
For f***s sake
@@popz2595 ayyo😂 ivedem
I've noticed that some women will be kinda a mean towards me for no reason. Almost resentful. Like I've done something to them when I barely even know them. There was this random chick that came up to me at a local bar and said that she didn't like me. Like went out of her way to come say this to me. I barely even knew her or interacted with her. There have been many instances over the years involving women showing me attitude for no reason. That being said, I'm very well liked by the vast majority of the people I interact with. Most people in general will go out of their way to come and say hi to me, but there's always a small percentage of women that will give me a hard time for no real reason other than I exist.
Maybe they're insecure and projecting
@@baki577 I think it might be something like that. Used to have a girl working at a liquor store years ago that would always give me a dirty look when I went to buy something even though I was always polite. Would you say the women that sort of "challenge" you or seem to give you trouble like that would be at average or below average looks? I think it actually is a kind of resentment in that they may like you but they think they don't have a chance so they hate on you.
It’s because woman get jealous of you when you’re handsome because it makes them feel inferior.
I'm not the best looking guy, but I'm in a relationship with the best girl for me and we are joyful together. We "worked". In a relationship, that's all that matter
The problem with good looking guys running game is that it gets misunderstood for arrogance. Most girls grow up watching Disney cartoons and will have been conditioned to associate good looking guys with characters like Gaston from Beauty and the Beast. A good friend of mine calls this the "Gaston Effect". The best thing you can do is to be humble and don't think too highly of yourself. It works very well with good looking guys as it makes you more human and less intimidating.
Id like to think of myself as very attractive but my 40+ rejections in a row would suggest a different story
@@ghostridersinthesky21 dam same story
@@ghostridersinthesky21 then you’re not attractive
@@helloworld7818 Thanks
@Black Boy King TV Dude, that’s no different to a fat girl saying a guy should accept her for who she is. Sure some guys might have a fetish for fat girls. But the point being, in order to be the best version of yourself, you have to be willing to let go of your ego and accept that something has to change.
When you said: "Girls already have you on a high alert on their douchebag radar", I almost said "sorry" because it really is true that good looking guys kinda seem shady already :'D Like "he's gonna have multiple girls at the same time" blabla and sadly, I actually ran into these kinda guys which makes it even harder for honest and humble good looking guys :D
Why tho ?
Nobody wants guys with multiple girls 🤣 Many good looking guys however have multiple girls. This is why I agree with him, that it is hard for honest and serious good looking guys because girls are afraid he is a liar and not serious and having multiple girls. This is why I felt sorry for these honest guys coz I ran into douchebags myself and now I kinda immediately suspect pretty guys.
@@dipsyreid3524 have you ever heard a woman say “no woman wants a man that no other women want”? That’s almost a female national anthem
@christianne1985 More like he decided to keep you.
and as a good looking guy myself (not to brag) I wish women were interested in me and not just use me as a one night stand
I feel sometimes attractive and sometimes average😂😂
Lol same
Average is attractive
@@BrettMaverick no way man surely you know your very goodlooking no homo lol
@@charliebaines5365 nah bro that’s gay
@@BrettMaverick omg brett replied me😍😯❤
Being super handsome is a lot more lonely than people would think............
It's sucks man. The girl I liked thought I am a playboy.
@@debanikgoswami4834 Sooooo many women think like that. And it's not even worth the effort trying to change their minds.
@@ModelJames13 honeslty bro is that you in the pic? Im handsome and smoothj confident etc and its just tooo much for women
@@fxfundedfxf8776 Yeah that's me. A sad fate for sure.
@@ModelJames13 shit is sooo fucked lol
In my experience as an average looking guy amongst many other men.
Relax and be yourself. Never be a people pleaser.
That way you will flush out the ones you don't want around you
those who don't like you or respect who you are.
Women are more attracted to guys who treat others with love and respect
and take care of yourself. This is just my opinion though.
I stopped dating girls in these last 2 months, because they use me only for sex. They don’t want a relationship from me. I want to feel love too not just lust. I’m just focusing on myself.
Update 2023: The situation got worse I believe it’s from the feminist movement that’s going on in the world, but now I can’t even get a girl my age too talk too me. It’s sad but I’ve been focusing more with god and my priorities
How could you tell they were only using you for sex?
@@nate_4594 Well they alway hit me up when they feel horny and hardly talk to me me, because I’m intimidating. I asked a few if they wanted a relationship, they said no, because they’ll be the ones worrying about me where I go and who I’ll talk to. They’re basically saying I’m a high valued male; but in their heads I’m the bad boy who sleeps with every girl he wants during a relationship. That’s why you see “hot girls” that are 8s+ eating out with 5s or 6smales, because they don’t need to worry about girls approaching them.
@Kuba P I’m a manager for 2 restaurant and own 2 trucks 2018 2016.
@@davidbetancourt1of1 my friend also has the same problem as you. He goes to gym everyday and is jacked up. He says that girls only lust after him for sex and barely talks to him. But they don't want to be in relationship with him. Very much similar case as you.
@@rishirajsaikia1323 Yeah it sucks. That’s why I don’t pay attention to females anymore.
I find that being chill and mysterious works for me. I used to be super high energy...like Kevin Hart and that fucked me up. So bad
Kevin Hart is a joke.
And that is true if you talk to much they get scared pretty easily and quick and ask themselves.
What is wrong with him?
Same here
This makes me think of a guy I knew in college when I was 17. He looked somewhat like James Dean except he was slightly more handsome (as far as I recall). He just couldn't keep a girlfriend. It hurt him deep down when a girl he loved dumped him because she was fed up with having an army of girls jealous of her, even losing some of her long-time friends out of sheer jealousy. He mastered what you said; he was always quiet and didn't say much. His problem was keeping a girlfriend.
Once he told me I had just the "right balance". I was perhaps kind of good looking and stood 6 ft 1 in. (I still do). Maybe he was right. I was rather shy so I didn't do nor say much, yet from time to time, some cute girl would make it clear she was available to me. I'd date her and there wouldn't be any jealousy issue, or at least nothing unmanageable.
You always need to adapt your style to the type of guy you are. I've always been tall and physically imposing. Being quiet tends to make me a reassuring presence for a girl, while being exuberant and acting "super-confident" usually scares her.
Back when I was single, I've always had best results when not doing much. Perhaps I was more handsome than I credited myself for. Self-appraisal is always tricky to say the least.
Well she based her relationship on what other people wanted. She was weak
I used to be a photographer in Austin and the problem with Attractive guys (guys and girls but girls I think get more of a pass) is that they’re literally so attractive that they don’t have to try and so when they talk to women they can be a little boring and sometimes weird. I knew this one guy that seemed normal talking to me (I’m a guy) but then an attractive woman would enter the picture and they would get so weird or they would just get really quiet and smile a lot. So yeah I don’t actually think attractive guys have it harder, I think it’s actually easier for them but bc their life has been so much easier earlier on that their later life is going to be harder bc they haven’t been conditioned and treated like an average guy - who would have to develop other skills and charisma to get the attention of women - if that makes sense.
Naww more attractive people are more likely to seek out social joining's and to have higher social capital
@@cyrusthe0ther795 theoretically speaking, that should be the case but from my experience that is not the case
@@BabyBearRudy They could be more charismatic and engaging then they let on but have to downplay it. Otherwise people will think their is something wrong with them for trying too hard despite their already high inherit value. Especially the older they get past adolescence the more woman have experience with players and more time to create negative stereotypes. This gives less room to be engaging.
The boring and weird part is absolutely true. Although they still get hook ups and sxx, if they are bold to ask after the first date.
*I used to think I was ugly because I couldn't get a girlfriend. But many girls did like me. I was either unaware or too petrified with fear to ask them out. Only after many females have told me I'm an attractive guy did I realize my looks wasn't the problem. Due to my children and how I was raised by my parents, I have deep-seated feelings of inadequacy which are overwhelming. After much thinking I realized I simply didn't have the feeling of self-worth to give me the confidence to approach and ask girls out. It's absolutely terrifying. I'm a 28 year old virgin. There have been several times where the girls thought I was cute or hot, but ended up sleeping with the fat, ugly, gross guy because he was so good at selling himself, and would straight-up ask them to hook up. To me, being that blunt was WAY too frightening.*
Practice more, just go for it youre already attractive goddamnit
Endure the mental pain
Just try it dude fk it
One thing many don’t understand is that when people say be yourself. What people mean when they say that is don’t change personality when with someone else. If you change personality when with you’re partner that is a pathological relationship and is manipulation.
Good looking guys should never make fun of their intelligence, its off putting. Better to make fun of their own style, music taste, any cultural taste etc. Thats neutral and shows humour, confidence and humility... very attractive.
boom
Thanks for that, I do that and even act dumb sometimes. Wtf?!
to me when I see a very "good looking" guy I usually think they are superficial, shallow and self-centered, I actually dated a few male models and let me tell you they really were self-absorbed. my favorite are good looking kind of nerdy guys who don't actually know or care if they are good looking :)
Id like to think of myself as very attractive but my 40+ rejections in a row would suggest a different story
Because u r not attractive
I keep my looks and athletic body for myself. When your all alone u have to love yourself the same way u want a women to love you.
Suuuuure
@@sadhu7191 k. Ima get my fleshlight out.
It’s true, trying too hard as an attractive guy can actually work against you
The less you do, the better, be more of a bad guy.
@@ivanramirez8145 Terrible advice! Don't be a bad guy.
@@ontariohappenings woman love evil hot men, the dark triad is real
@@ivanramirez8145 I'm not into evil assholes. Just got rid of one not too long ago.
@@ontariohappenings if he was a narcissist, spchycopath then yes I agree, stay away from them, but I am talking about the fun bad boy that can keep you happy, narcissist people can be male or female.
_Because jealousy. The answer it's very easy. Envy, jealousy, hate, low self-esteem. They hates and I love that, cus that's the confirmation of your superiority._
seems like girls are more egotistic towards me bc I am good looking. The only time they aren't is when they are in the club half drunk, then they can put their ego to the side. But I figured out its just an America thing. The entire culture here is toxic. I am moving to south america to spread my seed far and wide with beautiful, nice women
if you're in 5 percent, 90 percent of girls think that you look down on them even you don't do anything bad.
I'm 26 never had a gf. I started watching videos on style, got fit and thought it would help with girls were they would start approaching me and asking me out but didn't work. I always thought it was because im ugly but my friends and co workers say I'm good looking, that I'm shy and lack confidence.
you should check out Alpha M, TeachingMensFashion, and Alex Costa. They give really good advice on being more confident. And if i could tell you one thing, don’t wait on a girl to approach you. Your just gonna have to approach yourself cause that’s how it is man. Try going on semen retention, it’s helped many people, definitely worth looking into. Wishing you the best of luck soldier i got faith in you.
If its you in your DP then you're good looking and your friends aren't lying.
@@aliescobar4573 Ams is who he needs
@@tiegideon9816 that’s a great one
U look awesome 😎 ig just focus on work and if someone likes u then maybe try otherwise just leave it
Interesting video, I grew up being a shy kid but I was often told I was attractive many times throughout my life. To say the least, I was a trainwreck with women in middle and high school despite being a "good looking kid". When I got to my late teens, I started getting into learning pick up and researching ways to improve my game through RUclips videos and such. It did massively improved my confidence throughout time, I'll give myself that, but after a while, I began to get the impression I was trying too hard and the "game" I learned might have been actually driving girls away. Throughout college, I feel like I was purposely trying to act like a fuckboy to get women, which I did succeed somewhat with mixed results. Once I graduated college though, it was a whole different ballgame, and I figured out over time that attitude wouldn't fly with post-grad women. Now in my mid-20s, I realize being cool and collective is likely the way to go to retain that female attention and lure.
Attractive guys get little to no reinforcement of their good looks, so it's hard for them to muster up the confidence to be who you are to women. The key is to do inner work and really find your worth as a person inside. I used to not be able to carry conversations and hold eye contact with girls or make them laugh but now that I can do those things easily and establish a good connection with them. And the most important thing to learn is that you shouldn't worry if they will like you or not, you have to know if YOU like THEM or not. That alone will set you free by so much.
This is actually true. Even though I'm average looking, even when I get attention I don't like to pursue it. It works for average to attractive guys.
Looking at your dp I don't think that you are just “average looking ”
@@flashflash6787 he just said that for attention.
I feel you Bhai, us average looking guys that don't pursue repel females.
This content is GOLD. Most "game" theories didnt explained this part and ive seen thia a lot of times where in a good looking guy's coolness backfires. This is the reason why some of my average looking friends, but funny and high energy had a lot of women under the radar.
This applies to women too. A lot of men will find you attractive & objectify you but won't see you as a potential mate because they're so focused on your physical appearance and wanting to hook up with you. I've had this happen to me a lot. And honestly I've struggled with confidence my whole life even though people told me I'm beautiful and that's because i didn't come from money growing up and I've always been on the shy/sweet side. So guys expect me to have this siren/bad bitch personality but I'm actually a sweet girl who's always just wanted to be loved.
I know exactly how you feel. I myself am very attractive but I've always been on the shy side. There were many occasions where men didn't approach me to the point where I felt ostracized in social groups. And on the other hand, men would approach me with the attitude that I'm in it for the sex or casual dating. I too, just want to be loved.
Spot on! I'm 6'6" and perceived as attractive, and when I tried too hard with a goofy pickup line, I'd get awkward looks. But ever since I've gone in without a script and simply said, "Hi, I'm Christian. I don't think we've met," and have learned to relax, I've seen far better results
Attractive/hot girls/women have the same problem. It's actually a bit worse when you have a brain, are usually confident, can hold a knowledgeable conversation and are relatively successful. You get called "intimidating" while you are simply doing you. Good advice above from you, Brett! Let people think what they please and flip their world around with facts in your behaviour.
"Struggle"
Says handsome Squidward
it's 69 so I can't like ;)
Having all you losers gang up on ne makes everything harder
Self deletions recommended
Involve your allnyour friends
One of the problems is that girls are afraid of people saying “that guy is good looking he could do better than her” they want to always feel like the hot one
Wait,so that could be the reason why good looking guys get dumped by beautiful girls,fear of them ending up not the pride in the relationship
I’ve recently been up late some nights and it seems that only when I’m up late I have a huge mindset to strive for more and change but then in the morning the motivation is gone. Have you got any tips on how to benefit off this mindset?
Same
@Masnsen where’d his reply go? I wanted to thank him
@@charlied3189 What was the reply? I'm curious.
@@justinadrian8340 some genuine good advice from what I remember
Literally me rn same😭
I found just not caring, or pretending not to care and being myself works for me.
Thank you very much Brett. If you have other tips for good looking guys that are a little introvert or shy, it would be fantastic a part 2 of this video or something even more accurate.
Me as a woman would like that video too!
Very true. The game for good looking guys, aside from being largely overlooked, is vastly different.
"I'll never forget these words, with great power comes great responsibility, who am i...I'm handsome man "
I love how you give real valuable advice for free. Thanks Brett 💪🏻
You look avarage, thats good! you can get girls easier
Being attractive as a dude sucks because it creates all these false expectations. Woman aren’t going to drool over you and hit on you, and they’re going to treat you like you’re out of their league or pretend like they’re not attracted to you. Honestly, it gives you a better chance of finding someone but you still ha be to put in the work and be a man.
Beautiful is a man who is easy on the eyes that can simply make others feel comfortable & disarm them of their own insecurities by simply being a calming presence.
That's the man they will marry and then cheat with Ray Ray because Mr calming doesn't make her feel like a woman ie back blown out
@@theskyizblue2day431 Nobody mentioned anything about marriage until you came along. What's the matter? You still sore from what Ray Ray did to your SO? Lmao! That's the trouble with guys like you. No thunder, no lightning but out of nowhere the voice of your insecurity fills the room. You must be fun at parties... 🤭
@@Z4U3398 SIGN language. Shame, insults, guilt, need to be right. doesn't warrant a response.
You're giving guys bad information.
@@theskyizblue2day431 Lol! What kind of Engurish are you spewing? 🤣 Me, giving "bad guys" information? Lmao! You're a funny guy, dude... 🤭
Nice try, but I'm not shedding any tears for Chad.
Lmaooo
😂😂😂😂
LOL
Sex isnt love, gtfo
😂😂😂😂😂
This is legit af, I've always been pretty good looking, greek 6'2 210lbs lean, anytime I acted a little too confident girls were super turned off, whenever I was just chill and humble they loved it. Very eye opening
Biggest problem with having good looks is definitely that girls expect too much from you. If you don't live up to those expectations they will be bitchy. Me myself have only really received interest from unattractive women and old women. Women most men don't want attention from in the first place. When I express my preferences for a more attractive woman however, most guys label me a narcissist and tell me to grow up, while they themselves hook up with attractive women.
Same! I noticed this as well. It's either very young 16-19 (Probably looking for a daddy) or chicks in there 40s and 50s who assume I'm younger than I look and hope I'm into milfs (I'm not). Being good looking without wealth, only gets you into trouble. I'm generally categorized as an F-Boy and basically only hook up with chicks in relationships.
Yup hypocrites my best friend try to do this to me
but you have the Dark Side on your side and you have electric lightning powers.. that's gotta count for something
I'm straight but I would simp for Brett as a girl
Brett, you deserve a million followers. You give better and more in-depth advice than many other youtube influencers
He’s almost there!!!
Being attractive will get you girls but not love. Thats just like gold digger.
The only thing I can think of is they have so many girls available they struggle chosing one. But I'd rather have that problem than being litteraly invisibile to them lmao
@@ghostridersinthesky21 blackpilled truth, but not all hope is lost. I have an indian friend who's 5'5 and skinny but he makes up for it with his hair, facial hair, and charisma. Making up for your ugly features in other areas will def give u a fighting chance
Theory of a deadman
@@ghostridersinthesky21 what u mean by minority
@@ghostridersinthesky21 minority in the US maybe and That's still a cliche i guess cuz if you're a cool and confident Latino I'm pretty sure you gonna kill it. I'm Caucasian and a minority in Asia and that's the Best!!
@@ghostridersinthesky21 not everyone wants to date white women, so being a minority isn’t inherently debilitating.
Bottom line, don't always depend on your good looks. Improve on your personality as well.
Good looks fade with time and then it’s personality that counts, so work on that.
It's harder for attractive guys to get super attractive girls (when they're not famous), but that's because they don't try as hard.
Because they dont need to, women want them, but the pretty ones dont because when both are to hot, they are assholes and boring
The girl won't feel like a prize with the good-looking guy. The average guy she would feel like she has the upper hand
I thought these guys were our enemy but they're actually not, because these guys are the ones that hurt the shallow girls that hurted us at one point.
I think it comes down to relatability and competition. If a female knows that he will draw in too much attention, he can automatically be seen as too risky.
It has been mad annoying having everyone telling me I get every girl I want when I have 8-12 month dry spells. My life doesnt go how your imagination tells you it does.
This🤞🎯
ugh its so difficult getting 8-12 month dry spells, never mind someone who'se been a virgin their whole life, that's easy! must be difficult being rich too! its more difficult than being broke and homeless
Personally, I’d say looks can definitely help, to me though personality matters most. But I still think looks can give you a big benefit.
Being good looking is just a plus. And it definitely makes it easier to flirt and seduce women.
It’s a in the bag benefit for the most part lol
dude. you just cleared up a shit ton. I always go in high energy and it doesnt work, women like when I'm chill and not too serious... youve confirmed this ty
Don't wanna sound cocky but here are two negatives about being an attractive male :
1. Hard to be friends with women cuz they just end up wanting to be in a relationship.
2. Hard to be friends with other men cuz they hate you for getting all the girls' attention.
it’s terrible when friends don’t invite you because there are girls, and they know you get attention. Even if you never did something wrong they despise you for this.
It’s so hard.
I do get friends with women easy tho, and i like women friendship, i used to not do that but it has its perks
I like this guy, Brett. I really do. He's fantastic looking and seems genuine... which seems to be incongruous with the advice he gives. I would give the opposite advice: If you're super good looking AND cocky, just be that way. Yes the girl (or guy) will think you're a douchebag but that's okay because you ARE a douchebag... and why waste the other person's time learning that lesson the hard way? If you're not good looking and not very confident, why waste time worrying about it and trying to appear to be something you're not? You don't want to end up with a person who perceives you incorrectly and spends the rest of his/her life criticizing you for not living up to the expectations that YOU created. It's not good to fake, and you can't fake anything forever anyway. Of course, if you're a "natural" at playing the game, you might get what you want easily in the beginning but never in the end. So I say, just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. If you can't get what you want, maybe you should want something else! You will be beautiful to someone just as you are, and that person will find you.
Good point. Plus a lot of the time when people are putting up a front, it’s obvious and forced.
“Ima try not to swear as much”
Next sentence: “dont f*ck up”
I guess what works for me is being humble, respectful and genuine, let the girl be more expressive while I welcome her talking and telling her story. 🙂
@Mrs Shubha I'm have been lucky I guess 😆
This is good advice even though I'm not good-looking and am just average. Your advice helps a lot.
Happy to help!
I'm not at all be best good looking guy out there, but I think I can say that I'm a "attractive guy", and let me tell you it's way harder than what everyone thinks... I'm not trying to prove something here I'm just trying to say that it's not everything about looks and I actually agree with everything you said! And let me clarify something, maybe it's way easier to get one night stands and those kinds of things as a "attractive guy" but for some reason being good looking doesn't help in building a good and healthy relationship... For some reason.
Well I just wanted to say one thing and I wrote this much 😅 thank you for the video man!! 🙏🙏
If it's hard you're not attractive.
@@pocnit why would you say that it's stupid
@Guilherme Damiaõ bro I'm not the hottest guy but I'm attractive or sexy whatever you call it. However I've been struggling to find a girlfriend and I have no idea if girls presume that I already have a girlfriend or that they think I'm a player. I get a lot of stares from women and when I'm around them they might start acting a little nervous but I'm starting doubting even those signs because I have no success with girls. I'm not the guy that will try to make a move because I have no confidence, I'm kinda antisocial and a little shy. Also here where I live(small island) girls will date fuckboys. My point is that I don't know if I'm attractive anymore🥲
@@millionaire3761 sorry to hear that, but I totally understand some things that you mention there, specially the fact that women just assume we're players... My solutions is just be myself and I only try something when it's completely obvious that the girl is into me. And last thing, there will ALWAYS be someone that doesn't like the way you look, but in the same way of thought, there are people that d! Don't get unmotivated, just keep improving yourself, be humble and be always ready to learn something new
@@guilhermedamiao13 thanks a lot buddy hope we both get what we deserve
this is basically a personality guide ( and its good )
I'm 25 and recently i told My psycoterapist i've been with only one woman all my life and her surprise reaction was so disrespectful hahaha she couldn't believe.
I'm good looking but terribly shy...
Stop watching porn and go no fap watch the confidence skyrocket and the shyness disappear trust me
@@bigal98761 its extremely hard during qurantine. In fact I just relapsed 2 mins ago...
@@Lazymath007_ bruh
@@TheKaro oh I was just thinking of letting the juice out right now but my sales job stopped me
Ok
See this is why its so hard. Girls automatically know to put on a front and act like their above the majority, especially if they look good. For an authentic handsome dude all you want to be is yourself. You don’t want to fake act cool, confident, or go outside of your character, simply someone who isn’t you. It’s uncomfortable. But its even more uncomfortable and even devastating when people judge and criticize you for being yourself, only because you look like you would act entirely contrary to who you are. Yea, it could work out when just trying to smash girls the same night or next day. But In a relationship you want someone to like you for who you actually are, not someone they want you to be. Honestly I didn’t get this till later in life, and rejection, and unjust criticism devastated me as a teen growing up, thinking that im the scum of the earth or something WHILE knowing i looked just fine. It just didn’t add up. It sucks that people are just so hell bent on image, and the Hollywood picture perfect scene of a person instead of being inclined toward men with good character, values, and understanding of life. Shd call me lame, but how most think and view the world is a damn shame if you ask me💯
Yeah I'm on the same boat. I'm a mixed bag with many different interest. I'm a geek, I love sports, deep topics, hip hop, rock, psychology I'm a good dancer, I love goofing off, but I look like a model. Some people are put off by me because I don't act like I look. It's hard to get a full read on me, and I've suffered from it.
The thing is I don't wanna change who I am because I love me. I have a great time alone, acting goofy and slapping my own ass for a good time.
Crazy thing is when I act like James Bond or more quiet I've gotten the "Oh he thinks he's all that" 🤦♂️
Personally, I lack the confidence to be a go-get-her because I've always played the damsel and girls have approached me so I get insecure when it's not happening. Like, say I go on the city Bus and a cute girl gets on and she doesn't sit close to me. I might think, "Am I scary? Am I creepy? Why isn't she sitting next to me?" I've always been the feminine pretty boy that groups of girls would flock to and giggle around in high-school. Now in my adult life, I find that dynamic not playing out anymore and I realize how dependent I am on that sort of attention. I'm sure this isn't a common problem and I probably sound like a cocky asshole like, "Boohoo! Woe is me! Woe is me! I'm so hot and girls don't approach me anymore! WAAAAAA!!!!" but I just thought I'd shed some light on what I imagine to be a rare problem that some other attractive guys might have.
Nah, I feel you. I'm the same. However, I've been changing these lately and so far the results have been showing up very often. I have my confidence restored. Though, of course, there are always instances, but now I realize I've been too reliant on that sort of dynamic too, and have been downplaying myself. It's possible to just go and do it. And it works more often than not.
I feel you, same here brother
Idk if my experience would help since I'm a guy too.
I'm currently dating another man who is fricking handsome, (I'm not the only one saying it, even straight guys find him hot) and he scares me a bit. I'm shy and insecure, and am really intimidated by him. I can't believe that I got the guts to tell him that I like him, and can't believe he likes me too.
I'm like "he's too perfect! Wtf am I doing with someone like him ?! What does he likes in me ? He's out of my league!" (This kind of tought is actually "dangerous".. By that I mean, putting people on a pedestal isn't good because we don't see who they really are. It's getting better because I get to know him more. But before, I was putting him so high on a pedestal that I thought it was impossible that he could like me).
That's ridiculous, like, he's a human like me. I have no reason to be intimidated/scared by him, he is really kind, sweet and humble, and actually shy too. I trust him, and knowing that he has flaws like other humans makes me more confortable.
I don't know if it applies to girls too, it wouldn't surprise me because we're not so different after all.
No one's perfect
Bruh, i needed this sooooooo muchhh its insane. I get like complimented about my aperearence on the daily men and women. Its so freaking lonely tho. Girls assume im a player for no reason, guys hating for no reason. Meanwhile im confused as fuck. As a guy u cant talk about getting played it sounds weird... lonely as fuck tho!
Jeez man this just changed my whole perspective. People have always said I’m good looking but I’ve always tried to be funny and energetic which just comes across weird, I know see it! Thank you 😅
Honestly, the women I've managed to get with throughout my life have all approached me first. I suppose I have the luxury to choose but I want to get the girls I see and want to talk with.
I don't even know if I'm good looking cuz I'm that insecure...
I actually Lost the oportunity with a girl because she thought I didnt care about her. I was working as a lifeguard at the time and the player vibe was already there. I cared about her but was trying to play it cool. Learning experience. I am far from a player and I am not looking for just casual flings. I am determined to meet my future wife in the next few years. It took me a long time to mature as a man and get my mind right to be in the place I am now and be ready to be vulnerable in a relationship.
Well... trying to play it cool Is a bit player-ish.....to me at least
i don’t even try to play cool, i just don’t care. it’s a double edged sword
I tried online dating being attractive above average level (and I'm also confident enough due to more than a decade of working on myself constantly and listening to critics) and shot it down after a quite short period of time. My perception is that girls associate attributes to me (and probably other "higher level" blokes) that I do not obtain. I talked with a girlfriend of one of my friends on a holiday and she told me she totally believed I was into hooking up and just f-ing girls just by my looks. When girls get to know me they find out who I am (usually better than they would guess), but this needs direct interaction with them. Meanwhile online these things just cannot happen therefore I found myself getting less likes (no matches) than average or below average men.
Probably one of the best videos I've seen on this topic ! Not to sound ridiculous but I often think this is probably a taste of what it would be like to be famous. Like shit I just wanna be like everyone else!
Brother, I’m telling you, it’s almost like being famous for real. (Not being cocky).. I always said this is stuff celebrities usually deal with
That first tip was too agreeable. I agree that good looks can bring as much challenge as the advantages. It's all about balance.
Another thing is that women see the most of the men as players, cheaters, and if you are an attractive guy, women can see that the possibility of that happens is higher and they don't want to deal with such a headache.
Yup this^
Yes they Do, woman love drama
What if you’re attractive but a minority? I feel like skin color plays a role. White men automatically are perceived as high status.
I strongly disagree
That's actually true and I've experienced this....till my 10th standard i was just a normal guys avg guy to be precise...and as soon as i joined a new school in my 11th i made up my first impression pretty well, confidence,good looking (not bragging) etc,many girls from other section wanted my no. Or insta id and due to all this the girls in my classroom avoided talking to me except for a few ofc
So now whenever I recieve a compliment from a girl i just pretend to be unconfident about my looks or sorta and things just work fine...i don't boast i hardly flirt so that's on a good track...and yeah i talk to every one in the same manner be it beautiful or ugly
It’s all about knowing yourself, self awareness, confidence, and being comfortable in your own skin. And being good looking with a big fat thick Huge...bank account.
That too!😉✨🍆✨
I'm dead 💀
Finally a single woman who is honest
Earn money on your own
Cap
I find this very hard to believe that pretty men and boys have hard time attracting people and love.. Pretty men and boys don't have a hard time attracting women. I say if your ugly it's hard.
Lol you just proved his point
@@bapa39 No, he proved nothing. Hot guys will have it easier than ugly guys thanks to Halo effect.
Do "Why billionaires can't afford food" next
"Why only eating mcdonalds may give you eternal life and health" after that one
The whole blue pill/red pill argument is really annoying.
2 things.
1. No matter how you look you should always strive to be the best person you can be and treat people how you want to be treated.
2. People tend to date other people of similar attractiveness.
When I socialize with friends like you , I feel very very chill and happy , one of my friends who looks like you are even from Syria
Do not downplay yourself too much either. She'll think you're fishing for compliments
Enlightening every chad out there
I think the reason why is most of them are to into themselves meaning they always focus on looking good rather that focusing on her and how good she looks and also his ego thinking that no woman can turn him down because of his attractive looks.
Rejection is not the most scary in our modern days. There are so meny feminists, who are "afraid" of guys, who is trying to approach them and even intimidate them with police. And that's the biggest problem leading to depression and suicide. I knew few guys, who didn't take any drugs or anything, but, yeah...
As an attractive man, I can say with all honesty this guy speaks the truth. I use to try way too hard to impress women by being overly witty, cocky and energetic, only to be rejected. I finally realized that I don't need to do those things to impress women. I learned to be comfortable in my own skin. I learned to be confident, humble, and assertive. Before I learned these masculine traits, most women assumed that I was an arrogant douchebag or player. Of course there are still women who judge me as a jerk or player based on my appearance without getting to know me. But that is usually an ego defense mechanism to hide the women's insecurities and fear of rejection. It's the same thing when men see a really hot woman. We usually assume she is a total b!tch or very high maintenance because that's the stereotype with hot women. But the truth is men are also afraid of rejection if we believe the woman is out of our league.
I'm a good looking, athletic, and a healthy guy. My curse is that they tell me I'm such a sweet guy, and I'm a gentleman but they're not looking for something serious. I feel like if I went after one night stands, I would get what I want but when I really want to connect with someone, I have no luck - even with the ones that I date for 5-6 hours at a time. Please note that people are afraid to make emotional commitments no matter their age, and they usually don't talk about this. You just happen to realize that when you're dumped or even worse, ghosted.
You're not good looking enough.
@@tomstickland very true 💯