the calories might seem kinda high if you're the type who wants to have it as a side w/say steak or chicken but you could totally split it. 250 calories of these noodles would be a great replacement for a cup of rice. For just 20 or so more calories, you get 15 grams of protein along w/your steak or chicken breast.
Wow Cole thank you for this video. It made me really think about something’s. I’m a Empath as well and it’s hard for me to recognize which emotions are actually my own. Sometimes I get confused and I’m like wait I’m a happy person why is this heavy sadness hitting me. The area I live in isn’t really safe and there are a lot of desperate sad people. So I’m probably picking up on that. I’ve used that though for something positive that I can use in my life to make it better. It has made me a stronger more resilience person. I no longer feel like ignorant about certain things. I love also what you said towards the end of the video. Taking ourselves way too seriously. I have a issue with that and I’m gonna work on that. You made a lot of good points. I subbed and liked this, good information thanks again.
His videos are crap! Lol jk, this one is useful and timely. I have had a lot of trouble sticking with a certain situation. You went down the same rabbit hole that i did (and now i quit!)... astrology. This video helps a bunch! Thanks!
Absolutely, I’d say spiritual hygiene is important for sensitives. Whenever you take care of yourself, you protect your energy and feel more ‘in control’ of your emotions. There is no ‘bad’ energy . It’s what we do with it. I have a whole playlist with practices, specifically good for Sensitives like us ruclips.net/p/PLWqYWPCzsBZD9IqJiHYWLUWzCYe4nI-o3
The thing is though, you should know when someone is disrespecting you and you should be able to point it out to them. Some people use the whole “you’re being too sensitive” as a way to not take responsibility. Yes, sometimes it can be tricky to be able to tell the difference between the two, but you shouldn’t let other people treat you in ways that you don’t want to be treated.
@@rogeliorodriguez8518 it's hard not to take things personally when people say really hurtful things to you. I've been called stupid, ugly, boring, weird, a loser for what I know and had physical forms of bullying like pushed into, people trying to take my glasses off of me, cornered and spat on. Do you think I shouldn't take that personally?
For me, the realization goes both ways. I am overly sensitive to good things and bad things. When someone agrees with me about something, I take it to mean we're soulmates.
Always so sensitive, i hate crying over everything. Every time i get called to a teacher of some sort i always tear up on the inside or outside. Ive learned to blink fast and bite my tounge whenever i feel like crying, hell i teared up watching this 💀
You have at least learned how to control your crying, I'm 18 and I just recently found out imagining all the tension from the unreleased tears go to my brain or my chest helps to stop them (I get more aches tho it sucks)
But it is serious. We were created by God for a purpose, and that is to love. We need Jesus to save us from our sins so that when this one gift of a life is over, we'll continue to live and love in heaven.
@@BoundlessLamb understanding others can help you with empathy. Lol, it's good for the women as well because you know how to emotional respond. You can get alot of opportunities with business and relationships. But first you have to get pass your own sensitivity to understand others sensitivity
i'm too sensitive to teasing. I know it's playful but I tend to overanalyze what was said and think if what they say is how they truly feel about me. I'm already very insecure and don't need the list to grow. I can't tease back, I feel just as bad teasing; what if what I said really hurt someone even if they don't show it? What if that was their last straw? I'm still learning to love and accept myself first so I don't need external validation. It's hard :(
We are all deep down sensitive to teasing its how you channel the energy. If you think of yourself as a business all attention is good attention its just how you use it. When the jokes stop coming thats when it really hurts because thats when people have stopped caring. Im assuming you are younger and I am too but understanding my emotions and really listening to the advice of "Nobody can bother you without out you letting them" has helped a lot
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
Don't bother liking these platitude comments that have nothing to do with the video people, don't you see? They're indirectly shilling trying to get you to check out their channel 🙄
Right so someone told me that after I beat up a bunch of noobs my life would get better. How wrong they were. Turns out these noobs were members of the league of assassins
@@draconshot928 You want my advice dude? Call Red Hood, he’ll be able to ease the tension between you and those ninja nutcases, he knows them pretty well.
"Nobody can hurt me without my permission" is a great quote I need to remember. I'm a HSP and it's hard to accept this part of myself because I get teased about it. People made me think this is a flaw but accepting who I am is liberating.
Cole, I relate so much to what you say. I'm an HSP myself as well. Dealing with people that joke heavily, but ricochet the jokes and nicknames was (and still is) admirable to me. I take jokes way too seriously, I changed schools because of it, I cried constantly in 1-5th grade and people made fun of my crying. I still get teased and pick on by my male classmates. I thank you for sharing this, this is great advice that I'll follow right now while I'm still in high school and in life as well.
I used to be exactly like this but because of the tough times I've been through, I've changed. I do not care about the things people say about me or do to me. I get into fights and it's no problem, it's not that serious. That's just who I am, and I do not care to change once again.
I spent my so many years being insecure about how skinny I was and my acne. Anytime someone would make a joke about it I'd take it really personally and would sit thinking about it in my room for weeks. Since then I've realised a few things that have helped me overcome it. 1) Most people are projecting their own insecurities on to you 2) No one is thinking about your insecurities or your embarrassing moments as much as you are 3) You can choose to not care Really good video Cole, super professional and you keep getting better and better at your storytelling and video editing 💙
@@tituslee2153 such a good question because you seriously want to not care and move on, but then I really don’t know why the Brain just goes back to the thoughts, it’s like your Brain being a puppet master to you without reason as you just want to simply move on, but your Brain doesn’t and just wants you to be miserable
I was so damn sensitive growing up and even now I can get sensitive to harmless joke insults, but I definitely cared too much. It's a revelation when you learn to take things less serious!
You have it. You have what you need to achieve all of your goals. It's time to stop looking for what you don't have, and put your full attention on what you do have. It's time to bring out the best version of yourself, so that everyone around you can grow too. Good luck fam
Wat? That does not make any sense. If you stop looking for what you don't have, how can you start doing anything, if you don't have a goal of achieving anything?
@@SwordWieldingDuck I think he means dont focus on the things you don't have (fancy cars, a big house, a super model gf) and focus on what you do have (conciousness and drive) and use it. But I do agree with you, in order to grow and change you have to go into unknown territory and obtain novel resources
My boss upset me yesterday, I tried hard to let it go, and was annoyed with myself for being over sensitive. This morning I’m much lighter about it than I would have been in the past. I’ve been practicing the law of attraction lately and it work! Love watching your videos and think I was meant to see this, this particular morning. Thanks. Am also a Pisces empath x
Yo Colé! As a Pisces I have always been super sensitive and never felt like I belonged with my friend/cousin group growing up since they were rowdy and loud. Empath Pisces is a term that seems familiar but I love your message of embracing my identity as a naturally empathetic person and not let others shame me for that! Much love 🙏🏽💪🏽
I think what sets your videos apart is not only your editing but the insight you bring from your own life. You take where you were to how you are feeling now and it's really inspiring
I’m pisces. Another water sign that’s highly sensitive and intuitively psychic. We feel others emotions and energy in the environment we’re in. Peace brothers. There’s so many advantages though such as reading people and situations, understanding animals and vulnerable people more than an ‘average’ person and last but not least, understanding women....our emotional nature and sensuality gives a lot of skill in romance and the bedroom....heh,don’t be fooled.
I’m a Sagittarius with ADHD and def feel things very easily since Sags are very moody and ADHD ppl have trouble with emotional regulation but am working on how not to care so much about everything.
Such a great message Cole. I began to realize how "unserious" life actually is when I went on a meditation retreat a month ago, but since then I have gotten back into the habit of identifying with and attaching myself to trivial issues and occurrences, but this video was truly an amazing reminder of that lesson. Thank you!
Was beating myself up for being down and letting my emotions get to me- definitely an empath (Libra/ENFJ). This video plus a few others of yours really helped ground me and allowed me to take a step back. Not feeling great but better. Thank you! 💜
I’m 15 about to be 16 this month and I love watching your channel man because your basically me but older with more knowledge of course so keep doing what your doing man your definitely helping people like me out there
You just described my life. I made a few months ago a video talking about that, but in the heat of a depression state. Now I take the positive aspects of my sensitivity (creativity mainly) but I stand up for myself.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission" is a quote I love and really changed my thinking in the past. P.S. my teeth suck and are crooked and chipped from a tongue ring. It is something that bothers me as I try to make videos but if people don't like don't watch!
I believe, as a man with responsibilities, people look to you for strength. If you're having emotional breakdowns in stressful situations, you'll not only be useless but you may also make the problems worse. That doesn't mean to not have emotions. I believe it means to feel, recognize, experience emotions, but to not let them interfere with your mission. If people are relying on you and you show weakness, they'll feel like all is lost. If you feel terrified or hurt but keep a brave face, those around you will feel strength as well. If you go into a job interview and let your nervousness overtake, you'll lose the opportunity. There's plenty of time to sort through emotions after the battle (the battle being any stressful situation). During the conflict, appear as stone. Put on your poker face and play your hand the best you can
I HAVE BEEN CALLED MANY NAMES BEHIND MY BACK BUT A FEW TIMES TO MY FACE AND I WILL TELL THAT PERSON OFF. SOME PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS TALKING S**T. MY OPINION IS TO JUST IGNORE THEM AND MOVE AHEAD AND REACH YOUR GOALS. I LIKE YOUR VIDEO THANKS.
Not wanting to fight doesn’t make you a coward it makes you sane. Plenty of stories of fights ending up people with brain damage or dead. Even after marine corps Boot Camp I was confident but still avoided fights if possible
Great video Cole! I also think's important to know that sensitivity can also be a sensory trait. I was incredibly sensitive growing up. Large groups and eating in public overstimulated me. I was overly aware of everything going on in a social setting. There is a book called The Highly Sensitive Person which changed my life. People with Sensory processing sensitivity (SPS) may be more prone to negative feedback and criticisms. But when people say "You're so sensitive" I say is that a problem? It actually can be a desirable personality trait. The problem is we don't know how to cope with being sensitive, so it turn can lead to anxiety, neurotic behaviour, seeking approval etc. HSP's can thrive in life if they know how to harness their trait.
Maybe this is the reason why I am acting like this even nowadays, I never learned how to control my emotions and family and friends just said something like "don't cry" and that's it, telling me to suck it up...
I really identify with being very sensitive, with your trajectory of learning how to deal with it and your current views (try not to take life overly seriously). If we ever met I think we would get along well and have a lot to talk about! Thanks bro and keep being awesome.
Hey Cole I can relate with you on soo many levels. Being an empath is something that I have had for soo long and it’s great to see you have the confidence to share you wisdom about it. I had that effect me and to some degree still does over 3 decades into the game and something like you I had to find out on my own. You are an absolute legend and soo inspirational. knowing there are people like you on the planet makes me feel like I’m not completely bonkers. Keep up the great effort brother you are a champion 😀😀😀😀 one of the biggest fears I have is not knowing how to start and getting overwhelmed that it’s too late to and feeling like I’m too old and the worst part is the more I worry the more time passes☹️ but I think you have lit a lightbulb in my head and gave me so much inspiration luv ya work so much and never stop sharing you story the world needs it 😀😀😀😀
The Highly Sensitive Person (TM) validation industry encourages us to identify ourselves as a type, a category. They tell us flattering things like "your sensitivity is a superpower!" I don't agree. I consider my sensitivity a disability. Accepting that I have an emotional disability has helped me to manage and work around it better.
I tried to act cold or emotionless when people had any emotion. I dont even know to save my negative emotions. Sometimes, people will talk to me, and it makes me want to cry. I am a people pleaser, and i can't save everyone around me.
Great video. Being highly sensitive, I think I have been taking this identity super seriously. I kinda realized though how I have become too attached to studying this part of my life. Even if I don’t feel like not researching, I realized I need to focus on who I am rather than my sensitivity. So thank you
I'm like that too, I'm an INFJ (according to an online test) and I tend to take things too personally too. Sometimes it's hard to laugh off insults, but I like your perspective that you shouldn't be too serious.
Bro I can't change and I don't want to. You know I even chose to stay away from people because everything they say about me goes straight to my heart. I had to avoid people and focus on my goals now they are always trying to hang with me and they stopped being mean to me just because my life is on track, I just don't get people and I will not change my personality just to fit in with them. You guys are always talking about "you gotta stop being nice", well I was born this way and im not feelna change for anyone
I'm also a Pisces, March 19 and I'm really sensitive, but when I started to adopt the attitude that I shouldn't care what people think of me because it's none of my business, I became happier, and even more happier when I accepted myself. People won't love you, if you don't love yourself.
As a pacifist myself i realy can relate to your story and i also decided one day to fix mt sensituvity. It made me unfortunately go with things too far sometimes in bad way, like accidently insulting people, but i am fixing that as well. On the brighter side. It made me mentaly stronger and i am now prepeared for bigger challenges. Thank you for reminding me of all of that and for our advice.
i kinda relate to the pacfist thing. I don't hate myself for it and I've learn to accept it. There is nothing wrong with hating drama, or conflict or not wanting to hurt people. i'm a very sensitive boy but i do like feedback. I love being sensitive. i just think people need more sonder. Everyone has their struggles being mean isn't always the answer.
I feel there is a difference if you get disrespected by a random person or a loved one. I don't take offense if someone makes remarks about me, i confront them. The problem is, when a loved one does it I get super sensitive. It feels like betrayal of some sorts and my response is then all over the place. Trying to act like it was a random person conflicts with my wiring somehow and I can't switch.
I think that this video is spot on with his solution to not being too sensitive. I was really sensitive back in high school and it just got clearer to me now, like right-in-your-face realization that I was sensitive. I would always think about my sensitivity and would beat myself up for it because I would always get hurt or feel slighted by the actions and words of other people. Thinking about it, when other people put us down, accepting ourselves and recognizing our power over ourselves and our reactions is a really empowering way to handle this. Lastly, it will still sting or hurt, but like anything with practice, we can be more thick-skinned. Thank you Cole, blessing!
I love the example at 9:56 , its funny yet true at the same time, and that "like what??" At the end is the perfect reaction, us as humans really dont make any sense in what we do something but thats just one of our flaws that we have a hard time excepting because we take ourselves to seriously
possibly the most impressive thing about this man is his willing to be open and vulnerable about his past to the internet in order to allow other people to grow too.
In case no one has told you today, Keep pushing through the heartache, lack of motivation & self doubt. When you feel lost, that’s the perfect opportunity to find a reroute. There’s so much you’re meant to do in this lifetime, don’t give up on it. Love from a small RUclipsr 🤍
I've been watching you for a while and this video feels like it was made for me! This whole self-discovery about my highly sensitivity and being an empath has helped me understand who I am, but this video has the perfect words that I was looking for! Thank you so much man, your content is amazing and it's helping me and many other people improve their life.
I'm sensitive but not vulnerable or weak, not at all actually. I'm an empath and pisces too btw but I've been through a lot of shit myself except constant bullying and even though some stuff hurt me it also made me grow and I did get stronger.
thank you!! It helps me so much to know you like this. I got relatable along the narration you had in this video. Thank you so much that you make me feel more loosed and accepted. More at peace with myself.
hi Cole, what you said in this video is so damn right and i feel i've finally understood thanks to you that it's okay to be sensitive, although some people just don't get me and this characteristic of mine but that's fine, i can't expect to be understood by everyone. Thank you so much for your words, wishing u the best
lately im reading a lot about anxiety etc , and the methods the therapists talk about are so so similar too your videos , thank you so much , that you make videos with meaningful and helpful content :) btw greetings from germany! ;)
Being a male empath when young is the toughest, as most guys don’t develop much empathy/sensitivity until much later on in life. It’s all about being the toughest, best, biggest, fastest, most dominate etc. With age, non-empaths slow down, their egos deflate, they get less competitive, they learn to become more empathic whilst sensitive empaths learn to not care as much and stop taking everything too seriously, so it balances out.
bro i can relate. my views on this world are bit different than rest of the people, and i still haven't found a community where i can find people who can share same view as me. ik this zooms into comfort zone but idc. I’m also starting to think i don’t belong in this world which is full of controversy. like everyone has different view than me and i don't belong here. if you are wondering about my view, they are bit socially left and progressive but not too FALGSC. i hate transphobia, sexism (both towards men and particularly women), racism, etc. i am not lgbt or feminist. i think not hating lgbt people, working women, colored people, etc is common sense and not politics. but the world either gets too incel or too tanky. i also acknowledge how underpowered men are in law systems like criminal justice, SA, child testimony. i recently watched dr shaym video about 36 questions for men, i agreed with most takes but disagreed on few, the one that were blatant dog whistle or avoiding question or not taking account of real world scenario. also it gave off too much incel and hate vibe. again not a feminist or mens right activist. i just wanted to drop things off my chest and express some feeling as i have been not going out or meeting anyone for few days because of exam prep. i know i gave off loner vibe lol. i am not here to start a political discussion
I remember this young girl that was very hateful. She was a cousin of one of my best friends, and it appeared that she really enjoyed seeing me embarrassed, humiliated, uncomfortable, etc. What was disturbing to me is one time when she was being humiliated, I felt uncomfortable being around that situation because I can sense her pain. I was always perplexed by this! How is it that she took joy in seeing others being put down or brought down, when for me, it was painful to see anybody being abused. The few times people ask me why I tend to be introverted, I have no problem letting them know that I generally do not like people and their nature.
I've never thought about emotions and intrusive thoughts concerning sensitivity like this before. I too, am a pisces so naturally, I guess emotions come as a bigger wave for us Lol 😅 But thank you for this awesome new perspective on sensitivity, your content stands out, and that's why I love it. Thank you ❤
Man this video really hit bro! I was the exact same way really sensitive and everything would affect my and i realised that u get taken advantage of and the lack of Respect i recieved from it
Absolutely love your content, your points made effectively and your tone is on point. I often check your videos to improve on my presentation presence 😂 I try to make vids here and there, but you deffo inspire me to be a better speaker!
I've found myself to be sensitive about animal abuse. That shit pisses me off, raises my blood pressure. Hurting kids and animals just annoy me way too much and this world is full of it. No wonder people who are into activism turn bitter by constantly witnessing the state of the world. I find no solution to it, its way to bad and disgusting and upsetting. It hovers in my mind. Kids being beaten and r* to Dogs being run over and boiled, cows being skinned alive to kittens being stepped on, humans keep doing it. Im convinced out of 8 billion people, only 500 million are genuine kind people. How do u stay positive and take care of your mental health cole?
I remember myself a year ago , i was so sensitive that i used to cry over everything , now i rarely cry and im laughing more because i improved myself so much and I'm gonna improve more in 2024🔥
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Didn’t you have a father who toughened you up a bit?
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Wow Cole thank you for this video. It made me really think about something’s. I’m a Empath as well and it’s hard for me to recognize which emotions are actually my own. Sometimes I get confused and I’m like wait I’m a happy person why is this heavy sadness hitting me. The area I live in isn’t really safe and there are a lot of desperate sad people. So I’m probably picking up on that. I’ve used that though for something positive that I can use in my life to make it better. It has made me a stronger more resilience person. I no longer feel like ignorant about certain things. I love also what you said towards the end of the video. Taking ourselves way too seriously. I have a issue with that and I’m gonna work on that. You made a lot of good points. I subbed and liked this, good information thanks again.
You think you're tough @jetnight88?
look at cole, sharing personal details of his life to make us feel safe and alright. thankyou for the work you put in brother
I do it for the squad
He’s most def a real one
@@ColeHastings it helps man thanks
His videos are crap! Lol jk, this one is useful and timely. I have had a lot of trouble sticking with a certain situation. You went down the same rabbit hole that i did (and now i quit!)... astrology. This video helps a bunch! Thanks!
Emotionally intelligent people can often be highly sensitive. Use your traits to your strength!
This ^
How?
Absolutely, I’d say spiritual hygiene is important for sensitives. Whenever you take care of yourself, you protect your energy and feel more ‘in control’ of your emotions. There is no ‘bad’ energy . It’s what we do with it. I have a whole playlist with practices, specifically good for Sensitives like us ruclips.net/p/PLWqYWPCzsBZD9IqJiHYWLUWzCYe4nI-o3
Except for people at twitter
I would like to know how that’s the case
The thing is though, you should know when someone is disrespecting you and you should be able to point it out to them. Some people use the whole “you’re being too sensitive” as a way to not take responsibility. Yes, sometimes it can be tricky to be able to tell the difference between the two, but you shouldn’t let other people treat you in ways that you don’t want to be treated.
Don’t take it personally. That’s the goal.
The book “The Four Agreements” has some good insight on this.
@@rogeliorodriguez8518 it's hard not to take things personally when people say really hurtful things to you. I've been called stupid, ugly, boring, weird, a loser for what I know and had physical forms of bullying like pushed into, people trying to take my glasses off of me, cornered and spat on. Do you think I shouldn't take that personally?
@@rogeliorodriguez8518 No. You sound gay.
@@chuhwey3632 I'am super gay.
@@rogeliorodriguez8518 Yup. You go, little mentally ill thing
For me, the realization goes both ways. I am overly sensitive to good things and bad things. When someone agrees with me about something, I take it to mean we're soulmates.
Haha I used to be like that too
Literally me
You and I both, can we meet and be best friends forever! Lol
Haha I can relate.
Also when I notice something odd or doing them something odd I can't get it out of my mind.
Always so sensitive, i hate crying over everything. Every time i get called to a teacher of some sort i always tear up on the inside or outside. Ive learned to blink fast and bite my tounge whenever i feel like crying, hell i teared up watching this 💀
You have at least learned how to control your crying, I'm 18 and I just recently found out imagining all the tension from the unreleased tears go to my brain or my chest helps to stop them (I get more aches tho it sucks)
@@somebodyyoumayknow2280 that's really bad for you
@@spacebar9733 Better than humiliation at least, but thanks
Same,gosh I just wish I wasn't this sensitive 😔
@@somebodyyoumayknow2280 you let yourself feel humiliated.
Every time I'm feeling kinda down Cole brightens up my day. Seriously bro, your videos are basically free therapy
love you dog
@@ColeHastings we love you too homie
"Life is not that serious" Such a true statement.
Except of course our inevitable death
But it is serious. We were created by God for a purpose, and that is to love. We need Jesus to save us from our sins so that when this one gift of a life is over, we'll continue to live and love in heaven.
Then life would be SO much longer, wouldnt it?
Either that or people just love to misunderstand others
Sensitive or highly in-tuned don’t hate your sensitivity use it for your benefits people may think your weak bit your the strongest out there
How is it beneficial? Genuine question cause it feels like my biggest weakness.
@@BoundlessLamb understanding others can help you with empathy. Lol, it's good for the women as well because you know how to emotional respond. You can get alot of opportunities with business and relationships. But first you have to get pass your own sensitivity to understand others sensitivity
The Highly sensitive person by Elaine N. Aron
i'm too sensitive to teasing. I know it's playful but I tend to overanalyze what was said and think if what they say is how they truly feel about me. I'm already very insecure and don't need the list to grow. I can't tease back, I feel just as bad teasing; what if what I said really hurt someone even if they don't show it? What if that was their last straw? I'm still learning to love and accept myself first so I don't need external validation. It's hard :(
We are all deep down sensitive to teasing its how you channel the energy. If you think of yourself as a business all attention is good attention its just how you use it. When the jokes stop coming thats when it really hurts because thats when people have stopped caring. Im assuming you are younger and I am too but understanding my emotions and really listening to the advice of "Nobody can bother you without out you letting them" has helped a lot
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
This was a really helpful perspective, thanks
There's also the idea of a sunk cost fallacy. May be time to change your goals if they're not making you happy(or you're not enjoying that show.)
Don't bother liking these platitude comments that have nothing to do with the video people, don't you see? They're indirectly shilling trying to get you to check out their channel 🙄
Right so someone told me that after I beat up a bunch of noobs my life would get better. How wrong they were. Turns out these noobs were members of the league of assassins
@@draconshot928 You want my advice dude? Call Red Hood, he’ll be able to ease the tension between you and those ninja nutcases, he knows them pretty well.
I am actually a teenager I was sensitive when I was like 14 or 15 but now I just accept my stupidity and now I can get over it.
I cried because i needed two hip surgeries
And im 17
@@rokometer8 thats a very reasonable thing to cry about
@@insertunoroginalnamehere6189 lol thanks, I forgot I posted this comment, I was at the surgeries and recovery is really long...
"Nobody can hurt me without my permission" is a great quote I need to remember. I'm a HSP and it's hard to accept this part of myself because I get teased about it. People made me think this is a flaw but accepting who I am is liberating.
Not true, everyone is allowed to be sensitive if they want to
Cole, I relate so much to what you say. I'm an HSP myself as well. Dealing with people that joke heavily, but ricochet the jokes and nicknames was (and still is) admirable to me. I take jokes way too seriously, I changed schools because of it, I cried constantly in 1-5th grade and people made fun of my crying. I still get teased and pick on by my male classmates. I thank you for sharing this, this is great advice that I'll follow right now while I'm still in high school and in life as well.
dont beat yourself up about it. really hope this helped
I used to be exactly like this but because of the tough times I've been through, I've changed. I do not care about the things people say about me or do to me. I get into fights and it's no problem, it's not that serious. That's just who I am, and I do not care to change once again.
This was me during elementary too sometimes in high school too I just try to not beat myself over it
When you can laugh at past mistakes or anything that wasn’t that serious you truly are in tune with your emotions
I spent my so many years being insecure about how skinny I was and my acne. Anytime someone would make a joke about it I'd take it really personally and would sit thinking about it in my room for weeks. Since then I've realised a few things that have helped me overcome it.
1) Most people are projecting their own insecurities on to you
2) No one is thinking about your insecurities or your embarrassing moments as much as you are
3) You can choose to not care
Really good video Cole, super professional and you keep getting better and better at your storytelling and video editing 💙
Thanks man!
But how do you choose not to care? Genuinely asking btw
@@tituslee2153 such a good question because you seriously want to not care and move on, but then I really don’t know why the Brain just goes back to the thoughts, it’s like your Brain being a puppet master to you without reason as you just want to simply move on, but your Brain doesn’t and just wants you to be miserable
This really helps me alot, thank you sir
@@theinnercircle5820 thanks ♥️
I was so damn sensitive growing up and even now I can get sensitive to harmless joke insults, but I definitely cared too much. It's a revelation when you learn to take things less serious!
Yeah. But easy said than done. When someone gives me a insult it plays on my mind for days.. i hate it...
You have it. You have what you need to achieve all of your goals.
It's time to stop looking for what you don't have, and put your full attention on what you do have. It's time to bring out the best version of yourself, so that everyone around you can grow too.
Good luck fam
Wat? That does not make any sense. If you stop looking for what you don't have, how can you start doing anything, if you don't have a goal of achieving anything?
@@SwordWieldingDuck I think he means dont focus on the things you don't have (fancy cars, a big house, a super model gf) and focus on what you do have (conciousness and drive) and use it. But I do agree with you, in order to grow and change you have to go into unknown territory and obtain novel resources
.. holy shit.
This actually really helped.
my best version of myself put others down. I'm kind of sure of that that's why I tend to put myself back. I'm such a coward.
Great job man :) always impressed by the quality and quantity of your videos.
Thanks king
Vite ramen :)))
My boss upset me yesterday, I tried hard to let it go, and was annoyed with myself for being over sensitive. This morning I’m much lighter about it than I would have been in the past. I’ve been practicing the law of attraction lately and it work! Love watching your videos and think I was meant to see this, this particular morning. Thanks. Am also a Pisces empath x
Read the “Four Agreements”. One of the agreements is to not take things personally.
It’s a good read.
Honestly man, I never really noticed your teeth and your difference doesn't make you any less of an amazing person than anyone else.
Preciate ya!
@@ColeHastings Anytime bro.
You’re so right about all of us taking life too seriously! I’m trying to work on this 😅 thank you for this video Cole!
Thank you for watching
Thank you. I am still trying to understand why i am so sensitive. Drives me mad..
Yo Colé! As a Pisces I have always been super sensitive and never felt like I belonged with my friend/cousin group growing up since they were rowdy and loud. Empath Pisces is a term that seems familiar but I love your message of embracing my identity as a naturally empathetic person and not let others shame me for that! Much love 🙏🏽💪🏽
You’re changing my life one video at a time dude!
Cole is the only person I know that could slip in a ramen noodle sponsor in a self improvement video aha 🔥💯
I tried my very best
@@ColeHastings I'd buy but I'm broke
Godamn so relatable.Thats why I'm subbed sometimes the connection I feel to Cole is unreal!
I think what sets your videos apart is not only your editing but the insight you bring from your own life. You take where you were to how you are feeling now and it's really inspiring
Thanks man, that's the goal
I’m cancer and I can relate to being hypersensitive all the time, you just help me big time today! Thank you.
same bro same..
I’m pisces. Another water sign that’s highly sensitive and intuitively psychic. We feel others emotions and energy in the environment we’re in. Peace brothers. There’s so many advantages though such as reading people and situations, understanding animals and vulnerable people more than an ‘average’ person and last but not least, understanding women....our emotional nature and sensuality gives a lot of skill in romance and the bedroom....heh,don’t be fooled.
I’m a Sagittarius with ADHD and def feel things very easily since Sags are very moody and ADHD ppl have trouble with emotional regulation but am working on how not to care so much about everything.
I'm a dumb Capricorn with nothing on me or in me that screams CARDINAL! or LEADER!
Such a great message Cole. I began to realize how "unserious" life actually is when I went on a meditation retreat a month ago, but since then I have gotten back into the habit of identifying with and attaching myself to trivial issues and occurrences, but this video was truly an amazing reminder of that lesson. Thank you!
Was beating myself up for being down and letting my emotions get to me- definitely an empath (Libra/ENFJ). This video plus a few others of yours really helped ground me and allowed me to take a step back. Not feeling great but better. Thank you! 💜
I’m 15 about to be 16 this month and I love watching your channel man because your basically me but older with more knowledge of course so keep doing what your doing man your definitely helping people like me out there
You just described my life. I made a few months ago a video talking about that, but in the heat of a depression state. Now I take the positive aspects of my sensitivity (creativity mainly) but I stand up for myself.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission" is a quote I love and really changed my thinking in the past.
P.S. my teeth suck and are crooked and chipped from a tongue ring. It is something that bothers me as I try to make videos but if people don't like don't watch!
I believe, as a man with responsibilities, people look to you for strength. If you're having emotional breakdowns in stressful situations, you'll not only be useless but you may also make the problems worse. That doesn't mean to not have emotions. I believe it means to feel, recognize, experience emotions, but to not let them interfere with your mission. If people are relying on you and you show weakness, they'll feel like all is lost. If you feel terrified or hurt but keep a brave face, those around you will feel strength as well. If you go into a job interview and let your nervousness overtake, you'll lose the opportunity. There's plenty of time to sort through emotions after the battle (the battle being any stressful situation). During the conflict, appear as stone. Put on your poker face and play your hand the best you can
I HAVE BEEN CALLED MANY NAMES BEHIND MY BACK BUT A FEW TIMES TO MY FACE AND I WILL TELL THAT PERSON OFF. SOME PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS TALKING S**T. MY OPINION IS TO JUST IGNORE THEM AND MOVE AHEAD AND REACH YOUR GOALS. I LIKE YOUR VIDEO THANKS.
*"You will always have a good excuse to start later, just don't listen to yourself."*
“The mind wants to give up, however the soul wants to achieve greatness” -Miyamoto Mushashi
Not wanting to fight doesn’t make you a coward it makes you sane. Plenty of stories of fights ending up people with brain damage or dead. Even after marine corps Boot Camp I was confident but still avoided fights if possible
I'm like you Cole, I'm relatively sensitive and this is one of the reasons that I watch every single one of your vids dude and I love them
Great video Cole! I also think's important to know that sensitivity can also be a sensory trait. I was incredibly sensitive growing up. Large groups and eating in public overstimulated me. I was overly aware of everything going on in a social setting. There is a book called The Highly Sensitive Person which changed my life. People with Sensory processing sensitivity (SPS) may be more prone to negative feedback and criticisms. But when people say "You're so sensitive" I say is that a problem? It actually can be a desirable personality trait. The problem is we don't know how to cope with being sensitive, so it turn can lead to anxiety, neurotic behaviour, seeking approval etc. HSP's can thrive in life if they know how to harness their trait.
Maybe this is the reason why I am acting like this even nowadays, I never learned how to control my emotions and family and friends just said something like "don't cry" and that's it, telling me to suck it up...
Omg cole THANKYOU SO MUCH!! currently in middle school and i relate to your story SOO MUCH!!!
Tysm cole you made my day!
I really identify with being very sensitive, with your trajectory of learning how to deal with it and your current views (try not to take life overly seriously). If we ever met I think we would get along well and have a lot to talk about! Thanks bro and keep being awesome.
Sensitivity is a gift when you become resilient.
Absolutely
This video holds up still to this day! Speaking as an empath here! God bless you, bro ❤ Jesus loves you
Hey Cole I can relate with you on soo many levels. Being an empath is something that I have had for soo long and it’s great to see you have the confidence to share you wisdom about it. I had that effect me and to some degree still does over 3 decades into the game and something like you I had to find out on my own. You are an absolute legend and soo inspirational. knowing there are people like you on the planet makes me feel like I’m not completely bonkers. Keep up the great effort brother you are a champion 😀😀😀😀 one of the biggest fears I have is not knowing how to start and getting overwhelmed that it’s too late to and feeling like I’m too old and the worst part is the more I worry the more time passes☹️ but I think you have lit a lightbulb in my head and gave me so much inspiration luv ya work so much and never stop sharing you story the world needs it 😀😀😀😀
This is so motivation
The Highly Sensitive Person (TM) validation industry encourages us to identify ourselves as a type, a category. They tell us flattering things like "your sensitivity is a superpower!" I don't agree. I consider my sensitivity a disability. Accepting that I have an emotional disability has helped me to manage and work around it better.
I tried to act cold or emotionless when people had any emotion. I dont even know to save my negative emotions. Sometimes, people will talk to me, and it makes me want to cry. I am a people pleaser, and i can't save everyone around me.
Great video. Being highly sensitive, I think I have been taking this identity super seriously. I kinda realized though how I have become too attached to studying this part of my life. Even if I don’t feel like not researching, I realized I need to focus on who I am rather than my sensitivity. So thank you
I'm like that too, I'm an INFJ (according to an online test) and I tend to take things too personally too. Sometimes it's hard to laugh off insults, but I like your perspective that you shouldn't be too serious.
*Don't watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going. - Sam Levenson*
Refreshing to hear from another man. Felt like I couldn’t talk about it when growing up because boys are supposed to be tough all the time.
Bro I can't change and I don't want to. You know I even chose to stay away from people because everything they say about me goes straight to my heart. I had to avoid people and focus on my goals now they are always trying to hang with me and they stopped being mean to me just because my life is on track, I just don't get people and I will not change my personality just to fit in with them. You guys are always talking about "you gotta stop being nice", well I was born this way and im not feelna change for anyone
I'm also a Pisces, March 19 and I'm really sensitive, but when I started to adopt the attitude that I shouldn't care what people think of me because it's none of my business, I became happier, and even more happier when I accepted myself. People won't love you, if you don't love yourself.
dude life changing video thankyou KING!!!!!!
As a pacifist myself i realy can relate to your story and i also decided one day to fix mt sensituvity. It made me unfortunately go with things too far sometimes in bad way, like accidently insulting people, but i am fixing that as well. On the brighter side. It made me mentaly stronger and i am now prepeared for bigger challenges. Thank you for reminding me of all of that and for our advice.
I really love this video ,great words and that make me feel so comfy🤍💕🌸
i kinda relate to the pacfist thing. I don't hate myself for it and I've learn to accept it. There is nothing wrong with hating drama, or conflict or not wanting to hurt people. i'm a very sensitive boy but i do like feedback. I love being sensitive. i just think people need more sonder. Everyone has their struggles being mean isn't always the answer.
I'm not a pacifist, but I agree. I don't like violence either, but sometimes it is the only way. It's unfortunate, though 😔
I feel there is a difference if you get disrespected by a random person or a loved one. I don't take offense if someone makes remarks about me, i confront them. The problem is, when a loved one does it I get super sensitive. It feels like betrayal of some sorts and my response is then all over the place. Trying to act like it was a random person conflicts with my wiring somehow and I can't switch.
I think that this video is spot on with his solution to not being too sensitive. I was really sensitive back in high school and it just got clearer to me now, like right-in-your-face realization that I was sensitive. I would always think about my sensitivity and would beat myself up for it because I would always get hurt or feel slighted by the actions and words of other people.
Thinking about it, when other people put us down, accepting ourselves and recognizing our power over ourselves and our reactions is a really empowering way to handle this.
Lastly, it will still sting or hurt, but like anything with practice, we can be more thick-skinned.
Thank you Cole, blessing!
I love the example at 9:56 , its funny yet true at the same time, and that "like what??" At the end is the perfect reaction, us as humans really dont make any sense in what we do something but thats just one of our flaws that we have a hard time excepting because we take ourselves to seriously
possibly the most impressive thing about this man is his willing to be open and vulnerable about his past to the internet in order to allow other people to grow too.
thats what i do it for
I, like many others, can relate so much. Thanks for your valuable videos!
Thank you for watching them
In case no one has told you today, Keep pushing through the heartache, lack of motivation & self doubt. When you feel lost, that’s the perfect opportunity to find a reroute. There’s so much you’re meant to do in this lifetime, don’t give up on it.
Love from a small RUclipsr 🤍
Thankyou Cole for your wisdom and positivity, its very refeshing!
Your personality might be melancholic, Infj or any introverted personality (mbti)
Welcome to the club.
I've been watching you for a while and this video feels like it was made for me! This whole self-discovery about my highly sensitivity and being an empath has helped me understand who I am, but this video has the perfect words that I was looking for! Thank you so much man, your content is amazing and it's helping me and many other people improve their life.
Relatable brotha, from being sensitive to not wanting to fight at all costs, love this! Peace
I'm sensitive but not vulnerable or weak, not at all actually. I'm an empath and pisces too btw but I've been through a lot of shit myself except constant bullying and even though some stuff hurt me it also made me grow and I did get stronger.
Thats great
@@ColeHastings Sorry I had to add more explanation to my comment. But hey you're doing great man, keep it up! 😊👍
Your acting skills are on point, I love them
Thank you. This was beautiful. I needed this
thank you!! It helps me so much to know you like this. I got relatable along the narration you had in this video. Thank you so much that you make me feel more loosed and accepted. More at peace with myself.
Bro, here from Dominican Republic🇩🇴. You gave us advices as a big brother, we really appreciated.🤙🏽
hi Cole, what you said in this video is so damn right and i feel i've finally understood thanks to you that it's okay to be sensitive, although some people just don't get me and this characteristic of mine but that's fine, i can't expect to be understood by everyone.
Thank you so much for your words, wishing u the best
man your the best your videos make me motivated
lately im reading a lot about anxiety etc , and the methods the therapists talk about are so so similar too your videos , thank you so much , that you make videos with meaningful and helpful content :) btw greetings from germany! ;)
Oh, wow! Even I'm a Pisces (and of course an empath)!
High school and university was a nightmare as an empath and more importantly a male empath.
Being a male empath when young is the toughest, as most guys don’t develop much empathy/sensitivity until much later on in life. It’s all about being the toughest, best, biggest, fastest, most dominate etc.
With age, non-empaths slow down, their egos deflate, they get less competitive, they learn to become more empathic whilst sensitive empaths learn to not care as much and stop taking everything too seriously, so it balances out.
I’m Pisces and this is so true I think ppl that are Pisces have the same problem
Cole, i love you man! Your videos are helping me a lot
6:07 this man has a natural talent on acting in misery
These videos help me out so much, your helping so many people keep up the great work bro
Everything just seems so offensive to me. I’m starting to think i don’t belong in this world full of controversy.
You belong in the world dont say that.
bro i can relate. my views on this world are bit different than rest of the people, and i still haven't found a community where i can find people who can share same view as me. ik this zooms into comfort zone but idc. I’m also starting to think i don’t belong in this world which is full of controversy. like everyone has different view than me and i don't belong here.
if you are wondering about my view, they are bit socially left and progressive but not too FALGSC. i hate transphobia, sexism (both towards men and particularly women), racism, etc. i am not lgbt or feminist. i think not hating lgbt people, working women, colored people, etc is common sense and not politics. but the world either gets too incel or too tanky. i also acknowledge how underpowered men are in law systems like criminal justice, SA, child testimony.
i recently watched dr shaym video about 36 questions for men, i agreed with most takes but disagreed on few, the one that were blatant dog whistle or avoiding question or not taking account of real world scenario. also it gave off too much incel and hate vibe. again not a feminist or mens right activist.
i just wanted to drop things off my chest and express some feeling as i have been not going out or meeting anyone for few days because of exam prep. i know i gave off loner vibe lol. i am not here to start a political discussion
I remember this young girl that was very hateful. She was a cousin of one of my best friends, and it appeared that she really enjoyed seeing me embarrassed, humiliated, uncomfortable, etc. What was disturbing to me is one time when she was being humiliated, I felt uncomfortable being around that situation because I can sense her pain. I was always perplexed by this! How is it that she took joy in seeing others being put down or brought down, when for me, it was painful to see anybody being abused. The few times people ask me why I tend to be introverted, I have no problem letting them know that I generally do not like people and their nature.
Thank you🤍
i Feel you Cole! exactly the same for me! also thanks for being so genuine in your vidoes!! Thanks!
Thanks man 😄
I've never thought about emotions and intrusive thoughts concerning sensitivity like this before. I too, am a pisces so naturally, I guess emotions come as a bigger wave for us Lol 😅 But thank you for this awesome new perspective on sensitivity, your content stands out, and that's why I love it. Thank you ❤
You're a champion 🏆 Cole! Always appreciate your videos.
All I can say is : Thank you Cole .
I am glad I found your channel.
You inspired me 🙏.
Man this video really hit bro! I was the exact same way really sensitive and everything would affect my and i realised that u get taken advantage of and the lack of
Respect i recieved from it
Absolutely love your content, your points made effectively and your tone is on point. I often check your videos to improve on my presentation presence 😂 I try to make vids here and there, but you deffo inspire me to be a better speaker!
Thank you Rahma
Astrology is power, pure knowledge, very different from horoscopes.
fantastic video cole ive learnt more in this video than i have in the past term of school
Dope!
My mars sign is in cancer
I've found myself to be sensitive about animal abuse. That shit pisses me off, raises my blood pressure. Hurting kids and animals just annoy me way too much and this world is full of it. No wonder people who are into activism turn bitter by constantly witnessing the state of the world.
I find no solution to it, its way to bad and disgusting and upsetting. It hovers in my mind. Kids being beaten and r* to Dogs being run over and boiled, cows being skinned alive to kittens being stepped on, humans keep doing it.
Im convinced out of 8 billion people, only 500 million are genuine kind people.
How do u stay positive and take care of your mental health cole?
I seriously don't know how Cole does it. Super positive, puts himself out there, and appears to own his "stuff." Keep it up!
Much needed, thank you for sharing Cole
I remember myself a year ago , i was so sensitive that i used to cry over everything , now i rarely cry and im laughing more because i improved myself so much and I'm gonna improve more in 2024🔥
thank you for uploading this. the things you said there are very helpful for me!
Thank you for this video. It’s very helpful