Your Insecurities Are A Lie
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- Опубликовано: 2 ноя 2024
- Your insecurities and doubts come from lies. And I can prove it.
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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I try to help people through sharing my experiences and evolution through life.
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A couple things:
It becomes much easier to change your beliefs when you have the big 3 down: good sleep, exercising regularly, and eating whole foods.
+ hanging around with positive people, consuming positive stuff (food + media), etc. You are what you consume.
I don't think anyone is "perfect" (I regret saying that). Perfection doesn't exist and is very subjective. The people who are not insecure have embraced that they aren't perfect, and they never will be.
Hope this video helps.
Your videos are always a huge help. Thanks bro 🙏🏽
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Tha k you so much for the inspiration. I feel like you might be what Leon Hendrix is looking for. He’s an up and coming RUclipsr.
Same thing happened to me in the same time period (plus I lost a close coworker/friend whom I saw as a mentor) and this kind of approach you showed changed my life. I've been doing some mediation and other mindful activities, working out, eating well, etc in the past but slowly drifted away from them in recent years. However, these events really got me back on track and now I'm stronger than ever.
For you out there in similar shoes remember: “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
And thanks for the great vid as always,
Adam
Thanks man i used to be really depressed but working out and eating better has given me so much! You bring up those who watch you so keep it up!!!
"Imagine how different your life could be if instead of being your own biggest critic you became your biggest fan"
It would still be the same lol
if only
@@upbestsalt1551 it seems you have a long way to go
That’s not much better because it would give you an ego or a delusion and make seem arrogant.
Well said! Being your own biggest cheerleader makes the journey of life a little easier. And if you need extra encouragement, I'm here to be your biggest fan and virtual granny supporting you through your growth.
Here’s a tip for everyone:
If you ever find yourself talking down to yourself in moments of stress, just know that it’s your mental programming from the past.
Most of the time we can’t create our future because we allow our PAST to dictate what happens next…
Your present insecurities are lies. So the next time you catch yourself mentally slipping, bring yourself back to the moment and think about your future.
- Your Friendly Neighborhood Coach
@Mr Plat No problem at all 👌🏼
this is very true
What if you feel as though your future will be dictated by the present which is dictated by the past? In other words, what if the future doesn't look bright?
@@amyk9813 If your future doesn't look bright, then MAKE it bright.
There's a HUGE difference of seeing your future with your eyes and with your imagination. Operate with your imagination instead because if we operate with our eyes, we are limited.
Your current reality is 100% your creation. If you don't like what you see ahead, change what you're doing or change how you see it.
Hope this helps.
Wow, that actually changed my perspective, thanks so much, God bless you🙏
*"Life is much simpler when you stop explaining yourself to people and just do what works for you."*
To literally 1% who saw this comment, I hope you have an amazing day. 🌄
Screenshot your comment and now it’s saved in my gallery. Peace ☮️
And now, I've added your comment to my IG story❤️
I'm noticing these comments EVERYWHERE. Aspiring self help RUclipsrs seem to post the first comment really fast and put a quote and say, whoever you are i hope you have an amazing day. I feel like it's just to get subs, it's identical everywhere, but still, it's a sweet effort
"If you can't believe in yourself, people would habe a hard time believing in you"
-My grandmother
1939 - 2021
No one will believe in you for you
- My cousin 💪
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Everybody else: “❤❤❤”
Me: “heheheeheh, habe. Eheheh.”
I'm 50 and I'm going through this process. It's never too late to feel your own worth. It was actually worth the wait.
Agreed!
Almost 40, and I've been working on this for several years now. It's quite the process, but it's worth the work.
Congratulations on owning your worth. I'm 72 and still going through the process of owning my worth as I continue to reinvent myself. Most people assume it's "do it and forget it" thing but it's not. It's an ever evolving continuing process. And yes it is always worth the effort.
SAY IT WITH ME: "I'M A BADASS AND I AM WORTHY AF"
Worthy of what?
@@mrsticky005 of everything.. money,dating, being with your bros. respect.etc. and most importantly being happy and not being depressed
Im a badass and I am worthy af❤
I am badass and WORTHY “A-F!!!”
you're stupid. You shoud embrace your insecurities. "I'm ugly and I like it that way". When you do positive self talk, you are actually telling you're subconscious mind you're not badass and worthy. A billionaire doesn't stand in front a mirror and say "I'm a billionaire", a handsome guy doesn't say "I'm handsome".
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
why bot
@@KingDiamondBones yes king diamond
@@AhmetKaan haha
Yeah
Except some of us are tired of this shit and sick to death of goals, no longer have aspirations, we just want the fuck out.
Its pretty hard, i reach a spot where food just doesnt as good, i hear again and again the mockery i heard in the past, i go to the gym and i feel insecure, i go out and i feel bitter about seeing people happy, i feel angry at happy couples and i hate feeling like that so i just lock myself away.
Trying to compliment myself and feel like an idiot, inscinsere and i hate myself more for being a fool.
Its not an excuse, i know my head isnt working right, but its just more and more dificult to get up and do something because i just dont see the point, i feel like i allowed myself to lag behind so much that i cant really catch up anymore.
Ikt
I think it’s important to learn how to see the difference between the thoughts that are actually you, & the thoughts that are really just thought patterns that you’ve (unconsciously) allowed to play over & over in your head. If you let your mind run on autopilot it’s easy to take whatever thoughts come into your head as your own, when a lot of the time they’re not. Whenever you find yourself in a spiral of negative thoughts take the time to ask yourself if you actually believe what you’re saying to yourself, & if you do, then take the time to get to the root of that thought and understand where it’s coming from
Great comment
Krishnamurti talked about this. You are neither your thought nor your emotions. You are a more or less self-aware consciousness with a specific body.
If you think about it, your personality is just a made up of a bunch experiences. Your insecurities are just made up from people's opinions and how you view yourself. Change how you see yourself, block out people's opinions and embrace your insecurities!
It's hard to tell myself I'm wrong while what I believe was repeated to me everyday at school. I was bullied so much, it's hard to let go of
If anyone is reading this you are worthy of love, you are worthy of respect.
You are more than your failures, you are more than other people's perception of you. You are an individual with unique experiences, skills and emotions. You are worthy of hapiness
Thank you so much
I’m really trying to get through this shit and your content helps a lot man. Thank you
you got it bro
You're right about the linguistic theory. It's called the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis, which states that our worldview is largely built from the language that we speak. I remember taking a class in Anthropology several years ago, and I asked my professor this same question because I thought "well, in the Latin Languages [such as Spanish, French, Portuguese, etc.], their grammar is set up in such a way that they speak backwards compared to how we speak in English. I wonder if that has any impact on how they think?"
You have very good insight. Language affects us much more than we realize. Social media, news media, the constant bombardment of advertisement...the list goes on and on. We have to try and protect our minds from the constant onslaught of negativity that surrounds us in our modern world. It isn't easy and I wish everyone the best when it comes to reprogramming their minds for the better.
I figured there was something like that! Wise words
Well said!
Thank you
nice to see you here :)
A music artist in this channel? Thought I would never see the day.
Oh...
I’m clearly older than you, but you’re my new adopted RUclips dad. Thanks for delivering beautiful words, and believe, in a beautiful and believable way. You can tell when someone is blowing hot air, and you can tell when they feel in their heart, exactly what they say. 🥰
This is what I needed. I am studying in the medical field and struggling with weight loss. I used to be full of energy, better decipline in studies and was at a healthier weight compared to now. I find it harder to focus, weight loss is an endless battle and my depressed butt doesn't make it easier. I keep catching myself criticising my bad behaviours and especially when I don't do my studies well enough.
I want to leave this message here. who ever reads this you got this. I hear you and I feel you. we share in this and you know what. You Are Enough always have and always will be. I believe in you.
man, i fucking love your videos, im having a really badtime with myself and watching your videos really helped me to keep calm and figure things out instead of keep lying to myself that i couldn´t or i wasn´t strong enough, i stopped and realized that when we are anxious and paranoid many of our problems in that moments aren´t even real and don´t make sense neither. Keep spreading your positivity and love. Love ya´ll, stay safe and don´t give up specially on yourself.
“Whether you think you can or can’t change, you’re right!” That’s stuck with me.
You are already complete and great enough to be your own. The confidence comes from within, while others could flatter you or scorn you but how you view yourself matters the most. Recently I have been reading mindfulness of Catholics and it makes sense to be grateful for life and what we already have and gradually we can make more.
Thanks for changing our lives and please never stop uploading, there are many people who are waiting to see and hear you 🤗
It is amazing that you share things that I wouldn't even share with my therapist to help others ❤ thank you for the very helpful videos!
Holy crap. I’ve finally found someone that is just like me. I am so happy. I’m so motivated to start getting rid of those lies. Thank you so much, Cole! I admire you and appreciate the work that you are doing for people like me. 😊
Amazing video, all facts. I been bullied as a child and I always felt I’m never good enough to go up in life career wise and stuff as bullying kinda ruined me, but you just Gatta not let that bother you and everything you wanna do in life just go for it. Confidently and just do it, and believe that your the man. Interesting video
This one should pop off dude, this one is deep and I really hope it resonates with others as well as it did for me
Thanks brother for being vulnerable. You make me feel like it's ok not to be ok but also inform me on solutions. Going through a tough time in life but your videos really help out. Much love brother.
Hi Cole, thank you for this video, the videos you upload always seem to come out exactly when I need them. Finding my self worth has always been a struggle and I have been feeling better about myself this last year. But sometimes the thoughts creep into my mind out of no where "You are not worthy of love. Why would anyone love you? You are not special and why would you think you deserve love?"
But I just try to tell myself that this is just a response from my experiences with crappy relationships, but they are not true. I know I am loved every day by friends and family.
Watching this lit the fire within me to have a reason to live again. Everything you've just said fill a lot of my questions in life. Dealing this really sucks and also the reason why I'm scared to face what my reality is because my mind keeps giving me these negative thoughts, doubts, and fears. Listening to this really helps and made me teary. (sorry for bad english)
I was actually enlightened this weekend when it comes to this topic.
In a nutshell: "No judgement not even from yourself! We're all just made of habits anyway. Nothing matters except how YOU live your life, and the habits you build." -Me 2021
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*Pain of regret is much worse than the pain of discipine...*
Damn bro, I’m listening to this the exact time I needed to, thx for posting it and for always give us great content! Huge love from Brazil!
You are rock bro, you literally clear all my insecurities.......
bro your content is "self improvement" on the highest level. Thank you Cole :)
by far the best video about mental health
The world has changes ALOT in the last 10 years. I remember I used to freely pickup my phone to call a friend. Now I have to think a whole day to think how I can ask a friend to talk with her on the phone instead of messaging each other.
"Stop trying to be character or anyone else, just do what you have to do and what you do will define who you truly are"
This is the first video that has warmed my heart in such a way. I respect you immensely for it.
it's important to take note of your thoughts and keep track of the patterns that they follow. Words really are magic.
“Whether you think you can change, or you can’t, you’re right”
Seems too simple to be true, but if you plant good seeds, stay patient, continue to develop yourself. You’ll reap a mighty harvest, a hasting harvest 😉
Always remember, you are loved and you have great potential and you're going to notice how great you are when you start to show it to yourself
Loved the vid, as a Teenager going through insecurities it's always nice to know your not alone.
Wow 1 min into this video and it’s already a banger.
Preciate it
You were right about my channel. I have reshifted the focus and using your advice found a strange little niche. I have been seeing a HUGE growth in the last month and a half!! Youre my inspiration since youre my favorite tuber! So thanks!! 🤝🔥🔥🔥
Love to hear it, thank you
It would have never come better time like this. I really needed this Thank you so much!
Cole you are a very special person so smart,..... i can't write more because i do not know english that much, but you can be who ever you wish to become, you helping people out you telling always the true you having a heart, thank you for be who you are,.... i wish i had a friend as you! I wish you health, love, and everything you dream off, take care and please be on youtube because you are a gift! 😊
Very inspiring your past and how you developed to a better Self. I always was someone who found the opinion of others more important than Mine. After i Met a narcistic Person who used advantage of that i lost all the trust for me and the world and Since then my emotions are gone and I löst Myself in much hate and doubt. But i want to get out of that lie i Tell myself and your Videos help me to Understand myself again. Thank you
I dont hate my self its just The people around me that constantly laugh at me and whisper about me and I can still hear them
The cinematography of these videos is amazing
“As within so without “ change to way you think and feel without and everything around you will start to change
Pls I just spent 20mins adding most of your videos to my watch later. You have everything I'm looking for keep up the good work
Revisit your earliest childhood trauma,this returning to self should help build and make you fully aware and standing beside yourself in empathy for feeling and understanding another's pain will not only lead a way out of self but will bring about a solemn deep silence which is experiencing a deep respect for those who are quietly suffering deep inside believing that no one cares for them
Cole is the real deal!
Thank you so much for this video. Im in a bad place right now and i needed this
Wow eres increíble bro. Muchas gracias por compartir tu conocimiento. Haces un bien al mundo como no tienes idea. Por más gente como este brother.
I chanced upon your page yesterday and I am so glad I have. You're awesome bro.
Commenting so I can be reminded to come back to This video when I get into my head again
“The things you think about determine the quality of your mind.” ~ Marcus Aurelius 🙏😊
Wtf this actually makes so much sense, especially the "emotions are real, knowledge Is not" part
One of the best self-help channel I found🙏 keep going man!
to what u said about linguistism and views of things is real bro, I speak english and some spanish and yo
it changes ya tone of voice, what you think about in relation and how you act sometimes
Thank you, I never expect a video to be this good!
Simple, but not easy. I'm 37 and still trying to live this advice
Really needed this video today man. Appreciate the good work you're doing, Cole.
The one most important thing that I learned is that the only way out is through it, and you better buckle up and have hope that you’ll be back stronger
That's a strong spirit. I couldn't agree more. To think you've recognized this powerful truth while young means you'll have an incredible life.
Again a very timely video from you Cole. Thank you for sharing this video. I love watching your videos dude.
The quality of your beliefs and values will determine the quality of your life. Your beliefs and values are heavily influenced by the people you spend time with, therefore, change the people you hang around with and the content you consume, and you'll change your life.
This channel and HealthyGamer are so helpful to me. thank you both
That book definitely can recommend as well! Immediately after completing the read I FELT I had a better grasp of acceptance.
The intro on this was great man! I really agree with your sentiments on this video, I myself have doubts and insecurities all the time but I've done my best to learn how to manage them!
Words are only powerful if you assign meaning to it in other words, they only have as much power as you give them.
If no one told you what the meaning of worthless was for all you know you could be calling yourself red.
Hands down..one of the best videos out there on RUclips. ❤👍
This video is very similar to a video I made a while ago where I said that in silence and solitude you will find your true self and take away the negativity of your mind, so I fully agree with you ✌🏼
This is the kind of message I would love to see more of.
Looking forward to an extended and much deeper version of this topic.
Thank you for sharing positivity.
Thank you Cole, I needed to hear this today more than ever. Now I feel a little less lost
Another book to check-out that was recommended by my therapist: You Can Be Happy No Matter What.
It is an absolutely outstanding book.
I am confident that I will never amount to anything or impact anyone's life in any way.
This video actually gave me a reason to keep going. Thank you 💟
Very good edition, music, and thoughts, thanks for sharing them
I seriously needed this.
Throughout my journey i kind of got the realization that pain was the only way of my subconscious mind to communicate with my conscious mind, since we have no way of actively communicating with it, and the longer i thought about it it actually made a lot of sense to me, because as i stopped acting in a harmful way towards myself, the pain also went away. I kind of felt like it was a wakeup call, however for way too long, i wasn't able to interpret it in the right way.
I wrote a video VERY similar to this last week & couldn't film it cause I've been waiting for my mic & stuff to come in & BOY am I glad to see you tell this concept from your perspective, just what I needed my guy
I Love You Cole, Another Awesome Video Bro, Keep Them Coming, I'm So Glad I Found Your Channel, I Vibe With You Deeply Energetically, We Are All Whole And Complete Alone, No Cap!
Im unable to be helped. I've already messed up my life so bad. I threw away everything i liked, loved, enjoyed. Wife, home, my sport, my hobbies. ... and my career job. I lost everything,.. including myself. My stress over all this i got insomnia anxiety, and severe depression.. how can you like yourself, life, anything, anybody. After ruining your own life.... im so hurting inside
My heart hurts too. Your comment really resonated with me because I feel so exhausted with life. I guess just want to say that you are not alone. I hope you are hanging in there and have found some support.
@ResurgentVoice Thank you
... for caring ⚘️Thanks,.. I feel completely alone,.. but .. I see others too have similar issues that tears they're lives up , where you can't endure., and is way too overwhelmed. Sorry, you also have to suffer like this...
Just trying to find a way to handle.
And... see if somehow I can continue on.
Thank you.
I'm glad I discovered your chanel ,your videos are very helpful , greetings from Algeria ☺️
Watching your videos heals my loneliness a little, you're like my friend who I can relate to. I take to to my lunch break.
Cole I swear we are so similar. I relate to all your videos and we even have similar attitudes. It’s great to watch your content. Thank you sir
i havent worked since my first job which i lost at the beginning of covid. today im doing a "trial day" for a construction contractor. im super nervous. i have terrible self worth and huge insecurities to the point im afraid if i get on anyones wrong side they could destroy me. this all to say, im terrified. but ive learned through past experience that the beginning is the hardest. im not lazy, im just more afraid than the average person. so taking the steps, even if its just saying "yes" to a job you applied to and didnt think you would get or deserve, that takes courage. and following through with the action after that builds confidence/respect for yourself. so if anyone is in a similar situation, drag yourself through it. its not as bad as you imagine. and the sleepless nights because of it will end.
Thank you for sharing. God bless you
"Whatever you think about and ponder upon will become the inclination of the mind" - The Buddha.
Nice video bro.
As always just pure love and support for you Cole!
You are really a person who lives to make an great impact on others' lives!
Amazing content as always.👌❤️
one of my favourite videos, we are whole and complete on our own
I don't usually comment on videos, but I can defintely say this. Your content is underrated. I feel I can relate to everything you said, especially your loneliness video. Thank you for providing your insights, it's helping me go through the COVID pandemic here in Australia, especially since the fact my ex recently broke up with me.
Thank you for this brother!
Not every day but I do similar exercises and it has dramatically increase my state of mind and productivity! I do breathing exercises and I observe my thoughts see where they lead and what's the significance about it then find the lie I've been told to make me feel a bad way about it 👌
I just love your videos so much, thank you, Cole ♥️
Thank you for watching them
Can I just say the editing in this is incredible and I'm only 30 seconds in!
Thank you
It's more about the feelings behind the words than the words themselves.
Before the video starts ik its gonna be a good one thanks cole
Thank you, that last quote alone was super helpful 🙏
So Nice, You are awesome. Based on my life, I feel renewed and emoțional, I cryed watching this video, but I feel nnow empowered and new