I can hear the despair in this poor woman's voice. I can only imagine what she is going through. I hope she and the kids make it through this without much emotional trauma.
Trans people likely know they are trans fairly young, there’s responsibility, thereI know transition is a transition, over time, so if a person isn’t being themselves, that repression isn’t gonna be good for a family either. Kids look to see that adults are secure of who they are
@@lukefisch9483someone who plays pretend in a relationship is a liar. Gay men and trans women who marry a woman under false pretences are assholes. They knew all along and they chose to cause that damage anyway. They have to pretend for years and years and they not only repress themselves-they waste someone else’s life and their reproductive years and all their love and support.
@@everydaybodybuilding2282 yes, this is an abnormal marital issue. I mean, the guy wants to transition into a woman. That's as messed up as it gets! It used 2b men left a spouse for another woman; for another man. Now the situation has evolved What will it be next?
The spouse is probably having it worse, don't you think? They've been dealing with constant stigma, fear, disdain from others their whole life for no reason and are finally going through the process of coming out which probably subjects them to even more sigma and disdain from those around them. But oh no the wife will have to deal with a few weird stares when they're in public together.
@@vacciniumaugustifolium1420 Imagine you could. Im 18 and always wondered how much my parents have “invested” in me over 18 years. Food, clothes, gifts, etc.
Bless her soul. It was super smart of her to get some professional financial advice. So many women stay on the emotional side of things and she's thinking a lot more level headed than I would be.
@@Miranox2 Agreed. We tend to treat 'masculine' emotions (e.g. anger, frustration, jealousy) as more legitimate than 'feminine' emotions (e.g. sadness, fear, resentment, shame), but the truth is we all have feelings - it's just a question of how we deal with them. And we don't do a good enough job of teaching people that skill when they're young, often because we're struggling to master it ourselves. You could hear at times that this lady was struggling to keep it together and remain calm because she clearly knows that there are practical issues that she has to address for her own sake and the sake of her child/ren.
If the whole call wasn't a set up, maybe so. She didn't need to be told to run, she knew that. She just needed to know how to be able to do it financially.
Men are actually more emotional than women. Their emotional suppression is usually futile and only amplifies the irrationality of their decisions. Women expression the initial emotions and then become level headed when making decisions.
@@billyb4790 I definitely feel bad for her but also the husband probably went through a long hard journey to come to terms with being trans. It sounds like a very tough situation for them both. On one hand this is turning the wife's world totally upside down and I'm sure it feels like everything she knew was a lie and the husband she thought she knew is dead. That is just heartbreaking. On the other hand the husband probably was living in torment with gender dysphoria for years unable to live their truth. I'm sure it was extremely scary to be honest knowing they would lose literally everything and then have to adapt to living as another gender in society. At the same time it was probably necessary for that person to be truly authentic and stop suffering. I really empathize with both in this situation. It sounds awful.
@@billyb4790I feel bad for her too but i wouldn't say the husband (I'm aware they are not a male anymore but it's what they're called in this episode so it'll be easier if i do the same) isn't a bad person for it, there's definitely nuance to all this. It's a hard situation for everyone involved
Well, the Dave Ramsey show got real this morning. Dave didn’t touch that gender transition statement with a 10 foot pole. Anndddd..... default to standard divorce advice. 😂
Yup...such issues are virtually radioactive these days. Gone are the times when most people could discuss unusual and/or sensitive topics with respect & maturity, unfortunately.
Dave is thinking about RUclips standards and guidelines and not wanting to get demonetized or a strike on his channel, thats why he isn't touching the gender thing at all! 👀😂😂
"My husband is changing genders" Dave: "Baby step 1. Cut up the house, sell the rice and beans, move to a smaller credit card. Cars and trucks, trucks and cars diet. Baby step 2. Get rid of the kids, smallest to largest"
Because it’s embarrassing he has to keep a level of professionalism on his show and make it so the mob don’t come burning his own house people have died for less
Dave handled this issue with great tact and professionalism. No politics or "social decay" rants, just good straightforward financial advice. Kudos to him.
@@HoratiosPhilosophyobviously because he’s a conservative religious man. But the point is he kept the conversation relevant only to the financial situation which is good
What a horrific situation to find oneself in after a wedding, a first child and the expectation of a long, happy marriage with one's spouse! I am in full agreement. The caller should untangle herself from as mush spousal debt as possible, protect herself and her child legally and make hard decisions about her future as a single mother. Remaining in the marriage makes no sense as her husband left it a long time ago. There's no future in such a liaison.
I feel so sad for her. A mother, homeschooling her children, while her husband is away, doing her best to serve her family and her husband. Praying for her
Let me correct your comment Jessica: "I feel so sad for her. A mother, homeschooling her children, while her WIFE is away, doing her best to serve her family and her WIFE. Praying for her" There is no husband in the marriage. Lol
I like his answer and his practical approach. I know a woman who fervently thought that "marriage vows are forever". Then her husband changed his gender. She tried to still make it work because she thought she was obligated to, though she was clearly unhappy. It didn't work out long range because she had not married a woman. She had married a man. That man was not there anymore. It was time for her to wish her former husband well, leave the marriage, and move on. Dave was right to keep it focused on "what to do financially now that your marriage has ended" instead of "OMG, he's changing genders, how shocking, blah blah blah." Focusing on the husband changing his gender as an issue would have been a distraction.
The whole "gender change" is just nonsense. He has deep mental issues, and wants to look like a woman. He needs therapy, not surgery or hormones. The whole world (at least western world) has gone mad.
im the first person to tell everybody not to get married in the first place... but shouldn't you atleast try to work through it when things get tough before you decide to throw so much away in an expensive court case?
@@La_sagne This isn't "things getting tough," though. This is the person that you married becoming literally a different person than the one you married. Someone who's name is not on that marriage certificate. Someone who did not stand before God, family, and friends and take the vows of "for better or worse, til death do us part". If it was the same person, dead-naming would not be a word that exists. The reality is that once the transition is complete, the person that she married will be as dead as the name that he no longer will use. To my mind, even as a non-religious person, that's a bit different than an affair, a job loss, an unplanned pregnancy, or most other circumstance that might cause rifts in a marriage. But I'm neither married nor God-fearing, so I don't know if I'm qualified to respond
When the Lord showed me separation was coming I started my own side business. By the time he was gone my business was able to sustain me and our two children
I recently found out my ex changed genders and she doesn't look anything like she use to. I don't see that relationship lasting. We're not designed to be attracted to the same gender if we're straight, that's an undeniable fact. In many cases it feels like someone passed away when that happens, the psychological toll on that is massive. The only thing you can do is move on, that's just my opinion.
He left her when he made the decision, now she needs to separate from him. Too much baggage to carry someone else’s decision. Work together to clear debt that was made together. Move on so both can be happy.
When I knew my divorce was coming I called a lawyer the same day and got a separation agreement drafted up. Looking back, if I hadn't I would have been fleeced big time in court. This lady needs to start protecting herself now! (The caller that is :) ).
Wonder if he thinks "UNCLE SAM" will allow her to stay in the same RANK & FILE and finish serving out to retirement.. or will he get KLINGER'S SECTION 8 off of M*A*S*H....HAHA
I'm glad they've avoided the issue. Part of me wonders if calls like this are BS and trying to lure Dave into saying something that way there can be make believe "outrage".
@@cloudedcolour5329 yeah so....maybe catch up with current events? Why would you think they won’t be in the military much longer? It will get you promoted soon. Not hyperbole either. Haven’t you met our secretary of health?
@@danielstrother2494 you do realise the -reason- they arent allowed to be on deployable units isnt that the other soldiers won't accept them but that they are reliant on hormones, hormones that the military may not be able to get in theatre, same as with diabetics
He sounds very selfish, in a weird way. Over 40% who go through the full surgery commit suicide. It's evil and idiotic that political figures and Hollywood are promoting this stuff as normal.
She needs to immediately see an attorney and legally separate. He wants to stay married because right now he could stop paying the bills and supporting the family. He could empty the bank account. With a legal separation he’d will have to fulfill his obligations and can’t hide the money. Dave should have told her to go right to an attorney and protect herself and the kids. The marriage is over.
I feel like this was a plot to get cancel culture to attack Dave Ramsey. There's no way she told the producers she was going to say that. She tried it though...good job Dave lol
My heart goes out to this woman...this is more than just a financial issue. There is such a breakdown spiritually, emotionally and mentally. I hope she finds a safe place - people to deal with this... Maybe biblically and professionally to help her sort this out. She is terrified and embarrassed to put it out there. (I would be too). Thanks for helping her. What a call!!!
@@tbarnestb that's not funny her husband betray his oat his uniformity he is a fraud his life is a fraud. He think he is a better female than his wife unbelievable
The children in this situation will be dealing with this on top of the divorce, which is traumatic enough. The mom's voice is shaking knowing their stability is gone, which is probably why she considers staying married. She needs to put the kids in therapy ASAP.
This is the smallest thing that's "destroying families". infidelity, finances, lack of communication.... watch ANY other episode of Dr Delony. This is a HUGE outlier
If you have kids.. the marriage is bigger than you. It’s not about romance and wonderful feelings anymore unfortunately. To raise stable kids in a stable environment always comes first, your emotions come second. I’m not saying in every situation, obviously hers is extreme but I think lots of people can get through their inevitable “marriage crisis” and push aside their feelings for the sake of the family and when you do that sometimes the feelings come back, I’ve seen it before.
@@shyresearcher I can only imagine. I've never been married and at this point I don't think I would. I missed my chance to get into it before most people in my dating pool have been there, done that and divorced. Quite frankly, I don't need anyone else and don't want to depend on anyone since I've been let down so many times before.
@@julialee143 that’s a lot of personal suffering for people who are living a lot longer than they used to 50 years ago. Very admirable but the divorce rates shows people care little about preserving a home over peace of mind and I can’t blame them for that.
@@xSalamz No I’ve been listening and watching day for years I use his seven steps. But you’re right he does answer a lot of marriage counselor questions
Yeah most of my friends like that change from girls to guys, legally and socially that is. Applying for new jobs they get promoted easier🤷♂️ is what it is.... but still 🤣🤣🤣
@@DiaJasin I wish I wasn't, their own wives don't make promotions nearly as much as they do, but I would suppose that had more to do with confidence and assertiveness than anything, but it is what it is.
Very true. Someone doesn’t seek specific questions relating to specific problem for ‘a friend,’ unless it was very important. In other words, disguising the confusion by seeking advice.
i have to agree. i mean the kids were being homeschooled even.. now they prolly have to enter back into public school.. that changes not only the wife’s life but the kids too in more ways than one. homeschooling is a very important and personal decision for most families.
I feel sorry for this mom. That's going to be a tough situation. I think that if I were in that spot, I'd talk to relatives and see if someone could take in my kids and me, help me pay my debts while going back to school or making sure I can afford my own place for the kids and me. I think this wife was wise to call, because she understood the financial implications of separation and divorce. This put Dave and Anthony in a tough spot with no really easy answers. I think they did reasonably well with the limited advice they could provide. I wish this mom well. I hope things work out for her and the kids.
Exactly how I, as a therapist, would want a financial advisor to answer that question. He knows his lane and makes appropriate referrals. Bravo. Wonder if he's ever thought about a state by state guide to low cost mental health resources (like state funded to avoid endorsement issues) considering how often he recommends someone see a therapist. Most people have ZERO clue where to start in finding a therapist.
No, unfortunately it is life in our modern society. I have a friend in this exact situation. Except the husband is not in the military. He works for a university. So sad.
Didn't seem rehearsed in my opinion. It's reasonable that she would want to call into a radio show to get an opinion on this and not out the entire situation to family and friends.
Its made its way into my household with my kid. Found out the 2 of her teachers were affirming the childrens gender changes. We now homeschool her and she stays in the safety of our home
Is this the same woman who called Dr. John a few weeks ago. If so... yeah, that was a much more appropriate Ramsey personality for this one. To be fair, Dave and AO did a good job of focusing on the financial. They knew what they were doing with the title on this one.
It is but its also progress. Think of 1000’s of intersex and trans individuals over the generations who lived lives so uncomfortable or hiding who they were etc These are both relatively common (says as common as redheads) and science studies are backing up the biological basis etc
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I think maybe he misheard cutting debt ... its not cut your d*** from your life!
Changing sexes is just a trend.
if only we could see ONCE a real reply from David not just spam
Uhh Dave this wasn’t about debt🤣
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Caller: “Husband wants to change genders”
Dave: “Not with debt he’s not.”
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he is active duty. You and me are paying for this
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@@chilogutierrez458 same with our prisoners? Poisoners?
Of all these quotes this is probably the most realistic Dave response 😂
“My husband wants to change his gender”
Dave: “You will not see the inside of a restaurant for years”
Burst out laughing at work
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yooooo 😂
funny
I know I wouldn’t, I’d be embarrassed AF!
“My husband wants to change genders”
Dave: “This is a Business trans action”
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That's hysterical! Comment of the day.
This is the best one I've seen 😂
one of the rare comments where I actually mean it when I say lol
Holy F 🤣🤣🤣
This video has the best comments I have ever seen. Comedy as it's finest
You read my mind. Some very funny listeners.
Oh yeah
Not really no originality all same structure same as dumb joe i do dmt rogan jokes 🤣
OMG yes !
Calento:
Past tense of caliente( hot).
Diane calento. lol
“My husband wants to change genders”
Dave: “sell the car”
Hahahaha never gets old
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Well you know those monthly payments are holding you back. 😂😂😂😂
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Her: My husband wants to change gender
Dave: Make sure your husband pays cash for the gender reassignment.
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Her: no dave, actually you're paying for it. tricare covers gender reassignment now
Came to this video just to find a comment like this 😂😂😂
lol
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her: my husband wants to change gender
dave: mmm... what is your household income?
I spit coffee everywhere! 🥴
@@TraumaER what the heck do you say response to this problem? :-)
@@jeffjohnson5544 LOL!
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😂😂😂 i just write a comment like this
I can hear the despair in this poor woman's voice. I can only imagine what she is going through. I hope she and the kids make it through this without much emotional trauma.
Too late.
Exactly lol @@bethanynorman1829
The trauma happened while this dragon was still under the surface.
Trans people likely know they are trans fairly young, there’s responsibility, thereI know transition is a transition, over time, so if a person isn’t being themselves, that repression isn’t gonna be good for a family either. Kids look to see that adults are secure of who they are
@@lukefisch9483someone who plays pretend in a relationship is a liar. Gay men and trans women who marry a woman under false pretences are assholes. They knew all along and they chose to cause that damage anyway. They have to pretend for years and years and they not only repress themselves-they waste someone else’s life and their reproductive years and all their love and support.
Dave, staying completely focused on the financial issue at hand. He wasn't diverted for a single second. Wonderful
I noticed that too
Gazelle intense and focus 😂
He just doesn’t wanna stir the hornet nest. If this was a normal marital issue he would have commented like he does in any other segment.
@@everydaybodybuilding2282 yes, this is an abnormal marital issue. I mean, the guy wants to transition into a woman. That's as messed up as it gets! It used 2b men left a spouse for another woman; for another man. Now the situation has evolved What will it be next?
Because the lgbt community gets triggered easily and tries to cancel anyone who makes even a slightly negative comment about them
Dave is like, “I didn’t sign up for this.”
Easy solution: Dump him and find a real man. If he wants to be the next Bruce Jenner, then let him have at it. Move on.
@@CajunSmack "Til death do us part"
His face is like "Common Dave, good it together. You can do this."
@@kojack635 The wedding vows she took were for her husband. If he doesn't want to be a husband any longer, I say kick him to the curb.
@@CajunSmack whatever you say
These problems have come a long way since Tuba degree guy
Tuba?
Those were the days👍🏼🤣
People no longer calling in for getting bad degrees, theyre calling in for having wrong gender. Crazy.
@@CapnHilts Might not be so bad if it meant people were no longer getting bad degrees, but nope.
Lol
I really respect the compassion that both of these men showed. Horrible situation for this woman to be in.
The spouse is probably having it worse, don't you think? They've been dealing with constant stigma, fear, disdain from others their whole life for no reason and are finally going through the process of coming out which probably subjects them to even more sigma and disdain from those around them.
But oh no the wife will have to deal with a few weird stares when they're in public together.
@@kompassorpigo7600 no
“My husband wants to change gender”
Dave : aaaannnd whats your household income?
LOLOLOLOL
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This
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Came for the title
Stayed for the comments
Same
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same, 💯💯🗣️💬🔥😭😭🤣😄😅😂💀💀
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Too bad Dave doesn't play poker... he's got a world class poker face. Good job!
He knows if he says the wrong thing the mobs will come.
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I was so thinking the same thing!! Not an eyebrow raise when she said he wanted to change genders.... blimey!
Yeah!
I was thinking the sameeee! Not even a flinch in his eyebrows when she said that.
"My husband decided to change genders"...
Dave: "Don't buy a timeshare".
'Fleeceshare'
awesome 🤣😂😅😝
"My husband is changing genders"
Dave: *sell the husband*
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This wins
On gawd!
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“My husband wants to change genders”
Dave: “rice and beans”
"beans and rice"
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What kind of beans are you eating?
@@donnievick6770 ... Goya 😁
@@ME-xe4sk too luxurious. Store brand only lol 😂
Share your clothes and save the difference in an emergency fund.
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Very practical advice actually 😂
instantly doubling your wardrobe
Best comment! No doubt!
"My husband wants to change genders "
Dave: "better then I deserve "
lol
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I’m dead!!!
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Lady: “my husband is changing genders”
Dave: “start delivering pizzas..”
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And eat rice and beans. You’re not gonna see the inside of a restaurant unless you’re working there!
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Surgery isnt cheap!
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“My husband wants to change genders”
Dave: refinance the kids
Thats a good advice 😊
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@@vacciniumaugustifolium1420 Imagine you could. Im 18 and always wondered how much my parents have “invested” in me over 18 years. Food, clothes, gifts, etc.
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Bless her soul. It was super smart of her to get some professional financial advice. So many women stay on the emotional side of things and she's thinking a lot more level headed than I would be.
Not just women, men too. Humans are emotion-driven by default and breaking out of that tendency is difficult.
@@Miranox2 Agreed. We tend to treat 'masculine' emotions (e.g. anger, frustration, jealousy) as more legitimate than 'feminine' emotions (e.g. sadness, fear, resentment, shame), but the truth is we all have feelings - it's just a question of how we deal with them. And we don't do a good enough job of teaching people that skill when they're young, often because we're struggling to master it ourselves. You could hear at times that this lady was struggling to keep it together and remain calm because she clearly knows that there are practical issues that she has to address for her own sake and the sake of her child/ren.
If the whole call wasn't a set up, maybe so. She didn't need to be told to run, she knew that. She just needed to know how to be able to do it financially.
Agree sister
Men are actually more emotional than women. Their emotional suppression is usually futile and only amplifies the irrationality of their decisions. Women expression the initial emotions and then become level headed when making decisions.
Caller: “My husband wants to change genders”
Dave: “Sell the house and get a full time job.”
You are late asf liz
joking aside I feel bad for this woman. What a scummy thing to do to your wife.
@@billyb4790 I definitely feel bad for her but also the husband probably went through a long hard journey to come to terms with being trans. It sounds like a very tough situation for them both. On one hand this is turning the wife's world totally upside down and I'm sure it feels like everything she knew was a lie and the husband she thought she knew is dead. That is just heartbreaking. On the other hand the husband probably was living in torment with gender dysphoria for years unable to live their truth. I'm sure it was extremely scary to be honest knowing they would lose literally everything and then have to adapt to living as another gender in society. At the same time it was probably necessary for that person to be truly authentic and stop suffering. I really empathize with both in this situation. It sounds awful.
@@lizrivera389 the husband is mentally ill and belongs in a padded cell.
@@billyb4790I feel bad for her too but i wouldn't say the husband (I'm aware they are not a male anymore but it's what they're called in this episode so it'll be easier if i do the same) isn't a bad person for it, there's definitely nuance to all this. It's a hard situation for everyone involved
Well, the Dave Ramsey show got real this morning. Dave didn’t touch that gender transition statement with a 10 foot pole. Anndddd..... default to standard divorce advice. 😂
He said marriage counselor, but it did sound like they were on their way toward divorce already.
Yup...such issues are virtually radioactive these days. Gone are the times when most people could discuss unusual and/or sensitive topics with respect & maturity, unfortunately.
10 years ago it would have been interesting how this conversation would have went 😂
He better transition before the divorce to become exempt from alimony and all the other pitfalls that comes along with being a man.
Dave is thinking about RUclips standards and guidelines and not wanting to get demonetized or a strike on his channel, thats why he isn't touching the gender thing at all! 👀😂😂
"My husband is changing genders"
Dave: "Baby step 1. Cut up the house, sell the rice and beans, move to a smaller credit card. Cars and trucks, trucks and cars diet.
Baby step 2. Get rid of the kids, smallest to largest"
Hahahahahahaha!!!!
Because it’s embarrassing he has to keep a level of professionalism on his show and make it so the mob don’t come burning his own house people have died for less
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I lol’d
This is a GOLDEN RUclips comment
Dave handled this issue with great tact and professionalism. No politics or "social decay" rants, just good straightforward financial advice. Kudos to him.
Yea but he was thinking it.
@@HoratiosPhilosophy like he should be
Yeah he treated her husband's mental illness nicely.
@@HoratiosPhilosophyobviously because he’s a conservative religious man. But the point is he kept the conversation relevant only to the financial situation which is good
Any reasonable person would think those things. That being a "conservative religious" thing just shows how screwed we are.
What a horrific situation to find oneself in after a wedding, a first child and the expectation of a long, happy marriage with one's spouse! I am in full agreement. The caller should untangle herself from as mush spousal debt as possible, protect herself and her child legally and make hard decisions about her future as a single mother. Remaining in the marriage makes no sense as her husband left it a long time ago. There's no future in such a liaison.
Not necessarily. People often continue as great friends, and some stay married.
@@nicolab2075 Source?
Nope.
@@nicolab2075delusional people stay in that marriage.
"My husband wants to change his gender”
Dave: I'm gonna advise you as if he was my daughter.
hahha this is the best one
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Bruh. Lol
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“My husband wants to become a woman.”
Dave, “What’s the most expensive pair of jeans you’ve bought.”
I feel so sad for her. A mother, homeschooling her children, while her husband is away, doing her best to serve her family and her husband. Praying for her
Breaks my heart
His beats you mean
Agreed.
Let me correct your comment Jessica:
"I feel so sad for her. A mother, homeschooling her children, while her WIFE is away, doing her best to serve her family and her WIFE. Praying for her"
There is no husband in the marriage. Lol
Shame on you all for "assuming" the gender. Also, it should sell the car
I like his answer and his practical approach.
I know a woman who fervently thought that "marriage vows are forever". Then her husband changed his gender. She tried to still make it work because she thought she was obligated to, though she was clearly unhappy.
It didn't work out long range because she had not married a woman. She had married a man. That man was not there anymore. It was time for her to wish her former husband well, leave the marriage, and move on.
Dave was right to keep it focused on "what to do financially now that your marriage has ended" instead of "OMG, he's changing genders, how shocking, blah blah blah." Focusing on the husband changing his gender as an issue would have been a distraction.
I would view this as abandonment. He has left the marriage to pursue a lifestyle that is not compatible with their wedding vows.
@@tuvelat7302 CORRECT. He has chosen this.
She didn't marry a mutilated man....
Dump him. He's not living up to his vows. Sayonara, adios, finis.
The whole "gender change" is just nonsense. He has deep mental issues, and wants to look like a woman. He needs therapy, not surgery or hormones. The whole world (at least western world) has gone mad.
Her: “my husband wants to change genders”
Dave : “have you taken financial peace university”
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Dave did exactly what he should have done and stayed in his lane.
😂😂😂🤣🤣😂 Poor Dave!!!
Hahahahahahaha
... 😂cause you definitely need some peace
If she has to ask, the answer is "no".
im the first person to tell everybody not to get married in the first place... but shouldn't you atleast try to work through it when things get tough before you decide to throw so much away in an expensive court case?
@@La_sagne No because she married a man with the assumption he would remain a man....even though he is biologically still a man....
@@KezanzatheGreat They have at least one child because she said she homeschools.
@@La_sagne This isn't "things getting tough," though. This is the person that you married becoming literally a different person than the one you married. Someone who's name is not on that marriage certificate. Someone who did not stand before God, family, and friends and take the vows of "for better or worse, til death do us part". If it was the same person, dead-naming would not be a word that exists. The reality is that once the transition is complete, the person that she married will be as dead as the name that he no longer will use. To my mind, even as a non-religious person, that's a bit different than an affair, a job loss, an unplanned pregnancy, or most other circumstance that might cause rifts in a marriage.
But I'm neither married nor God-fearing, so I don't know if I'm qualified to respond
Not really. She should just go to couple's therapy.
"Husband is changing genders" Dave Ramsey - Did'nt even flinch! Now about this debt...
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That’s a touchy subject lol
@@redcomic619 no touching there
he is smart enough to not even blink about it. Leftist would kill him...
@@SpicyNuddle Pretty sure he doesn't care what leftists think.
Caller: "My husband wants to change genders."
Dave: "That's not a baby step."
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Caller: my husband wants to change gender.
Dave: rice and beans, beans and rice.
AO: 😶
haha
Actually would solve a lot. Too many people on soy diets which is ruining their hormones.
"Now look, rice can't be beans and beans can't be rice. You follow me?"
Military has to be able to refuse vaccines. Those things are screwing up everyone’s hormones.
ROTF
When the Lord showed me separation was coming I started my own side business. By the time he was gone my business was able to sustain me and our two children
I did the same. Best decision of my life.
Cool. What side business did you start?
@@shaycarol Foot reflexology
@@TalkEssence That isnt a real business. Nice try.
@@childhoodisthatyou9869 a brick and mortar with a staff and 90k income. 😆 you must not know the business 🤦🏾♀️
Dave wasn't ready I'm sure but he stayed focus and handled it like a pro
"The trans-action changes". Lol I'm dying inside.
“ My husband is changing gender”
Dave: “No m’am, you guys can’t afford to change the generator now”
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Lol
Lol 😂
Wow. 😂
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I recently found out my ex changed genders and she doesn't look anything like she use to. I don't see that relationship lasting. We're not designed to be attracted to the same gender if we're straight, that's an undeniable fact. In many cases it feels like someone passed away when that happens, the psychological toll on that is massive. The only thing you can do is move on, that's just my opinion.
Caller: “my husband is changing genders”
Dave Ramsey: “You’re gonna have to be on BEANS N RICE RICE AND BEANS”
Scorched earth baby
I think that it should of been she was losing the beans and franks lol
Caller: "My husband wants to change genders"
Dave: "Debt snowball"
“My husband wants to change genders”
Dave: "You're spending like you're in congress!"
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👌🏼Classic!!!
5% of comments: hilarious and original humour
95% of comments: beans and rice
Rice and beans
Perfect harmony
Congrats, you’re in the 95%
@@kabirghai8709 I suppose I am 🤣
@@GMLondon 😂Fairs
He left her when he made the decision, now she needs to separate from him. Too much baggage to carry someone else’s decision. Work together to clear debt that was made together. Move on so both can be happy.
I know a wife that stuck by her previous male spouse while he changed. Horrible decision. Take the kids and hide. Sad.
The children will need help through this situation. 😢
Sure
@@pamelalima5401liberal cancer
Definitely considering the dad isn’t in his right mind
It's disgusting.
My god her situation sucks, I can hear the hurt in her voice.
@No Name no they don't tho mostly in Thailand and America cause for them its "normal"
If she switches to male, then they are role reversed and keep at it! I'm kidding.... Sounds painful for both of them.
Kids have two mommies now.
He cra cra. How the military can deal with these nutjobs, no idea
@Dakota Matos gender reassignment surgery isn't literal lol..
When I knew my divorce was coming I called a lawyer the same day and got a separation agreement drafted up. Looking back, if I hadn't I would have been fleeced big time in court. This lady needs to start protecting herself now! (The caller that is :) ).
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The best part of this video was Dave & Anthony completely ignoring the bait. Great job guys!!!
Bless you and the children.... Prayers will be said for you.
Caller: My husband wants to change genders
Dave: He's going to have to start delivering pizzas to pay for it.
Actually we pay for it via taxation.
@@lizadivine3785 & Obummer, Obiden Military
“New year new me”🤣😳
😫😂
He took his resolution too serious 😂😂
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Wonder if he thinks "UNCLE SAM" will allow her to stay in the same RANK & FILE and finish serving out to retirement.. or will he get KLINGER'S SECTION 8 off of M*A*S*H....HAHA
I'm glad they've avoided the issue. Part of me wonders if calls like this are BS and trying to lure Dave into saying something that way there can be make believe "outrage".
Nah, you could have heard it in her voice and military pay for gender change
Ah yes the Faux Outrage and the Righteous Indignation.
@@jahnellerivera6823 also means he wont be military for too much longer
@@cloudedcolour5329 yeah so....maybe catch up with current events? Why would you think they won’t be in the military much longer? It will get you promoted soon. Not hyperbole either. Haven’t you met our secretary of health?
@@danielstrother2494 you do realise the -reason- they arent allowed to be on deployable units isnt that the other soldiers won't accept them but that they are reliant on hormones, hormones that the military may not be able to get in theatre, same as with diabetics
My heart goes out to this lady... The world lies to her husband, he buys into it and she is the one that deals with the residual mess.
The sad thing is he choices will forever impact those children. She most likely won’t be able to homeschool and be with her children anymore.....☹️
He sounds very selfish, in a weird way. Over 40% who go through the full surgery commit suicide. It's evil and idiotic that political figures and Hollywood are promoting this stuff as normal.
@@SaudaraLink well said
@@jordanhg5221 also well said
Yup
She needs to immediately see an attorney and legally separate. He wants to stay married because right now he could stop paying the bills and supporting the family. He could empty the bank account. With a legal separation he’d will have to fulfill his obligations and can’t hide the money. Dave should have told her to go right to an attorney and protect herself and the kids. The marriage is over.
If he would have told her that they would label him as transphobic.
@@TheRealEdStoner I have a feeling he’d be ok with that lol
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Dave Ramsey: "Let me transfer you to Dr. John Delony. Please hold." ☎️ 🤙
Actually, I think this person did call Dr. Delony under a different name a couple weeks ago. Either that or a lot of this is going in Louisville, KY
@@kevinbell7198 They did under a different name, just compared the two episodes and it's def the same person, lol.
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@@TeKnoVKNG23 which episode? I want to compare too!
Sounds like this couple is, “Living like NO ONE else!”
A true laugh out loud thank you on this Monday 😂
Lol
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2:11 - Dave's poker face is UN-REAL...
Oscar worthy.
it's okay to belly laugh right there. It's normal.
I feel like this was a plot to get cancel culture to attack Dave Ramsey. There's no way she told the producers she was going to say that. She tried it though...good job Dave lol
Me too
Definitely
Dr John Deloney took a similar call on his show recently
A plant for sure. He should''ve responded.... " We can help with the financial side..." " The other stuff is out of my wheel house."
Yea she didn’t because you have to send an email about exactly what you want to ask Dave and then the producers set up the time for you to call in
Wife: “My husband wants to change genders.”
Dave: “The Trans-Am is too much car.”
Underrated comment
Jajajajaja
🤣🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 good one
Pun city!
The trans-am used to be a stick shift then it was taken out
We need to hold this lady up in prayer.. I can’t imagine what she’s going through
I can’t imagine what Jesus is going to do about it.
God hasn't been near that home in years... too late
Thank you Cinamen!
Ask Chris Jenner
My heart goes out to this woman...this is more than just a financial issue. There is such a breakdown spiritually, emotionally and mentally. I hope she finds a safe place - people to deal with this... Maybe biblically and professionally to help her sort this out. She is terrified and embarrassed to put it out there. (I would be too). Thanks for helping her. What a call!!!
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No not biblically they are heavily prejudice.
Got my popcorn for the comments
So much transphobia. I am beyond entertained.
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@@tbarnestb that's not funny her husband betray his oat his uniformity he is a fraud his life is a fraud.
He think he is a better female than his wife unbelievable
@@thomasthumim7630 Trintey is hoping to date the sick chick.
I got hot Cheetos and lemon lays.
Caller: “my husband wants to change genders”
Dave:
“Buy a 2005 toyota Celica”
sounds more like scotty kilmer
@@starwreck right 😂
Go with a 1994 Celica and rev up your engines!!!
“With bondo as the color”
@@MrKingcole1996 😂😂😂😂
I read this and said “ohhhh....Dave is not gonna know what to do with this “ 😂.
I wish them the best, tough.
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Dave: “he better put at least 20% down and get a FIXED rate 15 year gender reassignment loan that is NO MORE money than 1/4 of his take home pay.”
Caller: My husband is becoming a woman, what do I do?
Dave: And what is your annual household income and how much debt do you have?
Lol..
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Omg lol
That's basically how Dave answered the call.
Dave: "How much is in your emergency fund?" LOL!
My husband wants to change his gender
Dave: How much do you have in your emergency fund
The children in this situation will be dealing with this on top of the divorce, which is traumatic enough. The mom's voice is shaking knowing their stability is gone, which is probably why she considers staying married. She needs to put the kids in therapy ASAP.
Poor man, I pray this confusion stops destroying families and lives
This is the smallest thing that's "destroying families". infidelity, finances, lack of communication.... watch ANY other episode of Dr Delony. This is a HUGE outlier
@@MattTerrell-gc9vw just because it’s not the biggest issue facing married couples doesn’t mean it’s not still destroying peoples’ lives.
Caller: “My husband wants to change genders”
Dave: He’s going to need to sell himself to pay for it!
Staying married for financial reasons, how romantic....
Marriage for finances is very historical though.
If you have kids.. the marriage is bigger than you. It’s not about romance and wonderful feelings anymore unfortunately. To raise stable kids in a stable environment always comes first, your emotions come second. I’m not saying in every situation, obviously hers is extreme but I think lots of people can get through their inevitable “marriage crisis” and push aside their feelings for the sake of the family and when you do that sometimes the feelings come back, I’ve seen it before.
@@shyresearcher I can only imagine. I've never been married and at this point I don't think I would. I missed my chance to get into it before most people in my dating pool have been there, done that and divorced. Quite frankly, I don't need anyone else and don't want to depend on anyone since I've been let down so many times before.
@@julialee143 that’s a lot of personal suffering for people who are living a lot longer than they used to 50 years ago. Very admirable but the divorce rates shows people care little about preserving a home over peace of mind and I can’t blame them for that.
Very common in military service. Get more benefits/options if married so there are a lot of marriages of convenience or for financial reasons.
WHY ARE YOU CALLING DAVE RAMSEY ABOUT THIS?! You need counseling to figure out your personal life.
I feel like she is just pranking Ramsey.
It is amazing to me the number of people that call in about non financial issues.
She probably wanted to be on the show
You must be new here. Dave Ramsey is more of a marriage counselor than a financial advisor.
@@xSalamz No I’ve been listening and watching day for years I use his seven steps. But you’re right he does answer a lot of marriage counselor questions
I don't know why any man would want to change genders to be a female. He's automatically going to take a pay cut🤣
Yeah most of my friends like that change from girls to guys, legally and socially that is. Applying for new jobs they get promoted easier🤷♂️ is what it is.... but still 🤣🤣🤣
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@@juliancain3872 you can't be serious
@@DiaJasin I wish I wasn't, their own wives don't make promotions nearly as much as they do, but I would suppose that had more to do with confidence and assertiveness than anything, but it is what it is.
Not in this society. He will get promoted!
Instead of chanting 'Jerry! Jerry!' we will need to start chanting 'Ramsey! Ramsey!'
Caller: my husband wants to change genders
Dave: this is a *business* transaction
Business Trans action
@@envisionskylimit5689 Clever 😂
@@envisionskylimit5689 I see what you did there.
If she was okay with staying married in spite of the gender change, she wouldn’t be seeking advice 🤔
Very true. Someone doesn’t seek specific questions relating to specific problem for ‘a friend,’ unless it was very important. In other words, disguising the confusion by seeking advice.
I love your tutorial videos, and you're a ramsey fan too..🤯😱
Technically he’s not changing genders since that is impossible to do. He’s a man pretending to be a woman and nothing more.
@@lj2192 Does belittling depressed people make you feel good about yourself?
MAYBE SHE WANTS SOMEONE ELSE OPINION BECAUSE CLEARLY SHE IS CONFUSED
He put his wants and desires before his family. What a selfish human being.
She’s the one choosing to divorce not him. Most people are in sexless marriages anyway so they won’t notice a difference.
Better for us to put away our anger and allow him to not ever breed again. Just let them.
I take it you're not trans...
i have to agree. i mean the kids were being homeschooled even.. now they prolly have to enter back into public school.. that changes not only the wife’s life but the kids too in more ways than one. homeschooling is a very important and personal decision for most families.
@@pinkkat3931 it’s probably, not prolly. But you did use the correct “too” most people mess that up.
Should’ve called Dr. Delony.
He JUST had somebody call with the same exact issue. I clicked this one wondering if it was the same person
What did Dr say in that call?
@@Emma-Sharon Yes, inquiring minds want to know...
Dave was probably thinking, “Man, where’s John Melony when I really need him?”
Oops, Delony, not Melody.
I feel sorry for this mom. That's going to be a tough situation. I think that if I were in that spot, I'd talk to relatives and see if someone could take in my kids and me, help me pay my debts while going back to school or making sure I can afford my own place for the kids and me. I think this wife was wise to call, because she understood the financial implications of separation and divorce. This put Dave and Anthony in a tough spot with no really easy answers. I think they did reasonably well with the limited advice they could provide. I wish this mom well. I hope things work out for her and the kids.
Caller: “Husband is changing genders”
Dave: “what’s your household income”
Caller: My husband is changing genders
Dave: How much does you and your wife make together?
Love to hear Dave’s break room opinion on this call! 🤣
Dave is very professional. Great advice for such a tough situation.
The fact that this didn't shock Dave shows how far we fall as people
It did. He kept fiddling with his sleeves, his glasses. He said "um" several times.
These aren't cold calls. He's tipped off to what the advice the caller is seeking before he takes the call.
He has a good poker face too
No, I wouldn't say that Dave fell for it. Caller wanted to provoke a reaction, but it didn't work.
Pretty sure he was very in shock. But, he stayed professional. If you can read his mand tho...lol
Sounds like a moral issue, not financial :)
Exactly how I, as a therapist, would want a financial advisor to answer that question. He knows his lane and makes appropriate referrals. Bravo. Wonder if he's ever thought about a state by state guide to low cost mental health resources (like state funded to avoid endorsement issues) considering how often he recommends someone see a therapist. Most people have ZERO clue where to start in finding a therapist.
Dave didn’t even mention the gender change because he knows he’ll be in trouble for stating his actual opinion. Haha good financial advice though.
I think this is the 1st time Dave did not rip on the husband for causing a separation because he can't😁
He's a personal finance guy, let the marital counselor handle the gender transition issues.
@@stoneyjosephine Wouldn't be the first time... public health, for example
The left crucifies people that speak common sense. You have to bend the knee to their religion or be destroyed.
@@colin1818 im gonna go on a limb here and assume youre 17 years old
This seems like a bait call to try to get dave to bite on the whole transgender issue.. dave didnt bite..
bingo so obvious
With everything going on...... Exactly!!!!
No, unfortunately it is life in our modern society. I have a friend in this exact situation. Except the husband is not in the military. He works for a university. So sad.
Idk she seemed pretty hurt in her voice
Didn't seem rehearsed in my opinion. It's reasonable that she would want to call into a radio show to get an opinion on this and not out the entire situation to family and friends.
Would definitely like to hear an update on this case.
This gender confusion thing is getting out of hand.
Let me repeat.
Its made its way into my household with my kid. Found out the 2 of her teachers were affirming the childrens gender changes. We now homeschool her and she stays in the safety of our home
Once it moves to the "D" word, the gloves come off, your future ex-spouse is no longer a partner, they are your opponent.
Is this the same woman who called Dr. John a few weeks ago. If so... yeah, that was a much more appropriate Ramsey personality for this one. To be fair, Dave and AO did a good job of focusing on the financial. They knew what they were doing with the title on this one.
I think it's the same one
Sounds like it's the same homeschooling military wife nitwit.
I’m pretty sure this is a repeat posting. I saw this months ago.
It's the same woman under a different name, seems weird she would call twice with the same question and identical situation.
@@TeKnoVKNG23 agreed. Like, what. She just kept making it weirder and weirder.
Thanks for the advice. Im sure so many people are facing this dilemma as well.
I think this situation is happening more than most people think. It's difficult and heartbreaking.
It is but its also progress. Think of 1000’s of intersex and trans individuals over the generations who lived lives so uncomfortable or hiding who they were etc
These are both relatively common (says as common as redheads) and science studies are backing up the biological basis etc
Not as uncomfortable as the lives this guy's kids are going to have
@@lijohnyoutube101 Who cares.
@@jshepard152 based.
It's happening far, far, far less than anyone trying to get the people mad about it want you think
Prayers to you for a healing and strong forward path.
Her: My husband wants to change genders
Dave: have you tried delivering pizzas?
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😂😂😂😂Right! That’ll help-a lot! What a crazy call. I have laughed so hard...it’s the comments + Dave’s face. What incredible self-control.