WOMEN: Romantic Relationships Are A LIABILITY To YOU
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2025
- Let’s talk about who carries the greater risk, burden, and sacrifice in romantic relationships. Men REALLLLY like to think it’s them but facts don’t care about feelings so let’s look at the facts!
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Said it before and I'll say it again. Never be in a committed romantic relationship with someone you would not be platonic roommates with.
Whenever a wmn says she's in a committed relationship, I always ask which facility so I can donate
This is an excellent rule. You really don't know someone till you see them day in and day out and not just on their best behavior, and even then, the switch is so real. Do these men take a class to learn how to mask their psychopathy or something? Or is it natural instinct?
@madalice5134 it's they know the psychological tricks that are embedded in media marketed to straight people which allow them to trick you into thinking they are your hero but they're lazy so they stop. The real reason women can't hide their crazy for 3 to 6 months is that's all the time men can stand to be performatively good. Men are literally submissive predators, it's just that humans are smart enough and male humans are strong enough that they learned to enforce a cage for society's caretakers. And they have smart people figure out how to better and better manipulate their prey. Men cannot be free of the patriarchy, it's part of how their mental machinery works. They are all playing you or thinking they are.
@@madalice5134watching their fathers or other boys.
I dated someone who was my flatmate in university ( we were several people in an apartment ). He was kind, considerate ect. It worked out great. Then later he turned out to be liar, literal nazi and lack empathy. He even said TO MY FACE hethinks it's normal to fake to get someone into a relationship. And that I'm the weird one. I have so many trust issues after that experience 😅
Protect this woman at all costs.
My dad married my mom because he wanted a son, and the woman he really wanted left him in his thirties. So he took the first woman he got, pretended to love her up until she had my little brother, then dropped the act and has treated her horribly ever since. She doesn’t understand what she did wrong, which is nothing. She’s been a fantastic wife and mother. But he never wanted her, he wanted a son and a housekeeper.
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He wanted to hide his mutated code behind people who are superior to him but somehow related so it looks like it came from him, he is just coping.
@CharlieApples wait, so you're the son? What a terrible thing to do. Your poor mom.
Edit: I miscomprehended, you said little brother. Got it. Terrible thing to do to you, too.
Tale as old as time, unfortunately. They love to wear a mask.
give him hell for us 🙏
I'm 55 so I have plenty of life experience and experience with relationships with men or witnessing other women's relationships with men (sisters, aunts, cousins, coworkers). She is 100% right. Don't fool yourself into thinking that men are with you for love. Men want to be taken care of. And if a man takes care of you so much that you're dependent on him, it's so he can have his freedom and the best of both worlds. Be smart. Respect yourself. Take care of yourself.
@@higherlove8886 women can do all those things and still enjoy being taken care of by her man. One thing doesn't negate the other. If you have some deep wound with the masculine, that's on you. Most men treat their women very good. End of story.
Darn, woman, those were 7:45 minutes of PURE TRUTH BOMBS!! I'm in my 40's and I wish somebody would have told me all of these facts in my teenage years. Subscribed.
You don't know untill you know. Once you do, you can't un- know it
@@meaquindinho541...even if it's not true. That is called radicalization and it's not healthy for anyone.
My cousin Mia was stabbed to death by her Husband of two children..... It is real life
I'm so sorry for your loss. If you don't mind me asking, how are you and your family faring? How are the children doing? I hope they're in a safe place and that monster was punished.
Yep. In the 1970s, a relative of my aunt’s in-laws, 🔪 their relative in from of his and her 7 yr old. I’d did not go to prison.
Absolutely correct as usual. 4B is the best choice ladies.
Man do I wish someone would have told me this when I was a teenager!
me too . . . although I could have looked at my own parents and realized that how they "divided" tasks was "normal." No wonder my Mom was so bitter.
Early 20's before I had kids for me. At 39, I know better & soooo much happier not tethered to a bum 😂
@@7thlady honestly, same. My mom isn’t bitter, though … I think she’s in denial 😞
@@7thlady
I saw my parents', my cousins' & friends' family dynamics while growing up & decided I'd wait on Prince Charming - all I found were Mr Toads, so am single, child & regret free in my 70s - enjoying my peace, freedom & fairly well off retirement
Same. Smh.
I can back up this with my personal experience. I hardly ever do anything for males especially sleep with them and it keeps me single. Once they find out that they can't get anything out of you.. They instantly disappear from your life. Which is exactly how I want it to be. 😅
Same experience
I absolutely love how you explain everything. It’s stated in such a way- I’m always saying “yes! Now that’s makes sense…!” I am grateful for your wisdom and thank you for sharing 🙏
"Mediocre D" sounds like the world's saddest rapper name.😂
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Young ladies, this is sadly 100% the truth, wish I heard this 20 years ago. Please be on guard
Getting my tubes removed and becoming 4B has been the best thing I have ever done for myself. The peace I feel is unmatched and I would rather get a cat than being with a human male. Cats are a blessing and great company than a XY ever will.
@@Jac527 But why both ? Unless your tubes were causing you problems, that's redundant.
None of yall have said this yet:
IT ISNT JUST ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS.
Men act these ways as landlords, lawyers, bank tellers, etc. Can we talk about how this isn't just romance PLEASE?
Yes! This!!
Exactly! Like that lawyer that recently got exposed for demanding s*xual favours from his female clients. It's not always about romance, but it's always about access!
@@sierrafrost1222 it's literally only maid service and cooking yeah got that already. That is called slavery. Get a maid.
Second this!
Yup! As long as they hold a position of power they will use it abuse women.
The truth hurts, but women need to hear this!
Agreed. Just adding that a man can do all these things that are seen as care and still be abusive, and even use the things that he does as some exchange currency for you to keep up with his abuse. And it's tricky because our minds read this behavior as being careful and from the outside, it looks so good, but from the inside, it can be some different dynamics. Like the resentful "nice guy".
Your content is the best, you have an amazing perspective and way of explaining these things…I’m celibate almost 7 mos, and every video you put out is more validation and vindication! Please keep making these videos!
Lisa you are a gem. I respect your work ! 💎
Hey guilty, same here!!
For me getting a man into my life is hard. I never fully understood why until recently, and it took a toll on me as everyone around me seemed to have it so easy. I only blamed myself for a long time until I understood I refuse to play their objectification game because I seek a partner that has a true equal human connection that feels safe. I refuse to play all these stupid games many women play as well. You know, "kicking" them until they are addicted and excited but never truly love you. I don't blame women for playing games like this in a patriarchal system, but it still is stupid and dangerous.
@@malgorzatawojtys9846 not equal but equally important and worth the same. Regarding the human connection between a man and a woman, it's one of polarity. Doesn't make it any less real though.
@@malgorzatawojtys9846 cause it's not painting men as the enemy ?
@@stormy_weathers polarity of what? Why would i want polarity of trash in my life if i can have just good stuff
@@stormy_weathers Go and preach to someone else please. I am not interested in your ideological propaganda. I do not recall enrolling for your classes.
Ps. The question mark at the end of your comment tells me everything I need to know about your intelectual level.
@@aleksandrac9335 in life there's different kinds of good stuff. If you only wanna date women then do that and stop thinking about men so much.
Many tradegies could have been prevented with this wisdom and knowledge.
Better late than never
@@Amgirl03 wisdom and knowledge? Really? Don't be loving or caring will only cause empty soulless people. All depressed and sad women. All happy sick men. Yeah I see no good at all in this world anymore.
@phoenixtoash2396 This is very similar to the warnings in The Most High word. It says don't love the world or anything in it. Personally my hope isn't in this world. Only the sick need a doctor and only the humble will ask for one. I don't think in terms of all good or all bad I see terms in reality. I judge by a different method than the tree of good and evil. Man is lover of himself without God. Plain and simple. Being nice isn't wise and very naive. Boundaries are very important in many situations. The Most High didn't create patriarchy nor did he create hierarchy. That is someone else.
@Amgirl03 and as it would seem none of us will be ok. Never loved or happy. All of us suffering for what more suffering. Thanks. I would ask that most high to unmake me on the spot right now.
@phoenixtoash2396 Well first of all putting our self worth in someone else hands is a huge mistake. Deliverance of a generational curse pattern mixed with false religion..is a must but if people don't believe and don't want to get well...we have free will. Nothing is impossible with The Most High. But agian he gives people free will to choose. Happiness is dependent on outside sources. Joy is within and based on where our hope van truly come from. There is always a remnant.
LISTEN TO HER, Y’all!
“How he treats you is what you’re worth to him .”
I tell any woman who asks me how to choose a husband.
1. Leave love for men you can’t afford it as woman
2. Look at him now and if he doesn’t change in years to come will you still be satisfied?
3. Is he an upgrade to how you currently live?
4. Are you ready to leave should ur hard lines be crossed?
5. Don’t ever sacrifice more than what you can even if no appreciation is given.
What hard lines?
@ example cheating,pranks that humiliate you,weaponized incompetence,blatant dishonesty,physical and emotional abuse,using deep fears shared in confidence etc.
Ladies, please look up the word romance in the dictionary. Now ask yourselves, does a mere feeling you experience for a man justify you giving up your body, your mind, your career, your life? The stupid trick we all fell for is believing that romance is a sign of something important in a relationship, when in fact, romance is a tool men use to incite feelings from starving women who will in turn give him everything. Stop tripping over a feeling.
❤️
And don't let your hormones rule your head! Romantic love is a historically new concept, and hormones interfere with rational thinking.
I love that in middle-age I don't give AF. And I have younger men who pursue me. SMH. Don't want to share any part of my life with a man because they expect you to put their needs above yours. Nope.
Absolutely right as I said in one of the comments here. From the beginning looking back at it now as I am divorced. He wanted a family ( as did I) but the girl he loved was already taken so he got with the next best thing. Years later family is built, house is newly bought and business is thriving so he starts treating me how he always really felt about me. He builds a life on my back then kicks me to the curb as the woman of his dreams is now divorced he then gets a divorce lol only to date her for a year and then be friendzone by her again because all she wants is her ego blown knowing that he's been in love with her all his life lol . But he made sure to make it so I was the one that called it quits so he looks a certain way to everyone lol. Just beyond evil, and manipulative and pulled the rug from under me, but I learned. He's now dating one after the other but I'm sure a pick me will come along and he'll be a " married" fella again lol. I guess I'm just another that fell for the system but I'd rather build from zero and awake then build a lie with the devil
Jesus loves you and died on the cross so you can salvation through him before this world passes away. Acts 2:38 commands us to repent, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ (not the titles) & receive the Holy Spirit. John 3:5 also states that we cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven without being born of the water and the spirit. First you must believe in Jesus who died for your sins (John 3:16). Find a church/community that baptizes in Jesus name and believes in the Holy Spirit
Jesus loves you and died on the cross so you can salvation through him before this world passes away. Acts 2:38 commands us to repent, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ (not the titles) & receive the Holy Spirit. John 3:5 also states that we cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven without being born of the water and the spirit. First you must believe in Jesus who died for your sins (John 3:16). Find a church/community that baptizes in Jesus name and believes in the Holy Spirit
Never help a male financially
Hmm, I got hit on more when I had boyfriends. And the dumb comment I always got was,” we don’t have to tell him.”
@@Tulipsaki That's when you hit them the old, "What if someone said to this your gf?" 🤭
I've been saying for a while that I'm off men completely now. I'm lucky that as a bi woman, I still have great options if I want to be in a romantic relationship because women are amazing, platonically or romantically. A man would have to be extraordinary and vettable in a way that would involve actual mind reading for me to even look his way. Honestly, I'm happy with friendships that I have, though, so I'm not looking for a partner at all. A couple of my friends have said that they hate that they're attracted to men at all. I've offered to pray some gay into them, but so far, it hasn't kworked. 😂
I’m str8 and been “off” men for decade(s).
I cannot (if my life depended on it ) understand why bi XX have ANYTHING to do with mailes. 😮
Notttt PRAY SOME GAY INTO THEMMMMM!!! *collapsed*
@AguanoMuldtord Beats me. The ones I've asked have said that it's easier when it comes to the numbers game that is dating, but that answer never really sat right with me, but I'm also just more comfortable with women in general and have never been too shy about approaching someone if there might be a spark.
@10ille99 🤣 I do my beat to bring more peace to womankind. Regrettably, some of my nearest and dearest haven't been able to shake off the str8. LoL
@@madalice5134 As a Str8 wmn, I shut the door 🚪 on males multiple times decades ago. But bi wmn who date them, have any thing to do with males- I can’t wrap my head around it- WILD! 🫨
I was in this relationship and I still can’t wrap my head around it. He was retired and I was still working and doing a masters. We lived in different cities but as time went on I was going to his place more but kudos to him the fridge was stocked, he would do laundry, he would cook, we would go out to eat sometimes nothing fancy. But it was tough balancing that into my schedule it was a 3 hour drive there and back. And if I wanted to get a coffee and just sit and talk with him he refused that he said it was a waste of money. I one day asked him if he loved me and he said he liked me but didn’t love me and I ended it. I was so exhausted with my work schedule and everything seemed to be on his schedule and choice I was over it even though he did some nice things there was something missing I felt like an object still even though I wasn’t doing the domestic labour, I couldn’t have an opinion unless he wanted me to have one.
"The leading cause of death for pregnant women, is their partner"... 😮💨
I hate that this statistic is still so common.
But a lot of women (and men) still don't take it seriously.
I dated a Hispanic man for 4 years. While he paid for things with no issue. He never cared for me in the ways I did for him. I'd defend him against my prejudiced relatives while he let his friends use the n-word around me. I'd cook for him on special occasions and bake cookies every time he visited me. He never cooked or planned dates. He was never proactive with checking in on me unless I called him crying every few months. Looking back I can't tell if he was ever in love with me. Or in love with being able to say that he was one of 2 guys in the froend group with a long-term girlfriend.
I don't know so many of the struggle with reciprocity and empathy.Maybe it's because they're socialized to only think of relationships in terms of power vs intimacy. Maybe it's just how they are as a default. Whatever the answer, I'm done.
Men pour into men, not women. Most men think women are lesser humans.
Your ex definitely never loved you, at least not in a healthy way. Sorry to hear you felt with that for four years. Now you know.
Oh yeah, he never loved you. He loved what you could DO for him though. He just wanted to show off to his friends and say he has an 'exotic' gf. He never respected you or valued you as a person.
People who love you in a romantic way WILL proactively check in on you several times a week without any prompting (and not to ask for favors but simply to see how you're doing.) That's bare minimum.
My housekeeping skills have been subpar for every man or person socialized as make that I’ve ever been with. It makes them furious. But even with me, they don’t put in equal effort.
I hate “ housekeeping’.” Men won’t like it. They would be very displeased… 😂
They modulate their efforts based on how little effort they think they can get away with, while being disappointed if you don't act like a low esteem person. If his eyes light up when he finds out about an awful ex bf or terrible father, you have your answer.
Something bad has happened with most men. They are unable to love. In my opinion that's what you're talking about.
I think not being able to love is fine if you leave people out of it.
@@vladimirazubcekova7727And leaving other people out of it is what they won’t do b/c they’re parasites. They can’t love but they can *leech* like a _champ!_
I believe what happened to most men is their realization that their mother did not protect them from circumcision which has lasting consequences that get worse with age. Most of the world’s men are not knifegraped as a baby. America has a special breed of twisted men. The few other countries that do this also have terrible men
@@silversprout4586 isn't it also men who came up with do that procedure tho? They do it to themselves. All they have to do is stop
@@magorzatafdz505 the issue is lack of love entirely world wide. This is the downfall of all humanity. No love creates bad things.
OK!!!!!
This just came across my feed and at this very moment I was questioning about making the decision of cutting someone off, who goes to the motions of loving me, but he told me to my face the he don’t think he’ll ever love again after his last break up. Told me to be patient and then told me not to rush him. That I shouldn’t try to “force” him say that he loves me or falling for me or have deep feelings yet don’t mind telling me how much he loves my body and what he likes to do in that area. But he likes me a lot. then he told me when he was he married twice that he didn’t love his wives. He only had one love, his ex girlfriend before me. And he still calls her his girlfriend. He never refers to her ex . He even had a picture of her and him together on the dating site how foolish of me to fall for this I developed deep feelings. It’s my fault. I will now end that relationship. Thank you 😢❤.
Good, please end it. What you just told us is insane. Get out asap, babe. ❤
So true. 8 years (what I now know as our last Valentine’s Day together) on my card he wrote “it’s good being with you,” didn’t even write I love you. I wrote covering the whole card.
It says a lot.
That’s pitiful. He’s basically saying “I like having you around because of how it benefits me”. I’m so sorry, I’m sure you put so much thought and love into what you wrote. You deserve better ❤
I didn’t realize it when I was younger, but my ex-husband hated me. He was verbally and financially abusive towards me even though he introduced me to his family he married me. He gave me a daughter, but he did not want to provide for the family nor spend time with us. I suspect he was on the DL. He always want to hang out with his boys one in particular I think he married me for a cover-up. I’m glad I divorced him and didn’t spend my life with him
I’m so sorry for that experience. Thankfully you got away! And I’d say the other way around, he gave you…fluids…and you gave HIM a daughter ❤
Seriously, that you get this at such a young age is brilliant. Turning 57 next month and only now do I finally see through the BS. Don’t deny yourself love, but expect absolute reciprocity or leave it. We are most certainly the stronger sex and they know it or they wouldn’t rely on their toxic masculinity to intimidate women into compliance.
That's why I chose to be childfree by choice and with a man who is a real friend and partner. He does everything outside the home + 50% of things at home. I wouldn't agree to anything else.
This needs to be shown to _all_ girls, from 4 yrs old and up.
"all those milestones mean is that he hadn't found someone better by then" BOOOOOOOM
also men have zero objections about cheating on the side. Like literally men are only monogamous if they can't FIND someone else to sleep with.
You are awesome my dear❤❤❤❤❤
"How many no-money boys are rowdy, how many start a war?"
M.I.A., "Boyz"
Unfortunately M.I.A she's a MAGAt...
@Iamhere829 really? FML.
@@Iamhere829 Damn, I didn't know that anout M.I.A. That sucks.
This 100% women have been taught you must always be in some kind of relationship and that if you like being alone something is wrong with you then heaven forbid she chose wrong guy (even if he lied) she's blamed for not seeing through his lies.
Wish I knew these things 10 years ago.
Same girl, same.
Same
Last guy...he was great...until something tiny happened and he attacked me out of nowhere.
They switch up once they get bored of you or find someone they perceive as better, someone unattainable, a challenge.
Thia is why friendship is an important step we make as foundation to real relationship
So true. When will wmn understand that simply being in your presence benefits a ma2n even if he ha8tes you the entire time. Not having a w8ma2n or women is the biggest fa8ilure for most mn.
Mn u5e wmn for these things:
1. Fr44 (exclusive) smex
2. Fr44 surr6gcy
3. Fr44 labor (maid, cook, nanny, and so on)
4. Even feminine companionship without any of the above is valuable. That’s why mn like Charles who have money to hire endless help is with Camilla. Whereas having a ma4n’s presence isn’t soothing or va6luable for most wmn. In fact, in most cases it poses a th5reat to her safety.
It’s up to you to figure out what he wants. Most mn will never care about their kids the way that the mthr does because they aren’t socialised like that to care. But being with mn doesn’t offer anything for most wmn. Is he going to have your k8id, is he going to please you smexually? Is he going to cook for you when you come home and have the foot ready? Is he going to do your laundry? Is he going to take care of you when you are sick? Is he going to clean your house? Now most mn don’t have money either. Let’s get real about mn.
Spot on! That's why women need to only pour into people that pour into them. No more doing 'wifey duties' for a nam that doesn't even respect you or appreciate all the labour that you pour into the relationship. No more sacrificing your own happiness to cater to your bf's needs. Cut that shit out! Pour into yourself and watch as your cup never empties.
@@manifest2203 no love no marriage. Period. What do women get in this male benefited relationship? Nothing.
@phoenixtoash2396 love was always a strategy low lvl mn used to get everything for free from the woman. Love + he has to be well established + emotionally intelligent. That should be the bare minimum.
Leave it to the romance novels.
Men would have a knee jerk reaction to this but if they wanted to help their own love lives (which some men do sincerely want), they would do well to listen to this because it’s a step by step manual of how not to lose someone.
No, it isn’t. At best, it’s a manual to slightly improve the odds of not losing somebody. But different people want different things, and some people just have a change of heart or change their minds.
It’s been 25 years…I asked him to tell me what he thought love is/means? he pointed out $ he’s spent (he still believes he deserves love and respect when he doesn’t show it and is not interested in growing as a person) still no answer, been 2 years…. We barely speak, he’s lost all of us….but truly doesn’t care
Its true,ive been married for 10 years and always making my husband provide to me.But he didnt like to be a provider.He left me and marry a women older than me im 30 years old ,she is 50 years old and she is now working and providing for him.He stays at home and she works and buy stuff for him pay for his treatments .So yes i believe all that this woman on video is saying .
Honestly, I can’t help but agree with you on this.
Great video!
I agree with another comment-I think it should also be more inclusive of men in every aspect of life. This behaviour can be found in the work place, while out shopping, on vacation, etc. I just liked the idea of bringing to the forefront that it’s not just partners who are abusive and throw up red flags. Sometimes it’s even harder to call out bad behaviour in a public setting such as an office or restaurant.
Great video!
You grew all of those organs. You grew a whole human - he did not. He gave you nothing, ma’am. YOU gave HIM a daughter, and he didn’t appreciate you or her.
Don't Get Stuck Ladies.. Much Love..💕💕
I've heard the argument "but he pays all the bills." Sure, if a woman is a homemaker or stay at home mom. That still doesn't say whether loves her or not. And, one day she may wind up divorced and poor.
LOL it does seem absurd for a guy to be buying nice furniture and home goods up upgrade their girlfriend's apartment. I DO know some men who care about having a nice space with nice furnishings, but if they put any energy into that, it's for spaces that are THEIRS only, they would never do that for someone else for free.
I'd have to disagree with you on that. There are some generous men out there, like women, who will help friends, family and even strangers.
Some guys do, but they're usually Asian guys. But normally it's because they're pressured into getting married by family and acting like a husband early on is basically the fastest way to accomplish that. It's not foolproof though lol!
it seems absurd for a woman to marry into slave status for no gain at all. as usual, men's work isn't free, only women's work is free. men exploit women in marriages and in workplaces.
I always romanticised my relationship with my ex (who abandoned me after 4 years, on the day I returned from my Dad's funeral) but now that I recognise that I gave HIM status, access and free labour it's broken the rose-coloured glasses and I see him in his true light. Why did I stay for 4 years when he wasn't getting divorced? Why didn't I ask what our future held after a year or so of dating? Why didn't I refuse to mind his kid when he went away? Why didn't I live my single life instead of waiting for him to commit? Oh what a bloody fool I was!
Men that I’ve dated, I can’t get rid of them they keep coming around after I told them to leave me alone. They make all the excuses like I changed. Just suck you back in and I realize they haven’t changed.
They always circle back when they can't find a new host to drain.
Literally every Gen X woman who got married in her 20s did it in order to split the bills. Most got divorced less than a year later, especially people I knew who got married right after we graduated high school. All those marriages ended in 10 months or less.
Facts. I am GenX.
Literally.
no lies detected.
I wish I had heard this 30 years ago.
I’m a beautiful woman with brains and a personality. Men get awkward and flustered just standing in front of me.
But I couldn’t find myself in a relationship with a man if my life depended on it.
I keep hearing this “getting a man is easy” rhetoric and I understand the sentiment. Men’s standards are low. But as a woman who has men tripping over themselves to talk to me, look at me, or do favors for me but would never pursue me as a romantic partner, I can’t help but believe I’ve found a glitch.
Just pick the one you like most and ask him out.
I think you might have found the best of both worlds. You get what they offer and then leave ‘em in the streets after.
You're so right. Men believe they have to be rich, handsome, young, and accomplished to land a woman like you. Most men avoid asking you out because they know they cannot meet your standards.
Neither gender are attracted to extreme grandiose sense of self behaviours.
That’s hilarious!
I did not need to listen through this…. At 52 I can tell you that pretty much each man I dated ended up being an opp or saboteur.
I don’t get it
Even when they love you, deep down they hate you, and it shows sooner or later.
This is not ALWAYS true. You need to be friends and date someone for a few years until you can know what they are in the relationship for. Know your values and have boundaries and you’ll weed out the users and abusers real quick. And there’s also nothing wrong with wanting to stay single either. If I could go back and do it all again, I would not get married. I would cohabitate and just make a non-legally binding commitment.
yep that tracks with my experience with men in any type of relationship, not just romantic.😂😅
Preach yv 🙌
This is what I’m realizing as I’m older and heading into my 30’s.
You are my favorite channel, period.
I’ve gotten a TON of free labor from men. I naturally am very messy and did a ton of inner work to have strong boundaries. I also do not pay for anything besides holiday and b day gifts. That being said, none of those relationships lasted or brought me peace emotionally.
Um, it might be because you’re a user. Sounds to me like you think you’ll find fulfilment upon taking as much as there is to be taken. Try something new.
all of this.
exactly.
your content is the reality women need to come to terms with for our own well being
wake it uppp !!
thank you💕
He doesn’t even change my car oil because he can’t do anything correctly.
Do you change your car oil?
Absolutely!
My friend is currently dating a man who seems considerate - makes her soup when she’s sick, does her household chores, brings her dinner, etc. She’s ecstatic. I told her that it’s all nice but none of that is free.
You are giving that man access to your body, your emotions, your house.
Jesus! You can’t just be happy for her? You’re effectively telling your friend not to talk to you about her relationship. What if, someday, she does need advice about something he does that makes her uncomfortable or worries her? Are you an adult?
He's also giving access to his body and emotions. And unless he moved in with her, also his house. So, no reason to assume lack of equality yet.
@ Men give away their bodies for pallet and a piece of chicken. Men, as a collective, are not $exually disciplined or responsible. 🙄
@@guypanton8341 I am happy for her BUT let’s not pretend that men don’t love bomb. She’s only known this man for less than a month. You think 1 month is enough to understand a man’s character. It takes a minimum of 3 months before ANYONE’s true personality begins to peek thru. Relax.
@@yayalux711I’m not talking about him. I’m talking about her. She’s your friend, right? She’s happy now.
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Good points actually. Thank you for interesting video! ❤
There it is, all in a nutshell.
Amen sis!!
Yes, same. Abuse started minute the last box dropped. It took over one year to get him evicted from my house. Years of recovery emotionally
Jesus! I'm sorry you have to deal with that. The mask always shatters once they think they have a woman trapped. 🙃
I'm hoping you're in a better place now and you're thriving.
Well said. Thank you.
Well said! 👏🏾
Just because there are many bad people or men let's say and toxic, narcissists doesn't mean they're all bad or nobody's trying to work on themselves even if it's hard cause life's rough and we're all imperfect and have traumas..
This is dangerous advice for women to focus on unicorns because it gives the majority of demonic mayles continued access to women. Nothing gets better because women will keep being bait and switched on, abused, drained, used to produce the next generation of majority demons who keep us oppressed. Unicorn worship keeps women losing because mayles pretend to be unicorns long enough to extract our resources.
Exactly
one can't go without any faith in the world
@@swordsnorchids1997 wrong and dangerous. Keeps women oppressed to focus on 'the good ones' when most are not.
She doesn't believe the stuff she is saying she's married 😂 remember all men are evil apart from her husband 😂
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Only toxic romantic relationships are bad. No one needs a partner all the time, that’s codependency, a fatal weakness but not a character flaw. If living solo terrifies you, get therapy or find a way to get comfortable with your shadow side. Give child you the things your caregivers didn’t. No one is coming to save you. Be your own hero. For if you need external validation to to be happy, you give away your power. Improve yourself to Love yourself. Stop chasing love. If you improve yourself by nurturing your garden the Universal Law of Attraction will draw butterflies to you in abundance.
Blessings of Light & Love upon you, Sweet Spirit. ✌️💜🖖
Yessss yess talk tell them . 🙌
no this is facts ,
a woman gains status by being a mahn if hes considered one of those types "that all women want" and you'll see those womehn flaunt their status of being mrs. so and so. really it's easy to get a mahn? maybe I'm just out of the loop b/c I was generally one of those types that didn't get hardly any mahale attention or offer to be gf and bf etc. use to try super hard but then realized americant/americon guys werent arent worth the effort and continue not to be.
And works 24/7 just to keep it. No thanks
@serenajoy84 well I mean they are apron foot soldiers for the paytreearchy so work they will indeed!
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changing somebodys pillows or rearranging their kitchen just like that is weird. who wants somebody to just do that? that's invasive
No, you don’t get it. It’s not invasive, controlling, domineering, or any sort of imposition. You’re just not a good person. (Okay, I’ll flag that that was sarcasm, just because I’ve been misunderstood before).
A lot of men do not take care of their home environment like change their bedsheets or even wash them until a woman does so for them. They will use the same bedsheets and pillows that turned from white to dark yellow years ago and a woman comes along and replaces them for him and upkeeps them so they stay white and clean not smelling like sweat. That’s not invasive, that’s basic domestic labor.
@@Carrybean don't move in with one like that let them hold their nuts. Take care of yourself, not someone elses dirty laundry
@@CarrybeanYeah, yeah, you’re doing what’s best for them, whether they know it or not.
@ absolutely. However the point was, the amount of work like that women do automatically to help out, just to be nice, just because they’re thoughtful and don’t want someone they care about living in a dirty house or sleeping in nasty stained bedsheets etc so they just automatically fix it for the men since the men aren’t doing it themselves… that’s just some examples that women do for men and men NEVER do for women and the vast majority of men expect women to do all of it. They expect a woman to do all the housework and cooking and cleaning but also paying for utilities and living costs should be 50/50 if not actually her paying for everything because otherwise she’s a golddigger. Most men ONLY take from women but barely provide her with anything. For many many men the only reason they get with women is not because they’re deeply in love and deeply want to care for her and want to be kind and loving to her, it’s to have consistent access to sex, social status so other men are jealous because he got a girl, and for the free labor that the woman provides that she does automatically out of the kindness of her own heart. That’s why she’s saying women, please do not do those things for men, even when men literally demand it.
I fully agree with you and ALL of your videos. The one thing I will say for us single women is that sometimes not having a partner sucks and at least I want to be in love and have someone. Of course being alone is better than being in bad company, but it does get very very lonely sometimes...
Not as lonely as most married women. You're comparing your life to the fantasy, not the reality. I've been both partnered for long periods, and single for other periods in my life. I had never been more lonely than when I was partnered.
I’ve never felt more lonely and hæted than I did when I was dating rnen - I never felt that when I was single.
Maybe you need to remind yourself of that; remind yourself of what you’d be getting into if you actually got into a relationship with a rnan.
@ YEP, so many men resent their female partners just for breathing.
I've been single for years now and I've never felt lonely. I've always used my free time to focus on hobbies and spend time with friends.
You only feel lonely, because you believe you’re missing out on the fairy tale that other women supposedly have.
I feel sad that in this generation, both genders have absolutely no trust towards each other. As someone who has been in toxic relationships before.. one day it just hits you, and you'll be like, "Yeah, I saw the red flags and chose to ignore them." In every relationship you have with anyone, you'll learn something. A failed relationship is not the end of the world.. It makes you stronger and turns you into the person you are MEANT to be. You learn to be resilient instead of bitter.
We easily get lost in this blame game, but I love to say that it takes TWO people to end a relationship. If someone hurt you, then maybe now you'll know to have better boundaries in the future.
You can only attract someone who at the same level as you, and if you don't even know who you are or love the person you are, how on earth would someone be able to love the real you? If your heart is closed off to love and you're unhealed, you can't expect to be in a relationship based on love can you? So stop blaming other genders, there are still great men and women out there. The only person you can EVER be responsible for is yourself, so work on becoming the best person you can be, know your worth, and live life to your fullest knowing that a relationship isn't everything there is and I guarantee you'll attract the right person. But do it for you, okay 😉 That way you can live without any regrets. I wish someone had told me this sooner, so learn from me. Don't let the world dim your light or turn you sour.
I'll say this. Yes, there are many weirdo dudes out there. I however have observed the better more higher class treat women amazing. It's either that or great acting.
You need to know it is acting all of it.
I dated 2 men from wealthy families and knew another. They had social skills above average but when it came down to it they were far crazier and entitled than any middle class man. And by crazy I mean they were into violent porn, heavy drinking, martial arts, collecting weapons, loving Nazi history, occasionally sleeping with other men, hating their own family.... long etc.
Maybe is different for men who created their own wealth, but I actively avoid men born in higher classes or too much money. They usually saw some crazy stuff at home and are crazy or violent themselves. One of the two guys I dated even killed animals as a kid. But the social skills? Outstanding. The empathy talks? Amazing. The fashion sense, the flowers, the taste in drinks and the skincare on point. Then you get too close and all the shit comes out. Not worth it.
@MimiBabe-o9v Damn. I'll stay single.
It’s all about saving face while being in public, for them. Rich men are the same, generally with even worse ego. They are also more likely to truly view the “relationship” as more of a business arrangement. It’s really all about what YOU are looking for… if it’s real love, I wouldn’t bother with men.
It's acting, just a facade. They're all fake, some are better than others at concealing their demons.
Aren't you married though? Does that mean you found a Unicorn?
Yeah, she's uber inconsistent. She's basically encouraging people not to mate so the rich can flourish. She sounds like an incel honestly.
Grifting for views. This type of wild statement get attention😂
Preach.
What's the matter with you all?! 😂 I'm watching this in disbelief as my boyfriend of many years is vacuum cleaning and cooking dinner. Men are human too. All it needs is two people that treat each other with common sense and respect. Not denying that there ARE bad people out there, but this girl is ridiculous. 🤷♀️
Exactly. There is the same danger either way. There are equally bad women and men. Gold diggers? The ones just wanting a man so they don't have to work and support themself? The women who have 5 thousand children so they Don't Have To Work! The world is evil you have to protect yourself and sometimes you have to just walk away. Sometimes like this girl you need to self reflect and figure out why you're having repeating patterns of toxic cycles.
There’s a huge agenda to divide everybody for every reason, and the younger generation doesn’t realize this because they’ve been fed these things for their entire life
You found a good one lucky you ,a lot of women aren't that lucky and this is for them so they can hopeful avoid these men or leave their current toxic relationship.
Haha you’ll learn soon enough 🤣🤣🤭
@@bugeye8749Ew, you’re not nice. It’s like you find satisfaction in the potential hurt of others.
Weird question but why do the thumbnails not show up when i see the video on my feed and only your face in the video
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