Brains and Beauty. Thanks for your help in letting me see the problem. Met a girl, got on amazingly, then ghosted a week later saying she could not cope with how I felt about her. No 2nd date as she was always making excuses not to be available. I've now walked away after calling her out for pushing me away. Definitely a DA. Another semi broken heart after a completely shattered one from a Narcissist 4 years ago. Keep up the good work x
Fear. Fear of losing the love they could get/have. Fear of rejection. Fear of commitment. Basically they have a mindset driven by fear. That’s why people need Jesus Christ because they can cast all their fears upon Him and be vulnerable and live a fulfilling life. It’s like being in a storybook where there’s all these trials and tribulations, but because you already know the end of the story, which is ‘Jesus has the victory’ you can peacefully and content live your life without fear because His victory is what’s best for us because He wants life and love for us. I used to be avoidant and I also am currently with the dismissive avoidant that is putting in the work and when you dig deep and ask yourself, “why;” fear and lack of knowledge is what it boils down to. Find your identity in Christ, ask God the Father for wisdom and He will remove the blinders so you can see the truth. I’ve asked and have received. Ask as if He’s already given it to you. That’s how much confidence and security we have in the Lord
@sierrashaheen677 Amen, God bless you for that answer. Too many people are crippled in fear and riddled with anxiety they let fear and anxiety take over their lives. They'd rather take prescription meds for their anxiety and revert to negative behavior patterns. I believe people need God in their lives to open up their hearts to receive love. God is love🙏
I really like your videos and insight but I have to call B.S. on this one.. Anyone can build a house if they learn the tools and techniques .. The overwhelming majority of Dismissive Avoidants don't see anything wrong with their behavior and will truly never change..
Your knowledge is valuable. The way you describe your knowledge in a way that’s really easy to understand is even better.
Brains and Beauty. Thanks for your help in letting me see the problem. Met a girl, got on amazingly, then ghosted a week later saying she could not cope with how I felt about her. No 2nd date as she was always making excuses not to be available. I've now walked away after calling her out for pushing me away. Definitely a DA. Another semi broken heart after a completely shattered one from a Narcissist 4 years ago. Keep up the good work x
So, basically, it's about unlearning learned helplessness.
What about the ones where there's no argument or problems? What about the ones that avoid feelings of love? What thoughts push them into avoidance?
Fear. Fear of losing the love they could get/have. Fear of rejection. Fear of commitment. Basically they have a mindset driven by fear. That’s why people need Jesus Christ because they can cast all their fears upon Him and be vulnerable and live a fulfilling life. It’s like being in a storybook where there’s all these trials and tribulations, but because you already know the end of the story, which is ‘Jesus has the victory’ you can peacefully and content live your life without fear because His victory is what’s best for us because He wants life and love for us. I used to be avoidant and I also am currently with the dismissive avoidant that is putting in the work and when you dig deep and ask yourself, “why;” fear and lack of knowledge is what it boils down to. Find your identity in Christ, ask God the Father for wisdom and He will remove the blinders so you can see the truth. I’ve asked and have received. Ask as if He’s already given it to you. That’s how much confidence and security we have in the Lord
@sierrashaheen677 Amen, God bless you for that answer. Too many people are crippled in fear and riddled with anxiety they let fear and anxiety take over their lives. They'd rather take prescription meds for their anxiety and revert to negative behavior patterns. I believe people need God in their lives to open up their hearts to receive love. God is love🙏
They need healing
I really like your videos and insight but I have to call B.S. on this one.. Anyone can build a house if they learn the tools and techniques .. The overwhelming majority of Dismissive Avoidants don't see anything wrong with their behavior and will truly never change..
Exactly
Bold statement
Do you happen to know the majority personally or?
@@DudleyOPIt's true. They don't do a lot of self reflection. It's why they're like this in the first place
They do see it they just suppress it and and don’t tell anyone
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