My Boyfriend Still Talks To His Ex... What Do I Do?

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  • Опубликовано: 3 авг 2024
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    In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick describes what you should to if you're ever saying "my boyfriend still talks to his ex..." and how to deal with the situation swiftly and succinctly.

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  • @datingcoachryanpatrick
    @datingcoachryanpatrick  2 месяца назад +1

    *NEW SUMMER 2024*
    I now offer self-guided *online courses* to help women of ANY age and experience level CRUSH those single streets FASTER and more efficiently! 🙂
    Check out my course offerings here 👉 www.boyfriendblueprint.com/courses

  • @nineocoins4879
    @nineocoins4879 4 года назад +299

    Walk away. You're welcome.

  • @armyoflove75
    @armyoflove75 4 года назад +384

    I was engaged but I found out that my fiancé was talking to his ex and he still tells me that he didn't think it would bother me, what an idiot. I ended our engagement.

    • @alice_in_wonderland9997
      @alice_in_wonderland9997 4 года назад +28

      arlove all my respect for you!!!!!! A lot of women are aware this is bad but they still love the trash they are dating and feel bad to let go

    • @bettyogato5760
      @bettyogato5760 4 года назад +28

      My bf was talking to his ex too, regularly. I asked him why and he said that am petty, nagging and lack self-confidence. This crushed me because I didn't expect him to say that. To make matters worse, he compares me to her.

    • @alice_in_wonderland9997
      @alice_in_wonderland9997 4 года назад +11

      Betty Ogato hey l am sorry you are stucked with this trash. Time to dump him

    • @armyoflove75
      @armyoflove75 4 года назад +6

      @@bettyogato5760 you deserve better girl!!!

    • @armyoflove75
      @armyoflove75 4 года назад +17

      @@alice_in_wonderland9997 thank you!!! when you love yourself you don`t spect less from your partner, sometimes is better being alone just for mental peace

  • @avero578
    @avero578 4 года назад +253

    100% agree with you. If there's no children, there's no reason to stay in touch. Doesn't mean you have to be enemies but what is the point of being "close" with each other. Not to mention one party always still has romantic feelings. Just messy and unnecessary in my opinion.

    • @bargainshopper8080
      @bargainshopper8080 3 года назад +3

      💯 True!

    • @crystalmaze3646
      @crystalmaze3646 3 года назад +8

      The ex wants the door open so she can jump in the first opportunity. Never allow your guy to have contact the ex can’t be trusted.

    • @MsMoshi222
      @MsMoshi222 3 года назад +4

      I’m leaving my boyfriend & father of my son after I learned he’s been seeing his ex all the time lying to me about where he’s at....

    • @clarizamerino
      @clarizamerino 2 года назад +5

      We have same thoughts.

    • @Eia03
      @Eia03 Год назад +1

      Im agree I experience that and I decide to end up, because my relationship to him is not healthy anymore, that's why I will focus on my self and and waiting for the right one

  • @user-ug6ts4lm4y
    @user-ug6ts4lm4y 4 года назад +171

    Yep! I left 2 days ago and told him to just get back with his ex 😂

    • @Blank123.
      @Blank123. 4 года назад +16

      Omg I left mine 14 days ago except the different part is he made the choice himself to go crawling back to his ex

    • @chrividarchrimmy7190
      @chrividarchrimmy7190 3 года назад +9

      @@Blank123. he will regret it don't worry

    • @iibeauty0104
      @iibeauty0104 3 года назад +4

      Girl yes lol I'm moving to a whole other state haha byyyeeeee

    • @monalisa9636
      @monalisa9636 3 года назад +2

      Same. Just happen last night

    • @iila
      @iila 2 года назад +1

      Boys will regret in either way.

  • @klickingkayasmr7585
    @klickingkayasmr7585 4 года назад +120

    Guys never stop [cheating, flirting, etc...], they just find better ways to hide their garbage. Another great video! 🧡

  • @rebeccajones8628
    @rebeccajones8628 4 года назад +53

    I had a boyfriend who met for coffee with a lot of his exes. I was never jealous. So when I broke up with him I said: Well we can at least meet for coffee". His answer: "No, I will not with you". This is because I cut off the relationship. What a NUT.

    • @rebeccajones8628
      @rebeccajones8628 4 года назад +14

      @@ShanaChow I guess it stroked his ego to know he broke their hearts, yet they still were willing to meet him. He bragged about it a lot.

    • @shamaaara8056
      @shamaaara8056 3 года назад +1

      😂😂😂

  • @b.johnny369
    @b.johnny369 4 года назад +53

    OMG, I’m dying 😂 Honestly, dude... you’re going to be such a great dad.

  • @TheMoonRain
    @TheMoonRain 4 года назад +26

    “HONEY, you don’t even want to know!” I love it.

  • @sofiali869
    @sofiali869 4 года назад +78

    i can't express how grateful I am for this video. finally someone supporting my view. I've been bashed by my own mother and friends around me for being controlling because I asked my boyfriend to delete his ex on Facebook. they all think I should be okay with that. but why should I be okay about it when I feel extremely uncomfortable and it's something I would never do to him?

  • @8croberts
    @8croberts 3 года назад +28

    THIS is the video I needed. No prevaricating, no superfluous material and words. Cold hard truth and you told us exactly what to say and how to say it. Just told my bf this yesterday. Feels good to advocate for myself and set boundaries. I gave him a week to figure it out. If he’s not willing to respect my boundaries of no longer communicating with his ex and her mom then I’m out. Thank you!

    • @clarahammar4526
      @clarahammar4526 3 года назад

      hello dear do you need any help I. can help you out it worked 😘 me.. whtsap me let's chat better+¹(⁸³¹)⁶¹²²⁸⁸⁶

    • @kaiteeet7325
      @kaiteeet7325 Год назад +2

      It’s been a while… how’d it go?

    • @KingOfSchadenfreude
      @KingOfSchadenfreude Год назад +1

      Update needed

  • @gulisara109
    @gulisara109 3 года назад +24

    I have this problem also. Forcing him to delete his ex's contact isn't sound right. This makes my love towards him slowly disappeared. 😞 If he cannot keep ex in the past and want to keep in touch with her, I will walk away.

    • @aaliyah6366
      @aaliyah6366 3 года назад +1

      Same

    • @windysmith7367
      @windysmith7367 4 месяца назад +1

      I had a bad breakup over this because he was doing it in secret and lying about it. I was gone for 6 months and he reached out to me continuing to say that it was her that reached out and needed help with a problem she was having (a one off)??
      Yet, prior to this he told me he had broken up with her years ago because of drinking and never wanted to have anything to do with her. It was all lies.
      Found out he was giving her money, paying closing costs on her property, giving money to her mother, and I also believe they officially never broke up. She simply moved in with her mother to take care of her 5 years prior. Here he was secretly acting like the boyfriend and taking care of her. She didn’t know about us. He kept that hidden. He was playing 2 sides of the coin. I don’t think he was over her.

    • @beckycarreiro2369
      @beckycarreiro2369 5 дней назад

      What if they have a son they just communication due of the boy? How we can solve that?

  • @royanbrady6397
    @royanbrady6397 4 года назад +11

    You tell him but he'll always shut you off

  • @Anauriel
    @Anauriel 4 года назад +38

    Thank you! This was a huge pain point in my last relationship, I appreciate the honesty.

  • @hybridangel3403
    @hybridangel3403 4 года назад +29

    What to do? Let him carry on. Why would anyone want that back. Lol

  • @Aglowing8
    @Aglowing8 4 года назад +36

    I really like Ryan’s clear coaching. Straight shooter, absolutely no BS. Love it!!!!

    • @datingcoachryanpatrick
      @datingcoachryanpatrick  4 года назад +2

      Thanks Annie!! 🙂

    • @beecat9951
      @beecat9951 2 года назад

      @@datingcoachryanpatrick and also light hearted. I appreciate that when I'm taking myself way too seriously! Thank you Ryan x

  • @Equitable_Street_Access_SF
    @Equitable_Street_Access_SF 3 года назад +11

    Whether it's an ex girlfriend that a guy is hung up on, or hes a cheater, or something else is going on that makes him emotionally unavailable, the result is always the same: heartbreak. It's best to just get out of the relationship. You can tell when a guy is really into you, and when he is not.

    • @clarahammar4526
      @clarahammar4526 3 года назад

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    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 2 года назад

      Im a little glad im crazy and hesitant. Sometimes I wish there was sure signs so I could just exit. ...Love hurts 😔. If I saw things like this, he'd make a change in front of my face. What he does behind my back. Idk. But I dont assume it could be much considering his situation. And if its flings, then idk. Shes a heffer getting off on the small things. Im not sure what I won. I just haven't caught sh. ... yet. I remember asking some females would it bother them to screw someone w/ a females name tatted to him. Some replied no. 😵😟 wtf, thatd bother me. I wouldn't even be able to get that persons name out my head. Id be constantly questioning him!!!

    • @enkeliunelmia6548
      @enkeliunelmia6548 11 месяцев назад

      👏👏👏

  • @MAAKWAYA
    @MAAKWAYA Год назад +5

    thank you very much, I doubted myself a little, because I demand that he stop communicating with the person who left a mark on his heart. But then for a while I realized that I was betraying myself and on his part this is disrespect for me, so I choose myself, it's cool how you know your own worth. I gave him a week to decide that he stopped communicating with her and cut off all ties, otherwise he will lose me once and for all, I want to be desired and the only one, no matter how much I love him, I will choose myself

  • @elizabethjarts4455
    @elizabethjarts4455 3 года назад +20

    This advice brought tears to my eyes, you just nailed my situation, and I’m going to take your advice and do exactly as you’ve said. Thanks a lot.

    • @clarahammar4526
      @clarahammar4526 3 года назад

      hello dear do you need any help I. can help you out it worked 😘 me.. whtsap me let's chat better+1"(,"""8""""3"”""1) 6""""1"""2 ""”2"""8'"""8"""6...

  • @tamzen8630
    @tamzen8630 3 года назад +19

    My ex gf begged me to take her back but said she would still have to text her ex who confided in her like no one else... i blocked her from my life.. boom !

  • @jourdainsolis808
    @jourdainsolis808 Год назад +12

    I hold the same view. I believe it is inappropriate to be friends with former exes AND fwbs while in a relationship. I would never do that to my partner because I know it would create unnecessary and unhealthy suspicion. I would never want to do anything that makes my partner feel insecure. Thus, I expect the same from my partner.
    I had to end a relationship because of this issue but it was for the best. Some people are okay with their partner being friends with exes and others are not. I am definitely not okay with it. Know what your standards and boundaries are and never settle for less people!

    • @UnknownLemonadeStand
      @UnknownLemonadeStand 5 месяцев назад

      YES KING and I'm glad you include the fwbs anyone someone had sex with is an ex and people use that as an excuse too keep talking too them cause they think they aren't ex

  • @crystalmaze3646
    @crystalmaze3646 3 года назад +5

    When the ex don’t leave him alone and his moved on ....... the new girl needs to put boundaries. Specially if the ex is also a narcissist.

  • @LeafsIn2024
    @LeafsIn2024 4 года назад +9

    OMG!!! Bang on! I just copied this link to send as extra support. And, then they go back and forth, hide their phones, lie, say they told her, think she knows, didn't tell her, etc.. Thank you for this and the conviction you put into it, Ryan. Wish it had been the first video I had ever seen!

  • @letromanceprosper
    @letromanceprosper 2 года назад +19

    I had to convince him to unfollow all his exes, he unfollowed almost all of them. He called me a dictator and jealous. Wish he just understood that his behavior is stupid. He also talks to girls which he found through dating apps, but they're just "friends". Then why the f did you swipe each other because you're each other's types! It crushes my heart.

    • @lucykate9275
      @lucykate9275 2 года назад

      I recommend you to a powerful man who helped me get my life partner back, he can manifest who so ever and whatever you wanna manifest just in 24hours without delay

    • @lucykate9275
      @lucykate9275 2 года назад

      Wh@tsAPP him for help

    • @selrox879
      @selrox879 2 года назад +5

      Please broke up with him, he s trash. I know im a stranger but dont try to be the cool girl, one day he is gonna cheat and you re gonna get a broken heart, he does not respect you if he said that sh*t. Being "cool" with his behavior wont get you far..wishing you the best tho🤗🤗🤗

  • @chonthychangchhame7561
    @chonthychangchhame7561 3 года назад +5

    And he brings her home, spend days with her . He says that he did not lie to me, he just didn’t tell me, because I will react this way. SHE IS JUST A FRIEND, but I can’t let you my friend ! Awesome!!

  • @kimvo1569
    @kimvo1569 4 года назад +34

    I broke up with my boyfriend last Monday. We dated for 10 mons. Our relationship went well, I met his family and all relatives, the thing went smoothly. His Parent honors me as a member of the family... I was getting excited about the future with him. In the last 3 mons. He starts to break our date sometimes, not keep up to see me every Saturday. He said it sound stupid to follow my expectations. Start to have some weird attitude as Irritable, anger, depression, argue, fighting, shouting... Distant me. Many red flags show up. And I found out that be still dating and talking with his Ex never stop from beginning dated me. He admits that. BUT said. He and his Ex only friend. I am very Shock, he as creating me and betray me, after 7 days broke up. He still texting me but very less. And I don't reply to any messages from him. I don't want suffering and worries. What are they doing behind my back? I am in extreme shock. Tell me if I did the right decision?.

    • @cathleenalabarriento
      @cathleenalabarriento 4 года назад +10

      Kim Vo You definitely did the right thing. It’s never healthy to stay in a relationship with someone who doesn’t even care how you would feel about their actions. Let him regret it by ignoring him completely and focusing on your own happiness.

    • @user-cg4fm4tl4j
      @user-cg4fm4tl4j 4 года назад +7

      It’s completely right decision from the pain I got with my husband it’s toxic relationship I suffered a lot

    • @sunshinejammer3547
      @sunshinejammer3547 4 года назад +7

      You made the right decision ✌

    • @princesstiffanynews
      @princesstiffanynews 3 года назад +4

      You was right

    • @lawankhongsni2726
      @lawankhongsni2726 3 года назад +2

      💯

  • @chariemaepales3748
    @chariemaepales3748 4 года назад +11

    We dated almost 2 years and i was caught him that he still connected to his ex . He told me he still cared becuase they been together almost 5 years . I was speechless and i was learned how to accept and contented .

  •  4 года назад +25

    Man, I REALLY love your videos. So fresh and honest!

  • @justaunpopulargirl8463
    @justaunpopulargirl8463 4 года назад +27

    I should've watched this months and months ago he cheated on me and accused me of being jealous saying i got nothing to worry about oh she's just a friend then he left me for her first of all im not jealous of a girl that doesn't love herself

  • @seizuregirlllll
    @seizuregirlllll 6 месяцев назад +4

    I’m the ex that got contacted and his girlfriend reached out to me asked about the conversation and I told her what happened and told her to leave, I said he did the same thing to me.

  • @azrcn_
    @azrcn_ 4 года назад +15

    I love your videos Ryan. I most definitely love this one !! ♥️ I know I wasn’t crazy or jealous when I told my ex exactly what you just said. that it did make me uncomfortable and that he had to choose. I can’t put up with that kind of disrespect. ♥️

  • @sashaleonie8089
    @sashaleonie8089 3 года назад +3

    So much helpful!!! Love your advice ! Thank you!

  • @PortOrangeMom
    @PortOrangeMom Год назад +2

    My ex fiancé maintained a close friendship with his ex. They worked together, had lunch together, he confided in her about our relationship, she watched his dog when he visited me (we were long distance.. states away). He insisted we all double date. She had a partner and he was all cool about this friendship. My fiancé’s family invited her to all family events from Thanksgiving to Xmas and weddings. He insisted on inviting her to our wedding too and all of his ex girlfriends including some friends with benefits. He told me that after we married, he would invite them all to our bbqs and parties. It was becoming unbearable. He said I was “crazy” and “unreasonable.” They had no children together. In the end, he broke up with me over the phone because he said that he didn’t want an instant family (I had two small children and he had never been married. We were 48). I don’t know what happened with him and his ex girlfriend but I assume he is still single and this is probably one of the reasons.

  • @robynoguinye2400
    @robynoguinye2400 4 года назад +11

    you just earned a subscriber

  • @helenshaghoury3051
    @helenshaghoury3051 4 года назад +3

    LOL you’re so awesome! Great content 🙌🏼👍🏻

  • @abbybella2884
    @abbybella2884 4 года назад +35

    Omg! Spot on. My boyfriend before and his ex lives together on the same house. And They don’t have kids. That’s why he dumped me because he said I’m overly dramatic because of jealousy and he cannot feel connection in me.

    • @faguetto
      @faguetto 3 года назад +5

      sis the delusion 🙄🙄🙄 he don't deserve you period

    • @shamaaara8056
      @shamaaara8056 3 года назад +4

      Lol it isn't jealousy, you are simply protecting your boundaries. And he doesn't understand what boundaries mean.

  • @koreaboo1437
    @koreaboo1437 2 года назад +10

    I just broke up with my boyfriend he told me he wasn't ready to let her go so i let him go lol. Its bye forever on to the next guy . thank you ryan Patrick for saving me

  • @brittneeroussel1468
    @brittneeroussel1468 3 года назад +1

    Great video!!!!!!

  • @Silent-killer_14320
    @Silent-killer_14320 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much for lovely suggestion

  • @FlordosAcores
    @FlordosAcores 3 года назад +4

    Effing Right! Amen! Thank You ❣️

  • @bamgyu3489
    @bamgyu3489 4 года назад +3

    Just what I needed. I'm subscribing for this one. 😔👌

  • @catherinenadela4386
    @catherinenadela4386 3 года назад +2

    You explained it perfectly.. that's exactly what I'm talking about.. thank u

  • @bookerumble
    @bookerumble Год назад +1

    Good idea on this video.

  • @QueenJuliana89
    @QueenJuliana89 2 года назад +2

    I have so much respect for you 🔥

  • @DeviantMotives
    @DeviantMotives 3 года назад +1

    Love your vid

  • @belindatilley6841
    @belindatilley6841 8 месяцев назад +2

    Yes, this was happening with my most recent ex and his ex-wife. So much denying, siding with her and disregarding my feelings. Calling me jealous etc. He basically said she is his best friend. What about me? He got very defensive. I finally ended things after feeling taken for granted all this time and I feel relieved that I'm going to have my old stress-free life back. It's not worth it.

  • @chrividarchrimmy7190
    @chrividarchrimmy7190 3 года назад +11

    I wish someone could tell me the easier way to move on it just hurts like hell

    • @elizabethjarts4455
      @elizabethjarts4455 3 года назад +3

      You’ll be fine, it’s hard but it will end at the end of the day. Time heals everything

  • @moonlight_za
    @moonlight_za Год назад +1

    This is some hard but necessary truth very much needed feeling emotional.

  • @jessicazhang6508
    @jessicazhang6508 4 года назад +19

    Haha I laughed so hard. Your facial expressions pretending to be the girl 😂.

  • @liwe1295
    @liwe1295 4 года назад +4

    Thank you

  • @Bonn13Blu3
    @Bonn13Blu3 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for this

    • @clarahammar4526
      @clarahammar4526 3 года назад

      hello dear do you need any help I. can help you out it worked 😘 me.. whtsap me let's chat better+1"(,"""8""""3"”""1) 6""""1"""2 ""”2"""8'"""8"""6...

  • @sashaleonie8089
    @sashaleonie8089 3 года назад +3

    10000000 thank you!!! ❤️

  • @suzy1843
    @suzy1843 Месяц назад

    Excellent video. Shockingly there are numerous psychologists on youtube rationalizing keeping the ex's around when there are no kids. What a mind game huh?

  • @godisgood2675
    @godisgood2675 3 года назад

    You nailed it.

  • @msdeshabangbang
    @msdeshabangbang Год назад +3

    This is spot on! Going through this right now!

    • @nj4495
      @nj4495 Год назад +1

      Same! I’m going through this right now too! Can’t believe it. He said it feels controlling to him. I said to him he of course can still talk with his ex, but I’m sorry I will have to leave. He said I’m giving him ultimatum.

    • @msdeshabangbang
      @msdeshabangbang Год назад +1

      @N J I don't think it's an ultimatum, it's a boundary. People will only do what you let them do

  • @lucymb00
    @lucymb00 4 года назад +1

    Love love love!!!

  • @shonaford3595
    @shonaford3595 2 года назад +2

    And then he speaks with her behind your back. It never works so leave full stop

  • @emmalynnrose8285
    @emmalynnrose8285 3 месяца назад

    Omg I love ur energy 😅

  • @QueenJuliana89
    @QueenJuliana89 2 года назад +4

    He was, I didn’t like it. He’s showing loyalty to her and not you. Ultimate disrespect. I tried not to let it bother me. They ended up doing something. Maybe they always were. Now I’m his ex. It’s never ok. Never allow it.

    • @lucykate9275
      @lucykate9275 2 года назад

      I recommend you to a powerful man who helped me get my life partner back, he can manifest who so ever and whatever you wanna manifest just in 24hours without delay

    • @lucykate9275
      @lucykate9275 2 года назад

      Wh@tsAPP him for help

    • @lucykate9275
      @lucykate9275 2 года назад

      ➕ ¹706⁴³086²4

  • @rewildrevolution
    @rewildrevolution 19 дней назад

    I like your style 😎

  • @lonilarimer4956
    @lonilarimer4956 3 года назад +2

    Love this. Thank you, Ryan ❤️

  • @nnennaboston9215
    @nnennaboston9215 Год назад +1

    Tnx a lot

  • @nataliasolakian6717
    @nataliasolakian6717 4 года назад

    AMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNNN!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!

  • @nicolenicole319
    @nicolenicole319 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for this video !!! I’m encountering this with my boyfriend .. she moved across country but they are on Snapchat and friends in Facebook .. .. she lived with him for 6 years and he says that he’s over her and doesn’t want me her young children to move in snd that was the problem .. ugh

  • @tanjamancinelli6572
    @tanjamancinelli6572 2 года назад +1

    He was secretly meeting his ex. As I realized it, I left him immediately

  • @fauziachariamparambil2204
    @fauziachariamparambil2204 4 года назад +5

    I am in love with this guy!!!!.😂

  • @whisperwhisper2030
    @whisperwhisper2030 3 года назад +4

    Ryan! I only just recently discovered your videos and I’m so happy with all the content you’re delivering. I wish I’d found them sooner! Whether I’m looking for a relationship or not, I love your energy.
    This video made me think of a situation I was in with a past relationship, so I’m curious to hear your thoughts on it.
    My boyfriend had a FWB thing going on with his best friend’s sister some time before we got together. I found out about it a couple months into the relationship. Even though he said it was over, for a long time, I couldn’t help but feel super uncomfortable whenever she was around. But what could I do? She was his best friend’s sister! ...so she was around a lot. In a lot of ways it made me feel like I couldn’t trust him, not just with other women, but with the way he handled his social situations in general.
    Going forward, what’s the best way to deal with feelings of jealousy or distrust in future relationships?

  • @mairathorn3331
    @mairathorn3331 4 года назад +2

    So true

  • @faithsandstrom3883
    @faithsandstrom3883 3 года назад +1

    Omg i was just cracking up. I love you. I said oh hell no. What about fb? Baby's mama? I dated another narcissist for 8 years...im now playing now. If they don't treat me right next!!!!

  • @wjotaj83
    @wjotaj83 4 года назад +1

    Yes sir!

  • @amandaknobel5071
    @amandaknobel5071 3 года назад +2

    After 15 months of dating someone with kids and getting close to them, my now ex boyfriend informed me he was going on a vacation with his mom, his kids, his ex girlfriend, his ex's husband and their kid ... they do not share kids. I can't figure out the weirdness to save my life. Is she an ex, a sister, BOTH? 🤢

  • @mariahfrancois9517
    @mariahfrancois9517 2 года назад +1

    Do yourself a favor and walk away its not worth it my recent bf still talks to his ex

  • @hopefully2224
    @hopefully2224 3 года назад +8

    I'm 51. The guy I was dating does this. Made his teenaged kids and her dinner every night, went on week long vacations together, every holiday...etc. He called it co-parenting I call it being divorced husband. Finally he said hes not capable of giving me what I want...but added he still wanted a sexual relationship. Um no boy...grow up! Theres no room for anyone else in a situation like that.

  • @marywangari5950
    @marywangari5950 4 года назад

    Very true

  • @wendysmith3657
    @wendysmith3657 4 года назад +10

    Could be triangulation as part of manipulation and control tactics.

  • @fortunatenamara2698
    @fortunatenamara2698 4 года назад +13

    when u tell him that u don't like his conversation with his ex en he start shouting, saying when u keep on talking about his ex then I want him to got back to her

    • @cathleenalabarriento
      @cathleenalabarriento 4 года назад +8

      Fortunate Namara They’re not worth keeping. Let them get back to their ex and focus on yourself. He’ll wonder why you aren’t chasing.

    • @chrividarchrimmy7190
      @chrividarchrimmy7190 3 года назад

      100%thumbs up

  • @olofkristin1264
    @olofkristin1264 3 года назад +9

    My boyfriend keeps talking about how he and his ex are best friends and how they hang out..😬

    • @daniellee7969
      @daniellee7969 3 года назад

      @pinkandlavender i agree

    • @Equitable_Street_Access_SF
      @Equitable_Street_Access_SF 3 года назад +1

      Oh noooooooooooooo

    • @etsap1236
      @etsap1236 3 года назад

      Don't let that ruin a relationship, instead meet his ex and join the friendship. Just because their friends doesn't mean there doing anything wrong. Respect his right to friendship, and love him anyways. Trust him and allow him to make some of his own choices. That is apart of what true love is.

    • @karmaisreal9094
      @karmaisreal9094 3 года назад

      @@etsap1236 Thats why your still single

    • @etsap1236
      @etsap1236 3 года назад

      @@karmaisreal9094 Im not single. I have a boyfreind i have been with for over a year. Im completly ok with him being freinds with his exs, heck im freinds with his exs. I know it seems suspicious but you cant blame them for your lack of trust. I would never just throw everything away over that. Instead of just leaving someone the moment theres one hicup, will leave you with no one. Real love take work, and requires an effort to fix things you may not be comfertable with. so if you are uncomfetable with a spouse talking to an ex, either talk to them about it or learn to accept the fact people have the right to freindship.

  • @ellokhads4356
    @ellokhads4356 4 года назад +13

    i spoke to my boyfriend that i didn’t like him talking to his ex but he still does it and i broke up with him for it because it was consistently. Now he’s apologizing for it one part i wanna go back other i dont. i dont know what to do

    • @angiek4586
      @angiek4586 4 года назад +8

      khadsinthecut been down this road. There’s a reason he keeping contact. If your thinking of getting back with him . You need to find out if he’s in love with her.
      Depending how long ago they broke is also key . To why he feels the need to talk to her.
      It’s really disrespectful to you. If he living the pass . He can’t build a future with you.
      My X couldn’t stop talking to his X . I told him it was disrespectful and make me uncomfortable. The reason I was uncomfortable. Was because my gut feeling was right. He was seeing her behind my back.
      To this day he wants back. But he’s still around her. I’m not being someone back up plan.

    • @kimvo1569
      @kimvo1569 4 года назад +6

      khadsinthecut RUN, he will repeat bad situation again and over again, you don't need to stay at an unhealthy relationship, love yourself you deserve to have a great life and happy with your pure love.

    • @angiek4586
      @angiek4586 4 года назад +3

      Kim I totally agree! My x took years away from me. I even lost the chance to date a great guy. They will string you along and monkey branch back and forth.
      Most time their emotional unavailable! Find someone who’s a 100% into you.

    • @ellokhads4356
      @ellokhads4356 4 года назад

      A K literally what im going through

    • @angiek4586
      @angiek4586 4 года назад +3

      Have you ever met her or talked to her.
      I ask my X if I could meet or talk to his X .since she’s a important part of his life. He asked why!
      So I can become friends with this other important women in his life.
      You know what his answer was!? I can’t do that ! I asked why . He ignored me and switch subject. He is very protective of her. His best friend not even allowed to talk to her unless he’s around . Funny thing is they went to school together. But his best friend can’t have her number. I even talk to his best friend in private. He has no problem with that.
      So there’s definitely something he’s not telling me. I no longer trust him.
      I would leave him alone ! Work on yourself! Don’t waste time on someone who’s confused! I lost a good man by trying with my X . Invest in someone who’s 100% into you

  • @cuteandfluffypikachu3405
    @cuteandfluffypikachu3405 3 года назад +2

    This guy who spent few months flirting making a effort 100% I met him after he broke up after she was violent with him and he’s now back with her even tho he hurt him 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @charlgan8974
    @charlgan8974 Год назад

    I will do this tonight

  • @Bfair123
    @Bfair123 4 года назад +5

    I've been struggling with this for more than 3 years wherein my husband keeps talking to his ex-wife secretly almost everyday when he goes to work and even sending money to her, they don't even have children, they have been divorced for more than 15 years despite of the previous relationships he had after his divorced. I found out when I got curious with my dreams for 7 days that my husband is talking to woman, so I got curious what my dreams is telling me, when he got home from work I tried to see his phone and I found 1 hr 5 min. talked, its a long conversation isnt it? he deleted but he did not know I saw it already and copied and the worst thing he said he has OT. I feel frustrated and totally disrespectful. He promised but the following they talked again 3x a day. I can't imagine.

  • @annaelle9004
    @annaelle9004 4 года назад +14

    What about dogs? My bf and his ex have been doing shared custody of their 3 dogs since they split. It seemed very odd to me. I feel at some point they will need to figure who will get the dogs 🤷‍♀️

  • @Arvingencom
    @Arvingencom 4 года назад +4

    Hi Ryan! A question regarding this situation (obviously mine): I can't really seem to find a reasonable advice for excactly this anywhere? Here goes: If a man used to be with a woman who had kids (not his kids), they broke up, he now has a new girlfriend (me). He still wants to have contact with the kids (whos mother are dating a new man). Do you think the kids would be better off still having this ex(man) in their future life, plus their mothers new boyfriend, and do you think the man's current relationship (mine) would be better with or without him having contact with his ex's kids (not his kids) in the future? Would you look at this situation the same way as if this man and his ex did have kids to raise together (as you mentioned as the only reason for a man to still be in contact with his ex), or is this situation different, with them both having new partners in their lives?
    To make things even more confusing: We both have kids from earlier relationships, who naturally are getting to know eachother.
    I would love to hear your thoughts about this. Maybe things will be more clear, as I don't know what to think or how to deal with this situation.
    Xoxo MissM.

    • @keithmurray5791
      @keithmurray5791 4 года назад +3

      Everyone is going to tell you to walk away, but their opinion is nowhere near as important as how you CHOOSE to think and feel.
      I don't care if a million people all tell you the same thing. You draw the border and decide the boundary, and empower yourself!

  • @hcmason10
    @hcmason10 2 года назад

    What about if he still talks to his female friends that he slept with but didn’t have a relationship with?

  • @MargaritaOnTheRox
    @MargaritaOnTheRox 4 года назад +2

    My boyfriend had been talking to his ex girlfriend for years. She's not over him. He says they're not friends. But she'll still message him and tell him she loves and misses him. He and I have been dating 4.5 years. They broke up a little over 5 years ago. She finally got a new boyfriend about a year ago and told my boyfriend a few months ago "we can't talk anymore." I said clearly she had bad intentions the whole time! Even when she seemed "ok" and he was trying to give her another chance. She told him she missed his d--- for crying out loud! How was that not an instant block? He finally blocked her this past July...after I insisted on it. 😒
    He said he was afraid she'd kill her kids if he stopped talking to her. I said, no she's not going to kill her kids. He said then maybe she'd kill herself. I just gave him a look.

  • @moonlily952
    @moonlily952 3 года назад

    ...what if they work together in the same office, being friends before couple and have the same group of friends..? 😔

  • @christylarsen4971
    @christylarsen4971 2 года назад +1

    My best friend is a guy I used to sleep with years ago we never dated just slept together. So what are your thoughts on this?

  • @gem1086
    @gem1086 4 года назад +23

    Omg. You are adorable.

  • @enkeliunelmia6548
    @enkeliunelmia6548 11 месяцев назад

    I think if that person did not got over the ex by itself, nobody can do nothing about it. They will keep lying to you that they did.

  • @thelostrose1276
    @thelostrose1276 4 года назад +6

    But I know someone who talks about his ex and he is over her.

    • @keithmurray5791
      @keithmurray5791 4 года назад +1

      Thank you. This distinction needs to be raised.

    • @aaliyah6366
      @aaliyah6366 3 года назад

      @@keithmurray5791 two dumb asses

  • @elizabeeth3096
    @elizabeeth3096 3 года назад +1

    Ok so I’ve been dating this boy for a while and I love him, he loves me, it’s been like a year and a half since his ex and him broke up. But today I was in his room looking at the notes of mine he has pinned up on my wall, and somehow I never noticed but there’s one from his ex next to them. It’s a Christmas note that says I love you and shit and it has to be a good 2 or 3 years old. Is this a bad sign? It’s still on his wall! Next to mine ! I don’t know what to do.

  • @lornalisa5974
    @lornalisa5974 Год назад

    My ex said, if you don't want us to be together we can still be friends because I am friends with all my ex's and he has no kids with them.
    Up to today, I've ran and never turned bk.

  • @simplyk883
    @simplyk883 2 года назад +2

    My boyfriend of almost 2 years now, talks to exwife occasionally, they were together for 14 years, so i feel like i dont have a say whether i like it or not…

    • @alisiademi
      @alisiademi 2 года назад +2

      Of course you have a say, you always have a say. Speak now or regret not doing it sooner!

    • @lanaw7304
      @lanaw7304 Год назад +1

      Update???

  • @iamrileyclark
    @iamrileyclark 3 года назад +1

    mine has been “finalizing his divorce” and they have to talk etc and it still bugs me it should’ve been done over a year ago

  • @sanonanon3813
    @sanonanon3813 3 года назад

    I’ve been dating my bf for a year and a half. He lives with two grown women. I just found out from one of his roommates that he was FWB with the other roomate. He lied to me about it. I’m not even sure how to bring this up. I was felt like something was weird about that situation. She flashed him, he talked about buying her things, he would buy me something and buy her some thing as well. Now I’m neglected.

  • @theyharbroughfamily7697
    @theyharbroughfamily7697 3 года назад +1

    My fiancé of 5 years Nd we have 3 kids I just found out he talked to his ex 3 times this summer ... she was going around asking his friends how he was so he reached out and I looked threw his call records and saw it smhhh I reached out her too and she said it was meanless convo .... but I gave him his ring back and I can’t get over it I’ve been crying for days idk want to do help

  • @yvonneyvonne8317
    @yvonneyvonne8317 11 месяцев назад

    Broke up with my boyfriend today because of this. This was the 3rd time I caught them texting each other and I asked him if he was gonna block her, he wouldn’t even answer. That was enough of an answer for me.
    Bye ninja!!! 😂😂😂😂

  • @SuzD0n
    @SuzD0n 2 года назад +15

    I just want add an alternate point of view. While it's true that most people in contact their exes for sketchy reasons, I've had some relationships where a partner is still friends with an ex, and they they have become good friends of mine, even after my initial contact with the guy has drifted off. The key is, i think, is when the ex is not hidden from you and you even get to meet them in a positive context it's less likely to be harmful. People approach things differently and when a guy is respectful of his ex, i feel that he will be respectful to me. I am close friends with a guy i used to date, and tbh we should only ever have stayed friends as there was no physical compatibility. All i want for him now is to meet a good woman, and when he does, depending on how she feels about it, i am fully prepared to keep a respectful distance because i want them both to be happy. Just my take on it.

  • @Ayla.evelyn
    @Ayla.evelyn 4 года назад +1

    True

  • @royanbrady6397
    @royanbrady6397 4 года назад +3

    And they actually chart 24/7 when he wakes up until when he sleeps at night and i told him to stop chatting with her and all he says is no i can't because she understands me more than you do what do you you have to do then instead of just watching

    • @neymaelias5408
      @neymaelias5408 3 года назад

      Hello noo what are you still waiting for. Girl run

    • @lanaw7304
      @lanaw7304 Год назад

      Update???hhh