It's so hard because he is so great otherwise... but seeing the pain cross his face when thinking about her... knowing I will never take that place in his heart hurts... I am worth more than being someone's second choice...
Yes I went through that with my ex husband. He told me flat out he loves his kids mother no matter what she does. I said really! Even at the expense of our marriage. I am glad I’m divorced he still had her name tattooed on her the whole entire marriage. Removed after we was divorced. I just laughed because if he would have did that sooner Maybe we would have still been married.
I love my ex oceans wide but it's a dangerous voyage, no promise making it back to shore alive and in one peice/peace. Time means nothing, absolutely...
Mines kept old belongings from his ex, such as valentine day cards, jewelry, pictures and in his phone and video's. Also would try to encourage me to dress and look at certain way in a resembles of her.
Woah! That was real deeeep. Where do you find your words from? They hit one straight, bulls- eye, painfully clear shot at the area necessary, in a way one can no more choose to be in denial. I love it. It's raw, real and one ricochets from its impact.
My fiancé was looking at his ex’s nudes and old hookers nudes for nearly half of our relationship. He only stopped because I found them and deleted them. He told me he just looked at them once when he was getting rid of them, but I just found out the truth a few days ago.
He is soo open minded. I really like people like him who love to tell you the truth so you don’t make unnecessary mistakes in picking a partner. Keep up with the good work.
Been in this and was so hurt, till this day he still talk about what she did to him, they have kids together 10yr relationship he aint going no where he is all hers, and thats fine
I feel like my husband still loves me and is going through the grieving and nostalgic stage of our separation. He monkey branched to the coworker within 15wks of us separating. He is currently moving in with her but they are flaunting their relationship to try and making me jealous. She is insecure and they are playing games and taking actions to make me think this. He is also looking at music videos i used to listen to. Everything he is doing is out of character for him. She is along for the ride. Their relationship is moving fast but i think he regretting it and she is playing games to rub it in my face. She is putting him up to these actions because it's out of character for him that began after i left. It's only happening in his fb page because they know it will get back to me. Only insecure people do that because deep down she knows he is hung up on me. He hasn't processed or healed.
I feel this is my ex too. He also monkey branched to a coworker and moved in with her within days of the breakup. He hasn’t healed. He called me yesterday just to argue and finally admitted to being with her.
My ex would yell and scream that he missed his ex and that he'd rather be spending time with his children than me! When I would question after when he was calmer He would later say he "didn't mean those things" Completely heartbreaking, wasted 7 years of my life!
starting to doubt if he still has feelings for his ex or not. he brought up the other day during an argument that “if he wanted to be disrespected, he’d still be with his ex” it was very hurtful to hear. he likes instagram posts joking about his ex being an awful person. and the music he puts on his stories are related to ex relationship pain. i’m not sure how to feel, since he said he broke up with her, was pretty apathetic in the beginning. but he puts his relationship trauma on me at times so i am not sure what this means.
This thing called being and fallen in love ! Who can know it????!! Most people are with people they are not in love. With, but then knowing that the one you are in love with may not be in love with you , and that person, although you are in love with them may not be the best person for them Again who can know it “ Are you going to stay with the one who loves you are you going back to the one you love!!!!!!!????????!
Mine calls ,texts and still buys gifts for his ex girlfriend. And she buys gifts for him AND his grown kids. Possibly even grandkids. His kids love her. They don’t like me. He and his ex girlfriend have no kids together. We’ve been together 6 years .2 years living together full time.
Yeah, I feel as tho when men still wanna talk to their ex's family it's just a way to keep the ex close, and a need to still talk to the ex. Sorry that would be a red flag for me
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Time doesn't heal, doing the work does. He's absolutely right.
What is the work that needs to be done?
Sometimes neither works.
It doesn’t matter if he does “make love” to you. He can still not love you
Huh? Nope
Woohw 🤯
It's so hard because he is so great otherwise... but seeing the pain cross his face when thinking about her... knowing I will never take that place in his heart hurts... I am worth more than being someone's second choice...
Time doesn't heal, ur right the work does
That is how I heal the work does I have moved on
I move tomorrow and this time I won't be found
What is the work that needs to be done?
@@knuckleheadreviews just have to take it one day at a time staying busy and focused
Leave ladies never get treated like a doormat
I’m not going back 🙏
@@trice615How's it going?
@@trice615I'm going back 😢
I just Cut him loose today “Thankfully” wished him & his ex good luck. I was SAVED… Ty great video
Congrats
Same here
Update
Good for you 👏🏾
I did yesterday!
if the ex is in the picture AT ALL except normal contact about kids - DON’T EVEN GIVE YOUR TIME OR YOUR HEART!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
This hits hard ❤
Wĥat if she isn't in contact with him, but his best friend and family?
Spot on.
My intuition said so from the beginning and I chose to pretend all was kosher while all the points mentioned were occurring. What a spiral.
Yes I went through that with my ex husband. He told me flat out he loves his kids mother no matter what she does. I said really! Even at the expense of our marriage. I am glad I’m divorced he still had her name tattooed on her the whole entire marriage. Removed after we was divorced. I just laughed because if he would have did that sooner Maybe we would have still been married.
Update
Why don’t men divorce their ex before getting into a relationship with another woman??????
Exactly!!!!
Once I find that out I’m out🖕🏾✌🏽 Never let nobody play you 💯
I love my ex oceans wide but it's a dangerous voyage, no promise making it back to shore alive and in one peice/peace. Time means nothing, absolutely...
I love how you articulate this
So why 😢 he left me
Bro your message are so accurate I noticed a lot of people just want to ignore the truth
People may not like Derrick but that doesn't make him wrong. It's the "message" and not the "messenger."
His ex is still obsessed with him after 14 years. It strikes his ego and drives me nuts
The phone doesn’t keep ringing if no one ever answers.
@@monicaserrato7388
WOW... That small phrase just hit me right in the gut!!!
I’m crying so hard right now. . This is exactly what just happened to me and I just found out he went back to his ex baby mom. .
I hope you heal, focus on your healing
😔
@@rmel2843How do you heal?
My husband of 5 years,
Looked up his ex and family and left the history on his phone .
I don’t feel safe . He says he was just being nosey
Nope!!! My ex from almost 10 years ago who is married just tried contacting on Facebook. Please be careful with that.
Mines kept old belongings from his ex, such as valentine day cards, jewelry, pictures and in his phone and video's. Also would try to encourage me to dress and look at certain way in a resembles of her.
update ladies
I dislike social media you can get in contact so fast and to search people just to look and refresh the memory of the person.
Found his secret instagram liking all his exs photos, except the ones with her fiancé 😅
Im in this situation now. Im dumping him.
I want to dump him too. But I'm too attached
Woah! That was real deeeep. Where do you find your words from? They hit one straight, bulls- eye, painfully clear shot at the area necessary, in a way one can no more choose to be in denial. I love it. It's raw, real and one ricochets from its impact.
This describes him perfectly 😢
This video popped up right on time .
Sincerely appreciate it 🙏🏽
My fiancé was looking at his ex’s nudes and old hookers nudes for nearly half of our relationship. He only stopped because I found them and deleted them. He told me he just looked at them once when he was getting rid of them, but I just found out the truth a few days ago.
How did you find out?
He is ungrateful point blank period!!!
All those things you’ve mentioned have happened to me. I agree with you.
DERRICK NEVER FAILS,!!!!
Yes he does ijs 🤔
Truth! Some people can’t handle the truth though! Facts 💯
He is soo open minded. I really like people like him who love to tell you the truth so you don’t make unnecessary mistakes in picking a partner. Keep up with the good work.
This is one of the most insightful videos on this topic I have ever seen. Thank you for the specific examples.
Your exteriors screams "Emotionally Stable" ❤
Derrick be preaching
YES! And he be preaching the truth!
"Let him (or her) have ears to hear and the feet God gave me to walk away!"
I loved what you had to say in this video, very eye opening.
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This message is deep! Thanks for sharing!
Time means nothing for women too. When people say time heals. No it doesnt
The only thing that heals is getting the help you need! Heal your tramas so you don't wound others with them!
Yes it does it's at your own pace it takes some people longer to do things and analyze things
@@Branaymolly it doesn’t . Time doesn’t heal. It’s a myth.
@@staygold1285 it's a myth according to you
@@Branaymolly lot of people who wud agree to me so one less agreement doesn’t matter but thanks for trying
This seems to apply to widows & deceased lovers too
This is so scary😌
Thank you for this. Retrospectively I can see the signs.
Me too. It's happening right now....
I got to move on
I just did. If you’re questioning it, you need to move on. ❤
Me too 🎉
Been in this and was so hurt, till this day he still talk about what she did to him, they have kids together 10yr relationship he aint going no where he is all hers, and thats fine
What about when he loves her but sat he is not in love with her? No matter what, I am not sharing. I walked away
Thank you you are so right I walked away
I agree 💯 with everything you said.
Straight facts!!
Thank you for your honesty
I learn so much from you thank you thank you thank you
Wow....This hit me hard...
Ive heard all of this. . And Ive been there.
Theyre projects. Undatable .
I agree he's not available
He was very attentive to me. We had that for sure. I can admit I wasn't ready for commitment
😢 So true. All of it
I feel like my husband still loves me and is going through the grieving and nostalgic stage of our separation. He monkey branched to the coworker within 15wks of us separating. He is currently moving in with her but they are flaunting their relationship to try and making me jealous. She is insecure and they are playing games and taking actions to make me think this. He is also looking at music videos i used to listen to. Everything he is doing is out of character for him. She is along for the ride. Their relationship is moving fast but i think he regretting it and she is playing games to rub it in my face. She is putting him up to these actions because it's out of character for him that began after i left. It's only happening in his fb page because they know it will get back to me.
Only insecure people do that because deep down she knows he is hung up on me. He hasn't processed or healed.
I feel this is my ex too. He also monkey branched to a coworker and moved in with her within days of the breakup. He hasn’t healed. He called me yesterday just to argue and finally admitted to being with her.
Ask yourself if theres someone else on tbis mans heart 💔
My ex would yell and scream that he missed his ex and that he'd rather be spending time with his children than me!
When I would question after when he was calmer He would later say he "didn't mean those things"
Completely heartbreaking, wasted 7 years of my life!
Update
I NEVER would have stayed
This goes for women to
TRUTH!
They will always be attached to their X
Not true
Thank you again Derrick 😊
Thank 👑You! 💪🏽
That may do much sense, thank you ❤
All facts.
I wish I’d have seen this video two years ago 🥲
Not only men women too.😢
Excellent video 👍🏻
On point!
Wow, thank you!
So true sir
Yea..he is prolly on the DL....
Not sure you have addressed this, great video. What about a deceased ex, everything applies...as in more than a decade ago. Appreciate your reply.
Thank you for keeping it💯REAL😉LOTS INFO NOW THAT IM SINGLE 👌
The real
starting to doubt if he still has feelings for his ex or not. he brought up the other day during an argument that “if he wanted to be disrespected, he’d still be with his ex” it was very hurtful to hear. he likes instagram posts joking about his ex being an awful person. and the music he puts on his stories are related to ex relationship pain. i’m not sure how to feel, since he said he broke up with her, was pretty apathetic in the beginning. but he puts his relationship trauma on me at times so i am not sure what this means.
leave him please for Your own sake 💛
You deserve better, he is a idiot 😒😬☺️
Amen 😊
Yes truth
Exactly.
This the one 😮💨
This thing called being and fallen in love ! Who can know it????!! Most people are with people they are not in love. With, but then knowing that the one you are in love with may not be in love with you , and that person, although you are in love with them may not be the best person for them
Again who can know it
“ Are you going to stay with the one who loves you are you going back to the one you love!!!!!!!????????!
Truth
Thanks derrick
He is vague about how they divorced and they have a good relationship as they co-parent- and he is best friends with her new husband.
BS
I am finishing this story yes you are right 🎉
I just asked him...he told me to grow up. Got really deffencive and butter
Facts
Speaking from experience?
This is a lot🙀
I have heard that
So true
True
Sounds like you talking about you? Your own experience
Hi Derrick,
How do I dm you a question?
Factz 💯
Thanks
Correct as usual.
Mine calls ,texts and still buys gifts for his ex girlfriend. And she buys gifts for him AND his grown kids. Possibly even grandkids. His kids love her. They don’t like me. He and his ex girlfriend have no kids together. We’ve been together 6 years .2 years living together full time.
Time to leave and realize you’re disrespecting yourself by saying with him, leave, someone better is out there.
💯💯💯
When he has kids with her
Mine has been talking to his ex’s sister and daughter. Hmmm…
Yeah, I feel as tho when men still wanna talk to their ex's family it's just a way to keep the ex close, and a need to still talk to the ex. Sorry that would be a red flag for me
Yikes 😬
I'm the one he wont let go. Breaks his neck to talk to me.
💯💯💯💯💯❤
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