The Grief of Fumbling a REAL Woman Is REAL!

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  • Опубликовано: 26 дек 2024

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  • @JaxnVideos
    @JaxnVideos  8 месяцев назад +31

    NEW BOOK: From Heartache to Happiness(E-Book & Audio Book Bundle)
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    • @loveslife11
      @loveslife11 8 месяцев назад

      I love derrek jaxn😊

    • @darlingdarlow6415
      @darlingdarlow6415 8 месяцев назад

      👏

    • @NettaReed-r7y
      @NettaReed-r7y 8 месяцев назад

      Derrick talk about men who fumble a good woman but dates women who empties their pockets!!! women who only wanted them for a bag...they spin the block express pain and all a sudden they want a good woman back!! TALK ABOUT WOMEN WHO BREAK MEN...WE LOVE U DERRICK!!! 🤎🫵🏾👍🏾✊🏾👊🏾👏🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🙏🏾💅🏾💋aka a fitandfabulous BW...LETS GO 2024!!

    • @glam0r0us
      @glam0r0us 8 месяцев назад

      Thank you Derrick 🙏🏽

    • @solyball2873
      @solyball2873 8 месяцев назад +1

      Hey D ! How do we get the real book? I don’t really like ebooks. I’d much rather have the real book.

  • @LonjeMarie7
    @LonjeMarie7 7 месяцев назад +219

    To any woman that’s reading this if you are the ‘ball’ that he fumbled.
    It’s HIS LOSS, keep rolling!

    • @acheeksgaming4849
      @acheeksgaming4849 7 месяцев назад +6

      I'm so feeling the fumble right now. He went back to his baby mom. I'm in my feelings, but I don't want to be his option if it doesn't work.

    • @melissacross4769
      @melissacross4769 7 месяцев назад +2

      Thank u...... ❤❤❤

    • @ednablessed1096
      @ednablessed1096 6 месяцев назад +1

      Going thru it now 😢💔

    • @chantelllovett4335
      @chantelllovett4335 Месяц назад

      I like that 👏👏 keep rolling

  • @tedthajohnson6077
    @tedthajohnson6077 8 месяцев назад +243

    It’s the energy that some women embody. It can’t be replaced.

  • @sailorPinata
    @sailorPinata 8 месяцев назад +181

    now imagine the pain of being the fumbled woman...

    • @Indelibleone
      @Indelibleone 7 месяцев назад +11

      Thank you.

    • @kellileaneriley4263
      @kellileaneriley4263 7 месяцев назад +7

      It sucks tbh

    • @tatianaj7108
      @tatianaj7108 7 месяцев назад +23

      Exactly the healing she has to go through can be very challenging. And then to attempt to date again 😔

    • @melissacross4769
      @melissacross4769 7 месяцев назад +3

      Right.......

    • @donitabrown8100
      @donitabrown8100 7 месяцев назад +4

      Been there..... for sure!!

  • @victoriabrand2777
    @victoriabrand2777 8 месяцев назад +152

    Exactly, there are some levels of disrespect that can never be forgiven or forgotten

    • @melissacross4769
      @melissacross4769 7 месяцев назад +2

      Yes Michael facts

    • @msjaneausten483
      @msjaneausten483 5 месяцев назад

      Oooo that part 🙌💯 I can forgive but there are certain levels of disrespect... It's like ✌️✌️✌️

  • @empressdawnsomerville1101
    @empressdawnsomerville1101 8 месяцев назад +139

    If he’s narcissistic he doesn’t care about messing the relationship up with that woman because he misses HER..Her presence. He cares because he misses what he was getting from that woman…Her presents.

  • @BeautifullyAwakened83
    @BeautifullyAwakened83 8 месяцев назад +177

    Especially when you “Fumble” a “Real Life Natural Born Chosen One”😬✂️💯

    • @freshmanjeans
      @freshmanjeans 8 месяцев назад +11

      That part

    • @janherlihy8301
      @janherlihy8301 7 месяцев назад +6

      Ooooooo you said it

    • @melissacross4769
      @melissacross4769 7 месяцев назад +4

      It's a wrap.......... Period..... Blessing in disguise ❤❤❤

    • @naturallaw8377
      @naturallaw8377 7 месяцев назад +2

      ‼️‼️‼️‼️

  • @RooJohnson00
    @RooJohnson00 8 месяцев назад +218

    Yes I sometimes wonder if he feels heavily convicted in his heart for the hurt he caused when the world is quiet & hes alone with his own thoughts 😌

    • @Emerald-1226
      @Emerald-1226 8 месяцев назад +3

      😢

    • @shiz1246
      @shiz1246 8 месяцев назад +24

      He only regrets it because he can no longer use her.

    • @StarS33d3
      @StarS33d3 8 месяцев назад +23

      I feel he’s receiving what he put out now n it hurts baaaaad..That physical mental beating he gave her does NOT compare to the SPIRITUAL AS WHIPPING he’s receiving now🧘🏾‍♀️

    • @SheenaBerry-g5c
      @SheenaBerry-g5c 7 месяцев назад +1

      Me too

    • @navimarlow
      @navimarlow 7 месяцев назад +7

      No. Men don’t love and feel like us

  • @nltinc.4864
    @nltinc.4864 8 месяцев назад +96

    He is 100% correct! My husband lost the best version of me and now I can never be that affectionate, sexually available, loving and flirtatious woman with him again. Ever!

    • @INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha
      @INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha 7 месяцев назад +14

      Why not divorce him??

    • @JemLifeMinistries
      @JemLifeMinistries 7 месяцев назад +3

      Mine did too before I fully got away.

    • @sarahmicro
      @sarahmicro 7 месяцев назад +5

      @@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha : because most of these women stay even if there are not happy. Just to avoid being alone....

    • @theSlamDude1
      @theSlamDude1 6 месяцев назад

      Exactly, at that point, you're wasting both of y'all time ​@@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha

    • @monamellj
      @monamellj 5 месяцев назад

      Been there. I can relate.

  • @robynhawthorne3160
    @robynhawthorne3160 8 месяцев назад +60

    U tell'em Derrick, BEWARE !! 😮
    Like RKelly said wen a woman fed-up, ain't nothing u can do about it

    • @chantelllovett4335
      @chantelllovett4335 Месяц назад

      C'mon that's the song that always comes to my mind in these type of situations...yesss👏👏

  • @gloriathompson6606
    @gloriathompson6606 8 месяцев назад +56

    After 19 years and some change, my ex husband has STILL not moved on. At 69 he is stuck in the past not only with me, but our children.

  • @shiz1246
    @shiz1246 8 месяцев назад +54

    Regret is not remorse. They (you) regret losing the utility of your appliance, but you don’t feel bad for doing what you did

    • @navimarlow
      @navimarlow 7 месяцев назад +3

      Exactly!! 💯💯💯💯

    • @TianaThompson90s
      @TianaThompson90s 7 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you 🎉🎉🎉

  • @Mllascelles1
    @Mllascelles1 8 месяцев назад +59

    Self imposed trauma by self sabatoge is tragic.

  • @amethyst8753
    @amethyst8753 Месяц назад +1

    Starting my healing journey after being fumbled. He will realize I had nothing but genuine love for him. Whatever happens now on is on him.Thank you for the insight.

  • @catspyjamas7944
    @catspyjamas7944 8 месяцев назад +102

    You can see this one hits him different.

    • @SarahGraceL
      @SarahGraceL 8 месяцев назад +36

      I agree. He's speaking of a cautionary tale of his own.

    • @queenb3088
      @queenb3088 8 месяцев назад +31

      Yeah... this is very personal.

  • @user-GodIsGood777
    @user-GodIsGood777 8 месяцев назад +36

    You are so full of wisdom. Thank you for this message today. I am so glad i found you online. 🙏

  • @childadvocate8374
    @childadvocate8374 8 месяцев назад +28

    Appreciate yr honesty and admitting yr own challenges with dealing with loss of a good woman. That doesn't take away the pain you caused but at least you can heal yourself. But the truth is you're not responsible for her healing, she is. God bless you both❤

    • @KeishaWilliams-e6d
      @KeishaWilliams-e6d 8 месяцев назад +6

      God is using him. He's preaching from personal knowledge ❤

    • @childadvocate8374
      @childadvocate8374 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@KeishaWilliams-e6dI agree.

  • @sonjacox4874
    @sonjacox4874 8 месяцев назад +74

    Yup! Such a coincidence how my ex has woman after woman but can't find a "good one" after I left

    • @hindwidad2723
      @hindwidad2723 7 месяцев назад

      Most men think that women are replaceable till they find out the hard way. There aren’t many good people left and they don’t realize that till it’s too late to get you back

  • @kristengarcia3477
    @kristengarcia3477 8 месяцев назад +35

    I hope my ex heals, he can’t ever comeback to me but he needs to be a good example to our baby. He’s too busy chasing a bust down who competes with my baby for his attention(usually she wins) he thinks if karma hasn’t hit him yet it’s not gonna come back around for what they did to me.

  • @jazziewilliams3834
    @jazziewilliams3834 8 месяцев назад +29

    U won’t miss her until she’s gone 😥

  • @rhondaharris460
    @rhondaharris460 8 месяцев назад +23

    That's true, and we're all different in our unique way, no one can be you❤😊

  • @RitaDoran-p4v
    @RitaDoran-p4v 8 месяцев назад +20

    This message deserves Gold Thanks

  • @TheGreyArea_LuLaKye
    @TheGreyArea_LuLaKye 8 месяцев назад +16

    Blessings KING for ur wisdom and being transparent 🫡🎱🙌🏽

  • @asherlbryant
    @asherlbryant 7 дней назад

    This video has given me so much peace.

  • @here.comes.tiffany
    @here.comes.tiffany 8 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you ❤ i have been watching and listening to you for a while.. dropping love, videos like yours NEED to blow up. You have great messages..went through this in a 14 yr relationship …
    Thanks for keeping it real❤

  • @Jeffreyway
    @Jeffreyway 8 месяцев назад +59

    It Ain't Just with A Good Woman Derrick... It's Losing A REAL 1 PERIOD!!!!

  • @sajor1847
    @sajor1847 4 месяца назад +2

    You described my marriage of 24 years that I lost myself in. 5 years and I'm beginning to find the me that I lost while loving someone that wasn't loveable.
    He fumbled me and drank himself to death. I was the best he was ever going to get. I put myself aside and now I'm finding myself again and for that I will be grateful every day for the rest of my life.

  • @HeyokaGirlSpeaks
    @HeyokaGirlSpeaks 5 месяцев назад +9

    My ex-husband ignored my saying I'm with you because I want to be not because I have to be. Keep fukng with me and I will walk away. He called my bluff and lost big time. I won myself and he lost everything. 😊❤

  • @lynnanderson6831
    @lynnanderson6831 7 месяцев назад +5

    It’s interesting to hear this. The relationships I’ve had have been so damaging I’m forever changed. I’ve often wondered if they even think about me and wonder how I am. We are damaged, but hearing this, it’s damaging for some men too. Thank you for sharing. I think women just want men who have harmed to become aware of their actions and try to work on themselves and become better people. We hope someday that they could just say I am so sorry for hurting you that way. That would be healing for both parties. ❤

  • @kashmoney8697
    @kashmoney8697 4 месяца назад +4

    My ex boyfriend recently passed away (he was married also) but I was told by mutual friends and family that he was still talking about me saying how he regrets losing me 🎯💯 goes to show he did have regrets …didn’t realize it till it was too late though

  • @JenniferSimonis
    @JenniferSimonis 8 месяцев назад +12

    It’s beyond mental illness. Ownership. Humility. Many years of therapy. I pray for eyes to see and ears to hear constantly. We share children but we are not together.

  • @TheHighPriestess111
    @TheHighPriestess111 8 месяцев назад +18

    I’m only here to say.. I told you so!!! 🤭🤭

  • @ford6321noone
    @ford6321noone 8 месяцев назад +8

    Thank you for telling the TRUTH!!

  • @reginatabb4068
    @reginatabb4068 8 месяцев назад +21

    KARMA IS REAL❤

    • @gregbuze9143
      @gregbuze9143 7 месяцев назад +3

      That part !! 💯 💯 💯

  • @kaymoody396
    @kaymoody396 5 месяцев назад +2

    UR AWESOME U HELP ME IN SO MANY WAYS THANK YOU ❤❤😊

  • @ljubicapopovic8811
    @ljubicapopovic8811 8 месяцев назад +4

    Derrick, good as always! Thank you for telling things so honestly, 💝!

  • @sacredxsahara
    @sacredxsahara 7 месяцев назад +8

    I like this derrick, his energy is very genuine.

  • @starchildsol
    @starchildsol 8 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you Derrick! 🙏🫶😊

  • @lydiahaynes4974
    @lydiahaynes4974 4 месяца назад +3

    When you tell him you have lost yourself and you are in pain and all he can say is "that’s your problem" or "don't be so negative" or "I'm sick of you being negative" when all you are trying to do is open up and pour your heart out choking on tears. He laughs in your face repeatedly and feels more empowered to scream when he sees you upset. Nothing hurts more.

  • @iRockwthMJ
    @iRockwthMJ 7 месяцев назад

    This is DEEP! Thank you for breaking this down. This is healing information. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @nickinicolesmith9372
    @nickinicolesmith9372 3 месяца назад

    Took me years of therapy but im glowing up now. I took my heart back!.... Back from every 💔.. the resentment i get from them is crazy.. accountability is very important. I took accountability for accepting n even getting even out of anger ( ladies it doesn't work)

  • @thefruitfulones
    @thefruitfulones 7 месяцев назад +5

    This is soooooo “spot on”. He is sick about it. Cant seem to find true love. Or find it but fearful she’ll never be enough. Wow!!! The meal analogy was ‘perfection’!!oh, lastly… the chemistry is so strong when the two happen upon each other. It’s so intense and you both walk away pretending not to have sensed that chemistry. Smh

  • @ShainaLuckey
    @ShainaLuckey 4 месяца назад +2

    Amen. I am patiently waiting for my day.

  • @sweetie932
    @sweetie932 8 месяцев назад +8

    Question, for this very reason; is it best to unfollow or not have any ex on social media? 💕great video 👍🏾

  • @StrengthNLove
    @StrengthNLove 7 месяцев назад +6

    Woman love you first

  • @danielle2247
    @danielle2247 8 месяцев назад +9

    I am here listening to this because I'm the good girl and I think he fumbled me and I can legit see him struggling with it and I was wondering if I was just seeing things

  • @christineribone9351
    @christineribone9351 7 месяцев назад +2

    THE GREATEST COMEBACK EVER!!

  • @belindaking1362
    @belindaking1362 8 месяцев назад +7

    Yes i was working hard, studying for a degree and all he did was complain at me.. The relationship was a joke with him, all he did was make me cry. 😊😊😊😊

    • @spirituallyfreewithree
      @spirituallyfreewithree 8 месяцев назад +4

      Dealing with this now with my husband. I want out. It's exhausting.

  • @GiM-ef7ky
    @GiM-ef7ky 8 месяцев назад +9

    This is why he is able to give a dialogue on this subject. 🎉

  • @candacewilson6807
    @candacewilson6807 7 месяцев назад +2

    He broke me when I was very young and wouldn’t speak to me or looked at me since. So I never was told why. The last thing he said to me was cruel. After attempting to stop my pain, I repressed the memories. 43 years later, it all came back, including the pain. I reached out again, to ask why, and he blocked me. Still, no answer. So, I wrote a book about the experience.

    • @daniellehalo6923
      @daniellehalo6923 7 месяцев назад +3

      So sorry you went through that.

    • @candacewilson6807
      @candacewilson6807 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@daniellehalo6923 -Thank you for your words. I am still going through the healing of it, since I repressed it for so long, I never allowed myself to grieve from it until now. So imagine healing from a break up that happened when you were 16, when you are 60!

  • @MargaretPen
    @MargaretPen 7 месяцев назад +2

    Oh well, it's good to know that guys will always remember so they don't rake for granted what was given with love. May the Lord our God heal our broken hearts and give us the strength to seek for his presence and let go.

  • @Harry-o6g
    @Harry-o6g 8 месяцев назад +7

    Thank you for this

  • @kimberlyhamilton8637
    @kimberlyhamilton8637 8 месяцев назад +3

    This is So Very True 👍 and Absolute Facts

  • @triamoore2931
    @triamoore2931 8 месяцев назад +27

    Gives me manipulation vibes knowing what people want to hear, saying it and playing a different angle speaking from a experienced place portrayed changed behavior and ego a real good talker 😅

  • @loisendiritu6575
    @loisendiritu6575 7 месяцев назад +5

    This doesn't apply only for marital relationship, it applies also to any other relationship with a human being.

  • @katricepittman8209
    @katricepittman8209 8 месяцев назад

    Brother Derek tha thank you for the great message that you are saying to all men and women tell me the truth 100 I am

  • @RobynMixon-g4u
    @RobynMixon-g4u 8 месяцев назад +2

    Wow! A Great woman is still out there...

  • @brigettecannonssorandomsho5918
    @brigettecannonssorandomsho5918 8 месяцев назад +5

    STRAIGHT FACTS!!!!

  • @DeeDee-zd9ni
    @DeeDee-zd9ni 8 месяцев назад +3

    Your videos has heal me….💥👏🏿

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 8 месяцев назад +5

    You have an amazing topic very amazing

  • @TnL-nt2kd
    @TnL-nt2kd 8 месяцев назад +23

    You damn sure preaching the truth❤

  • @darlenerush5389
    @darlenerush5389 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank You Derrick ❤❤❤

  • @simpleliving4205
    @simpleliving4205 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Derrick !!

  • @gr8hndz4u
    @gr8hndz4u 8 месяцев назад +22

    Thank you for speaking the truth.

  • @LonnieCook-cd9kg
    @LonnieCook-cd9kg 7 месяцев назад +2

    You are speaking the God's honest truth.

  • @sybilamuta6417
    @sybilamuta6417 7 месяцев назад

    BLESSINGS to you!!!God bless you.

  • @BrendaOsak
    @BrendaOsak 8 месяцев назад +4

    Is this why my ex kept coming back for years, because of guilt or just because I kept taking him back? Was he just using me when he had no one else?

    • @smithsonna035
      @smithsonna035 4 месяца назад +3

      Kept coming back because u chose to play 2nd option and not 1st priority

  • @naureenwalji485
    @naureenwalji485 8 месяцев назад +5

    my ex is regretting it as we speak and has turned to God.

  • @devinwilliams5334
    @devinwilliams5334 8 месяцев назад +2

    Good Message! 💯

  • @SR-hf3hx
    @SR-hf3hx 7 месяцев назад +7

    I fumbled a great woman...and everyday pray i can find a partner half as suitable as she was. And she wouldn't even let me apologize

  • @Cecille_the_one
    @Cecille_the_one 7 месяцев назад

    Great message ❤️
    Thank You

  • @s.d.crockett486
    @s.d.crockett486 7 месяцев назад +1

    Very insightful

  • @sheilak2835
    @sheilak2835 7 месяцев назад +1

    ✅ Absolutely right!

  • @rethabile1292
    @rethabile1292 2 месяца назад

    im here asking myself, who's that girl that opened your eyes? Who's she? im glad you healed too

  • @darlenerush5389
    @darlenerush5389 8 месяцев назад +2

    Love You Derrick 💓💓💓

  • @sheilablanton4894
    @sheilablanton4894 8 месяцев назад +1

    Ty for this message 👍

  • @ImbueU88
    @ImbueU88 8 месяцев назад +1

    Yes, you better speak from experience!! Thank u

  • @Suzette-d9k
    @Suzette-d9k 7 месяцев назад +2

    My friend studies kaballah, I am Christian. I was baptized born again 43 yrs ago, he's studied kaballah 38.
    He told ne he'd study Christianity for 6 mo if I'd study kaballah. I agreed, but he never set the computer up foe me to study, and I'd ask him to read the Bible from pg 1 to the end, asking God to Open it, to unfold the code to you.
    No one can tell you what's in the Bible but God. After you know what is, you share it, and those who hear are of like mind.

  • @leticiamoss4520
    @leticiamoss4520 3 месяца назад

    Truth spoken!

  • @MrY3P
    @MrY3P 5 месяцев назад

    Awesome information and so true

  • @DianeWilson-b5p
    @DianeWilson-b5p 8 месяцев назад +4

    Real Talk 🙏

  • @brimoore1982
    @brimoore1982 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you. 💜

  • @YazminM2222
    @YazminM2222 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you!

  • @debranathan4275
    @debranathan4275 8 месяцев назад +17

    How can you keep moving from woman to woman, and not heal.thats what men and women have to do first, Mind Body and Soul. Finding yourself is worth everything because you can't see nothing until you heal yourself. Know your Worthhhhhhhh

  • @loveovaflow
    @loveovaflow 8 месяцев назад +6

    Let me find out you intuitive too!🤔

  • @MsTrevia2010
    @MsTrevia2010 8 месяцев назад +1

    Yes, OMG, yes!! Please take heed!

  • @SleepyPariah
    @SleepyPariah 8 месяцев назад +24

    Regular men grieve. But what about narcissistic, users, abusive men? Do THEY grieve?

    • @mrslady90
      @mrslady90 7 месяцев назад +7

      ironically grief actually plays a part in that narcissistic characteristic that they have. They can’t cope with whatever happened to them.

    • @LonjeMarie7
      @LonjeMarie7 7 месяцев назад +4

      No they don’t. They deny gaslight deflect responsibility, and then they replace ,and then it’s rinse, wash and repeat.

    • @kiarisby2471
      @kiarisby2471 7 месяцев назад +3

      Yes, but their grief is different. They grieve the benefit of the good woman. They don’t grieve the fact that they hurt and damaged you. The grieve the access they had and the benefits (love, service, status etc.).

    • @StoryyReveal
      @StoryyReveal 3 дня назад

      Yes they do

  • @lifecoachtenirabyrd5976
    @lifecoachtenirabyrd5976 7 месяцев назад +1

    A vision board woman..❤ yesss 🔥🙏👑

  • @SabaHabte-t8u
    @SabaHabte-t8u 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you you are right It was hard but I only know him for a year but He emotionally or energy playing in real life on my phisical body. I have suffered Because he never contacted me or texted me I know I will not be able to cop with this situation any way tanx

  • @christineribone9351
    @christineribone9351 8 месяцев назад +8

    6 ft 5" !!!

  • @janherlihy8301
    @janherlihy8301 7 месяцев назад +1

    Brotha
    You STILL have so much more to learn

  • @LoveEndures7
    @LoveEndures7 4 дня назад

    My ex's tell me they really miss me.. their lives went downhill after they fumbled me...

  • @cindyvazquez4333
    @cindyvazquez4333 8 месяцев назад

    Wow you know peoples pain in their emotions🙏🙏❤

  • @madelinemaldonado2717
    @madelinemaldonado2717 8 месяцев назад +3

    I feel so hurt and lost 😞

    • @browneyes9507
      @browneyes9507 7 месяцев назад +2

      It gets better hold on

    • @berthaadepa3143
      @berthaadepa3143 2 месяца назад

      You will be fine
      Its just a matters of time

  • @SharonShepard-sf3th
    @SharonShepard-sf3th 7 месяцев назад +1

    Continue to do the good work.

  • @funnygacha6023
    @funnygacha6023 8 месяцев назад +13

    Derrick I’m going through it now my husband left me after 20 yrs

    • @funnygacha6023
      @funnygacha6023 8 месяцев назад +1

      Sorry to here that my husband left me also after 20 years it’s very painful I’m going through it also

  • @KatieForsythe-rl1xp
    @KatieForsythe-rl1xp 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you ….. just thankyou ❤

  • @nitzaquinones8508
    @nitzaquinones8508 8 месяцев назад +13

    I was knocked down but I wasn't knocked...I accepted my circumstances, I healed, and now I'm happy.

  • @feeldevine9641
    @feeldevine9641 7 месяцев назад +1

    Love this ❤

  • @tiffi271
    @tiffi271 14 дней назад

    Do men really struggle like this?
    Declined mental health, grief, empty heart & cold, then healing (self awareness and acceptance), and there still may be a hole????