@ymarrero23 He just released you to single to encounter your true kingdom match. Don't beat yourself up over it, God has greater for you. Pray for discernment when dating, God bless you!
I do agree that a man can tell if you’re the one, but I also believe that a woman should get a chance to know that man by testing the spirit to see if it’s from God or the enemy. I believe women should too confirm from God if he’s the one. Sometimes the enemy throw counterfeits before the real deal.
He is 1000000% correct. I’m experiencing it right now. My bf just told me he knew as soon as the first time he saw me and he is already talking about marriage and it’s only been less than 2 months. I am a living witness of what coach is saying! And it’s all God! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽
Me too. My fiance asked my to be his in less then 2 months and we had not even met in person only talking online, fast forward when I met him he put the ring on my finger and we are still madly in love..
I just want to put this out there, physical attraction is also important to women! I know it is a common held belief that men are visual people, but so are women! It is literally impossible to imagine myself being with a man that I am not physically/sexually attracted to. I literally cannot even develop feelings for them more than a friendship- now some people would automatically say that is shallow for a woman to be that way, because men are the ones who are suppose to be visual- but attraction I feel is a biological response! You like who you like!
When it's a God thing all of it will be there. Including attraction. God wants that to be there because that is part of the blessing of marriage covenant. You have to desire each other. So God first and it will all be there.
Just because a man let's you in his bedroom, it doesn't mean he'll let you in his heart. When you capture a man's heart, he'll ask you for your hand.👰🏽 💅🏽💍💎♥️
You're absolutely right. When he's serious about you, he won't let you wait. He wants to claim you and doesn't want to leave you out there with "single" status.
Facts exactly why I date with a purpose. No sex and I’m single until I’m married. May take longer but worth it I’m sure. Rids a woman of the users and abusers who plan on leaving anyway after they get their needs met and find the next. I don’t give years of my life to any man anymore. He courts me towards marriage or not within 1year...not years
I never believed it until i experienced it for myself ... It's true ...! You will think you're in a fairytale because as a woman you can't understand how he can be so sure and its refreshing to see a man know EXACTLY what he wants💯
I made this mistake and paying it for it now. 10 years before a proposal, got married, and regretted getting married. Ladies, please pay attention. Don't waste years waiting. It doesn't take long at all for a man to know in his heart that he needs a particular woman in his life. Actions speak louder then words.
Facts it doesn’t take A REAL MAN LONG to know if you’re his Wife! Anything after 2-5 years he doesn’t want marriage but only wants the benefits! A Man knows within the first 60-90 days if he wants to marry you don’t sell yourself short Sus
Someone I know who has been with her man since she was 17, and she is now 58. She even had a child with him over 30 years ago, and he moved in...in 2017. He still has NOT married her. This situation is Beyond stupid, and I would never allow a man to string me along for a year, much less 40 years.
Gotta say this; Women, what he said? In truth YOU need to be doing. YOU get to choose, YOU decide if he's smart, funny, attractive, financially able etc. Women are QUEENS. That means a date isn't just about him judging if you're good enough for HIM, it's, is he good enough for ME. Men can be thirsty and this is where discernment and asking God to help you pick, choose and refuse comes in handy.
Amen, yes women are the choosers. Even though mean pursues a woman or choose her first. But its up to that woman rather or not she wants him. And if he's the right man for her she would choose him.
@@robinmahan101 , most of my experience of a relationship last up to the 2nd year, and was too long. When I became dummy down, forgot about my choice, the relationship lasted 4 years too long. Nearly killed my joy to rid myself of such toxic relationship. For a long time I justified it was okay to have the intimacy bf marriage bc on the surface other women’s relationship appeared to be working;and , I figured it wasn’t cool to break up if sex was involved bc I couldn’t see sharing my body with the next man. Well, I got over that and repented. Thank God he has taught me the difference between a man and woman’s positions. Now, I know, God joins two people in their seasons when God decides they are ready.
Alot of men tend to throw the word marriage around when they first meet women because they think it's what she wants to hear then 10years later and your still his girlfriend 🙄 keep up that good work coach
you women you still missing a point I can tell right now you young and you done slept with a lot of different men when he submit to God a man can submit to God and accept him as their personal savior at 25 but then don't get married till he's 60 or 65 you still missing the point you young you still you still drinking your milk from a sippy cup wait till you been in this world a little longer little girl you don't know what you talking about of course he needs to submit to God I accepted my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ at an early age and I know I didn't make no mistake and he's still the head of my life but just because the man accepted his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ at 25 and 30 that don't mean he's ready for marriage because he's accepted God as his personal savior you little young girls you you start sleeping around too early and then you want to say he don't know yes he do your body is broke down physically and mentally it's broke down you're carrying a lot of emotional baggage cuz you start having sex too early so you know I was or two or maybe with too many men just because he's decided to turn his life over to Jesus and we all need to do that that doesn't mean that he's ready to marry you and submit to you he submitted his life to God that's what's wrong with you black women especially black women you sleep around too much and then you getting mad because that man chose another woman that didn't sleep around with every Tom Dick and Harry girl you still young you still drinking that milk from that sippy cup what have you spend some years in this world just because he committed his life to God and accepted God as his personal savior that doesn't mean he's ready to commit to a woman yet two different things you're young girl got to put some miles on your mind not on your body
Speak that truth sir.... this is the story of my life.... my husband didn’t marry me until after 2 kids and I had to nag him about doing it.... I put up with a lot off of him, but now I’m setting him free, I filed for a divorce and we will finalize in April.... next time I’m gonna wait on God’s timing I thought I had him good because I was a young tender that was 14 years younger than him, (I didn’t like guys that old, he lied about his age but by the time I found out his real age I was in love)... and that didn’t mean nothing he still didn’t treat me like the love of his life.... Porn was his life, abuse, and infidelity. And now 18 years later I’m done..... I’ve moved out and now I’m moving on ..... 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
This is SO true. When I’ve asked my boyfriend in the past why he chose me he said that from the moment we had our first conversation he knew because he said he could see I was very kindhearted. It shocked me because I thought it was just a simple conversation, but for him he said that’s how he knew he wanted to be with me. Everything you said I agree with 100% Men will know you’re the one pretty early on, it might take a little time to finalize it but if they know you are they’ll be moving towards finalizing it early on.
yeah I got to understand something about men they don't think like women they are men sometimes they just isolate themselves to work on themselves they know that's the woman they're going to spend the rest of their life with but they want to be the best man that they can be whether you're black or white Chinese or Mexican sometimes they ghost you for a while to work on themselves so they can be the man that you need them to be God when I buy yourself all the time to think together his thoughts to gain more strength to be able to carry on
This is on the mark of what my father who is now 70 taught me. A man knows within 6mos to 1 year if he wants to marry, and might take upto 2 years to finalize it
@@thatlovegirl12 Just because a person is married and/or has kids doesnt mean they wont die alone too. Have no fear because Jesus Christ is always with us.
@@cocogomez2278 but you have have less likely chance …having kids bring grand kids .. if you raised them right ..mostly likely they will be there for you … I love how me and my sis with all our kids spends every weekend and holidays and birthdays with my mom … we all have each other bk .. it’s been plenty of times my mom needed help esp early in the am ..and I always there to help her …
Yes, I know that he is right. My husband and I met in our late twenties at work and knew right away but waited to date for 6 months. After our first date, before we were intimate, he introduced me to his family. Most people in the United States do not know this, bur being from different historical enemy groups in Canada - French Canadian and English Canadian, we were not encouraged by anyone to intermingle. Most of his family did not show up for the wedding. But Love was not hard work for us two , it was natural. And guess what, our families eventually came around and realized that we were good together and accepted us. We have been happily married for 36 years. This is how humans have behaved for millions of years. Nature rules.
Agreed. Men who want marriage, feels like he can be a husband is not doing 5-10 years. Especially if he is over 28, 30 years old. He likes the benefits without being accountable to a family.
I was with my husband 3 months when he told me about the wedding plans here we are 22 years later and he's my everything and I know I'm his everything with the best of friends with praying partners with lovers we're everything to each I wouldn't trade him for nothing in this world
I knew he was The One. After 1 yr, I told him, "if it's not you, just let me know, and I will move on." He proposed, and we are married. Don't leave him to decide
Dating is so complicated but I finally realized the old fashioned way is the only way and if a man truly wants you he will never put him self in a position to lose you they start off being your dream come true then shortly after your worst nightmare😮
I feel like I’m listening to a caring big brother when you talk. I didn’t know my dad or have any brothers growing up so I really appreciate this. Thank you.
Been 2 years off and on, I finally broke things off! This man been making empty promises and not showing growth! I refuse to be with anyone whi isn't doing any self work!! Just talking about wanting to do better, be better, I can be better is not actually showing! He always said his intentions were good and that whenever he tries to do better, it always fails! I told him that intentions are actions! If you want to be a better man, do that and try! If you wanna get a job, work towards that!! I need more than just words!!! Show me!!
On this note ladies please keep in mind that some men will want to marry you in less than a year be careful because alot of them have other motives, this happened to me and us both being very young I ended marrying a man who has narcissistic personality disorder and I was unaware for many years and 2 kids later ...ladies if you don't feel comfortable or ready for marriage please don't allow any man to talk you into it and pay attention to the red flags 🚩🚩
Yes you’re right! My good friend met a guy and they got married very quickly. Two years later she’s going through the worse divorce ever! He was even awarded both their rental property AND their marital home by the judge-he lied about so much stuff, charged up her business credit card-changed the locks on the house door BEFORE time was up for her to leave the marital home-just really did her very dirty.
Same thing happened to me! Married at 18, now 24 two kids. He ruined my mental health. Take lots of time with who you're dating and cut off those who aren't serious about you. Save yourself!
Divorce isn’t a sin. If adultery is involved you are free to divorce. A man is to love his wife as Christ love the church and even gave himself for it. God wouldn’t expect you to stay in a marriage where one is being physically abused or mistreated. God ordain marriage. Whom God put together let no man put asunder.
Matthew 19:6 “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” It’s imperative we are mating with God ordain individuals. Divorce isn’t a sin. Some times, we move too fast in life not listening to Gods will and end up with the wrong mates. (Free will) all things works for our good, so they’ll be that lesson until you find that God mate.
@@yolandacox1096 yes death does set you free, but also a marriage can be dissolved due to adultery. Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But if anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew chapter 5:31-32
Coach Rod had to come back and give credit and testimony to you . Your video was spot on , I recently met a High valued man and he ask for exclusively from day one after our first date , he proposed marred after third date . I was still ‘’watching a man’s actions ‘’ like you teach and it has been exactly three weeks and he has just bought me a 7 caret diamond ring and proposal. I will keep you updated .thank you again I will definitely watch his actions and take my time , no rush .
Coach Rod I have told him that I need some time and he is willing to wait but I would absolutely book a session with you , please provide information one of your faithful,queen tribe members is always willing to learn .😀
On March 28, 2016, I went to the gym in my apartment complex and I saw a guy. We talk for a bit, than he gave me his number and told me to call him so he would have my number and we could be gym partners. He walked me home and asked if he could come in, I said sure. I've NEVER allowed strangers in my house but there were peace in my heart. He asked me if I prayed. I asked him what does he mean because I've learned NEVER tell a man things because they could act off it. He told me he was praying for God to send him his wife for 3 weeks. Dude, I too was praying for 3 weeks for God to work on my husband (he didn't know that). He asked me to be his gf within 1 hour of meeting each other. 3 days later he asked my dad for my hands in marriage. He told me he first saw me 3 weeks prior when I came into his restaurant and the first time he saw me he got a vision that I was his wife. Also, that when he would take a break to come talk and get my number, I had left after I received my food. I'm getting Jamaican background and he's Persian. We have a 4 year old son together (he's so handsome). I always prayed, the one that God has for me would not ask me for my number because guys always did everyday and idk I knew they only wanted s** My first ex husband asked me within 2 weeks, but I let him go because we were unequally yoked. Didn't know because we were in the honeymoon stage and living in different countries, plus we had gotten married with in 4 months. I've also been engaged 4 times prior. I always knew my worth, and most importantly I DON'T believe in fornication.
Im a woman in my mid thirties who had 11 marriage proposals and finally married at 25. I enjoy helping young girls navigate how to achieve their "ultimate goal of marriage". My grandmother told me "if you want to have 'fun' date a man in his 20s. If you want to get 'married' date a man in his thirties". Looking back I can see what she meant. Few men that age are mature enough for marriage and most in their 20s are NOT seeking it. Men in their thirties have usually grown bored with clubs and bars and their friends have started families by 30-35 years old. I tell girls if they want sex tell them "not without a ring on my finger" and watch nearly every man run while the one who genuinely cares for you will stay. From the time I was 18 to the time I was 25, 11 men were willing to "put a ring on it" so for girls saying it's ridiculous to require a man to propose, turns out those eleven men were more than willing
if these 11 men proposed to that young lady they had sex with her that's what they did 11 men and then by the time a woman gets 25 and 30 or 35 if she's sleeping with every man she go out with girl your quality of sex is going to decline by the time it's time to think about marriage 11 men wanted they just wanted to get into your pants I'm just going to be totally honest with you that's the reason I don't think women should be marrying at 25 thinking about who you may want your lifelong partner to be I think that's healthy but not marrying that 25 no cuz eventually she's going to get jealous of her single friend right ladies right girl that's some 1959 advice from some old grandma they're probably passed away at 95 that stuff don't work today tell me 11 me and girl please tell me and just wanted to have some intimacy with you just because a man sleep with you don't mean he want to spend the rest of his life with you you got to have you got to take care of your body physically and mentally and women want to think so what I slept with 300 400 men one woman told me over a thousand men he's not going to know yes he is girl you got too many miles on that that body and I hate to tell you A lot of times those type of women get picked last if ever because the intimacy with it's not good it's not good quality intimacy with that man and I owe them a tour man will know if you got too many miles on your physical body he knows and I'm going to leave it at that because we want to keep it decent and in order so you got to think about all this when you be sleeping with all these different men because then a lot of times they bring an STDs and a lot of times the men don't even know it's there a lot of that stuff lies dormant in men so it's got to be more than just about the intimacy part of a relationship with a mature man Trust and Believe
@@welshlady212000 lol you're onto something. I guess sex in exchange for marriage proposal is not something I would take as good advice when it leads to 11 failed engagements. I hope she did not mean that because that's a lot of baggage one would have to deal with.
You a real one Coach Rod! I appreciated this talk! 🙏💙 oooooh that part when you say, even when you check him! And the breakdown of how to do it in a feminine way 🤩😍. People pretend on the first (and first couple of) dates though so just gentle tone isn’t really enough to prove; some of them can be real devils after the show... I’ve come to realize that CHECKING THEIR FRUIT (fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness& self control)/ HEART POSTURE seems to be the real deal test! If you observe that and feel off, that’s not the one! If you’re at peace then yep! Bcz it’s hard to fake such qualities/ fruit.
Thanks Coach Rod for speaking on this and bringing so much clarity. I understand that men are visual and moved by what they see but I pray that a big butt and a smile don't decieve them when they are looking for a wife. A lot of good women get looked over because they don't fit the world's standard of what is attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You're are 💯 percent right that a man will know his wife real quick like within 24-48 hours. The conversation will be the key!
Thank you, the world has his standard of what is a attractive woman. Even though some women don't meet the world standards. But there is a man out there. That thinks they are attractive.
I stayed married for thirty years because I wanted to honor my wedding vows. Too bad for my ex he didn't want to honor his as well. While the breakup was difficult, I'm so much better off and happier without him. If you're with the wrong person, it will drain the life right out of you.
Can't agree with you more well said. I came out of 2 years of the crap relationship you spoken about including the porn ! He was emotionally unavailable. Just met my king on the first date he spoke about marriage!you are so right! Thank you so much for explaining this ! Well said he was like omg !
OMGOODNESS Coach Rod you are telling the truth I've been there & now I'm divorced. I pressured him because we had been together for 11 yrs & then only been married for 4 years. It was a messy mess!! Then I met this guy I thought he was the one for me OMGOODNESS you right once again. He was a messy mess!! Same thing which I could counsel with you this guy was weird as heck. Who spends money on you but doesn't look at you as a wife. I did to on him as well. I had his best interest in heart but he didn't give a dern about me!!
We ve been together for 8 years.. we married in 2020. Now i asked for divorce. I left our house in July 2022. Wasnt the right one. Im dating now a guy that always liked me, but i never gave him a chance. He s talking about marriage in a couple a months. Now its clear, i understand what you re saying!
Thank you so much Coach Rod. For properly validating my feelings. How people make you feel is the key point on whether you want them in your life or not
I feel Real Love does take Hard work... Obsession on the other hand is easy... Real Love is when you RIP old ways apart and set in new ways...takes time, patience, respect, empathy.
Finally someone speaking the truth on marriage, too many misconceptions, fantasies and delusions about marriage and what it is. Too many people settle and too many unhappy!!
Yes Lord! Coach Rod, your introduction of the example at the library is phenomenal. Grown boys will cat call but a real man will introduce himself. I know back in the older days, men and women would say their first and last name as an introduction. In this day and age woman are getting disrespected, physically abused and or killed over not entertaining these young boys. My value is non negotiable. I have began to realize that I haven't found my Husband because God is still preparing me for him therefore He is keeping me hidden. My journey will the Lord is the best life lesson that I could have ever learned. Happy New Year to everyone. Stay blessed!!!
I felt the same way 6 months ago I started preparing myself counseling and reading God where is my Boaz and the man God has for me. And I've been dating a man for 2 weeks and he just said he's going to marry me one day. But we are taking it slow and want to do it God's way.
This man is spot on. I strongly believe in the teachings of marriage through the word of God. Within 2 years of being in a committed relationship you should be moving forward and getting married. If there is no talk of marriage this is a red flag. May GOD bless you.
Men are intimidated by women who are accomplished, or those who are able--or who--hobnob with the upper echelon. Trust, that first conversation tells all. What most men don't understand is that we can all learn from each other. Men are initially attracted to physical aspects... They move forward from there. Age doesn't matter. it's your wisdom and spirituality that is a welcoming factor. I have been single for years. When I effectively communicate, share my accomplishments--they run. When I share " i don't allow /will never allow any man to get an argument from me as I love to compromise, they run. # Loving my love nest by myself single.
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I've been saying this for years. Men know, who they want to marry. Do not allow a man to waste your time.
Go Ahead On Now And Preach It, It's Not Rocket Science.
@ymarrero23 my boyfriend knew within a month and a half of dating that the next step would be engagement.
They know very early on, it doesn't take years.
@ymarrero23 He just released you to single to encounter your true kingdom match. Don't beat yourself up over it, God has greater for you. Pray for discernment when dating, God bless you!
@ymarrero23 You deserve better
Not only marriage but you should never have to even manipulate a man into being with you PERIODT.
Manipulation is the subtly of witchcraft.
So true
Yeah he should be wanting you in the first place
Yeah he should be wanting you in the first place
So true hun
A pastor told me a man knows immediately if he wants to marry a woman!
I truly believe this
Really
@@Abby-yj9zh same with me and my man
@@TheRealEvvonne congrats!!
They instantly know and doesn't take years and years for him to know.
If a man loves you nothing will be too hard for him to do period.
Yup
Except her rejection of your love.
I do agree that a man can tell if you’re the one, but I also believe that a woman should get a chance to know that man by testing the spirit to see if it’s from God or the enemy. I believe women should too confirm from God if he’s the one. Sometimes the enemy throw counterfeits before the real deal.
The hardest part, is knowing which is which. How do we know this? I've been deceived so many times even after praying about it
He is 1000000% correct. I’m experiencing it right now. My bf just told me he knew as soon as the first time he saw me and he is already talking about marriage and it’s only been less than 2 months. I am a living witness of what coach is saying! And it’s all God! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽
Thank you sis
Congratulations!
Amen & amen! Thanks for sharing Sis.
My husband proposed to me in two months. Weber married 9years now.
Me too. My fiance asked my to be his in less then 2 months and we had not even met in person only talking online, fast forward when I met him he put the ring on my finger and we are still madly in love..
I just want to put this out there, physical attraction is also important to women! I know it is a common held belief that men are visual people, but so are women! It is literally impossible to imagine myself being with a man that I am not physically/sexually attracted to. I literally cannot even develop feelings for them more than a friendship- now some people would automatically say that is shallow for a woman to be that way, because men are the ones who are suppose to be visual- but attraction I feel is a biological response! You like who you like!
If he is a good provider and prioritizes me for sure I will be physically attracted to a man
I agree whole heartedly!!! 💯💯💯💯💯
My struggle! Im learning to not be so concerned with looks! Thats cant be my only attraction! You gotta hit all areas for me
When it's a God thing all of it will be there. Including attraction. God wants that to be there because that is part of the blessing of marriage covenant. You have to desire each other. So God first and it will all be there.
@@MeekRocks Amen
Just because a man let's you in his bedroom, it doesn't mean he'll let you in his heart. When you capture a man's heart, he'll ask you for your hand.👰🏽 💅🏽💍💎♥️
Dont go into his bedroom until...
WoW, that is profound!
Beautifully stated!!l
That’s Right!
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I'm a woman and I approve this message
Thank you
Same! He keeps it all the way real. Much needed 🔥
i’m jake from state farm and i approve this message
Me too! Thanks Coach!
@mymiracle79
I agree!
The KEY is to always be your authentic self, then you will attract someone who will truly love you for you ❤️
You're absolutely right. When he's serious about you, he won't let you wait. He wants to claim you and doesn't want to leave you out there with "single" status.
Facts exactly why I date with a purpose. No sex and I’m single until I’m married. May take longer but worth it I’m sure. Rids a woman of the users and abusers who plan on leaving anyway after they get their needs met and find the next. I don’t give years of my life to any man anymore. He courts me towards marriage or not within 1year...not years
Amen, 🙌🙌 I agree! And I'm happy for making the same decision well before I could make unnecessary mistakes.
I’m single until engagement as well. But the no sex, oof I don’t know if I can commit to no sex until marriage
@@ShaniOnSinai I'm with you
Me too: no sex until marriage for me.
Right, it should not take years to decide if you want to be with that person
I never believed it until i experienced it for myself ... It's true ...! You will think you're in a fairytale because as a woman you can't understand how he can be so sure and its refreshing to see a man know EXACTLY what he wants💯
I made this mistake and paying it for it now. 10 years before a proposal, got married, and regretted getting married. Ladies, please pay attention. Don't waste years waiting.
It doesn't take long at all for a man to know in his heart that he needs a particular woman in his life. Actions speak louder then words.
I am a woman and I approve this message too 🥰 🙋🏽♀️
Thank You Queen
Amen & amen!
Amen amen amen I do too
Facts it doesn’t take A REAL MAN LONG to know if you’re his Wife! Anything after 2-5 years he doesn’t want marriage but only wants the benefits! A Man knows within the first 60-90 days if he wants to marry you don’t sell yourself short Sus
That's true. Sometimes they will know in 30 days too
@@theluxewave very true
Someone I know who has been with her man since she was 17, and she is now 58. She even had a child with him over 30 years ago, and he moved in...in 2017. He still has NOT married her. This situation is Beyond stupid, and I would never allow a man to string me along for a year, much less 40 years.
True story
@@e.adriannapatterson3900 wow 😳
Gotta say this; Women, what he said? In truth YOU need to be doing. YOU get to choose, YOU decide if he's smart, funny, attractive, financially able etc. Women are QUEENS. That means a date isn't just about him judging if you're good enough for HIM, it's, is he good enough for ME. Men can be thirsty and this is where discernment and asking God to help you pick, choose and refuse comes in handy.
Amen, yes women are the choosers. Even though mean pursues a woman or choose her first. But its up to that woman rather or not she wants him. And if he's the right man for her she would choose him.
Amen!
Exactly! We choose. If I can quote another coach, "why have you been entertaining only one man for eight years?"
Yes and Amen!!
@@robinmahan101 , most of my experience of a relationship last up to the 2nd year, and was too long. When I became dummy down, forgot about my choice, the relationship lasted 4 years too long. Nearly killed my joy to rid myself of such toxic relationship. For a long time I justified it was okay to have the intimacy bf marriage bc on the surface other women’s relationship appeared to be working;and , I figured it wasn’t cool to break up if sex was involved bc I couldn’t see sharing my body with the next man. Well, I got over that and repented. Thank God he has taught me the difference between a man and woman’s positions. Now, I know, God joins two people in their seasons when God decides they are ready.
You are absolutely right. My husband wanted to marry me in Three months. we been married for 16 years im the one wanted to wait.
Wow! 16yrs!!! Congratulations!!
Wow. That is so beautiful to hear. ❤️
Thank you all
Alot of men tend to throw the word marriage around when they first meet women because they think it's what she wants to hear then 10years later and your still his girlfriend 🙄 keep up that good work coach
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FACTS!!!!
Hello! Or months later and aay you don't do this or that and it keeps them from even committing! It's all a game they play to get what they want.
Exactly what happened to me .... glad I left 2 years ago and never looked back 🙏🏾
I agree, which is why you test the spirit to see if it’s from God.
Amen!
When he's submitted to God! 🤩💍🙏
Amen
Exactly what I need Jesus
That’s my key. When he is committed to God first.
you women you still missing a point I can tell right now you young and you done slept with a lot of different men when he submit to God a man can submit to God and accept him as their personal savior at 25 but then don't get married till he's 60 or 65 you still missing the point you young you still you still drinking your milk from a sippy cup wait till you been in this world a little longer little girl you don't know what you talking about of course he needs to submit to God I accepted my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ at an early age and I know I didn't make no mistake and he's still the head of my life but just because the man accepted his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ at 25 and 30 that don't mean he's ready for marriage because he's accepted God as his personal savior you little young girls you you start sleeping around too early and then you want to say he don't know yes he do your body is broke down physically and mentally it's broke down you're carrying a lot of emotional baggage cuz you start having sex too early so you know I was or two or maybe with too many men just because he's decided to turn his life over to Jesus and we all need to do that that doesn't mean that he's ready to marry you and submit to you he submitted his life to God that's what's wrong with you black women especially black women you sleep around too much and then you getting mad because that man chose another woman that didn't sleep around with every Tom Dick and Harry girl you still young you still drinking that milk from that sippy cup what have you spend some years in this world just because he committed his life to God and accepted God as his personal savior that doesn't mean he's ready to commit to a woman yet two different things you're young girl got to put some miles on your mind not on your body
Facts, a man knows as soon as he sees you, what he wants from you, wify, side chick, ect
Yes, they definitely know if you're wifey, the freak, the fun chick, etc
Speak that truth sir.... this is the story of my life.... my husband didn’t marry me until after 2 kids and I had to nag him about doing it.... I put up with a lot off of him, but now I’m setting him free, I filed for a divorce and we will finalize in April.... next time I’m gonna wait on God’s timing
I thought I had him good because I was a young tender that was 14 years younger than him, (I didn’t like guys that old, he lied about his age but by the time I found out his real age I was in love)... and that didn’t mean nothing he still didn’t treat me like the love of his life.... Porn was his life, abuse, and infidelity. And now 18 years later I’m done..... I’ve moved out and now I’m moving on ..... 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Congratulations! I was 18 yrs younger and was more alone with him . After 7 years I finally found strength to be single! @CoachRod teaching the truth!
@@April3565yaz Congratulations girl💪🏾, and God has someone better for you, things are turning around for your good🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️.... be encouraged🥰
I'm so sorry sweetheart. I'm glad you walked away from that. You're blessed.
Yasss sis!!! Know your worth ❤️
Congrats Sis🎉💰🌠🎊🎈🎆
This is SO true. When I’ve asked my boyfriend in the past why he chose me he said that from the moment we had our first conversation he knew because he said he could see I was very kindhearted. It shocked me because I thought it was just a simple conversation, but for him he said that’s how he knew he wanted to be with me. Everything you said I agree with 100% Men will know you’re the one pretty early on, it might take a little time to finalize it but if they know you are they’ll be moving towards finalizing it early on.
Come correct or don't come at all. I admire a man that can approach me in a genuine confident manner. You have to both be ready.
Amen
Yes a Man knows instantly who he wants to marry. Or if he loses her and if he returns he knows she’s the one. Lessons must be learned. 🌟❤️🙏🏻
yeah I got to understand something about men they don't think like women they are men sometimes they just isolate themselves to work on themselves they know that's the woman they're going to spend the rest of their life with but they want to be the best man that they can be whether you're black or white Chinese or Mexican sometimes they ghost you for a while to work on themselves so they can be the man that you need them to be God when I buy yourself all the time to think together his thoughts to gain more strength to be able to carry on
This is on the mark of what my father who is now 70 taught me. A man knows within 6mos to 1 year if he wants to marry, and might take upto 2 years to finalize it
Yes 6 months to one year he knows!
As a women at 47yrs old never been married no kids I totally agree with him 💯
Nicole Mitchell, I take it you're waiting on the Lord. So am I, and it was the best advice I was given.
@@Haukku1000 do you fear dying alone?
@@thatlovegirl12 Just because a person is married and/or has kids doesnt mean they wont die alone too. Have no fear because Jesus Christ is always with us.
@@cocogomez2278 but you have have less likely chance …having kids bring grand kids .. if you raised them right ..mostly likely they will be there for you … I love how me and my sis with all our kids spends every weekend and holidays and birthdays with my mom … we all have each other bk .. it’s been plenty of times my mom needed help esp early in the am ..and I always there to help her …
@@Haukku1000 her chances of waiting for kids is coming to an end … 47?
Men knows In ,six months Ladies IF HE WANTS YOU FOR LIFE OR NOT!
Ok but what about 9 months?
I am a woman and I agree total 💯. If it ain’t true; the energy and behavior will tell you everything.
Thank You Queen
Marriage should never be hard
life is hard , not marriage....
@@keepcreationprocess I agree with you.
It should be team work. Team work makes the Dream Work!!!😄
It’s not quite a cake walk...
There's work but not hard work. There's an ease, a flow to the work. But it's not supposed to be hard work.
When does the man know that you're the one.... when it's too late.
Then he’s not the one baby
@@befrebeauty exactly
True
Agree
I definitely feel like this too
Yes, I know that he is right. My husband and I met in our late twenties at work and knew right away but waited to date for 6 months. After our first date, before we were intimate, he introduced me to his family. Most people in the United States do not know this, bur being from different historical enemy groups in Canada - French Canadian and English Canadian, we were not encouraged by anyone to intermingle. Most of his family did not show up for the wedding. But Love was not hard work for us two , it was natural. And guess what, our families eventually came around and realized that we were good together and accepted us. We have been happily married for 36 years. This is how humans have behaved for millions of years. Nature rules.
Omg 😩💘
Love this, thank you sharing your story
Truth! This is why its so hard/impossible to change a man's feelings about you if he wasn't interested in the beginning.
Finding someone who is equally yoke with you 🥰🥰🥰🥰
This is the realest thing I’ve EVER heard.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
My Husband said the exact thing to me, he knew when he saw me and first talked to me. He pursued me hard. This is 100% true.
Agreed. Men who want marriage, feels like he can be a husband is not doing 5-10 years. Especially if he is over 28, 30 years old. He likes the benefits without being accountable to a family.
My grandfather said the same thing. It only takes a few months to get to know a woman.
You're speaking the truth....it does not take long. Ladies we have to stop settling, we deserve more. You don't have to beg someone to love you
I was with my husband 3 months when he told me about the wedding plans here we are 22 years later and he's my everything and I know I'm his everything with the best of friends with praying partners with lovers we're everything to each I wouldn't trade him for nothing in this world
I had to send this video to a friend. She needs to wake up. I really like everything you said, and they are all true.
Thank You Queen
I knew he was The One. After 1 yr, I told him, "if it's not you, just let me know, and I will move on." He proposed, and we are married. Don't leave him to decide
Just discovered your channel..this is so true! Marriage shouldn't be hard
Dating is so complicated but I finally realized the old fashioned way is the only way and if a man truly wants you he will never put him self in a position to lose you they start off being your dream come true then shortly after your worst nightmare😮
I told G-d that i want a godly man that is submitted to him. He sent me a Rabbi! And I absolutely love this man. He is everything i have ever wanted!
OMG....He is soooo on point. Everything he is saying is true.
If a man truly loves you it will be obvious. A woman will not have to ask, drop hints or manipulate to get him to marry her ❤
💯 Baaaby you are so on point. And it's not hard to be sweet to a good man. #imready
I feel like I’m listening to a caring big brother when you talk. I didn’t know my dad or have any brothers growing up so I really appreciate this. Thank you.
Been 2 years off and on, I finally broke things off! This man been making empty promises and not showing growth! I refuse to be with anyone whi isn't doing any self work!! Just talking about wanting to do better, be better, I can be better is not actually showing! He always said his intentions were good and that whenever he tries to do better, it always fails! I told him that intentions are actions! If you want to be a better man, do that and try! If you wanna get a job, work towards that!! I need more than just words!!! Show me!!
Good for you girl!! We can't let them waste our time or emotions. Actions always scream louder than words. 🙌🙌
Exactly!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
On this note ladies please keep in mind that some men will want to marry you in less than a year be careful because alot of them have other motives, this happened to me and us both being very young I ended marrying a man who has narcissistic personality disorder and I was unaware for many years and 2 kids later ...ladies if you don't feel comfortable or ready for marriage please don't allow any man to talk you into it and pay attention to the red flags 🚩🚩
Thanks, I'm in a similar situation right now, he wants to marry me but the red flags are too obvious and I'm so confused
Yes you’re right! My good friend met a guy and they got married very quickly. Two years later she’s going through the worse divorce ever! He was even awarded both their rental property AND their marital home by the judge-he lied about so much stuff, charged up her business credit card-changed the locks on the house door BEFORE time was up for her to leave the marital home-just really did her very dirty.
Same thing happened to me! Married at 18, now 24 two kids. He ruined my mental health. Take lots of time with who you're dating and cut off those who aren't serious about you. Save yourself!
Yes, I agree. I’ve had men who wanted to marry me, but they were not stable at all. Don’t accept every proposal that comes your way ladies.
Real talk and who wants to make somebody love them! And playing house is out! Thanks brother this is good!
You're Welcome
This is very true. My Bf talks about proposals, marriage and wedding plans all the time. He even has a wedding song he wanted me to listen to.
Congrats 👏
@@vanessanunoo5851 And we closed on our home last year in December 2021
@@nubiasands9930 Are y’all married yet?
Divorce may be a sin but God always forgives..
Divorce isn’t a sin. If adultery is involved you are free to divorce. A man is to love his wife as Christ love the church and even gave himself for it. God wouldn’t expect you to stay in a marriage where one is being physically abused or mistreated. God ordain marriage. Whom God put together let no man put asunder.
@@khornsbyone Amen👑📖🙏🏾
Matthew 19:6 “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
It’s imperative we are mating with God ordain individuals. Divorce isn’t a sin.
Some times, we move too fast in life not listening to Gods will and end up with the wrong mates. (Free will) all things works for our good, so they’ll be that lesson until you find that God mate.
@@khornsbyone didn’t the Bible say you can’t get remarried until the person you married has passed though?
@@yolandacox1096 yes death does set you free, but also a marriage can be dissolved due to adultery. Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But if anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew chapter 5:31-32
Coach Rod had to come back and give credit and testimony to you . Your video was spot on , I recently met a High valued man and he ask for exclusively from day one after our first date , he proposed marred after third date . I was still ‘’watching a man’s actions ‘’ like you teach and it has been exactly three weeks and he has just bought me a 7 caret diamond ring and proposal. I will keep you updated .thank you again I will definitely watch his actions and take my time , no rush .
Wow that's too fast. In my opinion. I think you need to tell him to slow down. And you need to book a session with me.
Coach Rod I have told him that I need some time and he is willing to wait but I would absolutely book a session with you , please provide information one of your faithful,queen tribe members is always willing to learn .😀
@@tastytraci6564 ok when you are ready go to this link. mymentor.life/roderickraysor
Coach Rod ty I Will 😀
@@tastytraci6564 how did it go?
Bro you are on point! I can listen to this video over and over again.
I totally agree, that's me if over 2 years and still dating he's not ready to be married
Completely agree and women need to use their intuition to find the right one instead of just wanting a man so they aren't lonely.
Discernment.
This is my first time watching, and already I like the way you talk and present the message. You’ve just gained a new subscriber.
I’m so glad that someone told the truth about this and how fast men that are ready no immediately ❤
On March 28, 2016, I went to the gym in my apartment complex and I saw a guy. We talk for a bit, than he gave me his number and told me to call him so he would have my number and we could be gym partners.
He walked me home and asked if he could come in, I said sure. I've NEVER allowed strangers in my house but there were peace in my heart. He asked me if I prayed. I asked him what does he mean because I've learned NEVER tell a man things because they could act off it. He told me he was praying for God to send him his wife for 3 weeks. Dude, I too was praying for 3 weeks for God to work on my husband (he didn't know that). He asked me to be his gf within 1 hour of meeting each other. 3 days later he asked my dad for my hands in marriage.
He told me he first saw me 3 weeks prior when I came into his restaurant and the first time he saw me he got a vision that I was his wife. Also, that when he would take a break to come talk and get my number, I had left after I received my food. I'm getting Jamaican background and he's Persian. We have a 4 year old son together (he's so handsome).
I always prayed, the one that God has for me would not ask me for my number because guys always did everyday and idk I knew they only wanted s**
My first ex husband asked me within 2 weeks, but I let him go because we were unequally yoked. Didn't know because we were in the honeymoon stage and living in different countries, plus we had gotten married with in 4 months. I've also been engaged 4 times prior.
I always knew my worth, and most importantly I DON'T believe in fornication.
I love laughter been single for ten years. Loving the lord and finding my purpose!!
Woman do influence men and like he said it's been like that since the beginning of time. Women we lead with emotions which is why we need a covering!
Im a woman in my mid thirties who had 11 marriage proposals and finally married at 25. I enjoy helping young girls navigate how to achieve their "ultimate goal of marriage". My grandmother told me "if you want to have 'fun' date a man in his 20s. If you want to get 'married' date a man in his thirties". Looking back I can see what she meant. Few men that age are mature enough for marriage and most in their 20s are NOT seeking it. Men in their thirties have usually grown bored with clubs and bars and their friends have started families by 30-35 years old. I tell girls if they want sex tell them "not without a ring on my finger" and watch nearly every man run while the one who genuinely cares for you will stay. From the time I was 18 to the time I was 25, 11 men were willing to "put a ring on it" so for girls saying it's ridiculous to require a man to propose, turns out those eleven men were more than willing
if these 11 men proposed to that young lady they had sex with her that's what they did 11 men and then by the time a woman gets 25 and 30 or 35 if she's sleeping with every man she go out with girl your quality of sex is going to decline by the time it's time to think about marriage 11 men wanted they just wanted to get into your pants I'm just going to be totally honest with you that's the reason I don't think women should be marrying at 25 thinking about who you may want your lifelong partner to be I think that's healthy but not marrying that 25 no cuz eventually she's going to get jealous of her single friend right ladies right girl that's some 1959 advice from some old grandma they're probably passed away at 95 that stuff don't work today tell me 11 me and girl please tell me and just wanted to have some intimacy with you just because a man sleep with you don't mean he want to spend the rest of his life with you you got to have you got to take care of your body physically and mentally and women want to think so what I slept with 300 400 men one woman told me over a thousand men he's not going to know yes he is girl you got too many miles on that that body and I hate to tell you A lot of times those type of women get picked last if ever because the intimacy with it's not good it's not good quality intimacy with that man and I owe them a tour man will know if you got too many miles on your physical body he knows and I'm going to leave it at that because we want to keep it decent and in order so you got to think about all this when you be sleeping with all these different men because then a lot of times they bring an STDs and a lot of times the men don't even know it's there a lot of that stuff lies dormant in men so it's got to be more than just about the intimacy part of a relationship with a mature man Trust and Believe
Why did those 11 not work out
@@nancyfancy1956 if you reread it, she got a ring in exchange for seggs, not a marriage proposal each time.
@@welshlady212000 lol you're onto something. I guess sex in exchange for marriage proposal is not something I would take as good advice when it leads to 11 failed engagements. I hope she did not mean that because that's a lot of baggage one would have to deal with.
The devil IS real. Marriage IS hard work. Satan will use your spouse against you depending on your relationship with Christ.
Marriage is not perfect,but it can be excellent. Thank you for being honest. Blessings blessings and blessings ❤
I Love this brother! he is correct on all points.
You a real one Coach Rod! I appreciated this talk! 🙏💙 oooooh that part when you say, even when you check him! And the breakdown of how to do it in a feminine way 🤩😍.
People pretend on the first (and first couple of) dates though so just gentle tone isn’t really enough to prove; some of them can be real devils after the show...
I’ve come to realize that CHECKING THEIR FRUIT (fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness& self control)/ HEART POSTURE seems to be the real deal test! If you observe that and feel off, that’s not the one! If you’re at peace then yep! Bcz it’s hard to fake such qualities/ fruit.
We married after 5 years and I never asked my husband to marry me and he's crazy about me to this day and I never had to nag him thank God 😄
@HelenaBeauty 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
@YipeeDo 😭😭😭😭😭
@YipeeDo Great question!
@YipeeDo exactly
Really?🤔🧐
All I can say is WOW! Thank you for this! 🙏🏾
Thanks Coach Rod for speaking on this and bringing so much clarity. I understand that men are visual and moved by what they see but I pray that a big butt and a smile don't decieve them when they are looking for a wife. A lot of good women get looked over because they don't fit the world's standard of what is attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You're are 💯 percent right that a man will know his wife real quick like within 24-48 hours. The conversation will be the key!
Thank you, the world has his standard of what is a attractive woman. Even though some women don't meet the world standards. But there is a man out there. That thinks they are attractive.
You are 100 percent correct! Thank you!
You Welcome Queen
I stayed married for thirty years because I wanted to honor my wedding vows. Too bad for my ex he didn't want to honor his as well. While the breakup was difficult, I'm so much better off and happier without him. If you're with the wrong person, it will drain the life right out of you.
I approve this message !!A man know who he love
Can't agree with you more well said.
I came out of 2 years of the crap relationship you spoken about including the porn ! He was emotionally unavailable.
Just met my king on the first date he spoke about marriage!you are so right! Thank you so much for explaining this ! Well said he was like omg !
OMGOODNESS Coach Rod you are telling the truth I've been there & now I'm divorced. I pressured him because we had been together for 11 yrs & then only been married for 4 years. It was a messy mess!! Then I met this guy I thought he was the one for me OMGOODNESS you right once again. He was a messy mess!! Same thing which I could counsel with you this guy was weird as heck. Who spends money on you but doesn't look at you as a wife. I did to on him as well. I had his best interest in heart but he didn't give a dern about me!!
"A lot of y'all gone say, 'Oh that's lust..'
....Listen to me.....IT IS.. (Assuringly)"
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We ve been together for 8 years.. we married in 2020. Now i asked for divorce. I left our house in July 2022. Wasnt the right one. Im dating now a guy that always liked me, but i never gave him a chance. He s talking about marriage in a couple a months. Now its clear, i understand what you re saying!
Coach Rod is speaking the truth.
Thank you
Brother, this is cold, hard facts!!! You're on it. I love this.
Wow wow this was meant for me to see and listen. every word you said is 100% true thank you for sharing this message 🙏🏾 God bless
May God always bless you for telling the truth amen 🎉
Thank you for speaking the truth! So refreshing.
You're Welcome
Thank you so much Coach Rod. For properly validating my feelings. How people make you feel is the key point on whether you want them in your life or not
I feel Real Love does take Hard work...
Obsession on the other hand is easy...
Real Love is when you RIP old ways apart and set in new ways...takes time, patience, respect, empathy.
Finally someone speaking the truth on marriage, too many misconceptions, fantasies and delusions about marriage and what it is. Too many people settle and too many unhappy!!
He is really on point 100%♥️
when you are with the right one, its not hard work. I have to agree with you on this.
Yes Lord! Coach Rod, your introduction of the example at the library is phenomenal. Grown boys will cat call but a real man will introduce himself. I know back in the older days, men and women would say their first and last name as an introduction. In this day and age woman are getting disrespected, physically abused and or killed over not entertaining these young boys. My value is non negotiable. I have began to realize that I haven't found my Husband because God is still preparing me for him therefore He is keeping me hidden. My journey will the Lord is the best life lesson that I could have ever learned. Happy New Year to everyone. Stay blessed!!!
I felt the same way 6 months ago I started preparing myself counseling and reading God where is my Boaz and the man God has for me.
And I've been dating a man for 2 weeks and he just said he's going to marry me one day. But we are taking it slow and want to do it God's way.
@@mmarshall0530 That is so awesome. I am happy for you. I'm next!!!
You’re speaking truth !!! Thank you !!!
Coach I don’t know how I found your page but you are 1,000,000,000% correct WOW you are absolutely correct!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
This man is spot on. I strongly believe in the teachings of marriage through the word of God. Within 2 years of being in a committed relationship you should be moving forward and getting married. If there is no talk of marriage this is a red flag. May GOD bless you.
My brother is doing this with his fiancé. I hate watching a woman waste her time. He is now using Covid as an excuse.
When he knows when to use “you’re” 😲
The grammar police in me is really holding back! Lol!
Omg same!!! Lol I can’t stand it !!!
Men are intimidated by women who are accomplished, or those who are able--or who--hobnob with the upper echelon.
Trust, that first conversation tells all. What most men don't understand is that we can all learn from each other.
Men are initially attracted to physical aspects... They move forward from there. Age doesn't matter. it's your wisdom and spirituality that is a welcoming factor.
I have been single for years. When I effectively communicate, share my accomplishments--they run. When I share " i don't allow /will never allow any man to get an argument from me as I love to compromise, they run.
# Loving my love nest by myself single.
Thank you for making this clear.
I really enjoyed this conversation lol he is absolutely right. Great tips
Let me tell you something, in 30 days my man was talking about settling down lol. We are very happy every day. No breaks!!
you are a wise person re: love and men...thank you for your advice...dts/usa
I met my husband Memorial Day 2015, we got engaged January 2017, we got married April 2018. We are happy. So it can take a little longer.