I “dated” a guy for 2 years and he was very unsure of what he wanted. Im dating someone new and by date 2 he was already talking about taking me off the market and how he wanted exclusivity. Some guys know what they want others don’t.
I was dating a guy like a fool for 3yrs not knowing what he wanted. I'm now in a relationship with a beautiful, kind, honest guy with a big heart, knows mine and his worth and made it official after 4months of dating. For the Easter break he is taking me away for the second time this year. His actions always match his words.
Ahhh my sisters. Please try to protect yourselves at all times. Men see your insecurities and manipulate you to get what they want. YOU ARE WORTHY OF THE VERY BEST ! Never question who you are and what you bring to the table. If he is not good enough let him go. The right one will find his way to you. Promise .# only married for 30 years in May.
My future hubby lol took me off the market on date 3, and said we should be exclusive. Month 4…started talking “we” a lot! Him bringing up me moving in before the holidays, he’s talking about marriage & called me wifey when he introduced me to someone who was working on his house the other day. He’s also letting me make changes in his house, like picking out backsplash & stuff. We have a big week long vacation planned in October! And he said we should go window shopping to look at rings! Ladies…..this is how in goes down! You’ll have zero doubts about what he wants with you! 💖💖
Really like the Ferrari example. Also the idea that 6-8 dates is more than enough time for someone to decide if they want to take things to a diff level. Any longer something fishy is going on. Thanks Elliot!
My favorite is how men want to take me off the market in the first two weeks then if I believe their crap about how they’re “falling for me “… that’s when they fail to maintain the level of intensity and basically stop pursuing and just sit back while I fill up their cup with love and attention. Selfish af. … nope. It’s gonna take a lot more than gifts and love bombing to make me yours fellas gotta maintain consistency and put in the work 😊
There is a new breed of guys....."companizers" not womanizers. Went with someone for a month more than 10 dates including nightstays though nothing physical suddenly when I asked where is it going and he was like I don't want these expectations so won't reach out I said cool. Has been 15 days he didn't reach out so ya done. Know your value. Let them put efforts or we don't need to chase.
Very sorry you dealt with a guy like that. Guys who treat women so casually are junk raised by junk parents who didn't teach him how to value other human life properly. Thieves steal and mishandle jewels without valuing their true worth for anything other than short term selfish one way benefit.
1st guesses off title / headline alone: 1) proposes! 2) gets down on one knee 3) buys a ring 4) asks your father or father figure or family for their blessing to marry you? 5) takes you shopping for homes you’d share your life or raise kids in… Am I close?
I think we should hold out on sex until there is an official title and more trust has developed. Mainly bc a lot of focus goes towards sex to where I feel people forget to learn about the new person versus wondering when they can hop in and get some. With that, people lie about thier status STI wise. I'd be requesting a clinic date or some shit.
@@klddere3734 my point is honesty. Some get lucky, but most people can't mentally deal with giving thier bodies to then still be in the getting to know faze. It's doesn't add up. And it's great ppl can fuck on the first date but you risk a lot more then you do going at a steady pace.
The problem is most guys don't know what they want and most don't want relationships because there are so many narcissistic men and women out there. Dating never worked for me. The only long term relationships I have had I was best friends first for 2 years and naturally grew into a relationship from spending so much time together. But both turned out to be abusive narcissists so it ended badly. I learned about manifesting and have an amazing wonderful friend in my life now. 🙏🙌 Genius question!!!! Exactly what are we getting out of the relationship??? Usually not much with the average guy. 🤔
2 years together an he calls me his girlfriend but he doesn’t move forward he’s definitely emotionally unavailable narcissistic traits an I don’t know why I allowed myself to be treated less than by someone I know I could do better than for so long I’m not going to anymore though I’m going to pour the love I gave him without him giving it back into myself it’s so true to know ur worth I’d rather be alone than with someone that’s unsure of me thank you
Another great video, thanks. I'm curious to know more about the things your male clients worry about when it comes to us. A lot of the same things, I'm sure, but what would surprise us?
Hello again...this is all good for new dating but how do you apply your theories to a former partner that's trying to get u back. And when will you do live streams again? Those were so fun👍
I think there is a time when a guy is ready for a relationship. Example. we'll just say Kyle. Never really dated, always friends with a girl. All of a sudden he hits the age of 28. Now he's actively looking for a car, a house, and a girlfriend. I admire him for waiting until he felt he had some things to offer. He'd been saving his pennies for years and now it's all coming into fruition and you can tell he's excited, he's positive, and he's in just such the right place. He admitted over Valentine's Day; he never had a Valentine until he was 28. I will bet he will be happily married by the time he reaches 30.
My last 2 husband's started as long distance. I divorced both of them, fyi. The guy I'm currently with now is also long distance, been together 4 and a half years. He just took a job in my city and is now looking to move here. He wants to marry me too. So I'd say long distance can work, both people have to be strong mentally and emotionally tho, it's not for everyone. Luckily for me I'm a woman that needs a lot of space, so it works out great for me.
Coworkers would be a great video! There’s this guy that I was seeing and then he said he needed time. I still really like him, but I don’t want to reach out to him outside of work. I just don’t know what to say or do and he can do a little hot and cold towards me at work.
I would cut him off. He is playing games. I was in the same situation. But he said he would be too busy. That‘s just an excuse. You just lost energy and time for someone who doesn‘t value it. I felt after 3 months of holding on to him so tired and just knocked out.
What if you're boyfriend and girlfriend and he says he loves you but after 6 months he's not mentioned you to his parents?? I feel hurt that he's not even told them about me and question his level of seriousness about me. I've asked him and he goes quiet and said he didn't even mention his previous gf to his parents that he was with for 2yrs. I don't want to be kept a secret and I want to be integrated into his life. I've not even met any of his friends and I know he's from another country and they follow me on Instagram but I've not met anyone and he's not made any plans to. I don't want to keep waiting and investing more months If he's not seeing me in his future long term
Sounds like hes making excuses. You need to be more firm about it. Either get a real explanation or better, action, and if he doesn't show up for you, you have your answer.
His actions are telling you how he fills about you and your intuition is also telling you. A man who is serious about you will make you part of his life not hide you away. Giving you a title and telling you he loves you is manipulating you into thinking it's serious which will allow him to take something from you that he wants: sex, money, attention. Also, him going quiet instead of discussing it like a man, this alone shows his maturity level. If you feel confused over the relationship then that's your answer. End it and focus towards someone who does want you part of their life...
Depends on the culture. In my culture, you don't meet parents until it's serious enough where y'all are going to get engaged soon because they will definitely hit you with "what are your intentions with my daughter?" Siblings and friends are completely fine though. I have a guy friend that was with his ex on and off for 1.5-2 years. Never introduced her either. His reason was because despite loving her, she was a single mom and knew his mom wouldn't like her. ??? My thing is so why were you with her you if had no intentions of taking the relationship to the next level? That's what happens when you let men get comfortable. We stick around through bullshit, disrespect, wishy washy behavior and wonder why they don't take us seriously. Sit your bf down and tell him to communicate WHY. If he cannot or will not, that would be a serious deal breaker for me because communication is #1 in a relationship.
You are wrong...my aunt's husband took like 6 months to decide whether he wanted to even date my aunt...he hung out with her as friends forever first and then one-day he decided he was in love with my aunt...but it wasn't an instant decision...so you need to go back and look at the data. Not all men are the same...my brother also took forever with his wife. Not all men are like you or know right away...just because you do doesn't mean all men are like you. I think it's much safer for a man to go slowly in deciding. A smart man would...
He took me off the market, invested A LOT….he continued to invest up until today when he broke up with me because he’s unsure and said I deserve 100% when he knows he no longer wants to give me not even 20% of what I give . Things ended amicably and kindly……but I’m confused to be very honest💔
You gave too much too fast. He is no longer interested. Something told him you are not the one. You don't want someone who does not want you. Examine your behavior... Move on. Never give to a man. They either support you financially 100% or else they'll dump you eventually. They do it everytime-- even with children. We're you living with him? Had sex before marriage? Then, you wonder why this happens?
Love bombing and he didn't know what he wanted..you were a band-aid to an issue he didn't want to address within himself...work on YOU and honestly forget this person..if one found you...many betters ones will come along
I've been in a relationship with this guy 5 months and I fell in love with him and he says he loves me to wants to touchy feely me and holding one another no sex and says we're just friends..but if I'm not with him he texts me and calls me and comes over to my house. but he's been saying he wants his ex wife back but I want she doesnt want him buy I do I want to go to the next step and become his girlfriend..ive been staying at his house 4 days a week sleeping on the couch and watching his boys while he works but I gonna quit staying the night because I want more..what can I do?
Girl you have fallen in love so now you are the vulnerable one and will try to do anything to keep him . Think for a second that he wants his wife back . Do you really think he will move on and see your worth ???? NOT HAPPENING.
OK so he does want me but what now? I don't get any benefit from him he's less responsible than me and bit lazy nó ☹️ he sees a big potential in me but I don't see that in him but I still enjoy his company
Girlllll stop for a second. Make a list of things you want in a man right now and start finding that guy from the list . Leave this one immediately because you don’t see the potential because he isn’t what you want 😊
I don’t take your videos seriously because you have a very stereotypical view of men. Everything he described in his videos applies to BOTH genders!!!! Attachment and love knows no gender so stop with the crap that men and women are different when it comes to this stuff!
Your not very bright if you don't understand that men and women are diffrent. The fact is they are and denying it just makes you more vulnerable. Men do ,think,respond completely diffrent than women do in most cases.
I “dated” a guy for 2 years and he was very unsure of what he wanted. Im dating someone new and by date 2 he was already talking about taking me off the market and how he wanted exclusivity. Some guys know what they want others don’t.
Same here.
Well be careful… some guys talk lots at the beginning and give bunch of promises just to make you hooked. Actions are important not words.
Be forewarned look up love bombing with narcissist ways... if you see them please turn and run... best of luck
I was dating a guy like a fool for 3yrs not knowing what he wanted. I'm now in a relationship with a beautiful, kind, honest guy with a big heart, knows mine and his worth and made it official after 4months of dating. For the Easter break he is taking me away for the second time this year. His actions always match his words.
Big red flag...
Ahhh my sisters. Please try to protect yourselves at all times. Men see your insecurities and manipulate you to get what they want. YOU ARE WORTHY OF THE VERY BEST ! Never question who you are and what you bring to the table. If he is not good enough let him go. The right one will find his way to you. Promise .# only married for 30 years in May.
Are you happy in your marriage?
congrats 🎉 🎉 🎉 wait 30 yrs ** 🤷 🙃😄😂🤣whaaat
Amen to this!! ❤️
Women do that too
@@BF-bb5us tru 👀
My future hubby lol took me off the market on date 3, and said we should be exclusive. Month 4…started talking “we” a lot! Him bringing up me moving in before the holidays, he’s talking about marriage & called me wifey when he introduced me to someone who was working on his house the other day. He’s also letting me make changes in his house, like picking out backsplash & stuff. We have a big week long vacation planned in October! And he said we should go window shopping to look at rings! Ladies…..this is how in goes down! You’ll have zero doubts about what he wants with you! 💖💖
Too fast, too soon. Simmer down lady
i hope i find this
Thank you 🎉🎉🎉 he just asked me on date 3 to be his gf
Really like the Ferrari example. Also the idea that 6-8 dates is more than enough time for someone to decide if they want to take things to a diff level. Any longer something fishy is going on. Thanks Elliot!
My favorite is how men want to take me off the market in the first two weeks then if I believe their crap about how they’re “falling for me “… that’s when they fail to maintain the level of intensity and basically stop pursuing and just sit back while I fill up their cup with love and attention. Selfish af. … nope. It’s gonna take a lot more than gifts and love bombing to make me yours fellas gotta maintain consistency and put in the work 😊
1000 yeses to every word you yes. Amen.
This is most guys I have dated.. Too old for that BS now so I'm giving up on dating altogether
@@ironwomanforeverold people date too. You've just been dating the wrong people
@@Dahmer_JeffThat is very true. I certainly did before. I am very lucky to have a good man now.
If you're unsure about someone then that's a sign they aren't for you. Cut it of then and there so you can both find what's really meant for you.
There is a new breed of guys....."companizers" not womanizers. Went with someone for a month more than 10 dates including nightstays though nothing physical suddenly when I asked where is it going and he was like I don't want these expectations so won't reach out I said cool. Has been 15 days he didn't reach out so ya done. Know your value. Let them put efforts or we don't need to chase.
Yas queen
nvr chase a man.... nunca.
You need to meet each other half way. It's not realistic one way at all.
Very sorry you dealt with a guy like that. Guys who treat women so casually are junk raised by junk parents who didn't teach him how to value other human life properly. Thieves steal and mishandle jewels without valuing their true worth for anything other than short term selfish one way benefit.
oh god modern dating just sucks!!
Don't over analyse everything, remember that people are human beings. Just enjoy the company if anything not everything has to be heavy.
Real 💯
Jeffrey Dahmer was a human too...
Did it work? Did you get picked?
1st guesses off title / headline alone:
1) proposes!
2) gets down on one knee
3) buys a ring
4) asks your father or father figure or family for their blessing to marry you?
5) takes you shopping for homes you’d share your life or raise kids in…
Am I close?
No lol
In my handbook of dating, no progress means good bye. I wish you all the best in life but I’m out 😁.
Amen!!
I think we should hold out on sex until there is an official title and more trust has developed. Mainly bc a lot of focus goes towards sex to where I feel people forget to learn about the new person versus wondering when they can hop in and get some. With that, people lie about thier status STI wise. I'd be requesting a clinic date or some shit.
@@klddere3734 my point is honesty. Some get lucky, but most people can't mentally deal with giving thier bodies to then still be in the getting to know faze. It's doesn't add up. And it's great ppl can fuck on the first date but you risk a lot more then you do going at a steady pace.
Hold off from sex until you have the commitment. Period.
Do not share your body with someone who cannot commit to sharing much deeper involvement.
💯
That's playing yourself. Some will tell you what you want to get sex and then leave. Holding on it is like a ransom 😂😂😂😂 They will play you.
That's what I am doing and good for you having high standards! I have been single for two years! Clinic date 😂😂😂
I like the way you said it needs to be a normal dude moving at a constant, consistent motion👍🏾
Thank you for differentiating love bombing & manipulations from a real genuine desire to show that investment
The problem is most guys don't know what they want and most don't want relationships because there are so many narcissistic men and women out there. Dating never worked for me. The only long term relationships I have had I was best friends first for 2 years and naturally grew into a relationship from spending so much time together. But both turned out to be abusive narcissists so it ended badly. I learned about manifesting and have an amazing wonderful friend in my life now. 🙏🙌
Genius question!!!! Exactly what are we getting out of the relationship??? Usually not much with the average guy. 🤔
The only relatiosnhip advice I've heard that finally make sense compared to these other "dating coach"
I concur that Ferrari analogy made perfect sense Elliot. Spot on 🥰💪🏼
Great advice! I love the idea of deadlines!
Hair you can run fingers through!! 😂❤️ totally on point with advice as usual
2 years together an he calls me his girlfriend but he doesn’t move forward he’s definitely emotionally unavailable narcissistic traits an I don’t know why I allowed myself to be treated less than by someone I know I could do better than for so long I’m not going to anymore though I’m going to pour the love I gave him without him giving it back into myself it’s so true to know ur worth I’d rather be alone than with someone that’s unsure of me thank you
Going through the same sis 💫Love n Light to you ❤️ let's get outta this and bless them 🙏
Me too🌻
Another great video, thanks. I'm curious to know more about the things your male clients worry about when it comes to us. A lot of the same things, I'm sure, but what would surprise us?
U hit the nail on the head. Thanks
Love the hair!
Thank you Elliot, as usual you give words of wisdom ❤️
Very good points thank you!!
1. His investment. Looks long term and it looks like progression. Consistency towards greater things.
2. And he takes her off of the market.
Hello again...this is all good for new dating but how do you apply your theories to a former partner that's trying to get u back. And when will you do live streams again? Those were so fun👍
So true, thank you!
Damn..too much work. Cheers to a man-free life lol
This answered my question!
Elliott ..women need to develop an awareness of what his actions mean.
He’s right ! From experience Don’t let them use you…
Your hair is always Fabulous 💯😎😉👌
That makes so much sense! 👍
Wow good comparison
So true I been there
Would you say your book on Amazon is still a good book to follow?
Another great video! I agree, fix the clock ⏰
Agh, thanks for that
Can a fwb become a relationship? How would you evolve it? How would you get to that point?
Thanks for taking a shower for me 😂
Elliot... U help a lot of women for years so i will help you... Concealer 👀💜
😂 the dude ain't gonna wear makeup. Maybe better angle and lighting would help
Good looking guy; would luv the beard if it was “cleaned” up; a little trim would work wonders😉.
Is the information free ?
I think there is a time when a guy is ready for a relationship. Example. we'll just say Kyle. Never really dated, always friends with a girl. All of a sudden he hits the age of 28. Now he's actively looking for a car, a house, and a girlfriend. I admire him for waiting until he felt he had some things to offer. He'd been saving his pennies for years and now it's all coming into fruition and you can tell he's excited, he's positive, and he's in just such the right place. He admitted over Valentine's Day; he never had a Valentine until he was 28. I will bet he will be happily married by the time he reaches 30.
Can you talk about long distance relationship????
Waste of time - trust me
Save yourself time and heartbreak and find someone close to you. Yeah I know there may be someone who made it work but seriously not worth the risk.
My last 2 husband's started as long distance. I divorced both of them, fyi. The guy I'm currently with now is also long distance, been together 4 and a half years. He just took a job in my city and is now looking to move here. He wants to marry me too. So I'd say long distance can work, both people have to be strong mentally and emotionally tho, it's not for everyone. Luckily for me I'm a woman that needs a lot of space, so it works out great for me.
I’ve been in two. One for 2.5 years and the other 8 months. It doesn’t workout. Trust me.
@@5325bunny Same!! Except just 4years here. Lol 😁 Congrats & thank you so much for sharing your story.
One thing I cannot unsee is EVERY single video Elliot has, is he wears a black shirt. 🙃
I only wear black shirts until summer.
@@ElliotScottDating That's so Steve Jobs...
Coworkers would be a great video! There’s this guy that I was seeing and then he said he needed time. I still really like him, but I don’t want to reach out to him outside of work. I just don’t know what to say or do and he can do a little hot and cold towards me at work.
I would cut him off. He is playing games. I was in the same situation. But he said he would be too busy. That‘s just an excuse. You just lost energy and time for someone who doesn‘t value it.
I felt after 3 months of holding on to him so tired and just knocked out.
Don’t 💩 where you eat!
Btw just found out the other day he is now seeing someone in another state and that was 3 weeks after we quite talking after work.
I wouldn't date co workers, that's not very wise
You said "if he wants you he would take you off the market".... Not do anything to lose you.....
What if you're boyfriend and girlfriend and he says he loves you but after 6 months he's not mentioned you to his parents?? I feel hurt that he's not even told them about me and question his level of seriousness about me. I've asked him and he goes quiet and said he didn't even mention his previous gf to his parents that he was with for 2yrs. I don't want to be kept a secret and I want to be integrated into his life. I've not even met any of his friends and I know he's from another country and they follow me on Instagram but I've not met anyone and he's not made any plans to. I don't want to keep waiting and investing more months If he's not seeing me in his future long term
Sounds like hes making excuses. You need to be more firm about it. Either get a real explanation or better, action, and if he doesn't show up for you, you have your answer.
His actions are telling you how he fills about you and your intuition is also telling you.
A man who is serious about you will make you part of his life not hide you away. Giving you a title and telling you he loves you is manipulating you into thinking it's serious which will allow him to take something from you that he wants: sex, money, attention.
Also, him going quiet instead of discussing it like a man, this alone shows his maturity level. If you feel confused over the relationship then that's your answer. End it and focus towards someone who does want you part of their life...
Depends on the culture. In my culture, you don't meet parents until it's serious enough where y'all are going to get engaged soon because they will definitely hit you with "what are your intentions with my daughter?" Siblings and friends are completely fine though.
I have a guy friend that was with his ex on and off for 1.5-2 years. Never introduced her either. His reason was because despite loving her, she was a single mom and knew his mom wouldn't like her. ??? My thing is so why were you with her you if had no intentions of taking the relationship to the next level? That's what happens when you let men get comfortable. We stick around through bullshit, disrespect, wishy washy behavior and wonder why they don't take us seriously. Sit your bf down and tell him to communicate WHY. If he cannot or will not, that would be a serious deal breaker for me because communication is #1 in a relationship.
Start seeing other people and let him know about it.
Glad I dumped him
It IS much better with flat hair :)
I’m beginning to question if I’m “the one” for anybody these days?! 😩 It’s funny but not funny. Lol.
I Know it's hard to find a good partner nowadays. But just keep doing what your doing in your life and just be you.💖
@@pinkypie445 so true. Ty
Same. Sadly, I've told myself, everyone isn't meant to be or have "the one," including me :/
Thanks 4truthhhhh
Ha ha, you're so funny!
You are wrong...my aunt's husband took like 6 months to decide whether he wanted to even date my aunt...he hung out with her as friends forever first and then one-day he decided he was in love with my aunt...but it wasn't an instant decision...so you need to go back and look at the data. Not all men are the same...my brother also took forever with his wife. Not all men are like you or know right away...just because you do doesn't mean all men are like you. I think it's much safer for a man to go slowly in deciding. A smart man would...
Here’s the thing men pretty much know if they’re going to marry someone by the first or second mouth 😅
If he liked you, you wouldn’t be watching this right now. You’d know.
He who? Not everyone has a specific person in mind. And some people may use this knowledge for women too not just men. Open your mind
Irrevelent down pushing
Elliot, you look beautiful :)
He took me off the market, invested A LOT….he continued to invest up until today when he broke up with me because he’s unsure and said I deserve 100% when he knows he no longer wants to give me not even 20% of what I give . Things ended amicably and kindly……but I’m confused to be very honest💔
Sounds like he was low key interested in another woman.
You gave too much too fast. He is no longer interested. Something told him you are not the one. You don't want someone who does not want you. Examine your behavior... Move on. Never give to a man. They either support you financially 100% or else they'll dump you eventually. They do it everytime-- even with children. We're you living with him? Had sex before marriage? Then, you wonder why this happens?
He will be back stop txting him no contact
Love bombing and he didn't know what he wanted..you were a band-aid to an issue he didn't want to address within himself...work on YOU and honestly forget this person..if one found you...many betters ones will come along
@@samboriboun2213 Don't take him back--ever.
I've been in a relationship with this guy 5 months and I fell in love with him and he says he loves me to wants to touchy feely me and holding one another no sex and says we're just friends..but if I'm not with him he texts me and calls me and comes over to my house. but he's been saying he wants his ex wife back but I want she doesnt want him buy I do I want to go to the next step and become his girlfriend..ive been staying at his house 4 days a week sleeping on the couch and watching his boys while he works but I gonna quit staying the night because I want more..what can I do?
Girl you have fallen in love so now you are the vulnerable one and will try to do anything to keep him . Think for a second that he wants his wife back . Do you really think he will move on and see your worth ???? NOT HAPPENING.
He's a POS.
And he's using you.
Move on.
You played yourself
If it goes past the 3rd are 4th date. Then walk away.
OK so he does want me but what now? I don't get any benefit from him he's less responsible than me and bit lazy nó ☹️ he sees a big potential in me but I don't see that in him but I still enjoy his company
Girlllll stop for a second. Make a list of things you want in a man right now and start finding that guy from the list . Leave this one immediately because you don’t see the potential because he isn’t what you want 😊
First ☝🏻
What if he made you his girlfriend? How do i know he wants to marry me?
He'll propose
@@sonias9722 hahahaha definitely
get makeup for undereye circles bro
Whoaaa
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Where do u find a guy that isn’t a lie sociopath, narcissist, I Give up
He asked me to be exclusive and his gf on date 3
I like your hair better like this but plz fix the clock geez
👏👏👍😊
Are you single Elliot? Your cute😍
Lol wtf change the title! It has nothing to do with the video
Did you not watch the video? I literally just watched it and I found what it was
where are these mythical creatures hiding?
Hair whack bro
Lol so why are you watching
@@yf8350 it's called a joke buddy.
@@yohanson99 you the joke…
I don’t take your videos seriously because you have a very stereotypical view of men. Everything he described in his videos applies to BOTH genders!!!! Attachment and love knows no gender so stop with the crap that men and women are different when it comes to this stuff!
THEN WHY ARE YOU HERE?? Sounds like ur one of those people who think men get their periods & have babies too. Careful; blue hair dye is toxic 😂
Your not very bright if you don't understand that men and women are diffrent. The fact is they are and denying it just makes you more vulnerable. Men do ,think,respond completely diffrent than women do in most cases.
Men think differently than women that’s why
@@lisabuckner243 lol exactly what I was thinking… lol as soon as I saw that comment I thought: oh, look there’s another obnoxious lgbt person lol