If a man is involved with his exes , ladies please run. This is not ok or acceptable. He does not respect you and the relationship. It won’t end well, so please leave now and don’t waste your time.
Girl run from this man! He’s still messing with his ex and trust me it’s not over. I went though the same thing w/ my ex. And he later confessed he was still in love w/ his ex and wanted her back! I was devastated/ hurt. But the signs were all there! Don’t over look the red flags. You need to leave him alone!
I'll say it again for all us lonely girls in the back - The most valuable thing a woman possesses IS...HER...TIME!!! Kudos to this young lady for pulling up the ladder. Don't let any man work through his relationship confusion on your dime.
Soooo true. I found out he was on the phone with his ex for over 1hr 20mins I end the relationship rt there and blocked his ass from all platforms and he didn’t even try to make it rt. He went Ghost! Always trust your gut feeling and never lower standards for someone’s short comings. His mistakes mad me stronger 💯💝
I was with someone who couldn’t stop being “best friends” with his ex. They had kids together then we had kids together and long story short. We’re not together, I’m hurt and their “best friends” still. I think they are in love with each other but she has a baby with someone else and he has kids with me and I regret it. So much. I wish I would have ended it when my gut told me to. And now I’m hurt and two kids
My ex fiancé had a relationship with his ex. They worked together, had lunch together. She was his confidant. She watched his dog when he visited me. She also tailored his clothes. She had a baby with another guy with whom she lived.. He didn’t want kids. My fiancé’s family invited her to all family events including holidays. She was in business with his brother-in-law. His sisters ignored me but talked to her and said she was another sister. We even had to double date with her. When i told him it was all too much for me, he said he loved her and she would be in his life forever. He said I was just being weird and jealous. She told me that he was a ass and didn’t know how to treat women. It all came to a head at his brother’s destination wedding when she and her partner came. Hardy any friends were there, just family and there she was. Worse, his sister invited her to go to the spa together. They signed up for activities together. They left me out on purpose and my fiancé told me I was just being too sensitive. It was an awful time. I realized this would be my life. When we got back from the trip, he called and broke our engagement. I felt relief. Don’t let a guy gaslight you. You aren’t being sensitive or jealous. It’s a problem. Run!
I had to stop this podcast to address this subject. It amazes me that most of the e-mail writers have their answers before even writing! Sister Queen... Trust your gut instincts. Your answers are within you. Mr. Gaskins THANK YOU for confirming what she and most of your family of listeners already know. I am a new listener and listen every day now. You are encouraging and motivational. May God continue to Bless you and family. Be Blessed! 🌹
It sounds like they are on a break to see how it would be if they aren't in a relationship because they still care a great deal for each other. Eventually, they probably will get back together and this young lady would probably be the one hurt on the other end. If his ex was just his friend and he was in love with this lady, he would break off that friendship to make her comfortable and he's not. She did the right thing by breaking things off.
I had a boyfriend like this. I said lose contact with her, or we are done. We eventually broke up over something else, and he wanted to remain friends. NO thanks!
My ex girl left me for my best ex friend but that was in 2006 it was terrible I left that behind it is what it is.m. it took me 5 years to recover i used to drink everyday I was even about to die one day I woke up and said she's not worth I seen the light.... but now I feel better cause she's out of my system and it feels good now I'm with a love she's so different than all of my other 3 girls I don't know how to explain it but what ever happened to me in the past was only lessons.... Just wanted to shared my story if I can let go an ex you can as well let them go those who cheat someday they'll face their own karma and yep my ex her guy just left her for another girl Remember what goes around comes around that's how it goes do back it comes back to you do good and also comes back to you that's why I do my best to do good doing bad will only harm you back
Thank you so much for this. My relationship ended recently because my boyfriend didn't let go of his best friend/ex girlfriend. They were friends a long time ago, dated for a couple of weeks and ended. They got back to being friends after a few years tho. I wasn't ok with it. I tried to compromise on it, but we kept having arguments because of her. In the end I said that she needs to go. Well, safe to say that I left because he did not give up on her. It was heartbreaking 😔. What's even more confusing is how heartbroken he seems, considering that he let the relationship end because of her.
I was actually the girlfriend to my ex, and honestly, both of us moved on to other relationships, but NEVER really LET EACH OTHER GO! It cost both of us relationships that were genuinely good to us and for us. Lesson: EVEN IF YOU THINK YOU ARE OVER SOMEONE STILL DO NOT DATE ANYONE FOR A WHILE. SOMETIMES ( JUST SOMETIMES) THE LENGHT OF TIME YOU WERE WITH THIS PERSON CAN DETERMINE HOW MUCH IS NEEDED TO HEAL DIVIDED BY 2 ~ I had known my ex since the age of 14...so we practically grew up together!! ☆ Be wise when entering into something new and opening a flood of emotions with a new person when your ex-boyfriend (or) ex-girlfriend still holds significant space in your heart 7 days a week! ( speaking from a place of regret and wisdom) !!
Ty. I agree. Cuz he has an emotional affair somewhat or emotionally unavailable to his girl. He is comfy wit long distance and no physical . It must be fine for their love language. That ex is having agenda. And we know most women are very hopeful. Yup. I have so many clients and hear same stories . I also had a connection and cuz im intuitive i can see whos tryin to hide and or have inappropriate connections. I agree. Cut soul ties.. God doesnt want us in confusion.
I was in a very similar situation. My now exBF was close friends with his ex. And she was single, which really bothered me. I told my boyfriend that I wouldn't have a problem with it if his ex was in a relationship or married... because then I'd know her partner wouldn't have a problem with them still being close. But that obviously wasn't the case. My boyfriend would go to her house every Friday to let her dogs out for her while she was at work. When she had a tree fall down in her yard, he went over there are removed it. She was a yoga instructor, and the one time of him doing yoga at her studio to support her 1st class, turned into him going to her class every Sunday. He was always upfront about everything and told me neither of them had feelings for each other. But it always bothered me that she ended things with him and he still wanted her as a friend. He told me they lived together for a year; and half of the relationship was more like a platonic roommate situation. He said she had back problems and they stopped even sharing a bed, and she slept on the couch. He also said she would never want to touch him in bed and would sleep with her arms crossed if they slept together. So their physical intimacy was very unfulfilling for him. At the time, he was a full-time student, so I think he just kept living with her because he didn't have any place else to live unless he moved back in with his parents. However, she was the one who said she wasn't feeling things anymore (he said he agreed), and it was an amicable breakup. He dated a girl after her for 6 months, but I have no idea how much he still hung out or talked with his ex girlfriend during that time. About 2 months into our relationship, he said he would like me to meet his old girlfriend that he was still friends with. He said he wasn't the type to stay friends with exes, but this ex was the one exception and things ended very friendly and amiable and they absolutely didn't have romantic feelings for each other. He went on to say that she had been seeing and guy after him, and it didn't work out. So it gave me some reassurance that they were friends enough to talk about other love interests with one another. During the 6 months of us dating, it was apparent that he still talked to her regularly and depended on her for advice and an emotional support system. This is something that really bothered me. He tried to reassure me that anything he did for her, was the same as how he would treat any other close friend. He also said I was always invited to come to yoga with him at her class. But if it made uncomfortable, he was still going to go because he liked yoga and he was also supporting his friend's class. So he saw it as a win/win. Any thoughts on this??
Tell him to set boundaries, if he cares about you he will listen. You are his gf and he is his ex he should set your relation above that friendship. Tell him how that makes you feel? Wat boundiaries should be there? Girl this has been a year did you manage to make your relation work? Good vibes to you!
@@Urla398 No...we got back together during the beginning of the Pandemic...so his exGF wasn't even around... I honestly don't know why he ended it...again. He just said he hadn't been happy. He broke up with me literally the next morning after we had spend the night together and he called me his girlfriend again for the first time and said he was glad I came over. So who knows??? We haven't seen each other now in 7 months. I emailed him some Covid-19 vaccine information 2 weeks ago because I was concerned about his parents... And he responded right away and said he hoped I was doing well. I didn't respond. And he hasn't reached out again.
Just like when the Most High doesn’t want us two-steppin in the world and in His kingdom, what makes it okay for men/or women to be two-steppin with their partner and ex?
This guy has been trying to talk to me for the longest I finally agreed to go on a date with him randomly and he went out with me friday and his ex the next day then me again on sunday😳 and they are in contact everyday ive seen messages of them going out of dates and hanging out way too often he says she is dating someone but she says shes “talking to someone” huge difference and if so why is he around so much 👁 she knows about me and told him just tell her we are nothing i am talking to someone too so she understands but they were definitely talking more than just friends people are crazy😳
The stuff I’ve learned I wish I knew bk then. Ppl do what they want to do. Solution: go get you a guy friend or become friends with an ex as well Simple
Yeah, you can do that, but it's toxic. It's easier to just move on. Unless you're proving a point temporarily. Then by all means get yours and F him. Break up with him immediately and live your best life free from toxicity. Blessings
If a man is involved with his exes , ladies please run. This is not ok or acceptable. He does not respect you and the relationship. It won’t end well, so please leave now and don’t waste your time.
I learned this the hard way. Now when dating if a man has an ex as a best friend or keeps all his exs as friends.... I run!!!!!
Urbanista Coco I learned the hard way as well!! That’s why it’s a no no for me in my new relationship
Absolutely and often a sign that he is incapable or just doesn't want a real relationship
Don't let him waste your time, he's still involved with his x.
Girl run from this man! He’s still messing with his ex and trust me it’s not over. I went though the same thing w/ my ex. And he later confessed he was still in love w/ his ex and wanted her back! I was devastated/ hurt. But the signs were all there! Don’t over look the red flags. You need to leave him alone!
When you know better you do better. You dodged a bullet. Have no doubts. Thank God for women's intuition!
I'll say it again for all us lonely girls in the back - The most valuable thing a woman possesses IS...HER...TIME!!! Kudos to this young lady for pulling up the ladder. Don't let any man work through his relationship confusion on your dime.
this is really eye opening. a lot of women need to hear this. thank you for sharing this bro!
Kyle Hedges TV. .A lot of guys need to hear this, too!!!!!!!
Sorry I mispronounced your name..Kyle Hodges
Thanks Kyle.
🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 This message has me thinking.....it’s time to cut off my ex husband.....
Me too
So true... Once you have been involved deeply with someone those ties are never fully broken. You have to go no contact to be emotionally healthy.
Soooo true. I found out he was on the phone with his ex for over 1hr 20mins I end the relationship rt there and blocked his ass from all platforms and he didn’t even try to make it rt. He went Ghost! Always trust your gut feeling and never lower standards for someone’s short comings. His mistakes mad me stronger 💯💝
I was with someone who couldn’t stop being “best friends” with his ex. They had kids together then we had kids together and long story short. We’re not together, I’m hurt and their “best friends” still. I think they are in love with each other but she has a baby with someone else and he has kids with me and I regret it. So much. I wish I would have ended it when my gut told me to. And now I’m hurt and two kids
My ex fiancé had a relationship with his ex. They worked together, had lunch together. She was his confidant. She watched his dog when he visited me. She also tailored his clothes. She had a baby with another guy with whom she lived.. He didn’t want kids. My fiancé’s family invited her to all family events including holidays. She was in business with his brother-in-law. His sisters ignored me but talked to her and said she was another sister. We even had to double date with her. When i told him it was all too much for me, he said he loved her and she would be in his life forever. He said I was just being weird and jealous. She told me that he was a ass and didn’t know how to treat women. It all came to a head at his brother’s destination wedding when she and her partner came. Hardy any friends were there, just family and there she was. Worse, his sister invited her to go to the spa together. They signed up for activities together. They left me out on purpose and my fiancé told me I was just being too sensitive. It was an awful time. I realized this would be my life. When we got back from the trip, he called and broke our engagement. I felt relief. Don’t let a guy gaslight you. You aren’t being sensitive or jealous. It’s a problem. Run!
I had to stop this podcast to address this subject. It amazes me that most of the e-mail writers have their answers before even writing! Sister Queen... Trust your gut instincts. Your answers are within you. Mr. Gaskins THANK YOU for confirming what she and most of your family of listeners already know. I am a new listener and listen every day now. You are encouraging and motivational. May God continue to Bless you and family. Be Blessed! 🌹
It sounds like they are on a break to see how it would be if they aren't in a relationship because they still care a great deal for each other. Eventually, they probably will get back together and this young lady would probably be the one hurt on the other end. If his ex was just his friend and he was in love with this lady, he would break off that friendship to make her comfortable and he's not. She did the right thing by breaking things off.
I had a boyfriend like this. I said lose contact with her, or we are done. We eventually broke up over something else, and he wanted to remain friends. NO thanks!
This is what o needed for today, he answered my question to the tee. Seek and you shall find. Thank you Tony!!
Girl please run don’t go back the enemy is real slick run girlfriend
My ex girl left me for my best ex friend but that was in 2006 it was terrible I left that behind it is what it is.m. it took me 5 years to recover i used to drink everyday I was even about to die one day I woke up and said she's not worth I seen the light.... but now I feel better cause she's out of my system and it feels good now I'm with a love she's so different than all of my other 3 girls I don't know how to explain it but what ever happened to me in the past was only lessons.... Just wanted to shared my story if I can let go an ex you can as well let them go those who cheat someday they'll face their own karma and yep my ex her guy just left her for another girl
Remember what goes around comes around that's how it goes do back it comes back to you do good and also comes back to you that's why I do my best to do good doing bad will only harm you back
This situation is all too familiar!!! Cut them off
Thank you so much for this. My relationship ended recently because my boyfriend didn't let go of his best friend/ex girlfriend. They were friends a long time ago, dated for a couple of weeks and ended. They got back to being friends after a few years tho. I wasn't ok with it. I tried to compromise on it, but we kept having arguments because of her. In the end I said that she needs to go. Well, safe to say that I left because he did not give up on her. It was heartbreaking 😔. What's even more confusing is how heartbroken he seems, considering that he let the relationship end because of her.
That's because he was in love with her. Men and women fall in love after being "friends" for a time.
I was actually the girlfriend to my ex, and honestly, both of us moved on to other relationships, but NEVER really LET EACH OTHER GO!
It cost both of us relationships that were genuinely good to us and for us.
Lesson: EVEN IF YOU THINK YOU ARE OVER SOMEONE STILL DO NOT DATE ANYONE FOR A WHILE. SOMETIMES ( JUST SOMETIMES) THE LENGHT OF TIME YOU WERE WITH THIS PERSON CAN DETERMINE HOW MUCH IS NEEDED TO HEAL DIVIDED BY 2
~ I had known my ex since the age of 14...so we practically grew up together!!
☆ Be wise when entering into something new and opening a flood of emotions with a new person when your ex-boyfriend (or) ex-girlfriend still holds significant space in your heart 7 days a week!
( speaking from a place of regret and wisdom) !!
i needed to hear this! THANK YOU!
Amazing!!! God is definitely using you to help woman out there. This exactly what I tried to tell my ex, you cannot be friends with an ex
This kinda sitation happened so many WOMAN.. THANK you. Good to hear this...
I love how you just get to the point with your video, I really enjoy listening to you
Yes hunny let this GO! Don't even waste your time!
She's a rebound
Ty. I agree. Cuz he has an emotional affair somewhat or emotionally unavailable to his girl. He is comfy wit long distance and no physical
. It must be fine for their love language. That ex is having agenda. And we know most women are very hopeful. Yup. I have so many clients and hear same stories . I also had a connection and cuz im intuitive i can see whos tryin to hide and or have inappropriate connections. I agree. Cut soul ties.. God doesnt want us in confusion.
Thank you for this information
He writes a program every week??? That's definitely an excuse to keep in contact. My trainer writes the month
Spot on.
I was in a very similar situation. My now exBF was close friends with his ex. And she was single, which really bothered me. I told my boyfriend that I wouldn't have a problem with it if his ex was in a relationship or married... because then I'd know her partner wouldn't have a problem with them still being close. But that obviously wasn't the case. My boyfriend would go to her house every Friday to let her dogs out for her while she was at work. When she had a tree fall down in her yard, he went over there are removed it. She was a yoga instructor, and the one time of him doing yoga at her studio to support her 1st class, turned into him going to her class every Sunday. He was always upfront about everything and told me neither of them had feelings for each other. But it always bothered me that she ended things with him and he still wanted her as a friend. He told me they lived together for a year; and half of the relationship was more like a platonic roommate situation. He said she had back problems and they stopped even sharing a bed, and she slept on the couch. He also said she would never want to touch him in bed and would sleep with her arms crossed if they slept together. So their physical intimacy was very unfulfilling for him. At the time, he was a full-time student, so I think he just kept living with her because he didn't have any place else to live unless he moved back in with his parents. However, she was the one who said she wasn't feeling things anymore (he said he agreed), and it was an amicable breakup. He dated a girl after her for 6 months, but I have no idea how much he still hung out or talked with his ex girlfriend during that time. About 2 months into our relationship, he said he would like me to meet his old girlfriend that he was still friends with. He said he wasn't the type to stay friends with exes, but this ex was the one exception and things ended very friendly and amiable and they absolutely didn't have romantic feelings for each other. He went on to say that she had been seeing and guy after him, and it didn't work out. So it gave me some reassurance that they were friends enough to talk about other love interests with one another. During the 6 months of us dating, it was apparent that he still talked to her regularly and depended on her for advice and an emotional support system. This is something that really bothered me. He tried to reassure me that anything he did for her, was the same as how he would treat any other close friend. He also said I was always invited to come to yoga with him at her class. But if it made uncomfortable, he was still going to go because he liked yoga and he was also supporting his friend's class. So he saw it as a win/win. Any thoughts on this??
Amber McQuiston leave him! He is in love with her
Tell him to set boundaries, if he cares about you he will listen. You are his gf and he is his ex he should set your relation above that friendship. Tell him how that makes you feel? Wat boundiaries should be there? Girl this has been a year did you manage to make your relation work? Good vibes to you!
@@Urla398 Nope. We broke up...got back together and broke up again. He dumped me both times... Nothing was because of his exGF...
@@AmberMcQuiston what was it your trust issue? I don't think so!
@@Urla398 No...we got back together during the beginning of the Pandemic...so his exGF wasn't even around... I honestly don't know why he ended it...again. He just said he hadn't been happy. He broke up with me literally the next morning after we had spend the night together and he called me his girlfriend again for the first time and said he was glad I came over. So who knows??? We haven't seen each other now in 7 months. I emailed him some Covid-19 vaccine information 2 weeks ago because I was concerned about his parents... And he responded right away and said he hoped I was doing well. I didn't respond. And he hasn't reached out again.
You don't own him and you cannot control who someone talks to. Control you and be the best you. Build a friendship first.
These people need to move on...
Just like when the Most High doesn’t want us two-steppin in the world and in His kingdom, what makes it okay for men/or women to be two-steppin with their partner and ex?
This guy has been trying to talk to me for the longest I finally agreed to go on a date with him randomly and he went out with me friday and his ex the next day then me again on sunday😳 and they are in contact everyday ive seen messages of them going out of dates and hanging out way too often he says she is dating someone but she says shes “talking to someone” huge difference and if so why is he around so much 👁 she knows about me and told him just tell her we are nothing i am talking to someone too so she understands but they were definitely talking more than just friends people are crazy😳
Update???
God this was good. Clarity!
💯 Keep it real
Serial friend dater....cringe........
J. T right!!!
What if children are involved?
Do you want your children to grow up in a toxic environment?
Facts
Good video Tony..do you do livestreams
The stuff I’ve learned I wish I knew bk then. Ppl do what they want to do. Solution: go get you a guy friend or become friends with an ex as well
Simple
Yeah, you can do that, but it's toxic. It's easier to just move on. Unless you're proving a point temporarily. Then by all means get yours and F him. Break up with him immediately and live your best life free from toxicity. Blessings
NOPE