Steve Chapman Agreed. The woman he was interested in has the mindset of a 23 year old. And so do so many females into their 30’s. She sucks. And there are far better than her out there. If a woman let a couple days go by after sleeping with me without much of a response, I’d just never see her again. And I have had zero problems getting a much higher quality women to love and stay in relationships with me. He needed to screen her out and forget her fast. The real mistake was seeking her attention or validation afterward at all.
I think when we text them a lot But they don't respond and we keep texting them until they respond Cuz we're just worried for them Hate when women don't text you first and you always have to text them first
@@PMMagro exactly.if she didn't like you or think you're interesting she wouldn't waste her time (or yours) testing you....she's testing you to see if you are the man for her as you have "something" that peaked her interest in the 1st place so as counter intuitave as it may sound take the fact she's testing you as a compliment.
Your aggressive put-Downs show you Are a Real loser. You Are a bully and emotionally abusive. You Are reacting to women having power. You can’t Had let it. Too bad, Grow up.
Dude you have issues , when any topic under the sun is in your face but only can think about ‘women bringing to the table ‘ ... try meeting a lady with employment ?
Bravo. Exactly the point. And they wonder why they can't get or keep married? I met a young american woman on holiday in thailand by herself. Just being friendly we chatted . She said she had a boyfriend back home she loved / had been dating longtime. She was 28. Was on a 3 month asian holiday by herself after completing uni that daddy paid for ( obviously), and was thinking getting married and starting a family was now about the right time. When asked if she thought it was normal or appropriate to abandon ones lover for 3 months non essential parting .she said she is independent / likes her way , and would rebel if he didnt let her do her own thing. I, me, myself. Go girl! Best of luck with that attitude.
Being in love with a girl makes you do some stupid needy things, it makes you want to spent all the time with her and care too much for her, which in turn pushes her away from you. Bottom line, you could never be with someone you love because you would care too much and that would push her away... Great.
Not true, though. I was head over heels in love with my ex. She was the center of my world, and she knew it. But, I also always (naturally) maintained the masculine frame with her, so, her attraction and respect for me never wavered. But, you need to find a girl whom your masculinity is superior to hers, and its sufficient to compliment her femininity.
We men tend to over care and give too much attention. I'm in an ldr 2 years and am fighting this balance between showing love and not being too smothering. Never met her yet. My invalid wife likes her mostly
Funny to see how quick a man's "insecurity" can kill the woman's "attraction", while on the other hand how women constantly demand from men to always find the proper answer to their own insecurities.
You beat me to it. I was thinking the same thing. Wanting a woman to pay attention to you is a huge turn off because it makes you needy and insecure. So tell her to leave you alone I guess. Trying to decipher their bullshit just isn't worth it. The juice is very rarely worth the squeeze. They generally have a very inflated opinion of themselves. If I have to pretend to be something that I'm not then what's the point? She won't like the real you anyway.
Yeah men find that unattractive too. If i have a girlfriend who us insecure all the time and is constantly seeking validation, then it’s bye bye to her😂
You dicks are Mad Because you want to be The center of attention always. No. You won’t be. Men like you need anti-depressants. You need to find your own energy and quit wanting to suck a woman’s life. Forget that.
Bruh that's like 2% of how the world works. In other words, a long time waiting while no action is taking place. Since cave days, the penis's run the show. And I don't know about you, but sitting back and letting them pursue makes them a little skanky and easy in my book.
Just when you finally feel a connection with this one special woman and think things are going somewhere, the woman stabs you in the back and pulls away. But it's not her insecurities. Oh, no! It's yours...
Roshes aii Webster’s dictionary - Start there. If that’s still not enough to define a word use common sense. Maturity should be pretty self explanatory unless you’re not that mature. Gain experience. Don’t be afraid to fail. Just do the work and get out of your comfort zone. The rewards are well worth it. Who cares how many no’s you get? Learn from them. Keep reading, keep watching videos, keep practicing. Try some less attractive girls who probably aren’t used to people talking to them as much. Their standards could be lower. Most of them could become good friends or turn out to be more than meets the eye. Build your confidence. Get out there.
@@ligerllama I agree semantics aren't necessary for this topic. If one thinks they have a more in depth meaning, that's cool, but they shouldn't act like they don't know the common interpretation of it lol.
I think this woman did the guy a favour actually. Imagine he show her his needs her later on, then she will be gone with the wind. She will be better off with a guy without any feelings, insecurities, or "neediness" at all, a psychopath fits that description perfectly.
First of all, if a woman told me she "wasn't sure she wanted a relationship". That's it for me. After two or three dates and she says this... she obviously isn't into me! My response would have been, "Okay, when you figure it out, get back to me." Then I walk. I will never be desperate enough to beg for a relationship. A forced relationship is a disaster from the word go!
@j b keeping your options open isn't being desperate. Matter fact, acting like you don't care will come off as you trying to hide what would be a reasonable feeling. It wouldn't come off as desperate, but it would come off as butt hurt.
Tyson Harris Right! Exactly....I'm not sure if I want a relationship means...."Let me see if there is anything else out there, and if there isn't...then I'm ready". If you ain't ready after a couple of dates you ain't gonna be ready later. I'm out when a woman says that.
If she ain't sure keep her as option , go out with other womens and if other womens feels better to you , when she calls ( and she will 99% ) say sorry I m dating someone else now . Very simple
I would go as far to say, anything negative can kill attraction. Stay positive my brothers. Your outcome will always be better. Relationships, business, health, all things!
True but thats just women doing women type thing aka Shit tests. Still no reason for the guy to get insecure. He just needs to show up and dig her guts out so she begs for him to meet again!
@@AdemJashari56 She probably didn't text him for 2 days bcuz she already noticed unhealthy insecurities in his behavior and she was already losing some level of interest; but, she still had enough interest in him to go on another date.
@@ibrahimgood3167 Imo.. It's in everyone's best interest to find a woman who is into you (with or without) the sex. If a womans attachment to you is centered upon great sex, then, it can turn into an addiction. There's no stability to such a relationship. Instead, do the necessary work required to strengthen the relationship on deeper, more meaningful levels.
Having made some of these same mistakes myself, I've come to the conclusion that text messaging is the WORST form of communication ever invented. So much can be misconstrued. There's no facial expressions, no body language, no intonation. Keep text messages brief and to the point. They should only be used to arrange the next in-person meeting.
I have to agree with you I hate text messaging, and if you have something to say say it to my face, do not write me a book via text message because I will not read it
The problem with this is that he was right. There was a reason why he was insecure. She was just playing with him and if he keeps going along with it, she will take you for granted and jump on the next guy who is nonchalant towards her.
No man wants to do all the work in a relationship either. Thats a common problem I see. Relationships develop and then the guy is left doin all the work to make it happen. Its takes 2 to tango. From personal exp in relationships I done the work and the woman didnt do anything, then flip the tables on the women, they get pissed off and throw accusations at the man. Its a dog eat dog world, the women dont give an effort dont the expect the man to keep giving an effort. You only get out of a relationship what you put into it.
Hi Guys! I'm so sorry about the one curse word in this video. I know some of you don't like curse words but I don't script my videos and I get so passionate about these things that sometimes I get in the zone. I try not to ever curse but in this one I did. HAHA xoxo
You should curse more, it makes the point. Its how people react. Trying to keep it too professional is misleading. as people don't react to each other like they are in business meetings.
The problem is incompatible personalities. Men become insecure when they start developing strong feelings for a female. Women want men who aren’t insecure yet show a great deal of desire for the female. One of the reasons why relationships don’t last is because this idea conflicts with human biology. It’s human nature to protect things in which we find great value. It is only when we find something that’s worth keeping do we fear it’s loss. While I’m aware that some people have a tendency to become neurotic or possessive in the unhealthy sense, men need to know how much effort and investment should be allocated for these efforts. This is why it’s important to have somewhat of a similar outlook in this aspect of dating. If one person is looking for something serious and the other with contrasting goals, it’s not optimal. While the following comment isn’t really directed just at women, based on the video content I’ll address it as such. Women must understand that men who aren’t insecure is that way for a reason, they either don’t care due to conflicting goals, confident in their ability to move on, or more rarely confident while committed. The last one isn’t as common as women prefer to believe. The less a person needs you, the easier it is for them to move on when the level of difficultly is higher than their threshold of tolerance and every relationship has such obstacles. Insecurity is a weakness yet it plays a distinct role in protecting the relationship during tumultuous times. While it’s true that the guy in the video example may have been overbearing too early. While it’s important to make some minor adjustments to your behavior, one shouldn’t drastically change who they are, because you just end up playing games resulting in bitter feelings in the end. While this relationship didn’t work out, it may be good that it didn’t and they’re better off finding more compatible personalities. In relationships, if you have to try that hard especially in the beginning, it may not be worth it. A person is better off investing their efforts elsewhere where that mindset is appreciated.
Getting to know yourself would always be my message for everyone. Who are you, what do you like, and just finding yourself. All before getting in a relationship. We are all only human. Insecurities is pretty tough but once one realizes, it takes continuous work. Thank you for the video.
last time a woman did that to me i replied to her. Im glad you found your phone back. Anyways i still had sex with her 4 times just because and when i got bored of her adios, no phone call, no message nothing. At first i tough i found someone, but after that 2d bs, yeah just another one to smash. Its disrespectful as fuck, not answering someone for that long, unless its a formal conversation.
Moral of the story, no need to be pushy toward a woman that has already shown in interest to you! It makes you look weak and needy. The guy in the story needed to show that he has his own life and not just putting the woman a pedestal.
He already smached it. He had nothing to lose. By openning up quickly to see what they do with it before you're invested in her. Why wait his time with her if she doesn't appreciate kindness.
@@adj5767 @A.D.D. it's competitive for women to gain a good man and keep him happy. But if you do he will give you all he has for you. So if you think it's childish to line up an A and B team of women to select from, I respect your opinion.
AD J.... it has proven a thousand times that it works that way, until the equal rights came along🤦🏾♂️... But in reality a man supposed to have a dozen
Just focus on yourself. I might or might not have time for this and also sometimes you make yourself time (even when there is none). For me at least it is not time but energy. If it takes endless energy and gives none it's a waste of time. That seems to be what happend to her here, "this is not worth the effort anymore".
1. Be your authentic self to emanate authentic energy. 2. Be present and not in the future (anxious) or past (depressed), focused on HER. Breathe properly or discern body sensations. You become self expressive when present. 3. Be curious about the female and actually enjoy interacting. Have the urge to learn about her. 4. Be unorthodox with your methods. Women notice different men. Tease instead of praise. 5. Realize that women reactive emotional creatures, ask emotional based questions. 6. Do not worry about the things to say but rather focus on how to say things. Be descriptive with voice tonality. Never raise your voice towards he ends of your sentence. 7. Reality is a reflection of your perception. 8. Women can subconsciously detect an insecure, low self esteem soy boy through the vibe and nonverbal cues that us men are unconscious. 9. A conversation is an exchange of emotions and energy/vibe. So be positive, cool, calm and collected. If you're anxious she will get anxious. Energy is contagious. 10. Hold onto your reality, do not let criticism or ridicule taint your state of mind. 12. Realize that the brain has a negativity bias, we naturally are inclined towards the negative. 13. Take nonverbal communication (facial expressions, facial gestures, body language) into consideration when communicating; psychology affects physiology. 11. Read the art of seduction by Robert Greene. 12. Convert your self critic into self compassion (love yourself); instead of berating yourself treat yourself with encouragement, kindness or warmth. Become your best friend. 13. If you know yourself and your target there is no uncertainty thus fear. The brain cannot deal with uncertainty. 14. Speak slower, nod slower and take pauses before speaking. 15. Women don't remember what was said but rather how they felt. 16. Pat yourself on the back because you are part of the small percentage of confident men partaking in game. 17. Get in a playful state because remember females are like any other human they want to have fun. 18. Remember that you are like a movie add suspense, love, comedy, action and adventure. Take things slow, be deliberate and spontaneous. Do not spoil the movie. 19. Mirror her body language and tone to build instant rapport. Build trust through non judgment and by making her feel comfortable. 20. Make warm confident eye contact, the eyes are the window to the soul. 21. Never treat women as a superior but as an equal or subordinate. Women are just normal people with vaginas who can plague you with potential child support, nothing more. 22. Expect her to like you. 23. Make her love herself via compliments or hints; women are all insecure about their appearance. Giving her reassurance builds attraction. 24. Do not focus on the outcome, but the process. Eliminate expectations. 25. Dress to impress women make predetermined notions about you and who you are via appearance. Manipulate your image. 26. Possess power (status, wealth, expertise, strength), warmth (compassion, empathy) and presence (being in the moment). 27. Screen, screen, screen. Not all women are the same. Figure her type out and cater to her desires. 28. Women fall in love with you when they are thinking about you not when you are with them so make an impression. 29. Make her feel as if she is lucky you even approached her. 30. Do not take yourself so serious. Dissolve the ego (negative software). Enjoy my brethren, been in the game since 5th grade. Lost it in the womb ;)
I've seen this with a lot of guys and it's something I've never understood, but at the same time it's something I could have been guilty of but haven't, but not on purpose lol. I've been the type to kinda develop feeling quickly towards women, but when the situation gets to what the email describes I do the opposite. The whole "should I see you" thing I just don't get. In my mind I would have been like "ok, she is ignoring me, guess I'll ignore her too", wouldn't have sent another email, and would mentally be preparing myself that if she doesn't respond at some point then it's time to move on.
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This is the misinterpretation of the century. The guy obviously has some set of values and it ain't got anything to do with insecureities. A girl taking more than 24 hours to reply to a message is having different priorities and no real interest in a guy. Also, a lack of respect. Just ignore her if this is reoccurring behavior and move on.
Camille Warren - You’re the same woman that would laugh at him when he gets divorce raped. Unfortunately, he’s too inexperienced and immature to realize it.
If you do not hear from a woman in a couple of days, that´s her giving in to some more flirts she has on her job/school, gym, parkinglot, the food market, her hood, car reapair shop, dancehall, gasstation etc. Yes, you´re not the only one. You will never bee.
Wrong unless you’re married you shouldn’t need to bother her until you need to meet-up or something interesting happened that you and her will bond over aka something funny ur dog did. Just fucking a girl for months and would go all week the Thursday wshe would message me the next day id turn up at hers then off all week untill we met the next week and nowadays we have a healthy relationship and never rushed her relationships take time as soon as u try rush it and convince yourself that its been two days and it’s over so u hassle her when she’s busy she not interested but inly cos u flopped it showing her how insecure u are
because she only went 2 days without texting him? That's BS. Its the man who was insecure on his own and has to do his inner work before ever trying to speak to a woman he likes again
Clearly she was testing him and he fell for it. If only he knew better that most women will play these games on men to see if they break down or not. I hope he learned a lesson.
Word. I'm dating a 20 year old goddess who doesn't want a relationship yet is sexually loyal to me (I hope). She has no clue she'll be old looking to me in 2 years and she'd be wise to fall in love now or forget it.
why is it always the guy that has to do everything right ? women want validation they want to be equal yet often they act like they are the ALPHA and you have to earn them ? its all about them, what they want, how they feel, what they dont like blah blah , and you do the slightest thing wrong and they can call end of game in an instant. this wasnt the case centuries ago the shoe was on the other foot. women wanted and tried to win over men but now a man is sooo putting himself out just to please and impress a woman its quite sickening when we think about it" why should these women have so much dam power ?
Hello Appollonia;-) Happy Friday! Great video. If she doesn't text you after your last text. Try to reach out to another lady that you are also interested in. Show your confidence men. You're the prize/man.
You're right girl..... this guy is doing it wrong! First off, first date.... take her somewhere different, forget food and traditional . At this point the guy is calling the shots never her, connect with her emotionally. Just when things are clicking .... end the date!!!! 2 days to return a text has not interested and game player all over it. I don't care how much you like them if it takes her 2 days to return a text then trust me you're wasting your time. Go get you one that has been taught respect because that one will never work out for you!
When i read or listen to the requirements needed to make a woman to get a even relationship, i feel like giving up. Almost like if you make any mistake, you will fall off something with your head. Mistakes are made, no one is perfect. We have rain and sunny seasons.
Bro, it's not that complicated. Never beg, be loyal to yourself and just fucking do your own stuff and try to be the best at it. If you the girl you like doesn't correspond how you truly are, then there's no need for you to seek her.
You are unbelievable amazing at helping men find and actively work on their insecurities.... I haven’t heard you say anything that wasn’t relatable... I have been watching all your vids and they have been extremely helpful with understanding my own past mistakes and how I can correct my attitude.. your beautiful and I love you apollonia!!!
Blunt and to the point, just the way I like it. Thanks for another great episode. I do not nor have I ever been needy and insecure with my current relationship. We both have very busy careers and see each other about two-three times a month. In fact, we've cancelled just as many dates as we've been on because of conflicting work schedules and other family matters. Guys just need to realize, women have lives too, sometimes very busy.
Dear Apolllonia. The girl waited 2 days to reply which is a clear indicator of non intererest. Obviously either 1) was not that interested 2) was playing mind games both are not a good sign for the man. So, I don’t understand why do you blame the man, when clearly she wasn’t into him in the first place ( or perhaps was just looking for a shag or emotional validation ). And then set up this “trap”, knowing he would have this reaction. If she had real interest, she would’ve wanted to meet him regardless of the texting. So yap, the guy did well in the long term. It’s not his or her fault that things didn’t worked out. Just move on
@j b how much time do you think we have between work school and gym? Why can't women be mature and say what they want...because they dont know what they want!
@j b agreed...she told him she would be busy with work...maybe her work involved conferences and late dinners with clients (clients at conferences her company were hosting and genuinely couldn't get away /had to attend)...she did text him back and she was still interested and wanted to see him but instead of playing it cool and just relaxing he got all bitchy and needy...ofcourse that's going to turn her off.
hanzo hattori Riiiiggghhht because no one is so busy they can’t send a 5 second text! I call bullshit. Nobody is that busy sorry! She clearly was playing games with the guy!
whether you are just friends or in a relationship.......YOU CANNOT BE SOOO BIZY FOR TWO DAYS THAT YOU COULD NOT REACH OUT TO YOUR FRIEND. iTS A MATTER OF RESPECT. Send a short note saying that you are tied up with stuff but..." I have you in my thoughts". Its a simple thing. Words are cheap and free...use them. STOP THE "TESTS"..ITS JUST FReeKING MIND GAMES.
Sorry but busy with work is excuse. A women has her phone with her 24/7 these days. You need to be talking at least few other women to keep you're options open. I agree he showed his insecurities but also the women wasn't that into him. The last chick i asked to meet up kept on making excuses on why she couldn't meet up. I might of come off as too keen but if a women making excuses that she i busy with work and every other excuse that means she isnt that keen and you're a back up guy. I say move onto other chicks. If she was into you she would meet up with you.
I was in a relationship like this, the chick wouldnt text back for a couple of days more than once because she was "busy with work," turns out she was keeping her options open. Don't let this women play games with you, keep a rotation.
@Tyler Montana well actually yes, people are busier than ever these days but yeah, replying to a text takes literally 30 sec in a day, so one has no excuses. Ghosting sux
b. bardy, True and not true at the same time. I keep an open mind about this idea that everybody seems to regurgitate. One can be reeeeally busy with work, family and their own hobbies, I would fully understand that. The red flag is if after 6 months or so they are still THAT busy. That's when I call BS and realize she's just keeping me as a back up guy...either that or she just straight up sucks at time management, either way it's bye bye for me💨
I don't know if you guys are speaking about me quit being haters they just fill it to the Bone I hope you're not talking about me I respected her cuz she deserves respect and I like what you were saying I tried A New Path man
People actually have jobs, smartass. Or, some people actually have demanding jobs. I do silk research to put food on the table and I've had to blow off women I was interested in for days at a time. It's better to not text than to text something stupid. Grow up.
There is nothing wrong about being insecure (not overbearing), its perfectly normal, there is nothing wrong about being "slightly" needy, we all have feelings that sometimes we cant control, everyone has been there, we are not machines, it just happens, and for something futile like this we break potentially good relationships. You cannot "train" to suppress your feelings or show them in a different way, its just plain wrong, and there is nothing wrong about putting a person u love on a pedestal as long you dont neglect ur life, health and other priorities. Of course wat im saying is nonsense because things do not work in this way sadly.
Let me get this straight. They were in the beginning of a relationship and had recently slept for the first time. Guy contacted her and offered to go for a drink. She dint replay for two days and then she accuses the guy for getting insecure? Or did i misunderstood this situation? If i did not, she was being very rude and unconsidered and should take a deep look inside of herself. NOBODY is that that busy that cant find the time to answer to the text. This is wicked.
So... I've been really into a girl but I'm a very introverted man and haven't done any serious dating in about 4 years. You have helped me so much! Many thanks! Now looking forward to my date in 2 days with confidence
He's not insecure. He lost interest in her after they had sex. That's what "It's up to you" means. Her defensive response was to put him in the friend zone. Did you do post relationship interviews with these two to get the full story? Or have you drawn conclusions based on a few short texts?
Sheba, you hit the nail right on the head. Dude lost interest after she had sex with him. I guess this is why you take things at a steady pace. Women need to know this, if they have sex with a dude too early, he'll lose interest and just start looking at her as a sex object.
The guy is Apollonia's client. He was still very interested in the girl, that's why he was paying for Apollonia's time to help break down the texts (& the entire relationship).
I think I learned to turn off any form of interest with a woman, especially in the beginning. The last woman I dated curved me just for showing mutual interest. I think by me just being mutually interested, it made me appear needy....because I responded to texts, gave compliments, wanted to be around them. I just realized that I CANNOT do that. It may just be how I am when I like a woman, but it completely repels them.
I agree because I've been here.Insecurity or taking things the wrong is indeed not gd. Learning 2 view things from a confident perspective can indeed change alot.Insecurity often brings a vague misunderstanding.Great video again on point.👌😊
There are so many women that won’t give you a hard time and make you jump through hoops so just keep a look out for the good ones that will keep things simple and communicate things clearly,they are out there
Lol ... you talking like this woman is a prize and because she can't pickup the phone or call in three days he could have called her or her him... sounds like to me this female over valued herself... she did him a favor far as I can see..
michael anderson She was busy and didn’t reach out for 2 days. TWO FUCKING DAYS! What kinda needy shit is that? He then proceeds to act like a little bitch even after she says that she wants to go out with him. I don’t get how she’s overvaluing herself. She was busy and didn’t reach out first...
From what I understand/gather, it's probably best that they both go there separate ways! She seems more trouble than what it's worth! Trust me, it will all work out in the end!! 4 the better, too!! ;-)
I think this is not specific enough. Because some people will consider being needy and fawning to women as a second (if not first) nature. Believe me, it is possible to be so unnatural that you no longer know what "being yourself" is. And avoiding such a second nature, even if attempted, becomes a tremendous effort.
Wow sounds like your a dude who's personality is so lacking that you assume all women want your money. Damn dude sad , stop being attracted to gold diggers. Bame there you go
I agree with u 100 percent brotha.. especially when it comes to making the mistake of dating a straight up narcissist and a goldigging ass bitch too..not all women are after your money..but a majority of them play games and want u to keep spending money and time on them and weeks and months of bullshitting and not being able to take things to the next level smoothly and without the games..fuck what everybody is saying on the comments bro in response to your question message..my ex-fiance was definitely a gold digger and a narcissist to the max
This is a pretty common scenario. Most men know pretty quickly if they want to pursue a relationship because it's mostly based on the women's looks. It takes longer for women to figure that out because it takes time to earn her respect and build emotional intimacy. So it's a catch-22. Most guys who give a woman enough time and space to let their feelings build do so because they're just not that interested. So women typically end up developing feelings for the guys who don't care about them as much instead of the ones that do care.
this is true. When I like a girl, I fall hard. Once I'm emotionally invested my insecurities will surface and all it takes is a few triggers to make me lose myself. It's incredibily hard not to get jealous or speak out in insecurity. I honestly dont know how I can overcome it. Attachement theory says I should date someone who is secure in themselves. It's true...iv always been much more stable around girls who have high intelligence and dont play games and have high level of integrity.
Before going into to find out what the other person wants. If they say relationship, it's a relationship. If they are unsure it's def not a relationship
I'm a guy and insecurity and low self esteem drives me nuts. You only live one short life why be so worried just be a good person and you'll find a good person.
Being a “good person” can be a huge turn-off to a lot of these women out here unfortunately. It just doesn’t work like that dude. A “good person” can have a job, a car and well living arrangements but most these young women go for the bad boys with none of the three thing. Even ending up having children by them. My 27 years on this earth and I STILL just don’t get it which is why I continue being a nice person and keep to myself 🤷🏾♂️. Am I really doing something wrong? Not to sound like a narcissist but later on I found out that it wasn’t me that was the problem. I get complimented all the time about being a nice, humbled guy. Most men “pretend” to be nice to only gain something out of it. I’m just genuinely nice to everyone though. I’ve even had girls tell me in my face that I’m too nice to be their mate. I took that mostly for a compliment more than feeling ashamed of.
Great advice and a salutary lesson guys need to learn, you are not the only one in the relationship. If you are going to reply to a tx, write it then put the phone down and walk away for a few minutes. Go back and read it, guaranteed you do not send the tx. Re-write it when you have cooled off. Do this for all your correspondence. It's amazing. Love the great advice. It's a very sad state that most people never have the chance to learn this stuff before its too late.
Not reaching out for 2 days WAS an indicator that she was luke warm on him. He wasn't needy she was inconsistent. He needed to move on. This is why men often have numerous women and why women are so single...lol
Nah, there were definitely problems going into that 2-day break. She was already annoyed and he was too soft to address the issues directly. Odds are there's another guy she's more interested in and doesn't want to acknowledge it.
Yes she was working alright. She was working on another dude. In this day with all this technology, there was no reason for this woman not to get intouch. If a guys does this, he has to have another woman.
That’s how it is. Sometimes the slide into attachment is subtle and occurs over a prolonged period within a long-term relationship, as the result of making too many concessions to increasingly relentless demands, generally being too helpful and thereby diminishing attraction. It’s difficult to resist this process at the time, but loss of self is the casualty, and I agree with your suggested solution, notably to back away from the situation in order to re-establish an independent axis. I hardly recognise myself by comparison with the free spirit I was eight years ago, but when this lockdown ends, I’ll be ready to rock.
Sounds like she’s not really into him like that , one thing I’ve learned from any relationship is that when a woman wants something she will get it especially when what she wants is easily available it shouldn’t take two days to communicate but this is the new age woman it sucks but is what it is just pull out of the situation because more then likely she’s got something/ someone else filling the void or occupying her time so probably dodged a bullet on her. 🤷🏽♂️
She should not have broken contact with him for two days in the first place. No excuse. It takes 2 seconds to send someone a text. Yes , the guy might be insecure but turn this situation around, and the man would get flack.
Exactly. She breaks contact and then the guy is understandably questioning the situation... Yes, he could have played it a bit cooler, but let's not make this out to be the guys fault for wondering what is going on. Bottom line, drop her like a bad habit if she is going to play games and be immature. This should have been your advice here Apollonia...
Also, get off the texting nonsense. Too easy to misread someone's text, and it's the lazy way to do things. Okay for some situations, but actually talking on the phone shows effort and attraction. Further, does this guy actually want to pursue a relationship with someone that doesn't know what she wants, or is more interested in a casual fling? Be careful who you get romantically involved with if you value your own heart!
Hi Apollonia I have watched two of your other videos and this one takes the cake! it's important for a man to be secure because being insecure can definitely cause problems, it only makes things more complicated.
Very interesting video, I even seen the problem in it lol It actually made me think about myself. I'm not insecure or a jealous type guy but I believe my problem is more too laid back where it may come off as not interested or don't care........ I think 🤔 Thanks Apollonia...... always a awesome job from you.
Fair play she was busy with work, but a quick text message takes two minutes!! Life is about effort!! I wouldn’t leave a woman that I like hanging for two days! The guy didn’t help himself in the end though lol
You say a man's insecurities are a big turn off. That goes both ways. I remember being in a relationship with this girl for four years. She was so insecure it wasn't funny. I was at the point when I didn't want to be with her anymore. I got back together with her a couple months after we went our separate ways. After two more years, she broke up with me because that's what her mom wanted.
I'm always confident, my stance is I'm good whether we are together or not so therefore I'm never pressing and I get all the positive results. I still come here just to brush up and polish myself✨your insight is definitely appreciated Thanks Appolonia😘
God damn Apollonia it's so fucking hard for most of us because of unfortunate situations with these videos and how fucking hard we have to work unless we're a fucking NBA player or have that kind of money.
Romance is dead and women killed it. I just had a woman give me her number and then make a date, flake, then said she was busy/sick/tired for two weeks and I said look, lets meet up I dont want to wait two weeks. She said "o you are too intense for me, glad I decided not to meet you". So she lied about being busy/sick/whatever and then acts like she found out my true nature or some shit. Im straight up, shes a compulsive liar, and SHE feels like SHE dodged a bullet.
@jaspal singh OMG you all sound like fuckin virgins lol, no contraceptive ever invented is 100% secure, condom is 97% but who cares, it's the same when you get in the car and drive, there is always a chance some bastard smashes you but that's just life, you can't thing about potential risks all the time
WHY does the girl say- hope that's okay- ? To make things clear- you MUST SAY you are no not longer interested in dating him. PERIOD. and if he texts or calls again- you do not respond ever again. Period.
What kills attraction for men. Women who stress test men instead of having a conversation.
Steve Chapman
Agreed. The woman he was interested in has the mindset of a 23 year old. And so do so many females into their 30’s.
She sucks. And there are far better than her out there.
If a woman let a couple days go by after sleeping with me without much of a response, I’d just never see her again.
And I have had zero problems getting a much higher quality women to love and stay in relationships with me.
He needed to screen her out and forget her fast. The real mistake was seeking her attention or validation afterward at all.
I think when we text them a lot
But they don't respond and we keep texting them until they respond
Cuz we're just worried for them
Hate when women don't text you first and you always have to text them first
Just smile and ask "did I pass the test" or "test, again?". She is not testing men who are not interesting. Don't take it as all bad.
rage dragon same bruh
@@PMMagro exactly.if she didn't like you or think you're interesting she wouldn't waste her time (or yours) testing you....she's testing you to see if you are the man for her as you have "something" that peaked her interest in the 1st place so as counter intuitave as it may sound take the fact she's testing you as a compliment.
Women: Men don't show any emotions, only anger.
Also women: Ignores all emotions shown by a man until he gets angry.
You are killing attraction, man
😂😂😂😂
2LiveNoob sleep with her and don’t call she would be going crazy- you have to do the opposite so often
Welcome to the married life.
Lol best comment
I know I'm not the first guy to say this but, I'm so tired of women believing that they dont need to bring anything to the table!!
Your aggressive put-Downs show you Are a Real loser. You Are a bully and emotionally abusive. You Are reacting to women having power. You can’t Had let it. Too bad, Grow up.
Dude you have issues , when any topic under the sun is in your face but only can think about ‘women bringing to the table ‘ ... try meeting a lady with employment ?
Love this so right
Bravo. Exactly the point. And they wonder why they can't get or keep married? I met a young american woman on holiday in thailand by herself. Just being friendly we chatted . She said she had a boyfriend back home she loved / had been dating longtime. She was 28. Was on a 3 month asian holiday by herself after completing uni that daddy paid for ( obviously), and was thinking getting married and starting a family was now about the right time. When asked if she thought it was normal or appropriate to abandon ones lover for 3 months non essential parting .she said she is independent / likes her way , and would rebel if he didnt let her do her own thing.
I, me, myself. Go girl! Best of luck with that attitude.
Tom Rusch ....Right. They need to put out.
Being in love with a girl makes you do some stupid needy things, it makes you want to spent all the time with her and care too much for her, which in turn pushes her away from you. Bottom line, you could never be with someone you love because you would care too much and that would push her away... Great.
Not true, though. I was head over heels in love with my ex. She was the center of my world, and she knew it. But, I also always (naturally) maintained the masculine frame with her, so, her attraction and respect for me never wavered.
But, you need to find a girl whom your masculinity is superior to hers, and its sufficient to compliment her femininity.
100% true
We men tend to over care and give too much attention. I'm in an ldr 2 years and am fighting this balance between showing love and not being too smothering. Never met her yet. My invalid wife likes her mostly
That's not love it's insecurity.
Sucks huh
Men who want a serious relationship don't want to play mind games.
Exactly!
ding ding ding ding!!
Yes, yes, yes ................................................................
She wasn't playing mind games, he guy was haha.
💯 sounds like the girl wasnt really interested. Sounds like spending time with him was just something to do cause she was bored.
Funny to see how quick a man's "insecurity" can kill the woman's "attraction", while on the other hand how women constantly demand from men to always find the proper answer to their own insecurities.
Maybe you are right but does it matter? What matters is to find ways to get what you want, not about changing society or the minds of other people
You beat me to it. I was thinking the same thing. Wanting a woman to pay attention to you is a huge turn off because it makes you needy and insecure. So tell her to leave you alone I guess. Trying to decipher their bullshit just isn't worth it. The juice is very rarely worth the squeeze. They generally have a very inflated opinion of themselves. If I have to pretend to be something that I'm not then what's the point? She won't like the real you anyway.
Man does it matter.....she let him hit it....it's time for him to move on...
Yeah men find that unattractive too. If i have a girlfriend who us insecure all the time and is constantly seeking validation, then it’s bye bye to her😂
You dicks are Mad Because you want to be The center of attention always. No. You won’t be. Men like you need anti-depressants. You need to find your own energy and quit wanting to suck a woman’s life. Forget that.
Better let women pursue you and you pursue your dreams. My 2 cents.
Your 2 cents is worth much more thats very good advice.
E Jobity - waaay more than 2 cents. more like a bank vaults worth..
Bruh that's like 2% of how the world works. In other words, a long time waiting while no action is taking place. Since cave days, the penis's run the show. And I don't know about you, but sitting back and letting them pursue makes them a little skanky and easy in my book.
True 💯
@@DannyBoy443 - Then hold onto that BOOK!
I love that a woman can be insecure as shit and show it with every breath, but a man can't even hint he has one or two insecurities.
Just when you finally feel a connection with this one special woman and think things are going somewhere, the woman stabs you in the back and pulls away. But it's not her insecurities. Oh, no! It's yours...
Stargaze79 exactly they did something together and she not contact him back for two days says something.
Exactly!
Blame shifting.
Unless she had a really good excuse,,, Id have dipped when she didnt text me for the 2 days.
Get her back???! For what??
if modern women were not so entitled and valued men more, things would be easier. Stop blaming men for everything.
People who are mature and confident don't have time for all this nonsense.
E GIBSON lmao r/incel
Very true !!
My guy.
Roshes aii Webster’s dictionary - Start there. If that’s still not enough to define a word use common sense.
Maturity should be pretty self explanatory unless you’re not that mature.
Gain experience. Don’t be afraid to fail. Just do the work and get out of your comfort zone.
The rewards are well worth it.
Who cares how many no’s you get?
Learn from them.
Keep reading, keep watching videos, keep practicing.
Try some less attractive girls who probably aren’t used to people talking to them as much. Their standards could be lower. Most of them could become good friends or turn out to be more than meets the eye.
Build your confidence.
Get out there.
@@ligerllama I agree semantics aren't necessary for this topic. If one thinks they have a more in depth meaning, that's cool, but they shouldn't act like they don't know the common interpretation of it lol.
I think this woman did the guy a favour actually. Imagine he show her his needs her later on, then she will be gone with the wind.
She will be better off with a guy without any feelings, insecurities, or "neediness" at all, a psychopath fits that description perfectly.
First of all, if a woman told me she "wasn't sure she wanted a relationship". That's it for me. After two or three dates and she says this... she obviously isn't into me! My response would have been, "Okay, when you figure it out, get back to me." Then I walk. I will never be desperate enough to beg for a relationship. A forced relationship is a disaster from the word go!
@j b keeping your options open isn't being desperate. Matter fact, acting like you don't care will come off as you trying to hide what would be a reasonable feeling. It wouldn't come off as desperate, but it would come off as butt hurt.
Tyson Harris Right! Exactly....I'm not sure if I want a relationship means...."Let me see if there is anything else out there, and if there isn't...then I'm ready". If you ain't ready after a couple of dates you ain't gonna be ready later. I'm out when a woman says that.
@lion THE KING EXACTLY!!! I was just about to write that.. thank you..
Never believe women's words they aren't logical but emotional
If she ain't sure keep her as option , go out with other womens and if other womens feels better to you , when she calls ( and she will 99% ) say sorry I m dating someone else now . Very simple
I would go as far to say, anything negative can kill attraction. Stay positive my brothers. Your outcome will always be better. Relationships, business, health, all things!
Fact
Also - SHE is the one that killed attraction by waiting 2 days to text after that.
Exactly!
THIS THIS THIS THISS!!!! 1000000% true no one is that busy!!! thats women being childish. Sorry dont want children as partners!
True but thats just women doing women type thing aka Shit tests. Still no reason for the guy to get insecure. He just needs to show up and dig her guts out so she begs for him to meet again!
@@AdemJashari56
She probably didn't text him for 2 days bcuz she already noticed unhealthy insecurities in his behavior and she was already losing some level of interest; but, she still had enough interest in him to go on another date.
@@ibrahimgood3167
Imo..
It's in everyone's best interest to find a woman who is into you (with or without) the sex. If a womans attachment to you is centered upon great sex, then, it can turn into an addiction. There's no stability to such a relationship. Instead, do the necessary work required to strengthen the relationship on deeper, more meaningful levels.
Because traditionally men do all the heavy lifting in dating, heavy lifting is definitely an understatement
Then step back and see if you get a workout partner lol.
Having made some of these same mistakes myself, I've come to the conclusion that text messaging is the WORST form of communication ever invented. So much can be misconstrued. There's no facial expressions, no body language, no intonation. Keep text messages brief and to the point. They should only be used to arrange the next in-person meeting.
^ So much this. I concur.
I have to agree with you I hate text messaging, and if you have something to say say it to my face, do not write me a book via text message because I will not read it
It should be like that, but thats not up to you. If you suck at texting, you wont get that person to person meeting.
Your exactly right.
The phone is for setting dates
The problem with this is that he was right. There was a reason why he was insecure. She was just playing with him and if he keeps going along with it, she will take you for granted and jump on the next guy who is nonchalant towards her.
No man wants to do all the work in a relationship either. Thats a common problem I see. Relationships develop and then the guy is left doin all the work to make it happen. Its takes 2 to tango. From personal exp in relationships I done the work and the woman didnt do anything, then flip the tables on the women, they get pissed off and throw accusations at the man. Its a dog eat dog world, the women dont give an effort dont the expect the man to keep giving an effort. You only get out of a relationship what you put into it.
When the mind games begin, it's time to move on.
No time for riddles or puzzles.
Hi Guys! I'm so sorry about the one curse word in this video. I know some of you don't like curse words but I don't script my videos and I get so passionate about these things that sometimes I get in the zone. I try not to ever curse but in this one I did. HAHA xoxo
It's ok we will forgive you
Thank you
Your human & we're all grown mature adults & many of us curse on a daily basis so your excused beloved 🌟🌟🌟🌟
The way you help guys out. One mistake is forgiveable. You are doing amazing work Appy
You should curse more, it makes the point. Its how people react. Trying to keep it too professional is misleading. as people don't react to each other like they are in business meetings.
The problem is incompatible personalities. Men become insecure when they start developing strong feelings for a female. Women want men who aren’t insecure yet show a great deal of desire for the female.
One of the reasons why relationships don’t last is because this idea conflicts with human biology. It’s human nature to protect things in which we find great value. It is only when we find something that’s worth keeping do we fear it’s loss. While I’m aware that some people have a tendency to become neurotic or possessive in the unhealthy sense, men need to know how much effort and investment should be allocated for these efforts.
This is why it’s important to have somewhat of a similar outlook in this aspect of dating. If one person is looking for something serious and the other with contrasting goals, it’s not optimal.
While the following comment isn’t really directed just at women, based on the video content I’ll address it as such. Women must understand that men who aren’t insecure is that way for a reason, they either don’t care due to conflicting goals, confident in their ability to move on, or more rarely confident while committed. The last one isn’t as common as women prefer to believe. The less a person needs you, the easier it is for them to move on when the level of difficultly is higher than their threshold of tolerance and every relationship has such obstacles. Insecurity is a weakness yet it plays a distinct role in protecting the relationship during tumultuous times.
While it’s true that the guy in the video example may have been overbearing too early. While it’s important to make some minor adjustments to your behavior, one shouldn’t drastically change who they are, because you just end up playing games resulting in bitter feelings in the end. While this relationship didn’t work out, it may be good that it didn’t and they’re better off finding more compatible personalities.
In relationships, if you have to try that hard especially in the beginning, it may not be worth it. A person is better off investing their efforts elsewhere where that mindset is appreciated.
GTFO.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Very insightful!
I don't agree with everything you said, but generally I resonate with it.
Getting to know yourself would always be my message for everyone. Who are you, what do you like, and just finding yourself. All before getting in a relationship. We are all only human. Insecurities is pretty tough but once one realizes, it takes continuous work. Thank you for the video.
She'll pass on him and end up choosing the wrong guy anyways 🤣🤣
RAM MAHARI best comment here
Exactly.
Some women are not that bright..the guy who they turn down,may be the best thing for them
Be the wrong guy.
That’s the karma.. 😂😂😂😂😂
To be fair to the guy, no one is that busy to take 10 seconds out of your day to text someone you care about.
EXACTLY
It's about priorities, and if they take 48 hours to answer you are not a priority. So, the man gets the shaft because he calls her out for it.
last time a woman did that to me i replied to her. Im glad you found your phone back. Anyways i still had sex with her 4 times just because and when i got bored of her adios, no phone call, no message nothing. At first i tough i found someone, but after that 2d bs, yeah just another one to smash. Its disrespectful as fuck, not answering someone for that long, unless its a formal conversation.
Moral of the story, no need to be pushy toward a woman that has already shown in interest to you! It makes you look weak and needy. The guy in the story needed to show that he has his own life and not just putting the woman a pedestal.
Lol right? Two days isnt even a lot of days. He must have too much free time and lack experience
He already smached it. He had nothing to lose. By openning up quickly to see what they do with it before you're invested in her. Why wait his time with her if she doesn't appreciate kindness.
Exactly
@Yemi exactly
Exactly!
everybody has insecurities. thats part of being human.
Real Talk.
True
Tyler Montana they’ll already know some of your insecurities even though you try to hide it
yup, but as a man thats "fucking bullshit"
that's not an excuse to not work on them though, and come out on the other side a stronger, more confident man
He needs a few Women in the rotation and he won’t Even care if she does want to talk to him anymore
Amen!...
True
And you will keep losing out with every single one with that childishness.
@@adj5767 @A.D.D. it's competitive for women to gain a good man and keep him happy. But if you do he will give you all he has for you. So if you think it's childish to line up an A and B team of women to select from, I respect your opinion.
AD J.... it has proven a thousand times that it works that way, until the equal rights came along🤦🏾♂️... But in reality a man supposed to have a dozen
Why is a women's time more valuable then a man's?
Just focus on yourself. I might or might not have time for this and also sometimes you make yourself time (even when there is none).
For me at least it is not time but energy. If it takes endless energy and gives none it's a waste of time. That seems to be what happend to her here, "this is not worth the effort anymore".
Exactly!
that depends on you doesn't it?
It is not ever.
1. Be your authentic self to emanate authentic energy.
2. Be present and not in the future (anxious) or past (depressed), focused on HER. Breathe properly or discern body sensations. You become self expressive when present.
3. Be curious about the female and actually enjoy interacting. Have the urge to learn about her.
4. Be unorthodox with your methods. Women notice different men. Tease instead of praise.
5. Realize that women reactive emotional creatures, ask emotional based questions.
6. Do not worry about the things to say but rather focus on how to say things. Be descriptive with voice tonality. Never raise your voice towards he ends of your sentence.
7. Reality is a reflection of your perception.
8. Women can subconsciously detect an insecure, low self esteem soy boy through the vibe and nonverbal cues that us men are unconscious.
9. A conversation is an exchange of emotions and energy/vibe. So be positive, cool, calm and collected. If you're anxious she will get anxious. Energy is contagious.
10. Hold onto your reality, do not let criticism or ridicule taint your state of mind.
12. Realize that the brain has a negativity bias, we naturally are inclined towards the negative.
13. Take nonverbal communication (facial expressions, facial gestures, body language) into consideration when communicating; psychology affects physiology.
11. Read the art of seduction by Robert Greene.
12. Convert your self critic into self compassion (love yourself); instead of berating yourself treat yourself with encouragement, kindness or warmth. Become your best friend.
13. If you know yourself and your target there is no uncertainty thus fear. The brain cannot deal with uncertainty.
14. Speak slower, nod slower and take pauses before speaking.
15. Women don't remember what was said but rather how they felt.
16. Pat yourself on the back because you are part of the small percentage of confident men partaking in game.
17. Get in a playful state because remember females are like any other human they want to have fun.
18. Remember that you are like a movie add suspense, love, comedy, action and adventure. Take things slow, be deliberate and spontaneous. Do not spoil the movie.
19. Mirror her body language and tone to build instant rapport. Build trust through non judgment and by making her feel comfortable.
20. Make warm confident eye contact, the eyes are the window to the soul.
21. Never treat women as a superior but as an equal or subordinate. Women are just normal people with vaginas who can plague you with potential child support, nothing more.
22. Expect her to like you.
23. Make her love herself via compliments or hints; women are all insecure about their appearance. Giving her reassurance builds attraction.
24. Do not focus on the outcome, but the process. Eliminate expectations.
25. Dress to impress women make predetermined notions about you and who you are via appearance. Manipulate your image.
26. Possess power (status, wealth, expertise, strength), warmth (compassion, empathy) and presence (being in the moment).
27. Screen, screen, screen. Not all women are the same. Figure her type out and cater to her desires.
28. Women fall in love with you when they are thinking about you not when you are with them so make an impression.
29. Make her feel as if she is lucky you even approached her.
30. Do not take yourself so serious. Dissolve the ego (negative software).
Enjoy my brethren, been in the game since 5th grade. Lost it in the womb ;)
:)
31.) sleep with her for a month or two
32.) she ghosts
Welcome to 2019 game, would you like to play again?
Status and wealth is a requirement huh? Guessing you're describing the modernization of women.
I think women are and have been watching videos like this much longer than I. They are hyper scrutinizing. And playing the field.
@@Danny328DT Look at Mick Jagger, seriously, would a woman find him attractive as her uber driver?
I've seen this with a lot of guys and it's something I've never understood, but at the same time it's something I could have been guilty of but haven't, but not on purpose lol. I've been the type to kinda develop feeling quickly towards women, but when the situation gets to what the email describes I do the opposite. The whole "should I see you" thing I just don't get. In my mind I would have been like "ok, she is ignoring me, guess I'll ignore her too", wouldn't have sent another email, and would mentally be preparing myself that if she doesn't respond at some point then it's time to move on.
This is the misinterpretation of the century. The guy obviously has some set of values and it ain't got anything to do with insecureities. A girl taking more than 24 hours to reply to a message is having different priorities and no real interest in a guy. Also, a lack of respect. Just ignore her if this is reoccurring behavior and move on.
Parfaitement ! 😎
You already know!
Veryyyy well put, but this new age misconception will think its insecurities !!
Totally agree.
So we'll written.
Stay single. Stay sane.
Stay single = stay pussy ( unless you enjoying single and not escaping relationship)
@@ms7HDTough talk. See if you feel the same after your first divorce.
Lmao wemon are very mysterious creatures
@@ms7HD lol lmao 😂 😂
Camille Warren - You’re the same woman that would laugh at him when he gets divorce raped. Unfortunately, he’s too inexperienced and immature to realize it.
If you do not hear from a woman in a couple of days, that´s her giving in to some more flirts she has on her job/school, gym, parkinglot, the food market, her hood, car reapair shop, dancehall, gasstation etc. Yes, you´re not the only one. You will never bee.
Truuuu
Men, if she doesn’t text back after 2 days, she’s not interested.
Agree
Two days !? 1 day is enough unless she’s in the hospital , if she love you she’ll txt you all day
faisal Al Ali 3 days in my opinion but ya
Wrong unless you’re married you shouldn’t need to bother her until you need to meet-up or something interesting happened that you and her will bond over aka something funny ur dog did. Just fucking a girl for months and would go all week the Thursday wshe would message me the next day id turn up at hers then off all week untill we met the next week and nowadays we have a healthy relationship and never rushed her relationships take time as soon as u try rush it and convince yourself that its been two days and it’s over so u hassle her when she’s busy she not interested but inly cos u flopped it showing her how insecure u are
I don't quite agree with this statement but I kinda get what you mean
Sometimes woman creates insecurity.
Not some times, most of the time.
because she only went 2 days without texting him? That's BS. Its the man who was insecure on his own and has to do his inner work before ever trying to speak to a woman he likes again
@@freddylimpster7137 Thank you. He clearly messed that up.
I think we all fxck shyt up sometimes but I try my hardest not to do what that guy done that's sad. The shame of loss is so devastating and demeaning.
Clearly she was testing him and he fell for it. If only he knew better that most women will play these games on men to see if they break down or not. I hope he learned a lesson.
My god men are expected to be some mind reader with these womens games its best just not to enter the game.
p c - A rough ride with MANY double standards.Buckle up!
Eat cereal and play with the prize in the box.
Facts!
paul cooper. Too right !!!!
DITTO
Sounds like she was playing head games with him.
Yes he was needy in his response but it wasn’t without reason. Both messed up.
Word. I'm dating a 20 year old goddess who doesn't want a relationship yet is sexually loyal to me (I hope). She has no clue she'll be old looking to me in 2 years and she'd be wise to fall in love now or forget it.
No, she was upfront with him about everything. She was cool. He had her, and messed up.
@@wariswrong4920 22 is old? That is a Gross mentality
weeecher Amen
Because she didnt call for 2 days? They're not together!
why is it always the guy that has to do everything right ? women want validation they want to be equal yet often they act like they are the ALPHA and you have to earn them ? its all about them, what they want, how they feel, what they dont like blah blah , and you do the slightest thing wrong and they can call end of game in an instant. this wasnt the case centuries ago the shoe was on the other foot. women wanted and tried to win over men but now a man is sooo putting himself out just to please and impress a woman its quite sickening when we think about it" why should these women have so much dam power ?
Dude was definitely insecure. But a woman with high interest shouldn’t wait two days to reach out
NY Janky Thank you!
NY Janky AMEN! 🙏🏼 this should be the top comment!
Exactly! That's what I'm sayin'.
Exactly
This always confuses me. Does that mean after a date I should just go ghost until the woman hits me up?
Dont talk to much she will love you
I am female and this is my motto...lol
bro talk when you want to say something, dont be scared to say something, thats beta males syndromes speechless !!!
Hello Appollonia;-) Happy Friday! Great video. If she doesn't text you after your last text. Try to reach out to another lady that you are also interested in. Show your confidence men. You're the prize/man.
You're right girl..... this guy is doing it wrong!
First off, first date.... take her somewhere different, forget food and traditional . At this point the guy is calling the shots never her, connect with her emotionally. Just when things are clicking .... end the date!!!!
2 days to return a text has not interested and game player all over it. I don't care how much you like them if it takes her 2 days to return a text then trust me you're wasting your time. Go get you one that has been taught respect because that one will never work out for you!
When i read or listen to the requirements needed to make a woman to get a even relationship, i feel like giving up. Almost like if you make any mistake, you will fall off something with your head. Mistakes are made, no one is perfect. We have rain and sunny seasons.
Bro, it's not that complicated. Never beg, be loyal to yourself and just fucking do your own stuff and try to be the best at it. If you the girl you like doesn't correspond how you truly are, then there's no need for you to seek her.
None of this advice means anything. If she likes you she likes you and you can't manipulate her psychology to make her like you.
You are unbelievable amazing at helping men find and actively work on their insecurities....
I haven’t heard you say anything that wasn’t relatable... I have been watching all your vids and they have been extremely helpful with understanding my own past mistakes and how I can correct my attitude.. your beautiful and I love you apollonia!!!
5:51 Apollonia’s facial expression and reaction is priceless lool I love how genuine she is. Excellent work.
Blunt and to the point, just the way I like it. Thanks for another great episode. I do not nor have I ever been needy and insecure with my current relationship. We both have very busy careers and see each other about two-three times a month. In fact, we've cancelled just as many dates as we've been on because of conflicting work schedules and other family matters. Guys just need to realize, women have lives too, sometimes very busy.
Dear Apolllonia. The girl waited 2 days to reply which is a clear indicator of non intererest. Obviously either 1) was not that interested 2) was playing mind games
both are not a good sign for the man. So, I don’t understand why do you blame the man, when clearly she wasn’t into him in the first place ( or perhaps was just looking for a shag or emotional validation ). And then set up this “trap”, knowing he would have this reaction. If she had real interest, she would’ve wanted to meet him regardless of the texting. So yap, the guy did well in the long term. It’s not his or her fault that things didn’t worked out. Just move on
Totally agree with your comment
Totally agree , 2 days , total disrespectful, I wouldn’t talk to her again!! I ones that busy
@j b how much time do you think we have between work school and gym? Why can't women be mature and say what they want...because they dont know what they want!
@j b agreed...she told him she would be busy with work...maybe her work involved conferences and late dinners with clients (clients at conferences her company were hosting and genuinely couldn't get away /had to attend)...she did text him back and she was still interested and wanted to see him but instead of playing it cool and just relaxing he got all bitchy and needy...ofcourse that's going to turn her off.
hanzo hattori Riiiiggghhht because no one is so busy they can’t send a 5 second text! I call bullshit. Nobody is that busy sorry! She clearly was playing games with the guy!
I thought women wanted to connect with the real you, insecurities, vulnerabilities and all.
Women "say" that but don't mean it. The only people she has emotional conversations with are her friends and beta orbiters who will never see action
Nope.
Showing emotion vs being as needy as an enfant
See the difference?
Fuck no. Bitches want exactly the opposite of what they say they want.
@@AFTone144 Then I don't think anyone will ever understand women
Are these women so perfect that a single mistake is unforgivable ?
@@Robot50000 uhhh idk about this one tho she gave him 3 tries plus my man’s was acting all insecure so
The woman gave him chances to not be a numbskull.
she got attention from someone more interesting and wasn't so sure about the poor love filled guy..
amen
Probably met the dirtbag of her dreams .
Simple
😂😂😂😂 Genius
@@drjohnsonhungwell5115 ahahha so true.. ama use this from now on!!
I love the fact this lady is feeling absolutely feeling the guy's painful texts.
That woman caused that Drama ‼️
Exactly!
This is a solid breakdown Appollonia. When men get their game together they'll stop blaming women for their failures.
whether you are just friends or in a relationship.......YOU CANNOT BE SOOO BIZY FOR TWO DAYS THAT YOU COULD NOT REACH OUT TO YOUR FRIEND. iTS A MATTER OF RESPECT. Send a short note saying that you are tied up with stuff but..." I have you in my thoughts". Its a simple thing. Words are cheap and free...use them. STOP THE "TESTS"..ITS JUST FReeKING MIND GAMES.
So you talk to all your friends daily?
@@AmaLoveGoddessTV You reply or talk to those you deem are important.
Sorry but busy with work is excuse. A women has her phone with her 24/7 these days. You need to be talking at least few other women to keep you're options open. I agree he showed his insecurities but also the women wasn't that into him. The last chick i asked to meet up kept on making excuses on why she couldn't meet up. I might of come off as too keen but if a women making excuses that she i busy with work and every other excuse that means she isnt that keen and you're a back up guy. I say move onto other chicks. If she was into you she would meet up with you.
I was in a relationship like this, the chick wouldnt text back for a couple of days more than once because she was "busy with work," turns out she was keeping her options open. Don't let this women play games with you, keep a rotation.
@Tyler Montana well actually yes, people are busier than ever these days but yeah, replying to a text takes literally 30 sec in a day, so one has no excuses. Ghosting sux
b. bardy, True and not true at the same time. I keep an open mind about this idea that everybody seems to regurgitate. One can be reeeeally busy with work, family and their own hobbies, I would fully understand that. The red flag is if after 6 months or so they are still THAT busy. That's when I call BS and realize she's just keeping me as a back up guy...either that or she just straight up sucks at time management, either way it's bye bye for me💨
I don't know if you guys are speaking about me quit being haters they just fill it to the Bone I hope you're not talking about me I respected her cuz she deserves respect and I like what you were saying I tried A New Path man
People actually have jobs, smartass. Or, some people actually have demanding jobs.
I do silk research to put food on the table and I've had to blow off women I was interested in for days at a time. It's better to not text than to text something stupid. Grow up.
There is nothing wrong about being insecure (not overbearing), its perfectly normal, there is nothing wrong about being "slightly" needy, we all have feelings that sometimes we cant control, everyone has been there, we are not machines, it just happens, and for something futile like this we break potentially good relationships. You cannot "train" to suppress your feelings or show them in a different way, its just plain wrong, and there is nothing wrong about putting a person u love on a pedestal as long you dont neglect ur life, health and other priorities. Of course wat im saying is nonsense because things do not work in this way sadly.
Let me get this straight. They were in the beginning of a relationship and had recently slept for the first time. Guy contacted her and offered to go for a drink. She dint replay for two days and then she accuses the guy for getting insecure? Or did i misunderstood this situation? If i did not, she was being very rude and unconsidered and should take a deep look inside of herself. NOBODY is that that busy that cant find the time to answer to the text. This is wicked.
Right on point!
So... I've been really into a girl but I'm a very introverted man and haven't done any serious dating in about 4 years. You have helped me so much! Many thanks! Now looking forward to my date in 2 days with confidence
I love you mum, I almost cried realising my one mistakes that I have done so many times over after listening to you!
He's not insecure. He lost interest in her after they had sex. That's what "It's up to you" means. Her defensive response was to put him in the friend zone. Did you do post relationship interviews with these two to get the full story? Or have you drawn conclusions based on a few short texts?
queenofsheba wait...who said ‘it’s up to you?’ I’m confused?
Sheba, you hit the nail right on the head. Dude lost interest after she had sex with him. I guess this is why you take things at a steady pace. Women need to know this, if they have sex with a dude too early, he'll lose interest and just start looking at her as a sex object.
@@lindybright1938 the guy said that line
"its up to you"
Even when the chick was saying she wanted to meet him
The guy is Apollonia's client. He was still very interested in the girl, that's why he was paying for Apollonia's time to help break down the texts (& the entire relationship).
@@DiamondsRexpensive
No. The woman said "it's up to you" 4:47
A woman always wanna do watever they feel like doing,
And think men should suck up to b.s
I chase money, dreams not headaches.that women brings
I think I learned to turn off any form of interest with a woman, especially in the beginning. The last woman I dated curved me just for showing mutual interest. I think by me just being mutually interested, it made me appear needy....because I responded to texts, gave compliments, wanted to be around them. I just realized that I CANNOT do that. It may just be how I am when I like a woman, but it completely repels them.
I agree because I've been here.Insecurity or taking things the wrong is indeed not gd. Learning 2 view things from a confident perspective can indeed change alot.Insecurity often brings a vague misunderstanding.Great video again on point.👌😊
There are so many women that won’t give you a hard time and make you jump through hoops so just keep a look out for the good ones that will keep things simple and communicate things clearly,they are out there
Lol ... you talking like this woman is a prize and because she can't pickup the phone or call in three days he could have called her or her him... sounds like to me this female over valued herself... she did him a favor far as I can see..
Does it make a difference....he it that already. He already won. Lol
Very true Micheal. But the guy was kinda soft too.
True
michael anderson She was busy and didn’t reach out for 2 days. TWO FUCKING DAYS! What kinda needy shit is that?
He then proceeds to act like a little bitch even after she says that she wants to go out with him. I don’t get how she’s overvaluing herself. She was busy and didn’t reach out first...
Exactly!
From what I understand/gather, it's probably best that they both go there separate ways! She seems more trouble than what it's worth! Trust me, it will all work out in the end!! 4 the better, too!! ;-)
It's best to just be yourself no lessons needed in that.
yup
I think this is not specific enough. Because some people will consider being needy and fawning to women as a second (if not first) nature. Believe me, it is possible to be so unnatural that you no longer know what "being yourself" is. And avoiding such a second nature, even if attempted, becomes a tremendous effort.
I don’t like that bc being yourself may always undermine how full potential, we can always develop and be the better versions of ourselves.
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What kills attraction for a woman is when you put your wallet away.
Wow sounds like your a dude who's personality is so lacking that you assume all women want your money. Damn dude sad , stop being attracted to gold diggers. Bame there you go
My girlfriend actively discourages me from overspending on her.
What kills a man's chances of attracting the women he'd like is blaming everything on his lack of money (instead of his own faults)
Lol
I agree with u 100 percent brotha.. especially when it comes to making the mistake of dating a straight up narcissist and a goldigging ass bitch too..not all women are after your money..but a majority of them play games and want u to keep spending money and time on them and weeks and months of bullshitting and not being able to take things to the next level smoothly and without the games..fuck what everybody is saying on the comments bro in response to your question message..my ex-fiance was definitely a gold digger and a narcissist to the max
Be a 3% Man .. Coach Corey Wayne is in Agreement with You Apalonia ...
Nice Work !!
This is a pretty common scenario. Most men know pretty quickly if they want to pursue a relationship because it's mostly based on the women's looks. It takes longer for women to figure that out because it takes time to earn her respect and build emotional intimacy. So it's a catch-22. Most guys who give a woman enough time and space to let their feelings build do so because they're just not that interested. So women typically end up developing feelings for the guys who don't care about them as much instead of the ones that do care.
this is true. When I like a girl, I fall hard. Once I'm emotionally invested my insecurities will surface and all it takes is a few triggers to make me lose myself. It's incredibily hard not to get jealous or speak out in insecurity. I honestly dont know how I can overcome it. Attachement theory says I should date someone who is secure in themselves. It's true...iv always been much more stable around girls who have high intelligence and dont play games and have high level of integrity.
Before going into to find out what the other person wants. If they say relationship, it's a relationship. If they are unsure it's def not a relationship
I'm a guy and insecurity and low self esteem drives me nuts. You only live one short life why be so worried just be a good person and you'll find a good person.
Being a “good person” can be a huge turn-off to a lot of these women out here unfortunately. It just doesn’t work like that dude. A “good person” can have a job, a car and well living arrangements but most these young women go for the bad boys with none of the three thing. Even ending up having children by them.
My 27 years on this earth and I STILL just don’t get it which is why I continue being a nice person and keep to myself 🤷🏾♂️. Am I really doing something wrong? Not to sound like a narcissist but later on I found out that it wasn’t me that was the problem.
I get complimented all the time about being a nice, humbled guy. Most men “pretend” to be nice to only gain something out of it. I’m just genuinely nice to everyone though. I’ve even had girls tell me in my face that I’m too nice to be their mate. I took that mostly for a compliment more than feeling ashamed of.
Great advice and a salutary lesson guys need to learn, you are not the only one in the relationship.
If you are going to reply to a tx, write it then put the phone down and walk away for a few minutes. Go back and read it, guaranteed you do not send the tx. Re-write it when you have cooled off. Do this for all your correspondence. It's amazing.
Love the great advice. It's a very sad state that most people never have the chance to learn this stuff before its too late.
Not reaching out for 2 days WAS an indicator that she was luke warm on him. He wasn't needy she was inconsistent. He needed to move on. This is why men often have numerous women and why women are so single...lol
Nah, there were definitely problems going into that 2-day break. She was already annoyed and he was too soft to address the issues directly. Odds are there's another guy she's more interested in and doesn't want to acknowledge it.
So the guy is basically toast and there's no way to clean the slate.
The trash takes itself out.
Yes she was working alright. She was working on another dude. In this day with all this technology, there was no reason for this woman not to get intouch. If a guys does this, he has to have another woman.
1:35 "...how we recover..." BRILLIANT!!! ok now i can handle a bit more! just a bit more... One of the most harder things in life giving time
That’s how it is. Sometimes the slide into attachment is subtle and occurs over a prolonged period within a long-term relationship, as the result of making too many concessions to increasingly relentless demands, generally being too helpful and thereby diminishing attraction. It’s difficult to resist this process at the time, but loss of self is the casualty, and I agree with your suggested solution, notably to back away from the situation in order to re-establish an independent axis. I hardly recognise myself by comparison with the free spirit I was eight years ago, but when this lockdown ends, I’ll be ready to rock.
Sounds like she’s not really into him like that , one thing I’ve learned from any relationship is that when a woman wants something she will get it especially when what she wants is easily available it shouldn’t take two days to communicate but this is the new age woman it sucks but is what it is just pull out of the situation because more then likely she’s got something/ someone else filling the void or occupying her time so probably dodged a bullet on her. 🤷🏽♂️
I don't think you watched the video
Odis Hall yeah, it’s almost like a trap... if you react to their distance it gives them a reason to cast you away
Odis Hall correct
Even if that was the case, he still ruined any chance he had of her developing interest.
That or she is extremely busy with work. Doesn't necessarily mean she's out fucking another dude.
When men starts doing that with a woman, unconsciously he just don't like her or don't trust her.
She should not have broken contact with him for two days in the first place. No excuse. It takes 2 seconds to send someone a text. Yes , the guy might be insecure but turn this situation around, and the man would get flack.
Exactly. She breaks contact and then the guy is understandably questioning the situation... Yes, he could have played it a bit cooler, but let's not make this out to be the guys fault for wondering what is going on. Bottom line, drop her like a bad habit if she is going to play games and be immature. This should have been your advice here Apollonia...
Also, get off the texting nonsense. Too easy to misread someone's text, and it's the lazy way to do things. Okay for some situations, but actually talking on the phone shows effort and attraction. Further, does this guy actually want to pursue a relationship with someone that doesn't know what she wants, or is more interested in a casual fling? Be careful who you get romantically involved with if you value your own heart!
Hi Apollonia
I have watched two of your other videos and this one takes the cake! it's important for a man to be secure because being insecure can definitely cause problems, it only makes things more complicated.
Thanks for sharing!!
You just got a new subscriber Apollonia. Yep this is a very delicate dance. Insecurities will kill your game fellas.
Thank you for subscribing, so glad you are here!
Very interesting video, I even seen the problem in it lol
It actually made me think about myself. I'm not insecure or a jealous type guy but I believe my problem is more too laid back where it may come off as not interested or don't care........ I think 🤔
Thanks Apollonia...... always a awesome job from you.
Fair play she was busy with work, but a quick text message takes two minutes!! Life is about effort!! I wouldn’t leave a woman that I like hanging for two days! The guy didn’t help himself in the end though lol
You say a man's insecurities are a big turn off. That goes both ways. I remember being in a relationship with this girl for four years. She was so insecure it wasn't funny. I was at the point when I didn't want to be with her anymore. I got back together with her a couple months after we went our separate ways. After two more years, she broke up with me because that's what her mom wanted.
Intellectually and physically Apollonia is the perfect woman!
I'm always confident, my stance is I'm good whether we are together or not so therefore I'm never pressing and I get all the positive results. I still come here just to brush up and polish myself✨your insight is definitely appreciated Thanks Appolonia😘
Had this happen to me unfortunately I got call from her husband...
Your utubes are quite fascinating and your honesty is like a breath of fresh air👏thanks for creating this 💎 gem of wisdom👍😎
I hate neediness and clinginess = Insecurities
God damn Apollonia it's so fucking hard for most of us because of unfortunate situations with these videos and how fucking hard we have to work unless we're a fucking NBA player or have that kind of money.
Everything you just said is pure gold! You are spot on!
Romance is dead and women killed it. I just had a woman give me her number and then make a date, flake, then said she was busy/sick/tired for two weeks and I said look, lets meet up I dont want to wait two weeks. She said "o you are too intense for me, glad I decided not to meet you". So she lied about being busy/sick/whatever and then acts like she found out my true nature or some shit. Im straight up, shes a compulsive liar, and SHE feels like SHE dodged a bullet.
She was sleeping around. Point blank period.
I dont think it really matters if their not together
It's quite likely.
When a woman want's to sleep with you, you sleep with her without hesitation damn it or the passion will quickly die.
@Mark Zaney protect yourself dumb ass
@Mark Zaney Uh, you could jsut wrap your unit or pull out my guy.
That's dangerous. Be wise and don't chase or worship women. If the "passion" dies, who cares?
lol
@jaspal singh OMG you all sound like fuckin virgins lol, no contraceptive ever invented is 100% secure, condom is 97% but who cares, it's the same when you get in the car and drive, there is always a chance some bastard smashes you but that's just life, you can't thing about potential risks all the time
Moral of the story. Men can not show insecurity but women can.
WHY does the girl say- hope that's okay- ? To make things clear- you MUST SAY you are no not longer interested in dating him. PERIOD. and if he texts or calls again- you do not respond ever again. Period.