She’s playing hard to get to gain power in the relationship and to see if she can control/manipulate you. Don’t take the bait gentlemen. The world is yours.
Women have the control in most relationships, they think on a longer scale then men and are physically weaker too. So at a present moment, it seems like the man has more control. But when you look at it on a span of many months, years, e.t.c. They get more than they give out most of the time. I guess it depends how you want to see it. I tend to say women need and have most of the control because otherwise they would be abused way more often since they are physically weaker. Kinda like to balance out everything.
@360 RED PILL SPARTAN me 2. Im in the same boat. Im also good looking and soon as numbers are exchanged this stupid childest game starts and ruins everything
@360 RED PILL SPARTAN when you meet these women in person you have to start make them invest in you an make them qualify themselves to you. maybe connecting with them also, in person. and dont ever validate them if they are attractive. theres a lot of tips on how to do this on internet. and just use social media to get them to dates. also try nofap, it gives you a no fucks given aura
Playing hard to get and or testing a guy is the best way to immediately damage a potential relationship and scare off a good guy. At least a guy that respects himself. But keep it up ladies!
Wrong! Maybe you haven't dated a beautiful woman with high high emotional intelligence. They seek signs of emotional investment and ability to read their clues and follow their lead emotionally. So keep it up guys, drop them and leave them for those of us with savvy and intelligence.
@@g-man3093 I totally agree with you. There was a time when I skipped the woman who play hard to get. But the more mature (and experienced) I am, the more I know and realized what truly high quality woman is (smart, brave, confidence, and really beautiful). Only really smart and strong man (emotionally) can really passed through this barrier. Boys just can't handle it, so they cry and beg woman to lower her standard or seek woman who have lower standard.
@@g-man3093 If she had any intelligence or emotional maturity she would not play games. Children play games, adults who do need to grow up. Also, anyone who calls himself intelligent is certainly the farthest thing from it. The reason you are saying all this is because you are stuck in a toxic situation and you need to cope. You can gladly take these 'high emotional ...whatever' manchildren.
So true, a person male or female, is able to tell if they like you fairly quickly. So, if they are holding back, it's a bad sign, either they are judging you or they are using you as a form of a confidence booster.
Many people see "playing hard to get" as a way to get what you want, but I see it as a way to protect yourself. Some women may be wary because of bad events in the past, while others may just enjoy the chase. The important thing is to figure out what she wants without putting your own worth at risk. When mind games start to happen, it's time to leave. In the end, a good relationship is based on trust and honesty, not playing guessing games all the time.
1.) she’s testing your strength (emotional intelligence and independence) 2.) she’s seeing if you’re a player 3.) she’s wants you to like her more 4.) she’s not as confident around you 5.) she wants to see if you’re invested 6.) she’s trying to figure what type of guy you are 7.) she has standards (she’s pacing herself) 8.) she doesn’t want to seem too easy 9.) she’s emotionally avoidant 10.) she wants to be pursued (seeing if you don’t give up and initiate) 11.) she’s been hurt before in the past (being cautious)
Real High value men would just make a date on the spot with the woman they’re interested in and if she decides to play games then they will move onto another beautiful woman that won’t play games.
So you don’t want a high value woman who tests a man before dating you? Dude, you can’t have anything high value in life without hardwork. Instead of complaining, test her value back.
@@alvinperry8318 plenty of men move on from people that some folks think are high quality. Quality means the person is stable and genuinely happy with their lives. Just because a person is physically attractive and has money it does not make them high quality.
Men catch feelings through bonding and their ego. You can’t get him emotionally where you need him because you’re playing hard to get. A guy needs to spend that time with you, rub his hands softly, look in his eyes with “that look” y’all know what it is. Drive him crazy with your femininity and softness. Playing hard to get is lame because you never spend enough physical time with him to get him attached to you. Make it about him to get it about you.
Real man talk 💯 any self respecting man should want a woman that cheers them on in pursuit of his goals, and has his back when he’s on his purpose, once he’s in the zone, the little bullshit tests she throws are so easy to pass. Personally speaking, when I know she’s into me and embraces her role and understands what I expect, then she’ll start seeing me pursue her, if she doesn’t do that, then she’s nothing more than a booty call that can, and will likely be dumped as soon as I get bored of her and I don’t even need to have another option lined up, I’m fine being by myself living my own life and doing my own thing.
I'm not sure man. Women who plays hard to get behaves like women who aren't keen. Since I don't wanna be creepy and keep trying if the vibes aren't right, I'll just stay out of it. And it's not true that playing hard to get increases attraction, it's actually really irritating and tiring
Definitely that's why alot of females end up with the wrong person cuz this shit they'll take what works with how it would work the way they would want it to..
Yes , wmen playing hard 2 get is irksone , and makes me lose all attraction and walk away for good to move on to a woman who acts naturally without these manipulation tactics which are disrespectfful and don't seat well with men who are used to date women successfully without mind games. . I truly believe playing hard 2 get means low interest from hee , and i dont deal with low interest women as it wont end well for me even if some romance eventually hapoens. Basically as Doc Love said "she's just settling". . Bssically they want you in the weak position and make you walk on eggshells during the interaction. Big NO to that. Let her be someone's else headache.
@@mariocroatia9321- hello. But what’s the difference between testing and playing ? One is to filter … the other demonstrates low interest and lacking objective
The best way to combat a woman playing hard to get is to make her jealous by being with another woman. This way, she will regret playing hard to get and she'll mostly chase you.
The fact that women would play these mind games and risk losing a decent guy in the process is pretty dumb. Best plan if she backs away just move on, there will always be someone else, and in many cases a better fit
When she play hard to get beat her at her own game.. At some point she’s going to give in and once she does then ghost her now she will be after you now you can play that hard to get role and she will do whatever you want her too..
In a day and age where continuing to pursue can get you landed in jail for sexual harassment or fired from your job, well the juice ain't worth the squeeze. These types of tests aren't worth the risks to most men anymore. Sorry ladies, be straight with us from the get go, or stay single.
@@technoloverish then women have to learn to mean what they say. If a woman gives a polite 'no' to a man, I bet he will leave. But too many women like to see how far they can push men, then suddenly an honest 'no' does not work. Remember the story of the boy who cried wolf. This is the story of the girl who said no. In both cases the men were taught the 'wolf boy' and the 'no girl' were not being serious.
Ladies… if you play hard to get and we lose interest you have no one to blame but yourselves. Losing interest is actually the best thing to do, anything else would be SIMPING. Men will think that you just want attention and won’t waste their time with you
A woman who’s interested will give you time, but take it slow. That’s hard to get. A woman who’s immature and playing games is inconsistent. Sometime she’ll act like she likes you; sometimes she won’t. Sometimes she’ll answer your phone calls; sometimes she won’t. Sometimes she’ll respond to your text in a reasonable time; sometimes she’ll take days to respond. That’s playing games.
Why does some flirt with you soo much and all of a sudden she just don't even text you first or when you twxt her she just answers so cold like she doesn't care
Women who really like a guy, don't play hard to get. If a woman is playing hard to get with you, it's a ploy to make you do all kinds of stuff for her with the promise of a reward at the end. In the end, your reward will be more mind games.
I have learned over the years that if a women shows no sign of interest, just move on. Often it is hard to determine what is "playing hard to get", and what is "lack of interest", until you have moved on and she does not understand why. When they ask, I tell them. If women are trying to confuse us, congratulations, you have.
They have confused themselves too. They are too busy trying to find the best formula. Instead of being genuine some of them are deceptive. By the time most men have thought of two steps many women have moved on to step 20. This is natural for them but they fail to realize men don't care about all of that unnecessary junk.
Guys...While she is playing hard to get, playing mind games, making you jump hoops and whatnot, she is doing the opposite for her Mr Right even sleeping with him after the first date. She breaks all the rules for him. The thing is, she keeps you waiting as a 'Just in case something goes wrong"...You are her cushion because she knows you can do anything for her... Aaaand THAT'S WHY YOUR FIRST BORN IS BORN 2 WEEKS OR A MONTH EARLIER AND IN WORST CASE SCENARIO,2 MONTHS EARLIER. It's NOT your child! Guys have you ever seen a man and his wife and the child looks nothing like the guy like ZERO? So this story of playing hard to get is just her telling you :You are NOT the one until I need you for my convenience .SIMPLE! Thank me later :)
If she’s playing hard to get it means she’s interested but not enough. She would rather risk sabotaging the relationship than cooperating so that everything can work out. Ghost her with no explanation
I think playing hard to get is a sign of insecurity and game playing. I can understand being shy and doubtful of a man's intention, that I understand. Because there alot of dogs out there and they make it difficult for good men. Playing hard to get can mean, she won't get got. There is nothing wrong with a women being careful.
a woman playing hard to get even though she seemed interested is a sign of an emotionally damaged woman unable to bond with a man because she has f'ucked too many guys before
See @gregory wynn, you are defending their actions, but you you should understand there are alternate ways for a woman to be safe & careful WITHOUT playing hard to get. For example, they could agree to only do things in public when they first meet, and then once the connection is more established, move on to a more private settings. There is absolutely no need to play hard to get anywhere during the process, especially during the beginning.
Nothing but shit tests, deception, manipulation and dishonesty. Then these same women wonder why they're still alone, childless and have a dozen cats. God, women, just be honest and straightforward with guys for once. We'll take it from there.
"Smart women play hard to get because they actually like you" 2 months later of investing in the biatch with nights out, meals and validation she tells me "I thought you knew that I only wanted to be friends" Yet here was me thinking she was playing hard to get when in reality she was just getting free meals - so much for women not needing men, hah!
I tried my best, I was supported multiple times, and every time we were really on the same page and contacting each other she pull away and start acting hot and cold, and taking forever to answer back, this time I'm done, I actually believed that she wanted a life with me but that was my lesson, no contact time now so I can finally go back to my old self.
I played hard to get with a woman I really liked. She really liked me too but was also playing hard to get. We never sparked and went our separate ways.
Soon as I feel any sign of a woman not being interested I immediately withdraw my energy life is too short to chase women when other women are ready and willing now
a girl is doing this to me rn. She would always start convos, smile, she winked at me before, she has touched my face and hand before. But now she's literally acting like I'm dead to her, I have no idea what I did to her. ngl I'm hurt a bit lol. However I'm no punk, I'm not gonna go chasing after her
Me and girl work at the same office, hang out together, girl, complains why I do not call her on weekends. If I think about her. We started flirting for two weeks straight, touching each other and the likes, I have her how she feels about me, she is like, we are just friends. What? Just friends...did not talk again for a long time.
@@revben Yoo going through something similar situation at my job rn, she initiated the whole convo with the smiles and touching plus wanted my number. 2 1/2 weeks of flirting too then she start acting all funny n shit like c'mon now don't even txt her anymore
Actually its abusive behavior. It also shows a lack of compassion for other people. Women like this have a hard time believing that men are human beings. No man should pay attention to a woman that plays hard to get. Apollonia is just capitalizing on justifying abusive behavior. After watching her videos, one understands why marriages don’t last.
It depends what kind of playing hard to get she does. If she's playing hard to get because she's cautious and she protects her neck that's great. She should continue talking to you and showing up. But if she doesn't plan dates with you and ignore your messages, that's not playing hard to get. It's either she's not interested or she's purposefully playing games with you.
This video is relatable in all points when it came to the lady I was dating. She was really frustrating but I was patient and I wasn't needy. I gave her space and eventually we ended up in a relationship. It was beautiful. When you have something like that, it is so worth it.
Did she come to you? I have had one in the past but after about a year of not talking. Things seem so backwards. Are men really out here messaging loads of women trying to get in their pants? Seems so pathetic 🙄
Congrats for your patience with your lady. You have been rewarded for your bravery. I play hard to get at the beginning to assess the man, to know if he Really Cares about me, if he's a fighter, and Also to get to know him, to know each other, to feel secure with him. If he's persistent, and WE are a good fit, he will certainly get me...
Does a girl who does this really love you? The more I watch male and female relationship dynamics, the more faith I lose in love. Relationships are coming across as a game of back and forth, both sides have to make moves and neither partner can be truly real, especially the dude cause then they lose interest in us
Love does not exist. If you have interest from someone, you hold something they do not which helps them. Then there is what security you provide and other benefits. I believe it is all related to biology. I've even seen a bisexual woman leave a relationship to have a baby. I think most/if not all women are driven by their need to reproduce. It's all so complex these days though with high avoidance
Apollonia makes it clear that in the almost 50 years since I was single, things are just as complicated now as they were then. But 50 years ago, Apollonia wasn’t around to help explain things. I could have used her help back then. When I got mixed messages, I just figured, “Nah,” and moved on.
As a high value man there’s plenty of better things to do than putting up with some crazy chick’s issues. Leave that to “the needy” and “be a good boy “ type.
The best way to combat a woman playing hard to get is to make her jealous by being with another woman. This way, she will regret playing hard to get and she'll mostly chase you.
As a woman, I don't play hard to get. I just straight up reject people, especially when I don't know them before. I can never understand why people date people without knowing the type of person they are.
Woman told me she was "kinda starting to date a guy in her street" but wanted to go on a date as a friend lmao I told her no its one or the other and we stopped speaking after that. Now she's asking my friends about me weeks later like go away you had your chance
Women are attracted to men that other women like. They assume men operate the same way. Sure men like beautiful women, but men's attraction is not contingent on other men.
@@Ace.0.0.0. something a lot of women will not understand. Some men just like looks and will lust after most. Some have standards and can look past the facade of beauty. Once you get dealt a shit hand, you soon learn that looks don't matter as much as the person's character.
Many many women have missed good men simply because men don’t understand why women play hard to get, nor do they care. If the woman is unsure she should say: ‘I’m unsure’. If she is not being forthright and honest she is setting the precedence of her being secretive in the relationship. LEAVE her.
When women play hard to get the only and best choice is to play hard to get back. Don't call, text, cling. She will notice and if you ever had a chance, she'll reach out. Happens all the time.
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Listen I want to thank you. You know I am seeing a women she's a knockout. We discussed being exclusive, yet it is still fresh. She goes to Miami than boom she Ghost me with minimal contact. It's been on my mind. So you brought a perspective. Thank you
Only dudes with no options will keep investing in a girl whos playing that much. Theres hard to get, and theres TOO hard to get. Pursuing is from the front (leading). Chasing is from behind.
walk away and mean it ! Woman open the door for men who they are interested but if they to much they have to fear that we will walk away, if she plays hard to get that means she is not interested or simply a man with a high value will walk away im talking alpha male, only needy guys will stay.
Why be deceiving a love interest,does she like you or not,is it a test of character,she isn't sure about her future,her true colours should eventually be revealed,the thrill of the chase doesn't always work,be positive either way❓
Sweetheart, I agree with you on many of your points, but your very right about her self confidence with me. And I can really feel it when it happens, but it's only short matter of time she has admitted it her lack of confidence being with and around me.
In answer to your questioning around 8:16, when a woman plays hard to get I divest. Basically, the paradox we all face when getting to no someone is, worthwhile people have options, and if you have options, you’re not going to try very hard. For women, why would a woman chase the attention of one guy when another guy gives it to her. People tend to stay in their comfort zones. The problem is, the guy giving her attention is likely not the guy she wants, seeing as they guy she wants doesn’t need to five attention in order to get women. This is why I tell men all the time, don’t pursue women. Naturally, when you pursue something you position yourself as less than whatever you are pursuing. That’s why I don’t bother anymore when women play hard to get, because she can’t feel like she lucked out with a guy who throws himself at her. She only feels like she scores when SHE does the majority of the investing. And if she doesn’t, then she’s just not into you. A lot of you guys don’t understand that if a woman likes you, she’ll look at you, talk to you about stuff other than your immediate work environment, or always be around you for some reason. You don’t need to approach her to find out whether or not she likes you. If you don’t know if she likes you already, she doesn’t.
The hard to get for increased attraction has never worked on me and I honestly don't know any men who it would. In an age where there is always some other opportunity, playing hard to get makes even less sense.
Women love to play hard to get, but when the guy had it enough and goes the other way, they say he's a looser or don't care about her or if a guy did this to a woman he would get called garbage or person taking advantage or manipulating things to humiliated her.
It’s funny when many women play these mind games. This is a form of conditioning that I do not tolerate. I have always said it “women look at men like stocks.” The minute I say that I’m a United States military veteran, many think I’m crazy. When I don’t mention it everything is smooth. Then they ask what type of career I have and google is their best friend to see how much you earn 😂. Me Male in his early 30’s, NO KIDS, served his country, finished college early with a master’s, lives by himself with a nice SUV, invests and works. Them Maybe finished college or still trying to figure it out. Have a mediocre job and might be living with siblings/ roommates. ooh I forgot they might have a kid. *** STILL PLAYING MIND GAMES*** How sway?
To test a guy with hard to get to find out if he is confident, cool and smart. Why would a hard-to-find guy like that take the test? Plus, this strategy won’t work in today’s corporate settings.
If a woman is insecure or not confident.You better run!Women like this need to get help.Far too often.Too prideful to get help.Its not your job to be a womans psychiatrist.Its not your job to fix her.'A closed mouth will not get fed.'
#12- She's playing hard to get, to get you (& others) to chase her, to feed her EGO that isn't self-sufficient but relies on constant attention for survival. ;) You're welcome lmao
That is somewhat correct. You must see yourself in the same way as others see you. This means you have an accurate perception of your self. I have zero interest in a person who thinks they are Napoleon, and should be treated as an emperor. That person may think very highly of themselves, but nobody else would see them that way. Peace out.
Guarding ones heart-healthy minded, reasonable caution and giving time to learn someone Playing hard to get-mind game, manipulation, self seeking, and the like. They look very similar but aren’t the same ladies. Free game
They do it because they're obsessed with validation and holding power over men. I just delt with this this week and when i showed im not desperate she still flirted at work and went as far as talking to me about her ex at length and i just smiled :) then she got a haircut and sent a pic, then started backing off again in the same day. Woman want to be with an honest man by being dishonest lol
Man, screw that. If a woman plays "hard to get" with me I'll just move on assuming she's not interested ENOUGH the way I want her to be. I want them to have "peek interest" when dealing with me as if I'm their number 1 choice. So they will mess around and lose me playing like this especially when I'm used to women showing strong interest from the start right away. Anything outside of that "strong interest" realm will feel too funny to me and cause me to have a knee-jerk reaction of moving on.
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I find your introspection a breath of fresh air, and also interesting. All my dating life I've been hearing that s#!t testing guys is evolutionarily hard wired into women's brains in such a way that they don't even realize it when they are doing it. Even afterward they don't seen to be aware that they just tested their guy. I've even asked a few women about it, (not the ones I was dating. It would be pretty self defeating for getting a realistic answer if you ask me since I'm the one they were testing.), and they all said the same thing. They all said they never s#!t test guys. Now that you have commented in an open forum that you are aware of it, I'd be interested to hear about your experience. Do you plan it ahead, is it a spur of the moment thing, aware of it when you're putting him to the test, aware of it afterwards? I know it's perhaps a little off topic, but I'd be interested to hear what you have to say about that aspect of women testing men.
They live in the moment and pull it out whenever they sense you like them and can get away with it. If they're afraid of losing you, watch how good their behavior is.
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She’s playing hard to get to gain power in the relationship and to see if she can control/manipulate you. Don’t take the bait gentlemen. The world is yours.
It never gets that far in Situationships lol
@@jerseysteelfitness6927 not supposed to. Lol alot of guys fail.
Yep. Spot on
Women have the control in most relationships, they think on a longer scale then men and are physically weaker too. So at a present moment, it seems like the man has more control. But when you look at it on a span of many months, years, e.t.c. They get more than they give out most of the time. I guess it depends how you want to see it. I tend to say women need and have most of the control because otherwise they would be abused way more often since they are physically weaker. Kinda like to balance out everything.
You hit the bullseye friend
Smart and high quality men walk away when a woman plays hard to get. They don't have time for BS.
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@360 RED PILL SPARTAN me 2. Im in the same boat. Im also good looking and soon as numbers are exchanged this stupid childest game starts and ruins everything
@360 RED PILL SPARTAN when you meet these women in person you have to start make them invest in you an make them qualify themselves to you. maybe connecting with them also, in person. and dont ever validate them if they are attractive. theres a lot of tips on how to do this on internet. and just use social media to get them to dates. also try nofap, it gives you a no fucks given aura
They don't have time for your bs
Amen brother lol
She plays hard to get
Me: have a good day
The best!
Because sometimes or most of the time, "hard to get" means not interested. lol
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this is where mind games starts. I only see immaturity.
Agreed.
And I only see manipulation.
They are really wicked
Agreed. “Playing hard to get”... keyword: ‘playing’.
Just annoyed her with affectionate
Playing hard to get and or testing a guy is the best way to immediately damage a potential relationship and scare off a good guy. At least a guy that respects himself. But keep it up ladies!
Right on!
Wrong! Maybe you haven't dated a beautiful woman with high high emotional intelligence. They seek signs of emotional investment and ability to read their clues and follow their lead emotionally. So keep it up guys, drop them and leave them for those of us with savvy and intelligence.
@@g-man3093 👍
@@g-man3093 I totally agree with you. There was a time when I skipped the woman who play hard to get. But the more mature (and experienced) I am, the more I know and realized what truly high quality woman is (smart, brave, confidence, and really beautiful). Only really smart and strong man (emotionally) can really passed through this barrier. Boys just can't handle it, so they cry and beg woman to lower her standard or seek woman who have lower standard.
@@g-man3093 If she had any intelligence or emotional maturity she would not play games. Children play games, adults who do need to grow up. Also, anyone who calls himself intelligent is certainly the farthest thing from it.
The reason you are saying all this is because you are stuck in a toxic situation and you need to cope. You can gladly take these 'high emotional ...whatever' manchildren.
You shouldn’t have to fight for anyone. If they want to be with you they will. Period.
Noted
Roger that. 👍🏽
I met few chicks like this it's like while they play I got chicks ready to have fun without games i left them in there own games
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So true, a person male or female, is able to tell if they like you fairly quickly. So, if they are holding back, it's a bad sign, either they are judging you or they are using you as a form of a confidence booster.
everyone is chasing instant results and validation. Now that I'm older I appreciate the relationship that builds over time
Yess proper foundation 👍
Yes! A relationship is building blocks. Build slowly
Many people see "playing hard to get" as a way to get what you want, but I see it as a way to protect yourself. Some women may be wary because of bad events in the past, while others may just enjoy the chase. The important thing is to figure out what she wants without putting your own worth at risk. When mind games start to happen, it's time to leave. In the end, a good relationship is based on trust and honesty, not playing guessing games all the time.
1.) she’s testing your strength (emotional intelligence and independence)
2.) she’s seeing if you’re a player
3.) she’s wants you to like her more
4.) she’s not as confident around you
5.) she wants to see if you’re invested
6.) she’s trying to figure what type of guy you are
7.) she has standards (she’s pacing herself)
8.) she doesn’t want to seem too easy
9.) she’s emotionally avoidant
10.) she wants to be pursued (seeing if you don’t give up and initiate)
11.) she’s been hurt before in the past (being cautious)
all true and all shitty and fucked up reasons
Too many rules just to get some ass 🥲🤦🏾♂️🤣
Why women chase men
Step 12 she's gonna find herself by herself
Thank you mate 😂
Real High value men would just make a date on the spot with the woman they’re interested in and if she decides to play games then they will move onto another beautiful woman that won’t play games.
Keep dreaming buddy and tell me when that happens with a high quality woman.
me
99 % women play games at some point of there life.
So you don’t want a high value woman who tests a man before dating you? Dude, you can’t have anything high value in life without hardwork. Instead of complaining, test her value back.
@@alvinperry8318 plenty of men move on from people that some folks think are high quality. Quality means the person is stable and genuinely happy with their lives. Just because a person is physically attractive and has money it does not make them high quality.
Yup, she tested me to much. I walkout. Now im cool.
By “now I’m cool” do you mean you’re happy without her or you ended up with her?
@@davidhodge8509 he said he walked out. Therefore he is at peace without her. Good for him.
Good bro
Fuck testing that's so dumb
Even instinctively
@@Ace.0.0.0. lol some folks dont read.
Men catch feelings through bonding and their ego. You can’t get him emotionally where you need him because you’re playing hard to get. A guy needs to spend that time with you, rub his hands softly, look in his eyes with “that look” y’all know what it is. Drive him crazy with your femininity and softness. Playing hard to get is lame because you never spend enough physical time with him to get him attached to you. Make it about him to get it about you.
Real man talk 💯 any self respecting man should want a woman that cheers them on in pursuit of his goals, and has his back when he’s on his purpose, once he’s in the zone, the little bullshit tests she throws are so easy to pass. Personally speaking, when I know she’s into me and embraces her role and understands what I expect, then she’ll start seeing me pursue her, if she doesn’t do that, then she’s nothing more than a booty call that can, and will likely be dumped as soon as I get bored of her and I don’t even need to have another option lined up, I’m fine being by myself living my own life and doing my own thing.
Men's words.
@@LaRueDuConsommateur is that the real koulibaly?
Yo exactly!
And some of us no matter how interested we were will shut that door and lock it when shit goes to game territory.
She plays mind games, I play with her mind by walking away for GOOD!
aka no contact
“The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it” - Corey Wayne.
Lmaooo
And that's why she will be chasing you
@@khae74 And she did. But I was done with her...
I'm not buying this one, she's playing games, and I'm just going to move on to the next!
Well said
Then the next girl plays the exact same games, so you can't win
Put her on hold indefinitely - make sure she does all the investment and let her watch you talk to other girls
@@azzazz4549 Nah...there's mature women who don't play games out there .
I'm not sure man. Women who plays hard to get behaves like women who aren't keen. Since I don't wanna be creepy and keep trying if the vibes aren't right, I'll just stay out of it. And it's not true that playing hard to get increases attraction, it's actually really irritating and tiring
Definitely that's why alot of females end up with the wrong person cuz this shit they'll take what works with how it would work the way they would want it to..
That is a fact
Yes , wmen playing hard 2 get is irksone , and makes me lose all attraction and walk away for good to move on to a woman who acts naturally without these manipulation tactics which are disrespectfful and don't seat well with men who are used to date women successfully without mind games. . I truly believe playing hard 2 get means low interest from hee , and i dont deal with low interest women as it wont end well for me even if some romance eventually hapoens. Basically as Doc Love said "she's just settling". . Bssically they want you in the weak position and make you walk on eggshells during the interaction. Big NO to that. Let her be someone's else headache.
My thoughts exactly
@@mariocroatia9321- hello. But what’s the difference between testing and playing ? One is to filter … the other demonstrates low interest and lacking objective
If women play hard to get, the guy will think she's not interested and will move on from her.
Wtf is this logic
lol
Lol
If she plays hard to get it is what it is she’s not interested
LOGIC??? Women never heard of the word!
The best way to combat a woman playing hard to get is to make her jealous by being with another woman. This way, she will regret playing hard to get and she'll mostly chase you.
The fact that women would play these mind games and risk losing a decent guy in the process is pretty dumb.
Best plan if she backs away just move on, there will always be someone else, and in many cases a better fit
Lol 😆🤣
It is crazy, isn't it Angel Hernandez!!! They'll lose a real good man and person in the process all because they're childish and fickle.
SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE FOLKS IN THE BACK
And then they cry they can't find a good men. Guess why.. 😆
Tell-it-like-it-is bro
When she plays hard to get just ghost here.
What does that mean?
@@abrahammunoz1703 that means to disappear and never be found by her again.
Ghost her for GOOD.
When she play hard to get beat her at her own game.. At some point she’s going to give in and once she does then ghost her now she will be after you now you can play that hard to get role and she will do whatever you want her too..
@@mikelowrey100 most women play hard to get to boast their ego and when they are not intrested they don't regret sometimes
In this fast paced society, I neither have the time nor the patience to play mind games. Either be real or be gone...period.
"Play hard to get" and "try to validate her ego" are different things. Stay alert fellas.
I avlidate her ego
@@travisandrews3909 good, and you'll be wrapped around her finger too.
Personally, if she's playing hard to get...she already has an ego.
In a day and age where continuing to pursue can get you landed in jail for sexual harassment or fired from your job, well the juice ain't worth the squeeze.
These types of tests aren't worth the risks to most men anymore. Sorry ladies, be straight with us from the get go, or stay single.
It sure doesn’t help that men who get turned down will often react violently.
@@technoloverish then women have to learn to mean what they say. If a woman gives a polite 'no' to a man, I bet he will leave. But too many women like to see how far they can push men, then suddenly an honest 'no' does not work. Remember the story of the boy who cried wolf. This is the story of the girl who said no. In both cases the men were taught the 'wolf boy' and the 'no girl' were not being serious.
That is a fact
@@technoloverish >often
Actually, I'm White. Nice try though.
I'm invested as much and as long as you are invested. Point blank. Period.
BOOM. Truth missile
If a woman plays hard to get, I'll just walk away.
Co-Sign!
Call an uber because you'll look smooth peeling off yo, foreal .
Noooo play the game then when you get her ghost her
@@matthewlachance3362 ahh, Revenge is sweet
@@matthewlachance3362 That's petty and a waste of time.
Ladies… if you play hard to get and we lose interest you have no one to blame but yourselves. Losing interest is actually the best thing to do, anything else would be SIMPING. Men will think that you just want attention and won’t waste their time with you
A woman who’s interested will give you time, but take it slow. That’s hard to get.
A woman who’s immature and playing games is inconsistent. Sometime she’ll act like she likes you; sometimes she won’t.
Sometimes she’ll answer your phone calls; sometimes she won’t. Sometimes she’ll respond to your text in a reasonable time; sometimes she’ll take days to respond. That’s playing games.
Why does some flirt with you soo much and all of a sudden she just don't even text you first or when you twxt her she just answers so cold like she doesn't care
I just called quits with a woman who tried to play this game with me
me too, waste of life she was.
Quits? It never started
Three years later you're looking at couples wondering why you never "got a chance" yourself LOL
Women who really like a guy, don't play hard to get. If a woman is playing hard to get with you, it's a ploy to make you do all kinds of stuff for her with the promise of a reward at the end. In the end, your reward will be more mind games.
Your wrong,women act like this especially when they think your above them in terms of status
I have learned over the years that if a women shows no sign of interest, just move on. Often it is hard to determine what is "playing hard to get", and what is "lack of interest", until you have moved on and she does not understand why. When they ask, I tell them. If women are trying to confuse us, congratulations, you have.
They have confused themselves too. They are too busy trying to find the best formula. Instead of being genuine some of them are deceptive. By the time most men have thought of two steps many women have moved on to step 20. This is natural for them but they fail to realize men don't care about all of that unnecessary junk.
That is a good point.!
Guys...While she is playing hard to get, playing mind games, making you jump hoops and whatnot, she is doing the opposite for her Mr Right even sleeping with him after the first date. She breaks all the rules for him. The thing is, she keeps you waiting as a 'Just in case something goes wrong"...You are her cushion because she knows you can do anything for her... Aaaand THAT'S WHY YOUR FIRST BORN IS BORN 2 WEEKS OR A MONTH EARLIER AND IN WORST CASE SCENARIO,2 MONTHS EARLIER. It's NOT your child! Guys have you ever seen a man and his wife and the child looks nothing like the guy like ZERO? So this story of playing hard to get is just her telling you :You are NOT the one until I need you for my convenience .SIMPLE! Thank me later :)
Exactly
If she’s playing hard to get it means she’s interested but not enough.
She would rather risk sabotaging the relationship than cooperating so that everything can work out.
Ghost her with no explanation
A-fucking-men
When she play hard to get move on! #2021
Well said!
Factssss sheeeeeeeesh 😤🤧
Exactly
I think playing hard to get is a sign of insecurity and game playing. I can understand being shy and doubtful of a man's intention, that I understand. Because there alot of dogs out there and they make it difficult for good men.
Playing hard to get can mean, she won't get got. There is nothing wrong with a women being careful.
a woman playing hard to get even though she seemed interested is a sign of an emotionally damaged woman unable to bond with a man because she has f'ucked too many guys before
See @gregory wynn, you are defending their actions, but you you should understand there are alternate ways for a woman to be safe & careful WITHOUT playing hard to get. For example, they could agree to only do things in public when they first meet, and then once the connection is more established, move on to a more private settings. There is absolutely no need to play hard to get anywhere during the process, especially during the beginning.
@@TheJusticefornone That's too much logic for any female
I’d just focus on myself and my business. As a man; I don’t have time for a woman’s bullshit.
Thats a winners mindset , keep it going man
and I don't have time for a mans bullshit
@@notme5128 And that's why you are alone, fat, and with kids
Facts...
@@frankiegunnz8066 hahaha
Nothing but shit tests, deception, manipulation and dishonesty. Then these same women wonder why they're still alone, childless and have a dozen cats. God, women, just be honest and straightforward with guys for once. We'll take it from there.
Agree with you i always say to myself this
Women ard so complicated
"Smart women play hard to get because they actually like you"
2 months later of investing in the biatch with nights out, meals and validation she tells me "I thought you knew that I only wanted to be friends"
Yet here was me thinking she was playing hard to get when in reality she was just getting free meals - so much for women not needing men, hah!
Just move on bro. I faced something similar, but I moved on, but she wants me back, but I declined.
I tried my best, I was supported multiple times, and every time we were really on the same page and contacting each other she pull away and start acting hot and cold, and taking forever to answer back, this time I'm done, I actually believed that she wanted a life with me but that was my lesson, no contact time now so I can finally go back to my old self.
Mind games= Run!!!
I played hard to get with a woman I really liked. She really liked me too but was also playing hard to get. We never sparked and went our separate ways.
The "Hard to Get"-game was the winner here... LMAO 😂😂😂
@@robert4you It always is.
Lol
Soon as I feel any sign of a woman not being interested I immediately withdraw my energy life is too short to chase women when other women are ready and willing now
a girl is doing this to me rn. She would always start convos, smile, she winked at me before, she has touched my face and hand before. But now she's literally acting like I'm dead to her, I have no idea what I did to her. ngl I'm hurt a bit lol. However I'm no punk, I'm not gonna go chasing after her
Lol 😂 I will try my best and break her heart
Next her. Work on yourself and shel come running sooner or later. And when she does punish her.
Me and girl work at the same office, hang out together, girl, complains why I do not call her on weekends. If I think about her. We started flirting for two weeks straight, touching each other and the likes, I have her how she feels about me, she is like, we are just friends. What? Just friends...did not talk again for a long time.
Bro get over, you dont have time for playing
@@revben Yoo going through something similar situation at my job rn, she initiated the whole convo with the smiles and touching plus wanted my number. 2 1/2 weeks of flirting too then she start acting all funny n shit like c'mon now don't even txt her anymore
I'm watching this from South Africa🇿🇦🇿🇦in KwaZulu-Natal province
Nice bro ....greetings from Southern California, United States 🇺🇸
Me 2
From Durban ✌🏾
I'm married to the gym and my work if she's doing all this then I just forget about dating if she's playing these games.
Actually its abusive behavior. It also shows a lack of compassion for other people. Women like this have a hard time believing that men are human beings. No man should pay attention to a woman that plays hard to get. Apollonia is just capitalizing on justifying abusive behavior. After watching her videos, one understands why marriages don’t last.
Yes it is an emotional abuse
Yes it is emotional abuse
Yes. Women do have a hard time seeing men as human. That’s so true.
Women have become hateful creatures
@AlesEdit And then, what happened?
It depends what kind of playing hard to get she does. If she's playing hard to get because she's cautious and she protects her neck that's great. She should continue talking to you and showing up. But if she doesn't plan dates with you and ignore your messages, that's not playing hard to get. It's either she's not interested or she's purposefully playing games with you.
interesting
EXACTLY 💯
This video is relatable in all points when it came to the lady I was dating. She was really frustrating but I was patient and I wasn't needy. I gave her space and eventually we ended up in a relationship. It was beautiful. When you have something like that, it is so worth it.
Facts
Did she come to you? I have had one in the past but after about a year of not talking. Things seem so backwards. Are men really out here messaging loads of women trying to get in their pants? Seems so pathetic 🙄
Congrats for your patience with your lady. You have been rewarded for your bravery. I play hard to get at the beginning to assess the man, to know if he Really Cares about me, if he's a fighter, and Also to get to know him, to know each other, to feel secure with him. If he's persistent, and WE are a good fit, he will certainly get me...
Does a girl who does this really love you? The more I watch male and female relationship dynamics, the more faith I lose in love. Relationships are coming across as a game of back and forth, both sides have to make moves and neither partner can be truly real, especially the dude cause then they lose interest in us
I would like to know that too?.!
Love does not exist. If you have interest from someone, you hold something they do not which helps them. Then there is what security you provide and other benefits. I believe it is all related to biology. I've even seen a bisexual woman leave a relationship to have a baby. I think most/if not all women are driven by their need to reproduce. It's all so complex these days though with high avoidance
Apollonia makes it clear that in the almost 50 years since I was single, things are just as complicated now as they were then. But 50 years ago, Apollonia wasn’t around to help explain things. I could have used her help back then.
When I got mixed messages, I just figured, “Nah,” and moved on.
It was more likely than not for the best. There's no telling how many crazy women you avoided because of your simplistic view.
Book of song of Solomon
As a high value man there’s plenty of better things to do than putting up with some crazy chick’s issues. Leave that to “the needy” and “be a good boy “ type.
I thought woman like when guys are a bad boys??
Or even better, leave it to the "bad boys", let it be their problem.
@@travisandrews3909 they do but they want to turn bad boys into good boys.
"High value man" (overweight, in debt, and lonely)
Been there done that, the older I get, the less I tolerate it
Increases her chances? Listen love as soon as I get the "psycho" vibe I'm off like a Delorean at 88.
Great Scott, Marty! We're going back to the future!
If she seems like she doesn’t like, I’m just going to leave her alone and go after someone else. The reason: me too. I don’t want to risk it.
Everything with a woman is a TEST. Throughout the relationship women are constantly testing men. If you washing my drawers, the test is over.
The best way to combat a woman playing hard to get is to make her jealous by being with another woman. This way, she will regret playing hard to get and she'll mostly chase you.
The Empire strikes back :D
I agree, but then you must ask yourself- is she worth the squeeze? A good woman will make your life easier.
Works on American girls but foreign girls don't like that.
Apollonia! Best advices ever for quality people only!
As a woman, I don't play hard to get. I just straight up reject people, especially when I don't know them before. I can never understand why people date people without knowing the type of person they are.
if a girl is really into a guy, not knowing exactly what type of person he is wont stop her
That’s exactly what the first date is for 💀
How are you going to ever "know" them lol
Woman told me she was "kinda starting to date a guy in her street" but wanted to go on a date as a friend lmao I told her no its one or the other and we stopped speaking after that. Now she's asking my friends about me weeks later like go away you had your chance
❗ Good one brother
She's for the streets, she sealed her fate. Lol
Women are attracted to men that other women like. They assume men operate the same way. Sure men like beautiful women, but men's attraction is not contingent on other men.
@@Ace.0.0.0. something a lot of women will not understand. Some men just like looks and will lust after most. Some have standards and can look past the facade of beauty. Once you get dealt a shit hand, you soon learn that looks don't matter as much as the person's character.
Many many women have missed good men simply because men don’t understand why women play hard to get, nor do they care.
If the woman is unsure she should say: ‘I’m unsure’.
If she is not being forthright and honest she is setting the precedence of her being secretive in the relationship. LEAVE her.
When women play hard to get the only and best choice is to play hard to get back. Don't call, text, cling. She will notice and if you ever had a chance, she'll reach out. Happens all the time.
I like that. Great advice. _"Hard to get back..."_ Why didn't I thought of that???
If a woman plays mind games with me or plays hard to get I am out of here. Just be honest with me. Be up front we're both adults.
Watching from Zambia. You've improved me....
Thank you, Apollonia. You made my mind much clearer from my thoughts.
Hi guys ! I fell in love with AP at midnight by her talent and presentation skills.😃
bruh
Ms Ponti, just wanted to say your insights are pure gold.
Thank you so much!
What happens when you’re actually a player and there’s 50 more in line but you have 0 tolerance for games
Congrats on 500k🥳
Thank you for the amazing content!! I have been working on myself consistently for the last year, taking a lot of your advice and I have seen my dating life and my relationships with my female friends improve dramatically! You are a godsend!
That is a 100% fact
Listen I want to thank you. You know I am seeing a women she's a knockout. We discussed being exclusive, yet it is still fresh. She goes to Miami than boom she Ghost me with minimal contact. It's been on my mind. So you brought a perspective. Thank you
Who brought up being exclusive? You or her? I assume it was you if she ghosted you.
Gorgeous and so Informative 😉
Hard to get is mind games i will go to the next one. I have no time for mind games.
Only dudes with no options will keep investing in a girl whos playing that much. Theres hard to get, and theres TOO hard to get. Pursuing is from the front (leading). Chasing is from behind.
walk away and mean it ! Woman open the door for men who they are interested but if they to much they have to fear that we will walk away, if she plays hard to get that means she is not interested or simply a man with a high value will walk away im talking alpha male, only needy guys will stay.
It's all about control, making you her botch
Yep
Do a video on accountability for women. Seems like lots of men including me is see’ing a lack of this from women
U have a better chance of hitting the lottery ....twice
They don't have any
@@bobross3781 yes
It called a “shit test”.
The key word is "playing". Why play any games at all. Why not just be yourself and if the other person is "playing" any kind of game, just walk away.
Why be deceiving a love interest,does she like you or not,is it a test of character,she isn't sure about her future,her true colours should eventually be revealed,the thrill of the chase doesn't always work,be positive either way❓
She's confident if she is playing games, don't trust anything that bleeds for a week and doesn't die
Its like getting advice from my sisters makes so much sence. Im puertoRican and our sisters will no let there brother fall.😊 thank u!
We don't have time for the bs. It's immature, and a natural men repellent.
Sweetheart, I agree with you on many of your points, but your very right about her self confidence with me. And I can really feel it when it happens, but it's only short matter of time she has admitted it her lack of confidence being with and around me.
I love this one, from Belgium 🇧🇪
In answer to your questioning around 8:16, when a woman plays hard to get I divest. Basically, the paradox we all face when getting to no someone is, worthwhile people have options, and if you have options, you’re not going to try very hard. For women, why would a woman chase the attention of one guy when another guy gives it to her. People tend to stay in their comfort zones. The problem is, the guy giving her attention is likely not the guy she wants, seeing as they guy she wants doesn’t need to five attention in order to get women. This is why I tell men all the time, don’t pursue women. Naturally, when you pursue something you position yourself as less than whatever you are pursuing. That’s why I don’t bother anymore when women play hard to get, because she can’t feel like she lucked out with a guy who throws himself at her. She only feels like she scores when SHE does the majority of the investing. And if she doesn’t, then she’s just not into you. A lot of you guys don’t understand that if a woman likes you, she’ll look at you, talk to you about stuff other than your immediate work environment, or always be around you for some reason. You don’t need to approach her to find out whether or not she likes you. If you don’t know if she likes you already, she doesn’t.
The hard to get for increased attraction has never worked on me and I honestly don't know any men who it would.
In an age where there is always some other opportunity, playing hard to get makes even less sense.
It works in them so they think it works on us
First love is patient if you rush things no foundation easy to break. Courtship
Women love to play hard to get, but when the guy had it enough and goes the other way, they say he's a looser or don't care about her or if a guy did this to a woman he would get called garbage or person taking advantage or manipulating things to humiliated her.
I think I must say .., U are a brilliant coach regarding understanding the issues n realities men face
It’s funny when many women play these mind games. This is a form of conditioning that I do not tolerate. I have always said it “women look at men like stocks.” The minute I say that I’m a United States military veteran, many think I’m crazy. When I don’t mention it everything is smooth. Then they ask what type of career I have and google is their best friend to see how much you earn 😂.
Me
Male in his early 30’s, NO KIDS, served his country, finished college early with a master’s, lives by himself with a nice SUV, invests and works.
Them
Maybe finished college or still trying to figure it out. Have a mediocre job and might be living with siblings/ roommates. ooh I forgot they might have a kid.
*** STILL PLAYING MIND GAMES***
How sway?
Bro it’s crazzzzyyyyy
might have kids is an understatement, i waz dealin wit single moms before i hit 17 lol nd even then teen pregnancy is so normalized now
Excellent advice again. Thank you very much, Apollonia! You are outstanding.
To test a guy with hard to get to find out if he is confident, cool and smart. Why would a hard-to-find guy like that take the test? Plus, this strategy won’t work in today’s corporate settings.
If a woman is insecure or not confident.You better run!Women like this need to get help.Far too often.Too prideful to get help.Its not your job to be a womans psychiatrist.Its not your job to fix her.'A closed mouth will not get fed.'
Playing hard to get actually pushes guys away because to us men, women don’t play hard to get with men they actually like.
#12- She's playing hard to get, to get you (& others) to chase her, to feed her EGO that isn't self-sufficient but relies on constant attention for survival. ;)
You're welcome lmao
lol
Should be number 1, lol
Absolutely do not chase. I ain’t chasing no women playing games. Out the door
...however; in the real world, you play hard-to-get, what you get is left behind.
Adults do not play this game with each other.
Thanks, Ponti
yes sir, amen
The thing I've learned is, men are usually more honest and forthright than when and we can say things that they don't necessarily want to hear
The real question is not how other people feel about you, but how do you feel about yourself?
That is somewhat correct. You must see yourself in the same way as others see you. This means you have an accurate perception of your self. I have zero interest in a person who thinks they are Napoleon, and should be treated as an emperor. That person may think very highly of themselves, but nobody else would see them that way. Peace out.
Nailed it, Max.
Guarding ones heart-healthy minded, reasonable caution and giving time to learn someone
Playing hard to get-mind game, manipulation, self seeking, and the like.
They look very similar but aren’t the same ladies. Free game
They do it because they're obsessed with validation and holding power over men. I just delt with this this week and when i showed im not desperate she still flirted at work and went as far as talking to me about her ex at length and i just smiled :) then she got a haircut and sent a pic, then started backing off again in the same day. Woman want to be with an honest man by being dishonest lol
Is this not a negative feedback? : she really likes you ---> she plays hard to get---> you persue her more----> she loses interest.
Man, screw that. If a woman plays "hard to get" with me I'll just move on assuming she's not interested ENOUGH the way I want her to be. I want them to have "peek interest" when dealing with me as if I'm their number 1 choice. So they will mess around and lose me playing like this especially when I'm used to women showing strong interest from the start right away. Anything outside of that "strong interest" realm will feel too funny to me and cause me to have a knee-jerk reaction of moving on.
Iam watching from Czech Republic, love your advice. No bullshit, just real reasons and actually women logic started to make sense to me after watching your vids! Love every second of them! Iam 19 and really appreciate the inside and getting ahead of my peers with the knowledge. Keep it up please
I find your introspection a breath of fresh air, and also interesting. All my dating life I've been hearing that s#!t testing guys is evolutionarily hard wired into women's brains in such a way that they don't even realize it when they are doing it. Even afterward they don't seen to be aware that they just tested their guy. I've even asked a few women about it, (not the ones I was dating. It would be pretty self defeating for getting a realistic answer if you ask me since I'm the one they were testing.), and they all said the same thing. They all said they never s#!t test guys.
Now that you have commented in an open forum that you are aware of it, I'd be interested to hear about your experience. Do you plan it ahead, is it a spur of the moment thing, aware of it when you're putting him to the test, aware of it afterwards? I know it's perhaps a little off topic, but I'd be interested to hear what you have to say about that aspect of women testing men.
They live in the moment and pull it out whenever they sense you like them and can get away with it. If they're afraid of losing you, watch how good their behavior is.