The audacity of saying my husband didn’t marry the side chick behind her back meanwhile he had a child and house with the side chick behind her back.She didn’t have a choice but to accept the side chick.
Her husband really disrespected her though🥹💔😭 The cheating.. Having a baby outside their marriage… Buying the side chick a house… Yoo🥹💔men are not good people.. Love&Light to this beautiful lady 🥹
My mom was right, no matter how smart you think you are, a man will show you flames🫢🤦🏾♀️ I’m sorry but it seems like gogo got tricked shamm👀that sangoma, the husband & his mom did things sham😖😂you can’t convince me otherwise
If she said she's unhappy, you would believe without question. Dont project your own feelings, this lady sounds happy, the most happy compared to other guests that have come here.
The most annoying thing is that she has convinced herself and now she thinks she convince the whole world...this one thinks she is smart but niks kanjani
It's too soon for her to be talking about her peace in polygamy. She is sadly married to a selfish man who covers his actions with polygamy. She is not ok, she is being emotionally abused and she is in denial. I wish her eyes get opened .
Who are you to tell the next women what she is or isn’t coping with? 😂😂😂 the woman is sitting there telling us her truth you are here in the comments telling us your projection and insecurity and calling her truth lies. Aowa you women have issues
@@spm9130 Thats what I always say. If women were firm and had stubborn morals and values etc over half of the society issues with relationships wouldn't exist. WOMEN ARE ENABLERS!
She says when she accepted the sidechick she told her "I'm here to dignify you as a woman" lol no she was also dignifying her cheating husband & herself cause if she hadn't accepted she was always gonna be that wife whose husband has a sidechick & children outside of marriage cause the sidechick told her I ain't going nowhere.
They were going to continue vele. But being a side chick is only viable for a certain time. After 40 being a side chick starts to become embarrassing, and lonely even. Worse ke having a child with a married man khona it's worse worse. So nje I agree with her, she definitely dignified the side. There's a reason why sides are hidden. You are someones dirty secret.
@lungelolamula7075 where did she get the power or authority to dignify another human being as someone whose husband wanted someone else while married to her? Stop please!
Not most of ya'll out here judging Kgothatso for picking her battles and accepting a polygamous marriage when you're 'bekezeling' your serial-cheating husbands/boyfriends 👀👀👀.
The man can have 2 wives, 3, or 4! They will never stop cheating if they have no self-control and no boundaries! No commitment. They lead with their feelings! They are just a male, not a man. Therefore, accepting a 2nd wife or 3rd will not stop him from cheating. Once a cheater will always be a cheater.
Yooo, brokenness leads to broken decisions, leading to more brokenness. I pray she wakes up from the lies she has been fed by the devil through her husband, mother-in-law, and the sangomas she visited. I am okay in my singleness with Christ in it, that's my hard that I chose and I am fine.
Some people in these comments just can’t take other peoples perspective… this lady sat here for an hour told us her journey, she wrote a book and some of you come here to say …..” she is not okay with it”!! Just say not for me and move on
She was gaslight into the situation and accepting the marriage. She got told about her gift after she found out about the side chick?! And went to thwasa after the scandal?! Its such a frustrating situation. So sad to see she gave into the isithembu dynamic.
@@Vv-fl2rm Since you want me to go there, lets go...😏 Men are polygamous by nature, there's noan that doesnt cheat. Bofebe bo padile le baruti. Most woman marry to be happy, you dont marry to be happy, realistically, you marry to make living easier. Let me break it down: Marriage is a business contract. When you are single, u pay 100% of your household bills, its more challenging when you are a single parent. When you marry, you each pay 50% towards household bills, you reproduce, children are raised in a stable home, husband is provider, protector and wife is helper and nurturer. Two incomes are better than one or none. Thats the reality of marriage. If you thought you'll have me triggered by my cheating husband, you are wrong. I got into it knowing exactly what Ill be dealing with. 😏
Not you in a previous comment, saying people mustn't project how they feel onto others? And now you're here telling this lady's husband is cheating! Weee klibhi MASIMBA! @Vv-fl2rm
@@rosegold6209you were supposed to say, not every man cheat, and it's true. Again, I'm not saying you must do it, but they're people who know how to manipulate a man to be yours alone, period, it's also true.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tbthere’s quite a couple of broken things like accepting your man is cheating, bringing a child and accepting polygamy against your will, she clearly fought against this fight and lost to the man.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb sorry, where does she start talking about a happy marriage with a side chick involved? She described it as driving her crazy hey,8 hour hunt, truck.
this is book worth reading.. she’s very articulate…shes a very assertive and dominant person naturally. It’s a difficult experience from the sound of it.. 😌
She wanted sthembu to fall into place. 🤣😅😃😃😇 I like it when women say "I am a strong woman, I am stubborn, I am controlling, I dont take nonsense, nywerenywere....but men have a way of humbling them😀😃😁😆😅🤣 "I AM HERE TO DIGNIFY YOU"
No woman can convince me she's okay with being in a polygamous relationship ESPECIALLY if she was the 1st wife and she truly loved that man unless if it benefits her somehow. That's why today we see women who were 1st wives divorcing to be number 2 or 3 in other people's marriages😂. This lady is uGogo and I've seen on TV people who've gone this route having polygamous relationships sooo🤷♀️ it could be part her calling or she's just an exception
Even if the mother in law says she loves you 🙄, I’ve seen how my own mother protects my brother when he’s done wrong. Ngimbuze would you be happy if I went through that. Ay ngeke. Ngithi but you say you love the girl as if she’s your own daughter meanwhile you allow her to got through such.
So your ancestor was a sidechick, and she came through you to come to become a first wife.Our husband's who making babies outside marriage are the ones perpetuating single motherhood.My question is why is it always men who put us through this "trials and tribulations in marriage"?I am also eager to hear the husband understanding with regards to how things unfolded.🤔 Hope everything you did and sacrificed brings you ✌️
True that! She's gonna find that it wasn't that deep for the husband but of cause he had to make up something! lol He was bored, wanted to F around, found a worth woman and that's it, that's all! 😂 But keh here she is saying the side was just a casualty in her bigger story
THIS LADY HAS BEAUTIFUL LEGS, izitho...❤ Shes CLEAN and well put togther...UGEZILE❤ No bonnet, sleepers, gowns and pyjamas in public, uyazithanda lo, akagezi ngo 4pm, ugeza ngo 4am lo
@ngelemuofhe that is why ppl are staying with cheating husband they acome and tell us that single parenting is a sin, what does she know about a sin, I'm sure she's God's assistance that why she come and tell us about a sin that is not on 10 commandment
Agreed... I think Promise made an irresponsible comment there... sometimes it's not by choice... sometimes it's the best choice... rather than a toxic marriage or fighting to be mamkhulu even though you don't want isithembu
It can never be me, I do not have such shoulders. If it's about kids, I can even buy or rent near their house for kids to see their dad frequently. A man can never have so much power on me.
The man and his mother have been cooking this for long time like oxtail. They bribed sangomas. The mother like the 2nd wife more, this lady needs to go back and look at things properly, she’s under the delusion that she’s in control
I think that the most important thing is for women to be able to make a choice. For some women, staying in polygamy is ok for them, for some, divorcing and going alone is ok. Let all live their truth. We are all just answerable to God, not other human beings. Basically, each to their own.
@@sibongilenkwana8835 No, women must never allow themselves to be their own prisoners. No man can trap you. How does having a ring and a baby trap you? You can remove the ring and bring up your kid. Women trap themselves sometimes because they fear social judgement and feel they need a man to complete them. Men know this and some use it to abuse women. Women are very powerful if they decide to use their power. That is why you find many professionals today who were actually raised by women. How many graduates were raised by informal trader mothers? No, men cannot trap women indefinitely. The mind is a very powerful thing. Contraception any one? As for a ring! So you want to live in hell for a small metal! Imagine!!!
We need to let people live their truth and stop projecting...God has a tailored journey for each and everyone us....lets show love and respect as Africans❤
Wat reality thus her reality ... Live your own uhlukane nabantu if you have everything figured out why care about other people and their reality .. Surely you the who jump ships
Another thing that's working against her is that she thinks because she has a strong personality it gives her some sort of leverage...mxm not when it comes to indonda, they'll fool you those people strong or not 😂😂😂
Not her saying we are not going to perpetuate single parenting as if it's something nice, but same opinion can't be said about her sthembu, its still not nice too 😂😂😂
You'll lost it when you spoke about single parents....some of us did not choose...death defined our path so please be a little sensitive. Absolutely speak your truth but don't generalize.
So indoda didn't want isthembu, but there was already another woman in the picture as he & his mom pitched the sthembu idea, and he even impregnated her?? Yah, that really sounds like a husband that didn't want isthembu😂. Gogo wa lona got tricked. Seems like she choose her "hard" & made peace with it.
All of this drama in a marriage that's not even 10 years old. This woman needs therapy. Acting tough, like all is well but she is not okay at all. If anything, she should understand why he moved fast to marry her
I also realised that somewhere somehow she's just trying to fool herself. Men are clever guys, he planned it so well Nd he knew the day the aunt came to tell his wife
lol "You carry the spirit of a sister wife"? Bathong lona, ausi o hana di chomi or something? As mojita, I can tell this was a heist, this was a dribble and even worse, the whole plan was designed by his mother nna keo bullelle. There is a very big reason why his mother and him did the most so that the lady can join the family. Im also gifted and this is what I see now, via wifi.
You know this woman is delusional.The sangoma that the husband is using on her is really strong 💪.No one in their right mind can tolerate such bullshit.Its sad to watch.They say never say never but in this case Never!!!
From leaving the relationship, 7 hours looking for a side chick😮 and later she comes back allow isithembu she wasn't aware of before marriage, now to becoming a sangoma!! Kuningi sana and someone is delulu here 😂 her husband's muti/nyanga is working overtime I'm telling you
Nothing about what she had done is strong, she isn’t a strong woman. If she was strong she wouldn’t have been gaslit into going to twasa and accepting this kind of nonsense.
@@puseletsohlongwane845 Ditto, so you were pretty much projecting. Go heal Oprah's child, miss strong & independent wothuvi. She would have been strong if she did what you think she should have done.
The saddest thing in life is to not have a spiritual relationship with your creator God. This world is cruel, youll loose yourself completely. This is heartbreaking on a serious note. Yoooo
My question is if we say woman must choose their struggle in marriage neh, what are husbands choosing in this marriage or is it every sacrifice must be done by woman? Anyway to each their own
There is a certain spec of married women who bekezela infidelity and all sorts of rubbish men put them through (which is fine cos it's their choice and they can do what they want in their marriage) but my irritation with them is decorating it and pretending it's coming from a place of wisdom 🤣🤣🤣 no please just say my husband cheated, made a baby and I decided to accept it. Which one is "I decided to run towards the storm????" 🤣🤣🤣 It's really not that deep. You chose to stay with your cheating husband, congratulations.
I completely agree with you, but then again I think a curse and a blessing is literally the same thing, it just depends on which side you focus on. For example Africa is blessed with abundant natural resources, but the same blessing has literally caused poverty and conflict in Africa… it’s not the best example but I hope you get what I am trying to say
@@lethiwesithole a cheating husband can never be a blessing. Infidelity is a sin even biblically. But I get that for some people, it is not a deal breaker, my only issue is decorating it to look like something beyond what it is. A cheating husband is a cheating husband. Qha. She had to make do with the cards she was dealt with, and she did. She seems happy, but there's nothing spiritual or deep about infidelity.
@@lungelolamula7075 if the husband did not have any sidechick with child when he came to ask for a 2nd wife it would have sounded better. The man was unfaithful from the get go it seems. Anyways I'm not one who supports polygamy and I wish her all the best. But she shouldn't try to decorate cheating. It's just cheating, nothing beyond that!
Yah neh! Ku tuff, ku ruff, go sepagetse! LOL So moGuy says it is part of his path to be polygamous cause he was having accident after accident and now it is also part of her path cause she carries the sister wife spirit in her, yah no men will kill us shem! I guess after 3 months she was ready to accept defeat and go back but of cause we all gotta tell ourselves a believable story that we can stomach in order to do so, hers are that : she is the one in control, side was a casualty of HER calling she couldn't escapte this destiny, it is her portion to have a cheater of a hubby she got a taste of how cold her streets are and she cut her spiritual journey short and hitched it back to his deceitful path, but if she loves it, we like it!
Yoh but did her hubby not feel the slightest of guilt for seeing her going through all that for so many years🥲even after the 7 hours situation he still continued but I guess we don’t see “true love” the same way
Oh ok, so shap shap all you need is to say a sangoma told you so and then you can do anything you want ne... even cheating I can just say ke madlozi mos. Financial over spending...madlozi. Not sleeping at home ka weekend.. madlozi. 1 minute round... madlozi. Yoh thanks for the plug my leader. This is how we gonna win this sthepu battle. Bribe sangomas.
If her husband didn't legally divorce his first wife through the court system (because lobola is a legal marriage),they are still married ( yes guys you have to divorce in court even when you just paid lobola) , that would make this sangoma lady technically a second wife and his sidechick the third😅
Let’s just be honest, no one is okay with sharing a partner - they just settle. Infact, I find it be the worse form of lack of self love. …& as Khanyi Mbau said, when you’re depressed you’ll think you have an ancestral calling.
Lol U r soooo me , 😃 😀 😄 ayivalwe le purpose 🤣 I bet you the purpose is running as far away as possible to being unmarried and single life... That's what I get from this...
I’d definitely start writing a book myself because the overachieving would keep her busy enough to ignore the dynamics 💀 it’s so crazy when women pretend to be fine with betrayal
I laughed when they said "side chicks are going to kill us" who is fetching these side chicks na? 😂 Anyway as long as she's happy, she did say polygamy is her portion😶
She is a matured woman who knows how to love herself enough to heal . Loved the interview and i am a married woman who doesn't believe in polygamy but she opened my eyes
I love this podcast ❤️ BUT the only thing I’ll complain about is time I feel like guests are rushed and have to cut their stories short to accommodate the producers Also guests who are about to release a book they don’t really share the tea some viewers would want to hear.
The spirit of this african woman , how alive & awakened she is to overcome the world, to embrace the past & the future of change to find herself & her power to heal those around her become the author of her story Holy Christ she's telling the sleeping dead of death & resurrection. These are the times of our lives.
My maths is not Mathing here, she said they started dating Feb 2016 she moved in March, he paid Lobola Oct/Nov she said 5months but ke....now ahe says they paid lobola 2018/17 I am so confused
She has to be strong this 1,she can lie about being ok ,it’s too obvious bathung 😢or the hubby used a very strong muthi so that she can be ok but it’s just painful to see her acting so strong 😮
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She could have continued to be a Christian and let the man do his shenanigans so sad
Fix your eyes on Christ. Don’t let familiar spirits control your life to this point.
The audacity of saying my husband didn’t marry the side chick behind her back meanwhile he had a child and house with the side chick behind her back.She didn’t have a choice but to accept the side chick.
Why do you call them side chick…?????the minute a guy cheats no one is a side chick or wife …you are both his woman finish and clararrrrr
@@teeslife2408pila pila
😂😂😂
Her husband really disrespected her though🥹💔😭
The cheating..
Having a baby outside their marriage…
Buying the side chick a house…
Yoo🥹💔men are not good people..
Love&Light to this beautiful lady 🥹
Agree 100 %total disrespect.. Angenge, I love myself first before I love someone else
Yet she brags about 8 yrs of marriage, like seriously 🙄
It is not for me shem, I rather be alone and my Christ.
scared of how this lady condones the BS her husband put her through. women...!! i dnt even have better words
its not meant for you
Lenna, it’s too much. Thwasa, sangomas, side chicks and all that trauma!? Nope I’d leave
My mom was right, no matter how smart you think you are, a man will show you flames🫢🤦🏾♀️ I’m sorry but it seems like gogo got tricked shamm👀that sangoma, the husband & his mom did things sham😖😂you can’t convince me otherwise
Exactly my thought
the husband bribed the Sangoma to tell her she must be a sister wife
Shes not okay with it...she just didnt want to be unmarried with kids
If she said she's unhappy, you would believe without question. Dont project your own feelings, this lady sounds happy, the most happy compared to other guests that have come here.
So so true
I definitely agree, like she's trying to justify this whole thing. She is a strong and very intelligent woman. I feel for her, deeply.
Lol okay
Ooh yes she will never pretend this much
This has to be the silliest thing I have ever heard and her conviction 😢😢😂this man is in the studio probably with a smug thinking look at my popeye 😂
Exactly my thought 🤦🏾♀️
😂😂😂😂I totally agree
"My money-making Popeye!" 😅😅😅😅😅
🤣🤣🤣🤣@ "My popeye"🤣🤣
The most annoying thing is that she has convinced herself and now she thinks she convince the whole world...this one thinks she is smart but niks kanjani
It's too soon for her to be talking about her peace in polygamy. She is sadly married to a selfish man who covers his actions with polygamy. She is not ok, she is being emotionally abused and she is in denial. I wish her eyes get opened .
Hyooo why pretend marra , she’s not coping with whatever she’s normalising 😢…
Who are you to tell the next women what she is or isn’t coping with? 😂😂😂 the woman is sitting there telling us her truth you are here in the comments telling us your projection and insecurity and calling her truth lies. Aowa you women have issues
May i allow Jesus to continue to be the author of my life. 😢
Amen..sister wife spirit ijo..She must give me those qualifications
Amen.
You can say that again.
Side note: both your outfits are gorgeous in this episode 🤭
🎉
This episode gives ama side chicks hope that one day they too will get the ring if they stay long enough😅😂😂
I think she's trying her best to convince herself that she's okay with this. I think.
100%
shes not okay at all
How’s going against nature working out for most women?
I think a lot of women don’t want to except reality.
Honestly we must learn to respect people's choices, religion and traditional ways of doing things. She's a beautiful lady I must say. 👌
True, we choose our hard. I made a deal with my God that I'd rather be single forever than be with a cheating husband or be in a polygamous marriage.
Exactly I would rather be single forever shame hayi God forgive me for disrupting his plans but not heart ache like that hey
Men really win in this life thing...
Yeyi, they do. 😢
I think it's because we allow them! Most of us are enablers!
@@spm9130 Thats what I always say. If women were firm and had stubborn morals and values etc over half of the society issues with relationships wouldn't exist. WOMEN ARE ENABLERS!
@@spm9130 Agreed
😂😂😂
She was manipulated by that man and she’s not even aware 😢
for me its the fact that he is sitting there listening to her relay the story with so much pride . i feel sorry for her.
True
Yhooo sana he played her and he played her very well, sozeeee☹️
@user-tf4ji7gt5j here I am thinking ad well, this men will finish us I'm telling you.
But she is happy
Lol she thinks she did the side chick a favour by accepting her...Delulu ya basadi. They would have stayed together with or without her approval
She says when she accepted the sidechick she told her "I'm here to dignify you as a woman" lol no she was also dignifying her cheating husband & herself cause if she hadn't accepted she was always gonna be that wife whose husband has a sidechick & children outside of marriage cause the sidechick told her I ain't going nowhere.
They were going to continue vele. But being a side chick is only viable for a certain time. After 40 being a side chick starts to become embarrassing, and lonely even. Worse ke having a child with a married man khona it's worse worse. So nje I agree with her, she definitely dignified the side. There's a reason why sides are hidden. You are someones dirty secret.
@@RayOfLetsatsi Imagine the nerve to think she held the key to the other woman's dignity 😂😂
@lungelolamula7075 where did she get the power or authority to dignify another human being as someone whose husband wanted someone else while married to her? Stop please!
@@givemethesimplelifeso ridiculous!!
Not most of ya'll out here judging Kgothatso for picking her battles and accepting a polygamous marriage when you're 'bekezeling' your serial-cheating husbands/boyfriends 👀👀👀.
Listen her husband was married before her. She is not admitting his infidelity and giving excuses.
I'd rather deal with that than isthembu.
The man can have 2 wives, 3, or 4! They will never stop cheating if they have no self-control and no boundaries! No commitment. They lead with their feelings! They are just a male, not a man. Therefore, accepting a 2nd wife or 3rd will not stop him from cheating. Once a cheater will always be a cheater.
Yooo, brokenness leads to broken decisions, leading to more brokenness. I pray she wakes up from the lies she has been fed by the devil through her husband, mother-in-law, and the sangomas she visited. I am okay in my singleness with Christ in it, that's my hard that I chose and I am fine.
Ey you and I both girl❤❤❤
Some people in these comments just can’t take other peoples perspective… this lady sat here for an hour told us her journey, she wrote a book and some of you come here to say …..” she is not okay with it”!!
Just say not for me and move on
This commment❤
@@dumisanindlovu4396100 % truth in her comment. We need to show respect, even if we dnt agree.
We want people to live our truth, not theirs. This lady is living her truth, and doing it proudly.
Thank you 💯
I'm going to follow her, interested in her journey.
She was gaslight into the situation and accepting the marriage. She got told about her gift after she found out about the side chick?! And went to thwasa after the scandal?! Its such a frustrating situation. So sad to see she gave into the isithembu dynamic.
"I'm here to dignify you." Hay no delulu is the solulu!🤣🤣🤣
That sent me 😂😂😂. Like ma’am?
All I can say is that the husband is a liar it was all in his plans to have a second wife. Shame this woman is broken its said 😢
Your man if you even have one also has a sidechick darling, whether you know them or not. Relax
@@Vv-fl2rm No one comes out alive here 🤣🤣 Pasop!!
Im married, but Im not for polygamy however I must applaud her for being brave.
Your man is definitely cheating either way
@@Vv-fl2rm Since you want me to go there, lets go...😏
Men are polygamous by nature, there's noan that doesnt cheat. Bofebe bo padile le baruti.
Most woman marry to be happy, you dont marry to be happy, realistically, you marry to make living easier. Let me break it down:
Marriage is a business contract. When you are single, u pay 100% of your household bills, its more challenging when you are a single parent. When you marry, you each pay 50% towards household bills, you reproduce, children are raised in a stable home, husband is provider, protector and wife is helper and nurturer. Two incomes are better than one or none.
Thats the reality of marriage. If you thought you'll have me triggered by my cheating husband, you are wrong. I got into it knowing exactly what Ill be dealing with. 😏
Not you in a previous comment, saying people mustn't project how they feel onto others? And now you're here telling this lady's husband is cheating! Weee klibhi MASIMBA! @Vv-fl2rm
@@Vv-fl2rm bathong sisi, are u ok?
@@rosegold6209you were supposed to say, not every man cheat, and it's true. Again, I'm not saying you must do it, but they're people who know how to manipulate a man to be yours alone, period, it's also true.
marriage is very hard😢. I applaud this women
"We can't continue to perpetuate broken families" kutsho a broken woman in a broken marriage. Just because she doesn't believe you can be whole alone.
What is broken in her marriage? You want her to be happy in your own terms? You want her to define a happy marriage according to you?
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tbthere’s quite a couple of broken things like accepting your man is cheating, bringing a child and accepting polygamy against your will, she clearly fought against this fight and lost to the man.
@@Live_More_Love_More Thats your version of her story. Maybe you should watch again only this time listen to what she says not your feelings.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb sorry, where does she start talking about a happy marriage with a side chick involved? She described it as driving her crazy hey,8 hour hunt, truck.
@@Live_More_Love_More like i said watch again & dont invole your feelings.
this is book worth reading.. she’s very articulate…shes a very assertive and dominant person naturally. It’s a difficult experience from the sound of it.. 😌
Did she really have to twasa or she was depressed? 🤔
She wanted sthembu to fall into place. 🤣😅😃😃😇 I like it when women say "I am a strong woman, I am stubborn, I am controlling, I dont take nonsense, nywerenywere....but men have a way of humbling them😀😃😁😆😅🤣 "I AM HERE TO DIGNIFY YOU"
@@thelmaseaka1567the same way they have humbled you too but you are here pretending to be a know it all on other peoples stories
😂😂😂
Depression
Definitely depressed
No woman can convince me she's okay with being in a polygamous relationship ESPECIALLY if she was the 1st wife and she truly loved that man unless if it benefits her somehow. That's why today we see women who were 1st wives divorcing to be number 2 or 3 in other people's marriages😂. This lady is uGogo and I've seen on TV people who've gone this route having polygamous relationships sooo🤷♀️ it could be part her calling or she's just an exception
She dsnt want to be a single Mom thts all.A banthu ba zothini
Ur a coward
You can say that again, moving out your own marriage and ernt to another being number 3 side chick aaa
Ijo how does one come to this. Men are the prize, I can’t there is nothing wrong with being alone and being at peace
She is depressed…chronically
😂😂😂 you are projecting your own feelings. Rest
Fr🤞💔
Before side chicks kills you, the mother in laws will finish you 😢
But it's really not the mom's in-law's fault hey, she is in the middle. 😢
Even if the mother in law says she loves you 🙄, I’ve seen how my own mother protects my brother when he’s done wrong. Ngimbuze would you be happy if I went through that. Ay ngeke. Ngithi but you say you love the girl as if she’s your own daughter meanwhile you allow her to got through such.
So your ancestor was a sidechick, and she came through you to come to become a first wife.Our husband's who making babies outside marriage are the ones perpetuating single motherhood.My question is why is it always men who put us through this "trials and tribulations in marriage"?I am also eager to hear the husband understanding with regards to how things unfolded.🤔
Hope everything you did and sacrificed brings you ✌️
True that! She's gonna find that it wasn't that deep for the husband but of cause he had to make up something! lol
He was bored, wanted to F around, found a worth woman and that's it, that's all! 😂 But keh here she is saying the side was just a casualty in her bigger story
THIS LADY HAS BEAUTIFUL LEGS, izitho...❤
Shes CLEAN and well put togther...UGEZILE❤
No bonnet, sleepers, gowns and pyjamas in public, uyazithanda lo, akagezi ngo 4pm, ugeza ngo 4am lo
Right?! I've been looking at them 😍
Indeed hey❤
She's so gorgeous, men are never satisfied.
Her legs
Her aura
Her beauty
Ai maan
I adore her legs wish she could even stand😂😂😂😂
So why didn't this ancestor make his own kids why come and want someone to do something you couldn't do....hay kudlaliwe ngabantu emhlabeni
Promise, single parenting is not a sin I refuse to believe that.....
People will choose to stay in toxic marriage because they fear single parenting. it takes a lot to stand your ground and leave
@ngelemuofhe that is why ppl are staying with cheating husband they acome and tell us that single parenting is a sin, what does she know about a sin, I'm sure she's God's assistance that why she come and tell us about a sin that is not on 10 commandment
True, promise must correct that
Agreed... I think Promise made an irresponsible comment there... sometimes it's not by choice... sometimes it's the best choice... rather than a toxic marriage or fighting to be mamkhulu even though you don't want isithembu
it is
Nice Interview….I can’t judge Gogo, she’s living in her truth right or wrong. Thanks Ous Promise for the lovely interview.🔥🔥
So the Side was right when she said: "I am not going anywhere." I 😂😂😂😂😂
She stood on her business 😂
Lmaooo
😂😂😂😂😂😂 yhoooo
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It can never be me, I do not have such shoulders. If it's about kids, I can even buy or rent near their house for kids to see their dad frequently. A man can never have so much power on me.
Neva.
True
It sounds like everything was cooked because this man has already had a side chick ,
Exactly.. & the dreams of the calling started when she started dating this man
The man and his mother have been cooking this for long time like oxtail. They bribed sangomas. The mother like the 2nd wife more, this lady needs to go back and look at things properly, she’s under the delusion that she’s in control
exactly, they brainwashed her
Akere, it sounds like a set up nyana
Spiritually dreams can be tampered with.Esp if you are not Prayerful.
Yhuuuuu😮😢 this is seriously disturbing.....and she is so convinced 😭
I think that the most important thing is for women to be able to make a choice. For some women, staying in polygamy is ok for them, for some, divorcing and going alone is ok. Let all live their truth. We are all just answerable to God, not other human beings. Basically, each to their own.
Yep❤️
sadly, most times they trap you with a ring and baby before they introduce to you their dream of polygamy, now your options are limited
@@sibongilenkwana8835 No, women must never allow themselves to be their own prisoners. No man can trap you. How does having a ring and a baby trap you? You can remove the ring and bring up your kid. Women trap themselves sometimes because they fear social judgement and feel they need a man to complete them. Men know this and some use it to abuse women. Women are very powerful if they decide to use their power. That is why you find many professionals today who were actually raised by women. How many graduates were raised by informal trader mothers? No, men cannot trap women indefinitely. The mind is a very powerful thing. Contraception any one? As for a ring! So you want to live in hell for a small metal! Imagine!!!
@@sibongilenkwana8835😢pure evil
What i like about Promise is that she's a digger😂😂😂😂😂, her questions are always intrigue, re a leboga kgoshigadi 😊😊..
We need to let people live their truth and stop projecting...God has a tailored journey for each and everyone us....lets show love and respect as Africans❤
True lala
She's a very good person. And her honesty touch me
I love Promise way of asking questions and allowing her guests to speak... she's a real digger & not all over. My best & fav podcaster.
She is so well spoken, Love her
Men are the prize yho,looking for a side chick for 7 whole hours.Hayi guys😭
Ayyy men will be the end of us. Mina I wish I could pursue my career like that maybe I'd be a CFO or something
@@_molebogeng6281 🤣🤣Listen, I would have a PHD
@@_molebogeng6281Lalela I'd be a millionaire spending baller money in Dubai sana, driving a ferrari
😂😂😂
One thing men will do is get a sidechick darling even the one you are with, it’s certainly not just you.
What a beautiful woman, she lost herself in this marriage, i wonder gore when she confronts reality with herself what comes out.
Wat reality thus her reality ... Live your own uhlukane nabantu if you have everything figured out why care about other people and their reality .. Surely you the who jump ships
Another thing that's working against her is that she thinks because she has a strong personality it gives her some sort of leverage...mxm not when it comes to indonda, they'll fool you those people strong or not 😂😂😂
Not her saying we are not going to perpetuate single parenting as if it's something nice, but same opinion can't be said about her sthembu, its still not nice too 😂😂😂
This is polygamy, its not oxygen😅
😂😂what does that mean
Think it means she can live without it.
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Delulu this guest
You are even more delulu for projecting your limitations on this woman's choice and her truth.
@@Vv-fl2rm yes my therapist u are very correct I’m very very very delulu
@@vuyokazi1797 but nawe uyi therapist mos to the guest😂😂diagonising her
@@SJ_KingMthembu no lies detected
Delulu 101
You'll lost it when you spoke about single parents....some of us did not choose...death defined our path so please be a little sensitive. Absolutely speak your truth but don't generalize.
Waitsi they even made her think gore ke sangoma
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Eish wena
Serious 😂😂😂
Depression is a calling nowadays, almost driving into trucks, she was depressed
😂😂😂😂😂 haaike!
She is very beautiful, smart and glowing. One can tell she is a true healer.
Siyamfanela isithembu ❤
A lot ❤
So indoda didn't want isthembu, but there was already another woman in the picture as he & his mom pitched the sthembu idea, and he even impregnated her??
Yah, that really sounds like a husband that didn't want isthembu😂.
Gogo wa lona got tricked. Seems like she choose her "hard" & made peace with it.
All of this drama in a marriage that's not even 10 years old. This woman needs therapy. Acting tough, like all is well but she is not okay at all. If anything, she should understand why he moved fast to marry her
Lol the old man played his cards very well
It was a set up. And it worked.
I also realised that somewhere somehow she's just trying to fool herself. Men are clever guys, he planned it so well Nd he knew the day the aunt came to tell his wife
The level of delulu going on here.....shem ugogo it's so Sad......likhehla played his cards right
lol "You carry the spirit of a sister wife"? Bathong lona, ausi o hana di chomi or something? As mojita, I can tell this was a heist, this was a dribble and even worse, the whole plan was designed by his mother nna keo bullelle. There is a very big reason why his mother and him did the most so that the lady can join the family.
Im also gifted and this is what I see now, via wifi.
Kopo😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂funny.
Wena😂😂😂😂😂,stop it.
True wena WIFI has seen all, they cooked
🤣🤣🤣🤣😂nje! But they let her believe she is the one who carries the spirit so she has no choice!
I may not agree with polygamy but I’ve enjoyed listening to her - definitely a different perspective.
You know this woman is delusional.The sangoma that the husband is using on her is really strong 💪.No one in their right mind can tolerate such bullshit.Its sad to watch.They say never say never but in this case Never!!!
She did say she left and came back fearing being a second best or side chick
She end up being a sangoma herself
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She's really delulu💔
Neveeeer
From leaving the relationship, 7 hours looking for a side chick😮 and later she comes back allow isithembu she wasn't aware of before marriage, now to becoming a sangoma!! Kuningi sana and someone is delulu here 😂 her husband's muti/nyanga is working overtime I'm telling you
Delulu😂😂😂
I really enjoyed this interview, Khothatso is very articulate. Her voice commands attention ❤
Very
Shadani asinamona ladies🫢
Nothing about what she had done is strong, she isn’t a strong woman. If she was strong she wouldn’t have been gaslit into going to twasa and accepting this kind of nonsense.
Your definition of strong is her doing what you think is right??
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb my definition of strong is leaving a man who has broken me🙃🙃
@@puseletsohlongwane845 Ditto, so you were pretty much projecting. Go heal Oprah's child, miss strong & independent wothuvi. She would have been strong if she did what you think she should have done.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb lmao projecting?😂😭 I- you know what you are right no need to engage you
Of all tribes why would any woman want to marry a zulu man? 😢
There is nothing wrong with zulu men im tswana but want to be married into a zulu family.
@@palesasefurutshe6832 go ahead 😂😂😂 you will be on a podcast later venting about how that went.
@palesasefurutshe6832 oh, but there's definitely something wrong with Zulu men.😅
@@Vv-fl2rm😂😂😂😂😂 mara
Iyoh i dealt with 2 Zulu men in my life.... ke sharp
The saddest thing in life is to not have a spiritual relationship with your creator God.
This world is cruel, youll loose yourself completely. This is heartbreaking on a serious note. Yoooo
True, not studying the word of God will turn you into a confident clown. This is truly a sad episode.
Eish is not nice but re tlareng as long as she is fine,i love her❤
Promise you are getting more and more comfortable ❤ Your growth is inspirational. Start Start Start!! Anything you wish to accomplish. It's possible
Thank you so much!!
Amen!
My question is if we say woman must choose their struggle in marriage neh, what are husbands choosing in this marriage or is it every sacrifice must be done by woman? Anyway to each their own
It's about choosing the right man through patience, vetting and God's grace. She rushed to move in and marry this man, without really knowing him.
There is a certain spec of married women who bekezela infidelity and all sorts of rubbish men put them through (which is fine cos it's their choice and they can do what they want in their marriage) but my irritation with them is decorating it and pretending it's coming from a place of wisdom 🤣🤣🤣 no please just say my husband cheated, made a baby and I decided to accept it.
Which one is "I decided to run towards the storm????" 🤣🤣🤣
It's really not that deep. You chose to stay with your cheating husband, congratulations.
Not her trying to sound wise for tolerating infidelity
I completely agree with you, but then again I think a curse and a blessing is literally the same thing, it just depends on which side you focus on. For example Africa is blessed with abundant natural resources, but the same blessing has literally caused poverty and conflict in Africa… it’s not the best example but I hope you get what I am trying to say
@@lethiwesithole a cheating husband can never be a blessing. Infidelity is a sin even biblically. But I get that for some people, it is not a deal breaker, my only issue is decorating it to look like something beyond what it is. A cheating husband is a cheating husband. Qha.
She had to make do with the cards she was dealt with, and she did. She seems happy, but there's nothing spiritual or deep about infidelity.
@@silindokuhlezakwe815 yazi! She's acting like there's something deep 😂
He's just a cheating husband. That's it. I do wish her well though.
@@lungelolamula7075 if the husband did not have any sidechick with child when he came to ask for a 2nd wife it would have sounded better. The man was unfaithful from the get go it seems.
Anyways I'm not one who supports polygamy and I wish her all the best.
But she shouldn't try to decorate cheating. It's just cheating, nothing beyond that!
Wait, not me thinking Moguy compromised the cupboard door to scare the bajezas out of her into polygamy!!!😂🤣🤭
Re phela le di tsotsi thle!
Delulu is the only solulu sana.
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Hai Sana..
Delulu is also wanting to misconstrue and undermine people who are telling their own life stories
Yah neh! Ku tuff, ku ruff, go sepagetse! LOL
So moGuy says it is part of his path to be polygamous cause he was having accident after accident and now it is also part of her path cause she carries the sister wife spirit in her, yah no men will kill us shem! I guess after 3 months she was ready to accept defeat and go back but of cause we all gotta tell ourselves a believable story that we can stomach in order to do so, hers are that :
she is the one in control, side was a casualty of HER calling
she couldn't escapte this destiny, it is her portion to have a cheater of a hubby
she got a taste of how cold her streets are and she cut her spiritual journey short and hitched it back to his deceitful path, but if she loves it, we like it!
Yoh but did her hubby not feel the slightest of guilt for seeing her going through all that for so many years🥲even after the 7 hours situation he still continued but I guess we don’t see “true love” the same way
Fr fr💯
I read it differently too, he didn't care, he doesn't care
Oh ok, so shap shap all you need is to say a sangoma told you so and then you can do anything you want ne... even cheating I can just say ke madlozi mos. Financial over spending...madlozi. Not sleeping at home ka weekend.. madlozi. 1 minute round... madlozi.
Yoh thanks for the plug my leader. This is how we gonna win this sthepu battle. Bribe sangomas.
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😂😂😂😂 not me reading this in your voice😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 aish
Yhaaa it's tough maan that's all I can say. It's true when they say u choose your hard.
Gogo is so beautiful 😍. Both ladies are so gorgeous ❤!! I love how she’s owning her story.
Not into isthembu but i really enjoyed the interview, really nice how gogo owned her narrative.
What an articulate Mama! Beautiful ladies
If her husband didn't legally divorce his first wife through the court system (because lobola is a legal marriage),they are still married ( yes guys you have to divorce in court even when you just paid lobola) , that would make this sangoma lady technically a second wife and his sidechick the third😅
Exactly my thought she is not a baby mama but a wife as well, and prolly left the guy for the same reasons
Let’s just be honest, no one is okay with sharing a partner - they just settle. Infact, I find it be the worse form of lack of self love.
…& as Khanyi Mbau said, when you’re depressed you’ll think you have an ancestral calling.
Once you understand that polygamy is not just what you see but it’s actually more spiritual when done right, you’ll have a different opinion .
🤣🤣🤣🤣 O worse , when you depressed you will confused it to ancestral calling🙆♀️
@@pfulu again read what said to understand not to reply fast
She was definitely depressed
Women always have to go through pain ? For a purpose. Can I not be purposeful🎉
😂🤣 Oh haaike!
Leave men alone entirely if that’s your wish.
Because they are suppose to hurt us?
Lol U r soooo me , 😃 😀 😄 ayivalwe le purpose 🤣 I bet you the purpose is running as far away as possible to being unmarried
and single life... That's what I get from this...
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I’d definitely start writing a book myself because the overachieving would keep her busy enough to ignore the dynamics 💀 it’s so crazy when women pretend to be fine with betrayal
It helps numb the pain... really sad
Kopa the numbers tsa sangoma that the husband is using.Yeyy that sangoma is strong.
😂😂😂
Please stop fighting guys men make decisions
If they have molla
I laughed when they said "side chicks are going to kill us" who is fetching these side chicks na? 😂
Anyway as long as she's happy, she did say polygamy is her portion😶
This must have been the most shortest podcast...i could listen to this lady forever and ive never heard of her before
Yoh that was a tough one, I'm even shaking 😮
She is a matured woman who knows how to love herself enough to heal . Loved the interview and i am a married woman who doesn't believe in polygamy but she opened my eyes
She’s beautiful and intelligent ❤❤
I love Mrs Promise, her sense of humor is just amazing 😅😊They way she pays attention to her guests.
I love this podcast ❤️
BUT the only thing I’ll complain about is time I feel like guests are rushed and have to cut their stories short to accommodate the producers
Also guests who are about to release a book they don’t really share the tea some viewers would want to hear.
Yho , kuningi and it keeps getting kuningier .
The spirit of this african woman ,
how alive & awakened she is
to overcome the world,
to embrace the past & the future of change
to find herself & her power
to heal those around her
become the author of her story
Holy Christ she's telling the sleeping dead of death & resurrection.
These are the times of our lives.
Am proud of you Promise 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉I love you and our podcast is growing I started with you on TikTok n from your first video here am still here
Just love the part of deciding to go back to her husband that's when she realize that it rains everywhere
My maths is not Mathing here, she said they started dating Feb 2016 she moved in March, he paid Lobola Oct/Nov she said 5months but ke....now ahe says they paid lobola 2018/17 I am so confused
Maybe they paid half lobola in 2016 then came back to finish the process in 2018
They started lobola negotiations 2017 finished 2018
Alright thank you
She has to be strong this 1,she can lie about being ok ,it’s too obvious bathung 😢or the hubby used a very strong muthi so that she can be ok but it’s just painful to see her acting so strong 😮
Lol y'all are judging Gogo kodwa nikusthembu somjolo😂🤣🤣what a shame
fotsek🤣
@@juzayy the truth hurts....baze bathi kuyoshiyana ukwenza🤣😂
Sad but tough pill they swallow