We must stop blaming women for our cheating husbands they are the ones breaking the promises they made to us pls stop fighting the ladies deal with our husbands.
I am unmarried, but I hope young girls are not aspiring for this life style. Hope the young lady will heal. She may seem proud, but underneath there is hurt there. We all wanted our own families, our own husbands, not other people leftovers.... No young girl dreams of dating a married man when young. Life happens.
Shes sugarcoating😂😂 they do it raw and married man dont respect their wives as much they spend 70% of their time with sidechicks they give them money and forget to tale enough money home 😢
Truthfully, it's been happening for as long as our grandparents were alive. Its just that our grandmothers were rather secretive about the dynamics of married life
You can betray people you respect. That said, usually a guy cheats because he either doesn't actually care about his wife/girlfriend (most common reason) or his marriage is sexless and he gives in to his impulsive 'need' (not strictly a need, but fairly close to one) to have sex.
There are two types of side chicks. The one who is in it for the fun of it, the money and no commitment expected from the guy as long as he keeps paying up. The second one is looking to replace the "head office" and take the lead position because she sees herself as part of his future. She usually has everything except a man who wants to commit. The first type can be detached from at any moment, but the second type can be very dangerous to such an extent that they'll even use Muthi to get what they want.
There's a 3rd type, too. The one who has a man of her own, but he can't totally fulfill one or two aspects that the side piece needs in a relationship to feel complete. However, she's content enough with her man that she doesn't wanna start all over with someone new. Instead, she dates a man who's already attached who can fill in the spaces of what she's missing in her primary relationship. That void might be sexual, financial, companionship, intellectual intelligence, etc.. A lot of people tend to think that all side pieces are these lonley women who can't get a man of their own. I've met a lot of married or partnered side pieces over the years who have no intention of leaving their primary relationship. They're everywhere.
Let us judge positively. Adelaide Thank you for being authentic, ur Boldness n Honesty. Good advise and affirming to HQ dat "they will 4ever occupy that seat in parliament. HQ shud know Side Chicks comes in levels, Promise please bring the" other level of side chick(Competing, Entitle, Wrecker type) n in both Males n Females. This is Not spoken about among society and it's happening. HQ should know that "Thz Maparas" becomes greedy!!
I will say this with love, if you respect headquarters, how much more you should respect GOD. It is His institution, tswada!!! Surely this lifestyle has comebacks my dear ❤️❤️❤️
It's easier to speak about what a man wants or needs from the outside, become the "head office" and see what type of man you'll be dealing with. Wives want their marriages to work so they try most wives try theyll put the kids ti bed early to spice things up but a man who lacks discipline will never be disciplined! And the same goes to women. One has to want to be faithful to remain faithful. He will always cheat until the day he decides to be and stay committed. We will be trying kamasutra in these bedrooms but if he wants to cheat he will 😂😂 love from zim Promise ...English subtitles please whenever you can❤
Men want to be respected as head of the family, they want a home with tranquility, appetising food, lots of sex and lots of children. If any one of these is missing then the man will definitely get a second or third wife. If you control him and treat him like an immature person he will look outside. The point is that men want to be treated like kings and be seen to be in control
I enjoyed this interview,life is not a one size fits all thing,these things happen and most married women are awaere of their husbands shenanigans...@promise try interviewing a wife that intentionally decide to stay in they marriages with cheating husbands!
You can lie to Promise, lie to the viewers and lie to yourself but you cannot lie to your conscience. Deep down you know that what you are doing is not normal
I am not married but I must say 28 years she's still young, eventually she will want to settle down and definitely she will taste her own medicine. They start like that then later on they use muthi on poor wives... Indeed we live in a sick world!!
Just hold the person you have an agreement with accountable..... The rest is history. Some married people are still looking for their soulmates...they say😢 it's sick but true
You know what Jonko, u are matured and so authentic like nothing. The fact that u know gore they "might" cheat cos the wife cant keep up with the side. I give it for u girl❤❤🤗
What kind of desperation makes y'all date married men? I'm 32 and this guy told me that soon I will get desperate and I'll date married men😂😂😂 I laughed because I've been single for years and I don't wanna be in a relationship for the sake of being in one. Being alone can be lonely but I think a married man would make me feel lonelier Thatha! Wena side dish, wena escape from reality, wena de-stressor, wena fun time 😂 and of course sexual tension reliever. Sebenza girl😂
@@JoyCharmaindo you get to nag him . Give him a hard time when you are hormonal? What’s the point of being with a man. If I don’t see the point of being with a married man….
The fight between married men, side chicks and married women will never end. This thing has been there since nako tsa our great grandparents. Rena re rasa fela mo social media but it will never end. Cycle of life
It won’t end. Women must just accept and draw up boundaries for men to cheat. Use protection Don’t make babies Don’t cheat in the area we live in Don’t get calls from sides at home Don’t take away providing for the wife and home For example
Promise is being judgemental, yes what she’s doing might be morally wrong but you can’t invite a guest, for you to be throwing shade and being judgemental she’s here to have a conversation with you not to be judged by you.
I have an experience where I was approached by a married men while I was still in Matric 😭😩. Mo guy was driving with his family (wife n kids), wearing a ring. Did he not get out of his car to come and approach me while his wife was there? He came and acted like he wanted to ask me something about my school and decorations for our matric farewell since he did decorations. He straight up told me that he is married so he told his wife that he's coming to enquire about decorations and stuff so that she wouldn't suspect 😭😭I was so shocked and traumatized 😂mo guy was bribing me telling me that he will buy me nice things. I didn't agree anyways, I've always been scared of dating older guys, let alone married men😭. I'm 22 now, done with university and I sometimes bump into the guy and he still asks me out, he doesn't forget my face shame utata wabantu😂🚮
No matter how you beautify nonsense it will still be nonsense. Someone will watch this and think it's a good idea to go for that married guy, pathetic!!!!
@@siyandamolefe1867 if u approached by a married man and you agree to it, does it make it right??.i believe both parties contributed.as ladies we can say no but we choose to tag along.
@@siyandamolefe1867 I believe some "women go for married men" because they get involved with them, and some married men approach single women. However, it doesn't lessen the crime on either side. These illicit relationships happen because both parties agree to participate in them. Willing buyer, willing seller.
This is the topic most people don’t want to discuss. Your married husband’s have side chicks. Just be happy if you have never seen any with your husband. Married men bayajola and that will never change.
A man can cheat and that his and his wife’s problem but a girl this young giving herself to married men is ridiculous. They protect their kids and use her and she agrees? A re ‘I don’t ask their age??? Haowa guys
Side chicks seem to understand male nature better than wives do but not well enough to replace the wife. Wives understand men well enough to convince him to commit to them long term but not well enough to keep them entertained long term like a side chick can. It's an interesting dynamic. But being a wife seems like an innate thing I don't know if it can be taught.
Side chick will always be 100 steps ahead of wifey becoz there is no commitment, finances, kids , bills involved ...married women would also excel in being side chicks to other people's men , becoz those men are not their husbands and don't have any obligations towards them
I loved listening to Adelaide...I also enjoyed Promise s reactions and how she managed to do the interview so well.I also liked how all were laughing...I laughed too. M a married woman too.
I think there are pyschological issues here.the way she is explaining it she literally agreed to breadcrumbs.no normal human being wants to be second best.saying she only gets 5% tells you she is deeply wounded so is the cheating husband.they both have deep rooted issues
What is this Promise😂,she is giving us opportunities...she should start a masterclass😅 Personally, I am surprised how passionate she is in her job...Salute Adela!!
We can learna thing or two with this lady. Not that being a sidechick is tight but she's somehow got it together within herself. She's not moved by anything or anyone
It's all fun,game and exciting until it backfires . We have seen a lot of people menstruating non stop because of man that belong to other people or that are being fought for. Unfortunately when its that bad she won't be this excited to tell the story. When I see such I remember uthando noxolo episode of a lady that was also from hammankraal who bled to death because the boyfriend decided to have outside relationship and the woman showed that lady flames
@@nette2144I think she does have somewhat of a conscience my guess is that she’s broken. Like she admitted at first that she was in a relationship that made her insecure. If she knows that she can’t build a home on another woman’s tears then there’s hope that there’s a little bit of conscience left. Let’s just hope she grows and heals her insecurities so she can be normal again ❤
@matanato01 that's why there is or being fought for. I don't excuse man for cheating at all I just say that sometimes one will be in a relationship with a man that has someone else who will do you bad. People use things to make others suffer it does happen. So we can't intentionally go for people that are married and be proud of that because we say they are not properties they don't belong to no one. Married man belong to their families until they get out even if they can be dated by the whole world
The driving force behind these side-chick and married men relationship is lust and greed! It would be impossible for these ladies to settle with one man,, unless they get deliverance 😢
I disagree with you if u say it will be impossible for them to settle with one 1 man.. Njani kodwa they date 1 married man at a time.... PLUS his lady said she wants to get married.
I just love Adelaide she sounds so respectful while being naughty with ppls marriage 😂😂she's not here to BREAK anyone's marriage but to balance her finances there n there....and remember DONT judge modimo more rata kao fela 🥰
Married men do ask for babies, some stay in these relationships for more than 6 years. Babangwe we have two babies with a married man we've been with for over 8 years.
Iam still saying hunger will be the end of many marriages in South Africa, I blame poverty 😢Iam a single mom with daughter's that iam creating legacies for trying to avoid such social challenges in future😢
Adelaide is such a very good story teller. So authentic and honest. There are many women who live this lifestyle yet they are acting all innocent, some are even judging her hear in the comment section. Big ups to you Adelaide for coming upront and sharing your experiences with us. Enjoy this lifestyle while it last, however I wish you one also find your own husband and u get to enjoy the privileges of being a "Head Office. 45:34 "
Promise we love you but don't be shady when your guest is speaking because of what you think about them or their situation.... I also think this side chick is not make sure we need another one. It was fun to watch though ❤
Hi Promise. Your subtitles don’t explain the other language but English and it defeats the purpose as a IsiZulu speaking lady I lost a lot in the conversation. Otherwise, thank you for the Podcast.
It's so interesting (actually cruel) that you know the pain of coming out of unsecure relationship, like you explained and you want other women to feel what you felt. Honestly women will always sense it or find out. The worst is sensing it because you feel like you are just going crazy, leading to insecurities. You are very cruel Sesi.
The Bible nowhere condemns polygamy. Some of Scripture’s most prominent figures had more than one wife. The first polygamist was Lamech. He “married two women” (Genesis 4:19). Abraham had three wives-Sarah, Hagar, and Keturah. Jacob, David, and Solomon all had multiple wives as well. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. These are some of the Old Testament’s great men of faith! It would appear that, at least for a time, God allowed polygamy.
@@robbylebotha The Bible does condemns polygamy, otherwise God wouldn't talk against adultery. Before polygamy there's adultery. Where in the Bible did God tell Abraham and others to marry more than one? Just because they did it, it doesn't mean God approved of it. Read the Bible for revelation, not to get information. There are things that happened in the Bible and were not God's will.
@@robbylebothaWhat a hypocrite. Don't quote scriptures to try and justify your wicked ways. God never told anyone to go take multiple wives and approved it. You hypocrites wouldn't want your wives to have other husbands, yet expect her to be okay with your nonsense? Disgusting!
The funny thing about being young is that you think you will be young forever, one day she will grow up and realize that she wasted her own time with these men, time she could have used to invest in her future, to build her own relationship, marriage and home. There’s nothing new under the sun, go and ask those who came before you and I hope she doesn’t wait until it’s too late !
life has no manual...here we are 27 years without stable relationships even though we don't date married men....we are just like her relationship wise. she might even get married before us
As a Christian, I can't help but think of this verse "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral" (Hebrews 13:4). Women like this are controlled by evil spirits periods.
This lady is lying to promise she trying to make her feel better married men don’t respect they women and married men spend 70%of their lives with the side chicks and they wanna make them very happy she’s lying
Does this girl think there's any family out there that will accept her as part of their family after this podcast. She might get married, but it's very much unlikely that her in-laws will love and accept her as part of the family
After watching: Still not Fascinated about sidechicks…I’m really not. Wives need to solve their problems with their husbands… Ladies like Adelaide need to stop wanting easy coming things in their lives. What’s with this hunger & desperation for a man’s money? Self respect yona? I may not have it all but I work for myself & money… Big ups to Adelaide though❤.she really did not want to shake up the already worried married women, at all points she was Validating “Head office”🥰That was cute…. I dislike Married men trying to even have relationships with me. The nerve, the try to even want to waste my time is a bore🙄🤯…But if I were to date one, I would totally be the opposite of Adelaide.. I ain’t respecting no wife “you, as a husband” is not respecting🤷🏾♀️, I ain’t taking no rules of engagement you set, why must I be lonely & wait for you to call? You are the Starring mos, you must Juggle the many relationships🙄🤣🤣That’s why the man was using Adelaide’s words of 2.5% bcoz he was being validated at that point. I see married men that try to date me & I always think, Don’t even try me…. Me I would ruin your life🙄🙄🙈🤣🤣 & besides I want to build my own, so I’m that person…. Great podcast & interview though Team💐💐🌹🌷🌷🌿🪴🎋Your flowers.
I also don't get the fascination with these used-up dusties. Some are even saying gore they're sweet, lol. I don't respect married men who cheat at all, they're the lowest of all to me. Whenever they approach me, I just look at them and become very disgusted. 🤮
I don’t know who needs to hear this,but dating married men has the worst karma….one fateful day your world will crash in front of you…take it from a former “I only date married men”
I am a great fan of this podcast, but today I was really disappointed because the discussion was in their language 😢and I am listening all the way from Namibia. Please Promise, tell your guests to speak English
Im married.those who chose to hate on Adelaide for her brutal honesty is kinda unfair. You just dont want to hear the truth about your husbands. They choose to go out there and have side chicks. I dont condone her lifestyle but some of you are married today but u were once sides
It's understandable, people go trough a lot mfo. Now she's learning from them and will be wiser as we all are learning. Impilo sometimes will humble you
This one wa my husband this and that😂😂😂🚶🏾. You’ll regret and delete this channel one day. She’s on the spot light 💡 now.
Witchcraft 📍
I’m with you and you on that one. She’s definitely on the spot. Wenza ngathi she’s the only woman with a husband.
This girl is honest. Normally side chucks speak bad about the wife's. I like her she is light headed 🎉.
The love I have for myself will never allow me to be a side chick to any men, self-love is important girlies!!
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It's one thing to find out that you were a side.. but WILLINGLY?!!! Aowa ban!!
Sending hugs 🙅❤
What if u are a side chick 🤔
I am a married woman, but I like Adelaide!😂🙊 She's owning her choices, wrong as they are. She's a smart girl and quite likeable.
😂I’m married but she’s likeable person .
Will you allow her to be your sister wife?
True. Even me. We can't always blame the ladies. Our men go out there and presuit these girls / woman
We must stop blaming women for our cheating husbands they are the ones breaking the promises they made to us pls stop fighting the ladies deal with our husbands.
@@matomehillariousramere7998 I said I like her. I never said anything about sister wives. Her choices have nothing to do with me.
I am unmarried, but I hope young girls are not aspiring for this life style.
Hope the young lady will heal. She may seem proud, but underneath there is hurt there. We all wanted our own families, our own husbands, not other people leftovers.... No young girl dreams of dating a married man when young.
Life happens.
The amount of people disturbingly praise her is scary
She was my roommate for like 3 months last year. I know this girl, she’s actually a good person
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good people do not date married men. lenyalo ke Modimo and if one can't respect marriage then clearly they don't respect God
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Nothing good about someone who sleep with another woman's man idc whether the marriage is not working. Rong is rong
good person for sleeping with a married man.???nah nothing good here no morales,standards and dignity is gone🤣🤪
Shes sugarcoating😂😂 they do it raw and married man dont respect their wives as much they spend 70% of their time with sidechicks they give them money and forget to tale enough money home 😢
Yes, she lied. Married man like it raw and they are scared of their wives not respect. There's a difference.
The saddest truth
Why do you think they are scared of their wives?..i think due to the huge respect for their wives contrary towards the side chick?@@Ntombi_Lusenga
Sad reality😢no protection
I like that she's honest.Married women will always be bitter.Your husbands are chowing out there and using prep unfortunately
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Bathong Adelaide was a lovely guest hle. Funny as well. I mean I listened to the whole interview. I enjoyed her xem
I respect Adelaide (sp) for being so open about this, it’s happening worldwide, whether we like /accept it or not.
Truthfully, it's been happening for as long as our grandparents were alive. Its just that our grandmothers were rather secretive about the dynamics of married life
Dear Podcaster Please include English subtitles at the least because that enables me to enjoy the whole interview thank you in advance
I can even be the translator even 🤝
I know right? Not all of us are SouthAfricans yet we love this show
That would be nice…I trust Promise to deliver on this one
Yes please they should do that!!👏🏽
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I didn't think I was going to enjoy this. A married woman myself fell in love with her.
I hope she finds her soulmate and builds a future.
So true because whether we like it or not this things are happening and you have a right to your opinion
I’m also married but yhooo I love her so much 😂❤️
Smh
Those people respect their wives, How on earth is that respect please?????
You can betray people you respect. That said, usually a guy cheats because he either doesn't actually care about his wife/girlfriend (most common reason) or his marriage is sexless and he gives in to his impulsive 'need' (not strictly a need, but fairly close to one) to have sex.
They're actually using the wife's to cheat. They're too broke to leave 🤣💔
The joke is on her. Married men are chowing her time and youth.
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There are two types of side chicks. The one who is in it for the fun of it, the money and no commitment expected from the guy as long as he keeps paying up. The second one is looking to replace the "head office" and take the lead position because she sees herself as part of his future. She usually has everything except a man who wants to commit. The first type can be detached from at any moment, but the second type can be very dangerous to such an extent that they'll even use Muthi to get what they want.
There's a 3rd type, too. The one who has a man of her own, but he can't totally fulfill one or two aspects that the side piece needs in a relationship to feel complete. However, she's content enough with her man that she doesn't wanna start all over with someone new. Instead, she dates a man who's already attached who can fill in the spaces of what she's missing in her primary relationship. That void might be sexual, financial, companionship, intellectual intelligence, etc.. A lot of people tend to think that all side pieces are these lonley women who can't get a man of their own. I've met a lot of married or partnered side pieces over the years who have no intention of leaving their primary relationship. They're everywhere.
There is a 4th type too. The one who wants to be a second, third or fourth wife without displacing the first wife or head office
@@CC-mp7id I prefer the 4th - one who loves your wife/s and kids
Let us judge positively. Adelaide Thank you for being authentic, ur Boldness n Honesty. Good advise and affirming to HQ dat "they will 4ever occupy that seat in parliament.
HQ shud know Side Chicks comes in levels, Promise please bring the" other level of side chick(Competing, Entitle, Wrecker type) n in both Males n Females. This is Not spoken about among society and it's happening. HQ should know that "Thz Maparas" becomes greedy!!
I will say this with love, if you respect headquarters, how much more you should respect GOD. It is His institution, tswada!!! Surely this lifestyle has comebacks my dear ❤️❤️❤️
So true cc. I feel sad for her. Cause this is not it.
It's easier to speak about what a man wants or needs from the outside, become the "head office" and see what type of man you'll be dealing with. Wives want their marriages to work so they try most wives try theyll put the kids ti bed early to spice things up but a man who lacks discipline will never be disciplined! And the same goes to women. One has to want to be faithful to remain faithful. He will always cheat until the day he decides to be and stay committed. We will be trying kamasutra in these bedrooms but if he wants to cheat he will 😂😂 love from zim Promise ...English subtitles please whenever you can❤
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You're right, if he lacks discipline and is lustful, nothing will keep him faithful.
True, this lady has no business giving advice to married women😂😂😂..she knows nothing about it. Being a side chick is different from being a wife.
Men want to be respected as head of the family, they want a home with tranquility, appetising food, lots of sex and lots of children. If any one of these is missing then the man will definitely get a second or third wife. If you control him and treat him like an immature person he will look outside. The point is that men want to be treated like kings and be seen to be in control
I enjoyed this interview,life is not a one size fits all thing,these things happen and most married women are awaere of their husbands shenanigans...@promise try interviewing a wife that intentionally decide to stay in they marriages with cheating husbands!
The host could barely focus on the show because her mind was busy auditing her intra-marrital behaviors from the beginning 😂😂
Lol i saw that, she was flabbergasted
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Exactly the lady just woken up the insecurities
Did you see that
@@thobilemqwathi7292 I'm pretty sure she was sweating the entire time
This was such a fun episode. I love her authenticity. So real. Your energies flow
If he's married he mustn't approach me. Those boundaries haykhona. I'd rather be single tjo!
Right?! Ba mbora nna batho bao. I'm good being single.
You can lie to Promise, lie to the viewers and lie to yourself but you cannot lie to your conscience.
Deep down you know that what you are doing is not normal
Its now a norm meiskat😅
aee ska jaja
I wonder if he's seeing other girls besides her.
@@JoyCharmain I see that
It's also not norm to married men, so this life is not norm then 😅😅😅😅😅
I am not married but I must say 28 years she's still young, eventually she will want to settle down and definitely she will taste her own medicine. They start like that then later on they use muthi on poor wives... Indeed we live in a sick world!!
she will be crying blood screaming ma2010 showing her hell 10 years from now
You are not lying yaz
Ke yona cycle of life mapara will do what mapara want to do. This is the wild, adapt or die…the girlies are adapting
Sipitori is unmatched in story telling 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just hold the person you have an agreement with accountable..... The rest is history. Some married people are still looking for their soulmates...they say😢 it's sick but true
You know what Jonko, u are matured and so authentic like nothing. The fact that u know gore they "might" cheat cos the wife cant keep up with the side. I give it for u girl❤❤🤗
What kind of desperation makes y'all date married men?
I'm 32 and this guy told me that soon I will get desperate and I'll date married men😂😂😂 I laughed because I've been single for years and I don't wanna be in a relationship for the sake of being in one.
Being alone can be lonely but I think a married man would make me feel lonelier
Thatha! Wena side dish, wena escape from reality, wena de-stressor, wena fun time 😂 and of course sexual tension reliever. Sebenza girl😂
You love yourself. Big up to you
Congratulations
That's on you 😂😂Im a happily lonely side chick😂😂❤
@@JoyCharmaindo you get to nag him . Give him a hard time when you are hormonal? What’s the point of being with a man. If I don’t see the point of being with a married man….
@@AmyMapena congratulations for reading ❤️
The fight between married men, side chicks and married women will never end. This thing has been there since nako tsa our great grandparents. Rena re rasa fela mo social media but it will never end. Cycle of life
It won’t end. Women must just accept and draw up boundaries for men to cheat.
Use protection
Don’t make babies
Don’t cheat in the area we live in
Don’t get calls from sides at home
Don’t take away providing for the wife and home
For example
@@robbylebothayou know very well that this bucket list will not happen!
@@robbylebothaEasier said than done 😂
It will end one way or the other!Nothing lasts forever!
Promise is being judgemental, yes what she’s doing might be morally wrong but you can’t invite a guest, for you to be throwing shade and being judgemental she’s here to have a conversation with you not to be judged by you.
This marriage thing is showing us flames.
Right!! She needs to go Hazel’s podacast
You're right. She's taking this whole thing personal nje
Aowa she actually handled this quite well, she did her best to keep it cute.
@@ludwe7857I think so too
This lady confirmed the fact that it is insecure women who date married men. Who wants to be the number 2? The hidden one? Not me by any chance.
Not all side chicks are insecure.
I have an experience where I was approached by a married men while I was still in Matric 😭😩. Mo guy was driving with his family (wife n kids), wearing a ring. Did he not get out of his car to come and approach me while his wife was there? He came and acted like he wanted to ask me something about my school and decorations for our matric farewell since he did decorations. He straight up told me that he is married so he told his wife that he's coming to enquire about decorations and stuff so that she wouldn't suspect 😭😭I was so shocked and traumatized 😂mo guy was bribing me telling me that he will buy me nice things. I didn't agree anyways, I've always been scared of dating older guys, let alone married men😭. I'm 22 now, done with university and I sometimes bump into the guy and he still asks me out, he doesn't forget my face shame utata wabantu😂🚮
You did the right thing. Never hurt another woman! Dat guy has demons in him!
“He wanted you vele “ , Promise don’t kill me 🤣🤣🤣
No matter how you beautify nonsense it will still be nonsense.
Someone will watch this and think it's a good idea to go for that married guy, pathetic!!!!
You are right! I wonder how she grew up..
thanks Hlengiwe.
Do women go for married men or do married men go around asking out single women ?????
@@siyandamolefe1867 if u approached by a married man and you agree to it, does it make it right??.i believe both parties contributed.as ladies we can say no but we choose to tag along.
@@siyandamolefe1867 I believe some "women go for married men" because they get involved with them, and some married men approach single women. However, it doesn't lessen the crime on either side. These illicit relationships happen because both parties agree to participate in them. Willing buyer, willing seller.
the way this lady is soooo unbothered lol promise is streeeeeeessssed
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Very stressed.
This is the topic most people don’t want to discuss. Your married husband’s have side chicks. Just be happy if you have never seen any with your husband. Married men bayajola and that will never change.
A man can cheat and that his and his wife’s problem but a girl this young giving herself to married men is ridiculous. They protect their kids and use her and she agrees? A re ‘I don’t ask their age??? Haowa guys
True, and it's still wrong, just because loyalty is scarce doesn't mean women don't want their husbands to act right
Right..... most of the side chicks these days are also married women......so do the math
Even woman's, are even better.....
You have a toxic heart and mind
Not the side chick giving married woman advise 😂😂😂😂 initiatiate😂😂😂
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I am a married woman and I have mad love for Adelaide. Thank you for sharing your life with us and owning your story ❤
Plz don't call us names as married men's.
Ncoow maybe Adelaide should locate your husband
@@iris1896 fire 🔥 I come again that thought and the spirits behind it (praying in tongues) 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
@@leratokanomsa 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 akere you are madly in love with her
I thought the same. They love hee coz its not their husband. Double standards.
Side chicks seem to understand male nature better than wives do but not well enough to replace the wife. Wives understand men well enough to convince him to commit to them long term but not well enough to keep them entertained long term like a side chick can. It's an interesting dynamic. But being a wife seems like an innate thing I don't know if it can be taught.
Meanwhile, these married cheating husbands seem to lack discipline and self-control. They're lustful and irresponsible, therein lies the problem.
These men be marrying for money as well…
Side chick will always be 100 steps ahead of wifey becoz there is no commitment, finances, kids , bills involved ...married women would also excel in being side chicks to other people's men , becoz those men are not their husbands and don't have any obligations towards them
Interesting analysis. Please do one about men too cause I must give it to you, you're good dear
@@mphomamadionce you are on paper you can never be side chick. The law is always on the side of the wife.
Promise must learn to be professional don't put your emotions or make it about you when interviewing someone
Heban
Y'll are just judgemental, you wanted Promise to side Adelaide or what?
She is just voicing her view too.......pls rest.
I'm glad she did. This lady needs shame
I loved listening to Adelaide...I also enjoyed Promise s reactions and how she managed to do the interview so well.I also liked how all were laughing...I laughed too.
M a married woman too.
Most of these husbands meet their soulmates after marriage😂😂
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I agree😂😂😂
Men will say anything to sleep with people 😂😂😂 imagine believing he has found his soulmate AFTER 😢
is not like they telling their sidechick mos it is a bitter truth@@Yeye__
You know it is very true the same as women
Im here for Promise's braids. Am reminded why I like that colour of the braids.
I think there are pyschological issues here.the way she is explaining it she literally agreed to breadcrumbs.no normal human being wants to be second best.saying she only gets 5% tells you she is deeply wounded so is the cheating husband.they both have deep rooted issues
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Imagine 5% Yoh ka gana
en bcz we don't wanna commit to anyone...so a rena prblm at all
Adelaide is not alone at all
She is smart, playing her cards very well. Wives receive the worst treatment from husbands not love. She wants soft life not wife life.
@@LukeRev480people can never accept that some people don’t care to have what the masses want
She is still young this one,she thinks that she has all the time in the world😢😢😢😢
One thing i learned about married men is not to judge side chick,if God deals with SC he should start with our husband.coz ma menemene this men
Introduce yourself, tell us what you do. "if doing married men is not the only thing you do". PROMISE🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂 ku nini Ngithi yhooo
Promise is disrespectful.
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@@NosifundisoHoho she is spicy bathong hahahahaha
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What is this Promise😂,she is giving us opportunities...she should start a masterclass😅 Personally, I am surprised how passionate she is in her job...Salute Adela!!
I enjoyed Adelaide 😍 & she shared 'her' life experiences and who are we to judge...❤
We can learna thing or two with this lady. Not that being a sidechick is tight but she's somehow got it together within herself. She's not moved by anything or anyone
Not like other side chicks who are home wreckers.....but it depends on the man either she respect his wife or not
At 19,early 20ties she was already tired of her peers.Kanti nicala nini ukjola?😂😂
😅😅😅😅😅😅they are very fast this one😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
12 years 😂😂😂😂
@@PuseletsoMokoena-j6r Yoo🤣🤣🤣
Same way you have bad bad experiences with men experiences at whichever age 😂😂😂
@@PuseletsoMokoena-j6r maybe even 10 😂😂
Adelaide represented the side chicks so well … that’s if she’s telling the whole truth
They feel validated for settling with these men
It's self hatred because are not a preference just for a good time
@@Hlaluminathi-u9ple yena she's there for a good time so she says 😂😂
@@Hlaluminathi-u9phe is for a good time too
@thabie
It's all fun,game and exciting until it backfires . We have seen a lot of people menstruating non stop because of man that belong to other people or that are being fought for. Unfortunately when its that bad she won't be this excited to tell the story. When I see such I remember uthando noxolo episode of a lady that was also from hammankraal who bled to death because the boyfriend decided to have outside relationship and the woman showed that lady flames
She doesn't have a conscience or she's broken.
@@nette2144I think she does have somewhat of a conscience my guess is that she’s broken. Like she admitted at first that she was in a relationship that made her insecure. If she knows that she can’t build a home on another woman’s tears then there’s hope that there’s a little bit of conscience left. Let’s just hope she grows and heals her insecurities so she can be normal again ❤
Human beings are not property,they belong to no one🤣🤣This is why men won’t stop cheating guys,you’re enablers
@matanato01 that's why there is or being fought for. I don't excuse man for cheating at all I just say that sometimes one will be in a relationship with a man that has someone else who will do you bad. People use things to make others suffer it does happen. So we can't intentionally go for people that are married and be proud of that because we say they are not properties they don't belong to no one. Married man belong to their families until they get out even if they can be dated by the whole world
Why is this lady saying ausi promise promise ele age mate yagae???shes 28 promise is 30
The driving force behind these side-chick and married men relationship is lust and greed! It would be impossible for these ladies to settle with one man,, unless they get deliverance 😢
I disagree with you if u say it will be impossible for them to settle with one 1 man.. Njani kodwa they date 1 married man at a time.... PLUS his lady said she wants to get married.
🙃🙃 I was ready to hate on this lady lol she’s hard to hate on
Same, but she's so sweet and adorable 😅
True hey. I watched the whole interview guys.
So true😂😂😂
I'm not even surprised, she's from Hammaskraal after all🤣🤣
Is it common over there😂😂
You should be saying I'm not surprised our husband are cheaters shame they will leave us at home and hunt in hammanskraal
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I just love Adelaide she sounds so respectful while being naughty with ppls marriage 😂😂she's not here to BREAK anyone's marriage but to balance her finances there n there....and remember DONT judge modimo more rata kao fela 🥰
Promise did say after shooting this that she is SHOOK 😂😂😂. I think she lied on some parts, like using protection. Girl we know!
Exactly. U are ✅💯
They never use it, never😂😂
I also don't believe that
They hit it raw
😅@@mphomamadi
Married men do ask for babies, some stay in these relationships for more than 6 years. Babangwe we have two babies with a married man we've been with for over 8 years.
Ebile ba agetše le di side chick metse.
While others raise kids alone,going to public schools then kids in marriage go to private
Most fatherless kids in south Africa are for married men
@@KholoKhangale-yq7ig waaai! Some side chick's kids are in private schools too. This thing is not cast on a stone. It's different for everyone.
Yes, it depend on how responsible is the man@@malebomammile9283
True.@@KholoKhangale-yq7ig
Promise, promise , promise, how many times did i call you 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Married men are the most sweetest beings in this world❤❤❤❤❤
They are not sweet to their wives m sure
Exactly specially to us side chick,ausi oo dated men who hated her Rona our married men can move the world for us
@@busisiwemichelle5391yes they not
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Wedding Anniversary wouldn't be there If level 1 side chicks wasn't in the picture
I am a married woman but I love Adelaide❤😂this was funny
Until the likes of Adelaide allocate your husband
The way the world turned out to be this days nonsense has been normalised🤦🏽♀️ but anyways life goes on
Serious, and it's quite shocking that a there are many people in the comments normalising and condoning this.
Iam still saying hunger will be the end of many marriages in South Africa, I blame poverty 😢Iam a single mom with daughter's that iam creating legacies for trying to avoid such social challenges in future😢
She has a good heart nd she’s so considerate I just wish she can meet her own person
LMFAO
Shes lying,they chow it raw,no man will take care of you o sa mofe raw!hei angazoxoka lo!
True my experience with the married man we've never used it even on our first attempt
Exactly she’s lying
That part she lied😂
that part she is lying vele...tlkng from experience
They love it raw...they catch
Ur attire promise is so beautiful n yu are so beautiful in it
Yooh nna ke tshaba di union tsa batho angeke!!
“yeses chelete tsaka “😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
OMG my money
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Adelaide is such a very good story teller. So authentic and honest. There are many women who live this lifestyle yet they are acting all innocent, some are even judging her hear in the comment section. Big ups to you Adelaide for coming upront and sharing your experiences with us. Enjoy this lifestyle while it last, however I wish you one also find your own husband and u get to enjoy the privileges of being a "Head Office. 45:34 "
Promise is so shady. 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣 "You were like, this is the life I am choosing for myself"
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Learn other languages please 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Promise we love you but don't be shady when your guest is speaking because of what you think about them or their situation.... I also think this side chick is not make sure we need another one. It was fun to watch though ❤
She's not make sure because you like drama. This is a peaceful side chick now you doubt her.
Agreed... keep the biases at home and take the guest as she is.
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@@patienceikombele9161 🤣🤣🤣 peaceful side chick
Generational curse e hlolwa ke bana ba dinyatsi😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
There are consequences to this and unfortunately it will affect the innocent generation of hers...
THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE
Hi Promise.
Your subtitles don’t explain the other language but English and it defeats the purpose as a IsiZulu speaking lady I lost a lot in the conversation.
Otherwise, thank you for the Podcast.
Please guys try and get subtitles because we really love watching the podcasts but we don't understand.
It's so interesting (actually cruel) that you know the pain of coming out of unsecure relationship, like you explained and you want other women to feel what you felt. Honestly women will always sense it or find out. The worst is sensing it because you feel like you are just going crazy, leading to insecurities. You are very cruel Sesi.
Hurt people hurt people
Then you get some delusional people in the comments saying she has a "good heart". Where?
You found out about the pain commitment can bring, so you've decided to be the pain vehicle for those that are committed?.
This is confusing..
Please tell that girl to value herself first. After valuing herself, then only can she realise that what she's doing is the devil's work
Its not devils work but leading to polygamous
@@JoyCharmainIt's the devil's work period
The Bible nowhere condemns polygamy. Some of Scripture’s most prominent figures had more than one wife. The first polygamist was Lamech. He “married two women” (Genesis 4:19). Abraham had three wives-Sarah, Hagar, and Keturah. Jacob, David, and Solomon all had multiple wives as well. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. These are some of the Old Testament’s great men of faith! It would appear that, at least for a time, God allowed polygamy.
@@robbylebotha The Bible does condemns polygamy, otherwise God wouldn't talk against adultery. Before polygamy there's adultery. Where in the Bible did God tell Abraham and others to marry more than one? Just because they did it, it doesn't mean God approved of it. Read the Bible for revelation, not to get information. There are things that happened in the Bible and were not God's will.
@@robbylebothaWhat a hypocrite. Don't quote scriptures to try and justify your wicked ways. God never told anyone to go take multiple wives and approved it. You hypocrites wouldn't want your wives to have other husbands, yet expect her to be okay with your nonsense? Disgusting!
The funny thing about being young is that you think you will be young forever, one day she will grow up and realize that she wasted her own time with these men, time she could have used to invest in her future, to build her own relationship, marriage and home. There’s nothing new under the sun, go and ask those who came before you and I hope she doesn’t wait until it’s too late !
Amen!
life has no manual...here we are 27 years without stable relationships even though we don't date married men....we are just like her relationship wise. she might even get married before us
Promise your reactions kill me...ari "eba production"😂😂😂😂
Ei mahn my husband
As a Christian, I can't help but think of this verse "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral" (Hebrews 13:4). Women like this are controlled by evil spirits periods.
Attention to Men: Next Men's Conference will be held in Hamaanskraal
😂😂😂Eix I’m no longer from hammanskraal 😢
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Please add Mabopane the capital city of bofebe in the list😂😂😂
@@tebogosophymoagi7463 Please move away from that place after this podcast
As a Hammanskraalian, I suggest you go to Garankua guys😅
Adelaide is more matured than Promise.
Adelaide chose her path and let's respect her.
Who are we to judge?
I can't wait for her guy to put a ring on it. We will see her back to Promise playing for another team.
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This lady is lying to promise she trying to make her feel better married men don’t respect they women and married men spend 70%of their lives with the side chicks and they wanna make them very happy she’s lying
And they definately wont be taking care of u while using a condom. Lol shes buying face mo Promise
People are not the same
True!!
True,But she said her own personal experience 😢what if that was not the case for her
I was looking forward to this episode, but unfortunately I felt excluded since the guest spoke less English and there were no subtitles 😔.
Click on the “CC” option on the screen, it will show subtitles
@@mathapelomphahlele5309 Those do not translate vernacular languages..
Is it you or me? 🤔 😢
Does this girl think there's any family out there that will accept her as part of their family after this podcast. She might get married, but it's very much unlikely that her in-laws will love and accept her as part of the family
That’s very true ❤
In laws will still hate on you even if your a virgin
@@mamagaseangelique1282 Talk about your in-laws. It's not all of them
But she’s not a prostitute nje 🤷🏽♀️ she’ll just make a good bekezela gang nje
True
There's a book titled "Adelaide the royal mistress" by Takalani M 😂😂😂Mrs Makunyane🤔😂
Me too “Ausi Promise” I love Adelaide 😂😂
I'm glad that in summary that there is no winning
You cant hate Adelaide 😂😂, she's such a beautiful soul❤❤
I am going to watch this more than once 🤞🏻😂😂😂 Mpete wa tla ka truck!!!
Promise wanting to feel better about wives being prioritized ultimately, lol😂😂
And this men honestly they don’t
But do you see promise suffering?
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Promise you are killing me 😂😂😂😂😂
Pity some of the wives get 5% from their husbands, and 95% is given to side chick..Men who go through adolescents in their marriage
After watching: Still not Fascinated about sidechicks…I’m really not. Wives need to solve their problems with their husbands… Ladies like Adelaide need to stop wanting easy coming things in their lives. What’s with this hunger & desperation for a man’s money? Self respect yona? I may not have it all but I work for myself & money… Big ups to Adelaide though❤.she really did not want to shake up the already worried married women, at all points she was Validating “Head office”🥰That was cute…. I dislike Married men trying to even have relationships with me. The nerve, the try to even want to waste my time is a bore🙄🤯…But if I were to date one, I would totally be the opposite of Adelaide.. I ain’t respecting no wife “you, as a husband” is not respecting🤷🏾♀️, I ain’t taking no rules of engagement you set, why must I be lonely & wait for you to call? You are the Starring mos, you must Juggle the many relationships🙄🤣🤣That’s why the man was using Adelaide’s words of 2.5% bcoz he was being validated at that point. I see married men that try to date me & I always think, Don’t even try me…. Me I would ruin your life🙄🙄🙈🤣🤣 & besides I want to build my own, so I’m that person…. Great podcast & interview though Team💐💐🌹🌷🌷🌿🪴🎋Your flowers.
I also don't get the fascination with these used-up dusties. Some are even saying gore they're sweet, lol. I don't respect married men who cheat at all, they're the lowest of all to me. Whenever they approach me, I just look at them and become very disgusted. 🤮
I don’t know who needs to hear this,but dating married men has the worst karma….one fateful day your world will crash in front of you…take it from a former “I only date married men”
Unfaithfulness is very destructive, I agree with you! Let her have fun while it lasts, God cannot be mocked!
Abo Mihlali nabo Miss XO are prime examples. It feels thrilling when you’re still young. As you get older you start to realize okuthi Nor Mann 🤔
Really what happened
I agree with you, I'm also a former side chick. I'm recovering and healing from whatever damage that has been caused. Asking for forgiveness from God.
@@nanananamma Ncooh! You are forgiven dear 💖💖💖
I am a great fan of this podcast, but today I was really disappointed because the discussion was in their language 😢and I am listening all the way from Namibia. Please Promise, tell your guests to speak English
We are together I am from Namibia 🇳🇦 too, I feel left out.
Also from Namibia. Luckily I understand the language. I enjoyed it
She did tell her to speak English as much as she can haow
Some topics are much easier being explained in our language.
I'm not sure if her aim was for provision or for the fact that she didn't want to commit to a serious relationship with guys her age. 😮
Im married.those who chose to hate on Adelaide for her brutal honesty is kinda unfair. You just dont want to hear the truth about your husbands. They choose to go out there and have side chicks. I dont condone her lifestyle but some of you are married today but u were once sides
And there are other married woman who are side chicks uyazi........ Just saying nje
She said nothing but the truth😂But there's nothing sensible about being one ai
I can tell how angry promise is inside 😅, like sis othloyile do side chick ka passion 😂, but who do we blame these unfaithful men or the ladies 😢
It's understandable, people go trough a lot mfo. Now she's learning from them and will be wiser as we all are learning. Impilo sometimes will humble you