When Should Christians Start Dating? (As a Teenager, in College, 20s to 30s?)
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- Опубликовано: 14 июл 2024
- When should Christians start dating? Is it okay for Christians to date in high school, in college, or only after you graduate and have a full time job?
The Bible doesn’t directly say anything about dating. So to answer this question, “When should a Christian start dating?” we need to do our best to apply general truths in the Bible to this specific question.
1. A Christian Should Start Dating When They Are “Ready” to Be Married
2. A Christian Should Start Dating When Ready to Commit to One Person
3. A Christian Should Start Dating When They Can’t Serve the Other Person Anymore in Friendship
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You should start dating when you’re ready for marriage. Being emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, and spiritually stable is key. Don’t bleed on someone because you didn’t take the time to heal and deal.
@Tyler Gibson I’m glad my comment helped. Life is full of ups and downs, but the good will always outweigh the bad. The journey may be difficult now, but the Lord is with you every step. Trust and believe that no matter what happens, or what you’re going through God will carry you.
How do you start dating someone and ask them what their long term goals are (in marriage) without freaking them out? When is the right time to ask them if you're not official yet?
Great questions, here's a video I did in "define the relationship" talks ruclips.net/video/FZXiw5NAxaw/видео.html
Health boundaries of friendship with the opposite sex, healthy boundaries of dating..topics for next video..please. it will be very helpful
This may help ruclips.net/video/aRlx9LpySok/видео.html
So helpful! God bless mark! ❤️
Thank you so much, I will take these words to heart. God bless you.
This is really good Mark.
Love this video clear n understandable 😊
Well that answered my question! 🙂
Great video
There are also some couples 50years marriage anniversary from highschool friendships. It's just how you are brought up as a Christian. And Always put GOD. first.
Wow ,,ur doing a great job sir God bless
We perish becoz of lack of knowledge but now that we knowledge ,we won't perish anymore
1. Yes.
2. Yes.
3. Agreed.
😧But I don’t think it’s God’s will yet!
Lindsthestudent god is wet
Amen.
Hey Mark, how do I cultivate a healthy friendship with a guy? Are there boundaries that shouldn't be crossed? What if we are both like each other, but want to know each other more through friendship. We've been friends since last year, and only recently have we become close. The bible says that we women should guard our gardens and hearts, but because the guy I like is my best friend, I naturally tell him my struggles, history, everything. How do I not give him my heart unconsciously?
Perhaps it's time become more than friends. Friendship pushed too far becomes unhealthy, here's how to have a dtr talk ruclips.net/video/FZXiw5NAxaw/видео.html
Based off of this video, I am not ready to date yet, but I am on the right path. I don't want to date around for fun but date someone who I'd potentially end up marrying. That also leads to being committed to one person. I am still in the friend zone with the person I like, and he is more introverted and we only really see each other at church prior to watching this video. Do you have any tips for a next step? I'll continue to pray about it.
Also I don't think you could marry before 18, if I were to start dating this guy and we maxed out in dating before turning 18, we'd have to wait but still great video and helpful!
What do you recomend for this situation?? I'm 18 and I met someone for a 5 month mission . After that we both started to feel "romantic" things one another and we know that. I already started to study university and he is going too , and we live in different countries. What do you think could be a healthy step?
Rocket Science is fun!👍
I'm 16 and we respect each other's privacy, people may say it might change over time. We both spiritual people and believe in sex after marriage, we don't even talk it. At the same time we like best friends but dating. I have spoke to God about it everyday and Every time I do so something good always happens between him and I. I find it strange and I do ask God if this is what it is and something always good happens to me. Well my parents don't know about him yet, but when u ask God about him, something strange always happens in our house with my parents and I, it's like they know something but dont. My parents don't fight like they used to...i find that really strange, I mean my bf is still my bestfriend and I've told that I'm not emotionally ready to be in a relationship and he respected me. We are dating but it's not as serious cause we both want to take it slow.
I get it that the 1st stage of dating is always nice but this is different...i don't know how to explain it!😭 I've been scared to go into a relationship, Every time I cry out to God something good happens😭
I've dated a girl like, what you described, before. First time I dated any girl. We sat down and I said if I say anything that rubs you the wrong way, please let me know, so we can work it out...together. a week and a half later...she wrote a 4 page letter basically saying she's breaking up. Never said anything what bothering her. Seriously tor me apart. I'm currently on the road of heart recovery with God and I.
Well firstly your parents should know about him, "Honor your mother and father"..is dating this guy without your parents knowledge honoring them?
How is it going Bonolo? It’s been 2 years now. Hope things between you and this guy are going well now that you’re 18.
@@yomama6666 yea for real
I would just add: it's not whether you are ready to start dating in order to pursue marriage, it's if God wants you to! So it could happen outside of your planned timeline.
But sometimes God don't always show vision or signs about marriage sometimes . Christians have make a move. And God will perfect it. But God always shows signs and visions . God bless Y'all.
Hi Mark. I had my best friend for almost 3 years(coming 3 years next month). I met him on Facebook. We were so close in a way that we know already everything about our lives and we're so comfortable inspite of the distance. And we can't deny the fact that we have mutual feelings to each other for a long time already. And also we're both Christians. What's struggling me nowadays is we jump in to the relationship level for 5 months now already. And I'm unsure if our decision we're right?since we haven't met each other yet in person and also we're still in school and don't have stable jobs yet. Also, he believes that I am the right person God was given to him and he made a promise to marry me. But we need to wait to be financially ready for him to fly over here in my country or maybe me flying over to his country to meet him in person. My concern is, did we made the right decision on jumping to the relationship earlier before meeting up physically?
I think this video will help you ruclips.net/video/xhRJ6WN644Y/видео.html
Neck minnit Catfish
What if you exhausted the healthy boundaries of a friendship but the first two things don't apply to you, when you're not in a state what you can say yes I am ready to start persuing marriage?
@Joselyn M you're right it's so cute.😍
Sir , I dated my Girlfriend without that friendship bond , it was love at first sight , I proposed her the day I saw Her . And the sad news is 😥 when you said friendship that struck me hard cause my gf has a best friend from the opposite sex 🤦♂️🤦♂️ . I'm really under a super depression
Hi....
I think you should use this period to seek God whole heartedly and lean on Him... Just tell Him how you feel.
Maybe, maybe not she's not the person God has for you... I think you should say take this to prayer. And just wait and leave everything to God and see what God puts on your heart.
I am a girl. And I think i'd be slightly freaked out if a guy I met proposed to me on the same day. I think building a friendship is crucial..Rn, just give it time..
So just take everything to God and lean on Him in this period of time and seek Him more..
God bless you brother 🙂
Hey bro, how's it going cuurently. Any news
How do you cultivate friendships with members of the opposite sex that you are attracted to?
Be friends with the opposite sex by chatting, asking questions, make sure your goals match or at least you both are on the same path in life. Don’t allow yourself to become attached prematurely, learn everything you can learn about that person. Also, set healthy boundaries. God will expose the things you have no clue about without even asking. Proverbs 3:5-6❤️
How did I find myself here .😄😄
So are you saying teenagers can't date?
Trajectory, not projectory*"
But what if someone doesn’t ever want to get married but wants to have companionship/partnership, minus the intimacy?
Perhaps friendship and a well rounded community is the answer :)
Kinda sounds like they might have intimacy problems...
Gone past 30🥺
I’m 13 almost 14, I truly care and want to be with this girl. We are both from wholesome Christian families and put our relationship with God above everything else, we both have no lustful or sinful intentions and genuinely care about each other... am I still to young?
Man, not to be rude, but you can’t provide for her yet as a young teen. There’s so much to learn and you’d only be wasting time at this phase in your life, brains are still developing and whatnot, it’s just a bad idea. You probably won’t take this advise and will probably want to anyway, heartbreak is not worth it.
lol yea your too young.... are you ready to get married? at 13
/i disagree , nothing wrong with a long engagement
Why should you be engaged for so long? I mean the reason you got engaged was to get married. Unless there's some life/death situation or financial situation holding you and fiancé back I don't see why you should have a long engagement. I mean, get married as soon as possible lol
@@k.5425 I did the research because I have a teenage daughter. People that get married young are more likely to get a divorce . If you get married bebween 26 to 28 the likilihood of staying married increases . Do you think this doesnt affect christians? think again . The divorce rate for christians who marry young is way higher than the divorce rate for liberals who waited to get married . I'm concervative christian , but I told my daughter she should not get married before 24 . If you think getting married aearly is good, go ahead ...but the odds are against you .
Turning 34 this year. Never had a gf before. But doesn’t mean I haven’t gone out with women. Naturally the masses will ask why I haven’t been in a relationship before. All kinds of doubts, interrogation and JUDGEMENT will surface from women you plan on dating. The Experience is too important to them. Ironic because they had too many past relationships which in reality doesn’t matter since it all FAILED. What I can say is if you can pull it off, make some White Lies to spare yourself from Judgement from not having relationship before and therefore “Inexperienced in Handling relationships.”