When are you Ready to be in a Relationship? | Daily Disciple
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Isaac
Number one thing is chasing after Jesus. When you do that you should be helping out at church, helping the community, fellowship, etc. You should be putting yourself out there for the Lord in general so the opportunity will be there. I use to think people had to have their life together first but no its beautiful to grow together.
Church these days are not like before. To find a church that truly embodies Christ like behavior is hard. The church I was in only helped members of their church rather than anyone and everyone. So, I def think research the churches you are going to and their theology or what they stand for.
And what if you did that. What if you did that for years and you're still alone. You signed up for small groups, you joined a church team, every event or serve day you were there (for most of them), you joined bible studies, etc. You were in the exact place that every Christian tells you to go to find a husband. You weren't chasing after every man that comes along, you gave up sleeping with someone who was admittedly a poor choice on your part, in fact you've given up sex entirely until marriage. And no man has ever so much as given me a second glance. Not one. So what am I suppose to do? I just turned 30. No man wants an old useless woman. What am I suppose to do? I've prayed to God to put someone in my life and He has ignored me.
This is just my opinion but I would say also in looking at what God made relationships for and in context of a marriage being a picture of His relationship with us. . The time would be right to date/court when a man or woman has foundation in Christ, is serious about fighting sin in their life, and understands that love isn't emotions and fuzzies, as much as commitment and sacrifice. Of course building friendships with the opposite sex is always a great place to start. But is best to not let it develop further if one doesn't know where they are going in life, don't have some stability. . especially from a female perspective. We usually want and need someone who can lead us and help us grow spiritually as well as be able to provide for a family in the future. But it's not about perfection- it's about direction and if they are going towards the Lord and maturity, or if they are remaining stagnant
Yeah and that's great for young women but when you're older and become a Christian all the decent Christian men are already married
Fully agree, he/she''s not gonna drop from the sky. Be intentional
From the little experience I had, all I can say is be very picky and don't get desperate, I made the mistake of getting into a relationship with someone who I probably should not have and while I grew from it, it came with a lot of stress and some heartache.
Kevin De Youngs book ‘Just do something’ is such a helpful small book on the discussion on God being in control and the part we play, not only in relationships but in the Christian walk in general. Highly recommend it. God Bless.
I have a lot more questions than answers about this too! I can relate with you on never being in an actual relationship before, so dating/courting is new to me. Can't wait to hear more of what you think about these sort of topics!
Also note that you should be confident in yourself no matter what physical attribute you see in yourself. For Psalms 139 13 and 14 says that 'for it was You who created my inward parts; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I will praise You because I have been fearfully and wonderfully made'.
In addition, you should genuinely have fun while on the quest for your mate on God's terms. If you are able to relate to another Christian in this way, you will not only find yourself with a good wife/ husband ordained by God, but you will also be able to lead each other closer to God.
As someone who works in youth ministry, anytime the topic of dating is brought up I typically point towards the direction of 1 Cor 7 when Paul says he’s trying to spare us the trouble that relationships cause (it’s a /great/ way to kill a conversation with a 15 year old whose convinced she has met her husband). That being said, I don’t think you can wrap this topic up in a pretty bow and give a complete answer for how/when God wants us to pursue relationship with one another. Paul tells us several times to stay unmarried in order to not be distracted from what should concern us (our relationship and worship of God) but Paul also gives us some pretty clear instructions for marriage as well. God himself brought Eve into existence to be a help mate for Adam which one could interpret as the time to pursue relationship is at the point in which a help mate would be needed (a good example of this would be the high rate in which young adults in ministry get married not long before they step into pastoral positions - the help mate is needed in this situation to provide support, be accountability, etc). In my personal opinion, God communicates to each of us differently depending on where we are in our relationship and walk with him and therefore our ‘when am I ready’s are all individualized and specific to our ongoing testimonies. There’s a lot that can be unpacked on this topic.
Paul also says we should marry if we have certain desires in our hearts and that is completely okay also. So I think everyone has their own way prepared by God
“This advice might be more for females....” I feel attacked 😂😂😂😂 jk
Great video and great advice!!
I'm not sure what advice I provided, I feel like I just asked a bunch of questions and said I don't know 😂
Well it was a very helpful "i dont know" 😁
A relationship is NOT your reward for a life well lived or gift from God for doing all the right things.
Hey! Awesome video soo many great thoughts! This vid really was good for me to watch because I'm currently in a relationship and we have used the words dating and courting almost interchangeably. I believe that people have their own definitions of these words which makes things at times difficult/uncertain. Looking for insight and prayer! Again keep up the incredible vids! Definitely looking forward to future content on this subject!
Those are some encouraging thoughts.. At least someone admits that noone can come right to your house with a ring even you are the best and holliest person. Some know what they ask in a potential partner, but as you say don't meet people on daily basis. Hope and pray God uses means to fulfull our relationship needs . Thanks
This is great and also funny because I even know a couple where the woman asked him on the first date. And now their married and following the Lord. Even she didn’t sit and wait and pray. She came out of the usual norm and it worked out well. Which makes me think we can do a bit of the choosing as long as your both obedient to the Lord and seeking His will. And who’s to say God can’t be behind our preference ever? My point is, you just never know how He could be moving.
so well said :)
Such an interesting spin on this topic instead of coming and telling us this and that as if there is a blanket way of doing things, you made us think and see different options.....
Putting yourself out there is I think something that sometimes has to happen...for instance once Naomi heard about how Boaz took care of Ruth in the field..she told him get up, dress up and slide in the the mans bed( if thats not putting yourself out there i dont know what it is) 🤔
I think we are l learning and trusting God to help us navigate this part of our lives and ultimately bring glory to him.
What do you think when brother Paul says in (1 Corinthians) "Are you bound to a women?"
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Should we as Christians ghost people?
6:25-6:50 I disagree that women are not called to also be intentional in dating. I think that a woman should also go out to new places like new churches, bible studies in order to meet a man if she wants to get married. Intentionally joining a different Bible study to potentially meet a man is not leading the relationship. It is in fact making yourself available. I think women can also be first to express interest if she's had interest for a year or so and the interest is not going away. Intentionality needs to come from both parties. Women just like men cannot expect a partner to appear out of nowhere. Both people need to be intentional. A woman can be intentional without leading.
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Have a different outlook.... Why not just be Jesus lead.... So if HE say hey there's a Christian festival coming up go... Or there's a new prayer meeting at Church go along.... Obey HIM.... HE'S not the GOD of I want you to miss out....
Jesus does not choose your spouse that would be in violation of your own free will.