10 Bad Christian Dating Tips You Need to Avoid If You Want to Be Married
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- There's lots of Christian dating advice out there, but not all of it is helpful. Here are 10 bad Christian dating tips I've heard over the years.
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1: Never settle ~ doesn't mean don't give him a chance
2: Wait on the Lord ~ there's a time to wait and there's a time to act
3: God will make it clear ~ don't think this will 100% happen early in dating
4: If it's meant to be, it will be easy ~ not necessarily true; it can be confusing
5: Change churches to find a man ~ instead add other outlets, but don't abandon your church family
6: Everything happens for a reason ~ when we sin, there are consequences
7: If you're single, you must be doing something wrong ~ not true
8: It will happen if it's meant to be ~ but don't hide and do nothing
9: Christians only court, not date ~ this isn't a Biblical distinction
10: Just follow your heart ~ also follow Christ with your heart (and He will lead you)
Thank you for these tips! I've stumbled on most of these....ok, all of these!
Marge Rose thanks hun
Marge Rose, this is a great summary, thanks for this!
Copying and pasting these. (barely got a minute through the video when I read these).
Thank you! Ain't nothing like saving time!
I want to settle down with the RIGHT man in a relationship, but not settle for the WRONG one.
september luketz, amen!
"God's sovereignty is the reason we CAN act in FAITH & step out even more. It's not the reason we should hide and do less." - Mark Ballenger
Yes & Amen !
Absolutely love Mark's balanced perspective! I see God speaking to me so much through your videos.
10 good points! 🤔 Point #5 is one that has been a topic of conversation in my circle. Usually, "go to church to meet someone" or "go to another church to meet more people and find a mate" have been statements I've heard. Now, this is just my take on this topic...It just doesn't sit well with me to go to a church with the sole purpose of meeting a potential mate/future spouse. In my mind, I go to a church to get that spiritual nutrition that I need to get closer to God and be the person I need to be, Christ being my example to follow and The Holy Spirit my guide. Now, if I happen to meet the guy God has for me, in church, then Amen! But to go to church as a hunting platform...it doesn't feel right. With that said, I agree with you Mark, if you are going to a church where the teachings are solid Biblically, you are growing spiritually, you are growing in the Word, you feel as though you belong, and this is where God wants you for the time being, I say stick to it! Participating and serving in other Christian activities is good diversification. Good advise!
Amen Rose, I agree w your perspective on this :)
This is so helpful, particularly you mentioning that confusion is part of the journey and we're not supposed to know all the answers from the beginning of a relationship, and also the point that the relationship must be easy to be the right one. Thank you for this, especially since I might soon begin dating again after being single for years. Your tips have helped to calm my nerves.
My pleasure, it's a blessing to hear these videos have helped you :)
This is so helpful. Watching your videos has given me a different perspective and understanding on Christian dating and relationships. Thanks for sharing 👌🏽
Amen, so glad to hear the videos have been helpful to you :) God bless!
Amen.
Heart 💓
Heart is deceiving...GOD will give a new heart.
Follow your heart.
Oh this set me free
Amen
God bless!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
God bless you more dear brother 😊
Love from India.
Last year when I was struggling with my attraction to someone, it left me so confused. I sought wise counsel and it would frustrate me when they would say, God's not the author of confusion. 😝I stopped seeking advice and just started praying and fasting. #IfeltLikeHannah. I eventually just accepted I can't help who I find attractive. I had to cut ties(stop speaking to him and basically avoid him)with that person until I could see him as a human and not an idol. After 9 months I can say I'm over my "crush" I had on him. I have resumed conversation with him and I don't feel stressed. But for awhile I was so confused because my spirit and flesh were in an epic battle. So I appreciate you making that statement that it's not always clear.
Amen LaT How, God brings clarity eventually but much of life will be confusing, that's why we are commanded to have faith. If we saw everything perfectly we would not need faith. God bless!
That's really sad. Sexuality is natural and healthy it just requires self control. Repression breeds unhappiness and discontent, usually shame as well.
Easy doesn't mean no problems. You shouldn't be arguing over nothing and there should be more positive enjoyment over negative things.
Dating in the Christian realm has become as complex as String theory.
Wow!!! What you said at the end about following the Lord WITH your heart is absolutely beautiful!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Mark!
Solid video with unusual insights compared to what's talked of! Just what you were aiming for :) God bless.
hehe
Mark I wish I would have known you years ago.I have been given the wrong message at my church and that is why I am alone.I was told wait on the Lord.I have waited 35 years and now I am seventy.This is really awful and sad that I as given the wrong message.It is late and to me there is no hope.I am so unhappy that I have gone through life alone.I have tried to follow all the rules and have gotten nothing.
It's not too late. I'm sure there's a man your age who would love to get to know you. God bless you.
One of the best teachers out there. The explanation on the way to "follow your heart" was very clear and easy to understand. Keep up the good work! 😁
I am single now because I still haven’t met a Godly man I was hoping for. I have to agree with you the fact that I am waiting for “the one “ to come my way and not doing anything about it to happen. My church has as almost just elderly people. Not sure were to meet a Godly man.
Yes, it definitely can be a challenge finding a group of Christians your age if they are not at your church. I recommend service projects or joining a ministry outside your church. Good people are out there doing good things :) lots of times people meet others while serving
I am in the exact position. I signed up with an online dating site I can't even "get traffic" to my profile. In all the churches I have attended it is just teenagers, those in college, then there is a gap....then married men and the elderly.
Margy I Phillips I encourage you to do what what Mark responded above, we need to go out and meet new people inside other activities within the church. I don’t think he was trying to say to do it for the sake of to just meet someone but to also explore our usual Christian activities as well. It will happen for us :) always trust in the Lord sister🙏🏽
Helina Michael same here :(((
I'm in the same boat. My church is tiny and the only men are either too old, married, or related to me. I've been on dating sites off and on with not much luck. I've visited other churches, and thought about leaving my church to attend somewhere else.
Thank you so much Mark! This is such a balanced message. God bless.
So on point 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 ...Thank you!
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Excellent video and tips!!!! Thanks for sharing!!!💯💯💯💖❤💜🧡💛💚💙
Great teaching. Im trying to share this will all my single friends as i listen. : )
Nice!
Thank you Mark, your words of wisdom really help me out, thank you god bless us all.
You are welcome :) God bless!
these are amazing tips. Sometimes people need to hear things they dont want to hear. Also, there are tips that then vary as people get older. Timing, season in your 20s requires a modified approach in your 40s or older.
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Thank you so much pastor mark this was very enligtening and we'll timed may the Lord bless you!
You are welcome Alicia!
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I have believed every single one of these ten tips. Maybe that's why I've never dated anyone and I'm still single. Hm!
It's definitely something to pray about :) God bless!
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger It's been a daily prayer of mine; that God would bring who He has for me and who I need, not necessarily the person that I want because they are two completely different things!
Let me also out myself as one of the Frozen Chosen.
Same situation
Thank you for all of these !!
My pleasure!
Amen, great word of advice and word of scripture given as well. Very clear viewed points given.Thank you and God bless you to you and yours.📙📙📙
Bless you too!
Thanks for these Christian dating tips!!!
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Great advice and video! Thank you :) I'm still waiting to meet someone and it's going to be a journey lol I'm like a walking contradiction so I think I've made it harder to find someone because of my lifestyle choices 🤔
I'm glad you enjoyed the video :)
Hi Mark, It's me, Jacqueline. How are you doing? I am enjoying your videos, and keep them keeping!!!! 😇😇😇 Thank you, and God bless!!!
Hi Jacqueline, glad you are enjoying the vids! God bless!
If it's God's will, it will happen IF YOU STAY WITH HIM. That's something I've had to remind myself of.
Nice 👍🏻
God bless!
Thank you
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Hey Mark, what do you think of Paul Washer stating that Dating is unbiblical? thanks and good day
I agree with your points.
1. I am open to settling for some littler things, but not overly lowering my standards
2.I can wait on God, but still leave hints
3. Help me to take risks when clarity isn't there
4. It should be easier if it is meant to be, but that doesn't mean an argument will come up every once in a while
5. I am staying put in my church, thank you very much. Luckily the church where I go is full of multi-generational people, and the guy I like goes to the same church as me :)
6. Sin leads to death; sometimes there are reasons, other times there are coincidences and karma
7. I am not doing anything wrong because I'm single. It's all about timing. I'm not going to just walk up to my friend and ask him on a date out of the blue both being 15.
8. Yes! I talk to my sp and encourage him and be friendly overall like you mentioned in a previous video.
9. Christians can court *or* date, but there has to be boundaries.
10. I will follow Jesus guiding my heart
Wow!
You hit everything on the head.
God will lead us to the one who he has designed for us.
Patience is the key.
More time with Jesus is better than pursuing a man who isn't right for us.
Thank you, Mark B.
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God will make it clear when it's time.
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Amen!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
Amen!
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I'd like to add another bad piece of advice that is given to both single and married people:
Bad advice no#1:If you want to get married/(or for married couples)have kids then you don't have God as you are thinking about your temporal needs. If you have God then it should be enough and you shouldn't need those things. You need to really ask God if it is His will for you to marry or if you're married have kids, but you shouldn't want it because God is enough.
I heard this at bible college. It was upsetting for me (single person) who wants to get married, and my married friend who really wants kids.
Bad advice no#2: It doesn't matter who you marry as long as they are a Christian.
Bad advice no#3: dating and courting are not encouraged
Bad advice no#4: all Christian couples need to be engaged within 6 months of meeting and married within the year. The less you know about them the better, it will work out because they are Christian. (dating and courting is not encouraged)
Thanks for sharing!
You have to sow your seeds, if you want a harvest.
Wow dang real good
If a gal decides she wants to just be friends but was sending signals the whole time that she liked you, is it ok to ask why?
I ask because we never clearly stated to each other our feelings (which was a lack of leadership on my part) and I want to ask why so that I can figure out if she doesn’t want a relationship because of the season of life she is in or cause it’s lack of feelings?
Does that make sense?
On the flip side I do like her but want to respect her space and continue the friendship and in the future if God brings us together then Praise the Lord and if not Praise the Lord.
I don't think it would be wrong to ask why but I do think it will make things more awkward and less likely that anything will happen in the future between you two. It might come off kind of pushy...just my opinion though
As a girl who is currently in this situation, I think you should ask her why. I can't speak for her, but I did the same thing as this girl. I sent signals that I liked a guy but since he never said anything, I decided that I just wanted to be friends with him because I assumed that he wasn't interested in me. To protect my own heart I felt that I needed to try to move on and accept that he just doesn't see me that way. I even went so far as to recently encourage him to pursue another girl because I really care about him and want to be a good friend to him. Again, this may not be where she is coming from, but if it is, you have nothing to lose by asking her. Just make it clear to her what you've said here. Depending on what her answer is, it may be a little awkward between the two of you, but stress to her that God's will, her feelings, and continuing the friendship is of utmost importance to you. Good luck.
Dating at LU was hella toxic haha😅
You must avoid to violate Christian dating rules or your church pastor would not allowed you to marry in the christian church. The church pastor might refused to solemnized the church wedding if you violated the christian rules on dating. The sad things being a Christian is when church pastor refused to solemnized your wedding because you violated the rules on Christian dating.
Wow, I use two of these tips that you disagree with. That if it's God's will it will happen and also the everything happens for a reason one. Interesting
I wouldn’t even date someone a few days younger than me
They would tell you the rules but they never tell you the consequence or the punishment you would got when you violated Christian rules like in dating. Every Christian must have complete awareness not just the rules but the consequence because Jesus Christ wants to save us from condemnation.
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Frozen chosen hahaha 😂
lol
I agree with all of these tips but it just sounds like an immature Christian who doesn't want to grow up if they use these tips I think it's more just common cents to know and understand all of these. God does understand us he wants the best he's a good father trust him but take action if your single to get to know people and love others because God created you to love.
11: don't think He's she's flawless and perfect- this person don't exist