1. Realize men and women are different. 2. Men crave respect. 3. All men want to be great providers for their family. Work is very important. 4. Sex is important for men and directly related to love. They need it to feel connected as women need communication. 5. Men do not naturally understand women. But will be open to learn about her issues. Be patient. 6. His heart dies if he does not have any meaningful adventure in his life. He needs to contribute and be useful for others.
I love this! I tried to be the best girlfriend that I could be in my relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years. Things just never got better. I found out he was a liar, sex addict (plus full of rage and selfish) and really did not respect me. Plus 7 years without a real commitment (marriage) showed me he really did not love me. So I broke up and am trying to heal and become the best person I can be for the man GOD has in mind for me.
Arturo Mena .... what i will say is being able to respect your man is key. a "yes yes" person never gets respect because to a degree, they show disrespect to themselves. you have to stay true to your core values and principles, not be afraid to say "no". It's connected to the sexual drive and the need to provide and protect for a family. if a man is weak (not saying be a jerk or abusive) attraction drops because "weak" behaviour sends out the message you can't effectively lead a family. edited: ⬆in short. ..it is a bit more complicated than that but that's part of the basis. can't wait to see that video 😊
1. I would say love your wife: she needs to know that you hear her, you understand her, or at least you are trying to understand and see her view point 2. Take a stand: Make sure that you put God first. Take time in the morning to spend it with Christ. You need God as your covering. Just as your wife and family needs you to provide. 3. Keep your promises: If you say you're going to do something, just do it. No matter how hard, no matter how much it costs you. You're wife will respect you because you are a man of your word. 4. Pray: Be a man of prayer. If there is an issue that comes up no matter how big or small, humble yourself and pray. Take everything to God in prayer. Paul said follow me as I follow Christ. And you have to be a man who can lead his family, while submitting to Christ daily. 5. Marriage is hard: Marriage is not easy, especially if you have different viewpoints (even if you both are Christian). Be willing to say sorry. Be the bigger person for your marriage. Even God repented, and decided not to destroy Israel for serving other gods when they were in the desert. If God kept his covenant to Israel (a bride who didn't even want to hear her Bridegroom speak face to face but wanted a mediator Moses) for Abraham, Isaac and Jacob's sake, He expects you to keep yours for HIS sake. There might be a time when your wife won't talk to you, and you don't know why or what you even did. She might not even respect you anymore. She might become unappreciative of the things you do for her. But God STILL expects you to keep your marriage covenant. And brother you can't do it alone. That's why you have to be a man of prayer, asking God for guidance and waiting for His answer. Fight for your marriage, most of the time the fighting looks a lot like love, fasting and prayer.
Appreciate your woman. She's putting forth so much of herself for her family, and puts herself last a lot of the time. If she feels like she is not appreciated and is taken for granted, it hurts. It makes her feel she is sacrificing her self and time and efforts for a bunch of ingrates and self entitled jerks, and leads to despondency and hopelessness.
I made all the wrong things in our relationship. I judged him, I questioned how is he going to provide for us, I did not respect him etc.. Now were so broken. My hope is in God now. Please pray for the healing of our relationship. 😔
I know exactly what you're talking about but on the same token men need to give you something to respect you wouldn't have to talk about it or question it if he was just doing what he was supposed to do not that women need a man to 100% take care of them but the most important thing we need from a man is respect loyalty honor and to feel safe with that man then all of the things noted in this conversation I don't think women would have a problem doing or giving
@@lisalambert1465 You have it backwards. The women should respect her husband even when he isn't the man he should be. The same way God loves us even though we fall short of his standards daily. The same is true for the man. He should love his wife even when she is disrespectful and not being the wife he thinks she should be. It's easier said than done, but that is the reason we need God's grace and strength.
"Love is a choice" "you can't build on feelings" these sentences can be poisonous. I started a relationship on the fundamentals of these sentences. We made sense together in a logical way. We shared the same interests etc. But I missed a big point, which was Love. Luckily I ended it after 3 months. I just didn't love him in that way. No attraction what so ever. Feelings are important. Not letting anyone tell me otherwise again. There has to be Love to build upon and to even make the choice to keep loving. Can't just pick a good christian guy and think he will do.
I agree with all those points. But the point about adventure does not pertain to only men. Women need adventure to! And something dies inside of us when we are stuck in a house only doing domestic things. Do not be deceived to think that women thrive only in a domestic setting. Women need aventure just as much as men do! And both partners should be fostering that in each other.
Jennifer Lynn Adams That's not true. You may feel this way, but your belief on said adventure is not my belief. Nothing has died inside of me to stay home and take care of my family. Not every woman abhors the idea of living as a full time wife and mother. I love it.
Jaisha26 I have found it! I'll live my life adventurously. I am an adaptive athlete. And a motivational speaker. I think the struggle is that marriage and domestic life doesn't always mix with this lifestyle that I've chosen. It has been a barrier to a Christian relationship in my life. Because I cannot be expected to fulfill all the domestic requirements of wifehood defined by christians. But I also think that adventure should not be exempt from a wife's role.
I like clicking on these videos and looking through the comments of women to see what women are thinking lol. It helps me to discern what Christian woman look for in a man because lord knows my BC life to approaching a woman is different than my life in Christ approaching women...shout-out to all the Christian women who pour their hearts out in these comments 🤟
jennajewel85 thanks Jenna! God bless you! I Pray that the Holy Spirit makes the path straight before you! And blesses your future abundantly with peace and a compassion for others! She has been revealed to me, and I’ve also declared it in the name of Jesus. I’ve had an eye on her since November of last year but i was not ready to pursue because of an addiction to porn and also God was forming my character as a man of God! And a Leader! ...but GLORY be to God i am delivered free and clear from that! Tomorrow will be 29 days that I have not associated with any of that and it’s amazing! Truly a miracle! All GLORY AND PRAISE TO HIM FOREVER AND EVER! 🤟🤟
Skietblomke thank you so much for your prayers and @jennajewel85 thank you too! On day 30 for me i told the Lord i will launch my RUclips channel with my testimony. My mission for my RUclips channel is to break the chains of many men who are consumed by this horrible addiction. Many men either don’t think it’s wrong or they don’t want to tell anyone in fear that their image would be ruined...to say the least i too was a man who feared tarnishing my imagine if anyone ever found out about it but sharing something so real and vulnerable like that with the people in your life is so important!!! And in all honesty i don’t care about my image like i once did because in Christ my image is secure. My mission is to share my testimony and offer tools to these men but the Holy Spirits mission for me is deliverance for them. I truly and fully believe many will be delivered!!! And I’m pumped!!! I know how it was for me before anyone knew about my addiction and it was not a fun place to be in, being at the mercy of lust. But it stops. Generational curses will be broken in the name of JESUS CHRIST!!!! Many across the world will be delivered!!! I believe it!! 100000%
That is awesome. I am a Woman and i just got pursued by a Christian man who i know loves the Lord so much to my surprise he came on very strong physically and was very disrespectful. Like just decided that i was his and started pushing himself onto me without asking . in that area of life he's still completely in the ways of the world. He really needs to learn how to respect and treat a woman physically before pursuing a woman. I thought that was a given for Christian men but apparently not. I'm glad you waited to get free from that before pursuing the girl.
He said: A Good Man will want to learn. So ladies if you communicate your needs yet he is not willing to learn, please leave this man alone. You heard it from a Man himself. Also woman want adventure too, being a wife is alot of work, kids, house, cooking, doing ministry or other Gods work than u have to take care of your husband needs. A man should also understand this.
Lani Gem bkoz of thier craving for so called respect they're not willing to learn any lessons from us 🚺 they just prefer not to listen to about what we have to say it just like talking to a wall they just become too selfish and like to stay on their own territory.
@@ccthelema6935 this is what scares ne about marriage. Men appear to have to bring very little to the table yet I'm expected to give give give. Ya no I think I'm good for now
Great sex will likely be a direct reflection of what the rest of the relationship is like. So, if the communication and respect and appreciation and thoughtfulness etc are bad, the sex will be too.
xMCxVSxARBITERx, you don’t need a validation from mankind, need validation from God. Sure it feels good to be adored by others, by you first need to adore yourself.
I agree with the point of men don’t naturally understand women. I had a conversation about my hair. I’m a African woman with Dread locs and my hair is always a topic with a man. I was asked why I couldn’t just do my hair like normal women. I did feel offended.. but I had to again apply grace because Guys naturally don’t knit anything about hair. But It was a topic sensitive to me in watch I had to change the subject before I blew up. I need patience in this area of understanding that men are ignorant about women even if they have many interactions with them.
I think guys should also try to be men. I agreed with most of what you said until it came to men not understanding women. Why should we expect women to understand us? We need to make an effort, both genders to make it work. Are we men or kids?
I understand Marc's point of view. As a single woman I see around so many ladies disrespecting their husband, they get angry really faster, they yell at their husband, those ladies like to have authority over the husbands, christian woman should not act like this it is really annoying.
#1...I'm rolling my eyes because it's a shame that that point had to be pointed out. In this gender reversal type of world, everyone is confused. May God help us! #2 Absolutely- respect is key. #3..Mark, I'm wondering if all men are being taught that being a good provider is a good thing. The topic of money is such sensitive topic in which can be misconstrued as one (women) being "Gold Diggers". The topic of being a provider, at the end, is about feeling safety and I don't know if that is how it is being seen by men in general. 🤔?🤔? #4...For sure (little advise to women and men) don't use sex as a means of punishment. (I got that straight from I Corinthians 7:5) It will back fire. #5...Mark, sometime I believe we women don't even understand ourselves all the time...expecting for you guys to get us 100% is just wrong! Lol! I think as women we are to remind ourselves that we can be wonderful and complex...a little complex. 🙂 Solution: Women, we need to use are words to communicate- Men are not telepathic! #6 Understood...basically we need to give you some space, and I agree. I think that during that time, one (women) can take advantage and also deepen our relationship with God on a one on one basis. And it can also be good timing for "me time"-relaxing or having a cup of coffee with the girls. Again, communication from both the man and woman (keeping each other in the loop of their time) helps with building trust as well. Great video Mark! God bless and thank you!
Rose Morales, number 3 isn’t taught, it’s in our genetics to provide. God created that way because men are the image of Christ (who provide life and provided us a way to Him) and women are the image of the church (the human of the relationship with Christ). We are very visual creatures and seeing is the number one learning tool that we have. God is complex and He creates us to show who He is. This is not to say one is better than other, but a complementary to each other. Funny enough, if we just do our gender roles, we’ll be much happier because that’s how God created us.
Brother, you are preaching and teaching so MUCH-NEEDED truth for both men and women to understand-especially prior to saying "I do." This is highly-valuable to digest and process.. again and again, so it "sticks." And each one of these 6 CAN BE DEMONSTRATED in Scripture, which is the most important part of this video! God Bless you!
I have watched quite a few of your videos now, I guess the algorithms keep them coming my way. Maybe it's God's way of preparing me for what is to come. But I just want to say how impressed I am. Your advice is sound. Your wisdom is rooted in the Bible and you have such a lovely gentle way of expressing sometimes controversial topics that I'm sure you easily disarm many. Thank you for what you do, and God bless you and yours. 😊
I'd love to meet a have a respectful a worthy Christian man. ,,,,,,to share my life with I've been alone too long ps pray for me to find a good man to be there for me I need a Christian companion
I am a woman and I need exacly the same what you say that man needs. I just will not get married if I have to do what i said that the women needs to do. Succes at work and learning are really important. Why man cannont understand this?
Im a women who cannot receive love if I don’t have respect first. I think both women & men need to be respected equally, & that’s what causes a lot of a lot of gender social tension. But I do understand stand the provider role need.
As a guy, a lot of these points just made me smile because they are absolutely true. Like "boys are beating each other with sticks, they're throwing balls at each other, they're running around screaming". Yep, I did all those things when I was little.
Do you think you can create a video on ‘not conforming to patterns of the world’ as it relates to dating or finding the one? It’s a topic that has been brought up a lot lately, maybe you’ve covered this in previous videos. Thanks:)
Yes I quite agree too...as I'm in a relationship with this guy, we both are committed and hope to get married in a year's time, he is a true believer and all that. We are waiting to be married before having sex, but he feels we can still have foreplays and not have sex. I'm not of the same opinion, as I believe our bodies is the temple of Christ and I would rather wait till marriage before exploring. I'm cool with kisses and hugs but anything other than that I'm out.
Wow, this is just what I needed! I am an orthodox christian woman and I want to tell you that I wish I was thought like this in my youth! I’m not necessarily say that its a matter of religion...but I think its more of culture and education! I also want to tell you that I admire all your work on this channel, I’m a follower/subscriber! God bless you, you’re amazing!😊
Um its expressed from this woman to much lol..not sure if they really like woman or just online now in all honesty. Some dude was saying it warps their minds thats 💯
Thank you for reminding us about this topic. It really is important for us women to understand that a man is different and we need to learn how men see the world for us to be part of their world because in marriage we are called to serve each other and if you don't know what he really needs then you want not how to provide your help. At least... The way he really wants to be served Thanks so much for your time put in this video
Thanks so much Mark, these videos had truly blessed my life, thank you for every correction and encouragement, I pray God keeps blessing and using you and yours! All Glory to God! Greetings from DR🇩🇴
Hi there! Can you do one for women??? Because women are important to the relationship too. Thanks for this video! I really appreciate this! Now I know why guys are the way they are♥️♥️♥️
many women feel the same way too. like you say men feel when their domesticated. when your constantly home takei g care of kids and he is haveing all the adventures and sports etc and women stuck at home no adventures for her no time out for her. dont get me wrong. is not that we dont love our familys but a nice break is necesary. just like men do. a good husband lives with his wife with understanding knowing she gets tired and slowly her dreams die too.
Elizabeth Ortiz I think you are right but I think he’s speaking in classical character flea in men and women. For instance women are naturally nurturing and caring in a way a man could never be. Not to say men aren’t nurturing but it’s weaved into their make up.
He is just speaking generally. There is always exceptions to the rule. A perfect example , my friend who is a single father to a ittle girl was abandoned by her Mom. He is the sole provider and loves every minute of it. Always wanted to have a child.
This was great!!! All I ask is the is if any of you men reading this fulfill your need for adventure by being a 'weekend warrior' please be smart and follow safety standards that construction workers must abide by by-law. It doesn't make you less of a man but MORE of one, because it shows your family you wouldn't want to risk your life and be unable to protect them. My father-in-law became a quadriplegic because of making some mistakes and doing something stupid while installing a Murphy bed. The whole bed and the unsecured wall cabinet fell down on him and his wife. They were trapped. If the neighbors hadn't heard his wife would have watched him die. She could have been badly injured as well. Seeing him shaking on the bed at the ICU was one of the worst experiences of my life. My ex always got mad at my in the past for saying anything if I felt unsafe with his driving (including up the side of a cliff with no barrier in Crete, where I begged him to 'slow down'. He interpreted my feelings as not trusting him and he would get very angry. So please don't be like this with your future wife! There is lots of ways to have adventures and be safe. Since my separation I even went up Macchu Picchu in Peru by myself! I would have loved to do that with a partner, but that is just how it worked out since I was already there for a women's retreat. Ladies love a little adventure too you know! But that doesn't mean we want recklessness! It makes us feel so unsafe with our partners and it damages our sense of self-worth when we are criticized for expressing our need for safety because it's misenterpreted as a lack of trust or desire for adventure.
I get that men crave sex, but here's my problem with pastors almost verbally berating me with this message: Women hear "give it up no matter how you are feeling", or "if you feel distant give it up and he will start meeting your needs". Now I've also been told those messages quite literally as well hence why I probably hear those subtle messages in the simple statement "men need sex". and if one more person tells me if I dont give it he'll go elsewhere, then I say "How dare you dump my spouses lack of self control onto me". What do you say to the wife who's husband has a perverted unholy view to sex? What advice do you have for the woman who has given it up time and again only to be left feeling like a whore? What do you say to the woman who was almost raped by her husband but had enough strength to put a stop to it- to risk his wrath in other ways if only to physically protect herself? Men, here's a secret- a woman will give up her body to you without issue when she feels cared for and feels safe. Now, in a healthy context yes there is a time and place for a wife to give up sex to meet her husband's need. But why do we not expect men to give the emotional safety and security to a woman? Where is the man's responsibility? I was more willing - I craved that physical connection more when I knew it was emotionally safe and there was that security and certainty of where the relationship was at. Why are men letting each other off the hook so easily? Obviously I've been through a great deep hurt... otherwise I wouldn't take things to this level. But maybe we need to talk about this level more?
Hi, Mark can you help me with a piece of advice? I met a guy who really likes me, he's funny and a good guy, but the problem is that the relationship that he's trying to build with me is not Christ centred. It is only about us, us, us. He is a believer, I've already told him about my boundaries, but in this area he's not really what my heart desires: he doesn't study the Bible, doesn't listen to sermons or any other Christian sources, he rarely prays, said he would go to church because I go, which is wrong cause he doesn't do these things out of love for God and I don't want to become an idol. I really don't know what to do, I know missionary dating is not a good idea, but in my case he is a believer, I wouldn't trust him to lead me though, cause he doesn't spend that time with God and isn't led by Him. Should I wait until he matures as a Christian( though I don't know how he will cause I'm kinda sick of trying to talk to him about deeper stuff and him only approving; the man didn't know that Eve was created from Adam's rib😩😩😩)As I'm writing I realising I'm giving myself the answer. Though he's a nice guy and a believer, he doesn't do the things that a Christian man who really loves God should do like praying or studying the Bible. The problem is I don't know how to break it off. I tried once and I felt so lonely and sad, even though I knew God's love was more than enough.I feel like I've crossed some emotional boundaries and now it's really difficult to say to him that it's not a good idea to date. Sometimes when I'm with friends who have boyfriends/ girlfriends I start feeling lonely, so I tried online dating and I got myself in this mess: I constantly feel bad if I want to tell him that I don't want to talk to him because he's not a mature Christian, I don't want to break his heart, but I also feel bad cause I desire a good Christian man who can lead me closer to God. How can I break it off without feeling guilty and without making him suffer?
Is God telling you to date Him, and only Him? I believe that would really satisfy your need. A break up and a break of soul tie could be what is necessary for him to go on the journey of reflecting and deeper thinking for himself. If God has revealed to you what you need to do, then all you can do is to pray for him and leave it to God.
Vegan With Love Hi, thanks for sharing your heart. It's a good thing that you already know or feel that he is not deeply in love with the Lord. He might just be a nominal Christian who has never really known the Lord which is evident in his life. Beloved, he doesnt seem to be one who is mature enough to spiritually lead you someday. You don't need a wimp by your side who would just go to church when dragged someday. You dont expect him to magically change once you're married. You would want a warrior who fights his battles and struggles on his knees and always seeking the Ultimate Source. Take heed of these red flags you mentioned. Pray for him, pray about it. Maybe the one thing he should be pursuing right now is Christ, not you. And it would be best if you ended it now. Cut all emotional soul ties though its hard. God will sustain you. You need not fear. If it is His will for you to get married someday remember that He will provide. He is still the best matchmaker around. Do not settle. In Christ, Jessi
Protactiny and Maria thank you sooo much for your kind words and encouragement, it means so much to me💛I don't have so many christian friends who are truly seeking God and listening to His voice so the one friend that I told about my struggles with this guy told me that maybe I would influence him and he would change, but I knew God was not leading me to do that cause you can get sick sitting next to a sick person but you can't become healthy simply staying next to someone who's healthy. I knew God was the one who changes hearts and not people, I knew that it was such a struggle for me not being able to share things related to my faith, sermons, books, opinions, I felt like he was like I was talking to a wall when I was talking about God and my passion for Him. God was not the centre of our relationship, though I wanted this so deeply😔it was only about us, getting to know each other and romance, that's all, but I wanted to get closer to God through this relationship. If I will ever have a husband, I want him to truly love God. It's ok, I know God will bring the right person at the right moment and I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be with a man who wants to live his life only for himself, no judgement, it's just not me. I don't want to live a day far away from God, I crave His love, kindness and all about Him❤️I've seen the dangers of unequally yoked relationships or dating someone who calls himself a believer, but doesn't really want to pursue a relationship with God. It was so difficult to spend my time with God, he didn't understand the value of prayer and studying God's word, the Bible made me feel like I was so weird. It's hard, in my country I feel like it's a shallow christianity, I feel weird when I say I read the scriptures or I hear God's voice, or God is leading me to do something, cause they look so creepy at me😂I don't really care, but I don't know how to share my faith when I'm dating. I guess I'll just have to be more selective and cautious and not let myself go with the flow, be controled bu emotions, feeling infatuated cause they like me so much and they pursue me. I will wait on the Lord, He will bring the right one, no more soul ties. I will be intentional in my singleness, not just passively wait on the Lord, but also be more careful next time when I meet someone. When I see red flags, I don't have to ignore them and say I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he didn't really mean that😑😂thank you so much again, this is an amazing community❤️
another thing you may say men need to take care of Gods matters of the church. it goes like this God first God , your family, and than the church and ministry s. many marriges have gone down the drain cause church became first, God second and the family the back seat. how can you take care of the churches needs when your own family is starving of atention, family time and there needs are not being met. as a husband that is your main responsability so your prayers wont be hindered. The mayority of men focuses on what the women should do but dont really read and practice what their suppose to do. If you really love you fiance or spouse you would really focus more in getting to know them their likes and dislikes put interest in her gifts and talents. she is not just a mother a wife . she is a daughter of the most high God and the Lord gave her talents and gifts also. help her develop it so she can also flurish cause God will hold both acountable of the way we treated each other.
Can u do a video about what a Christian girl needs in her life first before a boyfriend such as God , Christian female friends Christian hobbies and interests, and NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!!! Also a video on what a Christian woman needs in a Christian man.
This is such a great informative video. It’s so good to hear information like this especially from a Godly man’s point of view. The way you present the content in a gentle tone makes it so easy to receive. Thank you so much! 🙌🏽
This video is amazing! Thanks so much. With a lot of comments about men and women both wanting respect it’s true. However women want affirmation above just about everything. Which is a combo of love and respect. A man saying I appreciate you and what you do means so much to a woman rather than a man just saying I respect you.
If men elevate sex to that level this is an excuse to use a physical act to define them and actually tell women that this matters too much above their partner. No women can compete with this mind set. And #5 is relative. How do you know what men or woman naturally know anyways? Each sex does not know everything about the other only because they are not that sex. Duh! Why create barriers by saying this as a generalized statement for all men?
Amen! Men are meant to be heros and long to help people! They need to be given this opportunity - it brings meaning and training/experience for God’s work and adventures! I think a couple’s or family mission trip is great for this too (for everyone involved)!
Great reminders Especially in these days where women want to be men and men women We are different there starts the understanding and creating a Godly marriage THX
Absolutely on point I am truly impressed by your wisdom which I know is from the Lord You brother have re-kindled my respect for formal Christian education. (A young Christian woman I grew up with came back from a Christian college less than Godly and worse than my unsaved friends and I met a Pastor that had a masters and didn't know the Word I mean not even the Book of Acts.) You're advice is Biblically sound, relevant, realistic and I know the Lord is doing a work in you. Keep edifying the body brother.
Point 6. I think is a human need. But again it depends on the personality type. I know an introverted man who doesn’t really crave adventure, likes comfort & stability.
Well...Marriage is verry hard for girls. After this video, I don't know if i would like ever to be married. The 6 point is unfair. I also want respect.
me FCT acttally the video is very biased and one sided. It says what women need to know, but it’s actually what women need to do to make a man happy. This is one sided and can’t work, it will cause resentment, women are not machines they have needs too.
First Point, this video only was about the things that are important to men and not about whats important to women. Second Point, the Bible clearly tells us, that in marriage an order is neccessary. Like Christ is the head of the church, the man should be the head of the family. He should be the one who guides the family. If women have problems with this, they have a problem with God himself and not beeing humble before God. On the other side the man should not force his wife in any way to humble herself before him. It is the duty of the woman to let her husband take the lead and trust him.
Marriage is not easy and is definitely not for selfish people. I urge you, DO NOT GET MARRIED if you are not 100% committed to putting in effort and your love into one. It will literally ruin your life.
@@gadoladonai8296 it's not. It's because that's the title of the video. You want him to talk about what men should know before they get married when the video is not about that? I dunno if he has a video on that by now. Also as he kept saying repeatedly in the video, this is generalised so it'll obviously not apply to every single relationship.
That's why it's important to have a long period of dating-in order to get to know each other,and understand the differences between venusians and martians. Date,spend time to learn each other...
I really dont agree with the all men want to be providers. I am currently with somebody now who never really used to contribute in a way he should even when he got new higher paying jobs. It was a struggle to get him to do exactly that but when I got a higher paying job , he wanted to sit down and make me pay more. He also has regularly stated he has stopped dating girls because they felt that way but he wants all the respect in the world and more. How do you respect a man? Is it by listening and doing everything he says? But the same man refuses to take anything you say on board?
Every man loves sex, sure. But don't forget to move a bit further North, as well. Followed Mom around WalMart once, not having had dinner the night before or breakfast and lunch that day. She swore that the last thing she wanted to do was look at paint swatches. Did that, and as we were headed out of the paint-aisle, she says "oh, look, more swatches!". I just about broke down and cried like a 4 year old. And I was 20-something at the time. Food is, arguably just as (if not more) important to a man's emotional health.
This is SOOO HELPFUL🤣LOL...This is my marriage season and I am SOOO GREATFUL to YOU🥰MARK......Because I didn't have a CLUE..but NOW I DO 🤣🤣🤪LOL...I SEE SO MUCH ADVENTURE IN MY FUTURE....THANK YOU🥰🎯♥️..🎶💃🔥🕺♥️🎶
I have been in a relationship now for about 7years no engagement neither marriage already have kid together. I am now getting closer to God, I don't have a desire for sex anymore, but my boyfriend will not understand, it is getting difficult for me each day, pls pray for me, I don't know what to do if I should stay in this relationship or walk away.
I think it is a woman's perspective and a man's perspective are different... but overlapping. Emphasis is different because of the typical roles we play. Therefore, all these issues / points are important to both sexes I believe. Communication is key, understanding is key.
It's a thumbs down for me. Many great points. The financial one angers me bc of the wage gap. My work is just as important. In addition, the colorism gap as well.
Agree because women Need respect (regardless if they Crave it or not) and I believe men must Earn the right to have their Cravings (needs) fulfilled by their wife or they will disrespect her.
1. Realize men and women are different.
2. Men crave respect.
3. All men want to be great providers for their family. Work is very important.
4. Sex is important for men and directly related to love. They need it to feel connected as women need communication.
5. Men do not naturally understand women. But will be open to learn about her issues. Be patient.
6. His heart dies if he does not have any meaningful adventure in his life. He needs to contribute and be useful for others.
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Women also crave respect.
Sophie Bennett how tf are you only gonna address one out of the 6 points??
I love this!
I tried to be the best girlfriend that I could be in my relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years.
Things just never got better. I found out he was a liar, sex addict (plus full of rage and selfish) and really did not respect me. Plus 7 years without a real commitment (marriage) showed me he really did not love me. So I broke up and am trying to heal and become the best person I can be for the man GOD has in mind for me.
Sounds like my story 😣
I will pray for you💓
Do one for girls Mark, we boys want to understand them as well
Arturo Mena .... what i will say is being able to respect your man is key. a "yes yes" person never gets respect because to a degree, they show disrespect to themselves. you have to stay true to your core values and principles, not be afraid to say "no". It's connected to the sexual drive and the need to provide and protect for a family. if a man is weak (not saying be a jerk or abusive) attraction drops because "weak" behaviour sends out the message you can't effectively lead a family.
edited: ⬆in short. ..it is a bit more complicated than that but that's part of the basis.
can't wait to see that video 😊
Arturo Mena , yes.
u mean "guys" or potentially husbands ;-)
1. I would say love your wife: she needs to know that you hear her, you understand her, or at least you are trying to
understand and see her view point
2. Take a stand: Make sure that you put God first. Take time in the morning to spend it with Christ. You need God as
your covering. Just as your wife and family needs you to provide.
3. Keep your promises: If you say you're going to do something, just do it. No matter how hard, no matter how much it costs you. You're wife will respect you because you are a man of your word.
4. Pray: Be a man of prayer. If there is an issue that comes up no matter how big or small, humble yourself and pray.
Take everything to God in prayer. Paul said follow me as I follow Christ. And you have to be a man who can lead his
family, while submitting to Christ daily.
5. Marriage is hard: Marriage is not easy, especially if you have different viewpoints (even if you both are Christian).
Be willing to say sorry. Be the bigger person for your marriage. Even God repented, and decided not to destroy Israel for serving other gods when they were in the desert.
If God kept his covenant to Israel (a bride who didn't even want to hear her Bridegroom speak face to face but wanted a mediator Moses) for Abraham, Isaac and Jacob's sake, He expects you to keep yours for HIS sake.
There might be a time when your wife won't talk to you, and you don't know why or what you even did. She might not
even respect you anymore. She might become unappreciative of the things you do for her.
But God STILL expects you to keep your marriage covenant.
And brother you can't do it alone. That's why you have to be a man of prayer, asking God for guidance and waiting for
His answer.
Fight for your marriage, most of the time the fighting looks a lot like love, fasting and prayer.
Appreciate your woman. She's putting forth so much of herself for her family, and puts herself last a lot of the time. If she feels like she is not appreciated and is taken for granted, it hurts. It makes her feel she is sacrificing her self and time and efforts for a bunch of ingrates and self entitled jerks, and leads to despondency and hopelessness.
I made all the wrong things in our relationship. I judged him, I questioned how is he going to provide for us, I did not respect him etc.. Now were so broken. My hope is in God now. Please pray for the healing of our relationship. 😔
@@Senny841 ok
Its never too late to make a U turn
K he already questions himself. He doesn't need to be reminded.
I know exactly what you're talking about but on the same token men need to give you something to respect you wouldn't have to talk about it or question it if he was just doing what he was supposed to do not that women need a man to 100% take care of them but the most important thing we need from a man is respect loyalty honor and to feel safe with that man then all of the things noted in this conversation I don't think women would have a problem doing or giving
@@lisalambert1465 You have it backwards. The women should respect her husband even when he isn't the man he should be. The same way God loves us even though we fall short of his standards daily. The same is true for the man. He should love his wife even when she is disrespectful and not being the wife he thinks she should be. It's easier said than done, but that is the reason we need God's grace and strength.
Love is a choice. If we go by emotions is just a chemical reaction and chemical reaction changes constantly every 5 seconds..
Maybe I was going by emotions that change to chemicals reaction that's why i change my mind every 5 second lol 😇
"Love is a choice" "you can't build on feelings" these sentences can be poisonous. I started a relationship on the fundamentals of these sentences. We made sense together in a logical way. We shared the same interests etc. But I missed a big point, which was Love. Luckily I ended it after 3 months. I just didn't love him in that way. No attraction what so ever. Feelings are important. Not letting anyone tell me otherwise again. There has to be Love to build upon and to even make the choice to keep loving. Can't just pick a good christian guy and think he will do.
I agree with all those points. But the point about adventure does not pertain to only men. Women need adventure to! And something dies inside of us when we are stuck in a house only doing domestic things. Do not be deceived to think that women thrive only in a domestic setting. Women need aventure just as much as men do! And both partners should be fostering that in each other.
Jennifer Lynn Adams That's not true. You may feel this way, but your belief on said adventure is not my belief. Nothing has died inside of me to stay home and take care of my family.
Not every woman abhors the idea of living as a full time wife and mother.
I love it.
Jaisha26 That's good! I need adventure!
Jennifer Lynn Adams I hope you find it. Blessings! 😊
Jaisha26 I have found it! I'll live my life adventurously. I am an adaptive athlete. And a motivational speaker. I think the struggle is that marriage and domestic life doesn't always mix with this lifestyle that I've chosen. It has been a barrier to a Christian relationship in my life. Because I cannot be expected to fulfill all the domestic requirements of wifehood defined by christians. But I also think that adventure should not be exempt from a wife's role.
I agree! When he said this I was like, "That's exactly how I feel all the time!"
I like clicking on these videos and looking through the comments of women to see what women are thinking lol. It helps me to discern what Christian woman look for in a man because lord knows my BC life to approaching a woman is different than my life in Christ approaching women...shout-out to all the Christian women who pour their hearts out in these comments 🤟
jennajewel85 thanks Jenna! God bless you! I Pray that the Holy Spirit makes the path straight before you! And blesses your future abundantly with peace and a compassion for others!
She has been revealed to me, and I’ve also declared it in the name of Jesus. I’ve had an eye on her since November of last year but i was not ready to pursue because of an addiction to porn and also God was forming my character as a man of God! And a Leader! ...but GLORY be to God i am delivered free and clear from that! Tomorrow will be 29 days that I have not associated with any of that and it’s amazing! Truly a miracle! All GLORY AND PRAISE TO HIM FOREVER AND EVER! 🤟🤟
Skietblomke thank you so much for your prayers and @jennajewel85 thank you too!
On day 30 for me i told the Lord i will launch my RUclips channel with my testimony. My mission for my RUclips channel is to break the chains of many men who are consumed by this horrible addiction. Many men either don’t think it’s wrong or they don’t want to tell anyone in fear that their image would be ruined...to say the least i too was a man who feared tarnishing my imagine if anyone ever found out about it but sharing something so real and vulnerable like that with the people in your life is so important!!! And in all honesty i don’t care about my image like i once did because in Christ my image is secure. My mission is to share my testimony and offer tools to these men but the Holy Spirits mission for me is deliverance for them. I truly and fully believe many will be delivered!!! And I’m pumped!!! I know how it was for me before anyone knew about my addiction and it was not a fun place to be in, being at the mercy of lust. But it stops. Generational curses will be broken in the name of JESUS CHRIST!!!! Many across the world will be delivered!!! I believe it!! 100000%
jennajewel85 GOD IS SOOOOOO AWESOME!!! Glory and Praise for him for ever and ever!!! Amen!! Will keep you in my prayers!!
That is awesome. I am a Woman and i just got pursued by a Christian man who i know loves the Lord so much to my surprise he came on very strong physically and was very disrespectful. Like just decided that i was his and started pushing himself onto me without asking . in that area of life he's still completely in the ways of the world. He really needs to learn how to respect and treat a woman physically before pursuing a woman. I thought that was a given for Christian men but apparently not. I'm glad you waited to get free from that before pursuing the girl.
Thanks for your testimony brother
Women like adventure as well. Respect is essential to men and women.
He said: A Good Man will want to learn. So ladies if you communicate your needs yet he is not willing to learn, please leave this man alone. You heard it from a Man himself. Also woman want adventure too, being a wife is alot of work, kids, house, cooking, doing ministry or other Gods work than u have to take care of your husband needs. A man should also understand this.
Lani Gem bkoz of thier craving for so called respect they're not willing to learn any lessons from us 🚺 they just prefer not to listen to about what we have to say it just like talking to a wall they just become too selfish and like to stay on their own territory.
@@ccthelema6935 this is what scares ne about marriage. Men appear to have to bring very little to the table yet I'm expected to give give give. Ya no I think I'm good for now
Great sex will likely be a direct reflection of what the rest of the relationship is like. So, if the communication and respect and appreciation and thoughtfulness etc are bad, the sex will be too.
Well said.
You are a very gifted brother in Christ! Great channel and you help so many people with these video’s..
I'd love to see the inverse to this, what Christian guys should know what women before getting married
@Timothy Sterling you're cute...does that brighten your day?
I’m cute, that brightens my day lol! You guys are awesome
@@Chaosmite 😂😂😂 I love your response be your own complimenter
@@Chaosmite
Wish I had a beautiful woman to call me cute... 😔
xMCxVSxARBITERx, you don’t need a validation from mankind, need validation from God. Sure it feels good to be adored by others, by you first need to adore yourself.
love is respect !
I agree with the point of men don’t naturally understand women. I had a conversation about my hair. I’m a African woman with Dread locs and my hair is always a topic with a man. I was asked why I couldn’t just do my hair like normal women. I did feel offended.. but I had to again apply grace because Guys naturally don’t knit anything about hair. But It was a topic sensitive to me in watch I had to change the subject before I blew up. I need patience in this area of understanding that men are ignorant about women even if they have many interactions with them.
I think guys should also try to be men. I agreed with most of what you said until it came to men not understanding women. Why should we expect women to understand us? We need to make an effort, both genders to make it work. Are we men or kids?
Thanks for a well-balanced reply
Your not warped like the rest of them I actually think u might be on genius level considering the pea brains that can only think primally lol
Thank you very much for this
Both of them men and women need respect and love.
Your hair is amazing! 😍
Yes and no. It is so, but in different ways and it's quite simplistic just saying both sexes crave both equally.
I understand Marc's point of view. As a single woman I see around so many ladies disrespecting their husband, they get angry really faster, they yell at their husband, those ladies like to have authority over the husbands, christian woman should not act like this it is really annoying.
#1...I'm rolling my eyes because it's a shame that that point had to be pointed out. In this gender reversal type of world, everyone is confused. May God help us! #2 Absolutely- respect is key. #3..Mark, I'm wondering if all men are being taught that being a good provider is a good thing. The topic of money is such sensitive topic in which can be misconstrued as one (women) being "Gold Diggers". The topic of being a provider, at the end, is about feeling safety and I don't know if that is how it is being seen by men in general. 🤔?🤔? #4...For sure (little advise to women and men) don't use sex as a means of punishment. (I got that straight from I Corinthians 7:5) It will back fire. #5...Mark, sometime I believe we women don't even understand ourselves all the time...expecting for you guys to get us 100% is just wrong! Lol! I think as women we are to remind ourselves that we can be wonderful and complex...a little complex. 🙂 Solution: Women, we need to use are words to communicate- Men are not telepathic! #6 Understood...basically we need to give you some space, and I agree. I think that during that time, one (women) can take advantage and also deepen our relationship with God on a one on one basis. And it can also be good timing for "me time"-relaxing or having a cup of coffee with the girls. Again, communication from both the man and woman (keeping each other in the loop of their time) helps with building trust as well. Great video Mark! God bless and thank you!
Rose Morales, number 3 isn’t taught, it’s in our genetics to provide. God created that way because men are the image of Christ (who provide life and provided us a way to Him) and women are the image of the church (the human of the relationship with Christ). We are very visual creatures and seeing is the number one learning tool that we have. God is complex and He creates us to show who He is. This is not to say one is better than other, but a complementary to each other. Funny enough, if we just do our gender roles, we’ll be much happier because that’s how God created us.
Well as a woman when I get upset I don’t want to talk. I become distant until I’m no longer upset.
Brother, you are preaching and teaching so MUCH-NEEDED truth for both men and women to understand-especially prior to saying "I do." This is highly-valuable to digest and process.. again and again, so it "sticks." And each one of these 6 CAN BE DEMONSTRATED in Scripture, which is the most important part of this video! God Bless you!
I have watched quite a few of your videos now, I guess the algorithms keep them coming my way. Maybe it's God's way of preparing me for what is to come. But I just want to say how impressed I am. Your advice is sound. Your wisdom is rooted in the Bible and you have such a lovely gentle way of expressing sometimes controversial topics that I'm sure you easily disarm many. Thank you for what you do, and God bless you and yours. 😊
Thanks for saying that and I am so glad you are enjoying the content :)
I'd love to meet a have a respectful a worthy Christian man. ,,,,,,to share my life with I've been alone too long ps pray for me to find a good man to be there for me I need a Christian companion
Hi sandra
I am a woman and I need exacly the same what you say that man needs. I just will not get married if I have to do what i said that the women needs to do. Succes at work and learning are really important. Why man cannont understand this?
Im a women who cannot receive love if I don’t have respect first. I think both women & men need to be respected equally, & that’s what causes a lot of a lot of gender social tension. But I do understand stand the provider role need.
As a guy, a lot of these points just made me smile because they are absolutely true. Like "boys are beating each other with sticks, they're throwing balls at each other, they're running around screaming". Yep, I did all those things when I was little.
Thank you very much I needed to hear this ❤❤❤ GOD IS GREAT❤❤❤
Useful tips, yes, thank you, Mark! Didn't know that about men in general. Thanks for the info.
So glad this was helpful!
So so true...I learned so much about this from my late husband...
Do you think you can create a video on ‘not conforming to patterns of the world’ as it relates to dating or finding the one? It’s a topic that has been brought up a lot lately, maybe you’ve covered this in previous videos. Thanks:)
Veronika Hinojosa yes, excellent suggestion!
Yes I quite agree too...as I'm in a relationship with this guy, we both are committed and hope to get married in a year's time, he is a true believer and all that. We are waiting to be married before having sex, but he feels we can still have foreplays and not have sex. I'm not of the same opinion, as I believe our bodies is the temple of Christ and I would rather wait till marriage before exploring. I'm cool with kisses and hugs but anything other than that I'm out.
Wow, this is just what I needed! I am an orthodox christian woman and I want to tell you that I wish I was thought like this in my youth! I’m not necessarily say that its a matter of religion...but I think its more of culture and education! I also want to tell you that I admire all your work on this channel, I’m a follower/subscriber! God bless you, you’re amazing!😊
Amen. I recieve this Word. It definitely resonates with me….
God bless you beautiful woman of God. 🙏🏾
Women feel the same way about sex just aren't feeling free to Express it. Appreciate your Ministry.
Katie Flowers I feel free to do so. Like we are sexual beings too, people need to stop being controlling of women in society.
Um its expressed from this woman to much lol..not sure if they really like woman or just online now in all honesty. Some dude was saying it warps their minds thats 💯
I second that.
@@iloveyourgyatttt You're only really free within the loving boundaries the God set within marriage, or a woman can lie to herself. And vice versa.
Is it a sin for a bf gf to sext in a faithful Christian relationship if it's not out of lust but passion and emotional intimacy?
Actions speak louder than words!! God' philosophy !! Amèn amèn amèn
Thank you for reminding us about this topic. It really is important for us women to understand that a man is different and we need to learn how men see the world for us to be part of their world because in marriage we are called to serve each other and if you don't know what he really needs then you want not how to provide your help. At least... The way he really wants to be served
Thanks so much for your time put in this video
Well said Clara, thanks for sharing this :)
Yes this was extremely helpful Mark. Thank you.
Great lesson n good insight of man n woman ,mark ..thank you very much ,i appreciate it . Gid bless
Thanks so much Mark, these videos had truly blessed my life, thank you for every correction and encouragement, I pray God keeps blessing and using you and yours! All Glory to God! Greetings from DR🇩🇴
Hi there! Can you do one for women??? Because women are important to the relationship too. Thanks for this video! I really appreciate this! Now I know why guys are the way they are♥️♥️♥️
Very good shortened but straight.
Love is tied into respect. And respect is a form of love.
Mark this was so helpful to me as a single christian woman thank you so much appreciate it
I'm so glad this was helpful for you!!
many women feel the same way too. like you say men feel when their domesticated. when your constantly home takei g care of kids and he is haveing all the adventures and sports etc and women stuck at home no adventures for her no time out for her. dont get me wrong. is not that we dont love our familys but a nice break is necesary. just like men do. a good husband lives with his wife with understanding knowing she gets tired and slowly her dreams die too.
Elizabeth Ortiz Well said!
So spot on!
Elizabeth Ortiz I think you are right but I think he’s speaking in classical character flea in men and women. For instance women are naturally nurturing and caring in a way a man could never be. Not to say men aren’t nurturing but it’s weaved into their make up.
He is just speaking generally. There is always exceptions to the rule. A perfect example , my friend who is a single father to a ittle girl was abandoned by her Mom. He is the sole provider and loves every minute of it. Always wanted to have a child.
He was speaking in general. As he kept repeating in the video.
So it'll obviously not apply to every single person.
Great job on this video. I appreciated all the points but #5 was good to think about. Thanks for sharing
I love the videos on this channel!!!! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽💯
I'm so glad you enjoy this channel!
This was great!!! All I ask is the is if any of you men reading this fulfill your need for adventure by being a 'weekend warrior' please be smart and follow safety standards that construction workers must abide by by-law. It doesn't make you less of a man but MORE of one, because it shows your family you wouldn't want to risk your life and be unable to protect them. My father-in-law became a quadriplegic because of making some mistakes and doing something stupid while installing a Murphy bed. The whole bed and the unsecured wall cabinet fell down on him and his wife. They were trapped. If the neighbors hadn't heard his wife would have watched him die. She could have been badly injured as well. Seeing him shaking on the bed at the ICU was one of the worst experiences of my life. My ex always got mad at my in the past for saying anything if I felt unsafe with his driving (including up the side of a cliff with no barrier in Crete, where I begged him to 'slow down'. He interpreted my feelings as not trusting him and he would get very angry. So please don't be like this with your future wife! There is lots of ways to have adventures and be safe. Since my separation I even went up Macchu Picchu in Peru by myself! I would have loved to do that with a partner, but that is just how it worked out since I was already there for a women's retreat. Ladies love a little adventure too you know! But that doesn't mean we want recklessness! It makes us feel so unsafe with our partners and it damages our sense of self-worth when we are criticized for expressing our need for safety because it's misenterpreted as a lack of trust or desire for adventure.
I see mixed comments..
This is useful information
-Quickly takes out notebook- lol some eye-opening things man. Thanks Mark!
I wish I saw this video before I started my relationships.
I get that men crave sex, but here's my problem with pastors almost verbally berating me with this message: Women hear "give it up no matter how you are feeling", or "if you feel distant give it up and he will start meeting your needs". Now I've also been told those messages quite literally as well hence why I probably hear those subtle messages in the simple statement "men need sex". and if one more person tells me if I dont give it he'll go elsewhere, then I say "How dare you dump my spouses lack of self control onto me". What do you say to the wife who's husband has a perverted unholy view to sex? What advice do you have for the woman who has given it up time and again only to be left feeling like a whore? What do you say to the woman who was almost raped by her husband but had enough strength to put a stop to it- to risk his wrath in other ways if only to physically protect herself? Men, here's a secret- a woman will give up her body to you without issue when she feels cared for and feels safe. Now, in a healthy context yes there is a time and place for a wife to give up sex to meet her husband's need. But why do we not expect men to give the emotional safety and security to a woman? Where is the man's responsibility? I was more willing - I craved that physical connection more when I knew it was emotionally safe and there was that security and certainty of where the relationship was at. Why are men letting each other off the hook so easily? Obviously I've been through a great deep hurt... otherwise I wouldn't take things to this level. But maybe we need to talk about this level more?
Lust is a huge common sin today and too many love their darkness and sanction it with religious overtones. 😕
I SO agree with this!!! Men are always off the hook while we women take the hits and burned from their fires and mess!!!
I got so excited when I saw the title to this video!! 😆 Praise God, your insight and male perspective are very helpful and a blessing!
I'm late to the game but I needed to hear this.
Thank you so much for these videos. I genuinely learn and enjoy everything being said. Thank you God bless!
Agree with all 6 points. But some men are lazy and don’t work. Some are just drunks or addicts in some form
Yes alinowak your observations is correct
And somehow they get kids out of women while I don’t.
Good to know that last one. Had an idea but you just made it more clear
I get it now why I had some of the experiences I've had with Men in the past. Thank you🥰Mark
This is so interesting, so good. Thanks Mark 😀💯🙏
number 6- eye opening! thank you Mark
You are getting better! Don’t talk so slow. You still spoke slow when introducing the topic but you picked up the pace. Good job!
I rolled my eyes at point n.1 😅
Amen brother... excellent video.
Respect need to be earn!!
Hi, Mark can you help me with a piece of advice? I met a guy who really likes me, he's funny and a good guy, but the problem is that the relationship that he's trying to build with me is not Christ centred. It is only about us, us, us. He is a believer, I've already told him about my boundaries, but in this area he's not really what my heart desires: he doesn't study the Bible, doesn't listen to sermons or any other Christian sources, he rarely prays, said he would go to church because I go, which is wrong cause he doesn't do these things out of love for God and I don't want to become an idol. I really don't know what to do, I know missionary dating is not a good idea, but in my case he is a believer, I wouldn't trust him to lead me though, cause he doesn't spend that time with God and isn't led by Him. Should I wait until he matures as a Christian( though I don't know how he will cause I'm kinda sick of trying to talk to him about deeper stuff and him only approving; the man didn't know that Eve was created from Adam's rib😩😩😩)As I'm writing I realising I'm giving myself the answer. Though he's a nice guy and a believer, he doesn't do the things that a Christian man who really loves God should do like praying or studying the Bible. The problem is I don't know how to break it off. I tried once and I felt so lonely and sad, even though I knew God's love was more than enough.I feel like I've crossed some emotional boundaries and now it's really difficult to say to him that it's not a good idea to date. Sometimes when I'm with friends who have boyfriends/ girlfriends I start feeling lonely, so I tried online dating and I got myself in this mess: I constantly feel bad if I want to tell him that I don't want to talk to him because he's not a mature Christian, I don't want to break his heart, but I also feel bad cause I desire a good Christian man who can lead me closer to God. How can I break it off without feeling guilty and without making him suffer?
Is God telling you to date Him, and only Him? I believe that would really satisfy your need. A break up and a break of soul tie could be what is necessary for him to go on the journey of reflecting and deeper thinking for himself. If God has revealed to you what you need to do, then all you can do is to pray for him and leave it to God.
Mark... I am sorry for hijacking the answer. Feel free to delete it.
Vegan With Love Hi, thanks for sharing your heart. It's a good thing that you already know or feel that he is not deeply in love with the Lord. He might just be a nominal Christian who has never really known the Lord which is evident in his life. Beloved, he doesnt seem to be one who is mature enough to spiritually lead you someday. You don't need a wimp by your side who would just go to church when dragged someday. You dont expect him to magically change once you're married. You would want a warrior who fights his battles and struggles on his knees and always seeking the Ultimate Source. Take heed of these red flags you mentioned. Pray for him, pray about it. Maybe the one thing he should be pursuing right now is Christ, not you. And it would be best if you ended it now. Cut all emotional soul ties though its hard. God will sustain you. You need not fear. If it is His will for you to get married someday remember that He will provide. He is still the best matchmaker around. Do not settle. In Christ, Jessi
Protactiny and Maria thank you sooo much for your kind words and encouragement, it means so much to me💛I don't have so many christian friends who are truly seeking God and listening to His voice so the one friend that I told about my struggles with this guy told me that maybe I would influence him and he would change, but I knew God was not leading me to do that cause you can get sick sitting next to a sick person but you can't become healthy simply staying next to someone who's healthy. I knew God was the one who changes hearts and not people, I knew that it was such a struggle for me not being able to share things related to my faith, sermons, books, opinions, I felt like he was like I was talking to a wall when I was talking about God and my passion for Him. God was not the centre of our relationship, though I wanted this so deeply😔it was only about us, getting to know each other and romance, that's all, but I wanted to get closer to God through this relationship. If I will ever have a husband, I want him to truly love God. It's ok, I know God will bring the right person at the right moment and I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be with a man who wants to live his life only for himself, no judgement, it's just not me. I don't want to live a day far away from God, I crave His love, kindness and all about Him❤️I've seen the dangers of unequally yoked relationships or dating someone who calls himself a believer, but doesn't really want to pursue a relationship with God. It was so difficult to spend my time with God, he didn't understand the value of prayer and studying God's word, the Bible made me feel like I was so weird. It's hard, in my country I feel like it's a shallow christianity, I feel weird when I say I read the scriptures or I hear God's voice, or God is leading me to do something, cause they look so creepy at me😂I don't really care, but I don't know how to share my faith when I'm dating. I guess I'll just have to be more selective and cautious and not let myself go with the flow, be controled bu emotions, feeling infatuated cause they like me so much and they pursue me. I will wait on the Lord, He will bring the right one, no more soul ties. I will be intentional in my singleness, not just passively wait on the Lord, but also be more careful next time when I meet someone. When I see red flags, I don't have to ignore them and say I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he didn't really mean that😑😂thank you so much again, this is an amazing community❤️
Vegan With Love Amen!! I soo love your reply. Do not be double minded. Praying for His will to be done in your life sis! ^_^
Always good vids! Thanks Mark, God bless you and your family!
So glad you enjoyed this! and God bless you too :)
Thank you for this beautiful video.
another thing you may say men need to take care of Gods matters of the church. it goes like this God first God , your family, and than the church and ministry s. many marriges have gone down the drain cause church became first, God second and the family the back seat. how can you take care of the churches needs when your own family is starving of atention, family time and there needs are not being met. as a husband that is your main responsability so your prayers wont be hindered. The mayority of men focuses on what the women should do but dont really read and practice what their suppose to do. If you really love you fiance or spouse you would really focus more in getting to know them their likes and dislikes put interest in her gifts and talents. she is not just a mother a wife . she is a daughter of the most high God and the Lord gave her talents and gifts also. help her develop it so she can also flurish cause God will hold both acountable of the way we treated each other.
Respect has to be earn...Not giving freely...no respect...no. Respect
Can u do a video about what a Christian girl needs in her life first before a boyfriend such as God , Christian female friends Christian hobbies and interests, and NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!!! Also a video on what a Christian woman needs in a Christian man.
This is such a great informative video. It’s so good to hear information like this especially from a Godly man’s point of view. The way you present the content in a gentle tone makes it so easy to receive. Thank you so much! 🙌🏽
About the sex for men, that is absolutely 100% true.
This video is amazing! Thanks so much.
With a lot of comments about men and women both wanting respect it’s true. However women want affirmation above just about everything. Which is a combo of love and respect. A man saying I appreciate you and what you do means so much to a woman rather than a man just saying I respect you.
💚Thank you for a great video..Happy New Year..GOD bless you brother🙋😌
Great content and video!
Awesome Video
Thank you so much Pastor Mark! I don’t know if I will ever master your topics but I’m still going to keep studying 😇
If men elevate sex to that level this is an excuse to use a physical act to define them and actually tell women that this matters too much above their partner. No women can compete with this mind set. And #5 is relative. How do you know what men or woman naturally know anyways? Each sex does not know everything about the other only because they are not that sex. Duh! Why create barriers by saying this as a generalized statement for all men?
He gives specific examples as to why he feels that way about the difference between men and women and he says it is what he thinks
Love this message!
"LITTLE BOYS NEED TO CLEAVE FROM THEIR MOMMYS BEFORE THEY EVEN CONSIDER GETTING MARRIED"100%100%100%
I got one at 45 that still does it lol
🙂👍👍👍. A great message brother Mark 🕊.
thank you for the video! I would need just an example for an adventure to better understand, point 6, thank you!
Greeeeeeeatttttt video!!
Amen! Men are meant to be heros and long to help people! They need to be given this opportunity - it brings meaning and training/experience for God’s work and adventures! I think a couple’s or family mission trip is great for this too (for everyone involved)!
Great reminders Especially in these days where women want to be men and men women We are different there starts the understanding and creating a Godly marriage THX
This is absolutely true
Love this 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Absolutely on point I am truly impressed by your wisdom which I know is from the Lord
You brother have re-kindled my respect for formal Christian education.
(A young Christian woman I grew up with came back from a Christian college less than Godly and worse than my unsaved friends and I met a Pastor that had a masters and didn't know the Word I mean not even the Book of Acts.)
You're advice is Biblically sound, relevant, realistic and I know the Lord is doing a work in you.
Keep edifying the body brother.
These could all be applied to women... we crave all this too.
Point 6. I think is a human need. But again it depends on the personality type. I know an introverted man who doesn’t really crave adventure, likes comfort & stability.
Well...Marriage is verry hard for girls. After this video, I don't know if i would like ever to be married. The 6 point is unfair.
I also want respect.
me FCT acttally the video is very biased and one sided. It says what women need to know, but it’s actually what women need to do to make a man happy. This is one sided and can’t work, it will cause resentment, women are not machines they have needs too.
@@gadoladonai8296 I agree. A marriage only works if both sides work on it, respect each other and love each other. The rest will Come naturally.
First Point, this video only was about the things that are important to men and not about whats important to women.
Second Point, the Bible clearly tells us, that in marriage an order is neccessary.
Like Christ is the head of the church, the man should be the head of the family.
He should be the one who guides the family.
If women have problems with this, they have a problem with God himself and not beeing humble before God.
On the other side the man should not force his wife in any way to humble herself before him.
It is the duty of the woman to let her husband take the lead and trust him.
Marriage is not easy and is definitely not for selfish people. I urge you, DO NOT GET MARRIED if you are not 100% committed to putting in effort and your love into one. It will literally ruin your life.
@@gadoladonai8296 it's not. It's because that's the title of the video. You want him to talk about what men should know before they get married when the video is not about that?
I dunno if he has a video on that by now.
Also as he kept saying repeatedly in the video, this is generalised so it'll obviously not apply to every single relationship.
Thanks Brother
My pleasure Brenda!
And happy anniversary!
That's why it's important to have a long period of dating-in order to get to know each other,and understand the differences between venusians and martians.
Date,spend time to learn each other...
I really dont agree with the all men want to be providers. I am currently with somebody now who never really used to contribute in a way he should even when he got new higher paying jobs. It was a struggle to get him to do exactly that but when I got a higher paying job , he wanted to sit down and make me pay more. He also has regularly stated he has stopped dating girls because they felt that way but he wants all the respect in the world and more.
How do you respect a man? Is it by listening and doing everything he says? But the same man refuses to take anything you say on board?
This is just opposite lol I’m a girl so much resembling this characteristic 😂😂😂
I enjoy being alone but I get attacked by demons. Now I married and I'm more miserable. Theres just no fucking winning
No wonder, zodiac is the job of Satan. Repent and God will bless you !
"CAN'T COMMUNICATE IF YOU RUNNING AWAY LIKE A LITTLE COWARD"100%100%100%
Every man loves sex, sure. But don't forget to move a bit further North, as well. Followed Mom around WalMart once, not having had dinner the night before or breakfast and lunch that day. She swore that the last thing she wanted to do was look at paint swatches. Did that, and as we were headed out of the paint-aisle, she says "oh, look, more swatches!". I just about broke down and cried like a 4 year old. And I was 20-something at the time. Food is, arguably just as (if not more) important to a man's emotional health.
wow i feel even more stressed Jesus help
This is SOOO HELPFUL🤣LOL...This is my marriage season and I am SOOO GREATFUL to YOU🥰MARK......Because I didn't have a CLUE..but NOW I DO 🤣🤣🤪LOL...I SEE SO MUCH ADVENTURE IN MY FUTURE....THANK YOU🥰🎯♥️..🎶💃🔥🕺♥️🎶
I have been in a relationship now for about 7years no engagement neither marriage already have kid together. I am now getting closer to God, I don't have a desire for sex anymore, but my boyfriend will not understand, it is getting difficult for me each day, pls pray for me, I don't know what to do if I should stay in this relationship or walk away.
Nice video! Love this!👍👍👍👍
Thank you for this info
No problem!
I think it is a woman's perspective and a man's perspective are different... but overlapping. Emphasis is different because of the typical roles we play. Therefore, all these issues / points are important to both sexes I believe. Communication is key, understanding is key.
It's a thumbs down for me. Many great points. The financial one angers me bc of the wage gap. My work is just as important. In addition, the colorism gap as well.
Agree because women Need respect (regardless if they Crave it or not) and I believe men must Earn the right to have their Cravings (needs) fulfilled by their wife or they will disrespect her.