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Christian Dating Advice for Introverted Girls & Guys
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- Опубликовано: 17 авг 2024
- Here are 3 relationship tips if you are an introverted Christian single.
1. Christian Dating Advice: Embrace the Good Labels and Reject the Bad About Introverts
2. Christian Dating Advice: Look to Date a Friend as an Introvert
3. Christian Dating Advice: Start Serving with Other People as an Introvert
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We need an introvert dating service. We are all at home "charging our batteries " lol
Purple Moose So True🌅
Lol so true
Yes!!
Really
yep 😆
Okay, now I just need to get some friends before I start dating a friend 😂
Grant Terry ... that was my very thoughts as well
As soon as he Made that point I was like yikes I have “no friends” at all 😅
Absolutely!
What friends? 🤣😫
Lol
Great info, I'm an introvert, but I feel like I'm more comfortable in a small group. Arrogant people annoy me. I like people that talk less and have a humble attitude. Thanks for the video
My pleasure :)
Same here I prefer small groups and depends on person, some that I see is not cool or just want to appear I don't like at all. 🤣😂 I prefer silence and have my own space it's better than be stressed out.
I agree with you 👍🏿
As a 32 year old Christian single woman, it's hard to meet singles my age in church because Christians often get married so young. That didn't happen for me, and so now I'm having trouble meeting Christians my age and meeting Christians who share my worldview. I'm new to the church I'm at, so I'm still trying to find small groups that exist. Hopefully I'll find somebody there.
Im 37 yr old christian man and have same problem
True everyone at my old church is already got married when they were in their teens and early 20's.
If were introverts, then prayer MUST be our greatest priority. (not our phones) I think im going to repent and walk in the way again.
Yeah, agree with you.
Amen 🙏🏾
I think social media has destroyed my chances of making meaningful relationships anymore. Things seems so superficial nowadays.
Everyone always posts highlights. Their life isn’t perfect they only portray the good moments. Everybody struggles and there is hope. There’s people out here still that agree with you in many ways
I love being around people and making friends but I also love my alone time too, it’s how I connect with the Lord
Oh how I hate small talk :D
Amen :)
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Isabel Sumera, that's really encouraging to hear! God bless :)
And it is also frustrating when random people are always trying to talk to you that you dont even want to talk to really (not to be rude) and blocking the introverted man that tries to approach you. Being a introvert is a blessing in many ways, but it really makes dating, letting men approach you, and approaching men very hard.
Puppet Master true
I know you are introvert but what type are you in MBTI.
Makes approaching women hard as well.
I just feel weird about dating online. It feels as though you are shopping for a spouse. I feel that meeting people in person is much easier, since you get to know the whole person and not just their profile picture/texts. I've also had some somewhat unpleasant experiences on christian dating sites. I'm praying that God will bring the right man in person and I continue to put myself out there and seek first the Kingdom of God!
I have turned into an introvert and a little shy meeting other people but, at the same time I am very social,fun,open-minded.
Ambivert...
I am waiting on God's approval this next relationship.
I'm an introvert and this is perfect. I never understood what it really meant to be an introvert. This is a great video for extroverts to understand introverts.
It's official... My name is Rose and I am an Introvert. 🙄
Rose Morales hi Rose, my name is Mark and I am an introvert too, lol....you should read this book called "Introverts in the Church" i found it helpful
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger Lol! Awesome! Thank you Mark...I definitely will do so.
Rose Morales nice
Rose Morales I'm Scott and I also am an introvert, myself
Another introvert here!!
Love the video am introverted so it helps not to feel bad for not loving big crowds lol . God bless n thank you rlly helpful videos
Glad to hear it. I need to do more on this topic :)
You are so right about this!! People can be really judgmental about it at church to, I get people coming up to me just saying things that imply that I have demons because I am alone, they assume its a bad demon or something. But its who I am and I am not there to be someones project ya know. I am ok with how I am. I don't see how I am sinning or anything with preferring being alone or being selective about who I talk to. I have never felt comfy around crowds of people, or even several people for too long. And I am not super social. I am only social with a very few people that I know already and trust. Gosh you are so right, I try to be polite to people, but once they try to talk to me more I try to find an excuse to walk away. I absolutely hate small talk. I actually am not sure if I want to attend church anymore over this. People will straight up not respect my boundaries and try to fix me because they think I have a demon that makes me antisocial. ANd I am sorry but not everything is a demon...............
I'm sorry that's awful i hope you don't stop going to church but maybe find a more accepting church. :)
First Last yes, I agree, to maybe find a church who will welcome and not push away. Some people just done understand or even realize how words effect others. I hope things brighten up, and I will be praying for your situation. God bless you:)
Thanks for the video. You described me perfectly as an introvert. I have a guy friend that I’m very close to; we have been friends for 8 years now. He just told me the other day that he likes me and I have liked him for a very long time so it was great to hear him say that he liked me ☺️ but he said he is afraid to ruin the friendship if we should date and it doesn’t work out so like you said it is a risk but I guess I’ll prefer dating someone else than risk dating my best friend and it doesn’t work then our friendship would never be the same
I'm so glad this video was relatable :) also something to consider, guy to woman friendships will never stay the same because once one of you starts dating someone else your friendship will change anyways. So in my view it is often worth the risk because that friendship will plateau eventually anyways
"Think about who is in your friend group...." -nothing but married couples in my acquaintance.
Same here! And, I feel they don’t understand! One of my friends said, “there are so many men out there!” As if my God-Hand-Selected-Man would pop out at a snap of my fingers! It will-> at the snap of God’s, though🙏
I'm an omnivert. I'm both introverted and extroverted. I get energy from being around people but it burns out quickly and I need to re-energize by being alone. I have a group of very deep, close friends and a crowd of shallower friendships/acquaintances. My crush is very introverted. I invite him to lots of stuff but most of the time he turns me down. There have been other signs he likes me, though. Any words of wisdom for us opposites that are attracted to introverts?
*ambivert.
God bless you, brother. You have a beautiful heart! May our Lord Jesus be with you, at your side, leading your way, each day, every day. In Christ, MA
A couple real solid points there.
The idea of serving an objective which creates a natural set of interactions with new people... true.
The idea that mixed gender friendships are unlikely to remain the same over the long term... that is a point I never really thought about, and has the ring of truth.
Thanks for the upload.
You are welcome :)
Hahahah! I’m an introvert. That explains it. Everything you talked about, yep, well, now I understand myself better. Hahaha thanks for the good and bad of it. 👍🏻
Enagic ID# 1126378, we introverts certainly have our strengths and weaknesses :)
I struggle because the Book of Proverbs says “Whoever isolates Himself seeks his own desire and breaks out against all sound judgment. However, I love being alone, normally. It’s nice to be around my family and to go to church some, but I much prefer aloneness. I actually get anxious when I know I have to go and be around people and am shy and to myself around others. It’s a struggle and I know I need to work on it!!
Wayne Brown God can give you a balance. Don’t do it for pleasing people but for the sake of Christ, because you’ll only resent the people and burnout from pretending. I loooovvee alone time and get energy there. I feel like when we come out or in solitude how are we building up those around us, seeking wise counsel sometimes?, making sure We do show our sin, weakness and have fun. Freedom comes in embracing it, I FINALLY Do, and knowing your boundaries. We know when we’re just being us and when we’re being sinful/too selfish. God can help us.
Thanks Mark you really put things in perspective with that example of a female best friend. I really used to believe that girls and guys can be friends even if you have a husband or wife boyfriend or girlfriend ect. I didn't understand why it wasn't okay and I didn't understand how it looked to have many guy friends to the person you were with. I didn't think or know it was unhealthy and never payed mind. I just used to think that ppl who couldn't have friends of the opp sex had no self control it was full of lust. I have a different perspective now thanks to you Mark
U really know who introverts are.It takes time for me to be cool around some one and yh u hate it when someone I like have shallow talk with me
Bervelyn Ampah-Kwofie I am an introvert too so I've done a good amount of research and thinking on that subject. God bless!
Nice. Even if I don't plan on dating just yet, this makes me feel a LOT better about being an introvert. Thanks.
I really like your content!! Thank you so much for sharing!!
I'm so glad to heart that! Thanks for your encouragement and God bless!
The funny thing is most of my friends are introverts like me😎 Fortunately my girls are more social than I, I'll worry about that in 2 more years when High School comes into play. I've grown comfortable in my own skin, I found I don't need to out and about with others. Great for my wallet but it makes for some lonely time, after my girls and Mom are asleep usually or at breaks or lunch at work. I truly appreciate the opportunity to think a thought through. If that makes any sense, I like to think about this that and observe and try to understand why. What usually happens is when I get some time, I go back over my notes from sermon, get caught up on family necessary stuff (Drs/Teacher/Other Parent appts/replies etc) , find answers to questions I have in my notes, read a page or 2 from my Kindle, let thoughts of everything in my life go through my head, think of my girls: just allow my mind to rest and wonder- It's rarely dull, but usually very short time wise. My Grandpa gave me great advice: Learn to Contemplate. So I am going to contemplate for tomorrow morning and be mindful of the now. Because I haven't taken out the kitty litter yet. Sigh. I can be mindful doing chores? Double sigh. Oh well, life and litter wait for no one! 🐈🤔
I am on the in between of introverted and ambiverted side. I like hanging out with my friends and being with them, but small talk is annyoing to me! 😂 I am a listener more than a talker, and want to know as much as I can about people and enjoy the deep and meaningful conversations. At the same time, I get my "energy" from at home and being with people. I quoted it though because my real energy comes from the Lord. I do want to date one of my guy friends that I like, but at the same time I don't want to ruin my friendship with him.
I have just watched this video on RUclips. I also think that this applies to me since I'm also an Introvert and I'm quiet and shy around girls, even when I was growing up and going to School, hoping that any girl would find that attractive in a Guy like me. I am opening up just a little bit. Of course there's nothing wrong with being an Introvert, it's a normal part of life, honestly :-).
Reading and watching movies on my own stirs my heart 😂
This was such an encouragement to me! I recently lost a former dear and very close friend of mine due to taking the next step into relationship. It seemed like a mistake, but we had anyways also talked about the reality that our friendship would not be the same when we would meet our spouse which became a sad talk for us. I came to a point of thinking that I would rather stay single my entire life and then keep my friendship with her. Now I believe that God let us take that step to release us from one another.
Mark is such a gift and a blessing. This is so good!
Thank you for this
Hi Pastor Mark!! Thank you for this insight. I was wondering if you had any tips for Christian extroverts dating Christian introverts and how to honor them the way God created them to be. Blessings~
Give them alone time and seek to understand there needs :)
Thank God another introvert!
I just learned a new word for my introvert vocabulary. “INTROVERTEDNESS”
Good advice, Thanks.
3:48 Just realized I am so introverted that I don't even have that friends to date.
Should skipt to step No. 3 and get into some service activity...
Thank you so much for this great pieces of advice. It helps a lot.
I’ve had so many Christians tell me being an introvert is sinful and selfish. Lol. Certainly, there are aspects of it that can be taken too far, but I always point to Christ, who demonstrated that being alone at times was beneficial. I’m convinced from Scripture that introversion isn’t wrong, but it IS kinda exhausting to constantly need to defend myself to people who think I’m selfish…
Thank you for talking about this topic bc I’m introverted
What a blessing🙏🏼
You see that’s the way I trade doing it, I try being someone’s friend first and seeing where things go but a lot of women like to jump the gun when I asked them out to coffee. I mean, when you don’t really know someone going out to coffee is literally my best strategy for me to meet someone. I don’t really date friends because for me once you’re a friend you’re a friend. It takes me a while to do that.
I don’t do small talk, you either click with me or you don’t. That’s just how I am and it doesn’t stop me from making friends. But there are dust, time when you get older where going out with somebody you don’t know is probably the safest route you could go. But it’s hard when you’re 27 because you’re kind of in between girls who don’t they and girls that do. And I understand that they’re protecting their heart but you’re more at risk of getting hurt being friends then just going out with a guy and seeing if you click with him. I think that you click with somebody pretty quickly even if it takes time to build a relationship. And that’s the part that I think a lot of people don’t think about is that relationships are work regardless if it’s a friendship or not. It takes a lot of time and it takes a lot of patience. I don’t mind Smalltalk but if that’s all you’re gonna do when you talk to me you know I don’t really talk with people too long doing that. I like to have conversations about things more deeply and I’m not talking about serious conversations. I mainly talking about if you’re into a certain game or if you’re into a certain movie. Talk about the movie and talk about the game. I want to hear more details about it because I wanna get to know you on the things that you like. I don’t want to listen to things I don’t really go deep because it doesn’t really help me get to know you. And I’m not asking for you to talk and share every detail of your life but just detail your conversations a bit more. It just annoys me when people don’t give detail because it doesn’t really tell me anything about you.
However I do think you should get married friends because they’re going to know some single people and unfortunately most people meet people through mutual friends. So, take advantage of people who know other singles and maybe go out on dates with some of them and see what happens. If you’re not dating you will remain single for the rest of your life. And if you’re not dating or forming relationships with the right Christians you’re gonna be single for a while.
I am an extrovert and It is still difficult to know where to go to actually find someone who is a single Christian man. I don't know of any friends that I am attracted to who I would be romantic with.
VERY EYE OPENING. (I'm an introvert)
God bless!
I am introvert and it's hard finding someone who is similar. Really makes it hard when everyone is extrovert and it's so easy for them to meet people easily.
Hello.. 😁
Regaining my lost energy is literally doing it by myself alone. Every Sunday after church service, doing evangelism, meals and chatting w/ bros and sisters in Christ.. I just make sure that atleast I still have time being with myself somewhere in a quite place. Considering to be w/ someone? I donnu if its works, maybe..
Its depend upon the person 😁
I'm definitely wired to potentially become interested in someone I'm already friends with, and I rarely "LIKE like" someone I dont know well. However, of the many guy friends I have and have had, none if them ever expressed interest in me. I'm really shy when it comes to expressing my feelings to someone about that stuff, so I'm not likely to ever outright tell a guy I like him first.
Right now I also live in a small town and attend a small church with very few younger guys. I'm about to start my last year in college, and based on my dating success in the last three years there, my chances of meeting someone that I click with are very slim.
I don't recommend a women just telling a guy she likes him. This video may help too: ruclips.net/video/xdL7fYIGUb8/видео.html
I met a guy recently through a lady I helped at my job ... he’s came to church with me twice already.. he has obviously shown interest in me . He’s a Christian but you can tell he doesn’t have his life in order .. plus he’s 10 years older then me ... he seems really nice but he’s living back home with parents . No job . Does not seem ambitious at all ... so I’m keeping it as a friend. Those are signs where they show no security . God may have had me meet him for a reason to just simply have a friendship....not a dating relationship...
INFJ. Sounds like me!
ENFP. We're probably the two types closest to the middle of the spectrum. ENFP = Introverted Extrovert & INFJ = Extroverted Introvert
You know what you telling the truth
Damarr Brown God bless!
Finally someone understands.😁
Good advice. I'm on introvert and most people I know aren't and they frustrate me. Lol...
Im introvert 😂...thanks for this tips.
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Thank You!
I want to marry at 22 also😭
I am intp. I being to think I come off less introverted than I am because I want to be friendly. it seem that dating world is build around ESTP. The EXTP type has higher awareness of what other people are feeling and put on the charm when they want too. the ixtp type has less awareness of what other people are feeling and have more trouble putting on the charm.
FINALLY!!! An introvert who's not "INFJ".
I'm an ambivert
👍
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger how to socialize when I'm an ambivert (an interverted extrovert due to social trauma)?
@Torey Williams I am naturally an extrovert but bullies introverted me.
I'm initially ambivert as well
I'm an extrovert, but my personality is more stereotypical of an introvert. While I can strike up conversations with random people on the street with no problem, if anything is at stake, I tend to freeze up. On top of that, I've never been one who's been able to really build deep relationships perhaps because my family moved a bunch when I was growing up (I went to three different high schools in three different states, but my family was not military.)
Spudeaux see, like I can talk to people ive never met before pretty good, but if I know them like from somewhere but we never really talk, I'm just super awkward and drawn at a blank
@@kassperlynwoods-mott5184 Same here. Good at talking to stranger, super ackward with the girl I like. Dont think of one thing to say to her
I'm an extrovert and I always freeze when I'm with a guy I like. I never know what to say, what to do, and it makes me so mad cause I don't want to screw it up...
@@sillyquerkylover Im the same way but with girls. Its like im fine, get along great with everyone else then as soon I want to talk to the girl i like....nothing.
@@TheArtistJ777 that's so good to know, it can happen with extroverts and I'm not alone on this! I really like this guy, but we only talk through texting because he's from another country, but now that we're hanging together, things got super awkward, he didn't talk much, I didn't talk much and I don't want to mess up this... He doesn't even know I like him 😢
“You might be boring, lame & don’t wanna be around people but that doesn’t mean you’re introverted.” 🤣🤣 I died!! lol
I'm so stuck between two girls at my church. Both my friends and I don't know who to persue. There tension in this triangle of love. Risky to ruin our friendship. I'm most eledgable bashlor and there the top princess pators daughters. It's mind boggling Help lol!
I only have 3 friends all dudes and I'm 29 so I suppose I'm doomed lol
That's three more than me!! I have zero!!
NEVER GIVE UP, said Sir Winston Churchill
@@divineprovidence803 like wise have zero close friends
Date a friend? This guy has never heard of the friendzone.
My thoughts exactly! 😂
What in the goofy??? You're supposed to be friends first, it helps.
Well....what do i do if im an introvert and the girls i like is an introvert and both of us have a hard time starting conversaitons. We click kind of good but what do i say to start a conversation, plz i kind of real needs help(shes cute)
I don't have true friends. I have 3 antiquities that are females
I'm 100% introvert I seem to have more luck with women in church by not trying to date them that seems to work for me
I will just have dogs for the rest of my life.
That's how I feel.
Take hope
Unnatural affection
Seriously. My dog requires lots of exercise and mental stimulation, so he takes a lot of my time anyway!
What do you think about when there’s a young lady who I would like to tell I like her but one I’m an introvert and two she’s married but about to be divorced from a bad relationship. She shown signs in the beginning of liking me but I’m not too sure because she’s hot and cold often. We both are in the church and really love God. I’m wondering if I should just wait until she gets settled to tell her or move on it now? I’m confused..I been praying on it. Plus she has 4 kids but that’s not an issue to me. I’ve prayed for a particular type woman and she match that exactly what I prayed for and while I feel she could be it,again I get a lot of hot and cold feels. Ironically just everyone in my church kind of know about the crush we have with each other. However I’m just not 100% sure and also she’s not sure with me. Also I don’t really feel I should move until she becomes single and get her own space. However it’s hurting me to wonder what to do. Ive seen signs here and there but then some signs she run seem like she’s uninterested.
If she's still married I would accept that and treat her as a married woman still. Once she is divorced I would talk w the pastor to help you navigate all that. This may also help applygodsword.com/what-does-the-bible-say-about-divorce-and-remarriage/
Is it an extrovert video
I'm an ambivert..
Introvert 🙋🏾😂😂
lol! Me too :)
so me lol thanks
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God bless!
What advice do u give an introverted, sometimes extroverted, 85 year old, fine, cute, sometimes gorgeous, intelligent, funny, witty, lighthearted, affectionate, sweet, kind, compassionate, witty, smart, intuitive Christian single, awkward, sometimes weird, classy woman? Lol 😂 help!!! Help!!! **echo in the wind lol
Also ... no one ever asks me out and if they do, I have nothing in common with them, or they are not at all attractive to me... lol 😂 help!!! Help...
I see a lose lose situation... u have a friend, u date ur friend and then it doesn’t workout and u lose your friend and the boyfriend... lol 😂 you’re assed out of both
@@lindagal4595 you INFJ? Asking for a friend...
Eheh. "Burn to the ground."
This is the only video that I felt that one dislike made me suspicious and think it might not be good. Because a lot of people have ever no clue what it's like being autistic. So what works for you won't work for me. The "one" dislike could be an atheist but still makes me wonder.
TovaShai why
TovaShai I'm 25 and my whole life wanted to marry at 17. Not like it would still have been legal by that time anyway. Yeah but he's right though. It's partly our fault. I don't think he meant it rudely. He's just being honest and sadly he's right. Sometimes it's God's turn but sometimes it's our's. Sometimes the devil does things too and remember the devil has demons for backup. If someone curses you, you might have demons. If you really want to be free from this it's possible someone might have cursed you even behind your back saying, "(your name) will never get married". Parents especially have been notorious for this. They don't know the dangers of saying such words. If you want to get married badly enough, I advise you that if you're not a Christian you should become one. Make sure that the pastor acknowledges demons activity. If he is naive to such things leave and find a better church. Pagans modified Catholic in the 1500s so they are Christian individuals but the religion is pagan and that's what deceives people. It's a good thing we have Jesus so the enemy was defeated anyway. This is why you sometimes can but sometimes can't trust Catholic priests. I'd stay away from false religions. They could worsen your problems by putting demons on you if you get into false religions. Find the good kind of Pentecostal. Keep in mind that the devil attacks those who attack him. So, there is a weird version of Pentecostal as well.
TovaShai hes not the smug type. He's pretty cool. In fact this is a Christian dating advice channel. He's a sweet guy but you might not have liked what he had to say. It was probably too honest for you. The Bible and pastors are that way if they're any good. Some of us Christians like it when a person is honest and telling the truth like it is.
I think I rather stay single lol
Can you stop waving your arms around it's quite distracting
No disrespect intended but this comment made me chuckle