I dated a guy who started every conversation with "My momma said...". Mother treated him like a two year old and seemed to do his thinking for him. Always acted like a jealous girlfriend, whenever I was around. It was just too much. I didn't let the door hit me, on the way out of that mess. 😏
@@tejefferson6869 I knew a man who wouldn't make any decision until he asked his mom. And even if her decision was clearly wrong, he thought she was right. She also gave him a debit card to use for emergencies, and she'd put money on it for him. Anything he needed, he'd call her, and she put money on the card. She pays his rent too. And here's the kicker...hes almost 41 years old. It's really sad.
“A man is not waiting in the wings to give you everything that the last man did not give you. No he is waiting his turn”...😳🤦🏾♀️ oh God my heart just sank. Where are all the genuine men? Lesson heard!
@@elainenilsson5472 Girl... There may not be. But it’s best to not even put your focus or energy on that or the possibility of it. The most important thing to do is work daily in self-progression, in every way possible. Try more often than not to be what you want to see in others and walk in your purpose. If you do that you won’t have the time nor energy to give to anything that is not deserving of it. Also, when you are whole and further in your journey of purpose, a “Purpose Mate” may be delivered to you who will also be whole and walking within their own journey. But that person cannot be sought after... In other words, do not look for them because all you will succeed in finding is distractions and decoys.
Tony is right... Me and my husband were best friends before we got married... When we got together we skipped bf and Gf and went straight to being engaged then got married... My husband said l don’t need to get to know you, I’ve know you since 10th grade we got engaged at 23 got married at 26... I’m 31 now and still happily married...
Tony, I’m a faithful married man. I watch your videos because there’s always room for improvement. This video tickled me and made me laugh. 🤣🤣 This video is 100% correct. You broke it down for understanding. Keep doing what you doing. ✊🏽I’ve warned females about that male friend stuff. I used to be the friend back in the day just waiting for you to slip.
Finally a man in the comments.... What drives you to stay faithful and what would make you feel like cheating?? Thank you in advance for your response brother.
I really just don’t want to follow in the footsteps of my father. I had a blessed childhood. I was his outside child that his wife never knew about. He always had girlfriends and mistresses because he had money. I made a promise long ago not to be like that. I just don’t want the stress of lying and trying to keep my stories together, been there done that back in the day. Even though my father was there for me financially I still didn’t have him 100% of the time. I admit, I do check out other women but I’m just afraid of the drama.
I haven’t even finished the story and I already know what happened because I experienced this. She projected all her failed relationships, hopes, dreams, fairytale, fantasy onto the relationship. All the pressure of being her happy ending to her past mistakes she placed it right into that man’s lap. She had great expectations prob prematurely. She thought because they were friends it would all end well and he would never do her wrong. But as Tony has taught us so well up into this point, men and women are not friends.
Tony isn't lying at all. Tony knows his stuff! I was friends with a man from kindergarten all the way until adult hood. Our families were extremely close. Our mothers graduated high school together back in the day that's how close everybody was. We would crush on eachother for yearsssss. He was so nice, patient, flattering and sweet. I've dated other people from middle school all the way to adult hood. He stood in the background as a friend/crush.I had a child with another man also. We started this crush at 5 years old (I remember, true story) fast forward 25 years later I FINALLY entertained the idea of dating him. He proposed and we got married. Y'all, we wasn't even married for a year and this man dogged me out so bad. Believe what Tony is saying. This man switched on me like day and night. I learned my lesson! I'm wiser now.
I don’t know about the sexually confused part lol but from my personal experience the type men who have a bunch of female friends are the men who don’t have or don’t know their purpose in life as a man.
Or definitely sexually confused. You may think it’s not that deep but I have gay male friends and know a lot of gay men so I mean you just have to pay attention in order to see what Tony means.
This lady is very, very intelligent. Just from the email I can tell she's highly educated, not withstanding her advanced degree. However she's a woman who fell for the wrong guy. We've all been there. Honey, Sis, it's tough, but keep it moving. Not only for you, but your autistic son. You both deserve better.
"Never date a friend" and "Keep a friend as a friend" is accurate advice!! It can end up being a huge dissapointment, loss of respect, & demise of the friendship. It will most definitely be revealed if the friendship was real to begin with or if he was a fraud just waiting his turn.
Nope, I was friends with a guy and since we were 15 until 29 and we liked each other but I didn’t start a romantic relationship because either he or I was involved and We are both attractive people. I can tell by his exes an he can tell by mine. Either way we were friends and it was a mistake. He’s a narcissist in disguise. Hurt me more than I could imagine and before I was the heart breaker bc I didn’t want to get hurt. He lied. Cheated, kept leadin me to believe we would be together and eventually convinced a much younger, more impressionable girl to work for him(he used to be a pimp and I didn’t know) Didn’t
@CoolNappyHead I know a guy who has many female friends and has dated many women but it never works out! He has a male friend he will go as see, but this friend barely visits him. His friend will rather out for a pint with his mates. I know his friend and he has a girlfriend. I have never heard him talk about female friends, all his friends are male. I am convinced this guy has a crush on his friend, but doesn't know how to let him know how he feels. His friend is a real Alpha male and has very strong options! I doubt he can tell him at all when I come to think about it 😂😂.
Stay blessed yall. God isn't going to send you a test. He would have married you sweetie. Men already know if you will be his wife or not. Stop giving these dudes the pleasure of disappointing you. Stay strong sisters!
Listen! Tony's spirit of discernment is so on point! This man sounds like my ex husband. He was borrowing money from all his family. I'm calling people, visiting, going to all the family events not knowing any of it. And he wasn't paying them back. His momma was taking out loans for him. 😳😳😳 Again, I didn't know. And after everything finally popped off and I was done then I found out he'd been cheating (with the other team). Y'all better listen. I WISH I would've had someone to tell me truth and wisdom bc he'd charmed everyone closest to me. The good thing is I got my kids and got the hell on.
Absolutely!! Once my son turned 18, he moved out, got married last month. Even when he moved out, I did not call him constantly. Actually most of the times he called me when he could. We would text about 3 times a month. I knew to step move aside because he is a man and it is natural for men to break away from home and their moms. He got married last month, I waited for him to contact me after their honeymoon. Me and my youngest going over to their place for first time. I'm good with the whole. Hrs married and his wife is before anything and anyone now. I do not want to be a needy mom or person. If I am unhealthy I would not be able to have a healthy relationship with them and future grandbabies ❤️❤️. Thank you Tony!
"This is your last lesson before your blessing" TG. I've got to repeat this to myself daily. It's almost been a year single and celibate and I'm waiting for the right person to come my way. Thank you Tony!!
Yes! Oh it feels so good to love myself and stay single for a season, get to know God and our earthly purpose. I'm also a year abstinent! Sending healing 🌿🌸🙏
I'm to the point now when I meet new guys, I ask what their intentions is. If they hit me with a "oh I just wanna be your friend" then imma move as such. I don't talk to my friends everyday nor am I press to be your friend. So you won't get that energy from me. Intentional dating ONLY!
I asked him: “What are we? And he said friends until “he sees if I’m suitable to be more than that” which was embarrassing !! I left soon after. No way in hell I am going to be a “friend” with a man.
I dropped my "male friend" after I listened to "Can men and women be friends", every red flag that Tony spoke about in that video was present, I realised that if I ever got froggy he would let me leap so I dropped him like a hot potato, he couldn't believe it... thanks big brother Tony.
This all explains so much! My 55 yr old ex grown boy mom calls him several times a day everyday and he has at least five female friends and 30+ other women in his life. Make that 29, because I left and got out of the picture. 👦🏾 ✌🏾!
That's my ex too. Total mamas boy, called me 5x a day asking what should he eat or help him fall asleep, had a ton of female friends, among other things. Life was one big party to him. Funnily enough, we broke up because he wanted a baby in the next couple of years but I didn't - I already had my own 18 year old and the factory was closed if you know what I mean. It's been 5 years now since we broke up and he's dating another single mom, no marriage and no kids of his own. I think he was just wasting my time and now he's wasting hers. All of this is making me realize I need to stop talking to anyone I used to date. I think they use me for maternal vibes or advice. There's no point to stay in contact.
No ma’am 😒 you didn’t lose anything. Was she hard on him or was he gaslighting her? 🤔 He faked the move in and all of that. God bless her and her baby.
🗣 I love when Tony starts preaching and reminding us of God and what he would and would not put us through!! Take notes ladies, that part is major key! ❤️
Tony is not lying! I ended up dating my bestfriend. We were friends from 14-19 years old and ended up making it official when I was 19. He was waiting on his time to sleep with me (I didn’t know this because I was 19 and very naive, I trusted him also since we were friends first) but we ended up getting pregnant and decided to take the relationship more serious! I thought I was doing the right thing as well because I was always told that best relationships are ppl who are friends first but not knowing that it has to be a love interest first like tony says and we never looked at each other like that at first. Also I never thought I would be the type of woman to be played because I have always been zero tolerance with men who don’t do right but baby I was the exact opposite with this guy because of the friendship. Men will take advantage of our loving and nurturing natural instinct mane Tony be on point with EVERYTHING HE SAY! Boy ol boy was that the worst decision ever in my life. I stayed with him for 12 years and when I say nothing but pain and turmoil😩I stayed so long y’all because of dumb reasons I’m not ashamed to admit it. I thought he would change especially due to us getting together so young and I was told by so many ppl to give it time and pray to God and he will change him🤦🏽♀️😩😩😩I have learned a very big lesson! I’ve been gone a year and I’m still healing y’all. Please listen! I wish this video was available 12 years ago but thank God I’m here now.
I wanna go back to the 80's and date. It was better in the 80's, the clothing was terrible, but this is some new stuff out here 🤦🏽💆🏽. Thank you for your dissecting skills and for truth even when it hurts. God bless you for being upright!
@@marthavineyard6959 it was fun and exciting. You look forward to your dates. Now a days it’s straight to the bed and the roles are reversed the women acting like men in the relationships.....
Lol makes me wanna stop talking to my friend cause I see more and more everyday his true intentions. I do appreciate that God is using you to talk to me Tony. I really appreciate it. You're helping me change my mentality.
@@whatsupwithit8247 I think you're correct. A lot of guys will get super mad if their supposedly "Friend" broke it off to pursue a healthy & respected relationship with another Man.
"Some of y'all do that cuz ya nasty!" 🤣 I promise you I will NEVER go in the restroom while my husband is using it, nor would he ever do it when I'm using it. Showering and getting dressed is one thing, but using the toilet? 🤢😂
In my past, I had male friends and they all had an agenda to sleep with me. I realize these men pretend to be your friend to get in the sheets. It’s a sad reality and Tony is telling the truth. This guy sounds like he was playing the field and used her. I have been there and done that. I am so sorry for this lady.
I was so disappointed when Tony didn’t start off with “Uhh Got to Go.. yea you goin have to go on & get on up out of there!” 😂😭😂😭 this advice is pure gold lol
I started watching your videos a week ago and I am obsessed. I listen to your videos in the morning as I’m getting ready and at night before I go to bed. You have taught me the game.. and for that I am so grateful! Thank you! 🙏🏾
Tony, I went through this, exactly this. I had to see the light and realize what was happening. I let him make my self crazy, suicidal, broke, all to give him everything. I finally saw through the fog and God helped me see what I needed to do and now I am so happy and thankful to be free and have you in my life because you were, and still are, a huge blessing in my life and I thank you!!
Wow! "Don't be caught with your summer clothes on in the winter." That's saying a whole lot. God bless you Tony for letting God use you like He does. You are needed here.
To add to what everyone else is saying, sometimes people have fantasies of what it would be like to be with someone. When it actually happens, the reality doesn’t compare to years of fantasizing. It’s easier to be a friend in waiting while another man has full responsibility. They are not single and waiting. They are dating to pass the time. No sacrifice was made to be with you. The very moment a woman drops her relationship for this long term “friend”, he backs away. I believe in starting new because these “friends in waiting” know all of your business and failures and use it to their advantage.
I absolutely love this. I watched it on my television and I do believe that a lot of women needed to hear this. I am so thankful to your wife and kids for continuing to allow you to take time away from them that you could easily be spending with them instead of educating us. May God continue to bless and keep all of you. 🙏🏾
I just went through something similar and this video is the truth... figured this out after the fact thou. I gotta forgive me now for falling for him. Day by day.... I unfriend on all social media, delete text thread, delete all pics of he and I!!! I wish I could take back all the energy I gave him. But hey.... I survived!!!!
OMG you are cracking me up😆🤣💀 (the hats, your expressions, your wordings, not indigestion😆, everything) It's so so true! Be Blessed Tony -> I needed that laugh😁
God has promises for me, I’ve been single doing well and now I had gotten into a “relationship” he was taking things way too fast and with your guidance I’ve been able to avoid a lot of drama but now he’s still lingering on my phone texting me etc... I need to remember Gods promises to me. I do get bored and it gets me in trouble!! But I literally sometimes just want a friend and someone to talk to. Anyway, God bless you all. 🙏💛💛
The God we serve is so amazing and so gracious that even when we mess up he accepts us when we sin. Dont be held in guilt in any toxic relationship that is a lie from the enemy. Be free. God set me free and bless me to start my business and I am gone use those lies the enemy told me to help set other women free
I just love whenTony says: point-blank-pe-ri-od🤣 your advices are pure gold. Thank you for sharing how men think we might be less in the dark one day🤞🏽
Preach Tony ! Don’t get destiny confused with a distraction . I so wish I knew about Tony a long time ago , he would have saved me so much time , energy and issues with men !
I am so happy to hear that you don’t tell your mom things about what you and your wife goes through that would be deemed as negative. I have been married twice and not one time did I tell my mom or my family anything negative about my husband. I think it’s when you talk negatively about your spouse, though eventually you’ll be over it and you and your spouse will be fine… Then, your mom your family and your friends may not be over it. I am a strong proponent of keeping your business with you and your spouse to yourself! Thank you Tony for sharing that insight.
Tony Gaskins is too dramatic for me lol. I am literally always laughing especially when he says "Commercial Break" and he moves away calmly. Its extremely funny and very engaging and informative at the same time.
"The last lesson before your blessing" - Tony Gaskinisms This is not my story, but I felt that ...💯💯💯 From that part of the video, you can hear the church music begin because Pastor Tony went on straight 🔥 🔥 🔥 til the end... P.s. that's why you are tired sir...you are a medium and a powerful channeler 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟
The part when he put on his Liam Neeson voice and said don’t you ever.... 😂😂😂! He is funny but his point is so true. We make all kinds of excuses for these grown boys and allow them to manipulate us to the point of blaming ourselves. Ladies we gotta get healthy mentally and stop allowing these grown boys to even have the pleasure of our love, time etc.
I sure do wish I found you in 2009! I would’ve avoided so much pain! But it’s never too late to turn our lives around with your wisdom and knowledge. I’ve been watching you for the past year, and it has changed my life! I’m on my last two chapters of “A Woman’s Influence” and am buying Mrs. Right today!
This video all factssssss!!! He probably caught her at a low point, during one of those other breakups, while she crying on his shoulders about every dude. Now he come in like a knight in shining armor--Gotta watch those opposite sex bffs. Low key, women be trying to rebound with the guy BF after they get played by the one they really wanted. Aint no way this man gon watch you be with all these other guys for all these years, if he straight, and y'all got romantic chemistry. Tony right---its a truth not being told. Sounds like desperation, rebounding, manipulation, and some lying. I hate that had to go down like that. But sis can note the lesson and grow from there.
Tony be serious when he's giving us advice on what to and not to do with the grown boys. He's so animated that I can't help but laugh sometimes. His videos are uplifting and very informative. Appreciate you Mr. Gaskins.
Lawddd! Tell the truth and shame the devil! Too many parts of this video spoke to the list of reasons why I chose to leave my last relationship, last summer. Best decision ever.
It’s Friday & I am so glad that i watched this! Tony all i can say is WOW! This one right here was sooooo deep!! I was married before to a mama’s boy who did all the things, he would have to talk to his mom every day, he put her in all our business plus made up alot of lies & he cheated & she befriended all his side chics & also befriended the woman he made a child on me with & had her around like i didnt exist. I thank God that i divorced this mama’s boy years ago!! My last toxic relationship i was in ended last November 2019 so this month made a year that i changed my number & cut off every bit of communicatiin & never looked back! God bless this girl because she is the same age as my 26 & 27 yr old kids & she has so much to be thankful for. Her masters & her child is a blessing! This video was so impactful & heartfelt & it was one of your most powerful videos! I pray that everyone who is going thru this take heed & keep those friends in the friend zone. Thank you Tony!! You are the best!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yes I did send one of your videos to my baby fathers Mother, it was the “Dear black man” and she wasn’t happy at first but I know it touched her spirit Tony. Thank you💙🙏
I was looking for a new video since the last video. I like "Talks with Tony" because it is so realistic. Every video isn't my situation now but it brings closure to some confusing experiences. Thank you & God Bless!
I appreciate how much passion and sincere care Mr Gaskins has with each of these scenarios, u can tell how much it bothers him how much men are getting over on women! There are many lessons with each email response and everything you said is 💯 percent accurate .. (46:56 if u Truly believe in God you know God got better for u !)
OMG! I so needed to hear this message. I just recently ended a very similar situation and needed some advice on the momma's boy, undercover gay, and bible topics. Tony is so on point with his insight. This helped lift my spirits today b/c men can be so heartless, despite everything else you may be encountering. It's just so crazy/hurtful how men can play with women like this without a care in the world, to the point where it really can get you in a depressed slump.
NEVER LIVE WITH A MAN UNLESS HE'S YOUR HUSBAND!
Amen 🙏
Period!
Correct
Say it! Under no circumstances.
Amen!!!
Unhealthy relationships with mommas is a huge red flag
And now, the woman has to play the mommy role. It happens all the time because they miss the mother nurturing.
I dated a guy who started every conversation with "My momma said...". Mother treated him like a two year old and seemed to do his thinking for him. Always acted like a jealous girlfriend, whenever I was around. It was just too much. I didn't let the door hit me, on the way out of that mess. 😏
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@@tejefferson6869 I knew a man who wouldn't make any decision until he asked his mom. And even if her decision was clearly wrong, he thought she was right. She also gave him a debit card to use for emergencies, and she'd put money on it for him. Anything he needed, he'd call her, and she put money on the card. She pays his rent too. And here's the kicker...hes almost 41 years old. It's really sad.
@@Kellergirl
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That homie-lover-friend situation will get your feelings hurt...
Oh yeah ... 🤦🏾♀️
Yup
My experience
It surely will! Did that in my 20's decades ago, so glad I learned better.
Yup🤦🏽♀️I had to learn this the hard way
Disclaimer: Do not eat/drink while watching Tony’s videos... you will be choking for dear life cuz he’s a straight comedian too!! 😂🥗
OH MY GOODNESS...I learned that the HARD WAY...Once I spit juice all the way to the other end of the room😳😜😜😜😜😜😂😂😂
Seriously tho! I literally almost choked for real yesterday watching one of his videos!
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i be dying. i love it
Facts!!! 🎯
“A man is not waiting in the wings to give you everything that the last man did not give you. No he is waiting his turn”...😳🤦🏾♀️ oh God my heart just sank. Where are all the genuine men? Lesson heard!
This why you need to take your time and stay off your back.
This is good stuff!
I'm beginning to think there aren't any
I have to wonder what his wife is thinking, lol
@@elainenilsson5472 Girl... There may not be. But it’s best to not even put your focus or energy on that or the possibility of it. The most important thing to do is work daily in self-progression, in every way possible. Try more often than not to be what you want to see in others and walk in your purpose.
If you do that you won’t have the time nor energy to give to anything that is not deserving of it. Also, when you are whole and further in your journey of purpose, a “Purpose Mate” may be delivered to you who will also be whole and walking within their own journey. But that person cannot be sought after... In other words, do not look for them because all you will succeed in finding is distractions and decoys.
Tony is right... Me and my husband were best friends before we got married... When we got together we skipped bf and Gf and went straight to being engaged then got married... My husband said l don’t need to get to know you, I’ve know you since 10th grade we got engaged at 23 got married at 26... I’m 31 now and still happily married...
Happy to hear it, sis👏🏾👏🏾. God bless you and your union 🙏🏾.
A Good man he is obedience you got bless , that kind of relationship very very, rare ,
“No he’s waiting on his turn” he is not lying at all...please listen to Tony 💯
She shouldn't be losing any sleep because this is the type of man you don't want in your life.
I agree!!!
Easier said than done sis
Easier said than done. The real problem is that she is not seeing him through your eyes.
Tony, I’m a faithful married man. I watch your videos because there’s always room for improvement. This video tickled me and made me laugh. 🤣🤣 This video is 100% correct. You broke it down for understanding. Keep doing what you doing. ✊🏽I’ve warned females about that male friend stuff. I used to be the friend back in the day just waiting for you to slip.
Wow, thanks for the transparency.
Finally a man in the comments.... What drives you to stay faithful and what would make you feel like cheating?? Thank you in advance for your response brother.
I really just don’t want to follow in the footsteps of my father. I had a blessed childhood. I was his outside child that his wife never knew about. He always had girlfriends and mistresses because he had money. I made a promise long ago not to be like that. I just don’t want the stress of lying and trying to keep my stories together, been there done that back in the day. Even though my father was there for me financially I still didn’t have him 100% of the time. I admit, I do check out other women but I’m just afraid of the drama.
@@Candor49 Well keep up the great work no matter what the motivation is. It's never gonna be worth the heartbreak she'll go through. Stay strong.
@@Candor49 no need to be afraid of "the drama" ...the reality is just that it is never ever worth it ....
There is NO PRIVACY in marriage because you are ONE!!!!!
I haven’t even finished the story and I already know what happened because I experienced this. She projected all her failed relationships, hopes, dreams, fairytale, fantasy onto the relationship. All the pressure of being her happy ending to her past mistakes she placed it right into that man’s lap. She had great expectations prob prematurely. She thought because they were friends it would all end well and he would never do her wrong. But as Tony has taught us so well up into this point, men and women are not friends.
Agreed!
Amen
Man but does it hurt
BINGO
"You can't pray to GOD then do what the devil say do❗"🙌🏾
Tony isn't lying at all. Tony knows his stuff!
I was friends with a man from kindergarten all the way until adult hood. Our families were extremely close. Our mothers graduated high school together back in the day that's how close everybody was. We would crush on eachother for yearsssss. He was so nice, patient, flattering and sweet. I've dated other people from middle school all the way to adult hood. He stood in the background as a friend/crush.I had a child with another man also. We started this crush at 5 years old (I remember, true story) fast forward 25 years later I FINALLY entertained the idea of dating him. He proposed and we got married. Y'all, we wasn't even married for a year and this man dogged me out so bad. Believe what Tony is saying. This man switched on me like day and night. I learned my lesson! I'm wiser now.
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Wow 😳
Ain’t shit
Dammm, thanks for sharing
A man will go through a lifetime and marriage jst waiting for his turn!!??... WOW!!!!
I don’t know about the sexually confused part lol but from my personal experience the type men who have a bunch of female friends are the men who don’t have or don’t know their purpose in life as a man.
I AGREE!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌💗💗💗💗
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾Yes ma’am!!!! Literally just experienced this with a 40-something year old ‘man’
Damn. And i know this and its still hard for me to walk away. He had his has shit together at one point.and now just think life is over
Grown boys ..
Or definitely sexually confused. You may think it’s not that deep but I have gay male friends and know a lot of gay men so I mean you just have to pay attention in order to see what Tony means.
I'm over here cryingggg!!!! 💀😂😂 I swear I love this channel! I'm getting a comedian and love advice at the same time....😂☺️
Facts..
🤣🤣😂😂 omg yessss I love this channel too and I’m criiiine over this way too🤣 it’s like listening to my caring older brother keeping it REAL💯 with me!
Chile!! Kmsl--died and resurrected 50/11 times!😭😭😂🤣😂 Tony is a foo. But he ain't lying.
I’m am crying too!! The carousel and the waiting friend comments took me all the way out😂😂😂😂😂
This channel is STRAIGHT DOPAMINE RUSHHHHH!!! 😂🥰🧠
This lady is very, very intelligent. Just from the email I can tell she's highly educated, not withstanding her advanced degree. However she's a woman who fell for the wrong guy. We've all been there.
Honey, Sis, it's tough, but keep it moving. Not only for you, but your autistic son. You both deserve better.
"Never date a friend" and "Keep a friend as a friend" is accurate advice!! It can end up being a huge dissapointment, loss of respect, & demise of the friendship. It will most definitely be revealed if the friendship was real to begin with or if he was a fraud just waiting his turn.
Exactly I lost a friendship with a guy because I wouldn't sleep with him. I thought "ok fine" 😂
" you look like a test , not a testimony " 🙌🏽
That was real deep!!!!
One of the best quote of the year
If you’ve been friends with a man for that long and you’re JUST now starting to date him..that means you don’t find him attractive sis 🤷🏾♀️
Yep or vice versa 🙆🏾
Nope, I was friends with a guy and since we were 15 until 29 and we liked each other but I didn’t start a romantic relationship because either he or I was involved and We are both attractive people. I can tell by his exes an he can tell by mine. Either way we were friends and it was a mistake. He’s a narcissist in disguise. Hurt me more than I could imagine and before I was the heart breaker bc I didn’t want to get hurt. He lied. Cheated, kept leadin me to believe we would be together and eventually convinced a much younger, more impressionable girl to work for him(he used to be a pimp and I didn’t know)
Didn’t
“Don’t worry about what me and God got going on” 🤣😂
I’m convinced a lot of these men are in the closet and are using women to cover it up🤦🏾♀️ love your videos☺️
plotting and scheming in this way!
Omg! Just said this yesterday in a conversation with my co worker and best friend. Truth!
@CoolNappyHead
I know a guy who has many female friends and has dated many women but it never works out! He has a male friend he will go as see, but this friend barely visits him. His friend will rather out for a pint with his mates.
I know his friend and he has a girlfriend. I have never heard him talk about female friends, all his friends are male. I am convinced this guy has a crush on his friend, but doesn't know how to let him know how he feels. His friend is a real Alpha male and has very strong options! I doubt he can tell him at all when I come to think about it 😂😂.
I think he is Lil Ugly
It’s Friday but I’m here and many others are here as well, ready to receive. 🙏🏽
Yup!!
Those men friends really look at you as damaged goods... 👀👀.
Tony is one of the best mentors out here. He speaks the truth coming from the Lord and he speaks common sense! Hands down!!! 💯
Amen! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS it!
Stay blessed yall. God isn't going to send you a test. He would have married you sweetie. Men already know if you will be his wife or not. Stop giving these dudes the pleasure of disappointing you. Stay strong sisters!
The main person I come to RUclips for ! ✨
Krista Monae me too! I am addicted to his videos! 🙌🙏🏻
@@peaceful_and_blessed2879 Same!!!!
Me too
Listen! Tony's spirit of discernment is so on point! This man sounds like my ex husband. He was borrowing money from all his family. I'm calling people, visiting, going to all the family events not knowing any of it. And he wasn't paying them back. His momma was taking out loans for him. 😳😳😳 Again, I didn't know. And after everything finally popped off and I was done then I found out he'd been cheating (with the other team). Y'all better listen. I WISH I would've had someone to tell me truth and wisdom bc he'd charmed everyone closest to me. The good thing is I got my kids and got the hell on.
Omg! The other team 🥺
God bless you
🔥Keep movin💃💃💃💃
@@MrDomonique3
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@@MrDomonique3 pop.
Absolutely!! Once my son turned 18, he moved out, got married last month. Even when he moved out, I did not call him constantly. Actually most of the times he called me when he could. We would text about 3 times a month. I knew to step move aside because he is a man and it is natural for men to break away from home and their moms. He got married last month, I waited for him to contact me after their honeymoon. Me and my youngest going over to their place for first time. I'm good with the whole. Hrs married and his wife is before anything and anyone now. I do not want to be a needy mom or person. If I am unhealthy I would not be able to have a healthy relationship with them and future grandbabies ❤️❤️. Thank you Tony!
Respect
Beautiful
Yess💕
Yes!!! It can be hard dealing with the separation stage as they become adults. But it has to be done...👏🏾 To you raising men and not boys!! 💯
I actually never heard a mother say this 👏🏾👏🏾 especially with an 18 year old
"This is your last lesson before your blessing" TG. I've got to repeat this to myself daily. It's almost been a year single and celibate and I'm waiting for the right person to come my way. Thank you Tony!!
Yes! Oh it feels so good to love myself and stay single for a season, get to know God and our earthly purpose. I'm also a year abstinent! Sending healing 🌿🌸🙏
Me too, 2½years celibate. Still Healing and loving myself.
@@taga8006 sending blessings to you!!!
@@patricemurray6412 I'm in the same boat. It's hard sometimes but nothing good comes easy! Sending prayers your way
@@xandrasquier1023 Thank you 😊
I'm to the point now when I meet new guys, I ask what their intentions is. If they hit me with a "oh I just wanna be your friend" then imma move as such. I don't talk to my friends everyday nor am I press to be your friend. So you won't get that energy from me. Intentional dating ONLY!
You absolutely right!!
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Great point!
I asked him: “What are we? And he said friends until “he sees if I’m suitable to be more than that” which was embarrassing !! I left soon after. No way in hell I am going to be a “friend” with a man.
That is awesome. I will have to use that one.
I dropped my "male friend" after I listened to "Can men and women be friends", every red flag that Tony spoke about in that video was present, I realised that if I ever got froggy he would let me leap so I dropped him like a hot potato, he couldn't believe it... thanks big brother Tony.
Me too lol I agree
@@A-Christian-Perspective No I last spoke to him a year ago before I dropped him without notice.
This all explains so much! My 55 yr old ex grown boy mom calls him several times a day everyday and he has at least five female friends and 30+ other women in his life. Make that 29, because I left and got out of the picture. 👦🏾 ✌🏾!
That's my ex too. Total mamas boy, called me 5x a day asking what should he eat or help him fall asleep, had a ton of female friends, among other things. Life was one big party to him. Funnily enough, we broke up because he wanted a baby in the next couple of years but I didn't - I already had my own 18 year old and the factory was closed if you know what I mean. It's been 5 years now since we broke up and he's dating another single mom, no marriage and no kids of his own. I think he was just wasting my time and now he's wasting hers.
All of this is making me realize I need to stop talking to anyone I used to date. I think they use me for maternal vibes or advice. There's no point to stay in contact.
No ma’am 😒 you didn’t lose anything. Was she hard on him or was he gaslighting her? 🤔 He faked the move in and all of that. God bless her and her baby.
🗣 I love when Tony starts preaching and reminding us of God and what he would and would not put us through!! Take notes ladies, that part is major key! ❤️
AMEN!!!!!
I love it when Tony brings God into his videos
Real tears...😭😆 I can’t take the commercial breaks... Liam Neeson voice.
This is true. You have to decide if you’re gonna do friends or be romantic. Otherwise, feelings get hurt and confusion sets in 💯❤️
😂😂😂😂man Tony is a fool.....I'm dying laughing at his little visuals
He is a straight up comedian😅😂🤣😆!!!
He is too funny!😆
I be hollering😂😂😂😂
@@lisasmilez Me too!
Tony is not lying! I ended up dating my bestfriend. We were friends from 14-19 years old and ended up making it official when I was 19. He was waiting on his time to sleep with me (I didn’t know this because I was 19 and very naive, I trusted him also since we were friends first) but we ended up getting pregnant and decided to take the relationship more serious! I thought I was doing the right thing as well because I was always told that best relationships are ppl who are friends first but not knowing that it has to be a love interest first like tony says and we never looked at each other like that at first. Also I never thought I would be the type of woman to be played because I have always been zero tolerance with men who don’t do right but baby I was the exact opposite with this guy because of the friendship. Men will take advantage of our loving and nurturing natural instinct mane Tony be on point with EVERYTHING HE SAY! Boy ol boy was that the worst decision ever in my life. I stayed with him for 12 years and when I say nothing but pain and turmoil😩I stayed so long y’all because of dumb reasons I’m not ashamed to admit it. I thought he would change especially due to us getting together so young and I was told by so many ppl to give it time and pray to God and he will change him🤦🏽♀️😩😩😩I have learned a very big lesson! I’ve been gone a year and I’m still healing y’all. Please listen! I wish this video was available 12 years ago but thank God I’m here now.
When you switched the hats 🧢 🤣🤣🤣
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@@Jay-ro1vn me too. Hilarious 😂!
Died lol
I know tony serious but boy I'm over here hollering 😂😂😂
I wanna go back to the 80's and date. It was better in the 80's, the clothing was terrible, but this is some new stuff out here 🤦🏽💆🏽.
Thank you for your dissecting skills and for truth even when it hurts. God bless you for being upright!
Agree with both of you! This new stuff is too much for me! I haven’t met a good man since probably two decades😔.
Sis I was just thinking yesterday what happened to the 80's and early 90's. Dating was so much simpler then.
Social media, etc gave people too many options sadly and made most men predatory when it comes to women sadly 😢
@@marthavineyard6959 it was fun and exciting. You look forward to your dates. Now a days it’s straight to the bed and the roles are reversed the women acting like men in the relationships.....
That blank stare at 31:00 😂😂😂 gets me every time lol
Lmaooooooo
Lol makes me wanna stop talking to my friend cause I see more and more everyday his true intentions. I do appreciate that God is using you to talk to me Tony. I really appreciate it. You're helping me change my mentality.
Track shoes.. I think what’s worse is that we sometimes tell these male friends too much information, so they know the weak spots.
They always claim to be "friends". It's sexual chemistry covered.
Why don't guys understand that's more repulsive bthan attractive? I don't appreciate people who play on my mentality just to fit their own agenda.
When you wanna stop messing with them I'm sure they're gonna be salty, and done with you.
@@whatsupwithit8247 I think you're correct. A lot of guys will get super mad if their supposedly "Friend" broke it off to pursue a healthy & respected relationship with another Man.
"Some of y'all do that cuz ya nasty!" 🤣 I promise you I will NEVER go in the restroom while my husband is using it, nor would he ever do it when I'm using it. Showering and getting dressed is one thing, but using the toilet? 🤢😂
In my past, I had male friends and they all had an agenda to sleep with me. I realize these men pretend to be your friend to get in the sheets. It’s a sad reality and Tony is telling the truth. This guy sounds like he was playing the field and used her. I have been there and done that. I am so sorry for this lady.
I was so disappointed when Tony didn’t start off with “Uhh Got to Go.. yea you goin have to go on & get on up out of there!” 😂😭😂😭 this advice is pure gold lol
I watch videos every time you post. Keeping my legs closed has help me pick wisely without a soul tie.
I wasn’t ready for the gay suspension wow gotta be really checking these men out before getting too serious 👀
Foreal that’s scary
Exactly...I’m blown away.
I started watching your videos a week ago and I am obsessed. I listen to your videos in the morning as I’m getting ready and at night before I go to bed. You have taught me the game.. and for that I am so grateful! Thank you! 🙏🏾
No such things called friends of the opposite sex 😱😞🤦♀️😩🤐😒🤔🤥
hahahaa...Tony you is dirty! that impersonation of licking had me on the floor...smh. Oh jeez!
“Never date a friend (platonic).” TG
Tony, I went through this, exactly this. I had to see the light and realize what was happening. I let him make my self crazy, suicidal, broke, all to give him everything. I finally saw through the fog and God helped me see what I needed to do and now I am so happy and thankful to be free and have you in my life because you were, and still are, a huge blessing in my life and I thank you!!
You had me absolutely dying at 10:20 clicking that pen up on her face 🤣
The Carousel 🎠 reference....This video is Hilarious but TRUE!
Wow! "Don't be caught with your summer clothes on in the winter." That's saying a whole lot. God bless you Tony for letting God use you like He does. You are needed here.
I can't Tony, I'm cracking 😂, this man is not your friend he's like a boy waiting his turn on a carousel 🤣
I’m here even in the midst of throwing a Bday party tomorrow . This like my stress reliever 💯
To add to what everyone else is saying, sometimes people have fantasies of what it would be like to be with someone. When it actually happens, the reality doesn’t compare to years of fantasizing. It’s easier to be a friend in waiting while another man has full responsibility. They are not single and waiting. They are dating to pass the time. No sacrifice was made to be with you. The very moment a woman drops her relationship for this long term “friend”, he backs away. I believe in starting new because these “friends in waiting” know all of your business and failures and use it to their advantage.
Yep
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These men need the justice of God!!! God is no respecter of persons, or gender! He CALLS BOTH genders to live HOLY AND GODLY!!!
I love how animated Tony gets in these videos 🤣🤣🤣. Preach the message and TEACH us all.
“This was the last lesson before the next level.” You were in your bag tonight Tony! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I absolutely love this. I watched it on my television and I do believe that a lot of women needed to hear this. I am so thankful to your wife and kids for continuing to allow you to take time away from them that you could easily be spending with them instead of educating us. May God continue to bless and keep all of you. 🙏🏾
I just went through something similar and this video is the truth... figured this out after the fact thou. I gotta forgive me now for falling for him. Day by day.... I unfriend on all social media, delete text thread, delete all pics of he and I!!! I wish I could take back all the energy I gave him. But hey.... I survived!!!!
OMG you are cracking me up😆🤣💀
(the hats, your expressions, your wordings, not indigestion😆, everything) It's so so true!
Be Blessed Tony -> I needed that laugh😁
God has promises for me, I’ve been single doing well and now I had gotten into a “relationship” he was taking things way too fast and with your guidance I’ve been able to avoid a lot of drama but now he’s still lingering on my phone texting me etc... I need to remember Gods promises to me. I do get bored and it gets me in trouble!! But I literally sometimes just want a friend and someone to talk to. Anyway, God bless you all. 🙏💛💛
The God we serve is so amazing and so gracious that even when we mess up he accepts us when we sin. Dont be held in guilt in any toxic relationship that is a lie from the enemy. Be free. God set me free and bless me to start my business and I am gone use those lies the enemy told me to help set other women free
Amen !! I hear ya
Somebody got Tony PREACHING on this fine Friday night! 👏🏽
The woman that wrote this IS NOT gonna be prepared for the gay suspicion. Woo.....
That's true
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gay?
I just love whenTony says: point-blank-pe-ri-od🤣 your advices are pure gold. Thank you for sharing how men think we might be less in the dark one day🤞🏽
Preach Tony ! Don’t get destiny confused with a distraction . I so wish I knew about Tony a long time ago , he would have saved me so much time , energy and issues with men !
Lord knows the last part of this video touch me deep! I had to talk to the lord right after watching. I feel so rejuvenated. 😌
Mr tony is the real deal! Speak to these women who treat their grown son’s like a little boy
Listening to this letter. Sounds like another “GROWN BOY” to me. I agree never date a friend.
I am so happy to hear that you don’t tell your mom things about what you and your wife goes through that would be deemed as negative. I have been married twice and not one time did I tell my mom or my family anything negative about my husband. I think it’s when you talk negatively about your spouse, though eventually you’ll be over it and you and your spouse will be fine… Then, your mom your family and your friends may not be over it. I am a strong proponent of keeping your business with you and your spouse to yourself! Thank you Tony for sharing that insight.
She better sent this video to both mom and son 🥴🥴 It’s wild out here.
Tony Gaskins is too dramatic for me lol. I am literally always laughing especially when he says "Commercial Break" and he moves away calmly. Its extremely funny and very engaging and informative at the same time.
"The last lesson before your blessing" - Tony Gaskinisms
This is not my story, but I felt that ...💯💯💯 From that part of the video, you can hear the church music begin because Pastor Tony went on straight 🔥 🔥 🔥 til the end...
P.s. that's why you are tired sir...you are a medium and a powerful channeler 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟
Amen!
Not a median, he said he is saved.... Either the gift is of the Holy spirit or a familiar spirit which is not of God.
Tony is a man of God he ain’t no medium or channeler, and he don’t claim to be.
The part when he put on his Liam Neeson voice and said don’t you ever.... 😂😂😂! He is funny but his point is so true. We make all kinds of excuses for these grown boys and allow them to manipulate us to the point of blaming ourselves. Ladies we gotta get healthy mentally and stop allowing these grown boys to even have the pleasure of our love, time etc.
I sure do wish I found you in 2009! I would’ve avoided so much pain! But it’s never too late to turn our lives around with your wisdom and knowledge. I’ve been watching you for the past year, and it has changed my life! I’m on my last two chapters of “A Woman’s Influence” and am buying Mrs. Right today!
Tony preached & prophesied in this video. PREACH!! 👏🔥☝️🗣🙌
This video all factssssss!!! He probably caught her at a low point, during one of those other breakups, while she crying on his shoulders about every dude. Now he come in like a knight in shining armor--Gotta watch those opposite sex bffs. Low key, women be trying to rebound with the guy BF after they get played by the one they really wanted. Aint no way this man gon watch you be with all these other guys for all these years, if he straight, and y'all got romantic chemistry. Tony right---its a truth not being told. Sounds like desperation, rebounding, manipulation, and some lying. I hate that had to go down like that. But sis can note the lesson and grow from there.
I thought the same thing. I knew something wasn't adding up.
Tony be serious when he's giving us advice on what to and not to do with the grown boys. He's so animated that I can't help but laugh sometimes. His videos are uplifting and very informative. Appreciate you Mr. Gaskins.
That commercial break was hysterical! Imma watch it again
Popping in for my life lesson with brother Tony 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💜🤣🥺😳🧐😫😆
Lawddd! Tell the truth and shame the devil! Too many parts of this video spoke to the list of reasons why I chose to leave my last relationship, last summer. Best decision ever.
Lord, I know you aren't a Comedian but I sure do look forward to watching you because I'm sure to get my laugh in for the date. Keep teaching Sir 🙌🏾
Yeah Tony need help. I almost passed out laughing when he did the hello with the morning breath 😂😂😂
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Yeeees! Lol btw, you're gorgeous sis
@@pinkishdiamondz awww thank you 😊
It’s Friday & I am so glad that i watched this! Tony all i can say is WOW! This one right here was sooooo deep!! I was married before to a mama’s boy who did all the things, he would have to talk to his mom every day, he put her in all our business plus made up alot of lies & he cheated & she befriended all his side chics & also befriended the woman he made a child on me with & had her around like i didnt exist. I thank God that i divorced this mama’s boy years ago!! My last toxic relationship i was in ended last November 2019 so this month made a year that i changed my number & cut off every bit of communicatiin & never looked back! God bless this girl because she is the same age as my 26 & 27 yr old kids & she has so much to be thankful for. Her masters & her child is a blessing! This video was so impactful & heartfelt & it was one of your most powerful videos! I pray that everyone who is going thru this take heed & keep those friends in the friend zone. Thank you Tony!! You are the best!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love Tony I wish I had him 15 years ago. I have 3 sons and they better not be sorry like that ever. Tony you are Gods gift baby.
“I’m going to wipe her face” took me out omg 🤣🤣🤣 lol!!
I definitely received the message but want is wrong with this man?? 😭😭😭
Always love the videos
Yes I did send one of your videos to my baby fathers Mother, it was the “Dear black man” and she wasn’t happy at first but I know it touched her spirit Tony. Thank you💙🙏
His impressions crack me up but I love his advice though!!!! Thank you Tony you’ve really helped my partner and I. We love your book!!!!!🌻🧘🏾♂️
😂😂😂 your visual explanation at 10:04 I CAN’T!!!
Too funny lol
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Exactly!!!
I was looking for a new video since the last video. I like "Talks with Tony" because it is so realistic. Every video isn't my situation now but it brings closure to some confusing experiences. Thank you & God Bless!
Tony, you're teaching us a skill of seeing the situation as it is and not giving into our fantasy.
WOW!!! I wasn't ready. Just hearing what I felt from a man is deep! I'm glad I spent my Friday here.
I appreciate how much passion and sincere care Mr Gaskins has with each of these scenarios, u can tell how much it bothers him how much men are getting over on women! There are many lessons with each email response and everything you said is 💯 percent accurate .. (46:56 if u Truly believe in God you know God got better for u !)
OMG! I so needed to hear this message. I just recently ended a very similar situation and needed some advice on the momma's boy, undercover gay, and bible topics. Tony is so on point with his insight. This helped lift my spirits today b/c men can be so heartless, despite everything else you may be encountering. It's just so crazy/hurtful how men can play with women like this without a care in the world, to the point where it really can get you in a depressed slump.
He too real 😂