Love this video. When Tony talks I listen...and to anyone who complains about the commercials...think of it as a children’s learning segment (Dora the Explorer asking the child which way, suggestion, or object do you use to get to the goal). Those pauses are geared to make the child think...look at the commercials in the same manner (even if it is only advertising). Same thing when Tony looks into the camera and says “nothing” 🤗🤦🏽♀️🥰🤣 priceless!!! But it makes you think!!
Love this analogy!! If we would resort to our "childlike" state of mind when it comes to receiving messages, how much trouble would we save ourselves. LISTEN TO RECEIVE
Some women: If you're not giving it to him, isn't he going to get it from somewhere else? Me:😑... if you are giving it to him, he STILL could be getting it from somewhere else.💅
"GRATITUDE DON'T MEAN CHANGING YOUR LATITUDE (going from standing up to lying on ur back)" - TONY "THE G.O.A.T " GASKINS !!!!!!!! PREACH MIGHTY MAN OF ALMIGHTY GOD!!!!!! I FELT THE HOLY GHOST ON THAT ONE RIGHT THERE SMH I DIDN'T REALIZE THAT A DATE AND A PLATE MADE ME FEEL THAT I "OWED HIM" SOMETHING. MY BODY IS PRICELESS!!! I CANNOT BE BOUGHT!!! I HAVE TO BE SOUGHT! POINT BLANK PERI-YAHHD!!!!
True. Rambling thoughts here.... Especially, if you are abstinence when you meet him and he is not. Now all of a sudden he'll decide to be abstinence because he met you. Ummm, how long did it take you to discipline your sexual appetite 🤔 I know it's different for each person...I don't condone sex before marriage. I feel certain kind of way of using my desire to be abstinence to be an influence for a man to be with me. If he's not on the same level of discipline, we are not compatible. We have different mindsets...A man can have sex with someone else either way married or not....Annd, he can have sex with you before marriage and be about you and marry you and be faithful. But, he can also see you beings abstinence as a challenge and go as far as marrying you for the sex and visa versa "you" as well...and not truly know the person. People do marry just for sex....Like marrying for money, status, etc... I play my role until. She's still can be blind and not see the red flags because she's so caught up with the fact he's trying to be with her without being sexually intimate. He's showing her attention, action, etc...I guess I'm saying or agreeing withholding yourself sexually or giving yourself sexually in a relationship, one still have to get to know a person. A man or woman can have a reason why they are marrying you. Showing that they will dwell with or without sex is not a big thing for me regarding a man's love. Yes, you run a risk if sex is the common glue of the relationship. But, I need someone who has discipline himself as well when we meet or give him space to try. I don't want to involve myself in a relationship until he develops his relationship with God for himself. If he wants a life change just to be with you and not God, it's not going to last.. Friends until...If he can't be friends, he's not for me. Friendship is key for me. That's why you gotta pray and be patient for God to reveal a person's intentions and level of maturity to be in a relationship. I have known women that were virgins or women practicing abstinence, the man still cheated on her in the marriage 1-3 years in. Crazy....he found a jewel before marriage to commit to only to decommit himself once married. I also feel men have brought into the idea that if she's a virgin or practicing abstinence that she's a decent woman to marry. The man as well should get to know the women too. She may be good for someone else but not you. God's blessing adds no sorry. Watch and pray and let patience have its perfect work.
Society puts so much pressure on women to look a certain way, be a certain size, and carry themselves a way. But, I think the most beautiful women are the most comfortable in their own skin. And that inner peace is even more appealing.
But does it attract men? And what kind of men is it attracting? We are trying to attract men right? That has to be understood. So we as women will celebrate each other but realistically we are trying to attract other men not women. So what are men attracted to generally?
Seeing your body as a reasonable sacrifice for a man but not for God is bad business for your soul. God will and always does run circles around what any man can do for a woman. But you have to be humble enough to believe that and know God will keep me off my back he will sustain me and reward me in due time.
Everyone makes those assumptions that pretty women have it easy. While they do in certain areas, they typically attract both the worst and best of all men, are looked at as objects, and deal with envy from other women, and also have to work 2x as hard to be taken seriously. I don’t care about being a trophy as much as being a valuable asset in a healthy relationship ❤️
Yasss! I have experienced exactly what you are saying! My favorite is the so called men that are jealous of you and try to break your confidence...I mean literally try! And, the men that try to compete with you in the looks arena...it’s so sad! It sad that people look at you, don’t even take the time to talk to you, and already have preconceived ideas about you! I have a many people apologize to me, after they got to know me! They just assumed I was snobby, stuck up, etc! I even had a manager tell me that before and we needed up being good friends! Anywho, everything Tony said was right!
That’s so true! I had a ex bf try to do that. Took me a while to catch on but he’d say things like “you don’t get everything you want because you’re pretty”... like, what?? lol And yes, men feel some kind of way when they can’t have you as well. Attractiveness is a blessing and a curse indeed.
@@sheloves3663 it is definitely a bless and a curse! I thought it might change or get a bit better as I got older, but I’m 52 and not much has changed! It’s so sad some of the things that go on out here! I cut men off real quick now...lol
Single mothers go through the same thing...Men tend to put single mothers in a stereotypical box of being gullible or naïve and just want a man for help... When I tell a man I don't want his money, I work two jobs to take care of myself and my son and I don't take nor put up with any type of foolishness from anyone... the man always disappear...DUECES SUGA...and when you leave...stay gone!!! LOL!!!
This is so true. I’m a single mom as well. I’ve had to get to a point where I’m working on building my brand as a life coach. The man that’s meant for me will come.
If you just dating a man he shouldn’t know you have a child... if he asks if you have kids say I would love to have kids etc .. woman go on a first date or two and tell the man where they live,work how many kids they have everything and don’t even know nothing about the man lol .. keep your mouth and your legs closed
@@helena3631 Oh...honey...Everyone is going to know I have a chid, because he is the most important thing to me besides God... now dud is never going to meet my child unless we're heading towards marriage...Suga I never got to any kind of intimacy with a guy because they walk away inside of one week...lol!!! I've been abstaining for many years(which I dont even get a chance to tell dudes, they walk away too fast)...my son is now 18...God empowered me with the strength and wisdom as a single mother that worked two jobs and didn't date(never had time to) nor depend on a man...if my standards scare away a man, then he's not for me...keep it moving!!
This answered a lot of questions for me...I appreciate the young lady asking the question. I made a post about “pretty hurts”. It’s too often assumed that pretty women are attention seeking beings that lack depth, intelligence and life ambitions. A lot of us are alone and aren’t approached as much as people assume we are.
👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾 say that again sis!!! I swear I look around these days at 37 years young, I keep myself in shape and am what society would consider atttactive, BUT I do not get approached like people THINK I do.
Well said !!! Sometimes they will approach a less attractive woman to try and make the more attractive woman feel bad ... because the think the less attractive woman will put out faster 💨 it’s been done ✅ for decades , and than he will try you later lol like bro really lol 😂 we are who we attract sometimes!!! We have to love ourselves first.
I usually lay in bed and Relax at night while I listen to Tony’s videos but tonight I decided to listen while making my jewelry because it is time that I get back to it because it makes me happy even if I don’t make much revenue. It will happen for me one day because I am living in my purpose! I will keep pushing no matter what !
SISTA'S PLEASE Get THE BOOK "A WOMAN'S INFLUENCE." I did. It is POWERFUL!!! It will DEFINITELY HELP YOU understand what Tony is saying. "KNOW YOUR WORTH"
Femininity doesn't have one look. Thank you Tony. ***converse and ponytails for life*** Humility is tied with confidence -- Insecurities are tied with arrogance-- 👏👏👏👏 Ooowwweee that's shouting ground right there -- Cause you knew me yesterday, you don't know me today. I'm a exemplary example. Ooo-wee 👏👏👏👏TALK SIR. SAY THAT.👏👏👏👏
Interesting video Tony! I have been considered a “trophy” by some men. Recently I was walking my sick dog down the street with tears in my eyes and a man pulled over and got out of his car and told me he saw me walking and had to pull over. He said he would take care of me. My dog was dying and I was a mess and I told him nicely that I don’t need to be taken care of. My ex personal trainer told me the men approached me at the gym because they thought I was naive! I thought it was because I have a very approachable aura. I love that saying, “what you think of me is none of my business”. Now go on about your business, like Tony says! ✌🏽
Wow! He could have been an Angel in disguise Some come to tear down some come to build.. The husband I have now told me the same thing. Not know I needed help . He never said monetarily he just said ill take care of. No sex, drugs, disrespect. None of thst. Weve been married 6 years. I want for nothing. But God is my source Not what Tony says. Blessings to You
Faye Crawley wow! Well the timing wasn’t right for me and my intuition did not tell me to give him a chance. I agree with your statement though, some people cross our path for a reason. Blessings to you also.. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
“YOU GOT WALK HEAVY, YOU GOT KNOW WHO YOU ARE! WHEN YOUR FEET HIT THE GROUND THE devil GOT TO KNOW THAT YOU JUST WOKE UP; HE GOT FEEL THAT YOU COMING..That’s wisdom right there... AMEN BROTHER!!!!
“A man sees you like a glass window”. He reads into your soul and sees you. That’s so deep Tony. Perception is greater than the reality and sometimes it’s worse than they even think it is. Be true to yourself is great advice. Be you and you can never go wrong regardless how your book is being read by men who man to get close to you. Image is everything in the entertainment world and in real life.
Tony Gaskins is 'realer' than real🤣 Everything he said right here is 💯 Women... we need to BOSS UP and STAY UP!!! NEVER let nobody tell you who you are...SHOW THEM in a way they'll NEVER forget!!!
17:30 “Whoa... hold on, hold on. Is today the day for you to go to jail?” That part had me in tears! 😭 🤣🤣🤣🤣 All of TG videos have been a blessing and I’ve gotten a lot out of them... and he will have you cracking up! 😂
It did not go over my head. Like you said this is a different day and time. Quality time is way more important than material objects. Have confidence know who you are and stand on it. Thanks Tony!
Hi, Mr Gaskins. I am not new to your channel. I have been watching your videos for about 4 months now. I've never left a comment. But, today, I just want to say thank you for your work. I sincerely appreciate your ministry and may God continue to use you as His instrument.
I love you guys. I love your Queen Mrs. Gaskins getting you a new desk Mr. Gaskins. I love how you both take care of each other. Thank you for setting an excellent example of a healthy relationship. I am spreading the word about you to all my girl friends and encouraging them to listen to your message. I am purchasing your books and sending it to my friends. Thank you so much for all you do Mr. & Mrs. Gaskins. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Wow you literally proved your point Tony, it’s literally the energy of us women that we emit to men that makes them approach us or treat us some type of way,
Yes that´s another quote for my little book! "You´ve got to walk heavy, you´ve got to know who you are - when your feet hit the ground the devil´s got to know you just woke up, he´s got to feel you coming"
This is a wise, young man. Filled with the Spirit; great intellect, but as raw and country as they come. Not lacking confidence which makes him all the more endearing. Wiser and smarter than his peers. The ministry and comedy of Tony Gaskins at times. He breaks it and them down when needed.
Ladies.., It’s been 8 years of celibacy and I am proud of it. I have handled everything on my own being my own BOSS! and I love walking in my light and in my truths. God has mold me and placed me as a “Orange Moon”. I will never allow myself to be placed “Awkwardly” in compromising my beliefs...there’s marriage before sex.😎
I have made the decision to abstain as well. I don’t crave sex. However I do desire companionship with the opposite sex. Have either of you had relationships over the years as a celibate woman? What is it like? Are you dating or do you just refrain from relationships altogether? Since I have made that decision I have avoided relationships altogether.
@@jsue6994 no, I don't date,no relationships,just enjoying being single and celibate by choice, I miss having companionship sometimes but I am dead set on staying this way until I meet my mate and at 58,no sex until I marry again 👑
@@jsue6994 Hey Sweetheart!! Congratulations on being a Blossoming Woman. Don’t avoid meeting someone just be yourself.. you are glowing let these men know I’m wanting marriage before sexing. The gentleman that couldn’t hang with my intentions on what I was wanting.. called himself leaving me 4mos.. guess what?? .. He’s back because it’s my intellect and my heart that’s captured his attention..,and still gotta wait.😉
Tony, it would be really interesting if you could do some reviews on the tv shows “Put A Ring On It” and “Ready To Love” on the OWN network. I would love to hear the perspective of an actual relationship coach. Keep doing what you do!
I attempted to watch “Put A Ring On It” but once I seen that they were dating other people while still in a relationship just to see if they truly wanted to stay with that person, I was turned off . If you have to go through all of that , y’all don’t need to be together 😭 I don’t understand why these networks promote this type of nonsense.
This is a good idea, I wish he would. I don't think he'll do it though, he tries not to call out other people in his field anymore, he instead just focuses on teaching us the right way to do things. I really wish everyone who watches that nonsense comes here and get better insight and knowledge though.
We know right off the bat Tony wouldn't approve of Put A Ring On It lol. None of those couples are supposed to be together but thats another story lol. But Ready to Love is different cause at least the people are single.
@ericabarnett the production companies of those shows reached out to me, but I think I was a lil too real for them. I’ll try to catch a couple episodes and do a review
In grade-high school everytime a guy would touch me in anyway I shoved them. But that kept me in detention. And I was labeled a B and stuck up. What I don't understand is why you gotta be nice to people you're not interested in and doesn't respect common boundaries. I've seen so many woman allow themselves to be in put in situations because they've been taught to be "humble" and for the simple fact those people teaching them that. they've had ugly ducklings spirit's trying to make them feel less then. But they listen because they want to be liked and accepted. Its sad how they lead their babies.
I agree sis. You don't have to tolerate physical touch from random strangers or those who just want to grab a piece of you. Especially women should have boundaries with men. That doesn't mean you're a B. It simply means you have respect for yourself and your body which is the Temple of the Holy Spirit. When you allow men to touch you or disrespect you, you are letting them know that you don't value yourself enough to protect yourself and your body as well as integrity. The only one who has a right to touch you is your HUSBAND!!! Gotta keep this truth STRAIGHT! Pray and be strong SISTERS, BE STRONG in the LORD!!! We GOT THIS!!!
@@nataliasolakian6717 thank you sis for the wise words amen we gotta stick it out people feel way to entitled to next person you not be able to change a person but you can correct behavior 🙏🏾.
That is so true. There is so much emphasis on being agreeable, forgiving, and passive that it makes women believe they have to accept anything. Places other people above them in value. Disempowers and "declaws". That's why we see so much bullying in younger years, which leads to abuse in adult relationships.
This TWT was a think piece for me. Wow… so thankful to the young lady who wrote in. Tony, your response and insight about how men read women and how our mindset determines our walk has brought a deeper lesson of self love and self awareness. Thank you so much for the lessons, and I thank God for using you as a vessel. God’s light truly shines through you, and I’m blessed to have learned so much from your teachings and wisdom 💜
Exactly Tony, this Trophy woman applies to every woman Because trophy’s are different and come at different levels and shape. So a woman should have her standards before a man even approach her
There’s levels of trophies. There’s super hot men and women and so on. We women try to deny that but these men keep speaking their truths whether we like it or not.
I just became a member on your website, and I’ll definitely be purchasing some of your courses 🙌🏾 thank you so much Tony, I’ve learned more about men from you than anybody else! Much love 🙌🏾🙏🏾💪🏾
"Now he got that 19 on his breath." 🤣🤣🤣😅. This is so powerful especially the emphasis on knowing who you are and changing your mindset, it truly does change everything without a doubt. Thank you Tony! 🙏🏽💫
I am here and listening, and putting in the work. On the way to and from work. How much my perspective has changed, and eye opening to the "grown boy". Thank you.
Come on Tony, you really did it tonight . Speak on it. We as women needed this. Thank you for your input. Be bless and be safe. Love your talk tonight.
Yes!! Baaybeee that earpiece pocket book is something else!! Have me rolling, then he has to snatch it and put it on with the attitude!! I love Tony!! LOL!!
I've always hated podcasts but listening to you is not only comforting but also very enlightening. You're like the father I always needed. You have taught me how to respect myself emotionally, physically and spiritually. I've gained so much peace from listening to your words, please never stop.
I really appreciate your perspective on things TG. Your videos have helped me tremendously in my healing process!!! I must admit, I was one of those people that thought everything was sweet and because I put good out into the world, no one would have ill intentions towards me. Oh, but I learned that lesson the hard way. NOW, with Mr. Gaskins assistance, I walk heavy in my value and self worth!!! 💙💙💙
That was a very great way to help us ladies to know our self worth. A woman's body is a temple before it is put on a pedestal. It really already up there. Thanks for that in-depth talk of information. I had a dream about a man that had a interest in me. I am a book lover. In the dream he knew that. I had no idea that he saw that far into me. I am a seer an I saw something about him later on that I just turned my head before he got close to me. I have learned something from GOD with this gift that GOD has given me. I keep an has always kept my distance from him. The women around me knew him before I did. They wanted him. I did not. An I was deciphering them an all that was said. I can also pick up people's thoughts also. I do not tell people that. It is discernment. It is best to keep your mouth shut I found out until you can be with a person who is trusted with similar gifts. Then in the back of my mind is this owe no man nothing, but; to love him. Then you have to know how to love a person with an with the wisdom of GOD close up or far away an with different degrees of space. This what U heard you said. I enjoyed the talk helps me to see who I am also. I live your wife note. I am smiling. Along with GOD she has your back.
Amen people will try you especially if they think they can get over on you. Taking your kindness for a weakness...I learned the hard way but now that Tony Gaskins is my favorite new mentor I am getting much needed training and therapy. Thank you Tony Gaskins and your family.. God bless you and your family..🙏🙏🙏
Tony I was truly impressed how you broke this topic down. You really broke it down so that any "trophy woman" can gain insight and adjust her responses accordingly. 😊
Tony, you are hysterical and right as always...whether we want to admit it or not! The note under the door had my dying...🤣😂🤣🤣. Make up all the words you want...I know exact what you are trying to say! It makes you who you are and keeps it real and grounded! We don’t need a bunch of fancy words, just heartfelt words! Keep doing what you’re doing and God bless you and your family!
The lessons that I have learned from Tony is priceless. Learning and kmsl at the same time. Staring into the camera and grabbing the purse, just tickles me.
Amen! I’m so happy for you Brother Tony!!! That smile about that desk blessed my little soul!!! Sissy did amazing picking that out! We need a vibe when going the Lord’s work, especially from our home office. Let’s go family! 🎉🎉🎉😇😇😇🥳🥳🥳
“Gratitude don’t mean changing your latitude ...” -TG Thank you Tony. They need to make an emoji for Tony’s being on your back motion he does with his hand, it takes me out every time !! 😂😂
TG, I really was bout to pass this video up because I was like this one don't apply to me because I don't think I'm a trophy woman. But God knew I needed to hear that I need to make them know I'm not what/who I used to be and I'm not accepting what I used to accept. My mama just told me this the other night because I'm dealing with a person (not in a relationship way, but its complicated, I wrote you about it) that has known me for a long time (since I was 17/18, i'm 42 now) and he keeps approaching me with the same stuff that I've told him that I don't like and she made me see that he knows the old me not the new renewed mind/spirit me. I've got to let him know that the way he speaks to me and things he says to me are no longer acceptable. Thanks for making this video and being obedient in your work for the Lord. Message received God.
I will definitely keep showing up! Tony is a wealth of wisdom , I’ve learned so much here. We appreciate you pouring into us Tony, and helping us to receive what we deserve !
" KNOW WHO U ARE ONESELF "!" HAVE CONFIDENT IN ONESELF"!"LOVE ONE SELF"!"ALWAYS KEEP GOD FIRST!"SMILE AND LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT ALWAYS"! THANK U! TONY! LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! 😊🙏
Tony I’ve been watching your content for over a Year already and I know that it’s God that brought your videos into my life. I was raised by a loving father figure that taught me so much about men and life. Then you come into my life as my second father giving me straight up advice about men and life with humor just like my father does. I don’t get tired of learning and listening to your advice! I have learned to automatically observe and detect people’s energy because of all the knowledge I have obtained from 2 wise men. God bless you!
Main of god , I'm truly glad that pastor RC Blake's called you out to me in my spirit , just like you said the prophet called out king david. Please let God have his way in you and stop saying you rambling because when you think you just saying stuff it's really a word for your relationship with GOD please please please please Be BLESSED and enjoy your season because everything you're saying is SAVING real women lives!
I really enjoyed and know you are so on point about seeing where I ( a Christian woman) had lost my credibility with guys I've dated because I had compromised my standards
Love this video. When Tony talks I listen...and to anyone who complains about the commercials...think of it as a children’s learning segment (Dora the Explorer asking the child which way, suggestion, or object do you use to get to the goal). Those pauses are geared to make the child think...look at the commercials in the same manner (even if it is only advertising). Same thing when Tony looks into the camera and says “nothing” 🤗🤦🏽♀️🥰🤣 priceless!!! But it makes you think!!
That & “stay off your BA(IY)CK ! lol lol
Love this analogy!! If we would resort to our "childlike" state of mind when it comes to receiving messages, how much trouble would we save ourselves. LISTEN TO RECEIVE
@@Sugarsugar4u Exactly!!! Thank you. Listening is the KEY!!! Now all we have to do is apply!
I do!! Along with "now I don't have much time today "🤣🤣🤣
I love the "look...look..." then the pause...😂
“The world treats us based on how we look until we show the world what else we have to offer.” TG
Only in show business only people with no knowledge is looked at like this
@@yeahthatsme921
Only in the everyday world does this ever happen.
I think it happens in everyday life..
That's really saying something....
Me: I'm tired, let me take a nap
Tony: Hey hey Tony Gaskins here
Me: I'm up!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
😄😄😄😄😄
Lol..
Ha! ikr.
😂😂😂
Facts!!!
Some women: If you're not giving it to him, isn't he going to get it from somewhere else?
Me:😑... if you are giving it to him, he STILL could be getting it from somewhere else.💅
😆THE HEADPHONE PURSE IS MY FAVE ILLUSTRATION/ACCESSORY!!!🙌🙌🙌🙌💯💯💯💯🤣🤣🤣
"GRATITUDE DON'T MEAN CHANGING YOUR LATITUDE (going from standing up to lying on ur back)" - TONY "THE G.O.A.T " GASKINS !!!!!!!! PREACH MIGHTY MAN OF ALMIGHTY GOD!!!!!! I FELT THE HOLY GHOST ON THAT ONE RIGHT THERE SMH I DIDN'T REALIZE THAT A DATE AND A PLATE MADE ME FEEL THAT I "OWED HIM" SOMETHING. MY BODY IS PRICELESS!!! I CANNOT BE BOUGHT!!! I HAVE TO BE SOUGHT! POINT BLANK PERI-YAHHD!!!!
Real Talk
True.
Rambling thoughts here....
Especially, if you are abstinence when you meet him and he is not. Now all of a sudden he'll decide to be abstinence because he met you. Ummm, how long did it take you to discipline your sexual appetite 🤔 I know it's different for each person...I don't condone sex before marriage. I feel certain kind of way of using my desire to be abstinence to be an influence for a man to be with me. If he's not on the same level of discipline, we are not compatible. We have different mindsets...A man can have sex with someone else either way married or not....Annd, he can have sex with you before marriage and be about you and marry you and be faithful. But, he can also see you beings abstinence as a challenge and go as far as marrying you for the sex and visa versa "you" as well...and not truly know the person. People do marry just for sex....Like marrying for money, status, etc... I play my role until. She's still can be blind and not see the red flags because she's so caught up with the fact he's trying to be with her without being sexually intimate. He's showing her attention, action, etc...I guess I'm saying or agreeing withholding yourself sexually or giving yourself sexually in a relationship, one still have to get to know a person. A man or woman can have a reason why they are marrying you. Showing that they will dwell with or without sex is not a big thing for me regarding a man's love. Yes, you run a risk if sex is the common glue of the relationship. But, I need someone who has discipline himself as well when we meet or give him space to try. I don't want to involve myself in a relationship until he develops his relationship with God for himself. If he wants a life change just to be with you and not God, it's not going to last.. Friends until...If he can't be friends, he's not for me. Friendship is key for me. That's why you gotta pray and be patient for God to reveal a person's intentions and level of maturity to be in a relationship. I have known women that were virgins or women practicing abstinence, the man still cheated on her in the marriage 1-3 years in. Crazy....he found a jewel before marriage to commit to only to decommit himself once married.
I also feel men have brought into the idea that if she's a virgin or practicing abstinence that she's a decent woman to marry. The man as well should get to know the women too. She may be good for someone else but not you.
God's blessing adds no sorry. Watch and pray and let patience have its perfect work.
@@thechristiansocialite1222 you've touch on some important points on being commited to and building relationship to your spouse and God.
Society puts so much pressure on women to look a certain way, be a certain size, and carry themselves a way. But, I think the most beautiful women are the most comfortable in their own skin. And that inner peace is even more appealing.
Amen.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
But does it attract men? And what kind of men is it attracting? We are trying to attract men right? That has to be understood. So we as women will celebrate each other but realistically we are trying to attract other men not women. So what are men attracted to generally?
Well said 👏🏽
Exactly! Speak Beautiful woman.😊
Seeing your body as a reasonable sacrifice for a man but not for God is bad business for your soul. God will and always does run circles around what any man can do for a woman. But you have to be humble enough to believe that and know God will keep me off my back he will sustain me and reward me in due time.
Right. There are a lot of women sacrificing for a MAN and not because God "demands" it.
@@TiffanyFG Right!!
Yes ma’am! Priorities! Kingdom over carnality! We are Queens!✨💕
@@naturallycandacemarie Right!
You said mouth full, Sister.
Everyone makes those assumptions that pretty women have it easy. While they do in certain areas, they typically attract both the worst and best of all men, are looked at as objects, and deal with envy from other women, and also have to work 2x as hard to be taken seriously. I don’t care about being a trophy as much as being a valuable asset in a healthy relationship ❤️
Yasss! I have experienced exactly what you are saying! My favorite is the so called men that are jealous of you and try to break your confidence...I mean literally try! And, the men that try to compete with you in the looks arena...it’s so sad! It sad that people look at you, don’t even take the time to talk to you, and already have preconceived ideas about you! I have a many people apologize to me, after they got to know me! They just assumed I was snobby, stuck up, etc! I even had a manager tell me that before and we needed up being good friends! Anywho, everything Tony said was right!
That’s so true! I had a ex bf try to do that. Took me a while to catch on but he’d say things like “you don’t get everything you want because you’re pretty”... like, what?? lol And yes, men feel some kind of way when they can’t have you as well. Attractiveness is a blessing and a curse indeed.
@@sheloves3663 it is definitely a bless and a curse! I thought it might change or get a bit better as I got older, but I’m 52 and not much has changed! It’s so sad some of the things that go on out here! I cut men off real quick now...lol
Me too! LOL My BS-o-meter stays charged and ready 😂👍🏽
@@sheloves3663 what you said is very true!
Single mothers go through the same thing...Men tend to put single mothers in a stereotypical box of being gullible or naïve and just want a man for help... When I tell a man I don't want his money, I work two jobs to take care of myself and my son and I don't take nor put up with any type of foolishness from anyone... the man always disappear...DUECES SUGA...and when you leave...stay gone!!! LOL!!!
This is so true. I’m a single mom as well. I’ve had to get to a point where I’m working on building my brand as a life coach. The man that’s meant for me will come.
@@coachalexiseanes5505 I wish you all the best with your plan
@@lifeofmim thank you so much! Feel free to follow me on IG alexis_eanes. Positive quotes daily.
If you just dating a man he shouldn’t know you have a child... if he asks if you have kids say I would love to have kids etc .. woman go on a first date or two and tell the man where they live,work how many kids they have everything and don’t even know nothing about the man lol .. keep your mouth and your legs closed
@@helena3631 Oh...honey...Everyone is going to know I have a chid, because he is the most important thing to me besides God... now dud is never going to meet my child unless we're heading towards marriage...Suga I never got to any kind of intimacy with a guy because they walk away inside of one week...lol!!! I've been abstaining for many years(which I dont even get a chance to tell dudes, they walk away too fast)...my son is now 18...God empowered me with the strength and wisdom as a single mother that worked two jobs and didn't date(never had time to) nor depend on a man...if my standards scare away a man, then he's not for me...keep it moving!!
TV for what??? I'm always looking forward to the talks with Tony. Education, enlightenment and entertainment.
I dont even watch TV.
Especially when there's SO MUCH out here to learn!
I never watch tv at night! I watch TWT!
Right?! Lol I always watch Tony before I go to bed
@@aalexis112 I thought it was just me. I be like “time for Tony Gaskins” 😂😂.
This answered a lot of questions for me...I appreciate the young lady asking the question. I made a post about “pretty hurts”. It’s too often assumed that pretty women are attention seeking beings that lack depth, intelligence and life ambitions. A lot of us are alone and aren’t approached as much as people assume we are.
EXACTLY!!!
👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾 say that again sis!!! I swear I look around these days at 37 years young, I keep myself in shape and am what society would consider atttactive, BUT I do not get approached like people THINK I do.
Yep!
@Vanessa Louis I doubt it's that
Well said !!! Sometimes they will approach a less attractive woman to try and make the more attractive woman feel bad ... because the think the less attractive woman will put out faster 💨 it’s been done ✅ for decades , and than he will try you later lol like bro really lol 😂 we are who we attract sometimes!!! We have to love ourselves first.
“Y’all got me Aging. I ain’t have this gray hair 😲😲 I’m finna dye dis “ 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Tony I’m done
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Who else says “hey hey Tony Gaskins here” along with him when he starts the video? 🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️😅
✋🏾💯
I always say “God bless y’all, we’ll talk soon.” 🤣
🙋facts
💯💯
@@TheAmberla07 same sis!!! 😆
I usually lay in bed and Relax at night while I listen to Tony’s videos but tonight I decided to listen while making my jewelry because it is time that I get back to it because it makes me happy even if I don’t make much revenue. It will happen for me one day because I am living in my purpose! I will keep pushing no matter what !
Jewelry? Do you have an Etsy shop? :)
Lola wishing you all the best and much success
What kind of jewelry do you make, Sis? Put it out there when you're ready ☺️🙌🏽 we're here to support however we can
Me here tonight then I heard Kenya❤️🇰🇪
Yes queen 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Omg I’m so gassed that you saw my email 🙏🏾 God bless
THANK YOU SO MUCH TONY 🙏🏿.
This video was a confirmation that am on the right path now; God comes right on time. 💯
SISTA'S PLEASE Get THE BOOK "A WOMAN'S INFLUENCE." I did. It is POWERFUL!!! It will DEFINITELY HELP YOU understand what Tony is saying. "KNOW YOUR WORTH"
Thank you
Thanks for the tip! Just got it on audible
I did :)
Thank you and I am about to buy mine now..
Thank you
Femininity doesn't have one look. Thank you Tony.
***converse and ponytails for life***
Humility is tied with confidence -- Insecurities are tied with arrogance--
👏👏👏👏
Ooowwweee that's shouting ground right there -- Cause you knew me yesterday, you don't know me today. I'm a exemplary example. Ooo-wee 👏👏👏👏TALK SIR. SAY THAT.👏👏👏👏
“What’s your name? Cletus” 😂😂😂😂 that part made me laugh so hard! Lol thank you for making this! 👏🏽
😂🤣😂
If he cannot maintain self control, let HIM go
I love that suggestion of sending the man a thank-you card. A written out thank-you card is a lost art these days. Tony made a lot of great points!
Interesting video Tony! I have been considered a “trophy” by some men. Recently I was walking my sick dog down the street with tears in my eyes and a man pulled over and got out of his car and told me he saw me walking and had to pull over. He said he would take care of me. My dog was dying and I was a mess and I told him nicely that I don’t need to be taken care of. My ex personal trainer told me the men approached me at the gym because they thought I was naive! I thought it was because I have a very approachable aura. I love that saying, “what you think of me is none of my business”. Now go on about your business, like Tony says! ✌🏽
Wow! He could have been an Angel in disguise
Some come to tear down some come to build..
The husband I have now told me the same thing. Not know I needed help . He never said monetarily he just said ill take care of. No sex, drugs, disrespect. None of thst.
Weve been married 6 years.
I want for nothing.
But God is my source
Not what Tony says.
Blessings to You
Faye Crawley wow! Well the timing wasn’t right for me and my intuition did not tell me to give him a chance. I agree with your statement though, some people cross our path for a reason. Blessings to you also.. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@peaceful_and_blessed2879 I'm so glad u listened to your intuition
“YOU GOT WALK HEAVY, YOU GOT KNOW WHO YOU ARE! WHEN YOUR FEET HIT THE GROUND THE devil GOT TO KNOW THAT YOU JUST WOKE UP; HE GOT FEEL THAT YOU COMING..That’s wisdom right there... AMEN BROTHER!!!!
Nothing like spending my Saturday nights with Talks with Tony!!!
“A man sees you like a glass window”. He reads into your soul and sees you. That’s so deep Tony. Perception is greater than the reality and sometimes it’s worse than they even think it is. Be true to yourself is great advice. Be you and you can never go wrong regardless how your book is being read by men who man to get close to you. Image is everything in the entertainment world and in real life.
“Okayyyy. She put a comma after RUclips...Semicolon” 😂😂😂😂
I wish I could be a member of the Blessed Tribe but I'm in Barbados. Shout out to Mrs. Gaskins...Caribbean queen!!
Tony Gaskins is 'realer' than real🤣 Everything he said right here is 💯 Women... we need to BOSS UP and STAY UP!!! NEVER let nobody tell you who you are...SHOW THEM in a way they'll NEVER forget!!!
17:30 “Whoa... hold on, hold on. Is today the day for you to go to jail?” That part had me in tears! 😭 🤣🤣🤣🤣 All of TG videos have been a blessing and I’ve gotten a lot out of them... and he will have you cracking up! 😂
I hollered 💀💀🤣🤣😭😭
It did not go over my head. Like you said this is a different day and time. Quality time is way more important than material objects. Have confidence know who you are and stand on it. Thanks Tony!
Hi, Mr Gaskins. I am not new to your channel. I have been watching your videos for about 4 months now. I've never left a comment. But, today, I just want to say thank you for your work. I sincerely appreciate your ministry and may God continue to use you as His instrument.
..."a long back with a paper cut..." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣no sah lmmffbao omg this dude here...I swear
I love you guys. I love your Queen Mrs. Gaskins getting you a new desk Mr. Gaskins. I love how you both take care of each other. Thank you for setting an excellent example of a healthy relationship. I am spreading the word about you to all my girl friends and encouraging them to listen to your message. I am purchasing your books and sending it to my friends. Thank you so much for all you do Mr. & Mrs. Gaskins. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Wow you literally proved your point Tony, it’s literally the energy of us women that we emit to men that makes them approach us or treat us some type of way,
Yes that´s another quote for my little book! "You´ve got to walk heavy, you´ve got to know who you are - when your feet hit the ground the devil´s got to know you just woke up, he´s got to feel you coming"
😂😂😂🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂
"How are you a good catch and religious yet you're on your back?"
This is a wise, young man. Filled with the Spirit; great intellect, but as raw and country as they come. Not lacking confidence which makes him all the more endearing. Wiser and smarter than his peers.
The ministry and comedy of Tony Gaskins at times. He breaks it and them down when needed.
Sure does! 👏🏾
When I heard UGANDA, my heart jumped... Am happy that a fellow UGANDAN is on here, Hi sis..
Ladies.., It’s been 8 years of celibacy and I am proud of it. I have handled everything on my own being my own BOSS! and I love walking in my light and in my truths. God has mold me and placed me as a “Orange Moon”. I will never allow myself to be placed “Awkwardly” in compromising my beliefs...there’s marriage before sex.😎
five years celibate and single and loving it ❤️💯🌞👑
I have made the decision to abstain as well. I don’t crave sex. However I do desire companionship with the opposite sex. Have either of you had relationships over the years as a celibate woman? What is it like? Are you dating or do you just refrain from relationships altogether? Since I have made that decision I have avoided relationships altogether.
@@jsue6994 no, I don't date,no relationships,just enjoying being single and celibate by choice, I miss having companionship sometimes but I am dead set on staying this way until I meet my mate and at 58,no sex until I marry again 👑
That’s great I am approaching almost three years .. great you are staying the course
@@jsue6994 Hey Sweetheart!! Congratulations on being a Blossoming Woman. Don’t avoid meeting someone just be yourself.. you are glowing let these men know I’m wanting marriage before sexing. The gentleman that couldn’t hang with my intentions on what I was wanting.. called himself leaving me 4mos.. guess what?? .. He’s back because it’s my intellect and my heart that’s captured his attention..,and still gotta wait.😉
The part about men looking at us like glass ..see straight through us took me off my feet ...I learn something new every video .
Tony, it would be really interesting if you could do some reviews on the tv shows “Put A Ring On It” and “Ready To Love” on the OWN network. I would love to hear the perspective of an actual relationship coach. Keep doing what you do!
I attempted to watch “Put A Ring On It” but once I seen that they were dating other people while still in a relationship just to see if they truly wanted to stay with that person, I was turned off . If you have to go through all of that , y’all don’t need to be together 😭 I don’t understand why these networks promote this type of nonsense.
This is a good idea, I wish he would. I don't think he'll do it though, he tries not to call out other people in his field anymore, he instead just focuses on teaching us the right way to do things. I really wish everyone who watches that nonsense comes here and get better insight and knowledge though.
We know right off the bat Tony wouldn't approve of Put A Ring On It lol. None of those couples are supposed to be together but thats another story lol. But Ready to Love is different cause at least the people are single.
@ericabarnett the production companies of those shows reached out to me, but I think I was a lil too real for them. I’ll try to catch a couple episodes and do a review
Those 5-8 year old relationships on Put a Ring on It are doomed already. Per Tony Gaskins go on about your business sis you wasting your time!
The desk is nice Tony. A beautiful color of wood.
In grade-high school everytime a guy would touch me in anyway I shoved them. But that kept me in detention. And I was labeled a B and stuck up. What I don't understand is why you gotta be nice to people you're not interested in and doesn't respect common boundaries. I've seen so many woman allow themselves to be in put in situations because they've been taught to be "humble" and for the simple fact those people teaching them that. they've had ugly ducklings spirit's trying to make them feel less then. But they listen because they want to be liked and accepted. Its sad how they lead their babies.
I agree sis. You don't have to tolerate physical touch from random strangers or those who just want to grab a piece of you. Especially women should have boundaries with men. That doesn't mean you're a B. It simply means you have respect for yourself and your body which is the Temple of the Holy Spirit. When you allow men to touch you or disrespect you, you are letting them know that you don't value yourself enough to protect yourself and your body as well as integrity. The only one who has a right to touch you is your HUSBAND!!! Gotta keep this truth STRAIGHT! Pray and be strong SISTERS, BE STRONG in the LORD!!! We GOT THIS!!!
@@nataliasolakian6717 thank you sis for the wise words amen we gotta stick it out people feel way to entitled to next person you not be able to change a person but you can correct behavior 🙏🏾.
That is so true. There is so much emphasis on being agreeable, forgiving, and passive that it makes women believe they have to accept anything. Places other people above them in value. Disempowers and "declaws". That's why we see so much bullying in younger years, which leads to abuse in adult relationships.
Who else starts cracking up when they see Tony grab that headphone purse 🤣 Great message as always, thanks you Uncle Tony 🙌🏾
I love how Tony kept that note Mrs. Gaskins gave him 15-20 videos ago 😂😂👏🏾
I cannot..Actually I can wait til I meet my husband in due season🥰 you n your wife is adorable.
You go brother Tony 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 the Queen takes good care 🙏🏾
No need to dye your wisdom grey hair-embrace it 🤩
I realized that a lot of men hide behind money.
This TWT was a think piece for me. Wow… so thankful to the young lady who wrote in. Tony, your response and insight about how men read women and how our mindset determines our walk has brought a deeper lesson of self love and self awareness. Thank you so much for the lessons, and I thank God for using you as a vessel. God’s light truly shines through you, and I’m blessed to have learned so much from your teachings and wisdom 💜
“Exemplary example” go together. There is a such thing as a bad example, now! That’s a caveat and nuance! 😂
Exactly Tony, this Trophy woman applies to every woman
Because trophy’s are different and come at different levels and shape.
So a woman should have her standards before a man even approach her
There’s levels of trophies. There’s super hot men and women and so on. We women try to deny that but these men keep speaking their truths whether we like it or not.
I just became a member on your website, and I’ll definitely be purchasing some of your courses 🙌🏾 thank you so much Tony, I’ve learned more about men from you than anybody else! Much love 🙌🏾🙏🏾💪🏾
He said “if that might offend you, scratch your booty and get glad” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
you know you've been listening to Tony a lot when you use "loose booty" to describe a promiscuous woman to your friend 😂
😂 yep!
Loose booty 901 🤣😂
Loose booty 901 😄 I don’t know how to translate it into my language, which is frustrating, cause I say it in my head all the time.
"You have to walk heavy" Amen!
Man this is so true!!! I dealt with this my whole life.
Sheri G is always on time in a clutch - Exemplary Example 💕🤞🏾🥰
"Now he got that 19 on his breath." 🤣🤣🤣😅. This is so powerful especially the emphasis on knowing who you are and changing your mindset, it truly does change everything without a doubt. Thank you Tony! 🙏🏽💫
I am here and listening, and putting in the work. On the way to and from work. How much my perspective has changed, and eye opening to the "grown boy". Thank you.
Come on Tony, you really did it tonight . Speak on it. We as women needed this. Thank you for your input. Be bless and be safe. Love your talk tonight.
Come in the room GOD “YOUR WELCOME “ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Saturday talks with Tony".. Stay be Blessed Tribe family.🙏
Tony...when are you going to come out with your ‘word’ or ‘definitions’ book?! You have a gift and make up words in the spot. We are all waiting! 🙌📚 🤓
I promise I can watch Tony put on the earpiece purse a thousand more times and get tickled every time lol
Yes!! Baaybeee that earpiece pocket book is something else!! Have me rolling, then he has to snatch it and put it on with the attitude!! I love Tony!! LOL!!
Same girl same 🙋🏽♀️
I've always hated podcasts but listening to you is not only comforting but also very enlightening. You're like the father I always needed. You have taught me how to respect myself emotionally, physically and spiritually. I've gained so much peace from listening to your words, please never stop.
Ayyyyye shot out to Mrs. Gaskins 💥💥🔥🔥🔥
This is one of those videos, you should listen to twice. Thank you for your time Mr. Gaskins.
I really appreciate your perspective on things TG. Your videos have helped me tremendously in my healing process!!! I must admit, I was one of those people that thought everything was sweet and because I put good out into the world, no one would have ill intentions towards me. Oh, but I learned that lesson the hard way. NOW, with Mr. Gaskins assistance, I walk heavy in my value and self worth!!! 💙💙💙
Yes sis GOD 🙏 Bless You In due season you will reap a harvest 🙏
@@lashondarochell7584 Thank you, I appreciate that!!! God bless you as well!!! 🙏🙏🙏
This title intrigued me, I clicked so fast.
I love your name even though idk how to pronounce it. Lol
@@roja_xo5527 ☺️ thnx! It's pronounced "Tori"
That was a very great way to help us ladies to know our self worth. A woman's body is a temple before it is put on a pedestal. It really already up there. Thanks for that in-depth talk of information.
I had a dream about a man that had a interest in me.
I am a book lover. In the dream he knew that. I had no idea that he saw that far into me. I am a seer an I saw something about him later on that I just turned my head before he got close to me. I have learned something from GOD with this gift that GOD has given me. I keep an has always kept my distance from him. The women around me knew him before I did. They wanted him. I did not. An I was deciphering them an all that was said. I can also pick up people's thoughts also. I do not tell people that. It is discernment. It is best to keep your mouth shut I found out until you can be with a person who is trusted with similar gifts. Then in the back of my mind is this owe no man nothing, but; to love him. Then you have to know how to love a person with an with the wisdom of GOD close up or far away an with different degrees of space. This what U heard you said. I enjoyed the talk helps me to see who I am also. I live your wife note. I am smiling. Along with GOD she has your back.
What’s On RUclips? Oh Tony Gaskins! Marathon
Class in session 📝
I love this commentary! I hope it be a part 2 of trophy woman.
Amen people will try you especially if they think they can get over on you. Taking your kindness for a weakness...I learned the hard way but now that Tony Gaskins is my favorite new mentor I am getting much needed training and therapy. Thank you Tony Gaskins and your family.. God bless you and your family..🙏🙏🙏
Blessings Minister Gaskins. I’m truly thankful for your Channel.
I love the fact that this videos are long. It shows that he speaks to really help us out to the teeth.
Tony I was truly impressed how you broke this topic down. You really broke it down so that any "trophy woman" can gain insight and adjust her responses accordingly. 😊
Come on Executive Tony ! You deserve it ❤️🙏🏾
“Next time you do that you betta be ready to back it up” 😂 so accurate lol this was a great video
Standards, Morals, and Values IS Everything...thanks for sharing! Be blessed!
Truly Believe You Are Worth The Wait Mary👏🏽💯❣️
Tony, you are hysterical and right as always...whether we want to admit it or not! The note under the door had my dying...🤣😂🤣🤣. Make up all the words you want...I know exact what you are trying to say! It makes you who you are and keeps it real and grounded! We don’t need a bunch of fancy words, just heartfelt words! Keep doing what you’re doing and God bless you and your family!
At one time I thought the whole world was sweet until I realized that there are sweet some sweet people in it. ✌
Take it to the pulpit and put these so call Pastors to rest because that’s your true calling..Amen!!
RUclips is his pulpit.
I really like this conversation of being confident. It's right on with what I say about being alone until I'm ready.
The lessons that I have learned from Tony is priceless. Learning and kmsl at the same time. Staring into the camera and grabbing the purse, just tickles me.
Amen! I’m so happy for you Brother Tony!!! That smile about that desk blessed my little soul!!! Sissy did amazing picking that out! We need a vibe when going the Lord’s work, especially from our home office. Let’s go family! 🎉🎉🎉😇😇😇🥳🥳🥳
You absolutely are an executive, Tony. The Executive! Thank you for your insight! ❤️
“Gratitude don’t mean changing your latitude ...” -TG Thank you Tony.
They need to make an emoji for Tony’s being on your back motion he does with his hand, it takes me out every time !! 😂😂
TG, I really was bout to pass this video up because I was like this one don't apply to me because I don't think I'm a trophy woman. But God knew I needed to hear that I need to make them know I'm not what/who I used to be and I'm not accepting what I used to accept. My mama just told me this the other night because I'm dealing with a person (not in a relationship way, but its complicated, I wrote you about it) that has known me for a long time (since I was 17/18, i'm 42 now) and he keeps approaching me with the same stuff that I've told him that I don't like and she made me see that he knows the old me not the new renewed mind/spirit me. I've got to let him know that the way he speaks to me and things he says to me are no longer acceptable. Thanks for making this video and being obedient in your work for the Lord. Message received God.
That desk nice Executive Tony, your queen did you right lol
Tony is so grateful. Bless your family 🌺
You once came to Kenya? That’s good to know!☺️
Blessings from Nairobi, Kenya ☺️ I enjoy your videos.
talks with tony, let me hop right on in.
I will definitely keep showing up! Tony is a wealth of wisdom , I’ve learned so much here. We appreciate you pouring into us Tony, and helping us to receive what we deserve !
Be Blessed. Truth and knowledge we thank you for.
" KNOW WHO U ARE ONESELF "!" HAVE CONFIDENT IN ONESELF"!"LOVE ONE SELF"!"ALWAYS KEEP GOD FIRST!"SMILE AND LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT ALWAYS"! THANK U! TONY! LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! 😊🙏
This message is on point & on time! Thank you Tony!
Tony I’ve been watching your content for over a Year already and I know that it’s God that brought your videos into my life. I was raised by a loving father figure that taught me so much about men and life. Then you come into my life as my second father giving me straight up advice about men and life with humor just like my father does. I don’t get tired of learning and listening to your advice! I have learned to automatically observe and detect people’s energy because of all the knowledge I have obtained from 2 wise men. God bless you!
Main of god , I'm truly glad that pastor RC Blake's called you out to me in my spirit , just like you said the prophet called out king david. Please let God have his way in you and stop saying you rambling because when you think you just saying stuff it's really a word for your relationship with GOD please please please please Be BLESSED and enjoy your season because everything you're saying is SAVING real women lives!
I really enjoyed and know you are so on point about seeing where I ( a Christian woman) had lost my credibility with guys I've dated because I had compromised my standards