I think both can be true 🤔 They lied and we also ignored the red flags that would’ve revealed these as lies 🤷🏾♀️ Best thing is to have discernment. Not accuse people, but just look deeper and don’t be a hopeless romantic
@@womanofgod2948 Contrary to popular opinion , it is not all about a man's monetary worth. A man who is kind; spiritual and has integrity, is faithful and honest, works hard and can be depended on to be faithful and loyal will always be considered a 'High Value' Man. Sometimes the problem is not a defeceit of these men , but the fact that they may not come in a package that we are used to , so we discount them or don't recognise them when they come.
I’m praying for all the godly women, especially all the women wanting a godly spouse. I pray that no matter what city, state, or country you are in the man for you will find you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽Also, keep watching Tony’s videos so you’ll be ready !
Exactly best decision ever.... sad to say I have been had more game playing by men from African descent than other races just my unscientific study ...some will play games till they on they way out of this world
It could be how she appears and possibly what she's driving, purse she carries, jewelry, clothing etc. They're very curious for sure that why they ask. Unless she mentions it just in conversation. Possibly referencing her job as an example and leading them to ask.
That right there was some of THE best advice I've ever heard! This is the kind of thing females need to know but are not taught which is why we keep getting wrecked. Thank you Tony for all of your wisdom.
@@LA-wv7gf honestly, I don't even go by that conversation bc I've had too many guys say that become inconsistent if they felt my guard dropping. If they say that and remain consistent, OK! We MIGHT have a keeper! Lol
I can definitely speak to this. I dated a guy from California. And it is true what they say the home of fruits,nuts and flakes. He presented himself to be everything a lady would want. After about a year the mask came off and he was a grown boy, stuck in his ways refusing to deal with his internal issues
Yes!!!Exactly!!!When he got to talking about the wireless company I'm with (i.e. Cricket)...Tony's screen went black. Android ain't havin' it🤣🤣🤣. Tony it's still all good. GOD continue to help, bless and keep the Gaskins Household✝️💜🙏🏽.
I love the way you encourage black women not to settle, to know her worth in Christ . To know that she is valuable no matter what society says because of her skin color . I believe that’s why God blessed these beautiful ladies with empecable voices to sing , athletic abilities, the gift of dance and movement. And I could go on. ❤️ God bless his creation we are his masterpiece 🙏🙌❤️
I ain't gone lie when someone drained me, all the the new ones got cut off. I was tired of everybody including myself. So I know what he talking about. 😂
Tony is not lying. I lived in LA for almost 6 years. I’m only 18 but they do not like black women out there. Especially, not us brown and dark skin women. I realized it at a young age. I just wanted to say I also appreciate Tony acknowledging how hard black women really have it especially as an American black woman. It is very appreciated. God bless 🙏🏾.
Nice to see that you are listening to Tony Gaskins at such a young age. Remember to stay focused, study hard, trust in the Lord and never open your legs for any man, never ever. The man God has for you will love you. 😊 You're not looking for 99, you're looking for one. Be safe, Sis.
Yeah that's is so true, I was in L.A for the whole week and all I saw was black men in relationships with other races. They wouldn't even look my way. Lol
I need to hear a success story. Someone please send a letter to give us some hope because I’m giving up. My pastor recently told me he doesn’t think there are any faithful men left that aren’t already married. 🥴
Or LGBTQ🤔🤷🏾♀️in one of Tonys past videos he said it's slim. Its success sis let's just focus on our inner to receive our King👏🏾🙌🏽🙏🏽 Starts with our Faith🙂
If I could do it all over again, I would’ve focused on my bag and the luxuries of life. I would have NEVER got married (or stayed married) and if I decided to have kids, it would’ve been adoption or IVF via SMBC.
Social media has definitely ruined Relationships... I even heard older people say that they would stay single if they were born in this generation and these are married and widowed people...they said finding a decent person is a needle in a haystack and everyone trying to get over on someone one way are another .. it’s really a shit show and the married people ain’t no better cheating and just toxic very bad out here🤢
I'm a success story. Held to my standards, didn't even kiss until our wedding. Read "Beautiful in God's Eyes" to prepare myself for marriage while I thoroughly enjoyed being single. Married at 35 now 3 kids 15 happy years later. Suggestion.. don't settle. Better to be single then unhappy. That book is very enlightening. Suggest to every woman I know. May the peace of God rest upon you.
Since black men are fully aware and knowledgeable about black women being abused, mistreated and used why continue the narrative and partake in the trauma?
@Roger Anthony the first step in healing is acknowledgment and actually hearing someone else's truth even when it is not your own. Black women have no difficulty in seeing black men struggles in this world yet it is nearly impossible for you to see our struggles. Why is that? And what do you say to women who were sexually abused as children? Or gang raped? Or called a bitch by a male when he found out she wasn't interested in him? Or who was followed to her car with ill intent? All of these offenses were at the hand of a black man or boy that happened to a black girl and women. I've experienced this personally myself and know of women who've experienced this. So if you're not willing to acknowledge how your dismissive ignorance contributes to the problem please go sit in a corner and ask God to expand your mind, open your eyes and your heart. Until then, mind your business.
@@iamsadeashley these are the type of responses that hurt males reply. Just give them your I wish you “well” like wishing them healing because that was a sick response. Much love to you Ms. Lady!!!
Tony, my 20 year old son and I listen to you often, both of us learning from different perspectives. We both learn a lot, admire you and enjoy your Godly perspective. You crack us up, we enjoy both your seriousness and your humor. We will break generational curses with what we've learned from your content. People say that knowledge is power, no...the application of knowledge is power. Thanks Tony!
Tony a perfect day for a lot of us would be a 2-4 hr video from you! The day that happens I will cry tears of joy because you are dropping the wisdom from The Lord to us 😭 🥲😅😩😊🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
So true!!! Yes I’m in San Diego and it is not the place for black girl magic... I try to be approachable, but I’m just working on getting my body and savings up while staying off my back lol.
OMG you are so telling the TRUTH about men in California. I live in Southern California and I am over 50. Let me tell you, its slim pickings. One of my closest friends have been telling me I need to move out of California to meet my husband.
Tony is telling the truth! I live in Nor Cal and Nor & So Cal men are a hot mess! That is why at 55 I’m still single and so many of my friends. I had the same exp as this lady. I dated him for eight months before he showed his colors. I let that 55 yr old grown boy go, but I will never get those 10 months back.
Agree From SoCal originally. Recently moved to NorCal the past 2 years. Its extremely difficult for starters to find a man with no vices. In California seems like the majority are cannabis consumers or/and alcoholics.
@@missybella9046 Sadly, they are pretty messed up😔. I’m honestly thinking about forgetting about men and marriage and staying single. After listening to Tony and many comments on here, I just don’t think it’s worth it.
I dated an older gentleman once wasted 2 months of my time And yes even 2 months is too long to waste with a loser But I wouldn't give up ladies If we keep being who we are being true to ourselves going about our every day jobs and lives then I believe the most high will send the right man at the right time according to his will just as he did for Ruth and Boaz Let's keep the faith sisters 😊
Dont come on here with payless shoes. Tony is a comedian. His facial expressions, body language, his tone , says it all. The man is funny but speaks so much truth, perspective, and common sense. Thank you for the gems and knowledge that you continue to give us daily🙏🙏
Tony you are spot on about the black women not being valued!!! I experienced that while stationed in Cali! I never had a problem attracting men until I went to a club back in the day and all the brothers would ask the white women to dance first, then the Spanish/Asian, then the light skinned black women, then as a sloppy second last resort if you were lucky the dark skinned ladies were asked to dance! I said imma head out and got the he!! Up outta Cali got a new duty station back East.
Wow! I Am sorry to hear that. The good news though is that the good men can never be found in a club. They are all wolves in sheep clothing and don't even know it yet. You have lost nothing, AT ALL!!!! :)
The powers that be know the true identity of African American people. They are Hebrew israelites. The powers that be are responsible for the destruction of the hebrew israelite family and trying to breed out the race. There is power in hebrew people especially when in a Godly marriage. Those that have the holy spirit can't be conditioned or programed to hate their own kind. GODLY hebrew israelite men value their woman. African American people wake up you are more precious than rubies, you are God's True Chosen People thats why your hated. Return to Jesus!
I've been subscribed to your channel for a couple months and I just want to thank you for keeping me in check. Every time I watch a video of yours I 1) feel like I'm listening to an honest, grown Man 2) I feel protected like God is here with me when you speak 3) am reminded of why nothing has ever worked out so far- I feel like I got a long way to go. I'm a white female in Los Angeles and I don't even know how I found your page but trust, even in this wild west it's crucial to be reminded of the real standards across the board. Thank you!!!
Great video again Tony. After wasting 10 years in a marriage with a cheater and ignoring red flags I have zero tolerance for flags. I’m 31 no more time to waste. I tell you what I’ve learned to do from you. You don’t tell them what you are looking for but you do interview them. Also me being ex military I can ask questions but they think we are waist talking. I do background investigation, social media search. I make scenarios. For example, I will act like I got a text and say to them “omg my poor friend just wasted 5-6 months with a man who finally revealed he had commitment issues.” Then I wait for them to talk and trip themselves up. I wait for things to happen around us with others on a date to speak on it and ask what do they think about what happened with a couple in the same restaurant. With this method ive eliminated in less then a month. Some only lasted 4 days. I find out my dealbreakers quick. Of course I dont eliminate for the little things. I use the scale you spoke about and my female intuition. If you think there’s more I should be doing let me know. Oh and I stay off my back so they eliminate themselves.
Thank you so much Tony. I am going to be 67 and I have met/dated and messaged many men who are still ‘grown boys’! They are from 55 to 70 plus years. I laughed when you spoke of caring for them and wiping their butts! I am going back to dating under 70 years and changing my preferences. I am a young, active 66 year old professional woman who still keeps my legs closed when dating men and have kept my standards. I am patient and will keep working on me and the 3 B’s. God bless you and your family!
Tony you are hilarious! You are also soooo right! I am 36 and doing well in my career but I am single and without kids. I don’t want to settle but I’m concerned about my clock and it’s difficult to meet men whom I desire, has great character and is also doing well in life. Your videos are helping me to stay focused. Praying for patience and wisdom. Thank you for helping women like me.
SoCal seems nearly impossible to date if you don’t have that typical “IG baddie” exotic look. And also, at her age and being a career woman, she has to make sure she is thoroughly vetting. Men prey on older established women to try and get a come up. And Tony, you have a gift of making any topic funny 😂🤣
I used to live in LA and I'm the same complexion as her as Tony described and I can attest to what Tony is saying, it's sooo true. I'm originally from Chicago and get way more interest from men here than in LA. I had to move back (plus cost of living).
Mr Tony Gaskins, Why does it seem like every since a particular commenter made a statement about you talking to long, & saying that an hour of you giving good fruit is way too long, does it seem like now every time you come on, now the first thing you say is "I can't talk too long today"? Not everyone feels that way though. Even though you still deliver significantly lengthy videos, even when you say you can't, you never know who's listening , or what they may need to hear. For some, exactly what a person needs may not be until the very end. So please do not make thin the weight your messages carry, for a few people who lack the patience to feed their souls... Thank You Tony...
@@kimhong3562 Right! I turn him on while I work, cook, eat, etc and watch video after video after video. I watch ALL of them in their entirety and sometimes watch the same ones more than once. I guess if you're hungry for change you really don't care about the length. 🤷🏿♀️
@@blacksongbird100 right, I pick a time of the day to just sit and listen to his videos. Full attention, no distractions because I want to fully understand the word.
My lord!! I pay attention to everything you say but, the comedy part(explaining future situations) I'm laughing like no tomorrow!🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love this channel. 💜🙏🏽😬
"What a lot of women pay for is natural out there is South Africa," - Tony G. See this is the absolute truth our queens here are artistically designed. Praise the Lord now, God took his time when he was creating us.
I would like to chime in and I don't expect to get blocked Tony. 😆😆😆 I am born, raised and currently live in Los Angeles, CA. I am a biracial woman and run into the same problem as your client. Tony is right ladies about what our society has done to our black men's mind in terms of a look. Storytime: I met a black man who said he didn't date black woman anymore because they ALL wear fake hair and turn him off. Well that fake hair comment was very ignorant because you have plenty of black women who wear their natural hair and you have other races wearing fake hair as well. It was bizarre because this man has two African America children's mother and one child's mother is from Nigeria. So it couldn't have been that big of a turn off, he laying down and making babies. Amongst African-American sisters, cousins, nieces, mother and most importantly his ancestors. My issue was if I was a black woman he would not have been saying that and maybe apart of him thought that I would agree but like Tony says, "I had to go". Regardless of God fearing he seemed to be, successful and handsome he was a broken, disturbed and empty man on the inside. His comments were offensive to me because my Father is white but I don't know him or his side of the family so all I know is my black side. Someone with that foolish mentality doesn't deserve my time or anyone else's because should be seeking professional help. That's like me saying that I won't date a white man because my Father abandon me. I realized that I must become the woman that God wants me to be so at this point I am having several seats when it comes to dating. Thank you Tony for all of your hard work. Blessings to ALL and Happy Holidays!!!
It saddens me sis that MEN OF GOD can be like this. If we all are CHRIST followers , then we know the importance of humility, seeing the heart and not the outward appearance and having the mind-frame of Jesus Christ . Praise GOD you took your time and listened to what he was saying regardless of how much you liked him. Thank GOD for discernment 🙏🏽
I had to go back to this video to comment on the "so called alpha" because tony cut the comments off. The best thing I can do at this point is to continue to send blessings & praise to the most high for this "MAN", I'm still in shock💥💯
Most black men in the music industry even with black wives publicly, go after platinum blonde white women or white women they see are associated with other men they are competing with for placements. I know this unfortunately too well because I am one of them they go after constantly and have since even before I stepped foot in Hollywood. In the end I pray everyone to know the truth about the industry behind closed doors. I pray for all women tbh. I realize its systemic and has always gone on. I don't call myself a victim but ive had a fair share of psychological trauma from these men as i'm just trying to get work. It's exhausting
@Roger Anthony My real life dating experiences is mostly black celebrities. A reality you can't wrap your head around. If these are the men that approach me, these are the men that approach me. And it is my reality. From my point of view, I see through it. And I see what it's done to me. And that's reality. You ain't a gate keeper for nobody else. Byeeee
Black men been out there in that expensive state playing for 20 yrs or 30 they older they didn't achieve there dreams black women are the most educated these men ready to sitt down and they want help
I don’t know I’m moving back to San Diego in July. I’m stationed in the military and I can’t wait to get there.. I love SD. It’s a matter of opinion, there are good people everywhere, you just have to look for the right people...
True, I'm in northern cali bay area and my husband dark skin. We have 3 kids. My boss is dark skin and she is married to a white man with 2 kids. My husbands childhood home in San Jose just sold for $900,000. Cost is crazy.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Tony is so funny 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 what's even funnier is that he cracks jokes and keeps a straight face 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the keypad typing illustration always makes me burst out of laughter.
I love the tip of having a clear idea of what type of man and qualities you need will help you spot that kind of man easier than of you didn't have that written down.
That statistic for 2050 is actually for all of the United States we’re going to see many racially ambiguous people. It makes me think a lot about what our conversations around race, culture, and society will look like then. Regardless character and integrity are constant. Godwilling I see that day. Be blessed y’all.
As usual you've hit so many great points about women taking time for man's hidden intentions to be revealed. I also love what you said about making a list of preferences and speaking life into it...Getting it in our spirtit! ❤ I tend to go off intuition/feeling and honestly, that hasn't worked out to well for me. I'm owning my faults/ past mistakes and Ready to make that list!
619 Native. This lesson makes me giggle and shine. Thank you. All y’all DIOR. 👍 working on them STANDARDS! No standards: you’ll get played out here. Know who you are. Don’t settle. Timeline. 👀 day 91?🦶🏻
I love this lady's letter. I get SO sick of people saying a woman missed red flags. No! These dudes be LYING!😒
@Tiffany Moore We can all be deceived. Even the very elect.
Actually you both are correct. Blessings
Right💯🗣🗣🗣
I think both can be true 🤔
They lied and we also ignored the red flags that would’ve revealed these as lies 🤷🏾♀️
Best thing is to have discernment.
Not accuse people, but just look deeper and don’t be a hopeless romantic
That’s why sharpening your intuition is imperative so that you don’t miss red flags
Absolutely!!! At 59 I’m getting married to a high value gentleman.. ladies please hold on to your standards
What is a high value man?
I keep hearing that term floating around.
Would like to know where it originated from
Congratulations!
Awesome. Congratulations 🎉🎊🎈
You give me hope! 🙏🏾
@@womanofgod2948 Contrary to popular opinion , it is not all about a man's monetary worth. A man who is kind; spiritual and has integrity, is faithful and honest, works hard and can be depended on to be faithful and loyal will always be considered a 'High Value' Man. Sometimes the problem is not a defeceit of these men , but the fact that they may not come in a package that we are used to , so we discount them or don't recognise them when they come.
Wow Congratulations
I’m praying for all the godly women, especially all the women wanting a godly spouse. I pray that no matter what city, state, or country you are in the man for you will find you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽Also, keep watching Tony’s videos so you’ll be ready !
Beautiful prayer . Thankyou I ask that God continues to keep you 🙏🏾❤️
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Yes! Thank you.
Amen, I agree
AMEN YOU TOO SISTER
‘He realized that she was Wife material, but did not realize he was not Husband material’ Very powerful statement!!!
He said,"he knew you were a wife but he wasn't a husband"🏆👏👏👏👏🎯💯
Deep
I felt that!
My hubby does not act like it so I flirt in front of him just to get a reaction and he gets angry why?
Be open to having a relationship with whomever loves you! Don't limit yourself to any one race or culture...
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Exactly best decision ever.... sad to say I have been had more game playing by men from African descent than other races just my unscientific study ...some will play games till they on they way out of this world
Yes I love all cultures
@Roger Anthony can you specifically prove
@Roger Anthony if that was how the world works, bad things would never happen to good people.
That iPhone screen went black right when you talking about Samsung! That's what ya get! 🤣🤣🤣
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Sho did! 😁 God don't like ugly 😂😂 (j/k Tony)
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Never tell them u have money. You are a part time receptionist.
They usually out themselves after 5-6 months.
Better yet when they ask "what do u do" I say Nothing
Yes yes yes. I tell them Im a secretary. In a month true colors reveal themselves.
It could be how she appears and possibly what she's driving, purse she carries, jewelry, clothing etc. They're very curious for sure that why they ask. Unless she mentions it just in conversation. Possibly referencing her job as an example and leading them to ask.
Sad reality but quite true
Creepy
Wow! My ex would always say that he’s a man of integrity. And was everything but that
“At day 91 you do an evaluation of the relationship, and you decide to promote, demote or terminate.” TG
I agree..
really it takes a few weeks for me to demote or terminate a man. I can smell a bunch of BS
AMEN TO THAT!
That right there was some of THE best advice I've ever heard! This is the kind of thing females need to know but are not taught which is why we keep getting wrecked. Thank you Tony for all of your wisdom.
@@LA-wv7gf honestly, I don't even go by that conversation bc I've had too many guys say that become inconsistent if they felt my guard dropping. If they say that and remain consistent, OK! We MIGHT have a keeper! Lol
I love that!
I can definitely speak to this. I dated a guy from California. And it is true what they say the home of fruits,nuts and flakes. He presented himself to be everything a lady would want. After about a year the mask came off and he was a grown boy, stuck in his ways refusing to deal with his internal issues
It's not even worth dating out here in SoCal. All the "men" are like this.
@@xandrasquier1023 Sis I really want to know why that is!!!
How did he keep the mask on for a whole year! So women need to not date anyone from CA.
When Tony said “I can’t see you” and I’m over here wondering why my screen is black” 🤣
Right, lol 😂😂😂
Yes!!!Exactly!!!When he got to talking about the wireless company I'm with (i.e. Cricket)...Tony's screen went black. Android ain't havin' it🤣🤣🤣.
Tony it's still all good. GOD continue to help, bless and keep the Gaskins Household✝️💜🙏🏽.
I was thinking why my screen was black as well lol
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I love the way you encourage black women not to settle, to know her worth in Christ . To know that she is valuable no matter what society says because of her skin color . I believe that’s why God blessed these beautiful ladies with empecable voices to sing , athletic abilities, the gift of dance and movement. And I could go on. ❤️ God bless his creation we are his masterpiece 🙏🙌❤️
I’m here for the wisdom and jokes. Lmaooo. 😂🙌🏾
Me too!! 😆
Yes girl!!! Here FOR IT!!
This one was funny! Damn 😂
Yes he was too funny lol 🤣
Me too
I ain't gone lie when someone drained me, all the the new ones got cut off. I was tired of everybody including myself. So I know what he talking about. 😂
I concur!
Yo, the way he's looking at the laptop and evaluating the pictures? I can not! 😂 He's honestly amazing!
“If his skin is flaky his house is dirty” 💀💀💀💀😂😂😂😂
It’s time for black women to step up.I’m standing firm in my Christian standards, no man with vices no men who don’t know what they want etc 💯 TG
Amen!
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Exactly sis!
@Roger Anthony I answer to God not you have a blessed day sir
@Roger Anthony I stand for me and every woman who’s ever visited this page you are a hater!!! And congratulations I hope u just got blocked!
I thought my android was acting up until I realized waiiiit a minute, I'm on my laptop! LOL
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Giiiiiiiirl, look. 😂
Say 🤧😂😂
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That made me laugh
What one fakes though God almost always brings to light thankfully.
I’am crying 😂😂. Tony talking about a women scratching her braids as I’m literally scratching mine. Mind y’all business they new so don’t try me lol.
Tony is not lying. I lived in LA for almost 6 years. I’m only 18 but they do not like black women out there. Especially, not us brown and dark skin women. I realized it at a young age. I just wanted to say I also appreciate Tony acknowledging how hard black women really have it especially as an American black woman. It is very appreciated. God bless 🙏🏾.
Nice to see that you are listening to Tony Gaskins at such a young age.
Remember to stay focused, study hard, trust in the Lord and never open your legs for any man, never ever.
The man God has for you will love you.
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You're not looking for 99, you're looking for one.
Be safe, Sis.
@@womanofgod2948 You too, thank you 💜
Yeah that's is so true, I was in L.A for the whole week and all I saw was black men in relationships with other races. They wouldn't even look my way. Lol
I need to hear a success story. Someone please send a letter to give us some hope because I’m giving up. My pastor recently told me he doesn’t think there are any faithful men left that aren’t already married. 🥴
Or LGBTQ🤔🤷🏾♀️in one of Tonys past videos he said it's slim. Its success sis let's just focus on our inner to receive our King👏🏾🙌🏽🙏🏽 Starts with our Faith🙂
If I could do it all over again, I would’ve focused on my bag and the luxuries of life. I would have NEVER got married (or stayed married) and if I decided to have kids, it would’ve been adoption or IVF via SMBC.
Social media has definitely ruined Relationships... I even heard older people say that they would stay single if they were born in this generation and these are married and widowed people...they said finding a decent person is a needle in a haystack and everyone trying to get over on someone one way are another .. it’s really a shit show and the married people ain’t no better cheating and just toxic very bad out here🤢
I'm a success story. Held to my standards, didn't even kiss until our wedding. Read "Beautiful in God's Eyes" to prepare myself for marriage while I thoroughly enjoyed being single. Married at 35 now 3 kids 15 happy years later. Suggestion.. don't settle. Better to be single then unhappy. That book is very enlightening. Suggest to every woman I know. May the peace of God rest upon you.
@@knottedtogether6782 thank you for sharing! 🤍
I’m 75 and I love listening to you, you make my day, because I laugh a lot! Thanks Good stuff Tony ❤️
Since black men are fully aware and knowledgeable about black women being abused, mistreated and used why continue the narrative and partake in the trauma?
Because they need to heal themselves it's easy for most of them to put the blame on us instead of doing the work on themselves
@Roger Anthony the first step in healing is acknowledgment and actually hearing someone else's truth even when it is not your own. Black women have no difficulty in seeing black men struggles in this world yet it is nearly impossible for you to see our struggles. Why is that? And what do you say to women who were sexually abused as children? Or gang raped? Or called a bitch by a male when he found out she wasn't interested in him? Or who was followed to her car with ill intent? All of these offenses were at the hand of a black man or boy that happened to a black girl and women. I've experienced this personally myself and know of women who've experienced this. So if you're not willing to acknowledge how your dismissive ignorance contributes to the problem please go sit in a corner and ask God to expand your mind, open your eyes and your heart. Until then, mind your business.
@Roger Anthony oh so you truly are ignorant. We don't need your support. Good day.
@@iamsadeashley he is a troll sis, don't mind him ❤
@@iamsadeashley these are the type of responses that hurt males reply. Just give them your I wish you “well” like wishing them healing because that was a sick response. Much love to you Ms. Lady!!!
Tony, my 20 year old son and I listen to you often, both of us learning from different perspectives. We both learn a lot, admire you and enjoy your Godly perspective.
You crack us up, we enjoy both your seriousness and your humor. We will break generational curses with what we've learned from your content. People say that knowledge is power, no...the application of knowledge is power. Thanks Tony!
Tony a perfect day for a lot of us would be a 2-4 hr video from you! The day that happens I will cry tears of joy because you are dropping the wisdom from The Lord to us 😭 🥲😅😩😊🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Factz! I listen everyday.
So true!!! Yes I’m in San Diego and it is not the place for black girl magic... I try to be approachable, but I’m just working on getting my body and savings up while staying off my back lol.
I agree! I’m in San Diego as well and I hear consistently that Black men do not date Black women.
What about dating out of your race. Are the other race men not checking for black women out there?
I’m not surprised, I heard that about Cali. I’m in Miami, they’re not really checking for us out here either.
Just left my comment. Yes! I lived in LA, one of the most colorist states I’ve ever lived in. Will not be going back, ever 😂.
@@KMarie33 I can imagine, since Miami seems to have the same dynamic as Cali.
*watchin netflix*
*tony posts new video*
*turns off Netflix to watch Tony*
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Omg I did this same thing just now. 😂😂 More interesting than Netflix right now. Knowledge is power.
“You got to understand, u bout to be wiping his booty…” 😂😂😂😂 Thank you for putting it in perspective Tony 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😅😅😅
OMG you are so telling the TRUTH about men in California. I live in Southern California and I am over 50. Let me tell you, its slim pickings. One of my closest friends have been telling me I need to move out of California to meet my husband.
SoCal is just a big group of narcissistic entitled men that think you should be grateful they gave YOU the time.
I live in GA...its hard out here too! I'm working on my 3 B's...☺
@@xandrasquier1023 girl
@@felishapittman2778 it's sad that there is such slim pickings
It's all around this country. A mess.
Tony is telling the truth! I live in Nor Cal and Nor & So Cal men are a hot mess! That is why at 55 I’m still single and so many of my friends. I had the same exp as this lady. I dated him for eight months before he showed his colors. I let that 55 yr old grown boy go, but I will never get those 10 months back.
Agree
From SoCal originally. Recently moved to NorCal the past 2 years.
Its extremely difficult for starters to find a man with no vices. In California seems like the majority are cannabis consumers or/and alcoholics.
@@missybella9046 Sadly, they are pretty messed up😔. I’m honestly thinking about forgetting about men and marriage and staying single. After listening to Tony and many comments on here, I just don’t think it’s worth it.
I dated an older gentleman once wasted 2 months of my time And yes even 2 months is too long to waste with a loser But I wouldn't give up ladies If we keep being who we are being true to ourselves going about our every day jobs and lives then I believe the most high will send the right man at the right time according to his will just as he did for Ruth and Boaz Let's keep the faith sisters 😊
@@myrnadavis2409 🤗
Dont come on here with payless shoes. Tony is a comedian. His facial expressions, body language, his tone , says it all. The man is funny but speaks so much truth, perspective, and common sense. Thank you for the gems and knowledge that you continue to give us daily🙏🙏
When the screen went black , i said hold UPPPP, i don’t got no android lol
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Team Android over here! 🤣😂✊🏿🙋🏿♀️
Dang, not “dandruff fallin out” 😂... boy, I stay laughing from every video. Keep them coming Tony.
Tony you are spot on about the black women not being valued!!! I experienced that while stationed in Cali! I never had a problem attracting men until I went to a club back in the day and all the brothers would ask the white women to dance first, then the Spanish/Asian, then the light skinned black women, then as a sloppy second last resort if you were lucky the dark skinned ladies were asked to dance! I said imma head out and got the he!! Up outta Cali got a new duty station back East.
Wow! I Am sorry to hear that. The good news though is that the good men can never be found in a club. They are all wolves in sheep clothing and don't even know it yet. You have lost nothing, AT ALL!!!! :)
This was an excellent talk, Tony! I'm 49 and needed this. I need all of your talks! You've already helped me to change my life!
Me too, 49yrs old and no time for the shenanigans.
Same here 48 . Good to hear his wisdom n humor.
Me too! Thank you Tony.
Me three ! 🤣
FRUITS, NUTS & FLAKES!! 😂😂😂😂 Native Californian here ✋🏾 😁
What’s the meaning of the saying ?
Google says it best...don't want to offend anyone 😁
Sounds like cereal lol
I appreciate your honesty when it comes to the way people view and treat black women Tony.
Ik, a black man that actually loves and appreciates black women.
The powers that be know the true identity of African American people. They are Hebrew israelites. The powers that be are responsible for the destruction of the hebrew israelite family and trying to breed out the race. There is power in hebrew people especially when in a Godly marriage. Those that have the holy spirit can't be conditioned or programed to hate their own kind. GODLY hebrew israelite men value their woman. African American people wake up you are more precious than rubies, you are God's True Chosen People thats why your hated. Return to Jesus!
I've been subscribed to your channel for a couple months and I just want to thank you for keeping me in check. Every time I watch a video of yours I 1) feel like I'm listening to an honest, grown Man 2) I feel protected like God is here with me when you speak 3) am reminded of why nothing has ever worked out so far- I feel like I got a long way to go. I'm a white female in Los Angeles and I don't even know how I found your page but trust, even in this wild west it's crucial to be reminded of the real standards across the board. Thank you!!!
“I don’t want him calling me everyday. That creepy”😂😅 “what do you think marriage is then?”
Great video again Tony. After wasting 10 years in a marriage with a cheater and ignoring red flags I have zero tolerance for flags. I’m 31 no more time to waste. I tell you what I’ve learned to do from you. You don’t tell them what you are looking for but you do interview them. Also me being ex military I can ask questions but they think we are waist talking. I do background investigation, social media search. I make scenarios. For example, I will act like I got a text and say to them “omg my poor friend just wasted 5-6 months with a man who finally revealed he had commitment issues.” Then I wait for them to talk and trip themselves up. I wait for things to happen around us with others on a date to speak on it and ask what do they think about what happened with a couple in the same restaurant. With this method ive eliminated in less then a month. Some only lasted 4 days. I find out my dealbreakers quick. Of course I dont eliminate for the little things. I use the scale you spoke about and my female intuition. If you think there’s more I should be doing let me know. Oh and I stay off my back so they eliminate themselves.
😁 you deal just like me!
I'm getting pretty disheartened though. So tired of the rubbish out here.
You are telling the truth. Sometimes it's hard to hear but it is real. This is why I have complete faith in God.
Thank you so much Tony. I am going to be 67 and I have met/dated and messaged many men who are still ‘grown boys’! They are from 55 to 70 plus years. I laughed when you spoke of caring for them and wiping their butts! I am going back to dating under 70 years and changing my preferences. I am a young, active 66 year old professional woman who still keeps my legs closed when dating men and have kept my standards. I am patient and will keep working on me and the 3 B’s. God bless you and your family!
Tony you are hilarious! You are also soooo right! I am 36 and doing well in my career but I am single and without kids.
I don’t want to settle but I’m concerned about my clock and it’s difficult to meet men whom I desire, has great character and is also doing well in life.
Your videos are helping me to stay focused. Praying for patience and wisdom.
Thank you for helping women like me.
Im 35 and feel the same
SoCal seems nearly impossible to date if you don’t have that typical “IG baddie” exotic look. And also, at her age and being a career woman, she has to make sure she is thoroughly vetting. Men prey on older established women to try and get a come up. And Tony, you have a gift of making any topic funny 😂🤣
Like the movie " A fall from Grace" !!!!
I have no words🤣🤣🤣 Tony, The acting....Bad breath, soles clapping🤣🤣 Good advice thank you.🙏🏽
Nah, I’m cracking up! Tony said the shoes from Payless and the soles are flapping! I’m screaming! 😂😂
He's always on point.
"Half ate peanut butter and jelly under the couch..all your food laid up under the couch"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I used to live in LA and I'm the same complexion as her as Tony described and I can attest to what Tony is saying, it's sooo true. I'm originally from Chicago and get way more interest from men here than in LA. I had to move back (plus cost of living).
Same, I’m originally from Chicago too but I also moved back to the Midwest for the same reasons. Small world 😊.
Mr Tony Gaskins,
Why does it seem like every since a particular commenter made a statement about you talking to long, & saying that an hour of you giving good fruit is way too long, does it seem like now every time you come on, now the first thing you say is "I can't talk too long today"? Not everyone feels that way though. Even though you still deliver significantly lengthy videos, even when you say you can't, you never know who's listening , or what they may need to hear. For some, exactly what a person needs may not be until the very end. So please do not make thin the weight your messages carry, for a few people who lack the patience to feed their souls... Thank You Tony...
I can listen to him for hours without skipping
@@kimhong3562 Right! I turn him on while I work, cook, eat, etc and watch video after video after video. I watch ALL of them in their entirety and sometimes watch the same ones more than once. I guess if you're hungry for change you really don't care about the length. 🤷🏿♀️
I put him on auto play while I do chores
@@blacksongbird100 right, I pick a time of the day to just sit and listen to his videos. Full attention, no distractions because I want to fully understand the word.
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@TG, host a 4-5 hour virtual conference & charge your conference fee for your following. Your incite is so needed!
My lord!! I pay attention to everything you say but, the comedy part(explaining future situations) I'm laughing like no tomorrow!🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love this channel. 💜🙏🏽😬
"What a lot of women pay for is natural out there is South Africa," - Tony G. See this is the absolute truth our queens here are artistically designed. Praise the Lord now, God took his time when he was creating us.
It's still natural in America amongst Black American woman and in the Caribbeans. God has blessed African woman in all places.
Fellow 🇿🇦❤️… thank you sis
I would like to chime in and I don't expect to get blocked Tony. 😆😆😆 I am born, raised and currently live in Los Angeles, CA. I am a biracial woman and run into the same problem as your client. Tony is right ladies about what our society has done to our black men's mind in terms of a look. Storytime: I met a black man who said he didn't date black woman anymore because they ALL wear fake hair and turn him off. Well that fake hair comment was very ignorant because you have plenty of black women who wear their natural hair and you have other races wearing fake hair as well. It was bizarre because this man has two African America children's mother and one child's mother is from Nigeria. So it couldn't have been that big of a turn off, he laying down and making babies. Amongst African-American sisters, cousins, nieces, mother and most importantly his ancestors. My issue was if I was a black woman he would not have been saying that and maybe apart of him thought that I would agree but like Tony says, "I had to go". Regardless of God fearing he seemed to be, successful and handsome he was a broken, disturbed and empty man on the inside. His comments were offensive to me because my Father is white but I don't know him or his side of the family so all I know is my black side. Someone with that foolish mentality doesn't deserve my time or anyone else's because should be seeking professional help. That's like me saying that I won't date a white man because my Father abandon me. I realized that I must become the woman that God wants me to be so at this point I am having several seats when it comes to dating. Thank you Tony for all of your hard work. Blessings to ALL and Happy Holidays!!!
It saddens me sis that MEN OF GOD can be like this. If we all are CHRIST followers , then we know the importance of humility, seeing the heart and not the outward appearance and having the mind-frame of Jesus Christ . Praise GOD you took your time and listened to what he was saying regardless of how much you liked him. Thank GOD for discernment 🙏🏽
The fake hair was an excuse...you should run from a man with babies from multiple women. You dodged a bullet sis.
Holding your breath on the first date!! ..GOT to Go!! 🚗
“Nose hairs waving atcha” 😂😂😂
I need to get some sessions with you, your the realest 👏☦😊
The only thing we can do trust give to give discernment, please read Luke chapter 18.
I’m listening to this at work trying my best to not laugh out loud. I was in tears from laughing from this video. 💕😂
I screamed when I seen this title...I knew it would be a comedy show 🤣🤣
Thank God for noticing the struggles of black women!!! This was an amazing video!!! Thank you Tony for the invaluable knowledge 🙌🏽💛
Nobody:
Tony: GOT TA GO!!!
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Her: Well, he probably a man's a man🤔
Tony: No, he ain't nobody MAN, a woman's man, or a man's man...barely a God's man...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😩
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They will fly under the radar for more than months.
🚨 The screen will go black but be patient and Tony will show back up.🚨
K. It just happened and I was confused. Lol
@@blacksongbird100 Me too sis.
I thought this was an analogy of "a patient and Tony aka doctor" because this message is taking me to ER 😂
@@Melissiabeats 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you from a mother who works all week and look forward to a video on Friday nights !! This is my entertainment but feeding the soul😂🧡
I had to go back to this video to comment on the "so called alpha" because tony cut the comments off. The best thing I can do at this point is to continue to send blessings & praise to the most high for this "MAN", I'm still in shock💥💯
So glad I found this channel. Thank you Tony for giving us insight.
Whew! "Crunch time." This brother is thorough! Give abundant thanks.
The blessed tribe is here and ready for Coach TG 🙏
Tony u could be a commeadian ur so funny but ur talking truth love that👍👍
I've noticed this in the Music industry it seems like most of the black men have light bright skin women and some Brother in the movie industry !
Most black men in the music industry even with black wives publicly, go after platinum blonde white women or white women they see are associated with other men they are competing with for placements. I know this unfortunately too well because I am one of them they go after constantly and have since even before I stepped foot in Hollywood. In the end I pray everyone to know the truth about the industry behind closed doors. I pray for all women tbh. I realize its systemic and has always gone on. I don't call myself a victim but ive had a fair share of psychological trauma from these men as i'm just trying to get work. It's exhausting
@Roger Anthony My real life dating experiences is mostly black celebrities. A reality you can't wrap your head around. If these are the men that approach me, these are the men that approach me. And it is my reality. From my point of view, I see through it. And I see what it's done to me. And that's reality. You ain't a gate keeper for nobody else. Byeeee
It takes several months to
really get to know someone...
I can relate to this gal. It's hard to be patient and take
the time.
Black men been out there in that expensive state playing for 20 yrs or 30 they older they didn't achieve there dreams black women are the most educated these men ready to sitt down and they want help
Tony is a coach's favourite coach. Thanks for your insight! (London-based)
Tony flashing his ring 😁😂 🤣
I love the knowledge with comedy!
I don’t know I’m moving back to San Diego in July.
I’m stationed in the military and I can’t wait to get there.. I love SD. It’s a matter of opinion, there are good people everywhere, you just have to look for the right people...
True, I'm in northern cali bay area and my husband dark skin. We have 3 kids. My boss is dark skin and she is married to a white man with 2 kids. My husbands childhood home in San Jose just sold for $900,000. Cost is crazy.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Tony is so funny 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 what's even funnier is that he cracks jokes and keeps a straight face 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the keypad typing illustration always makes me burst out of laughter.
I love the tip of having a clear idea of what type of man and qualities you need will help you spot that kind of man easier than of you didn't have that written down.
“Them braids too old”. Coach going ham tonight!😂😂😂
Women need to be washing their hair every week ..keeping weaves in to Long is a no no and breaks your hair off
I would pay for a whole day seminar for me and my family. Just wait 🙏🏾
Truly loving these talks with Tony. Reminds me of “Dear Abby”😜😆
Lol 😂 i think she would flip off her chair if she had to deal with a few of “Talk with Tony questions”.
He's not nobody man he's just Nasty and funky 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That was so good about giving credit for what they did in the past
Come on Tony you know that these Old Seniors lusting after these young women looking like Jerome with corn rolls trying to regain their youth 🤣🤣🤣
That statistic for 2050 is actually for all of the United States we’re going to see many racially ambiguous people. It makes me think a lot about what our conversations around race, culture, and society will look like then. Regardless character and integrity are constant. Godwilling I see that day. Be blessed y’all.
“Privilege from God” Amen! 🎯
You keep me laughing playing out the characters. I am rolling🤣🤣🤣. Keep preaching thou.🤣🤣
Why am I laughing so much!!!!! Oh my goodness!!🤣🤣🤪🤪
Yesss🤣🤣🤣💯
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Exactly. I’ve never met anyone, race nor creed that’s better than me. When you lower your boundaries that’s when you gave in and the nonsense begins.
LOL when Tony starts acting these scenarios up I'm seriously cracking up !!!
Real talk as always. I almost screamed when you showed your ring off...hilarious! 🤣🤣🤣
I hollered 😂😂😂
ALL FACTS! I’m over here ROLLIN! 😂😂 I appreciate the truth, mixed with a bit of humor too. Thank you Tony G.
What a woman!!!!!so inspiring!🤩👌🙏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏we have to learn and take notes.
Blessed tribe here and ready for some TG wisdom!!
As usual you've hit so many great points about women taking time for man's hidden intentions to be revealed. I also love what you said about making a list of preferences and speaking life into it...Getting it in our spirtit! ❤ I tend to go off intuition/feeling and honestly, that hasn't worked out to well for me. I'm owning my faults/ past mistakes and Ready to make that list!
Nose hair, ear hairs and hemorrhoids...too much 😂😂
That movie scene is critical and beyond sadness... "Me don't want it"🤦🏼♀️🤣🤣🤣
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❤️❤️❤️Walk in YOUR CLASS, Walk in YOUR BEAUTY,! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
619 Native. This lesson makes me giggle and shine. Thank you. All y’all DIOR. 👍 working on them STANDARDS! No standards: you’ll get played out here. Know who you are. Don’t settle. Timeline.
👀 day 91?🦶🏻