She loves to say the character is “more than just what she has been through,” but what is that bc all she promos is the last name is Bloom and she wears flowers bc of “Bloom.” She’s as deep as her name 🙄 Blake is just not that deep of a person or actress. Her sense of humor is that type that is supposed to be funny but falls flat. She desperately wants to be deep tho
Blake seems to try to be funny like her husband Ryan but it doesn't work. She should give it up. She is tone deaf if she doesn't realize she is not funny. And to get people to see the movie she said, "bring your friends, wear your florals and see the movie " what????? She is acting as if seeing the 1 movie is like Taylor's fans wearing friendship bracelets to Taylor's concerts. Not the same thing.
Blake has spoken more about her new hair care line than about domestic violence in this film. Says it all. Girl sit down. She’s trying to make this her Barbie moment and she’s failing fast
@@jilloneill71 and she obviously don’t even know what hairbrush is it is so ironic and at the same time so tragic bcs what she did to Justin and how she is ignorant over DV part of the movie.
It's almost sad the way people that famous can lose touch with reality. They're Teflon and get away with absolutely everything, so it gets worse and worse, but then one day they get exposed.
The mask came off for her and I think she’s freaking out. That’s why they’re coming out with these un flattering stories about Justin which I don’t think they’re true.
Someone said that she covered it really well all these years, that both her and Ryan did with a well paid PR team patching up things along the way but if it got to the public it would have shown earlier who they are and it's believable. She has the typical rich girl snobbish attitude but deep down knows that she doesn't have any real skills and takes out that insecurity on people with less wealth and power than her with the support of her toxic friends, terrible combo, high school type of a clique that doesn't grow up and mature, pathetic to be honest and it's a public service whenever these type of people get exposed because it's usually not easy and innocent people get further marginalized by bullies.
Blake revealing that Ryan wrote a scene isn't the flex she thought it to be , as it only revealed that Ryan took away a paid position of an actual writer! Amid the writer's strike too! 👀
It was only one scene though, the writer was still writing the rest of the film…the shitty part is that writer found out their entire scene was re written at the premier…which is insulting as hell and messed up to find out after working on a film that part of your work, skill and effort was completely altered on a day the writer should have been proud of the film the wrote the script for, and it really takes away from their work.
Here's another one - they used the opportunity not only to promote her "style" and shampoo but also Ryan's alcohol business with a drink they featured and named "it ends with a buzz"...how tone deaf and opportunistic in a slimy type of way. Her and Colleens insta was slammed with comments calling them out especially since Colleen double down on her support for Blake, seems like she's really after fame, power, money and validation herself but presenting as if she cares about dv victims...
Any day now all four of them are going to be out and about having dinner or brunch or going to a concert of some sort. Taylor Swift and her boyfriend will swoop in to say Blake lively and her hubby‘s butts
NEVER EVER Think Your Co-Workers are your friends. When your livelihood is on the line, every weapon possible will be used AGAINST You in a work environment. I've experienced this several times. I finally learned my lesson.
And there are usually several covert narcissists in the office that subtly over time gain control of larger groups and then stear those groups very skillfully if they need to gang up on someone but staying clean themselves so that nothing can be traced back to them, they play many manipulation games with their desire to be in control but deep down being insecure and not actually working towards a role that can be influential in a positive way. They can be sickly sweet and nosey, often the "office mom" type that gets to hear people's troubles when they confide in them and then they have leverage against them in the future...so many games, it's what helps them pass the time and cope with their personal dysfunctional life.
Even if she wanted to promote her businesses too, she should’ve donated proceeds to DV organizations. When it came to the PR for the film she should have brought on a DV therapist or advocate and put together bouquets while discussing informative conversations on her instagram. She should have brought all of the flowers that she’s making to woman shelters. There’s so many ways how the marketing could’ve been handled in a sweet way with a heavy issue.
She gave the vibe that she did not give a flying fuck about the topic of DV. The shift in consciousness has been real and people are wondering why couldn't she just do a summer romcom instead of promoting this film like it's one!
I had a boss bullying me. I thought he was mean to everyone, but my coworkers told me otherwise. I planned to leave right away. The rest was grey rocking until I was out. Found a better paying job, more vacation days, good bosses. If a coworker bullies you, fight. Don't fight a boss. Not worth it.
I call it “mommy syndrome” when older women try to boss others around. Happened to me at Pilates, another woman taking the class was ordering me how to wipe the reformer machine down after and telling me not to forgot my water bottle. Like I was a freaking child. I’m 40 years old 😂
That sounds too simple for whats going on here, its not just about some little pushy reminders, she took so much away from actual dv victims and let's not forget the awful mean girl bully behavior in that interview with the Swedish lady.
Shallon I have followed you for years and years and love you a lot, you are my people which I don’t find often. I’m from UK and always wanted to go to one of your meet ups but never did. I just moved to New York 3 weeks ago and I’m having a tough time (natural, but still tough) I see your meet up is literally a couple blocks from my new apartment and know it’s fate and it’s come EXACTLY when it was meant to in my life. I can’t wait. Thank you for all you do 🙏
I love comments like these!! Shallon is the reason I changed my entire life and moved from Boston to rural Utah. I love that we can all bond over how shallon made us better people! Have so much fun at her meet up!! I wish I could make it
@@Sophia-ks9yuI love this so much! I have been a silent fan for the longest time, and these responses are so heartwarming and timely ❤ wish I’d msgd out years ago 😂 but everything happens at the right time for a reason 🙏 I love that you’ve made those moves, it’s not a small thing at all so full respect. Hopefully we will meet one day x
@@missdime7433that's what I commented somewhere else. Leighton is down-to-earth and very nice, unlike her Gossip Girl character, whereas Blake is exactly like her Gossip Girl character apparently. So that's why they didn't even talk when they weren't on set together.
That interview was so difficult to watch. Classical mean girl behavior to completely ignore someone in a three way conversation and not even bother to look at them.
And such a hypocrite too, wanting to jump on the band wagon of celebrities that legitimately got asked awkward questions, she gave that sweet lady such a hard time over asking about the fashion on a period drama movie, or course that's going to be asked, and now for this movie "It ends with us" she is mostly talking about dresses her shampoo, such a hypocrite and showing her real shallow self.
Shallon, A couple years ago I left a comment on a video that you uploaded. My comment was not rude or offensive IMO, anyways, a troll came for me and attacked me over my comment. Within 15 minutes you came to my rescue and politely told the troll to get lost. I will never forget that and will forever appreciate your kindness and support! Even though we don’t know each other I feel like you would be a true ride or die friend. ❤
Never enjoyed her acting. So dull and she plays the same character the exact same way. First it was Serena, then Serena got a group of friends that shared pants, now Serena is in an abusive relationship. *Yawns*
I was a bit of a goof at my current job when I first started and I remember my managers being cold and treating me like I was stupid. But I figured it out, now I’m one of the best employees and all my managers are warm and even act like they want to be friends. It’s a good reminder that friendliness at the workplace isn’t genuine x they’re only kind because I’m valuable to them now
Currently going through this now. One of my colleagues said I needed to get married to help me get serious and I shifted gears immediately. It’s been 4weeks of studying, I’m exhausted but I’m finally getting some respect
Not just Workplace most people are only nice and very friendly to those who have something they want or are useful somehow to them. That's why everyone is very friendly if your nice looking or wealthy. If your fat, ugly, old, poor no one wants to be your friend
In the work place of course you better add value or you won't last long there. Friendships are not what you should be seeking in the work place but respect and you only get respect in the work place if you not only do your job but care to be known as valuable to your bosses and co workers
@@jclyntoledo, Taylor Swift is Not racist, so I think the friendship might be casual. If Blake drops the N word, it might be a problem.Just saying I knew the family several years ago, she cannot help who she is, it’s her up bringing.
I've always preferred Leighton Meester over Blake Lively. Blake is a nepo baby, while Leighton has a more humble background and has more merit. Also i preferred her character in gossip girl.
The latest today is that Ryan and Blake saved Justin's "disaster". Justin said early on that he wouldnt do the next book, maybe Blake would do it. Its such a shame, Justin has such good intentions in life, hes hugely into shining a light on toxic masculinity.
9:30 - 9:40. YES! There was an interview with Blake post-MeToo and she was asked what her “power outfit” is, what she feels powerful and confident in. She got so defensive and said “you can ask me another question”. She literally had a spread in InStyle the following month ABOUT her style. She was just looking for something to get defensive about and act like some victim. Hmmmm, remember when she was in several photos all over H. Weinstein?
She defended Weinstein she literally wrote she never experienced that from him and that she is so heartbroken to read this. But she never said she believed the victims or that she supported them
@@stolio223 Yes totally. The same thing. Both couples supposed to be funny and cool and relax and so loved kinda normal in that mess of Hollywood.. but then in these kind od the situations you see who someone is. And I really liked Blake and Mila, Ashton never and Ryan form time to time, not so much as Hugh Jackman or some really good actors, but I did appreciate his humor from time to time bcs it was kinda smart and witty, and Ashton was just childish sometimes too much over- the -top and not funny (too much typical american humor that starta great and then.. go to far not in sarcastic or smart way, at least for me and I am European), also Demi thing was sooo.. bad. Also ScarJo never said anything about Ryan and I really like her, she is the most talented one of those five, and Ryan has also that ability to make big thing out of Deadpool so I was OK and their family life looked most of the time good - well I was kinda afraid she will keep popping the kids until he gets the boy but otherwise I kinda happy - I do like big families and mine was like this and especially my father one so close four of them bcs of our nonna.. And Blake seemed really genuine she spoke how she was privileged bcs she grew up and is a nepo and got the job in the Sisterhood bcs she was hot and tall blonde, and not bcs she could act, then she spoke about child trafficking and bad stuff .. but then this Weinstein thing.. and this with DV and not only this but how she treats Justin.. so bad. And I don’t think she bullied Kate Middelton bcs nobody knew then what was going on and that family is not private and Ryan being Canadian and Canada part of the Commonwealth people deserved the answears but she could ask in more polite way ofc. Now I saw that interview with that poor Norwegian lady that was so nice and respectful, and o boy, so mean entitled girl vibes, like I get you are pregnant and hormones but that woman gor bullied there, and she can’t even have children beside being fat shamed and it is another human being with the problems you know nothing about. So she grew up in Hollywood is Hollywood brat, Harvey stayed alway bcs she was so privileged and now she thinks she is top of the world bcs od Taylor and Ryan. So bad. I think her poor career won’t survive this she is just not good actress, and I am sad they dragged Hugh into this mess I really respect him and thing highly about him and he is amazing actor.
Duuuuude I feel so validated right now! A few years ago, I watched the Vogue 21 questions video with Blake and I found her to be rather rude and off putting in her demeanour and responses. I’m disgusted to hear all this other stuff now. Called it! Thanks Shallon xo 😘
blake is out of touch, & it shows. shes the type of girl whos always been able to breeze through life, comes from an upper class background (so no money worries), shes gorgeous, & her parents are in the business. It doesn't seem like she has too much depth or emotional connection with her when it comes to speaking with an "average joe." that bump comment was plain nasty from her YIKES
Shes not gorgeous though, she is quite average looking, I'm in the Midwest and have seen girls with a face and hair like that. She is just so overhyped and portrayed as some humble, down to Earth girl, we have seen that it often takes soo little for people to get hyped up over something little and create some fantasy version of that person only later to be disappointed...
I’ve realized that not everyone will like me, but I’m _almost always nervous and afraid_ that the person who doesn’t like me will say or make up bad things about me to _other people_ and cause them to dislike me and that one person that doesn’t like me becomes a _mob of people_ that don’t like me.
It does happen that people undermine you to other people. But that says more about them than you. Most of the time other people want to like you….life is easier if you are not in conflict with others.
I was howling because its my boyfriends surname 🤭😂 We’re Scottish though. There are a lot of child babies named Brogan this neck of the woods 😂 Shallon please come to Scotland 🙏🏻🏴🍸🥂
Blake is always trying so hard to be a "cool girl" and this very publicised press tour really exposed how self absorbed she is, she talks more about being married to Ryan and her hair brand than the subject of DV in her own movie
I've had a bully at work. The press and push and push and push until they thunk they can do what they like towards you. It was awful. I learned from it and don't give anyone an inch now. Someone tried it in work and I put them straight back in their place. We have to stick uo for ourselves because Noone will do it for us.
I only learned the lesson of not becoming friends with my coworkers this year, age 41. I wish I had learned this so much sooner. It would have saved me from so much heartache.
At the rate the world is at never be friends with a group of people in a formal setting, chances are they come together and gossip about you , they commonly don't like you, they gang up on you, I've learnt this the hard way 😂
This has happened to me (always a woman, almost always a frumpy middle aged woman) at almost every single place I’ve worked at. To the point I just decided to be a SAHM (which also drove them crazy when they found out I get to now basically be a spoiled princess from my super buff super successful husband - they weren’t ever a super boss babe type). WHERE WAS THIS VIDEO THEN, SHALLON?!? My husband has said that it keeps happening to me because I’m the epitome of an iron fist in an velvet glove. I want to have a good time, I genuinely don’t feel competitive (because I don’t view most people as even competition). I generally like helping others when I can, and I don’t mind making an assist rather than score the actual goal. So people think I’m a pushover. But it is exhausting. Longest I held out was 3 years.
@@itsjaybright aww thank you!!! Baby boy is in the 99th percentile for height and can already say “yeah”, “hi”, “mama” (although not reliably yet) and roar at 6.75 months old! He’s not fully crawling yet but definitely able to scoot around on the ground and can push himself into a standing position! It’s great getting to be here with him and watch him grow. He’s a very good baby and I never have to deal with bullshit office politics again!
What's a SAHM? I've also had similar experiences with mostly women in the workplace, and it's sad 😢and annoying 😑 because I'm just trying to do my job. However, I've found out that me being myself and doing my job well is seen as a threat to those who are insecure in their positions.
I never heard of the expression "iron fist with a velvet glove" before. I even googled it and is defined as someone who seems to be gentle but is in fact forceful and determined. Sadly, this definition and your description of your experience are all too relatable to me. I try to take most situations I perceive with a grain of salt, but some signs of disrespect are undeniable. The question I'm left with is how to proceed and how not to compromise who I am. Sometimes this feels like a complete burden. It sounds like you are in a much better place now and good luck to you and your family!
You are 100% correct about the workplace. They dont hove a fuck about anything but the bottom line. Ive been saying that for years (starting with HR who is employed by the same boss!)
I thought that from the beginning that Blake is trying to mimic her husband's humor and instead of being funny her PR team is cleaning up her brand. She needs to stop copying her husband cuz she can't pull it off like he can.
Thank you this. As another woman who has come out the other side of DV, with a young baby, Blake’s behaviour and attitude is the literal worse. She seems super out of touch, entitled and like a mix of Chrisy Teigen, circa 2007 x misogynist bully. The premise of this movie sounded appealing but I don't think I can sit through it now, she’s ruined it 🤮
A couple of things I'd like to note. We don't really know what has gone on in the Blake/Justin situation, but what I know for sure is it's obvious Blake has a history of being mean, disrespectful and overall immature with her answers to questions in interviews. I also know that the movie is about a serious subject, but she 'chose' to market it like a rom-com with her fashion statements, which was just wrong and an insult to anyone who has experienced or is experiencing domestic violence. Why didn't she put more emphasis on the topic and talk about it more? All she talked about were the "florals" and "grabbing your girlfriends to go watch It Ends With Us." To me, these are the real issues. My mother always used to say, "If someone shows you who they are, believe them." I believe this about Blake.
And that's enough, we don't need a video proof of whatever is going on between them, her other behavior is enough to conclude, plus people that worked with him before had only positive things to say which can't be said for her.
Yay I was hoping you would cover this 😄 I am Justin’s side..Blake seems like such a mean girl. Also as you said they are at work… I’m shocked they couldn’t act (their literal job) and pretend to be okay and take pics together!
Thank you so much!!!! I am a survivor of DV. I escaped with two little girls 8 month and 2 1/2 years old. Blake is so disrespectful to all of us who survived DV. She should not told about fashion, music and her friends. Content of this movie is DV!
I don’t know if it’s just because she’s married to beta Ryan Reynolds (who genuinely seems nice), but I never understood why people thought Blake Lively was such a nice girl’s girl. When she made the snarky remark about Princess Kate followed by the non-apology, and even before then, I thought something was off with her. Also her remark from years ago how “no one would ask a man about his wardrobe.” Blake Lively is a woman who has had a complete plastic surgery face change, breast augmentation, etc. etc. trying to act like the interviewer was being sexist. Give me a break.
Blake is so shallow. She has no idea about domestic violence. How she explains the movie is appalling. And now her husband looks like an idiot to me as well, because he left Scarlett for this airhead
I genuinely dont know how she could be this tone deaf in the promotion of this movie. Whatever drama is happening behind closed doors, that she thinks it's appropriate to promote a movie with DV like this tells me she's not all there.
28:57 "You can spend your whole life dressing up cowardice as nonviolence and you will fool maybe a lot of people, you're not fooling me."-Shallon Lester 100%!!
Fun fact: I went to both middle school and high school with Blake. We weren’t best friends or anything like that. She was a year older than me but we were in the same award-winning show choir groups. She missed school a lot while in high school. During school performances, I’d lend her some of my costume pieces since she often forgot hers. She was always nice to me, but she probably wouldn’t remember me now. I will say that everyone I know from high school can’t believe she is “Hollywood famous.” To be frank, there were way more prettier and talented people from our school. Whenever Blake gets brought up, everyone pretty much asks themselves “How?” You will probably not believe me, but we really ask ourselves in an objective, non-hateful way. We really had a lot of beautiful and talented people at our school; Blake came off as basic and I can name at least 4 other girls who looked like her and had similar credentials (cheerleader, singer, etc). And yes…everyone I know from school seems to remember her nose and says she got a major nose job. While I never had a problem with her, I recall my math teacher complaining about her. Blake missed too many school days and the teacher would not give her a pass. Therefore, she was not allowed to graduate on stage. Blake didn’t take kindly to that (from what the professor said). I heard she showed up any way, and they had to tell her to leave. I always felt as though that story encapsulated her sense of entitlement. Btw, I’m using an alias as I’d like to avoid being “canceled” myself.
Thanks for sharing your story. Did you know why she was off school so much? She just seemed to know the right people, be talented enough, pretty enough and good timing.
@@dawnbishop5803 - Yes. At the time, she was filming The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. To be honest, I think our director gave her too much leeway. She was barely in any of her senior year performances, so we had to get another girl to act as her substitute. I personally didn’t approve of the favoritism. There were high expectations when it came to being part of our world renowned show choir groups. No one else had an “understudy” in our music association (unless you had a solo), but she was granted one. It seemed pretty ridiculous considering she was probably absent for most performances. In any case, most people I know are not a fan of her movies or acting. To most of us that grew up in Burbank, she is really only wealthy/ famous because she locked in Reynolds. Her family was connected to the industry, but that’s not saying much when you consider that a lot of families in Burbank have ties to Hollywood. In my opinion, she simply hit the lotto when she snagged Ryan because she really isn’t in anything that’s memorable. Even Ryan said somewhere that his worst movie is Green Lantern, and ironically, that’s where he met Blake. I also suspect that Ryan is the type that wanted someone more normal / basic. Blake takes on the supportive role while he gets to stay in the spotlight. I also suspect that he would keep making her have kids until a boy was born. Blake is a “safe” option when compared to most Hollywood elites. Ryan (in my opinion) couldn’t handle a bombshell woman like Scarlett Johanson. I know this may come across as “hate,” but I’m being transparent when I say that everyone I know from our school did/ does not see Blake as a remarkably talented or attractive person. She is cookie-cutter “white girl pretty” to many Burbankers. So for us, we are completely bewildered by her amazing luck in life. Having said that, one cannot ignore the fact that she is making more than any of us.
I believe all this. And I genuinely think she only got to where she is because of sleeping with the likes of Harvey or something to those effects. She’s basic and can’t act.
@@Yeahsss - Honestly, I never considered the theory of “sleeping one’s way up the ladder.” But when it came to my own personal school experience, a lot of kids there just had easy lives. The stars always aligned for many of them. Obviously, that’s not the case for many people, especially for me. And before someone says, “You really don’t know if that’s the case,” at the time, I actually asked a lot of kids about their home life and challenges (their lives seemed so perfect; I really wanted to explore if their lives and challenges echoed my own at all). I could easily ask others too because I had a lot of friends from many different social circles. Believe me when I say that they virtually had no stress nor a complicated home life. I know people whose worst day was getting a flat tire. The point I’m making is that some people are born lucky. Some people don’t have to climb anything because opportunity is simply handed to them. I think Blake comes across as “non-threatening,” and with that, comes appeal. That’s probably why Swift is friends with her, since Swift likes to be center of attention. Blake by comparison is not a threat. To be honest, when we were in high school we got to see clips of Blake’s movie. We obviously congratulated her, but I truly thought that was the first and last movie I would ever see her in; it was so awful. Years later I tried to give her acting a second chance. I love shark movies, so I went to see The Shallows with a friend. That has to be top 5 worst movies I have ever seen. To this day I remember my friend and I walking out of that theater feeling like that film sucked the life and joy out of our souls. I think her career would have tanked long ago if it weren’t for Reynolds.
@@DanielSymons-z4q I can agree to that some people are just lucky and don’t have challenges beyond a flat tire or a wrong coffee order. So it makes them entitled and mean or it can because they can’t empathize.
Ohhh soo right. I learned the very very Hard Way that coworkers are not Your friends! Maybe a relationship later develops after but While my phylosophy With coworkers is to try to get along knowing that we are not friends we Just work together.
This is one reason why I keep almost everyone at a distance. People can use work, friendship, family as a ruse to insert themselves and you’re back in the same pattern
I agree with shallon that your coworkers are not your friends. But I hope you find some form of closeness with people one day as it is beneficial to your mental health.
@@Bunny11344Honestly, that's your opinion and a very subjective statement. As an empath and HSP, my mental health is better the less i am hearing and dealing with other people's first world problems.. especially in my person life since I do that enough at work (I am a social worker with the state). I spend much of my free time solo or alone. I truly confide in and ask support from God and my husband only, with few exceptions, and this works for me. I'm happier and my life is more peaceful than ever. And for some people they only have pets and confide in almost no one. Some of them might be lonely but many are happy with their freedom and self-reliant reality, state of mind.
@@adriaannridolfi507 I work in healthcare so I get what you’re saying about dealing with people and enjoying our alone time. But we still need our own personal support circle even if it’s small.
@@Bunny11344 That’s why I said I keep “almost” everyone at a distance. And like Adrian, I am a highly sensitive person and can still feel close with even strangers, that doesn’t mean they’re my friends. I’m good with a small group of people I really trust and keep mostly everyone else as acquaintances. Shallon also said these patterns can reflect in other areas of your life, not just work, and I agree with that. Also, don’t tell people how to live their lives. That’s a guilt trip and about as bad as you don’t know what you’re missing by not having kids.
@@FloridaBoy56184Nothing of what they said was a guiltrip or telling you how to live your life. Just letting you know that you need a small support circle & by how you responded it seems like you do need that cause you sound triggered.
It’s really sad and unkind what she did to that interviewer It was arrogant and unnecessary And that poor girl has actually stated somewhere she can’t have kids 😔so doubly cruel Blake’s pregnancy was announced prior to interview Then the aftermath rudeness I’ve never liked Ryan’s rude humour and I can see the nasty energy in his eyes (and many ex’s) I think that relationship isn’t healthy - and maybe Blake is struggling. The whole kiss lingers too long - and fat shaming accusation now towards Justin is a concern A covert smear campaign that is now becoming quite dangerous to his reputation as it just isn’t true Funny- I wondered why they were friends with Taylor- now I get it - pettiness victim playing and unnecessary cruelty Birds of a feather 😞💚
Pretty sure I walked in on my closest work “friend” shit talking me to my boss the other day, just by the way her face was red and the awkwardness of it makes me assume. She told me they were “talking about the schedule” when I didn’t even ask any questions. Not the first person to hate on me at work but definitely the most surprising and disappointing. I’ve had a lot of success in my time there and I’ve been able to see how jealousy makes people act nasty and turn on you. I’m moving away in January and can’t wait to never deal with these people again. Thank you for the video!
We live in a world now that says: "Its cool not to care." In sooo many aspects of life 😩 When people are rude and overly sarcastic like this for NO reason, it's like who are you trying to impress by acting so tough?? I used to think Blake was a nice girl...seems like she has more in common with Ryan when it comes to snarky SOB energy.
IMO, Blake is trying to be like her husband in several ways, but epically failing in several ways! As a DV survivor, I am disgusted with her - that role comes with massive responsibility on and off the camera!!
Shallon, I have tried your exact strategies for advocating for myself and, in result, was fired from a job and failed from a class. Both cases, a “supervisor” type person bullied me and retaliated to my speaking up by saying that I reacted unprofessionally. Thank you for speaking on trying to stay calm and prepare for a confrontation. So appreciate you ❤
Power dynamics are really diaboloical things and you need to know the exact ground you stand on if you go into direct battle, - if its less defensible than people who have actual power over you, sometimes a temporary retreat is your best, kindest to your own needs option, on your own terms ofc. No one should be giving bull in a china shop advise. I wonder if the grade issue could be brought to a wider student body/party? where you are less isolated? Doesn't sound like a reason to fail someone. Sorry you went through that.
Usually I am not the type to say "this video aligned with my frequency", because that sounds like what a hippie would say, but my god, do I feel this in my soul. Lately my college classmates have been assholes and some are borderline pathological, but I am trying not to let that bother me. One dude in my class said the other day to me: "the others are absolutely devastated that you are doing so well in life, and so they talk behind your back. But they dont have the courage to say it to your face" I believe that is a positive thing, because they are perhaps afraid of confrontation. Real bullies say it out loud, but the gremlings stay in the shadows. I even said to the dude: "I had a toxic father in my childhood. Nobody can gaslight me, because I have seen the worst. Literally no amount of gaslighting can shock me, because I have become unimpressed by It".
Question… you mentioned toxic parent. I just realized legit last month that I have a toxic mother. What’s insane is that it took me getting trapped in a BAD marriage with severe DV & he was also an emotional annihilator. I ended up having to move back in with my parents after he died. So I noticed familiarity w/ the way my mom would say or do things, very subtle even.. just get in bad moods around me all the time & go silent/cold shoulder. I was having panic attacks over small things & it hit me that she is a narcissist of some kind… Fortunately NOW I can handle myself w/men bc I was tough af before I got broken & I’ve done SO much work on myself. Broke codependency, sniff out red flags & im out instantly bc I can spot them now. BUT my mom is something else I don’t understand. She was a great mom in all aspects of say the checklist. She was super loving to me & my sis, showed up 4 everything, v thoughtful, no yelling in our home, not even swearing. My moms v Christian so picture that but she’s lacking some type of emotional component prob bc she was an abused child? Idk. She can’t connect w me. I’ve been through it w PTSD cptsd anxiety depression bc my husband terrorized me mentally & physically. Tried taking my life, gaslighting, cheated, assaulted me, broke me in every possible way & then took his own life. Not mentioning that for sympathy I just hit a rough wave of realization w my mom. We had always been super close I thought until I wasn’t okay anymore. I don’t really have anyone rn bc of the isolation & being obsessed w self improvement. Ive regressed since living w her bc it keeps me feeling stuck in that environment. I’ve tried explaining to her the seriousness of what I went through bc she doesn’t get it. Or even know how dark some things got. She just thinks I’m lazy & don’t care about anything which is 1000% untrue. I was ALOT like shallon b4 I got married. idk wtf he did to me but I’m still working on rewiring my brain. I have nowhere else to go & I outright asked her if she could even just fake it til I get back 2 myself & gtfo of her house. Just be kind & positive. I’m always both of those bc I became a ppl pleaser lol but I guess what I’m trying to ask is.. how do I either keep her from affecting me, take action or how do I shift my perspective like yours? You said the gaslighting doesn’t phase you… I’m so impressed bc her gaslighting is what causes me to shut down i guess bc my brain is going back to extreme abvse. No one else can get to me like that now but her & I have to keep myself in a positive state to push forward with some fierceness to get out & live a life I enjoy once again. PS. In my old life I had issues like yours bc I was exceptional. Ppl like to drag down what they can’t be or are intimidated by. Take it as a compliment & let it boost your ego bc you’re something special 💜
@@Susiehighschool You know what you remind me of? A monarch. Queens usually have this problem: The husband wants full control of the throne, and feels attacked because the wife is more beloved by the court then he is. So he usually tries to poison her drink, so the power is finally his. In this situation, a lot of queens (and I am not saying queen hyperbolicaly, I am in college to become a history teacher. This is literally what happened to queens in Europe) take 2 paths: go to another kingdom and stay there as a borderline refugee, or kill their husband before the man can destroy them. A lot of male abusers have a mother wound, so they see all women as mothers. Your man probably was abusing you to take revenge on his own mother, as he hates the divine feminine. The only thing you need to know is: you are not dumb for your previous decisions. No matter how much your brain tries to say: "of course you loved that man, you are just a silly little girl who lets anyone use you. You are disgusting", just ignore It. Because a lot of women have gone thru that. Imagine your own daughter (idk If you have children) goes into a toxic relationship... Would you laugh at her, or have sympathy? So have sympathy for yourself. Treat yourself with the same love as you would with a angel. Now you asked me: why am I no longer impressed with my father's cold shoulder/gaslighting and my mother's toxic comments? I have asked myself this same question. Basically, I see my mother as mentally ill. Usually people see narcissists as strong and intelligent, but in reality they have more in common with a psychiatric patient than with a normal human. Thats because their brain is damaged, and neuroscience has made brain-scans to prove It. So everytime my mom talks, I just see a mental patient. I dont take mental patients seriously, simple as that. I see them as weak and I am above them. Also, my mom is not the brightest. Most narcisists don't have the cognitive ability to think, they just act upon impulse. Like a dog would. Have you ever seen pitbull attacks on tv? The animal does not hate you personally, but it is in their DNA to attack and not think logically. As for my dad, the games have become old, and he just told me the truth one day. Which is strange, because narcisists never tell the truth. But he is a old man by now, death is approaching and I guess he wanted to do at least one honest thing before he passes. He told me: "Lisa, I just simply do not care about you. And all your life, I never have. Once you understand that I just dont care about your happiness, you Will finally be free. Understand that your mother doesnt care. Live your life fully, and never expect love from us, because we are incapable of It" Now, I just follow my lone path. Daddy said it best, he just never cared, and that made me a free woman
Honestly, I think this movie and that “lingering” kiss she complained about moved her in different ways. I think it awakened something inside her. Something that’s she’s clearly missing from her husband. It probably rocked her “solid” foundation and she doesn’t want that narrative out there. Instead she’s going down a dangerous route by making it seem he was inappropriate with her. That’s my take. I also believe she forced her coworkers to choose a side when promoting this movie. And if I were a director/producer I wouldnt want any of those actors that choose to be bullies in any of my projects.
Slight correction, Shallon... It was The GREEKS who coined the word "barbarian", centuries before The Germanic tribes overran Western Europe. They(The Greeks)thought Latin sounded like "bar bar" also
Weren’t there rumors for years on the Gossip Girl set that Leighton Meester and Blake Lively didn’t get along? Leighton always lay low when it came to fame versus Blake always seemed to want to be in the limelight.
I saw the interview that Blake did where she chatted with her co-star and ignored the interviewer I thought of you... I thought what would Shallon do if it was her...oh how I wished it was you...Blake would have been sorry
Your coworkers are not your friends! Never trust them! In fact be very careful! In my own experience my coworkers will make you look bad on purpose to make themselves look good to the boss/management and be valued at work, and won’t think of anything that it will cause you to get fired; they are your rivals at work! Different situations and different jobs but happened to me more than once!
4:05 I’d just like to point out that as a CVS pharmacist, if you’re having issues with the pharmacy, it’s usually something out of our control and we’re just the messengers. So maybe leave the pharmacy staff out of your newfound assertiveness 😂
Fighting bullies in the workplace isn’t worth it. Find a better environment. You have to pick your battles. Im a nurse so there’s plenty of bullies. It’s not worth it. It’s just a job.
Bullies are everywhere ( even in our families, or at the corner store, or your kids teacher) you going to run forever? Better learn to deal with them sooner than later. Choose your battles win the war. Edit: 29:42
If it's your dream job it might be worth it, other than that I totally agree with you. Bullies and narcissists live to come to work and take their insecurities and dysfunctional life on other people, often in long game, subtle, manipulative way. The more conflict they create the more energy it gives them so they can go for a long time and keep pretending like they're not the one causing it since they often have assistants, I mean work besties, to marginalize others through skewing their opinions of others. Managers and higher ups usually don't like handling that so they let it go unchecked as long as the job is getting done, regardless if they're creating a toxic work environment. It's unfortunate but that's how it is and it's good to try and protect oneself and walk away early if possible or stay on the sidelines.
I think we’re seeing the real Blake after years of confusing her with / loving her because of her role as Serena. Her weird dynamic with Ryan is so cringe. I would never want a husband like him. He seems so insecure and exhausting.
SHALLON I’m sooooo excited to meet you next week at the NYC event!!!!! I’m bringing my mom too! We’re excited to get all glammed up and meet other Shalligators ❤️
She’s hanging out with Taylor Swift too much! Sorry, not sorry. I get their friendship now! JS Always the victim and looking for a fight to be the victim. I’ve never had any opinion of Blake before this. Her being offended saying he fat shamed her? What?! Ughh
Both have this obsession with being the “popular girl”. Blake never stopped being Serena van der Woodsen (popular girl who is somehow always the victim) and Taylor Swift never stopped being highschool prom queen (that she never was) 😂
I come from a place of where my Mom is the Narcissist who behaved like a spoiled obnoxious bully. She was my first bully. I used to marvel at how well she could talk shit about other people and totally win them over like nothing. And here I was...sweet. Sincere. And I usually bombed lol. Royally. I got used to it and didn't care in my teens because I began to get really fkn angry by age 12. Anyway- I like some of the things you said. Straight talk. You are having those hard conversations. This Blake Lively fiasco let me just tell you...the media calls her "out of touch" "weird" "tone-deaf" when actually, those are red flags and I am 99.9 sure she is a Narcissist. The way she flounces around talking endlessly on and on and on, as costars are visably uncomfortable and she seems oblivious...the way she behaves like she's riding on a float in a big parade the rest of us call "life"...the obvious pleasure she had steam rolling over the interviewer...oh I am so freakin' glad she did. Because this is rare to see, a Narcissist exposing themselves so publicly. Something like Bigfoot caught on tape.😂 I am enjoying this. Last night while watching one woman's review on RUclips I laughed so hard by her retching when she told us about all the buzz...I almost choked on popcorn. (Literally. ) My daughter came running from the next room. After my nde and crying from laughing, I have to say...I'm glad we are having real discussions about this shit. I'd like to see people with raised awareness and less spoiled entitled people. (FYI some people try to tell me : " 36:37 Mindy ALL actors are Narcissists." Um...no. No, they are not. I don't think some people have a clear understanding of what this word means. It's not self promotion. There is a certain kind of energy that a Narcissist has when they talk about themselves, almost like they can't stop. It's compulsive. To control the narrative and how people think and feel by oversharing "steering the ship" such as, taking control over a movie's production. There are many many red flags in her interviews if people pay attention.
There’s another interview from the same day with Blake and Parker. A male interviewer this time. And she’s gladly chatting with him about the outfits. Though, she still “jokingly” asks him if he’s gonna cry at the end of this interview because everyone else today has been crying…
Justin Baldoni actually cared about this projec. This was a passion project for him and he wanted to put this movie on the screen before Blake even signed on. Its a shame Blake had to railroad him.
Katherine fought for having healthy work time and she dislike how they ruined her character, and she had every right to do that. And she is happy now and she makes actually good stuff now, well better. Not much bcs she has family.
Mask off and massive ego/mean girl keeps popping out. She wears the trousers in that house, Ryan was bullied by his family growing up and had/has anxiety, their dynamic makes more sense now after seeing this passive aggressive side of her.
Tea is that Ryan apparently plays up his “I love my wife!! My wife is everything” role because he knows that she will never surpass him. Apparently scar Jo’s fame was an issue in their relationship. He’s the type of man who parades around his caged bird like it’s show and tell essentially! Blake is not strong of an actor and is still riding off of gossip girl fame, that was really her biggest role 😂
Someone commented “Blake even makes his back pain about her” and that’s the realest thing I’ve read all week
😂😂😂😂
Omg😂😂😂
When the male protagonist is more empathetic about the issue raised in the book than the female protagonist ...
So sad..
She loves to say the character is “more than just what she has been through,” but what is that bc all she promos is the last name is Bloom and she wears flowers bc of “Bloom.” She’s as deep as her name 🙄 Blake is just not that deep of a person or actress. Her sense of humor is that type that is supposed to be funny but falls flat. She desperately wants to be deep tho
Blake seems to try to be funny like her husband Ryan but it doesn't work. She should give it up. She is tone deaf if she doesn't realize she is not funny. And to get people to see the movie she said, "bring your friends, wear your florals and see the movie " what????? She is acting as if seeing the 1 movie is like Taylor's fans wearing friendship bracelets to Taylor's concerts. Not the same thing.
Actually he is the male antagonist... crazy ironic when the bad guy is actually the good guy here.
Girl he was raised right!
We are witnessing the real Blake Lively by accident. 😂😂😂😂
Her PR team deserves a raise
And Ryan can’t do anything about it. He can’t edit this in real life and real time 😂😂😂😂
🎉 best comment award baby 👏
Maybe the real Blake Lively are the friends we made along the way?
I think she tries to be witty and clever, but she's neither.
Blake has spoken more about her new hair care line than about domestic violence in this film. Says it all. Girl sit down. She’s trying to make this her Barbie moment and she’s failing fast
Oh and don't forget wearing Britney Spears' Versace dress!
@@jilloneill71 and she obviously don’t even know what hairbrush is it is so ironic and at the same time so tragic bcs what she did to Justin and how she is ignorant over DV part of the movie.
It's almost sad the way people that famous can lose touch with reality. They're Teflon and get away with absolutely everything, so it gets worse and worse, but then one day they get exposed.
She missed the memo saying that in the barbenheimer kind of marketing her movie would be Oppenheimer and her husband's would be Barbie
It’s so disgusting. Blake and her hubs are vile humans. Everything with them is about making money and think they’re so elite.
Taylor and Blake never left high school. They both give out huge mean girl energy and they love to be messy.
Birds of a feather flock together 🐦
Sometimes, they are the high-school. Wherever they go, it is high-school.
Gigi hadid is good friends with them as well. I wonder if she is a mean girl?
@@imjustagirltake a guess
Omg so true!!! 😂
Justin had back issues and was managing his injury. Blake is so narcissistic, she victimized herself accusing him of fat shaming.
And yet she fat shamed a journalist.. have you seen the video ?? A real life mean girl
I feel like it could say alot about her marriage. Maybe ryan is at her about losing weight now that she's had 4 kids.
And she's clearly deeply insecure. Everything to do with her physical appearance is a dig if it isn't glowing praise.
Exactly what Shallon said, she's always expecting to get triggered for some reason
Blake IS a real Bully. Disgusting.
The mask came off for her and I think she’s freaking out. That’s why they’re coming out with these un flattering stories about Justin which I don’t think they’re true.
Her PR is having hit pieces written about him and the public is not blindly believing it 😭
Reminds me meghan markle and Kate 😂 how she tried to paint Kate as the bully
@@amarjotsingh8455Absolutely! I was thinking the same exact thing.
Kate gives mean girl energy too, stop saying it’s Meghan
@@payday9448 lol no nutmeg is a bully everyone she knows. Her staff keeps quitting where ever she goes bc she’s asshole w everyone she meets 😂
Blake made the whole cast pick a side and ostracize the DIRECTOR of the movie. It backfired though! 😭
literally a high school bully move omg
Well I wouldn’t want to hire those actors for any future project if I were a director or producer….
Well she got the cast and he got the audience. I would say he won.
The WHOLE cast did not unfollow him.
He is also the main actor.
I always knew that Blake wasn’t a nice girl. I’ve always had this sense that she was secretly a mean girl and I feel so VINDICATED!
Lol 😂❤
Someone said that she covered it really well all these years, that both her and Ryan did with a well paid PR team patching up things along the way but if it got to the public it would have shown earlier who they are and it's believable. She has the typical rich girl snobbish attitude but deep down knows that she doesn't have any real skills and takes out that insecurity on people with less wealth and power than her with the support of her toxic friends, terrible combo, high school type of a clique that doesn't grow up and mature, pathetic to be honest and it's a public service whenever these type of people get exposed because it's usually not easy and innocent people get further marginalized by bullies.
Blake revealing that Ryan wrote a scene isn't the flex she thought it to be , as it only revealed that Ryan took away a paid position of an actual writer!
Amid the writer's strike too! 👀
It was only one scene though, the writer was still writing the rest of the film…the shitty part is that writer found out their entire scene was re written at the premier…which is insulting as hell and messed up to find out after working on a film that part of your work, skill and effort was completely altered on a day the writer should have been proud of the film the wrote the script for, and it really takes away from their work.
Here's another one - they used the opportunity not only to promote her "style" and shampoo but also Ryan's alcohol business with a drink they featured and named "it ends with a buzz"...how tone deaf and opportunistic in a slimy type of way. Her and Colleens insta was slammed with comments calling them out especially since Colleen double down on her support for Blake, seems like she's really after fame, power, money and validation herself but presenting as if she cares about dv victims...
I love how her bestie Taylor Swift ain’t saying a damn thing. She ain’t about to get involved in this mess 😂
Taylor stayed quiet about cancelled concerts in Vienna so no way she's gonna comment on this.
@@tmarie69 Taylor never stands for anything unless it benefits Taylor!
@sam11297 very image conscious, crowd pleasing for sure
@@sam11297 Yup definitely, she only ever does it it with benefit her image, she's so fake but I guess it works haha
Any day now all four of them are going to be out and about having dinner or brunch or going to a concert of some sort. Taylor Swift and her boyfriend will swoop in to say Blake lively and her hubby‘s butts
NEVER EVER Think Your Co-Workers are your friends. When your livelihood is on the line, every weapon possible will be used AGAINST You in a work environment. I've experienced this several times. I finally learned my lesson.
And there are usually several covert narcissists in the office that subtly over time gain control of larger groups and then stear those groups very skillfully if they need to gang up on someone but staying clean themselves so that nothing can be traced back to them, they play many manipulation games with their desire to be in control but deep down being insecure and not actually working towards a role that can be influential in a positive way. They can be sickly sweet and nosey, often the "office mom" type that gets to hear people's troubles when they confide in them and then they have leverage against them in the future...so many games, it's what helps them pass the time and cope with their personal dysfunctional life.
Even if she wanted to promote her businesses too, she should’ve donated proceeds to DV organizations. When it came to the PR for the film she should have brought on a DV therapist or advocate and put together bouquets while discussing informative conversations on her instagram. She should have brought all of the flowers that she’s making to woman shelters. There’s so many ways how the marketing could’ve been handled in a sweet way with a heavy issue.
Girl they should’ve hired you
@@dmell9456For real!!!
Such great beautiful ideas 💗
She gave the vibe that she did not give a flying fuck about the topic of DV. The shift in consciousness has been real and people are wondering why couldn't she just do a summer romcom instead of promoting this film like it's one!
Thatscwhat I thought .....isnit to late@@dmell9456
I had a boss bullying me. I thought he was mean to everyone, but my coworkers told me otherwise. I planned to leave right away. The rest was grey rocking until I was out. Found a better paying job, more vacation days, good bosses.
If a coworker bullies you, fight. Don't fight a boss. Not worth it.
What if the bully is the manager ( not the boss nor the coworkers ) ?
Exactly.
Blake lively is a legend in her own mind!
Yup and her very few die hard mentally unstable friend
Blake's a nepo baby
🤣🤣COLD‼️ But, true ‼️
@@PureSparkles22Is she?
I call it “mommy syndrome” when older women try to boss others around. Happened to me at Pilates, another woman taking the class was ordering me how to wipe the reformer machine down after and telling me not to forgot my water bottle. Like I was a freaking child. I’m 40 years old 😂
I've noticed this behaviour too but why are they doing this? 🤔 Is it because they have no power at home so they try to "dominate" somewhere else?
That sounds too simple for whats going on here, its not just about some little pushy reminders, she took so much away from actual dv victims and let's not forget the awful mean girl bully behavior in that interview with the Swedish lady.
@@AA-iy4gmmaybe it’s mom syndrome on top of already having a horribly rude egocentric bad personality, combined with having too much power.
Shallon I have followed you for years and years and love you a lot, you are my people which I don’t find often. I’m from UK and always wanted to go to one of your meet ups but never did. I just moved to New York 3 weeks ago and I’m having a tough time (natural, but still tough) I see your meet up is literally a couple blocks from my new apartment and know it’s fate and it’s come EXACTLY when it was meant to in my life. I can’t wait. Thank you for all you do 🙏
I love comments like these!! Shallon is the reason I changed my entire life and moved from Boston to rural Utah. I love that we can all bond over how shallon made us better people! Have so much fun at her meet up!! I wish I could make it
Omg thats awesome have fun
YESSSSSS go have fun love so happy for you❤️
@@Sophia-ks9yuI love this so much! I have been a silent fan for the longest time, and these responses are so heartwarming and timely ❤ wish I’d msgd out years ago 😂 but everything happens at the right time for a reason 🙏 I love that you’ve made those moves, it’s not a small thing at all so full respect. Hopefully we will meet one day x
@@niziangely5469thanks honey xxx
It seems like Blake is trying to become more like her husband, trying to be “funny” and snarky. I can’t tell who she is authentically.
Blake Lively probably doesn't know who she is but needs constant and intense attention
Not a Ryan Reynolds fan but he doesn’t come off as a dbg in interviews. She does. She’s the problem
I asked Shallon to cover this, and she did! She listens to us! Even if it’s a coincidence, I still love her ❤
I was hoping for her to bring up Blake too
I also asked her. Love shallon ❤
I also asked her
Haha same, it's a hot topic right now
Finally, everyone knows!!! Blake Lively (movie mean girl) is best friends with Taylor Swift (music mean girl)
That’s why they get along so great! Just mean girls all around
Exactly 👍 Blake has always beeen a men’s girl. Leighton meester and her didn’t get along because Leighton had a rough upbringing please read about it.
I never liked T.S. She makes her money off of trashing her ex’s. There is a reason they broke up! Probably because of her!
They do give off that vibe when together. It looks like a bunch of high school girls trying to prove to everybody how cool they are
@@missdime7433that's what I commented somewhere else. Leighton is down-to-earth and very nice, unlike her Gossip Girl character, whereas Blake is exactly like her Gossip Girl character apparently. So that's why they didn't even talk when they weren't on set together.
That interview was so difficult to watch. Classical mean girl behavior to completely ignore someone in a three way conversation and not even bother to look at them.
To make it even worse, the interviewer has now said she can't have children. So Blake's comment felt "like a bullet". Brutal.
And such a hypocrite too, wanting to jump on the band wagon of celebrities that legitimately got asked awkward questions, she gave that sweet lady such a hard time over asking about the fashion on a period drama movie, or course that's going to be asked, and now for this movie "It ends with us" she is mostly talking about dresses her shampoo, such a hypocrite and showing her real shallow self.
Shallon,
A couple years ago I left a comment on a video that you uploaded. My comment was not rude or offensive IMO, anyways, a troll came for me and attacked me over my comment. Within 15 minutes you came to my rescue and politely told the troll to get lost. I will never forget that and will forever appreciate your kindness and support! Even though we don’t know each other I feel like you would be a true ride or die friend. ❤
Never enjoyed her acting. So dull and she plays the same character the exact same way. First it was Serena, then Serena got a group of friends that shared pants, now Serena is in an abusive relationship. *Yawns*
😂😂😂😂
But The Sisterhood Of The Traveling Pants came out before Gossip Girl though lol
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I was a bit of a goof at my current job when I first started and I remember my managers being cold and treating me like I was stupid. But I figured it out, now I’m one of the best employees and all my managers are warm and even act like they want to be friends. It’s a good reminder that friendliness at the workplace isn’t genuine x they’re only kind because I’m valuable to them now
Currently going through this now. One of my colleagues said I needed to get married to help me get serious and I shifted gears immediately. It’s been 4weeks of studying, I’m exhausted but I’m finally getting some respect
Sooo true!
Not just Workplace most people are only nice and very friendly to those who have something they want or are useful somehow to them. That's why everyone is very friendly if your nice looking or wealthy. If your fat, ugly, old, poor no one wants to be your friend
In the work place of course you better add value or you won't last long there. Friendships are not what you should be seeking in the work place but respect and you only get respect in the work place if you not only do your job but care to be known as valuable to your bosses and co workers
@@florencehaber9847 well yes that was the point of my comment.
It's no wonder Blake and Taylor are besties. Both so petty
This is beyond petty. This is just being rude unprovoked (which I agree they both are)
Ever since I saw Blake at the Super Bowl with Taylor it made me view her in a more cringey way idk why. Maybe it was the crimped hair
I'm a fan of Taylor's and i can tell that she's petty😅 and mean😅
They aren't even besties though and Taylor Swift was never known for being mean or rude to anyone
@@jclyntoledo, Taylor Swift is Not racist, so I think the friendship might be casual. If Blake drops the N word, it might be a problem.Just saying I knew the family several years ago, she cannot help who she is, it’s her up bringing.
I've always preferred Leighton Meester over Blake Lively. Blake is a nepo baby, while Leighton has a more humble background and has more merit. Also i preferred her character in gossip girl.
wasn't Leighton born in prison while her mom was incarcerated? very humble beginnings!
The latest today is that Ryan and Blake saved Justin's "disaster". Justin said early on that he wouldnt do the next book, maybe Blake would do it. Its such a shame, Justin has such good intentions in life, hes hugely into shining a light on toxic masculinity.
Ryan and Blake ARE THE DISASTER
I won’t watch the next one. Justin did a great job of directing.
The follow up book was weak. Doubt it will make a good movie.
My boyfriend saw the thumbnail and wanted to watch the vid. He said I sound just like you. He subscribed to your channel 😂
9:30 - 9:40. YES! There was an interview with Blake post-MeToo and she was asked what her “power outfit” is, what she feels powerful and confident in. She got so defensive and said “you can ask me another question”. She literally had a spread in InStyle the following month ABOUT her style. She was just looking for something to get defensive about and act like some victim. Hmmmm, remember when she was in several photos all over H. Weinstein?
She defended Weinstein she literally wrote she never experienced that from him and that she is so heartbroken to read this. But she never said she believed the victims or that she supported them
@@pinagrrrr2280kinda like Ashton and Mika with their friend….makes you think was Blake one of those Weinstein girls???
@@stolio223
Yes totally. The same thing.
Both couples supposed to be funny and cool and relax and so loved kinda normal in that mess of Hollywood.. but then in these kind od the situations you see who someone is. And I really liked Blake and Mila, Ashton never and Ryan form time to time, not so much as Hugh Jackman or some really good actors, but I did appreciate his humor from time to time bcs it was kinda smart and witty, and Ashton was just childish sometimes too much over- the -top and not funny (too much typical american humor that starta great and then.. go to far not in sarcastic or smart way, at least for me and I am European), also Demi thing was sooo.. bad. Also ScarJo never said anything about Ryan and I really like her, she is the most talented one of those five, and Ryan has also that ability to make big thing out of Deadpool so I was OK and their family life looked most of the time good - well I was kinda afraid she will keep popping the kids until he gets the boy but otherwise I kinda happy - I do like big families and mine was like this and especially my father one so close four of them bcs of our nonna.. And Blake seemed really genuine she spoke how she was privileged bcs she grew up and is a nepo and got the job in the Sisterhood bcs she was hot and tall blonde, and not bcs she could act, then she spoke about child trafficking and bad stuff .. but then this Weinstein thing.. and this with DV and not only this but how she treats Justin.. so bad. And I don’t think she bullied Kate Middelton bcs nobody knew then what was going on and that family is not private and Ryan being Canadian and Canada part of the Commonwealth people deserved the answears but she could ask in more polite way ofc. Now I saw that interview with that poor Norwegian lady that was so nice and respectful, and o boy, so mean entitled girl vibes, like I get you are pregnant and hormones but that woman gor bullied there, and she can’t even have children beside being fat shamed and it is another human being with the problems you know nothing about. So she grew up in Hollywood is Hollywood brat, Harvey stayed alway bcs she was so privileged and now she thinks she is top of the world bcs od Taylor and Ryan. So bad. I think her poor career won’t survive this she is just not good actress, and I am sad they dragged Hugh into this mess I really respect him and thing highly about him and he is amazing actor.
Duuuuude I feel so validated right now! A few years ago, I watched the Vogue 21 questions video with Blake and I found her to be rather rude and off putting in her demeanour and responses. I’m disgusted to hear all this other stuff now. Called it! Thanks Shallon xo 😘
Blake and Ryan seem like the popular couple in school. Seemingly nice with a 1000 friends, but something is deeply off about them.
blake is out of touch, & it shows. shes the type of girl whos always been able to breeze through life, comes from an upper class background (so no money worries), shes gorgeous, & her parents are in the business. It doesn't seem like she has too much depth or emotional connection with her when it comes to speaking with an "average joe."
that bump comment was plain nasty from her YIKES
Shes not gorgeous though, she is quite average looking, I'm in the Midwest and have seen girls with a face and hair like that. She is just so overhyped and portrayed as some humble, down to Earth girl, we have seen that it often takes soo little for people to get hyped up over something little and create some fantasy version of that person only later to be disappointed...
“We are selling them stock in our life, and guess what? Shareholders hold the power….”
Dang gurl, that was powerful 🤯
this line got to me. great way of saying "trust yourself".
I’ve realized that not everyone will like me, but I’m _almost always nervous and afraid_ that the person who doesn’t like me will say or make up bad things about me to _other people_ and cause them to dislike me and that one person that doesn’t like me becomes a _mob of people_ that don’t like me.
It does happen that people undermine you to other people. But that says more about them than you. Most of the time other people want to like you….life is easier if you are not in conflict with others.
Thanks :)
“I met a child baby named Brogan” 😂😂😂😂 Shallon you’re hilarious
I was howling because its my boyfriends surname 🤭😂 We’re Scottish though. There are a lot of child babies named Brogan this neck of the woods 😂 Shallon please come to Scotland 🙏🏻🏴🍸🥂
She’s literally a natural born comedian 💯 very entertaining for sure
yo I went to school with a girl called Brogyn 😭😭
@@rethgual8227one of my sister’s high school best friends was named Brogan… she was BUUUUUTCH
Blake is always trying so hard to be a "cool girl" and this very publicised press tour really exposed how self absorbed she is, she talks more about being married to Ryan and her hair brand than the subject of DV in her own movie
This is karma for blake lively, she was mocking Princess Catherine when she was sick
Knew she was a mean girl when she made that jab at Princess Catherine!
Yeah that’s the time when I lost respect for Blake Lively.
I've had a bully at work. The press and push and push and push until they thunk they can do what they like towards you. It was awful. I learned from it and don't give anyone an inch now. Someone tried it in work and I put them straight back in their place. We have to stick uo for ourselves because Noone will do it for us.
I only learned the lesson of not becoming friends with my coworkers this year, age 41. I wish I had learned this so much sooner. It would have saved me from so much heartache.
Aww I learned at the age of 28. 😅
@@donkichonky I was a SAHM and only joined the workforce at age 38.
At the rate the world is at never be friends with a group of people in a formal setting, chances are they come together and gossip about you , they commonly don't like you, they gang up on you, I've learnt this the hard way 😂
Life lessons happen at any age. It’s better to learn now than never. ♥️
This has happened to me (always a woman, almost always a frumpy middle aged woman) at almost every single place I’ve worked at. To the point I just decided to be a SAHM (which also drove them crazy when they found out I get to now basically be a spoiled princess from my super buff super successful husband - they weren’t ever a super boss babe type). WHERE WAS THIS VIDEO THEN, SHALLON?!?
My husband has said that it keeps happening to me because I’m the epitome of an iron fist in an velvet glove. I want to have a good time, I genuinely don’t feel competitive (because I don’t view most people as even competition). I generally like helping others when I can, and I don’t mind making an assist rather than score the actual goal. So people think I’m a pushover.
But it is exhausting. Longest I held out was 3 years.
@@itsjaybright aww thank you!!! Baby boy is in the 99th percentile for height and can already say “yeah”, “hi”, “mama” (although not reliably yet) and roar at 6.75 months old! He’s not fully crawling yet but definitely able to scoot around on the ground and can push himself into a standing position! It’s great getting to be here with him and watch him grow. He’s a very good baby and I never have to deal with bullshit office politics again!
What's a SAHM? I've also had similar experiences with mostly women in the workplace, and it's sad 😢and annoying 😑 because I'm just trying to do my job. However, I've found out that me being myself and doing my job well is seen as a threat to those who are insecure in their positions.
I never heard of the expression "iron fist with a velvet glove" before. I even googled it and is defined as someone who seems to be gentle but is in fact forceful and determined. Sadly, this definition and your description of your experience are all too relatable to me. I try to take most situations I perceive with a grain of salt, but some signs of disrespect are undeniable. The question I'm left with is how to proceed and how not to compromise who I am. Sometimes this feels like a complete burden. It sounds like you are in a much better place now and good luck to you and your family!
I hope Blake is watching this because you’re someone who can actually call her out and she can’t scoff at it.
These celebs are going to be mad that we don't pedestalize them like before
You are 100% correct about the workplace. They dont hove a fuck about anything but the bottom line. Ive been saying that for years (starting with HR who is employed by the same boss!)
Ryan Reynolds has always come off as annoying to me
He tries sooo hard to be funny. And he never is. He is cringe.
Shallon we have all been WAITING for this girl!!!!!
Blake was def trying to pull a barbenheimer with this movie and deadpool and be the next hollywood power couple like bradglina 🤨
Does anyone else think that Blake is trying to be like Ryan with the sarcastic comebacks?
Yes, and she can't pull it off
I thought that from the beginning that Blake is trying to mimic her husband's humor and instead of being funny her PR team is cleaning up her brand. She needs to stop copying her husband cuz she can't pull it off like he can.
Thank you this. As another woman who has come out the other side of DV, with a young baby, Blake’s behaviour and attitude is the literal worse. She seems super out of touch, entitled and like a mix of Chrisy Teigen, circa 2007 x misogynist bully. The premise of this movie sounded appealing but I don't think I can sit through it now, she’s ruined it 🤮
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A couple of things I'd like to note. We don't really know what has gone on in the Blake/Justin situation, but what I know for sure is it's obvious Blake has a history of being mean, disrespectful and overall immature with her answers to questions in interviews. I also know that the movie is about a serious subject, but she 'chose' to market it like a rom-com with her fashion statements, which was just wrong and an insult to anyone who has experienced or is experiencing domestic violence. Why didn't she put more emphasis on the topic and talk about it more? All she talked about were the "florals" and "grabbing your girlfriends to go watch It Ends With Us." To me, these are the real issues. My mother always used to say, "If someone shows you who they are, believe them." I believe this about Blake.
And that's enough, we don't need a video proof of whatever is going on between them, her other behavior is enough to conclude, plus people that worked with him before had only positive things to say which can't be said for her.
You’re so funny without even trying 🤣🤣
Taylor Swift and Blake Lively were both bullied in school and now they're bullies
We all were, that’s not an excuse.
Her Parents were bullies, I knew them and their friends.
Yay I was hoping you would cover this 😄 I am Justin’s side..Blake seems like such a mean girl. Also as you said they are at work… I’m shocked they couldn’t act (their literal job) and pretend to be okay and take pics together!
Because she's not a good actress
Thank you so much!!!! I am a survivor of DV. I escaped with two little girls 8 month and 2 1/2 years old. Blake is so disrespectful to all of us who survived DV. She should not told about fashion, music and her friends. Content of this movie is DV!
I think they been trying to sell Blake off as a new Sarah Jessica parker but I never worked.
They should be friends 😂 along with JLO and Meghan markle 😂
@@amarjotsingh8455she took shots at Catherine Middleton so she’ll definitely be bbf with markle 🤮
The podcast Beyond the Blinds has some steaming hot tea on Blake’s career and Blake and Ryan’s relationship.
Ooh… what is the tea?
@@katec5105she slept to her way to the top and that Ryan is a cheater & cheated on Scarlett J w/blake
@@PorcelynnnI heard that she was a Weinstein girl 🤢
I was just listening to that…she was a casting couch girl!! They called her a social climber! Everyone should listen to it!!
I could see that
I don’t know if it’s just because she’s married to beta Ryan Reynolds (who genuinely seems nice), but I never understood why people thought Blake Lively was such a nice girl’s girl.
When she made the snarky remark about Princess Kate followed by the non-apology, and even before then, I thought something was off with her.
Also her remark from years ago how “no one would ask a man about his wardrobe.” Blake Lively is a woman who has had a complete plastic surgery face change, breast augmentation, etc. etc. trying to act like the interviewer was being sexist. Give me a break.
Ryan Reynold seems nice? I don't think so.
@@aigaoliveira3278 I really have no idea about RR. People "seem to assume" he's nice. But then again, they did the same with Blake.
Blake is so shallow. She has no idea about domestic violence. How she explains the movie is appalling. And now her husband looks like an idiot to me as well, because he left Scarlett for this airhead
Actually he left Scarlet because he couldn’t handle her being the star among the two of them.
@@Lily88ag78He cheated on her
I used to have such a girl crush on Blake but this whole thing has really changed my perspective
Same. What a gut punch. Starting to affect my view of Ryan as well, my true crush.
I genuinely dont know how she could be this tone deaf in the promotion of this movie. Whatever drama is happening behind closed doors, that she thinks it's appropriate to promote a movie with DV like this tells me she's not all there.
28:57 "You can spend your whole life dressing up cowardice as nonviolence and you will fool maybe a lot of people, you're not fooling me."-Shallon Lester 100%!!
Fun fact: I went to both middle school and high school with Blake. We weren’t best friends or anything like that. She was a year older than me but we were in the same award-winning show choir groups. She missed school a lot while in high school. During school performances, I’d lend her some of my costume pieces since she often forgot hers. She was always nice to me, but she probably wouldn’t remember me now. I will say that everyone I know from high school can’t believe she is “Hollywood famous.” To be frank, there were way more prettier and talented people from our school. Whenever Blake gets brought up, everyone pretty much asks themselves “How?” You will probably not believe me, but we really ask ourselves in an objective, non-hateful way. We really had a lot of beautiful and talented people at our school; Blake came off as basic and I can name at least 4 other girls who looked like her and had similar credentials (cheerleader, singer, etc). And yes…everyone I know from school seems to remember her nose and says she got a major nose job. While I never had a problem with her, I recall my math teacher complaining about her. Blake missed too many school days and the teacher would not give her a pass. Therefore, she was not allowed to graduate on stage. Blake didn’t take kindly to that (from what the professor said). I heard she showed up any way, and they had to tell her to leave. I always felt as though that story encapsulated her sense of entitlement. Btw, I’m using an alias as I’d like to avoid being “canceled” myself.
Thanks for sharing your story. Did you know why she was off school so much? She just seemed to know the right people, be talented enough, pretty enough and good timing.
@@dawnbishop5803 - Yes. At the time, she was filming The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. To be honest, I think our director gave her too much leeway. She was barely in any of her senior year performances, so we had to get another girl to act as her substitute. I personally didn’t approve of the favoritism. There were high expectations when it came to being part of our world renowned show choir groups. No one else had an “understudy” in our music association (unless you had a solo), but she was granted one. It seemed pretty ridiculous considering she was probably absent for most performances.
In any case, most people I know are not a fan of her movies or acting. To most of us that grew up in Burbank, she is really only wealthy/ famous because she locked in Reynolds. Her family was connected to the industry, but that’s not saying much when you consider that a lot of families in Burbank have ties to Hollywood. In my opinion, she simply hit the lotto when she snagged Ryan because she really isn’t in anything that’s memorable. Even Ryan said somewhere that his worst movie is Green Lantern, and ironically, that’s where he met Blake. I also suspect that Ryan is the type that wanted someone more normal / basic. Blake takes on the supportive role while he gets to stay in the spotlight. I also suspect that he would keep making her have kids until a boy was born. Blake is a “safe” option when compared to most Hollywood elites. Ryan (in my opinion) couldn’t handle a bombshell woman like Scarlett Johanson. I know this may come across as “hate,” but I’m being transparent when I say that everyone I know from our school did/ does not see Blake as a remarkably talented or attractive person. She is cookie-cutter “white girl pretty” to many Burbankers. So for us, we are completely bewildered by her amazing luck in life. Having said that, one cannot ignore the fact that she is making more than any of us.
I believe all this. And I genuinely think she only got to where she is because of sleeping with the likes of Harvey or something to those effects. She’s basic and can’t act.
@@Yeahsss - Honestly, I never considered the theory of “sleeping one’s way up the ladder.” But when it came to my own personal school experience, a lot of kids there just had easy lives. The stars always aligned for many of them. Obviously, that’s not the case for many people, especially for me. And before someone says, “You really don’t know if that’s the case,” at the time, I actually asked a lot of kids about their home life and challenges (their lives seemed so perfect; I really wanted to explore if their lives and challenges echoed my own at all). I could easily ask others too because I had a lot of friends from many different social circles. Believe me when I say that they virtually had no stress nor a complicated home life. I know people whose worst day was getting a flat tire. The point I’m making is that some people are born lucky. Some people don’t have to climb anything because opportunity is simply handed to them. I think Blake comes across as “non-threatening,” and with that, comes appeal. That’s probably why Swift is friends with her, since Swift likes to be center of attention. Blake by comparison is not a threat. To be honest, when we were in high school we got to see clips of Blake’s movie. We obviously congratulated her, but I truly thought that was the first and last movie I would ever see her in; it was so awful. Years later I tried to give her acting a second chance. I love shark movies, so I went to see The Shallows with a friend. That has to be top 5 worst movies I have ever seen. To this day I remember my friend and I walking out of that theater feeling like that film sucked the life and joy out of our souls. I think her career would have tanked long ago if it weren’t for Reynolds.
@@DanielSymons-z4q I can agree to that some people are just lucky and don’t have challenges beyond a flat tire or a wrong coffee order. So it makes them entitled and mean or it can because they can’t empathize.
Ohhh soo right. I learned the very very Hard Way that coworkers are not Your friends! Maybe a relationship later develops after but While my phylosophy With coworkers is to try to get along knowing that we are not friends we Just work together.
Same here! The my co workers that remained my friends, we no longer work together 😆
@@MischievousSalma same
"I didn't come this far to only come this far" how powerful.
This is one reason why I keep almost everyone at a distance. People can use work, friendship, family as a ruse to insert themselves and you’re back in the same pattern
I agree with shallon that your coworkers are not your friends. But I hope you find some form of closeness with people one day as it is beneficial to your mental health.
@@Bunny11344Honestly, that's your opinion and a very subjective statement. As an empath and HSP, my mental health is better the less i am hearing and dealing with other people's first world problems.. especially in my person life since I do that enough at work (I am a social worker with the state). I spend much of my free time solo or alone. I truly confide in and ask support from God and my husband only, with few exceptions, and this works for me. I'm happier and my life is more peaceful than ever. And for some people they only have pets and confide in almost no one. Some of them might be lonely but many are happy with their freedom and self-reliant reality, state of mind.
@@adriaannridolfi507 I work in healthcare so I get what you’re saying about dealing with people and enjoying our alone time. But we still need our own personal support circle even if it’s small.
@@Bunny11344 That’s why I said I keep “almost” everyone at a distance. And like Adrian, I am a highly sensitive person and can still feel close with even strangers, that doesn’t mean they’re my friends. I’m good with a small group of people I really trust and keep mostly everyone else as acquaintances.
Shallon also said these patterns can reflect in other areas of your life, not just work, and I agree with that.
Also, don’t tell people how to live their lives. That’s a guilt trip and about as bad as you don’t know what you’re missing by not having kids.
@@FloridaBoy56184Nothing of what they said was a guiltrip or telling you how to live your life. Just letting you know that you need a small support circle & by how you responded it seems like you do need that cause you sound triggered.
I mean, if she is a monster, she and Ryan really do deserve each other.
It’s really sad and unkind what she did to that interviewer
It was arrogant and unnecessary
And that poor girl has actually stated somewhere she can’t have kids 😔so doubly cruel
Blake’s pregnancy was announced prior to interview
Then the aftermath rudeness
I’ve never liked Ryan’s rude humour and I can see the nasty energy in his eyes (and many ex’s)
I think that relationship isn’t healthy - and maybe Blake is struggling.
The whole kiss lingers too long - and fat shaming accusation now towards Justin is a concern
A covert smear campaign that is now becoming quite dangerous to his reputation as it just isn’t true
Funny- I wondered why they were friends with Taylor- now I get it - pettiness victim playing and unnecessary cruelty
Birds of a feather 😞💚
Pretty sure I walked in on my closest work “friend” shit talking me to my boss the other day, just by the way her face was red and the awkwardness of it makes me assume. She told me they were “talking about the schedule” when I didn’t even ask any questions. Not the first person to hate on me at work but definitely the most surprising and disappointing. I’ve had a lot of success in my time there and I’ve been able to see how jealousy makes people act nasty and turn on you. I’m moving away in January and can’t wait to never deal with these people again. Thank you for the video!
I used to hate cancel culture but now I’m so happy it exists
We live in a world now that says: "Its cool not to care." In sooo many aspects of life 😩 When people are rude and overly sarcastic like this for NO reason, it's like who are you trying to impress by acting so tough??
I used to think Blake was a nice girl...seems like she has more in common with Ryan when it comes to snarky SOB energy.
IMO, Blake is trying to be like her husband in several ways, but epically failing in several ways!
As a DV survivor, I am disgusted with her - that role comes with massive responsibility on and off the camera!!
I was getting ready for work and noticed I was smiling ear to ear while listening. Great stuff, appreciate this! ❤
Watched the viral interview and thought Blake was being a total mean girl.
Shallon, I have tried your exact strategies for advocating for myself and, in result, was fired from a job and failed from a class. Both cases, a “supervisor” type person bullied me and retaliated to my speaking up by saying that I reacted unprofessionally. Thank you for speaking on trying to stay calm and prepare for a confrontation. So appreciate you ❤
Power dynamics are really diaboloical things and you need to know the exact ground you stand on if you go into direct battle, - if its less defensible than people who have actual power over you, sometimes a temporary retreat is your best, kindest to your own needs option, on your own terms ofc. No one should be giving bull in a china shop advise. I wonder if the grade issue could be brought to a wider student body/party? where you are less isolated? Doesn't sound like a reason to fail someone. Sorry you went through that.
Usually I am not the type to say "this video aligned with my frequency", because that sounds like what a hippie would say, but my god, do I feel this in my soul. Lately my college classmates have been assholes and some are borderline pathological, but I am trying not to let that bother me. One dude in my class said the other day to me: "the others are absolutely devastated that you are doing so well in life, and so they talk behind your back. But they dont have the courage to say it to your face"
I believe that is a positive thing, because they are perhaps afraid of confrontation. Real bullies say it out loud, but the gremlings stay in the shadows. I even said to the dude: "I had a toxic father in my childhood. Nobody can gaslight me, because I have seen the worst. Literally no amount of gaslighting can shock me, because I have become unimpressed by It".
I feel you, once I had my life together (good job, financial stability, buy my flat) my college "friends" stopped talking to me 🤨
Question… you mentioned toxic parent. I just realized legit last month that I have a toxic mother. What’s insane is that it took me getting trapped in a BAD marriage with severe DV & he was also an emotional annihilator. I ended up having to move back in with my parents after he died.
So I noticed familiarity w/ the way my mom would say or do things, very subtle even.. just get in bad moods around me all the time & go silent/cold shoulder. I was having panic attacks over small things & it hit me that she is a narcissist of some kind…
Fortunately NOW I can handle myself w/men bc I was tough af before I got broken & I’ve done SO much work on myself. Broke codependency, sniff out red flags & im out instantly bc I can spot them now. BUT my mom is something else I don’t understand.
She was a great mom in all aspects of say the checklist. She was super loving to me & my sis, showed up 4 everything, v thoughtful, no yelling in our home, not even swearing. My moms v Christian so picture that but she’s lacking some type of emotional component prob bc she was an abused child? Idk. She can’t connect w me.
I’ve been through it w PTSD cptsd anxiety depression bc my husband terrorized me mentally & physically. Tried taking my life, gaslighting, cheated, assaulted me, broke me in every possible way & then took his own life.
Not mentioning that for sympathy I just hit a rough wave of realization w my mom. We had always been super close I thought until I wasn’t okay anymore. I don’t really have anyone rn bc of the isolation & being obsessed w self improvement. Ive regressed since living w her bc it keeps me feeling stuck in that environment. I’ve tried explaining to her the seriousness of what I went through bc she doesn’t get it. Or even know how dark some things got. She just thinks I’m lazy & don’t care about anything which is 1000% untrue.
I was ALOT like shallon b4 I got married. idk wtf he did to me but I’m still working on rewiring my brain. I have nowhere else to go & I outright asked her if she could even just fake it til I get back 2 myself & gtfo of her house. Just be kind & positive. I’m always both of those bc I became a ppl pleaser lol but I guess what I’m trying to ask is.. how do I either keep her from affecting me, take action or how do I shift my perspective like yours? You said the gaslighting doesn’t phase you… I’m so impressed bc her gaslighting is what causes me to shut down i guess bc my brain is going back to extreme abvse. No one else can get to me like that now but her & I have to keep myself in a positive state to push forward with some fierceness to get out & live a life I enjoy once again.
PS. In my old life I had issues like yours bc I was exceptional. Ppl like to drag down what they can’t be or are intimidated by. Take it as a compliment & let it boost your ego bc you’re something special 💜
@@Susiehighschool You know what you remind me of? A monarch. Queens usually have this problem: The husband wants full control of the throne, and feels attacked because the wife is more beloved by the court then he is. So he usually tries to poison her drink, so the power is finally his. In this situation, a lot of queens (and I am not saying queen hyperbolicaly, I am in college to become a history teacher. This is literally what happened to queens in Europe) take 2 paths: go to another kingdom and stay there as a borderline refugee, or kill their husband before the man can destroy them. A lot of male abusers have a mother wound, so they see all women as mothers. Your man probably was abusing you to take revenge on his own mother, as he hates the divine feminine.
The only thing you need to know is: you are not dumb for your previous decisions. No matter how much your brain tries to say: "of course you loved that man, you are just a silly little girl who lets anyone use you. You are disgusting", just ignore It. Because a lot of women have gone thru that. Imagine your own daughter (idk If you have children) goes into a toxic relationship... Would you laugh at her, or have sympathy? So have sympathy for yourself. Treat yourself with the same love as you would with a angel.
Now you asked me: why am I no longer impressed with my father's cold shoulder/gaslighting and my mother's toxic comments? I have asked myself this same question.
Basically, I see my mother as mentally ill. Usually people see narcissists as strong and intelligent, but in reality they have more in common with a psychiatric patient than with a normal human. Thats because their brain is damaged, and neuroscience has made brain-scans to prove It. So everytime my mom talks, I just see a mental patient. I dont take mental patients seriously, simple as that. I see them as weak and I am above them. Also, my mom is not the brightest. Most narcisists don't have the cognitive ability to think, they just act upon impulse. Like a dog would. Have you ever seen pitbull attacks on tv? The animal does not hate you personally, but it is in their DNA to attack and not think logically.
As for my dad, the games have become old, and he just told me the truth one day. Which is strange, because narcisists never tell the truth. But he is a old man by now, death is approaching and I guess he wanted to do at least one honest thing before he passes.
He told me:
"Lisa, I just simply do not care about you. And all your life, I never have. Once you understand that I just dont care about your happiness, you Will finally be free. Understand that your mother doesnt care. Live your life fully, and never expect love from us, because we are incapable of It"
Now, I just follow my lone path. Daddy said it best, he just never cared, and that made me a free woman
Honestly, I think this movie and that “lingering” kiss she complained about moved her in different ways. I think it awakened something inside her. Something that’s she’s clearly missing from her husband. It probably rocked her “solid” foundation and she doesn’t want that narrative out there. Instead she’s going down a dangerous route by making it seem he was inappropriate with her. That’s my take. I also believe she forced her coworkers to choose a side when promoting this movie. And if I were a director/producer I wouldnt want any of those actors that choose to be bullies in any of my projects.
I always felt like like a failure in my life. Shallon has helped me so much with my confidence.
Slight correction, Shallon... It was The GREEKS who coined the word "barbarian", centuries before The Germanic tribes overran Western Europe. They(The Greeks)thought Latin sounded like "bar bar" also
Ummmmmm… I am so disappointed with Blake Lively. You are absolutely right that she had an opportunity to help people and she missed it. Sad 😔
she couldn’t care less
I needed to hear this about your colleagues are not your friends part! Being on maternity leave is reminding me and Shallon I thank you!
Weren’t there rumors for years on the Gossip Girl set that Leighton Meester and Blake Lively didn’t get along? Leighton always lay low when it came to fame versus Blake always seemed to want to be in the limelight.
I saw the interview that Blake did where she chatted with her co-star and ignored the interviewer I thought of you... I thought what would Shallon do if it was her...oh how I wished it was you...Blake would have been sorry
Ooh I would have loved to see how Shallon handled it, if she was the interviewer!
How can I find this interview?
Your coworkers are not your friends! Never trust them! In fact be very careful! In my own experience my coworkers will make you look bad on purpose to make themselves look good to the boss/management and be valued at work, and won’t think of anything that it will cause you to get fired; they are your rivals at work! Different situations and different jobs but happened to me more than once!
4:05 I’d just like to point out that as a CVS pharmacist, if you’re having issues with the pharmacy, it’s usually something out of our control and we’re just the messengers. So maybe leave the pharmacy staff out of your newfound assertiveness 😂
Yes please! It’s all corporate policy that makes things bad for everyone 🙈
Do you know the security issues email address for CVS pharmacy? I’m serious. My emails keep getting bounced which is I think because of my hacker
Fighting bullies in the workplace isn’t worth it. Find a better environment. You have to pick your battles.
Im a nurse so there’s plenty of bullies. It’s not worth it. It’s just a job.
Bullies are everywhere ( even in our families, or at the corner store, or your kids teacher) you going to run forever? Better learn to deal with them sooner than later. Choose your battles win the war.
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If it's your dream job it might be worth it, other than that I totally agree with you. Bullies and narcissists live to come to work and take their insecurities and dysfunctional life on other people, often in long game, subtle, manipulative way. The more conflict they create the more energy it gives them so they can go for a long time and keep pretending like they're not the one causing it since they often have assistants, I mean work besties, to marginalize others through skewing their opinions of others. Managers and higher ups usually don't like handling that so they let it go unchecked as long as the job is getting done, regardless if they're creating a toxic work environment. It's unfortunate but that's how it is and it's good to try and protect oneself and walk away early if possible or stay on the sidelines.
@@AA-iy4gmexactly
Why is it always in healthcare that they’re the most toxic..?! As if the job itself isn’t hard enough
Always in awe of Shallon's communication skills, these videos are so fun to watch and there's only her on the screen... Amazing
"Louboutins, Ryan Reynolds, Butterscotch" 🤣
I think Blake has always been a mean girl but she was able to disguise it with her cutesy relationship with Ryan and they are just “sooo funny.”
I would love to hear your thoughts on Ballerina Farms you were going to talk about. Thanks!
I think we’re seeing the real Blake after years of confusing her with / loving her because of her role as Serena. Her weird dynamic with Ryan is so cringe. I would never want a husband like him. He seems so insecure and exhausting.
SHALLON I’m sooooo excited to meet you next week at the NYC event!!!!! I’m bringing my mom too! We’re excited to get all glammed up and meet other Shalligators ❤️
She’s hanging out with Taylor Swift too much! Sorry, not sorry. I get their friendship now! JS Always the victim and looking for a fight to be the victim. I’ve never had any opinion of Blake before this. Her being offended saying he fat shamed her? What?! Ughh
Both have this obsession with being the “popular girl”. Blake never stopped being Serena van der Woodsen (popular girl who is somehow always the victim) and Taylor Swift never stopped being highschool prom queen (that she never was) 😂
@@pinkskele yes!! 😂
@@pinkskelethat’s such a perfect description of Serena!!! The most boring character on the show🥱
I understood Ryan and Taylor as both so petty but I realise Blake is the connection now too 😢
@@pinkskele Blake was bullied in high school. She said so herself
hey, i must say this hair color is girl AMAZING u look like 30 years old gold star! keep it❤
I am a big believer in TADDLING. I don’t care. If you don’t do it, you are protecting the bully. It’s more cowardly not to taddle.
Now I understand how she gets along w Taylor!
I come from a place of where my Mom is the Narcissist who behaved like a spoiled obnoxious bully. She was my first bully. I used to marvel at how well she could talk shit about other people and totally win them over like nothing. And here I was...sweet. Sincere. And I usually bombed lol. Royally. I got used to it and didn't care in my teens because I began to get really fkn angry by age 12.
Anyway- I like some of the things you said. Straight talk. You are having those hard conversations.
This Blake Lively fiasco let me just tell you...the media calls her "out of touch" "weird" "tone-deaf" when actually, those are red flags and I am 99.9 sure she is a Narcissist.
The way she flounces around talking endlessly on and on and on, as costars are visably uncomfortable and she seems oblivious...the way she behaves like she's riding on a float in a big parade the rest of us call "life"...the obvious pleasure she had steam rolling over the interviewer...oh I am so freakin' glad she did. Because this is rare to see, a Narcissist exposing themselves so publicly. Something like Bigfoot caught on tape.😂
I am enjoying this. Last night while watching one woman's review on RUclips I laughed so hard by her retching when she told us about all the buzz...I almost choked on popcorn. (Literally. ) My daughter came running from the next room. After my nde and crying from laughing, I have to say...I'm glad we are having real discussions about this shit. I'd like to see people with raised awareness and less spoiled entitled people.
(FYI some people try to tell me : " 36:37 Mindy ALL actors are Narcissists."
Um...no. No, they are not. I don't think some people have a clear understanding of what this word means. It's not self promotion. There is a certain kind of energy that a Narcissist has when they talk about themselves, almost like they can't stop. It's compulsive. To control the narrative and how people think and feel by oversharing "steering the ship" such as, taking control over a movie's production. There are many many red flags in her interviews if people pay attention.
There’s another interview from the same day with Blake and Parker. A male interviewer this time. And she’s gladly chatting with him about the outfits. Though, she still “jokingly” asks him if he’s gonna cry at the end of this interview because everyone else today has been crying…
Whattt 😂 How horrible
Justin Baldoni actually cared about this projec. This was a passion project for him and he wanted to put this movie on the screen before Blake even signed on. Its a shame Blake had to railroad him.
Amazing advice!! Thank you.
*Katherine Heigl is somewhere going "Girl. Don't Do It!!!"* 😩👩🏼🤐
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Katherine Heigl was real. She actually expressed her feelings but Blake is being pure bitchy.
Katherine Heigl was brandmarked as "difficult" when all she did was set healthy boundaries in the workplace. Something Hollywood can't handle.
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Katherine fought for having healthy work time and she dislike how they ruined her character, and she had every right to do that. And she is happy now and she makes actually good stuff now, well better. Not much bcs she has family.
Stuck up for myself and got fired. Now they can talk to my attorney. Sticking up for myself again 😂
Mask off and massive ego/mean girl keeps popping out. She wears the trousers in that house, Ryan was bullied by his family growing up and had/has anxiety, their dynamic makes more sense now after seeing this passive aggressive side of her.
Tea is that Ryan apparently plays up his “I love my wife!! My wife is everything” role because he knows that she will never surpass him. Apparently scar Jo’s fame was an issue in their relationship. He’s the type of man who parades around his caged bird like it’s show and tell essentially! Blake is not strong of an actor and is still riding off of gossip girl fame, that was really her biggest role 😂
Wait how do you know he was bullied by family?
Ryan controls her. Limits her. Holds her back.
@@Belihoney he talks about it in a documentary, he lived in fear of their father and used humour as a shield, still suffers from crippling anxiety.
No way she wears the trousers married to that awful man