That’s why I have a such a love/hate thing with Taylor Swift. Like babe you won! You won at life! Successful career, wealthy, and can have any man she wants. Like girl enough with the trials and tribulation speeches.
What I don’t think Shallon understands is that everything she does is calculated by her and extremely strategic. I’m not sure if she’s actually “holding on to a grudge” and “hasn’t let go” or if she’s bringing this drama back to the spotlight and reminding everyone as a marketing move. The next album she is releasing is Reputation, which is all about that dramatic incident. Of course she wants to paint a picture, a story, of victimhood and survival. She’s a storyteller, a bit of marketing genius, and perhaps a little narcissistic. And the photos in the shoot are entirely inspired by her reputation album, too. The cool dark colors, the hairstyle.
Taylor seems like she grew up in a family that respected and listened to her feelings and cared very much if she was hurt. She turns every feeling she has into something concrete (art, comments in an article) and she's been rewarded heavily for it. If she can use an international magazine to defame her enemies, she is going to take it bc she is used to people caring about how she feels, and she genuinely wants her get back. I don't think she cares about how she looks anymore, even if it comes off as whiny, or victim-like. She is winning regardless.
Totally agree. This mentality of: you are weak if you “still” feel hurt about it or you need to “let go of your grudge” is so shallow. And no, I am not a Swifty - I am just so tired of it not being cool to have feelings. Everybody’s so cold - and besides, why are they not holding the evil Kim accountable? why is it Taylor’s fault? All all so gaslighty and dumb 😂
Well when you think about it, Taylor "holding onto things" is exactly why she is the massive success she is. Regardless of people's opinion of her songwriting skills, it takes effort and discipline to hold onto things for years, dissecting every nuance of a relationship(s), every perceived slight in order to come up with entire songs and albums based on these fleeting moments in time.
Thank you Shallon for perfectly articulating how damaging it is to attach yourself to your victimhood! It’s so unnecessary and damaging.. the worst people to be around are those committed to their victimhood they truly believe they have a RIGHT to behave however they want because they’re in pain… the gag is they honestly see nothing wrong with their behaviour it’s so enraging! You had a perfect take on this I hope people listen!!!!!
Usually I am 100% in agreement w shallon and I am by no means a Taylor stan but I disagree with this, if a man called me a b word in a song, had a n@ked carbon-copy mannequin of me, and interrupted my awards speech I too would hate him forever. And I will never understand why Kim stood by him then and for so long when he’s always been a misogynistic psycho who ended up screwing her over too. Idk i understand moving forward but I just can’t excuse blatant misogyny from men who hate women or who call women that word
The issue is not what TS feels about it, only that she seems to unable to not get public involved into this FOR YEARS. To me she can hate him until her last breath and beyond. But the thing is: share it once and stop. If you don’t you’ll always look petty and it will negatively impact how you are perceived. Also TS wasn’t the only naked body, and it wasn’t out of nowhere but inspired by a painting, which presented naked sleeping people. This isn’t irrelevant to how the situation should be perceived. It is not like he just had her naked mannequin made and put alone in the video, out of nowhere.
@@bip5395 it’s still soo incredibly misogynistic though?? Would you be okay with a man who you’ve had previous public issues with having a mannequin of you in a video even if he had other ppl too? I wouldn’t lol
I really cannot fathom her still talking about this when Kimye hasn’t brought it up in 5+ years. If being a victim were in the Olympics she’d take the gold every year.
So true. The biggest and best lesson I have learned in the last couple of years is that being able to accept and let go is such an important ingredient for a thriving life.
The truest thing outta both is that moving on actually helps you in the long run. Holding onto something that has hurt you is literally hurting you more & for longer.
Notice how Taylor calls out Kim and not Kim and Kanye. She knows Kim won’t say anything back to her or correct her narrative. Kanye, however, would speak his mind.
I think Taylor has a lot of internalized misogynism. I noticed the only men she had beef with are those who rejected her at some point. But women can speak their mind like Nicki Minaj or Tina Fey and she goes bat shit Crazy
The only opinion I have of Taylor Swift is that she is simply someone who has never experienced genuine hardship or suffering. The things she parades around as these grave injustices are so ridiculous that she comes across as a lunatic (and extremely pathetic). She reminds me of the girls in school who came from wealthy backgrounds (and because of this always had a group of friends around them) and if they ever went through a simple breakup, the entire school would talk about it for the rest of the year. Just really bizarre and out of touch. In short, Taylor Swift does not have real problems. So to feel something, she creates mountains out of molehills. You can disagree with me, it's just my observation.
I agree. Has she seen the photos and videos from Middle East conflict rn, it feels pathetic listening to her harp on about how someone slighted her a years and years ago.
Yup and mark my words, if she and Travis breaks up, she's gonna blame him for EVERYTHING!!! He's gonna be the villian and the most hated man in America
exactly. Madonna was raped on the subway after moving to NYC in the late 70s. Aretha Franklin had a child at 14. Tina Turner was beaten endlessly at the hands of Ike. Britney Spears (need I elaborate.) I would NEVER wish these things happen to Taylor Swift. But, NONE of these women have exploited the victim card during their lives the way Taylor has over such significantly less severe events.
Narcissist do not do 'happy'. They do temporarily satisfied. That's why no matter what she achieves she will never be 'happy'. She is a cold-blooded animal. There's always a war to fight. I once heard someone ask in an interview what song Taylor wished she had written. She said the theme from Friends. They asked why she said for the royalties. It's never enough.
Narcissist do play victim however, Taylor is more of a borderline. And the borderline is a failed narcissist, I feel that she's several steps removed. Wanting love to be returned, and being angry in the trust that people broke is hand-in-hand with recognizing the disillusionment we had in giving people more credit than they deserved. Because we believed in the best in, but we wanted them to believe in recognize the best in us, and they didn't.
Thank you so much for doing a video about this! Her article had an underlying tone of bitterness, pettiness, arrogance...everything she talked about she always had something nasty to say. Even her own relationship. Yet she claims to be happy...if she truly was happy in this relationship or her life in general, what's with the attitude? She cares too much what people think and when people express the slightest dislike toward her, she can't handle it. Cold blooded.
Yes, Kim edited the phone call. She cut out parts of the conversation and then years later the full conversation leaked and it turns out Taylor was telling the truth all along.
Then why didn’t Taylor just say that? “I only agreed to this lyric, not the other one.” Nah she tried to make it seem like they never had a conversation period.
@@tekgid433yes she edited that video, the complete video is leaked jajaja Taylor is not lying and that you doesn’t wants to accept it it’s kinda pathetic
Yes, the full un-edited phone call is online and anyone can listen to the full thing. What Kim released was edited. I actually love both ladies, and Kim was married to Kanye at the time. But the video WAS edited.
Yes, the bitterness, the grudge holding. it's GOTTA STOP. I used to be a huge mega fan of Taylor's before 2019. That billboard acceptance speech was the speech that made me dislike her. Followed by her documentary where she describes how much she wants to be liked and how much she would change herself in order to be liked. This magazine interview is just another repeat of this cycle. I literally don't get how most of her fans don't see this at all. The constant bitterness and need for spite and revenge is so low vibe. We'll never really know if she's actually a happy and content person. But it's not a good look. And it honestly makes me sad for her. :(
Yes! And for the rest of us, if we show the pathological want for everybody to like us, we get told that it isn’t healthy, and it isn’t reasonable. And she has too many yes people around her I guess.
Taylor Swift is a boring person. Wanting everyone to like you is a boring personality trait. If you aren't over it by your mid-20s you are emotionally stunted.
It's not about forgiving them, it's about forgiving yourself for letting it bother you that much to the point that your actions and your goals changed even briefly.
No girl don’t be so naive, for Taylor isn’t a forgiveness or grudges thing, is marketing, pure marketing… this feud was before Reputation and bringing it back before Reputation (Taylor’s Version) is a marketing smart move… it’s completely rational and strategic
This is why I don't like Taylor, have never been a fan, and I am SICK of seeing her damn face on the news. She's a billionaire and has a life that many people (me included) could dream of... she is on top of the WORLD right now and has the success most people could want... and she always comes off as immature and petty and whining over shit that happened ages ago. She's a damn good businesswoman but she's petty af.
That's the Sagittarius in her lady, plus she has a scorpio rising...that level of petty is going nowhere😂. Love them or hate them, people will always be who they are born to be.
My take - The Kardashians do not have stans because they are UNBOTHERED. They do not play the martyr, they do not play victim so no one needs to stand up for them. They have people who like them but they just have a natural ability to appear unbothered when people trash talk them they just handle it so no one needs to jump to their defense. They remind me of Queen Elizabeth and how she dealt with trashtalkers and gossipers.
Because she’s embarrassed she got caught acting like a mean girl in high school lying to make another girl look bad. She was so in the wrong and knows it.
Obviously people resonate with her GRUDGE music. Her music isn't turn the other cheek, that's for sure. It's actually super toxic for young girls to feel like you need to be the perpetual victim.
@@natural91LCi couldn't have said it Better. Taylor's music isn't empowering, it's about villainizing others to victimize themselves. I am very weary of Taylor stans, I always assume they're must be self centered and self obsessed in order to be able to resonate with Taylor
This guy I dated briefly in college did me really dirty but I eventually decided to forgive him and be “friends” (ie passive friends on FB, liking each others’ stuff.) He would message me once in a blue moon and we would chat for a bit. I eventually realized he was doing it to assauge his own guilt. Me talking to him made him feel better because it would reassure him I forgive him and he doesn’t need to feel guilty, and he could be happy with his new girl. So I decided to just ignore him. I’m indifferent to him and he gets to feel slightly icky in the back of his soul for what he did for the rest of his days. Win/win.
You don't know what you're talking about. In the audio recording Kanye only told her about the verse, "I feel like Taylor may owe me sex." And Taylor said, "That's not mean. I was worried you were going to say that stupid *itch or something." So Kim did edit out that part. She was absolutely lying and Taylor was telling the truth. That could have completely destroyed her career and this is the first time in 4 years she has talked about this. If Taylor was just a mean person who plays the victim all the time she would never have forgiven Kanye for interrupting her acceptance speech, you see where that got her.
Those who are saying Taylor should move on, forget how she was brutally trolled and slammed in public for something she never did. She is right in bringing up her side of story when she is at the highest point of her life and tell the world you did me wrong years ago and nobody took accountability for it.
@ no clearly you don't know the whole story. Kindly go and check it. The point is they bullied her, they talk shit about her everywhere, they never apologized, they bullied a 19 year old girl, do you think that was nice?? Why do you guys expect someone from their trauma?? Everybody copes with it in their own way. And they changed the lyrics. It's fraud if you say one thing and do the other thing. Misrepresentation is also a fraud.
I've gotten 2 apologies in my life from people I assume were in AA (because they were so out of the blue, and had substance issues). One was a guy from high school 10 years prior apologising for bullying me (he didn't), and the other was an ex-friend from 8 years prior apologising for something that I'd forgotten happened. Had to actually ask around, "hey, do you remember what she did to me?". Never had an apology for anything I actually remembered and cared about, though.
She sounded so bitter in the Billboard speech. Imagine being a major pop star and people are critiquing your singing? She had to take lessons. Poor Taylor
I feel sorry for her honestly.. Imagine conquering the world in just about every capacity and still focusing on and repeatedly reminding the world of all the ways people have wronged you, instead of just enjoying your beautiful, blessed life 😕
Or perhaps it just shows that, despite wealth and success, little things can still get under your skin and irk you. She's human, and all humans dwell on injustices. Honestly, if she went on about how lucky she is, everyone would have a problem with that and think she's just bragging about being successful. Do you really want to read an article where someone is repeatedly saying, "Yep, I've got an awesome life! I am so blessed! Every day I wake up and just enjoy my major achievements! There is nothing in my life that bothers me, because I have it all!" I'm not a TS stan, and find the constant coverage of her to be a bit much, but you have to admit that she has the right to complain just as much as you do.
@@glittersloth11 don’t you think you just suggested the other extreme and, as it happens with extremes, it is just as unhealthy and ridiculous? Also, do you suddenly post your complaints on your social media about something that happened to you 7 years ago? Because I don’t. I complain directly to people who are close, not to everyone I know. And I am from the nation that is known for complaining. If we say she complains too much, then she REALLY does complain too much
@@glittersloth11 also the problem is that everything is injustice to her, this is how she presents that. If she would be: I own my sht and my imperfections, then there would be something to respect.
It’s worth keeping in mind that Taylor is a businesswoman. The Reputation rerelease is rumored to be announced soon so it makes sense for her to bring it up now. A lot of the imagery in the shoot is reminiscent of the Rep era as well.
Yes that hair was very reputation era. I get that it could be a business move but at her level, I personally would be more protective of my brand 🤷🏼♀️
@@shallonlesterExacting revenge whenever she can is her brand. She sings odes to it. Proving the people who betrayed her are wrong is her life’s mission, so it makes sense why she’d twist the knife whenever she could
@@CassandraBananac’mon… Lover, Folklore, Evermore and Midnights didn’t have that narrative, Reputation had it, and if Reputation TV is coming… well, is obvious that the drama set the things up in favor of that launch… that’s how marketing works and I’m super sure that for her is more a business thing than a personal thing
@@CassandraBanana her re-recordings marketing is about bringing back that history. If in the Red era the thing was her heartbreak is logical that in the Red TV era this comes backs also, it’s pretty obvious actually. In Midnights the concept was the things that she was thinking on her nights when she couldn’t slept … if that’s revenge like in Vigilante Shit I don’t get why don’t write about it. Also in Karma.
Literally. Just because her pain is real doesn't mean she's not responsible for how she carries it. There are victims of far worse abuse with far less resources who manage to carry on with their lives without making their victimhood their entire personality.
@@morales419 Right, let’s all give in and baby Taylor for being such a victim because she is so “nice” and always being targeted by meanies like us 🥺🥺🥺
I was bullied horrendously by my boss emotionally and psychologically. It really affected me to the point that I was depressed. After I left that job I had to attend therapy sessions and nearly a year on I’m doing great and I forgive my boss for what they did to me. I had to forgive to accept it and find peace and to move on x
Since she was a teenager and became famous everyone in Taylor's life has probably bowed down to her. While I believe Kanye did her dirty and was completely in the wrong, Taylor cannot accept that someone isnt playing nice and kissing up to her.
Would you accept less than stellar behavior from other people in your life? Even from complete strangers? Accepting something that doesn't sit right with you makes you a doormat. If Taylor Swift just let things go, everyone would wonder why such a successful woman wouldn't stand up for herself and call out others for doing her wrong.
@@glittersloth11You missed my point by a mile 🤷♀️ Taylor is petty and bothered. No woman looks strong by complaining about things that happened 15+ years ago to everyone except the person who wronged her.
I’m just gonna say it. Kim and her family have faced and continue to face harassment that extends FAR BEYOND what TS experienced. She knows exactly what she’s doing by fanning the flames of this stale drama. I don’t feel sorry for this woman and I never have. Im so tired of her and her fans spreading this narrative that the world owes her perpetual sympathy. “Kim, there are people that are dying.”
I have to agree here. As much as I cannot stand Kim I do admire how she moves on from things and doesn't let it define her and "not leave the house for a year". I can easily imagine myself letting a sex tape destroy me but she didn't let that happen. I do admire that.
I agree with you! She even shaded her ex who was there for her during this difficult time. I can't even believe she brought up the kimye drama. She super lucky if this is the worst thing to happen to her
I like what Taylor said about Kim. Taylor is a true artist, Kim has always been trash. I think Taylor has shown everyone how to move on and make great art and billions of dollars without unlawfully recording someone’s phone call.
I Just don’t agree with her need to win EVERY SINGLE BATTLE. We’ve been over the Taylor vs Kanye debate forever now, and it’s just so annoying to me that after all of her success that she has built and her powerful year that she STILL can’t stand to not be on top. I think she’s going to learn the hard way that not every battle is worth winning, the Kardashians are not the type to back down either and can be just as petty back. I just find it so tasteless. There is such thing as being desperately right that you end up being wrong.
If she’s right then why shouldn’t she win? She has matured and let go of the grudges from the past even though her career was almost RUINED because of them. She had to DISAPPEAR for a year. She was getting death threats. She only talked about it once when it came out. She has NEVER talked about after that. When the entire video came out of how Kim and Kanye were lying, it was during COVID and she took the high road and asked the fans to actually focus on what mattered. If you had actually read what she says in TIME magazine, she says what she has EXPERIENCED in her life. She doesn’t JUST talk about kimye. Her world doesn’t revolve around them. They were just a minuscule part of the interview.😒 She talked about HER LIFE SINCE SHE’S PERSON OF THE YEAR.
@@candletabletop154 that’s because she’s not only a smart and talented business woman, she’s an amazing storyteller and performer. She used what the haters did and made it her mascot. Do you even remember how bad it was at the time? There are many women in similar cases who haven’t been as successful as her. P.S - eras tour is her more successful than reputation tour
Girl, Kim edit the recording showing only a part of the call that makes it seem she was lying. After that , someone in Kim team leak the complete recording of that phone call and then people saw that Taylor was being misrepresented. Also, Kim not only share the edited version she put a tweet saying Taylor was a snake ( kim send her fans after her and people start putting the snake emoji to her ) Kendal Also participated in the bullying. So I don’t think Kim was “classy” doing that. Also if people did you that dirty I highly doubt the girl with the revenge necklace would do nothing. Also , she is re releasing reputation, she is talking about the theme of that album. You can see it as petty but is pretty smart since she is becoming a billionaire and people are going to rally around her and support that re release. Last , when the whole tape of Kim was released Kim gaslighted her and took 0 accountability about it. But the world could see the truth by then.
If you’re into the enneagram - Taylor is an enneagram 3 w4. Her 3 core drives her to achieve, but the shadow is that she cares SOOOO much about what everyone thinks of her. She needs to be a winner, and she needs everyone to *see* her as a winner. She needs to be a cool kid, and to be acknowledged as so by all in the cool club. It seems like she loves her fame, but it’s also made her miserable. Her 4 wing makes her incredibly creative, but 4s LOVE their pain. They are obsessed with it. I think these two aspects of her personality have become so convoluted that her pain (her breakups, her public controversies, her injustices) have become her brand. Her fans love the narrative and mythology (the “Schmäh as Arnold Schwarzenegger calls it) she’s created around herself. I think at this point she keeps bringing it up because she knows she capitalizes on her victimhood (without calculating the cost)… and she absolutely has to “win” the war.
YES. I feel like she keeps bringing the Kanye and Kim drama because SHE KNOWS her cultish fans will flood twitter with 'oh noo poor Taylor, these gross people did her so wrong' and it fills her ego. Same thing happens with her rerecordings and her bringing up again a break up that's been dead for more than a decade.
yes, she loved olivia until she started rivaling taylor herself at her game. then she pushed her to the side, took a chunk of her money from her song, and hired her ex boyfriends then new girlfriend as her tour opener.
I have to disagree. I don't see anything classy about Kim posting that video with the snake emoji back then. Also, she did speak about this the entire year Taylor was away. And personally, I think the most insulting thing they did was the music video with the naked wax figure, and they did not ask for her consent on that tape. I also understand why this was so traumatizing for Taylor. Maybe being trashed that hard was nothing new for Kim, it was for Taylor. Now, is she being petty for still bringing it up? Sure. But I don't think Kim and Kanye are quiet about this is because they either moved on or are "being classy" about it. It's because they both know they'll be torn apart by the media and the public opinion if they do.
The real lesson from this whole thing is that we should not defend our man at all costs 🤷♀️ Kim went so hard for her husband and look what happened. Give your man honest feedback when he is not acting right.
The slings and arrows against Taylor are her currency. She's not letting anything go. She brought the feud up for attention ( and maybe to tarnish Kim's GQ cover and designation as "Man of the year"). I've always found "Tay" cringe and immature. Her victimhood along being self absorbed yet constantly in a relationship and needing accolades from the music industry is a bit annoying. In general though I tend to think a lot of celebrities are a bit vapid and stunted, usually due to not continuing education and being surrounded by fake a$$ kissers who hype them up and make them feel fully actualized. Taylor stopped school at tenth grade. I feel a little bad for Travis. When she breaks up with him ( which she will when she moves out of her regressed fawning phase), I hope she doesn't villainize his... simplicity too much.
Not a Swifty here so I can't really analyze the situation too much but I think what will be really telling is how this relationship w Trav ends up. The ball is in her court. Only time will tell.
This is the first time she has gone into detail about what Kim did. This was a significant traumatic experience AND she was just a young girl. I think you are being to hard on her, talking about what happened to her is PART of the PROCESS of being able to move on and heal. Throw all the rocks you want Taylor, you were bullied by two grown ass adults.
Agreed...100% you're empathetic. That's something that's missing in this world. Just because Taylor is rich it does mean she doesn't have emotions or feelings. Kim lied and set her up. She lacks empathy cause she's a narcissist
Hi Shallon, love your videos! Just a correction: Taylor is not woman of the year. She is PERSON of the year which means she beat out women AND men. I am not a Swifty but I do want to give her her props because there are a ton of men who are furious that this billionaire, single, promiscuous, child-free, cat lady is on the cover of Time. 😂😂😂
@@pri.sci.lla. You're right, single can mean unattached or unmarried. In my original post, I meant to convey unmarried as that's the trope the men bitching about her were referencing (unmarried, no kids, s*x out of wedlock, a bunch of cats, etc.)
Oh my gosh I don’t understand why she feels like her whole life was ruined by one little thing that happened on the Internet. Maybe she got attacked by millions of people or at least thousands of people but it was just Kim’s fans it didn’t really harm her stupid career at all.
You speaking about the hurt locker really resonated with me! I have heard you speak of it before but this time it really clicked 😌 love your videos, can literally listen to you talk about anything!!
That is her massive talent and success. She writes about these episodes in her life. That is why she's Person of the Year. She's not taking drugs or drinking or eating herself to death, I'd say she's doing it right.
The thing that will always surprise me is this: Even though she knew very well that Joe Alwyn would not be able to respond as a gentleman, Taylor wrote "You're Losing Me" and threw Joe in front of her fans. Right now Taylor's fans are tearing Joe to shreds.
actually no: I see it that way. We all know TS won in life - and she knows that too. She is out there enjoying it. So why should she forgive Kim? We all know it eats the kardashians alive when the super rich and famous don’t care about them or openly dislike them. Forgiving them at this point would just be a favour to them. Taylor doesn’t need them - she also doesn’t usually think about them so why would she care about forgiving them. It wouldn’t be for her cause she doesn’t need it.
Do you know that really bothered me to her acceptance speech for the billboard woman of the year or whatever it was called her taking credit for everything that happened in her career her talking about how she did it all by herself and no one helped and it was all her creative Stuff and the way that she decided to do everything that she was the reason that she was so successful and that no one else deserve the credit
And as shallon said; there is a way to tell it in a way that doesn’t sound like ‚fck you all I did it myself’. Let me assure you. If Taylor Swift was born in Latvia or Slovakia or even Azerbaijan she wouldn’t be that successful. She is great but she wouldn’t get a contract with good record label. Wouldn’t get a chance to work with great producers. If she weren’t geographically in the right spot, where it was possible, her talent and drive wouldn’t be enough. So she shouldn’t be so sure it is all about her….
It's called taking accountability. Kim LIED big time to the point of purposely editing the video. Kim got away with it. Kim doesn't have to apologize but there are consequences cause if she lies about a video, she'll lie about anything.
@@amarjotsingh8455Taylor did move on. In the article she was explaining how far she has gone to become "person of the year" despite people trying to take her down reminding us of Kim. By no means is Taylor asking for an apology.
@@amarjotsingh8455kim and her band of kartrashian h0es have done this to a lot of women over the years. Didn't khloe bodyshame chloe moretz and use a fake picture in her claim. Lying and fabricating "evidence" to try to demean women they feel threatened by comes naturally to this family of narcissists.
@@morales419 come on she knows what mentioning KIm k will do. If she spoke about adversity in general terms then I would agree with you.. but come on Taylor wants her fans to turn against Kim k
Fame stunts emotional intelligence development. As well, her target market is girls and young women, so she presents public conflicts at a level they will understand to get her fans engaged.
Very good perspective, actually… To think where you were when it got you… instead of focusing on people to ask ourselves why do we let this thing keep going. Thank you, Shallon! 🙏 It really spoke to me today.
Taylor has processed this and moved on and achieved enormous success. She was recounting her entire story for the article. I think those were some pivotal moments in her life and career and leaving them out would be disingenuous. She has publicly acknowledged her obsession with being good and being a people pleaser and that’s probably why this was so traumatic for her. To me admitting that is pretty brave and shows she’s more self aware than you’re giving her credit for. In fact it’s similar to the way you use your life experiences to help others. She does help others through her music that’s why so many people love and relate to her. It’s not weird at all that Kim doesn’t have a stan base named for her. How is illegally recording end editing phone calls classy? How is teaching young girls that money and appearance are the most important things in life? She’s supposed to be a lawyer? An officer of the court, and wants to be taken seriously? Kim is unapologetic for everything, and while you might find that admirable (and I agree in certain instances it can be), her behavior is highly narcissistic and problematic (which you’ve also acknowledged many times). Taylor is by far more honest and kinder to her fans and her family than Kim ever has been. You make some good points and give some great advice for your viewers to use in their own lives. But I think that you’re reaching here with Taylor and the “victim mentality” label applied here. It doesn’t apply because people with a victim mentality syndrome are associated with decreased well-being, poor social connections, and self-destructive behavior none of which we are seeing in Taylor. In fact quite the opposite. If anything I see that more in Kim as evidenced by her interactions on camera, silence regarding problematic events in her own life, and in her statement regarding the incident in which she only deflects.
In total agreement with all of this. I would also add that the Kardashians don’t have a standom because normally fame is a byproduct of talent (acting, singing, playing an instrument, architecture, painting, etc.) and that’s what attracts fans. Fame, in and of itself, is not well defined and hard to rally around on its own. I would also say that illegally recording TS revealed KK to be very untrustworthy, and is probably why she doesn’t have many celebrity friends, who take privacy VERY seriously. How could you ever be sure that a part of your convo wouldn’t show up on KK’s insta if you fell out. Lastly, TS is nothing if not strategic, which we need to hear more about from Shallon! Reminding the world, in TIME MAGAZINE when you’ve been declared Person of the Year, that your work was sold out from under you is the perfect way to keep fans and the otherwise curious interested in the rereleases of music albums that are on the way. 👏👏👏
Im a big fan of people being able to say how they feel and speak their truth, like yeah she’s winning at life but that doesn’t make the pain go away sometimes. Maybe this was her way of standing up for herself good for her and if it humbles Kim at the same time even better.
@@bip5395the timing is perfect… Reputation (Taylor’s Version) is coming and Taylor is a very smart marketer… don’t be naive, for her isn’t about a grudge, for her, she’s setting things up for her upcoming re-recording, is smart, is strategic
At first I too thought why is she mentioning this particular incident but then quickly I realised how big of a deal it is for a people pleaser to be hated by the entire world and having them say that they hate you and wish you death. It is a huge thing. And she has all the rights to speak about this as much as she wants to and as many times as she wishes.
I think that being called a snake and people believing in it was a shock to her entire system. She built her career on being the good girl - first the good country girl, then the pop star who does not talk about politics and controversy and who just wants her forever love and does not deserve to be cheated on, betrayed etc. In her documentary, it was obvious how much she wanted everyone to think highly of her. Then she's suddenly on the other side. The rebranding that followed felt to me like a smart business plan. Why force it and continue being the good girl if people don't see you that way now - let's just switch and make money from this whole shitshow.
I just can't with her sometimes. I root for a cunning, ambitious, calculating woman most of the time, so I applaud both Taylor and Kim. Kim's commitment to curating an image *and maintaining it* borders on Joan Crawford level. Taylor is flying high right now, but she can't resist jumping back into drama 😑
taylor's perpetual victim mentality and how she has made it a vital part of her personality is the main reason why i will never be a fan of hers, sure i do like some songs, but her as a person is just not likeable to me at all, she's like a 35 year old teenager most of the time and that gets old and annoying pretty quick
I actually found your channel because you were cancelled and I saw a video about you. The person reacted to an evil week video and I was shocked how a woman could say these kind of things so blatantly and I just had to check you out. Now you are my absolute favourite RUclipsr and I can't get enough of your videos
Forgiving is such an important part of truly moving on in life. It doesn't mean you have to be around person xyz anymore or that it's ok what they did. But it means you just let it go. Bad things happen to good people and after one dealt with these emotions and is not forgiving and moving on, it's like drinking poison and hoping the one who's hurt you dies.
You can move on you and can heal from any trauma without forgiveness. You must process your feelings, all of them, accept what happened to you (to live in reality, not denial) which allows you to move on from that particular issue without it consuming your life. All of that can be done without forgiveness. People aren't bitter because they need to 'forgive' and 'just let go' they actually need the space to fully feel & process all the ugly emotions we shame people for feeling & arrive at acceptance. Fake or premature forgiveness causes the most damage. I hope someone struggling to forgive stumbles onto this message and allows themselves the grace to focus on healing, working towards acceptance not necessarily forgiveness 💖🙏
Killing what??? She's utterly talentless and the fact that she's made it this far is appalling and merely a statement on where our culture has gone. 👎🤮
She tells the truth about what happened, that's her right and shouldn't be blamed for it. It's always the offender who tells to "move on" and "act like an adult". Pure gaslighting to not pay the whole price for the wrong they did or to avoid an apologize.
Exactly. She was choses as person of the year and the article is meant to highlight her ability to overcome adversity so naturally they need to show the adversities she’s overcome. People are really confused because “being a victim” is crying and blaming people for why you AREN’T succeeding in life. Acknowledging that people very publicly tried to take you down and that you came back stronger (than a 90s trend), is not being a victim. That’s kind of like saying the song “I’m a survivor” is about victimhood, rather than the opposite. She shares the same things… uh yeah.. that’s how you create a narrative. Not to mention, these were very public things that everyone wants to know about. OF COURSE the article in time is going to focus on all of these things. This is a major part of her story. Not *everyone* knows all these details.
@@ultravioletpisces3666 True! The time, when Kanye almost ended her career must have been overwhelmingly hard. He showed manipulated recording, sang "I made that b**** famous" and everybody was cheering on him. And now I cheer for her beeing "person of the year", for the success of her Tour and most of all for her revenge! I dont understand shallon selling nacklace with the word "revenge" and now shading Taylor for doing so.
No, Kim moved on because she proved that Taylor was lying about there was never a call and then switching to…”yeah, but I never gave my approval for the lyrics so you two framed me!” GIRL BYE
@@lanovia3838 well it wasn’t about recording Taylor…Kanye has documented his life for years (for himself and now probably for his kids). So, when Taylor wanted to lie and say a phone conversation never existed, Kim decided to expose her. Taylor then went for damage control and had her fans focus on “well I never approved the lyrics” ….they framed me! Her fans (after attacking her for lying) heard the entire message (which Kim had access to) and felt like oh Taylor WAS telling the truth! Kim NEVER said she gave permission…Kim was proving that there was a phone call between Kanye West & Taylor Swift….possibly collaborating after the 2009 VMA’s!!
@@codyboy8740 I understand that but Kanye started the beef at MTV awards and then those lyrics. He just couldn't stand her success for whatever reason. She didn't do anything wrong to him. Even if you disagree withe the verdict, you take it with class, like Beyonce. I never saw her saying someone didn't deserve their award even when she lost with that person. I never saw her mocking anybody. Kanye is petty.
@@lanovia3838 ok, I understand your response but it includes several topics! Let’s dissect! 1) Kanye, 50 Cent, Taylor Swift….a lot of celebrities are petty! You may not agree about Taylor but she is! To ALWAYS write about your exes or for such a reputation to precede you would strongly suggest Taylor is not a good ex-girlfriend to have because she will not take the high road, she only builds this one sided story of what happens in her relationships! It’s one sided because imagine ALL the exes making a mockery out of her new album, getting together and talking about what a Torture it was to date her! FACT: at this point ONLY about 13 men UP against millions of millions of fans are the only ones who know that intimate information! Okay…about Kanye starting it! You are correct which is why it would have been a shock to her fans that she was even talking to Kanye…so she lied NOT realizing he documents his life. Taylor REGROUP: (Taylor) point out that you never approved so it’s a frame job! You fell into deep depression because of Kanye. Taylor Swift is a privileged white, blue eyed female who has been wealthy her entire life. A woman is both smart and vengeful, a songwriter and lyrical assailant, people pleaser and puppet master manipulator , fake feminist and super clingy, great business woman delighting a victim mentality! So, people will either love her, love to use her, love to hate her or just see her for ALL that she is!!
19:24 you don’t care enough.. Well yeah… Kim and Kanye weren’t random celebrities. After what Kanye did taking the mic from her when she won album of the year- Taylor went OUT OF HER WAY to accept his fake apology and to defend him to the entire world. They worked together and they presented themselves as FRIENDS. The entire time they actively were plotting against her and using her friendship to benefit themselves while trying to tank her life and career. So yeah… it’s kinda personal. People still believe she lied. Even you didn’t realize that the tapes were edited. Literally mostly only Swifties know half of this stuff because the media choses to tell a completely different story. If she let the media spin the narrative (and this is exactly what would happen if she *stopped taking about it*) they would chew her up and spit her out just like they did to Britney- who only NOW 30 years later is getting to tell her side. It’s a very different story when you are a private citizen than when you are being destroyed by the media. Taking the high ground does not work in this case. Obviously Taylor’s way works because she’s basically taking over the world this year. So lecturing her that she’s “doing it wrong” seems… kind of silly. Good way to get clicks and engagements. 🤷🏼♀️
Hello! I absolutely love your videos, and they offer so much insight. I haven't seen all of them; ergo, I am unsure if you have made one on personal branding. If you havent, will you please make one about how to discover your brand, what questions to ask yourself to create one, how to get started, how to implement that into your community to make a difference, etc. You're amazing! Xo
Shallon, I love you and your content, but you don't have all the facts regarding the phone call. Kim and Kanye released in 2016, turned everyone against Taylor, and all Taylor wanted was to be excluded from this. Yes, she wrote music about it, but nothing like the vulgar lyrics that Kanye said about her. Then in 2020, the real phone call was leaked, and it turns out Kim and Kanye never fully informed Taylor about the lyrics. I think her on going vendetta is because she was personally attacked on stage at the age of 19, made feel like her accomplishments (that her fans voted for) were not as worthy. So I have to be empathetic to this person who grew up in the public eye, experiencing humiliation like this and made feel like they don't belong. And then the saga continued, even after she extended an olive branch to Kanye and Kim. Her career truly suffered, no one remembers it now, but she was bullied everywhere, and made fun of. And yes, you could argue that she's a superstar, it's her job to go up and down in popularity, but she experienced a lot of hate and vitriol, and put on a stage when she didn't want to be on that stage. In a way, this is her attempt at taking back all that power, since she probably felt powerless. It takes a lot to confront and name people who did you wrong, and to do that in a public forum where people celebrate your accomplishments, I think that's wonderfully petty. There is more to the story, I'm sure, and I'm not a swiftie, but...Who is Kanye West now? What is Kim doing?
And let's not forget that Kanye's video included a naked wax figure of Taylor, that seemed to imply (again) that him and Taylor might have sex. Gross is an understatement.
I'm not a fan a Taylor but I fully agree! Taylor even tried to make amends with Kanye after the whole VMA incident (she was still the bigger person) and they were friends for a while with Kim until 2016 and we all know what happened after
I just feel Taylor has the worst PR person ever... How could you possibly suggest to continue this attitude over and over and over? Honestly girl, no one cared, not even back then.
I cannot imagine her just accepting what her PR people suggest. I get the vibe she has no doubt in her mind she is the only one who knows exactly what is best for her. I think she has enough narcissistic traits in her to keep her from being able to admit to bad decisions. In her mind the fact that she cares deeply about this is enough. It's only over when she says it's over. Very childish and self-absorbed
Do you really think that Taylor feels this in that deeply personal way? Hahaha she’s about to ralease Reputation(Taylor’s Version), bringing this drama back is a marketing strategy and works as a perfect PR plan but we all gonna see that results when she brakes the Billboard 100 again with this launch
@@alejosantacruz7 I get your point but I am not fully sure about it. I honestly think she still believes she needs and have the right to keep ranting about this idiotic story (which really shows how billionaires live life differently than all of us, as humble they might want to appear to the public). However, even if you were right, I would find it even more sad. She does not have to do it. She would break records anyway because of her popularity and her artistry, which was never needed all these petty move to shine. I just think it's sad honestly, how she has so much to be proud of, and she still focusing on Kim K, or media, or how she was bullied when she was a teenager. She could do so so much more.
@@Ann-lc1dp i like how she expresses about her bullies, I like how she pushes the karma for those how make her wrong, it gives me a sense of justice and a powerful vibe from her… for me is her saying “no one can mess with me and go unpunished” and I love it
Kims assets are: her image. Her fakery. Her acting. Thatswhy she better at posing unbothered. And speaking on something, shes guilty of, would not bring her any fans. Taylor is talented. So is see completely different scenarios. But hate and rage wont bring you further... let go
You’re not wrong! I also feel like she was so positive and seemingly grateful at the beginning of her career, so maybe this is her trying to just be more real.
I personally think that Taylor tried to trick Kanye on the phone call by agreeing to the lyrics. She needed the revenge for him interrupting her on stage. She was playing cool but everything she did afterwards was calculated. It also kept the public talking about her.
I think Taylor brought it up again not to stir the pot but it was her expressing how she felt during that time and how Kim’s actions traumatized her. Maybe Kim hasn’t apologized privately..for sure she hasn’t apologized publicly to Taylor and that’s why Taylor can’t move on. This is just my opinion though..nobody truly knows the reason why it was brought up again. There’s also Reputation TV coming and there are songs about Kim and Kanye..it might be a promotional thing but like I said before, nobody really knows the truth other than Taylor 🤷🏻♀️.
As far as I know in the whole phonecall she said that "she will think about it" but was overall very exited. So on one hand she didn't agree but she also didn't say "no". I can see how Kanye maybe thought that because of her previous reaction she would be okay with all this. The whole thing just seems like a stupid misunderstanding and not at all a reason to fight so much about it. It kinda makes me wonder that she used this as an opportunity ti get back at Kanye after years.
I think she was monetarily and socially rewarded for that victimhood via her songs for decades now and it's baked into her identity. Her not leaving the house for a year is completely self imposed- no one put her in prison and she has endless resources to work on her mental health- only if she's willing to take the accountability for her part and put things in perspective- she's a young healthy billionaire, in a privileged group of very very very few people in the world. Enough with the pity party
You make a really good point about how the KarJennwrs choose to react. Granted, they have each other to discuss and protect, and I'm sure Kris does much of the final decision making. But, those women understand the power of not responding. They learned it from being Kris' daughters
That’s why I have a such a love/hate thing with Taylor Swift. Like babe you won! You won at life! Successful career, wealthy, and can have any man she wants. Like girl enough with the trials and tribulation speeches.
Literally! What the fuck more does she want from us.
She is repellent to me. I can’t put my finger on it but she comes off as very disingenuous and pandering.
Absolutely👏👏👏👏👏
She is like a teen who has no real problem so these small petty things is a huge deal to her.
@@pri.sci.lla. same!! I can't stand her. The fact that she has such a massive following truly baffles me.
What I don’t think Shallon understands is that everything she does is calculated by her and extremely strategic. I’m not sure if she’s actually “holding on to a grudge” and “hasn’t let go” or if she’s bringing this drama back to the spotlight and reminding everyone as a marketing move.
The next album she is releasing is Reputation, which is all about that dramatic incident. Of course she wants to paint a picture, a story, of victimhood and survival. She’s a storyteller, a bit of marketing genius, and perhaps a little narcissistic.
And the photos in the shoot are entirely inspired by her reputation album, too. The cool dark colors, the hairstyle.
Finally someone who sees this as the professional, business and marketing thing that is… 🎉
Literally, exactly. Reputation,2.0.
this. this this this.
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Taylor seems like she grew up in a family that respected and listened to her feelings and cared very much if she was hurt. She turns every feeling she has into something concrete (art, comments in an article) and she's been rewarded heavily for it. If she can use an international magazine to defame her enemies, she is going to take it bc she is used to people caring about how she feels, and she genuinely wants her get back. I don't think she cares about how she looks anymore, even if it comes off as whiny, or victim-like. She is winning regardless.
You're so smart!
Totally agree. This mentality of: you are weak if you “still” feel hurt about it or you need to “let go of your grudge” is so shallow. And no, I am not a Swifty - I am just so tired of it not being cool to have feelings. Everybody’s so cold - and besides, why are they not holding the evil Kim accountable? why is it Taylor’s fault? All all so gaslighty and dumb 😂
Nah she’s just a narcissist. That’s what they do, they whine. Kim and Kanye are also narcissists. It’s the battle of the Narcissists over here.
In other words she is high maintenance. Good luck Trav.
*Moon sign Cancer. I knew it, ugh, that says it all.*
Yes, her parents have really been protective of her image from the get-go, so she's used to having this level of attention from her victimhood.
Well when you think about it, Taylor "holding onto things" is exactly why she is the massive success she is. Regardless of people's opinion of her songwriting skills, it takes effort and discipline to hold onto things for years, dissecting every nuance of a relationship(s), every perceived slight in order to come up with entire songs and albums based on these fleeting moments in time.
Actually the point isn’t so much that she holds onto things, but about how much of those obsessions she shares with the world outside of her songs.
I think poets in general do feel everything deeply
Thank you Shallon for perfectly articulating how damaging it is to attach yourself to your victimhood! It’s so unnecessary and damaging.. the worst people to be around are those committed to their victimhood they truly believe they have a RIGHT to behave however they want because they’re in pain… the gag is they honestly see nothing wrong with their behaviour it’s so enraging! You had a perfect take on this I hope people listen!!!!!
Usually I am 100% in agreement w shallon and I am by no means a Taylor stan but I disagree with this, if a man called me a b word in a song, had a n@ked carbon-copy mannequin of me, and interrupted my awards speech I too would hate him forever. And I will never understand why Kim stood by him then and for so long when he’s always been a misogynistic psycho who ended up screwing her over too. Idk i understand moving forward but I just can’t excuse blatant misogyny from men who hate women or who call women that word
With you all the way on this.
AGREE!!!
The issue is not what TS feels about it, only that she seems to unable to not get public involved into this FOR YEARS.
To me she can hate him until her last breath and beyond. But the thing is: share it once and stop. If you don’t you’ll always look petty and it will negatively impact how you are perceived.
Also TS wasn’t the only naked body, and it wasn’t out of nowhere but inspired by a painting, which presented naked sleeping people. This isn’t irrelevant to how the situation should be perceived. It is not like he just had her naked mannequin made and put alone in the video, out of nowhere.
@@bip5395 it’s still soo incredibly misogynistic though?? Would you be okay with a man who you’ve had previous public issues with having a mannequin of you in a video even if he had other ppl too? I wouldn’t lol
@@bip5395i think she has the right to, as reparations 🙏
I really cannot fathom her still talking about this when Kimye hasn’t brought it up in 5+ years. If being a victim were in the Olympics she’d take the gold every year.
and selena
@@Theodora937Everything I know about that woman is against my will.
@@lamb9770😂
And Kim and Kanye are divorced ffs!!! A lot has happened since then…
@@lamb9770😂😂😂😂
Two things can be true:
- You cannot do wrong to someone and tell them how mad to get
- learning how to let go and move on is important
So true. The biggest and best lesson I have learned in the last couple of years is that being able to accept and let go is such an important ingredient for a thriving life.
The truest thing outta both is that moving on actually helps you in the long run. Holding onto something that has hurt you is literally hurting you more & for longer.
@@Ginmabes i mean she is reacting pretty chill about the fan who died and already moved on
@@gogogo26993 ah, I hadn't seen that part of the video at the time. I was referring more to moving on from relationships.
Perfect
Notice how Taylor calls out Kim and not Kim and Kanye. She knows Kim won’t say anything back to her or correct her narrative. Kanye, however, would speak his mind.
I think Taylor has a lot of internalized misogynism. I noticed the only men she had beef with are those who rejected her at some point. But women can speak their mind like Nicki Minaj or Tina Fey and she goes bat shit Crazy
Don’t think Kanye has much ground to stand on with anything anymore.
The only opinion I have of Taylor Swift is that she is simply someone who has never experienced genuine hardship or suffering. The things she parades around as these grave injustices are so ridiculous that she comes across as a lunatic (and extremely pathetic). She reminds me of the girls in school who came from wealthy backgrounds (and because of this always had a group of friends around them) and if they ever went through a simple breakup, the entire school would talk about it for the rest of the year. Just really bizarre and out of touch. In short, Taylor Swift does not have real problems. So to feel something, she creates mountains out of molehills. You can disagree with me, it's just my observation.
YES spot on
I agree. Has she seen the photos and videos from Middle East conflict rn, it feels pathetic listening to her harp on about how someone slighted her a years and years ago.
Yup and mark my words, if she and Travis breaks up, she's gonna blame him for EVERYTHING!!! He's gonna be the villian and the most hated man in America
exactly. Madonna was raped on the subway after moving to NYC in the late 70s. Aretha Franklin had a child at 14. Tina Turner was beaten endlessly at the hands of Ike. Britney Spears (need I elaborate.) I would NEVER wish these things happen to Taylor Swift. But, NONE of these women have exploited the victim card during their lives the way Taylor has over such significantly less severe events.
i commented the same earlier. this interview really outed her to be so incredibly out of touch with the real world
Narcissist do not do 'happy'. They do temporarily satisfied. That's why no matter what she achieves she will never be 'happy'. She is a cold-blooded animal. There's always a war to fight. I once heard someone ask in an interview what song Taylor wished she had written. She said the theme from Friends. They asked why she said for the royalties. It's never enough.
Cold blooded! Yes, thats exactly it
Narcissist do play victim however, Taylor is more of a borderline. And the borderline is a failed narcissist, I feel that she's several steps removed. Wanting love to be returned, and being angry in the trust that people broke is hand-in-hand with recognizing the disillusionment we had in giving people more credit than they deserved. Because we believed in the best in, but we wanted them to believe in recognize the best in us, and they didn't.
Interesting.
Thank you so much for doing a video about this! Her article had an underlying tone of bitterness, pettiness, arrogance...everything she talked about she always had something nasty to say. Even her own relationship. Yet she claims to be happy...if she truly was happy in this relationship or her life in general, what's with the attitude? She cares too much what people think and when people express the slightest dislike toward her, she can't handle it. Cold blooded.
This is why her and Selena are besties. Victim complex besties
I agree as much as I love Taylor I'll admit they play the victim in every situation
Yes, Kim edited the phone call. She cut out parts of the conversation and then years later the full conversation leaked and it turns out Taylor was telling the truth all along.
Then why didn’t Taylor just say that? “I only agreed to this lyric, not the other one.” Nah she tried to make it seem like they never had a conversation period.
@@vigtablebecause y'all didn't let her
Taylor literally try to say it but all the news and the media focused on villainizing her
No she didn’t you liar! Taylor got caught lying! Deal with it!
@@tekgid433yes she edited that video, the complete video is leaked jajaja Taylor is not lying and that you doesn’t wants to accept it it’s kinda pathetic
Yes, the full un-edited phone call is online and anyone can listen to the full thing. What Kim released was edited. I actually love both ladies, and Kim was married to Kanye at the time. But the video WAS edited.
Yes, the bitterness, the grudge holding. it's GOTTA STOP. I used to be a huge mega fan of Taylor's before 2019. That billboard acceptance speech was the speech that made me dislike her. Followed by her documentary where she describes how much she wants to be liked and how much she would change herself in order to be liked. This magazine interview is just another repeat of this cycle. I literally don't get how most of her fans don't see this at all. The constant bitterness and need for spite and revenge is so low vibe. We'll never really know if she's actually a happy and content person. But it's not a good look. And it honestly makes me sad for her. :(
Most of her fans are Gen Z. Too young to see her very weird personality
Yes! And for the rest of us, if we show the pathological want for everybody to like us, we get told that it isn’t healthy, and it isn’t reasonable.
And she has too many yes people around her I guess.
Taylor Swift is a boring person. Wanting everyone to like you is a boring personality trait. If you aren't over it by your mid-20s you are emotionally stunted.
I don’t feel sad for her because she’s a phony
It's not about forgiving them, it's about forgiving yourself for letting it bother you that much to the point that your actions and your goals changed even briefly.
THIS!
Yes, stop forgiving others. forgive your damn self! 💜
Why would they apologize for Taylor being a pathological liar?
No girl don’t be so naive, for Taylor isn’t a forgiveness or grudges thing, is marketing, pure marketing… this feud was before Reputation and bringing it back before Reputation (Taylor’s Version) is a marketing smart move… it’s completely rational and strategic
@@alejosantacruz7 I'm talking about the Takeaway for you, and others, the reader, the viewer
This is why I don't like Taylor, have never been a fan, and I am SICK of seeing her damn face on the news. She's a billionaire and has a life that many people (me included) could dream of... she is on top of the WORLD right now and has the success most people could want... and she always comes off as immature and petty and whining over shit that happened ages ago. She's a damn good businesswoman but she's petty af.
That's the Sagittarius in her lady, plus she has a scorpio rising...that level of petty is going nowhere😂. Love them or hate them, people will always be who they are born to be.
Totally overated as a songwriter and a performer. Her biggest fans were little girls when she started out. Now a professional narcissist.
@@sherenehenry9991
I think her moon in Cancer is most influential, over emotional.
@@sherenehenry9991pettiness is nothing to be proud of.
My take - The Kardashians do not have stans because they are UNBOTHERED. They do not play the martyr, they do not play victim so no one needs to stand up for them. They have people who like them but they just have a natural ability to appear unbothered when people trash talk them they just handle it so no one needs to jump to their defense. They remind me of Queen Elizabeth and how she dealt with trashtalkers and gossipers.
Nothing bothers them because they have no souls and are shallow af.
Literally never complain, never explain 😂
This is not accurate. Beyoncé is literally the queen of being unbothered but she has the BeyHive that will go to war for her.
I can’t even think of the last time Kim has brought up the Taylor drama.
Because Kim lied!!!!
@@DailyWearexactly...why would she bring it up and risk further implicating herself?
coz she has something to HIDE. she was a freaking spineless snake who did what she did because her husband told her to. I wouldn't bring it up either
Why would Kim bring it up when she’s in the wrong and it would just remind people of that lol
Because she’s embarrassed she got caught acting like a mean girl in high school lying to make another girl look bad. She was so in the wrong and knows it.
Obviously people resonate with her GRUDGE music. Her music isn't turn the other cheek, that's for sure. It's actually super toxic for young girls to feel like you need to be the perpetual victim.
lok okay karen
@@natural91LCi couldn't have said it Better. Taylor's music isn't empowering, it's about villainizing others to victimize themselves. I am very weary of Taylor stans, I always assume they're must be self centered and self obsessed in order to be able to resonate with Taylor
@@natural91LCyou’re a prime example of that toxicity just with that pathetic comment
sure, if it makes you happy, think that :) @@angelsky6869
exactly, any woman who disagrees with her is someone who is probably racist. great comment @natural91LC
@@angelsky6869
This guy I dated briefly in college did me really dirty but I eventually decided to forgive him and be “friends” (ie passive friends on FB, liking each others’ stuff.) He would message me once in a blue moon and we would chat for a bit. I eventually realized he was doing it to assauge his own guilt. Me talking to him made him feel better because it would reassure him I forgive him and he doesn’t need to feel guilty, and he could be happy with his new girl. So I decided to just ignore him. I’m indifferent to him and he gets to feel slightly icky in the back of his soul for what he did for the rest of his days. Win/win.
So he should feel guilty for the rest of his life despite you forgiving him ?what sorcery is this ?
@@ouassinidechezcarglass9482 Yes. Problem?
You don't know what you're talking about. In the audio recording Kanye only told her about the verse, "I feel like Taylor may owe me sex." And Taylor said, "That's not mean. I was worried you were going to say that stupid *itch or something." So Kim did edit out that part. She was absolutely lying and Taylor was telling the truth. That could have completely destroyed her career and this is the first time in 4 years she has talked about this. If Taylor was just a mean person who plays the victim all the time she would never have forgiven Kanye for interrupting her acceptance speech, you see where that got her.
💯 agreed
Those who are saying Taylor should move on, forget how she was brutally trolled and slammed in public for something she never did. She is right in bringing up her side of story when she is at the highest point of her life and tell the world you did me wrong years ago and nobody took accountability for it.
@ no clearly you don't know the whole story. Kindly go and check it. The point is they bullied her, they talk shit about her everywhere, they never apologized, they bullied a 19 year old girl, do you think that was nice?? Why do you guys expect someone from their trauma?? Everybody copes with it in their own way. And they changed the lyrics. It's fraud if you say one thing and do the other thing. Misrepresentation is also a fraud.
I've gotten 2 apologies in my life from people I assume were in AA (because they were so out of the blue, and had substance issues). One was a guy from high school 10 years prior apologising for bullying me (he didn't), and the other was an ex-friend from 8 years prior apologising for something that I'd forgotten happened. Had to actually ask around, "hey, do you remember what she did to me?". Never had an apology for anything I actually remembered and cared about, though.
She sounded so bitter in the Billboard speech. Imagine being a major pop star and people are critiquing your singing? She had to take lessons. Poor Taylor
Ahahahahahaaa I love that she proved to their point and didn't even realize it ahahahaa
I feel sorry for her honestly.. Imagine conquering the world in just about every capacity and still focusing on and repeatedly reminding the world of all the ways people have wronged you, instead of just enjoying your beautiful, blessed life 😕
Right, she really reminds me of Bethenny Frankel
This is exactly what I cannot get about her. I am like: wake up! Look around! YOU HAVE IT ALL. APRECIATE IT!
Or perhaps it just shows that, despite wealth and success, little things can still get under your skin and irk you. She's human, and all humans dwell on injustices. Honestly, if she went on about how lucky she is, everyone would have a problem with that and think she's just bragging about being successful. Do you really want to read an article where someone is repeatedly saying, "Yep, I've got an awesome life! I am so blessed! Every day I wake up and just enjoy my major achievements! There is nothing in my life that bothers me, because I have it all!" I'm not a TS stan, and find the constant coverage of her to be a bit much, but you have to admit that she has the right to complain just as much as you do.
@@glittersloth11 don’t you think you just suggested the other extreme and, as it happens with extremes, it is just as unhealthy and ridiculous?
Also, do you suddenly post your complaints on your social media about something that happened to you 7 years ago?
Because I don’t. I complain directly to people who are close, not to everyone I know. And I am from the nation that is known for complaining. If we say she complains too much, then she REALLY does complain too much
@@glittersloth11 also the problem is that everything is injustice to her, this is how she presents that. If she would be: I own my sht and my imperfections, then there would be something to respect.
It’s worth keeping in mind that Taylor is a businesswoman. The Reputation rerelease is rumored to be announced soon so it makes sense for her to bring it up now. A lot of the imagery in the shoot is reminiscent of the Rep era as well.
Yes that hair was very reputation era. I get that it could be a business move but at her level, I personally would be more protective of my brand
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@@shallonlesterExacting revenge whenever she can is her brand. She sings odes to it. Proving the people who betrayed her are wrong is her life’s mission, so it makes sense why she’d twist the knife whenever she could
@@CassandraBananac’mon… Lover, Folklore, Evermore and Midnights didn’t have that narrative, Reputation had it, and if Reputation TV is coming… well, is obvious that the drama set the things up in favor of that launch… that’s how marketing works and I’m super sure that for her is more a business thing than a personal thing
@@alejosantacruz7 Midnights has two Karmas and Vigilante Shit. Her re-recordings are laced with revenge. It’s not just Reputation.
@@CassandraBanana her re-recordings marketing is about bringing back that history. If in the Red era the thing was her heartbreak is logical that in the Red TV era this comes backs also, it’s pretty obvious actually. In Midnights the concept was the things that she was thinking on her nights when she couldn’t slept … if that’s revenge like in Vigilante Shit I don’t get why don’t write about it. Also in Karma.
Taylor and selena love to play victm and never move on that's why i think they get along .
With all the money that she has why can’t she just go to therapy, heal and forget about being the victim all the time.🙄🙄🙄
Bc she doesn’t want to.. victims love staying the victim smh 🤦🏼♀️ 😆
Literally. Just because her pain is real doesn't mean she's not responsible for how she carries it. There are victims of far worse abuse with far less resources who manage to carry on with their lives without making their victimhood their entire personality.
It’s one of many things money can’t buy
RIght, let's all just let Kim get away with lying. 😏
@@morales419 Right, let’s all give in and baby Taylor for being such a victim because she is so “nice” and always being targeted by meanies like us 🥺🥺🥺
I was bullied horrendously by my boss emotionally and psychologically. It really affected me to the point that I was depressed. After I left that job I had to attend therapy sessions and nearly a year on I’m doing great and I forgive my boss for what they did to me. I had to forgive to accept it and find peace and to move on x
I never understood the having to forgive someone to move on thing
No apology, no chance of forgiveness imo 😅
@@anmayo917 not every once has to obviously but I did cause it gave me peace
@@darraghcollins1374 would you still feel some sort of anger if you saw them?
Sorry for being curious 😆
@@anmayo917 I don’t know. I would hope not cause my work in my therapy sessions wouldn’t be working. Also I was afraid of this person aswell
@@darraghcollins1374 this reminds me of a friend's situation, hope you're doing fine now
Thanks for explaining
Since she was a teenager and became famous everyone in Taylor's life has probably bowed down to her. While I believe Kanye did her dirty and was completely in the wrong, Taylor cannot accept that someone isnt playing nice and kissing up to her.
I don't think so.
Would you accept less than stellar behavior from other people in your life? Even from complete strangers? Accepting something that doesn't sit right with you makes you a doormat. If Taylor Swift just let things go, everyone would wonder why such a successful woman wouldn't stand up for herself and call out others for doing her wrong.
@@glittersloth11You missed my point by a mile 🤷♀️ Taylor is petty and bothered. No woman looks strong by complaining about things that happened 15+ years ago to everyone except the person who wronged her.
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I’m just gonna say it. Kim and her family have faced and continue to face harassment that extends FAR BEYOND what TS experienced. She knows exactly what she’s doing by fanning the flames of this stale drama. I don’t feel sorry for this woman and I never have. Im so tired of her and her fans spreading this narrative that the world owes her perpetual sympathy. “Kim, there are people that are dying.”
I have to agree here. As much as I cannot stand Kim I do admire how she moves on from things and doesn't let it define her and "not leave the house for a year". I can easily imagine myself letting a sex tape destroy me but she didn't let that happen. I do admire that.
I agree with you! She even shaded her ex who was there for her during this difficult time. I can't even believe she brought up the kimye drama. She super lucky if this is the worst thing to happen to her
I like what Taylor said about Kim. Taylor is a true artist, Kim has always been trash. I think Taylor has shown everyone how to move on and make great art and billions of dollars without unlawfully recording someone’s phone call.
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I Just don’t agree with her need to win EVERY SINGLE BATTLE. We’ve been over the Taylor vs Kanye debate forever now, and it’s just so annoying to me that after all of her success that she has built and her powerful year that she STILL can’t stand to not be on top. I think she’s going to learn the hard way that not every battle is worth winning, the Kardashians are not the type to back down either and can be just as petty back. I just find it so tasteless. There is such thing as being desperately right that you end up being wrong.
Yeah I agree with everything. It’s extremely off putting
If she’s right then why shouldn’t she win? She has matured and let go of the grudges from the past even though her career was almost RUINED because of them. She had to DISAPPEAR for a year. She was getting death threats. She only talked about it once when it came out. She has NEVER talked about after that. When the entire video came out of how Kim and Kanye were lying, it was during COVID and she took the high road and asked the fans to actually focus on what mattered.
If you had actually read what she says in TIME magazine, she says what she has EXPERIENCED in her life. She doesn’t JUST talk about kimye. Her world doesn’t revolve around them. They were just a minuscule part of the interview.😒 She talked about HER LIFE SINCE SHE’S PERSON OF THE YEAR.
I think that's exactly what it is that annoys me about her. She needs to have the last word on everything until everyone is kneeling at her feet lol
@@asarajofficial be for real her career was never almost ruined. reputation was her most successful tour 😂
@@candletabletop154 that’s because she’s not only a smart and talented business woman, she’s an amazing storyteller and performer. She used what the haters did and made it her mascot.
Do you even remember how bad it was at the time?
There are many women in similar cases who haven’t been as successful as her.
P.S - eras tour is her more successful than reputation tour
She’s also bringing this up cause she’s releasing Reputation Taylor’s Version and I’m a huge Swiftie but yeah she just needs to let it go and move on
Girl, Kim edit the recording showing only a part of the call that makes it seem she was lying. After that , someone in Kim team leak the complete recording of that phone call and then people saw that Taylor was being misrepresented. Also, Kim not only share the edited version she put a tweet saying Taylor was a snake ( kim send her fans after her and people start putting the snake emoji to her ) Kendal Also participated in the bullying. So I don’t think Kim was “classy” doing that.
Also if people did you that dirty I highly doubt the girl with the revenge necklace would do nothing.
Also , she is re releasing reputation, she is talking about the theme of that album. You can see it as petty but is pretty smart since she is becoming a billionaire and people are going to rally around her and support that re release.
Last , when the whole tape of Kim was released Kim gaslighted her and took 0 accountability about it. But the world could see the truth by then.
If you’re into the enneagram - Taylor is an enneagram 3 w4. Her 3 core drives her to achieve, but the shadow is that she cares SOOOO much about what everyone thinks of her. She needs to be a winner, and she needs everyone to *see* her as a winner. She needs to be a cool kid, and to be acknowledged as so by all in the cool club. It seems like she loves her fame, but it’s also made her miserable. Her 4 wing makes her incredibly creative, but 4s LOVE their pain. They are obsessed with it. I think these two aspects of her personality have become so convoluted that her pain (her breakups, her public controversies, her injustices) have become her brand. Her fans love the narrative and mythology (the “Schmäh as Arnold Schwarzenegger calls it) she’s created around herself. I think at this point she keeps bringing it up because she knows she capitalizes on her victimhood (without calculating the cost)… and she absolutely has to “win” the war.
YES. I feel like she keeps bringing the Kanye and Kim drama because SHE KNOWS her cultish fans will flood twitter with 'oh noo poor Taylor, these gross people did her so wrong' and it fills her ego. Same thing happens with her rerecordings and her bringing up again a break up that's been dead for more than a decade.
How do you know her enneagram type?
@@CassandraBanana I don’t know for sure, but I’ve heard podcasters analyze her enneagram type, and I agree with the analysis.
this is highly insightful.
You just described a narcissistic personality type
Thoughts on her allegedly taking money from olivia even though she has got so much? The jealousy the fear is so evident
She wants to crush anyone who has any potential of taking her spot waaay in advance. She or the mastermind behind her success is very smart.
But isn't there plenty of seats at the table for everyone? why does she have to go after a young girl? @@Borb_3
@@Borb_3it’s smart but she is not the nice girl she tries to portray herself as.
yes, she loved olivia until she started rivaling taylor herself at her game. then she pushed her to the side, took a chunk of her money from her song, and hired her ex boyfriends then new girlfriend as her tour opener.
I have to disagree.
I don't see anything classy about Kim posting that video with the snake emoji back then. Also, she did speak about this the entire year Taylor was away. And personally, I think the most insulting thing they did was the music video with the naked wax figure, and they did not ask for her consent on that tape.
I also understand why this was so traumatizing for Taylor. Maybe being trashed that hard was nothing new for Kim, it was for Taylor.
Now, is she being petty for still bringing it up? Sure.
But I don't think Kim and Kanye are quiet about this is because they either moved on or are "being classy" about it. It's because they both know they'll be torn apart by the media and the public opinion if they do.
Very true
The real lesson from this whole thing is that we should not defend our man at all costs 🤷♀️
Kim went so hard for her husband and look what happened.
Give your man honest feedback when he is not acting right.
The slings and arrows against Taylor are her currency. She's not letting anything go. She brought the feud up for attention ( and maybe to tarnish Kim's GQ cover and designation as "Man of the year"). I've always found "Tay" cringe and immature. Her victimhood along being self absorbed yet constantly in a relationship and needing accolades from the music industry is a bit annoying. In general though I tend to think a lot of celebrities are a bit vapid and stunted, usually due to not continuing education and being surrounded by fake a$$ kissers who hype them up and make them feel fully actualized. Taylor stopped school at tenth grade. I feel a little bad for Travis. When she breaks up with him ( which she will when she moves out of her regressed fawning phase), I hope she doesn't villainize his... simplicity too much.
This is spot on!!
Makes sense because she’s stuck in 10th grade mentality. 🙄
Not a Swifty here so I can't really analyze the situation too much but I think what will be really telling is how this relationship w Trav ends up. The ball is in her court. Only time will tell.
This is the first time she has gone into detail about what Kim did. This was a significant traumatic experience AND she was just a young girl. I think you are being to hard on her, talking about what happened to her is PART of the PROCESS of being able to move on and heal. Throw all the rocks you want Taylor, you were bullied by two grown ass adults.
Agreed...100% you're empathetic. That's something that's missing in this world. Just because Taylor is rich it does mean she doesn't have emotions or feelings. Kim lied and set her up. She lacks empathy cause she's a narcissist
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Hi Shallon, love your videos! Just a correction: Taylor is not woman of the year. She is PERSON of the year which means she beat out women AND men. I am not a Swifty but I do want to give her her props because there are a ton of men who are furious that this billionaire, single, promiscuous, child-free, cat lady is on the cover of Time. 😂😂😂
That is true and impressive but here to say that she’s not single. Every news outlet is reporting on her relationship and has been for weeks.
@@pri.sci.lla.she is single. Meaning she is unmarried.
Yes that makes your official status single.
@@ultravioletpisces3666yes, single can mean unmarried but it can also mean not in a stable relationship.
@@pri.sci.lla. You're right, single can mean unattached or unmarried. In my original post, I meant to convey unmarried as that's the trope the men bitching about her were referencing (unmarried, no kids, s*x out of wedlock, a bunch of cats, etc.)
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Oh my gosh I don’t understand why she feels like her whole life was ruined by one little thing that happened on the Internet. Maybe she got attacked by millions of people or at least thousands of people but it was just Kim’s fans it didn’t really harm her stupid career at all.
You speaking about the hurt locker really resonated with me! I have heard you speak of it before but this time it really clicked 😌 love your videos, can literally listen to you talk about anything!!
That is her massive talent and success. She writes about these episodes in her life. That is why she's Person of the Year. She's not taking drugs or drinking or eating herself to death, I'd say she's doing it right.
The thing that will always surprise me is this: Even though she knew very well that Joe Alwyn would not be able to respond as a gentleman, Taylor wrote "You're Losing Me" and threw Joe in front of her fans. Right now Taylor's fans are tearing Joe to shreds.
As an Taylor fan I did not do this I thought still do Joe is the one that got away I love how
actually no: I see it that way. We all know TS won in life - and she knows that too. She is out there enjoying it. So why should she forgive Kim? We all know it eats the kardashians alive when the super rich and famous don’t care about them or openly dislike them. Forgiving them at this point would just be a favour to them. Taylor doesn’t need them - she also doesn’t usually think about them so why would she care about forgiving them. It wouldn’t be for her cause she doesn’t need it.
anytime i’m feeling unmotivated i watch a shallon video and IM BACK BABY
Do you know that really bothered me to her acceptance speech for the billboard woman of the year or whatever it was called her taking credit for everything that happened in her career her talking about how she did it all by herself and no one helped and it was all her creative Stuff and the way that she decided to do everything that she was the reason that she was so successful and that no one else deserve the credit
And as shallon said; there is a way to tell it in a way that doesn’t sound like ‚fck you all I did it myself’.
Let me assure you. If Taylor Swift was born in Latvia or Slovakia or even Azerbaijan she wouldn’t be that successful. She is great but she wouldn’t get a contract with good record label. Wouldn’t get a chance to work with great producers. If she weren’t geographically in the right spot, where it was possible, her talent and drive wouldn’t be enough. So she shouldn’t be so sure it is all about her….
It's called taking accountability. Kim LIED big time to the point of purposely editing the video. Kim got away with it. Kim doesn't have to apologize but there are consequences cause if she lies about a video, she'll lie about anything.
💯 plus a narcissist like kim who has so much internalised misogyny totally deserves it.
Ok and? Taylor needs to move on 😂 that’s just life, it’d not like Kim k brought physical harm upon her
@@amarjotsingh8455Taylor did move on. In the article she was explaining how far she has gone to become "person of the year" despite people trying to take her down reminding us of Kim. By no means is Taylor asking for an apology.
@@amarjotsingh8455kim and her band of kartrashian h0es have done this to a lot of women over the years. Didn't khloe bodyshame chloe moretz and use a fake picture in her claim. Lying and fabricating "evidence" to try to demean women they feel threatened by comes naturally to this family of narcissists.
@@morales419 come on she knows what mentioning KIm k will do. If she spoke about adversity in general terms then I would agree with you.. but come on Taylor wants her fans to turn against Kim k
Fame stunts emotional intelligence development. As well, her target market is girls and young women, so she presents public conflicts at a level they will understand to get her fans engaged.
Very good perspective, actually… To think where you were when it got you… instead of focusing on people to ask ourselves why do we let this thing keep going. Thank you, Shallon! 🙏 It really spoke to me today.
Taylor has processed this and moved on and achieved enormous success. She was recounting her entire story for the article. I think those were some pivotal moments in her life and career and leaving them out would be disingenuous. She has publicly acknowledged her obsession with being good and being a people pleaser and that’s probably why this was so traumatic for her. To me admitting that is pretty brave and shows she’s more self aware than you’re giving her credit for. In fact it’s similar to the way you use your life experiences to help others. She does help others through her music that’s why so many people love and relate to her. It’s not weird at all that Kim doesn’t have a stan base named for her. How is illegally recording end editing phone calls classy? How is teaching young girls that money and appearance are the most important things in life? She’s supposed to be a lawyer? An officer of the court, and wants to be taken seriously? Kim is unapologetic for everything, and while you might find that admirable (and I agree in certain instances it can be), her behavior is highly narcissistic and problematic (which you’ve also acknowledged many times). Taylor is by far more honest and kinder to her fans and her family than Kim ever has been. You make some good points and give some great advice for your viewers to use in their own lives. But I think that you’re reaching here with Taylor and the “victim mentality” label applied here. It doesn’t apply because people with a victim mentality syndrome are associated with decreased well-being, poor social connections, and self-destructive behavior none of which we are seeing in Taylor. In fact quite the opposite. If anything I see that more in Kim as evidenced by her interactions on camera, silence regarding problematic events in her own life, and in her statement regarding the incident in which she only deflects.
In total agreement with all of this. I would also add that the Kardashians don’t have a standom because normally fame is a byproduct of talent (acting, singing, playing an instrument, architecture, painting, etc.) and that’s what attracts fans. Fame, in and of itself, is not well defined and hard to rally around on its own. I would also say that illegally recording TS revealed KK to be very untrustworthy, and is probably why she doesn’t have many celebrity friends, who take privacy VERY seriously. How could you ever be sure that a part of your convo wouldn’t show up on KK’s insta if you fell out. Lastly, TS is nothing if not strategic, which we need to hear more about from Shallon! Reminding the world, in TIME MAGAZINE when you’ve been declared Person of the Year, that your work was sold out from under you is the perfect way to keep fans and the otherwise curious interested in the rereleases of music albums that are on the way. 👏👏👏
Im a big fan of people being able to say how they feel and speak their truth, like yeah she’s winning at life but that doesn’t make the pain go away sometimes. Maybe this was her way of standing up for herself good for her and if it humbles Kim at the same time even better.
Maybe it is not about staying silent but saying something once instead of bringing it up time and time again?
@@bip5395the timing is perfect… Reputation (Taylor’s Version) is coming and Taylor is a very smart marketer… don’t be naive, for her isn’t about a grudge, for her, she’s setting things up for her upcoming re-recording, is smart, is strategic
This video is for me cos I swear I CANNOT let shit go 😂😂😂😂
Taylor annoys tf out of me, thank you for this😂
At first I too thought why is she mentioning this particular incident but then quickly I realised how big of a deal it is for a people pleaser to be hated by the entire world and having them say that they hate you and wish you death. It is a huge thing. And she has all the rights to speak about this as much as she wants to and as many times as she wishes.
True!
I think that being called a snake and people believing in it was a shock to her entire system. She built her career on being the good girl - first the good country girl, then the pop star who does not talk about politics and controversy and who just wants her forever love and does not deserve to be cheated on, betrayed etc. In her documentary, it was obvious how much she wanted everyone to think highly of her. Then she's suddenly on the other side. The rebranding that followed felt to me like a smart business plan. Why force it and continue being the good girl if people don't see you that way now - let's just switch and make money from this whole shitshow.
100% AGREE
This video is so underrated for how true it really is….she has to learn to let things go already. Taylor is low-key the real bully.
I just can't with her sometimes. I root for a cunning, ambitious, calculating woman most of the time, so I applaud both Taylor and Kim. Kim's commitment to curating an image *and maintaining it* borders on Joan Crawford level. Taylor is flying high right now, but she can't resist jumping back into drama 😑
Appreciate the Joan Crawford reference!
Is not that Taylor can’t resist it, she’s about launching Reputation (Taylor’s Version), bring this back is marketing
Shallon, this video is coming at the exact right time. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart ❤
taylor's perpetual victim mentality and how she has made it a vital part of her personality is the main reason why i will never be a fan of hers, sure i do like some songs, but her as a person is just not likeable to me at all, she's like a 35 year old teenager most of the time and that gets old and annoying pretty quick
I have conflict with people getting what they always WANTED yet remember past humiliations when all we have is today, all we have is NOW
Taylor's cover on time is giving a 90s mom on a lands end catalog
Classy very classy her style...
I actually found your channel because you were cancelled and I saw a video about you. The person reacted to an evil week video and I was shocked how a woman could say these kind of things so blatantly and I just had to check you out. Now you are my absolute favourite RUclipsr and I can't get enough of your videos
Forgiving is such an important part of truly moving on in life. It doesn't mean you have to be around person xyz anymore or that it's ok what they did. But it means you just let it go. Bad things happen to good people and after one dealt with these emotions and is not forgiving and moving on, it's like drinking poison and hoping the one who's hurt you dies.
That's not forgiving. that's just letting go, forgiveness is overrated
You can move on you and can heal from any trauma without forgiveness.
You must process your feelings, all of them, accept what happened to you (to live in reality, not denial) which allows you to move on from that particular issue without it consuming your life.
All of that can be done without forgiveness.
People aren't bitter because they need to 'forgive' and 'just let go' they actually need the space to fully feel & process all the ugly emotions we shame people for feeling & arrive at acceptance.
Fake or premature forgiveness causes the most damage.
I hope someone struggling to forgive stumbles onto this message and allows themselves the grace to focus on healing, working towards acceptance not necessarily forgiveness 💖🙏
I disagree with forgiveness. Just move on.
Forgiveness is religious bllsht intended to maintain the status quo. It is unnecessary, overrated, & hurts survivors.
She can’t get over the fact that whether you love or loathe her, Kim K is also killing it.
Killing what??? She's utterly talentless and the fact that she's made it this far is appalling and merely a statement on where our culture has gone. 👎🤮
She tells the truth about what happened, that's her right and shouldn't be blamed for it. It's always the offender who tells to "move on" and "act like an adult". Pure gaslighting to not pay the whole price for the wrong they did or to avoid an apologize.
Exactly. She was choses as person of the year and the article is meant to highlight her ability to overcome adversity so naturally they need to show the adversities she’s overcome. People are really confused because “being a victim” is crying and blaming people for why you AREN’T succeeding in life. Acknowledging that people very publicly tried to take you down and that you came back stronger (than a 90s trend), is not being a victim. That’s kind of like saying the song “I’m a survivor” is about victimhood, rather than the opposite.
She shares the same things… uh yeah.. that’s how you create a narrative.
Not to mention, these were very public things that everyone wants to know about. OF COURSE the article in time is going to focus on all of these things. This is a major part of her story. Not *everyone* knows all these details.
@@ultravioletpisces3666 True! The time, when Kanye almost ended her career must have been overwhelmingly hard. He showed manipulated recording, sang "I made that b**** famous" and everybody was cheering on him.
And now I cheer for her beeing "person of the year", for the success of her Tour and most of all for her revenge!
I dont understand shallon selling nacklace with the word "revenge" and now shading Taylor for doing so.
This video came at the exact right time its so frightening
I think Kim was able to "move on" so quickly after the recorded phone call scandal because she was the wrong-doer.
No, Kim moved on because she proved that Taylor was lying about there was never a call and then switching to…”yeah, but I never gave my approval for the lyrics so you two framed me!” GIRL BYE
@@codyboy8740 why would they record her in the first place? they knew exactly what they were doing.
@@lanovia3838 well it wasn’t about recording Taylor…Kanye has documented his life for years (for himself and now probably for his kids). So, when Taylor wanted to lie and say a phone conversation never existed, Kim decided to expose her. Taylor then went for damage control and had her fans focus on “well I never approved the lyrics” ….they framed me! Her fans (after attacking her for lying) heard the entire message (which Kim had access to) and felt like oh Taylor WAS telling the truth! Kim NEVER said she gave permission…Kim was proving that there was a phone call between Kanye West & Taylor Swift….possibly collaborating after the 2009 VMA’s!!
@@codyboy8740 I understand that but Kanye started the beef at MTV awards and then those lyrics. He just couldn't stand her success for whatever reason. She didn't do anything wrong to him. Even if you disagree withe the verdict, you take it with class, like Beyonce. I never saw her saying someone didn't deserve their award even when she lost with that person. I never saw her mocking anybody. Kanye is petty.
@@lanovia3838 ok, I understand your response but it includes several topics! Let’s dissect! 1) Kanye, 50 Cent, Taylor Swift….a lot of celebrities are petty! You may not agree about Taylor but she is! To ALWAYS write about your exes or for such a reputation to precede you would strongly suggest Taylor is not a good ex-girlfriend to have because she will not take the high road, she only builds this one sided story of what happens in her relationships! It’s one sided because imagine ALL the exes making a mockery out of her new album, getting together and talking about what a Torture it was to date her! FACT: at this point ONLY about 13 men UP against millions of millions of fans are the only ones who know that intimate information!
Okay…about Kanye starting it! You are correct which is why it would have been a shock to her fans that she was even talking to Kanye…so she lied NOT realizing he documents his life. Taylor REGROUP: (Taylor) point out that you never approved so it’s a frame job! You fell into deep depression because of Kanye.
Taylor Swift is a privileged white, blue eyed female who has been wealthy her entire life. A woman is both smart and vengeful, a songwriter and lyrical assailant, people pleaser and puppet master manipulator , fake feminist and super clingy, great business woman delighting a victim mentality! So, people will either love her, love to use her, love to hate her or just see her for ALL that she is!!
Everyone has been calling how Selena Gomez’s craziness and victim mentality on Twitter , looks like you were right again Shallon !
I'm with you, I literally find myself asking "what would Kim K do?" She's really that girl 💯
HER WHOLE BRAND IS VINDICTIVENESS. I love it but that’s what it is. She’s literally a woman scorned
19:24 you don’t care enough..
Well yeah… Kim and Kanye weren’t random celebrities. After what Kanye did taking the mic from her when she won album of the year- Taylor went OUT OF HER WAY to accept his fake apology and to defend him to the entire world. They worked together and they presented themselves as FRIENDS. The entire time they actively were plotting against her and using her friendship to benefit themselves while trying to tank her life and career.
So yeah… it’s kinda personal. People still believe she lied. Even you didn’t realize that the tapes were edited. Literally mostly only Swifties know half of this stuff because the media choses to tell a completely different story.
If she let the media spin the narrative (and this is exactly what would happen if she *stopped taking about it*) they would chew her up and spit her out just like they did to Britney- who only NOW 30 years later is getting to tell her side.
It’s a very different story when you are a private citizen than when you are being destroyed by the media. Taking the high ground does not work in this case.
Obviously Taylor’s way works because she’s basically taking over the world this year. So lecturing her that she’s “doing it wrong” seems… kind of silly. Good way to get clicks and engagements. 🤷🏼♀️
Forgiveness isn’t about the other at all it’s about freeing yourself and seeing the humanity in another even thought they wronged you.
I love when you say “crazy as a sack of weasels” lol 😂.
Taylor has arrested development she will be 16 her whole life
I think she's stuck at 22, like her song haha
Probably why Taylor and Selena are besties. Both victim players and bullies. Imo!
*I like Taylor but you are right, she needs to move on!
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Keep fighting sweetie! This is absolutely horrendous! I can’t imagine 😂
It’s funny because when Andy Cohen asked Kim about it, Kim was not bothered and said that everyone had moved on. Guess not🤷🏾♂️
Shallon, I love you and your content, but you don't have all the facts regarding the phone call. Kim and Kanye released in 2016, turned everyone against Taylor, and all Taylor wanted was to be excluded from this. Yes, she wrote music about it, but nothing like the vulgar lyrics that Kanye said about her. Then in 2020, the real phone call was leaked, and it turns out Kim and Kanye never fully informed Taylor about the lyrics.
I think her on going vendetta is because she was personally attacked on stage at the age of 19, made feel like her accomplishments (that her fans voted for) were not as worthy. So I have to be empathetic to this person who grew up in the public eye, experiencing humiliation like this and made feel like they don't belong. And then the saga continued, even after she extended an olive branch to Kanye and Kim.
Her career truly suffered, no one remembers it now, but she was bullied everywhere, and made fun of. And yes, you could argue that she's a superstar, it's her job to go up and down in popularity, but she experienced a lot of hate and vitriol, and put on a stage when she didn't want to be on that stage.
In a way, this is her attempt at taking back all that power, since she probably felt powerless. It takes a lot to confront and name people who did you wrong, and to do that in a public forum where people celebrate your accomplishments, I think that's wonderfully petty.
There is more to the story, I'm sure, and I'm not a swiftie, but...Who is Kanye West now? What is Kim doing?
And let's not forget that Kanye's video included a naked wax figure of Taylor, that seemed to imply (again) that him and Taylor might have sex. Gross is an understatement.
I'm not a fan a Taylor but I fully agree! Taylor even tried to make amends with Kanye after the whole VMA incident (she was still the bigger person) and they were friends for a while with Kim until 2016 and we all know what happened after
This is just what I needed to watch right now. You’re amazing 🥲❤️
I just feel Taylor has the worst PR person ever... How could you possibly suggest to continue this attitude over and over and over? Honestly girl, no one cared, not even back then.
I cannot imagine her just accepting what her PR people suggest. I get the vibe she has no doubt in her mind she is the only one who knows exactly what is best for her. I think she has enough narcissistic traits in her to keep her from being able to admit to bad decisions. In her mind the fact that she cares deeply about this is enough. It's only over when she says it's over. Very childish and self-absorbed
Do you really think that Taylor feels this in that deeply personal way? Hahaha she’s about to ralease Reputation(Taylor’s Version), bringing this drama back is a marketing strategy and works as a perfect PR plan but we all gonna see that results when she brakes the Billboard 100 again with this launch
@@alejosantacruz7 I get your point but I am not fully sure about it. I honestly think she still believes she needs and have the right to keep ranting about this idiotic story (which really shows how billionaires live life differently than all of us, as humble they might want to appear to the public). However, even if you were right, I would find it even more sad. She does not have to do it. She would break records anyway because of her popularity and her artistry, which was never needed all these petty move to shine. I just think it's sad honestly, how she has so much to be proud of, and she still focusing on Kim K, or media, or how she was bullied when she was a teenager. She could do so so much more.
@@Ann-lc1dp i like how she expresses about her bullies, I like how she pushes the karma for those how make her wrong, it gives me a sense of justice and a powerful vibe from her… for me is her saying “no one can mess with me and go unpunished” and I love it
This video came at a great time in my life 😂 needed to hear all of this
Kims assets are: her image. Her fakery. Her acting. Thatswhy she better at posing unbothered. And speaking on something, shes guilty of, would not bring her any fans. Taylor is talented. So is see completely different scenarios. But hate and rage wont bring you further... let go
there is so much more you need to shred about this interview & photoshoot omg PLEEEAASE
Taylor and Kanye have one thing in common tho: Kanye has made me weary of geminis, and taylor has made me weary of Sagittariuses 😂
You’re not wrong! I also feel like she was so positive and seemingly grateful at the beginning of her career, so maybe this is her trying to just be more real.
I personally think that Taylor tried to trick Kanye on the phone call by agreeing to the lyrics. She needed the revenge for him interrupting her on stage.
She was playing cool but everything she did afterwards was calculated.
It also kept the public talking about her.
Wise words & advise Shallon, thanks 4 this food for thought🙏🏽
I think Taylor brought it up again not to stir the pot but it was her expressing how she felt during that time and how Kim’s actions traumatized her. Maybe Kim hasn’t apologized privately..for sure she hasn’t apologized publicly to Taylor and that’s why Taylor can’t move on. This is just my opinion though..nobody truly knows the reason why it was brought up again. There’s also Reputation TV coming and there are songs about Kim and Kanye..it might be a promotional thing but like I said before, nobody really knows the truth other than Taylor 🤷🏻♀️.
Taylor needs an apology from Kim K ! 💯
Great video, Shallon! ❤
As far as I know in the whole phonecall she said that "she will think about it" but was overall very exited. So on one hand she didn't agree but she also didn't say "no". I can see how Kanye maybe thought that because of her previous reaction she would be okay with all this. The whole thing just seems like a stupid misunderstanding and not at all a reason to fight so much about it. It kinda makes me wonder that she used this as an opportunity ti get back at Kanye after years.
hands down, Shallon has made me who I am today. someone I can be proud of... Thank you Shallon
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I think she was monetarily and socially rewarded for that victimhood via her songs for decades now and it's baked into her identity. Her not leaving the house for a year is completely self imposed- no one put her in prison and she has endless resources to work on her mental health- only if she's willing to take the accountability for her part and put things in perspective- she's a young healthy billionaire, in a privileged group of very very very few people in the world. Enough with the pity party
You make a really good point about how the KarJennwrs choose to react. Granted, they have each other to discuss and protect, and I'm sure Kris does much of the final decision making.
But, those women understand the power of not responding. They learned it from being Kris' daughters