The ADHD cycle of doom
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2024
- Can you relate? 💙
Disclaimer: All my content is based on my own experience and/or research/observations from licensed professionals. Just because you do these things, doesn’t necessarily mean you have ADHD. ADHD behaviours are not exclusive to ADHD. If you think you might have it, please look to get officially diagnosed by a professional.
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I’m a dopamine junkie. I seek it daily through running, yoga, mediation, playing guitar, singing, cooking, extracting all the juice out of life I can in the short amount of time I have on this plane of existence. Experiencing ALL of the emotions, and feelings and drama of life. ALL of it.
My boss noticed how enthusiastic I can be about certain complex, annoying, ongoing tasks (if they align with my interests) and how I would try avoiding quick but mundane tasks for the ones I mentioned until I had absolutely nothing else to do and had to deal with them. She is different than I am and gets dopamine by finishing smaller tasks several times a day, no matter what the task itself is. She offered to split our tasks differently than we used to, to match our preferences. We are so productive lately, it's wonderful. She recognized patterns I myself couldn't quite connect yet, I am very lucky that she was willing to work with me instead of putting me down for it.
Happy for you!
That's not a boss, that's a leader!!
What a blessing
There are a lot of adhd channels but this channel gives us a lot of solutions and not only just detection.
You’re talking about the emotional challenges of adhd in a different way than others have and I really connect with what you’re saying.
I've struggled with this my whole life. I was told to bootstrap though and suck it up. That I was lazy and lacked motivation and grit. It made me feel broken. It's taken me years to arrive to the conclusion you're casually demonstrating here. I wish I had heard this so much sooner.
I liked catching sight of the cat 😂. And some of the other little visual 'surprises'. Nice dopamine boost.
😁
I really enjoy these snippets of information. I like how you say it's a gift. Thank you so much !!
Glad you like them!
Tip to my fellow divergents, find a group of friends that you can explain yourself too, ask them to hold you accountable to your tasks. I'm lucky enough to have a friend who contacts me multiple times a day and asks me if I've done what I need to get done, then helps me get started if I havent.
Omg multiple times a day. I hope you are paying her in some way by doing something equally as valuable for her. Thats a lot.
Happy for you. Hope it last for a long time ❤
That's nice. Lucky you! My bestie helps me procrastinate.
friends also work? hmmm I don't know... feels like I need a wife keyword need :)
@Padraigp believe it or not, it's a male friend of mine who I grew up studying computer science alongside of. He's hit it extremely big at such a young age and is now in effective retirement. He's told me that he knows I'm capable of doing what he's done if I just focus and delegate time properly, so much so that he's taken an active role in my life! Me and my girlfriend appreciate him more than anybody in life!
Pretty much doing that now. I'm not diagnosed but your videos are explaining a lot of my behaviours. Currently in the "feeling guilty" phase. This too shall pass
Same but my parents don’t believe me when I say I think I have it 😭
@@creamy_moon_xox Aw, don't worry. Somehow my family has no trouble in believing that I have it. At first they were skeptical, but then I listed all the things that people with ADHD are prone to doing and they were like, "That's 100% you." Maybe try listing the similarities you see with ADHD symptoms and your behaviour. And let them know that it's not a bad thing, rather something that will help make your life better if it explains why you may behave a certain way. Good luck!
This whole short spoke to me. I have ADHD and everything he said is me all day. Feeling worthless and useless. I needed to see this short. Thank you, thank God and bless you.
Write it down - and then I forget and lose the paper I wrote it on. Only to find it 2 years from now in a notebook under a pile of clothes I did not move since. And as I start reading it I realise I need to take a shower so walk towards the bathroom and on the way look at a receipt from my recent shopping, now I am looking for an app to manage my expenses
Where everybody is potraying negative things about adhd your videos motivates me to live my life
This is what I do it for. Thank you for sharing.
This channel is a gem❤
I’m getting my PhD and am preparing for my qualification exams, and I cannot thank you enough for this video. To be heard without being asked is such a gift.
You made me cry. You opened my eyes. All these wasted years, Im not broken! Thank you
what happens if you find your purpose but still need a boring job to build the way through it? I've been trapped in "the bridge" for years, please help!!
This guy doesnt want to help you he wants your clicks dont waste your time their ate actually people on this platform
Stimulant medication is the most effective single treatment for most people with ADHD by a substantial margin.
Otherwise (or additionally), physical exercise, good diet, zero alcohol, maybe mindfulness (see Lidia Zylowska's books on mindfulness for ADHD)... and maybe find ways to think about the 'boring' job that makes it a lot less boring. On the last point, at one time I found Covey's 'Seven Habits of Highly Effective People' great. Encouraged me to think in terms of mission and relationships. An ADHD coach could also help with goals, accountability...
Anyway. Lots of luck.
I’m in a similar place. I’ve been an addictions counselor for 4 years and I’ve been unable to enter a master’s program due to feeling overwhelmed. Then i started dealing with chronic pain and medical issues which put me into a lot of debt. Trying to find a bridge job to hold down my financial responsibilities while dealing with a chronic condition is near impossible after being so mentally burnt out.
I would try a form of coaching like another person suggested, I just had my first session with a coach who used to do therapy and it was extremely hopeful and energizing. Sometimes us ADHD peeps just need someone on the outside to help us navigate our mental maze!!!
Thank you ! You are honestly my hero your advice has helped me to live my life.
I hope you are making a comfortable living helping people.
if I lost, I get some sun ☀️ do garden a bit, tired do crochet 🧶 a bit, then I feel good I sew 🥻 clothes a bit, then I lost a again I pray and meditate, nap 😴 if possible. Then squish a journal 😅 somewhere to make sure I keep doing what I need to do even if took a very long time to finish when I do 5 things a same days
thats only if you are your own boss...
Thank you! You are helping me understand my 9 yr old son better. He was diagnosed with ADHD a year ago. We have not medicated him, but trying to keep him active with different things. He is always saying he’s bored (at least 20 times a day). He’s also dyslexic. We keep electronics limited and stay outside a lot running around. Also, vitamins and magnesium supplements
Does he like Lego? My grandson is able to concentrate on the kits. Now he is 16, and finishes the large kits in no time
I homeschooled our son. A mini trampoline in the house was good, as well as a big one outside. Find his heart - ours loved building things, earning money toward a goal, roller blades, and buddy time. Use those passions as rewards for mundane tasks. Another good one was keeping a list of small chores, so when he would say he was bored, I'd give him a choice of a chore or find something for himself...really helped him develop his self-management. All the best ❤
Thank you
That’s be a difficult lesson for me bc I’m interested in so many things… I’m a jack of all trades literally. From carpentry, electrical engineering, digital marketing, website design, coding Python, chemistry, dirt bike riding, hiking, chess, and much more… last week I created biofuel from used cooking oil.. it’s been a journey.
Thank you for posting everything you do I just turn 40 and someone told me I might have this before my birthday and with your channel I do believe I have undiagnosed all these years and I understand myself more. And I don’t feel that alone when I watch your videos
thank you!! 💞
Thanks so much for this one!
Thank you so much for your videos! I have had ADHD since 7, medicated my entire life too, I felt really attached to your words, everything just clicks!
That was literally my life before I knew that adhd is not only loud boys.
Excellent video. Love what you do and it will never get boring.
Oh damnit, I accidentially wiped on and had to go to my "history" to hear the rest of this video clip 😵💫🙈
This man is in a different country every two seconds, chasing the dopamine high :D
I realy needed this video as I seek cheap dopamine in pops up. Aligning interests into tasks is a great idea….sitting down to write this out 👍🏽 I’m 48yr old female but I still feel like a 20yr old and still struggling with day to day stuff 🤦🏽♀️….Thankyou
Thank you so much these videos help me understand myself much better
This was such a good video. I think fir every person it is omportant to know who you are, what you like ad where you are good at. Otherwise you will end up exhausted and without joy
Thank you 🙏 ❤ I love this and it makes total sense to me 💯
Thank you so much for guiding us 😊 Hope I found your channel earlier.
No, that isn't 'Step One'. Step One is seek proper assessment and treatment. Stimulant medication is the most effective treatment for most people by a substantial margin. 'Content' like this sends the message that we should be able to fix it ourselves with the right set of lifestyle changes, strategies etc. etc.. For a lot of people, it really, really won't be that simple.
Things like this frustrate me, because you’re right. But I don’t have the time it would take to ease myself in to doing the things I enjoy. School takes up all my energy, and I know I could fix it if I just had a few free months. But I don’t, so I’m stuck.
Thank you for this ❤
Love this ❤
What type of jobs would you recommend to someone struggling with finding that sweet spot? I have been job hopping my entire life, and now I’m in my thirties with absolutely no plan or idea of what to do with my life. I have 3 unfinished degree paths, tired of customer based work, and really just want to focus on diving into my work creatively but don’t have the time nor patience to figure out what I’m supposed to be doing in life. 😢 ughhh
This is what i,ve looked for for years. Thanks a million
I love how practical these videos are. 😎
Best video about adhd that I saw until now. Congrats
Crying. You give me hope.
Write it down, huh? Well, great. Now I must find _another_ self-help daily workbook/planner/journal to add to the graveyard with the hundreds of other journals and planners that only have my name and emergency contact information written in them 🤣😏🤦♀️😭🤷♀️
The best thing to help me study is get myself into a library with plenty people around me studying and that will push me through. If I am home there is no way I can be as productive, no matter what and it makes me feel so bad when I cannot be productive 😅 outside I get the dopamine from being around other people in a relatively unfamiliar space, listening to music (of course) but home nothing works and I will always end up doing other activities that bring me quick dopamine as watching a TV show or RUclips videos or reading a book etc. and then blaming myself for being lazy and unproductive 😅😅
Oh wow, this is so relatable to me
Ive never been diagnosed with adhd but i feel like i do have it. Like theatre has gotten boring for me, like i dint get nervous anymore...
Today, i was able to get a lit of housework done. On really bad days, i do a short list. I can focus on one task , completing it, and take a break that i enjoy. Then the next task. Im 57. Yes, ive had adhd for a very long time. My to do lists may be shorter, but im accomplishing things, rather than 20 things at a time that i cant complete. Love your videos
Not me having booked like 10 concerts and festivals this summer in the hopes of feeling something 🤡
Perfect explanation ❤
I love this. My mans speaking truth
"Write it down, make a plan". We know how thus ends.
Perfect comment.
I’ll do it tomorrow
Exactly 😂
Where is the plan, I lost it.
🤣🤣🤣 I keep them in a notebook and don't tear the pages out (that drives me nuts 😤) then I forget where I put the notebook and have to start all over again 😂🤪
Greetings from Warsaw ;)
I'm 62 and my whole life I've always said that I have a "low threshold for boredom" never knowing I had ADHD until this year.
I just got diagnosed with ADHD at 57. And I'm struggling. These things sound great but I can't seem to execute any of them. It's late to change now
Meds. And make a list of the things you have to do that day (otherwise, you get a lot of stuff done, but not the right stuff).
You made it 57 years without help. Well done! It does get easier.
But seriously, meds! It will probably take a bit of experimentation before you find the right match for you. Don't give up. In my 50s, and I hear you.
I'm 73 and have it. Am a retired teacher. Do you see a counselor at all? Could be helpful to do so, just a thought. I take meds when I really need to as well. My best to you!
I set up a support system with people I trust. They help remind me of important tasks. I’m 65 years old and self-diagnosed 3 yrs ago after my daughter said, “Duh, mom, of course you have ADHD.” Now I see myself and the world in a whole new light. No longer condemning and judging myself but learning to accept that the things I’ve done are not “bad” but that this is part of who I am ❤❤. It’s possible to change at any age.
Don't change, just accept, and adapt. Don't let perfect be the enemy of "okay". I'm 56 and still working on it. 😅
Same here. I like this advice though. It makes sense and gives an idea if how to manage it.
Nothing bothers me more than simple mundane tasks that are just time consuming. All the way through them inside I scream as loud as I can as often as I need to.
Best advice ever
Thanks for sharing your knowledge, despite having worked as a Clinical Psychologist for more than 20 years I failed to notice what I was suffering from. "You can't read the label from within the jar", right? The blind spots can't be overestimated and it does not help that professionals often are not trained to detect ADHD ... Me? Diagnosed at the age of 55.
I had a day like this today. I spent the day on myphone trying to get hyped up to do my chores. Felt like a loser all day...
Now i did no chores and that was my day off. 😩
Any practical examples?
GUILT IS AWFUL!!!
I don't like how much I relate to these shorts
Pałac Kultury i Nauki...
Respect for visiting my country.
If countries wrote journals mine homeland would be the most depressing.
Here for the drone shots
difficult in retirement - hard to do life maintenance, therefore always behind, therefore cant plan anything else
People dont understand that u can lose your job with the adhd procrastination. I was in accounting for 7 yrs & it was AWFUL. Lost my job & have FINALLY found something that works. Gods got a plan for u. Keep your head up :)
I wonder what kind of antibodies mediate my boredom allergies
I'm not taking anything for my ADHD and for the past 2 years I have been coping with it by drinking alcohol. I became an alcoholic! So 3 months ago I decided to quit. Only by the grace of God. But now I'm noticing how bad my ADHD is and I feel like no one understands me. I can't concentrate on anything, I get in bad moods, I feel burnt out and not ever feeling like I can rest. I have racing thoughts. I interrupt people while they are talking and feel really bad about it immediately after. I'm trying to do this with out medicine because I don't want to be addicted to another thing again. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thank y'all and have a blessed morning!
Nice, last shot is from Warsaw
This is me everyday. I know i shouldn't say this but i'm seriously not happy with life and i want another career but, everything seems to bore me to death, that i just wish to go to sleep into a coma like state and never wake up.
That last shot was in Warszawa by Pałac Kultury ❤😊
I can't write anything down, even reading books is difficult for me. I start but I read one sentence five times. when I write, my thoughts diverge. but somehow I cope in my own way. but there's no way I could organize myself. as if I were living in chaos. but I accepted it🎉
Hi, I’m new to the channel, did anyone find a short on paying attention to a conversation? I could really use one of those.
My lifes mission!
Warsaw on the end?
My journey starts now ❤❤❤❤
But I am still frustrated because, now I can't stop and take a break. 😢
Amen. Amen❤
Can you please elaborate on this topic a little bit with alining af all that ,?
I'm 65. Diagnosed in 1998. Have lost / experienced many positions. Been a long battle. Only God's grace has made my life happen / purposeful. AMEN!
You know I found a career in pest control. I made good enough money or I could stay at home with my kids pick them up from school and drop them off and that was enough for our family. My whole life on my family being with them my parents divorce when I was 10 that drove me into all kinds of drugs led me into the streets by 18 after four rehabs a group home for a year this was all before I was 15 and then my last program and 92 thank God it was a behavior modification because I needed that so I managed to stay clean for 32 years and raise a family been married for 25 been in the same house for 20 years even with my struggles, I still made it happen because I was super focused
There's no such thing. I'm not good at anything.
You’re good at SOMETHING ❤ Maybe you just haven’t found it yet
Have any of you absolute warriors been on medication for ADHD, and if so did it help?
After getting diagnosed in my mid-40s I tried a couple of different types of meds and doses, and found Vyvanse was the best option for me. It does help, quite a bit, and now I’m (finally) pursuing my dream of getting my bachelor’s degree. I’d suggest talking to your doctor, so many people are seeking treatment now that they could probably make a recommendation based on their experience. If it’s not working for you request a change, there are options
I am from the netherlands, we have a different remedy😂😅. It makes you break from it and still keeps you thinking.....guess!
That my friends is ikigai I'm reading a book about it but I stopped in the middle due to my exams and haven't read it since so... Um...
I did map out my life and I’m better for it. My parents divorce when I was young so all I wanted was a family from 10 years old I built walls. No one’s gonna hurt me that only led me more suffering
Warum erinnerst Du mich an Nicolas Cage?
So effing true
Ok. So find that perfect thing and then lose interested after 1-3 years anyway and have to do it all over again. At least he gave us something else to hyper focus on instead of that boring task! Haha.
Unfortunately for me this will never work- there is literally NO thing I could be good at, that would interest me and bring money at the same time... 😞 And that my friend is called LIFE.
Warszawa 😍
I can't see a damn thing with that word "shop" on screen
Whatever you do seems to work quite well given your housing situation in Hamburg no less.
It's pique, not peak.
Not criticism, just correction.
Your vids are good. Keep on helping us
What if you're not interested in anything? What if none of those things intersect? What if you're not good at anything, and can't just go wandering around to find it?
so how can we do that? finding the intersection?
I want help with this but trying to find it feels impossible. How do I remember this in the middle of the day when everything is collapsing around me? The book you were reading. Does stuff like that help?
I make a list and finish items as fast as I can. I get a looot done that way, more than most people.
sweet spot
Ah I think I should change my major...