How to Love the Voice You Have
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- Hi guys I'm Madeline Harvey. And thank you so much for hanging out with me today. So if you've been with me for a little while you know that I love talking about things that are all a part of the exploration process with your voice and love me some technique. But I love even more the human heart of singing because it's deep it's it's where all the treasure is buried. It's where all the good stuff is and it's why we sing. So today I want to talk about something that is very crucial to the learning process with your voice and that is how to appreciate the voice that you already have and ultimately come to love the voice that you have now. Most people when they start to train their voices there is this really twisted relationship that we kind of all have with ourselves and our voices and that is something that we are completely ashamed of. Our voices are sound is something that we're ashamed of or something that we're embarrassed by or something that maybe even disgusts us. And so when we have that kind of relationship with our voice we carry forth into lessons with this sheer determination to change everything about who we are. And that's no good that's no good. And I'll tell you why your voice is controlled entirely by your nervous system. It's a beautiful thing. That means your thoughts your feelings there. They're the instant manifestation they're instantly manifest in your voice. Now that means if you don't like who you are if you don't like what you have to say you're going to send those impulses through your body that that trap the voice and the locket inside of the body and that makes obviously that makes it harder to sing right. It sets a domino effect a chain reaction of tension and that it can feel like it's so micromanaged and so maneuvered and so manipulated from one note to the next note to the next note and part of that is we said we just said it way too many conditions for the voice. Now a condition is as simple as I want to sound good. Well that's a big condition. That's a big condition. Now I'm not saying that the opposite is sounding bad. It just is that when you really want to sound good you tighten around the voice that limits the spectrum of choices that your voice can make and your voice is designed to be spontaneous. So let's say I want to sound good is a really big condition. The other might be I want to sound like my favorite artist or it needs to be on every pitch. God forbid I sing off of one pitch here or there. It needs to be loud. It needs to be this it needs to be that needs you know I'm so on and so forth. When you have that that much conditional response for the voice it will lock the voice into a place that it can not change from. Now that's that's no good when you're singing because music is literally energy in motion. Emotion is energy in motion. So if you're tight around the voice it can't move and if it can't move then pressure is going to build tension is going to build and ultimately it's going to start shaking it's going to start wobbling and then Will what do we do when that happens will we turn some are how dare it. How dare it wobble. And that creates again a push pull mechanism. So the answer is very simple but it's very sophisticated and I'm going to talk about that with you. The answer is to allow your voice to flow allow your voice to be what it is right now. Now I can feel you getting tight around that maybe because sometimes people think that if I allow my voice to be what it is then that just is like a shorthand way of saying I'm doomed to have this voice for all eternity I'm doomed to sound the way that I do now for all eternity. And that's not true in the least. You are a dynamic being you change from day to day. You change from moment to moment. So your voice is also dynamic. It's an expression of who you are. So what we have to do in lessons or in your practice in your own experimentation is you have to create first an environment where that spontaneity and flow can happen. Now allowing is a wonderful way to do that. So what does that mean. That means that you're not going to react anymore to what your voice does that's so hard. That's so hard but a wonderful way to come into allowing IS to play.
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Don’t you guys just lover her!!!???? Her gift, her style, her HOME(soooooclean!!!) she’s super aMaZing!!!! Who would have thought a vocal lesson would become a coaching session to love one’s self! Love it!!! Please Keep it coming!!
True, she's so charismatic and is a very sweet person
This is my biggest nemesis, for sure. I can't count the number of times my singing teacher has said "you don't need to make it sound pretty" or "you're holding back, just let it fly". Control, control, it's so hard to let go of the control.
This notification came to me at the exact moment I was thinking about not liking my voice
Same!!
Same here.. Was so down whenever i listen to my own voice and it feels like "duh... what sound was that??"
same
This was a big problem for me. I was so fearful of singing in front of people for the majority of my life. I was so concerned about what people would say, or mainly, what I thought they would say. It was more of me criticizing myself, instead of using what God has given me. I am a singer/songwriter and I have learned to be myself and not worry about whether people like me or not. I love to sing and I enjoy putting smiles on people's faces because I am using my gift to be a blessing!
note to self: play, play, PLAY with my voice
"Singing should not be a source of anxiety, singing is supposed to be you coming home to yourself" - Madeleine Harvey
Ms. Harvey you are amazing.
Singing therapy. Therapeutic singing. You are a lightworker worthy of guiding all into the new age. Thank you! Sending love and light ♥️
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You are a godsend !!!!!!!! Thank you soooo much!!!!! This is the most profound and accurate message, and it reached my heart so directly!!!!!! Thank you, from the bottom of my diaphragm!!!!!
the problem that I constantly run into is that whenever I have to sing and I hear that I sound bad (which happens 99% of the time since I'm a beginner with no proper training) I immediately start to exaggerate my singing, add noises, accents and whatnot. because it's easier for me to make it all sound as a joke, like I'm not actually trying to sound good and it's all comedy. at this point I'm so used to playing with my voice and having fun with it that I can't take myself seriously anymore. I hope this makes sense, it's not easy to explain thoughts in the second language at 5 a.m. lol
haha; funny you should say that. My husband can't hold a melody - unless he gets goofy and pretends to sing like Frank Sinatra (or such) - THEN HE'S TOTALLY ON KEY! You might be on to something...
I do that CONSTANTLY and I don't even have a bad voice but i have really intense anxiety when it comes to singing and its hard to let go of that.
Yes 100% I've done my whole life. Making funny voices is easier than actually trying to sing in front of people.
Thank you ,I’m working on my confidence !
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as someone that has loved singing my entire life, got bullied for my speaking voice most of my childhood, and has now start signing and sharing covers on youtube - this video was perfect for me. i find myself cringing at my voice often, and wanting to sound different. i have always struggled with insecurities due to my childhood. i still have technique i know i need but i also just want to have fun and feel free the way i do when i sing along to other peoples songs. thank you so much!! such a good video.
Yes! I love her. We should all have her confidence and I know she loves herself, but in all the mindful humble ways one should. This video is so important!
Well this made me cry, thank you for talking about this... so often I've tried to sound like others because just sounding like me never felt sufficient. Thank you for explaining how that is hurting me and my sound.
So aligned with this philosophy. Thank you for being you and sharing this - people need to hear it! The world needs happy, free, confident, loving, artistic, creative, beautiful people...to make it a better place and to bring light into the dark✨🙏
Madeleine is a real life Disney Princess with the superpower of INSPIRING PEOPLE TO SIIIIIING 💖
Watching and hearing your words...so healing and soothing. Thank you so much for sharing! I have loved singing since I was a little girl. Somewhere along the way ( through pressure, disconnect, fear and sorrow) I lost my voice. And my joy of it and love for it. It actually became a heavy burden. I tried giving singing up, but I can't. Its my soul. I allowed myself to re- discover my voice and learn singing again. This video has inspired me, to allow myself to be silly, to play, to explore, to "let loose"...I feel today might be the first day of something new. Thank you!
I truly thank God for you! This came when I really needed it the most! I appreciate you! 🙏🏽🙌🏽💙
This truly made me feel so happy. There’s something about her that’s so kind and genuine, and she really makes me want to love my voice.
Aren't you the sweetest teacher ever! I just love how you're talking about these things too. Super helpful! ❤
OMG!!!! I'm speechless!!! I'm putting my confidence into practice and learning to accept who I am. Thanks to you. You're just amazing 👏👏👏
Thank you so much for this beautiful message. I have really been tearing myself down internally for a while now, and I've realized that it is happening in regards to my voice as well. Some days I criticize myself to the point where singing is the source of immense anxiety and I contemplate giving it up entirely. I know that this fight goes beyond singing for me, it is a fight about me accepting myself, unapologetically. Learning to play, have fun, not worry about whether my sound or myself is acceptable or not. Thank you. I really needed to hear this
This really makes a lot of sense because when I sing for fun without focusing on any aspect of my voice, I really love and enjoy my voice but the moment I start singing for the purpose of like posting it online or improving a certain aspect of it like pitch, I usually feel like I sound so terrible at that point . Thank you for this ❤️❤️
I want to hear that nonstop... I'm gonna paint those words on my wall. Thank you for that encouragement. You are a blessing!
Oh Madeleine your video was so important to me. As a beginner I am struggling to appreciate my voice and I never thought that It could be so easy. I love you so much, thank you ❤️
Absolutely one of the most profound insight I've ever heard. I can't begin to express my gratitude. I've been trying to get my arms around this and define it my entire life. I'm 55. I'm giving you a big cyber hug right now. I will watch more of your videos and I will be sure to send a thank you your way!
Madeleine, you are just what I needed! My synchronicity is starting to kick into gear and it brought me to you last night. I have been taking singing lessons for a year now and my voice teacher is wonderful, but you are my missing link. You are talking my language (Quantum). Thank you and I look forward to watching, listening, practicing, feeling, and singing along with all of your videos.
Hypnotic magical words , you are a mentor in self development you explain the psychological side of singing in a way no one else do , thank you God bless you
Thank you for making videos like these that are centered around a more positive mindset. Lately, I've been struggling to accept certain parts of my voice because it's a lot raspier and resonates lower than most women's... and I can't hit any note above F5 to save my life. It seems like for months I've been trying to force my voice into being something it's not, and last week my voice finally cracked. I couldn't sing at all. So when I came upon your channel, there was this sense of relief that I hadn't felt in a long time. Anyways, this is a long comment in an attempt to say thank you :)
Thank you from NYC! I joined two choirs (one traditional and one rock) to learn to sing. While the directors are amazing and every single member is supportive, especially of newbies like me, I'm my own worse enemy. I compare my voice (unfairly) to others who have been singing for years. And when I upload my audio or video for the now-virtual concerts, I cringe at the sound of my voice, although it will be beautifully blended in with all the others. And, instead of feeling proud "I did something I never did before!" So, thank you for this most inspiring message - and encouragement to play rather then digging in and getting frustrated at the baby steps at progress. I'm probably making much more progress that I allow myself! I am a devoted fan!
Thank you for all your lessons. Everytime I watch I learn something new and enjoy the way you describe anatomy relevant to singing as well as our spirit, soul and emotion and how it is all linked. Great point about limiting our voices with focusing on trying to be perfect all the time verses expression.
Thank you so much. We all needed to hear this!! So bad you have no idea. Thank you.
Thank you for this today. I had an audition that didn't go well a few weeks back and haven't opened my mouth to sing again since. It's always so painful, the rejection of a failed audition, I seriously have to rehab my self-esteem for quite some time before I feel safe singing again. This helped me remember why I love doing it and as a result helped me want to sing again.
I have lacked confidence in my voice and I know it affects my voice. I really needed this. Thank you! 💕
I have a paralyzed vocal cord. M you have helped me more than any vocal teacher has ever taught me. Your thoughts about making your voice your friend and so many of your videos explaining authenticity are way more important than doing sirens,using a straw while singing happy birthday etc. You are the real deal. Keep in keeping on!
This title spoke to me and exactly what I struggle with! Thank you!
By the way, this exercise and truth is not only for singing! It's identical for every day words. It's transformational. I can't express this enough.
This literally made me cry.... you are a beautiful human BEING. This is exactly why I sing. I think I had forgotten, I really am inspired by this beautiful message. I am gonna take this message into every note I sing. Thank you 😊
I am going into a really great studio to record today, I was looking for an encouraging message..... I had no idea this depth of spiritual truth was gonna find me. Bless your heart ❤️
You are beautiful! The kind of teacher, i wished i had in elementary school! my teacher was mean! telling me, my voice was disgusting and awful! i was 8 and she made me cry a lot! took me 30 years to accept my voice and sing. I love you, take care!
Thank you so much 💕 today I hated the sound of my voice but all of my listeners thought I was so good. I am going to keep listening to your tutorials and practice loving my voice. You are my favourite voice tutor so far xxx
My voice teacher--I miss her so much-- always used to say there is no up there is no down, there's singers and then there's I don't know what that is. I always laughed so much when I worked with her
you are teaching me how to be the person i needed when i was younger
WOW, i had to share this with my husband. He is always saying how he hates how his voice sounds. As someone returning to singing, this was exactly what i needed to hear as i relearn my voice. thanks
Hii...big fan😍. Love from India❤.
It has been just a few months since I am into music and your videos are really helping me alot🤩. It is really nice that you took this topic coz' this is the issue I was facing😂 but know...its great😊. Thnk u...
thank you so much, ive heard this a few times and carry it with me but the reminder is so valuable :) more people needs to hear this
only gone through the first 1 minute and I'm thinking that this is a podcast. talking about podcasts, maybe you should start one!. love you!
What an angel you are Madeline. Unlocking my soul in such a fun way. Thank you❤️
I really love this video! That's exactly what I need hear, love yourself, love your voice the way it is right now and do not judge how you sound. 🥰😘🥰
yer killin me with these videos! Thank you so much for being a beacon on my journey. So much love and compassion coming thru....I'm really inspired today, and myself making sounds as you speak! It's kinda weird and wonderful...seems so silly that i need permission from someone on my computer but I am taking it!
You just reminded me why I'm subscribed to your channel. Liked the video 3 min in, long time without seeing such genuine wise content. Just from reading the title I sensed I was gonna get more than a singing lesson and I did. Your advise reminded me not only why I was born to be an interpreter and voice actor but also a very happy moment in my childhood when everything was magical and I decided to be a singer/have a famous voice as a life career, I feel fueled and inspired to continue pursuing my dream. Saying thank you is an understatement. Much love! ♥️
Thank you for this. I've had this problem for years, and it's gotten worse over time because I was trying to force it. I'll be taking your advice. Love your videos!
Wow ! I am blown away. I love the way you explain and express it.
I stumbled across your video completely by accident and I am SO happy I did! What you are sharing here is beautiful stuff. Thank you so much for using your voice to inspire ours! ❤
thank you so much for making this, honestly. everytime i post a cover my confidence always stoops because i'm never satisfied with how i sound. i know i put too much pressure on myself but it's hard to be comfortable all the time. this video gave me some clarity on what i should be doing. literally all of your tips have been working wonders for me. thank you thank you thank you!! 😭
Thank you so very much for this video. This is what exactly what I needed today.
Its amazing because I unintentionally did these random sounds (mostly while doing house work or softly doing homework) and when I sang I heard my voice had changed slightly. You are so on point when saying making these sounds are done confidently for me it was silly and it made me laugh and I felt happy doing it. It's so weird, thank you Ms Harvey for sharing this with more people, it really helped me.
This is brilliant. I was sobbing by the end. You’ve hit the nail on the head so hard.
super thank you Ms.Madelaine..I so agree with you about singing, and its so helpful that you also validate those thoughts in me.Looking forward for more of your videos inspiring others.Godbless you
really need to hear this recently. i've been recently getting back into singing after years of not singing at all. and when i start taking vocal lessons, i just can't do the basic instructions that my teacher gave me because i'm too self-conscious about techniques but singing NEEDS my body and soul to relax. learning to love my current voice is important as well as not too worry about singing bad or wanting to able to sing the way i used to.
Thank you so much!♡ This video so beneficial for self-love, for freedom of my voice, I'm going to enjoy, play, honour and live♡♡♡
My life has changed completely, thank you for kindly putting me in the right direction.
You came when i need it the most.. I gave up on training after i listen to my own singing voice a week ago... I do sound like dying duck
THANK YOU! I’m sharing this with my music teacher. This really summed up things for me and how I feel! I’m relaxed singing by myself, but the moment I try to record or sing in lessons I feel so on the spot. 🤦🏼♀️ So thank you for this video from the bottom of my heart!
Thanks so much!! It was just what I needed to hear. You´re amazing!! I love your videos very much!
It might be seem like a broken record in all the comments I give you... but after watching any of your videos I can say the same thing... THANK YOU THABK YOU THANK YOUUUUU!!!!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I really needed to hear this. I can relate to this so much. It makes perfect sense. Wow! Thank you.
Thank you so much ! I'm from France and I love to see your videos. Everything becomes easier with you. I'm really gratefull for all the advices you share.
I love you so much, Madeleine. Your videos are always really helpful and this wasn't the exception but this was different, this was therapy. THANK YOU, you're a really important part of my process, you've helped so much. I wish you the best things in life, all the love and the blessings
Well the thing is that i think im ok to play with my voice, i just want to be like alone with no neighbors around (my uncle lives like on the second floor of the house and i can even hear his dogs walking on the roof). I live in a village and i have like a story with some people and most of the stories are bad, so its like i trap my self for no reason because, its like i can feel their energy and ther criticism around me before i even start playing with my voice (i mean i have sang before but you know doing or trying to do something like properly is not something to like be easily ashamed of). I know that i should not care about them ( i mean they might not even care i just have this fear) but I am working on it to liberate myself from the chains and the problems that some of them have caused to me in the past and i sadly have continued to create all over the years!!! I hope i can make it and make my everyday happier and more positive even if im around from people that have caused suffering to me in the past!!! I hope you can liberate yourselfs from what holds you back and trust me as i know for my self i also know for you too you can do it ... yes you can just believe in you and in your in-strenth and you will make it. Have an awesome day!!!
Thanks Madeleine you are so generous for sharing your knowledge with us, it's really helpful! Kisses from Argentina :)
As a reluctant baritone, this was extremely good for me to hear. Thank you.
The best video flat out. On so many levels did that resonate with me. I’ve been on a journey to be OK with me. I was wondered why my singing suffered because I didn’t allow me to love me first. that means my voice as well. Thank you so much for being kind compassionate and caring your help so many people including myself. Insert heart here. ….
Ohmygosh this is such an important video- every singer and artist should watch this. I've struggled so much to love my voice but you put it in words, in the exact words I needed to hear. Singing is so much fun when you feel safe to be yourself
Very true, honest, and inspiring vid for us singers!!! Thank you 😊
You are my number one you tube singing coach. Gifted teacher and singer!
Brilliant. Miss Madeline, you really do affect my life in amazing way. Your authenticity articulated as you do touches me deep in my heart. Thank you so much
I love this channel! Every one of your videos that I’ve watched is a gem! Thank you!
Wow! So wise! Thank you-your transmissions are sacred gifts!
So GOOD words 🙏 thank you so much it bring me peace and joy to feel.really good advice i never heard that before.and so clear.thanks a lot 💗
You never fail to make me cry. (In the best sense of the word.)
I’ve finally started doing that this year. I’ve wanted to sing my whole life, but always been told how horrible I was. Well, maybe I’m too old to care anymore, I don’t know, but I’m just doing it anyway now. 💕
As alway's, thank you for such kind words and lesson. Have a great week(end).
Thank you so much for sharing this precious advice with us. I really needed to listen to it. Thank you! 🙏🏼❤️
Needed to hear all of this 🙏 Thank you 😊
This was a great singing lesson. Thank you!
This is exactly what I need to hear right now!😍
I need to learn how to love the voice I have😊
Thank you for this!
Im a fan from Philippines🤗
Love this kind of videos, thank you so much!
Yes to this. Thank you for sharing it.
Thank you. I took a long time to learn how to speak and I always was so embarrassed about my voice
Thank you so much! Every word you spoke in this video is pure truth.
That is so beautiful, Madeleine! I do feel renewed. Thanks.
Thank you sooo much for this video, I really needed to hear this today. You are so amazing thank you for all that you do ❤️
Madeleine, thank you for this video. It's exactly what I needed to hear at the right moment.
omg thank you so much Madeleine for this powerful message!! whatching every single video of yours and learning a lot since yesterday!!! kisses from brazill!!!!!!
Make noise! I loved that...I'm working my lack of confidence with my therapist 🙏🏻
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who is terribly hard on myself. Practicing each day and maybe making singing harder on myself. Ty for this video. Lots of love and blessings. ❤️
This was so beautiful to hear! Thank you!
Thanks for generous teaching and each valuable words you shared🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
You are a sweet heart, Madeline! Love you so much!!!
So well put, thank you so much for this!❤️