Stop Criticizing Yourself When You Sing
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- Would you like to know how to stop criticizing yourself when you sing? In this video we are going to learn how. I'm Madeline Harvey. Thank you so much for hanging out with me today. What I thought might be best for us today is to freestyle just a little bit just to get real on the topic of the critical mind. We all got one and it's not always pretty but what can we do about it so that our head stays clear and in the game and that we can move forward in a useful meaningful way in our creative lives. So it's my hope by the end of today's video that we both learn something about ourselves and then we both have the tools to bring to the job in just the making of art and the making of creativity. So I can feel the heaviness on this topic our critical mind as singers. It's it's a little out of hand guys. If I'm going to be honest with you it's a little it's a little much and it's out of hand but we can we can do something about this now as artists which just know that if you're here watching this video with me this is what I consider you an artist. And I do believe that it's the artist's job to be sensitive and to stay connected to their inner world that they used to create and they share in ways that are both meaningful for them and for the outside world. But when our creative mind not creative mind our critical mind gets a little too over dominant to the point where it's destructive. We are still demonstrating our sensitivity but in a collapsed non productive way. So we got to we got to find the tools that are necessary to keep us turning it around and using those thoughts that come in as a means to again gather experience gather insight but move forward because often. And we all know what this is like. Often times whether we're singing in a recording studio or on a stage or maybe even just playing around with our phone and we listen back sometimes. There is that whole god like we just recoil and pull ourselves in and it's just like the wait. Hot faces get really red. We feel hot and we feel the crushing weight of sometimes straight up disappointment. We feel we failed ourselves in one way. But it's what happens next that determines how we move forward or if we move forward at all. Usually we'll hear something in our mind that says something. I mean pick your poison. Who do you think you are. That was laughable. Yeah right. Nobody's going to take a serious if they're all laughing at you. You'll never be a singer. You're delusional etc. etc. We've all thought something like that before. That is a destructive critical mind and just know that we all have something in our psyche in our minds and our headspace that actually wants to cut off all life all creative life. All new fresh experience. So that's what's going on. And that's really helpful to know. But a healthy creative mind asks questions a healthy creative mind doesn't make judgments. It doesn't go. It asks questions like well how can you do that better. Or if you didn't like that tone try this. That might work better for you or that some ideas good. But let's change it to this. That might be better. So it makes suggestions and ask questions. If you are having a thought that says stop don't saying zip it lock it and put in your pocket for ever. You are not talking to the critical mind you're talking to that part of your psyche that just wants you to go back in your hole and never come out. And we know sometimes we eat some overdo that sometimes we do but we also know that we can't we just can't. We are creators that's what we do in life. So again the healthy critical mind will be one that asks questions. So as your recording as you're singing and you do something in hindsight of course I'd rather you not be thinking about it in the moment that you're singing but let's say after you've sung and you're watching and you're observing and you're assessing to ask questions like What would you like to see differently. What would you like to try. You want to try something new there. How about a nice ride. You know it's all the whole point is to move forward. New life you are already sensitive. You're here. You're watching this video you know what this feels like so don't demonstrate that sensitivity in a way that attacks yourself. Use it to learn something from. That's the big difference. There's this study and it's like a whole field of just thought leadership right now is just discerning the difference between mindsets right. There's like a fixed mindset and there's a growth mindset and that right there is what we're talking about a fixed mindset that's kind of obsessed with the result. The growth mindset is more of like using what you just did. Improving upon it. You mean always learning value value. Value there's value absolutely everywhere. That way you stay connected to Joy you stay connected to the fun and you're sort of aiming for that.
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the reason why most singers are so critical of there own siniging is becuse they are comparing their voices with the indusrty songs on the radio
True🙌
We pick out every off note that most people would never even notice. We’re always way harder on ourselves than anyone else would be!
Yeah I keep trying to do reverb in my throat
@@Mustafa-xd6jz 😭😂
You don't understand how much I truly needed this today. I recently started singing again after years of having horrible, condescending teachers who made me feel so low. I feel like I have definitely improved thanks to your wonderful videos! However today I hit a moment of massive criticism and I almost didn't want to do it anymore. This is perfect, thank you!
Same here....but my music teacher always encourage me🎵
Same here, but for me it was my bandmembers.... 😅😅
You gave me a lot of encouragement just now! It’s art we just have to work at it!❤️ Thanks!!!
"The most important step a man can take. It's not the first one, is it?
It's the next one. Always the next step".
Well said!!
@@MadeleineHarveyVoice Well, it's a quote from a book. Nothing on my part😅
This talented woman is amazing!!!! I really needed to hear this. She deserves a lot more recognition 🤗🐨🧡
you got that right my family and every one keeps telling me i sound so good stop saying i can not do it they keep saying have confedents. i so so do that and i am really hard on myself and i have people who says you well never get there.
Your words got me thinking. I look back at a performance and think, "Oh, I hate this but at the same time it happened." I basically just let it go and try to do a better job next time. Another thing that sounded like me was trying something over and over again. So far it hasn't affected me, but I feel soon it might if I keep it up. Thank you for opening up my eyes to certain aspects and perspectives. You truly are a one of a kind vocal coach.
"And furthermore (or depends ) with whom you resonate with" very true!!!
This video came at the perfect time for me! I find it hard to mentally relax myself when singing because I am so focused on wanting it perfect, but I believe that I do so much better when I relax and just let the voice do the work while not thinking so hard.
Thank you so much for this Madeleine! I’m definitely one of those people who constantly overly criticizes themselves as they sing. 😅 going to work as hard as I can to not be so hard on myself, and focus on being constructive!
Own it darling! You got this!
Considering I’ve had to retrain my voice at least three times (give a little dive deeper and you’ll see why), such that I screamed and threw myself around & into walls incessantly throughout last week, I really needed reassurance through this video. Singers are always asked to be impeccable just to bear their souls out - namely because, what are you going to bring to the table if your voice lacks beauty or soul? Two very different things, granted. Thankfully I’ve never been lacking in soul. Beauty is something to constantly sculpt - and soul can always be further engineered, as we know. Freedom to let it out, to experiment, to be wrong sometimes... it makes me feel a little more sane. Thanks Madeleine.
Hey thank you for sharing, Madeleine. as a vocal and guitar teacher myself, this is so vital and it is so challenging for me to get these concepts to resonate with my students. I guess it just might come with the territory bet us artistic aficionados may have some self image and low self-esteem challenges built into our genetic imprinting or something. Still trying to figure that out, especially with my autistic students and those with intense mood disorders. So long novel short, I sincerely appreciate all that you do. ❤️😇🎶🎯🎙️
I'm so happy I found your channel. Your videos and online lessons have given me more confidence and positive progress than I've ever had before. Thank you so much for sharing your talent and skill!
I just wanna hug you and cry for this. Your videos feel like you're here with me not looking down at me, like we're on the same level. Thank you so much💚
Thank you for this, Madeleine! I'm growing as a singer, and lately I've been too caught up in technique. I needed this a lot!! :)
Thank You So Much for this video🙌🙏. I post my singing covers on youtube and sometime I get critical comments on that. Then I start to think that I am not good enough and many times when I see someone on TV or Internet I feel that my voice is nowhere near to be good. These thoughts are very hard to get rid of . Keep moving on and practicing is best solution in this dip situation . .This video is very helpful and inspiring .I'm gonna watch this video every time when I 'll get such thoughts.😃
I spent a few years with a vocal coach, it was rough for the first 6 months. (These were not one on one sessions.) He had figured out I have PTSD from early on in my life. He went through the critical mind with me, and it helps me so much to be able to sing without judgement of self. I haven't been practicing at all over the last almost 2 years until this last week. Most of my judgements have come back. Thank you for reminding me of the critical mind, I know this stuff but it has to be heard once in a while. My tension goes right to my vocal chords and things wont work quite right. I have to get them to relax. Then my whole perspective on life changes. Vocals is the main thing in life that will relieve my stress. Thank you taking time to post this video.
I love that blouse. It looks silvery and elegant yet, comfy and warm. Thanks for all you do🎶🙌🏼🌿🌸
I loved the message and connected to it in an intimate way. This 10 minutes video condenses years of your experience and that is beautiful, even more when the intention is to encourage others in a society where the majority has a competitive mindset. The best for you this in these harsh times and greetings from México!
As an instrumental musician who started singing much later in life, this resonates a LOT. The precision thing you talked about, specifically, is so real. It's the disconnect between knowing what it "should" sound like (whatever that means, right?) and what we actually sound like. It's so hard to not say those negative things and think so critically...but this is so helpful in turning that around, so thank you!
this is amazing thank you for this
You are spot on ...thank you
I think the only reason I ever got decent as a singer is I just started singing alone in my room for the fun of it and didn't care if I was sounding bad. It's true. Critical thinking destroys you.
Agree
I appreciate you know the growing pains, we have as singers. When my mind gets in a critical state I will ask questions. "Is it so serious I have to master this today", lol no! "Can I see progress from 2 weeks or a month ago"? Thanks for being our voice of reason and encouragement.
Thank you 🤗🌹😊
You're right. From the highest pick of my "mountain experience vocal development" (metaphysically speaking)- you need to be your truly Best Friend in order to find Your Voice, your Path and your determinated position in this Profession .
Critical thinking can make you really vulnerable, that's obvious. The main and optimistic thing, as I feel and observe in my daily vocal practice- you should remember that you MUSTN'T be like this singer, female or male, whose song you are trying to sing. You MUSTN'T be great and so heart and soul touching straight from the first notes or seconds of the song, which you are singing. You MUSTN'T have deadlines in meaning "have finally sounded like total Profi"... and if you of course😂 haven't reached these deadlines and haven't started sing like some vocal Titans or Genius Guys/Ladies- you MUSTN'T BE CRITICAL, ANGRY, HARMFUL TO YOURSELF, DEAR FRIEND ❗🤗♥️
So....be kind and thoughtful of yourself , please !!!! Give your Chance to stay True, stay Real and stay close as much as possible to Your Core and your natural and spiritual Sound....! That's the main Idea. To be unique in your own way .
I wanna add , that sadly, but nowadays there are really obvious Trends, what "top sound or voice should looks and sounds like"... 🤦❌⚡you like under pressure even more, than years later.
Ariana Grande, Aguilera, Madonna, Justin Bieber etc... Adele, Rihanna etc... etc etc
I mean , that okay, they can sing hard songs and be effective on stage , even true about emotions and feelings while they are singing and painting pictures with their voices and energy....but...HUGE BUT... Its fucking business and huge NLP technologies , which are determined to push all of us not to the right way, if you know what I mean. Its just absolutely fake standards of singing and "how to be a real singer" and what ways of singing different notes, what should be emphasized are simply translating to our subconscious mind. Its like total programming and creating inside us Fake Picture of how our Voice should sound and who we are in our true nature. ( but these manipulations have only one goal - we started compare ourselves to the standards , which are not standards at all😅😂)
So.... great video, thank you so much again for you Strength , Truth and positive energy, you like good Friend on which we can rely on:) 🎉❤
No matter what it is that I am doing my mind is always my worst enemy
5.10 is absolutely right. I went through the same thing around 2011 &' I gave up singing -Forever' or so I thought. But I just couldn't. There was always this restless, burning desire in me that always wanted to just start singing again - but I didn't coz i was too scared how I'd sound after years of giving up. In 2018 I started following an idol group that inspired me in many ways, and I just couldn't keep it in anymore. So I started practicing again. Though I do hear an improvement in my voice, this hasn't been an easy journey so far, coz my critical mind is "very critical". Thank you ever so much for this video! I needed this A LOT!
Thank you so much 💕 I've been in a bad condition this past few days, to the point im thinking to give up my passion which is music. Im depressed with my voice that I cant reach some notes.
Some says I have a powerful voice but belting sometimes is not good for me I can feel strain, I want to learn to belt with proper techniques thats why im watching your videos everyday.
And thank you for this video, i feel better
Your channel is underrated....You need more recognition....really.....You are really great...love you.....)
Thank you for helping us step out of the comfort zone.
this got me meditating. you speak about this so well and in such cool tone. also thank you for the content of this, very helpful.
Buh rill yant. So glad you are here. Thanks Madeline.
By the way, I was listening on Bluetooth, so I hadn’t looked at the screen. I came to make my comment and thought, Wow! What a beautiful blouse. Elegant, clean and yet fun and light. Really nice.
Thanks so much for all you do!🙏🏼🙌🏾🎶
Preach! 💯 I absolutely love this video. I'm a 40yr young songwriter and struggle with recording my songs just to demo them for an artist. I wrote it, I know it but why can't i sing it to make you feel it? You just answered my question. Thank you. 💙💙💙
I love this and imo it is something every creative person needs to hear.. rather they draw, play an instrument, animate whatever. It fits every creativity aspect. Thank you so much, I needed to hear this. ♥
I (and every singer ever) needs to hear that!
Love your videos (you had me at "Muffin Top"), I think my voice has improved with your tips! I have no designs to be a professional singer, but have been playing with local ukulele groups and even performed a few times at open mics. My ukulele group decided to do a "lockdown" performance via individuals recording themselves playing/singing along with a backing track, which I have never done before. After many attempts, several curse words, and one spilled gin and tonic, took a breath and watched this and other posts. Imagined you perched on my shoulder in tiny stilettos reminding me that it is more about the performance, and nailed it. Thanks so much, you are a great inspiration!!!!
Authenticity, thank you for bringing that up. The voice does reflect the inner world, I guess I was taking that for granted. I knew it but didn't "know" it, if that makes sense Which made me wonder if that might be one of the ways we know when someone is lying? If it comes through their voice as they speak? Just a side thought. I thought the discerning all came from intuition... But hmmmm...
Lovely lady not only are you a voice coach but also a mentor, a counselor, a life coach. Unique indeed!! Many thanks and much gratitude! ♥️
Creators create, and nothing more to it. :) Thank you for such kind words of encouragement. Have a great week. -Espi
It's like you were talking to my soul, such a guru, namastey :)
Thank you for this reminder to practice self compassion.
Girl you are fabulous!! Thank you for cresting this video, i believe God led me to you as i venture back in to my singing artistry. i have always shyer away with my voice nearly all my life but its stops now, please keep the videos coming. Thanks for the training videos!! Your make omds AMAZING! And i love you outfits 😍😍😍 Go girl! 💓
My heart right now .... no words. Thank you so much for all of your videos ! I’ve learned soo much in the past couple of months after listening to you. The critical mind is actually reinforced negative behaviors. Looking at the negatives all the time literally changes your brain chemistry. We must all practice on finding our strengths and building on that ! In life and in creativity . Wonderfully put !
And thank you too Mommy & Me Karoake! To identify the basis of the issue - negative thinking patterns - is the springboard for shifting it, whatever the issue might be.
This effectively reawakened me in many ways
Medaline I want you to know that during this quarentine I've actually been really hard on my self, borderline depressed 😢 , but I looked up vibrato because I wanted to learn how to sing 🔊🎶 you were the first video I picked and while I was doing the panting exercise and the yeeeeyeyyeyeyy I literally laugh my but off🤣 because of the noises I was producing but your reassurance was lovely 🧏♀️ and it made me feel better ☺ I don't want to get all sappy on you 😭 but I just wanted you to know I really appreciate it thank you for being you🙂 and keep up the good work! 👍
Wow! I totally understand why my spirit guides brought me to you and your work. I SEE you and all the value you give! Thank you! 🥳🙏🏽❤️
This is so helpful, Madeleine! I'm really looking forward to playing more with my voice!😄
Thank you sooo much.... I needed that💙💙💪
I needed to hear this, BIG TIME. Thank you ❤️
Ohh i was the 1000th thumbs up 🥳
Anyway I really appreciate this video!! I am such a critic and perfectionist to a point that it can be destructive, especially when it comes to singing. This was so useful, thanks so much ❤
You're the best Madeleine, thank you so much💕
I didn't know how much I needed to find your channel! Thanks for your words and advices :)
Love you so much too. Thanks for all the wonderful lessons
Oh, Madeleine! I want you to know proud I am of being subscribed in your channel for so long and leaning about, not only the way we put our voices in balanced way, but also the relationship we have with ourselves as artists and singers. Thank you SOO much for all your work, we appreciate it. Love you❤️
Thank you so much friend! That means more to me that I can say! Thank you for including me in your musical journey!
Me who just wanted to learn how to pronounce r’s in Irish and clicked on another video. OP-“you’re an artist” me- you’re the most beautiful person ever why’d you make me cry like that
I just discovered you, and I'm obsessed. Love your videos!
I found your channel today, and I immediately could tell that you truly want everyone to sing beautifully. Thank you for your supporting words and all your useful videos. 💕I’ll be doing the yeast exercise everyday. 😂
Thanks for your encouragement. I often struggle with this. Keep doing what you are doing - I find it really useful.
Thank you for the wise message!
Very enlightening discussion Madeleine thanks for sharing.
Awesome video! This can apply for every creative field. Sometimes we can feel discouraged creatively due to our critical mindset. Identifying when you are in that state can help us to deal with it in a healthy manner.
Thank you so much Ma'am. I've been struggling for years and this video have really given me hope to improve. Looking forward to more learning and improvement through your videos. God Bless! 💞
I'm so proud that I had followed you on your channel you always had kept encouraging me to be myself as a singer and I just thought you have such a great beautiful voice you have and thank you so much for everything that you had helped me to achieve my singing goal
What valuable concepts!
Yay she’s back to making videos!!!! 💜💜💜
excuse me lady, i freakin love your videos, just found you yesterday and now im binge watching your whole channel. i love your spiritual approach to singing, that resonates very much with me. im an absolute beginner, but im sure i will improve with your videos :)
All these talks you give are not just about singing, they are about everything we are and do, and you always totally nail it. It’s endless. This one is awesome too.
Thanks Terry! I truly appreciate that!
Much love!!!
Thank you. There’s so much here to explore.
I love singing but I always criticise how I sound. Even when people say I'm a good singer, I never believe them and I wish I just had more confidence
Thank you! 💞
I just want to say... Thank you, you're wonderful
your videos always help me so muuuuch
I enjoy your attitude, instruction, and observations. I love every minute of your videos. Thank you Madeleine...
Hey Michael! Thanks bud!
Great stuff 👌🏾
Great advice! love u
I really needed this today 🥰🥰
I'm so glad i got to see this video. I'm sad that i never knew someone fantastic like you are
Thank you!!!
liked at the beginning of the video, forgot that i liked it and wanted to like it again, as i was halfway through ^^'
Nice content
Thanks Madeleine
ive been doing vocal exercises lately but i feel like my singing got less fun/worse and i think this is why!
So good thank you
Thank you Madeleine. I feel i have to go through this video over and over again until it sinks in my mind!!!
Word! (me too friend...me too!) But I think that's the work. Just finding ways to be a little gentler with ourselves in our own process of becoming.
What a beautiful name you have Consolate Gabriella!!
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thank you!!
Thank you for your common sense video ! ♥️🤩
I often forget that the main thing is not to sing perfectly but also with the heart. 😌😅 I often put a lot of pressure on myself. 😬
On the other hand, the hardest thing for me to manage is not the self-criticism but that of my family which makes fun of me kindly, but all the time, each time I sing in my room...
I sing on the app Starmaker to manage my stress and clear my head and I try not to pay too much attention to it, but I 'm saddened that they don't make a minimum of effort to avoid making fun all the time 😐
I know I don't sing well at all 😶
Someone has the same problem ?
Thanks again for your video !
Your advice also works for many areas too ! 👏✨♥️
Ps: sorry for my bad english I'm french 😅
Love your sofa 😍
This is soo good
This video popped up at just the right time thanks Madeline it was soo encouraging love u
Love you too friend!
Thank you..
Thank you
Thank you!
I love you Madelaine your so Awesome excuse my English,it's not my primary language but you are So Amazing this insight about ourselves in the Singing part is really uplifting & encouraging you are a G-E-N-I-U-S greetings & blessings from Mexico keep it up!💛🙏😁👍🎶🎵🥁🎼🎻🎸🎺🎷🎹🎤🎧
Thk, Very good
I'm motivated teacher.
Samajh to nahi aaya par sunke bohot accha laga. 🖤
It's so crazy to me. I always hear people use the world "elegant" . I never really visualized it. But I think you might be it, lol. From your posture , to the way you speak, to your hand movements.. your intro even down to your tattoo. lol. I feel dumpy just looking at you.
Do you think the voice is an instrument or part of a person ?? Lately i struggle to find connection with my craft and whatever it is that i like , your advice is so relatable thank ü
I believe to free the voice is to free the person. It's like magic. It is the instant manifestation of everything that person is. The only reason why it's sometimes unruly is because it is really hard for us to let go and allow the voice to show us who it is...who we really are.
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