I'm so happy being single. I learned a long time ago I didn't need someone else to make me whole. I'm whole regardless. The relationship I have with myself has been the best relationship I have ever had.
1. You begin to question yourself. 2. You apologize for everything. 3. You dont feel good enough. 4. You dont know where you stand. 5. The relationship is highly competitive. 6. You find yourself in constant reaction mode. 7. Its all about them. 8. You ´ve cut out friends and family.
I have already accepted I've been in a toxic romantic relationship for over a year with someone who fits most of the DSM criteria for BPD. I have backed off but can't seem to cut the ties completely. I also have realized that most of my family and friend relationships are also toxic to a certain extent. I would love to see more videos on how to deal with figuring out you have surrounded yourself with toxic people, create healthy boundaries if not going no contact, then creating new and healthier relationships during this pandemic. I have never felt so isolated in my life. I am pursuing a masters degree, and have even lost that stimulating, live interaction when we were forced to go online. Thanks for your videos, you have amazing insight.
All of the above that you’ve mention I have dealing with for two years ! Finally I wake up from the night mare I been through !trying to move on and heal someday from the traumatic experience to narcissist partner Thanks Ashley well explain
Except for competitiveness, I experienced all of these with my BPD ex. I wish I had been emotionally healthy enough to leave earlier. Currently not in contact with her and focusing on my healing and recovery.
"I'm sorry I just don't feel good" This made me nearly burst into tears, because this toxic guilt, even having to excuse yourself for being tired and not being around my pwPWD 100% with a happy go-go attitude, I've landed into depression and I just can't find the strength in me to put up a happy facade so my bf woulnd't worry about me giving too little attention for him
Your videos have been extremely eye opening so thank you! Ive subscribed to your channel. My ex girlfriend and i split up a month ago and she was literally in and out of my life 10 times. Always her leaving, and never trusting me or anyone or anything for that matter. Has BPD written all over it but i thought she was just confused before, ha! I start relationship therapy tonight with a therapist❤️ time to move forward
I could add one more to that: when you need to explain yourself all the time. It was mentioned in some points here but I think that it needs to be said clearly too.
I feel guilty about having feelings, thx for explaining that its ok to have feelings and most of the time I feel low about myself and my husband ignores me most of the time, I feel alone in our relationship, have a really hard time expressing any feelings when something is bothering me. He also doesnt talk about his frustrations so I dont know where he stands exactly. Its more of a room mate relationship. All indications this is a toxic relationship.
The crazy maker (ex-narcissist) would often create chaos and then told me that that I was the one who had something wrong with me. It was like this......I do not like going on a rollercoaster ride and told him so, however, he would drags me on it (chaos) and then told me that I should like it, and if not then something is wrong with me..........Absolutely CRAZY!
I'm so happy being single. I learned a long time ago I didn't need someone else to make me whole. I'm whole regardless. The relationship I have with myself has been the best relationship I have ever had.
1. You begin to question yourself.
2. You apologize for everything.
3. You dont feel good enough.
4. You dont know where you stand.
5. The relationship is highly competitive.
6. You find yourself in constant reaction mode.
7. Its all about them.
8. You ´ve cut out friends and family.
I have already accepted I've been in a toxic romantic relationship for over a year with someone who fits most of the DSM criteria for BPD. I have backed off but can't seem to cut the ties completely. I also have realized that most of my family and friend relationships are also toxic to a certain extent. I would love to see more videos on how to deal with figuring out you have surrounded yourself with toxic people, create healthy boundaries if not going no contact, then creating new and healthier relationships during this pandemic. I have never felt so isolated in my life. I am pursuing a masters degree, and have even lost that stimulating, live interaction when we were forced to go online. Thanks for your videos, you have amazing insight.
I like your "non-fluffy" approach! Refreshing....
Thank you Linda!
All of the above that you’ve mention I have dealing with for two years ! Finally I wake up from the night mare I been through !trying to move on and heal someday from the traumatic experience to narcissist partner
Thanks Ashley well explain
Except for competitiveness, I experienced all of these with my BPD ex. I wish I had been emotionally healthy enough to leave earlier. Currently not in contact with her and focusing on my healing and recovery.
omg same
"I'm sorry I just don't feel good" This made me nearly burst into tears, because this toxic guilt, even having to excuse yourself for being tired and not being around my pwPWD 100% with a happy go-go attitude, I've landed into depression and I just can't find the strength in me to put up a happy facade so my bf woulnd't worry about me giving too little attention for him
Your videos have been extremely eye opening so thank you! Ive subscribed to your channel. My ex girlfriend and i split up a month ago and she was literally in and out of my life 10 times. Always her leaving, and never trusting me or anyone or anything for that matter. Has BPD written all over it but i thought she was just confused before, ha! I start relationship therapy tonight with a therapist❤️ time to move forward
Excellent
"Selfish. Comes last in own life"
Brilliant info.thank you.
I could add one more to that: when you need to explain yourself all the time. It was mentioned in some points here but I think that it needs to be said clearly too.
Thank You Ashley great video!
I would add horrible communication .. it’s draining you from your energy :(
Yes, that is true! Thank you!
These are all true. Great video!
I feel guilty about having feelings, thx for explaining that its ok to have feelings and most of the time I feel low about myself and my husband ignores me most of the time, I feel alone in our relationship, have a really hard time expressing any feelings when something is bothering me. He also doesnt talk about his frustrations so I dont know where he stands exactly. Its more of a room mate relationship. All indications this is a toxic relationship.
Thank you
The crazy maker (ex-narcissist) would often create chaos and then told me that that I was the one who had something wrong with me. It was like this......I do not like going on a rollercoaster ride and told him so, however, he would drags me on it (chaos) and then told me that I should like it, and if not then something is wrong with me..........Absolutely CRAZY!
Excellent!! Thank you!!
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