I'm a retired psychiatrist and have only realized at 76 that my lifelong "night terrors" were actually reliving dreams of sexual abuse by an uncle. I was an All Mid-Eight League football player, but remember only a few plays, as I now realize that I dissociated in dangerous situations. I'm, also, a recovering alcoholic and for the first 8 yrs. of this recovery episode when I shared in a meeting I only saw black, not the faces of others that I do now, 11 1/2 yrs. on. In my childhood, I never received the protection and care necessary for the development of basic trust and only found it in safe, secure 12-step groups. What a blessing to finally find the "protection and care" I have been searching for all my life, including the 25 yrs. of chemical dissociation. Thanks for the video! Stress R Us
Can I ask a difficult question. My friend was abused as a child, she totally dissociated. Whats the best method for coping? She can't cope, she has night terrors, shes constantly lacking trust. I have no idea how to help her, but shes constantly entering abusive relationships
Dissociation is a defense against overwhelming emotions, usually fear. Abuse survivors most often dissociate in a flashback to previous but still very real and scary abuse situations. In my 42 year psychiatry practice, I witnessed one "miracle cure" after another result from treatment by a well trained, experienced psychotherapist trained in a technique called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization, and Reprocessing". You may see this done on the net in RUclips videos by Jamie Marish and others. As soon as the flashbacks and reliving dreams are released into the past, where they belong, the need for dissociation leaves as well. Make sense? Good luck!@@peterlohnes1
@@peterlohnes1 EMDR in the hands of an experienced, well trained psychotherapist is very healing and can alleviate the PTSD symptoms. I was an Ohio HS football hero, but recall NONE of it, thanks to the earlier sexual abuse by my uncle (once removed) and didn't realize the full extent of my CPTSD symptoms for 77 yrs., in spite of being a well trained, highly successful clinical psychiatrist for 42 yrs. that material was buried so deeply, that I wasn't ready to remember it until I retired and was in 12-step groups that finally provided the "protection and care" I had so long sought myself. Good Luck and God bless you!
My childhood abuse is a blur because I had to disassociate so often. My abuse lasted from 5 years old up into my teen years. It serves me now but sometimes it doesn’t. It’s very easy for me to detach or remove my self mentally from a bad experience. The only time it doesn’t serve me is when I truly need to be present at times. God bless all survivors of sexual abuse as a child, it’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
I am a survivor. There are thirteen perverts in my life, male and female, from the ages 9 to 14 I'm still working through it but I find that having good christian friends helps. It's not always easy to trust people. But I think you're likely to find better people in the christian community People who really love jesus is quite obvious. I've had many friends helping me walk the last twenty years God has brought a lot of healing. But I understand why you would feel like humanity is not worth it. I had to work through a lot to feel like humanity was worth it once more
I’ve realized this when o was having sex and I’ve stopped it cause I can’t remember if I consented to some things or not, I end up pondering about it, and as a result I’m off sex until I’m comfortable again, I’m just scared to put myself in a vulnerable situation
Emotional numbness is what disassociation perhaps is Thanx for clarifying as far as out of body perhaps when I assaulted or grabed the third rail and failed a suicide attempt and in reference to disassociation perhaps me celibate for the last 9 to 13 yrs God only knows I will try to erase this comment of ventilation by 9:00 am ciao 😊
You'll be good brotha, just ride out the rough wave. All I ask of you is that you try your best to find supporting people who love you, eat healthier, get a little bit of exercise. Getting out in nature for a little, always reminds me that of the yin yang concept, and the balance of good and bad throughout our Earthly existence. Find things that matter to you, follow your heart and soul. Try to connect with your spiritual side. Much love to you. Goodluck and godspeed ❤🙏✌️
PS my torso is in critical,***CONDITION AND CANT FUNCTION WITHOUT 3BACK BRACES AND CRIPICAL IS A TERM I MADE UP TO IDENTIFY THAT I WILL BE CRIPPLE VERILY VERY SOON TO ME THAT WOULD BE LIKE PRE-K AGAIN OH NO NO NO I'LL HAVE TO DELETED MYSELF TO ME MEANS THE HIGEST LEVEL OF PAMPERING MYSELF
I was born autistic, Asperger's. I don't see myself that way, but am considered quite attractive. I also feel it important to mention that I am not a sexual person. I have never pursued it being that my understanding is that it is a program associated with pro-creation. In school I was very popular because of my physical appearance and the young ladies pursued me. I wanted nothing to do with it. All of the young men called me gay, but I wanted nothing to do with men either. Starting from the age 13, I have been a victim of sexual harassment by adult woman, including a very mature 11 year old. In my early twenties, I was sexually harassed by a large woman who would come to my work station and press herself on me every morning. She would place hand lotion in her palm and ask me what that looks like. I eventually went to HR about it and was laughed out of the office. I worked with a man years later who I eventually became friends with. We went to his home, he lived with his girlfriend and her 2 kids. The older one was a girl who was 11 but looked no younger than 21. As soon as her mom turned her back, this 11 year old was coming on to me. She would ask me if I knew what bodacious ta-tas were. I would warned her not to talk to that way because I did not want to go to prison. She would put on a bikini and strut around in front of me. Once we went out of town to do some work on mutual friends new home. I had intended on riding my motorcycle and the 11 year old begged to ride with me. I looked at her mom and she said, "no, once she gets her legs wrapped around you, we will never get her off." Then her mom started coming on to me. She said that I could have them both at the same time if I wanted. I ran and never looked back. I was at a state fair once with my mom, my 15 year old sister, and her 15 year old friend who were visiting from out of town. The carnies kept hitting on the girls and despite my telling them that they were only 15, they let me know that they didn't care. We were standing in line for refreshments when 2 woman openly asked me if I had ever been with two women at the same time. I looked at them and then at my mom and said, "this is my mom, can she come along?' Later that evening my sisters 15 year old friend crawled into bed with me in the middle of the night while everyone else was sleeping. I explained that I am not and will never be interested in her that way. Years later I was driving a crew van part time, mostly dead heading airline and railroad crews around. One night I was instructed to go to an upper scale shopping center and to a club to pick up some women. They were from a very exclusive resort (a ranch where they went to dry out) for rich women, where they all walked around in wearing tiaras and robes. It was expressly conveyed to me that I was not to interact with these woman and that I was to pick them up and drop them off. Within 5 minutes, the oldest one (there were 5) asked me if I had ever been rapped by a 5 woman. Then she reached over and began massaging my shoulders. Her daughter was sitting next to her. The woman sitting next to me was very attractive and placed her feet in my lap massaging my crotch. I was so nervous and said nothing, and of course I got lost due to the detraction. We finally got back to the resort and they asked that I help with they shopping bags. Then they all insisted that I take pictures with them. I just wanted to leave, and I did. I had a gay boss come on to me a few years later and when I told him that I am not interested in sex, he fired me telling me that he feels sorry for me because I am asexual. I am not asexual. Everything works, I just don't care for the predatorial way in which we as humans seek out our sexual partners. I have had sex, but it makes woman insecure because I am not sexually aggressive. I have hurt so many woman this way, mostly by rejecting their advances. To this day I am single and alone. I have no children or family and I prefer it that way.
I'm sorry for what you went through. Men get sexually harassed as well, we have to remember that. 😢I was sexually harassed by an employer. He actually spanked my bottom in front of other employees just before I clocked out for lunch. My whole body went cold. I thought I had imagined it. He would call me as well as other females into his office where he showed us lewd cartoons on his computer. He would make comments about our clients big breasts or how he would like to bone certain female clients. His poor wife talked about how she lost her virginity to this dbag, while all the while, this went on behind her back. I have lost faith in humanity.
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I'm a retired psychiatrist and have only realized at 76 that my lifelong "night terrors" were actually reliving dreams of sexual abuse by an uncle. I was an All Mid-Eight League football player, but remember only a few plays, as I now realize that I dissociated in dangerous situations. I'm, also, a recovering alcoholic and for the first 8 yrs. of this recovery episode when I shared in a meeting I only saw black, not the faces of others that I do now, 11 1/2 yrs. on. In my childhood, I never received the protection and care necessary for the development of basic trust and only found it in safe, secure 12-step groups. What a blessing to finally find the "protection and care" I have been searching for all my life, including the 25 yrs. of chemical dissociation. Thanks for the video! Stress R Us
Can I ask a difficult question. My friend was abused as a child, she totally dissociated. Whats the best method for coping? She can't cope, she has night terrors, shes constantly lacking trust. I have no idea how to help her, but shes constantly entering abusive relationships
Dissociation is a defense against overwhelming emotions, usually fear. Abuse survivors most often dissociate in a flashback to previous but still very real and scary abuse situations. In my 42 year psychiatry practice, I witnessed one "miracle cure" after another result from treatment by a well trained, experienced psychotherapist trained in a technique called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization, and Reprocessing". You may see this done on the net in RUclips videos by Jamie Marish and others. As soon as the flashbacks and reliving dreams are released into the past, where they belong, the need for dissociation leaves as well. Make sense? Good luck!@@peterlohnes1
@@peterlohnes1 EMDR in the hands of an experienced, well trained psychotherapist is very healing and can alleviate the PTSD symptoms. I was an Ohio HS football hero, but recall NONE of it, thanks to the earlier sexual abuse by my uncle (once removed) and didn't realize the full extent of my CPTSD symptoms for 77 yrs., in spite of being a well trained, highly successful clinical psychiatrist for 42 yrs. that material was buried so deeply, that I wasn't ready to remember it until I retired and was in 12-step groups that finally provided the "protection and care" I had so long sought myself. Good Luck and God bless you!
Ditto. It was 45 years down the line, that the recall hit me like a punch in the stomach.
My childhood abuse is a blur because I had to disassociate so often. My abuse lasted from 5 years old up into my teen years. It serves me now but sometimes it doesn’t. It’s very easy for me to detach or remove my self mentally from a bad experience. The only time it doesn’t serve me is when I truly need to be present at times. God bless all survivors of sexual abuse as a child, it’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
I really feel you. Mine was from age 5 as well, up to 13 when I finally escaped. I struggle heavily with derealization/depersonalization.
Good for you! Im a recovering alcoholic myself with 2 years of sobriety. Now I'm trying to understand and work through my trauma(s). Never too late!!
It is never too late and worth all of the work involved.
I’m not an introvert… I just lost faith in humanity 😢
I am a survivor. There are thirteen perverts in my life, male and female, from the ages 9 to 14
I'm still working through it but I find that having good christian friends helps.
It's not always easy to trust people. But I think you're likely to find better people in the christian community
People who really love jesus is quite obvious.
I've had many friends helping me walk the last twenty years
God has brought a lot of healing. But I understand why you would feel like humanity is not worth it.
I had to work through a lot to feel like humanity was worth it once more
Same
@@meggrotte4760God bless ❤
I’ve realized this when o was having sex and I’ve stopped it cause I can’t remember if I consented to some things or not, I end up pondering about it, and as a result I’m off sex until I’m comfortable again, I’m just scared to put myself in a vulnerable situation
I still do not recall memories from my childhood especially around the years of sexual abuse.
Didn’t know about this condition.
Feel sorry for the kids
Emotional numbness is what disassociation perhaps is Thanx for clarifying as far as out of body perhaps when I assaulted or grabed the third rail and failed a suicide attempt and in reference to disassociation perhaps me celibate for the last 9 to 13 yrs God only knows I will try to erase this comment of ventilation by 9:00 am ciao 😊
You'll be good brotha, just ride out the rough wave. All I ask of you is that you try your best to find supporting people who love you, eat healthier, get a little bit of exercise. Getting out in nature for a little, always reminds me that of the yin yang concept, and the balance of good and bad throughout our Earthly existence. Find things that matter to you, follow your heart and soul. Try to connect with your spiritual side. Much love to you. Goodluck and godspeed ❤🙏✌️
PS my torso is in critical,***CONDITION AND CANT FUNCTION WITHOUT 3BACK BRACES AND CRIPICAL IS A TERM I MADE UP TO IDENTIFY THAT I WILL BE CRIPPLE VERILY VERY SOON TO ME THAT WOULD BE LIKE PRE-K AGAIN OH NO NO NO I'LL HAVE TO DELETED MYSELF TO ME MEANS THE HIGEST LEVEL OF PAMPERING MYSELF
I was born autistic, Asperger's. I don't see myself that way, but am considered quite attractive. I also feel it important to mention that I am not a sexual person. I have never pursued it being that my understanding is that it is a program associated with pro-creation. In school I was very popular because of my physical appearance and the young ladies pursued me. I wanted nothing to do with it. All of the young men called me gay, but I wanted nothing to do with men either. Starting from the age 13, I have been a victim of sexual harassment by adult woman, including a very mature 11 year old. In my early twenties, I was sexually harassed by a large woman who would come to my work station and press herself on me every morning. She would place hand lotion in her palm and ask me what that looks like. I eventually went to HR about it and was laughed out of the office. I worked with a man years later who I eventually became friends with. We went to his home, he lived with his girlfriend and her 2 kids. The older one was a girl who was 11 but looked no younger than 21. As soon as her mom turned her back, this 11 year old was coming on to me. She would ask me if I knew what bodacious ta-tas were. I would warned her not to talk to that way because I did not want to go to prison. She would put on a bikini and strut around in front of me. Once we went out of town to do some work on mutual friends new home. I had intended on riding my motorcycle and the 11 year old begged to ride with me. I looked at her mom and she said, "no, once she gets her legs wrapped around you, we will never get her off." Then her mom started coming on to me. She said that I could have them both at the same time if I wanted. I ran and never looked back. I was at a state fair once with my mom, my 15 year old sister, and her 15 year old friend who were visiting from out of town. The carnies kept hitting on the girls and despite my telling them that they were only 15, they let me know that they didn't care. We were standing in line for refreshments when 2 woman openly asked me if I had ever been with two women at the same time. I looked at them and then at my mom and said, "this is my mom, can she come along?' Later that evening my sisters 15 year old friend crawled into bed with me in the middle of the night while everyone else was sleeping. I explained that I am not and will never be interested in her that way. Years later I was driving a crew van part time, mostly dead heading airline and railroad crews around. One night I was instructed to go to an upper scale shopping center and to a club to pick up some women. They were from a very exclusive resort (a ranch where they went to dry out) for rich women, where they all walked around in wearing tiaras and robes. It was expressly conveyed to me that I was not to interact with these woman and that I was to pick them up and drop them off. Within 5 minutes, the oldest one (there were 5) asked me if I had ever been rapped by a 5 woman. Then she reached over and began massaging my shoulders. Her daughter was sitting next to her. The woman sitting next to me was very attractive and placed her feet in my lap massaging my crotch. I was so nervous and said nothing, and of course I got lost due to the detraction. We finally got back to the resort and they asked that I help with they shopping bags. Then they all insisted that I take pictures with them. I just wanted to leave, and I did. I had a gay boss come on to me a few years later and when I told him that I am not interested in sex, he fired me telling me that he feels sorry for me because I am asexual. I am not asexual. Everything works, I just don't care for the predatorial way in which we as humans seek out our sexual partners. I have had sex, but it makes woman insecure because I am not sexually aggressive. I have hurt so many woman this way, mostly by rejecting their advances. To this day I am single and alone. I have no children or family and I prefer it that way.
I'm sorry for what you went through. Men get sexually harassed as well, we have to remember that. 😢I was sexually harassed by an employer. He actually spanked my bottom in front of other employees just before I clocked out for lunch. My whole body went cold. I thought I had imagined it. He would call me as well as other females into his office where he showed us lewd cartoons on his computer. He would make comments about our clients big breasts or how he would like to bone certain female clients. His poor wife talked about how she lost her virginity to this dbag, while all the while, this went on behind her back. I have lost faith in humanity.