Thanks a lot! Im in my first relationship right now and it’s really been a struggle for me to realize why I’m feeling doubt about being with her, it’s a very healthy relationship it just feels different then it did before. I overthink a lot and it is a big reason why I feel like this. I don’t want to break up with her but it’s just been really stressful. I didn’t start getting this feeling of doubt until about 5 months into into our relationship and we’re at 6 months currently.
I'm glad you found this video helpful! I have a podcast episode on the same topic, which covers some of the same material but is longer and goes more in depth. It might be helpful if you're looking for more resources. Here's the link if you're interested: abbymedcalf.com/what-to-do-when-the-honeymoon-phase-ends-in-your-relationship-2/ You can also listen on Spotify, Apple, Stitcher or Pandora. It's called the Relationships Made Easy Podcast with Dr. Abby Medcalf and this is episode #105. Best wishes to you!
@@Harry_irl Hey👐🏼 Do you have arguments with your gf or is it just the fact that the honeymoon period has ended? I'm in a relationship with my bf since 4 months and yesterday I felt insecure bc I realised that I don't have butterflies anymore when he kisses or hugs me... A month ago I have always felt a deep connection and I am afraid that this feeling is gone now forever and I also dont know If he feels the same way... I want to ASK you do you still have butterflies when you kiss your gf?
@@Elenaberg15 We dont argue, we've never argued. I dont get the butterflies, i find it very hard to enjoy anything to be honest. I have insidious doubts that i just can't escape. I can sometimes feel safe and comfortable and forget about the doubts when we are together, but they quickly rush back whenever im alone
How do you think the honeymoon phase ending affects men and women differently? That’d be a great video or, if you want to give me a bit of an answer here, I’d appreciate that as well.
As a man I never seem to enter the honeymoon phase until my partner checks out of it, because I fear losing them so my insecurity increases, I never act on this, but the worrying feelings are there. So my question is, if I am in the honeymoon phase now ie I'm more attracted to her than ever before after being exclusive for a year, will this eventually fade for me and I can go back to a normal state of being? Because I don't like what it's doing to me psychologically
Yes, the honeymoon phase is like excitement. And like any long term journey, excitement eventually fizzles out and the relationship just becomes part of you and your life.
I know your comment is 2 years old but based off of it, it seems like you could be dealing with some anxious attachment rather than just a basic delayed honeymoon phase. I recommend looking into attachment styles! ❤
My wife and I have been together for 9 years, married 4. 7 of those years could be described as "sexless". Not completely 100%, but probably 95%. The honeymoon phase lasted about 2 years with us and then it became a sexless relationship just about. It would be sex once a month, she didn't wanna be there. She also stopped being touchy Feely, hardly, if any compliments from her. It felt like we were becoming roommates, however she's never cheated and says she loves me. I have no other signs that would bring up red flags. Blood test results showed her hormones within normal ranges. We've been seeing a therapist about this and we communicated what we wanted from each other. I communicated to her that I wanted more physical touch, intimacy/emotional intimacy. Non sexual touches, compliments and to try and be flirty. Which she told the therapist she doesn't know how to flirt. Shes only done one of those things in 7 or 8 months after having told her. Sex went from once a month to 3-4 times a month. (Improved, but still awful by my standards). When asked about sex she told me it's not new anymore like in the beginning and that's pretty much why she doesn't want to do it as much, and that she's had this problem in past relationships. I've tried talking to her about toys and trying all these different things or playing games of some sort etc. None of it seems to interest her. She said she loves sex when she's there, she just can't get there. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I'm gonna be stuck with a wife I can't have.
@@sunshinestate1306 we've tried a couple toys and she likes them but no improvement from before. She's still not into it as much. She goes for a sleep study In a few weeks because she has issues sleeping. She also will see a hormone specialist eventually to see if they have a different outlook. Maybe they will see something different and give her some hormone balancers or something. Still a work in progress...Thanks for asking.
@@camonly849 during the honeymoon phase did you have a lot of sex? What changed? Have you evaluated yourself to see if you’ve changed and are no longer attractive to her?
Thanks a lot! Im in my first relationship right now and it’s really been a struggle for me to realize why I’m feeling doubt about being with her, it’s a very healthy relationship it just feels different then it did before. I overthink a lot and it is a big reason why I feel like this. I don’t want to break up with her but it’s just been really stressful. I didn’t start getting this feeling of doubt until about 5 months into into our relationship and we’re at 6 months currently.
I'm glad you found this video helpful! I have a podcast episode on the same topic, which covers some of the same material but is longer and goes more in depth. It might be helpful if you're looking for more resources. Here's the link if you're interested: abbymedcalf.com/what-to-do-when-the-honeymoon-phase-ends-in-your-relationship-2/
You can also listen on Spotify, Apple, Stitcher or Pandora. It's called the Relationships Made Easy Podcast with Dr. Abby Medcalf and this is episode #105. Best wishes to you!
Im in a similar situation to how you described yours. It's super tough! How are you doing now?
i am the exact same right now, i’m so happy im not alone
@@Harry_irl Hey👐🏼
Do you have arguments with your gf or is it just the fact that the honeymoon period has ended? I'm in a relationship with my bf since 4 months and yesterday I felt insecure bc I realised that I don't have butterflies anymore when he kisses or hugs me... A month ago I have always felt a deep connection and I am afraid that this feeling is gone now forever and I also dont know If he feels the same way... I want to ASK you do you still have butterflies when you kiss your gf?
@@Elenaberg15 We dont argue, we've never argued. I dont get the butterflies, i find it very hard to enjoy anything to be honest. I have insidious doubts that i just can't escape. I can sometimes feel safe and comfortable and forget about the doubts when we are together, but they quickly rush back whenever im alone
"Like the best push-up bra in the world" LOL! What a great analogy. Thank you for this, very helpful info.
Glad you liked it!
in my first relationship as a 16 year old and i’m glad i’ve never liked him bc of sexual reasons, it’s his personality and dorkiness
Wooow! Thank you so much! I needed this since our honeymoon phase is over
Gotta say I love that ring of yours,it hypnotized me briefly.
Me and my wife are almost done and im doing all I can to stay in
Thank you for this!!!
You are welcome!
Lasted about a month for me.. I feel like I was still in it but she fell out of it. Not sure what happened. I think we texted waaaay too much.
How do you think the honeymoon phase ending affects men and women differently? That’d be a great video or, if you want to give me a bit of an answer here, I’d appreciate that as well.
As a man I never seem to enter the honeymoon phase until my partner checks out of it, because I fear losing them so my insecurity increases, I never act on this, but the worrying feelings are there. So my question is, if I am in the honeymoon phase now ie I'm more attracted to her than ever before after being exclusive for a year, will this eventually fade for me and I can go back to a normal state of being? Because I don't like what it's doing to me psychologically
Yes, the honeymoon phase is like excitement. And like any long term journey, excitement eventually fizzles out and the relationship just becomes part of you and your life.
I know your comment is 2 years old but based off of it, it seems like you could be dealing with some anxious attachment rather than just a basic delayed honeymoon phase. I recommend looking into attachment styles! ❤
I had one it lasted two years plus now we broke up it doesn’t last people maybe six months or more that’s it.
Thank you Abby. Very interesting. Kissing for 6 seconds sounds good 😊
It sure does! Lol!
My wife and I have been together for 9 years, married 4. 7 of those years could be described as "sexless". Not completely 100%, but probably 95%.
The honeymoon phase lasted about 2 years with us and then it became a sexless relationship just about. It would be sex once a month, she didn't wanna be there. She also stopped being touchy Feely, hardly, if any compliments from her. It felt like we were becoming roommates, however she's never cheated and says she loves me. I have no other signs that would bring up red flags.
Blood test results showed her hormones within normal ranges. We've been seeing a therapist about this and we communicated what we wanted from each other. I communicated to her that I wanted more physical touch, intimacy/emotional intimacy. Non sexual touches, compliments and to try and be flirty. Which she told the therapist she doesn't know how to flirt.
Shes only done one of those things in 7 or 8 months after having told her. Sex went from once a month to 3-4 times a month. (Improved, but still awful by my standards).
When asked about sex she told me it's not new anymore like in the beginning and that's pretty much why she doesn't want to do it as much, and that she's had this problem in past relationships.
I've tried talking to her about toys and trying all these different things or playing games of some sort etc. None of it seems to interest her. She said she loves sex when she's there, she just can't get there. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I'm gonna be stuck with a wife I can't have.
shes depressed? its hard to be a good lover if you feel like crap
@@davidjonburke2729 nope, no depression or anything.
Any improvements?
@@sunshinestate1306 we've tried a couple toys and she likes them but no improvement from before. She's still not into it as much.
She goes for a sleep study In a few weeks because she has issues sleeping. She also will see a hormone specialist eventually to see if they have a different outlook. Maybe they will see something different and give her some hormone balancers or something.
Still a work in progress...Thanks for asking.
@@camonly849 during the honeymoon phase did you have a lot of sex? What changed? Have you evaluated yourself to see if you’ve changed and are no longer attractive to her?