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It’s very sad that a young woman would not be wise enough to recognize the value of a man like you!! I’m sorry that she did not return your feelings towards her. It was her loss. I do hope that you have found a beautiful woman who does appreciate and highly values you!! Thank you so much for your insight and support for women!! You are truly a gem!!!❤
1.) lack of communication 2.) he keeps canceling appts 3.) wants a secret relationship 4.) pulls after physical intimacy 5.) excuses to avoid commitment List of the harsh, cold truths 😢
This happened to me. This guy "slightly" flirted with me. He just showed me mixed signals. I had questioned myself if he is really interested in me or not. Then one of his friends gave me so much attention and very good signals that he likes me. The first guy was jealous. Lol. He even asked me why I am always talking about his friend. Dude! One moment you were flirting with me, the other time you became cold as ice! What was I supposed to get from your "game"?
You've hit the nail on the head. The one thing I've learned from Steve Harvey is that men are hunters - they like the chase - and when I think about the start of my last long-term relationship that's exactly what happened: if I was at evening class or at a friend's house, my ex would sometimes drive round the neighbourhood, not in a creepy way but just because he had some free time and was hoping to spot my car. When the relationship got serious and we saw one another virtually every night he wasn't as 'longing' (and I found the relationship was getting a bit boring too). So I guess the answer is not to live together???
I knew this guy Craig wouldn't cancel. He'd call 2 hours later saying "something came up. " I gave him a pass the first time. After the second, I ghosted his sorry a$$. Called me at my job trying to be nice, told him I was busy and hung up.
If you have to ask, he doesn't like you that much. It's that simple. When you're into somebody, you can't stop thinking about them. You can't wait to talk to them and spend time with them. If someone is not showing much enthusiasm or it comes and goes, they don't like you. You are better than nothing when they are bored or don't have other options.
That's my daughter. She likes a guy. He moved into our house because my daughter lives with me. He doesn't have a job. She gives him money. She bought him a phone. She pays for all his entertainment. He took over her car. She likes him but he only likes her as a friend. He monopolizes all her time. Now my daughter and I are in crisis because of him. I told her he's using her and she won't listen. Am I wrong?
@@bleuskye8124Evict the guy. It's your house, tell him he overstay his welcome. It doesn't matter if your daughter likes it or not. Earn some respect as a mother. This is sad!
@@LoveLife-oo9cz He's gone. I told my daughter he's no longer welcome in my house. Before I had the chance to kick him out she kicked him out. She saw exactly who he really was. She changed the locks on the doors. Hallelujah
That's basically what I have done and how I end up being single. Men are far less sincere than we think. And they are there to get what they want which is not love
But, you don't have to have sex if you don't want to. You can still enjoy some personal time with him. Caressing, kissing, cuddling and nothing more. I told him upfront. I'm not interested in having nothing more than that. He was okay with that.
I think they are emotionally stunted by the largely American "real men don't cry" thing that basically ruins their entire emotional sense of self. Then they can never connect on an emotional level with anyone let alone a woman.
You don't need too many signs. It's consistency. Period. When a man loves a woman he will be screaming at the top of his lungs that she is his basically.
I stopped hoping to find a good man years ago. I decided to pour all that love and hope and effort on me and my personal development. And on books, instead of cats😊 Not everyone can find The Person, some of us, I think, were born to be alone.
I was definitely born to be alone and unfortunately I'm married. I think if I'd found a man who had not been emotionally neglected as a child I'd be happy with whoever that was, but this neglect thing is why men neglect women. It's not that they don't WANT to be interested, it's that they CAN'T connect. And, since "everyone" (especially American men) is taught to ignore "bad" emotions instead of dealing well with _all_ our emotions we're all better off alone in my opinion.
Agree 100%. I don't believe there is somebody for everyone. Those of us that know that, are fine and happy to be alone, which is not the same as being lonely.
@@ElaineShaw-ob4gj ITS NOT WASTING TIME ..ITS TELLING YOUR STORY SO U CAN FIGURE OUT THE WAY TO LOVE YOURSELF ..AND ITS A JOURNAL THAT YOU CAN LOOK BACK ON AND know that that was your STORY that led u to LOVE YOURSELF and you wouldnt change a thing!!
@@shubhangisharma5883Honestly I don't care about men and their dumb cues. I'm being amazing myself and when the right time comes, the right person will show up and he's the one without too many excuses. Ladies, don't listen to this video trying to figure out how to win men over. Just blaze your own trails and keep efforts to please men to the BARE MINIMUM. Build your lives and be amazing, and along the way y'all meet the one without the no. 1-5 hottentotthingys. If y'all strong, beautiful and independent, you won't give a thought or time about men's uninterested behaviour. For example, if he gave a lack of communication, a lady that's sure of herself will just shrug and 😂😂😂 and move on to the next person who is surely better than the canceling appts guy. Or for those considering you but wanting secret relationship, you can laugh at his face and make a big L SIGN at your foreheads while sticking your tounges out. THESE sort of things. Identify men behaviour, but don't give them more than 5 seconds to mope about it. Life's too short and there are 8 billions people in this world. Cheers.
i’m broken, I thought I would be the one , I dated a man who was still in a realationship, it hurts so bad , I sacrificed days just waiting for him to call me, i’m such a fool, thankyou for the videos
We all did it, we all know how it feels. But I promise you, the moment you really slam that door and nail it shut for ever, healing begins. slowly but surely, life does get better, you do heal, it does get easier. Get busy planning your new exciting lifestyle, look after yourself you are number one, always 🎉 ❤
I've been through it. I was made into "the other woman" without my knowledge when a guy accepted my invitation for a movie/dinner date. What's worse is he pulled out all the stops on the fake chivalry. He gave me his coat, pulled out my chair, everything. Until he figured out I wasn't going to allow him to sleep with me. Then everything stopped.
He was in, engaged, never canceled a plan and all that stuff until I start having health issues and then he detached himself. Better for the ambulance to come to pick me up rather than him. I believe the beers with his colleagues was much more important… So at my 49 I am not going to start thinking what’s going on or mothering him telling him what is what I expect from my man. So…. Next!
On Android phones and iPhones you can see if someone read your text and when. If you reply to his text fast but you see that he didn't read the reply for hours the chances are he's not that into you. Sure, something could have come up, maybe his work blew up then, but if it's a pattern, then he doesn't really care what you texted back.
If you can appreciate a guy who is fun and has great ideas on stuff to do, but just wants to live in the moment and not talk about the future, it might not be that you're wasting time with him but rather you're both accepting things as they are in the moment.
This is so TRUE!! Pretending he’s busy with work, meetings, very tight schedules just an excuse!! These guys are selfish to the core! They take take take and never give back! Thank you for sharing your vision.
I am hurt lately dealing with most of these points. Held my breath for the whole video. The last line gave a sigh of relief "For your relationships to change ... you need to change!" May we learn, change, and become such that no one, not even us, would take us for granted and hurt us - Aameen!
I LOVE YOUR tough truth. We all need to snap out of the reality we wish we had and wake up to the reality that we actually DO have. This will save so many women years of heartache. Thank you.
Im Having mental break down after watching this lol, crying & feeling desperate cuz all of this sign resonates with the relationship i have right now and i love him so much ..
Hey dear, don't punish yourself. Watch my other videos on connecting with a man emotionally and building attraction. Those can still help your current relationship.
Girl, same…I had the feeling he was pulling away. I was distraught and upset for days. You know what, there’s billions of people on this planet. Hold you’d head up high, go find your person who APPRECIATES you and will do anything to keep you-hugs ❤
@@annaa6259 Because she is in love with what he showed her. She fell in love with a persona. All of us have at some point. I went no contact with a guy who kept breadcrumbing about a year and a half ago. It happens. The trick is to dump him and move on.
Are you single? 😉 I love the thing you said about being a private person and not super active on social media. My friends would be like “Why don’t you post more sexy pics on insta?” and I always said it’s because I only wanted to share those with my man. I don’t want anyone to just be able to see bikini pics of me whenever they want. I deleted all the apps from my phone last year and couldn’t be happier.
As a man, there are some good points here. However, for the first point I know I'm not a good texter. I don't like texting or social media, and unless I'm actually in a relationship or actively dating someone I'm not going to be doing a lot of texting as I feel it's a bit desperate. I'll match the interest level of a woman I'm interested in. If she's more responsive I'll try to be more responsive; if she isn't I'll pull back. I'll primarily use the phone to set up dates and occasionally reach out, but that's about it. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only man who feels that way.
Makes sense. Most women prefer phone calls anyway. If you and this person are compatible, you will probably have the same preferences when it comes to communication.
I like the way you think! I had a man who texted me every day for entire day, that Was Tooo much!! In 5 days I got soo bored of him and now I'm just ignoring him!! Too much is too much!!😮😮
witches it’s because you ain’t into him I’m sure if that was your real crush you would t think it’s too much stupid dumb bitch dont make guy that text feel insecure TEXTING UR LOVE 1 AND GETJN A RESPONSE BACK ITS THE MOST POWERFUL THING STRENGH💪💪💪 N I DO THIS WITHOU HOLDIN BAKC sadly witches n judas men don’t get that Kox they not that into ME IM A LION G AND I LOVE FOR REAL n dont just ghost someoem who’s into Me I let them know how I feel and COMMUNICATION IS KEY RATHER THAN @ghostin madness
I’m only going to have sex when we are married on our honeymoon night after a respectful courtship and the man has proven his integrity I am doing it Gods way. Marriage is Holy.
It hurts to see this and realize it but it is the hitting truth unfortunately, these all are signs of rejection low-key. But probably the secret is to not take rejection personally, when you feel ur not wanted then it’s time to find someone else… 7:44
Its hurts but I needed to hear this. He love bombed me, was so sweet and attentive, gave me so much time and energy...... and then we had sex. Then suddenly he started pulling away, texting and calling less, and when I questioned him he said he "needed a second cuz relationships scare him and this is all new to him" I told him I'd give him space to figure out what he wanted and I stopped communication. He finally hit me up after 3 days saying he missed me but it hasn't been the same. After listening to this video, im cutting him off. Thank you
Great video!! So many times we women make excuses for men that we like, but who aren't really into us! We want it so badly that we project excuses for them!! He's shy, he's busy, he's been hurt before, he doesn't really know how to have a relationship, or he doesn't have enough money to take us out!! I've seen men I thought were "too shy", move heaven and earth to be with a woman they were really interested in! I'm no longer fooling myself!! If you have to wonder whether a man is interested or not--he probably isn't!!
yes, he ticked all the checkboxes and when I was done with his shit, I ghosted him. Since then he wouldn't stop calling me. men like this are just assholes.
I knew it! I recently broke up with a guy that didn’t want anybody in his group to find out about us. Later I found out he is also dating a girl from that same group and trying to keep it a secret but everyone comments that their interaction is like they are a couple and a friend saw them meeting secretly after work
I dated a guy for 4 years that had red flags. So, I decided to date him because the sex was great and I just got out of a divorce. After 3 years I decided to start pulling back and finally told him I want to date other people. He said what about us...and I told him there is no us. I think he was surprised and shockingly hurt.
Ladies: consider that your proclamations of there being no good men out there become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Women in general need to heal themselves, whether or not there’s a man in the picture; learn our value beyond sexuality; and start showing up as an empowered persons who don’t “need” a man. Do this and our friend Ismael will be out of a job (much as I love the service he’s offering on his channel). Learning to love and honor yourself - whether man or woman - is the greatest thing you’ll ever do in this life.
true. however, it is difficult to employ litterally YEARS to heal - just in order for some guy hurts me with hypocrisy instead of being just and say: look, i am not too much into you; let us be fair and gentle one to another; i don't want to hurt you later-on and in telling the truth i respect you as a human. something doesn't click with me, even if i see that you seem to very much like and even love me. but we are not on equal terms. this would be called sincerity and cojones. i believe that there are good men out there whom i would also be interested in. i just didn't have the chance to meet them.
I had a cardiac surgoen interested in me. He asked me if I could find more time for us to be togeather i my house. Not even go out. I said look I feel guilty asking my family to take my children for me. He has ghosted me and hasn't phoned back. we work in the same building but I doubt we will see each other. However if he does contac me again I will ask him how bored he is. Litrally too advantage really.
There was a bestselling book in the 90s called “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Even a movie with an all star cast. Too bad I didn’t take heed. I wasted my good years on these type of men. They were good guys. They married a woman they met while dating me or immediately thereafter and are happily married to this day. One even lived in a house with a white picket fence on Paradise Lane”. I gave up on men and spent the next 10 years taking care of my mother. Then the next 10 years working two jobs to survive. Now I’m ready to retire at 66 and alone. No marriage, career, or kids. Like the song says “freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose”. But I’ve had my freedom and freedom’s not worth nothing, but it’s free. I feel I have nothing in common with 90% of men who’ve been married and a parent or who’ve led the single l”work hard/play hard” life So, it’s terrifying. It’s hard to not feel defeated before I even begin. But it is terrifying to be alone for the rest of my life, too.
Holy moly!!! I felt like I was reading my life!! I am exactly where you are!!! I really don't think that I read men right at all. I really don't want to spend the rest of my life alone.
Honestly I don't care about men and their dumb cues. I'm being amazing myself and when the right time comes, the right person will show up and he's the one without too many excuses. Ladies, don't listen to this video trying to figure out how to win men over. Just blaze your own trails and keep efforts to please men to the BARE MINIMUM. Build your lives and be amazing, and along the way y'all meet the one without the no. 1-5 hottentotthingys. If y'all strong, beautiful and independent, you won't give a thought or time about men's uninterested behaviour. For example, if he gave a lack of communication, a lady that's sure of herself will just shrug and 😂😂😂 and move on to the next person who is surely better than the canceling appts guy. Or for those considering you but wanting secret relationship, you can laugh at his face and make a big L SIGN at your foreheads while sticking your tounges out. THESE sort of things. Identify men behaviour, but don't give them more than 5 seconds to mope about it. Life's too short and there are 8 billions people in this world. Cheers.
Great advice. I recently saw a video on Facebook of a man trying to walk up the sidewalk at his girlfriend's house, which had been wet with rain and then had iced over, and he almost busted his butt like three times trying to get there to give her his flowers. It said "Ladies, if he wanted to, he would!"
Well, I need to say one thing... If I find myself really busy on something I'm trying to pursue, I guess that not even Leonardo di Caprio could change my decision, to focus on my goal and not having time for a relationship (and I really was in love with Di Caprio in Titanic..)... simply because I am my first priority, no matter who comes on my way... I'm not gonna waste my chances of life just because Prince Charming comes and offers me a relationship .. my own path comes first. There are moments in life when really it's not possible to handle a relationship. I've been there so many times, as a musician.
U are right, when a person ignores. It is better say bye. And a Secreative person is very dangerous. I m presently dealt with that person. Online. I m feed up with this kind of relationship. Single like with my furry babies are better. I feel
This older man living in my building got me back by standing me up from time to time because I once told him I wasn't interested in having a relationship then but years later I became interested &; he held a grudge & got back at me by standing me up many times.
Women waste way too much time on useless guys. Stop chasing men, period. Be old fashioned and smart. If he is really interested you will know. He will make sure you'll know. And he will tell everyone else too. ❤
Well from someone who is older, I tell you this is absolutely true. I have been in this situation a couple times unfortunately. What this man says on this subject is the truth. You can't change him ladies and you are not the exception to the rule. Run run as fast as you can.
I think there should be a premise: the man is at least fairly regulated himself as a person, like to have a stable temperament, no addictive tendency, a right amount of positivity and healthy tastes etc. Otherwise, even if he would die for you, you would still suffer. People from both genders should evaluate the other one's mental condition and the actual ability of love before estimating whether he's/she's that into you, as a potential healthy relationship requires two healthy individuals. Plus, limerence is a thing here and it is much more likely to occur if a guy appears to "dying for you" without actually know you on a very deep level. My opinion is that, you will feel a sense of balance and real belonging when the right person comes and, self-development is a forever thing. I'd say it is much more dangerous to have a traumatic/disregulated man who is very into you and you accept the offer than to date a normal man who's not that into you. Mental health matters!
Damn this is what ive been getting since many years and my fool ass mind couldn't get it and i feel so sad rn because i only wanted him not anyone else and expressed yet he was too reckless with my feelings 😢
Nice you're putting this info out there for those who need it. But holy cow, do some really need a relationship coach to explain these behaviours? I could have told you this stuff when I was a teenager (pre internet, so replace texting bs/blow-offs/excuses with calling ).
This was great. I’m in a so-called relationship but I think I’m around just for a lookie/see. I think he might even be living w someone else. Keep up these great videos.
Question: If you meet someone online (not through a dating website or anything like that) and express interest and he says “I want to meet you first and then we can talk about dating”…is that an avoidance of commitment? Because I just met a man that I’m really into (first time since my fiancé’s death 13 years ago) and he treats me well. He always says “hi” to me and asks how I’m doing and we have the same values and beliefs. Thing is, he’s in Seoul and I’m in the States. Honestly I feel like a teenager trying to figure out the dating scene for the first time.
Every man isn’t the same though. So though I can’t agree to disagree because there are men like this but they give that energy off so if a woman knows how to read through him she would know how to treat the situation. I appreciate the relationship advice and I will look out for those signs. I’ve never had these issues. Hi 👋🏽 my neighbor from Jamaica my Cuba friend.
@@user-dv9xx3yy8vMen with trauma, with attachment issues will be like that and, it applies to both genders. However, to be in a healthy relationship requires two well-grounded individuals. So even men with attachment issues love you, the potential relationship still will be at rollercoaster and youll suffer. The guy I'm encountering is like that as well. It is demonstrated in his previous relationship. He fell in love and later on hated them to be "too depended" and pulled away and unintentionally abusive emotionally.
I’ve always been what’s called a “slow burn,” where men take me for granted and treat me like an option until I walk away, and then they start chasing me down. 🤦🏻♀️ By that time I’m no longer into them.
The person is more than welcome to leave me alone and not in my account because I'm not going to have somebody bring my happiness down after I just paid off my car paid off my place I'm really freaking proud of myself right now I'm not trying to brag I'm just I haven't had no help with anything with from a partner or any of that I finally did it on my own usually I have done that on my own so no no other man has helped me in that way for 18 years no other man has been with me in that way for 18 years and I never lived off another man or my ex-spouse or anybody else I paid my way and I worked I don't mean to be you know this is to be a run-on sentence is just I'm thankful and happy right now and extremely proud of myself especially not being sexual with another man for 18 years because I don't know it just has to be something serious but certainly not with somebody that doesn't like me I mean come on now that's just pointless I'm not chasing any man I'm just on here minding my own. I do appreciate the ones letting me know that on who I need to duck and Dodge you know what I'm saying
AAAAAAAMEN BUT COMMON SENSE ( HE'S NOT YOUR GOD ORDAINED SPOUSE ) POINT BLANK PERIOD 😅😅. GOD KNOWS ALL THINGS. LADIES WAIT ON GOD PUT HIM FIRST LOVE GOD AND IN HIS PERFECT TIMING WHEN YOU LOVE YOURSELF IT WILL HAPPEN ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you with much love and respect if the person feels that way to do with me they don't like me that much or whatever reason they hate me or something then they can stay away from me keep their distance from me and I don't want to see their face. It's already been 18 years nobody else has been with me not offline in you know that way either. I know that sounds I don't know whatever but it would be nice to you know get a pizza with somebody and see where things go. Lol and if things don't go anywhere no harm no foul you know. Move on, and move it along. The person didn't want to be with me anyways so I'm not trying to be pessimistic I'm just a realist. Somebody cannot get mad at me if it doesn't go anywhere let me move on but if me and the person we like each other we pursue each other right. I want to be able to start all over and reinvent myself but I don't want to have to keep starting over with somebody different and put energy every time I mean I can but I don't want to have to even though it's not offline or sexually because I won't just get with anybody in that way. I'm kind of happy a little bit right now I'm about ready to own my own place on my vehicle and I'm going to keep striving for better and more. It may not seem like much to anybody else but when you lose everything so many times because of somebody else it's really scary to cuz you don't want to do that again with someone and then lose everything and yourself I mean you can if you sacrifice to the right person but if you build things together is different also combined with each other. I don't want to be called names and this and that and be put down and degraded and everything else if I don't necessarily know who the person is if they feel like they're leading me on or or from whatever they're getting at it's hard to pick up on that sometimes because it doesn't go anywhere so you don't know if you should engage with that or not or if the person is not right for ya. Or if the person is right for you you work it out I've tried long distance and it never works so no on that. But I'm not going to have somebody play me like a damn fool if they thought somebody else was with me when I have said that by now or at least I wouldn't be on here as much. The person would have been with me by now physically we both like each other love each other. And this would be a discussion with the person but it's never like that offline or on anything else other than just RUclips so it's getting really irritating on that. And it's not like I'm trying to disrespect no, the person but I got to make sure I know their identity and things like that. Until the person has said anything to me on something else off of RUclips or whatever to have a personal private conversation and not somebody screwing with my account that I don't know right now of. To try to understand each other but how can I understand someone if they're being sneaky about it or covert about it. Or someone I can really in-depth trust. That would should be able to trust me trusting each other within reason. With all the implying insinuating and speculations and suspicion and blah blah did you know it's literally making me ill, if it's always unknown yeah they want me to pick up their social cues. Etc. Should I play dumb or not. I can't have somebody expecting me to give out all my strategies or keep track of keeping an eye on my strategies if I can't to do that with them. ✌️🧐 And whoever that is saying I'm their wife they better tell me who they are because I have no idea. If I have anyone like brothers or the person in my account but I don't have anybody in my account that's in the gay dating I'm not hating I support that but I'm not into that myself, I'm straight. I just have no idea who was in my account that is into gay dating.
No man likes me 😥 it’s ok I accept it but man 3000 plus tinder likes but the universe gave me exactly what he is describing. Time to focus on my own happiness
GET OFF TINDER! If you want a real relationship, do it the old fashioned way. Meet someone and form a friendship first then date him. Meet them thru friends, organizations, clubs, supermarket-anywhere! The majority of men on dating sites have one thing in mind -quantity! They want lots and lots of opportunities bc it’s exciting to them. Do better for yourself and meet guys in person, you will find men are more sincere and won’t play as many games. Good luck to you 🍀
I’m out on a walk & this Visio piqued my curiosity. Even if the man originally is excited about you, once you have sex, you can kiss that relationship goodbye.. you are being used to gratify his fleshly desires. How can he see you any other way without a marital commitment? God has spoken through his Word that fornication is wrong. It’s time for the whole country to get back to doing things Father God’s way. His heart is to protect you
That last one has always resonated with me bc it’s always has been true. And I do this with the men in my life. I don’t do it on purpose. I wish they’d see they have been friend-zoned though. But I do make time for the ones I make priority. And I see the ones who make me priority. I live life accordingly.
I just subscribed today. Can you do a video on a person who is unbelievably loving for a period, then turns into a monster over nothing, repeatedly. I don't understand it. To create scenarios that cause him to feel hatred towards me. He has no problems telling how awful he thinks I am, but can't tell me why he loves me. I've asked over and over he never gives a real answer. He always calls things off between us. I always let him. I love things about him, but he is too difficult for me.
All the more reason why I'm not bothering anybody in that way I'm just trying to figure out who is suicide on who is screwing with my account in a messed up way. Allies not enemies. I don't like me that much then there's nothing to worry about bothering me. It doesn't matter anyways nobody else has been with me offline in that way for 18 years. After what I've seen today in these past couple of months I'm to petrified. I'm not going to force myself on a man I'm just trying to make it clear I'm not forcing myself on a man or anybody else just trying to figure out who is who or for someone to expect me to all of a sudden love them again when the entire time they were with somebody else I don't want to do that again in the entire time I hadn't been with anybody like that. I love the person in a platonic way but after being hurt so many times by the person I had to move on with my feelings from that person I cannot have somebody come back into my life and expect everything to be okay only platonic sigma male. And I don't know where else that is coming from I am not interested in one night stand with anyone and there it is with all the harassing phone calls again. I am not chasing a man to be serious with me so I don't know where that's coming from.
That's no problem and I could have swore I said already multiple times whoever that is can leave me alone completely permanently on social media or off social media then we can avoid any confusion or any of that for someone that would like me or more than that thanks for letting me know that with much love and respect. I'm absolutely not interested in any singer
The person that doesn't like me that much just keep it professional, I don't have to engage with any of their content or with whomever. Any other person that doesn't like me that much I can move on now the person has never been with me offline anyways nobody else has been with me since still the same thing since my ex-spouse 4 years ago separated. I didn't think I had to keep proving that to somebody that has never been with me offline I don't know somebody's got some mental illness or something like that I'm not hating but that is just oh my gosh ridiculous like what are they doing that I don't know about see what I'm saying, if the person seems to conjure up what they think I'm doing wrong. That is why I'm not wanting to interact with the person like that as far as I don't need to see their face or in my account or anything to do with social media or their content whoever or not their content just keep it friendly professional if that's it not enemies
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It’s very sad that a young woman would not be wise enough to recognize the value of a man like you!! I’m sorry that she did not return your feelings towards her. It was her loss. I do hope that you have found a beautiful woman who does appreciate and highly values you!! Thank you so much for your insight and support for women!! You are truly a gem!!!❤
1.) lack of communication
2.) he keeps canceling appts
3.) wants a secret relationship
4.) pulls after physical intimacy
5.) excuses to avoid commitment
List of the harsh, cold truths 😢
Agree 😢
It's to save you from these and move on actually run away from those types and multi date.
He's married
The relationship is just sexual.
What about age differences? A gap by 20 years?
I am just going to grow old with 100 cats....I am just going to put dating on hold. And put the love into myself.
8 🐈 😻 🐈⬛️ 🐱 🐈 😻 🐈⬛️ 🐱 & 1 aussie shepherd combo. 🐕
I already did, minus ➖️ the 🐈 cats.😅
When a girl is not a hot b1tch, no man will ever have a high-interest in her. That's my destiny and I'm making peace with it.
Good girl ❤ I took me 3 years of dolo work n I'm still workin on it, but, but, but, I think I may have finally found real love
I implemented this years ago and I have never been happier ❤😄
Thankfully, I am old-fashioned woman, so if a man doesn't show much initiative, I show none at all. That solves this problem right away.
That's just the right attitude!! Which I had to learn the hard way... but now I know!
This happened to me. This guy "slightly" flirted with me. He just showed me mixed signals. I had questioned myself if he is really interested in me or not. Then one of his friends gave me so much attention and very good signals that he likes me. The first guy was jealous. Lol. He even asked me why I am always talking about his friend. Dude! One moment you were flirting with me, the other time you became cold as ice! What was I supposed to get from your "game"?
Incredible mindset.
Yep!❤
😅
Don't chase, don't beg, no booty calls. Don' make an effort for him that he doesn't make for you. Ghost and block him.
@janewasson4845 how can I do that ..when he's right here..
It's ok if you want him there, and you can see by his actions that he truly cares.
@@janewasson4845 who
Fantastic approach.
You've hit the nail on the head. The one thing I've learned from Steve Harvey is that men are hunters - they like the chase - and when I think about the start of my last long-term relationship that's exactly what happened: if I was at evening class or at a friend's house, my ex would sometimes drive round the neighbourhood, not in a creepy way but just because he had some free time and was hoping to spot my car. When the relationship got serious and we saw one another virtually every night he wasn't as 'longing' (and I found the relationship was getting a bit boring too). So I guess the answer is not to live together???
I knew this guy Craig wouldn't cancel. He'd call 2 hours later saying "something came up. " I gave him a pass the first time. After the second, I ghosted his sorry a$$. Called me at my job trying to be nice, told him I was busy and hung up.
Yasss girl ❤
Better 😅
If you have to ask, he doesn't like you that much. It's that simple. When you're into somebody, you can't stop thinking about them. You can't wait to talk to them and spend time with them. If someone is not showing much enthusiasm or it comes and goes, they don't like you. You are better than nothing when they are bored or don't have other options.
That’s really insightful. How has it influenced your perspective?
That's my daughter. She likes a guy. He moved into our house because my daughter lives with me. He doesn't have a job. She gives him money. She bought him a phone. She pays for all his entertainment. He took over her car. She likes him but he only likes her as a friend. He monopolizes all her time. Now my daughter and I are in crisis because of him. I told her he's using her and she won't listen. Am I wrong?
@@bleuskye8124Evict the guy. It's your house, tell him he overstay his welcome. It doesn't matter if your daughter likes it or not. Earn some respect as a mother. This is sad!
@@LoveLife-oo9cz He's gone. I told my daughter he's no longer welcome in my house. Before I had the chance to kick him out she kicked him out. She saw exactly who he really was. She changed the locks on the doors. Hallelujah
Wow, after 2.5 years,out of the blue he said he never liked me ,it was just for him the sex
That's basically what I have done and how I end up being single. Men are far less sincere than we think. And they are there to get what they want which is not love
But, you don't have to have sex if you don't want to.
You can still enjoy some personal time with him.
Caressing, kissing, cuddling and nothing more.
I told him upfront.
I'm not interested in having nothing more than that.
He was okay with that.
They all lie.
@@Cygnus75dang right!
Precisely, that's what I am trying to convey.
I think they are emotionally stunted by the largely American "real men don't cry" thing that basically ruins their entire emotional sense of self. Then they can never connect on an emotional level with anyone let alone a woman.
I needed to hear this and confirm I did the right thing by blocking him 5 days ago. For 7 years hot and cold with him. Thank you! 🙏🏻 ❤
I'm glad you found my video helpful.
You don't need too many signs. It's consistency. Period. When a man loves a woman he will be screaming at the top of his lungs that she is his basically.
I'm with you on that.
Agree! My Grandmother said when a Man loves a Woman he will do anything to be with her
@@jessicaagosto3633 absolutely.
Exactly 💯 ‼️ 👌
I stopped hoping to find a good man years ago. I decided to pour all that love and hope and effort on me and my personal development. And on books, instead of cats😊 Not everyone can find The Person, some of us, I think, were born to be alone.
I was definitely born to be alone and unfortunately I'm married. I think if I'd found a man who had not been emotionally neglected as a child I'd be happy with whoever that was, but this neglect thing is why men neglect women. It's not that they don't WANT to be interested, it's that they CAN'T connect. And, since "everyone" (especially American men) is taught to ignore "bad" emotions instead of dealing well with _all_ our emotions we're all better off alone in my opinion.
@@allhimwithme5115 I agree with you 👍
I love my time alone single happy content I love me other men have issues I don't have time for it amen me myself and I ❤❤❤❤
Agree 100%. I don't believe there is somebody for everyone. Those of us that know that, are fine and happy to be alone, which is not the same as being lonely.
I agree....with 50.01% population over 30 child less and single. I agree with you
To all. Ladies becareful nòt to waste time with peoplle who do not have any intrest in u.
@@ElaineShaw-ob4gj ITS NOT WASTING TIME ..ITS TELLING YOUR STORY SO U CAN FIGURE OUT THE WAY TO LOVE YOURSELF ..AND ITS A JOURNAL THAT YOU CAN LOOK BACK ON AND know that that was your STORY that led u to LOVE YOURSELF and you wouldnt change a thing!!
I couldn't have said it better.
You don't know how much you are helping to innocent women out there..a big thank you on their behalf. Huge respect 💪❤
That means a lot. Thank you for your lovely comment.
@@SaveTheMessenger ❤️🙏
@@shubhangisharma5883Honestly I don't care about men and their dumb cues. I'm being amazing myself and when the right time comes, the right person will show up and he's the one without too many excuses. Ladies, don't listen to this video trying to figure out how to win men over. Just blaze your own trails and keep efforts to please men to the BARE MINIMUM. Build your lives and be amazing, and along the way y'all meet the one without the no. 1-5 hottentotthingys. If y'all strong, beautiful and independent, you won't give a thought or time about men's uninterested behaviour. For example, if he gave a lack of communication, a lady that's sure of herself will just shrug and 😂😂😂 and move on to the next person who is surely better than the canceling appts guy. Or for those considering you but wanting secret relationship, you can laugh at his face and make a big L SIGN at your foreheads while sticking your tounges out. THESE sort of things. Identify men behaviour, but don't give them more than 5 seconds to mope about it. Life's too short and there are 8 billions people in this world. Cheers.
God help your beautiful daughters protect their hearts❤
Your comment made me smile.
i’m broken, I thought I would be the one , I dated a man who was still in a realationship, it hurts so bad , I sacrificed days just waiting for him to call me, i’m such a fool, thankyou for the videos
We all did it, we all know how it feels. But I promise you, the moment you really slam that door and nail it shut for ever, healing begins. slowly but surely, life does get better, you do heal, it does get easier. Get busy planning your new exciting lifestyle, look after yourself you are number one, always 🎉 ❤
@@KwertyKeys Thankyou! your words had lift me up
@@jessicaagosto3633 you’re welcome! Look after yourself 🥰
@KwertyKeys we all do what? Date people who are in relationships? 😅
I've been through it. I was made into "the other woman" without my knowledge when a guy accepted my invitation for a movie/dinner date. What's worse is he pulled out all the stops on the fake chivalry. He gave me his coat, pulled out my chair, everything. Until he figured out I wasn't going to allow him to sleep with me. Then everything stopped.
Reading the comments, I see I’m not alone. There’s a lot of sad, disappointed women in the world.
World is full of shitty so called men.
Better to be single than with a wrong person.
He was in, engaged, never canceled a plan and all that stuff until I start having health issues and then he detached himself. Better for the ambulance to come to pick me up rather than him. I believe the beers with his colleagues was much more important… So at my 49 I am not going to start thinking what’s going on or mothering him telling him what is what I expect from my man. So…. Next!
So agree with you. Who needs all the games.
On Android phones and iPhones you can see if someone read your text and when. If you reply to his text fast but you see that he didn't read the reply for hours the chances are he's not that into you. Sure, something could have come up, maybe his work blew up then, but if it's a pattern, then he doesn't really care what you texted back.
You can only see that if they turn on read receipts.
One can see a msg on locked screen (at least on iphone), but it will show as not read in the app
So many men out there who waste your time! Where’s the good ones?
Ikr, I do believe that those good men are there but what about the good woman?
@@Silencer796 Few and far between. But I’m a good woman and so are my friends
If you can appreciate a guy who is fun and has great ideas on stuff to do, but just wants to live in the moment and not talk about the future, it might not be that you're wasting time with him but rather you're both accepting things as they are in the moment.
You drive us away.
Amen…it’s really disheartening
This is so TRUE!!
Pretending he’s busy with work, meetings, very tight schedules just an excuse!!
These guys are selfish to the core! They take take take and never give back!
Thank you for sharing your vision.
He's just meditating😂
I am hurt lately dealing with most of these points. Held my breath for the whole video. The last line gave a sigh of relief "For your relationships to change ... you need to change!" May we learn, change, and become such that no one, not even us, would take us for granted and hurt us - Aameen!
Ameen summa Ameen❤
Āmiiiin! 💔
Thank you for your time.
I LOVE YOUR tough truth. We all need to snap out of the reality we wish we had and wake up to the reality that we actually DO have. This will save so many women years of heartache. Thank you.
Im Having mental break down after watching this lol, crying & feeling desperate cuz all of this sign resonates with the relationship i have right now and i love him so much ..
Hey dear, don't punish yourself. Watch my other videos on connecting with a man emotionally and building attraction. Those can still help your current relationship.
Girl, same…I had the feeling he was pulling away. I was distraught and upset for days. You know what, there’s billions of people on this planet. Hold you’d head up high, go find your person who APPRECIATES you and will do anything to keep you-hugs ❤
Why would you love someone who treats you like this. You are trauma bonded not in love
@@annaa6259 Because she is in love with what he showed her. She fell in love with a persona. All of us have at some point. I went no contact with a guy who kept breadcrumbing about a year and a half ago. It happens. The trick is to dump him and move on.
You love what you think he is, If a stranger treated you the same way you wouldn't put up with it..
Are you single? 😉 I love the thing you said about being a private person and not super active on social media. My friends would be like “Why don’t you post more sexy pics on insta?” and I always said it’s because I only wanted to share those with my man. I don’t want anyone to just be able to see bikini pics of me whenever they want. I deleted all the apps from my phone last year and couldn’t be happier.
As a man, there are some good points here. However, for the first point I know I'm not a good texter. I don't like texting or social media, and unless I'm actually in a relationship or actively dating someone I'm not going to be doing a lot of texting as I feel it's a bit desperate. I'll match the interest level of a woman I'm interested in. If she's more responsive I'll try to be more responsive; if she isn't I'll pull back. I'll primarily use the phone to set up dates and occasionally reach out, but that's about it. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only man who feels that way.
Makes sense. Most women prefer phone calls anyway. If you and this person are compatible, you will probably have the same preferences when it comes to communication.
I like the way you think! I had a man who texted me every day for entire day, that Was Tooo much!! In 5 days I got soo bored of him and now I'm just ignoring him!! Too much is too much!!😮😮
witches it’s because you ain’t into him I’m sure if that was your real crush you would t think it’s too much stupid dumb bitch dont make guy that text feel insecure TEXTING UR LOVE 1 AND GETJN A RESPONSE BACK ITS THE MOST POWERFUL THING STRENGH💪💪💪 N I DO THIS WITHOU HOLDIN BAKC sadly witches n judas men don’t get that Kox they not that into ME IM A LION G AND I LOVE FOR REAL n dont just ghost someoem who’s into Me I let them know how I feel and COMMUNICATION IS KEY RATHER THAN @ghostin madness
I dont pursue anyone
I’m only going to have sex when we are married on our honeymoon night after a respectful courtship and the man has proven his integrity I am doing it Gods way. Marriage is Holy.
Amen to that! 🙏
It hurts to see this and realize it but it is the hitting truth unfortunately, these all are signs of rejection low-key. But probably the secret is to not take rejection personally, when you feel ur not wanted then it’s time to find someone else… 7:44
Its hurts but I needed to hear this. He love bombed me, was so sweet and attentive, gave me so much time and energy...... and then we had sex. Then suddenly he started pulling away, texting and calling less, and when I questioned him he said he "needed a second cuz relationships scare him and this is all new to him" I told him I'd give him space to figure out what he wanted and I stopped communication. He finally hit me up after 3 days saying he missed me but it hasn't been the same. After listening to this video, im cutting him off. Thank you
I could relate to 4 of them and felt really sad. But yes, thankk youu for sharing soo helpful information so we can walk away from these type of men.
You are so welcome!
Great video!! So many times we women make excuses for men that we like, but who aren't really into us! We want it so badly that we project excuses for them!! He's shy, he's busy, he's been hurt before, he doesn't really know how to have a relationship, or he doesn't have enough money to take us out!! I've seen men I thought were "too shy", move heaven and earth to be with a woman they were really interested in!
I'm no longer fooling myself!! If you have to wonder whether a man is interested or not--he probably isn't!!
yes, he ticked all the checkboxes and when I was done with his shit, I ghosted him. Since then he wouldn't stop calling me. men like this are just assholes.
Thank you for sharing. What was the outcome of that experience?
Actions speak louder than words. Very true and informative.
I'm really grateful.
I knew it! I recently broke up with a guy that didn’t want anybody in his group to find out about us. Later I found out he is also dating a girl from that same group and trying to keep it a secret but everyone comments that their interaction is like they are a couple and a friend saw them meeting secretly after work
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I appreciate you sharing that. How did it make you feel?
I wish I’d seen your videos 20, even 30 years ago. It’s so obvious now that I look back!
Thank you kindly, you're a blessing.
I dated a guy for 4 years that had red flags. So, I decided to date him because the sex was great and I just got out of a divorce. After 3 years I decided to start pulling back and finally told him I want to date other people. He said what about us...and I told him there is no us. I think he was surprised and shockingly hurt.
You were the bad guy in this then
@@NotYoung3592 with all the red flags I decided to leave my heart at the door, so we were both emotionally unavailable.
Ladies: consider that your proclamations of there being no good men out there become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Women in general need to heal themselves, whether or not there’s a man in the picture; learn our value beyond sexuality; and start showing up as an empowered persons who don’t “need” a man. Do this and our friend Ismael will be out of a job (much as I love the service he’s offering on his channel). Learning to love and honor yourself - whether man or woman - is the greatest thing you’ll ever do in this life.
true. however, it is difficult to employ litterally YEARS to heal - just in order for some guy hurts me with hypocrisy instead of being just and say: look, i am not too much into you; let us be fair and gentle one to another; i don't want to hurt you later-on and in telling the truth i respect you as a human. something doesn't click with me, even if i see that you seem to very much like and even love me. but we are not on equal terms. this would be called sincerity and cojones.
i believe that there are good men out there whom i would also be interested in. i just didn't have the chance to meet them.
I had a cardiac surgoen interested in me. He asked me if I could find more time for us to be togeather i my house. Not even go out. I said look I feel guilty asking my family to take my children for me. He has ghosted me and hasn't phoned back. we work in the same building but I doubt we will see each other. However if he does contac me again I will ask him how bored he is. Litrally too advantage really.
At YOUR house?!? How "considerate" of him. NOT. Move on. Have no more concern for him ever. He's probably trying that w/ others on DL. LoL
Sounds likes you was a side chick...
If he contacts you, you should say you’re busy and hang up. He was trying to use you as a side piece he’s a disrespectful male
It’s unethical to date a patient. What was he even thinking? Stay away from his childish nonsense-you want a man not a dog in heat!
@@brown_eyed_girl don't insult dogs ..
When somebody wants to be with you , they'll make time not excuses
Amen to that.
Everything he says is true!
Go with the ones that treat you the best!
I appreciate this. Thank you so much.
Ironically you just showed me that he actually DOES like me. Thanks!😊
It seems like I need to block him right away
Does it f***ing matter though? They always end up wanting you, BAD. I think men don’t know what they want until it’s walking away from them
There was a bestselling book in the 90s called “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Even a movie with an all star cast. Too bad I didn’t take heed. I wasted my good years on these type of men. They were good guys. They married a woman they met while dating me or immediately thereafter and are happily married to this day. One even lived in a house with a white picket fence on Paradise Lane”. I gave up on men and spent the next 10 years taking care of my mother. Then the next 10 years working two jobs to survive. Now I’m ready to retire at 66 and alone. No marriage, career, or kids. Like the song says “freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose”. But I’ve had my freedom and freedom’s not worth nothing, but it’s free. I feel I have nothing in common with 90% of men who’ve been married and a parent or who’ve led the single l”work hard/play hard” life So, it’s terrifying. It’s hard to not feel defeated before I even begin. But it is terrifying to be alone for the rest of my life, too.
Holy moly!!! I felt like I was reading my life!! I am exactly where you are!!! I really don't think that I read men right at all. I really don't want to spend the rest of my life alone.
You will find your person❤
Honestly I don't care about men and their dumb cues. I'm being amazing myself and when the right time comes, the right person will show up and he's the one without too many excuses. Ladies, don't listen to this video trying to figure out how to win men over. Just blaze your own trails and keep efforts to please men to the BARE MINIMUM. Build your lives and be amazing, and along the way y'all meet the one without the no. 1-5 hottentotthingys. If y'all strong, beautiful and independent, you won't give a thought or time about men's uninterested behaviour. For example, if he gave a lack of communication, a lady that's sure of herself will just shrug and 😂😂😂 and move on to the next person who is surely better than the canceling appts guy. Or for those considering you but wanting secret relationship, you can laugh at his face and make a big L SIGN at your foreheads while sticking your tounges out. THESE sort of things. Identify men behaviour, but don't give them more than 5 seconds to mope about it. Life's too short and there are 8 billions people in this world. Cheers.
You remind me of Johnny Depp!🙃
Great advice. I recently saw a video on Facebook of a man trying to walk up the sidewalk at his girlfriend's house, which had been wet with rain and then had iced over, and he almost busted his butt like three times trying to get there to give her his flowers. It said "Ladies, if he wanted to, he would!"
It's louder,
It is clearer
Thanks
You nailed it, Ismael! Very honest and to the point!
Thank you for leaving such a wonderful comment.
Well, I need to say one thing... If I find myself really busy on something I'm trying to pursue, I guess that not even Leonardo di Caprio could change my decision, to focus on my goal and not having time for a relationship (and I really was in love with Di Caprio in Titanic..)... simply because I am my first priority, no matter who comes on my way... I'm not gonna waste my chances of life just because Prince Charming comes and offers me a relationship .. my own path comes first. There are moments in life when really it's not possible to handle a relationship. I've been there so many times, as a musician.
U are right, when a person ignores. It is better say bye. And a Secreative person is very dangerous. I m presently dealt with that person. Online. I m feed up with this kind of relationship. Single like with my furry babies are better. I feel
This older man living in my building got me back by standing me up from time to time because I once told him I wasn't interested in having a relationship then but years later I became interested &; he held a grudge & got back at me by standing me up many times.
Wow - talk about ridiculous
You dodge that losa
Obviously 🙄 He has no interest in my Instagram he’s too busy flirting with other women on instagram!!!!!
If "he" doesn't like you, no doubt there's a few around you waiting for your attention :)))))))😂
You are very handsome and I didn’t know you were Cubano! 🇨🇺
Muchas gracias.
Women waste way too much time on useless guys. Stop chasing men, period. Be old fashioned and smart. If he is really interested you will know. He will make sure you'll know. And he will tell everyone else too. ❤
Well from someone who is older, I tell you this is absolutely true. I have been in this situation a couple times unfortunately. What this man says on this subject is the truth. You can't change him ladies and you are not the exception to the rule. Run run as fast as you can.
I think there should be a premise: the man is at least fairly regulated himself as a person, like to have a stable temperament, no addictive tendency, a right amount of positivity and healthy tastes etc. Otherwise, even if he would die for you, you would still suffer. People from both genders should evaluate the other one's mental condition and the actual ability of love before estimating whether he's/she's that into you, as a potential healthy relationship requires two healthy individuals. Plus, limerence is a thing here and it is much more likely to occur if a guy appears to "dying for you" without actually know you on a very deep level. My opinion is that, you will feel a sense of balance and real belonging when the right person comes and, self-development is a forever thing. I'd say it is much more dangerous to have a traumatic/disregulated man who is very into you and you accept the offer than to date a normal man who's not that into you. Mental health matters!
Well this guy the guy who’s been pursuing me…he sure put in the effort until he got me and now nothing…smh
Love ❤️ is outdated and not inclusive like the old days.
Love yourself and love will find you again ❤
My bar has always been very high. I married high quality. He was my best friend and life. He is now waiting for me in heaven.
Damn this is what ive been getting since many years and my fool ass mind couldn't get it and i feel so sad rn because i only wanted him not anyone else and expressed yet he was too reckless with my feelings 😢
Thanks Ismail that's most important video for women who has confused about what Men feel and react❤❤❤
Much appreciated 🙌
It is getting more and more difficult to land a quality partner.
That little anecdote was such a great way to make your point. Great insight! 🙏🏽
Love seeing you ladies watch the full video instead of skipping through it.
Great video and reinforced the fact that my guy is into me. Thanks Ismael and it was that girl's loss. You're a gem ✨
Applies to friendships, family relations, nusiness leads ...human relations in general.
Nice you're putting this info out there for those who need it. But holy cow, do some really need a relationship coach to explain these behaviours? I could have told you this stuff when I was a teenager (pre internet, so replace texting bs/blow-offs/excuses with calling ).
This was great. I’m in a so-called relationship but I think I’m around just for a lookie/see. I think he might even be living w someone else. Keep up these great videos.
Your comment made me smile. I appreciate you.
Just found your pages watching live from philippines😊😊😊Great videos
Saved my life,thanks
Can apply to friendships too
I love your videos!! They give us more clarity.
Awesome! Thank you!
Very true ! This guy is right.
IAmSoWayBetterIHaveSoMuchGoingOnTheirBullshitIsAWasteOfTime
I like your videos
Straight to point and very genuine
Question:
If you meet someone online (not through a dating website or anything like that) and express interest and he says “I want to meet you first and then we can talk about dating”…is that an avoidance of commitment?
Because I just met a man that I’m really into (first time since my fiancé’s death 13 years ago) and he treats me well. He always says “hi” to me and asks how I’m doing and we have the same values and beliefs.
Thing is, he’s in Seoul and I’m in the States.
Honestly I feel like a teenager trying to figure out the dating scene for the first time.
Every man isn’t the same though. So though I can’t agree to disagree because there are men like this but they give that energy off so if a woman knows how to read through him she would know how to treat the situation. I appreciate the relationship advice and I will look out for those signs. I’ve never had these issues. Hi 👋🏽 my neighbor from Jamaica my Cuba friend.
What you mean? There are men who are like this but still can be serious with you?
@@user-dv9xx3yy8vMen with trauma, with attachment issues will be like that and, it applies to both genders. However, to be in a healthy relationship requires two well-grounded individuals. So even men with attachment issues love you, the potential relationship still will be at rollercoaster and youll suffer. The guy I'm encountering is like that as well. It is demonstrated in his previous relationship. He fell in love and later on hated them to be "too depended" and pulled away and unintentionally abusive emotionally.
Chase God ❤
Amen.
Like is a four letter word.😂
Thank you for the HONEST answers.
Plllllease...I'll NEVER LikeAGuyMoreThanHeDoesMe
I’ve always been what’s called a “slow burn,” where men take me for granted and treat me like an option until I walk away, and then they start chasing me down. 🤦🏻♀️ By that time I’m no longer into them.
I’ve only experienced ZERO interest guys hahahaha ugly monster problems.
Thank you so much Coach Ismael... this is so helpful, insightful and prompt to me.
I feel relieved knowing better 🎉
That book Hes just NOT that into you changed my life. Shortly after I met my now hubby of 8 yrs. Weve been together for 14 yrs total now.
Oh Yes He Does OtherwiseYouWouldn'tBeDoingThisShit
The person is more than welcome to leave me alone and not in my account because I'm not going to have somebody bring my happiness down after I just paid off my car paid off my place I'm really freaking proud of myself right now I'm not trying to brag I'm just I haven't had no help with anything with from a partner or any of that I finally did it on my own usually I have done that on my own so no no other man has helped me in that way for 18 years no other man has been with me in that way for 18 years and I never lived off another man or my ex-spouse or anybody else I paid my way and I worked I don't mean to be you know this is to be a run-on sentence is just I'm thankful and happy right now and extremely proud of myself especially not being sexual with another man for 18 years because I don't know it just has to be something serious but certainly not with somebody that doesn't like me I mean come on now that's just pointless I'm not chasing any man I'm just on here minding my own. I do appreciate the ones letting me know that on who I need to duck and Dodge you know what I'm saying
AAAAAAAMEN BUT COMMON SENSE ( HE'S NOT YOUR GOD ORDAINED SPOUSE ) POINT BLANK PERIOD 😅😅. GOD KNOWS ALL THINGS. LADIES WAIT ON GOD PUT HIM FIRST LOVE GOD AND IN HIS PERFECT TIMING WHEN YOU LOVE YOURSELF IT WILL HAPPEN ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you with much love and respect if the person feels that way to do with me they don't like me that much or whatever reason they hate me or something then they can stay away from me keep their distance from me and I don't want to see their face.
It's already been 18 years nobody else has been with me not offline in you know that way either. I know that sounds I don't know whatever but it would be nice to you know get a pizza with somebody and see where things go. Lol and if things don't go anywhere no harm no foul you know. Move on, and move it along. The person didn't want to be with me anyways so I'm not trying to be pessimistic I'm just a realist. Somebody cannot get mad at me if it doesn't go anywhere let me move on but if me and the person we like each other we pursue each other right. I want to be able to start all over and reinvent myself but I don't want to have to keep starting over with somebody different and put energy every time I mean I can but I don't want to have to even though it's not offline or sexually because I won't just get with anybody in that way. I'm kind of happy a little bit right now I'm about ready to own my own place on my vehicle and I'm going to keep striving for better and more. It may not seem like much to anybody else but when you lose everything so many times because of somebody else it's really scary to cuz you don't want to do that again with someone and then lose everything and yourself I mean you can if you sacrifice to the right person but if you build things together is different also combined with each other. I don't want to be called names and this and that and be put down and degraded and everything else if I don't necessarily know who the person is if they feel like they're leading me on or or from whatever they're getting at it's hard to pick up on that sometimes because it doesn't go anywhere so you don't know if you should engage with that or not or if the person is not right for ya. Or if the person is right for you you work it out I've tried long distance and it never works so no on that. But I'm not going to have somebody play me like a damn fool if they thought somebody else was with me when I have said that by now or at least I wouldn't be on here as much. The person would have been with me by now physically we both like each other love each other. And this would be a discussion with the person but it's never like that offline or on anything else other than just RUclips so it's getting really irritating on that. And it's not like I'm trying to disrespect no, the person but I got to make sure I know their identity and things like that. Until the person has said anything to me on something else off of RUclips or whatever to have a personal private conversation and not somebody screwing with my account that I don't know right now of. To try to understand each other but how can I understand someone if they're being sneaky about it or covert about it. Or someone I can really in-depth trust. That would should be able to trust me trusting each other within reason. With all the implying insinuating and speculations and suspicion and blah blah did you know it's literally making me ill, if it's always unknown yeah they want me to pick up their social cues. Etc. Should I play dumb or not. I can't have somebody expecting me to give out all my strategies or keep track of keeping an eye on my strategies if I can't to do that with them. ✌️🧐
And whoever that is saying I'm their wife they better tell me who they are because I have no idea. If I have anyone like brothers or the person in my account but I don't have anybody in my account that's in the gay dating I'm not hating I support that but I'm not into that myself, I'm straight. I just have no idea who was in my account that is into gay dating.
No man likes me 😥 it’s ok I accept it but man 3000 plus tinder likes but the universe gave me exactly what he is describing. Time to focus on my own happiness
GET OFF TINDER! If you want a real relationship, do it the old fashioned way. Meet someone and form a friendship first then date him. Meet them thru friends, organizations, clubs, supermarket-anywhere! The majority of men on dating sites have one thing in mind -quantity! They want lots and lots of opportunities bc it’s exciting to them. Do better for yourself and meet guys in person, you will find men are more sincere and won’t play as many games. Good luck to you 🍀
@@brown_eyed_girlI stopped using dating apps seven years ago and never looked back. But yes, meeting someone in real life is a lot better.
I’m out on a walk & this Visio piqued my curiosity. Even if the man originally is excited about you, once you have sex, you can kiss that relationship goodbye.. you are being used to gratify his fleshly desires. How can he see you any other way without a marital commitment? God has spoken through his Word that fornication is wrong. It’s time for the whole country to get back to doing things Father God’s way. His heart is to protect you
That last one has always resonated with me bc it’s always has been true. And I do this with the men in my life. I don’t do it on purpose. I wish they’d see they have been friend-zoned though. But I do make time for the ones I make priority. And I see the ones who make me priority. I live life accordingly.
You’re awesome. Clear, honest, direct. Thank you!
I just subscribed today. Can you do a video on a person who is unbelievably loving for a period, then turns into a monster over nothing, repeatedly. I don't understand it. To create scenarios that cause him to feel hatred towards me. He has no problems telling how awful he thinks I am, but can't tell me why he loves me. I've asked over and over he never gives a real answer. He always calls things off between us. I always let him. I love things about him, but he is too difficult for me.
All the more reason why I'm not bothering anybody in that way I'm just trying to figure out who is suicide on who is screwing with my account in a messed up way. Allies not enemies. I don't like me that much then there's nothing to worry about bothering me. It doesn't matter anyways nobody else has been with me offline in that way for 18 years. After what I've seen today in these past couple of months I'm to petrified. I'm not going to force myself on a man I'm just trying to make it clear I'm not forcing myself on a man or anybody else just trying to figure out who is who or for someone to expect me to all of a sudden love them again when the entire time they were with somebody else I don't want to do that again in the entire time I hadn't been with anybody like that. I love the person in a platonic way but after being hurt so many times by the person I had to move on with my feelings from that person I cannot have somebody come back into my life and expect everything to be okay only platonic sigma male. And I don't know where else that is coming from I am not interested in one night stand with anyone and there it is with all the harassing phone calls again.
I am not chasing a man to be serious with me so I don't know where that's coming from.
That's no problem and I could have swore I said already multiple times whoever that is can leave me alone completely permanently on social media or off social media then we can avoid any confusion or any of that for someone that would like me or more than that thanks for letting me know that with much love and respect. I'm absolutely not interested in any singer
This channel is so insightful .
I’m really grateful, you’re a marvel.
The person that doesn't like me that much just keep it professional, I don't have to engage with any of their content or with whomever. Any other person that doesn't like me that much I can move on now the person has never been with me offline anyways nobody else has been with me since still the same thing since my ex-spouse 4 years ago separated. I didn't think I had to keep proving that to somebody that has never been with me offline I don't know somebody's got some mental illness or something like that I'm not hating but that is just oh my gosh ridiculous like what are they doing that I don't know about see what I'm saying, if the person seems to conjure up what they think I'm doing wrong. That is why I'm not wanting to interact with the person like that as far as I don't need to see their face or in my account or anything to do with social media or their content whoever or not their content just keep it friendly professional if that's it not enemies