Once you get older you'll understand the choices "women of a certain age" make. We don't care about defining our waist. We definitely don't want to wear shoes without an arch support. And we can really rock a tunic! You'll find (eventually) that as women age we dress for ourselves... not for current fashion trends, other people, to look thin or tall or proportionate or youthful. We care about comfort and our own sense of style.
Awww, I am almost 70 and I love dressing to look young but you know, I am not talking about Daisy Dukes. I like my hour glass figure, I love strappy sandals (not platforms, but sexy toe loops with pretty pedicure). I dress for comfort and style. I love being told I look "great" or even "hot". Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks.
@@dnk4559 sure. For me, the trick is knowing where I like to shop. I wear Sofft shoes, some Borns, some Clarks. Depends on how cute and comfy they are. I always put a lot of money into my shoes. My feet are narrow with high arch. If your feet hurt, you will be unhappy. I shop all over but INC and DKNY from Macy's is my preference. Occasionally I buy store lines. I love WHBM but mostly shop sale items there. Having worked from home 5 years now, I wear nice tops and cute earrings, and jeans on the part under my desk. I adore fashion and I sew at times. Project Runway inspires me. Mom died last year and she always looked stunning. Vibrant, coordinated, put together, curled hair, lipstick. She is my role model. It is all in how you see yourself!
@@EweTube4 that’s so nice! And unfortunately I’ve had to wing my style as I was taken away from my mother at the age of 12. I’ll check out your shopping suggestions. And comfortable shoes are a must for me so I often wear the same brand of shoes that you do. Happy Shopping!
I really think we need to stop the narrative of ‘looking young’ equals good and ‘looking old’ equals bad. I’m 57 and I love being this age - I feel free-er and happier in my skin and I dress how the hell I want and don’t give a chuff what anyone else thinks. I don’t want to look ‘young’ I want to be me and I’m not trying to impress anyone but myself 😁
Agree with you. I even don't want to color my hair. For me, my white hair is a sign of wisdom. I am proud of it especially now that I am consistently exercising. I feel stronger than my age and I think that's more important.
RE: avoiding chunky shoes. So easy for a young person to say! I’m sorry to report that as you get older, even the “flats” you recommend are often uncomfortable because they offer zero support and insufficient cushioning. It’s not just a high heel that makes a shoe uncomfortable - structure matters, too! I’ll also add that it is hard to find a stylish, youthful shoe if your feet are wider than average.
Im in my 80s and still enjoy fashion.I have wide feet and high arches and can't wear flats.However , I really dislike the look of chunky shoes and never wear them.I use Clarks, Fit-Flop and other comfortable brands. For dressier occasions I like wedge heels.
There's a lot of info on barefoot minimalist shoes that may be surprising and helpful to some people. Any transition to that should be careful enough to prevent injury. I'm loving my barefoot minimalist shoe journey so far! I'm almost 40 and didn't wear heels in years except a kitten heel awhile at one point and already was often barefoot so the transition has been pretty easy for me. Anyas reviews is an excellent site on the topic..her faq section, etc.
I mean as a younger person, shoes like Birkenstocks, chunky sandals, and crocs are really in fashion now. Wearing ballet flats and flatter sandals is more of an older choice now (maybe not “old” but like 30s+) Ultimately I think wearing what you’re comfortable in will make you look youthful as you have the confidence and ability to move easier
Nothing makes a woman look as old as worry and self-dissatisfaction. In my opinion, the best accessory is a friendly (or at least, relaxed) smiling face. If my clothes are clean and comfortable, and pleasing to MY eye, I don't care if they make me look old, short, or fat to someone else (if someone else is that focused on my appearance, they need to get a hobby).
I agree and why should anyone listen to a women half our age like she gets it? Let’s look how she dresses in 30 years and my friends she is in the height of arrogance. Most women are not petite and that is fine. Women like this are not relevant. This woman needs to be realistic women can dress how they choose and the senior women I know do not wear tunic tops. Tunic tops are frumpy at any age no matter ones size.
I half-agree with you. I agree that you should want to look young. I'm 52 and shouldn't want to look like I'm 22. However, I don't want to look 52. I want to look ageless, a woman from anywhere in-between 35 and 95. My 84 year old mother doesn't want to dress matronly. She would take some of her advice. But my mother is tall and doesn't have curves. Tunics looks great on her. I'm short and curvy. If I wore the same shirt, I'd look older and dumpy.
I agree with Jane, I'm 51 and 5' and the last thing I want to do is wear something that ages me. Heaven knows I have no desire to dress like I'm in my 20's in some bodycon dress and stilettos (those days are long past) but I certainly don't want to dress like an old lady, either. Dressing in clothes that compliment our body types doesn't mean we're trying to be something we're not. I'll be honest, I've become kind of lazy and turned to less less complimentary styles during Covid because they're comfortable and they really do make me look dowdy. Been cleaning out my closet and that's why I'm here. Why are you here, Jill? No judgement, though, you do you and wear what makes you comfortable. We should all be true to ourselves.
Great advice, but I decided that I don't mind looking older. I feel wiser for choosing the most comfortable clothing and shoes that won't cause me foot problems later.
You are right. It troubles me that people worry about looking older. Getting older is a blessing. Whatever you feel comfortable wearing by all means wear it. Life is much too short to sweat the small stuff.
It doesn’t help these channels often show pretty young slim women so your going to look good no matter what try putting some woman on who much less than perfect body types and see what miracles you can do then I might take it more seriously!
I love your wit and humor, but I think I disagree with some of the points you make… for example I think chunky shoes and Birkenstocks look very chic and in right now, while those dainty flats and ballerina pumps look dated, they were very much the style of 2010… I think I can rock most of your “do nots” including no waist definition, all black, bold prints, and of course the midi length, while some of your suggestions look old on me and read matronly… just to show how individualized styling should be! There is no one secret solution for all of us since we are all so different ☺️
I don’t understand all of the negative comments. I’m 63 years young and found this very informative and helpful. I appreciate your hard work at putting this together, and I see so many women my age dressing “frumpy” - especially with wide Capri pants that end midway at the calf and Croc-like/Birkenstock shoes that are so unflattering.....Thank you for this ;-)
@@jessbarnes8521What job? Office? I never wore strappy sandals at work. Hospital? Nope. Definitely not. Warehouse? Your feet would never forgive you. Make it make sense.
Yeah but what if being youthful, modern, and trendy is what makes them happy and comfortable? This video is for the people who thrive being eye catching and in the spotlight.
Ok, right off the bat, I'm pissed off. We petite women are the most likely women to experience stretched out bellies from pregnancy; sometimes our muscles are permanently damaged. I'm 5'2" and my sons weighed 8 lbs 15 ounces and 9 pounds 14 ounces. My stomach muscles never fully recovered. Now at 67, with the loss of muscle tone post-menopause, it's very difficult to hide the mom pouch like I could when I was younger. Tunics are a godsend. Tuck them in? No! That defeats the entire purpose! Stop treating us like we're wearing tunics only because we're too stupid to know better.
How about a body shaper, that holds in tummy well. I agree though if very overweight can't tuck. These are only tips, I need to stay slim to tuck...and it's not easy.
@@christinevillanueva54 I'm not going to wear tight foundation garments every day. I was willing to suffer for beauty 30 years ago, but now what's the point? I'm not trying to be sexy (nobody's paying me $10 million for a movie role); the hair on top of my head suddenly fell out suddenly at 60 (rogaine helps since I'm no longer blatantly bald, but the days of a good hair day are long gone), and muscle tone and skin elasticity leave permanently without serious hormone replacement therapy. Trying to look sexy for a normal elderly woman takes on an "ew" factor. Don't tell me about your grandmother, because I understand that there are exceptions. Some women wear high heels and swish those hips until they die. I have no such illusions of great feminine charm, and I'm not desperate for male company (I have one, thanks). And as you age, you become much more sensitive to discomfort. I don't know why that is, but I've heard it many times from other women, too. Maybe it's all the aches and pains that come with age. It's much harder to tolerate pain from your clothes when you have the constant companion of joint pain. I also suspect that as tissues lose their youthful bounce, they also feel pressure more keenly. Another thing to think about: tight clothes lead to lots of health problems, which danger becomes more accute as your circulation diminishes. Several years ago, researchers were even saying that tight bra bands may be partially responsible for breast cancer, due to the circulation thing. At the very least, wearing foundation garments that inhibit circulation when your circulation is already struggling doesn't seem very smart. ("Oh, yeah, bring on those blood clots, baby!")
@@edennis8578 to each their own, just because we're past our beauty doesn't mean some of us don't care. I do everything I did when younger, dance, wear fabulous heels, travel (more now), meet friends, etc. And look really good because I care. You do you I'll do me.
The critiques you give and the suggestions you have make good sense for women that have somehow managed to get older and somehow retain a thinner shape. But a lot of these things don't work for women who have gone through menopause and now don't recognize their bodies and therefore are trying to hide the new belly that they have inherited or the extra pounds that have landed so generously on the hips and thighs. These things we are now trying to gracefully cover up and it's a tricky thing, especially in the SUMMER. uggh!
Tunic tops….yuck! For heavens sake, just wear a dress. Even over jeans. Capri pants…why, just why?! I have a pair of custom orthotic 2 buckle Birkenstocks in black and I think they are ugly but where I live, they are very popular so I don’t feel so bad wearing them occasionally. I call them my hobbit shoes. It is just as easy to wear a light weight white sneaker with my slip on orthotics.
I’m thin and old (63) I love tunics. I think they are cute. Nothing is going to make me look younger because I’m an older woman. When I was young, I saw what I thought was a very young woman , from the back. But then she turned around. She was old and I thought yikes.
I'm 54 and I practically live in A-line maxi dresses and loose fitting tiered ankle-length dresses in all colours and prints. I pair these with simple ballets, flat strappy sandals or elevated slip-on sneakers or platform heels, depending on my mood and the occasion. I never define my waist except when I occasionally put on wide legged jeans or trousers. I team these with tops tailored to just about hit my waistline as I do not like the "trend" of half tucks, front tucks, etc. or I wear a blouson with an elasticised waistline. Did someone mention that statement jewellery makes you look dated? My arms are always loaded with bracelets and bangles and my rings are big enough to hurt someone's jaw should the need ever arise😁. My earrings and necklaces are kept simple unless the outfit calls for it. I must mention though that I do have 5 piercings on each ear and except for the principal hole in my lobes, the other four holes permanently sport a tiny diamond stud each. I've dressed more or less this way from my mid twenties ever since I became a mother. Earlier I used to wear flowing skirts too but now I find a one piece dress more convenient. I'm 5'2" btw and I feel that a one piece flowy maxi dress, without defining the waist, makes one look taller. People don't need to know where my bum starts and ends 😂. I dress for my comfort basically but the plus is that I'm often mistaken for being much younger and also taller than I actually am. I detest blazers and I have never liked them on a woman, tall or short. Maybe it's because of my 10 years in boarding school wearing it as uniform 😉. For work I prefer a long coat /shrug from chiffon to cotton to wool, depending on the season. We older ladies need to be confident and comfortable in our skins and dress for ourselves. Don't let the world dictate how you should look and feel about your body. Just be yourselves and be happy 😁. Every year added to our lives is a blessing. Let's all embrace it with love, laughter and gratitude. Bless you all ❤️.
An hilda zochhuanthanhi (for 7 months) Bravo ! Exaxtly. You can please some people and displease some, some of the time, bzt just be yourself! And u said it all. Some women must first look at thenselves b4 critisising !
hahahhahahaha. Your Anita character was hilarious! I know these videos are more fashion education, but if you could create a group of specific characters that you reuse for comedic purposes, you can have a comedy gold mine here. Edit: and sometimes you have crossovers! Some of these reoccurring characters would interact with each other.
I need to ‘vent’ here. You see… I’m 76, petite ( been getting shorter over the years😢) thus am now just under 5 feet. Many have complimented me of my looks , simple but nice clothes, etc & I look many years younger than my age. Recently, a friend who is also slim & tad shorter than me commented that my dresses/ skirts are too short. They are usually knee- length or about 2 inches below my knees🤔 She wears hers about 4 inches below her knees & she feels that she looks great 🙃 I won’t change my wardrobe just because of her comment.
Ugh…big boobs, no waist, a fupa that bulges, psoriasis on my arms and legs, and anything flat on my feet other than ASICS or Crocs makes my ankles swell.🤦🏻♀️ It’s looking like 50 is my time to just wear a neck to toe sack and call it a day. All of these tips would still make me look older, just for a different reason…not because it’s bad advice…because my body is on the struggle bus.😭
Glad I reached the age where I can throw some of those "looking youthful" ideas away... Go ahead and embrace your age! It is alright to realize that nothing is going to change the facts of aging! You can still be youthful by your personality!
Where I live , everyone wears Birkenstock’s. Especially the young people, so wearing Birkenstock’s is very youthful. Also, many of the reasons people wear what they do is to ‘hide’ a big stomach and sorry, but your examples are not at all flattering if a woman really has a belly. You don’t have any extra weight anywhere on your body so I don’t think you really can understand. Coverage and comfort is more important than looking young and ‘sexy’. If a woman has a true belly all the winching in to ‘create’ a waist actually doesn’t work. It’s great in theory not reality for most.
I'm a 4'11" 54 yr old and I'll stick to my punk/alternative/boho/rock style and my brightly coloured hair. This includes tunic length tops and floor length maxi dresses as well as lots of black! Never been told I look old or frumpy so I guess I'm doing something right lol
Honestly, to me the clothes you advise don't make you look younger at all. They just look like someone who prefers fitted clothes. The first examples were perfectly lovely, and in some cases--like the bold prints instead of the pale one--less like someone trying to look younger. What makes people look younger is clear, dewy skin, few wrinkles, vibrant energy, and enthusiastically wearing the clothes they enjoy. But that's just me, though.
I don't think it's an "old" look to try to conceal certain body parts. We all have our reasons. Capris are universally unflattering at all ages. Yet some still wear them because it's comfortable and likable.
I thought I was the only one who hated capris! At least I've never come across some who mentioned it. And can we take a moment to commiserate about "manpris?" I mean, each to their own, but the fuller styles of long shorts (which I call manpris) might as well be skirts at some point. Which I can get behind. Why shouldn't dudes have the freedom and comfort a skirt/dress provides?
@@plasmocat1863 love this!! Your comment is inspiring me to make a video on this. I'm definitely feeling the aging process and I'm humbled by the challenges women face. While you are young and everything looks great you look at "old" and label it away. But it's a reality we all have to face sooner or later. Let's come up with more flattering solutions not run away from it in displease.
@@Chicquette I agree! But clothing choices for rounder women are a lot better these days than they used to be. When Torrid opened, I knew we were going in the right direction. I'd love to see some of the more non-mainstream fashions become more available. I'd love a Victorian great coat, for example. Yeah, I'd wear it to work, and I'd feel great doing it!
Sorry I'd take the birkenstocks ...they are timeless. Chunky shoes are in and can look young and stylish if styled correctly. Tunics can also look great and they help hid a tummy...not everyone is slim enough to tuck their shirt in the front. CONFIDENCE IS EVERYTHING WHEN IT COMES TO FASHION!
You can tuck your big blouse in if your waist is still in its best shape as when you're in your younger days...of course, if that's not the case, you won't let your bulges shown...I think, you should also consider those things when giving fashion advices...not all women are comfortable wearing dresses or any clothings especially if they're chubby or not sexy anymore, just sayin'
I love tunics and swingy dresses, too! I find I like short & sassy *when* paired with leggings. Also, I can avoid the 'sack' look with a belt low on the hips (blousy fabric still floats over belly) or a ribbon tie under the bust, to create a waist that's flattering. 😉
I always wear tunics and capris since I was 11 years old. They're what looks best on me, and always received compliments from friends. I used to be the popular girl at school even. I'm 28 now and everytime I try to use high wasted pants + tucked shirt I look like I was flattened from the head and stretched on the sides. Also, I don't care about looking short. For those who are reading this comment, please consider your body and your gut first, and test things out.
That look can be great if you wear a pair of stappy sandals to balance the tunic. You have to know how to wear a tunic since they are a large unstructured piece of cloth.
That’s great but that’s not the case for me, capris and a tunic will definitely make me look older. I guess they fit your body type, for me capris make look wider.
Really true. I am petite but short waisted. Tunics always look great on me as it elongates my waist. Always tend to gain weight around my waist. Ladies, look at your own bodies! Use common sense! Sure everyone wants to look nice but everyone is different so use discretion.
I can't agree with this. Not everyone can define the weist (especially when you just don't have one) :) In some cases it's better to hide the waist but open legs, or arms, or shoulders. And the birkenstocks, maybe it's culture difference. But in Eastern Europe I see that young women prefer wear birkenstocks, sneakers, flat sandals with dresses or skirts, while they moms fear that a lot and try to wear pumps or ballets. I can't say ballets are good for everyone. Sometimes taking it easy is what makes you younger.
I can't wear heels. I broke one ankle and sprained the other. I also disagree with the wearing black portion. The one that she said is "correct" has the lower abdomen sticking out. I like looking older because it is a gift that is awarded to too few. Leave people to what they like provided it's not hurting anyone.
@@c.b.barlow Like the saying goes, grey hair is a sign of wisdom. I remember when I was in my early 20's I was working on something with a friend. At one point she focuses intently on my forehead, says "hold still." I freeze bc I think she's seen a bug. She reaches over and plucks a hair out with a sharp pull. She holds it up and says gravely, "It's a grey hair." I laughed and said, "Great. Grey hair is a sign of wisdom and you took the little bit I had." I have never needed to look older. My love for dad jokes usually speaks for me, lol.
Great tips as usual, but the highest credit goes to the different characters introduced, so funny and creative. You are a perfect mix between personal stylist and stand-up comedian. Keep it up both ways! 🫶
I’m a huge fan of the midi length for dresses and skirts. In fact, I adore the look with the animal print skirt and white flats. It’s a classic look that I’m not willing to let go of-not now, in my mid 30’s, not ever 💕
It is very hard to find WP (women’s petites)! Older people who are disabled often become a bit larger after a certain age. We do NOT, however, get taller! Same with W width shoes. I simply will not buy too tight shoes!
When you get older your shape changes and you may have a few aches and pains .. you want to look good but comfortable … you find what makes you feel good .. as you age you feel more confident to embrace your own choice and not feel having to follow fashion trends is important. If you are happy with how you look and feel then that is all that matters. Go for it!
Yeah when you reach around 40 your body feels differently from a younger person. And maybe around 50 your body becomes more achy and sensitive. If you are that age I don’t see the point at all of dressing younger. If I become a granny its going to be tunics all the way! Who even cares how young you look at that age. My feet are killing me! I’d rather look like a comfortable bag than a hot aching mess.
They probably look adorable on you. I love them on others. My friends wear them too. I like the ones that are right below the Alf as I always have bruises on my legs.
I think it's important to dress for your body type and wear the right size . Too many wear skin tight tops and pants thinking you look thinner ( which is great for perfect bodies) but most only accentuate the bumps and rolls . I'm older ( in my 60's) and love to look fashionable in both my clothing and hair . Life's too short to be dowdy 🙂
I agree with you ☺️ It's really important to find a clothes that will fit your body and suits you! But it's still depends on a person, these video can only be applied to the person that needs help! ❤️
I started to watch this video and then decided to read all the comments before I resumed. The bottom line (pardon my pun) is that this lady is addressing mainly petite women and this was clear to me from the start. I’m 70 and tall, 5 ft 8 inches/ 173cms. I once lived in Thailand and had to have my clothes made for me because it was so hard to find anything readymade in boutiques or department stores. Conversely, I know that it can be hard for petite ladies to find what they need. Their smaller proportions require different choices. This video is mainly an education for them. However I absolutely agree with the advice to avoid capri pants for exactly the same reasons that were given here. The one point that I agree with the readers is comfy footwear. Podiatrists tell us that from around 45 we start to lose the fat pads on the soles of our feet. We’re also more prone to osteoarthritis. I have it in every joint as well as disseminated idiopathic skeletal hyperostosis (DISH Syndrome - not apparent on x-rays until you’re around 60). Sometimes custom-made orthotics will work but I need more ankle support as I have the connective tissue/collagen disorder hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. It’s not as rare as most doctors are taught at medical school. None of us should consider choosing fashion over pain and discomfort. This is where I agree with those who made similar comments. Each new decade reveals some new inconvenience we never thought about before it starts happening to us. It’s not pessimistIc to say this, just an inconvenient reality.
My grandma wears those a lot. It reminds me of her. I doesn’t make me think people are grandmas when they wear it. We aren’t blind. You still probably look like in your late twenties or mid thirties. Also why not a maxi dress or loose bottoms to hide the loose pregnancy skin if you are looking to have a youthful look?
😉Try not to be too discouraged. We all have body & self-esteem issues that we struggle. The trick is to understand 'em, & learn to work with 'em. 😃Yes, the rules apply to everyone〰️no matter your weight or height. If you follow her recommendations, you'll see improvement👍. Being petite & heavier, means you need give yourself every possible advantage. Although take it at your own pace, don't feel pressed to do it all at once. Change can be challenging, so give yourself some grace. It will help you further, if you know the following factors... #️⃣1️⃣ Your body shape: apple, pear, rectangle, inverted triangle, or hourglass. #️⃣2️⃣ Whether or not, you have: (1) high waist/long legs, or (2) low waist/long torso. All these things can impact the rules you must follow, & the ones you can ignore. 👑Chi is QUEEN of understanding visual body proportion. She truly knows how to balance everything in the most flattering ways. It all depends on how committed you are to presenting your highest & best impression. If that's your goal, you're in good hands. She won't lead you astray. 💚Bridget from Cali ☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
@@teresacarle294 Thanks, Bridget! Your message helped a lot. I do have self-esteem issues from being cruelly rejected due to my weight. Because of my size, I'm 'Obese II' on the BMI scale. I let myself go when I was depressed. I even spent 4 months in the psych ward. My depression lasted for 4 years. I'm still not a 100% good, but I'm really trying to get better. I'm exercising every day. But it's kinda frustrating to lose just 1kg (2lbs) in 3 months. I tend to use tunics like she says and honestly, it feels more comfortable. But I know I'm not doing myself any favors my using them. And I shouldn't feel bad because a large tunic or a tight blouse, both let my big "pregnant" belly shows. So why can't I use what makes me look best, right? I find it hard to find clothes that flatters me on my size. At least in my part of the world. Thank you very much for the thoughtful advice.I appreciate it. ❤️🤗
@Telinha I have the same problem and it’s very difficult to dress around “the baby” as I call it! There’s no way I’m wearing anything fitted or even tucking in the shirt. Forget using a belt to define the waist. That’s the last thing that’s needed. So I’m with you, I don’t see any alternative to the loose tunic top.
Absolute rubbish! Not everyone looks good with tucked in tops and the half tuck just looks scruffy. Why do all the “slim” people on RUclips think they know everything about clothing? They don’t. People should dress for their body shape, not what “slim, young” people tell older ladies to wear. Mostly they are just out to show off their own figures.
I love to listen to you and your ideas. However, I know my body and it's problems and I am not worried about my age. Love tunics with v-neck and 3/ 4 sleeves. Thank you.
How boring are these where someone dictates what to wear! Dressing for your own particular bodytype and lifestyle matters! For instance, there is a big difference between Florida style matronly prints and rocker prints (snake, zebra, etc.) and the size should reflect body type! I wore capris in my 20s and on my body type they looked bad, but a tall 50 year old might look great in them. These are generalizations and stereotypes..what makes one attractive varies from person to person. The person making this video is humorous, but one of the advantages of being an adult is that you realize everyone (and there body) is different! Big duh!
C'mon as a lecturer in an institution, i have to be modest in my clothes. Whatever you just say doesn't make sense in my work culture. Im going to disagree wholly and you'll get a dislike for this . Sorry
Well I like the long blouses helps hid my stomach some of us are not thin and need frumpy blouses . Yes I’m 55 and need comfort also especially in this hot 🥵 heat !!
I don't understand why there is an obsession with how old we look. I have never cared how old I look - at any stage of my life. I have never cared whether I look attractive or not. I wear what I like and what is comfortable. Why should I care what anyone else thinks of how I look? Why is age such a taboo? It's better than the alternative. I just want to be myself and that's how I dress. (And I don't own ANY dresses or skirts. Ugh!)
It's not so much that this video is concerned with looking older, but rather that as we age we tend to sacrifice style for comfort. So as a result there is an immediate association of dowdy-looking as "old-looking". If you don't like this association, then replace the word "old/older" in this video with "dowdy/frumpy" and I'm sure you'll agree that dowdiness does not look appealing no matter what age a person is. A bad assumption is that you can't look BOTH comfy and put-together. Notice how in the video, she points out the way in which a shirt, skirt, or shoe can make us look more disheveled, tired, or dated. Looking your best doesn't have to be about caring about what others think, but it absolutely should reflect the way you feel and putting your best foot forward. While I do dress for my job and social life, most importantly I dress for myself and use clothing as a form of self-expression. My clothes reflect an attitude of power and importance. And on days we feel our lowest, certain clothing fabrics and color palettes improve our mood, so why wouldn't you take advantage of that?
Clothes also improve the way people treat you. Bc I'm shorter and fatter, I don't get the same "pretty privilege" that I used to when I was younger and thinner. Taller and more attractive people ABSOLUTELY get perks for how they look, that's just the real world we live in. This psychological phenomenon is called "The Halo Effect". By giving off the impression of "I don't care", people will reflect that back to you. And as a minority who is already disenfranchised and disadvantaged, I need all the help I can get to ensure my clients find me approachable, my boss respects me professionally, and that servers/salespersons/concierge, etc. are willing to help me find discounts/solutions if I ask for them. More people hold the door for me and say "please/thank you" when I dress well than when I'm slumming in sweats, so yeah there's absolutely a difference in how clothes can improve our station in life. Some have privilege and can afford to not care, but I can't. Although I'm puzzled why you're watching this in the 1st place, if you claim never to have cared 🤷♀️
Thanks for your great humor and advice. Im hijabi and wear tunic most of the time. I add a slim belt and kinda tuck it under a little to make it looks like a "peplum" top for more definition. If you are okay with big wide korset look belt, then it will be beautiful. Tunics are forgivable if they have minimal pattern, belt, and bold shoulder area design (puffed, balloon, sailor, etc). Shortly, don't buy tunic 😅
I'm 26 and I wear chunky shoes/sandals with straps. For everyday use they're the best! I don't have to worry about them getting off my feet while I'm running to catch a bus/train/metro. I don't have to worry about someone else stepping on my shoes mid step while I'm walking in crowded areas. 😅 Of course, we can dress up for special occasion. But everyday comfort >> fashion, for me atleast.
Usually older women like me are not so happy about their post menopausal body shape, especially belly, chest area. It does not matter how much effort we put into diets and sports, we are old we are out of the rat race. Therefore we play hide. Another reason, tunics are airy. Get your first hot flushes and you will learn to love airy clothes not clingy to your body. This was the reason I started wearing tunics. Depending on the occasion I am wearing better fitted garments too and I love the French tuck.
When I started dressing modestly I stopped dressing trendy. I assure you, you can still cover your bum and look amazingly classy and beautiful. I am in my 30’s and I find that when I dress in a way that honors my body, my values and the plan God has for me, I stopped caring how others appreciated my butt and legs in the best way ever. Disclaimer, they still look great, but it’s not my measuring stick anymore!
The one about loud prints is so true! Every time I see Lily Pulitzer clothing, it makes the model look so old. One more item I'd like to add to this list is STATEMENT JEWELRY!!! That's going to age you!
I think it depends on what the print is and the cut of the dress as well as what season it is. I love solids but in summer all solids is and always will be boring!
@@EVL-xj5vc I think she means the stuff that looks like you bought it at a chain store. I agree. I am fortunate to have a husband who has provided really classic jewelry to me. I wear my pearls in the daytime and diamonds at night. But events don't always call for that. I also have some great tortoise shell pieces and some great large turquoise and topaz sets to wear for the summer. I know not everyone has this, but many of my great statement pieces beyond the classics I have owned and continue to wear for over 20 years and get compliments. A great place to buy these original pieces is at art fairs. I have some that are stupendous pieces that are Native American beadwork purchased at art fairs. These women are outstanding artists. It is real wearable artwork and a great investment. I wear mostly linen in the summer as I am allergic to polyester. I always had to wear a cotton slip under my school uniform growing up. These pieces look great with linen and cashmere, another medium I can tolerate.
Brittney, I'm 79. I look like an inverted muffin with long legs. I wear bright or loud prints with mid calf length. Soft flowing fabrics and waist defining dresses. Pumps with 2 inch heels and sandals with medium straps. No pants, ever. Wigs and bifocals. Fortunately, my muffin is small. I look good in soft clothing.
Anything that clinks or rattles, or looks cheap or homemade is going to age you. An interesting geometric, an exotic something from your travels, a vintage piece on a chain--always intriguing. And a loud print is fine--as a scarf or playful bag, to accent to a monochrome outfit ;-) I'm just sharing my personal preferences here, btw. I see women who are joyful in tropical print muumus and I say, "Rock it, girl!" 😉
Fact. We all get old....nothing wrong with that, nothing you can do about it. But, nothing worse than an older person trying to look young ! Best thing is to always wear a smile !
I am in my 40s, what I have learned is that the simplest way to dress with times is to shop from youth section but bigger size since most of us put on weight as we grow older. Also, I think most of these suggestions are good if you were living in year 2004.
Knee or just below knee length. I wear my knee length 'shorts' and dress them up with heels or dress flats, or dressed down with white sneakers and no show footies.
I’m in my eighties and still can find clothes that comfortable and stylish, comfort doesn’t translate to dowdy. Seems to me some use their age as an excuse to let themselves go. I’m going to put a little shape around the waist area thanks for the tip
I don't like tucked in shirts, they look sloppy. However, I do like tunics w/ A lace hem or all lace. I'm 68 5'4" slim. I wear pumps . I don't wear jeans cause they too look sloppy, but they are good for gardening. I like crop tops that reach the belly button. No tight clothes. No skirts in midi length very much, cause they too can look sloppy. Body on dresses are slimming, large flowing clothes carry too much fabric. Shoes are flats, pumps or gladiators w/ heels.Boots flat or w/ heels, not chunky heels, cause they are unflattering and quite ugly.
I just started watching -- I know many older women (my age) who have no waist. In fact they have expanded waists even though they are not obese. They thank heaven for tunic tops! -- can't you show an example of women who have NO waist instead of these beautiful shapely young models (you).
OK, that was hysterical. "Anita Anitawa" LOL. I agree with everything you said. You might want to expand on the shoe thing. I see so many women with horrid shoes. It might be nice to have alternative shoes that are both fashionable and comfortable, besides flats. Flats aren't always the most comfortable for some people. Thank you.
@@anitaclemens2609 If I remember correctly, my doctor said that flats should not be worn for people who have flat feet. She advised that if I'm going to wear any foot wear at least it should have 1 inch heel. Or if I have any flat shoes which has no arch support for flat feet ( eg. Sneakers) I should use an insoles support for flat feet and it helped! I hope this comment helps 🙂
@@ruthmontes6076 Thank you, that is good advice. I do try to wear my orthodontics when I can. I have a smaller light weight version custom made for me, so I can wear them with fashion shoes. But with summer coming, I will be wearing a lot of footwear without either of them. :-( I do feel better with at least a one inch heel.
I have always had flat feet and can’t wear any shoes without arch support. Birkenstock’s will always be my favorite, exactly-made-for-my-foot, shoes, but if you look, there are companies making cute but still supportive shoes. Vionic’s especially, makes really cute strappy sandals.
You would be much more credible if you showed "older real life women". Your choices look good on you hut when you get older your body changes and you may develop foot issues. Older dont wear the clothes they do because they are stupid or dont know any better. Some times its because they dont have other options.
The characters you play are THE BEST!!! Tunics are so aging!! We don't want to dress for the age we will be in a decade or more!!! Booooo!!!!! Since I found the French tuck, I feel so much more stylish and confident!!!
Long tunics are great for women like me with a long torso. Regular shirts are sometimes too short. I wear what I want and what is proportional on me. I don't wear flats with little or no shock absorbtion or arch support walking in NYC streets. Yikes!
Once you get older you'll understand the choices "women of a certain age" make. We don't care about defining our waist. We definitely don't want to wear shoes without an arch support. And we can really rock a tunic! You'll find (eventually) that as women age we dress for ourselves... not for current fashion trends, other people, to look thin or tall or proportionate or youthful. We care about comfort and our own sense of style.
Awww, I am almost 70 and I love dressing to look young but you know, I am not talking about Daisy Dukes. I like my hour glass figure, I love strappy sandals (not platforms, but sexy toe loops with pretty pedicure). I dress for comfort and style. I love being told I look "great" or even "hot". Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks.
@@EweTube4 you are both correct. I go back and forth between the two depending on what mood I’m in.
@@dnk4559 sure. For me, the trick is knowing where I like to shop. I wear Sofft shoes, some Borns, some Clarks. Depends on how cute and comfy they are. I always put a lot of money into my shoes. My feet are narrow with high arch. If your feet hurt, you will be unhappy. I shop all over but INC and DKNY from Macy's is my preference. Occasionally I buy store lines. I love WHBM but mostly shop sale items there. Having worked from home 5 years now, I wear nice tops and cute earrings, and jeans on the part under my desk. I adore fashion and I sew at times. Project Runway inspires me. Mom died last year and she always looked stunning. Vibrant, coordinated, put together, curled hair, lipstick. She is my role model. It is all in how you see yourself!
@@EweTube4 that’s so nice! And unfortunately I’ve had to wing my style as I was taken away from my mother at the age of 12. I’ll check out your shopping suggestions. And comfortable shoes are a must for me so I often wear the same brand of shoes that you do. Happy Shopping!
belt that tunic so you you like you have a waist. otherwise you look like a sack of potatoes.
I really think we need to stop the narrative of ‘looking young’ equals good and ‘looking old’ equals bad. I’m 57 and I love being this age - I feel free-er and happier in my skin and I dress how the hell I want and don’t give a chuff what anyone else thinks. I don’t want to look ‘young’ I want to be me and I’m not trying to impress anyone but myself 😁
I agree with you.
Agree with you. I even don't want to color my hair. For me, my white hair is a sign of wisdom. I am proud of it especially now that I am consistently exercising. I feel stronger than my age and I think that's more important.
Me too❤
True. I'm 55. However,,,, if your told u look older than what u are,,, honestly,,, how u going to feel ,,, versus,,, if you look younger ???
Me and you both! I want to be me!
It gets harder to define the waist, when you no longer have one
Sharon, you are so right ! My waist is gone, and breasts hit the floor. Lol Only a mommy makeup with help.
Those shoes would not work with the foot problems many women develop as they get older. Big fail.
RE: avoiding chunky shoes. So easy for a young person to say! I’m sorry to report that as you get older, even the “flats” you recommend are often uncomfortable because they offer zero support and insufficient cushioning. It’s not just a high heel that makes a shoe uncomfortable - structure matters, too! I’ll also add that it is hard to find a stylish, youthful shoe if your feet are wider than average.
So true, I have to wear orthotics, even in my sandals, otherwise I am in soo much pain. Cannot even think of wearing heels higher than 1inch.
Im in my 80s and still enjoy fashion.I have wide feet and high arches and can't wear flats.However , I really dislike the look of chunky shoes and never wear them.I use Clarks, Fit-Flop and other comfortable brands. For dressier occasions I like wedge heels.
Flats are terrible for your feet and I refuse to wear them!
There's a lot of info on barefoot minimalist shoes that may be surprising and helpful to some people. Any transition to that should be careful enough to prevent injury. I'm loving my barefoot minimalist shoe journey so far! I'm almost 40 and didn't wear heels in years except a kitten heel awhile at one point and already was often barefoot so the transition has been pretty easy for me. Anyas reviews is an excellent site on the topic..her faq section, etc.
I mean as a younger person, shoes like Birkenstocks, chunky sandals, and crocs are really in fashion now. Wearing ballet flats and flatter sandals is more of an older choice now (maybe not “old” but like 30s+)
Ultimately I think wearing what you’re comfortable in will make you look youthful as you have the confidence and ability to move easier
Nothing makes a woman look as old as worry and self-dissatisfaction. In my opinion, the best accessory is a friendly (or at least, relaxed) smiling face. If my clothes are clean and comfortable, and pleasing to MY eye, I don't care if they make me look old, short, or fat to someone else (if someone else is that focused on my appearance, they need to get a hobby).
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No truer words have been spoken!
I Agree 💯
I agree and why should anyone listen to a women half our age like she gets it? Let’s look how she dresses in 30 years and my friends she is in the height of arrogance. Most women are not petite and that is fine. Women like this are not relevant. This woman needs to be realistic women can dress how they choose and the senior women I know do not wear tunic tops. Tunic tops are frumpy at any age no matter ones size.
Completely right, she is trying to make money and needs to dress herself and her age group or shut up.
There is nothing wrong with being older. We don't have to continually strive to look younger.
I half-agree with you. I agree that you should want to look young. I'm 52 and shouldn't want to look like I'm 22. However, I don't want to look 52. I want to look ageless, a woman from anywhere in-between 35 and 95. My 84 year old mother doesn't want to dress matronly. She would take some of her advice. But my mother is tall and doesn't have curves. Tunics looks great on her. I'm short and curvy. If I wore the same shirt, I'd look older and dumpy.
I agree with Jane, I'm 51 and 5' and the last thing I want to do is wear something that ages me. Heaven knows I have no desire to dress like I'm in my 20's in some bodycon dress and stilettos (those days are long past) but I certainly don't want to dress like an old lady, either. Dressing in clothes that compliment our body types doesn't mean we're trying to be something we're not. I'll be honest, I've become kind of lazy and turned to less less complimentary styles during Covid because they're comfortable and they really do make me look dowdy. Been cleaning out my closet and that's why I'm here. Why are you here, Jill? No judgement, though, you do you and wear what makes you comfortable. We should all be true to ourselves.
@@Geekette70 agree
Uh, no. That’s why I am watching this video and subscribing.
This video is for those who do want to look younger though?
Great advice, but I decided that I don't mind looking older. I feel wiser for choosing the most comfortable clothing and shoes that won't cause me foot problems later.
Then why did you watch the video....?
@@brittanyg6796 for any good tips?
Why she wouldnt watch the video &-give her opinion??? Her advice is good as well 🙌
You are right. It troubles me that people worry about looking older. Getting older is a blessing. Whatever you feel comfortable wearing by all means wear it. Life is much too short to sweat the small stuff.
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I love the sense of humor and play you inject into your videos. Always right on target with great information but still lots of fun. Thank you.
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It doesn’t help these channels often show pretty young slim women so your going to look good no matter what try putting some woman on who much less than perfect body types and see what miracles you can do then I might take it more seriously!
I would rather look older and be comfortable.
Why do people wear tunic tops? In my case it is to cover a lower belly pouch. So tucking a top in just reveals the lumps!
Amen! Especially after menopause, with the loss of muscle tone, my mom pouch really shows. Tunics are my lifesaver.
Maybe a body shaper? I wear one all the time now, makes my clothes look good. But I do have to maintain weight....ugh...all my weight in middle.
And I think they are flattering for us. Indeed.
Try wearing a body shaper when its 95 degress and youre already a sweaty mess
@@kate7621 I do I don't care how hot it is.
I don't dress to look younger, I dress to look good. Many of these tips are important to looking my best. Xoxo 😘
Absolutely!!
agree
I love your wit and humor, but I think I disagree with some of the points you make… for example I think chunky shoes and Birkenstocks look very chic and in right now, while those dainty flats and ballerina pumps look dated, they were very much the style of 2010…
I think I can rock most of your “do nots” including no waist definition, all black, bold prints, and of course the midi length, while some of your suggestions look old on me and read matronly… just to show how individualized styling should be! There is no one secret solution for all of us since we are all so different ☺️
I think you forget that a lot of older women have a tummy. Tucking your top into your jeans emphasizes exactly that which we need to hide.
Exactly.
I don’t understand all of the negative comments. I’m 63 years young and found this very informative and helpful. I appreciate your hard work at putting this together, and I see so many women my age dressing “frumpy” - especially with wide Capri pants that end midway at the calf and Croc-like/Birkenstock shoes that are so unflattering.....Thank you for this ;-)
You're very very welcome! ❤️
The strappy sandals look like workwear.
@@jessbarnes8521What job? Office? I never wore strappy sandals at work. Hospital? Nope. Definitely not. Warehouse? Your feet would never forgive you. Make it make sense.
I think people should just wear what they feel most comfortable in, Not everywhere and every day has to be a fashion show.
Yeah but what if being youthful, modern, and trendy is what makes them happy and comfortable? This video is for the people who thrive being eye catching and in the spotlight.
Ok, right off the bat, I'm pissed off. We petite women are the most likely women to experience stretched out bellies from pregnancy; sometimes our muscles are permanently damaged. I'm 5'2" and my sons weighed 8 lbs 15 ounces and 9 pounds 14 ounces. My stomach muscles never fully recovered. Now at 67, with the loss of muscle tone post-menopause, it's very difficult to hide the mom pouch like I could when I was younger. Tunics are a godsend. Tuck them in? No! That defeats the entire purpose! Stop treating us like we're wearing tunics only because we're too stupid to know better.
How about a body shaper, that holds in tummy well. I agree though if very overweight can't tuck. These are only tips, I need to stay slim to tuck...and it's not easy.
@@christinevillanueva54 I'm not going to wear tight foundation garments every day. I was willing to suffer for beauty 30 years ago, but now what's the point? I'm not trying to be sexy (nobody's paying me $10 million for a movie role); the hair on top of my head suddenly fell out suddenly at 60 (rogaine helps since I'm no longer blatantly bald, but the days of a good hair day are long gone), and muscle tone and skin elasticity leave permanently without serious hormone replacement therapy. Trying to look sexy for a normal elderly woman takes on an "ew" factor. Don't tell me about your grandmother, because I understand that there are exceptions. Some women wear high heels and swish those hips until they die. I have no such illusions of great feminine charm, and I'm not desperate for male company (I have one, thanks). And as you age, you become much more sensitive to discomfort. I don't know why that is, but I've heard it many times from other women, too. Maybe it's all the aches and pains that come with age. It's much harder to tolerate pain from your clothes when you have the constant companion of joint pain. I also suspect that as tissues lose their youthful bounce, they also feel pressure more keenly. Another thing to think about: tight clothes lead to lots of health problems, which danger becomes more accute as your circulation diminishes. Several years ago, researchers were even saying that tight bra bands may be partially responsible for breast cancer, due to the circulation thing. At the very least, wearing foundation garments that inhibit circulation when your circulation is already struggling doesn't seem very smart. ("Oh, yeah, bring on those blood clots, baby!")
@@edennis8578 to each their own, just because we're past our beauty doesn't mean some of us don't care. I do everything I did when younger, dance, wear fabulous heels, travel (more now), meet friends, etc. And look really good because I care. You do you I'll do me.
The critiques you give and the suggestions you have make good sense for women that have somehow managed to get older and somehow retain a thinner shape. But a lot of these things don't work for women who have gone through menopause and now don't recognize their bodies and therefore are trying to hide the new belly that they have inherited or the extra pounds that have landed so generously on the hips and thighs. These things we are now trying to gracefully cover up and it's a tricky thing, especially in the SUMMER. uggh!
... and varicose veins
And Bingo wings.
All my thighs and hips have migrated to my upper body and stomach...these tips definitely don't work for my body...plus varicose veins..😒
Absolutely! My feet are now retaining fluid and would look hideous in a lovely slim sandal…need something a bit chunkier to balance them out lol
@@PatsyStone73 🤣. At least we can laugh at ourselves.
Tunic tops….yuck! For heavens sake, just wear a dress. Even over jeans. Capri pants…why, just why?!
I have a pair of custom orthotic 2 buckle Birkenstocks in black and I think they are ugly but where I live, they are very popular so I don’t feel so bad wearing them occasionally. I call them my hobbit shoes. It is just as easy to wear a light weight white sneaker with my slip on orthotics.
I disagree with you!
I’m thin and old (63) I love tunics. I think they are cute. Nothing is going to make me look younger because I’m an older woman. When I was young, I saw what I thought was a very young woman , from the back. But then she turned around. She was old and I thought yikes.
I'm old too. 67, and very short but dont want to look frumpy, but I have to stay slim or else tunics here I come.
Hahaaaa !
Your rules only apply to very small and petite ladies. Also a half talk is a very sloppy look
I'm 54 and I practically live in A-line maxi dresses and loose fitting tiered ankle-length dresses in all colours and prints. I pair these with simple ballets, flat strappy sandals or elevated slip-on sneakers or platform heels, depending on my mood and the occasion. I never define my waist except when I occasionally put on wide legged jeans or trousers. I team these with tops tailored to just about hit my waistline as I do not like the "trend" of half tucks, front tucks, etc. or I wear a blouson with an elasticised waistline. Did someone mention that statement jewellery makes you look dated? My arms are always loaded with bracelets and bangles and my rings are big enough to hurt someone's jaw should the need ever arise😁. My earrings and necklaces are kept simple unless the outfit calls for it. I must mention though that I do have 5 piercings on each ear and except for the principal hole in my lobes, the other four holes permanently sport a tiny diamond stud each. I've dressed more or less this way from my mid twenties ever since I became a mother. Earlier I used to wear flowing skirts too but now I find a one piece dress more convenient. I'm 5'2" btw and I feel that a one piece flowy maxi dress, without defining the waist, makes one look taller. People don't need to know where my bum starts and ends 😂. I dress for my comfort basically but the plus is that I'm often mistaken for being much younger and also taller than I actually am.
I detest blazers and I have never liked them on a woman, tall or short. Maybe it's because of my 10 years in boarding school wearing it as uniform 😉. For work I prefer a long coat /shrug from chiffon to cotton to wool, depending on the season. We older ladies need to be confident and comfortable in our skins and dress for ourselves. Don't let the world dictate how you should look and feel about your body. Just be yourselves and be happy 😁. Every year added to our lives is a blessing. Let's all embrace it with love, laughter and gratitude. Bless you all ❤️.
Thanks for sharing!
Amen Hilda! Let's dress however we feel most comfortable. Be ourselves!
Amen
Right on, Hilda! I'm with you, except I love a great, well-fitted blazer in cold weather. They're my "hoodies".
An hilda zochhuanthanhi (for 7 months) Bravo ! Exaxtly. You can please some people and displease some, some of the time, bzt just be yourself! And u said it all. Some women must first look at thenselves b4 critisising !
Flat shoes for older women are bad because our feet hurt. And we don’t want to cinch our waist cause we have a stomach 😔
I wear stuff based on how well they hide my fat rolls.
hahahhahahaha. Your Anita character was hilarious! I know these videos are more fashion education, but if you could create a group of specific characters that you reuse for comedic purposes, you can have a comedy gold mine here.
Edit: and sometimes you have crossovers! Some of these reoccurring characters would interact with each other.
Love the idea!
Lol dress the women for who they’re becoming in 5-10 YEARS!😂😂😂😂😂
Right?
I need to ‘vent’ here. You see… I’m 76, petite ( been getting shorter over the years😢) thus am now just under 5 feet. Many have complimented me of my looks , simple but nice clothes, etc & I look many years younger than my age.
Recently, a friend who is also slim & tad shorter than me commented that my dresses/ skirts are too short. They are usually knee- length or about 2 inches below my knees🤔
She wears hers about 4 inches below her knees & she feels that she looks great 🙃
I won’t change my wardrobe just because of her comment.
Love you, but no you can't have my chunky moto boot or mansculine boots. No!! No!!
Ugh…big boobs, no waist, a fupa that bulges, psoriasis on my arms and legs, and anything flat on my feet other than ASICS or Crocs makes my ankles swell.🤦🏻♀️ It’s looking like 50 is my time to just wear a neck to toe sack and call it a day. All of these tips would still make me look older, just for a different reason…not because it’s bad advice…because my body is on the struggle bus.😭
My "girls" & I see you. It's tough being short, but with a more generous figure.
Its lucky you are not like me ,aside from im short i have also my tummy to be hide ..
Glad I reached the age where I can throw some of those "looking youthful" ideas away... Go ahead and embrace your age! It is alright to realize that nothing is going to change the facts of aging! You can still be youthful by your personality!
Where I live , everyone wears Birkenstock’s. Especially the young people, so wearing Birkenstock’s is very youthful. Also, many of the reasons people wear what they do is to ‘hide’ a big stomach and sorry, but your examples are not at all flattering if a woman really has a belly. You don’t have any extra weight anywhere on your body so I don’t think you really can understand. Coverage and comfort is more important than looking young and ‘sexy’. If a woman has a true belly all the winching in to ‘create’ a waist actually doesn’t work. It’s great in theory not reality for most.
those shapeless dresses are not at all flattering if you're fat
I'm a 4'11" 54 yr old and I'll stick to my punk/alternative/boho/rock style and my brightly coloured hair. This includes tunic length tops and floor length maxi dresses as well as lots of black! Never been told I look old or frumpy so I guess I'm doing something right lol
Honestly, to me the clothes you advise don't make you look younger at all. They just look like someone who prefers fitted clothes. The first examples were perfectly lovely, and in some cases--like the bold prints instead of the pale one--less like someone trying to look younger. What makes people look younger is clear, dewy skin, few wrinkles, vibrant energy, and enthusiastically wearing the clothes they enjoy. But that's just me, though.
Capri pants don’t look good on anyone!
I don't think it's an "old" look to try to conceal certain body parts. We all have our reasons. Capris are universally unflattering at all ages. Yet some still wear them because it's comfortable and likable.
I thought I was the only one who hated capris! At least I've never come across some who mentioned it. And can we take a moment to commiserate about "manpris?" I mean, each to their own, but the fuller styles of long shorts (which I call manpris) might as well be skirts at some point. Which I can get behind. Why shouldn't dudes have the freedom and comfort a skirt/dress provides?
@@plasmocat1863 love this!! Your comment is inspiring me to make a video on this. I'm definitely feeling the aging process and I'm humbled by the challenges women face. While you are young and everything looks great you look at "old" and label it away. But it's a reality we all have to face sooner or later. Let's come up with more flattering solutions not run away from it in displease.
@@Chicquette I agree! But clothing choices for rounder women are a lot better these days than they used to be. When Torrid opened, I knew we were going in the right direction. I'd love to see some of the more non-mainstream fashions become more available. I'd love a Victorian great coat, for example. Yeah, I'd wear it to work, and I'd feel great doing it!
Sorry I'd take the birkenstocks ...they are timeless. Chunky shoes are in and can look young and stylish if styled correctly. Tunics can also look great and they help hid a tummy...not everyone is slim enough to tuck their shirt in the front. CONFIDENCE IS EVERYTHING WHEN IT COMES TO FASHION!
You can tuck your big blouse in if your waist is still in its best shape as when you're in your younger days...of course, if that's not the case, you won't let your bulges shown...I think, you should also consider those things when giving fashion advices...not all women are comfortable wearing dresses or any clothings especially if they're chubby or not sexy anymore, just sayin'
True, I know I have to stay slim and wear body shaper to look good in my clothes...not easy at all as I'm very short and an apple.
I’ve been living in loose dresses lately and love them, especially the swing kind in 5’1 120# 59 years old ….to each their own 😃
I love tunics and swingy dresses, too! I find I like short & sassy *when* paired with leggings. Also, I can avoid the 'sack' look with a belt low on the hips (blousy fabric still floats over belly) or a ribbon tie under the bust, to create a waist that's flattering. 😉
I always wear tunics and capris since I was 11 years old. They're what looks best on me, and always received compliments from friends. I used to be the popular girl at school even. I'm 28 now and everytime I try to use high wasted pants + tucked shirt I look like I was flattened from the head and stretched on the sides. Also, I don't care about looking short. For those who are reading this comment, please consider your body and your gut first, and test things out.
I watched this video while wearing a tunic dress with capris but I feel great in it so I will continue to wear it. But I love the videos!
That look can be great if you wear a pair of stappy sandals to balance the tunic. You have to know how to wear a tunic since they are a large unstructured piece of cloth.
That’s great but that’s not the case for me, capris and a tunic will definitely make me look older. I guess they fit your body type, for me capris make look wider.
Really true. I am petite but short waisted. Tunics always look great on me as it elongates my waist.
Always tend to gain weight around my waist.
Ladies, look at your own bodies!
Use common sense! Sure everyone wants to look nice but everyone is different so use discretion.
I agree
What if you have a pouch?tucking in dont look good
I can't agree with this. Not everyone can define the weist (especially when you just don't have one) :) In some cases it's better to hide the waist but open legs, or arms, or shoulders.
And the birkenstocks, maybe it's culture difference. But in Eastern Europe I see that young women prefer wear birkenstocks, sneakers, flat sandals with dresses or skirts, while they moms fear that a lot and try to wear pumps or ballets. I can't say ballets are good for everyone. Sometimes taking it easy is what makes you younger.
Sad.
I can't wear heels. I broke one ankle and sprained the other. I also disagree with the wearing black portion. The one that she said is "correct" has the lower abdomen sticking out. I like looking older because it is a gift that is awarded to too few. Leave people to what they like provided it's not hurting anyone.
Its true that I have to stay slim (and wear body shaper) to look well in my clothes, I'm very short and an apple, ugh. It's a struggle.
@@c.b.barlow Like the saying goes, grey hair is a sign of wisdom. I remember when I was in my early 20's I was working on something with a friend. At one point she focuses intently on my forehead, says "hold still." I freeze bc I think she's seen a bug. She reaches over and plucks a hair out with a sharp pull. She holds it up and says gravely, "It's a grey hair." I laughed and said, "Great. Grey hair is a sign of wisdom and you took the little bit I had."
I have never needed to look older. My love for dad jokes usually speaks for me, lol.
@@plasmocat1863 the next time someone tries that ask "why are you pulling my wisdom strands?". LoL
As long as i feel comfortable,i didn' t really care about my fashion,🌸☕️
Great tips as usual, but the highest credit goes to the different characters introduced, so funny and creative. You are a perfect mix between personal stylist and stand-up comedian. Keep it up both ways! 🫶
I’m a huge fan of the midi length for dresses and skirts. In fact, I adore the look with the animal print skirt and white flats. It’s a classic look that I’m not willing to let go of-not now, in my mid 30’s, not ever 💕
It is very hard to find WP (women’s petites)! Older people who are disabled often become a bit larger after a certain age. We do NOT, however, get taller! Same with W width shoes. I simply will not buy too tight shoes!
Sorry but this lady is slim, for a lot if over 60s our shape changes and we can't wear fitted tops! Or dresses with slits up to our waist!
Since I turned 71, I have a high tummy. Can no longer tuck.....
When you get older your shape changes and you may have a few aches and pains .. you want to look good but comfortable … you find what makes you feel good .. as you age you feel more confident to embrace your own choice and not feel having to follow fashion trends is important. If you are happy with how you look and feel then that is all that matters. Go for it!
Yeah when you reach around 40 your body feels differently from a younger person. And maybe around 50 your body becomes more achy and sensitive. If you are that age I don’t see the point at all of dressing younger. If I become a granny its going to be tunics all the way! Who even cares how young you look at that age. My feet are killing me! I’d rather look like a comfortable bag than a hot aching mess.
I love capris. That's why I make my own. I can have them hit right below my knee at the slimmest spot. Rtw, I usually alter if I can.
Agree, if you can shorten the length or they have a roll up option, they look so much better on a short frame.
They probably look adorable on you. I love them on others. My friends wear them too. I like the ones that are right below the Alf as I always have bruises on my legs.
I love capris on women of all ages.
I love my Birkenstocks and never giving them up wear them in the house and casual settings🦋
Yes! I love wearing mine with floral, romantic or sexy dresses. I feel they are making them look more casual
@@marlax182yes her pointy shoes and strappy sandals look ridiculous unless in the office.
I think it's important to dress for your body type and wear the right size . Too many wear skin tight tops and pants thinking you look thinner ( which is great for perfect bodies) but most only accentuate the bumps and rolls . I'm older ( in my 60's) and love to look fashionable in both my clothing and hair . Life's too short to be dowdy 🙂
I agree with you ☺️ It's really important to find a clothes that will fit your body and suits you! But it's still depends on a person, these video can only be applied to the person that needs help! ❤️
You go girl!!❤️❤️
I started to watch this video and then decided to read all the comments before I resumed. The bottom line (pardon my pun) is that this lady is addressing mainly petite women and this was clear to me from the start. I’m 70 and tall, 5 ft 8 inches/ 173cms. I once lived in Thailand and had to have my clothes made for me because it was so hard to find anything readymade in boutiques or department stores. Conversely, I know that it can be hard for petite ladies to find what they need. Their smaller proportions require different choices. This video is mainly an education for them. However I absolutely agree with the advice to avoid capri pants for exactly the same reasons that were given here. The one point that I agree with the readers is comfy footwear. Podiatrists tell us that from around 45 we start to lose the fat pads on the soles of our feet. We’re also more prone to osteoarthritis. I have it in every joint as well as disseminated idiopathic skeletal hyperostosis (DISH Syndrome - not apparent on x-rays until you’re around 60). Sometimes custom-made orthotics will work but I need more ankle support as I have the connective tissue/collagen disorder hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. It’s not as rare as most doctors are taught at medical school. None of us should consider choosing fashion over pain and discomfort. This is where I agree with those who made similar comments. Each new decade reveals some new inconvenience we never thought about before it starts happening to us. It’s not pessimistIc to say this, just an inconvenient reality.
I get the issue with the tunic, BUT for someone like me who has lower abdomen hanging skin from pregnancy, it works.
Will high waist dresses work?
My grandma wears those a lot. It reminds me of her. I doesn’t make me think people are grandmas when they wear it. We aren’t blind. You still probably look like in your late twenties or mid thirties. Also why not a maxi dress or loose bottoms to hide the loose pregnancy skin if you are looking to have a youthful look?
It covers that unwanted tummy, if not the tunic top ????
01:05 Tunics
02:04 Capri Pants
02:40 Chunky Shoes
04:16 Pleated Pants
04:49 Load Prints
05:22 All Black
06:15 Midi Length
I think it's important to note these suggestions are for petite folks. Many of these things will work on a taller or more angular person
I have a very big stomach, I look like 7 months pregnant (not exaggerating). I'm 4'8" and 163lbs. Do these tips work for me too?
😉Try not to be too discouraged. We all have body & self-esteem issues that we struggle. The trick is to understand 'em, & learn to work with 'em.
😃Yes, the rules apply to everyone〰️no matter your weight or height. If you follow her recommendations, you'll see improvement👍.
Being petite & heavier, means you need give yourself every possible advantage. Although take it at your own pace, don't feel pressed to do it all at once. Change can be challenging, so give yourself some grace.
It will help you further, if you know the following factors...
#️⃣1️⃣ Your body shape:
apple, pear, rectangle, inverted triangle, or hourglass.
#️⃣2️⃣ Whether or not, you have:
(1) high waist/long legs, or
(2) low waist/long torso.
All these things can impact the rules you must follow, & the ones you can ignore.
👑Chi is QUEEN of understanding visual body proportion. She truly knows how to balance everything in the most flattering ways. It all depends on how committed you are to presenting your highest & best impression. If that's your goal, you're in good hands. She won't lead you astray.
💚Bridget from Cali ☘️
(using my pal's YT acct)
@@teresacarle294 Thanks, Bridget! Your message helped a lot. I do have self-esteem issues from being cruelly rejected due to my weight. Because of my size, I'm 'Obese II' on the BMI scale. I let myself go when I was depressed. I even spent 4 months in the psych ward. My depression lasted for 4 years. I'm still not a 100% good, but I'm really trying to get better. I'm exercising every day. But it's kinda frustrating to lose just 1kg (2lbs) in 3 months.
I tend to use tunics like she says and honestly, it feels more comfortable. But I know I'm not doing myself any favors my using them. And I shouldn't feel bad because a large tunic or a tight blouse, both let my big "pregnant" belly shows. So why can't I use what makes me look best, right? I find it hard to find clothes that flatters me on my size. At least in my part of the world.
Thank you very much for the thoughtful advice.I appreciate it. ❤️🤗
@Telinha I have the same problem and it’s very difficult to dress around “the baby” as I call it! There’s no way I’m wearing anything fitted or even tucking in the shirt. Forget using a belt to define the waist. That’s the last thing that’s needed. So I’m with you, I don’t see any alternative to the loose tunic top.
Absolute rubbish! Not everyone looks good with tucked in tops and the half tuck just looks scruffy. Why do all the “slim” people on RUclips think they know everything about clothing? They don’t. People should dress for their body shape, not what “slim, young” people tell older ladies to wear. Mostly they are just out to show off their own figures.
I love to listen to you and your ideas. However, I know my body and it's problems and I am not worried about my age. Love tunics with v-neck and 3/ 4 sleeves. Thank you.
That's understandable ☺️
How boring are these where someone dictates what to wear! Dressing for your own particular bodytype and lifestyle matters! For instance, there is a big difference between Florida style matronly prints and rocker prints (snake, zebra, etc.) and the size should reflect body type! I wore capris in my 20s and on my body type they looked bad, but a tall 50 year old might look great in them. These are generalizations and stereotypes..what makes one attractive varies from person to person. The person making this video is humorous, but one of the advantages of being an adult is that you realize everyone (and there body) is different! Big duh!
I like my capris and my tunics and at 70 years old, I think they are a wise choice.
I do too, Barbara. At 72 I am not giving up my capris for anything!🤗
C'mon as a lecturer in an institution, i have to be modest in my clothes. Whatever you just say doesn't make sense in my work culture. Im going to disagree wholly and you'll get a dislike for this . Sorry
Well I like the long blouses helps hid my stomach some of us are not thin and need frumpy blouses . Yes I’m 55 and need comfort also especially in this hot 🥵 heat !!
I don't understand why there is an obsession with how old we look. I have never cared how old I look - at any stage of my life. I have never cared whether I look attractive or not. I wear what I like and what is comfortable. Why should I care what anyone else thinks of how I look? Why is age such a taboo? It's better than the alternative. I just want to be myself and that's how I dress. (And I don't own ANY dresses or skirts. Ugh!)
It's not so much that this video is concerned with looking older, but rather that as we age we tend to sacrifice style for comfort. So as a result there is an immediate association of dowdy-looking as "old-looking". If you don't like this association, then replace the word "old/older" in this video with "dowdy/frumpy" and I'm sure you'll agree that dowdiness does not look appealing no matter what age a person is.
A bad assumption is that you can't look BOTH comfy and put-together. Notice how in the video, she points out the way in which a shirt, skirt, or shoe can make us look more disheveled, tired, or dated. Looking your best doesn't have to be about caring about what others think, but it absolutely should reflect the way you feel and putting your best foot forward.
While I do dress for my job and social life, most importantly I dress for myself and use clothing as a form of self-expression. My clothes reflect an attitude of power and importance. And on days we feel our lowest, certain clothing fabrics and color palettes improve our mood, so why wouldn't you take advantage of that?
Clothes also improve the way people treat you. Bc I'm shorter and fatter, I don't get the same "pretty privilege" that I used to when I was younger and thinner. Taller and more attractive people ABSOLUTELY get perks for how they look, that's just the real world we live in. This psychological phenomenon is called "The Halo Effect".
By giving off the impression of "I don't care", people will reflect that back to you. And as a minority who is already disenfranchised and disadvantaged, I need all the help I can get to ensure my clients find me approachable, my boss respects me professionally, and that servers/salespersons/concierge, etc. are willing to help me find discounts/solutions if I ask for them.
More people hold the door for me and say "please/thank you" when I dress well than when I'm slumming in sweats, so yeah there's absolutely a difference in how clothes can improve our station in life. Some have privilege and can afford to not care, but I can't. Although I'm puzzled why you're watching this in the 1st place, if you claim never to have cared 🤷♀️
You do you. It's all about feeling good and happy!
Your video is not for me and is disrespectful. I’ll keep my tunics, thank you.
Thanks for your great humor and advice. Im hijabi and wear tunic most of the time. I add a slim belt and kinda tuck it under a little to make it looks like a "peplum" top for more definition. If you are okay with big wide korset look belt, then it will be beautiful. Tunics are forgivable if they have minimal pattern, belt, and bold shoulder area design (puffed, balloon, sailor, etc). Shortly, don't buy tunic 😅
Guess you got it right! I'm 26 and thought you were maybe 5 years older than me.
You are so funny! These are so sad, but true. I need to completely overhaul my closet. Thank you so much for your tips!
Hi Chi! Would you please make a video of how to wear shorts. Thank u. I love your videos.
I'm 26 and I wear chunky shoes/sandals with straps. For everyday use they're the best! I don't have to worry about them getting off my feet while I'm running to catch a bus/train/metro. I don't have to worry about someone else stepping on my shoes mid step while I'm walking in crowded areas. 😅 Of course, we can dress up for special occasion. But everyday comfort >> fashion, for me atleast.
Cool! Thanks for sharing that, Ankita! 😊
Usually older women like me are not so happy about their post menopausal body shape, especially belly, chest area. It does not matter how much effort we put into diets and sports, we are old we are out of the rat race. Therefore we play hide. Another reason, tunics are airy. Get your first hot flushes and you will learn to love airy clothes not clingy to your body. This was the reason I started wearing tunics. Depending on the occasion I am wearing better fitted garments too and I love the French tuck.
you're a designer ..... but you dress up old as well. hello
sure french tuck and show my worst asset my fupa
When I started dressing modestly I stopped dressing trendy. I assure you, you can still cover your bum and look amazingly classy and beautiful. I am in my 30’s and I find that when I dress in a way that honors my body, my values and the plan God has for me, I stopped caring how others appreciated my butt and legs in the best way ever. Disclaimer, they still look great, but it’s not my measuring stick anymore!
The one about loud prints is so true! Every time I see Lily Pulitzer clothing, it makes the model look so old.
One more item I'd like to add to this list is STATEMENT JEWELRY!!! That's going to age you!
What do u mean by statement jewelry?
I think it depends on what the print is and the cut of the dress as well as what season it is. I love solids but in summer all solids is and always will be boring!
@@EVL-xj5vc I think she means the stuff that looks like you bought it at a chain store. I agree. I am fortunate to have a husband who has provided really classic jewelry to me. I wear my pearls in the daytime and diamonds at night. But events don't always call for that. I also have some great tortoise shell pieces and some great large turquoise and topaz sets to wear for the summer. I know not everyone has this, but many of my great statement pieces beyond the classics I have owned and continue to wear for over 20 years and get compliments. A great place to buy these original pieces is at art fairs. I have some that are stupendous pieces that are Native American beadwork purchased at art fairs. These women are outstanding artists. It is real wearable artwork and a great investment. I wear mostly linen in the summer as I am allergic to polyester. I always had to wear a cotton slip under my school uniform growing up. These pieces look great with linen and cashmere, another medium I can tolerate.
Brittney, I'm 79. I look like an inverted muffin with long legs. I wear bright or loud prints with mid calf length. Soft flowing fabrics and waist defining dresses. Pumps with 2 inch heels and sandals with medium straps. No pants, ever.
Wigs and bifocals. Fortunately, my muffin is small. I look good in soft clothing.
Anything that clinks or rattles, or looks cheap or homemade is going to age you. An interesting geometric, an exotic something from your travels, a vintage piece on a chain--always intriguing.
And a loud print is fine--as a scarf or playful bag, to accent to a monochrome outfit ;-)
I'm just sharing my personal preferences here, btw. I see women who are joyful in tropical print muumus and I say, "Rock it, girl!" 😉
Big issue for petite women is that a standard tunic is often almost a dress
Fact. We all get old....nothing wrong with that, nothing you can do about it. But, nothing worse than an older person trying to look young ! Best thing is to always wear a smile !
I am in my 40s, what I have learned is that the simplest way to dress with times is to shop from youth section but bigger size since most of us put on weight as we grow older.
Also, I think most of these suggestions are good if you were living in year 2004.
I hear the capri hate repeatedly, but what's the alternative for very casual when it's got out and shorts are out of the question?
Knee or just below knee length. I wear my knee length 'shorts' and dress them up with heels or dress flats, or dressed down with white sneakers and no show footies.
I prefer wide leg linen pants in summer.
I’m in my eighties and still can find clothes that comfortable and stylish, comfort doesn’t translate to dowdy. Seems to me some use their age as an excuse to let themselves go. I’m going to put a little shape around the waist area thanks for the tip
Just wear what you're comfortable with. Dont need to follow a trend
I wear tunics to hide my Depends
I don't like tucked in shirts, they look sloppy. However, I do like tunics w/ A lace hem or all lace. I'm 68 5'4" slim. I wear pumps . I don't wear jeans cause they too look sloppy, but they are good for gardening. I like crop tops that reach the belly button. No tight clothes. No skirts in midi length very much, cause they too can look sloppy. Body on dresses are slimming, large flowing clothes carry too much fabric. Shoes are flats, pumps or gladiators w/ heels.Boots flat or w/ heels, not chunky heels, cause they are unflattering and quite ugly.
How do you hide your button without a Tunis. Straight leg pants can only go so far.
What button are you trying to hide?
I just started watching -- I know many older women (my age) who have no waist. In fact they have expanded waists even though they are not obese. They thank heaven for tunic tops! -- can't you show an example of women who have NO waist instead of these beautiful shapely young models (you).
You really are the "complete package"! Smart, talented, kind, pretty--and funny! Please don't ever change. ♥️
I think tunics are beautiful.
Can you do a video about presentable outfits at home for petite
I am apple Shaped..... but 5’2”. Tucking in a top just shows off my disproportionate stomach.
OK, that was hysterical. "Anita Anitawa" LOL. I agree with everything you said. You might want to expand on the shoe thing. I see so many women with horrid shoes. It might be nice to have alternative shoes that are both fashionable and comfortable, besides flats. Flats aren't always the most comfortable for some people. Thank you.
As someone who has flat feet and also had been injured because of that, flats aren't for me. Even my doctor advised me to stay away from flats.
@@ruthmontes6076 I also have flat feet. Is that why I am not comfortable in flats. I like a little heel, it seems a bit more stable for me.
@@anitaclemens2609 If I remember correctly, my doctor said that flats should not be worn for people who have flat feet. She advised that if I'm going to wear any foot wear at least it should have 1 inch heel. Or if I have any flat shoes which has no arch support for flat feet ( eg. Sneakers) I should use an insoles support for flat feet and it helped! I hope this comment helps 🙂
@@ruthmontes6076 Thank you, that is good advice. I do try to wear my orthodontics when I can. I have a smaller light weight version custom made for me, so I can wear them with fashion shoes. But with summer coming, I will be wearing a lot of footwear without either of them. :-( I do feel better with at least a one inch heel.
I have always had flat feet and can’t wear any shoes without arch support. Birkenstock’s will always be my favorite, exactly-made-for-my-foot, shoes, but if you look, there are companies making cute but still supportive shoes. Vionic’s especially, makes really cute strappy sandals.
Tunics are because I am an apple shape. Have to hide my horrible upper and lower belly! I would give anything to be able to tuck my shirts in!
Dressing is about defining your own style and comfort
You would be much more credible if you showed "older real life women". Your choices look good on you hut when you get older your body changes and you may develop foot issues. Older dont wear the clothes they do because they are stupid or dont know any better. Some times its because they dont have other options.
I sew practically all my clothes. Seems like all the top patterns are tunics.
Yes, so true. I think they are adorable
I’m 5 foot tall so tunics are not flattering on me.
The characters you play are THE BEST!!! Tunics are so aging!! We don't want to dress for the age we will be in a decade or more!!! Booooo!!!!! Since I found the French tuck, I feel so much more stylish and confident!!!
Great advice, Chi! I love tunics and I'm learning to style them better to make them work for me. Thanks for the guide!
Great ideas, but please don't knock retirees. Not all of us want to dress like frumps. Many of us want to be stylish forever.
I’m not petite, but this is one of my favorite channels. So funny, and the advice is practical and works even for tall women.
Right?? I'm 5'10" and never miss an upload. Even if I can't use all the info, Chi is so funny!
Long tunics are great for women like me with a long torso. Regular shirts are sometimes too short. I wear what I want and what is proportional on me. I don't wear flats with little or no shock absorbtion or arch support walking in NYC streets. Yikes!
Thanks for sharing!! I totally agree! 😊✨💖