Our birth story, postpartum body image & becoming parents | Ep. 2
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2023
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I feel so comforted by them just saying "What's up Dudes!" Matt and Abby are like my comfort channel, and now that they have a podcast, It's great, because they don't post all the time on their main channel! Thank you Matt and Abby for being such a big and meaningful part of my life!
This was great
Yes! They are my comfort channel too 100%
You're so sweet! Thanks for being here! I'm so glad that you're happy we brought back "wassup dudes"
@@UnplannedPodcast Yes, I loved it when you did that! 😊
This is one of my favorite podcasts!!
Just throwing it out there, midwives are trained for shoulder dystocia and many other “emergent” things. Midwives are constantly seeking further education and bettering themselves, learning and work so hard. Many O.b’s don’t even do that! Just want people aware of how amazing home birth midwives are. Many are just fantastic so wanted that put out there. ❤️
You're 💯 right... there are some OB's who would push an emergency c-section, VS going through the process, that they did with Abby. I've seen midwives deliver babies in situations where a Dr. probably wouldn't.
Came here to say this, coming from a homebirth and hospital birth momma! And midwives will educate you on breastfeeding and stay with you until you are comfortable.
100% this! When there’s even the slightest sign that something could go wrong, they take you to the hospital. They want safe mama & safe baby!
100%!! Was about to say the same thing! Homebirths prepare you by way more education than a hospital birth. Neither are right or wrong but I always encourage mama’s to be to get educated on their bodies and what happens !
I didn’t know this! Thank you for education. :)
it feels very comforting to hear abby talk about how she’s wanted to be a mother all her life. i’ve felt the same way since i was a child and used to feel embarrassed telling others that i want to be a full-time mother.
now, im not! heheh and it’s cool to hear someone that isn’t too. 🥰🥰 love you guys!!
Same! I have wanted this for all 20years I've been alive.
Same
I live in the Netherlands. Home birth is pretty normal here. The midwives are trained and it's just as safe as in the hospital. I love the part that we have postpartum care, a nurse will help for like a week and check your stitches and help with breastfeeding and taking care of the baby. Mostly my partner learned so much from her when I was in bed recovering.
most countries outside of america have a standarized education and certification track for midwives. america just simply doesnt and midwives can be hit or miss. the complications that americans face in home births compared to similar nations is ridiculously higher. it's a standardizing issue here not really a competency issue in midwives in other nations
I’m 37 with 3 kids and still feel like a 16 year old teenager just young and in love with my boyfriend (now husband) and always think “who left me in charge of these 3 kids?!” Also, time just keeps going faster! I remember when we were a family of 3 with a 6 month old and now our kids are 12, 10 and 4!
Love you guys!
Congratulations to you both always Iam so glad
Watching you guys brings back so many memories. I'm an old guy I lost my wife last year after almost 42 years of marriage. My kids have grown up and moved on with their lives. Just as you two have done with your parents. I've got grand-kids that I don't get to see that often. This house is quiet when once it was so full of life. Hold on to each other make plans but be open to life changing them in the blink of an eye. Hopefully you won't grow old with nothing but the memories.
@davegoodridge I am in the same part of life and it can be so lonely. But I stay working and force myself to visit a friend or extended family member once a week. The memories are lovely though. And I often dream of when my kids were little.
This is so sad. I'm 23 and always wanted to see the world and experience life. But since my grandma died I'm feeling bad for leaving my parents alone and not cherishing my time with them together more. I'm living 2 hours away now and I'm sad that the time that we saw each other everyday is basically over. I regret it in a way. It must be incredibly lonely for parents to see their kids go and see how their priorities shift from them to their boyfriends/ girlfriends that easily.
@@susanwagner2595 It is hard to see your kids move out into the world. But it's natural and the way of life. Remember your parents also grew up and moved out. Just make time for a phone call, text or visit sometime. They understand how life works. And I'm sure their proud of the adult you've grown to become.
I feel Abby on the “love made me emotional” sentiment. Ever since my boyfriend and I have been together, I’ve been soooo emotional and just reveling in the true, deep love we have together. He can look at me a certain way and it makes me tear up. I feel weird at times but good to know I’m not alone!
Having a partner who is a loving and supportive person through everything is something that can change you. I started out as someone who could NEVER imagine having children, just because of my own insecurity of being a less than perfect mom. Since I have been with him, my entire thought process surrounding kids has changed. I tell him constantly that I cannot wait to start our parenting journey together. It’s so funny & weird!
@@celeaseh thank you for sharing that 😇 the boyfriend i mentioned in my comment is now my fiancé and I’m also so excited to start a future with him!
@@rhiannad7252 YAY!!! We also got engaged this past summer! Such a sweet time, enjoy it 🫶🏻
@@rhiannad7252congratulations! 🎉 ❤️
I think that women feel compelled to have some sort of “career” ambition, but so many of us know that the one thing that will brings us fulfillment is motherhood. I LOVE that Abby announced that so publicly and at such a young age. Motherhood is the hardest job but brings the most JOY.
It made me laugh when you talked about leaving the hospital. After our first child, my husband looked at me so seriously and said "wait, they just let us leave alone with her like this?" 😂 She will be 17 in July and I still remember it word for word because I had never seen him so serious.
Listening to you talk about this makes me emotional. My daughter is about to be 1 so you talking about this is making me remember my birthing experience. It's so emotional and I love how raw y'all are about this.
I love that Matt takes so much joy in seeing Abby’s self-growth about her body image. He clearly cares so much. What an incredible couple!
I think it is amazing how open you both are with everything that you have been through. I know many couples/parents that can hardly be this open with each other let alone thousands of people online. I can tell your trust and faith is making you the best parents for him.
Abby & Matt I am so impressed with your communication skills with each other. I love your new Podcast!! I got married when I was 19yrs old. I had my 3 daughters by the time I was 24 years old. People used to freak out & ask how we did it? We always said “team work!” My daughters are all grown up now and in college . Feels great to be 44 years old and see my daughters thriving. You guys are an amazing young couple and great parents. God Bless your family. 🙏🏼✝️😊
me crying at 22:00. this family is so sweet, and im glad i found you guys. i hope the best for your fam in the years to come!
I got emotional when Matt said he looks a women so different now and how he so proud of his wife for giving birth and I’m glad I’m not he only one that didn’t cry after having my babies 😊
Time is accelerating guys. I've been married 4 years this month and my wife and I have been "together" for 7 years in total. We're hoping to start our family soon, so your timing for these chats is much appreciated! Love from the UK.
As an OBGyn and mom of 2, I appreciate your candid talk of pregnancy and delivery, especially with an intense delivery like a shoulder dystocia! Thank you for your appreciation of the hospital staff and how hard we train to keep you safe in scary moments like you experienced.
these people are gold ✨
Abby you were the one that made me feel comfortable and confident in my body when I was pregnant! You helped me appreciate what my body was doing!
I love how kind and polite you both are to each other. Your relationship is such a good example for other young people.
I am LOVING these podcast videos! Even better than the vlogs, I feel very authentic and not planned out like vlogs can be!
I’m not going to lie I truly love watching these podcast. You both are so real and talk so vulnerably. I truly appreciate it.
i feel like we’re legit friends when i’m listening to y’all’s podcast, i love it❤
No body can give this man hate about being disappointed about sex expectations when Abby was pregnant cause at the end of the day every single man has the same thoughts. Matt just says everything on his mind without a filter. So at least he’s HONEST!
Love this, I have 3 boys and experienced gender disappointment every time but it doesn’t affect the love I have for them
@@shannonabbey I think what Marissa is referring to are Matt's intimacy (sex) expectations in pregnancy, not gender (sex) expectations. He talks about this at around 13 minutes 😊
@@shannonabbeygender disappointment is definitely a real thing. I get pissed when people shame a parent for being disappointed in the gender of the baby. In most cases the reactions arent extreme like sad crying ect. But when you get pregnant and start picturing your life with your child, sometimes the gender you wanted or imagined having first isnt the reality. Ans its ok you still love your child, its a natural part if the pregnancy journey in my eyes. Even people who got the gender they wanted experience gender disappointment when they realise its now set in stone.
@@_Hollie_ this! I have two girls. When I was pregnant with the second one, I really wanted another girl (we didn't know what we would get). And I love my girls to pieces. But every once in a while I do get a bit sad that I will never experience what it is to have a boy.
@@MsJuval exactly, it doesnt in anyway make you any less of a good parent. Its just means that youve realised that yes you are having a girl but then wondering what it would be like to have a boy. I dont really like the term gender disappointment because it implies that you are disappointed in your child which isnt at all true. Youre just sad that you know you definitely arent having the other gender, which is especially true if all your children end up being the same gender. Its not sadness for what you have but for what could have been
Just two episodes till now and already I'm loving it soooo much. This podcast is everything I want to hear after having a bad day
Thank you for talking about this! I’m 22 and pregnant with my first child, boy too, and hearing your story helps me relate to someone my age when sometimes it can feel isolating. Love y’all!
I love your guys' genuine, raw, adult conversations. Feel like I can relate with you guys more 😊 I love this so much! Can't wait for more episodes !
Literally I related to you soooo much when you said how you were just ready for labor when it got towards the end. I just had a little girl in October and during my second trimester I had so much anxiety about delivery that it would keep me awake at night. Then seriously the 3rd trimester hit and all that went away and I just trusted my body and what would happen! Thank you for being so open and real with everyone!!!
It was actually refreshing to hear Matt openly discuss his thoughts even when discussing her pregnancy body. He will always find her attractive but it can be a lot going on with a changing body and to have abbey discuss the shift in appreciating her body once she gave birth was lovely to hear.
Wow this is the first podcast I have found that is sooo relatable! Love this podcast so much! Thank you for sharing your stories with us 🤍
Thanks Matt and Abby for making me smile. Life is rough right now and you guys make me happier.
I absolutely love your podcasts!! I love how honest you are. I was actually sad when it was over with. Can't wait until your next one.
It annoys me so much at the hate they are getting on tiktok. They are BOTH fabulous parents. Matt is an amazing guy even if he doesn't word things the best for some people :,( Love you guys!
What hate?? They’re so fun
@@Black_cat_27 a lot of people have been hating on matt for “making” abby do most of the house work and take care of Griffin (even tho she’s said she does it bc she wants to). And people are calling him a worthless husband bc he’s just a tiktoker and does no “actual work” and didn’t properly set up auto water pay one time.😭😭
I personally just feel uncomfortable b cause Matt seems to only compliment Abby’s body and last week when they talked about marriage Matt was saying how his only reason to g we married was to have sex
@@srhdance9327personally I think that the whole point of this podcast is to talk about marriage which for them involved sex and talking about their bodies (which Abby clearly has no problem with). I think if you’re uncomfortable than this unfortunately isn’t the podcast for you.
@@oliviasommerville4733 I’m not uncomfortable because they talked about sex. I find that very true welcoming my Problem is when someone asked Matt why he wanted to get married and his only answer was to have sex. He is treating Abby like an object. If they wouldn’t have waited till marriage then he wouldn’t have married her. That is what I’m saying
I LOVE THIS PODCAST SO MUCH!!! I can’t wait to listen every week! Y’all are super inspiring ❤❤❤
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I love it guys!!! Such a good job. Your hard work never goes unnoticed. I always look forward to listen to you guys!!!!
@@UnplannedPodcast It’s funny how you bait people through superficial videos and making it all about a shirtless hubby😂 and you’re talking about body image? It’s beyond cringey🤢🗑️
@@just42day gurl…
Okay, I absolutely love that you are doing podcasts! I don’t really have time to sit and watch vlogs. When I do I end up falling asleep 😂 your conversation flows perfectly and I love the stories. Matt reminds me of my husband when he first became a dad. It didn’t hit my husband that we were going to have a baby until he was holding her.
I could listen to you two all day. My husband and I finished having our 4th and last baby at 23. You are right, we are now 42 and empty nesters. Its great to still be young enough to enjoy this period of our lives.
I love how chill you guys are! I love this podcast! I’ve been listening to it to unwind and clear my head. I love you guys!
You guys are such a perfect example of a healthy marriage! I love how supportive Matt is of Abby’s body and how you both recognize the beauty of giving life and raising a family! I love you guys so much, keep up the good work on these podcasts! ❤
I’m loving these podcast!!! I’m 17 years old and it is so nice to hear all of this, it truly opens my eyes up for my future ❤
Absolutely loving your podcast guys, finding myself counting down the days until the next!
Love your yt channel and your podcast, because you both are without filters and so honest and opened about everything! 🎉 Always waiting for new channel video and podcast video.
You know what I love about this podcast?!?!
I believe you all being transparent with one another is what a lot of marriages lack and this is going to bless you all in so many other ways!
Be blessed Matt and Abby
Jessica G
Thank you Abby for talking about the resentment you had/have! I felt so alone with resenting my husband. Obviously, completely out of his control! But I’m glad I’m not the only one😅❤️
I am loving your podcast! When I discovered your channel a couple of years ago I started binge watching on repeat. Just love hearing more details about your lives. You guys are so sweet and so cute! It’s precious seeing you as parents ❤
The being handed the baby and just not knowing what to do is the most relatable thing! I had a c section and my husband was so lost while they stitched me up
Just wanted to let u know that IUC’s cause severe depression in many women because your body stops producing progesterone and you end up not having a period (which is nice, but in the long run horrible). This happened to me and it was life altering. Depression is the worst kind of pain anyone can go through.
That’s so sad that they didn’t do lactation consulting with you! I’m so sorry! We are trained as nurses to help breast feed! I’m so glad you guys got it figured out :)
Yesssss! I have been looking forward to the next episode! Thank you for your hard work and making content for us!
Your podcast is a blast! Just so fun watching you two interact, it instantly puts a smile on my face 😁
I love this new concept sooo much!!! It's very relaxing and helps us get to know you guys so much better! Each time and episode ends I feel sad because I have to wait for the next one. The good thing is that you make the episodes come out quite quickly which is very nice. :))
It’s so cool hearing you talk about birth because a month later I had mine. I was watching your pregnancy and it gave me confidence to deliver mine, 39 weeker
You guys are so fun! Total goals! I hope the best for you two and your family!! 🫶🏻🫶🏻
I’m so glad you guys started this podcast. I can totally relate to you guys. Caught myself smiling a few times while listening to this podcast. Just a blessing so genuine. It’s so great to hear something different and honest. ❤thank you.
I relate to Abby alot with my pregnancies! 🤰being a mother is such a beautiful thing 💕
you guys are so genuine with eachother and open to a point where it makes me feel comfortable watching and rooting you guys on :)) congrats on the irish twin!! wishing you all good things !! ❤️
I have listened to the podcast on Spotify, but I wanted to like and comment on here, as well, to show support. You two are great and honestly my inspiration!! ❤
I’ve been loving this podcast, please keep it up guys! It’s awesome to be able to connect to the both of you in this way 😄
I love these podcasts!! In my opinion, videos like this make it look like you guys are bonding over memorable memories… which is bringing you guys closer together! Love you guys your the greatest!
As a 25 year old who has followed you since you first started content creating I love that you create a podcast that I can feel like I can relate to some of the things said! Appreciate you guys :)
I LOVE THIS!! I feel like we’re just hanging out! You guys are awesome!
I’d love to hear more about y’all’s faith and how it has changed over the course of your marriage and becoming parents!
I am loving this channel sooo much! it is so comforting and fun! i think it’s also super relatable bc my bf and i aren’t that much younger than you guys! obsessed!!!!
You guys are such an inspiration! I would love to see a podcast on marriage and the challenges you've had and how you've worked through them. Marriage advice for those who are getting married soon?
I am 20, almost 21 and I look up to you guys. I want the life you have. I want to be like you when I finish growing up. I can't wait to have my own family one day. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your guys life publicly. I look up to you so much. Sending lots of love.
Love how open and close you are. Love the podcast and the name.
I'm so glad y'all are doing a podcast! These are great!
The communication between you both is insane. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years, and your relationship is restoring my faith in love and healthy relationships again. Best wishes for your beautiful family❤
I love listening to you guys. i just love being able to listen to your stories and how you guys view things. love love love!
This was such a good episode and I love how real you guys are and how you make no cuts.
Also can you guys make an episode of how you came up with Griffins name?
I remember when they revealed his name and stuff they said they liked the name Griffin coz they liked how it sounded fierce and it sounds like a strong warrior. I hope this helps ❤ I just remember it from their birth video 😊😅
Thank you! Honestly we just thought the name sounded cool lol. We sporadically thought of it about a year ago even though we already had a list of names we liked :)
This podcast is just perfect to listen to while doing hw. Love y’all! ❤
We’re 2 years into trying, it gets sad sometimes but we know Jesus has perfect timing 💕💙 we’re so excited for a littles one day
Sending you all the baby dust! 💕
Hang in there! My husband & I tried for years. Went to the U of MN, the whole 9 yards. We were told for some reason unknown, we couldn’t have kids. So we decided to buy an old home & restore it & get it up to code so we could adopt/foster. So we ran out of money, poor as church mice, with a gutted house, stacks of building materials & dangling electrical cords. It was crazy. Then I literally woke up one morning & had breasts. I thought, “This is new.” Lo & behold 283 days later, we had our daughter. It DOES HAPPEN. HANG IN THERE & RELAX. Don’t pressure yourself. Try not to overthink it, keep up posted!!!
I loved hearing your experience/journey to becoming parents! I’m 24 rn and my husband and I are expecting our first baby!
Congrats!!❤🥰
@@claireashley427 aw thank you! 💗
Love love love watching you guys talk and reminisce
I recommend that all new moms take a breastfeeding course in person or online during pregnancy!! Unfortunately the quick meeting w/ a lactation consultant right after birth is NOT sufficient if you want to be successful long term. Glad things worked out for you! Love the way y'all flow with each other 💖
Abby, i had my first baby at 22(he is 28 now)….be patient. It takes about a year for your postpartum body (and brain) to feel remotely normal. Your heart will never be the same, though…it forever lives out of your chest now. Also, guys….think about how awesome your life will be in your 50’s…..we are having a blast enjoying our empty nest and are young and healthy enough to travel and enjoy our lives. I love watching you guys! Can’t wait to see Griffin toddling around and chatting it up! Thanks for sharing!
I have been following your story since before you guys went viral and I have absolutely loved seeing how far you guys have come. So proud of you both. It is so fun to see the behind the scenes of all the famous social media influencers come together. Love how real all these podcasts have been and I can’t wait to continue watching your success grow❤
Im 25 and expecting a baby and now I see your content in a whole new perspective. Thank u guys! Greetings from Poland! ❤
Gratulacje 😁❤️
Abby! I was the same way with wanting a baby. I cried and cried and was so depressed i wanted a baby so bad! My son is 4 months old now and my heart feels so full. Being a mother is such a privilege and is so so amazing
Love how open you guys are with us and Matt is so funny love it
Y’all are so amazing! I am about to have #3 this year and I am so excited! I wish I could meet you guys one day, we both live in Phx and that would mean the world to me! Love your stories over the years🥰♥️
Please make more of these 🥺 I’m pregnant with my first baby and I would love to hear one that’s more like life as a new mom, life as a new dad. Etc
I completely understand the feeling jealous about others having kids , my husband and I have been trying for months (close to a year) to have kids and every time I see a pregnancy announcement or anyone with a baby I get so jealous and upset
Those feelings are feelings I knew all too well. I struggled with conception for years before I was blessed with my baby. I’ll be praying that it’s your turn very soon!
I’m absolutely amazed you guys did this whole podcast in less than a second - that clock didn’t even get a chance to change!😉
Idk why I cried this entire episode lol I love you guys so much! ❣️
I did too holy crap
@@rachelschwartz1346 i love how they don’t talk about the media. Like I hate podcasts like that, I love how personal they are
I thoroughly enjoyed your podcast and your genuine reactions to life and each other. I can’t wait for what is next.
I love this podcast! I’ve really enjoyed hearing about your family’s experience as I can relate a lot as a young mom with a daughter the same age as Griffin. So excited to continue watching your family’s journey!
You both are going deep. It is refreshing. Parenting is awesome.
You guys are awesome. I love your new podcast. It's so good!
Love love love this podcast Matt and Abby ❤️ So proud of you both
I have been following you guys since before Hawaii, and honestly, it has been so amazing to see you guys grow your family and grow together. I am so happy for you guys. I can't wait to see what comes next for you. Love you dudes!
Love this podcast ! Truthful and honesty!!!!
You guys are the best parents and so fun to watch!❤
My daughter got stuck too by her shoulder. This has been super cool to listen to. I’m only half way through.
I had friends that wanted a home birth. They had completely planned. Their midwife recommended they go to hospital. She was in labor over 48 hours.
Abby, thank you for sharing that you also struggle with anger and all types of emotions while pregnant. I did as well. I just want to say I am impressed how Matt is choosing not to take that personally. Unfortunately, my partner did, and we are currently separated. My pregnancy was very hard, and I almost died giving birth. So, it is refreshing to know I wasn't the only one who experienced mood swings while pregnant. I also experienced postpartum depression.
I love this your so raw and honest with it please keep that up it makes me feel very close to you guys..my daughter didn't get sick until she was a year and a half (1.5)
I love watching you guys. You guys are so funny and raw about everything. I feel like i’m listening to good friends tell me good advice and stories ♥️😂 It’s definitely a good time with Abby and Matt
My goal was to be done having kids by 30, and here I am having our 4th at 31. You never know what will happen, but this one will probably be our last 😊 You guys are awesome!
The way matt looks at you is everything ❤
A C-section isn't just an easy way out! They are most definitely just as hard and challenging!
I agree. I tried to birth my first 2 daughters naturally, and my body wouldn't dilate. I tried for 16 hours with my first with lots of pitocin. I didn't dilate and had an emergency c section because my daughter was in distress. My second, I had 2 balloons and pitocin for 48 hours and didn't dilate, and they had already broken my water at 43 hours, so they had to do a c-section for her. For my 3rd, they wouldn't let me try again, so I had a planned c section. Each c-section was harder than the last.
I've had two C-sections as well. I wasn't given the chance to try natural for the sake of mind and the babies health. I would have loved to been able to have my babies naturally!
You do what you have to do. The most important thing in the end is the health of the baby and the mom. C-section moms are just as strong as the mommas who push the baby out.
OF COURSE WE ARE STILL HERE WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I've been waiting for episode 2 since I watched the first episode. This is amazing, thanks for sharing. I've been so inspired. I love you guys.
Love you too
@@UnplannedPodcast u don’t even know them!!!
@@plantsnthings9140 so??
@@maddiequestrian0424 they don’t love them.
@@plantsnthings9140 doesn’t mean you can’t love them they love them in a supportive kinda way and love them because they are there for them
Love the podcast guys!! Congratulations. Don’t ever change!❤