Asking my husband questions girls are too afraid to ask | Ep. 45
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In this week's episode, Abby reads out questions submitted by you guys to our Instagram page - JUICY QUESTIONS!
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Chapters:
00:00 - Episode 45
02:49 - Do men care if we smell?
03:43 - Does a woman's weight really matter?
05:39 - Is "doing the deed" always on man's mind?
07:54 - Do guys like it when the girl makes the first move?
12:02 - Do guys mean it when they say their wife/girlfriend looks better without makeup?
14:16 - Is the whole "if he wanted to he would" actually true?
16:11 - Do husbands actually want their wives to lose weight after giving birth?
19:00 - Do men actually care what we wear in the bedroom?
22:26 - My boyfriend thinks periods are gross
25:10 - What are men actually doing in the bathroom for 45 minutes?
26:23 - Do guys like it when their partner initiates?
27:11 - Holidays with the wife's or husband's side?
28:03 - Will you give your boys the talk?
31:31 - What makes a first date successful?
33:39 - Is being intimate the same after pregnancy?
36:36 - How do guys feel about body hair?
38:08 - Do guys only get boners around their girlfriends?
39:26 - Does it feel different down there after birth?
40:13 - Do men find stretch marks unattractive?
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I have disagreed with Matt so much this episode, come on man you’re representing all of us guys here 😂. Care what they wear in the bedroom? That’s a no. Care if they lose weight after the baby? That’s a no. Do we mean it when we like them with no makeup? That’s a yes, legitimately mean that. Does it feel different after a baby down there? That’s a no, I’m just happy to be invited back. Intimacy after a baby? The mother of my kids must just be different, I’m not gloating, but they initiated soon after. Bless her, and likely why we have two teens that are barely separated by a year 😅. To be fair during and after the pregnancy I was likely the best person to her. Did everything I could, massages, meals, running a bath, late night runs to about 4 places to get what she wanted, setting up steam rooms with aromatherapy, everything I could do I did before the baby. After the baby I did every nighttime feeding and let them sleep. Breastfeeding was difficult so I did daytime feedings too when I wasn’t at work. Anytime I was home I would do every diaper change and rock them to sleep for their nap. That kinda thing is important, they just wrecked their body for 9 months to bring a child to the world. They deserve every ounce of compassion and time to recover.
Wow I pray my husband is like you❤❤
We need men like YOU 🥹🙏🏽
Tysm for this
omgg she’s such a lucky womenn❤
Yeah I am not impressed with his answers but it's his opinion and it's for Abby to care or not.
I would cry myself to sleep after his answers
fr. I'm grateful that my partner isn't like him.
Then don't ask questions that you don't want the answer to.
Same, it just shows that he’s very superficial.
I would put a "suprise" in his food.😁😁😁😁
He’s so young and this video SHOWS it
Immature is Matt
How old is he?
he’s the normal age to be married he is just very immature and disrespectful 😭
@@silvervixen007 5
So true...he's literally a kid with no to little life experience 🤦♀️🤦♀️smh
Abby is such a sweet and patient wife. The fact that she had to explain to her husband that her breasts were going to look different after she was done breastfeeding… just wow. I don’t know how old they are but it always blows my mind how men can make it into their twenties without such basic knowledge. It’s not only a problem of how we educate boys… at some point it’s also their responsibility. If they legitimately care about women and their partner, they can put in the work and do the learning themselves. Not trying to throw too much shade, I hope they are happy and I can tell he is at least receptive to the common knowledge she is sharing with him. Everyone has their own story and people have different timelines in their development. I don’t know them so I can’t pass too much judgement: As Matt said, “you’re not going to find a partner that checks every single box”, so Abby, he might fall short in a b and c, but I will give him this, he seems honest. And that’s a big one.
Matt seems to need a lot of time to grow. Granted he’s still so young. It amazes me sometimes that I’m older than them. It feels like I’m a decade older based off our mindsets and maturity but it’s literally only 2 years. Also. He shouldn’t speak for all guys. There was a lot in this episode that they wouldn’t claim.
Men usually don't mature mentally as fast as women do. Matt seems to think like a teenage boy still..
Unless they're under 20 I don't understand why anyone would make excuses for them...
abby said that Matt doesn't represent all guys! to each their own :)
@@Jaztene😂😂😂😂 right
That’s nonsense they only mature physically
I have seen more immature women in their 20s
The whole premise of the “trend” (because IT IS a RUclips trend. You can look it up) it’s a guy answering questions that girls would like to know the answers to. It’s obvious that he is not gonna answer for all men. But their followers still want to know his answers.
Matt sounds like he learned everything he knows about sex from porn.
I wondered.... This is so so sad.
Unfortunately for the future generations of men this will be the case until something changes…
😂😂😂 I was thinking about that exactly 😂😂😂
Where should you learn it from tho...just curious, cause where else other than porn show sex?
@@jonmartindeiii962 , parents, school, books
“Do whatever your partner wants” 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Girl, RUN
Why?
@@Blueberry-R3DTelling your wife that she's not as sexy as she was before having a baby,with stretch marks,calling the breasts that was meant for your children,not for you not sexy cuz they're "lop sided" from feeding your child that you impregnated her with is disrespectful asf. Lastly,you stop oversharing intimate details about your life and your partner to the public when your partner is clearly visibly upset and don't want to talk about it.
Fr
@@zucchinikindaslayed If you don't want the honest answer then don't ask.
Yes Abby run run run!!!!
Definitely shallow answers, but he also married who he married because he knows she’s there to please him and his expectations. I will say I’ve definitely met men who are better looking and have better personalities who don’t care about a woman’s weight or appearance!! Don’t let this guy speak for all! And ladies be glad this guy is off the market 😂
fr
Well that won't be long.
When Matt said it’s sometimes a good thing to care about looking good for your spouse, I fully agree but I also think that no matter how comfortable you are in a marriage, you should also care about looking/feeling good just for yourself. Not only for your spouse. After all, it’s easier to love someone who loves themself🥰
I think you’re spot on! We need the balance. I think a lot of people try to say it’s only for your spouse or only for yourself. Why can’t it be both?
You can love yourself and not feel the need to wear makeup etc though. A woman should feel good all the time regardless of makeup and clothes. Even men these days are being forced to feel they need to look a certain way. I’d never put pressure on my partner to look a certain way. We both make an effort if it’s a special occasion though.
I think it can be interpreted differently too. I saw it as sometimes you should still make an effort. I've been in a long term relationship for 4 years, and he tells me I'm beautiful in sweats with no makeup, and that's honestly what he gets most nights. He still loves me all the same. But I still put in the effort to get dressed up for a date night when we get a chance, and it really sets the mood for the night.
A good loving husband would not want his wife to destroy her body and long term health for the sake of looking like the media says a woman should look.
Boob jobs bring nothing but a (possible) temporary bandaid to a woman’s self-esteem/body image issues.
Though you have the ability to do whatever you want, it is more loving if he expresses his appreciation for the body you have and the concerns, risks, and long term side effects of a procedure that is solely for vanity purposes. It’s not worth it, you’re worth more, and I would hope any husband would make that clear to his wife.
Everyone has a right to their own opinion and I appreciate Matt’s honesty, but I really think (hope) a lot of Matt’s opinions change as he matures. Like think about how a woman might feel telling her it feels different having sex after babies. She birthed your children and sacrificed her body and you’re telling her it’ll never feel as good as before babies and there’s nothing she can do to change that. Honestly that’s harsh.
Definitely shows his immaturity.
It's not like he said it was worse or he didn't like it as much? He just admitted it was different. I would rather my guy be honest with me and let me know if it feels different if I ask rather than him pretending in order to spare my feelings. Bodies constantly change and we have to get used to them all over again, it's not the end of the world.
I'm gonna chime in. There are things as a woman we can do to feel just fine down there but most women want to complain instead of accept criticism and learn new things.
Bodies change. It’s not that big of a deal. He said it very nicely too. I’d hate for my partner to just lie like everyone else. That doesn’t serve me as their wife.
Now it would be different if he was rude about it. But he was very nice about it. Try to be positive in life💕
He's being honest
8:26 Matt is absolutely in the minority about wanting the girl to play hard to get. Most guys today are fed up with girls playing games and over dating altogether, and they would absolutely melt into a puddle of joy if a girl made a move on them.
Thank you was about to say this
this is true, i was the one to ask my current bf out and he was over the moon
Playing hard to get makes me think of a stalker. And your mind can go from there. Not saying he's anything like that but that's what that comment made me think of. And the way he talks so much about other women or he said I think women in general. Has he had multiple women I'm not sure. It sure sounds like he's got some experience from foreign or something I just love Abby to death
I agree with Matt on this tbh. I think that that boys are not honest about this. Psychology clearly tells us that we're attracted to people who are hard to get cuz we love the chase. I think it's true for women as well. And the truth is that a marriage where the woman loves or is more attracted to the man won't last. The man has to be the one who is more attracted to her.
I did that twice and I'm never trying again .
I'm sorry but Matt sounds extremely immature, hopefully he grows in time to teahs his sons better...the whole answer about loosing weight after a baby literally baffled me
That's his opinion in his point of view everyone is different
@@admar6934 exactly
Then takecare of your body. Don’t get fat. The baby out already. Control what you eat 😂
@@kingzlatan12 the baby's out? Lol most of the weight doesn't dissapear with the baby being born. Also taking care of your body is kinda impossible for a lot of moms who spend all of their time with their kids. And tbh these men that let that happen are usually the ones crying about how their partner looks neglected, didn't lose weight or doesn''t have any sex drive.
@@jankova0013 i have my grandma my mom and 2 aunt. 24 kids total and all slim and healthy. All live happy life 😊
“Women get the better climax” LOL whos gonna tell him
I'm dead! Straight Facts 😂
I was like what!?😂😂😂 okay even if scientifically the sensation should be “better” when you’re a woman, maybe we don’t think about it as much because it doesn’t happen as much. There is almost NO guarantee 😂😂😂
What? That y’all fake most of them? lol
@@DanielMontoya87 yes we are. Dont get me wrong tho, a man gives pleasure but rarely make us reach the climax point.
@@DanielMontoya87 women wouldnt have to if you men knew what you were doing
I disagree with Matt, 😂 bc I've been married 23 years and we've been together for 27 years, AND it was absolutely love at 1st sight!!! I told my best friend that I was gonna marry him the day I met him!!! Put God 1st and always be intentional with your spouse 💕 My husband is so fun and makes me laugh daily! I feel like Matt and my hubby would definitely get along! Abby, you look amazing! Y'all are such awesome parents!!! My husband and I are more in love now than we were dating, engagement and newly married!!! Y'all are adorable! God bless y'all and Merry Christmas 🎄
Love this!!!
Abbey is literally glowing. She’s so beautiful. 💙
Please have Brooklyn and Bailey with their husbands but separately!
Yesssssss❤😊
Yessssss!!!
Second this!!
I would definitely watch that!!! I watch every episode anyway 😂
Yess
When sweet Abby said “the streets taught me” 😂😂😂😂😂 I can’t lol
I think the whole thing about spending more holidays on the wife’s side of family centers around the idea that women generally are better at maintaining relationships with their parents and siblings and so they make plans to go to their side where as husbands aren’t as good about keeping close or in touch as much with their family relationships.
Not really it’s the fact that from birth most women are more
Comfortable with their own moms helping with vagina issues and you don’t see men’s moms coming in during
Those
Times.
@@raynaroy157haha there’s some that try 😅
YES
no one can say anything anymore can they? good luck with that POV
@@dsfjoadsjodsadjnadsjl
I agree thayltnus one factor of many.
Most of these questions relate to men maybe not being mentally prepared for what happens during and after pregnancy to women's bodies. I think education and openness and curiosity can go a long way to protecting relationships postpartum (and building up their partner even if they might not be TURNED ON by the changes). Marriage/partnership is about soooo many things beyond surface-level attraction.
The questions are from boys also😢😢
Women have passed away from breast augmentation surgery.. it's not worth it.. just love your body the way it is! There are so many complications that can happen also.
For women sex is far less about what it feels like and more about the intimacy. We'll still be with the person we love even if it doesn't feel particularly good because what we value most about the act is the emotional connection. Intercourse itself often didn't feel particularly good for me until my 30's, but I didn't avoid sex with my husband, because I loved the intimacy. Plus when you have a partner that cares, there are other things they'll do that does feel great.
U don’t speak for all women
@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 she didn't say she did lol.
This is so true
That’s you. You don’t represent me and it seems other women think the same way
@@Luci-hl7zc Never said all women, but suppose it would have been better to stay a large portion or very many. I still stand by it though. For a very large percentage of us intercourse itself isn't all that great until we're older, usually in our 30's, but it's not a deterant because there's so much more to it. If that's not your experience, good for you, but you're in the minority.
Abby, you're not the only girl who wasn't interested in boys during high school! I was the same way. I learned that I'm picky and the pool was too small at the time
If I was a man, I would not appreciate Matt speaking for all the men out there. "We" may not agree with his biases and preferences.
this video is for the girls not for men
bruh ofc it's not all men answering this is matt's answers lol
I really loved the honesty of Matt in this video and I feel sad to see the comments of how he should think differently. I think it will help a lot of guys who have panic of marriage exactly because of these things, they think they have to be blind to changes and like them all, even whent that is not true and then hate themselves for not loving it or fake it to get the applause of married couples. It is ok to prefer a fitter partner, it is ok to have more drive than your wife after pregnangcy, all feelings and preferences are ok as long as he acts on them the way he does, lovingly, caringly, putting his needs aside when it is necessary.
Agree. As a woman I'm baffled by many of the comments.
I find matt a bit of a jerk. I mean idk he just have that energy or maybe it’s just her she give this whole submissive, insecure vibe, someone who need someone to depend on like she can’t even do anything by herself or just be happy.
Dude, I agree with Matt's point about where we meet our spouse. I met my husband and I think there were a lot of things I learned from working with him that I may not have known very quickly otherwise. We make a good team, he is one of the hardest workers I know, he is kind, and he is fun to be around. I think in college it's because you find people on the same path as you. Dating apps are a great tool, but there's a lot you have to learn from spending time with that person.
Matt is an outlier on several of those questions
I met my husband while he was stationed in Korea, he flew to MN to stay with me for 2 weeks, it was magical. We got married in Disney World and have been together for 7.5 years!
🙌🙌🙌
I'm so glad I'm not a social media person, some of these comments... Thank you for being so open and sweet and honest with each other. My husband is the sweetest man and I think people will also give him crap on some of his answers on these questions, but I know he loves me and he knows how to make me feel loved. You guys clearly know how to make each other feel loved as well. Some of these things are hard to hear from your partner, but an honest answer in love means so much more than the generic answer that everyone expects. I hope the comments doesn't bother you guys too much.
I met my spouse literally at a Chessecake factory. I was sitting at the bar with my friend and here comes this random stranger, we had a meet cute where he introduced himself, we shook hands. From that handshake, I immediately knew. He complimented me on how soft my hands were, we shared a cheesecake, exchanged numbers and now we have 2 beautiful baby boys together (13 months apart) 😂 everytime I tell that story people say how abnormally cute it is 😄
I love that lol. I love that you knew from the handshake the most. Blessings to your marriage and family.
My husband says my hooha feels better than ever after 2 kids. Literally everything got steamier! And he doesn’t like lingerie. He says it’s a waste of money and he’d rather me just be naked because he’s gonna take it off anyways 🤦🏼♀️😂
I learned from the streets too, Abby! I wish my mom taught me everything, but I was so shy and so grossed out by stuff I wouldn’t have listened!
I love when it’s just you two! Excited to watch
really enjoyed this episode! As much as the episodes with guests are fun its good to have just you two aswell!
Thanks for being so raw and vulnerable. Love you both. 💗
This episode was strangely sweet, when Matt talked about putting your partners needs before their own, wow just such a sweet moment ❤
i relate so hard to Abby on not being not crazy like my friends and basically only showing interest once a boy did first and then i got married at 19 lol
boy*
We can only hope! 😂 Love to see that Griffin and Auggie have supportive parents even if those conversations are a long way away!
Matt is such an ass and I wish she could see it. You deserve so much better!!!! I honestly hope you gave him a piece of your mind after this podcast. Because for you to just hear him say these things and barely respond is honestly so sad. How can you be intimate with him and feel your 100% best self. That comment is something even if he feels is true should have just been taken to his grave. Women need comfort and to feel safe in intimate times and I feel like hearing his responses would just mess with your mind completely to never fully let go during those moments. I’m so sorry. How can you be confident and 100% happy when he speaks this way? How are you so secure in yourself especially during TWO POSTPARTUMS. There’s absolutely no way you are ok with his responses regarding how sex is after the kids. You were right when you said ‘that doesn’t feel very…’ gave you no reassuranc.. ‘I think we’re good’ ahhh I think you’re not good lol… it was the wrong answer and did not sound like he meant it, sounded weak and just like he had to say it. No confidence in what he said.. and don’t awkwardly laugh at him when he says the answer. Stand up for yourself. You’re an amazing mum and partner and I truly hope he starts to see it more because this disrespect is so hard to watch. This is the last time I’m listening to you guys
I noticed that too, she might understand his way of communication better than us, but my heart broke for her…
Bro she literally said that she doesn't like seeing him naked and that's fine but him saying something similar is the issue?😂
Yall are bird brains @@Sgc496
He should lie, then later you'll complain that your husband doesn't tell you the truth. She said MULTIPLE TIMES that he makes her feel good about herself, does that mean he should lie forever??? Stand up for yourself how? She should divorce him because random stranger on the internet doesn't like some of his answers. You're not alright
If you really feel offended by most of matt's answers, what would you think about most men who even ACTUALLY commit infidelity because of their wife's body changes? Sure some people don't like matt's response and as a female myself I didn't like some but he is actually putting his opinion and views out here on the internet for people to watch, learn and know and about a billion other men who are NOT actively showing their lives in this manner must have some nasty way worse opinions than the ones matt has but it's really great how he's open about his marriage life WITH his wife and his experiences.
I met my husband at a coffee shop - he was the barista there! So it can happen elsewhere 😊 We now have a 5 month old baby boy and can totally relate! Love the podcast!
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Aw my husband and I met at a coffee shop too, except I was the barista! Now we have a 4 month old baby boy haha
@@Beautybarbie995Oh my goodness no way!!! Haha that’s amazing! Coffee brings people together ☕️❤️ Hope you both are loving new parent life with your baby :)
I absolutely loved this episode, y’all were honest in your answers and even the fumbling for answers to be stated correctly brought back some funny moments in memory lol good for you both!
The way you attempt to be as honest as possible is refreshing❤❤❤
Thank you! We like keeping it real with y’all
Thank you guys for always always keeping it real❤ You guys are my favorite RUclipsrs!❤❤❤
This is for Matt and Abby
@@UnplannedPodcast Thank you guys for always keeping it real❤ You guys are my favorite RUclipsrs
Girl you gotta drop him😂.. cracking up 😅 love matt and Abby so much!!
You should totally have Sam and Jess on your podcast
Support from the UK❤
I have recently found you guys and you guys are amazing. You have a beautiful family. I really appreciate you guys and all you do, the things y'all talk about. You guys make a better day for me when i am able to tune in and just listen. Thank you guys for doing what you do. Bless your family
I was chuckling at this episode! Abby so glad to see you opened up a little bit ❤
Love love love this podcast!!! Can't get enough of it!! Makes me laugh and smile so much! So real, relatable, & funny!
I literally love you both so much, I love watching your videos !! Thank you guys for all you do ❤
My husband and I coordinate and match all the time, but that's because I purposely fill his closet with things that work with my clothes 😂
I think it’s cute ☺️
This is so cute, I love it. 😂💕
That's a great idea 😂😂😂😂
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Y’all should have Carlo and Sarah on the podcast! That would be so fun
That would be so good! It would be a great interview!
YESS
OMG YES ABSOLUTELY
Omg yes!
My husband and I met online. We met and married within six months and we've been together for eight years with two littles. We are living the best blessed life. ❤
Mine was romantic and unexpected. It was the first time I had ever been to a friends house and my now spouse showed up randomly asking if anyone saw his dad’s phone in the road. It was for sure a God thing.
i rly loved this video, and that you talked about so many different things and seemed to be very honest. I love you two as a couple❤
I felt that I could totally relate to this episode! From the talk about husbands sitting on the toilet too long to just around the corner. You guys are amazing and I love listening to this podcast ! You guys are so genuine and honest. ❤
I enjoyed listening to your podcast it was entertaining,educational,and funny in just one episode.😅
Abby is so smart and kind
For the in law thing it just depends who gets along with their family more. Both my husband and I like his family more they are easier to get along with with less drama so we try to stay with his family more during the holidays. Abbey you have nothing to worry about you will treat your daughter in laws so sweet, as if they are your own kids and they will love spending time with you. The day I met my mil ( I was just dating my now husband) she treated like I was just a part of her family, one of her kids and it has continued through my husband' and mine marriage. My mother in law and I are best friends!!
Such a great podcast today, I found myself wanting an audience to say "see, that's what I mean!!" Thanks dudes, have a great day.
I’m DEAD😂 the bathroom pooping part is so accurate! My husband and I have had this exact conversation. Wow!
Great podcast!!!! Love it.
Thank you for sharing with us.
I felt when Matt says order multiple pairs and Abby replies “you order it” 😂
YEP my "talk" at school was the EXACT experience as Abby's down to the contents of the bag hahahahha
I wholeheartedly enjoy this podcast soooo much! There are so many conversations you have as a couple that seem so taboo to talk about with other people, and you guys have been so honest and open about your own experiences, thoughts, and ideas. It's refreshing to hear 😊 the episode where it's just the two of you are my favorite to watch and I hope to see more ❤❤❤
"Is it the same after having a baby?" This woman just had back to back pregnancies. It took my body 2 years to go back to normal after one single pregnancy. The body needs time to heal.
I loved this episode sooo much! I laughed several times (thank god my husband is a heavy sleeper 😂) and I agree with a lot of the things you discussed here. Now I definitely need the other part where Matt asks Abby juicy questions ❤
I’ve always wanted Abby to do a makeup vid! Please Matt let her know !! & what she uses,,,
I like how Abby switched to a full face of make up during the ad😂❤
She was wearing a full face already on the pod..
The one ad they had just said that they were getting ready for pictures
Your body is not just for your spouses pleasure. A women’s body is designed for child bearing so I feel like Matt should find her more attractive after giving birth because it made him father
My husband and I are 53 , we’ve been together 27 yrs .
We are still very active sexually .
So Matt , you will be happy to know married couples still get lots of sexy time in their 50’s ☺️
And yes the body indeed changes .
But it’s a love nothing like your 20’s .
It’s seriously the most beautiful thing ever ..
Being in love almost 30 yrs :
Knowing you partner and every little thing each other likes .
It’s on another level .
Better than I ever dreamed 😂
💜
He won’t stick around that long
I met my American bf at a nightclub in S. Africa. I was going through a very traumatic time and my best friend and I decided to get a drink to calm me down. Saw him walk in and our eyes met. That very first day, he took me out shopping and meet his American colleagues. Lived at the military base with him for three months before getting posted in the middle east❤very beautiful how some people meet.
You know, I absolutely love you guys, but .. I’m really surprised about Matt’s response to men wanting their women to lose the weight after babies. I’m actually kind of disappointed. Women’s bodies go through a massive transformation. Not all women can get up and exercise five times a week. Most women don’t even have time because their husbands are at work. The fortunate part of your situation is that you both get to be home and Abby’s parents live with you guys which also helps have extra time. You should love your partner whether they are big or small. I’m super disappointed in that response.
Agree!!! I don’t see how she can’t be heartbroken from majority of his answers. It was so sad to watch
Agreed.
i guess you didn’t hear his full response bc he explained that his wife does work out more than other people and to expect a wife to go back to their prebirth body is unrealistic. listen to his full response before criticizing.
@@ellieglasscock5074 I did listen to it. That was still my thought. He can say that it’s unrealistic all he wants, he still said he expects a woman to basically snap back.
I think Matt is extremely creepy and immature, and most likely a sex addict. I feel like even some questions he asks their guests on the podcast are so inappropriate and odd for a strange man to ask.
Matt is lucky Abby chose him. She is a gem.
I completely disagree, Matt is so genuine and sweet and they are perfect for each other
@@stellapalmer6346 Really?! Abby went for the first guy that showed any interest in her. I hope she doesn’t ever regret it.
@@Anna-1937 yeah I think Matt is so sweet and a great dad! Also if I'm not mistaken Abby had a boyfriend before Matt so that not true
matt’s “girl u gotta drop him💅” killed me😂
As someone with a similar build to Abby I would say that the "deflated" look after breastfeeding does not stay. They do return to a full look. Maybe not quite the same as pre pregnancy but not quite as deflated as when you just got done emptying them. I also nursed 2 boys
Met my husband in high school, expecting our first baby in April ☺️ been together 10 years
I love his honesty
Listening to this podcast shows how much dynamics change in the bedroom as you age. I just turned 40 last month and as someone whose been with their spouse since we were teenagers oh my gosh how things change lol
I love your chemistry😊. Literally married to your best friend. Aww
Wow this conversation is so important for all women and men to hear who are in relationships and especially the ones who have gone through birth. Thank you for being honest and sharing your life with us.
You guys are such a great match and couple. 💜
It was so funny in the beginning when you talked amount matching with your partner. My boyfriend and I have been together 7 years and it happens all the time lol. I’ll go over to his house and we are somehow always matching.
First time viewer and I watched the whole thing. I think some of his answers are why girls are afraid to ask men these questions. Especially his response to her saying she feels deflated after breastfeeding and him saying its unappealing... 😬 I must look horrific after breast feeding 4 babies then. Lol. Not my spouse, not my problem, I suppose.
Abby actually appreciates him more when he's honest, so I don't think it's a "problem." I so understand what you're saying, but she literally asked him because she wanted to know. He actually treats her like a queen.
@@carmensamoneyeah, I'm the same as Abby. I ask my partner for brutal honesty. If he says something that hurts my feelings we just talk about it. I feel like sometimes men just say things but they don't word them correctly. My partner will sometimes make a statement about how I look, but the wording comes across negatively when he really didn't mean anything by it at all. Like he'll make a comment about how my tummy looks in a certain outfit, but he means it affectionately because he thinks my tummy is cute. I'm insecure about my tummy, so it makes me feel fat. We have an open conversation about it, he learns how to word his compliment in a way that feels more positive, and I know he thinks my tummy is perfect the way it is. Communication is important in relationships and I feel like people neglect it.
I know your spouse likes to lie
@@kays3873U women don’t take truths very well
i was loving this convo, so interesting.
My oldest son is 9 and I haven’t given him the talk yet but this year he saw a girl at school with a stain and when he got home he asked me about it so I explained periods to him and I was surprised how well he understood and just accepted that girls have periods and it’s normal.
I didn't get postpartum depression thankfully but my relationship died once my partner told me he shouldn't have watched the birth because it grossed him out and couldn't look at me in an attractive way anymore. 😢 So that killed me
I'm so sorry. No woman should go through that. I hope you're doing better now.
cant wait for the podcast with brooklyn and bailey!🩷
Oof I don’t like what he said about you should want to keep looking good for your spouse. You should do things for yourself but also your spouse should love you no matter what. Expecting people to instantly lose wait after giving birth is ridiculous.
I think every parent, both moms and dads use the bathroom as the hiding spot from the kids and the spouse becuase it's the one place we can get absolute quiet space and privacy. My husband does it all the time and I don't even care because I do it too when I get the chance 🤣 like a tiny vacation lol
As a women…obviously periods are gross. Now if your man makes a big deal about it and constantly makes you feel bad for having one that’s a problem but if they just think it’s gross then there nothing wrong or immature about that.
Blood is blood.
as a woman i don’t think periods are gross at all.
@7:15 Matt has never been so wrong in his life 😂😂😂 ask any woman, men have it better when it comes to s*x
Ask any woman
Have you asked any men😂😂😂😂
@@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 I don’t need to ask, the proof is in the pudding
“Why’d you see it written so many times?” Is HILARIOUS 😭
From this podcast, it is evident that the communication between these two off-camera is not working quite well, it gives the sense that they don't know each other quite well.
Suck a great episode, I love the Q and A’s!
Oh and yes, Peace out on the back would be cute because the front is like saying hi and when you turn around it's like saying bye ❤
I met my husband on the first day of a new job. We started the same day, were in the same training group, and got placed at the same location. We were good friends and coworkers for 2 years before we started dating. It can happen anywhere and in any time frame!
The fact that I'm even awake right now to listen to yall is great lol!
You’re just satisfied 😂😂😂 Matt I’m crying laughing
I agree with Abby on manufacturing feelings for men that already like you! It’s attractive to me when a guy is low key obsessed with me! I think it just makes a woman feel secure and safe that the man will only have eyes for them ya know!?
I have said this before but Carlos and Alexa PenaVega would be great guests for you guys! Love the podcast, the guests but also episodes like these where you are sitting talking ❤
I’m crying when she said make sure my clothes stay on when I sleep with my brother and Matt said “that’s so weird.. that you thought that”🤣😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣