Vulnerable conversation with TobyMac about grief and loss.
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- Опубликовано: 23 дек 2024
- What does it feel like to lose someone close to you? TobyMac shares his experience in this vulnerable video.
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I'm ex muslim. Even though my family left and hate me because i receive Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I believe God's word is my strenght. My heart full of peace
Good job Mohammed!!
God Bless you, Sir.
Jesus Loves you so…..much!
Keep praying for your family
Dear Mohammad, I am so thankful to see you here, I’m so thankful to the Lords hand on you. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless and hold you, all in Jesus name...
Sorry about that,proud of you.
While watching this I was overwhelmed with a voice that reminded me that our Lord grieves with us.
I also lost my daughter to overdose at age 20. She left behind a baby boy, my first grandson who was almost 2 years old. I raise him now in my home. Toby you spoke the words of my heart also. I have clung onto God's promises ever since like a life preserver in a stormy sea of grief. I don't think I will ever be the same again but one thing that hasn't changed is God's promises and love for us. He is a promise maker and a promise keeper. I have been praying for your family. God comfort your hearts and give you strength like only He can give.
Sending you a huge hug 🤗🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️
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Monika, sending ❤️ you will never be the same again. It's ok. You have a new normal now. A different way of thinking.
True and amen sister Monika
@J C within Heavens Gates blessed me and helped me through grief after losing my little sister ❤️ today is the 5 year anniversary of her burial. #17 Victory over the Grave
My husband and I lost our 3 children in a car accident 23yrs ago. It hurts every day but God is my comfort. Knowing they are with Him and they are experiencing joy I can’t even understand helps me every day. They were 5and 6yrs old. I still don’t understand but God doesn’t promise we will just that He will be there even when we don’t.
Wow, thank you for sharing. I can't imagine. I hope to meet you and see you rejoined to them in heaven
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This should say two children not three. I thank you for your kind words.
I'm so sorry
You have my deepest sympathy. I cant even imagine your grief.. even as my own family is deeply broken over the recent loss of my sister’s son to c19 at age 41. He was a very admirable Christian man - a major in the army and the worship leader at their church. He leaves behind a wife and two young sons, 12 and 9. Today is the 4 month anniversary of his passing and ive been crying on and off all day. That said, a loss as devastating as yours is a reminder that Gods grace is sufficient through the deepest valleys imaginable. God bless.
"Leaving this earth early isn't necessarily a rip off"
Truth!
Only in the Lord’s time. God bless you.
I loved that line too.
This earthly life is but a speck of time compared to eternity..it's our only opportunity to either receive God or reject him which will ultimately determine where we spend eternity.
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That’s one thing I’ve been realizing in my own grief. I’ll get sad thinking about my sister no longer being here but then I remember where she is. And I get a little envious of her 😂 I can’t imagine how amazing it is to marvel at God and Heaven where there’s no more sadness or pain. She’s living it up right now.
Hello Toby.
After hearing about the passing of your son,
Got me prepared.
I lost my twin son Caleb age 26 as a passenger in a car accident June 21 2020.... he knew the Lord. I found his Bible as I was cleaning Caleb's room after his death and on the inside of the Bible cover, Caleb wrote his dedication of his life to Christ Jesus....Caleb gave his life to Christ Jesus!
To God be the Glory.....Conformation from the Lord is a real thing...
Thank you Jesus...
Thank you Toby...
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Amen Glory to God! Love this. God is so good, that he gave you that confirmation and comfort. May God keep giving you strength and his Peace .❤
Keep that chin up
I just prayed for you. May God bless you and keep you. Thank you Jesus for shepherding Caleb into your flock before he left this earth.
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“I don’t know if I’ll ever smile deeply again”.
I feel the same
Same
I'm wondering the same thing after losing my 37 year old son ( of 3) 7/12/2021.
I'm so sorry ❤I hope everything to get better for you and the other persons in this situation ❤️ never give up!
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I feel that way after losing my son April 11,2024 forever 37
I can totally relate, had a 6 month old son that died many years ago. Then, my husband died of ALS in 2015, my Mom who was my best friend died in 2017 and my Dad died in 2018. The only thing that got me through was reading the Bible and prayer.
Wow. My goodness you have endured so much. I'm so sorry for all of your pain. What a testiment of your faith- pushing in and clinging to the word of God. Hang in there ❤
Sending prayers and love your way. So sorry to hear of the many losses you have experienced. Praying God sends you a little more joy today.
Amen!
God Bless and Be with you!❤
Praying
The sadness of losing a child is insurmountable grief. Soul crushing. Parents should never outlive their children. I know, I have.
Never think it can't happen to your child. That's what I thought, until I lost my son. Talk to your kids about the danger of drugs!
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ I'm glad that you're a great person and you keep going, and the same goes for anyone else in this situation ❤
To anyone reading this: you are extremely loved, keep holding on ❤
You too ❤️
@@LoBrookeMusic 😭 thank you!
Losing a child is the worst earthly grief imaginable. Nothing compares. My heart was prepared years before we lost our first, very special grandchild. God had a strong hold on us, and didn't let go, even though I felt like I had let go of Him. I felt alone and abandoned, and even today, 16 years later, the pain is there and real, but we are in God's grace, in His hands.
“The pain you’ve been feeling cannot compere to the joy that is coming” Romans 8:18
thank u for this reminder 🥰
Amen🙏📜📖💕
I have this scripture on a picture and helps
omg what joy.
Thank you for sharing God is with you and God bless us all
Thank you for being honest in saying it hurts every single day. Some days more than others. If you had said "the pain is not there every day" I would not have continued to listen. It's a loss you CANNOT recover from. Very inspiring at the end when you say you see your son saying "if only you could see how this whole thing works". All I can focus on, is MY SON IS NOT WITH ME!!!! WHERE IS HE?????? The pain feels unsurvivable. Yet, here I am. I am Christian but so angry at God that I cannot feel comfort. I feel robbed and forsaken. Every breath I take without Branson here, hurts. It's been two years. Thank you for sharing your story ❤. I'm so sorry for your loss 🕊️
😢 ❤ 🙏 🕊 prayers to every single one of you who have lost a child or children 🙏 ❤ 💙 😢 the stories 🙏 are abundant and he knows every single one of their names 🙌
Toby...I am so sorry for your loss. I too am navigating the waters of grief for two of my loves...my husband Paul July 23 2019, and son Taylor Aug 5th 2021. Paul had many health issues and was also a stroke survivor. Taylor was killed by a drunk driver while attending Tech School for the Air Force in Mississippi. Without the Lord in my life, I could not do it. I am so thankful that both of my guys are enjoying the wonders of Heaven with their Heavenly Father and those who have gone on before them. May God's grace and peace be abundant for us both.💕
Drunk driving is outrageous. I am so sorry you have suffered both of these losses of men you love ❤.
@@kimalonzo3363 thank you so much. Yes, driving under the influence is totally preventable. This man destroyed two lives and devastated many. 😔
How 💔! May you be comforted, healed, blessed & provided for in every way, Stephanie🙏
@@stephanielabrier6226 I am so sorry, and I am praying, Stephanie.😢🙏
@@kimalonzo3363 wow you’re one strong mama, my heart goes out to you 😭❤️
I lost my 30 year old son to fentanyl on Good Friday 2024…I will never be the same. God, please comfort me! This is a pain that I never wish on anyone!
I’m really sorry about your loss. I lost my 30-year-old sister to a car crash and my best friend to blood cancer in a four month span. We will definitely pray for you.
So very sorry for your loss.
I lost my 30 yr old son to fentanyl OD last week.
@@cam94keith96 you are in my prayers
@@chaosinorder9685 as I will pray for you
I lost my precious only son at 33 years old to a fentanyl overdose. He was my only child. 😢
My 12 year old daughter took her life April 13, 2024. Thank you for sharing your story. I know God is with us in this pain.
Why did she???
God bless her memory today and always. I am so sorry for your loss. Just know I see you, I hear you, and so does God. 🙏❤️
Prayers❤
I cannot even grasp this loss! 😢
@@DA4OSU why you cannot grasp???
Grief of losing a child is unlike any thing I never thought existed. Thank you sir. I am so sorry. But GOD
My son was murdered last year April 23,2023. My faith is most definitely tested since then. Please pray my son gets justice. Thank you. Prayers and healing and comfort i pray finds you, my heart goes out to you
My only son was just murdered 6/19/24 I pray both of our sons get justice
I imagine so. Thats the worst sort of pain. I pray for strength in the battle, peace in the storm. God is holding on to you if you are His. Its not about how you feel but how you think that most matters. Our feelings a real and some or put on us by darkness. Believe God and doubt the devil. I tell myself this alot. Its a battle. God Bless you deeply.
My son was murdered May 29,2024 my was tested I prayed while he was in ICU and when he coded I didn’t know how to approach God anymore. God is with me during the storms brings me out I still trust him no matter what even while having no understanding of the reason why? My faith is not shook my heart is broken and I’m standing in his presence cause I can’t do grief ALONE! God bless you mama! 🙏
My 19 year old son was murdered on September 30, 2024 in my driveway by a demon he didn’t know, who held his own two year old baby on his hip as he unloaded a gun into my innocent son. I held my baby, Cash, as he died. He was a light to the world. He touched so many. There were 2500 people at his funeral. He cared about everyone. He died protecting me and his 6 year old brother. I’m undone by trauma and anguish. This video helps a little. As much as anything can right now. 💔
@shanbogaudio I'm sorry to hear this my prayers are with you for strength and peace
What is so reassuring as a Christian is, It's not goodbye, it's see you later. Praying for you and your family. From Texas.
Amen 🙏
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That’s what my grandpa always said and today’s his birthday!! He left us for heaven a few years ago. Thank you. 🙏🏼❤️
Well, let’s pray they see each other again. Not EVERYbody chooses the narrow path. Some will hear ‘depart from me. I never knew you, you workers of lawlessness.’
@@jspyrogram yes this! It’s comforting if you lost a close Christian friend, but even harder when if your friend didn’t choose Jesus
36 years ago my oldest child, Katie, died unexpectedly from a ruptured cerebral aneurysm. She had celebrated her 13th birthday just six weeks before she died. Two weeks before she died, she developed her personal shield as a Social Studies assignment. The shield had to contain a personal motto. She Drew a banner flying from the top of her shield with three words on it.
NEVER GIVE UP.
Katie's motto has become our family motto. Never Give Up on God's mercy, love, and compassion. Never Give Up on family and friends. Never Give Up on yourself. Never Give Up on life.
My oldest grandson son surprised all of us the day of his college graduation when processing in with his fellow graduates, wearing his cap and gown, he had ironed on to the top of his mortar board, NEVER GIVE UP - Katie Wulf.
I cried through the whole ceremony. Not tears of grief but tears of love. NEVER GIVE UP.
The hole in your heart will never go away, but you can learn to live with it. You will be able to laugh, really laugh and enjoy life again because the love we share never dies, it transcends and transforms. It NEVER GIVES UP.
God shows us through loss how precious love is. It hurts but I thank Him everyday for the time. your story of your daughter and grandson is beautiful. What matters more than this
Hugs
Oh wow!!! How powerful (full of power). Thank you for being vulnerable, it brings glory to God and tears to me relating to suffering about death, "but God" and to "never give up" on that
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I needed to hear that.
My son died 3 weeks ago also from a deep brain aneurysm. He had been 22 for 1 day. Trusting God's plan is special for each of us keeps me going everyday. I still wish I knew why my baby. We donated his organs which makes me feel a little more at peace sometimes. His life ended dec 31 but someone else lives on because of his healthy heart, liver and kidneys. Maybe he was preparing his whole life just to save someone else.
We just lost our son on Dec 24th, he was 20. There is no pain like this...
Oh no. That is awful. He was so young. Christmas Eve will never be the same for you but that goes for every day now. I am so sorry you lost your son. ❤
December 13, 2019 we lost our 25 year old son. It seems like yesterday on one hand and forever since I hugged him on the other. It’s terrible. There are no words
Just hold onto Jesus
This life is short. He is coming soon. I’m so so sorry that you are going through this. Jesus is our only hope. Our hearts will never be healed this side of heaven 💔🙏🏻
@@iamhis5580 Thank you...you're right on all points, on every single one. as your name says....I am His too. I am so sorry you have to go through this too. Some days it seems unbearable for me and my wife will be my help then it seems we switch. This is so very hard.
Hi Chris! I am so sorry to hear about your son. I too lost my son, Dusty (18yrs old), on November 8, 2019 in a horrific car crash. That pain, that very unique pain of losing a child that is beyond any human description, is something that nobody should ever have to endure. You could lose your spouse, parents, siblings, best friends and every other member of your family, but the pain that comes with losing a child is just unfathomable until you actually have lost a child yourself. There is NO comparison! I do not believe there is any darker, agonizing pain than this apart from losing multiple children. (Please nobody think I am saying one pain matters more than the other! I am just trying to help Chris understand how different this pain is compared to anything ever felt before) With that being said, i remember so many good intentioned comments about how painful and life ending it was were very discouraging for me. It made me feel like there was no hope! So I just want to take a minute to say, yes, this is the worst pain that exists. No, it does not ever go away. BUT, it will not be as "agonizing" one day. That feeling of "I just do not want to live anymore" believe it or not (as hard as it is to believe right now for you) eventually falls to the background. It is a very long, slow process. But it does happen...as long as you ALLOW it to happen. There are those that refuse to allow themselves to be happy ever again. There are some that refuse to search with all they have for even just a glimpse of light. If you are one of those, then the pain will rule you forever and you will never truly be happy again. However, if you search and search until you feel like there is no hope, and then keep searching some more & more. You will find that one day you aren't getting "beat up too bad" as Toby said. Then you will have another day that you aren't beat up that bad. Then another one later on. Then another one and another one. Until you start to feel a little relief. That is when you start learning that as painful as it is, there is a way to live again after such agony. I am still not "healed" from losing my boy! I never truly will be, I know that. But I am learning how to be happy again slowly but surely. Everyday is new and different. Not one day goes by that I do not miss and think about my boy. But I think the same exact thing about my son that Toby said he thinks about his son... "Mom, if you only knew! You have no idea what everything is all about. Don't be sad for me! I am better than I would have ever been before. You just wait until you see what I see!" One day we will all see the same thing and look back and say "if we only knew!" Stay strong and know that you can be happy again one day. It is going to feel like eternity, but it will happen. Prayers for you!
@@amberrhoads4892 Thank you Amber, I will share this with my wife and children. Thank you
I lost my 21-year-old son to suicide in 2020, and I am grateful to this man for sharing his grief so openly with the public. We will see our boys again!! ❤🙏
God Father surround Joan and her family with YOUR peace.
@@jodiwitt-bailey1791 amen..sad to hear what happened to joan..her son must have been in a lot pain..i say this sadly cause i stupidly tried to take myself out in oct last year...but the lord got me through it...stay strong all.
@@nickbjones8833 I'm here if you need any help brother.
@Tathan Bailey thanks for your kind words. Got a lot going on but I know that the lord will get me through it
I too lost my 21 year old son to suicide in 2021. My only child. Very painful. I hope to see him again some day, but maybe they are with us spiritually and I am learning to live with being ok with my loss or change in faith. I wish you the very best and so very sorry for your loss.
Grief 😔....lost brother suicide
Lost sister cancer ♋️
Lost daddy cancer
Lost my wife divorce
Be strong in the Lord
God bless you
I'm so, so sorry.
Wow :( Godspeed
Im very sorry for your losses.
So sorry about your losses.
I always think of the virgin Mary who lost her son, three days later, she was singing praises, because she knew he was still alive..and that's where your son is, with our savior, and that's where we all want to be.
Mr Mac, I'm sincerely sorry for the loss of your son. I lost my middle son at age 34, in 2017 leaving my only grandson. Then again lost my eldest son at age 39 in 2022. I'm super heart broken, tho my Jesus loves me so I know I am blessed. My heart is hurting but it have to keep moving forward. I have my only b grandson from my son that passed in 2017, he is now 13yrs. He's such a blessing.
The grief that you feel now can never touch the joy that you will feel when you reunite with your son in our father’s home.
This person is not dismissing grief by any means. It sounds to me like they are saying that once he reunites with his son, there will be so much joy, and the grief at that time will be gone. The bible does say that there will be no sorrow or grief in heaven. As Toby says here, everyone goes through grief differently. So to someone, what this person said, it might help them through their grief. Please don't put others down. Try to lift them up. I have gone through and am still going through a lot of grief. Grief doesn't have to be just the death of someone you loved or knew, which I have had my fair share, but it can also be for other things. I pray that you are able to get through your grief as well as you can and that you lean not on your own understanding of things, but lean on God's! Love Always, Renae.
@@renaebrown8897 that is exactly what I'm saying. I lost the 2 closet people in my life within a year each other. By trusting and believing what the Lord says got me through and I am looking forward to reuniting with them.
@@minnettewalker2623 💞
How this thing all works is well said. I agree. There is a master plan Help me God
@tahoe twilight please don’t make a loss of a loved one, make your heart bitter towards others. That’s not what your husband would have wanted from you.
I lost my 21 year old son unexpectedly in 2015. Fairly early on in my grieving process God reminded me of Psalms 34:18: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." From that moment on I knew that God was by my side. Like you said, God doesn't save you from the cold, he is in the cold with you. It is somehow comforting to know that you have held on to the same promise that I have. Thank you for sharing! God bless you!
Thank you for sharing this. I needed to hear this today.
God's Love is real. He strengthens the broken hearts with His Love and care. We have eternal life with God.
I go to church with a lady who lost her son about 8 months ago and she is so devastated. She can't speak of him without crying. I truly cannot imagine the pain of losing a child. It has to be unlike any other loss you could imagine. Prayers for peace for Toby Mac and his wife.
His last statement, "I didn't know God stayed close during those times," is so meaningful to me. When I was diagnosed with cancer in 2008, I remember wondering if God would stay close to me, a very imperfect follower of Christ. Of course, He did and I now have wonderful memories of that difficult time.
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Shalom sister, He is Faithful. God Bless you!!!
You dont have to be perfect. And you don’t follow him. You believe in him and his word. RUclips pastor Richard Jordan. And stick with him for a couple years. RUclips message of grace. Same pastor. Just believe
I got a phone call from the VA informing me that I had tested positive for cancer. My 1st thought was they were wrong or kidding. I wanted them to be wrong so badly, but they weren’t wrong. I HAD cancer, the big “C” word. My 2nd thought was, OK God, how are WE going to get through this together? I put my faith in God to get me through everything. Not only did I survive cancer. But a blood bacteria and a stroke too. God was with me through everything.
@@natefaust7790 I am so happy for you! As the world gets more insane and depraved each day, it's wonderful to know we can trust God to help us through whatever we may face. I'm fully expecting persecution if Jesus doesn't take us out of here soon.
When my son was dying, you were kind enough to speak to him on the phone and he put it on RUclips 11/2011 conversation with Toby Mac and Mikie B. Thank You!
Jesus thank you for what you did for M B and for their son and for Toby Mac and please help these broken hearts please help them Jesus we pray, have mercy and help. . .
What a Huge surprise & Blessing to your son I bet. Big time hugs sending your way sweet child of God your🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Could you link it?
@@levernis5753 ruclips.net/video/LQdnS1ozv90/видео.html
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Thank you for this! I lost my 20 yo son to Fentanyl poisoning in 2021. I believe that I will have joyful moments throughout the rest of my life but I will never again have a joyful life.
My oldest son is homeless, addict, and schizophrenic. He started “acting out” age 12, using, running away from home. He is a believer! He accepted Christ age 5. This year he is in a mental hospital and on meds, more clear than he has been. He told me he will be with me in heaven because he knows Jesus. I am so grateful for this! I am sad about him but I love him and trust God. I’m sorry about your son. Thank you for sharing.
Hugs to you Toby, my 21 yr old Son passed in my husband's arms at work. He was electrocuted. He brought him back 3 times. Then he stopped Breathing 2 times at the hospital. He chose to be an organ donor. We honored his wishes. I have learned to trust God, and find the good in every bad situation. God orchestrated something beautiful.. He used my Son Draven to save 4 people. A 56 yr old woman received His heart, A 57 yr old man his liver, a 34 yr old woman his kidney and a 26 yr old female his other kidney. Wonderful stories of life and love through Christ. I'm so honored to be Dravens Mom.
The day after Preston passed, my husband was awaken around 2am by my son and a Angel. He told my husband “this place is beautiful, I see fish and my dog and it’s just awesome Dad!!” Then he was gone.
Wow, reading that gives me a lot of hope.
That is so beautiful
I am praying that the God of all comfort will give you strength to continue in faith. I understand that in the loss of a child, the pain never truly goes away. But I caution you to test visions. Not all of them are of God. (1 Jn 4:1-3) I'm concerned because in your husband's there is no mention of the best thing about heaven: God's full, indescribable glory. I have watched family members abandon Christ himself to chase visions and dreams. Please be careful.
wow that's awesome thanks for encouragement
I had the exact same dream a week after my sister died. It was just as real as speaking to someone in person. It changed my life and my perspective of the afterlife from that moment.
I lost my son to suicide 2/14/2019. The most terrible thing a parent can face is losing a child. The grief does come in waves. At work the other day a co-worker who does not even have kids told me that I’m stuck in grief and I have to let him go. It really made me angry because she’s got no idea of what it feels like. She didn’t know me before I lost my son, or when I lost him to see how far I’ve come since. She just wouldn’t shut up about it. Thank God the phone rang so the conversation would end. People who haven’t gone through this have no right to tell someone how to grieve and when to stop. I will never stop grieving for my child.
I lost my daughter to suicide on 6/30/2022, just over a yr ago. And I feel every way you said. My grief comes in waves and has hit me like an avalanche the 3 months leading up to the 1 yr anniversary. Not to mention Mother's day just a couple months ago. I am now seeing a counselor because I finally realized I need someone outside my friends and family to talk to. They can't help me anymore thru this. I try to turn it over to God, but it is really harder than it sounds. It's almost like I've been keeping my grief all to myself like it's my little baby or something, I don't know. But, I am finally trying now to reach out beyond myself to get through this, as much as I can. Ik I am changed forever and will never go back to the person I once was. The journey of grief lasts forever when you've lost a part of yourself, your child. I hope we both can get to a place where we can find peace again in our "new normal" that we must live in now...
Don't engage with to these insensitive people.
How abhorrent of her to say that to you. I lost my Beloved son Erek 28 yr. I understand sadly & carry the same horrific Grief of losing my son. My sweet Erek I miss u..
Sending u light....🕯🕯
@@gingerbee6719I am so sorry 😢. Nothing takes the pain away of losing a child.
The never laughing as hard or smiling as big as before... that got me. Sweet Sam has been gone 5 years, 3 months and 2 days. Haven't been the same. I know where my son is and with his loss I lost the innocent part of myself that didn't "know" grief. I know it now. One day we'll reunite but until then, I'm a changed person.
Thank you Toby, raised my kids on you (12 kids) and still to this day.
Truly sad..he is a wonderful performer..but on the other hand..grief is hard..I hope he can laugh really hard again someday..amen
I lost my grandchild his parents divorced n then my husband I show this video to my recently widower friend. yes! it's true he said we will never smile nor laugh fully again. My heart go to u Toby I'm very sorry. ur not alone can't stop my tears
Woah!! 12 beautiful children! That’s a huge blessing. God bless you ma’am and may the rest of your days be strong in the Lord regardless what happens in life ❤️🙏🏾
God bless you. Either your smile and laughter will return in glory, bigger and more joyful and more pure than in your "lost innocent" days; or it will be replaced by something even greater and more glorious. No eye has seen, no ear has heard, ...
It changes you forever ❤
Toby, God doesn’t just stay with you through your hard times, he carries you through them. Praying for you and your family.
I lost my youngest daughter on July 21. I wouldn’t wish this pain on anyone.
My oldest son William died on July 11th 5old of cancer,he was 35 year's old, and as Tony said the grief comes in waves,my son accepted Jesus over the phone,my last conversation with him.
what a wonderful comfort that he was born again. The worst pain would be losing a loved one who was not a follower of Christ.
“God promised us never leave us or forsakes us…”♥️
I’ve lost my only child at sweet 16 to childhood cancer. Your words were a blessing to me and I’m sharing, knowing it may help others. God bless you always.
I’m so very sorry💔
You made me cry
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Hi Deborah I lost my only child at 8 years old from cancer in 2010. She would be going on 20 years old how time flies . I'll probably never be the same person I was , but I can laugh and smile again . It is the worst feeling that I have ever had to go through. Only the ones that have witnessed this pain can honestly know how it feels. I couldn't get through this on my own. I had to beg God to help me get through this , and he did . He let me be able to talk and share with other people my loss and offer to help them by talking if they choose too. God and time is how I'm making it through this life . One day , one month , one year etc. Is the only way . Stay strong
My heart has a special place for childhood cancer moms/families. My cousin's son, Charlie, battled Stage 4 high-risk neuroblastoma at the age of 4. He's a survivor but will deal with the long-term side effects of his treatments all of his life. Another friend's son, Jake, battled the same cancer and passed away at the age of 6. It makes no sense. The families who have put their trust in the Lord have a faith that sustains them through their dark valleys. I can't even begin to imagine the struggle. My prayers are with you all.
I lost so many but thank God he never lost me ❤ God bless all those who lost their hearts
I resonate with the “I don’t know if I’ll ever laugh as deeply”.. I struggle with finding the same laughter I had before loss and grief.
That’s great
I dont know that I will ever laugh as deeply. My grief raw, 11 days ago my son passed at 32 years old. It is a raging storm of pain, thank you for sharing your story. Noone should have to endure this.
You are such an encouragement TobyMac. I lost my only son Aaron (24) just last year on April 29, 2021. I prayed for him daily. I prayed for the Prodigal to come home. …God heard my prayers. Your song 21 years. In the light means a lot. Aaron actually means “One of Light”Thank you!
I prayed for my boy too...and God did the ultimate healing and took him home. His ways are not our ways. As hard as it is, I know that God loves my son more than I ever could. We will be reunited one day.
My daughter committed suicide on September 5, 2019. It still hurts a lot, but God and time heals all wounds:) Let Go and Let God!
Amen.
I understand the pain. My Son committed Suicide, January 7th 2022. He left a wife and 3 Children. GOD is seeing us through.
@@victorjohnson5766 so so sorry. God-bless you. So sorry for both of you.
I am very sorry for your loss. No parent should feel this devastation and pain xoxo
@@victorjohnson5766 I am very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you xoxo
Toby thank you for recording this video. My family has been grieving since 5-23-20. Our son passed away while serving in the Marine Corps. He was raised a Christian. Loved America. He told us God wanted him to be a Marine. It was the safest place he could be because of it. He went to Christian school from 3-18yrs old. Enlisted and became a Marine. The first year he went through Reconnaissance training that was 5-6 months long. He made it to the last month. He was removed from the platoon. He never told us the whole story. He kept moving forward. Tried to do infantry. But it wasn't enough for him. He made sniper training team (only two men out of his group made the cut). He had just made it through the first phase. It was May of 2020 and we were planning to see him for 4th of July. He was going to Kuwait on deployment in Oct. We received a call May 23 (Memorial Day weekend) that our son died of a fetanyl overdose. Shocked with unbelief we could not breathe. His fiance (wedding date 9-18-21), her father, myself and my youngest waited until we could gather the rest of our family to break the news to them. Our lives have never been the same. One thing I do ask God to help me through is reaching the 4 men and 1 woman that are indicted for the crime of distributing to him (a case that has went on for 20 months). I want to give them the hope of salvation that Jesus wants us all to have. I want to let them know that whatever their past looks like they can have much better future IN HIM. He has been helping me pray but I want to meet them and give them that message. I pray that we see our sons very soon. I have the hope of our savior returning for us and I can't help but look forward to the catching up first of those that went before us. Receiving their glorious bodies. Then the church still residing on this earth to meet up with them and getting our glorified bodies. Heaven is my home. I just stay here listening to who God wants me to talk to about His love. It's the best kind of love. You have put into words what was in my heart. I could not get that out. You have really made it clear. There is no promise going on in life without anything tragic or challenging happening. But we do have a promise that He is right here with us through every single thing. Holding us. Love you and your family.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. People do not understand that God's ultimate victory is to rise above a situation, by His grace and strength and for that other guilty party to be saved and the victory and glory to go to God for His mercy to all of us! None of us "deserve" Heaven or God's mercy, but He chooses to give it because of His unconditional love! God bless you for being wise enough to recognize this and go on forgiving and loving in spite of your loss!
My sweet baby boy Nick went to Heaven last year on October 21, 2023. This video is saved to my "Remembering Nick" Playlist. It's so true, good, beautiful. God Bless Toby Mac!😊
I lost my wife and best friend since high school in late 2019. Like you, I thought I understood grief and loss until it happened to me. I've come to the realization I will always be in love with my wife Pam, but now it's a long distance relationship with her in heaven and me here on earth. It's nowhere close to satisfying but until God calls me home I'll keep putting one foot in front of the other and where I can, help others thru their grief journey.
I also lost my son. He was 27. He was beautiful. Reading all of these comments and seeing how many other parents out there went through what I did is heartbreaking. We will all rejoice in the Day we see them again. What a day that will be. I think about it all the time.
I lost my brother when he was 27..I was 25. It is so hard...4 years have gone by but my heart longs to see him. As life goes on, heaven is more appealing so I can be there with him! Yet I am still young and it's hard to be so joyful in being a mom while missing him.
you will see them whole again!
My daughter was 37, it will be 2 years this august. I think of her always but have difficulty talking about her, I avoid it, I don’t want to face it. I miss her, I miss me, heartbreak can be all consuming at times.
I needed this, my husband and I lost our 6 month old baby boy on 4/24/22 which is also my husband’s birthday. Today makes two weeks since he went back to heaven, I’m devastated and don’t understand why God didn’t physically heal our baby boy. Lord I need your peace, I need the strength to keep going to see you get the glory out of my broken heart.
Oh Aubrey, I am so sorry for your loss-I can’t even imagine… May Gods spirit bring comfort in the way only he can 💕
I don't know the lose of a child but I can tell you that death of my Mom 79 n Sister 59 n Brother 57 all in 2 weeks from "covid" pnemonia is grief off the charts. I get through it all with prayer and supplication and GOSPEL music and ALOT OF HEALING TEARS and NO .....time will not heal my heart either.
@@KashaBriea Thank you for such encouraging words. The Holy Spirit truly is a comforter as he spoke through you at a time when I needed him most. What would have been my son Israel's 1st birthday is approaching on 10/17 and these past couple of weeks the grief has hit me like an avalanche. If I could use one word to describe how I've been feeling it would be disappointed. After being in this world for only 2 days my baby boy Izzy contracted Necrotizing Enterocolitis (NEC). He fought for 189 days in the NICU until he went back to heaven. I fasted, prayed, and gave God back his word and he didn't come through in the way I THOUGHT he would or should. When reading your post I felt a sense of comfort because I know everything the Holy Spirit inspired you to say is true. I've known these things about our Wonderful and Sovereign God all along, I just needed to be reminded of them. Our ways are not his ways. I needed to be reminded that if it was the Fathers will, Izzy would have been healed. We are not to give thanks for all things, but IN all things and so I praise God for the time I was allowed with Izzy. I praise God because ALL things work together for the Good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Yes, Izzy and your sweet Maverick are in their glorified bodies. They are in the arms of Jesus where there is no more pain, no more suffering. The Lord is faithful to see us through and we will see them again soon. You are in my prayers.
Be careful of the anger. After I lost my daughter I became so angry. Still have some but I don’t want to be angry anymore
I have been lost for over three months now after the unexpectant passing of my 33 year old daughter. The grief and pain is overwhelming. I have been searching for answers, searching for an understanding, a perspective that I did not know or to validate what I now think and believe. This search has brought me here to listen to TobyMac's loss. I wept when I heard the words "God promised us that he would never leave us or forsake us." I truly believe that as I feel the strength given to me to overcome the grief when I pray and ask for strength. My thoughts are now cemented ... the Lord came to my daughter while she was peacefully asleep, smiled and filled her heart with overwhelming love. The Lord put his hand out and said "come with me" whereby she willingly took his hand and went with the Lord to Heaven. The only comfort I have is that I know she is there with the Lord and I will see her when my time comes...... Thank you TobyMac for sharing it meant a lot to hear what you had to say. Also, to all that have shared your loss, may you find peace through prayer.
I understand his PAIN. I lost my twin brother when we were kids, we were so identical only my mum the one who could tell us apart. After he passed my FATHER and though I have no hate toward him, for I understood why, my dad hated seeing me because I was a constant reminder of my baby brother.
I had one job, to keep my baby brother safe and I failed. Long story short my parents separated after that. So when I got sick and went through cancer, I didn’t quit and decided to go through the treatment for my mum, only because I didn’t want her to go through another PAIN of burying me.
Thank God he is the strength he gives us to keep going forward ur not alone in your pain
As a dad to two girls...
There is hardly a day that goes by when my heart doesn't skip a beat when crazy random thoughts fly through my head about something happening to one of them. It takes my breath away and I immediately pick up the phone and call them...and if they don't answer immediately I almost have a panic attack....but then when they pick up the phone and say, "Hey, Daddy"...I almost cry from relief. I guess being a parent means you'll always worry and love your children...even when they're grown.
I'm so sorry for your loss. No parent should ever bury his/her child.
This right here. The fear of being a parent and not being able to imagine life without them is my greatest fear.
God bless
I used to feel the same.. That is why 3 months ago when I got the call. They didn't have to say much for me to slam the phone down and try not to listen because ........ I actually got the call. It was a stranger on the other line saying that they had what remained of my son.. It was a car accident. Twenty six years old. Search a beautiful young man.💦.. My baby. My baby boy . . God's timing. He☝️ will see me thru.🙏💥
@@Go2God My heart sinks reading this. I cannot fathom. Truly I can't. Takes my breath away. Even think of it. In fact, my mom just entered hospice and it's been horrible. This week. The thought of losing my child would potentially be too much for me. I know that God says he would never give us any more than we can handle though. I'll never understand the meaning behind things like this, but I know that God feels pain, too. After all, he allowed his only child to be treated inhumanely, tortured, and eventually murdered. He is all powerful and he could have stopped it with only a whisper. However, he allowed it to happen. I could never allow my child to go through anything terrible. It just goes to show how much God loves us. I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you.
We lost our sweet son in Iraq - it’s taken a very very long time to find pure joy again- but it does happen 💓
I’m sorry for your loss and thank you for his service
I am so sorry for your loss. I am forever grateful for the ultimate sacrifice your son made and I do not take my freedom for granted. Truly our nations finest and most courageous.
I am so sorry for your loss and I am sincerely thankful for his service. God bless you hun 🇺🇸❤️
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@@realpocahontas1776 Amen 🙏
God promised us that if we mourn, we will be comforted, and that weeping may last for the night, but joy will come in the morning.
Like TobyMac I had never known grief before as I know it now. I have known the profound sadness that comes with losing a loved one, but to become acquainted with the grief that comes with losing a child is something completely incomprehensible. Our community, our precious bubble is what has kept us breathing, kept our heads above water. The waves that he mentions come without warning. They are chaotic. They are catastrophic and they hurt. Physically hurt. Our special people have stood in the gap. They have guarded our hearts, protected us from those who are curious and have prayed for us because, as the Lord knows, we are finding it hard right now to do that. I only have one prayer and that can never be answered. Six months down this treacherous road the shock that kept us numb is wearing off and the pain is intensifying even more. This is something I didn’t expect. Grief is a fickle process, a horrible necessity and it can be very, very cruel.
I lost my first born, son Christopher of 31 years on the 4th of July in 2020. Only 3 years after losing my first born Daughter from a previous marriage, Hailey at 20 years old. Only God alone, could get me through such a devastating time in my life, and He did. But I thank those who were by my side, even if for a moment, even if just passing by. And I Thank You Toby for your music relating to that grief, it has helped and lifted my spirit in times of need, even today. 🙏🏼✌🏼❤️
Prayers for Toby and his family. I can't imagine the pain :(
I am living this pain lost my 26 yr old daughter in 2015 car accident i will not say time will heal all wounds that would be telling a lie but what i will say God will heal all wounds in time. Still to this day i am still hurting and cry memories is all we have to hold onto my heart goes out to you 🖤We have joined a club we never signed up for The Club Of Grieving Parents🖤
@@cheriewells8786The Club of grieving parents, yep. God be with you, Cherie. I'm sorry, and I'm praying.
Amen
Losing my little brother has been the hardest trial of my life but seeing our Dad hurting so deeply even as a Christian hurts me the most. Mom has Dementia and hasn't been told but some how she knows one of her children has passed away and how. We all say to one another, how do non believers get through this? 💔
I'm so sorry. Please remember that Jesus loves you! And I love you too! One day Jesus will wipe all the tears from your eyes. I promise you!
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So sorry for your loss. God only knows! If I didn’t know that God was beside my family and I, we wouldn’t be able to cope with the passing of my brother. I just wish my parents would pull close to Jesus the way that I have. Some use other vices like alcohol or food. When people struggle with memory issues, such as myself, I wholeheartedly believe they cope in their own way, without their families knowledge.
I have short-term memory loss as one of the aftermaths of a stroke after brain surgery.
I know it’s not the same circumstance, but whether or not you’re aware, you’re brother is an Angel watching over you and your family! God Bless!
@@samanthafrancis8159 So sorry for your loss! The day after I got home I woke up and looked out the sliding doors and saw an Angel plain as day in the sky right in front of my eyes with a fish tail. We called our littlest brother Fishy Kev. I wish I could show you the picture. For me that was God telling me Kevin made it to Heaven and he is always with us. So many signs since then have been presented. God is so good! May you be blessed in every way possible. 🙏❤🥰
@@rachellharlan2435 Thank you so much! God bless! ❤️
Drugs, that's the culture the enemy has made so available to kids and lost adults. We will keep ur dad in prayer. Sometimes we just need 1 answer from God to comfort us. Hopefully he can watch this video.
We lost my little brother Isaac. He was 25 to an over dose like Toby’s son. I miss him everyday. It’s been 9 months I cry daily still. He was a bright light full of life and love but also struggles with addiction. Knowing he’s in heaven healed from his bondage is the only peace I have.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. Remember he is in heaven sitting with Jesus Christ a beautiful Angel Blessings😇🙏✝️👼🙌
I also lost a child, my daughter Billie-Jo she passed over at the tender age of 8 months.
I saw the angels come for her that morning. I grieved rawly for 12 years crying every day.
Until I eventually as the Lord back into my heart.
I haven't cried any tears for 2years now ❤❤❤ praise the Lord..He fixed my broken heart..I will see my little girl again someday but until then I'll serve the Lord whatever way he needs me 🙏
Our cousin, as close as a sister, lost her husband to Covid this morning. He left behind a sweet wife, and three young children. I can't believe it happened to them, ater all they've already been through. She's clinging to God, but it hurts.
Praying hard for all of you ❤ Just remember He always has a plan.
I lost my husband to Covid in aug (2021) … just over 4 months ago … the pain is tough, but Gods grace is so present. I ask God everyday to take my pain and give me happy memories and strength. He does ❤️. Life will never be the same. But it can still be good. 🙏🏻
@@beekeeper6778 Right. Thank you
@@rebeccaconn389 With His help, yes.
Prayers to you, and your family! Hold strong!
just finding out about Tobys loss. i loss my only child my 16yr old son, no warning from illness. hospital wouldnt give em treatment due to money 1st. his body shut down then cardiac arrest. its been awhile but ill never get over it. you just go numb. it still hurts ,i still feel the anger. i know God is with me. he will bring me to my son when its my time to go.
We lost our beautiful son, Michael, at the age of 14. That was 18 years ago. If it had not been for our relationship with Jesus Christ my husband and I never would have survived. Our church family was there for us. Our work families were there for us. I thank God for them. There are still days that my heart and my arms ache to hold my boy again. But I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I will see him again. I look forward to that day. We love you Toby Mac! You and your family are in our prayers.
My wife and I lost our boy last year I find some help in 21 Years. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this...lost my first grandson at 19...my daughter/son-in-law's only child. I am where you are...I will never be the same.
I lost my oldest son on his 25th birthday June 20,2020. A woman drove drunk on the wrong side of the road hitting my son's car killing him instantly. I never knew pain and heartache like that. I've lost both my parents, my late husband of 18yrs, but losing my son was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. My new husband, my other 2 son's, some family and few friends helped me through it as best they could. I was so angry at that woman but I'm learning to forgive and trust God. It was so hard for me, I miss my son's smile, his laughter, etc. I have moments where I feel so alone and all I can do is cry. But I'm learning to try to smile and try to live again.
I am so incredibly sorry for you loss Tracie. Sending healing prayers your way and may the comfort of God be with you. 🙏
Thank you so much.
Thank you for sharing. You have my empathy. Sending comfort as only the Holy Spirit can comfort!!
Oh my goodness I'm so sorry for your loss, especially your son. Praying for the peace that surpasses on the standing.
Thank you, all the prayers and thoughts are much appreciated.
Our oldest son was murdered a few weeks after Toby lost Truett. That’s when we understood God’s promises in an all new way. He truly does not leave or forsake us, but He doesn’t always cause the storm to pass us by. Trust Him. Don’t fail to share that with others. There are broken, hurting people all around us who need healing in one way or another.
We lost a wonderful son in 2020. What you had to say resonated with me deeply, especially the comments about God truly being with us. Amazingly, Chris' death has made my faith much stronger, which has been surprising to me. Here's to laughing a little deeper and surviving the waves!
Yes….tsunamis. 💔
This weekend was the first anniversary of my my 20 year old son’s death from fentanyl poisoning. A close friend send me your song “21” to listen with my 16 yr old son.
I’m overwhelmed and softened by your story, and stories of countless others in the comment section. Thank you for opening doors that afford me permission to feel and patiently heal. You are so courageous possessing the ability to talk and sing without choking up.
“He knows what living is, He’s acquainted with our grief”
My wife and I have lost two of our children. The most recent was with our 19 year old son. He battled with an aggressive cancer (Ewing Sarcoma) for almost a year and he just recently passed away on Dec. 30th 2021. It still hurts so bad and is the hardest thing to go through. Several people ask us how we're doing and now the only thing I can think of in response is just like what Toby mentioned, it comes in waves. One moment you feel like things are going okay and then all of a sudden a flood of painful emotions knock you down. But I am so thankful for the hope and strength in the Lord that helps us through those waves and to help pick us back up each time. I am encouraged to know and reminded that He is always with me and cares how I feel.
Psalm 34:18
Tevis, may our God comfort you and your wife in ways you never thought imagined in Jesus Name. God bless you, brother.
I am touched by the depth of your broken heart. I understand. My family suffered the loss of our 20 yr old son/brother in an accident 36 yrs. ago!! I remember feeling like a giant black hole swallowed up my family in grief. I don’t know how God put us back together, but He did. He will do the same for you. God bless
I'm so very sorry that you have to go through this. I lost my only son 4 months ago. He had just turn 29 the month before he passed. This is the WORST EXCRUCIATING pain of my life. God help us just to breath and function for the rest of our lives.
@@monicablanco-cervantes402 Sorry for your loss 🙏 Toby explained it very well when he said, " it goes in waves," how very true that statement really is...just remember this, "....For with God, all things are possible." Matthew 19:26 KJV 🙏🛐✝️❣️🇺🇲
I lost my son in October 18,2019
It certainly doesn’t get easier. Some days are just more tolerable. Stay close to Jesus he comforts. I miss Jordan so much. I know I’ll see him again. Praying for everyone!
Blessed are those who mourn,for they shall be comforted 🤗🤗❤
you’ll see him again, that wasn’t goodbye!
there will be a HUGE family reunion one day! hold on to Jesus, he will heal, restore & help you! stay strong! 💕
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Matthew 5:4
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4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
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Revelation 21:4
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4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
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My fiance died in a car accident about a year n a bit ago, def miss her but I know God has a plan. It has been the craziest n darkest thing ever but I have learned so much about God in my time of hurting. Sorry for what a lot of you are going through and I will pray for ya'll may God continue to bring healing and remember it is okay to feel.
I lost my son October 18, 2008. That day will always be filled with heart wrenching flashbacks and if I could have done something differently to know what was going to take place that morning. Even after all of the years passed I still have days where the heartache seems as fresh as the day it happened. Be it you have faith in your life or not...you're not supposed to leave this earth before your children, and in my case...such a young life taken before it even began.
To have The Lord give you a dream of your child hugging you and allowing you to know he’s so happy is such a gift!! It doesn’t take grief away, but helps!!
Hello Warriorbride how are you doing?
@@austinhowland300gmail. I’m doing well. Thank you for asking. 😊
Yes, it’s beautiful
@@kelbearmama You are welcome. Where are you chatting from?
Prayers to all you parents who have lost a child at any age. We lost our four year old son Israel September 19th 2020. It's been the worst pain and with God's help we are able to keep going for our other three kids. Each day brings so much pain. Biggest Hugs to all you parent's 🫂
This shredded me… but in a healing way. I just lost my daughter. Thanks so much for this, thank you Toby for sharing your journey
Sending you the biggest virtual hugs! I lost my son Sept 2019, so I understand your pain. Just keep hanging on to Jesus, read your Bible, especially Job and Psalms. 🙏🏻
Lost my husband August 22,2019 to a massive heart attack. It was a brutal death, very traumatic for me. Holding on to the true promise that God will never leave me or forsake me. Toby is so very right in that. Grief took me to the depths of my faith and the forge was struck solidifying it as nothing else could.
God brings us joy in our darkest days. Hold on to our Creator and know that Truett is holding on to our Creator's hand in Heaven. Hold on to the memories, crying is healing...I am truly sorry for your loss. God loves you Toby. He promised us peace and comfort in Heaven and you will see Truett again.
Well said, and Amen!
God is so faithful and never leaves us or forsakes us, even in our darkest moments. I lost my father to suicide years ago. We had a christian nurse talk with us the first evening and what she said was something I wrestled with but now I truly have seen in many losses/tragedies. She said "sometimes the situation has nothing to do with us" but you dont see how many people may be brought to God's gracious salvation because of our faithfulness and walk in those times. Toby your music through this devastating loss will reach more than you will ever know. Probably not till we are with Christ, will we see others there because of our faith in God always. Even your sons music will be a catalyst to bring people to seek out the God he truly loved. God bless you, your family and your band for being real, authentic, and living out your faith in all of lifes seasons! You are so loved.
@@susangruccio6380 My sincere condolences about your father's passing. God has a way of showing His Grace to us each and every day. Whether it be a dark stormy day, a sunny day with birds singing, a rainbow in the sky, a sweet fragrance of flowers when you are no where near any flowers, these are a few reminders that God sends to us He has His children cradled in His arms in Heaven. God reminds us to trust in Him Always 🙏 Our loved ones are always with us in spirit ❤ May God bring you and your family peace and comfort 🙏
So sad to hear about his loss, I am from the 90's music and aware of the Jesus freak erra but fast forward my 12 year old twins daughters started to listen to your music as they learnt about you from church so as a family listening but then thereafter we all learnt about your beloved son, we all were so saddened about the sadness, so sorry about your beloved son. Love from Canada
Thank you, sadly I know this grief. My beautiful child departed 3-14-16 at age 33 the same age as Jesus. This is truth.
I am sure that is special to your heart ❤. Sorry for your loss.
My precious daughter died August 6th, 2021. She was 33 also. I had never thought about that before until reading your post
I never listened to your music. I did not even know who you were... On FB your 21 years ,song has helped me every daym my 21 yr old son was murdered Nov 2nd. 2021. He was 21 years old....and it was not over a girl, drugs,etc. Shot in the face took 3 steps in and that was that. He left my house A MAN. He just wanted to WORK....save up and start his live.
God put YOU in my life. 🙏You have helped me more than words can explain. Thank you. We are 4 months in and have a sister, father , mother and so many grieving . This was the WORST way to loose the unnatural...to loose your child. The way we did. Your brother ....the way she did.
Again, I thank you for this song and many more. 💚💚💚
The way our son was taken.... What we will and will continue to deal with the unimaginable these past 4 months. In EVERY way. Financially, emotionally, physically. It has turned our world upside down.You sharing this... This song 21 years ...please know God brought you into my life in a way that I needed. I can only imagine that song ,so personal and to share and I NEED you to know the healing it has done for me and my husband. We listen to it almost every night.
Thank-you for sharing this, it will help all of us who have lost a child, I lost my son Michael at the age of 28 in 2013 (I donated a kidney) and my daughter at the age of 18 had a drug overdose and had a cardiac arrest - she did not get enough oxygen to the brain in time at the age of 18 in 1997 and could not talk, walk, was blind and on a feeding tube in a wheelchair for 20 years and died at the age of 38 in 2017, I visited her every day and took her home for visits, I spent 30 years in and out of hospitals, for the past 8 years I have been traveling now, I feel like it is a miracle from God and my children sent me to London, Paris, Switzerland, Italy, Ireland and Portugal and Israel the Holy Land, I did not go there to have fun IT WAS A HEALING experience, - that is what helps me. I have another son who is 40 now and misses his brother and sister.
I lost my 17-year-old daughter to a drug overdose in 2008. It has been a long road, but God's presence is all I could hang on to. He is enough.
I lost my only son October 13th, 2020. I never knew grief before this. I know my boy is home, but the pain that crushes me and leaves me hemorrhaging every single day is only survivable through the grace of God and my depth of belief that one day soon I will join my boy and that is eternal. My boy told me his last night that Jesus was his best friend and that in and of itself does give me peace, but the pain is always there. I thank you for sharing your story. God bless you and your loved ones.
There is no pain like losing a child. Grief sits in the closet of your mind and is always there. 2 and a half years now. I used to cry every day for hours. I couldn't even say Jon's name without a long cry. I'm raising his two boys. One of them is a spitting image of him, not only in looks but in actions. What a lesson to see some things are born within. I beat myself up on the what-ifs forever. Then this boy is showing me it's just how it is. Yes, you could always have done something different. The wind blows the barn door open sometimes. He was 35 when he fell asleep. I played one of Toby's songs at his Memorial service. I will pray for you can be very cheap words but I do give a sincere prayer to those that are in grief.
So so sorry for your loss. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for opening your heart to share your experience. 9 months ago I lost my 27 year old son. I totally can relate to your view on 'eternity'. That's exactly how I view it, that's what my boy is saying to me "going young isn't a rip off". I'm glad I watched this video. I scrolled past it several times today because I really wasn't ready but thanks to the Holy Spirit it strengthened me. Thank you so much. May God continue to hug your family.
I love the idea of grabbing onto a promise. That has worked for me too. I grab onto "God loves me, He has great plans for me and He'll never harm me".
toby is beautiful...I have been listening to him since he was part of the band DCtalk since the 90s
I lost my daughter in 2015 she was 22. Our family has always loved Toby and rocked his music especially my kids. We turned to his music to help cling on to God. When Truett passed away, and Toby released 21 years, it all made sense! Not that any parent wishes this on someone. Seeing Toby and Amanda’s journey and walking along side of them and seeing even their tough days of believing, it really helped to know God gives people struggles to help others who need it. 21 years is a song I listen to a lot, to be reminded that though grief there is a bigger picture and Gods ultimate promise of never forsaken us.
Toby I just want to say thank you for sharing your journey. Seeing the vulnerability and knowing your not alone has been a life saver for many. 🤙🏻🙏🏻❤️
So sorry. She was very young.
God has you, Amanda, in Heaven
But I have you in my heart ❤️
I felt grief on July 19, 2020 my daddy entered into heaven, and the pain of not having him is pain I've never felt before, but thanks to God I am able to overcome this grief and know that God is always in control.
My twin lost her ex-husband,, her son and then her daughter . Her whole family. I’ve never know someone as strong as her. She believes in God and lives everyday but isn’t as happy as she use to be. I love your music and shared it with her. 🙏🏽♥️
That’s really rough Pauline!!!! Im so very very sorry!!! Im glad that you are sharing with her!!!!!🥰🙏🏽❤️🙌
So sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter to cancer 3 years ago. She was 37 but knew the Lord and was ready to go home. The missing ne’er goes. Sorrow and grief come in waves. I lost my husband in July last year and my sister in August. Only the Lord can give grace and comfort. But you stil miss them. My comfort is knowing that I will see them one dayGod bless you ?
You are very wise, Pauline
Toby, you’ve been part of my life and my walk with Jesus since I was 12…I’m 40 now. I was broken hearted when I heard of the loss of Truett. Know that your wife, your family and you are daily in my prayers; I pray that God will show you a new comfort. Thank you for being brave enough to face your pain, it is only in Christ that we can do that. Psalms 119:75
I fully understand the situation of a lose I was a drug addict for 25 years got clean 9 years ago and covid struck and swolled my daughter and she passed away I am still sober that's how I keep it with my daughter God is awesome because he showed me the way of soberness my daughter you to ask me was I ever going to get sober I am so thankful that she got to see me beat the addiction and stay sober and now she sees me still being sober and clean. I Miss you DeAna N Adams 03/20/98 09/11/21❤
Parents shouldn’t have to bury their children. 😭
Can’t stop crying.
It's not promised
My mom said the same thing when my youngest brother passed at 32 in 2020. My bro lost his battle with addiction and left behind two beautiful daughters.
Grief comes in waves Toby. We’re continuing to pray for you and your family!
No we shouldn't have to jasmine . I never thought I would ever even imagine something like this , and one day the phone rang . That was the beginning of a long confusing process that I still wonder WHY ? . . . This was happening to me . One day at a time .
@@bruceowens7213 Tears reading your comment. Gentle hug to you Bruce
@@bruceowens7213 I will never understand, ever. The heart ache you face can never be completely healed. My son was a baby and passed in 2008. Having to go through a photo book and pick out a two foot coffin is gut wrenching (I did not know they were even made this small until I was faced with no other choice but to find out). I hope time helps you with your loss, but after this many years I still have days where it feels the band aid was just torn off without the wound being healed 😭
If someone is saved when they die in this life, they immediately go to be with our Lord. That's not a "rip off." We, as the loved ones who are left behind and grieving them- we can feel ripped off.
My son went to heaven on 2/10/2021, everything that you said about grieving is how I feel, I'm broken and I will never be the same because a part of me is in heaven with my son, however I am so grateful for God's peace, I heard a saying a long time ago that I firmly believe, " God never promised us a rose garden He just promised to help us with the thorns" May God bless you and your family Toby and give you His peace!
So true!
I can't listen to this song without crying. I lost my son in 2007 there weeks before his nineteenth birthday. He passed after being hit by a car. He was my best friend my gift from God. Anyway, love you, your family all that ya'all stand for. God is good, we will see our boys again. Thank you, peace brother.❤️🙏👍
Hello Heidi how are you doing?
November 2021, my oldest child(27),my daughter suddenly passed from medical phenomena linked to Epilepsy( not directly to seizures), SUDEP - Sudden Unexpected Death in EPilepsy. I know she is safe from stress and all of lifes harm. I miss her daily. Thank you Toby for your courage in creating this video. Prayers are covering you today from not far from Nashville TN.