What's Your Biggest Regret? (Nobody Wants To Admit The Worst One Of All)
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- Опубликовано: 24 янв 2016
- A chalkboard stood in the middle of New York City asking passersby to write down their biggest regrets. As the board filled up, we noticed that all of these responses had one alarming thing in common. aplus.com/a/clean-slate-blackb...
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"Staying inside my comfort zone" is the one that really got to me. Im 19 and Its so easy to stay inside a box that youve put yourself into although right now I feel like I am existing more than I am living. I know in the back of my mind that I need to push myself into situations where I feel I am uncomfortable like getting a job and learning something new to try challenge myself and grow as a person, but at the same time I just dont think I have any real belief in myself. Im pushing myself everyday though. If I stay like this, I will regret it. Thats a damn fact.
+doobieshrum That you know this now is a good thing. I suddenly "woke up" age 35 and wondered how I got here. There are good things though. I am alone but not lonely. I didn't go to university but I taught myself everything I wanted to know. I have a home, a job. More than most. But there was so much I wanted to do and so many opportunities I did not take. Push yourself more or you are going to blink and 15 wasted years will have gone by.
Start slowly though because that decision will affect the next few years of your life. What kind of job do you want?
+doobieshrum Pretty much sums up my existence also.. But we have to remember we have a lot to live for, the world has endless possibilities and we just gotta get up and go out! And remember that not everything happens at once, things take time to progress, the point is... Don't stop living... (Can't believe I just wrote that, I'm writing it down and putting it on my fridge lol)
***** That's the thing, I know it is never too late, but I end up thinking about all the things I could do and then never actually do them. Because I am too busy thinking about doing them... xD
I turned 20 just over a month ago and sometimes feel the same way, I often don't have the belief in myself to try and do better, just the constant thought that something will come along and shoot me down. The world isn't much of an encouraging place.
However last year was probably one of the best years of my life, around about Spring a friend began questioning what I'm actually doing with myself and made me realise how little I've accomplished, I couldn't help but want to blame her for making me feel so much worse about myself.
It took me about a week to realise it but what she effectively did was remove my comfort zone; before she spoke to me I was comfortable, after she spoke to me I wasn't comfortable...but I hadn't moved or changed at all - I didn't leave my comfort zone and get myself out there, I had my comfort zone taken away from me, and so the only way to find it again was to get myself out there.
It feels weird to say this but anxiety can be a fantastic drug, you just need to figure out how to steer it. The key is to figure out how to can get rid of your comfort zone and try and make having a job/goal the new comfort zone.
+doobieshrum Yes!!!
My biggest regret is always putting people and their opinions in front of me and my dreams
I feel you!
Natalia L I feel u..
Natalia L i feel you :((
Same
Me too.
My suicide attempt is my biggest regret. You are worth every little moment you have lived, don't ever let yourself think otherwise.
+River Burns Thats a great comment. You're an awesome person!
+River Burns My biggest regret wasn't my suicide attempt. It was that I didn't realise my worth before. The attempt was a blessing in disguise. Made me get my life back together.
+River Burns im glad that you're still here with us :)
i can feel the warmth of your answer
As harsh as i may sound.. my biggest regret is failing at suicide attempt. Wish i could've succeeded at that.
My biggest regret is not trying to speak up in school. Now I'm almost a mute with a whole lotta social anxiety
Raven Razor I feel you...
research on the internet how to overcome this, there's many articles that can help you. Good luck.
Same here. I know how it feels and its like there is nothing we cannot do :'(
Raven Razor same here
Have it changed
I'm 24. Biggest regret. Making toxic family control me to the point of not knowing myself anymore.
Nothing will mess you up in life like a fucked up family. Sometimes you just have to cut your ties and run away. As somebody who grew up in a toxic family, the only ones who are doing well in life are the ones who cut off
Communication completely with my toxic family and made their own life.
That's what my support group told me. Yet, I live in a country that they value family image so much that they disregard "emotional abuse" and if you were physically abused, it's called discipline and the child deserved it even (even when they werent at fault), raised to submit no matter what.
+Beatrice Villaflor yeah, I can relate. One side of my family is Peruvian, where "family is everything". Yet, I've seen co dependency, enabling, mental abuse, people just plainly taken advantage and being used in the name of "family values." It's tough dealing with dysfunctional families when cultural values play a role.
+Beatrice Villaflor yeah, i know that feeling too well. sure they might mean well, but it's erasing who i really wanted to be. good thing uni came in just in time, so I can move to a dorm, away from them until i reshape myself and be a better person that they can no longer change
+Beatrice Villaflor It is by far not to late.
"Nobody wants to admit the worst one of all"...and that is what? Doing this?
Haha, yes!!!!
Not following your artistic passions. And, that's totally true!
Now here I am sitting at a computer at my college between classes trying to not cry...
My biggest regret is being there for people who didn't deserve it.
Mine is same. Getting drained for people who will never change no matter what. I wish to change this. Staying in a relationship where I do not feel seen and heard. (I still am in the same relationship).
I regret not having any tissues before watching this video
had to use my scarf!
Me too. This opened many wounds 😢
I'm 26 and my biggest regret is not making something of myself sooner.
+LNxTCB There is still time in the clock. You can do it.
Esteban Carrillo Thanks, man.
+LNxTCB It's true, age is just a number, and even in terms of age, 26 is still pretty young. Look into the ages that some of the amazing musicians, actors and other admirable people reached their goals and you'll find that they weren't as young as you might have assumed. The key is practicing, improving and never giving up. Lots of people give up waaay too soon
梁悦信 Max Sleigh Appreciate the support.
+LNxTCB I'm going to be 46 this year and I can tell you that you're right where you're supposed to be. You are who you are right now but certainly not who you will be in 20 years. Go do things you want to do, go do things that make you happy, and you'll be awfully pleased what you become. You can do it if you want to. You have plenty of time.
Hell of a video and this is exactly what I needed to watch today. Thank you.
Man... this is deep. i am going to be 18 in a few months and i told my friend that if i dont go to Iceland by 21 (My biggest dream of all, also I'm from Croatia) I'm going to give him 1000 dollars, we even made a contract with my signature haha... Anyway i would really want to start this adventurous life with just me, a backpack, and a guitar.... and just feel free and happy... man... *PERFECTION*
+DinoCujko It is a beautiful dream. I hope you get to live it soon. My best wishes xoxo
+DinoCujko Do it. Otherwise you'll be 30 like me, and wishing you did. Things will happen between now and then, but after it all happens, you'll still be you without your dream. So just do it. Sell your car. Quit your job. Make it happen.
+DinoCujko Dreams come true if you don't give up on them! They really do! :) Pozdrav iz Srbije!
+DinoCujko Thanks everyone for the kind comments, and i hope i will make this come true soon :D
+DinoCujko if that is your dream, let it happens. Goodluck, stranger.
I followed my dreams: I went to law school. Realized I made a huge mistake--I really didn't want or like to be a lawyer. And now I'm having a difficult time getting out of it. And this decision will haunt me for the rest of my life with the huge debt. So, following your dreams is great, but these could be the wrong dreams. For those people who regret not having applied to med school or gotten an MBA, just be thankful for what you have. You could be like me, trying to get out of a career path that simply wasn't for you...
Luboman411 shouldn’t be difficult to parlay into different field of your choosing, since you are educated. It’s the uneducated/unqualified that have limited options.
Hi.Just want to simply asked, how are you now? Do you remember writing this back two years ago? And I am in the same shoe as you were feeling back then. I took my ACCA, and thankfully I realized that that wasn't actually what I wanted to have to be happy because I used to think that i need to have ACCA so I can get a better career. As I merge myself in accounting for 2 years. I know that this path wasn't for me. I cancelled my class and still clueless but at least I know now that ACCA is definitely not my source of happiness. But I still have to go to work since I need money :)
@@livelikecactus3732 How are you doing now?
Getting married & I was not ready & I knew I wasn't.
Not saying I love you made me smile because of bittersweet memories
+Burrito Senpai true. I hardly say it to my dad. He knows though. I think it's like a guy thing. I may just start to say it a lot more after watching this.
+Burrito Senpai Sucks mate...
The "Not Saying I Love You" Regret still breaks my heart even after all these years of seeing this video. In fact, it inspired me to confess to my first love, and yes, I did say "I Love You" in my 12 paragraph love letter confession to her. While she may not feel the same about me and my feelings are unrequited, I'd rather live with a broken heart than a heart full of regrets, just like the person who wrote the "I Love You" Regret.
they should do this again, but instead say "what's your greatest acomplishment"
+puchaty omg so true
"not being a better friend" got me.
I am 21 and the only three things I have really regretted up until now is:
1. Staying in my comfort zone
2. Not loving people enough
3. Highly esteeming peoples approval/disapproval
That is it. Life is full of mistakes and opportunities missed. What truly matters is that the sooner you realize this, the sooner you can pick yourself up and pursue a more "dangerous" life by daring to follow your passions and dreams. Right now, that is where I am at. I'm writing goals, visions, and teaching myself new skills. My only problem is the breaking away from the social anxiety that has been the source of many years of loneliness and isolation from a normal social life.
That is something I am striving to overcome and it is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. Working hard is honestly nothing compared to facing your personal fears in life, reaching a new milestone and becoming victorious. Fear and stagnancy are the most dangerous things to grow accustomed to, get out there, challenge yourself everyday, love and respect people, and you won't have any regret twenty years from now.
It is never to late, to do what you never did
Bethany, I am deeply impressed about what deep insight you have reached at the age of 21. I am 49 and I have reached this level only recently.
Hello, how is your life now?
I'm 71 and my darling wife of 40 years just passed. I wish I told her more often how much I loved her. I miss her greatly!
Being overweight was my biggest regrets during my high school and college years. Since then, I lost 38lbs (going from 183 to 145 lbs). I am so proud of me and this video makes me want to continue even further and not giving up, gaining all the weight back... I am sometimes so afraid to fail, afraid of me actually... but I know I will be devastated and regret to stop my effort for a better health and live... Cheers from France!
I have never been overweight. I do gain weight quite easily though. What helps me make it easier to eat healthy without constantly thinking about it is eathing a few big meals instead of snacking the whole day. Especially something like oats fills you up for a long time. And this way it is also easier to keep track of calories. Drinking a lot of low calorie drinks in between your meals also helps craving food less and feeling full. What also helps is staying active because this way you are less likely to eat out of boredom because your mind is occupied with something else. Last but not least is building some muscle. With more muscle you can eat more calories without gaining fat (i myself am also a musculair guy). I can see it has been a while since your post. Maybe this will help if you are still struggling, or maybe it will help someone else who reads this.
I'm 29 and I regret not yet traveling around the world. Fear is holding me back. I envy those travel bloggers who are traveling full-time for 4+ years.
Posted on our fbook page. Great video with an incredible message. Very well done. We interview people every week who way YES to their dreams. So great.
Everyday is new begginning and new start to do what we want and what we love , so forget the past and start from bottom and all that need believing.
Don't wait till tomorrow to do what you can do today. It's usually the things we decide to never try doing that we end up regreting. Take risks, otherwise you'll never know what could have been.
My biggest regret is leaving California and then turning down a huge job offer in Hollywood that I had fought for for years. It happened very quickly. I didn't have time to think it through. I got scared and said no. I don't know that I will ever forgive myself. I like to believe that one day I will try again.
it was a blessing in disguise - Hollyweird is a soul-less place - forgive yourself -
Videos like this, whether they are actually commercials or what may be, are the kind of videos we ALL NEED to have around to remind us of the things that really matter in life... Because we are bombarded with stimulation that distracts our true inner selves. Thank you
Had to watch this again, this video made me apply for art school 600 miles away and i was accepted and its the best thing that has happened to me.
Hows it going now??
I'm teary-eyed because of this. My heart is heavy right now for the things I never did in the past.
Time to do things before it's too late!
I cried watching this,literally. This tells me alot.Thank you!
Wow. This was quite emotional and moving!
Ironically a lot of people regret having gone to college lol
I do too.
+Sid B college is fucking bullshit, wasted 3 years of my life to be taught how to work for someone else. fuck that, I'm about to start my final year of college (3rd) and i've promised myself not to work for anyone else, not even for the experience, not for money, not at all.
+Chris -0 This is exactly how I feel and I'm thinking about dropping out, to not regret wasting time and money... But it's a hard decision.
+Sid B Nowadays college is just seen as the next step- go to college after high school or you're doomed. The truth is, unless you know what you want to do, and that something requires a college degree, don't waste your time and money. Too many people do and end up regretting it.
If you guys aren't going to go to college just don't get stuck in a loop. It happens to me in my holidays, you wake up late, achieve nothing all day, stay up late, wake up late, achieve nothing all day.
The biggest thing you can do is plan what your doing the next morning, the day before. Use this as your motivation to get up and achieve something.
When you don't have a degree time is more valuable. You need to use your time as if you were getting a degree. You just have the choice of where you put that time instead of lecturers telling you how to spend it.
This video was really touching! Thank you very much for that experience and the wake up call! Greetings from Austria.
I was waiting for someone with horrible chalk board writing to take up the entire board. Also its odd that everything is perfectly legible. But hey fake or not I guess the message is positive.
+Austin Michael It's odd that people can write properly?
+( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) To be fair, for starters chalk is harder to hold and consequently harder to write with. Not to mention some people just have really weird handwriting that's hard for other people to read.
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) writing on paper horizontally to the paper is alot different then writing on a vertical chalkboard.
Powerful and hopeful!
Loved this! Similar to those posted at the SecretRegrets site. A great way for people to acknowledge what they know in their heart. The first step to changing it is admitting it...
Thank you for motivating me.
From now on I will try to do my best.
Thank you once again.
Thank you for this wonderful video.
Thanks this is wonderful exercise. Love to you for it!
Wow, what timing for this video. Just two days ago my wife's aunt unexpectedly lost the love of her life on their 32 wedding anniversary. She is full of remorse and regrets and keeps telling my wife not to make the same mistakes in "not" doing something. I cannot let this lesson be lost on myself or my family as we begin with our clean state.
Love this. People speaking from the heart.
Congratulations-very powerful and productive! Love this
thit is a true social experiment.
+Miguel Razera No, it's not. It's fake and scripted, you sheeple.
Probably the most beautiful video I've ever seen on RUclips. it made me cry
Start now - great video to share to inspire others as well. Love it!
I needed this today of all days. Thank you so much
One of my biggest regrets is that I have such wonderful cousins who live so far away and who I hardly get to see! And you are one of them Jordan! Love Marlene
Very powerful! Loved!
As an energy worker and near-death survivor, this was lovingly learned quite a long time ago!!
My biggest regret is when I spent my time regretting over something that I've lost and failed. I regret the time that was wasted, that I should be pulling myself up again instead of crying over things that weren't really for me and being unable to move forward.
This is inspiring. It makes me want to pursue all those things I want to pursue but choose not to for whatever reason. Thanks, A Plus.
This made me cry so much
Its never to late to change your path and create a new journey!
Why am I always crying at your videos. But one thing I really appreciate....I have depression, or that's what everyone tells me. I'm always sad and feel like I'm worthless, but this really do help me. Thanks a lot!❤️
This just made my day. Thanks!
This is so inspiring... for like 5 minutes. Then the courage fades again
I needed this, thanks!!!
Great vid, great message
Not breaking the boundaries for ur loved ones and when they are gone its too late.
Love love this vid feeling super motivated now.
Love this video. Everyday is a new slate with so many new possibilities. Definitely worth a share x
What a great video and message. You get one shot, you miss 100% of the targets you never shoot for.
Usually i hate these kind of feel-good, cliché video's but this one is pretty powerful!
Dont let your dreams be dreams. Yesterday you said tomorrow. SO JUST. DO IT.
amazing video....love the vibes...
i have so many regrets im clogged up inside and feel stuck in life.
JJustJJ me too
Oh that hitted me and hitted hard
My biggest regret is that I spent a big chunk of my young life in long exclusive relationships that eventually faded out and instead of committing to myself's own development like doing well at school, making friends and working on my projects, I fully committed into making "love" work. Here is an update from the future: love yourself FIRST then it will be a piece of cake to love and receive love from anybody else the RIGHT way. Commit first to yourself and then to anybody else. Life is not an unrealistic poem or romantic comedy. We might be a few billions on this planet but everybody is on their own and no matter who might be relevant at this time in your life, essentially, eventually, practically, there is no body else that cares about you like you do. Don't waste time expecting to be loved unconditionally and forever, demanding attention, seeking for a full-time caretaker. Learn to take care of your self and needs on your own. Be happy on your own. That will make you the attractive person that will receive love, attention and care.
Great video with a vision of hope and future positive orientation. Well do e!
That was really really good... every bit of that.. idea to execution to the editing of the video. Love it. The emotions were felt, too. :)
At 64 I am where I want to be in my life and doing exactly what I want to do. I try and remember each day how lucky I am and how few people can truly say this. My current life might not look like a huge success story to a lot of people, but it is to me! I am happy and content and thankful.
the staying in my comfort zone one....oooff that hit heard
Excellent
Thanks so much!
+Yumi Hey, you're still pretty young. You got this
+Yumi I turned 20 about 16 years ago. Times flies like we won't believe. Be bold. Be crazy. Enjoy. :)
+Yumi Grab a hold of life and hold on. Live your life the way you want(but do not hurt yourself or others in the process). Your parents will get over it and love you; you'll lose friends but gain new ones; if there is one person who stood shoulder to shoulder with you through the good times and bad, marry him(or her, whatever); save some of your money, but spend wisely; choose an occupation that'll make you wish Monday came sooner over the weekend. I'm 49 years old, and I wish someone told me this when I turned 18 years old.
Good luck!
+Yumi I am also turning two in less than a month! When is your birthday?
+Average Joe +Sash Hiremath
THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH! Wish you the best ♥
+SpeedyTase I'm so thankful for people like you! I'll always remember this ^.^
+ishotthemoon30 It's feb 17 :)
Great video!!!
Why doesn't this channel have more subscribers?! The videos are amazing ♥
I don't have any regrets, nor I should have , I'm living my dreams and have the courage to follow my passion and Intuition ...and helping people 😊
Watching this makes me glad that I pursued my dream when I was younger. I know I would still regret it now if I hadn't.
The funny part is, all of the people here, judging simply by their ability to write on a chalkboard, have one other thing in common, too:
They are still alive. They still have days. Yet they regret not following their dreams, never doing this or that.
So do the damn thing. Apply to med school. You're 50? So what? That's 30 years left to go at least. Many of the people on this video aren't even 30. They may have 60-70 years left. An entire human lifetime just a generation or two ago.
I spoke with a radiologist about him being too old to pursue parkour because he was 28 at the time, I told him you are never too old to follow your dreams this was quite a few years ago, so not sure if he did start to learn parkour or not.
I was given the chance in 2016 to go to a brain injury camp in 2017, well I ummed and argg for weeks to the point where I honestly considered telling the people that I wasn't ready to go and I never really would, but part of me said you may regret not taking that leap, not going to the camp, and do you know I went to the camp, and can honestly say it was one of the best decisions I've took in my life and I'm so much happier than I was before finding out about the camp :)
These people are still so young they have their whole lives to figure things out
Lovely!
Amazing 🤩
My biggest regret of my life is when I hurt someone really bad when I was young kid ..... I wish I could take it back every single day.
This is what I need right now. I need to grasp all opportunities that come to me. I am very grateful in this video because it rekindled a fire inside me. I am currently in my senior year but still not graduating in the near future still got 2 more years. I am delayed but I'm fighting. I want to contribute in this world. Thank you to this video for not letting me to make my current state as a regret.
Someday, I'll go back to this comment and reappreciate this video. Thank you.
Just got back to this video. I really needed this one again!
I would rather look back on something and laugh, than look back on something and cry.
I don't allow my job/career to define me, so whether I'm a garbage man or a lawyer, It doesn't really matter to me. I made the decision a long time ago to just try and be happy, even if it means sacrificing "success" in the traditional sense. I have the potential and skills to really "be someone:" (whatever that means..) but I'd rather just live a much more stress-free life, and just do my 8 hrs and go home.
same here man as long as your basic needs are met and you have some extra money for emergencies or hobbies who cares your job shouldnt define you and im with you on the stress free life
although at the same time don't just accept your job, find a job you really enjoy or make a business you really enjoy. Find your passion.
Kiwi
I could never do what I love as job, because a big part of why I love doing them, is the freedom of doing them when/wherever I want.Once you at the obligation and "structure" of a job to it, it's not fun anymore, it's work.
James Bauer find and create a business then. I'm the same, I love freedom. A structure waking up everyday is terrible. Give yourself freedom and create a business.
Kiwi
Creating a business isn't for everyone, just like going to college. I don't want to run a business. Didn't you read my original post?
Work to me is drudgery, regardless what it is I'm doing. It's a means to an end to make it in this antiquated sociol-economic model we currently live in.
It's a wonderful movie that makes me think about my life.
I remembered Steve Jobs admitting the past and saying thrown away.
I would like to think more simpler every day from now.
Right in the feels gland.
Every moment is a new moment, the past over the future unclear, Live in this moment for this moment is all that exist.
I don’t know why, this makes me cry...I think that there is always hope and we should just think about that, not about regrets...Where there is life, there is hope. There will always be life.
Biggest regret was standing up for myself and my brother as well as pleasing people and caring what they think.
Thank u
Biggest regrets at 28: Never having had a girlfriend or romantic relationship and being so lonely that it physically hurts. Squandering my time and what little money I did have on worthless things. Not drinking or experimenting with drugs more when I was younger. Being so shy that leaving the house was difficult. Not trying harder and working harder.
To live or to survive.... that is the question.
this video made me realize that I really need to be a better person. I'm only 17 and i have a lot of dreams but I don't know how to achieve those dreams. until i watched this. and i was like. I really need to get out of my comfort zone like thinking Life is easy. but its not. Thank you! this video really wake me up from my day dreams.
Im scared of studying art and the only thing that helps me doing it is the thought that i might regret it when im not doing it. So thank you for this video :)
My biggest regret is feeling unworthy and not good enough, but most of all it was to be a failure in the world's eyes.
I am still fighting, but I'm trying...
My biggest regret is not taking care of myself for the people I love .
Wow, this was uploaded 5 years ago but saw a clip of this from a zoom meeting I attended just a few minutes ago. And yes the responses were alarming. Sadly, I had the same regret with one of those. Biggest regret? Staying in my comfort zone. Wasted so much time convincing myself that I was in a "fixable" relationship until I finally decided it really wasn't. Had to gain courage to walk away and now in the process of acceptance and moving on.
I regret not trying harder to make friends at the start of uni but I don't regret how hard I tried to change things afterwards...I learned so much and most of it payed off.