How to stop being Emotional Dependent in your relationship
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
- In this video I go over my method for becoming emotionally independent from your partner in a HEALTHY way that helps the relationship develop and grow over time!
If you implement this technique, you will feel so calm and more in in love with partner.
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Thank you that really makes sense. My friend DA, I an AP, how can I make them open up to let me know they need space ? I guess i unknowingly triggered them. But aren't they are also partially responsible in communicating their need for space before someone overwhlems them? What are some signs I should be looking out for?
Hi ❤️ in your place, I would start looking at the body language or watch for when they start shutting down/ getting triggered. That is the only way to really know that you are influencing them in a way that isn’t helpful to your communication. You can try to think back on something that happened recently and try to remember at which point you noticed they changed their behavior. What words did you use, how did you deliver your message to them? Yes if they could just tell you what triggered them it would take the guessing work out of it, but unfortunately a lot of people have trouble telling you what bothers them, even if it would benefit both of you to do so.
@@xoellielily Thank you. Last line=Why is that? How can i create a safe space psychologically as vulnerability the main thing to deepen connections is their kyptonite. And for once I'd like for them to make up to me and understand. I'm tired of scripts on how to comm. to them.
Do you mean why are they like that? It’s a learned behavior, maybe it wasn’t safe for them in the past or just feels overwhelmingly unsafe.
You can create a safe space, and be supportive but you have to remember that they might not be ready to share and do things different right away. Remember to have lots of patience, and no expectations for them to change. Just love, acceptance, and openness.
You can create that safe space by: 1. Learning their triggers and try to avoid them. 2. Don’t force them to pen up but use language that encourages it, and no pressure or rush. ( a good visualization would be a terrified animal that doesn’t trust a human to help them, the more you try to force it the more they will hide or attack). I’m not saying your partner is an animal, just hope that paints a picture of what it’s like to try to connect and communicate with someone who has alot of resistance and fear around it.
Hope that helps ❤️
@ParisianStreets I’ve dealt with your frustration in my relationship also, I know how it can feel, and then when you hit a bump in the road , you wonder if anything has changed at all. When you look back, you realize that all this work was for something and you’re no longer incompetent of handling things that don’t go smoothly. I linked my course in the description box, if you feel this will help you, you’re welcome to join!
@@xoellielily Very helpful & clear. Thanks a million!