What is Codependency and How to Overcome It?
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- Опубликовано: 1 фев 2023
- Melody Beattie, author of "Codependent No More," shares strategies use in dealing with codependency in your own life.
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Her book of daily devotions- THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO never gets old! ❤ Al-Anon is the gift I gave myself. 🙏🏼 Let go and Let God!!
I just downloaded it. Thank you!
I’m reading her new revised version now and stumbled across this video. This was great. I feel encouraged to dive further into her books
Melody Beattie has really opened my eyes and my heart… I relate so much to her story and the evolution of codependency, and what it is, and it’s simplest terms… Loving somebody more than we love ourselves. Learning to set boundaries.
Melody, your words hit such truth within. I have worked through many forms of addiction... this last addiction took form in just the manner of which you speak. Loving someone else more than myself.... essentially looking for my self validation from that person I loved so deeply. On the other foot, I am very independent, to which I am blessed as I never tolerated for long someone or something to undervalue me before total self devastation and destruction. Now, finally, I recognized this behavior, and realized that I ultimately undervalued myself and others were just mirroring my thoughts about myself. I love your words... may all who listen to your words be blessed to find the strength within to heal their traumas no matter how subtle and subliminal their traumas may appear. There is nothing greater than self love to put oneself on a most loving path forward. Bless you and your work to heal other humans and hand back to them their own loving hearts to cherish forever. 😍 ❤
A pioneer in recovery. Melody Beattie helped me with addiction and codependency. The Language of Letting Go is my go-to daily read. I can’t think Melody enough. She made it through losing her son, and still gave to the recovery communities. Love her. Thanks for having this great teacher on your program Katie. 💯♥️
I am an adult child of alcoholics, a nurse and a mother of three. I’m concerned that there is little discussion of this topic compared to when I was a young person in the 1980s and 1990s. I too benefited greatly from Melody’s books and would love to help with reigniting the public interest in this topic!
There are tons of discussions on this topic. It is huge in recovery and personal development circles.
It is a main topic addressed in regards to relationships. Codependency is self abandonment, at its heart…which leads to all sorts of relational sabotage.
I’d say it’s more widely known about (more accurately known) than in the 80’s for sure.
Dear Melody, Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Forever grateful. Much love to you always.
❤u and am so grateful, Melody---you saved my life literally and spiritually several times. I go back to your books quite often when I need a reminder. Your books were so special, unique, helpful, etc., back in the day when 1st published and still now. Thank you really
“I’m gonna be dealing with a group of my mom.” Lol! I so relate, and I’m so glad I joined an Al Anon group and read Melody’s books. Thank you!
I am so great full for Melody’s work in codependence. I have been reading her work for years and I am making slow process. When I saw that she revised Codependent no more, I instantly bought it. God bless you Melody and thank you for the help you have been in my life!
Melody you changed my life, your book is well used. ❤❤❤❤❤
So grateful for your words, resonated so deeply for me. I recently figured out my codependent nature, struggling so this is what I needed right now. Buying the book now! Thank you so very much! ❤❤
Wow Melanie you look gorgeous! Thank you for your work❤❤
Thank you so much for this video! You have explained so eloquently and wisely, with such compassion what codependency is! I am really grateful. 🙏🙏🙏
I remember back in 1989, I found Codependent No More when I was in a relationship with an abusive alcoholic. Thank you, Melody. This book gave me hope and a way out of being codependent. ❤
Very similar story here. Thank you Melody!!🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
Mind if I ask you how long it took you to get the courage to move out? I'm trying to help my BFF leave a DV relationship and move in with me, then focus on addressing her polysubstance abuse. (Her drug of choice is "more") Her partner treats her like a POS. This afternoon she sent me a picture of the results of her French braiding the $#%&'s hair! I'm getting very tired of being the sounding board but never having my advice taken 😩.
i know your question isn't for me but i want to add my opinion. Sadly, in these kinds of situations, it's not your place to try to rescue her or save her. You CANNOT change someone else, they need to want to change, and the desire to change needs to come from inside of themselves, not from someone else.
Speaking as someone who's been in a similar situation with one of my best friends, this is my advice. Your strong desire to fix her life is a sign of your own Codependency that needs addressing. Please read "Codependent No More" urgently! It will save YOUR life, and will give you the strength and understanding to deal with other people in your life who are dealing with problems such as these.
In the 22 years that I've known my bestie, I've supported her through dealing with her horrendous husband who mistreats her. SO MANY TIMES I've thought she was definitely going to leave him, or she did leave him only to go back. It's NEVER happened, and all its done is drained my energy. So now i listen, i give my advice in a detached way, and step back to allow her to make her own life choices. She knows I'm always here for her IF SHE CHOOSES to leave him and come to me for help and support. Over all this time, she's never managed to leave him for good, but she has managed to find her own inner strength and courage.
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but i hope it may help you to see an alternative way of looking at it 🙏
@@richardclark4931 There is an entire chapter on Detachment in Melody’s book. As codependents we focus on the addict’s behavior to the detriment of ourselves. Detachment allows us to detach from the addict and focus on our needs and recovery. It becomes self preservation when we stop trying to control things we have no business trying to control. I say this in love and not judgement. ♥️
@@richardclark4931 There is an entire chapter on Detachment in Melody’s book. I learned to turn the focus away from the addict in my life and to my own recovery and therapy. It gave me the courage to leave a very dangerous relationship.
wow, I love this! so helpful. detachment. I am thinking of all the coda stuff I've suffered in acting & writing.
Rreading your CODEPENDENTS GUIDE TO THE 12 STEPS now. It's fantastic, just like THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO.
Thank you ❤
This gives me hope ❤
Your codependent no more work book is very hard to find for a couple years now?
I'm currently drunk and hating myself because I do this and this and this for everyone else and I'm always a people pleaser, (drunk or sober). And I can never do anything for myself or my own happiness because my family is rough and my job is non stop work work work, and I can't find time for myself. I know this sounds like run on sentences but I need help for myself and I need time for myself so I can help myself but all I have is me myself and RUclips. I can't get time off for counseling and I can't get time off even so much to make phone calls without it being too late after I'm off work... I sleep until 11:00 and I wake up and go to work... I close at 10 pm and my whole day is gone..
most religions and societies which are patriarcial, socialise women to be co-dependant
I know what you mean but scripture such as the bible teaches that women should honour their husbands but men should treat their wives with love and respect. This shows that God sees us as equals but in our own way
@@mark-ge2yland vice-versa
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Turn off the music!!!
My wife left me and I can’t let go😢
I’m sorry. Know you are loved and god will send you someone that cares about you and values you… sometimes god makes things like this happen on purpose god works in mysterious ways but everything that is in gods plan is meant ti happen and everything will be okay
But narcs and bpds also don`t love themselves enough. This makes them codependents too. So what is the difference? I see no difference. You could tell me what is the difference and how you measure the "level of love"?
There’s a big difference between cluster Bs and empathic codependent folks.
They usually aren’t trying to self reflect or change either
I found the music very distracting and had to stop watching before the video was over. Maybe turn it down or off completely. ❤
I really dislike the piano in this video lol it is so distracting
Hmmmm. IMHO Interesting how distracted the piano was for you. Maybe your soul wasn't truly ready to hear the message?
Why women? Let's go gender neutral. Especially when speaking from the heart to the heart as you do. All souls yearn to be free.
This thought crossed my mind as well. But she is speaking from experience, and while there are gendered terms used, it is never used in opposition. I feel the overall value of her words outweighs the gender specificity.
Gosh trying to listen to the wise words this lady says with a piano recital in the foreground is so annoying