When A MAN Has Erectile Dysfunction Do THESE 5 Things
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- When A MAN Has Erectile Dysfunction Do These 5 Things... When a man has erectile dysfunction, he might feel embarrassed, frustrated, or inadequate, making it crucial to know what to do in such a situation. When a man has erectile dysfunction he will likely experience a range of emotions and challenges, including frustration and embarrassment. Take heed to this relationship advice to understand men and the various ways to handle erectile dysfunction.
These dating tips will help you understand what to do whether you're dating or in a relationship with a man who has erectile dysfunction. Remember that erectile dysfunction does not mean that there's a lack of attraction or desire towards you, be supportive when a man has erectile dysfunction and refrain from blaming or pressuring him. To create an understanding environment that prioritizes both parties, learn what to do when a man has erectile dysfunction.
A man having erectile dysfunction should not stop you from maintaining a healthy relationship with him. If you embrace this dating advice, you will understand men better and learn the things you should do when a man has erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction is a common medical condition and does not define a person's worth or ability to maintain a fulfilling relationship.
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If a man loves and cares about you- he’ll want to do whatever it takes to fix it. Mine does…
The problem is that some women will go elsewhere to get it
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Not really. I loved and cared a lot about this man I was dating. I did everything I could, but he didn't want to get help. I offer to go with him to the doctor. He would lie to me that he made an appointment than when I asked how did it go. He made excuses that he couldn't go because something came up. This happened several times. I stayed with him for over 6 years, but I hated him lying to me about getting help. I was willing, but unfortunately, he wasn't.
Thanks for your good job.
@tmo4052 Women who value their man and their relationship will hang in there as long as the man is actively trying to get help. But if he's in denial and dragging his feet, yes, going elsewhere for sexual gratification progressively becomes an option.
I dated a guy with this issue recently. He was 52 and 30 pounds over weight. I asked him to get serious about losing weight (I'm already a health nut), he refused and said that I should love him the way he was. I broke up with him. no regrets.
A question if you’re a health not why you were speaking to a man who was 30 lb overweight if he’s 52 why at 52 is he suddenly going to want to change the habits that he’s had for 52 years
I’m at the age you are why are you meeting and entertaining men that you know do you not meet your current lifestyle it’s weird
This sounds a bit cold the way you wrote out the interaction
@@Khadiyah01 Because he was a kind man. Very smart. Fun to be around. Mature and ready and willing to commit, loyal. But he wasn’t interested in eating a healthy diet with me and working out regularly. Sad really, I just wanted him to be healthy, to not have a stroke or heart attack. And yes, to be able to maintain an erection.
@@brooklynjade But why get with him in the first place if you knew a more physically fit guy was what you wanted? You wasted that man's time
That’s tough, I guess it would be different if he had a health issue he couldn’t control. However being overweight (something you can control), I don’t know. My question is, was he already like that when you met him? If so, yes you’re wrong for telling him to lose weight.
This happened to me when I was dating a 56 year old man. The first time we were intimate, he said he was nervous being with me for the first time. I let it go until the next time we were intimate. He still couldn't perform. Then he confessed and said he has ED. He didn't want to take Viagra because he said it had a bad interaction with his high blood pressure medication. Which I knew nothing about. ED and high blood pressure he didn't tell me about. We dated for 4 months before we were intimate. He had time to tell me about those health issues but he chose not to. I made the decision to move on. I am a 52 year old woman in good health. I didn't want to waste any more time with him and his health issues. By the way, he said he wanted me to perform oral sex EVERY time, and I decided I didn't want to give wife privileges to a boyfriend.
Yes, especially if it’s in the beginning. All the holding on and trying is for those who have been in long term relationship and the ED is new. Not if you are newly dating or in a fresh relationship with them.
Ewww
Alhamdulillah
Correct yes he isn't your husband so you are not supported to give him these treats if your don't want to you are the QUEEN of your body 😊
Because they're doing to much to early and it's all those chemicals inside of the foods
If a man is in the dating phase and he has ED, he better learn to be romantic and loving in other ways and be emotionally available and whole… otherwise it’s not worth it!
Dated a man with ED … wasn’t open to therapy, was very emotionally unavailable and all around not giving and just not for me.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Even if he is loving & romantic, it's not s3x without penetration. Don't waste your time/life.
I experienced the same thing. As a result of his emotional unavailability I broke up with him. He also had an inflated ego.
Right! lol, he needs an “Arrangement” lol
Same here. I tried being really understanding but he is not open emotionally at all. Whats the point if both things are
Missing. Plus the last time
He got frustrated & upset and blamed me.
When it happens during a lifetime of a marriage union, you just still stay, love unconditionally, and seek professional help. It is what it is. Nothing personal! Just like us women go through the change. Men, cannot take it personally. Men, have to understand that patience is a virtue, period. Real love and deeper feelings and loyalty will tell your marriage foundation. I love being married to my husband because we have built our soon-to-be six years of holy matrimony upon facts, realistic expectations, and unconditional love. That is deeper than sex. We have a strong intimacy whether physical sex happens or not. Great discussion King Stephen!! Love ya 🤣🤗♥️♥️
P*** addiction causing this sadly 💔
I agree w/you. The young man watched porn daily ..it messed him up. Alcohol involved too. Drinking & jacking messed things up.
@@brendahall5658exactly, it’s an epidemic that many aren’t aware of.
Good point
Yup
Porn addiction ? Then he should be in a better position to
Perform and explore more
Yes. That was me!
There was no intimacy at all.
I didn't end it because of that but he was mean and narcissistic and I had to choose ME.
My counsellor sign posted me to articles about the link between ED and narcissistic tendencies in men
You had patience No intimacy I'm done
@@blackorchid76Absolutely!
Same here..
Yes, this is an issue, especially when men get older. Alot of older men have health issues that affect intimacy, it needs to be addressed! The sad part is, especially in the black community, our men refuse to seek help, there is no shame in getting help.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
If it is not a stress or health issue, you may need to have an honest conversation about whether he is engaging in a regular pattern of "internet usage" that might be draining his libido.
😂 They don’t want to discuss this
@@missmartin85 Right?
Is that you Jasmine? LOL
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Yes has a man if I’m in a active sexual relationship I refrain from masturbating (to porn) , because so I can be sure I can perform with my partner
Absolutely. Men will deny it to the death sometimes. Because they like really raunchy stuff. They get it rock hard for porn but can't get up in real life.
The biggest issue I've come across when dating men with ED ( happened twice) is that they refused to have an honest conversation about it. One was pretending at first that he "likes to take things slow" and then just started avoiding any sexual situations altogether. Despite my patience refused to talk about it. Another one also never admitted outloud that he has a problem - we would just kiss etc. and whenever things got really steamy he would just kind of suddenly stop and get up from bed or make some stupid face and stare into space. I could NEVER get him to have a conversation about what is going on. In both cases after a while I just left. Because of total lack of communication. It was almost as if they were upset with ME that I "discovered" their problem.....
Absolutely, or they expect you to just suck it endlessly
@@rebeccacroft23 and you should 🙂
@@rebeccacroft23 endlessly is the word!
Thank you!!!! And how long are you expecting to stay? My ex-friend told me , " I'm ok with you being with someone else so you can be happy,." just come back home to me.
Really 😂 ?
Not a joke but I have to laugh , So u mean u had to
Wait until u actually got in bed to realize that they had this problem ?
Did u ever gave them a close and tight hug ? Ha 😂 to figure
Out that they are lifeless down there ?
Ladies all be vigilant always !
I dated this man last year and we went through this.
Put my feelings to the side and tried talking to him to see if it’s actually an issue FOR him. He expressed how interested he’s been and we have great foreplay. He just couldn’t get it right. He reassured me that it’s not me and like I said I had my feelings but I was more concerned with how it affects him and if it’s going to be an issue even after me.
What I learned from that situation is that it wasn’t a case of ED. He was just so into me it got in the way but once we overcame that hump….oh he still holds the title!!
Love this!
I was 21 when I met someone who was 37 and was in this situation. I was not experienced but I thought that something was off. He was a kind and caring person and because we dated for over three months before we got to that point, I already felt comfortable with him and I saw the bigger picture. We were honest with each other and were open minded about moving forward. We were together for eight years and I had no regrets. I will always respect the man that he was
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
So live a s3xfree existence? Nah, I'd rather not waste my life
@@msdemeanour : it was not necessarily “sex free,” but we found pleasure in each other. We were both open-minded and yes as a woman It was easy for me as a recipient, and I would gather that it is either a man can get physical arousal, I could not do anything about that, but I accommodated him and he seemed to have been satisfied because we were very active in that area. I NEVER did anything to make him feel inadequate, I have never refused him and his pleasure is personal to him as is mine to me. I will promise you that there are many relationships out there where she was NEVER sexually satisfied but she faked it and accepted it for what it was, especially if he was a good partner and overall a decent person. Do NOT FOOL YOURSELF STATISTICALLY MANY WOMEN HAS NEVER EXPERIENCE A CLIMAX DURING SEXUAL INTERCOURSE For WHATEVER REASON
The mean causes of ED are:
1. High Blood pressure
2. Diabetes
3. Pelvic floor dysfunction 4. Medication
5. Poor diet
6. Overweight
7. Poor health
8. Stress: emotional, physical and environmental
9. Chemicals in Food, personal care products and environment
10. Childhood and other traumas
11. Poor blood circulation
12. Nonactive lifesryle
Thanks for addressing this . There is a lot we need to learn to help and support our men.
Men's Pelvic Health is a big one.
@dtptwellness
Went 3 yrs without being pleased,while he had the nerve to cheat
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Smh... bogus as hell🙄
How was that possible?
He did not please u in the first year and u accepted this for two
More years ?
Maybe he thought u were satisfied
That be throwing me off when they do that
He’s 30. It’s happened a few times. I just help him if I can with my hand or mouth. He apologizes and I don’t let him. I tell him “we” got this! I just tell him he’s the best. And he truly is! I don’t make a big deal of it. I tell him I love him so much and we cuddle. Next morning he’s harder than a rock. I think there is no rhyme or reason for him at least. He’s my soulmate. I’ll do anything for him.
Your a real one
It should more understanding women like you. It can make a man feel less than, causing a performance issue due to stress and you are key to help him just to relax.
30??? Wow!
At age 30 it's most likely porn usage. It's becoming a huge problem for most men right now.
You forgot to mention that overstimulation can also cause this problem…. men That are addicted to sex commonly suffer with ED
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Sex addiction explains a lot regarding ED. They prefer random sex as opposed to sex with their spouse or life partner 😮
I TRULY BELIEVE THIS COMMENT- DONT LEAVE THIS OUT- ADDICTED TO SEX, DONE STUCK THEY S---- IN EVERYBODY THEY CAN, THEN GET TO THE WIFE OR FINALLY GET MARRIED & CANT PERFORM FOR THE ONE HE NEED TO PERFORM FOR- REALLY - (SMH)
LETS NOT FORGET WHILE YOU TALKING ABOUT STRESS BEING A CONTRIBUTING FACTOR TO ED, BE SURE YOU ADD THE FACT THAT SMOKING DRUGS IS A CONTRIBUTING FACTOR AS WELL- I WAS INFORMED OF THIS BY A MAN YEARS AGO & I KNOW HE HAS NO REASON TO LIE ABOUT THAT
Porn addiction causes erectile dysfunction
All the women's comments says it all. Men, we need to put more effort in taking care of our selves. If not for you do it for them. Thanks for the wakeup call lady's !! ❤.
My person has diabetes. Which sometimes causes erectile disfunction. There are all kinds of things you can do to help things along. We have fun with it. Playful and experimental. Toys to help. It's not the end of the world. Yes stress is a key factor so you have to be understanding and patient with your man.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Real talk
Yep. Been there. Dated that. And asked him to talk to a doctor. He was 28 and refused. Said I shouldn't care about being sexually satisfied enough that that would be a problem.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Omg too young to have ED. I’m dating men in my age range (late 30s - early 40s) and I’ve seen this.
What is the problem when a man has ED?
He may have watched daily porn.
@@Nokia1975__I was 18 and he was 23, and Erectile dysfunction was a problem
I tried w/ him. At 55, & dating, my sex drive is high. We talked about his ED. We tried pills from the health food store. I suggested a doctor. I even wanted to make an appointment for him. He confessed that he has diabetes, and there may be a relation & he doesn't want to be on medication. I can't argue with another's health. Needless to say, we are no longer together.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
That's sad Really ! That you end a marriage /relationship over that. If everything else wasn't going right That was your way out. What if he couldn't come back from that ? It's other ways of sex. I don't know if he was trying to provide you that or trying at all ! But I tell you this. A lot of women is saying even guys in their twenties have ed erectile dysfunction! So I'm trying to see what's your ultimate plan. Just a jump to another man to another man when that pops up ? It's not just going to stop with him
Also the medication doesn't work like that He would have to change his whole diet Would you willing to help him and work with him.
I guess not cause you ran off
@@Foreverdensword I didn't, "run off," solely off of that. Again, I tried working with him. There were major issues within the friendship and I deserve better.
@@Foreverdensword You have me all wrong. It wasn't just sex. He was very disrespectful towards me. Also, I care about my health and well being so I do not jump from man to man.
I'm 31, my fiance is 31. I noticed a new bottle of little blue pills in the cabinet this weekend. He's had ED issues for years. I noticed it but hadn't said anything to him . I appreciate this as it has been taking a toll on my self esteem.
It's porn addiction. I bet he can get it rock hard for porn. At 31 he should not have ED
I commend you for this video!!! Unfortunately as men age...it gets alot worse and it's difficult as a woman who happens to love sex to have any idea what to do
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Thank you for sharing this topic. Men may struggle with this and need support. Women deal with the transition of menopause. We all deserve support and options.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Of course.
Men go thru andropause
It’s mostly caused by low testosterone. Which the main cause of that is lack of sleep, exercise, or a stable healthy diet. I’ve been helping my ex husband get through this and have found that magnesium at night helps him sleep better, and eating a crap ton of berries every day keeps his member from experiencing ED. Like seriously… this regiment has done absolute wonders!!! (we’re dating again now, slowly, after he had some infidelity issues) so he is actually my boyfriend, which feels weird to say after 15 years of marriage 😅
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
What kind of berries ?
Nice, praying fo you all.
I read up on it, and they said to add vitamin B¹² as well as the magnesium.
I wish people would laugh about it more, maybe laughing can help some people open up and talk about it. It’s not a “bad” thing, it’s the cycle of life.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Yep. But WE have sought medical help & he receives constant support from me/his woman. WE WILL be just fine. 🙏❤️🙏There's so much more to life than sexual fulfillment.
Hmmm....oral can never make up for proper s3x
Intimacy comes in many forms. Get creative, because women can experience this too. Explore your inner artistry together. Tap into your love language. ❤❤❤
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Please give us ideas about being creative in intimate ways.
@@Littlerobin-cl1nm I love to have date nights at home. Set the tone with favorite things to eat, great music playlist, dancing and good drinks or switch it up with dinner drinks and a good movie and top it off I put on my little black dress. 🥰🥰
Intimacy is more than just the sexual act. Spend sometime together doing things you both like. We love music and will find shows at small intimate venues. The romantic setting makes it more special.
Thank you for talking about this delicate issue in such a mature and respectful manner. I am a woman and I experienced the "Madonna effect" you described. Also one of my guy friends went through it with this girl he really liked. So I do believe it exists. I wish I saw this video back then because I did blame myself. But your reasonings and explanations make so much sense. It wasn't me. It didn't work out with the guy but that was simply because he wasn't the One. After watching this video I am more prepared mentally if this issue comes up in the future. Thanks Stephan ❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
In terms of healthy nutrition, I have researched this in depth and here are my suggestions: meat to make testosterone, chaywanprash (Ayurveda elixir), maca (Peruvian root, that boosts libido), no alcohol, exercise and rest. We also do tantra together, the real, Vedic one (from Kundalini yoga), not the fake modern one.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Please research kundalini before opening your spirit up to that, please 🙏🏽😩. Matthew 6:33
@@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere I teach kundalini yoga 😂 The system I teach is safe.
Thank you for this video 🙏 We've had that and I have high sex drive 🙈 We don't see each other often (that's another story), but last time he took viagra for me and it was amazing for both of us. He's only 42, but has had a hard and stressful life and is also a workaholic . I didn't take it personally, but I never thought it may be because of an emotional reason, so thank you also for this perspective.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate hearing from you 🙏
ED also includes not being able to maintain erection. The amount of stress and strain it can place on relationships is unreal! It's impacting men even in their 30's, not just older gentlemen. There needs to be a video on ED that speaks directly to men on how to improve their health, address it medically (if necessary), and work through the situation with confidence and intentionality regarding their relationship.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Ladies yes we need to be open minded and understanding to the man if he has this issue. In the same manner men if you have this issue please disclose this to the woman you are desiring and wanting to be with. If you both are truly interested in each other and are working towards having a committed relationship then she should understand and together you both can come to a workable solution that fits both of your sexual needs. Thanks Stephan for getting this topic out and speaking on it! 🤩💗💪🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I'm currently dealing with this now. He didn't disclose it to me right away, he shared it with me after are first time being intimate with him. Yes I was disappointed and upset, however I got to know him for him.
So at this time we're both working on it with him seeing his doctor and a urologist to rule out any medical issues like blood circulation issues, cholesterol etc. Along with hormone therapy (Testosterone), diet, exercise and meditation to alleviate stress. While coming up with ways to be intimate with each other.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks You are quite welcome. 🤩💗💪🏽🙏🏽💯
Oh yeah bad enough women bending over backwards for a man then deal with getting creative stop sugarcoat it😢
I really appreciated this video! I had to deal with this with my EX. He was young 29 yrs old.. He was actually not overweight but in fact underweight and super concerned about being lean and cut with a 6 pack dispute not being a body builder or stepping on stage.
I was incredibly supportive, encouraged him to take more rest days from the gym, add more fat to his diet. I went to the store after doing research and bought a whole bunch of new food to add to his diet.. I had very much the we are in this together approach.
Later on I found out he struggled with a p*** addiction he was hiding from me among getting his blood work back I told him to do and his testosterone was beyond the low levels… but he never even put in effort to change any of these factors that were/ could be reversible if he JUST tried.
We are no longer together for those and many other reasons. I can only encourage someone to be healthy cannot force them.
So sorry you experienced that. You are right, you can’t force anyone to change.
Stephan, thank you for focusing largely on the role nutrition plays in all of this. As a nutritionist, I know that if a man's sex drive and testosterone levels are low, that most likely means he has developed Insulin Resistance. Insulin Resistance leads to many metabolic conditions to include high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes etc. If a man starts blood pressure medication, it will affect his performance (erectile dysfunction). That is just one scenario. Things can be improved naturally with diet. For example, increasing your intake of foods that are high in Nitric Acid like Beets and Leafy Greens naturally improves blood circulation.
My last husband told me up front about needing to use Viagra.... I had no problem with it because he wasn't the first person I had been involved with that had erectile issues.... Later on after I married him he would use it to pick fights with me.... Saying things like, I would wear sexy lingerie and other outfits to belittle him.... Saying that I would put on these things or even act "frisky" knowing full well that he would need to take a pill and that he couldn't just turn it on as soon as he takes a pill... It takes a little time to work ... I would always say that there are other things we can do while we are waiting for it to take effect.... Of course he would just act pissed at me and forget foreplay, that wasn't going to happen .... Later I learned that he is a complete narcissist and would use sex and anything else he could think of for control and manipulation..... We are finally divorced but it had nothing to do with erectile dysfunction
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Whew 🥴
You didn't want to laugh but guess what? You did laugh!🤦🏽♀️😂 You are a very inspirational person and you couldn't have said it any better Stephan. Keep up the great work you are doing 👏🏾👏🏾 I do hope and pray the men and women out there will learn something from this topic. I have come a long way in my life being married for 23years but believe me, I am always learning something new every day about men...😂🙏🏽💚🙌🏾
Always a treat to come across one of your vid’s pertaining to relationship topics. This one was a good and REAL! Deserves a 2nd listen, for sure😊
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Important topic. Thank you. Also consider men going through prostate cancer therapy.
This has been my experience. Zero intimacy and I asked him to get help. Nothing worked. It has greatly affected us. He’s 52 yrs old. I think we’re headed to splits vile.
Keep trying
Been w a man under 30 with ED issues- worst not fulfilling relationship or ALL time: totally refuse to do anything about it.
It’s Done.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
It's most likely caused from porn use.
Stephan, I appreciate your approach to this serious issue.✨💫
Yes, reduce chemicals and traditional Western mattresses/bedding which have formaldehyde and other harmful chemicals, fiberglass, etc.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
I think you covered this subject very thoroughly and respectfully. Thank you😊
❤️ 🙂 I appreciate that!
My ex has BPH and refused to take medication.
What worked for him was fasting, supplements, no alcohol or drugs and exercise. … I was able to help by letting him know how attracted to him I was and that I was ok with just being together with other forms of intimacy.
This was something that effected his ego terribly. .. We reassured each other as frequently as possible.
It probably could have worked out for us if he believed in therapy and simply, just talking things out.
😢 For my husband, i am hurting for him because he had a stroke in April 2022....... how 🤔 can i help him because he doesn't want to talk about it...... and we haven't done anything in months........ i truly am in love with him and i want him physical....... Help
You have done a wonderful professional,and sensitive way to help those who have this need.Also,I like the way you always mention what the Women's Role is in this ,not only for her man,But for Her part in this for her own benefit.Thank You.✨💜🐉💜✨
Interesting topic and video…. thanks for the breakdown!👀🙏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback!
Too much porn can affect intimacy.
Most definitely!
Facts
Yes my man gets off on porn because of been in prison
I haven't taken a day off in 43 years and I am 43 😂. If the Lord is my strength was a person, that will be me! I'm still grateful ❤
My ex had a secret, long term porn addiction which led to his ED.
Thank you for this video. Health is WEALTH..........
I got myself a 61 yr old man and he’s as good as a 20 yr old with all the tricks up his sleeve!!!! Hope you find yours ladies!!!!
Me too mines is 57 and no problems 😊
I agree with you on all points. As always, communication is key. But also, understanding and patience is necessary.
Stephan this is an excellent video informative and insightful 💯 There are single men & couples who need practical support and your advice covers many bases.
Glad to hear that. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Well this video has absolutely perfect timing. 👌🏻
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Sometimes this is caused by medication too..encourage your partner to speak with the Dr. if it’s emotional then you have to give them time and help them feel comfortable enough to get out of their own headspace.
It depends on the person when you have love for someone you love and if there is not problem with that kind of issue...for me it's not a problem it's done that way...because we will grow old and come The time will disappear and we will go through our hormones. When we get there, your love should not disappear.. I want you to be together and happy as we get older.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I have experienced this situation tried pills from the doctor, store, pharmacy nothing worked. I hung in there and stuck it out as long as I could. Eventually I became frustrated and moved on.
Men can have this problem do to emotional problems, from being hurt or rejected, could be childhood issues from what they were taught from different types of religions, and yes men do go through menopause like woman. You can still have great sex and love making with your mate, it's called be creative hahaha blessings to you all in Jesus name Amen
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I've never in my life heard of a man going through menopause.. Are you sure of that❓
@qquitaward1 Yes, when you start having those hot flashes or night sweats! You find yourself getting a little more cranky than usual, I don't know if they get it as bad as females, but the doctor told me they do get it ! Blessings in Jesus' name, Amen
These comments have me 🤣🤣😂☠️.. I'm in the same boat though he wants me to be patient and take things slow like I don't know ... Whole time I'm just like if you can't beat it, can you atleast eat it 🤣😂
Ha ha 🤣 love this
The issue with testosterone replacement is that starting therapy is a lifelong decision. Once the "outside" testosterone is supplied, the body will stop making it internally. Still something to consider with your doctor, but not something to rush into.
Hello Stephan i just came across ur video and i saw ur title and thought i listen, its good u brought this up because some women dont think about this issue
Personally ive never in my life experience that from any of my relationships, and currently im abstaining from sex and have been for many years, so i haven't experience that, but i have prepared myself that if i should ever marry, i would hope that my husband would be transparent and tell me that hes dealing with this issue, that way i will know and understand,
I know most women will get frustrated if this was to happen to them, but if he's my husband and i love him unconditionally i would understand his health issue and i would not judge him or make him feel like he's less than a man, because some men will be embarrassed about it, and feel like they cant please their woman, and that she might cheat on him. But im glad u spoke on this subject because i think bfore u get in a relationship with someone these things should be discussed that way u both will know how to handle this and if the man knows his woman is a Good God Fearing Woman she's not just going to walk away, once i marry a man im there for better or worse thats how i operate
But Thank you for bringing up this topic, because honestly i never really thought of this issue happening, im single as of now so i didnt give it much thought. But good to know 😊
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The foods we digest and the medicine people take are altering our bodies and function. 😢
Most definitely!
My late husband had ED 15 years before he died. I wish we would have based our marriage on Phila and Agape love instead of Eros. So grieving losses started long before he died. God was good to us and we were able to forgive one another in the end for not choosing to love unconditionally, but it's still painful to think about it all these years later. So sorry for everyone's pain.
A lot of great tips for couples, I would love for them to communicate , even after seeing a therapist, they still need to talk about what was said, that way we all are on the same page.think about it if you’re doing, doing, and we not speaking each other’s languages, then we should have some communications . Great advice Stephan,Thank you!😁❤️
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Very informative much needed for us women to obtain a better understanding when DF comes, whether at a young or older age. This is why I also feel that it's sooul imperative to be with someone that we trust, having real love and who understands one another to handle such a sensitive topic without him feeling that his woman will step out on him because of it. When I think about growing older with my mate and if all else fails "temporary" that communications, interests and other activities outside of the bedroom does play a major role in sustaining a healthy relationship, when DF and or Menopausal for the women may come later in real life... For me, the bottom line is LOYALTY‼ Great Video❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
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Stephan, thank you for your wisdom and for reminding us that so much is about our health, physically and mentally. One piece of advice to everyone since we're talking about health, please do not forget to use sunscreen when being under the sun. Skin cancer is a terrible thing and it's increasing everywhere in the world.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Excellent information! Maybe do a video for premenopausal and menopausal women??🤔
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
High blood pressure medications can affect erectile dysfunction, also.
After 7 years of marriage my husband developed high blood pressure and would not get it up any more. He could not take viagra since he had also some heart problems, so... 10 years later we are sustaining a sexless marriage, to which he has no problem at all, but, of course, I cheat whenever I can, because I married him - among other things - in order to have regular sex !! I cannot leave him yet, because we have children and financial obstacles to overcome. Thank you for brining up this subject. By the way, I know of 4 women in my social circle who remain to their sexless marriages for more than 20 years due to ED !!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Do you guys have an open relationship? That could work, so at least he knows ...Sounds like a miserable situation for both of you
Well we know Stephan doesn’t have that problem because he chuckled when he brought up the subject 😂😂😂😂
Thank you for making this video
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Very good information to have.
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Stephan, I forgot BEET ROOT powder/ JUICE… is a natural blood vessel expander .. also good for blood pressure
Such a great topic! Women also have issues with being fully engaged in the bedroom. I've struggled ALL my life to enjoy the experience (sadly with 3 kids). After seeking medical help the doctor asked the question in regards to how my relationship was, and I never received medical help (assuming that was the problem).
Such an important video thank you Stephan.
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Thanks for this because I was wondering if it was me God thank you but he kept thinking it's the alcohol I don't know
Glad I could help 🙏 and alcohol can be a contributing factor as well
Thank you for doing this video. This education will mean do much to so many. God bless you ❤🎉
Heavy smokers, drinkers, and drug users have this issue for sure
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True for baby mama and daddies - Healing and therapy is much needed 😅 Ghezzzzz
You gotta communicate 1 time . If he don’t go to the doctor after that leave . Cus he gone keep dragging u thru that n u will not enjoy ur sex life.
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Great information was delivered for me in this video
Now I understand why this and that
I'm getting educated
Thanks 😊
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Be understanding TO HIM!!!❤❤❤
Thank you for this video! So unfortunately I'm going through this now with my man of 8 months. He's 32 I'm 39. We've only had sex once in 8 months and when we did he lasted less than a minute. He is very affection but when kissing leads to more he acts uninterested. I did initially blame myself but he said it was him. He is in denial about having ED he just says he has to be in the mood. Now we don't have sex at all. Funny thing is he wants me to do oral on him all the time but I refuse because he doesn't reciprocate. I even asked him was he gay because I just couldn't understand how you can lay next to your woman and not get turned on. Sadly I feel like I'm on the verge of breaking things off. I feel like I tried but he's not trying to get help 😢
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
He is down low run 🏃🏽♀️
@@natashalampkin366 Yeah. I was thinking that even though he denied being gay. I just need proof. Don't want to make assumptions.
@@maliciamcallister6060not looking good at all😮
If he is not honest up front it is most definitely a deal breaker.
Thanks,it can be some medication that they on like blood pressure sometimes make men's not function right either
Very good Stephan, thank you for all the thoughts on this
We ALL go through things and we ALL have to make adjustments at some point in our lives. Know who you love and then stay. ❤
Really great tips and advice
I found this video to be helpful. I think that men should be open, honest and transparent about erectile dysfunction with his partner in order to avoid future problems. For example, if a man starts acting cold, distant and uninterested in sex the first thing most women are going to think is he is cheating. And that may be the furthest thing from the truth. I think with proper communication, patience and understanding would follow. In addition the man has to be willing to correct the problem and his partner must be willing to support him. Otherwise the relationship is done. Another thought that came to mind, is erectile dysfunction coming from masturbating? I'm floored to know that men in their 20's are having this problem. Just wow. My last thought, in regards to women not doing what men like in the bedroom...it goes back to communication. Are men telling women specifically what he likes in the bedroom or is this the part where she whips her crystal ball out of the closet and starts reading his mind ?? LOL..I'm playing! But seriously though, I think if its communicated clearly to her then what's the problem? Unless she fears contracting something, uncleanliness, something...
Depends on how mature the other person is, there is a shame associated with it and some women just can't handle it well.
In my opinion...(Hear me out) maturity level should have been determined BEFORE entering into a relationship. Once in a relationship I believe men owe it to their wife to disclose erectile dysfunction. It's not fair to shut her out and to deny her of her needs. If you have a wonderful relationship, why wouldn't she understand and be supportive ? Again, tell her. At least you would have done your part. If she doesn't handle it well. Comfort and reassure her that you're working on resolving the issue.
If you DON'T communicate it with her...THEN comes all the negative thoughts from the wife: doubts (What's going on? Is there something wrong with me?) , fears (Is he cheating on me? Did he find someone else? Did he contract something?), lying (When you don't communicate properly that leaves the imagination WIDE open and she starts to not believe nothing you say. Everything will start to be nit-picked, micro-managed and scrutinized) trust issues (No longer believes a word you say) and resentment (Unfortunately by that point....the relationship is a wrap.) So to me COMMUNICATING and being open and honest upfront could have avoid ALL of that. I hope this helps!
@@user-jl6iw2jg3s Yes, a ton of men in their 20s have this problem. You might think it's a masterbutation issue, but it's much deeper than that, no pun intended lol Their tool still works, it just a mental issue for (most of) them, either performance anxiety, which creates adrenaline and adrenaline impacts your blood flow, which negativity impacts your erection. And/OR too much porn usage to the point where it desensitize your brain to real life intercourse with your partner. I struggled with both of these issues.
When I had a beautiful woman, amazing body etc... laying next to me fully nude, I looked at her, and felt absolutely nothing. It was almost like she was still fully clothed. Thats when I realized something was wrong and went to the doctor and got help. I stop watching porn. I started working out more and eating more healthier. I initially had ED pills but now I don't need them anymore to perform.
Sensitive discussion, touched on most of the points, but slid right over the rock bottom foundational issue that must be addressed or nothing else is going to work. Right now, America leads the world in Erectile Dysfunction. By age 40, 40% of American men have ED, by age 50 it's 50%, by 60 it's 60%, you can see where this is going. ED shows up about 5 years out from the first heart attack. About 50% of first heart attacks are fatal. ED is a reliable predictor of serious heart disease. The reason diabetics have or will soon have ED is because Diabetes itself, as well as pre-Diabetes is a huge indicator that atherosclerosis, artery disease, is present and worsening. Diabetes is a huge contributing factor in heart disease, stroke, ED, cancer, circulation issues, high blood pressure, and peripheral nerve damage.
The foundation of health is diet.
The Standard American Diet, the SAD, is the cause of all the top killers of Americans. If you've been eating together and one of you is showing symptoms of progressive dusease, you both have progressing health issues. The SAD is heavy on animal products loaded with saturated fat, processed foods loaded with unhealthy commercial oils, salt, and sugar. You can't supplement your way out of any of the diseases that the SAD is causing. There are no shortcuts. The only way to heal anything is to stop doing the things that caused the problem in the first place. I am quoting an herbal specialist here who sells some of the best herbal formula products in the world and I use them and give them to my man. I want him to not only be able to perform, I want him to get his Heart-On. When his flag is raised, it's because his whole heart and cardiovascular system is performing properly, not because he took a little blue pill. You cannot simply take something and expect your problems to go away. "That's like trying to put out a fire with expensive water while at the same time pouring gasoline on the fire and saying, "This water doesn't work." You must stop fueling the fire and the disease. This is the hardest part because usually the problems are created by addictions to sugar, wheat, dairy, alcohol, smoking, stimulants, medications, fast food, comfort food, lack of exercise, and other forms of instant gratification. Herbs are very effective, but can't help you much unless you learn to control your habits and make a serious effort to improve your health and quality of life."
I'm 66 and my man is 13 years younger than me. He was taking testosterone shots when I met him, and had high blood pressure. His Systolic pressure was 187 when I finally got him to check it, that's hypertensive crisis territory. His doctor wanted to give him pills with a side effect of ED. He added powdered beet root and ginger root to his daily regimen and brought it down to 125 in just a few days. Now he is weaning himself off animal products, eating way more plants, he doesn't need testosterone shots, he can use the herbal formulas for prostate health and libido and they work great because his health foundation is built on greens including cruciferous vegetables like collards, beans, cancer fighters like onions and garlic and mushrooms, licopenes for prostate health like tomatoes and watermelon, pomegranate and berries, and healthy seeds and grains like fresh ground flax and chia, organic oats, and buckwheat which is not a form of wheat, it's a super-food seed. Eating proper nutrition helps reduce anxiety, depression, and stress, and increases resilience.
I've encountered men with ED before. They wouldn't take personal responsibility, they wanted to blame it on me, and they wanted me to suck them off. They were too floppy to even be able to masturbate. They were temperamental and moody from their poor health and they were candidates for heart attack in their early sixties. There was nothing in it for me.
I went 20 years without a loving partnership waiting for the right man. I found him and he was worth waiting for and worth every bit of my valuable attention and caring and service to his and our needs and desires and well-being.
And yes, Ashwagandha and Tongkat Ali, Nettles and Maca are all great herbs, for him and me. We get our herbal formulas from Markus Rothkranz online, and other supplements from Life Extension. No, I don't make money on their sales but I should look into their associates programs.
Glad im celibate snd single staying that way til the day i die😂😂😂❤❤❤
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Im out period. Because I would be at the doctor's office ASAP but these dudes be having 1000 excuses not to. Bye sir
When I was in a relationship, I suggested her we do couple counseling. Got shot down. One of the many reasons we are our separate ways now.
TRIBULOUS, maca. Yes ALL THOSE work! Def good to cycle on & off .. every 6 weeks
Two men with this issue. It is TOUGH and unfortunately it caused such insecurity in them that neither relationship worked. I was willing to deal with it but was constantly accused of cheating..siiigghh. Loved them both. It is frustrating when they don’t get any pleasure in the woman’s eyes.
Its just sickening us women dating one man pouring into,investing in time relationship when whole time they know their sh*t dont work,😢
Y'all wasting a better life Who needs lies and deceit? Just to have a broken piece of a man Who knew from the beginning!!! Track shoes on
Yeah,yup!!that's the thing they KNOW and don't tell you upfront,
@jacquelynsharp9354 Because it is extremely difficult and depressing for us to deal with. Over time, so much anxiety builds up after disappointing woman after woman and the situation just gets worse for the man mentally.
Communicating is key though. Some women would be willing to work with that
I will add one more thing. By his admission, he got this issue after the third covid vax 😢
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NOT ALL ISSUES IN THIS REGARD CAN BE FIXED, BUT IT CAN BE WORKED THROUGH IF YOU HAVE A GOOD FOUNDATION OF CARING AND UNDERSTANDING OF EACH OTHER. THIS HAPPENS TO MEN IN THEIR TWENTIES WHO ARE NOT SUFFERING FROM STRESS DISORDER AND ARE LIVING THEIR BEST LIVES OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM
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Men this young have ED because of porn use. They can get it rock hard for porn.
I dated a guy with that problem I do really love him so I never complained. Just kept my toy charged for when he left 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 naw I’m just joking about the toy part.