HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOU CANNOT HELP A MAN by RC Blakes

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @mildredherring2541
    @mildredherring2541 3 дня назад +55

    THIS MINISTRY IS HELPING PEOPLE EVERYWHERE .🎉😊

  • @elfgirl415
    @elfgirl415 3 дня назад +30

    "Trusting a man without a vision is like trusting a car to drive at night without headlights"...😆🤣 LOL!! Golden, Pastor!! Praise God for you. HOW we need your contiuned wisdom & guidance! Thank you.❤

  • @Ella03434
    @Ella03434 3 дня назад +140

    I will miss you all this evening. Unfortunately, I was in a pretty shocking car accident yesterday leaving church. I’m ok but need ample rest to recover. Prayers are requested. You know I love you all, Blessings Queens. 🩷👑🧎‍♀️

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  3 дня назад +27

      WOW!!! Im so sorry to hear. Please reach out to us to give us some detail. Email us at rc@rcblakesministries.com 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @gina9684
      @gina9684 3 дня назад +8

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @katrinalewis9386
      @katrinalewis9386 3 дня назад +8

      Praying for you ❤

    • @latanyabeason6881
      @latanyabeason6881 3 дня назад +7

      Praying Queen. We love❤ you some more. Remember everything is for our good. ❤❤❤🎉

    • @MochaChris
      @MochaChris 3 дня назад +12

      BLESSED healing/ complete recovery

  • @teetreadwell9290
    @teetreadwell9290 2 дня назад +13

    I come here from time to time for insight, validation, confirmation, reassurance, and strength.
    Because of it,
    Im winning. It hurts, but im winning.

  • @FindYourFree
    @FindYourFree 3 дня назад +15

    excellent message. I remember walking away from my last partner and telling him “ i can’t help. there’s nothing I can do”

  • @marilynwarbis7224
    @marilynwarbis7224 3 дня назад +26

    Sometimes people ask, 'where is God in all this?' Well, God works through human hands and human feet, and R. C. Blakes' platform is one example of this.

  • @queenc8280
    @queenc8280 3 дня назад +40

    You are explaining my husband to the T. After almost 2 decades and 3 kids he remains abusive and damaged. Affects me and kids. Sadly I cannot continue anymore 😪

    • @lori6156
      @lori6156 3 дня назад +13

      You deserve respect and peace. Honor yourself ❤

    • @queenc8280
      @queenc8280 3 дня назад +5

      @lori6156 Thank you so much Lori. I'm choosing to honor and respect myself now. I've let my dignity sink for far too long! I appreciate you, thank you❣️❤️🙏🏾😘

    • @cheekytitaable
      @cheekytitaable 3 дня назад +7

      23 yr marriage veteran here. Divorced 2 years ago with a special needs kiddo. You must take care of yourself and your kids… nothing matters more once a spouse is abusive. Praying g you find peace and healing for you and your children.

    • @zurigee6
      @zurigee6 3 дня назад +5

      ​@@cheekytitaablewow similar story.

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 3 дня назад +1

      What are you going to do?

  • @onevenus6040
    @onevenus6040 3 дня назад +19

    Every. Single. Thing. You. Said. Happened. With. Me.
    Being raised in a pentecostal holiness church, women are conditioned to accept and embrace this toxicity from an early age. The goalposts are always inched back, telling the woman that she's got to pray harder, fast more, attend more services, etc, but not a word of condemnation or reproach for men. Frequently, the husbands didn't attend the churches anyway, and the wives then get criticism about being at the church too much! WE had to be the light that would draw them to Christ, but if it didn't happen, it's still our fault and responsibility! Dammed if we did or didn't!

    • @MadQueen772
      @MadQueen772 3 дня назад +2

      This is so true, but don’t even try to explain this to the other women in the church.

    • @lovefelix1566
      @lovefelix1566 3 дня назад +1

      😢

  • @RobertStevens-ey8pk
    @RobertStevens-ey8pk 2 дня назад +78

    • @RussellGraham-pz4vw
      @RussellGraham-pz4vw 2 дня назад

      Please how ?

    • @RussellGraham-pz4vw
      @RussellGraham-pz4vw 2 дня назад

      Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞

    • @RobertStevens-ey8pk
      @RobertStevens-ey8pk 2 дня назад

      It's Maria Angelina Alexander doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.

    • @RobertStevens-ey8pk
      @RobertStevens-ey8pk 2 дня назад

      $356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....

    • @DianeCarpenter-um5zn
      @DianeCarpenter-um5zn 2 дня назад

      Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!

  • @lareinesamuels6593
    @lareinesamuels6593 3 дня назад +15

    It was more than a pleasure speaking with you! You definitely are changing families. ❤

  • @CherieChrist
    @CherieChrist 3 дня назад +40

    1.Self Motivation, he has to motivate himself
    2. Unhealed Motherwound
    3. When he is a lid over your life rather than a covering. A Covering has the capacity to elevate, to move and to shift! A Lid limits potentials
    4. when he has no authentic vision
    5. When you idolize him
    6. when he is in competition with your success
    7. when you don’t respect him

  • @loucindahobbs3620
    @loucindahobbs3620 День назад +2

    Bishop! You are always PREACHING even when are teaching!!!!! Excellent Teaching!!!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥
    Teaching with fire !!!
    God bless you Bishop Blakes!!!
    I am a guest who has been listening to your excellent Teaching!!! You have taught things about men.. I have not heard yet!! Your teachings has given me much godly wisdom nuggets for a "Royal Priesthood .. Queen/ daughter of the Most High God!!!
    It is He that findeth and Not "She that findeth!!
    God will guide and direct the Kingdom Spouse at the appointment time..
    Trust in HIM!! LET GOD PICK THE KINGDOM SPOUSE!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
    I will be sowing a seed in your mi ministry!!!
    God bless you & Lisa!!
    Beautiful couple inside and out!!
    God made you two examples for what "Kingdom Marriages look like...authentic and always keeping it 💯

  • @Jess_quez
    @Jess_quez 5 дней назад +17

    I could use this video today! Looking forward to it!

  • @theophaniai9292
    @theophaniai9292 3 дня назад +16

    He's 💯 when he says the mother wound is real. I've known several men who flat out disrespect women due to them not resolving their "Mother Wound".

  • @mariahcharnelle
    @mariahcharnelle День назад +2

    on top and going higher!! see yall at the top! thanks again Bishop RC for another great share 💛 i pray God continue to bless you and your loved ones…

  • @mucheychimezie5436
    @mucheychimezie5436 3 дня назад +7

    I have been saving for queenology in Ghana since i heard its coming close to me. I live jn Nigeria and its an hour flight from here..cant wait to see Y'all

  • @londontyler6598
    @londontyler6598 3 дня назад +6

    My ex was so upset with his mother to the point, he dated me because he said I reminded him of her, we shared the same similarities, birthday month, height, etc. Then I realized, he really hated her for things from his childhood and began to take it out on me. That’s when I decided to give him back to her and left the situationship after 5 1/2 years,

    • @DanaeLaurenTolbert
      @DanaeLaurenTolbert 2 дня назад +2

      Yikes! Some men have serious mommy issues. You did the best thing.

  • @deborahlewis930
    @deborahlewis930 3 дня назад +9

    Bishop, Thank you for this lesson. This was deep, and I needed it. I praise God for you and Lady Lisa Blakes.... on my long healing journey...

  • @delrenethompson6006
    @delrenethompson6006 2 дня назад +2

    God is definitely working in you and for you. Thank you Bishop RC Blakes. This was an ontime word and it was very insightful as always. We greatly appreciate you and first lady Lisa Blakes with your advice and sound judgement

  • @evapreston924
    @evapreston924 День назад

    And once again my earthly father that I hold very close to my heart 💕

  • @anamarie3088
    @anamarie3088 3 дня назад +8

    I so need this tonight. In so much emotional pain right now

    • @nenew1330
      @nenew1330 3 дня назад

      Ooh yes great title

    • @LatashaCM
      @LatashaCM 3 дня назад +1

      🙏🏾🙏🏾❤

    • @MochaChris
      @MochaChris 3 дня назад +3

      Sorry to read this but tune in regularly...keep pushing....

  • @mucheychimezie5436
    @mucheychimezie5436 3 дня назад +3

    You are the daddy, uncle, father, and friend we dont have

  • @LilKRN80
    @LilKRN80 3 дня назад +2

    What a great blessing this message is and for you breaking it down so softly and making it so clear with scripture. I feel my emotions and anxiety settle, as I watched this and know that I have chosen the right path this time. God has carried me. You are helping my painful awakening… with the needed softness and father talks I’ve always needed. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @latasha2270
    @latasha2270 3 дня назад +3

    The guy in my relationship has mother issues, needs outside validation, asks "who do I belong to", wants his women to follow everything he says, and doesn't respect boundaries. The list can go on.
    I told him I belong to GOD first and foremost, then myself, then to everyone else.
    I told him I don't idolize myself, so I can't idolize you.

  • @toolboxevolution7456
    @toolboxevolution7456 3 дня назад +3

    This was powerful and true 🏆🔥 I finally have to award this your very best video award in 6 years. They keep superseding each other, but I think it will be hard to outdo this one
    Pastor RC thinks similarly to myself. This little dude I had to throw back can't hear me but he can hear my thoughts coming from RC complete with all the scriptures cited. Thank you for being my translator over this entire annoying waste of time identified from the beginning. He keeps trying to bargain but me and this dude are and impossibility and from the gate. Just the fact that he doesn't want to hear that punctuates it. God bless Pastor Blakes. Amen. 🙏🏽

  • @brerobinson3817
    @brerobinson3817 3 дня назад +2

    Wow number 2 spoke to me specifically you are preaching!!!! All of these are very true. Learning this later in life but I'm grateful for this wisdom. Thankyou 🙌🏾

  • @nancygraceassociation2623
    @nancygraceassociation2623 3 дня назад +1

    Aaaaaamen pastor you are preaching and now and days you don’t have to look 👀 to far!😢😮❤🙌🏽

  • @lisaTerry-l4e
    @lisaTerry-l4e 3 дня назад +6

    Always love listening to the truth you speak! 0:00

  • @mildredherring2541
    @mildredherring2541 3 дня назад +3

    BLESSINGS BISHOP RC.Blakes,and 1st lady Lisa Blakes ❤ 🙏

  • @divinity26
    @divinity26 3 дня назад +1

    Pastor, I am shouting in this car as good as your preaching!! 🙏🏾👏🏽

  • @daddylightsministry106LaTrekaJ
    @daddylightsministry106LaTrekaJ 3 дня назад

    This kind of revelation doesn't make no sense to be this good! God I'm learning so much!!

  • @Koolfacejace1
    @Koolfacejace1 3 дня назад +3

    Pastor you are THE TRUTH

  • @myrastangoe124
    @myrastangoe124 2 дня назад +1

    Thank you Pastor Blakes, all the way from Bonnie Scotland X

  • @Sparkdivineharmony
    @Sparkdivineharmony 3 дня назад +2

    Man every thing you are saying is so important!!🙏🏼

  • @janettemccuien4249
    @janettemccuien4249 3 дня назад +2

    Good evening Bishop, Lady Lisa and saints of the most High

  • @yvettedevito
    @yvettedevito 2 дня назад

    So much truth and wisdom. Thank you Pastor. 🎉

  • @herbiecashmere2939
    @herbiecashmere2939 4 дня назад +6

    This is a hot topic, looking forward to this one!

  • @kimberlysanaa25
    @kimberlysanaa25 3 дня назад

    This word was so good! Every point was on point. I’ve lived this for 12 years .. Thank you for sharing this!

  • @Rikashari817
    @Rikashari817 2 дня назад

    I approve this message and thank you pastor for always helping us Queens value ourselves and know our worth!! Thank you and Lisa love you guys ❤

  • @lisaTerry-l4e
    @lisaTerry-l4e 3 дня назад +5

    Looking forward to yet more truth!❤

  • @cheekytitaable
    @cheekytitaable 3 дня назад +2

    Your timing is divine 👼 … 💔

  • @DeidreGeorge-m4i
    @DeidreGeorge-m4i 3 дня назад +1

    God bless you Pastor and your family 🇿🇦

  • @kimbridges1801
    @kimbridges1801 3 дня назад

    Your platform helped me to all glory to the most high

  • @annetta7886
    @annetta7886 3 дня назад +1

    Thank You Pastor, Thank Yu, Self Discovery and Inner Healing ... Much Needed 🙏💗🙏

  • @souledout3239
    @souledout3239 3 дня назад

    I had to come back and listen again. Wow. So much wisdom shared through this ministry 💜🙏🏽

  • @punkindlovu4926
    @punkindlovu4926 2 дня назад

    Thank you Bishop RC, you have nailed it💯✅

  • @NathanHeyward-yt3gv
    @NathanHeyward-yt3gv 3 дня назад +5

    Looking forward to this! You are always dead on! 0:00

  • @loucindahobbs3620
    @loucindahobbs3620 День назад

    Bishop Blakes, I did purchase two of your books.
    Queenology and The book about the Kingnolgy/ men.

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  День назад +1

      @@loucindahobbs3620 THANK YOU!

  • @hcyr23
    @hcyr23 2 дня назад

    Oh I'm shouting !! this is a word we wish we heard sooner ❤ thank u RC

  • @Lore788
    @Lore788 3 дня назад +1

    Thank you, for your great teaching and messages!👍🙏❤️

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 3 дня назад +3

    My ex had hardcore mother issues. She was very dominant & emotionless incestuous with him. Treated him like a boyfriend! She certainly didn't like me. Anyway, we tried but it was impossible. He was a very bitter man. Had zero respect for women. He is now 68. Never married. No children. A wretched man..actually a boy. I praise the living Christ he left me!

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 3 дня назад

      Emotionally incestuous is what I meant. Same with my stepfather. Very overbearing mom. He treated my mother like trash. EXTREMELY abusive towards my mom.

  • @CC-qf6zz
    @CC-qf6zz 2 дня назад +1

    I'm wondering if anyone else has noticed this within themselves... After 2 1/2 years of loving a man with medical issues, who is incapable of receiving the nurturing love that I want to give him him myself and finding that I am feeling needy now!! Use it as me becoming negative… Which I do not want I feel that the Holy Spirit lead me to his side, he is living with his sister currently and I am living by myself and I feel like all of his needs are being met and what the heck am I doing here

  • @deborahhall6445
    @deborahhall6445 2 дня назад

    Praise God Almighty Bishop, truly an Empowering discussion. Thank you for this Powerful topic. Well Received. In Jesus name. Bishop, I'm trying to get my adult children to realize. Amen. Thank you so much for this Revelation. Amen and Amen ❤❤

  • @jacquelinej5755
    @jacquelinej5755 3 дня назад +2

    Vision without Execution is Hallucination ~ Sir Thomas Edison, a vision is part of the plan, but without attainable steps, you are hallucinating and chasing dreams, couples need realistic goals, but he has to communicate them first

  • @isabellabaabiineh439
    @isabellabaabiineh439 4 дня назад +2

    I know right, I think I have been waiting for something like this

  • @DeeWoods-u3p
    @DeeWoods-u3p 3 дня назад

    All I can do is to holla wooo weeee.
    Thanks you for this process of protection for my healing.
    Lisa Lisa Lisa
    We thank you for unselfishly
    Sharing you husband man with the broken woman of this world.
    Nothing that you have been through has been in vain.
    You both exemplify the truth of God's word Working it out for his good.
    Wish my words can encourage and validate you both as much as your living on purpose lives has validate and healed my being.
    To God Be the Glory.
    I love you all including your downline to the moon and back.
    From the root to the fruit you have seeded well.
    We are your orchard all over the world
    You are planting a legacy
    Eternal life to you NOW

  • @kimbridges1801
    @kimbridges1801 3 дня назад +1

    Praise the lord

  • @laurettabrooks9650
    @laurettabrooks9650 День назад

    Hi you’re explaining very well to the point of understanding

  • @lisaTerry-l4e
    @lisaTerry-l4e 3 дня назад +3

    Looking forward to yet more truth!

  • @latanyabeason6881
    @latanyabeason6881 3 дня назад +2

    Hallelujah Daddy! 🎉❤🎉😊

  • @toolboxevolution7456
    @toolboxevolution7456 2 дня назад

    Check out how he looks, y'all. Don't he look 10 to 15 years younger all of a sudden? Also, he's such a SHADOW of his previous self! I can't get over how huge Pastor's transformation is. Just wow!

  • @kellyjackson4973
    @kellyjackson4973 3 дня назад +3

    There is a biblically based book called LOVE AND RESPECT. BY EMMERSON EGGRICH. I it’s about how women need love and men need respect!! Thx for this!!

  • @lashandathompson52
    @lashandathompson52 4 дня назад +1

    Waiting patiently but eager to hear Mr. Blakes

  • @will0wsmile
    @will0wsmile 3 дня назад +2

    Genesis 2:18

  • @SharonCastro1424
    @SharonCastro1424 2 дня назад

    This was so helpful thank you 🙏🏼!!!

  • @latanyagivens5380
    @latanyagivens5380 3 дня назад +2

    That’s great! Thank you!

  • @Aisha_babii
    @Aisha_babii 3 дня назад +1

    Amazing as usual! ❤

  • @tyesha735
    @tyesha735 3 дня назад

    THIS ISSSSS SOOOO GOOOOOOOD YESSSS

  • @Sebasays
    @Sebasays 3 дня назад +1

    My God this was right on time

  • @ilissawalker7051
    @ilissawalker7051 2 дня назад

    This is the ❤❤❤❤❤❤ 39:11 best message yet!!!

  • @melisamichele7622
    @melisamichele7622 2 дня назад

    This was a good one!!! Thank you so much!!!

  • @weireffie29
    @weireffie29 8 часов назад

    Great Truths

  • @kathymiller4385
    @kathymiller4385 3 дня назад +1

    I need prayers to get a roommate that has shown his deep seated narssistic behavior to move out of my home,i have given him six months to find his own place.
    I thought i was helping him due to his car breaking down,hot out,found out he isnt helping him self with saving money as he is being scammed out of his ssi to a on line relationship with someone pretending to be someone else.thought i was given him a hand up.
    He cant see he is being scammed,had police at my house,said he threatened to commit suicide,just found that out by the police that were at my home.
    I need prayers to get him out.
    I was married to a narc for 10 yrs i see things he dont realuze i see i can ignore well.

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 3 дня назад

      You are in a dangerous situation. Maybe you can "sell " the house, and get the process in place for him to get out?

  • @kimbridges1801
    @kimbridges1801 3 дня назад +1

    Preach preacher

  • @hereinmeme
    @hereinmeme 2 дня назад +1

    Thank you

  • @Lore788
    @Lore788 3 дня назад +2

    Eagerly awaiting.
    😃😻

  • @kristajoynyaga3563
    @kristajoynyaga3563 3 дня назад +4

    30:09 when he’s a lid and not a covering.

  • @patriciapage4625
    @patriciapage4625 3 дня назад +1

    Amen, pastor

  • @Tnc874
    @Tnc874 3 дня назад

    You slimming down Pastor ❤

  • @SageRiver1988
    @SageRiver1988 3 дня назад

    Epic Video RC Blakes : ) Thank you!! Also, you are looking so healthy - I love this for you : ) Keep shining bright. Your videos have been a godsend for my development. Your words come through as those of the wise father - something I never received as a child. Hence, I AM DEEPLY GRATEFUL - ABOVE AND BEYOND

  • @ginger732
    @ginger732 3 дня назад +1

    I believe that this is a great help for women, but as a man, I think he needs to have platform to help males become better men, and greater members of society. It's harder to change a male than a female. I believe a lot of these platforms are used for gain, from women who are vulnerable and looking for love and acceptance. Men are to lead and protect, not the woman, so get with them and I think the world would become better, as the real men help to heal their women. I come in peace.☮

  • @tamterell
    @tamterell 3 дня назад +1

    You got it! 🙏🏾

  • @BBChar
    @BBChar 3 дня назад

    Thank you ❤🙏🏾

  • @tiffanyprophet6130
    @tiffanyprophet6130 2 дня назад

    Thanks!

  • @aec1064
    @aec1064 3 дня назад +4

    My guy is the hardest working man that I've ever met. But been married 3 times, and doesn't want a 4 th. He has given me everything I've ever needed, but emotionally broken. I'm 60 it's tough.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 3 дня назад +1

      You MUST leave then. Prayers forthcoming.

  • @Sebasays
    @Sebasays 5 дней назад +1

    This is going to be good!

  • @IndigoSass
    @IndigoSass 3 дня назад

    Patiently waiting

  • @VentiColdbrew_
    @VentiColdbrew_ 3 дня назад +6

    RC did you lose a lot of weight?

  • @ClaudineGreen-y9d
    @ClaudineGreen-y9d 3 дня назад

    can you put a link to the membership please - I could not find it. Thank you!

  • @neidalewis3354
    @neidalewis3354 3 дня назад

    Good evening everyone ☺️

  • @msarilyn7677
    @msarilyn7677 3 дня назад

    Indeed, unless a couple has a shared vision how will they stay together ?

  • @kendradamm1428
    @kendradamm1428 3 дня назад +1

    I’m preaching better than y’all are shouting!! Amen!!!

  • @KingPlantain
    @KingPlantain 2 дня назад

    Hi Pastor, what would be your advice for a man who recognises a lot of what you said in this video in himself and and is married with a child?

  • @amorosadama1817
    @amorosadama1817 3 дня назад

    💯 Truth !

  • @preciousstone2782
    @preciousstone2782 3 дня назад

    It makes plenty sense take yo time....

  • @leattamitchell6211
    @leattamitchell6211 3 дня назад

    38:21 deserves ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Lore788
    @Lore788 3 дня назад +1

    No we can’t help him. 😱

  • @andreamegec9836
    @andreamegec9836 3 дня назад +3

    So sad😢 17 years together, no marriage. I always saw potential in him us, but after I repent and newborn I saw all flaws and red flags, we are now not equaly j, and in celibacy but he is full of traumas, and emotionaly cold, no motivation. He is good ,but not godly jet and very avoidant type. He dont now how to lead me, I always try and lead. But Bible says the truth . He got to counsel and therapy, but he is lukewarm need new heart 😢

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 3 дня назад +1

      How much longer will you stay?

  • @deborahlewis930
    @deborahlewis930 3 дня назад

    Amen

  • @created2change1
    @created2change1 3 дня назад +1

    Hello guys