I love RC. Love his work but this seems so contrived. God is preparing His church for end times and His return. I'm all for self worth. Everything that entails but let's focus on the CHURCH. What about a seminar for the men? They're the heads and the women can be as queenly as they want but the men need to men up.
@danilaroche1156 I definitely agree, the men need more resources and seminars out here. But the women wants the help and the change. That's why they create so much content.
I was in an abusive marriage for 27 years. He controlled my every move. He timed me when I left the house. He treated me like a Queen around family and friends, but when we were alone, he tormented me. I was ashamed to let my family know what he was doing to me. It took a lot of prayers for me to get the courage and strength to leave him.
GOD is good. He gave you the courage to leave a person who clearly didn't value you. I'm sorry you went through that Queen. Peace and blessings to you.
Yup, and if he can do it with you then he can do it to you. Look at the morals of the person, morals normally don't change once you get into a relationship with someone. If the relationship didn't start in a respectful God ordained fashion, don't expect the relationship to be without strife. This comment is for me haha.
Triangulation is something I’ve experienced. They do that to try and create insecurity in you by bringing up their ex and other people to make themselves look admired and in demand. My ex would do this all the time and it got to the point where I would ask him, “Why do you do this?” In the end I told him that if he wants to speak about his ex to this extent, he needs to confide in others or a counsellor as I’m not here for that. It’s a common behaviour in narcissistic abuse. I thought I could trust him and naively told him about my father being violent and abandoning myself and my mother consistently. He then would use this tactic and threaten to leave me all the time as he knew I had abandonment trauma. After this relationship I have stayed single and working on this wound so I can heal it and it can’t be used against me again. Ladies, don’t tell any man about your trauma or things of this nature about your past until you know you can well and truly trust him. It can be used against you to control you.
You can't be Jealous of someone who wants to BE YOU! That's a Mental Illness...you don't have to tell them about your pass they will go around asking people and try to imitate and duplicate that Person...but could NEVER. Most these Men are in the Closet and don't know how to come out, so they use all of that Triangulation to play reverse psychology...a Lame!🤪
You shouldn't feel down on yourself...that truly is something inside of them that's lacking and you have something they don't internally which is why they try to compete but don't compete cause they don't compare
You have to first forgive yourself for tolerating someone treating you less than you deserve. Allow God to build your esteem back up and restore what the enemy TRIED to rob you of.
I escaped in 2008, after 3 years of abuse. I was only 26 at the time. I praise the Lord for saving me and letting me get out without a single physical scar. 🙏🙏🙏 God bless you both. 💫❤
I left after 31/2 years of marriage he tried to come back used his daughter dying as a excuse to lure me back in nah there is no going back to the devils advocate
Rip to Valeria and Gerald . Gerald killed Valeria 7/19/1995. Day after my birthday we were classmates. Rip to my daughter Chantel who suffered many years from domestic violence relationships. She survived the abuse but she still died. Listen to Bishop tonight
3. Quick involvement - talks about love and commitment early on - hasn’t met your family, doesn’t know details about you to prevent you from praying, counseling, you just go with the flow… 4. Mood swings or sudden changes in behavior from loving to aggressive 5. Verbal threats - even towards himself - wants to scare you to control you 6. History of violent behavior - arrests, prior abusive relationships 7. Isolates you from everything and everyone that’s important to you
I decided to leave my ex, he’s now putting me through hell non stop. He put his hands on me but went to take out a protective order against me which the judge honored. Now he’s using that protective order as an ammunition to get me locked up. I am not the only woman he has done this to, i found out late. Of all my 45 years on earth I have never been in such situation. I just spent 7 days in jail based on lies and the fact that the judge refused to look at any of my evidence; I am still shocked. I appealed this protective order. Please pray for me. I’m writing a book about the injustice in the justice system.
I agree you are a bit too old for that, how can that be U ended up there ? U dnt have your own opinions on things or what ?, I've dated and met , and worked with and for, many many abusers, I've seldom had a second conversation with them after I expressed my opinion and they show their true colours. I understand not been able to react fast, I freeze often, but to get into a relationship with someone that doesn't accept my opinion. I dnt think I can do that. That's the only reason why I haven't ended up with abusers, because I have an opinion. I suggest you develop your opinion and learn to express it. Otherwise life won't forgive you.
It's truly a pimp/ prostitute or slave/slave master relationship. It's just under the disguise of marriage. Satan knows that women desire to be married.
I wish I had this teaching when I was going through my ordeal. I am a Dv survivor and i got out of my situation in 2016, To God be the glory that I made it out wiser and stronger! But thank you pastor for sharing. You are appreciated..
Been through the Controlling/insecure scenarios.. I was gone in no time… Now, My patience is VERY short. The FIRST sign, I’m OUT… Never again….I just can’t deal….
Behavior speaks volumes for me. Women need to learn you can’t change a person. It’s up to that individual to unlearn and relearn how to change their behavior.
Good evening Pastor Blakes, thank you for your ministry to women. As a single woman without a father or father figure, I have learned so many practical, invaluable truths from you. May God continue to richly bless you, your wife, your family and your ministries!
RIP to my mom, Maria Sample, beautiful person inside and out. She was killed by the hands of her boyfriend, who was an MA boxer. They were away for the weekend for one of his fights. He left her for dead in the hotel room and tried to get away but got caught in 2006. Her life was taken too soon. He took a big part from our family, and it still hurts to write this, but I know that she is in a better place. We miss her so much🕊🕊🕊🕊💖💖💖 . Please pay attention to the red flags.🚫🚫
This was good! Rushing into a relationship is definitely one of the abusers most effective tactics. You don’t have time to really access and by the time you know who they are they have robbed you of your peace and anything else they could get their hands on.
Thank you for this information, we NEED it!!! But realize we ENABLE/ EMPOWER these abusers by being passive, respecting $$, and out of FEAR. If you leave a toxic relationship and do not get help mentally, this scenario will repeat with different characters but same outcome. Our belief system, clothing attire, and not doing “shadow work” contributes to our desperate choices and poor outcomes. Let’s take accountability, and not live in victim mode and learn who we are and why we make bad choices, love GOD and self 1st, and enjoy life, STOP believing we NEED to be “coupled” to be happy. BE BLESSED!!!
Thank you Bishop for touching on this subject. There are so many women beaten down mentally and Physically by the abusive hands of a man that said they would protect them. I pray to God that they no longer feel isolated and speak up and get the assistance they need to exit ❤️🙏🏾
I dated a man like this in 2022, very controlling, asked me to leave my apartment and move in with him, leave my job, he will provide etc. he never wanted me going out with my friends or anywhere without him - he would get verbally abusive. I later found that his ex wife she had dropped out of law school because of him. And I also later found out that he ended up being “violent & abusive” with her… 😢😢😢 He was a wealthy man, very controlling, possessive and domineering . Thank God I dodged the bullet… had I stayed any longer I would’ve ended up like his ex wife that’s for sure
I waisted time with a man listening to church mothers. Man I tell you all the signs were there right in my face but for some strange odd reasons the church mothers encouraging me to get with the guy could not see it. Then when I got with him, they started siding with him on our issues. I had to literally leave the church and him to get away from the situation. The red flags were there and instead of listening to what the spirit was showing me, i listened to the church mothers who didn't like me at all because they wouldn't have tried to purposely put me in harms way. Now I am in a loving church taking my time and trusting God 😊
Misery loves company. Those church mothers were miserable and wanted you to be also. They were going to use your drama as their entertainment and gossip.
Thank you pastor. I sit back and think my relationship wasn’t that bad because I felt like I wasn’t being abused but when I think back in certain things. If you know your a good woman and a man is constantly telling you, you aren’t doing enough and he needs more. He also stated to tell me he wanted a woman who is open, and I found him talking to another women from work. He said he was working on his back up plan…. Right then is when I realized I’m abusing myself staying with him. Nothing changed and the relationship ended once I got sick. I we broke up a week after I was released. He was with a new woman.😮 I been hoodwinked
I am thankful for the time and energy you have put towards helping many ladies and gentlemen. I love how you discuss topics about healing and seeking the right types of relationships. Best, Les’🍃
I just started reading 'The Father-Daughter Talk' book today and WOW...I just finished the introduction and shed a few tears. I realized that I have never had a male figure in my life who Provides, protects, empowers or who guides me...I am 36 and have made mistakes dating and have struggled with not being worthy...It hurts that I've never been exposed to what a MAN is in the aspect of having a father to guide me in life but I pray that with the guidance of this book and prayer, that I will be able to maneuver and learn what I never knew. Thank you so much RC Blake's for all you do to assist women who need guidance and direction!
Been there, I truly understand that when I see red flags I'm gone. A controlling man is an abusive man. Ladies, please get out of these dangerous relationships. I'm in counseling now getting healthy from years of abuse. Thank you pastor RC.
So ready for it! I did literally escape an abuser just because I have educated myself on that I made a video about it on my channel 🤗 Ladies, learn and learn and notice. Abusive relationships are hell. I was also targeted by smear campaign and flying monkeys and still hear from them about the abuser 🍄🍄
Pastor I thank God for your information and obedience. Our Heavenly Father showed me a few years ago that I attracted the demonic spirit of abuse. Ladies please pay attention when you meet men . The spirit of abuse is an insidious spirit. Heal from trauma that you experienced as a child. That’s how the spirit of abuse entered my life. I was an abused little girl. But God being the loving father he is not only healed me , he showed me how to heal and how to deal. Be blessed ladies ❤
Hello Pastor and First Lady Blakes Jr! Hello New Life Church! Hello Everyone! Thank You for sharing this information! May God Bless You and your Family In Jesus name Amen Amen Amen Amen!
Amazing video for all women out there! It is a serious matter , your life can be threatened by such men, women who have survived such individuals can testify that this is serious ! Protect your life! Heal and pray to God to be well!
My late husband told me he was going to harm himself if I left our relationship at the time, I didn't heed the warning enough. I did leave, but git back with him and married him. Lived most of my days of marriage in misery, no physical abuse on his part, but definitely emotional and mental.
Yes pastor 👏🏾💯💯 all of these. I’m saving these points. If anyone is looking for the scripture about the acts of the flesh it’s Galatians 5: 19-21. I had to highlight this because I constantly talk about the daily battle of flesh vs spirit.
Bishop you are not only educating Women & Girls across the country but saving lives. I thank you for your wisdom and knowledge as a mentor and pastor. God Bless 🙏🏽
I am speak from the male perspective as a man who was abused for five long years by a narcissistic woman, so I can in some respects understand what some women are going through. And though I may not have been physically abused as women in these abusive relationships are, the verbal, emotional and psychological scars are no more different than the physical scars.
Yes pastor, I married a man with a history of assault and he was arrested on our wedding night for assaulting me at our reception! I got away thank God and then found out on the internet all of his history of assault! Preach
Pasted Blakes this one was definitely needed and a topic the church needs to be very mindful of including perpetrators use faith within their abusive tactics!
And only women whom have been through narcissistic abuse knows quite well that it is difficult to break free from that emotional and psychological abuse because no matter how much times you try to leave, you always find yourself back in the same narcissistic cycle. Until one day you develop enough strength, courage and willpower to walk away for good, but as a broken man and a broken woman. And when I say broken I mean: emotionally, psychologically and financially.
People are strange. I was up under witchcraft for nine years. I didn't understand what was going on. I was gangstalked, watched, controlled against my will
"BLESSINGS, PASTOR RC BLAKES!" ... "WHAT ANOTHER POWERFUL & PROFOUND & HEALING MESSAGE, FOR BOTH WOMEN & MEN ALIKE, AND MAY MANY OF YOUR LISTENERS "TAKE FULL HEED" AT TO WHAT YOU WERE SAYING, AND MAY THOSE WHO ARE CURRENTLY, IN "BONDAGE", MAY THEY TOO, BE "SET-FREE COMPLETELY", FROM THOSE "UNHEALTHLY RELATIONSHIPS", AND MAY THEY ALSO "SEEK THE LORD, WITH ALL OF THEIR HEARTS & MINDS", FOR THE "COMPLETE DELIVERANCE" THAT CAN ONLY COME FROM HIM - (JESUS CHRIST), WHO IS OUR "TRUE HEALER & DELIVER", FROM "ALL SATANIC & DEMONIC" SITUATIONS, IN JESUS'S MIGHTY NAME, AMEN & AMEN" ... "MANY CHEERFUL THANKS" AGAIN, FOR "SPEAKING LIFE & HEALING", INTO THE LIVES OF ALL OF YOUR APPOINTED LISTENERS, AROUND THE WORLD, AS THE LORD GOD ABOVE, CONTINUE TO "BLESS YOU", IN THE FOLLOWING DAYS TO COME!!" ... BLESSINGS ALWAYS, YOUR SISTER-IN-CHRIST, AND LIFETIME LISTENER & FAN, MS. DEBORAH J. STEELE, ATLANTA, GA. - 5/20/24 @: 10:12 PM.
God bless you always Pastor Blakes for addressing the topic of domestic violence, especially, done by a very public celebrity while others have turned a blind eye. It is men like you who help women know their value ❤....in doing this you also help men face the truth about their actions and hopefully help them reform. Love you and Lisa, God bless ❤🙏🏻
Ask God for God is the right answer. If God says yes you'll feel peace if you feel anxious, uncomfortable , bad feelings like there's something wrong with it then you're with a viper. Don't do it. What God has rejected or removed out of your life is very bad for you. You'll miss abuse and that's a blessing that God gave you
GOOD EVENING FAMILY
Good Evening to you and First Lady.
Good evening Bishop. Thank you for the invite
Good evening
Hey Bishop! I’m on time!
Good evening.😊
A broken man will work overtime to break the soul of a healthy woman.....Word 🔥
Women please don’t try to fix these men. Just leave 😷
I ran and left the narcissist husband I married never ever again
We don't that's was their Mother Jobs and we know most these Women have FAILED😂😗
Don't just leave runnnnnn
YES JUST and STOP WASTING PRECIOUS TIME
@@SexySlim-i3vWas me until I woke up.
A man who suffers from Alcoholism, controlling behavior and insecurities is bad all the way around.
AMEN!!!!!🎯🎯ON POINT BISHOP
Sounds like my father , violent and drunk consistently.
These are spirits. It's warfare. If he can't recognize this & doesn't get help..leave.
I love RC. Love his work but this seems so contrived. God is preparing His church for end times and His return. I'm all for self worth. Everything that entails but let's focus on the CHURCH. What about a seminar for the men? They're the heads and the women can be as queenly as they want but the men need to men up.
@danilaroche1156 I definitely agree, the men need more resources and seminars out here. But the women wants the help and the change. That's why they create so much content.
I was in an abusive marriage for 27 years. He controlled my every move. He timed me when I left the house. He treated me like a Queen around family and friends, but when we were alone, he tormented me. I was ashamed to let my family know what he was doing to me. It took a lot of prayers for me to get the courage and strength to leave him.
My father used to time me, never again
Have You Read Behind Closed Doors By B A Paris.?
Congratulations…..thank god you got out alive
GOD is good. He gave you the courage to leave a person who clearly didn't value you. I'm sorry you went through that Queen. Peace and blessings to you.
Praise God for giving you strength to leave
If a man has no Temperance meaning Self Control, run 🏃♀️
Indeed u better run that don't just change!
Yup, and if he can do it with you then he can do it to you. Look at the morals of the person, morals normally don't change once you get into a relationship with someone. If the relationship didn't start in a respectful God ordained fashion, don't expect the relationship to be without strife. This comment is for me haha.
Just started my process out of this same mess! Filed for divorce TODAY!!!
Good for you Dee! Blessings on your new life.
You deserve happiness 💯🩷
Sending you love and light! Wishing you a life time of happiness. Head above the water sis, you got this!!
Good for you. 🎉I'm happy. GOD is good. He know what we need.
Strength girlie.
Triangulation is something I’ve experienced. They do that to try and create insecurity in you by bringing up their ex and other people to make themselves look admired and in demand. My ex would do this all the time and it got to the point where I would ask him, “Why do you do this?” In the end I told him that if he wants to speak about his ex to this extent, he needs to confide in others or a counsellor as I’m not here for that.
It’s a common behaviour in narcissistic abuse. I thought I could trust him and naively told him about my father being violent and abandoning myself and my mother consistently. He then would use this tactic and threaten to leave me all the time as he knew I had abandonment trauma.
After this relationship I have stayed single and working on this wound so I can heal it and it can’t be used against me again.
Ladies, don’t tell any man about your trauma or things of this nature about your past until you know you can well and truly trust him. It can be used against you to control you.
Omg this is so true, everything you confide with emotionally will get thrown in your face every disagreement . Will also use it against you.
It's like you can't emotionally open up to them because they will use everything against you
You can't be Jealous of someone who wants to BE YOU! That's a Mental Illness...you don't have to tell them about your pass they will go around asking people and try to imitate and duplicate that Person...but could NEVER. Most these Men are in the Closet and don't know how to come out, so they use all of that Triangulation to play reverse psychology...a Lame!🤪
True
Yes ma’am! You are 💯 percent correct!🙏🏽
I have never been physically abused but verbally and emotionally abused and I feel like it left me a shell of myself.
You shouldn't feel down on yourself...that truly is something inside of them that's lacking and you have something they don't internally which is why they try to compete but don't compete cause they don't compare
You have to first forgive yourself for tolerating someone treating you less than you deserve. Allow God to build your esteem back up and restore what the enemy TRIED to rob you of.
Respectfully, being verbally and emotionally abused is the worst type of abuse.
I’ve been there. Stay single, go to counseling, exercise, and eat right. You will heal. Limit contact with that person
@@celestialmaat9462No contact
I escaped in 2017 after 3 years...thank God for saving lil ole me❤
Sis...I escaped in 1990. Then AGAIN in 2022. Thank God for my life. I don't take ANYTHING for granted anymore. BLESS YOU ❤️🙏🏽
I escaped in 2008, after 3 years of abuse. I was only 26 at the time. I praise the Lord for saving me and letting me get out without a single physical scar. 🙏🙏🙏
God bless you both. 💫❤
I left after 31/2 years of marriage he tried to come back used his daughter dying as a excuse to lure me back in nah there is no going back to the devils advocate
It's been four years for me my sister, keep going let's keep praying and supporting one another
Thank u Lord 🙌🏽 hallelujah
No contact is the definite way to go!! I am a witness 🙌🏽
Rip to Valeria and Gerald . Gerald killed Valeria 7/19/1995. Day after my birthday we were classmates. Rip to my daughter Chantel who suffered many years from domestic violence relationships. She survived the abuse but she still died. Listen to Bishop tonight
I’m so very sorry for your loss 🙏🏾♥️
What did she died of ?
My Deepest Condolences. Praying for your continued Strength🙏🏼
I send you hugs dear one
Sorry for your losses
Thank you for being a second dad to us young women out here that are trying to find our way. This information is imperative to our walk with Christ.💜
Amen! He is the spiritual uncle that I never had!
Amen
Queens ask Questions. 🎯
We need Clarity
Narcissist doesn’t like questions. He told me i asked too many questions. I felt i walk on eggshells so I left
That only Kings will answer
Thank You Lady Lisa Blakes for sharing your husband and Pastor with all of us 🥰❤️🙇🏾♀️ HE POURS OUT SO MUCH WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE INTO US 🙌🏾🙌🏾
This was very sensitive. For anyone suffering from domestic violence abuse and other serious mental disorders God is a healer
Amen 🙏
I survived so many crazy realtionship of abuse and domestic violence. God no more abuse no more trauma no more pain
Amen. I am praying the same thing. God hear our prayers ❤
@@journeycandleco.8658 Amen 🙏🏼
No more drama !!
"He's gonna take his 6 figures and isolate you". I love when Pastor Blakes makes these punchlines.
😂💀
This is why I don't Idolize no one Relationship because things aren't never what they appear to be....just for the pictures and public!
A narcissist would protect himself first.
Yes where the lies, manipulation, smear campaign, rumors and stuff told
1 . exhibits controlling behavior, dominate & restrict you excerting power over you
2. excessive jealousy, possessiveness
3.
3. Quick involvement - talks about love and commitment early on - hasn’t met your family, doesn’t know details about you to prevent you from praying, counseling, you just go with the flow…
4. Mood swings or sudden changes in behavior from loving to aggressive
5. Verbal threats - even towards himself - wants to scare you to control you
6. History of violent behavior - arrests, prior abusive relationships
7. Isolates you from everything and everyone that’s important to you
@tertain thank you for the notes
@@tertainyesss Queen! Red flags that shouldn't be ignored
I decided to leave my ex, he’s now putting me through hell non stop. He put his hands on me but went to take out a protective order against me which the judge honored. Now he’s using that protective order as an ammunition to get me locked up. I am not the only woman he has done this to, i found out late. Of all my 45 years on earth I have never been in such situation. I just spent 7 days in jail based on lies and the fact that the judge refused to look at any of my evidence; I am still shocked. I appealed this protective order. Please pray for me. I’m writing a book about the injustice in the justice system.
But women are not granted any protective order against men !
I agree you are a bit too old for that, how can that be U ended up there ? U dnt have your own opinions on things or what ?, I've dated and met , and worked with and for, many many abusers, I've seldom had a second conversation with them after I expressed my opinion and they show their true colours. I understand not been able to react fast, I freeze often, but to get into a relationship with someone that doesn't accept my opinion. I dnt think I can do that. That's the only reason why I haven't ended up with abusers, because I have an opinion. I suggest you develop your opinion and learn to express it. Otherwise life won't forgive you.
@@energyayogafortraumabyradi1185 what????????
@energyayogafortraumabyradi1185 what the heck are you chatting? This woman life is crumbling and you are implying it’s her fault! Sickening
So sad, this system is so messed up
Yes the lure is that it starts out as protection and it’s cute at first because it feels like they care but it’s morphing into control. I agree!
It's truly a pimp/ prostitute or slave/slave master relationship. It's just under the disguise of marriage. Satan knows that women desire to be married.
If he's your provider, he's your controller
A man is suppose to be a Provider not Control you...that's a Boy in a Grown Up body. They never Matured more like the Rap Group IMMATURE🙃
Only if he doesn’t let you work
I disagree, you can't control an adult forever,they must break free someday,you will have lost them.
Nah fr I experienced this in real life. Never again
@@celestialmaat9462Me also. 😢
I wish I had this teaching when I was going through my ordeal. I am a Dv survivor and i got out of my situation in 2016, To God be the glory that I made it out wiser and stronger! But thank you pastor for sharing. You are appreciated..
Been through the Controlling/insecure scenarios.. I was gone in no time… Now, My patience is VERY short. The FIRST sign, I’m OUT… Never again….I just can’t deal….
Behavior speaks volumes for me. Women need to learn you can’t change a person. It’s up to that individual to unlearn and relearn how to change their behavior.
Listening to my therapist and RC Blake’s has taught me a lot. I finally am free from a controlling marriage. It’s been a couple of years now 😊
Good evening Pastor Blakes, thank you for your ministry to women. As a single woman without a father or father figure, I have learned so many practical, invaluable truths from you. May God continue to richly bless you, your wife, your family and your ministries!
RIP to my mom, Maria Sample, beautiful person inside and out. She was killed by the hands of her boyfriend, who was an MA boxer. They were away for the weekend for one of his fights. He left her for dead in the hotel room and tried to get away but got caught in 2006. Her life was taken too soon. He took a big part from our family, and it still hurts to write this, but I know that she is in a better place. We miss her so much🕊🕊🕊🕊💖💖💖 . Please pay attention to the red flags.🚫🚫
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing.😢🙏
@@tarshagreene4661 ❤️Thanks
🤍🙏🏾🥺 omggggg I'm so sorry
@@queenc8280 Thanks🙏🏽
@@tarshagreene4661 Thanks🙏🏽
Good evening, Bishop. I am so glad you're discussing this tonight. My heart has been heavy in light of recent events.
Thank you thank you thank you!! This is my conformation!!!!!🙌🏾 Praise The Most High!!!!
I Thank God For This Platform.🙌🏽🙌🏽 God Bless You Bishop.✨
This was good! Rushing into a relationship is definitely one of the abusers most effective tactics. You don’t have time to really access and by the time you know who they are they have robbed you of your peace and anything else they could get their hands on.
Thank you for this information, we NEED it!!! But realize we ENABLE/ EMPOWER these abusers by being passive, respecting $$, and out of FEAR. If you leave a toxic relationship and do not get help mentally, this scenario will repeat with different characters but same outcome. Our belief system, clothing attire, and not doing “shadow work” contributes to our desperate choices and poor outcomes. Let’s take accountability, and not live in victim mode and learn who we are and why we make bad choices, love GOD and self 1st, and enjoy life, STOP believing we NEED to be “coupled” to be happy. BE BLESSED!!!
Thank you Bishop for touching on this subject. There are so many women beaten down mentally and Physically by the abusive hands of a man that said they would protect them. I pray to God that they no longer feel isolated and speak up and get the assistance they need to exit ❤️🙏🏾
I dated a man like this in 2022, very controlling, asked me to leave my apartment and move in with him, leave my job, he will provide etc. he never wanted me going out with my friends or anywhere without him - he would get verbally abusive.
I later found that his ex wife she had dropped out of law school because of him. And I also later found out that he ended up being “violent & abusive” with her… 😢😢😢
He was a wealthy man, very controlling, possessive and domineering .
Thank God I dodged the bullet… had I stayed any longer I would’ve ended up like his ex wife that’s for sure
I waisted time with a man listening to church mothers. Man I tell you all the signs were there right in my face but for some strange odd reasons the church mothers encouraging me to get with the guy could not see it. Then when I got with him, they started siding with him on our issues. I had to literally leave the church and him to get away from the situation. The red flags were there and instead of listening to what the spirit was showing me, i listened to the church mothers who didn't like me at all because they wouldn't have tried to purposely put me in harms way. Now I am in a loving church taking my time and trusting God 😊
Church mothers/women are male orientated due to the brainwashing from pastors and their sermons.
Misery loves company. Those church mothers were miserable and wanted you to be also. They were going to use your drama as their entertainment and gossip.
So sorry that happened to you, I know that you're telling the truth. Wouldn't surprise me if they're Pentecostal
Them whores be with the abuse too. They fed you to him. It's trafficking.
They want you to feel miserable just like them so they purposely give you to the viper so he can torture you for their own satisfaction
Thank you Mr Blakes
Blessings all!
Thank You Pastor Blakes for always pouring wisdom and knowledge into us ‼️
Love this man of God. 🙏🏼
Also, really appreciate your shirt!
Yes! Pastor Blake's has taught me things I never was taught by my single Mother
Yes me too I learned so much since finding his channel years ago
These conversations are so important to have. 💜
Thank you very much for this frank talk. I always appreciate your words of caution and advice.
Needed to hear this, just ordered queenology
Hello Pastor RC Blakes and everyone on the chat!!!
You are PREACHING tonight Bishop!!!!🔥🫵🏽🔥
Thank you pastor. I sit back and think my relationship wasn’t that bad because I felt like I wasn’t being abused but when I think back in certain things. If you know your a good woman and a man is constantly telling you, you aren’t doing enough and he needs more. He also stated to tell me he wanted a woman who is open, and I found him talking to another women from work. He said he was working on his back up plan…. Right then is when I realized I’m abusing myself staying with him. Nothing changed and the relationship ended once I got sick. I we broke up a week after I was released. He was with a new woman.😮 I been hoodwinked
I am thankful for the time and energy you have put towards helping many ladies and gentlemen. I love how you discuss topics about healing and seeking the right types of relationships.
Best,
Les’🍃
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes for praying 🙏🏽. Everyone have a blessed night, week and safe holiday 🙏🏽!!
I just started reading 'The Father-Daughter Talk' book today and WOW...I just finished the introduction and shed a few tears. I realized that I have never had a male figure in my life who Provides, protects, empowers or who guides me...I am 36 and have made mistakes dating and have struggled with not being worthy...It hurts that I've never been exposed to what a MAN is in the aspect of having a father to guide me in life but I pray that with the guidance of this book and prayer, that I will be able to maneuver and learn what I never knew. Thank you so much RC Blake's for all you do to assist women who need guidance and direction!
Been there, I truly understand that when I see red flags I'm gone. A controlling man is an abusive man. Ladies, please get out of these dangerous relationships. I'm in counseling now getting healthy from years of abuse. Thank you pastor RC.
I been physically emotionally and sexually abused by multiple partners. I survived and am single now and abstinent now praise the lord.
God is good, thank you for this reassurance that I’ve done the right steps to overcome and heal from an abuser
I AM 🆓 🙌🏾
Good Evening Everyone Blessings Very Thankful to be among you all, Thanks Much Pastor R.C and Lisa Blakes . Another opportunity to learn and Grow ❤
We should expect NOTHING LESS, from the Blessing sent by God in the person of Bishop RC Blakes! ❤
Thanks for teaching us women what some of us were never taught by our biological Fathers. You are appreciated.
So ready for it! I did literally escape an abuser just because I have educated myself on that
I made a video about it on my channel 🤗
Ladies, learn and learn and notice. Abusive relationships are hell. I was also targeted by smear campaign and flying monkeys and still hear from them about the abuser 🍄🍄
Yes, God’s protection be your portion always🙏🏽.
Wow pastor i thank God for watching over me .And protecting me, this world is wicked
Thank you Bishop for speaking on this in light of recent events. HOPE and PRAY many will recognize the signs (Red Flags) for what it is and get out
🙏🏿Our handsome bishop looks so healthy, vibrant and strong!🔥
Stay blessed and highly favored my good brother!🏆
Pastor I thank God for your information and obedience. Our Heavenly Father showed me a few years ago that I attracted the demonic spirit of abuse. Ladies please pay attention when you meet men . The spirit of abuse is an insidious spirit. Heal from trauma that you experienced as a child. That’s how the spirit of abuse entered my life. I was an abused little girl. But God being the loving father he is not only healed me , he showed me how to heal and how to deal. Be blessed ladies ❤
Patience, Kindness and Trust...Mutual Respect! Amen yes Pastor Blakes exactly that's what I always believed in....
Hello Pastor and First Lady Blakes Jr!
Hello New Life Church! Hello Everyone!
Thank You for sharing this information! May God Bless You and your Family In Jesus name Amen Amen Amen Amen!
Thank you God for the Blessing of this pastor & family bringing knowledge to your People.
Amen Bishop I listened 3 times in a row.
Amazing video for all women out there! It is a serious matter , your life can be threatened by such men, women who have survived such individuals can testify that this is serious ! Protect your life! Heal and pray to God to be well!
Good Monday evening Bishop Blake's and First Lady Lisa. Blessings to all attendees on this informative web inarticulate. 🙏
My late husband told me he was going to harm himself if I left our relationship at the time, I didn't heed the warning enough. I did leave, but git back with him and married him. Lived most of my days of marriage in misery, no physical abuse on his part, but definitely emotional and mental.
Queen Annette Thank you 💖
Thank you, so deeply from the top to the bottom of my heart
Thanks Bishop Blakes for not sugar coating this! Bless you 🙏
I truly love your answers
Yes of course it's our natural impulse as a healthy man to protect women
Let them mainstay that
Princesses ask questions. Only Kings 🤴🏾can answer Princesses 👸🏽 questions. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you Pastor Blakes. Some of this was hard to hear but I needed every word! Thank God for deliverance.
Thank you Sir
Teach Bishop. This is an amazing lesson you taught. Thank you ❤
Without a promise ring has me on the floor. So true , Bishop! Thank you and Sis Lisa so much!
Yes pastor 👏🏾💯💯 all of these. I’m saving these points. If anyone is looking for the scripture about the acts of the flesh it’s Galatians 5: 19-21. I had to highlight this because I constantly talk about the daily battle of flesh vs spirit.
As much as I watch R.C.'s videos, as much I feel that I will stay single forever. 😁🙃
You are spot on Bishop. Thank you and Bless you.❤
Bishop you are not only educating Women & Girls across the country but saving lives. I thank you for your wisdom and knowledge as a mentor and pastor. God Bless 🙏🏽
Thank you for your wisdome Sir RC Blackes. Im not a Christian anymore but your wisdome and message is universal and I still enjoy following you
Yes Lord I agree with this prayer 🙏🏽 Amen!!
I am speak from the male perspective as a man who was abused for five long years by a narcissistic woman, so I can in some respects understand what some women are going through. And though I may not have been physically abused as women in these abusive relationships are, the verbal, emotional and psychological scars are no more different than the physical scars.
Good evening Pastor and Mrs. First Lady Blakes thank you for this powerful message this evening
Yes pastor, I married a man with a history of assault and he was arrested on our wedding night for assaulting me at our reception! I got away thank God and then found out on the internet all of his history of assault! Preach
Greetings Everyone! 🌿
Pasted Blakes this one was definitely needed and a topic the church needs to be very mindful of including perpetrators use faith within their abusive tactics!
And only women whom have been through narcissistic abuse knows quite well that it is difficult to break free from that emotional and psychological abuse because no matter how much times you try to leave, you always find yourself back in the same narcissistic cycle. Until one day you develop enough strength, courage and willpower to walk away for good, but as a broken man and a broken woman. And when I say broken I mean: emotionally, psychologically and financially.
So happy you touched on this Bishop. 🙏🏽
I was in 2 very abusive relationships. One was my ex spouse. How did I even end up there? Witchcraft. They were both into it. Ephesians 6:12.
People are strange. I was up under witchcraft for nine years. I didn't understand what was going on. I was gangstalked, watched, controlled against my will
Good Evening church fam
I am so glad Bishop that you are giving Women this Blueprint for dangerous situations.🙏🙏🙏
HALLELUJAH HALLELUJAH HALLELUJAH AMEN ❤❤❤
Good evening family and Pastor and First lady Blakes..Thank u for speaking on this sermon...❤
Good evening everyone greetings from NY!
"BLESSINGS, PASTOR RC BLAKES!" ... "WHAT ANOTHER POWERFUL & PROFOUND & HEALING MESSAGE, FOR BOTH WOMEN & MEN ALIKE, AND MAY MANY OF YOUR LISTENERS "TAKE FULL HEED" AT TO WHAT YOU WERE SAYING, AND MAY THOSE WHO ARE CURRENTLY, IN "BONDAGE", MAY THEY TOO, BE "SET-FREE COMPLETELY", FROM THOSE "UNHEALTHLY RELATIONSHIPS", AND MAY THEY ALSO "SEEK THE LORD, WITH ALL OF THEIR HEARTS & MINDS", FOR THE "COMPLETE DELIVERANCE" THAT CAN ONLY COME FROM HIM - (JESUS CHRIST), WHO IS OUR "TRUE HEALER & DELIVER", FROM "ALL SATANIC & DEMONIC" SITUATIONS, IN JESUS'S MIGHTY NAME, AMEN & AMEN" ... "MANY CHEERFUL THANKS" AGAIN, FOR "SPEAKING LIFE & HEALING", INTO THE LIVES OF ALL OF YOUR APPOINTED LISTENERS, AROUND THE WORLD, AS THE LORD GOD ABOVE, CONTINUE TO "BLESS YOU", IN THE FOLLOWING DAYS TO COME!!" ... BLESSINGS ALWAYS, YOUR SISTER-IN-CHRIST, AND LIFETIME LISTENER & FAN, MS. DEBORAH J. STEELE, ATLANTA, GA. - 5/20/24 @: 10:12 PM.
Small minded men crave power and control 👌.....God bless you Sir 🙏🏻...for this timely message 🙏🏻
God bless you always Pastor Blakes for addressing the topic of domestic violence, especially, done by a very public celebrity while others have turned a blind eye. It is men like you who help women know their value ❤....in doing this you also help men face the truth about their actions and hopefully help them reform. Love you and Lisa, God bless ❤🙏🏻
Ask God for God is the right answer. If God says yes you'll feel peace if you feel anxious, uncomfortable , bad feelings like there's something wrong with it then you're with a viper. Don't do it. What God has rejected or removed out of your life is very bad for you. You'll miss abuse and that's a blessing that God gave you