TOXIC LOVE Understanding Attachment Styles by RC Blakes

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @BeautiyForAshes
    @BeautiyForAshes Месяц назад +5

    This is So Good! Many men of today would really benefit having Dr. Blakes as Counsel!

  • @servantofthelord8147
    @servantofthelord8147 4 дня назад +1

    This one was a classic ✨

  • @Ksenia.248
    @Ksenia.248 Месяц назад +27

    Apart from being a huge support system for me, dear Bishop, I am always impressed by your immaculate style and the interior in which you conduct your valuable lectures. Thank you, Bishop! I have a notebook with your quotes! I am healing! ❤️❤❤

  • @kimlogan1278
    @kimlogan1278 Месяц назад +59

    We all need to hear this. We're living in a world full of toxicity. It could be family, relationships, and or the work place. I believe that's the reason for these deadly natural disasters.

    • @purposedpatience6597
      @purposedpatience6597 Месяц назад +3

      Yes! 💯🙏🏽

    • @msanders5206
      @msanders5206 Месяц назад

      Amen!! It's like sipping poison or a frog n water set to boil. Spiritual blindness 😢

  • @cindyl760
    @cindyl760 Месяц назад +4

    Thank you pastor RC we need more people like you in our Latino community to teach young Hispanic women how they should be treated and what not to put up with. In our culture it’s normalized for our mothers to stay with our abusive fathers just to save face! You are someone I go to for life lessons and dating. Thank you Pastor RC

  • @sonicecleaning4817
    @sonicecleaning4817 Месяц назад +10

    BAYBEEEEEE!!!! Did Uncle R.C just say "Emotional Volatility" ? He is calling it out! God Bless you R.C Blakes! I feel like I'm talking with my Uncle when I hear your voice. -Much Love from Maryland.

  • @CoachSarahNicoleB
    @CoachSarahNicoleB Месяц назад +19

    The first thing I want to say is I've been watching your channel for YEARS! (circa 2018). Thank you for making this one of what I consider my happy places in the world and I'm sure so many people feel the same. I always feel love and peace when I come here💖 I started watching your channel around the time I started learning about what attachment styles even were, so it was at the beginning of my healing journey when I took a deep-dive into healing my own fearful avoidant attachment style. Fast forward, after my own healing, I started living out one of my purposes (to help others heal) and I got my certification and one of my main concentrations is helping people heal their insecure attachment styles and also heal from relationships with people with personality disorders, especially narcissistic relationships. I just love your talks so much and I cannot articulate into words fully how excited I was that you were covering attachment styles!!!!!!! Thank you again for all that you do. 💖💖💖

    • @marisawillis853
      @marisawillis853 Месяц назад

      Do you mind sharing what certification you were able to require?

  • @briddbratt
    @briddbratt Месяц назад +15

    This Video Was Right On Time! I Just Started To Do My Research On Attachment Styles I Had No Idea This Was A Thing But I Think I Experienced An Avoidant Attachment Style Person And It Is Important To Know What You’re Up Against And Flee If Need Be Because It Can Be Mentally And Emotionally Triggering And Draining.

  • @Yo-yo-dt5ze
    @Yo-yo-dt5ze Месяц назад +26

    I thought I clicked on this accidentally but I didn’t this was for me because I was in a toxic relationship for 5 yrs and the soul tie was indeed real dealing with a narcissist I played my part because in the beginning I didn’t know the signs until later in the relationship it made me physically sick with the stress I had to pray to God to get me out of the toxic relationship and asked him to reveal it to me and he did it’s been 6 months since I went no contact and blocked my ex on everything I got my life and my peace back no more drama or stress I have vowed to stay single that relationship was silently killing me I haven’t looked back I also cut ties with family that were toxic as well as friends I have also learned to never love a man more than you love yourself

    • @Tricyyyland
      @Tricyyyland Месяц назад +1

      Yes ma’am all of this!! It’s been a year of no contact for me

    • @taylorhannah5980
      @taylorhannah5980 Месяц назад +1

      Good for you! It’s not easy

    • @kesihashanta7503
      @kesihashanta7503 25 дней назад +1

      same i feel so much stresss and anxiety dealing with wrong men it took almost year after leaving to stop feeling that way, no contact is the best way

  • @sylwiakowalczyk3270
    @sylwiakowalczyk3270 13 дней назад

    OMG! This males me tear up!
    My father was abusive and volatile. It took me decades to learn how to communicate with no fear.
    I now am able to speak my mind without being afraid of consequences.
    But I still struggle with fear of being abandoned EVERYsingke time I have disagreement with my amazing boyfriend.
    I found my man, and he is truly a King. He loves me and understands me with no conditions.
    He blows my mind just by saying:
    “I should have loved you more and I failed”.
    And I’m sooooo grateful and humble to see, that people are the ones, who brake us, but also people are the ones that heal us.
    I love this podcast and it’s the best content I’ve ever heard on RUclips.
    Thank you so much ❤

  • @calico-kat-mom6204
    @calico-kat-mom6204 Месяц назад +23

    I discovered RC Blake's on August 8th of this year I have been listening to him at least once a day every day non-stop if not twice a day I've done a lot of self work but I can never get enough self-discovery

  • @KelliTerese
    @KelliTerese 13 дней назад

    I am so thankful for these videos. I may not be able to listen in person but RC Blake’s gives me the wisdom of a father. I try to listen often.

  • @Deelee77
    @Deelee77 21 день назад +1

    I just learned my attachment style earlier this year during my healing journey. Im a fearful avoidant. It's crazy but it explains ALOT. Look up Thais Gibson. She has books and a ton of videos to back up this topic!!!! It is absolutely necessary to know your attachment style. Get ready!!! I understand myself so much better since I dove head first into this topic back in January.

  • @TracieHolland-x4o
    @TracieHolland-x4o Месяц назад +25

    Me too. I need this topic so bad !!! And RC BLAKES is a true man of GOD ! How does he always know what to say and when to say it. Thank GOD!!!!!! I started listening to this because of the traumatic relationships. Thank you for saving my life !

    • @anetparks2266
      @anetparks2266 Месяц назад +2

      So true. I got rid of mine 2day

    • @anetparks2266
      @anetparks2266 Месяц назад +1

      As a narcissistic person it was always my fault. I never knew from one conversation from the next what person I would get

    • @HeatherPearson-mf9bb
      @HeatherPearson-mf9bb Месяц назад

      Because he's a man of God n he has ears to hear

  • @ChaiTogether
    @ChaiTogether Месяц назад +6

    Love that statement about choosing to love properly! Yes wow 🙏🏽😌😍

  • @bettyh.3900
    @bettyh.3900 Месяц назад +9

    A very much needed discussion. Thank God for Bishop Blakes yielding to the Holy Spirit and staying on the wall.

  • @jackiewilliams-sp1lb
    @jackiewilliams-sp1lb Месяц назад +7

    Hi, learning self preservation can be difficult when you have God directing you no one will make mistakes trusting him and when you get acquainted with self and love you will be a winner ❤️ and respect you

  • @nowKissthaQueen
    @nowKissthaQueen Месяц назад +9

    Pastor RC Jr. you taught me through God empowering you with knowledge. I started listening about 3 yrs ago and I have defeated thousands of demons since. Still growing, living and healing. I pray God keeps you and Ms Lisa around your 'kind' of people. Slaying demons and making mad 😅# Weouthere‼️

  • @beautybylee5369
    @beautybylee5369 Месяц назад +6

    You were listening to Understand!! Most ppl do not get this in a relationship.

  • @wandarios5440
    @wandarios5440 Месяц назад +5

    Thank you RC & Lisa Blakes! You both are a blessing to our lives! ❤️🙏🏽

  • @jamilajohnson4468
    @jamilajohnson4468 Месяц назад +5

    Amen! Self assessment is key in a healthy relationship. This message was a powerful reminder that a relationship will not go beyond the emotional health of the individuals. We must do the internal work and have an understanding of who we are inside and outside of a relationship dynamic. I am eternally grateful for this powerful ministry! ❤

    • @sandyr9081
      @sandyr9081 Месяц назад +2

      I totally agree with you sis! I’ve had to forgive my own self of the things and situations that I allowed.
      It takes two to strive in truth. Once I saw how manipulative some people in relationships can be I started looking at myself internally again so that I can resume my healing and growth alone.
      By reminding myself that there is no more now condemnation to those in Christ Jesus!
      🙌🙌🙏

    • @sandyr9081
      @sandyr9081 Месяц назад

      I totally agree with you sis! I’ve had to forgive my own self of the things and situations that I allowed.
      It takes two to strive in truth. Once I saw how manipulative some people in relationships can be I started looking at me so that I can resume my healing and growth alone. As I remind
      myself that there is no more condemnation to those in Christ Jesus!

  • @MarieAngel840
    @MarieAngel840 Месяц назад +3

    Man this is right on time it’s crazy I was just reading up on attachment style and I think I’m anxious preoccupied based on what I’ve read and a few quizzes

  • @JenJen-80sbaby
    @JenJen-80sbaby 2 дня назад

    Thanks!!!!!! 🙏

  • @sindiswamagwaza525
    @sindiswamagwaza525 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you Pastor RC Blakes and Lady Lisa Blakes, you are a blessing to us❤🙏

  • @sheliasmith2884
    @sheliasmith2884 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you I just walked away from a Dismissive avodent it was a roller coaster ride never again.

  • @bripea7721
    @bripea7721 Месяц назад +2

    Yes we all needed this message

  • @theshoelady4
    @theshoelady4 Месяц назад +2

    Great topic!!! This will help with ALL relationships!

  • @lenebrantley221
    @lenebrantley221 Месяц назад +1

    This is a great topic! Thank you so much. I must say, Bishop, you are looking very handsome and younger! Exercise and eating healthy is paying off. Many blessing to you and beautiful Lady Lisa. She is absolutely gorgeous. Both of you are aging backward. Very inspiring. 🙏❤😊

  • @teresabrown174
    @teresabrown174 Месяц назад +1

    I receive this powerful message Bishop in Faith and Love and thank you for talking about this topic ❤️🙏🏾

  • @msanders5206
    @msanders5206 Месяц назад +1

    Spiritual blindness allows the enemy Satan to steal God's word from our minds.speak holy spirit through Bishop Blakes 💯✌️🙏😎

  • @Julie-l5e6g
    @Julie-l5e6g Месяц назад +7

    We let people show us who they really are in time.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 Месяц назад +1

      Yes! I'm heartbroken I gave my ex boyfriend six weeks to say anything to me after he ghosted me. I called him two weeks ago because I need closure. His mailbox was full so I hung up and didn't text him. No response from him at all. Obviously he doesn't want to talk to me. I just don't know how can people sleep at night treating people like that???

    • @leonablack3516
      @leonablack3516 Месяц назад

      You don't need closure, move on , block so HE can't come back , if you except him back if he comes back you are just telling him it's OK to treat you like a doormat . I have been ghosted before it's terrible, you wreck your mind , blame yourself , don't, its him that is the problem. It's over pet , accept , no way could you take him back after he done that. Nothing good can come from it. . Self respect needed here big time ❤.​@@doglover5519

    • @leonablack3516
      @leonablack3516 Месяц назад

      ​@@doglover5519you don't need closure. Block him so he can't come back, if you chase him or take him back if he comes back, you are saying to him it's OK to treat you like a doormat. I have been ghosted before its painful. Its over, accept , block him .

    • @leonablack3516
      @leonablack3516 Месяц назад

      No need for closure. Block him. Don't go chasing , you can't take him back even if he came back. It's saying it's OK to treat you like that. It's over , accept, block. I have been ghosted before It's painful. You must remember It's not your fault❤

    • @leonablack3516
      @leonablack3516 Месяц назад

      You don't need closure, block him , you could never take him back anx don't chase.i have been ghosted before , its painful , not your fault ❤

  • @wandarios5440
    @wandarios5440 Месяц назад +3

    Pastor Blakes can you do a live video on logical vs emotional communication? Interested in the dynamics of this communication between males/females relative to its positive functionality.

  • @judithstevens4323
    @judithstevens4323 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you for this teaching pastor. We ALL need to hear this! Might I add MOST PEOPLE GET ATTACHMENT CONFUSED WITH LOVE....HUGE MISTAKE....ATTACHMENT IS DEPENDENCY....LIKE A SOUL TIE....AND WOW CAN THAT LEAD YOU DOWN THE WRONG ROAD!
    I RECEIVED MY SIGNED COPY OF MY BOOK THIS EVENING....TY ❤ PASTOR....CAN'T WAIT TO START READING. ❤❤❤❤

  • @NyNy-ly9js
    @NyNy-ly9js Месяц назад +2

    I missed the Live. I did not get my notification 😭
    This was informative and delightful. I like your style of doing this. Thank You. And Lady Queen Lisa thank You for sharing this beautiful man with us. Amen🙏🙏💜

  • @rebeccakelly4837
    @rebeccakelly4837 Месяц назад +2

    This helps a lot RC. I’m learning about my style to be my best for all relationships (including the one with my self). Bless!

  • @TJay1S2G3J
    @TJay1S2G3J Месяц назад

    My favorite topic.
    I'd encourage everyone to also take the attachment style assessment, free online. Also, consider adding this book, 'Attached: The New Science Of Adult Attachment of How to- Find and Keep Love' By Levine and Heller along with Bishop's books and teachings. You'll be grateful you did.
    Also, remember that a secure person can also have lived experiences that leads to insecurities, leading to insecure behaviors/action but overall most ppl are one type or another.
    To add some hope, like Bishop said, insecure people can heal and practice secure behavior/actions to create more secure attachments to others.
    I can go on and on as I love to study attachments and social behaviors of people, especially in romantic relationship, but I won't. haha 😅
    I Pray you lean on God’s Word mostly to guide you and use this information as addition to His word. God created it all anyway.
    Thank you Bishop ❤🙌🏽

  • @betsyrosales5610
    @betsyrosales5610 Месяц назад +3

    Looking forward to this! 👏🏼

  • @cherlynpowell1321
    @cherlynpowell1321 Месяц назад +4

    I want my daughter to listen to this 😢

  • @OliviaHobbs-rz5cz
    @OliviaHobbs-rz5cz Месяц назад +1

    This was really really good! Thank you for the video!

  • @LatoyBraxton-em5hh
    @LatoyBraxton-em5hh Месяц назад +1

    Bishop Blake’s, thank you & Sister Blake’s for all that you do for us. This lesson was right on time , like always. Peace and Blessings to you 🙏🏽🫶🏾❤️🙌🏾

  • @sindiswamagwaza525
    @sindiswamagwaza525 Месяц назад +2

    May the power of the Holy Spirit continue to protect your family 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️

  • @kesihashanta7503
    @kesihashanta7503 25 дней назад

    changed behavior is what most women respect not just an apology now i see we have to be straight forward and behave as such

  • @celestedessources2870
    @celestedessources2870 Месяц назад +1

    Thank u I need to hear That

  • @tamterell
    @tamterell Месяц назад +1

    “Know your stuff and be able to communicate it” Amen

  • @gc2137
    @gc2137 Месяц назад

    This is one of the best topics and presentations yet! Thanks so much Bishop! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @tamterell
    @tamterell Месяц назад +1

    Knowing it and being conscious is 🔑 21:35

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Месяц назад +1

    Good Evening Bishop & Lady Blakes, New Home Family and Everyone!🎉

  • @lisamaiden1892
    @lisamaiden1892 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you so much for touching on this topic! It goes along with all your teachings! ❤

  • @Lore788
    @Lore788 Месяц назад +1

    Working on my attachment style and behaviors that are attached to my style has been a blessing. I wished I knew this sooner. 😏 Oh well, better late than never. Yes, you have to be willing to learn, heal, correct and address unresolved issues, before seeking a relationship. Thanks , for covering this important subject!🙏🤗👏❤️

  • @deborahfranklin9370
    @deborahfranklin9370 Месяц назад

    Wonderful teaching session Pastor!!
    I'm studying this in my counseling major. You would be such an awesome guest professor.
    And Lady Lisa, you inspire me to be better!! 🤗 ❤❤❤

  • @tamterell
    @tamterell Месяц назад +1

    Lord Have Mercy this is good! Bishop teach!! 50:03

  • @latosharadfordradford1863
    @latosharadfordradford1863 Месяц назад

    This Is A Great Teaching Settling Is Not An Option!!!

  • @reneforever6640
    @reneforever6640 Месяц назад +3

    Hi, Pastor R. C Blake’s

  • @leeli1674
    @leeli1674 Месяц назад +1

    This is a great video ❤

  • @denisejones5487
    @denisejones5487 Месяц назад +1

    Great subject. Grace and Peace.

  • @DawnDudley-g5v
    @DawnDudley-g5v Месяц назад

    Good evening RC. Thank you so much for this message. It was very helpful, educational and informative. God bless you and your wife and family. Your ministry has been a lifeline for me and a tremendous encouragement to stay focused. Blessings and peace. ✝️🙏😊👍❤️

  • @Nichole-m7s
    @Nichole-m7s Месяц назад +3

    Good evening everyone

  • @lessagrowth6898
    @lessagrowth6898 Месяц назад +8

    You know some toxic boys can con their entire personality, until you marry them. My ex-husband did, he was my first boyfriend and I met him at 16 years old. I divorce him quickly, don't marry young. My wisdom has passed, my beautiful Mom during this time, and the clowns came out to play. His entire family was demonic clowns🤡😂. It took Jesus to get me out of that mess. Praise your Mighty name Jesus 🙏

    • @andreamegec9836
      @andreamegec9836 2 дня назад

      How did you get out? Did you walk away in silence. I also meet my with 16, and he was 9 older. He was broken unhealthy boy. How did you secure yourself financialy?😢

  • @tiffanymonique82
    @tiffanymonique82 Месяц назад

    This was so good! Thank you for this wisdom.

  • @tracylondon844
    @tracylondon844 Месяц назад

    I LOVE IT!❤🙏🏽

  • @eunicewangari1
    @eunicewangari1 Месяц назад

    Thiiiiiiiiiiis is it!!!!🙌🏽💯

  • @jusnae791
    @jusnae791 Месяц назад

    This was the message-I chose to love you!!!

  • @thereviewer2494
    @thereviewer2494 Месяц назад

    Your videos are always right on time.

  • @carmellaconstancio
    @carmellaconstancio Месяц назад

    ⭐S⭐P⭐E⭐C⭐T⭐A⭐C⭐U⭐L⭐A⭐R⭐ - Deeply grateful First Lady Lisa & Bishop RC! Wisdom Truth!

  • @thelmadouglas8942
    @thelmadouglas8942 Месяц назад

    Amen this word is so true
    Hallelujah praise God

  • @sonyagutierrez1557
    @sonyagutierrez1557 Месяц назад

    Amen Rc Blakes Jr🥰

  • @sharonfayewoodwardcarter888
    @sharonfayewoodwardcarter888 Месяц назад

    Thank you for sharing this most needed serious information to help us understand one another, get clarity

  • @LisaFerguson-jv7ew
    @LisaFerguson-jv7ew Месяц назад +1

    I totally agree. I am a secured attachment style. Because even though l didn't have a father around. But l learned to love people and have empathy for anyone. And l want people to be happy even though l might not be happy at the moment. But when someone does something for me l am not use too. And some people don't like that l am too independent but l am use to this because even though l had siblings l was raised as a only child. And l was my mother therapist when was dealing with being a divorcee at that time they didn't have family advocates like they have now. But l was always there for my spouse. He just didn't want to communicate with me. And so l had to do everything and be the mother and father. And that not what God wants us to be. He wants us to come together as one and deal with the things that are difficult for you to handle. Bit when my parents were married my father respected her. Even even brought her clothing. But than another women came in an tore up the family. And he did apologize. But l as a child never took sides. I loved the both because they were my parents. And l wasn't even saved then or knew about Jesus..

    • @andreamegec9836
      @andreamegec9836 2 дня назад

      😢 hope you stay secure
      Im secure att and my partner is fearfull avoidant he has nany issues. We are 17 yr together no marriage. After I newborn, he doesnt like that faith, abd hes so scared. Im drained in energy so exhausted. I wish someone told me that in 17 yr old

  • @Julie-l5e6g
    @Julie-l5e6g Месяц назад +2

    I literally just had this same "trauma" conversation and about learning how to communicate in one's relationship 😮

  • @irmabryant6979
    @irmabryant6979 Месяц назад

    Good stuff! Thank you so much 👏🏾

  • @ChaiTogether
    @ChaiTogether Месяц назад +1

    It did need to be said! 😊❤

  • @patriciabarthe3335
    @patriciabarthe3335 Месяц назад

    Very helpful 🙏

  • @maryanderson73
    @maryanderson73 Месяц назад

    Good evening Bishop & Lady Blakes! Good to join this discussion!

  • @LunamothNov22
    @LunamothNov22 Месяц назад

    This is what I needed today ❤

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Месяц назад +1

    Great Content👍🏻

  • @CynthiaRaspin1977
    @CynthiaRaspin1977 Месяц назад

    Thank You

  • @imeldaboyles9485
    @imeldaboyles9485 Месяц назад

    Needed this so much

  • @spyroluver0951
    @spyroluver0951 Месяц назад

    Great relationship reminders

  • @sonyagutierrez1557
    @sonyagutierrez1557 Месяц назад +1

    God bless us all❤🙏🎹🎷💎👑🌍✌️

  • @vicmic4life
    @vicmic4life Месяц назад

    Good evening Bishop Blake’s, great seeing you today.

  • @marisarobinson8401
    @marisarobinson8401 Месяц назад

    My My My ~ Compounding Trama

  • @LovelyyySimone
    @LovelyyySimone Месяц назад

    Love this ❤

  • @lindatucs2044
    @lindatucs2044 Месяц назад +1

    Me too ❤

  • @mirandalong4288
    @mirandalong4288 Месяц назад +1

    1:00:21 ❤❤

  • @elsaorona6747
    @elsaorona6747 Месяц назад

    That’s good 👍🏼

  • @subirapriester166
    @subirapriester166 Месяц назад

    This was really good

  • @jthomas9411
    @jthomas9411 Месяц назад

    ~Blessings One And All~

  • @michelledouglas-thierry3143
    @michelledouglas-thierry3143 Месяц назад

    Praise God 🙏

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Месяц назад

    Amen!

  • @sonyagutierrez1557
    @sonyagutierrez1557 Месяц назад +1

    Trauma affects behavior like drugs alcohol and good behavior. Faith Hope Love 🙏

  • @Andre25167
    @Andre25167 Месяц назад

    Hi Bishop, so a while back I told one of female friends about your channel. Hopefully she is watching your videos.

  • @tonya1529
    @tonya1529 Месяц назад

    Good evening everyone!

  • @sarahpeyton3824
    @sarahpeyton3824 Месяц назад

    Thorough

  • @lwarfield52
    @lwarfield52 Месяц назад

    Me too! 💖💖💖

  • @aprilwashington4573
    @aprilwashington4573 Месяц назад

    Amen

  • @Amitchell7594
    @Amitchell7594 Месяц назад +1

    Hi Mrs. Lisa

  • @created2change1
    @created2change1 Месяц назад

    Good night guys

  • @jujubee90275
    @jujubee90275 Месяц назад

    Hi everyone. Just joined.

  • @hoytisshaharris9495
    @hoytisshaharris9495 Месяц назад +1

    Hey there bishop✋🏾 ❤

  • @BmoreBetterNOW
    @BmoreBetterNOW Месяц назад +1

    Everyone has issues - and people with avoidant type attachment styles seem to be multiplying. Who is going to love them? Apparently - no one - since we are all running for the hills.
    I have a Godly love for the guy I care for. I love from a distance and pray for him - only occasionally making sure he’s well but I trust God & expect God to MOVE mightily in his life.
    I stood for him & had satan show up in my dreams seeking to discourage me.
    *If you are part of the body of Christ life isn’t just about finding a partner- we need to be attempting to set the captives FREE.
    We forget some of these individuals need spiritual deliverance & they definitely need prayer. Don’t forget that when you’re running for the hills - most of us are only healthy, despite what we’ve been through Because someone was praying for us 😘

    • @mrenae6798
      @mrenae6798 Месяц назад

      This is so good! Thank you