This is actually a Phillips Brooks quote, famously used by JFK while saying grace before a presidential breakfast: _"Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men."_ The rest of the original quote reads, _"Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks. Then, the doing of your tasks shall be no miracle, but you shall be the miracle."_
When I was 16 I taught a young boy to swim. None of the adults wanted to teach him as he cried every time. He was afraid of the water on his face. I got in the water with him. I said, 'You get in the bath, right? You wash your face, right?' We got our faces wet. Next, we blew bubbles, putting our mouths in the water, making fart noises. After 3 weeks with me (2 lessons per week) I'd managed to get him to swim his first width. I still remember the look of pride and applause from his parents as they watched. That was 30 years ago. I'm now a primary teacher and I still try to encourage my students and discover the words which will help them understand.
No... U realize you are brave... When the situation calls for being afraid. So the only time you realize u r brave is when others are afraid of the same situation you are in
I recently had a panic attack driving across a bridge. I knew this was not good, becuase my mother is now an elderly woman who’s life is crippled from anxiety and it started when she was my age now. Also driving across a bridge. There was no way, I was going to let that happen to me. So the very next day I forced myself to drive across the bridge. It was tough for me, but I did it. For the next few weeks I jusy kept driving back and foruth across bridges until I was bored with the idea. Oxposure is key to beating anxiety. Avoidance only fuels anxiety.
He claims abortion is morally evil and something someone does after they've made a serious of immoral decisions, he claims 'traditional' marriage is superior to gay and lesbian and single parent marriages. He wont use one set of universal gender neutral pronouns of his choosing and hides behind he doesn't like being forced by government when clearly that legislation is designed exactly for people like him. He advocates church attendance which is classic virtue signalling. He claims hierarchies are natural and useful and that by their very nature result in people at the bottom and at the top while ignoring the game rigging that clearly takes place through the private school system, religious affiliation. He's a rightwing simpleton who profits from excluding others, the only good thing he's said is extreme wealth inequality destabilizes society, well that the consequence of playing the game of exclusion you get excluded as you're not anywhere near the top of the power game.
No one would say abortion is good or desirable. I think it’s a necessary right but each one is a tragedy - no one ENJOYS an abortion. It’s not a positive psychological or moral experience. Necessary? Yes. Moral? I don’t think so. Hierarchy is useful for organising humans into productive systems...and yes some people fail within hierarchical structures because they don’t have the tools to get along - moral? No. Necessary? Yes.
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new person bro, what's with all the symbols? so clunky to read. are your actual thoughts this messy? you gotta relevant point but it was brutal to get to. it's like a child that keeps pausing to breathe. not trying to be a dick either legit curious. i see this a lot and don't get it lol
Justin Cramer. the best part was how heartily JP laughed. In a lot of his videos or interviews he's so serious, I feel like it's good and healthy for him to get a genuine laugh in
@@AoLIronmaiden I think he has a very ironic and dark sense of humor, judging by the stuff he genuinely laughs at. It makes sense, he is professionally intimate with some of the worst aspects of humanity.
If you stand up for yourself, you might get enemies. Maybe even worse, everyone in your group who you associated with, might become your enemy.. But what is worst, to live as a slave under someones control, or fight for yourself, your dreams, your mental health?? You might get lots of enemies, but that is what makes you brave and courageous!
Hell yes. I went up against a Director in my job and it has essentially has got me blackballed. But guess what? They would have done it anyway! Might as well stand up for myself 'The enemy always wins, but you still fight it' GoT quote
I'd say prove to yourself that it's an illusion. And the illusion will probably come back again and again from different angles. You will continually have to turn from the target to the hunter. Switch from defense to offense. I love this guy's way of saying that. It's so true. It even controls many MMA fights, who wins in the equities market, business, real estate, etc. It really is just hunters and prey.
Tell that to people who almost crapped their hearts out when people threw spiders at them to cure arachnophobia and instead getting it worse. There's no universal solution to such problems.
manictiger Can you tell me how I have PTSD and Random Anxiety at places with people that don‘t even have the intention of hurting me so I have talked for 6 hours with people everyday for the last 3 days and I‘s the same
Had a tooth pulled with no medication before hand when I was a kid. Dentist was yelling at me. My dad, active duty at the time, came in and handled the situation. Had he not done that I imagine I would have developed a phobia. Crazy world out there.
Years ago, my little son who was in grade school at the time, came home crying and complaining that he was getting bullied by a bigger boy on the playground at school. I could've hugged him, and told him how much I loved him, and gave him sympathy. But, I didn't. Instead, I took the time to show him how to throw 5 basic punches. After that day, he never ever came home in tears again.
I'm a dog behavior trainer and the correlation between the way you approach things and your body language is spot on. You have to be a good leader and help the dog overcome their fears by dealing with their problems directly, same for humans. 👍
When I was growing up I was mentally and emotionally abused, so I thought I wasn’t allowed to talk back and have my own opinion. I thought I had to run away from my problems and give in to evil people. I’m still young, I’m only 22, and now I don’t back down from anybody. Usually, especially when it comes to bullies, if you get back into their face they back down because they aren’t expecting retaliation. They’re actually emotionally weak, and that’s why they’re going after you to make themselves feel better.
I am never disappointed when JP comes on to talk. Even if I have heard everything he has said already, I never get tired of it. Thank God for the bravery of Jordan Peterson.
Fear usually stems from the fact that people try to predict things and what is gonna happen in the future. Simply, stop thinking about the possibilities of the future and you will stop being afraid.
Sounds good but it's not that simple. The kind of panic under discussion here is not just negative thinking. It is a deep rooted phobic state that often has it's roots in childhood or exposure to trauma. PTSD is similar. The only proven therapy is graded exposure which is what peterson is talking about.
Emotion precedes thought. This is why cognitive therapy cannot work in high anxiety conditions. When a dog runs out in front of your car, fight or flight kicks in before you can think. Thoughts cannot and never will be able to prevent fear responses. It is neurological and physiological fact.
"You don't get less afraid, you get braver" is a very true statement.... As a former LEO, there were many occasions where fear set in, but I just had to keep the mindset of making that fear fear me.
These guys have my upmost respect . Do yourself a favor and read their books! 12 rules of life, extreme ownership , leadership , strategy and tactics. Changed my life.
I got a filling without needles because while they're fine in my arm, I get extremely anxious when they're in my mouth. Another nugget of empowering wisdom: "You don't teach them to be less afraid. You teach them to be braver."
Incredible. Gonna put this on top of my bookmarks. Gonna help me hugely with my own grind. Specifically, "When you're on patrol, we're on offence, we are scanning, we are looking ... to get the mentality of we wanna do this and we are moving towards the target as opposed to we are being chased".
It's easy to forget that he is a Professor of Psychology. aka He REALLY knows what he is talking about. I'm often in awe when he speaks because he speaks about some of my deepest thoughts
I was once part of an apprenticeship that demanded survival of the fittest. They wanted to compete against many training programs in a market recovery move. The first few years were about what you would expect being the low guy on the ladder and handling all the lifting and grunt work even if you aren't an Olympian. After several years of training and into our final year we were given a hype speech and told these are the jobs few have the guts to do to and start acting like we had graduated and pushing back on anyone who would give us any shit on the job. It was time to dish back what was dished out because thin skin had no place on a job site. We were trained to face death every day. Not exactly what I was expecting when I signed up but all the training was supportive and encouraging up to that point. Yet the reaction of some others to your indestructible courage was anger. You would think it would earn you respect but that's not always the case. Some would be determined to break you. Those who were supposed to be leaders were more like competitors. I had my final injury while working that finally broke my body. My core collapsed and so did my legs and back. I went through years of feeling like I had a beating by the end of every day. Back breaking labor was just part of the risks. Maybe the most broken tools with the most difficult method isn't the challenge you should be accepting from the boss. Maybe you need to call out the bullshit when you get given broken tools with broken gear. We were also trained we need to go home alive at the end of the day. You don't want to end up as broken as the poor supplies you were provided by a cheap employer who sees you as a temporary number. Right there I'm getting worked up about it again but part of it was getting put down to test your nerve. Labor disputes are still a thing today and likely always will be. There is a proper tool for the job. There is a proper approach to quality work. This courage and knowledge can be threatening to others though the right team would appreciate your tenacity. Like-ability is also as important as being aggressive. If you can manage both that's another skill. I've heard many talks about leadership and attitude so I humbly appreciate what the experienced have to say about it. I use that as fuel to overcome what facing fears can do to you or your body , mind and integrity while your down and recovering. Surviving something is a different kind of suck. It can alter you but try not to lose yourself in it. You had the guts to get things done.
Yep. Your greatest enemy is the person who tries to rob you of your responsibility. Such a person is effectively a vampire, draining the blood of your spirit and identity, making you weak.
I know mate, been there. Try watching Jordan peterson's other videos where he explains the overprotective mom ideology. It helped me understand the process and get out of my home and build myself up!
Shit man, I'm there right now. I'm 21 and she still wants me to not struggle under any circumstance. I love her to death but she can be overbearing. I made a vow to myself that if I didn't get out of the house by 23 that I'd join the military. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
I can relate to the fear of needles. I've never overcame my fear of needles but me and my friends made a group agreement to donate plasma for half a year. I never told them but sometimes, having people around doing the same thing sort of like makes you braver. It similar to going to the gym and when you have a friend with you, you push harder because they are there.
Embrace your fears. Realize fear is part of you. Scared me the first time I jumped out of an airplane, but over time, repeated jumps taught me to embrace fear.
this offense idea is so key. i was watching a youtuber who taught people how to disarm knives, guns and fight. he blatantly said self defense is crap. u must be on offense in these situations.
The old saying of the best defence being a good offensive is true. At least, it's better than dying a terrified victim, so you may as well go down swinging.
It’s really not this black and white. Most situations where you got a gun to your head the moment you move they are shooting. Having this idea that you always have to make a move is a pretty great way to end up in a ditch.
“Take the case of courage. No quality has ever so much addled the brains and tangled the definitions of merely rational sages. Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die. 'He that will lose his life, the same shall save it,' is not a piece of mysticism for saints and heroes. It is a piece of everyday advice for sailors or mountaineers. It might be printed in an Alpine guide or a drill book. This paradox is the whole principle of courage; even of quite earthly or brutal courage. A man cut off by the sea may save his life if we will risk it on the precipice. He can only get away from death by continually stepping within an inch of it. A soldier surrounded by enemies, if he is to cut his way out, needs to combine a strong desire for living with a strange carelessness about dying. He must not merely cling to life, for then he will be a coward, and will not escape. He must not merely wait for death, for then he will be a suicide, and will not escape. He must seek his life in a spirit of furious indifference to it; he must desire life like water and yet drink death like wine. No philosopher, I fancy, has ever expressed this romantic riddle with adequate lucidity, and I certainly have not done so. But Christianity has done more: it has marked the limits of it in the awful graves of the suicide and the hero, showing the distance between him who dies for the sake of living and him who dies for the sake of dying.” ~ GK Chesterton
Philosophy Porch Thanks for that! I am practically deaf. There’s so many videos I want to watch and understand but for some reason a lot of videos STILL do not have captions. So, I appreciate you taking the time to write what GK said in a nutshell, which is what I am sure, is the essence of the discussion that transpired on the video. God bless you!
2:09 The cure to limiting belief of fear (in notes) is exposure/practice. Starting bad but keep going. The only solution is action on what you want (your truth etc) despite fear (courage). 6:08 Courage is not the absence of fear but faithful action despite it
This is why I always prefer hearing the bad news first before the good news, I feel less anxious when getting the most difficult situation out of the way first, which is why I tend to look up horrific concepts head first and go outside as often as possible
A friend of mine was terrified of the dark so I got him to trust me In this process & before you knew it I had a sheet tied around his head & was throwing him right off the tailgate of my truck he never saw the light again he became blessed by his fear.
**BEAUTIFUL paragraph you pulled out of all written, very IMPORTANT in these times** 👌JP, a Gemini man GIFTED with a brain for erasing outdated traditions troubleshooting for generations to come and etched out for this moment in time 💚
Nenand, you're correct about Fedor or at least, correct about how he was in his prime. He has ability for mental detachment, meaning he doesn't feel nervous or apprehensive but rather, completely relaxed. That also means that his muscle and nervous structures are relaxed which is a big part of why he was so amazing at absorbing and serving huge amounts of damage against very tough opponents in the cage. My second favourite fighter of all time, just behind Mike Tyson.
@@thelobster7673 OK, if you want an actual answer, consider this. When you think logically to evaluate facts, you have to argue against the fact to check it's validity (does the fact stand up to scrutiny), when you are conversing with someone you are sharing perceptions to find what is actually true between you, if this wasn't the case i don't know that men would speak... ever... I don't think it can be put more logically than that.
"Robb says the man died bravely, but Jon says he was afraid." "What do you think?" his father asked. Bran thought about it. "Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?" "That is the only time a man can be brave." his father told him
I was very scared of crickets, then one day my father grabbed me by my arm and didnt let go, and asked me to keep calm while he grabbed a cricket in his fist and kept it infront of me, then he asked me to hold his fist and grab the cricket. I was terrified, but the process resembles Dr.Peterson's method. Im very glad my father did that, it served me all my schoolyears to bully my whimpy friends that were affraid of crickets, I could grab them and put them under their shirts, it was awesome.
Lol porque no los dos? I'd argue it was all in good fun. No one ever was THAT scared of crickets, just disgusted and it was a good joke. Yet this is the comment section on youtube so I'd expect nothing but toxic replies. Lol.
Regular smelly crickets, but its the tropic so they'll grow in the hundreds of thousands covering square meters on the walls,streets and dirt, jumpinand flying g around smelling like rot, it is quite a sight. Very easy to develop a phobia.
I had an ex girlfriend who was sexually abused as a child and then raped in teenage life by a friend. She'd had never had a consensual experience, and if anybody even so much as tried to kiss her she would have a panic attack. This happened after our first kiss (about three weeks into dating after three or four dates), and after a lot of tears she explained why. Over the course of the next six months she was able to use this sort of therapy to get to the point where we were able to have normal sex for an hour at a time with one another without incident. She was so incredibly brave throughout the process, and it made me well up at how proud of her I was, going from not being able to kiss somebody to that sweet euphoria when it's over and both people are staring lovingly at one another in the sheets. We didn't work out in the end because of other factors, but I hope she's happy and is still able to enjoy that simple pleasure with somebody else that she can trust, she deserves it for all the hard work she put in.
From 0.07 Jocko reads a very noble sentence finely expressed: " 'Standing-up' means voluntarily accepting the burden of being." I like it. There is the grit of deliberate-living in that sentence.
Thank you, guys, I’m going to start my business tomorrow. I’ve fought and fought against the anxiety of finally taking control of my life and doing what I believe I can do. It took a paragraph from a book written by an intellectual and read by warrior at the right time to flip the switch. You don’t become less afraid you become braver.
Jordan Peterson is the goat, hands down. not joe Rogan, not David Goggins, and definitely not Jocko. this man is an absolute treasure and I'm so lucky to have stumbled upon him in my 20's
reminds of the quote: “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one” from Bruce Lee
practical words
This is actually a Phillips Brooks quote, famously used by JFK while saying grace before a presidential breakfast:
_"Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men."_
The rest of the original quote reads, _"Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks. Then, the doing of your tasks shall be no miracle, but you shall be the miracle."_
Yeah, I like it, that is a great saying or quote,
Do not ask for a lighter burden. Ask for broader shoulders.
Famous quote by the mayor of Suplex City, Mr.Brock Edward Lesnar
Eat
Sleep
Conquer/Suplex
Repeat
Warrior meets with Wizard.
Haha wow! That's brilliant!
Warrior meets Sage haha
I suppose this means that psych school is kinda like hogwarts then 🤔
Result: Mutual respect.
Now they only need 1 healer and 1 range dps
When I was 16 I taught a young boy to swim. None of the adults wanted to teach him as he cried every time. He was afraid of the water on his face.
I got in the water with him. I said, 'You get in the bath, right? You wash your face, right?' We got our faces wet.
Next, we blew bubbles, putting our mouths in the water, making fart noises.
After 3 weeks with me (2 lessons per week) I'd managed to get him to swim his first width.
I still remember the look of pride and applause from his parents as they watched.
That was 30 years ago.
I'm now a primary teacher and I still try to encourage my students and discover the words which will help them understand.
You are doing a precious thing for the lives of these boys, congratulations!
That young boy grew up to be Michael Phelps.
Count
My parents just chucked my ass in the pool.
Count proud of you!
You're a hero to those people
Jordan Peterson chats with two Gears of War characters.
THIS comment. LOL
I can't stop laughing.
Also Jordan Peterson would be a great Prescott. Don't you guys think?
Well done...
Task Force Bruiser in Fallujah was real life GoW
'Can a man be brave even if he's afraid'? 'The only time a man CAN be brave is when he's afraid'- Ned Stark. (A Game of Thrones).
No... U realize you are brave... When the situation calls for being afraid. So the only time you realize u r brave is when others are afraid of the same situation you are in
@@rubangeorge7 wtf was that? You made no sense. Is that English?
Dude... Read it again...
@@Mike-mb1yf... Once u understood... Be a man and stop using "WTF" on open forums.
@@rubangeorge7sorry I don't speak imbecile
I recently had a panic attack driving across a bridge. I knew this was not good, becuase my mother is now an elderly woman who’s life is crippled from anxiety and it started when she was my age now. Also driving across a bridge. There was no way, I was going to let that happen to me. So the very next day I forced myself to drive across the bridge. It was tough for me, but I did it. For the next few weeks I jusy kept driving back and foruth across bridges until I was bored with the idea. Oxposure is key to beating anxiety. Avoidance only fuels anxiety.
Great job pal
Not Zelda thanks bud
Well done, dude. And thank you for sharing!
I share your pain and admire your courage and insight. Well done Jason keep it up.
The problem is recognising your true fear without your ego getting in the way of realising your weakness.
1. Clean Your Lobster
2. Dominate the Dragon Hierarchy
3. Get in the elevator
Then get to the chopper
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I dont have a lobster?
You SON OF A BITCH!!! ^HiGH FIVE^
Greatest comment of all time LMAO
"To stand up straight with your shoulders back, is to accept the terrible responsibility of life with eyes wide open!" Powerful words!!
"You aren't teaching people to be less afraid. You are teaching people to be braver." - Jordan Peterson.
Wow that was such an amazing quote.
You don't get less afraid, you get braver. Love Jordan Peterson!!!
He's a coward, like all rightwingers.
he isn't even right wing hahaha
He claims abortion is morally evil and something someone does after they've made a serious of immoral decisions, he claims 'traditional' marriage is superior to gay and lesbian and single parent marriages. He wont use one set of universal gender neutral pronouns of his choosing and hides behind he doesn't like being forced by government when clearly that legislation is designed exactly for people like him. He advocates church attendance which is classic virtue signalling.
He claims hierarchies are natural and useful and that by their very nature result in people at the bottom and at the top while ignoring the game rigging that clearly takes place through the private school system, religious affiliation.
He's a rightwing simpleton who profits from excluding others, the only good thing he's said is extreme wealth inequality destabilizes society, well that the consequence of playing the game of exclusion you get excluded as you're not anywhere near the top of the power game.
lilithchick 👌
No one would say abortion is good or desirable. I think it’s a necessary right but each one is a tragedy - no one ENJOYS an abortion. It’s not a positive psychological or moral experience. Necessary? Yes. Moral? I don’t think so.
Hierarchy is useful for organising humans into productive systems...and yes some people fail within hierarchical structures because they don’t have the tools to get along - moral? No. Necessary? Yes.
FROG MAN + LOBSTER MAN = TRUTH
so what you're saying, is that frogs and lobsters are smarter than humans?
not gonna lie, that comment got me smiling.
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new person bro, what's with all the symbols? so clunky to read. are your actual thoughts this messy? you gotta relevant point but it was brutal to get to. it's like a child that keeps pausing to breathe. not trying to be a dick either legit curious. i see this a lot and don't get it lol
Cory Lahey - Whoosh
Jordan:"We went to watch an embalming" Jocko:"Date night" - priceless
Justin Cramer. the best part was how heartily JP laughed. In a lot of his videos or interviews he's so serious, I feel like it's good and healthy for him to get a genuine laugh in
Finally someone clarified that word "embalming" . I couldn't understand that by myself. Thanks
+Paul Rogers go away
@@AoLIronmaiden I think he has a very ironic and dark sense of humor, judging by the stuff he genuinely laughs at. It makes sense, he is professionally intimate with some of the worst aspects of humanity.
@@flaviovms yeah when I first watched it I was on 2x speed and it sounded like he said "a bombing"
Was like what the fuck Peter?
JBP appeals to men of all stripes.
He's an academic
Jocko is a military hardhead
And they agree and learn from one another. That's manhood.
Indeed, well put!
Mr Clifton sir I totally agree, special forces are very very bright men.
Jocko is a SEAL tactician... not a standard operator
Jocko is far more intelligent than "military hardhead" gives him credit for though
I'm an academic and I think Jordan Peterson is a hack who markets himself to the uninformed
If you stand up for yourself, you might get enemies. Maybe even worse, everyone in your group who you associated with, might become your enemy.. But what is worst, to live as a slave under someones control, or fight for yourself, your dreams, your mental health??
You might get lots of enemies, but that is what makes you brave and courageous!
Inconvenient Consequences Best advice ever!
If a social relationship is not based upon truth, it's not actually a relationship.
Friendship, rivalry, love, enmity... it applies to all of them.
Hell yes. I went up against a Director in my job and it has essentially has got me blackballed. But guess what? They would have done it anyway! Might as well stand up for myself 'The enemy always wins, but you still fight it' GoT quote
mediacenter man
Also:
Not ALL enemies are necessarily winners;
By opposing them, you MIGHT win.
Since I stopped being anxious, depressed and introverted, I don't have any friends from my previous social circle and only kept close relationships
Courage is not the absence of fear, it is the conquest of it. There is no courage without fear.
The wisdom of Jordan Peterson can be used in almost every aspect of life.
Yes, it seems like everything will become better by adding an Jordan Peterson to it.
Not in real life
Expose yourself to the fear until you don't fear it anymore! Scary as hell but it works.
I'd say prove to yourself that it's an illusion. And the illusion will probably come back again and again from different angles. You will continually have to turn from the target to the hunter. Switch from defense to offense. I love this guy's way of saying that. It's so true. It even controls many MMA fights, who wins in the equities market, business, real estate, etc. It really is just hunters and prey.
Tell that to people who almost crapped their hearts out when people threw spiders at them to cure arachnophobia and instead getting it worse. There's no universal solution to such problems.
manictiger Can you tell me how I have PTSD and Random Anxiety at places with people that don‘t even have the intention of hurting me so I have talked for 6 hours with people everyday for the last 3 days and I‘s the same
Exactly
can I make an instagram profile? I am so fucking scared of judgement
How to develop Bravery. Embrace the pain. Embrace the fear. This goes for everything that pains you. It will teach you about yourself.
Having six people hold you down as kid to give you a needle does sound like a traumatizing experience
SVERIGE
@@savagebitch1673 nej, Finland :P
Had a tooth pulled with no medication before hand when I was a kid. Dentist was yelling at me. My dad, active duty at the time, came in and handled the situation. Had he not done that I imagine I would have developed a phobia. Crazy world out there.
That's why I'm afraid of priests...
The technique is called "Progressive exposure" by the way.
Is it much different from systematic desensitization?
This is one thing that the
progressives got right...
xD just kissing.
Edit: kidding* wtf, I ain't kissing anyone.
Viktor Frolov yes, or desensitization.
Brian! BRAIN! BRIAN!!!
@Taylor TheSailor And here's the random twat ladies and gentlemen. Congrats Taylor, you should be very proud.
Abused as a child and overcame my fear of fear by just doing everything in life.
Jordan is SPOT on listen people out there suffering.
Peace.
André Lewis I was abused, too, and am confronting my fears, also.
André Lewis yes! I can relate to the abuse bit... totally wipes your trust and esteem especially at age 7.
I hate that you were abused. What do you mean, "by doing everything in life?"
🙏✊
I feel ya. I used it as metal plating for my mind.
"Don't get less afraid. Get more brave."
Years ago, my little son who was in grade school at the time, came home crying and complaining that he was getting bullied by a bigger boy on the playground at school. I could've hugged him, and told him how much I loved him, and gave him sympathy. But, I didn't. Instead, I took the time to show him how to throw 5 basic punches. After that day, he never ever came home in tears again.
Arnold Schwarzenegger on overcoming fear:
1. Crush Your Enemies.
2. Eat Green Berets for Breakfast.
3. Get to da Choppah.
4.Crom!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Don’t forget the pump
Best comment ever.
The best thing is to hear the lamentations of your enemy
I'm a dog behavior trainer and the correlation between the way you approach things and your body language is spot on. You have to be a good leader and help the dog overcome their fears by dealing with their problems directly, same for humans. 👍
When I was growing up I was mentally and emotionally abused, so I thought I wasn’t allowed to talk back and have my own opinion. I thought I had to run away from my problems and give in to evil people. I’m still young, I’m only 22, and now I don’t back down from anybody. Usually, especially when it comes to bullies, if you get back into their face they back down because they aren’t expecting retaliation. They’re actually emotionally weak, and that’s why they’re going after you to make themselves feel better.
Navy seals in an intellectual round with a scholar. There is good in the world.
There are very few stupid SEALs; you need to be a pretty agile thinker to excel in that arena.
@@MikeRoberts1964 And they are generally honest.
Enduring the seal training without mental toughness is close to impossible
I am never disappointed when JP comes on to talk. Even if I have heard everything he has said already, I never get tired of it. Thank God for the bravery of Jordan Peterson.
Fear usually stems from the fact that people try to predict things and what is gonna happen in the future. Simply, stop thinking about the possibilities of the future and you will stop being afraid.
so simple bro
Sounds good but it's not that simple. The kind of panic under discussion here is not just negative thinking. It is a deep rooted phobic state that often has it's roots in childhood or exposure to trauma. PTSD is similar. The only proven therapy is graded exposure which is what peterson is talking about.
Emotion precedes thought. This is why cognitive therapy cannot work in high anxiety conditions. When a dog runs out in front of your car, fight or flight kicks in before you can think. Thoughts cannot and never will be able to prevent fear responses. It is neurological and physiological fact.
@@travisn346 Yes but the quality of your thoughts dictates your emotions... haven't you heard of auto-suggestion?
Thank you.
"You don't get less afraid, you get braver" is a very true statement.... As a former LEO, there were many occasions where fear set in, but I just had to keep the mindset of making that fear fear me.
All you need in life are the 3 J’s:
Joe
Jordan
Jocko
4 J's, the last one being Jameson, or Jesus.
And D , David goggin
Agree. My go to mentors on my journey becoming the übermensch
Lambert Shanborlang david Joggins
And Jeff
Being in combative sports and USMC really taught me to overcome my depression through aggression.
i learnt about aggression too and how beneficial it is when used correctly
These guys have my upmost respect . Do yourself a favor and read their books! 12 rules of life, extreme ownership , leadership , strategy and tactics. Changed my life.
he needs to be on the show at least twice a month!
I feel alpha just listening to Jocko.
Jordan Peterson led me to your channel. Thank you for serving as a soldier. Thank you for continuing to teach.
I got a filling without needles because while they're fine in my arm, I get extremely anxious when they're in my mouth.
Another nugget of empowering wisdom: "You don't teach them to be less afraid. You teach them to be braver."
7:16 makes me so happy. I've never seen him laugh so genuinely.
what is the joke? DIDNT get it
This guy looks like a more masculine and older Matt Damon.
ok
However Jocko is *younger* than Matt Damon.
@bob hobby imagine calling someone a more masculine version of someone and then someone else calls you gay for it
Dbol Damon
bob hobby I jizzed
Incredible. Gonna put this on top of my bookmarks. Gonna help me hugely with my own grind.
Specifically, "When you're on patrol, we're on offence, we are scanning, we are looking ... to get the mentality of we wanna do this and we are moving towards the target as opposed to we are being chased".
It's easy to forget that he is a Professor of Psychology. aka He REALLY knows what he is talking about. I'm often in awe when he speaks because he speaks about some of my deepest thoughts
Facts
This man is pure gold. His words are those words what we young men needed/wanted to hear from a long time ago.
JP: "you don't get less afraid. You get braver."
Jocko: "good"
Two great minds here!
Literally just finished marathoning Peterson's videos, I had no idea there was a Jocko cast with him friggin sweet
I was once part of an apprenticeship that demanded survival of the fittest. They wanted to compete against many training programs in a market recovery move. The first few years were about what you would expect being the low guy on the ladder and handling all the lifting and grunt work even if you aren't an Olympian. After several years of training and into our final year we were given a hype speech and told these are the jobs few have the guts to do to and start acting like we had graduated and pushing back on anyone who would give us any shit on the job. It was time to dish back what was dished out because thin skin had no place on a job site. We were trained to face death every day. Not exactly what I was expecting when I signed up but all the training was supportive and encouraging up to that point. Yet the reaction of some others to your indestructible courage was anger. You would think it would earn you respect but that's not always the case. Some would be determined to break you. Those who were supposed to be leaders were more like competitors. I had my final injury while working that finally broke my body. My core collapsed and so did my legs and back. I went through years of feeling like I had a beating by the end of every day. Back breaking labor was just part of the risks. Maybe the most broken tools with the most difficult method isn't the challenge you should be accepting from the boss. Maybe you need to call out the bullshit when you get given broken tools with broken gear. We were also trained we need to go home alive at the end of the day. You don't want to end up as broken as the poor supplies you were provided by a cheap employer who sees you as a temporary number. Right there I'm getting worked up about it again but part of it was getting put down to test your nerve. Labor disputes are still a thing today and likely always will be. There is a proper tool for the job. There is a proper approach to quality work. This courage and knowledge can be threatening to others though the right team would appreciate your tenacity. Like-ability is also as important as being aggressive. If you can manage both that's another skill. I've heard many talks about leadership and attitude so I humbly appreciate what the experienced have to say about it. I use that as fuel to overcome what facing fears can do to you or your body , mind and integrity while your down and recovering. Surviving something is a different kind of suck. It can alter you but try not to lose yourself in it. You had the guts to get things done.
I feel better equipped for reality after reading this, thank you and thank you for sharing your knowledge. Be well & may Fortune favor you
After having watched some interviews where Jordan was all but sent out of the room, I am really happy to see him laugh out loud.
Heartiest laugh I've ever heard from jbp
Good to hear him laughing, since so much of his conversations with others are quite serious or grim.
Can't call illiteracy serious, laughable is the word I'd use.
Watch him on Theo Von's podcast, he laughed plenty on there
What was the joke
Yeah can someone explain the joke or atleast tell what the guy said?
What the worst is, that an overprotective Mum, keep attacking you, for standing up yourself.. Anyone knows how that feels?
Yep. Your greatest enemy is the person who tries to rob you of your responsibility.
Such a person is effectively a vampire, draining the blood of your spirit and identity, making you weak.
I know mate, been there.
Try watching Jordan peterson's other videos where he explains the overprotective mom ideology. It helped me understand the process and get out of my home and build myself up!
Yes. Always telling me to ease up and never really stick out anything that's the slightest bit difficult. Yes, I have.
Shit man, I'm there right now. I'm 21 and she still wants me to not struggle under any circumstance. I love her to death but she can be overbearing. I made a vow to myself that if I didn't get out of the house by 23 that I'd join the military. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
Marquise Williams Besides Mom, what's keeping you in the house?
I can relate to the fear of needles. I've never overcame my fear of needles but me and my friends made a group agreement to donate plasma for half a year. I never told them but sometimes, having people around doing the same thing sort of like makes you braver. It similar to going to the gym and when you have a friend with you, you push harder because they are there.
Thank you for this. I have been racked with fear and had a hard time dealing with them. Thank you Jocko. Thank you Echo. Thank you Jordan Peterson
Love how pure, logical and sensible his perspective is.
you know in your bones when you hear something so true its beyond question.."You don't get less afraid, you get braver."
Embrace your fears. Realize fear is part of you. Scared me the first time I jumped out of an airplane, but over time, repeated jumps taught me to embrace fear.
Batman never stopped being afraid of bats. He just got braver.
Exactly! Good example 👍
He’s also a ninja, so…
Yes he did. He embraced fear and made it a weapon. That was the whole point of his costume.
That's how Hell's Angels operate.
He learned to handicap people, we should take notes😎
I like that. It's not about being less afraid. It's about learning to not let your fears control you.
Jordan is fantastic. Jocko is fantastic. The two together are amazing. Great combination of 2 Great minds and 2 social Lions
this offense idea is so key. i was watching a youtuber who taught people how to disarm knives, guns and fight. he blatantly said self defense is crap. u must be on offense in these situations.
spikeboy101 SMDFTB
lmaooooo
The old saying of the best defence being a good offensive is true. At least, it's better than dying a terrified victim, so you may as well go down swinging.
It’s really not this black and white. Most situations where you got a gun to your head the moment you move they are shooting. Having this idea that you always have to make a move is a pretty great way to end up in a ditch.
3:45. You know somethings brutal when Jocko winces.
Thank you very much! God bless you all! #StayStrong
“Take the case of courage. No quality has ever so much addled the brains and tangled the definitions of merely rational sages. Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die. 'He that will lose his life, the same shall save it,' is not a piece of mysticism for saints and heroes. It is a piece of everyday advice for sailors or mountaineers. It might be printed in an Alpine guide or a drill book. This paradox is the whole principle of courage; even of quite earthly or brutal courage. A man cut off by the sea may save his life if we will risk it on the precipice.
He can only get away from death by continually stepping within an inch of it. A soldier surrounded by enemies, if he is to cut his way out, needs to combine a strong desire for living with a strange carelessness about dying. He must not merely cling to life, for then he will be a coward, and will not escape. He must not merely wait for death, for then he will be a suicide, and will not escape. He must seek his life in a spirit of furious indifference to it; he must desire life like water and yet drink death like wine. No philosopher, I fancy, has ever expressed this romantic riddle with adequate lucidity, and I certainly have not done so. But Christianity has done more: it has marked the limits of it in the awful graves of the suicide and the hero, showing the distance between him who dies for the sake of living and him who dies for the sake of dying.” ~ GK Chesterton
Philosophy Porch Thanks for that! I am practically deaf. There’s so many videos I want to watch and understand but for some reason a lot of videos STILL do not have captions. So, I appreciate you taking the time to write what GK said in a nutshell, which is what I am sure, is the essence of the discussion that transpired on the video. God bless you!
I don't know why I love watching Jordan Peterson laugh out loud like that. :)
I love listening to this man he’s a psychological hero
"you dont get less afraid. you get braver"
“Courage is not acting without fear; it is acting in spite of it” - Mark Twain
Watching jordan laughing after a long time. It was dope.
Absolutely!
Jocko and David Goggins should do a show together.
I think Goggins would be too intense even for Jocko.
“You have to look yourself in fucking mirror and tell that fat son of a bitch how useless he is”
“....check..”
Agree
Would they get along?
Goggins needs to take cocaine just to calm down a bit.
I really love it when Mr. Willink and Doctor Peterson do these podcasts. I hope theres more
The level of respect these men give each other is hope inducing
JP conveniently uses a needle phobia comparison in front of Echo.
Echo chuckles, knowing full well he has needles every day for lunch.
“I taught him how to not be afraid of needles”
Now a heroine addict
😂😂
You did amazing. He achieved his goal.
well shit happens, at least now he has a great "overcame my fear" story to tell to his dealer
Lmao
LMAO
I get a sense of calm when I see other people panic or uncomfortable
2:09 The cure to limiting belief of fear (in notes) is exposure/practice. Starting bad but keep going.
The only solution is action on what you want (your truth etc) despite fear (courage).
6:08 Courage is not the absence of fear but faithful action despite it
"A man who is not afraid is not aggressive, a man who has no sense of fear of any kind is really a free, a peaceful man"-Jiddu Krishnmurti
He's also stoned and/or wont live very long
a man who has no sense of fear of any kind is a vulnerable man.
A man with no sense of fear is often reckless.
Your right I'll give you a credit for that 😉
also alexander the great said something similar.
This video made a beast and now am conquering everything!
HELL YEAH! some of my two favorite men talking together, couldn't get better
7:25 “You don’t get less afraid, you get braver. That’s better. Because there’s plenty of things to be afraid of.”
This is so true! This is how I get over my anxiety and introvert tendencies on a day to day basis.
Jordan “I had a client once” peterson
Jordan "Roughly Speaking" Peterson
Jordan "Lobster" Peterson
@@shawntco jordan “something like” peterson
Jordan "That's really something, eh" Peterson
😆😆
This is why I always prefer hearing the bad news first before the good news, I feel less anxious when getting the most difficult situation out of the way first, which is why I tend to look up horrific concepts head first and go outside as often as possible
"You don't teach people to be less afraid. You teach them to be braver."
Peterson’s work becomes so much more hard-hitting when it is read by Willink.
Finally, a man who speaks my language. Hooah
A friend of mine was terrified of the dark so I got him to trust me In this process & before you knew it I had a sheet tied around his head & was throwing him right off the tailgate of my truck he never saw the light again he became blessed by his fear.
**BEAUTIFUL paragraph you pulled out of all written, very IMPORTANT in these times** 👌JP, a Gemini man GIFTED with a brain for erasing outdated traditions troubleshooting for generations to come and etched out for this moment in time 💚
Being over agressive showes that you fear. Just look at Fedor.
I know; it's like "...boner boner penis boner..."
Nenad IC XC Shuput then be just agressive.
Nenand, you're correct about Fedor or at least, correct about how he was in his prime. He has ability for mental detachment, meaning he doesn't feel nervous or apprehensive but rather, completely relaxed. That also means that his muscle and nervous structures are relaxed which is a big part of why he was so amazing at absorbing and serving huge amounts of damage against very tough opponents in the cage. My second favourite fighter of all time, just behind Mike Tyson.
@@thelobster7673 OK, if you want an actual answer, consider this. When you think logically to evaluate facts, you have to argue against the fact to check it's validity (does the fact stand up to scrutiny), when you are conversing with someone you are sharing perceptions to find what is actually true between you, if this wasn't the case i don't know that men would speak... ever...
I don't think it can be put more logically than that.
Fedor violently punches people in the face from the first second until the last in everyone of his fights. How is he not aggressive?
"Robb says the man died bravely, but Jon says he was afraid."
"What do you think?" his father asked. Bran thought about it. "Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?"
"That is the only time a man can be brave." his father told him
Seeing Jordan laugh like that brightened my day.
Jocko and Jordan; two people who inspire me to be a better man.
I was very scared of crickets, then one day my father grabbed me by my arm and didnt let go, and asked me to keep calm while he grabbed a cricket in his fist and kept it infront of me, then he asked me to hold his fist and grab the cricket. I was terrified, but the process resembles Dr.Peterson's method. Im very glad my father did that, it served me all my schoolyears to bully my whimpy friends that were affraid of crickets, I could grab them and put them under their shirts, it was awesome.
789dude123 Gross
Lol porque no los dos? I'd argue it was all in good fun. No one ever was THAT scared of crickets, just disgusted and it was a good joke.
Yet this is the comment section on youtube so I'd expect nothing but toxic replies. Lol.
All your friends were afraid of crickets too? What kind of monster crickets live in your part of the world?
Regular smelly crickets, but its the tropic so they'll grow in the hundreds of thousands covering square meters on the walls,streets and dirt, jumpinand flying g around smelling like rot, it is quite a sight. Very easy to develop a phobia.
Yeah that sounds fucked up, good job overcoming your fear to eventually throwing crickets at your friends, that's hilarious.
I had an ex girlfriend who was sexually abused as a child and then raped in teenage life by a friend. She'd had never had a consensual experience, and if anybody even so much as tried to kiss her she would have a panic attack. This happened after our first kiss (about three weeks into dating after three or four dates), and after a lot of tears she explained why. Over the course of the next six months she was able to use this sort of therapy to get to the point where we were able to have normal sex for an hour at a time with one another without incident. She was so incredibly brave throughout the process, and it made me well up at how proud of her I was, going from not being able to kiss somebody to that sweet euphoria when it's over and both people are staring lovingly at one another in the sheets. We didn't work out in the end because of other factors, but I hope she's happy and is still able to enjoy that simple pleasure with somebody else that she can trust, she deserves it for all the hard work she put in.
Two legends here, total respect for them both!
From 0.07 Jocko reads a very noble sentence finely expressed: " 'Standing-up' means voluntarily accepting the burden of being." I like it. There is the grit of deliberate-living in that sentence.
"Date Night" 😂😂😂
As a musician, my greatest fear is being forced to play elevator musak.
Prof.Jordan Peterson & Com. Jocko Willick people that we separately need today.
Two people who really have and understanding of people from completely opposite backgrounds. This is fascinating stuff!
I like to think of it as "exposure therapy".
No such thing as the absence of fear, just the mastery of it.
Just found Jocko on Prager. Combining with JBP?? SUBBED
Thank you, guys, I’m going to start my business tomorrow. I’ve fought and fought against the anxiety of finally taking control of my life and doing what I believe I can do. It took a paragraph from a book written by an intellectual and read by warrior at the right time to flip the switch. You don’t become less afraid you become braver.
Do you have an update? How did it go?
Jordan Peterson is the goat, hands down.
not joe Rogan, not David Goggins, and definitely not Jocko.
this man is an absolute treasure and I'm so lucky to have stumbled upon him in my 20's