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@@MATTHEWProvesJesusDidNotDieFor I AM THE WAY , THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE. NO ONE COMES TO THE FATHER EXCEPT THROUGH ME. AS LONG AS I LIVE , EVERY KNEE SHALL BOW TO ME AND EVERY TONGUE SHALL CONFESS THAT I AM LORD!!!! - JESÚS CHRIST
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I dated someone with a sinful past for 3 years. I thought he's changed. In church he behaves like a "spiritual " person. But that was not the truth. He stilled lived in his sinful past. I am saying this because we have to use discernment when we come across a person with a sinful past. Don't go by his outward behaviour in the church. See that he's really repented and turned away from his sinful ways.
Hi Ruth. We go into that more in this video that we recommended for the “wisdom” piece, WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A GUY OR A GIRL ruclips.net/video/8dSVw1XWQ_Y/видео.html
washed clean is not about bodily things,since unvirginness isnt unrighteousness,thats not what is washed or Jesus died for,your past stays because you cant change past,and you can pretend to be of equal value after being railed like the p0rn a little boy would watch when they commit sin,but doesnt its true,sorry not sorry
Your doctrine is Biblically solid. The fact that a person has been forgiven by Christ doesn’t mean the person has been physiologically healed.like a drunk that gets saved. They are forgiven by God bu t their liver has been damaged.sin leaves scares.
I don't want to make any presumptions about people's bad pasts, but, it seems to me that most often when we speak about "bad pasts" we are referring to a person's sexual past. And so I'll give a couple of points on this that I've been mulling over: 1. In my experience, it's much easier for women to have access to sex than men. If women take care of their physical appearance and have feminine personality traits, pretty much any guy will want to sleep with them if given the opportunity. When you factor in birth control and STD testing (which eradicates the physical "consequences"), then any woman whose not following Christ has the incentive to pursue sex with any man (or men) they want. In a day and age that encourages such behavior, it is likely that most women (even Christian women) will have had many more sexual partners than the man they end up marrying. I say "likely," not guaranteed. 2. In contrast, men are and have always been burdened with performance: men have to literally fight to have sexual access to females, needing to overcome financial difficulties, personality flaws, and physical appearance issues to be deemed worthy of sexual access to women. A segment of the population (around 18%) can pretty much get laid whenever they like--they have the good genetics, attractiveness, money in the bank/good career, are outgoing, etc. But many men have to overcome significant life circumstances to gain access sexually to women, and most men have to undergo years of self-improvement if they hope for even a single sexual encounter. Again, the point I'm trying to make is that when men marry women, it is more than likely that the woman is the one who will have the more extensive "bad past" of sexual sin. The man himself might even be a virgin and have no past to speak of at all. 3. I've personally witnessed many women coming to a saving faith in Christ in their late 20s or early 30s, which is generally understood to be a time in a woman's life when she realizes that the thing that allowed her to attract the men she'd previously been sleeping with throughout her 20s are fading, i.e. her physical attractiveness. She is faced with the realization that she will soon no longer be able to attract the large majority of men out there, accompanied by the realization that she is nearing the last decade of her life in which she will be able to safely procreate. If she's had any encounters with Christianity or was raised in a Christian or semi-Christian household, this crisis will often cause her to come back to the Church--and this is an extremely important point for men to consider. 4. If a woman is coming back to the Church because it is the seat of traditional marital values, and thus, she hopes to find a "good Christian guy to marry," I think that as men we should be a little concerned with that. Indeed, Church is a good place to find a good Christian guy, most if not all of whom want to get married. I've noticed that these women tend to have their pick of good Christian guys, but, they struggle with the fact that they're not that attracted to them, either physically or on a personality level, but usually both. They're looking for the attractive "alpha" type that they used to hook up with prior to becoming saved, only an "alpha Christian who is saving himself for marriage." And the problem they're running into is that alpha Christians saving themselves for marriage" don't really exist, and when they do, they're swooped up by the first pretty Christian girl who walks their way. 5. The flip side is also important to consider: it appears to me that it's way easier for most men to reject the world's view of sex, and its encouragement towards promiscuity, and remain celibate until married because, though they are faced with the same temptation as us all, most of us men couldn't get laid even if we wanted to. And so the Church becomes a safe space for these men to justify their lack of sexual success with women as them "saving themselves for marriage." 6. And so, to clarify the dilemma I'm noticing: some women realize that they partied their way through their 20s and now, in their 30s, will not be able to do that anymore and thus need to find a provider husband to give them children. They turn to the Church to find such a man. The Church, they find, is largely filled with men they wouldn't have even dared sleep with during their party years, because many men in the Church, even if they decided to go out and party like all the ladies did in their 20s, would have limited to no sexual success with women (due to genetics, or finances, or status, etc., i.e. the cues women look to in potential mates). The modern age has alerted us to what women desire sexually by giving them free reign (ostensibly under the guise of "no consequences") to sleep with men whom they are attracted to, and those men are not going to Church because the Church is saying "save yourself for marriage," and since they have sexual access to women, they don't have to do that. Many men in the Church, regardless of whether or not they want to remain celibate until marriage, wouldn't even be able to have sexual access to women if they tried. Even within a faith-context, women find that while they appreciate these men for their faith and love them as brothers in Christ, they're not sexually attracted to them. If any marriages result from these pairings, the likelihood thus increases that women will find themselves married to men they are ultimately not sexually attracted to and men will find themselves married to women who settled. This in turn could lead to bitterness and strife in the marriage. Anyway, these are my thoughts, I'd love to know your guys' opinions, sorry this comment is so long.
Thank you for posting this because I'm a 19 year old Christian male who's waiting for marriage. Over the years I've picked up on everything you just said and this is like putting the puzzle pieces together. I will definitely take into account all of this in the future when I'm ready for marriage. Thanks again, have a nice life.
I really like your comment. It’s very insightful. My experience sadly, is that growing up in the church… I have found that guys in the church have been more promiscuous than women. So as I have dated men who consider themselves Christian, I’ve learned that the majority have not waited for marriage. Whereas, girls around me have been the celibate ones.
@@samcashdan1255 I will say it’s been tough. I’ve cried a lot, because it’s hard to come to terms with that… especially if you love a person with a past. In my case what has helped me deal with it, is seeing how this man (my bf) has treated me. A lot of people from church who know my bf say that they have never seen him this devoted and in love before… as he is with me. I see it in his effort and actions. I see the way he strives to serve others and love others. I see the way he fears God and wants to please him. I feel like God can restore. And I believe sex will be something set apart in marriage, even with a person who had a past. It will be their “first” marriage experience… and I believe God will make that experience so euphoric… for the couple. That experience will be a first for both… and no other past experience will ever be able to compare or top that of the intimacy that happens within a marriage covenant. “The old is gone, the new has come”
This has been so helpful, I often worry about having a sinful past and if that will effect my life going forward into a relationship or whether I won’t be fortunate enough to have a christian relationship because of my past. 🙏🏼
We all have "a past" sis but what really matters here is whether "the man/woman" is bearing fruit and showing evidence of a changed, converted life u....I to worry about it at times but the one who is for you will be crystal clear and God will allow you to see it🙏
I agree !!!! We are all works in progress. I do not seek perfection either. I seek someone who is sincere and genuine about living their best life personally and with the love of their life. Progress NOT PERFECTION. Thanks for sharing.
There it is there. Literally the best news Ive heard all day. Great message because people like to fall back not knowing we need to keep moving forward with good intentions, with a pure heart & soul.
Great video. The key is understanding and repenting before God. As simple as that. The problem is when a "christian" (lower cap) does not understand or accepts that he/she made mistakes.
Thank you both for your ministry I’ve been dealing with stage four cancer now for over a year the doctors told me I might not make it past 2020 so any chance I have to give that testimony I do and also give him all the praise... I am 50 and on January 31st I met a really special girl please keep me in prayer
Saving souls is where God wants me to be evangelising witnessing and testifying fasting praying going to church since being saved has truly changed my life and aligned it with God's will today amen. Godbless you Ronnie and Mel!
I'm thankful for God's grace that took me out of my rebellion years, but at times, I am haunted with regrets and I have to constantly remind myself of what Christ did for me.
Hey Ronnie and Mel, love this topic, I'm single right now and I'm ok just being single seeking God. God comes first and he's molding me shaping me for a purpose, serving in ministry is an honour! I'm really just focused on the Lord and not on the battle. I'm enjoying my new life the creation in Christ! It's awesome to hear your message about examining fruits! I feel God preparing me for great things to come! Thankyou Jesus for Ronnie and Mel.
I completely agree with you guys. “If any man is in Christ, he is now a new creation.” I just wonder about the case where ‘demons’ of the past, so to speak, come up in your new walk with Jesus. E.g. effects of being abused in the past show up in the present, soul ties, etc. How do you know that someone is truly delivered from that dark past?
I saw another u tube video saying you shouldn't date someone with a bad past, but I like this one better. Great video , I am single and have a bad past so keep me in your prayers.
I mean, you definitely have to have wisdom. People with a bad past can still need healing and freedom in certain areas, so definitely watch our other video on “What you should look for”, but if Christ has set us free, we are free indeed and a NEW creation! Bless you! 🙏🏼
I think everyone has someone who is matches... and if someone gave herself/himself to another person in the past, it is ok if have someone who also did it. And then they won't feel bad for themselves about it. Anyways I love you guys from Hungary 😍🥰
I say no. Yes, I’m a Christian. Here’s my point, GOD told us to wait till marriage because it CAN cause problems in the marriage. Now if you are TRULY repentant and are a new person, and the person you are with can look past (or even forgive and forget your past), then yes you may be fine. Now the flip side if one person has a “past”, and the other doesn’t that’s when big problems can arise. In short it depends on both individuals. One may be able to over look someone’s past, while another person may not be able to overlook the past.
I first watched the boundaries videos and it made me realise that even tho I deserve the best, so does my partner. These videos are so helpful regardless what season I am in, always feel renewed, encouraged and challenged. Have even shared on my church youth group messenger 😁❤🙏 Much love Ronnie and Mel
That's so crazy just yesterday Jesus gave me so much peace about the past of the man I love. And now this video it's feeling like a confirmation. Das ist so verrückt erst gestern habe ich so einen Frieden über die Vergangenheit des Mannes den ich liebe bekommen und jetzt dieses Video. Es fühlt sich wie eine Bestätigung an.
2 cor 5:17! I agree with you guys BUT just being real with everyone the past can still effect your future. Lets say a guy or girl had sex many times before getting saved and marries someone saving themselves the issue of desensitization or the spouse feeling not good enough sexually might come into play. Other things like maybe a STD that one has to live with and bringing that into a marriage. Or even a victim of sexual abuse can really alter a sex life in marriage if no therapy was done prior. There are some huge realistic issues that can come into play from someone's past that has to be considered.
Hi Kevin. Agreed. We go into that more in this video that we recommended for the “wisdom” piece, WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A GUY OR A GIRL ruclips.net/video/8dSVw1XWQ_Y/видео.html bless you brother
" But he gives us more grace. That is why it says, ' God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." James 4:6✝️ The past is just that, PAST When God gives it He gives us grace for it Great video Mel+ Ron✌️
We all have a past, there's nothing wrong with giving somebody a second chance or a third, and maby more! It depends if you really love someone. As long as a person is not Abuseive, there is potential. Me myself, I have never hit a girl in my life, and I live by that rule! As far as a past goes, A rear view mirror is a lot smaller than a windshield, so therefore it's all about what's in front of us in life, and what is behind us is void.
Mel: Were you perfect by any means? Ronnie: Oh Yeah Lol you guys sure have the joy of The LORD....thanks for the knowledge & wisdom you share. GOD help us & guide us with our partners whether we are seeking or in solid relationships, we are ever growing & changing in CHRIST AMEN🙏🏽😘❤❤🙋🏾♀️
Oh Lord, please pray for me. Feeling like I shouldn't even entertain they guy I like. I mean everyone is an ex-something and nobody's perfect but I dont know if he is the one I should be investing my time in.
Let's think the other way around... Would anybody want to marry me a sinful person? Yet we have been redeemed, we aren't still perfect as the Bible teaches, so who are we siners to point on others their sinful past?? Check out your own sins instead of looking for their past. God will open the gate at the perfect timing. And then, we both can start over, but ONLY on God's forgivness because we had already repent. I love this channel, thank you guys for bringing up this topics to your platform. Love you n blessing.
I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot. But I would apreciate sone advice. I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I rn that I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough. I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too.. I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways... But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy. The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things.. And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways. I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways. Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God. I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues... I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves. In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either. Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future. She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best. We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms... Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips... And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary. But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs. -50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old Huge mother issues -Not a father figure -Having lots of guy "friends" -porn -Drugs -alcool -Emotional instability, mood swings -tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues -Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself -Avoiding responsability -Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags. I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her -inteligente -smart -deep talk -understanding -helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable -likes to read I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time... She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes... Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too... And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me. I wonder what Jesus would tell me... "You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that" "Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before" "Leave them both, not good for you" "Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them." Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her. I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt. I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs... But I think its more about I understanding them Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me. I dont know what to do... Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal
There should be fruit and there should be some spiritual maturity. It’s very dangerous to date someone with a sinful past who is a brand new Christian or have no fruit. In the “sower sows the seed” parable, many “receive the word with joy” but do not stay the course.
Do you have any videos for people who are scared to actually go back to church? It’s been a long time, and I’m terrified of it. Haven’t been a great person but i wanna get better
The "using wisdom" part. I know when I was 19, I was naive, very much in love & pretty much only cared about if the guy was good with kids because I grew up in a not-so-good example of that. So, I met & married a guy I was in a military community service group with. That said, we both said we were believers but didnt really read or pray, but I did personally only when I was pretty much just scared sometimes on deployment. I didnt have that believer relationship that real believers do. That said, while I knew he said he did some drugs in high school, I figured it was a "passing phase" thing as a lot of guys in my high school used then recreationally & yet still functioned in life doing homework, making it to school, holding jobs etc. Slowly but surely, my eventual ex-husband went from having a heavy drink night or two on the weekends with other people in the barracks, to by the end of our marriage & just shortly out of the military, to him getting drunk about 50% of the time & getting high & abusing pills as often as he could. It also turned into having any family outing plan cancelled because he "promised a friend he would xxx." Whenever I made him hold to it, he would pick a fight with me & so the evening would suck anyway because I felt self-conscious. Eventually, I took my son & left. I moved on quickly & rarely spent much time being single. After nearly 7 years with someone, it was hard to just BE single! That said, I was super-protective of my son so I dated when I had a babysitter & only 2 guys ever ended up knowing where I ACTUALLY lived & came over. All that said, fast forward to my last relationship that ended April 2016. Right before meeting him, is when I started an actual walk with God. I asked the guy if he believed & he said he did. I didnt question much after that in that realm. As my personal readings carried on & I started paying attention to the way the world was going, it was so obvious how quickly it would seem the things in Revelation were going to start happening. So I wanted to start sharing with my boyfriend these things. Though he wasnt harsh about it all, he did say he prays to God himself & likes to keep his relationship with him private & that he also didnt like politics. That sort of put me in a bind. Against better judgement, I had been sleeping with him & figured by the end that maybe that's why God broke us apart. I was very upset though because with the exception of appearance, him & my son were like two peas in a pod! They had so much fun together & thats what I wanted. Also against better judgement, I was being ignored & affection was gone. He showed all of it to his dog & when he took me fishing for the first time, I got one fish & then the 2nd jumped & spit out the hook! So funny right?! Well, after that, he laughed, then moved to a completely different lake. He never took me to fish again. Even with the butt-head moves towards me, he was my son's best guy-friend. He never yelled in my face, got physical or did drugs, but he was certainly cold. Too cold. He broke up with me two days after going with me to my grandpas funeral (who was like dad to me). My son didnt understand at first. It took about a month or two & when he started to understand we wouldnt see him ever again, he screamed, cried, started pushing things over everywhere & at that moment I had friends knock on the door & when I let them in, thwy sort of helped corral him by the front entrance hall. He kept trying to push on them & the wall. They timed him for 8 minutes doing this. When he stopped he was breathing heavy & they asked "what do you want?" He said I want to lay down. So they let him go & he passed out on the couch. That was the only episode he had, but I was utterly dismayed. I couldt hold it against him at all. It was tok much for his young self to understand. After that, I ended up real pissed off. With ex-husband issues, grandpa dead, losing what I thought was a perfect family & now seeing my sons heart break for the first time, I had. I had a bone to pick with God too. I remember saying something like, "you know, I have always known you existed & have always tried to be reeeeal nice to people, but couldnt always say the same was returned, worked so hard, but barely make ends meet, etc etc, finally got a decent family & now this! I believe in you, BUT I dont think I matter much to you! Maybe I am just one of your pawns that takes the brunt of things you dont want your precious others to have to absorb! I dont know what to say other than I just cant talk to you." So, I stayed quiet. In maybe a week or two, a friend who is a believer came over. When we were going to the basketball court with my son, she opened the door & said, "look at the birds!" I was on the bottom floor, so steps went over my door to the upstairs & birds hadnt been around in months since we were told to remove our feeders. On a step at my eye level, were three mourning doves. Two were next to each other, a third was spaced away from the two & looking away from them at me. I found the birds & their set up odd. When she came back the next day, we did the same thing & on our way back to my apartment, we saw them again, lined the same exact way, but sitting on the fencing of my porch. When we got inside, I said to my friend, "thats really strange. Birds & one seperated from the two. Do you think maybe God is showing me He heard me? He knows?" & my friend nodded her head, smiled & said, "yeees." Slowly but surely, I started reading again & eventually would talk to Him. Fast forward to now, I havent really wanted to or searched out anyone to date anyone unless they were my friend first. The majority of the male population does not accept that, nor the wait for marriage. With that said, most "guy friends" I make are 'associates in passing.' The prospect of ending up with a good Christian guy (who is also a MANLY guy - dont get me started on that topic 🤣😑😧), is also met with the "you were married before so now it would be adultry to end up with a divorced person." So, it's a good thing that I just dont feel lonely. I really dont. I dont know if its from Him or if its because I finally got so exhausted from the terrible luck in relationships or both. I just know that if I ever date, I of course, am going to quite trepidatious around "former" users & question a person of faith enough to see if we are "equally yoked." All that said, with the excpetion of coming across things that make me think about it, I dont think about it too much because my son & I have a blast doing what we do & I definitely wouldnt want anything to compromise that. Compliment it, sure. .. Whatever God has planned He has planned, buuuut I am also aware that we are SO close to His return & if I had a marriage that produced a baby .... as much of a blessing as that may be, what a sketchy time to have one! 😫 He will call all the shots at the end of the day but as far as I know, I am just waiting for the real groom to return! 🙌
If the one person tells lie to the second about past relationships but still want to live with him/her should the second one accept him/her Pls reply 😭
🎉🅾️😭Please pray no more terrorists inside this country. I know we want to protect each other, 🚷🚷🚷but this includes real life w/o weapons or harassing each other... 😇😇
Hey I just thought I would share the astrology on your hat is witchcraft, anything to do with zodiac signs is worshiping another god and stuff, just thought I would share no hate or anything just love be safe, it’s a cursed item, I loved the video btw
Thanks for watching guys! What are your thoughts on this topic? Let us know, down below. And make sure to watch "WHAT TO LOOK FOR" in dating to know how to walk in wisdom here: ruclips.net/video/QPh9eECv93g/видео.html Bless you!
You guys are truly impacting lives. Keep shining!
@@jon-anthonymontaz117 ( 1 ) Jesus himself..never said l am..God despite this being the most important thing mankind needed to know to gain salvation ( | Guess he was too busy with other more important matters like giving fishing lessons 🐠 🐟 )
( 2 ) Jesus, said, “Hear, 0 Israel: The Lord 0ur God is one. (M-a.r-k 12 : 29 - 31)
Christians, Jesus compared himself with the people by saying our God is one ( This proves he Is not God )
( 3 ) Christian claim Jesus is God but the bible says God is not man - Numbers 23 : 19
( 4 ) If Jesus was God, why did he tell the people to believe in only 0ne God.❓
( 5 ) If Jesus was God, he $hould be telling the people to believe me & God are your two Gods.
( 6 ) Christians believe in the..trinity, Yet the..word trinity..does.not exist In the bible.
( 7 ) Do Christians show respect to the school teachers who are preaching 1➕1 ➕1 =1❓🤔
( 8 ) Jesus said | can..not perform miracles without..God's Help, but the Christians..claim miracles can 0nly be..performed..through Jesus (J--ohn 5 : 3 0 ) 🤔
( 9 ) The Christians..beg..Jesus..for..help, but Jesus..begged...God..for..help❓ 🤔
(10 ) If Jesus willingly..died for our sins, he would've never..begged God to save him From getting..crucified M-atthe--w 27 : 4 6
(11) Let's $uppose Jesus did..die For 0ur $ins, why then do the..Christians $till preach to the world we must repent for..our..sins ❓According to J..ohn 3 : 16 All those who believe will enter paradise, why do the Christians ignore this verse ❓🤔
(12) The Christians..claim the only way to gain salvation Is to believe Jesus died for our sins, Christians explain why this method was never used..before by all the previous prophets ❓ ( Repentance has always been enough in the past )
(13) Jesus said, do Not think that I Have come to abolish..the ..laws or the..prophets; I Have Not come to abolish them but to fulfill..them.🤨 M.a.tth.e-w 5 :17 ( But the Christians Always Reject..the 0ld Testament Teachings. )
(14) When the muslims ask the..Christians why was Jesus begging God for help If he was 0n A Mission To $ave mankind, the reply we get Is Psalm---Explains it (But Christians you normally Reject the 0ld Testament ) 🙄
( 15 ) Adam & Eve $inned then God decided We should all be punished 😱 Gen.e.si.s 3 :16
(A Just God would..never do that 🤨)
( 16 ) When we sin God decided Jesus..must suffer, why would a just & loving God let..Jesus..suffer ✝️ 😰🔨so much for the $ins 0f--0thers❓ God is..the owner of the whole world, yet he could..not come..up with a better plan 🤔
( 17 ) According to E.zekie.l 18 : 20 - 22 sin can not be passed on, why then are we born in sin because of Adam & Eves sin ❓
( 18 ) According to E.zekie.l 18 : 20 - 22 sinners will suffer, why then do the Christians believe Jesus can save the sinners❓
( 19 ) Ezekiel 18 : 20 - 22 has the..solution for our sins 👉🏻 Just Repent & this means there's no need for human sacrifice.
( 20 ) THE H0LY B|BLE 📖 EXP0$E$ CHR|$TIANITY ✝️ YET THE CHRI$TIANS TRY T0 U$E |T T0 HELP THEM 🤔
( 21 ) Because the Christians do not have any Proof to back their religion, they start mocking Islam with $tupid allegations 😒. Christians do you think By mocking Islam ( the fastest growing religion in the World ) Christianity will be fixed ❓❌
( 22 ) Christianity Has been examined so many times, it is FAKE & FULL OF C0NTRADICTION$ 👉🏻Christians why are you deceiving yourselves & others❓😟
( 23 ) Paul is the writer of 15 of the 27 New Testament books & Paul wrote his books 50 years after Jesus was risen. Only 18% of the New Testament books have the teachings of Jesus. Christians Paul has never met Jesus, Christians Paul who ❓
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@@MATTHEWProvesJesusDidNotDieFor I AM THE WAY , THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE. NO ONE COMES TO THE FATHER EXCEPT THROUGH ME. AS LONG AS I LIVE , EVERY KNEE SHALL BOW TO ME AND EVERY TONGUE SHALL CONFESS THAT I AM LORD!!!! - JESÚS CHRIST
@@MATTHEWProvesJesusDidNotDieFor GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON (JESUS CHRIST) THAT WHO EVER BELIEVES IN HIM SHOULD NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE.
I dated someone with a sinful past for 3 years. I thought he's changed. In church he behaves like a "spiritual " person. But that was not the truth. He stilled lived in his sinful past.
I am saying this because we have to use discernment when we come across a person with a sinful past. Don't go by his outward behaviour in the church. See that he's really repented and turned away from his sinful ways.
Hi Ruth. We go into that more in this video that we recommended for the “wisdom” piece, WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A GUY OR A GIRL ruclips.net/video/8dSVw1XWQ_Y/видео.html
If they are truly in Christ, their past is *WASHED CLEAN* by the blood of Jesus!! ✝️❤️😊
How would you know they are truly in Christ ?
@@theduke6174 We dont know. I dont know. You dont know. Ony Christ trully knows. But the Word says that we will know for their work.
washed clean is not about bodily things,since unvirginness isnt unrighteousness,thats not what is washed or Jesus died for,your past stays because you cant change past,and you can pretend to be of equal value after being railed like the p0rn a little boy would watch when they commit sin,but doesnt its true,sorry not sorry
Your doctrine is Biblically solid. The fact that a person has been forgiven by Christ doesn’t mean the person has been physiologically healed.like a drunk that gets saved. They are forgiven by God bu t their liver has been damaged.sin leaves scares.
I don't want to make any presumptions about people's bad pasts, but, it seems to me that most often when we speak about "bad pasts" we are referring to a person's sexual past. And so I'll give a couple of points on this that I've been mulling over:
1. In my experience, it's much easier for women to have access to sex than men. If women take care of their physical appearance and have feminine personality traits, pretty much any guy will want to sleep with them if given the opportunity. When you factor in birth control and STD testing (which eradicates the physical "consequences"), then any woman whose not following Christ has the incentive to pursue sex with any man (or men) they want. In a day and age that encourages such behavior, it is likely that most women (even Christian women) will have had many more sexual partners than the man they end up marrying. I say "likely," not guaranteed.
2. In contrast, men are and have always been burdened with performance: men have to literally fight to have sexual access to females, needing to overcome financial difficulties, personality flaws, and physical appearance issues to be deemed worthy of sexual access to women. A segment of the population (around 18%) can pretty much get laid whenever they like--they have the good genetics, attractiveness, money in the bank/good career, are outgoing, etc. But many men have to overcome significant life circumstances to gain access sexually to women, and most men have to undergo years of self-improvement if they hope for even a single sexual encounter. Again, the point I'm trying to make is that when men marry women, it is more than likely that the woman is the one who will have the more extensive "bad past" of sexual sin. The man himself might even be a virgin and have no past to speak of at all.
3. I've personally witnessed many women coming to a saving faith in Christ in their late 20s or early 30s, which is generally understood to be a time in a woman's life when she realizes that the thing that allowed her to attract the men she'd previously been sleeping with throughout her 20s are fading, i.e. her physical attractiveness. She is faced with the realization that she will soon no longer be able to attract the large majority of men out there, accompanied by the realization that she is nearing the last decade of her life in which she will be able to safely procreate. If she's had any encounters with Christianity or was raised in a Christian or semi-Christian household, this crisis will often cause her to come back to the Church--and this is an extremely important point for men to consider.
4. If a woman is coming back to the Church because it is the seat of traditional marital values, and thus, she hopes to find a "good Christian guy to marry," I think that as men we should be a little concerned with that. Indeed, Church is a good place to find a good Christian guy, most if not all of whom want to get married. I've noticed that these women tend to have their pick of good Christian guys, but, they struggle with the fact that they're not that attracted to them, either physically or on a personality level, but usually both. They're looking for the attractive "alpha" type that they used to hook up with prior to becoming saved, only an "alpha Christian who is saving himself for marriage." And the problem they're running into is that alpha Christians saving themselves for marriage" don't really exist, and when they do, they're swooped up by the first pretty Christian girl who walks their way.
5. The flip side is also important to consider: it appears to me that it's way easier for most men to reject the world's view of sex, and its encouragement towards promiscuity, and remain celibate until married because, though they are faced with the same temptation as us all, most of us men couldn't get laid even if we wanted to. And so the Church becomes a safe space for these men to justify their lack of sexual success with women as them "saving themselves for marriage."
6. And so, to clarify the dilemma I'm noticing: some women realize that they partied their way through their 20s and now, in their 30s, will not be able to do that anymore and thus need to find a provider husband to give them children. They turn to the Church to find such a man. The Church, they find, is largely filled with men they wouldn't have even dared sleep with during their party years, because many men in the Church, even if they decided to go out and party like all the ladies did in their 20s, would have limited to no sexual success with women (due to genetics, or finances, or status, etc., i.e. the cues women look to in potential mates). The modern age has alerted us to what women desire sexually by giving them free reign (ostensibly under the guise of "no consequences") to sleep with men whom they are attracted to, and those men are not going to Church because the Church is saying "save yourself for marriage," and since they have sexual access to women, they don't have to do that. Many men in the Church, regardless of whether or not they want to remain celibate until marriage, wouldn't even be able to have sexual access to women if they tried. Even within a faith-context, women find that while they appreciate these men for their faith and love them as brothers in Christ, they're not sexually attracted to them. If any marriages result from these pairings, the likelihood thus increases that women will find themselves married to men they are ultimately not sexually attracted to and men will find themselves married to women who settled. This in turn could lead to bitterness and strife in the marriage.
Anyway, these are my thoughts, I'd love to know your guys' opinions, sorry this comment is so long.
Thank you for posting this because I'm a 19 year old Christian male who's waiting for marriage. Over the years I've picked up on everything you just said and this is like putting the puzzle pieces together. I will definitely take into account all of this in the future when I'm ready for marriage. Thanks again, have a nice life.
I really like your comment. It’s very insightful.
My experience sadly, is that growing up in the church… I have found that guys in the church have been more promiscuous than women. So as I have dated men who consider themselves Christian, I’ve learned that the majority have not waited for marriage. Whereas, girls around me have been the celibate ones.
@@caleb9472 No problem man :)
@@jackyr1373 Okay, interesting. How does that affect your perception of those guys, in terms of them being a potential long-term mate?
@@samcashdan1255 I will say it’s been tough. I’ve cried a lot, because it’s hard to come to terms with that… especially if you love a person with a past. In my case what has helped me deal with it, is seeing how this man (my bf) has treated me. A lot of people from church who know my bf say that they have never seen him this devoted and in love before… as he is with me. I see it in his effort and actions. I see the way he strives to serve others and love others. I see the way he fears God and wants to please him. I feel like God can restore. And I believe sex will be something set apart in marriage, even with a person who had a past. It will be their “first” marriage experience… and I believe God will make that experience so euphoric… for the couple. That experience will be a first for both… and no other past experience will ever be able to compare or top that of the intimacy that happens within a marriage covenant. “The old is gone, the new has come”
This has been so helpful, I often worry about having a sinful past and if that will effect my life going forward into a relationship or whether I won’t be fortunate enough to have a christian relationship because of my past. 🙏🏼
We all have "a past" sis but what really matters here is whether "the man/woman" is bearing fruit and showing evidence of a changed, converted life u....I to worry about it at times but the one who is for you will be crystal clear and God will allow you to see it🙏
God bless each other.
I agree !!!! We are all works in progress. I do not seek perfection either. I seek someone who is sincere and genuine about living their best life personally and with the love of their life. Progress NOT PERFECTION. Thanks for sharing.
There it is there. Literally the best news Ive heard all day. Great message because people like to fall back not knowing we need to keep moving forward with good intentions, with a pure heart & soul.
Great video. The key is understanding and repenting before God. As simple as that. The problem is when a "christian" (lower cap) does not understand or accepts that he/she made mistakes.
Thank you both for your ministry I’ve been dealing with stage four cancer now for over a year the doctors told me I might not make it past 2020 so any chance I have to give that testimony I do and also give him all the praise... I am 50 and on January 31st I met a really special girl please keep me in prayer
He will be the one to save us... 😖😖❤❤💚💔💔💔🧡💜💜🤟
Saving souls is where God wants me to be evangelising witnessing and testifying fasting praying going to church since being saved has truly changed my life and aligned it with God's will today amen. Godbless you Ronnie and Mel!
Thanks for blessing the church!! 😇💚🍎🍙🍙🍙🧊😇😇💜💜🙏🙏🙏🏤
I'm thankful for God's grace that took me out of my rebellion years, but at times, I am haunted with regrets and I have to constantly remind myself of what Christ did for me.
Hey Ronnie and Mel, love this topic, I'm single right now and I'm ok just being single seeking God. God comes first and he's molding me shaping me for a purpose, serving in ministry is an honour! I'm really just focused on the Lord and not on the battle. I'm enjoying my new life the creation in Christ! It's awesome to hear your message about examining fruits! I feel God preparing me for great things to come! Thankyou Jesus for Ronnie and Mel.
I completely agree with you guys. “If any man is in Christ, he is now a new creation.”
I just wonder about the case where ‘demons’ of the past, so to speak, come up in your new walk with Jesus. E.g. effects of being abused in the past show up in the present, soul ties, etc. How do you know that someone is truly delivered from that dark past?
That is a good question you are asking how to confirm it right?
I wanna know the answer to this too
Same
I saw another u tube video saying you shouldn't date someone with a bad past, but I like this one better. Great video , I am single and have a bad past so keep me in your prayers.
I mean, you definitely have to have wisdom. People with a bad past can still need healing and freedom in certain areas, so definitely watch our other video on “What you should look for”, but if Christ has set us free, we are free indeed and a NEW creation! Bless you! 🙏🏼
I think everyone has someone who is matches... and if someone gave herself/himself to another person in the past, it is ok if have someone who also did it. And then they won't feel bad for themselves about it.
Anyways I love you guys from Hungary 😍🥰
Unfortunately no one is perfect! Definitely always room for improvement!!
Second 2! Pray my strength guys, been feeling weary. But God
Praying ❤️
Thank you guys for making this video! I too have a history and struggled with the same insecurities, especially being a first generation Christian
I say no. Yes, I’m a Christian. Here’s my point, GOD told us to wait till marriage because it CAN cause problems in the marriage. Now if you are TRULY repentant and are a new person, and the person you are with can look past (or even forgive and forget your past), then yes you may be fine. Now the flip side if one person has a “past”, and the other doesn’t that’s when big problems can arise. In short it depends on both individuals. One may be able to over look someone’s past, while another person may not be able to overlook the past.
I first watched the boundaries videos and it made me realise that even tho I deserve the best, so does my partner.
These videos are so helpful regardless what season I am in, always feel renewed, encouraged and challenged. Have even shared on my church youth group messenger 😁❤🙏
Much love Ronnie and Mel
Love the intro 🙌🙌🙌🙌. You guys are just consistent in your walk with the Lord. I know my feelings won't be brushed when I watch your videos
That's so crazy just yesterday Jesus gave me so much peace about the past of the man I love. And now this video it's feeling like a confirmation.
Das ist so verrückt erst gestern habe ich so einen Frieden über die Vergangenheit des Mannes den ich liebe bekommen und jetzt dieses Video. Es fühlt sich wie eine Bestätigung an.
I love your videos, they’re so helpful! Thank you Ronnie and Mel 🤎
Let's continue to worship Jesus Christ!! 🙂🙂
2 cor 5:17! I agree with you guys BUT just being real with everyone the past can still effect your future. Lets say a guy or girl had sex many times before getting saved and marries someone saving themselves the issue of desensitization or the spouse feeling not good enough sexually might come into play. Other things like maybe a STD that one has to live with and bringing that into a marriage. Or even a victim of sexual abuse can really alter a sex life in marriage if no therapy was done prior. There are some huge realistic issues that can come into play from someone's past that has to be considered.
Hi Kevin. Agreed. We go into that more in this video that we recommended for the “wisdom” piece, WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A GUY OR A GIRL ruclips.net/video/8dSVw1XWQ_Y/видео.html bless you brother
So good! We have to look for fruit! Thanks guys! ♥️
" But he gives us more grace. That is why it says, ' God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."
James 4:6✝️
The past is just that, PAST
When God gives it
He gives us grace for it
Great video Mel+ Ron✌️
Yes that is so good! 'We are not second class Christians' Love that! 🙌
Praise God this is so good thank you Guys for this gold Nuggets
Hey Ronny and Mel, thank you for covering this topic as I have been needing to hear this for a long time :)
We all have a past, there's nothing wrong with giving somebody a second chance or a third, and maby more! It depends if you really love someone. As long as a person is not Abuseive, there is potential. Me myself, I have never hit a girl in my life, and I live by that rule! As far as a past goes, A rear view mirror is a lot smaller than a windshield, so therefore it's all about what's in front of us in life, and what is behind us is void.
Agreed
Mel: Were you perfect by any means?
Ronnie: Oh Yeah
Lol you guys sure have the joy of The LORD....thanks for the knowledge & wisdom you share. GOD help us & guide us with our partners whether we are seeking or in solid relationships, we are ever growing & changing in CHRIST AMEN🙏🏽😘❤❤🙋🏾♀️
Oh Lord, please pray for me. Feeling like I shouldn't even entertain they guy I like. I mean everyone is an ex-something and nobody's perfect but I dont know if he is the one I should be investing my time in.
Great topic! Look forward to watching! Much love guys 💛
OMD you guys have your intro back!!! 🥺😭😍😍😍
Amen, this is helping a lot. I've messed up in the past and I am really hurting out of it
Amen! I want someone who will see me the way God sees me, who loves me the way God loves me.
Really good teaching guys.. Keep on sharing
Keep videos like this prosepering!!!
This message you presented is so beautiful and I really needed to hear this to clear my thoughts. Thank you Jesus.
God redeems he is the author and finisher of our faith
Let's think the other way around... Would anybody want to marry me a sinful person? Yet we have been redeemed, we aren't still perfect as the Bible teaches, so who are we siners to point on others their sinful past?? Check out your own sins instead of looking for their past. God will open the gate at the perfect timing. And then, we both can start over, but ONLY on God's forgivness because we had already repent. I love this channel, thank you guys for bringing up this topics to your platform. Love you n blessing.
I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot. But I would apreciate sone advice.
I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I rn that I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough.
I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too..
I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith
We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her
Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality
I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways...
But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not
And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy.
The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things..
And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl
I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways.
I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways.
Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God.
I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues...
I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves.
In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either.
Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future.
She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best.
We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms...
Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips...
And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary.
But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs.
-50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old
Huge mother issues
-Not a father figure
-Having lots of guy "friends"
-porn
-Drugs
-alcool
-Emotional instability, mood swings
-tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues
-Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself
-Avoiding responsability
-Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view
Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags.
I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her
-inteligente
-smart
-deep talk
-understanding
-helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable
-likes to read
I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time...
She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes...
Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too...
And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me.
I wonder what Jesus would tell me...
"You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that"
"Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before"
"Leave them both, not good for you"
"Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them."
Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up
I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her.
I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world
I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt.
I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life
I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs...
But I think its more about I understanding them
Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me.
I dont know what to do...
Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal
There should be fruit and there should be some spiritual maturity. It’s very dangerous to date someone with a sinful past who is a brand new Christian or have no fruit. In the “sower sows the seed” parable, many “receive the word with joy” but do not stay the course.
LOVE THIS!!
thank you so much, needed to hear this🤍💯
Inspirational- you guys are terrific 🎈
What e lxactky are we talking about regarding a bad past? I have a feeling this is just a euphemism for something specific.
So grateful for your videos! 🙌💕
Nothing has caused more pain, misunderstanding, and ruined relationships than extramarital sex.
i completely agree mel !! ❤
So if an ex-pornstar finds Jesus, that's not my portion, I have to be one with someone, so I'd rather wait for someone else
I am that one with the past! Let me listen now. .. 🧐
Thank you so much for this video
Do you have any videos for people who are scared to actually go back to church? It’s been a long time, and I’m terrified of it. Haven’t been a great person but i wanna get better
Please pray for God to send me a loving Christian husband ❤️
@Tyler Lee I will pray for You too 💖
Thank you.
The "using wisdom" part. I know when I was 19, I was naive, very much in love & pretty much only cared about if the guy was good with kids because I grew up in a not-so-good example of that. So, I met & married a guy I was in a military community service group with. That said, we both said we were believers but didnt really read or pray, but I did personally only when I was pretty much just scared sometimes on deployment. I didnt have that believer relationship that real believers do. That said, while I knew he said he did some drugs in high school, I figured it was a "passing phase" thing as a lot of guys in my high school used then recreationally & yet still functioned in life doing homework, making it to school, holding jobs etc. Slowly but surely, my eventual ex-husband went from having a heavy drink night or two on the weekends with other people in the barracks, to by the end of our marriage & just shortly out of the military, to him getting drunk about 50% of the time & getting high & abusing pills as often as he could. It also turned into having any family outing plan cancelled because he "promised a friend he would xxx." Whenever I made him hold to it, he would pick a fight with me & so the evening would suck anyway because I felt self-conscious. Eventually, I took my son & left. I moved on quickly & rarely spent much time being single. After nearly 7 years with someone, it was hard to just BE single! That said, I was super-protective of my son so I dated when I had a babysitter & only 2 guys ever ended up knowing where I ACTUALLY lived & came over. All that said, fast forward to my last relationship that ended April 2016. Right before meeting him, is when I started an actual walk with God. I asked the guy if he believed & he said he did. I didnt question much after that in that realm. As my personal readings carried on & I started paying attention to the way the world was going, it was so obvious how quickly it would seem the things in Revelation were going to start happening. So I wanted to start sharing with my boyfriend these things. Though he wasnt harsh about it all, he did say he prays to God himself & likes to keep his relationship with him private & that he also didnt like politics. That sort of put me in a bind. Against better judgement, I had been sleeping with him & figured by the end that maybe that's why God broke us apart. I was very upset though because with the exception of appearance, him & my son were like two peas in a pod! They had so much fun together & thats what I wanted. Also against better judgement, I was being ignored & affection was gone. He showed all of it to his dog & when he took me fishing for the first time, I got one fish & then the 2nd jumped & spit out the hook! So funny right?! Well, after that, he laughed, then moved to a completely different lake. He never took me to fish again. Even with the butt-head moves towards me, he was my son's best guy-friend. He never yelled in my face, got physical or did drugs, but he was certainly cold. Too cold. He broke up with me two days after going with me to my grandpas funeral (who was like dad to me). My son didnt understand at first. It took about a month or two & when he started to understand we wouldnt see him ever again, he screamed, cried, started pushing things over everywhere & at that moment I had friends knock on the door & when I let them in, thwy sort of helped corral him by the front entrance hall. He kept trying to push on them & the wall. They timed him for 8 minutes doing this. When he stopped he was breathing heavy & they asked "what do you want?" He said I want to lay down. So they let him go & he passed out on the couch. That was the only episode he had, but I was utterly dismayed. I couldt hold it against him at all. It was tok much for his young self to understand. After that, I ended up real pissed off. With ex-husband issues, grandpa dead, losing what I thought was a perfect family & now seeing my sons heart break for the first time, I had. I had a bone to pick with God too. I remember saying something like, "you know, I have always known you existed & have always tried to be reeeeal nice to people, but couldnt always say the same was returned, worked so hard, but barely make ends meet, etc etc, finally got a decent family & now this! I believe in you, BUT I dont think I matter much to you! Maybe I am just one of your pawns that takes the brunt of things you dont want your precious others to have to absorb! I dont know what to say other than I just cant talk to you." So, I stayed quiet. In maybe a week or two, a friend who is a believer came over. When we were going to the basketball court with my son, she opened the door & said, "look at the birds!" I was on the bottom floor, so steps went over my door to the upstairs & birds hadnt been around in months since we were told to remove our feeders. On a step at my eye level, were three mourning doves. Two were next to each other, a third was spaced away from the two & looking away from them at me. I found the birds & their set up odd. When she came back the next day, we did the same thing & on our way back to my apartment, we saw them again, lined the same exact way, but sitting on the fencing of my porch. When we got inside, I said to my friend, "thats really strange. Birds & one seperated from the two. Do you think maybe God is showing me He heard me? He knows?" & my friend nodded her head, smiled & said, "yeees." Slowly but surely, I started reading again & eventually would talk to Him. Fast forward to now, I havent really wanted to or searched out anyone to date anyone unless they were my friend first. The majority of the male population does not accept that, nor the wait for marriage. With that said, most "guy friends" I make are 'associates in passing.' The prospect of ending up with a good Christian guy (who is also a MANLY guy - dont get me started on that topic 🤣😑😧), is also met with the "you were married before so now it would be adultry to end up with a divorced person." So, it's a good thing that I just dont feel lonely. I really dont. I dont know if its from Him or if its because I finally got so exhausted from the terrible luck in relationships or both. I just know that if I ever date, I of course, am going to quite trepidatious around "former" users & question a person of faith enough to see if we are "equally yoked." All that said, with the excpetion of coming across things that make me think about it, I dont think about it too much because my son & I have a blast doing what we do & I definitely wouldnt want anything to compromise that. Compliment it, sure. .. Whatever God has planned He has planned, buuuut I am also aware that we are SO close to His return & if I had a marriage that produced a baby .... as much of a blessing as that may be, what a sketchy time to have one! 😫 He will call all the shots at the end of the day but as far as I know, I am just waiting for the real groom to return! 🙌
Sanctification process 🙏
Brother please use subtitles because your English very fast . It's will help us because we are in India
Someone might put subtitles on, but you have to wait a little while after the video comes out. Try tomorrow
Reduce the speed of the video
What do u think about age difference in relationship?
i would go by feeling a spark not by some story book written by humans
0:01 NO WAY !!!!!!!!!
First
If the one person tells lie to the second about past relationships but still want to live with him/her should the second one accept him/her
Pls reply 😭
trust is the base of all relationships. ruclips.net/user/shorts1IyAHi_i7GE?feature=share
🎉🅾️😭Please pray no more terrorists inside this country. I know we want to protect each other, 🚷🚷🚷but this includes real life w/o weapons or harassing each other... 😇😇
Hey I just thought I would share the astrology on your hat is witchcraft, anything to do with zodiac signs is worshiping another god and stuff, just thought I would share no hate or anything just love be safe, it’s a cursed item, I loved the video btw
Hello. Just want you to know, we actually made this hat. It’s an M in Old English font for MARKD, Markd by God. Bless you