A good rule for arguments that my husband (of 25 years!) and I use, is that if we aren’t making any headway, we switch sides of the argument. He tries to argue in favor of my point of view, and I try to argue his point of view. It really makes us see where the other person is coming from!
Jennifer my x and I did the role reversal sometimes too and yes it was a helpful tool yet sadly our probs were ultimately much bigger than this and sadly we divorced after 12 yrs together
Hello James. Our names are Garland and Kyzia. We are an interabled couple. Yes, relationships like ours are different but it comes with its rewards. We are doing a casting for interabled couples. You can find the information on our RUclips channel. Hope to hear from you soon.
I've been married to a man with muscular dystrophy for 3 years, and I just want to say thank you for helping to normalize this kind of relationship! Your openness has helped many of my friends and family understand why it doesn't matter that my husband uses a wheelchair to get around, because when the chemistry is right, the chair is a side issue. Shane's constant attempts to make you laugh and keep you fed with snacks remind me so much of my husband. We've got two small children now and despite being in a wheelchair, my husband is WAY more involved as a parent than many fully able bodied dudes are.
Beautifully written jaboter , when the chemistry is right and theres love , Nothing else matters . Had anyone read shanes books , ? They are wonderful and his his humour Shines through , brilliant written . I have yet to buy the third book. Jaboter wishes from me in New zealand , to you and the family . L
You two never cease to amaze me. I have a very loving relationship with a wonderful man. We have been together for 22 years. At first we were both able-bodied, fully functional adults. First change was, he lost his leg above the knee. Our intimate life, both physically and emotionally took awhile to adjust to. He doubted his manhood and became depressed, despite my best efforts to build him up. I could have walked away... He told me to, but that is not my way. So with some serious communication and lot's of love, we worked past all the different issues that did and didn't arise. Next he injured his spine. Not as difficult to get through as the first hurdle, but again our types of " interactions " had to be worked out. Finally, he had a stroke. This really changed everything. For a good while, we could not even hold a conversation. He cried alot, but together we worked on his recovery. So here again, all parts of our intimate relationship had to be worked out. Even holding hands became a process. But with some therapy and my inventive mind, I am happy to say that our relationship is the best it has ever been. I wish that I had you both to inspire me back then. But I enjoy sharing your life now through RUclips. Bright Blessings to you both! Thanks for listening 💗
@Brenda Hartten, even though you did not have Shane & Hannah to inspire you back then, you are most certainly an inspiration now to others. I'm sorry for the health struggles your husband and yourself has had to endure, but your love was strong and you held on through the worst of unimaginable times .. and now, you have overcome the hurdles and came through it all with a deeper love and understanding. I admire your determination, your grit, your refusal to give up, your courage and your strength. Thank you for sharing your story. You are truly an inspiration to all of us. 💜
That is so beautiful. I always say the strength of a relationship is not the happy parts, but how you both handle the tough times. The happy parts are vital, but they don’t dictate how strong a relationship is. All of my most happy relationships were also strewn with so much fighting, angst, and disconnect that we couldn’t survive.
I think what you’re doing with this series is really beautiful, exposing your personal life to help normalize it. I think the world needs more truth, more honesty. We should all be more honest with each other about “taboos” and struggles, we’d all feel so much less alone. It’s beautiful cause through these videos you could be helping someone who’s disabled feel more “normal” and understood, or maybe you’re helping someone in their relationship with a disabled person, whether they’re already pursuing it or they’re just wondering if they could, yk? You guys are just really amazing, keep it up ❤️
I AGREE!!! THEY ARE SO AWESOME FOR opening their hearts and minds to letting others into their lives to learn about interable relationships. I love you guys for how string and open you are! Keep it up. Never be more open then you want dont feel like you have to.
I had a friend who was a nurse who fell in love with a man who was a paraplegic. Her parents told her that if she married him they would disown her. She did marry him and said it was easy saying goodbye to her family when they were so horrible about the situation.
If this relationship works for them both or anyone else that’s great m. As parents you never really want to have your child be a caregiver for their spouse and it is not easy mentally or physically. It’s not a day, a week, or year. It’s a lifetime. I wouldn’t disown my child be I’ll be honest I wouldn’t be happy about it. I hope Hanna has time on her own to go out with friends and have somewhat a normal life
has shane ever considered trying stand up comedy? he's so funny, has great charisma and spot on comedic timing. edit: everyone stop making the same exact joke challenge!! ☺️☺️
Katelynfishfish Shane would ave loved this joke but I’m sure he’s heard it a bunch lol it’s like the joke a tall person hears “how’s the weather up there?”
@@emilie2667 it's the 4th one about this topic tho I wasnt annoyed just miss their normal content and feel like bc this topic gets more views they keep making them
@@dearkorina3157 yeah, its always messy but as a guy, you can tell when its intentionally styled with product. Shane is always looking dapper, no doubt though =)
i was thinking the same thing , hahaha , people often go to the hairdresser and cut their hair when i just started to like it ...and the cycle begins all over :) ...Shane looks really good like this , agree totally
The questions ❤ 1: 04:04 I want to hear about Shane and Hannas top tips for a healthy fulfilling relationship. 2: 10:40 How did you and Shane build and foster your emotional intimacy at the beginning of your relationship? 3: 13:21 How did you go about telling your parents that you and Shane were a couple and what was their reaction? 4: 17:40 Does Shane have regular sized private parts? Can he get hard naturally? 5: 19:20 How has this journey on social media affected intimacy within the relationship?
The very best thing about this video is that it's NOT just sex, it's NORMAL COUPLE STUFF. THANK YOU for reminding the world that those of us who are differently abled are ACTUAL PEOPLE.
The people that make you feel bad are the ones in the wrong, we're all human at the end of the day, and being different on the outside doesn't change that, and it most certainly does NOT change love on a deeper level, just how one expresses it.
When/if you guys have children they will have the BEST parents ever! As a disabled guy myself thank you for breaking down stigma and barriers regarding disabled people and intimacy, love and relationships. Keep up the AMAZING work you two!
Hey Zachary. My name is Garland and I am in a relationship with an amazing girl. We have a RUclips channel named Steak and Kupcakes. Yes. We are complete opposites but we make it work.
I am continually impressed by how evolved your communication is with one another. Your relationship "rules" are exemplary for anyone wanting to be in a satisfying relationship. You are lucky to both have parents that raised you with love and allowed you to speak for yourselves and make your own decisions. I am 47 and still struggle in relationships. It has taken me decades to learn and try to incorporate self-love and good communication that were missing in my childhood environment.
On those "advice for the couple" things at wedding reception, I advise people "when your partner is getting annoying or you're on the edge of a fight, stop and think....am I hungry? Did I sleep well last night? Do I feel well physically?" Just being aware of stuff like low blood sugar or a back ache can prevent so many needless, dumb arguments.
melissa saint soo true. And any time you’re in one of those late night arguments - you might actually just need to go to bed 😆 the phrase “don’t go to bed angry” doesn’t take into account the extra hostility that comes from being tired and cranky!!
I feel like even the medical community sort of tries to ignore the sexuality of people living with disabilities, or they think that they are like asexual or something 🤷♀️ That's why I'm glad you're addressing these questions!
Thanks for opening up on personal intimacy issue's that are not easily explained. The way you two communicate on the subject, makes it comfortable for people. Continue educating for it is rewarding to others as well as to you. I don't use social media other than RUclips. Thanks again.
I've been dumped for my disabilities. It sucks. I am now extremely happy being alone. Well, I have my dogs and birds, occasionally hang with a friend or two, so, I am not truly alone. I now find my solitude healthy and therapeutic for my soul. Finally I can focus on healing me. Relationships can be highly over rated. But when you find that special connection, embrace it!! Life is too short.
Absolutely loving this series of videos from you guys. As a mama of kids with disabilities it really gives me hope for their future relationships. Thanks for all that you do! Can't wait for the next video.
I love how you guys continue to be so up front and honest about stuff, it’s not even Curiosity at this point, but more, admiration! Your a breath of fresh air! - also a comment I HAVE TO MAKE regarding an older video I watched where Shane talks about his love for putting Mayo on rice.......YES & YES! ITS AMAZING!
I love how you both can take potentially uncomfortable questions and ask humor and tact to the way you answer them. Being on social media is difficult enough but when your life is put in a microscope especially your intimate life that can be hard to handle. I'm glad you have been able to stay strong and resilient.
I don’t think people realize that there are so many ways to show intimacy, when you’re in love with your mate, just being together is so romantic and the intimacy will follow, whatever it is, love you guys
How kind of you to pause your videos in respect for the things going on. You both are so mature in your relationship beyond way beyond your years, You teach me things and I have been with my spouse almost 40 years.
As a retired nurse the both of you are very much on point that resources are scarce. It was my job to make sure that before I discharged a patient to educate them on their conditions and in situations like yours I always felt so inadequate because the information was non-existent 30 years ago and it sounds almost the same for the two of you. Having to learn as you go. Your channel is so important so keep up the awesome job and stay courageous and seeking minds. Sending love & virtual hugs to both of you. You're constantly inspiring me ❤
@@LuisOrtiz-yl6no ... Shane’s chair is a part of him ...part of his body really .. it’s his legs ...nobody who wasn’t close to him would do that ...you just don’t understand closeness I guess ...
This channel is super beautiful cause it's comforting and inspiring to see happily long-term, compatible, loving couples who value healthy communication and quality time and humor and have shared passions (in this case even a shared business). (Especially for people like me who have gotten hurt a lot and wants to keep the hope alive and not get jaded.) Also thank you for educating and normalizing about aspects of disability there aren't enough info out there on. These intimacy videos especially seem so personal and as another commenter pointed out that's really kind and brave to share so much so publicly. 💗
As a disabled person I always have enjoyed your videos and how you continue to bring awareness to disability issues. Once again you have out done yourselves with an excellent video while adding a touch of comedy. During the "size"portion of your video I was reminded of a tee shirt I wore in my teens that said "I may not be totally perfect but parts of me are excellent" Lol ....... cheers to you both. All the best...
I'm so glad you're making these. It's so important for people to see interabled relationships as just normal relationships, like they actually are. Thank you!
I'm a parent of 3, 2 are young adult women. They still live at home. I'm learning so much from you two, but also Hannah's parents! Thank you for your willingness to give us a glimpse into your lives. Ya'll bring me joy!
I’m late to the Squirmy and Grubs game. I am so blown away. What you two are doing is vital to knowing how to love and accept regardless of the issue. I’m subscribed. What a gift.
I want to share this with you because I think it reenforces Hannah’s thought behind just how educational these videos are! I HOPE YOU SEE THIS!! When i started watching your videos I admittedly did a google search somewhere along the lines of “SMA” “sex life” “complications”.. I added the last two identifiers when my search yeilded no results (easily readable ie personal not “studies”) then BAM, a really nice and detailed blog post about being able to have children as a male dx with SMA.. it was written by SHANE! i rest my case.
I have to tell both of you how much your videos have helped my relationship with my Husband. I love him so much but you remind me of ways to improve our closeness. Showing him how important he is to me. Being a team. Valuing each other. Thank you both for making relationship tapes. It’s just like therapy. I pray that God will Bless you both and keep you safe. I love you both and I’m just so grateful to have you in my life.💖
I know the feeling of being hurt by a GFs parents. I dated a girl and her parents had a talk with her about me being Hispanic and she is white... I can’t believe people are still so shallow! I’m happy for you two! ❤️
I have to comment on this because I live in a part of Mexico that's very very mixed, I'm in the north of Baja California like 30 minutes south of San Diego, California and in here you can see people and children that are VERY mixed, I myself can be considered "white" but my older brother is very much "brown". And STILL when I started dating my boyfriend who looks brown, friends of my mom would come to me and say "you should find a boy who makes the race BETTER not WORSE", and I still not get it, it's just skin, if anything having deeper skin tones is better for overall skin health. I tried to explain it to them but it was like talking to a wall.
@@christinas4528 I sure did! I’m married to the love of my life now and we have a wonderful daughter! Our home is full of love and acceptance for all people and all walks of life! ❤️
This is not what I was expecting... newcomer here. I wasn't expecting such wholesome content. My bf and I started living together and you guys remind me of us. We plan nice dinners and do special stuff together and all you say is true! Edit: I truly admire you guys and I know my situation is not as extreme but I've suffered for so long with severe mental health issues and my boyfriend was with me the whole way... I've gotten so much better because of him and seeing partners help each other no matter what makes me happy. It hasn't always been easy but I love the values here sorry for rambling just seriously love you guys already
This was such a bright spot in the darkness of the world right now. Thank you for both being sensitive to the situation that is occurring but bringing happiness to the world too. Love you both so much.
Thank you guys for being willing to educate people on this! Like Hannah said, some of these things aren't google-able and sometimes it gets tiring having to explain these concepts to people. These videos are a good resource for able bodied folks to learn. Hopefully this can open some people's minds to what an interabled relationship can be.
Knowing that you both have people discriminate your relationship, It means a lot that you have taken the time to support The Black Lives Matter issue. I wish you both a wonderful long happy life together 💗 By the way that thumbnail picture is Hot🔥
Agree. It's amazing how many people gets discriminated against. My parents have thick accents so people talk to them like they can't hear or like they are stupid. Plus, just the other day, my mom and I were assaulted and told to "go back from where we came from" even though we're American citizens my whole life, are a part of the community, volunteer, etc. The problem is, people make assumptions about people without knowing anything about them. You can't appreciate something/one if you don't understand it/them. Love learning more about disability/accessibility. I'm now speaking out to the people around me about the issue and currently working on getting a sidewalk fixed because it has a huge groove that Shane would not be able to go over.
Sorry to interrupt, Zoe but your comment stood out to me. I hate when people automatically assume or refer to my husband as my carer 🙁 It really gets to him too and he always corrects people, while I just get quietly upset and sit there not feeling good enough. Please know how important BLM to me personally, and so many more ♥️ There’s no place in this world for racism and there should be zero tolerance. For me, it hasn’t just came to light following the heinous murder of George Floyd - Rest in Paradise, George and love and prayers to his family, friends and every single person touched and affected by his cruel homicide. I’ve seen racism first hand, too many times, and it was shocking to me at the beginning but I soon realised this was an every day occurrence. I have seen how badly it affects someone to be singled out, for nothing more than the colour of their skin, and it’s *NOT* okay!!!! ♥️ I love how Shane & Hannah stayed quiet on their channel and used their platform to show their feelings on the subject too. 🙏🏻 BLACK LIVES MATTER ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼 P.S You’re beautiful ♥️
The one with "remembering you are on the same team not proving each other wrong" changes everything. It took me...and still takes me ENERGY to have changed that behaviour of being "no, YOU can come to ME and YOU have to do the work now" into being more patient, actually explain whats wrong and again if i have to and to say "Ok we talked about it i am mad but i still love you and hug you" because still showing someone you are near even if it is in an argument helps sooooo much. and yes, i hate it to cry and then i feel weak in my arguments but it is honest that when one feels hurt to show it and then the other one can understand "ohhh i reaaally hurt you because of that but i thought about something else in that moment sorry". i am not english speaking i hope it makes sense.
Thank you so much for making these videos 🖤 as someone with a disability, I didn't see or hear anyone talk about intimacy in a relationship when one partner is disabled growing up. I genuinely didn't see a relationship or crush as possible until I was able to walk around and stop using an electric wheelchair. Even now in adulthood it is hard for me to admit to my husband that I need to stop doing something because my hips hurt or my body hurts. I like to make other excuses. I've been becoming more comfortable with it, but these videos make me feel far less weak or alone. Before these videos, it has felt like making accommodations in the bedroom has only been treated as a negative or a disappointment by those who don't have a disability or who haven't been in a relationship with someone with a disability, or that it is treated and talked about as if you're losing something or missing something. When in reality it's just sex, you do it how you do it, everyone is different, and it's okay and normal.
Maybe you guys could invest in some of those microphones that clip onto your shirt. That might make it easier to talk a little bit more discretely so your neighbors won't hear your intimacy video talks. 😂😂 Or maybe it's a good thing for them to hear so they too can be educated? Hahaha Love you guys and love watching your videos.
You two are seriously the best couple. I love how you interact with one another and how down to earth you are when you talk to your audience. Thank you for bringing some joy into a world that truly needs it. Much love from VA. ❤️
I really enjoy your channel. Your humor & connection with each other is so genuine & entertaining. I am 77 years old & a retired mental health provider.
@@bigpotpoker1 Not all disabilities are visible. And many relationships start out one way and end up inter-abled, due to illness or age. Let's also consider our military and other types of public servants who may become disabled due to dangers on the job. A lot of people think a disability won't EVER happen to them or their loved ones, but that's simply not true. We need to allow for these conversations (at an age appropriate pace) in sex ed. Not sure what you think "transgender gay sex" is, but that comment reads as grossly homophobic. Squirmy and Grubbs - ya'll are the real deal. Keep educating and being a bright light in this world!
Brittany Martz While I dont agree with the language, the sentiment is not 100% off. In my country at least, sex ed is about safe sex, technical baby making process and relationships, it includes gay sex, again clinical. People with disabilities have sex just like anyone else, it’s not necessary to go into detail on how interable couples can have sex because the class is not put in place to teach kids about good sex positions and technique lol. A simple inclusion of interabled couples and relationships is enough. We do not need a demonstration video.
@@iamshooketh9345 Oh I don't think a demonstration video is necessary - that's not what I'm proposing. But a simple acknowledgement that interabled couples exist and have sexual relationships is enough. I just think it's inaccurate to assume that kids won't have questions about it or that they won't one day experience an interabled relationship. The problem is - in this country - there seems to be very little regulation regarding who teaches what and some kids aren't even learning about things like consent or contraceptives. The curriculums are so all over the place that a lot of kids leave with more questions than answers.
It is surprising and perhaps telling that googling those questions does not lead one to the answer. It shows how little this is a topic in our otherwise oversexualized or at least properly sexualized society. So really, it is awesome you address it here, as weird as that may be for some people and sometimes for yourself. By the way I want to guess which body part of Shane´s is also "normal sized": Your belly button. I think it is obvious he referred to his belly button here ;)
It also teaches us that we don’t need to give google that overestimated credibility of playing god who guides us everywhere. We should just follow our natural instincts like they do.
As a whole I find that everything is sexualized only if it sex people are comfortable with. Unless it is someone who society thinks is conventionality attractive it’s taboo to talk about anything real about sex.
I agree, although I think it’s good that you can’t find the answer on Google because it puts everyone into a box and because not everyone is the same, what might be true for one person may not be true for another.
Elizabeth Newbury that’s the first thing i noticed 😂 The fence looks so nice. I probably noticed because I’m sitting on a heating pad from doing yard work all day lol
Sexual health is something that really interests me as a whole so watching your videos about intimacy makes me so happy! (sounds alot creepier than it was meant to) It's educating people on a topic that is already "taboo" and for other couples out there who are interabled it helps to give advice to them.
Why is it "normal" for someone to stay with and love their spouse if the disability comes after the relationship, but not when a disability exists before the relationship?
@@NitpickingNerd that sounds backward. I'm with fully able bodied man. If something happened to him, I personally would stay with him despite not choosing to be with a disabled person to begin with. Yet people who choose a partner with a disability get heavily judged and questioned. Love is love no matter what.
@@LemonScentedSquid yes that makes sense of course . I'm not judging anyone I just stated why we see many fewer examples of the latter. most people wouldn't start a relationship with a disabled person . and not always because they can't love that person but because of the many difficulties surrounding it , as well as the social stigma etc , most people would choose to avoid it even if they give up potential love
@@NitpickingNerd fair. I meant normalize people who choose those relationships. The same as we work to normalize sam sex relationships and interracial relationships. Ya know?
I love you guys, you were meant to be with each other. Everyone can see how amazingly you get along with each other. It's always a dose of smiles watching your videos. Love from Czech Republic!
I have been watching for quite awhile, and at first I wasn't sure how to take Shane's sense of humor, but as I see how you both compliment each other, the true connection, love, and respect for one another, it's a blessing you found each other. You both have super attitudes toward life and the words and truth you share are really awesome. I can't wait to see your wedding and journey in life together. God Bless and tell Chloe she's a beauty.
It's so nice to see a couple that gets along so well. I'm the one in the wheelchair because a horrible arthritis and other things and my husband still calls me sexy. It's nice to be loved for the heart and not the perfect body. We've been married for almost 15 years and every day it just gets sweeter. God bless the two of you.
I just have to say that I watched Shane's very first video where he was saying he would find someone who would accept him and I think Hannah is one amazing person, even before being with u, but u can really see all the happiness she brings to Shane (he doesnt look as sad as he did in first video). You both really bring out the best in each other and that is a rare thing to find. Secondly, Shane, u seemed so sad in that very first video and I get that life has not been easy for u, but regardless of whatever disability u have, u have come out of your shell and learned so much in such a short time. Most people take a lifetime to learn it. Stay happy you guys. Life is too short and I've really begun just understanding that at 40 when I had a stroke and am now waiting to find out about my lungs. You both are beautiful people. Dont ever change. As a mother I can easily say that if either of you were mine, I would be so damn proud. I enjoy watching ur videos. It has actually taken my mind off my impending diagnoses. There has only ever been one other youtuber who could do that for me, so thank you. Sending lots a love to you guys from NY! Xoxo
Thank you so much for being so open and helping us “able bodied” couples understand these things. I will eventually be disabled and so this is helping me to feel that there is hope for my relationship with my husband when that time comes. Thank you
Hello! Im so sorry to read you'll eventually become disabled... i wish all the best for you and i really hope you and your husband can continue to have a healthy and happy relationship!
Thank you for pointing out how there is a lack of resources. I normally try to avoid questions that I could look up. And I would never just rudely ask or demand the knowledge from a stranger. But it’s probably helpful for others who are curious because they may be interested in exploring an interabled relationship and struggle to find some honest knowledge and advice
Can you do a "How Shane Does.." video? Like not the stuff like how Hannah helps in eating, going to the bathroom, or showering because you've already done that but like you talked about how SHANE pays the bills and plans the calendars. Be interested to see how HE does it being that he's limited in his hand/wrist use. Like a Day in the Life of Shane and how HE "operates" during the day when it comes to "adulting". How does he pay bills? How does he plan the calendars and other appointments? What equipment does he use to do XYZ (like making the grocery list) etc.
You two are the cutest couple. I missed seeing your faces. Even though I never questioned your intimacy I feel that you are doing a great job and talking to those who are interested. I myself have disability issues that cause it hard for me and my husband to even be intimate, but we get through it. We have had lots of people say that he should be with somebody else because of that. But we have been together for over 30 years and have been married for 25 years and have three wonderful kids ages 29,22,and 21. So keep up the great work and know that even though I maybe a lot older then you that you two give me hope.
How I wish I would have someone like you guys when I was young and looking for love. My lack of self-esteem and feelings of being not good enough because of my disability has kept me from ever finding anyone. I even had one guy tell me when he was breaking up with me that he could never marry me because I "was a cripple". And I took that to heart, that I wasn't good enough for anyone. I wonder if things would have turned out different if I had role models like you to follow. I'm so proud of what you're doing because I know personally how it helps others. Thank you.
That's awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you, you are worthy of love. And it sounds like you dodged a bullet with your ex, if he said such an awful thing to you. I think one bonus of disability is that it kind if weeds out the ignorant people and you can choose to ignore them, I would recommend looking g up some disability activists on instagram. It can help with your self esteem, personally I love nina tame- she's great. I really hope you can find happiness and compassion for yourself. 😊😊💕
I do not have any physical disabilities, but I'm so sorry you had that to deal with an unloving soul like that. If it means anything, there are a lot of us out here who don't care about someone's condition/diagnosis and still find you beautiful.
@@Magical3750 Juvenille Rheumatoid Arthritis that went undiagnosed until I was 28. Damage was done to joints. Plus since it happened pre-puberty, my bones didn't grow properly.
Sending you the love you deserve! Remember, you can still find love. Love doesn’t have to be born from youth. You can find it now too. You’re worthy of it! Those ex’s were never meant for you anyways... such trash. Don’t ever give up hope ❤️❤️
Y’all are amazing. It’s absolutely none of our business, however, I am so glad y’all share these videos and answer these questions. It really is educational and helpful. Yes, part of us are just curious but should we, or someone we know, ever be in a similar relationship then we can be a little more educated about the situation. ESPECIALLY if there are no resources for people to reference. I know your parents are proud of you guys as I’m sure it was very scary (for all of you) to address these topics. You guys are making a positive impact. Keep up the amazing work. Best wishes.
Shane's best line "oh is this too much? Oh no your going for it!" Honestly love your videos explaining your lives. I also found it quite shocking that the parent's of Shane's ex's actually said something like that to them! But then you have Hannah's parent's who are the best so every cloud :) Stay safe to you both and all of you watching this video!
To be fair to the parents, many people hire carers to at least help with the care. It's all fine now, but Hannah is not living the way a trained carer does and being a 24/7 carer gets harder as you get older. I worry that she is not lifting him in the way a trained career would. I am sure these parents worried about such practical matters too.
This series, and your videos in general, have been really helpful to me as someone in an interabled relationship (I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome). Learning about your experiences has made me feel more comfortable expressing my own needs, and it has also been a huge help since my boyfriend broke his leg a little over a week ago and our roles have been temporarily reversed.
You guys can sure give great relationship advice. I have been in a long distance relationship with my gf for 15 years.... she is in Texas and I’m in Australia... it sure makes you really appreciate each other and never take anything for granted. We both know that we are all each other wants and we love each other more than anything so it keeps us going. You guys talking about not getting enough of each other etc is what me and my gf are still like 15 years in. I was in the process of finally moving to America and the coronavirus hit.... hopefully soon! Great video guys.
I think you both handled this maturely and respectfully ! I'm sure you answered questions many have.! And there may be people who have feelings for someone who is disabled and thinking ."What was I worried about , we can make this work"! Everyone main reblock in any relationship is communication! Thanks ! Love your back yard !
@itzsykez You think a lot of men not only don't help out physically with a baby but also provide zero emotional support? After the baby is past infancy/toddlerhood, the most important part of raising a child is teaching them and supporting their emotional and psychological development.
itzsykez Shane will be a wonderful father and you have no idea what you’re talking about. Disabled parents are not less than. I’m a person with two “healthy” parents , they’re both awful parents . I’m disabled and I’m amazing with kids and my partner tells me everyday I’m an invaluable part of this team we make. 🤔 turns out disabled doesn’t mean less than important and being disabled doesn’t make you a burden 😧
@@taradaycatalortaraifyourno8482 Exactly, thank you. Me and my hubby have 5 under 11 and hes away months at a time. I look after the kids alone, 1 because I want to, but 2 cause hes not around. And their are lots of guys tht work 9-5 and refuse to help out when they come home
About the penis, the reason why people with this disability should have normal privates in both size and function is because the penis believe it or not, is not a muscle, so size wise it should not be affected, and as long as there are no hormonal problems or nerve damage, getting erect should also not be a problem...
Lilly Flower --I literally typed is the penis a muscle--and this is what came up so yea not a muscle at all just a spongey hanging thing off the body... The penis is not a muscle Contrary to popular belief, the so-called love muscle does not contain any muscles. That's why you cannot move it very much when it's erect. The penis is a kind of sponge that fills with blood when a man is sexually excited.
Gisele Ok well I’m assuming this is probably kore so how they have penetrative sex which is him sitting down and her sitting on top of him. Idk if you’ve had sex but the penis goes UP and when the man sits down the penis points UP so all she has to do is sit down.
Shane comes from money because if he didn't he would be sitting in his wheelchair begging for a glass of water and nobody would give a shit. My opinion only....
You two look at each other and laugh together like my hubby and I do. Even 32 years later. Some people’s are just meant to be together. I think you are one of those couples. ❤️
My girlfriend brought in this rule and it works well. Never go to bed mad at each other, whatever your issue or argument may be,try and hash it out before heading to sleep as you always want the next day to be fresh and reset.
I love that you guys make the difficult videos. So many people don’t have anyone to ask these questions. As important as the answers are most can’t be found online. Thank you!
Yey, great to see another video! and thank you for being so open. It's only when we start talking about these things do they become less taboo subjects and encourages others to challenge their own inbuilt prejudices or ignorance. Your garden is looking lovely by the way :) I'd highly recommend adding a water feature! so relaxing listening to the sound of running water and the birdies love it too. Lots of love to you both xxx
I think its good that they talk about the "private" things. Because that could cause someone to be willing to date a person with a disability. I assumed the penis didnt have normal function... I also have learned alot of cole's channel in reference to quads and i could actually date a guy in a wheel chair now so... kudos to you guys
Hell yea. Well put. I think it’s great for other ppl with similar disabilities and the world to be informed so we don’t feel the need to ask such awkward questions.
sharon brown Thanks for bringing up this point. I am 62 and I have thought many times about Hannah’s future body issues but have never said anything. I hope she sees your message. Thank you for being brave enough to share.
that just breaks my heart. My husband is disabled and my parents tried to tell me that because of the disability he would be a burden and not someone who deserved my love. broke my heart because he is the kindest person i know. 7 years together now and wouldnt change a thing :)
A long time ago when I was living in NY, I met a new friend who was in a wheelchair, paralyzed from the waist down, when she shared her story with me. Before she became paralyzed, she had one small child at that time, a baby boy only several months old. After her son had his first set of immunizations, she was feeding him baby cereal, his first try at food. He wasn't very receptive, so she tried making a little game of it (as we Moms often do) .. a taste for you, a taste for Mommy. Very soon after that, she fell ill .. she said it was days of what seemed like a hurricane was raging through her body, and she just waiting until it was over. At the end, she was paralyzed .. that was the damage that was done after the "hurricane" .. all from sharing a spoon (saliva) with her baby after he had gotten immunized. She went on to have 3 more babies (with a husband who was so crazy in love with her) and she was one of the happiest people I ever knew. Let me just add that she was a stunner (yes, very similar to you, Hannah!) and her husband was incredibly handsome (yes, very similar to you, Shane!) We became the closest of friends, both as Mom's who were young and in our baby-rearing years, as well as couple-friends with her and her husband. I said all of that to say this: one thing she said that struck me (and I've never forgotten) is that even though she was paralyzed from the waist down - meaning she could not move her legs at all - she still felt every single contraction while in labor and giving birth .. which showed me that having paralyzed legs did not mean she had a paralyzed uterus. Two completely different things altogether. And just because Shane cannot have use of his legs it does not mean he has immovable or non-working private parts and cannot enjoy the pleasure of intimacy with his wife. Anyway -- when you were talking about that in this video it just reminded me of that story similarly likened to my friends'. Ok, well that's all 😉 carry on, and continue to be blessed and to be a blessing 💜 Much love always
A good rule for arguments that my husband (of 25 years!) and I use, is that if we aren’t making any headway, we switch sides of the argument. He tries to argue in favor of my point of view, and I try to argue his point of view. It really makes us see where the other person is coming from!
*marriage counsellors have left the chat*
I love that. I'm going to try that in my marriage.
oh my goodness i love this , thank you 💚
Jennifer my x and I did the role reversal sometimes too and yes it was a helpful tool yet sadly our probs were ultimately much bigger than this and sadly we divorced after 12 yrs together
Wow never thought of that. Is there a code word you guys say to switch it up?
With these intimate videos, you have really shown how mature and confident you two are in your relationship and I really admire that.
My spouse is disabled. My mom and dad said you don’t want to marry someone like like that. 22 years still love each other as family both.
What an ignorant thing to say 😳 that appalling.. 😕
Trude what do you mean? She’s just saying her story
@@abandbaby9081 It was directed to the parents
Hello James. Our names are Garland and Kyzia. We are an interabled couple. Yes, relationships like ours are different but it comes with its rewards.
We are doing a casting for interabled couples. You can find the information on our RUclips channel. Hope to hear from you soon.
Trude lmao instead of trying to correct them, or ask for clarification you just bring negativity. That’s what’s actually appalling.
I've been married to a man with muscular dystrophy for 3 years, and I just want to say thank you for helping to normalize this kind of relationship! Your openness has helped many of my friends and family understand why it doesn't matter that my husband uses a wheelchair to get around, because when the chemistry is right, the chair is a side issue. Shane's constant attempts to make you laugh and keep you fed with snacks remind me so much of my husband. We've got two small children now and despite being in a wheelchair, my husband is WAY more involved as a parent than many fully able bodied dudes are.
@@Raidensyoutube if you arent fucking it's not your business IMO. If you end up with someone with a disability in sure you'll find out...
@@thestarswillshineagain1824 🙌
@@Raidensyoutube that is not your business dude....
@@Raidensyoutube what a creep you are . Do you need to delve into peoples private lives ? If so why . Whose interested in your sex life
Beautifully written jaboter , when the chemistry is right and theres love ,
Nothing else matters .
Had anyone read shanes books , ? They are wonderful and his his humour
Shines through , brilliant written . I have yet to buy the third book.
Jaboter wishes from me in New zealand , to you and the family . L
You two never cease to amaze me. I have a very loving relationship with a wonderful man. We have been together for 22 years. At first we were both able-bodied, fully functional adults. First change was, he lost his leg above the knee. Our intimate life, both physically and emotionally took awhile to adjust to. He doubted his manhood and became depressed, despite my best efforts to build him up. I could have walked away... He told me to, but that is not my way. So with some serious communication and lot's of love, we worked past all the different issues that did and didn't arise. Next he injured his spine. Not as difficult to get through as the first hurdle, but again our types of " interactions " had to be worked out. Finally, he had a stroke. This really changed everything. For a good while, we could not even hold a conversation. He cried alot, but together we worked on his recovery. So here again, all parts of our intimate relationship had to be worked out. Even holding hands became a process. But with some therapy and my inventive mind, I am happy to say that our relationship is the best it has ever been.
I wish that I had you both to inspire me back then. But I enjoy sharing your life now through RUclips. Bright Blessings to you both! Thanks for listening 💗
Wow, real love!!
Wow that's like all I can say right now, May God bless you and keep you both committed to him eternally.
@Brenda Hartten, even though you did not have Shane & Hannah to inspire you back then, you are most certainly an inspiration now to others. I'm sorry for the health struggles your husband and yourself has had to endure, but your love was strong and you held on through the worst of unimaginable times .. and now, you have overcome the hurdles and came through it all with a deeper love and understanding. I admire your determination, your grit, your refusal to give up, your courage and your strength. Thank you for sharing your story. You are truly an inspiration to all of us. 💜
That is so beautiful. I always say the strength of a relationship is not the happy parts, but how you both handle the tough times. The happy parts are vital, but they don’t dictate how strong a relationship is. All of my most happy relationships were also strewn with so much fighting, angst, and disconnect that we couldn’t survive.
I think what you’re doing with this series is really beautiful, exposing your personal life to help normalize it. I think the world needs more truth, more honesty. We should all be more honest with each other about “taboos” and struggles, we’d all feel so much less alone. It’s beautiful cause through these videos you could be helping someone who’s disabled feel more “normal” and understood, or maybe you’re helping someone in their relationship with a disabled person, whether they’re already pursuing it or they’re just wondering if they could, yk? You guys are just really amazing, keep it up ❤️
I AGREE!!! THEY ARE SO AWESOME FOR opening their hearts and minds to letting others into their lives to learn about interable relationships. I love you guys for how string and open you are! Keep it up. Never be more open then you want dont feel like you have to.
"Follow your heart. Unless your heart is evil, then don't follow your heart" I love that advice actually
Right?? That advice is awesome!!
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"Everything down there is fantastic". As a man in a wheelchair i'm totally stealing that one. Perfect response really.
I want to use that too 😂😂 (female wheelchair user)
I’m stealing that man 😂
That is the best response EVER!! If I dated a man with or without a wheelchair, I would want to know that!!!
Taking that one
hahaha I liked "wonderful" better
I had a friend who was a nurse who fell in love with a man who was a paraplegic. Her parents told her that if she married him they would disown her. She did marry him and said it was easy saying goodbye to her family when they were so horrible about the situation.
What kind of "people"....?
No wonder she didn't mind leaving them behind. Good riddance.
@@slfredinesome church people are the most hypocritical and non-accepting.
If this relationship works for them both or anyone else that’s great m. As parents you never really want to have your child be a caregiver for their spouse and it is not easy mentally or physically. It’s not a day, a week, or year. It’s a lifetime. I wouldn’t disown my child be I’ll be honest I wouldn’t be happy about it. I hope Hanna has time on her own to go out with friends and have somewhat a normal life
@@scorpiogirl0784I m
@scorpiogirl0784 I agree I don't see her sticking around when things get bad. That's gonna hurt.
has shane ever considered trying stand up comedy? he's so funny, has great charisma and spot on comedic timing.
edit: everyone stop making the same exact joke challenge!! ☺️☺️
he tried, but he couldn’t stand up
Katelynfishfish
Shane would ave loved this joke but I’m sure he’s heard it a bunch lol it’s like the joke a tall person hears “how’s the weather up there?”
Agreed I agree
100%
Omg I was thinking that same thing!! I laugh every time he says something funny and I’m the same when it comes to being like a huge goofball too 😅😅
“My head is not the only disproportionally large part of my body” lmfao amazing 😂
J Rose I’m dying
We dont need to know all that I'm over all their sex videos next it will be onlyfans lol I'm jk but not at the same time
@Shelly B You really clicked on a video that says “sexual function”, then proceeded to be annoyed when they talk about sex 🤨
@@emilie2667 it's the 4th one about this topic tho I wasnt annoyed just miss their normal content and feel like bc this topic gets more views they keep making them
Shelly B if you think hearing about sex once every few weeks is annoying then you clearly need more sex in your life 😂
Messy hair looks dope on Shane. He should style it like that more often
sorry to bother just had to tell you that you're gorgeous 🥺
Uhh not to be a third wheel but Shane's hair is often messy. He's a goof 🥰
@@gracegoodwin39 aww, youre sweet and pretty yourself =)
@@dearkorina3157 yeah, its always messy but as a guy, you can tell when its intentionally styled with product. Shane is always looking dapper, no doubt though =)
i was thinking the same thing , hahaha , people often go to the hairdresser and cut their hair when i just started to like it ...and the cycle begins all over :) ...Shane looks really good like this , agree totally
The questions ❤
1: 04:04 I want to hear about Shane and Hannas top tips for a healthy fulfilling relationship.
2: 10:40 How did you and Shane build and foster your emotional intimacy at the beginning of your relationship?
3: 13:21 How did you go about telling your parents that you and Shane were a couple and what was their reaction?
4: 17:40 Does Shane have regular sized private parts? Can he get hard naturally?
5: 19:20 How has this journey on social media affected intimacy within the relationship?
Godsend
Thank you
Thank you
I love you I was looking for this😄
Oj va svenskt namn du har haha blir förvånad om du inte är från Sverige
The very best thing about this video is that it's NOT just sex, it's NORMAL COUPLE STUFF. THANK YOU for reminding the world that those of us who are differently abled are ACTUAL PEOPLE.
The people that make you feel bad are the ones in the wrong, we're all human at the end of the day, and being different on the outside doesn't change that, and it most certainly does NOT change love on a deeper level, just how one expresses it.
@@thestudio66 They don’t know how wrong they are. That’s why I’m so glad for this forum. I’m sure it has changed a lot of hearts.
@@heidiho5179 Truly I hope so.
She needs a real man wtf to be onest
Hanna has a natural gift at giving and Shane has an amazing sense of humour and his honestly with his emotions, men could learn so much from you.
When/if you guys have children they will have the BEST parents ever! As a disabled guy myself thank you for breaking down stigma and barriers regarding disabled people and intimacy, love and relationships. Keep up the AMAZING work you two!
Is that ur hyacinth? We have a lesser sulpher crested cockatoo (profile pic lol) named JJ.
I agree
Hey Zachary. My name is Garland and I am in a relationship with an amazing girl. We have a RUclips channel named Steak and Kupcakes. Yes. We are complete opposites but we make it work.
I am continually impressed by how evolved your communication is with one another. Your relationship "rules" are exemplary for anyone wanting to be in a satisfying relationship. You are lucky to both have parents that raised you with love and allowed you to speak for yourselves and make your own decisions. I am 47 and still struggle in relationships. It has taken me decades to learn and try to incorporate self-love and good communication that were missing in my childhood environment.
honoring your journey, self love, communication, and all, lizard tracker
This! 40 here, and relate so much. ❤️
I’m also in a relationship that performs better when there are plenty of snacks. I think that is a valid first rule.
Claire Campbell - Hey Blondie! I’m my most happy when eating ☺️
10000%
On those "advice for the couple" things at wedding reception, I advise people "when your partner is getting annoying or you're on the edge of a fight, stop and think....am I hungry? Did I sleep well last night? Do I feel well physically?"
Just being aware of stuff like low blood sugar or a back ache can prevent so many needless, dumb arguments.
melissa saint soo true. And any time you’re in one of those late night arguments - you might actually just need to go to bed 😆 the phrase “don’t go to bed angry” doesn’t take into account the extra hostility that comes from being tired and cranky!!
@@claireisacamel yeah. Its best to acknowledge "maybe we should get some rest and deal with this tomorrow" but for goodness' sake, go to sleep!
I feel like Hannah's parents are a big reason she loves you so naturally
I feel like the big reason that you're a gullible fool is the blonde hair dye is leaking into your brain
I feel like even the medical community sort of tries to ignore the sexuality of people living with disabilities, or they think that they are like asexual or something 🤷♀️ That's why I'm glad you're addressing these questions!
Except they’re lying. They can’t have sex.
ESPECIALLY the medical community.
“ Follow your heart... unless your heart is evil, then don’t follow your heart” -Shane So true!
😂😂😂
It really is so true...💕
I love that you are discussing this. Being sex-positive is so healthy.
Thanks for opening up on personal intimacy issue's that are not easily explained. The way you two communicate on the subject, makes it comfortable for people. Continue educating for it is rewarding to others as well as to you. I don't use social media other than RUclips. Thanks again.
I love y'all. Seriously as a disabled woman, this gives me hope that my future partner is out there. Please don't ever stop being so real 💗
❣
I've been dumped for my disabilities. It sucks. I am now extremely happy being alone. Well, I have my dogs and birds, occasionally hang with a friend or two, so, I am not truly alone. I now find my solitude healthy and therapeutic for my soul. Finally I can focus on healing me. Relationships can be highly over rated. But when you find that special connection, embrace it!! Life is too short.
thank you for sharing this..being alone can be devastating or enlightening..
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I read "sexual" I click, I'm feeble
They got me with the “sexual” click bait too.
Heathens! Lol
😂😂😂
Perfect 👌
Absolutely loving this series of videos from you guys. As a mama of kids with disabilities it really gives me hope for their future relationships. Thanks for all that you do! Can't wait for the next video.
I love how you guys continue to be so up front and honest about stuff, it’s not even Curiosity at this point, but more, admiration! Your a breath of fresh air! - also a comment I HAVE TO MAKE regarding an older video I watched where Shane talks about his love for putting Mayo on rice.......YES & YES! ITS AMAZING!
Yes, admiration! I love them
I love how you both can take potentially uncomfortable questions and ask humor and tact to the way you answer them. Being on social media is difficult enough but when your life is put in a microscope especially your intimate life that can be hard to handle. I'm glad you have been able to stay strong and resilient.
I don’t think people realize that there are so many ways to show intimacy, when you’re in love with your mate, just being together is so romantic and the intimacy will follow, whatever it is, love you guys
I'm at 5 years long distance. He's only 4.5 hours away. But we are getting married September 2021!! I'll be moving his way.
That’s so exciting! I’m so glad everything worked out well for you guys. Wishing you all the bes t
Congrats!!
Congratulations, I wish you a lifetime of happiness.
Good for you :) congratulations 🎉
Awwwwww that's AMAZING
Congrats
How kind of you to pause your videos in respect for the things going on. You both are so mature in your relationship beyond way beyond your years, You teach me things and I have been with my spouse almost 40 years.
As a retired nurse the both of you are very much on point that resources are scarce. It was my job to make sure that before I discharged a patient to educate them on their conditions and in situations like yours I always felt so inadequate because the information was non-existent 30 years ago and it sounds almost the same for the two of you. Having to learn as you go. Your channel is so important so keep up the awesome job and stay courageous and seeking minds. Sending love & virtual hugs to both of you. You're constantly inspiring me ❤
The way Hannah casually rests her arm on his chair is intimacy .
It is ❤️
EXACTLY
Wtf
@@LuisOrtiz-yl6no ... Shane’s chair is a part of him ...part of his body really .. it’s his legs ...nobody who wasn’t close to him would do that ...you just don’t understand closeness I guess ...
Bullshit my walking cane is part of my body why don't you sit on it so I can get off
This channel is super beautiful cause it's comforting and inspiring to see happily long-term, compatible, loving couples who value healthy communication and quality time and humor and have shared passions (in this case even a shared business). (Especially for people like me who have gotten hurt a lot and wants to keep the hope alive and not get jaded.) Also thank you for educating and normalizing about aspects of disability there aren't enough info out there on. These intimacy videos especially seem so personal and as another commenter pointed out that's really kind and brave to share so much so publicly. 💗
As a disabled person I always have enjoyed your videos and how you continue to bring awareness to disability issues. Once again you have out done yourselves with an excellent video while adding a touch of comedy. During the "size"portion of your video I was reminded of a tee shirt I wore in my teens that said "I may not be totally perfect but parts of me are excellent" Lol ....... cheers to you both. All the best...
I'm so glad you're making these. It's so important for people to see interabled relationships as just normal relationships, like they actually are. Thank you!
I'm a parent of 3, 2 are young adult women. They still live at home. I'm learning so much from you two, but also Hannah's parents! Thank you for your willingness to give us a glimpse into your lives. Ya'll bring me joy!
Intimacy is so much more than sex! Intimacy is two souls that vibe together ❤ you can literally feel their love in every video 💜 this IS true LOVE 💘
Lol
I’m late to the Squirmy and Grubs game. I am so blown away. What you two are doing is vital to knowing how to love and accept regardless of the issue. I’m subscribed. What a gift.
You really need a t-shirt that says “everything works and is wonderful”
Yes!
yesss !
It would sell like hot cakes!
What a wonderful idea! xx
It's everything works and is perfect 😁😁
I've been married 53 years and my husband and I are always together. We are happy in each other's company. So, yay you.
Simp alert!!!
@@bailout262 ???
@@marlenewawrzyniak5816 Ignore then they're just a troll
@@ecologist_to_be Thanks 😉
I want to share this with you because I think it reenforces Hannah’s thought behind just how educational these videos are! I HOPE YOU SEE THIS!! When i started watching your videos I admittedly did a google search somewhere along the lines of “SMA” “sex life” “complications”.. I added the last two identifiers when my search yeilded no results (easily readable ie personal not “studies”) then BAM, a really nice and detailed blog post about being able to have children as a male dx with SMA.. it was written by SHANE! i rest my case.
Hannah's cupping her eyes from the sun and I'm just staring at the two hats on the back of shane's chair lmao
doesn't match the outfit, hehe
🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣👍
That’s so funny
@@znyznyzny yes red for Hannah and blue for,Shane lol
And the big umbrella behind them lol
When Shane talks, it makes it easy to forget about any physical disabilities he has. He is very charming and intelligent.
I love these two Humans. I can't watch a video without just feeling better. They are a great team and feed off each other's goofiness.
Hannah's voice sounds like mine and EVERY TIME she says "Google" in any of your videos, my ok google opens lol
You have a really nice voice then :)
@@rubinevanille oh heh... thank you 😊
Me too haha
I have Siri and if someone on a video says “seriously”, Siri will answer
Wow someone here is jealous 😂
I have to tell both of you how much your videos have helped my relationship with my Husband. I love him so much but you remind me of ways to improve our closeness. Showing him how important he is to me. Being a team. Valuing each other. Thank you both for making relationship tapes. It’s just like therapy. I pray that God will Bless you both and keep you safe. I love you both and I’m just so grateful to have you in my life.💖
I know the feeling of being hurt by a GFs parents. I dated a girl and her parents had a talk with her about me being Hispanic and she is white... I can’t believe people are still so shallow! I’m happy for you two! ❤️
I have to comment on this because I live in a part of Mexico that's very very mixed, I'm in the north of Baja California like 30 minutes south of San Diego, California and in here you can see people and children that are VERY mixed, I myself can be considered "white" but my older brother is very much "brown". And STILL when I started dating my boyfriend who looks brown, friends of my mom would come to me and say "you should find a boy who makes the race BETTER not WORSE", and I still not get it, it's just skin, if anything having deeper skin tones is better for overall skin health. I tried to explain it to them but it was like talking to a wall.
If she listened to her parents, you dodged a bullet with that GF.
@@christinas4528 I sure did! I’m married to the love of my life now and we have a wonderful daughter! Our home is full of love and acceptance for all people and all walks of life! ❤️
This is not what I was expecting... newcomer here. I wasn't expecting such wholesome content. My bf and I started living together and you guys remind me of us. We plan nice dinners and do special stuff together and all you say is true!
Edit: I truly admire you guys and I know my situation is not as extreme but I've suffered for so long with severe mental health issues and my boyfriend was with me the whole way... I've gotten so much better because of him and seeing partners help each other no matter what makes me happy. It hasn't always been easy but I love the values here sorry for rambling just seriously love you guys already
This was such a bright spot in the darkness of the world right now. Thank you for both being sensitive to the situation that is occurring but bringing happiness to the world too. Love you both so much.
Thank you guys for being willing to educate people on this! Like Hannah said, some of these things aren't google-able and sometimes it gets tiring having to explain these concepts to people. These videos are a good resource for able bodied folks to learn. Hopefully this can open some people's minds to what an interabled relationship can be.
Knowing that you both have people discriminate your relationship, It means a lot that you have taken the time to support The Black Lives Matter issue. I wish you both a wonderful long happy life together 💗 By the way that thumbnail picture is Hot🔥
Agree. It's amazing how many people gets discriminated against. My parents have thick accents so people talk to them like they can't hear or like they are stupid. Plus, just the other day, my mom and I were assaulted and told to "go back from where we came from" even though we're American citizens my whole life, are a part of the community, volunteer, etc. The problem is, people make assumptions about people without knowing anything about them. You can't appreciate something/one if you don't understand it/them. Love learning more about disability/accessibility. I'm now speaking out to the people around me about the issue and currently working on getting a sidewalk fixed because it has a huge groove that Shane would not be able to go over.
Sorry to interrupt, Zoe but your comment stood out to me. I hate when people automatically assume or refer to my husband as my carer 🙁 It really gets to him too and he always corrects people, while I just get quietly upset and sit there not feeling good enough.
Please know how important BLM to me personally, and so many more ♥️ There’s no place in this world for racism and there should be zero tolerance. For me, it hasn’t just came to light following the heinous murder of George Floyd - Rest in Paradise, George and love and prayers to his family, friends and every single person touched and affected by his cruel homicide. I’ve seen racism first hand, too many times, and it was shocking to me at the beginning but I soon realised this was an every day occurrence. I have seen how badly it affects someone to be singled out, for nothing more than the colour of their skin, and it’s *NOT* okay!!!! ♥️
I love how Shane & Hannah stayed quiet on their channel and used their platform to show their feelings on the subject too. 🙏🏻
BLACK LIVES MATTER ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼
P.S You’re beautiful ♥️
The one with "remembering you are on the same team not proving each other wrong" changes everything. It took me...and still takes me ENERGY to have changed that behaviour of being "no, YOU can come to ME and YOU have to do the work now" into being more patient, actually explain whats wrong and again if i have to and to say "Ok we talked about it i am mad but i still love you and hug you" because still showing someone you are near even if it is in an argument helps sooooo much. and yes, i hate it to cry and then i feel weak in my arguments but it is honest that when one feels hurt to show it and then the other one can understand "ohhh i reaaally hurt you because of that but i thought about something else in that moment sorry". i am not english speaking i hope it makes sense.
Thank you so much for making these videos 🖤 as someone with a disability, I didn't see or hear anyone talk about intimacy in a relationship when one partner is disabled growing up. I genuinely didn't see a relationship or crush as possible until I was able to walk around and stop using an electric wheelchair. Even now in adulthood it is hard for me to admit to my husband that I need to stop doing something because my hips hurt or my body hurts. I like to make other excuses. I've been becoming more comfortable with it, but these videos make me feel far less weak or alone. Before these videos, it has felt like making accommodations in the bedroom has only been treated as a negative or a disappointment by those who don't have a disability or who haven't been in a relationship with someone with a disability, or that it is treated and talked about as if you're losing something or missing something. When in reality it's just sex, you do it how you do it, everyone is different, and it's okay and normal.
That’s great for the neighbors to hear...they likely need to learn what we are learning from your open and honest approach to sexuality. 💕
Maybe you guys could invest in some of those microphones that clip onto your shirt. That might make it easier to talk a little bit more discretely so your neighbors won't hear your intimacy video talks. 😂😂
Or maybe it's a good thing for them to hear so they too can be educated? Hahaha
Love you guys and love watching your videos.
They are probably wondering too so they can just listen and not have to be embarrassed to ask 😀
I second this
It’s good for them to hear and be jealous 😉
They can just watch the video🤷♀️
True, they’ve just answered all the neighbours questions 😂😂😂
You two are seriously the best couple. I love how you interact with one another and how down to earth you are when you talk to your audience. Thank you for bringing some joy into a world that truly needs it. Much love from VA. ❤️
I really enjoy your channel. Your humor & connection with each other is so genuine & entertaining. I am 77 years old & a retired mental health provider.
Question for Q&A: What would you change about sex ed in schools to raise awareness about disabled and inter-abled couples?
Asking the real questions here 👏🏻
@@bigpotpoker1 good God man
@@bigpotpoker1 Not all disabilities are visible. And many relationships start out one way and end up inter-abled, due to illness or age. Let's also consider our military and other types of public servants who may become disabled due to dangers on the job.
A lot of people think a disability won't EVER happen to them or their loved ones, but that's simply not true. We need to allow for these conversations (at an age appropriate pace) in sex ed.
Not sure what you think "transgender gay sex" is, but that comment reads as grossly homophobic.
Squirmy and Grubbs - ya'll are the real deal. Keep educating and being a bright light in this world!
Brittany Martz While I dont agree with the language, the sentiment is not 100% off.
In my country at least, sex ed is about safe sex, technical baby making process and relationships, it includes gay sex, again clinical.
People with disabilities have sex just like anyone else, it’s not necessary to go into detail on how interable couples can have sex because the class is not put in place to teach kids about good sex positions and technique lol.
A simple inclusion of interabled couples and relationships is enough. We do not need a demonstration video.
@@iamshooketh9345 Oh I don't think a demonstration video is necessary - that's not what I'm proposing. But a simple acknowledgement that interabled couples exist and have sexual relationships is enough. I just think it's inaccurate to assume that kids won't have questions about it or that they won't one day experience an interabled relationship. The problem is - in this country - there seems to be very little regulation regarding who teaches what and some kids aren't even learning about things like consent or contraceptives. The curriculums are so all over the place that a lot of kids leave with more questions than answers.
It is surprising and perhaps telling that googling those questions does not lead one to the answer. It shows how little this is a topic in our otherwise oversexualized or at least properly sexualized society. So really, it is awesome you address it here, as weird as that may be for some people and sometimes for yourself.
By the way I want to guess which body part of Shane´s is also "normal sized": Your belly button. I think it is obvious he referred to his belly button here ;)
It also teaches us that we don’t need to give google that overestimated credibility of playing god who guides us everywhere. We should just follow our natural instincts like they do.
As a whole I find that everything is sexualized only if it sex people are comfortable with. Unless it is someone who society thinks is conventionality attractive it’s taboo to talk about anything real about sex.
I agree, although I think it’s good that you can’t find the answer on Google because it puts everyone into a box and because not everyone is the same, what might be true for one person may not be true for another.
My friend hired a sex therapist after he became a para because of how little info there is
You are such a beautiful couple 💕💕💕
Side note: pretty backyard.
Elizabeth Newbury that’s the first thing i noticed 😂 The fence looks so nice. I probably noticed because I’m sitting on a heating pad from doing yard work all day lol
Sexual health is something that really interests me as a whole so watching your videos about intimacy makes me so happy! (sounds alot creepier than it was meant to) It's educating people on a topic that is already "taboo" and for other couples out there who are interabled it helps to give advice to them.
Why is it "normal" for someone to stay with and love their spouse if the disability comes after the relationship, but not when a disability exists before the relationship?
because they didn't choose a partner knowing it will be like that
@@NitpickingNerd that sounds backward. I'm with fully able bodied man. If something happened to him, I personally would stay with him despite not choosing to be with a disabled person to begin with. Yet people who choose a partner with a disability get heavily judged and questioned. Love is love no matter what.
@Chris Canavan II I'm going to assume you misunderstood my statement.
@@LemonScentedSquid yes that makes sense of course . I'm not judging anyone I just stated why we see many fewer examples of the latter.
most people wouldn't start a relationship with a disabled person . and not always because they can't love that person but because of the many difficulties surrounding it , as well as the social stigma etc , most people would choose to avoid it even if they give up potential love
@@NitpickingNerd fair. I meant normalize people who choose those relationships. The same as we work to normalize sam sex relationships and interracial relationships. Ya know?
12:06 "even though we were living different lives, we were always connected" this is what i hope to have someday ❤
I love you guys, you were meant to be with each other. Everyone can see how amazingly you get along with each other. It's always a dose of smiles watching your videos. Love from Czech Republic!
I have been watching for quite awhile, and at first I wasn't sure how to take Shane's sense of humor, but as I see how you both compliment each other, the true connection, love, and respect for one another, it's a blessing you found each other. You both have super attitudes toward life and the words and truth you share are really awesome. I can't wait to see your wedding and journey in life together. God Bless and tell Chloe she's a beauty.
It's so nice to see a couple that gets along so well. I'm the one in the wheelchair because a horrible arthritis and other things and my husband still calls me sexy. It's nice to be loved for the heart and not the perfect body. We've been married for almost 15 years and every day it just gets sweeter. God bless the two of you.
I just have to say that I watched Shane's very first video where he was saying he would find someone who would accept him and I think Hannah is one amazing person, even before being with u, but u can really see all the happiness she brings to Shane (he doesnt look as sad as he did in first video). You both really bring out the best in each other and that is a rare thing to find. Secondly, Shane, u seemed so sad in that very first video and I get that life has not been easy for u, but regardless of whatever disability u have, u have come out of your shell and learned so much in such a short time. Most people take a lifetime to learn it. Stay happy you guys. Life is too short and I've really begun just understanding that at 40 when I had a stroke and am now waiting to find out about my lungs. You both are beautiful people. Dont ever change. As a mother I can easily say that if either of you were mine, I would be so damn proud. I enjoy watching ur videos. It has actually taken my mind off my impending diagnoses. There has only ever been one other youtuber who could do that for me, so thank you. Sending lots a love to you guys from NY! Xoxo
The fact that you never get tired of being around each other means you're best friends *and* in love, which is adorable
Thank you so much for being so open and helping us “able bodied” couples understand these things. I will eventually be disabled and so this is helping me to feel that there is hope for my relationship with my husband when that time comes. Thank you
Hello! Im so sorry to read you'll eventually become disabled... i wish all the best for you and i really hope you and your husband can continue to have a healthy and happy relationship!
Thank you for pointing out how there is a lack of resources. I normally try to avoid questions that I could look up. And I would never just rudely ask or demand the knowledge from a stranger. But it’s probably helpful for others who are curious because they may be interested in exploring an interabled relationship and struggle to find some honest knowledge and advice
I’ve been binge watching after about a year of not watching at all. So excited for a new video 💞💞💞so much love
Can you do a "How Shane Does.." video? Like not the stuff like how Hannah helps in eating, going to the bathroom, or showering because you've already done that but like you talked about how SHANE pays the bills and plans the calendars. Be interested to see how HE does it being that he's limited in his hand/wrist use. Like a Day in the Life of Shane and how HE "operates" during the day when it comes to "adulting". How does he pay bills? How does he plan the calendars and other appointments? What equipment does he use to do XYZ (like making the grocery list) etc.
It takes a lot of guts to be comfortable in posting videos like these and I respect them so much for it honestly
You two are the cutest couple. I missed seeing your faces. Even though I never questioned your intimacy I feel that you are doing a great job and talking to those who are interested. I myself have disability issues that cause it hard for me and my husband to even be intimate, but we get through it. We have had lots of people say that he should be with somebody else because of that. But we have been together for over 30 years and have been married for 25 years and have three wonderful kids ages 29,22,and 21. So keep up the great work and know that even though I maybe a lot older then you that you two give me hope.
How I wish I would have someone like you guys when I was young and looking for love. My lack of self-esteem and feelings of being not good enough because of my disability has kept me from ever finding anyone. I even had one guy tell me when he was breaking up with me that he could never marry me because I "was a cripple". And I took that to heart, that I wasn't good enough for anyone. I wonder if things would have turned out different if I had role models like you to follow. I'm so proud of what you're doing because I know personally how it helps others. Thank you.
That's awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you, you are worthy of love. And it sounds like you dodged a bullet with your ex, if he said such an awful thing to you. I think one bonus of disability is that it kind if weeds out the ignorant people and you can choose to ignore them, I would recommend looking g up some disability activists on instagram. It can help with your self esteem, personally I love nina tame- she's great. I really hope you can find happiness and compassion for yourself. 😊😊💕
I also have a disability and I’m just curious which one you have? I have spina bifida.
I do not have any physical disabilities, but I'm so sorry you had that to deal with an unloving soul like that. If it means anything, there are a lot of us out here who don't care about someone's condition/diagnosis and still find you beautiful.
@@Magical3750 Juvenille Rheumatoid Arthritis that went undiagnosed until I was 28. Damage was done to joints. Plus since it happened pre-puberty, my bones didn't grow properly.
Sending you the love you deserve! Remember, you can still find love. Love doesn’t have to be born from youth. You can find it now too. You’re worthy of it! Those ex’s were never meant for you anyways... such trash. Don’t ever give up hope ❤️❤️
Y’all are amazing. It’s absolutely none of our business, however, I am so glad y’all share these videos and answer these questions. It really is educational and helpful. Yes, part of us are just curious but should we, or someone we know, ever be in a similar relationship then we can be a little more educated about the situation. ESPECIALLY if there are no resources for people to reference. I know your parents are proud of you guys as I’m sure it was very scary (for all of you) to address these topics. You guys are making a positive impact. Keep up the amazing work. Best wishes.
Thank you guys for supporting us , or even just understanding . ❤️🙏 we appreciate you two
You kids are so good for each other. Shane is funny to listen to. He has such sharp mind to answer with good luck the next 100 years
Shane's best line "oh is this too much? Oh no your going for it!" Honestly love your videos explaining your lives. I also found it quite shocking that the parent's of Shane's ex's actually said something like that to them! But then you have Hannah's parent's who are the best so every cloud :) Stay safe to you both and all of you watching this video!
To be fair to the parents, many people hire carers to at least help with the care. It's all fine now, but Hannah is not living the way a trained carer does and being a 24/7 carer gets harder as you get older. I worry that she is not lifting him in the way a trained career would. I am sure these parents worried about such practical matters too.
@@lynncrf ..she might get burn out ..she is young now but that will change as she ages..
You’re in relationship is inspirational for all walks of life.
This series, and your videos in general, have been really helpful to me as someone in an interabled relationship (I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome). Learning about your experiences has made me feel more comfortable expressing my own needs, and it has also been a huge help since my boyfriend broke his leg a little over a week ago and our roles have been temporarily reversed.
Frank Duwell Hi, I have EDS too! 😊
I’m just here to be apart of the cool kids club
"What happened doc?"
"He died of severe intimacy."
"It was too much for him.....he overcame"
LMBO!
You guys can sure give great relationship advice. I have been in a long distance relationship with my gf for 15 years.... she is in Texas and I’m in Australia... it sure makes you really appreciate each other and never take anything for granted. We both know that we are all each other wants and we love each other more than anything so it keeps us going. You guys talking about not getting enough of each other etc is what me and my gf are still like 15 years in. I was in the process of finally moving to America and the coronavirus hit.... hopefully soon! Great video guys.
I really hope you two are together in the same country now!! That is real dedication! ❤❤
I think you both handled this maturely and respectfully ! I'm sure you answered questions many have.! And there may be people who have feelings for someone who is disabled and thinking ."What was I worried about , we can make this work"! Everyone main reblock in any relationship is communication! Thanks ! Love your back yard !
I still can't get over the phrase "severe intimacy" 🤣
😂😂🤣
I keep trying to convince my wife that we need severe intimacy as well! *Buh dumb tiss*
I’m begging for it to be a tshirt!
🤔 “Intense intimacy”, “focused intimacy“, “true intimacy”, “concentrated intimacy“, “deep intimacy” 😉
Your children are going to have the longest arms and sweetest smiles!
@itzsykez You act like she can't get help or ask from help from family or friends. There are people out there that are willing to help them if needed.
@itzsykez You think a lot of men not only don't help out physically with a baby but also provide zero emotional support? After the baby is past infancy/toddlerhood, the most important part of raising a child is teaching them and supporting their emotional and psychological development.
itzsykez well I know many who have kids who’s spouse is in the military. They have kids and no help at times. That’s her choice not yours.
itzsykez Shane will be a wonderful father and you have no idea what you’re talking about. Disabled parents are not less than. I’m a person with two “healthy” parents , they’re both awful parents . I’m disabled and I’m amazing with kids and my partner tells me everyday I’m an invaluable part of this team we make. 🤔 turns out disabled doesn’t mean less than important and being disabled doesn’t make you a burden 😧
@@taradaycatalortaraifyourno8482
Exactly, thank you. Me and my hubby have 5 under 11 and hes away months at a time. I look after the kids alone, 1 because I want to, but 2 cause hes not around. And their are lots of guys tht work 9-5 and refuse to help out when they come home
About the penis, the reason why people with this disability should have normal privates in both size and function is because the penis believe it or not, is not a muscle, so size wise it should not be affected, and as long as there are no hormonal problems or nerve damage, getting erect should also not be a problem...
It's a collection of muscles? Yes it is a muscle -.-
Lilly Flower pretty sure it’s not lol
Lilly Flower
--I literally typed is the penis a muscle--and this is what came up so yea not a muscle at all just a spongey hanging thing off the body...
The penis is not a muscle
Contrary to popular belief, the so-called love muscle does not contain any muscles. That's why you cannot move it very much when it's erect. The penis is a kind of sponge that fills with blood when a man is sexually excited.
but what about legs that cannot be stretched?
Gisele
Ok well I’m assuming this is probably kore so how they have penetrative sex which is him sitting down and her sitting on top of him. Idk if you’ve had sex but the penis goes UP and when the man sits down the penis points UP so all she has to do is sit down.
Shane is the man he's a super funny and intelligent guy. Hannah is lucky to have a man like Shane in her life. 😃
Can you imagine that she finishes him? hahaha the man dies unhappy
And he is lucky to have her too 💞
We are lucky that they are sharing there lives with us. a pure love like that is beautiful and rare to see🥰 it gives me faith in the human race ❤️
Shane comes from money because if he didn't he would be sitting in his wheelchair begging for a glass of water and nobody would give a shit. My opinion only....
Shane is the man? The man of what?
You two look at each other and laugh together like my hubby and I do. Even 32 years later. Some people’s are just meant to be together. I think you are one of those couples. ❤️
From now on I will be telling my husband that I am in the mood for some “severe intimacy.” 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
“...it’s not my toes...” Shane, you’re the best! Hannah, you both hit the jackpot when you found one another. ♥️
My girlfriend brought in this rule and it works well. Never go to bed mad at each other, whatever your issue or argument may be,try and hash it out before heading to sleep as you always want the next day to be fresh and reset.
My mother use to tell me never let the sun go down on an argument 🙃 so true
I love that you guys make the difficult videos. So many people don’t have anyone to ask these questions. As important as the answers are most can’t be found online. Thank you!
Yey, great to see another video! and thank you for being so open. It's only when we start talking about these things do they become less taboo subjects and encourages others to challenge their own inbuilt prejudices or ignorance. Your garden is looking lovely by the way :) I'd highly recommend adding a water feature! so relaxing listening to the sound of running water and the birdies love it too. Lots of love to you both xxx
I just spent nine minutes wondering why the birds in the background aren’t moving at all before realising that they are tiny flags 🤦🏻♀️
Hahaha this made laugh out loud 😂
🤣🤣🤣
Ohhhh they are flags...
I think its good that they talk about the "private" things. Because that could cause someone to be willing to date a person with a disability. I assumed the penis didnt have normal function... I also have learned alot of cole's channel in reference to quads and i could actually date a guy in a wheel chair now so... kudos to you guys
Absolutely! I agree! 💕
Agree
Hell yea. Well put. I think it’s great for other ppl with similar disabilities and the world to be informed so we don’t feel the need to ask such awkward questions.
Yes exactly. You articulated what my brain was trying to say. You’re awesome ❤️
sharon brown Thanks for bringing up this point. I am 62 and I have thought many times about Hannah’s future body issues but have never said anything. I hope she sees your message. Thank you for being brave enough to share.
that just breaks my heart. My husband is disabled and my parents tried to tell me that because of the disability he would be a burden and not someone who deserved my love. broke my heart because he is the kindest person i know. 7 years together now and wouldnt change a thing :)
A long time ago when I was living in NY, I met a new friend who was in a wheelchair, paralyzed from the waist down, when she shared her story with me. Before she became paralyzed, she had one small child at that time, a baby boy only several months old. After her son had his first set of immunizations, she was feeding him baby cereal, his first try at food. He wasn't very receptive, so she tried making a little game of it (as we Moms often do) .. a taste for you, a taste for Mommy. Very soon after that, she fell ill .. she said it was days of what seemed like a hurricane was raging through her body, and she just waiting until it was over. At the end, she was paralyzed .. that was the damage that was done after the "hurricane" .. all from sharing a spoon (saliva) with her baby after he had gotten immunized. She went on to have 3 more babies (with a husband who was so crazy in love with her) and she was one of the happiest people I ever knew. Let me just add that she was a stunner (yes, very similar to you, Hannah!) and her husband was incredibly handsome (yes, very similar to you, Shane!) We became the closest of friends, both as Mom's who were young and in our baby-rearing years, as well as couple-friends with her and her husband. I said all of that to say this: one thing she said that struck me (and I've never forgotten) is that even though she was paralyzed from the waist down - meaning she could not move her legs at all - she still felt every single contraction while in labor and giving birth .. which showed me that having paralyzed legs did not mean she had a paralyzed uterus. Two completely different things altogether. And just because Shane cannot have use of his legs it does not mean he has immovable or non-working private parts and cannot enjoy the pleasure of intimacy with his wife. Anyway -- when you were talking about that in this video it just reminded me of that story similarly likened to my friends'. Ok, well that's all 😉 carry on, and continue to be blessed and to be a blessing 💜 Much love always