Emotionally Exploding Inside: How to Stop Suffering From Your Emotions and Find Freedom
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- Опубликовано: 22 авг 2023
- Cope with your BPD symptoms using my BPD Card Deck: The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
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Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:
The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: tinyurl.com/2anv8dww
The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: goo.gl/sZYhym
The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: goo.gl/ZAVe9v
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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This is me! I have become anxious, depressed and do not even want to do my job anymore ! All I want to do is hide in my room!
Please don’t stop fighting. Try not to give in and find support.
I learned to write out my fears from a video by Crappy Childhood Fairy. When you feel resentments coming up, you would write I feel resentment at so and so because I feel fear that... and then go back to writing fears. When I'm done, I sign off that I'm letting go and then shred the paper.
making a voice recording if you have privacy is another good way to record your feelings! i find that going back and listening to my recordings and re-reading my journal entries helps me develop more empathy toward myself.
I’ve def been thinking abt buying one, have u had any luck “journaling” this way?
it's a way to build self understanding and compassion. for me, listening to and reading about my past troubles uplifts the power of my voice and validates my experiences. you have to be honest with your feelings before you can truly move on. it may not work for everyone, but vulnerability with emotions is a sign of strength. i hope you find your own way to regulate your emotions while i have mine that works for me. @@3jesus3christ3
for sure! it helps me because i'm disabled and i can't always write. it's also nice if you want to record a lot of content, because talking is faster than writing! hope this helps :)@@matthewlaud8441
I needed this today three hours ago. I am baffled by the timing. Thank you so much for what you do.
You are so welcome
I as an African American woman who lives with this disorder has decided to remain single until i feel more confident with the rejection from society that comes with the disorder. This disorder produces certain emotional responses and behaviors that most find offensive. After witnessing a close friend who also lived with this disorder end her life after the break up of an engagement. I am very protective of my emotional health because I discovered that many people get off on triggering others who struggle with emotional disorders. I would like to see more content for individuals who are choosing to avoid certain types of relationships because they are hurtful for individuals living with this disorder. Netflix now has a special featuring Amber Heard and the discrimination and ignorant towards this disorder is increasing. Its a tough choice however it is very difficult to interact in a world that makes people feel awful for living with this disorder. Until more mental health providers take the cosmetic prices off of life saving treatment for millions of patients living with this disorder. Many patients suffer in isolation to keep from imploding from being different.
I understand. It’s difficult.
I have noticed that it can be difficult to verbalize what I think is causing anxiety when trying to write it and that when I write and read it back it sounds very different than when it was in my head.
Good insight. Thanks for sharing
I do this sometimes when I, as I call it, “swim in my head.” It helps tremendously. ;)
Do you have a video with tips on how to be assertive during high-stress situations?
I was taught to never talk back, to never question anyone, don’t cry and more. I was great at stuffing the best really until I stopped. It took the death of my parents to give up the stuffing. The problem was, I think pretty much all of those close to me thought I was behaving unlike myself and I was being perhaps bossy. I merely was giving for once My opinion. I started stuffing recently as I can’t even stand myself. Perfect timing this video is. Thank you. 😊
Wow you sound like my twin!
this is such a great video, I don't know why you don't have millions of followers - I suppose because you focus on actually changing, and gaining understanding, rather than the large 'narc' channels that really do a lot of 'you're a victim they're terrible'. I really love your great explanations of the maladaptive process and the useful tips on how to manage, start to manage them. inspiring. perhaps it's because with things like the personality disorders - even at a trait level - people are still ashamed in part because of the popularity of 'narc' channels and 'bpd girlfriend' channels and memes - making these issues still being shameful, and the perpetrators, rather than that we're talking traits here not full on PDs, and even with full P Ds we're still talking about human beings - learning that acceptance and compassion - I saw you have a video about that - is so central. Tara Brach introduced that idea to me, through someone playing it at my sangha (buddhist group). anyway. these are so useful and kind. thank you.
As a child, I learnt early on to supress my emotions especially crying. I remember feeling a lump in my throat and always supressing the urge. Now was an adult, I find it really hard to cry. I can't shed more than 2 years if I force myself, I end up feeling depleted than better. Also, thanks to the inner child healing job that I'm doing...I can kind of shed more than a few tears now yet just as I began crying ..I start to feel dizzy almost in a panic attack state. It's scary. The heart beat slows down and not a good feeling overall. Should I just stop crying altogether. What do you think?
It’s nothing more than a mindset. Remember that. Same thing with facing any fear or working out for a better example and reaching your peak. The only way to push past that peak or fear is to literally face it until you pass it. Your body and mind isn’t used to associating a normal emotion so it shuts down, might even give you a panic attack. Continue to push. Eventually your body will start to get used to it.
@@ariannarivera8629 thanks for replying means a lot
keep crying
I highly respect you Dr. Fox. Thank you for all your insights and recommendations.
Want Hank you so much I have experienced this a lot of times in my life so to say whenever I was under chronic stress and pressure and even depression for quite some time
I appreciate your advice(s) so much! You are really a good psychologist. 🙏🏼
Sometimes it's better not to let it out to the direct target. You are absolutely right. You could make it much worse.
However get the issue out is important. Fully agree. Personally it helps me to write it down, when nobody is around. Thank you again 💝🌻
You are so welcome!
I wish more people would understand the way you do xx
I have BPDand PTSD and I'm one thin line ...
😂ditto❤
THANKS AS ALWAYS SO MUCH!!
Also,
“A plutonic relationship, therefore, is a misunderstanding of the word “platonic”, and it does not exist. The correct word to use is “platonic”””
this tacktic was the first step in my bpd journey to recovery ..... and your so right just saying it out loud is a big help and deff doesn't have to be at someone .... deff do that when you want and can but really sometimes its just about actually letting it it or me writing doesn't always work so just walking or taking time alone to say it ou loud can even make a world of difference resentment has been one of my biggest fuels for hostility .... and if it wasn't fo rmy current theprist i woudlent have leaned this .... she did a hostility scale work with me and it showed me that thers a reality of standard median for hostility .... and out of the list of things that drive hostility resentment was one of them and one of my resentments is feeling like i cant talk about my issues or views .... or that if i do it makes me a bad person so i stuff it down and build resentment ..... to brake that i had to start talking even more then i already was as i already new i needed to get it out but i never knew that it dient have to be with resolution or to someone....... just saying it helped me not feel so much resentment in my heart
Thanks for giving us an understanding of chain of events seeing the small moving parts to the big picture.
The opposite is true for me. I "stuff", and have practiced getting better at stuffing. I journalled about anything and everything since I was a teen, and used to find it very helpful. Something flipped in my mind one day a few years ago though, no idea why, and since then journalling makes everything feel worse. End of the world worse... I would rather stuff than deal with the crippling guilt of dumping my "stuff" on others. So, does it suck? Yup. Is it the lesser of all evils? For me, absolutely.
SAME here
I love your channel! Could you please do a video about the combination of bpd and avpd? That'd be so great! Sadly, avoiding personality disorder is such an underrepresented disorder :(
Much needed
You are the best!!
Thanks💌
It is very helpful.
😍 dear doctor you are helping me a lot from paris France iam not in the 🇺🇸 AMYMORE
Thank you Dr. Daniel. This is helping so much.
Thanks!
Thank you very much for supporting the channel. Be well.
Yes exactly
When i tried to get it out i suppose i used my friends as a therapist and they called me a narcissist and left.
I literally just got on RUclips to look up something along these lines, because it’s what I’m doing right now and I want it to stop. Sad it’s not available yet though 😢
Look for a loving person . The quicker you leave a person who doesnt love you maybe the less damage will be done to you .
If I make suggest what helps me and if you can, look to a trusted loved one/friend to give some words of encouragement then write out your feelings, talk to text, record audio whatever it is you can do to get the thoughts out of your head. You’re not alone, you matter, and you’re loved. I love you for taking the time and courage to find resolve and help. That’s a tall task. Healthy Distractions like video games, cooking, crafting are good, and I know you may not want to do it. These small atomic habits when in distress can really help, BPD distortions (mine as well) are addicted to paranoia and the anxiety don’t feed it with more thoughts. ❤❤❤❤ you got this.
When I'm honest with my partner and allow myself to be vulnerable instead of attacking him verbally and being defensive, he is always very reassuring and comforts me because he doesn't want me to feel negative towards myself. He once said he wished I could love me the way he loves me ❤
You are a God ❤ ok so would you so enlighten us with the subject of "self-control and DISCIPLINE" PLEASE!! BECAUSE THE TRUTH IS I FEEL THAT WITH DISCIPLINE IT'S A CATCH-22 .....YOU NEED DISCIPLINE TO HAVE DISCIPLINE.
Hi Dr. Fox, I love your videos! Could you pls do a video about divorce when you have BPD? My husband wants to divorce me after 12 years together… I was already going through depression before that and now this… I am feeling desperate… Is there anyway to communicate with you in private by msg?
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Please help me iam pulling my hair again trichotillomania help
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Suffer Less
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Getting it out only makes it worse - people will just add an insult... Also what is the point of getting better when life is reserved for the most brutal.
I understand that it can be discouraging to receive insults when expressing yourself. However, remember that there are also people who will support and uplift you. Don't let the negativity overshadow the positive impact you can have on others.
@@DrDanielFox Thanks Daniel, sorry for bumming the channel out. I was having another “doom wave” triggered by my clients ghosting me for payment once again (I am freelance designer so it happens very frequently and I kinda feel worthless, enraged and weltschmertz most of the time). I recently started following your channel - the angle feels refreshing. I do not have a diagnosed disorder, but these topics speak to my distress.
is it bullying when an older women has a problem with my pretty face and body?
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I’m sorry it’s called “family in the head”. Family shouldn’t have such a negative connotation. “Chatter in the head” is better to call it for me.
Self attack is when you are afraid of commitment so you choose to love someone incapable of loving and nobody gets hurt.
That's more of 'self sabatoge' than this. This specifically is piling on negative feelings till we can't get out from under them.
No.