I usually don’t say much in meetings. I just listen. I’m the kind of person that takes backstage. I make things happen by doing it and showing how it will be efficient. I’m more of a doer than talker. ❤
Awesome presentation and skill. What I felt people dont speak is because of 2 reasons: 1. They don't do homework before going in a meeting thus they lack the information or knowledge of the agenda and subject. - You will feel confident if you know your audience, have enough information and have done your homework. 2. They do think before sharing anything what if I am proved to be wrong. - people should understand, Most of the time if not always, in any meeting people want to have your idea and get corrected.
Seems like A perfect and gorgeous lady.... I am not gonna lie...her beauty dragged me here ....but when i reached here, she is a motivational speaker which is rare combination for a beauty ,plus her voice & Accent is also very very good. Clear words..... This is called the beauty with brain
English is my second language and I can use it in above average level. The biggest challenge for me is how to explain things specially technical ones to non technical members of the meeting. It takes some brain power to think for the technical solution(solved inside the head using native language) then translate them into English. In some occasions it could make me look as if I don't know enough answers because of stuttering and a lot of filler words (uhmm). Oh those bad memories! 😅🤢
TECHNIQUE: One way to make sure you get heard is to wait for a pause or silent moment. If someone starts talking at the same time, advise the room that when that person is done speaking, that you have something to say. Be ready to speak and jump right on in when that person is done. A second way, is to raise your hand to let it be known that you have something to say. You may have to raise it a few times. Once the room knows that you have something to say, they will get on your side and make sure you have a chance to speak. At this point, they can't wait to hear what it is that you have to say which will be encouraging giving you more confidence to speak. You only have to say excuse me to get their attention never having to apologize. Speak, knowing that what you have to say is valuable and they will receive it as just that. Speak, not caring what anybody is going to think because if it matters to you, thats all that matters.
You're articulate. I love how you break down the video to small sectors. Thank you. I'm a man who has all the confidence in meetings and I will implement this to further enhance my presence in meetings and others around me.
Something I have noticed is that people listen more if you speak less and act more ... People favor concise speech and I am doing my best to practice concise brief speeches ...
Although ma'am you have designed it for women, but as a man I can also extract some part from it, because it gives me insight to better understand women, as far as their working-professional behaviouralism is concerned.
Thank you! 🙏 And I’m so happy to hear that you’re also able to find value from it - whether giving you a better insight into some of the challenges women face, or even if the content is relevant for you (which I’m sure a lot of it might be- if not from this video, from future ones). 🙂 Thanks for the support! 🙏
Shaheer Ali hmmm.... I think being men, we all encourage the moral values of women without any discrimination, and that will definitely empower them. 👌👌
Women generally are not considered smart enough to contribute their ideas and opinions in a male dominated meeting. But with your confidence you can ensure you are heard. Very valuable tips, great content n you are a beauty with brains. I am a new subscriber n love both your content n the delivery style which is so elegant n classy
I believe working out having a good physique along with the proper attire.. fragrance.. accesories body leads to confidence skyrocketing even before entering the meeting room ready to take anyone and everyone.
Watched this long time ago. Never thought a time would come for me to dig this up and saver every bit of it for my next meeting! So very helpful!! Recently I've been quite frustrated with one of our meetings where I was constantly cut off by one of my colleagues. After a while, I found myself feeling dreadful to even go to the meeting anymore. Now examing it, it's really like what you said - a male dominated (I'm the only female of us 4), and it seems ok among the three of them. I will try your technique in our next meeting. Thank you so much for providing so so much values in your videos!
I often struggle to speak up during group sessions with highly intellectual professionals who are seasoned communication experts. Most of my interactions are with Irish diplomats and businessmen. I find it challenging to contribute because of the high level of perfection I observe in their discussions. Being shy and introverted, I often struggle to make my point, could you please guide me.
This seems to work for me... 1: Find out what the "Milk" of the meeting is. 2: Find out who are the key players this "Milk" matters too most. 3: Research that "Milk" like your life depends on it 4: *Compress* and *Simplify* that "Milk" into away the key players will understand 5: Every word you use needs to be important, direct with no fluff 6: Be short and sweet when giving your opinion. After 3 or so meetings you wont need to fight anymore for your opinion because the key players will ask you directory for it... 🍼
I just discovered your channel..and i just subscribed. And i can't help but let you know a few things: 1. Your content is amazing. 2. The way you're presenting your content has a lot of things one can learn from on its own. Its very elegant and gentle. 3. You're extraordinarily beautiful
Congratulations. I'm so glad this channel is growing so well, great to see a channel get the recognition they deserve. Can't wait to see where this channel goes from here.
Thank you for your kind opinions. As I am a little introverted hence my CEO recently told me: "You are enough good but have less forthcoming ability". 😊
Perhaps start starting with asking more questions such as asking the person to clarify or elaborate. Once you're comfortable with this then start to contribute by sharing your own thoughts. It might even help to jot down some dot points before you speak out. Good luck! 💪🏽
Your videos are quite useful, thank you for sharing! The trouble I face often times is either I second guess myself about what I want to communicate in a meeting or my thoughts are way ahead of what I am actually communicating. Because of the mismatch I sometimes find it difficult to speak coherently.
I liked the idea that we need to value our on thoughts and ideas before anyone would and well that's the most difficult thing for me. I gather courage and speek up an the moment I see others are not welcoming it I start feeling less valued and stupid.
My most difficult thing is whenever I have an idea related to my work that I feel is useful i get so much carried away that lose the inability to look through the bigger picture.So whenever I present the idea, my teammates bombard me with what is said won't work because of so and so reason and I feel stupid and valueless
They're certainly valid for anyone. But like all good business practice - our company can't be all things to everyone. So one of my company's areas of focus is providing career development services for women.
I'd say you're lovely, your presentation style is perfect, I subscribed your channel yesterday, and almost in two days I watched all of your videos, which I found very interesting and helpful. Thanks, you're appreciable
1:54-Reality:It is usually the people who speak the most and the loudest who get heard, recognised and then promoted. Your Thoughts are just as valuable as other people's thoughts in this room
It is very rarely for me to comment on any video but all your videos are awesome. Your contributions to the social media should be recognized. Thanks so much!
How to tackle fear of audience, regardless of the percentage of men or women. Often one ends up speaking more confidently in one on one conversations but when it comes to public speaking then speaking the some words becomes challenging.. would appreciate your advice on this
That’s right,in my work place there is always a coworker (female) cutting everyone off when they starts speak, next time I will follow your tips, thank you
I like that this didn’t turn into a male bashing session. Women get cut off by women as they are by men. Women should speak up when they are interrupted, without anger, BUT even if the anger is there, they should not hold back because of it and speak up anyway; they’ll get better at it with time. - A male listener
Thanks for sharing these constructive ideas and agreed - never respond in anger. I recently posted an abridged version of this video on LinkedIn. It was interesting to see both men and women writing comments about them experiencing this problem - even ones in senior leadership positions.
This is pretty interesting n valuable topic, my straggling in a meeting is how to wrap up my idea nicely, structurally and logically, so it will easily for others to digest, accept n appreciate it. I want to hear ur video about it "wrap up ur idea nicely". Tq
Awww thank you so much! 🙏 I’m so happy you enjoy them. This is the first of our long-form videos - one coming each week! It’s targeted to women, but of course applies to everyone 🙂
Much of it has to do with how you carry yourself. I’m quiet at work but I’ve been promoted at most jobs I’ve held. I’m not the loudest but when I speak people listen. When I’m in meetings people ask for my opinion when I don’t say anything.
In today's meeting I was just saying okay okay to others. I think I need to be more strong in my field and always I am unable to share my ideas. Many times I don't remember anything.
. Very important content. . Excellent tips for a common problem to proceed / participate in routine meetings. . Mostly few of particepnts just want to monopolize expressing verbosity.
Thank you! What if you are interrupted by a senior while asking a question and they cut you off before even listening to whole idea. This give hit to credibility and also make you feel irrelevant.
This is great advice. Also, for the serial interrupters out there (I'm guilty) it's good to keep in mind it's not just giving everyone equal time to speak merely out of a sense of fairness. If you sincerely believe others have something you can learn from you will naturally encourage them to share. Happy collaborating!
The best way to speak confidently in meetings is to be competent and have some idea about that thing. The more competent you are the more confident you become.
Thanks for sharing this wonderful tips on meetings... It will really helpful for those who are suffering... May God Bless You and More Power To You... 👍👍👍
Sometimes, when you open the floor for questions after a presentation, people know what to ask about but they don't know how to phrase the questions. So they end up with the response "None, so far." 😅 Great tips, Shadé! 🥰🤓😍
sometimes it is a matter of self confidence. you are not sure enough that what you are going to say is really worth saying
I usually don’t say much in meetings. I just listen. I’m the kind of person that takes backstage. I make things happen by doing it and showing how it will be efficient. I’m more of a doer than talker. ❤
Beware of posers who take credit for your effort.😅
@@rico1648 been there, not concerned my dear. God is with me. 🙏
I can't help but appreciate the symmetry of ur position in between the two vases 😐
Haha, that was my husband's attention to detail!
@@ShadeZahrai He has a good sense of "wait, just a bit to the left, perfect, now go on" !!
😀
Its green screen i guess 🙂
Shadé Zahrai that husband thing isn’t gonna work. Simps will most likely unfollow
Awesome presentation and skill. What I felt people dont speak is because of 2 reasons:
1. They don't do homework before going in a meeting thus they lack the information or knowledge of the agenda and subject. - You will feel confident if you know your audience, have enough information and have done your homework.
2. They do think before sharing anything what if I am proved to be wrong. - people should understand, Most of the time if not always, in any meeting people want to have your idea and get corrected.
Seems like A perfect and gorgeous lady....
I am not gonna lie...her beauty dragged me here ....but when i reached here, she is a motivational speaker which is rare combination for a beauty ,plus her voice & Accent is also very very good. Clear words..... This is called the beauty with brain
English is my second language and I can use it in above average level. The biggest challenge for me is how to explain things specially technical ones to non technical members of the meeting. It takes some brain power to think for the technical solution(solved inside the head using native language) then translate them into English. In some occasions it could make me look as if I don't know enough answers because of stuttering and a lot of filler words (uhmm). Oh those bad memories! 😅🤢
TECHNIQUE: One way to make sure you get heard is to wait for a pause or silent moment. If someone starts talking at the same time, advise the room that when that person is done speaking, that you have something to say. Be ready to speak and jump right on in when that person is done. A second way, is to raise your hand to let it be known that you have something to say. You may have to raise it a few times.
Once the room knows that you have something to say, they will get on your side and make sure you have a chance to speak. At this point, they can't wait to hear what it is that you have to say which will be encouraging giving you more confidence to speak. You only have to say excuse me to get their attention never having to apologize. Speak, knowing that what you have to say is valuable and they will receive it as just that. Speak, not caring what anybody is going to think because if it matters to you, thats all that matters.
1. Don’t apologize for interrupting/ bothering before sharing your ideas.
2/ Tack back
3./ Value your ideas, thought
4 /create space for others
Watching this as a guy, cause why the hell not
True that
@@aap9167 True that...
Same here
Easy on the eyes and ears - with substance - what else can you ask for?
You're articulate. I love how you break down the video to small sectors. Thank you. I'm a man who has all the confidence in meetings and I will implement this to further enhance my presence in meetings and others around me.
Something I have noticed is that people listen more if you speak less and act more ...
People favor concise speech and I am doing my best to practice concise brief speeches ...
Although ma'am you have designed it for women, but as a man I can also extract some part from it, because it gives me insight to better understand women, as far as their working-professional behaviouralism is concerned.
And it *good to see you ma'am with longer videos.* 👌
Thank you! 🙏 And I’m so happy to hear that you’re also able to find value from it - whether giving you a better insight into some of the challenges women face, or even if the content is relevant for you (which I’m sure a lot of it might be- if not from this video, from future ones). 🙂
Thanks for the support! 🙏
@@ShadeZahrai Ma'am your all videos are worthy. 👍
Yes. I felt the same
Shaheer Ali hmmm.... I think being men, we all encourage the moral values of women without any discrimination, and that will definitely empower them. 👌👌
Women generally are not considered smart enough to contribute their ideas and opinions in a male dominated meeting. But with your confidence you can ensure you are heard. Very valuable tips, great content n you are a beauty with brains. I am a new subscriber n love both your content n the delivery style which is so elegant n classy
I believe working out having a good physique along with the proper attire.. fragrance.. accesories body leads to confidence skyrocketing even before entering the meeting room ready to take anyone and everyone.
Watched this long time ago. Never thought a time would come for me to dig this up and saver every bit of it for my next meeting! So very helpful!! Recently I've been quite frustrated with one of our meetings where I was constantly cut off by one of my colleagues. After a while, I found myself feeling dreadful to even go to the meeting anymore. Now examing it, it's really like what you said - a male dominated (I'm the only female of us 4), and it seems ok among the three of them. I will try your technique in our next meeting. Thank you so much for providing so so much values in your videos!
How is your experience now ? Plz share
I often struggle to speak up during group sessions with highly intellectual professionals who are seasoned communication experts. Most of my interactions are with Irish diplomats and businessmen. I find it challenging to contribute because of the high level of perfection I observe in their discussions. Being shy and introverted, I often struggle to make my point, could you please guide me.
This seems to work for me...
1: Find out what the "Milk" of the meeting is.
2: Find out who are the key players this "Milk" matters too most.
3: Research that "Milk" like your life depends on it
4: *Compress* and *Simplify* that "Milk" into away the key players will understand
5: Every word you use needs to be important, direct with no fluff
6: Be short and sweet when giving your opinion.
After 3 or so meetings you wont need to fight anymore for your opinion
because the key players will ask you directory for it... 🍼
Timestamps:
2:07 1. Don't apologise
2:55 2. Take back space
4:43 3. Create space for others
I am getting more confident after seen her video.
I just discovered your channel..and i just subscribed. And i can't help but let you know a few things:
1. Your content is amazing.
2. The way you're presenting your content has a lot of things one can learn from on its own. Its very elegant and gentle.
3. You're extraordinarily beautiful
Hi Agnes, thank you for the very kind and encouraging words! I'm happy that you see value in the content and welcome to the channel 😊
@@ShadeZahrai you're most welcome✨😊
Don’t get distracted by her looks, the content she is sharing is invaluable
This is very valuable. Not only in a meeting or a discussion. We can apply this in our daily life with family and friends. Thanks Shade.
Give them space but by first creating your own space, wow! Learning new in every video..
Congratulations. I'm so glad this channel is growing so well, great to see a channel get the recognition they deserve. Can't wait to see where this channel goes from here.
Why am I even watching this? I'm in my school - well, because I love this woman's videos🤩🤩
Clicked for the beauty, stayed for the insights
Thank you for your kind opinions.
As I am a little introverted hence my CEO recently told me:
"You are enough good but have less forthcoming ability".
😊
Thanks for sharing these tips. The issue with me is whenever I have to speak I tend to get nervous and thereafter fumble. The flow doesn't come.
Perhaps start starting with asking more questions such as asking the person to clarify or elaborate. Once you're comfortable with this then start to contribute by sharing your own thoughts. It might even help to jot down some dot points before you speak out. Good luck! 💪🏽
@@ShadeZahrai thanks!
Your Beauty dragged me in but your Brain is equally as astonishing as you are.
one might even say,
Beauty with Brain !
Good pick up line, Lol, :p
Use top space::
Groin muscles
-not tense but ready*
- take more space
- open up negative space:
Breath:
Smile 😁
Preciate you
Your videos are quite useful, thank you for sharing! The trouble I face often times is either I second guess myself about what I want to communicate in a meeting or my thoughts are way ahead of what I am actually communicating. Because of the mismatch I sometimes find it difficult to speak coherently.
Why am I reading this now? I’m glad I found you! Better later than never. Thanks.
I liked the idea that we need to value our on thoughts and ideas before anyone would and well that's the most difficult thing for me. I gather courage and speek up an the moment I see others are not welcoming it I start feeling less valued and stupid.
My most difficult thing is whenever I have an idea related to my work that I feel is useful i get so much carried away that lose the inability to look through the bigger picture.So whenever I present the idea, my teammates bombard me with what is said won't work because of so and so reason and I feel stupid and valueless
I just don’t understand why she makes these videos for women but they’re equally awesomely helpful for us poor men too.
They're certainly valid for anyone. But like all good business practice - our company can't be all things to everyone. So one of my company's areas of focus is providing career development services for women.
Thank you Shade! This is incredible info to be caring and aware and stellar talker!
Have been so much apologetic but with these clues you have shared, I will rock well in meetings. Thank you.
Way beyond my expectations. Applicable to all social situations.
I'd say you're lovely, your presentation style is perfect, I subscribed your channel yesterday, and almost in two days I watched all of your videos, which I found very interesting and helpful. Thanks, you're appreciable
I first ignored your procrastination clip but later found interview tips fascinating... Keep them crisp concise and come considerate 👍
Wow can't express her presentation its too perfect...thanks for this video again...
2:05 Don't Apologise
2:54 Take back space
4:44 Create space for Others
1:54-Reality:It is usually the people who speak the most and the loudest who get heard, recognised and then promoted. Your Thoughts are just as valuable as other people's thoughts in this room
Your content is high quality, shade. This channel is destined to hit a 100,000 and then a million subscribers soon.
It is very rarely for me to comment on any video but all your videos are awesome.
Your contributions to the social media should be recognized.
Thanks so much!
How to tackle fear of audience, regardless of the percentage of men or women.
Often one ends up speaking more confidently in one on one conversations but when it comes to public speaking then speaking the some words becomes challenging.. would appreciate your advice on this
Did you get advise from this?
That’s right,in my work place there is always a coworker (female) cutting everyone off when they starts speak, next time I will follow your tips, thank you
I love psychology as well as watching ur videos🥰
Thank you for your time. PATIENCE, and Listen.. Convey what is much need with a Smile... I am Aviation man.. Into Sale and Leasing... 🙏
Such a Marvelous Work Shade. I would be glad if you make more videos on the Professional Communication and Presentations😊
I like that this didn’t turn into a male bashing session.
Women get cut off by women as they are by men.
Women should speak up when they are interrupted, without anger, BUT even if the anger is there, they should not hold back because of it and speak up anyway; they’ll get better at it with time.
- A male listener
Thanks for sharing these constructive ideas and agreed - never respond in anger. I recently posted an abridged version of this video on LinkedIn. It was interesting to see both men and women writing comments about them experiencing this problem - even ones in senior leadership positions.
Thanks for sharing. I am a firm believer in effective communication and I am constantly learning. Your contribution is greatly appreciated.
Thank you for valuable points to pick ourselves during meetings, i always hesitate to speak in a group settings!!!
B E A U T Y with B R A I N S..
And you carry both elegantly!!! 👍🙂
I just discovered your channel , Just love it., The content , topics are so helpful and informative..
Love from india miss :)
The third point of bringing another team member was a big learning. Which I will for sure bring in my next meeting.
I love this kind of content. It's targeted for women but the advice is so useful that anyone can take advantage of it, including me.
Im a fan as well
This is pretty interesting n valuable topic, my straggling in a meeting is how to wrap up my idea nicely, structurally and logically, so it will easily for others to digest, accept n appreciate it. I want to hear ur video about it "wrap up ur idea nicely". Tq
i have been working for 10 years and I am a man but still this is very helpful
Your videos are very exciting and I love them🥰
Awww thank you so much! 🙏 I’m so happy you enjoy them. This is the first of our long-form videos - one coming each week! It’s targeted to women, but of course applies to everyone 🙂
Your videos are too good the way you present & very much useful and thanks for sharing.
Your personality is just brilliant!!
The Light of Wisdom U r throwing at ur audience is only for Women or even Men can also apply those suggestions.? Cause I really liked ur videos
Much of it has to do with how you carry yourself. I’m quiet at work but I’ve been promoted at most jobs I’ve held. I’m not the loudest but when I speak people listen. When I’m in meetings people ask for my opinion when I don’t say anything.
As a silent person as you , i want to know more tips from you for climbing the career ladder. Do you have any
Thank uuuuu
God is GOOD 💖😊
Great content Shad‘e. It's actually the need of hour and you just earned a subscriber:)
Keep up the good work!!!
I didn't begin to type my comment until the video ended :-p
Desiderata is like what you talked about in this refreshing video
In today's meeting I was just saying okay okay to others. I think I need to be more strong in my field and always I am unable to share my ideas. Many times I don't remember anything.
Thanks for your videos. Each n every video has given me usefull inputs to be used in corporate world 🙏👍
I'm waiting for your video it very helpful ❤😊
I bless you ... you will reach 1 million subs soon .... keep going brave lady 🙌🙌🙌
. Very important content.
. Excellent tips for a common problem to proceed / participate in routine meetings.
. Mostly few of particepnts just want to monopolize expressing verbosity.
Your videos have really good content 😃!!!!! Thanks a lot 😊 You are a really inspiring woman!!!!😊😃 I enjoy your videos a lot 😊😊😃😃👍🏻👍🏻
Thank you Shadé! As a man starting off my career I find your videos very helpful!
MashAllah
This is so organized and structured, I love it
Your voice makes me sleep.. very soothing
Thanks for sharing i am firm believer in effective communication and i am const antly learning your contridution is greatly appreciated. 💓💕👌
I think blokes could benefit from this as well. I myself am not an aggressive male in the workplace and often get spoken over.
Modest back ground, good dress sense , congrats to you and your Husband 💯
I appreciated & thankful for your motivation & helpful guides, Miss Zahrai.
So true what you are saying ALL of what you're saying...PLUS you're beauty is so hard not to notice. Thank you for sharing just subscribed too.
This topic is so useful. You have provided such an incredible ideas to speak up in meeting.
Thank you! What if you are interrupted by a senior while asking a question and they cut you off before even listening to whole idea. This give hit to credibility and also make you feel irrelevant.
Beautifully Defined....Thanks..
Important lesson! To speak up!
You are just amazing, i have not seen many videos but the ones I've seen have been on point i tell you what
Beautiful minded, Shade .
All my respect 👌
I don't know what you say is true or not, the way you say and presentation is excellent.
This is great advice. Also, for the serial interrupters out there (I'm guilty) it's good to keep in mind it's not just giving everyone equal time to speak merely out of a sense of fairness. If you sincerely believe others have something you can learn from you will naturally encourage them to share. Happy collaborating!
Great to hear from the other side of the spectrum! 😉 Thanks for sharing that thoughtful perspective. 🙏🏽
"better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt". Ben Franklin.
I am definitely going to try this in my next department meetings, thanks!!
Excuse let me finish, 👌Good advice.
The best way to speak confidently in meetings is to be competent and have some idea about that thing. The more competent you are the more confident you become.
Hey @ShadeZahrai, you are doing a great job. Can you post more videos as this related to workplace
Absolutely amazing!!
TECHNIQUE: My husband said that before his manager moves on to the next subject, he ask if anybody has something to say. Everyone feels heard.
Thanks for sharing this wonderful tips on meetings... It will really helpful for those who are suffering... May God Bless You and More Power To You... 👍👍👍
I really like your simplicity and the way of speaking.
I want see more content like this: strategies for women working in a dominated men team
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS GREAT AND USEFUL INFORMATION🙏✝️❤
Sometimes, when you open the floor for questions after a presentation, people know what to ask about but they don't know how to phrase the questions. So they end up with the response "None, so far." 😅
Great tips, Shadé! 🥰🤓😍
this is awesome, superb tips keep going Shade👍