How to Improve your Emotional Intelligence (for career success) | Shadé Zahrai
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- Опубликовано: 17 июн 2024
- Do you have this one skill that’s guaranteed to make you more successful, more productive, earn a higher salary and even make you a better leader?
Emotional Intelligence is widely recognised as the most important indicator of performance and 90% of top performers score high in emotional intelligence (according to research from Talent Smart).
In this video I share 3 strategies to hone your emotional intelligence skills to be able to position yourself for career advancement and leadership opportunities.
1 Become better at identifying your own emotional states.
2 Seek to Understand.
3 Focus on relationships.
Let me know in the comments which was your favorite and which you found most relevant. 👇
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You are very Good teacher; Happy Teachers day
Want to know more about emotional Intelligence. This vedio is useful . Thanks for making it.
This was amazing. Although, it felt a bit fast when you were listing down all emotions. Also, I really like the setup and lighting.
@shadé. I have recently started watching your vlogs. I am highly motivated by your tips. So far everything that comes in my mind gets an answer from you. You are among my few favourite influencing intellectuals. Keep shining
What about the men professionals? :)
"There is no such thing as good or bad emotions, there are only good or bad reactions to emotions" - Golden, thank you!
Didn't she plot a graph of positive and negative emotions?
Loved that too, I’m sharing on social!!!
@@rajukhubchandani4841 So that's different
Men need to stop complaining about her addressing women. Men already have so many channels catering towards men’s goals and needs. She is doing a great job at helping women.
You can't please everybody! But I'm grateful that men are finding this useful.
Inayah Daneen yeah I agree, there’s nothing wrong with creating content for a specific group, whatever the group may be. Sure she is pretty and all, but the content she is making has nothing to do with her looks, not directly at least, so comments praising her looks are not relevant to this channel. That’s why I don’t see the point in all the complaining, if you find the content is relevant to you, just apply it. No need for all this ‘snowflakism’.
If you know any such channels please tell me. Her content is good. I still watch regardless of who she is addressing to. It's informative and psychology is generally same for both genders..
Went down the entire chat and didn't see one man complaining. Lol
Catering to mens goals ? Got an example specific to such a channel ??
Emotional Intelligence, quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger. ❤
very rare to find intelligence,amazing voice and look ...all packed into one with you ...god bless you ...very inspiring ...a fan from india
Thambi fan ah😏
..no chance..
She's intelligent and beautiful maybe because she is from Iran.
Women from Iran are usually very beautiful and smart!
A boka😂😂
Living Waters RUclips channel.
My most favourite was the last sentence
"Recognise that every conflict does an opportunity for you to grow as a person
She is so well spoken. Good advice for not getting triggered.
Your vid helps. I saw all my emotions fit on one small plaque a few years ago. They were, "Eat, sleep, rodeo."
I’m a man but as a latino, I fall under a minority group that also benefits from your inspirational wisdom. Thank you for all the great advice you provide😊
Gracias Mario 🙏🏽😊 We're happy that these videos are of value to you.
The way you explained about understanding the cause of emotions really gave me a new perspective to handle my emotional state. Thank you for such important and life improving content and keep this up!
This is so helpful to know. I am a person who always shows emotions on face & I often get into trouble because of it. now that I know ,I can save myself & grow as a person.
Thank you .
Thank you for being you! I love your content on self development. These are the things that I love learning about and experimenting with 😊
You explain things fluently and very clear. You can be a great motivational speaker for the younger graduates. I love watching your shorts.
You make a lot of sense and I love it.
Masterfully done. This is very helpful also in the home. Sometimes I don't know why I'm mad or who I'm mad at. Learning to understand the nature of my emotion, can lead me down the road of learning how to deal with it.
Thank you so much! you are such a brilliant lady!
" seek first to understand " is what we need the most, not only in this situation but in all walks of life !
This was pretty useful to re-establish a foundation for how to approach social situations. As a young man with social anxiety; I truly appreciated it.
To introduce the graph 📊📈 of *'Intensity with Emotions,'* was fantastic. 👍
Very aptly said. I really like the point ‘seeking to understand others’. I was terrible at it earlier, I am better now but progressively I want to be best. This is key to any relationship I believe. Thanks for the video.
Lots of love to you Shade from India & keep sharing such good knowledge.
I came across your videos randomly and even though you gear them more for women I've found them to be helpful in personal and professional life for anyone. Keep up the great work! - Ross
I liked the way you compared outbreaks of emotions to our upbringing. I absolutely agree with this, most of the behaviourial issues individuals face is the reflection of their subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind is a library/storage of all the information and believes (as a result of our past experience) accumulated throughout our lives. Information only becomes part of the subconscious mind when its associated with strong emotions.
Instead of controlling your behaviour outbreaks at a particular point of time, which is extremely difficult, feed your subconscious mind with only positive information (make sure to associate strong emotions with it) and this would naturally improve your EI.
I've learned many things of your every video's and it's helped me to get many things for my life,my career..
Thank you very much Ms.Shade and good luck..!!
Thank you so much for providing this amazingly helpful content. Emotional intelligence is something I’ve struggled with my whole life and I was recently diagnosed with high functioning autism so having actionable content like this that’s broken down into simple building blocks is a way of learning that really resonates with me. Thank you again!
Very well articulated! Becoming better at identifying our own emotional state is surely the foundation for our own growth.
That graph become my new rule of thumb to check my E.I
Thanks, I think men relate to your videos more.
Also if someone is preparing for English speaking test, this is the channel to listen to.
Rich vocabulary, balanced voice tone and her expressions at key moments. Excellent.
Dear Sis,
Definietly,God was in really good mood when he created Ya.
Bless.
He was in the zone
This is real good stuff . Minimum time maximum value. May god bless you “Shade zahar I”
Sis*
How do you know the so called god is “he”? Have you spoken to Him or seen him in person?
Watching your videos is like reading the latest psychology research paper. I don't have to read or research, you provide the best and most widely accepted information. Thank you.
Excellent analysis about human emotions and behaviour.and I think the first one is the best.. the biggest enigma is to uncover and understand ourselves
Though I'm not a woman, I'm actively taking in your invaluable suggestions. Keep up the Good Work!
lol - I was like: "Women aren't the only group that will benefit from this!" Heck - this topic maybe even more so for men.
@@mhill88ify lol I thought the same thing these are great tips for anyone man or woman
I was about to write this 😂
mhill88ify think he said that cause she's aiming at a female audience (as she says herself several times in the video, the comments and the description)
Yes i don't like that, i mean, l'm kinda in love with her and all what she suggests, but it's upsetting that she adresses females only.
Shade’ you are awesome. You have honed your skills in presenting a complex subject in quick, simple presentation with the right choice of words. Great communication skills that include effective use of fonts and graphics. I enjoy every one of your presentations and learn a lot. Look forward to many more.
I love your shorts Shadé; keep making more of them
you describing expaining the complicated in simple and effective way, it justifies that "simplicity is the ultimate sophistication"
I liked all 3 of points.
To start with its good to look with in and check your emotional state.
Seek to understand is play good role especially when your working with your colleague or senior.
Lastly it could apply anywhere (not to workplace). I like especially bring in humor in tensed or stressed discussion which work all the time.
Thanks again to summarize and put it such good way!
Even though the speaker wants to address women, this applies to everyone in all situations whether it’s school/university or workplace. Quite informative, looking forward to more such videos. 👍🏻
It’s hugely positive impact on me and others also base on your sharing honestly. Always take time for each of your videos.
Thanks
Low energy is defintaely something to manage its all about the positive vibes! keep shining!
Huge love from India Shade 🤗. Keep Improving and Inspiring us
im a nervous wreck, i spent too much time figuring out why im the way i am. instead of categorizing myself as an introvert or empath. i find it better to understand and do my best to change for the better. so glad i found your channel, and see i'm not alone. thanks!
Learned a lot from this.
This does not only helped women but men as well.
Thank you so much for sharing this to people .
To be able to grow and be a better person is an achievement. May god bless you more and keep you safe . Keep it up. 👍🏼
She's got the voice of all these online trainings I take at work. She's great!!✨
Brilliant yet to the point. Only place success comes before work is in the dictionary. Your work is quite extraordinary. Not many people do what you are doing to help people get to success. Thanks for sharing this with us. Well done ma'am.
I am starting to like your contents. This is really helpful. Keep up the good work❤
Now I find the hope of life through your videos. I love your works and I admire your depth of knowledge. Simplicity in presentation is the mightiest thing of your content.
Any conflict is an opportunity for me to grow as a person…❤ love it
I’m not a woman but I appreciate self improvement videos. Especially one of this quality.
I love the way you speak and articulate every word clearly. That graph of EI index has been working on me ..also I am focusing more on my relationships and people have really started liking me...I am grateful to you for this. Keep providing us with your fascinating thoughts and work! Lots of love from India🇮🇳❤️
Yes, great communicator! 🎉
Honest from the ❤️- the most enjoyable thing about the clip was your calm, clear way that you put the points- your soft toned voice and smooth body language are warm and encouraging.
I will say your clips are eye-opening and 🧠 boosters for me.
What a Girl & her knowledge personality. Just fall in Love with your knowledge.
Thank you for your videos! I've learned so much from you. I recently graduated and looking for jobs, so your videos have helped me a lot and always motivate me!
Congratulations for recently graduating! So glad that these videos are useful for you. Wishing you all the best of success with your career path!
@@ShadeZahrai how I speak like you please suggest some best Fluent English speaking technique
I love to hear her ❤️
Her lesson helps me to Synchronise Mentally my mind with my body.. Recommend you're valuable lessons to my friend 👍
Keep Growing #Peace 🙏
Your channel is growing exponentially, kudos and all the best!
This topic is very important and helps a lot to develop financial intelligence. Thanks Shadé for enlightening us!
Love it - "There is no such thing as good or bad emotions, there are only good or bad reactions to emotions"
😂 I said that too! Great quote!!! That’s a keeper for sure!
Shade, You are truly amazing. One request to you, if you could publish a training material for Teens that would be very helpful.
I love the way you spoke so well and quick..You can also coach non-native english speakers in English communication skills,You are a Jewel Keep up the good work👍👍
She is really good and articulate. Enjoy her videos. She is so helpful and makes sense.
How can someone be this perfect
Really insightful... open my mind.
Great video. This is one reason I don't consider RUclips just a social media it's much more than that. And your RUclips shorts are little gems !
Hello 👋🏻 Glad I found your YT video in suggestions. You have a calming voice so I subscribed 👍🏻 Great motivation is for all men and women
Thank you for reminding me to ask “what am I feeling?” When I notice boredom, I need to create, clean or workout. This has helped so much , thank you.
You're so welcome!
Very concise video. I liked the first strategy the most. It is not easy to identify the energy state. Under high intensity negative emotions people fail to understand the feelings and effect it has on the body. I think one needs to develop the habit by being mindful and aware of present moment. I liked one point the most. "There is no such thing as Good or Bad emotions. There can only be Good or Bad reactions". Your initiative to help women professionals is commendable and is the need of the hour. I wish you a lot of success!
This is wonderfully concise. I had a realization about myself. I realize that I have thought of any high intensity emotion as a negative thing and so as I begin to feel excitement or ecstasy, it almost instantaneously morphs over to fear or anxiety (occasionally anger, but not too often.) and then I really feel happy when I’m in a low intensity state so I generally just associate that with those calm serene feelings. You have opened the door for me to explore why I may feel this way. This is something for me to think about.
Taking on their perspectives and seeking their world through their eyes. "This is huge" and enable you to not only connect on far deeper level with people but to actually offer help and support to those who need it. A big part of seeking to understand is putting all judgement and prejudice aside and being present. 👌👌
I became your fan shade.
Good Speech.
I have always been told I'm highly self-reflective and aware and been told I have a very high emotional intelligence even though I have depression and anxiety.
With this pandemic though I have been overly irritable and my anxiety has been sky high though I have managed to remain balance to degree it hasn't been super easy like it has been normally.
I guess being inside 24/7 for 5 months will do that someone
I hope you can find a way to create more balance and peace as depression and anxiety must be so hard to deal with.
@@amberstark8469 for some it's hard to deal with if they never learned life coping skills and if they don't have spiritual beliefs.
Some people turn to hard drugs, alcohol and things like that.
That has never been me.
And I have always had good coping skills I'm a natural-born empath too.
And I have always been a very common sense person
Depression is not a one size fits all. There is such thing as high functioning depression and anxiety
Thank you for creating such highly deep content. I think most relevant or most underestimated strategy is "seek to understand" cuz most of the people are always in a hurry to make up their point that they don't focus on the points and emotions of the other person and end up having a negative impact.
I'm a man and i admire your way of explaining this..We can apply this too. You're wonderful Shade.
2:37 1) Identify your Emotional State
5:51 2)Seek to Understand
7:09 3)Focus on Relationship
All three leading to Intelligent Emotional State...
Not a woman but your info helps me to build my team. My teams are care givers who help Adults who are IDD (special needs adults) in the autism spectrum and Shake fetal Syndrome- and we help create new environments that work for all of us. ❤️ Just want to give a thanks for this.
Thanks so much for your thought provoking explanations to change the mindset whoever sees this vedio. God bless you 🙏 ❤️
I'm not a woman, but I've learnt something from this video! I'm here to support you, because you talk sense. My favourite point is the "seek to understand," because many have told me I'm a good listener; I love to feel what other people are feeling and doing whatever I can to get them to enjoy life, but before I saved someone else, I had to save myself. I appreciate you
Shadé, and I'll see you in your next video! :)
You so good Shadè, I am so happy to come across your channel. I would really wish if your videos were a bit longer. Thank you for sharing.
So interesting, I'm gonna be careful the next time that I'll feel angry and what exactly is the reason for, thanks.
Well I am definitely not a female but I could see how I can apply this advise into my life. Thank You
You are the real life coach, hats off :)
Three things overwhelmingly appeal to me from this lady. knowledge, eloquence and prettiness.
I am a 49 year old male diagnosed with ADHD three years ago. I’ve been on a journey of self-awareness since then and have learned just how impaired emotional regulation can be in people with ADHD. Emotional dysregulation is not very well understood yet by science, and is not covered well in mainstream ADHD resources, unfortunately.
In retrospect, my entire life has been impacted by my emotional dysregulation. Despite my handicaps, I’ve been able to be successful at work and have become a top performer. However, my stress and anxiety levels rose exponentially and I began having depression episodes along with other health consequences.
Then I happened upon an emotional intelligence class at work two years ago. What I learned there became the key that allowed me to start regulating my emotions and living more in the moment. In short, I did everything you covered in this video, and it’s been an incredible transformation for me!
I’ve been trying to share with others how what I’ve learned about EQ can be applied by neurotypical people to improve their work performance and lives as well, but it’s been hard to effectively communicate these concepts. But then this video comes along and expertly communicates everything I’ve been trying to say all along, and it’s brilliantly succinct!
Thank you so much for this video. I will be sharing it as much as I can and I hope it will improve the live of many people, both in and out of your target audience.
Thank you for sharing your story and kudos for having the will and resilience to overcome ADHD especially in adulthood. 🙏🏽 I absolutely love hearing from real people that thrive after applying emotional intelligence. Yes Yes understanding emotional dysregulation is still in its infancy (In the limited time that I looked I didn't find that much published research out there). Please continue encouraging others and very thankful for you sharing the message in this video. With all the positive comments from men in corporate too, my husband and I are realizing that we need to accomodate a wider our audience - everyone can benefit from this.
😎You are #DIVINE😎
❤Love You and Your Work❤
God, I really love this woman! So insightful and intelligent. Kind of hard to look at though, way too dreamy! Hard to focus.
😍
Loved your content :) New subscriber here!
Positive reactions is attractive while the opposite is true for negative reactions. Compassion and empathy invites positive reactions while anger and hatred invites the opposite. If we can master the ability to remain calm and serene even in adverse situations we can be more effective in solving problems and gain respect and affection from others in the process.
True
I like your ideas and recommendations. Its great that you put all you ideas into short videos.
Your eyes speaks so well.
You're very good influencer working for woman empowering
💛💛
Any conflict is an opportunity best one !!
Positive approach towards any situation.😊👍
Kick ballz communication level - well done...let's conquer our emotions and help others...I think many of us bottle in emotions after not expressing them or understanding them...
Shadé: "Hi, I'm Shadé Zahrai, and I help WOMEN like YOU hack their careers"
Me: I need a bigger beard.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Same
Same oof
hahahahaaha
xD
Quick question, (for anyone)
I've seen people use anger and aggression as a motivation for doing things, and they succeed at them.
Is it healthy to be so determined and resolved, to the point where you'll get mad at just about anyone who you feel is a threat to your aspirations
Thanks for the question Deux. Absolutely, anger and aggression can be channeled in a positive way. For example, it can be a catalyst for someone to take action or to change their life. But one must be careful not let anger and aggression become their main driver because that can lead to serious emotional problems or allow one to be controlled by their ego. It is more constructive to learn how to channel negative high intensity emotions towards positive high intensity emotions. We have a choice of how we react to others while still staying true to our purpose.
Thanks Shade, I like it when you put the last slide as a summary or when you put the key points on the sticky notes, it helps to capture a screen shot and have it for review 😊
Thanks for the feedback! We'll try to remember that.
Wow thank you for sharing this. I am training to be aware of my emotions and how I should react I want to be a better version of myself and be calm and set example too. I really appreciate this video. I will make sure to apply this daily or every moment.
Your videos are very Motivational. What made you want to do such videos and move from Law to Psychology? You are very positive.
Mark my words, you will soon be on TV and a famous personality !!
Haha, thank you for your kind words and interest in my move into career training and posting online! Its too long to share here but here's a summary on my website: www.shadezahrai.com/about
How can I speak like you.
Just go out there and try it. I'm a big believer in taking action if you believe that something is your calling. The beautiful thing is that today we also have plenty of information and examples on the internet to learn from.
The way you explained the different emotions and their variety was very insightful
Thank you so much Shadé for this video! Your points are super helpful in so many way. 💕
How did you develop that accent???
It's a mix of parents who grew up in England, being born in Australia and a husband/business partner that speaks with an American accent! 😂
@@ShadeZahrai I thought you are from Lebanon
Timestamps:
2:36 1 Become better at identifying your own emotional states.
5:50 2 Seek to Understand.
7:08 3 Focus on relationships.
Thank you Dr. Jon Tam for writing it here! Love from India!
I like how you simplified the process of EQ, and your right; IQ can get you the position you desire in the Organisation; however, EQ allows you to not only retain the work but also get you promoted/ higher rank. Rest is base on luck...
Like how you break up the process of what Emotions are, a pure form of data, check what is means and where it come drom..using our emotional radars. Absolutely fabulous.
Thanks.
Really you are an amazing speaker and you present yourself very polite and confident, your face expression speaks a lot that your voice.